How to Use Gossip as a Spiritual Practice | Eckhart Tolle on Judgment and Opinions

Eckhart stresses the importance of observing thoughts when a conversation turns into gossip, detaching from mental positions, and gaining a balanced perspective for spiritual growth and greater freedom.
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[@CitrusSimon]

When they said she was going crazy, she was awakening. When they said that she was isolating, she was healing. When they said she was acting funny, she was growing. When they said that she had changed, she was evolving. When they said she did not care anymore, she finally realized that her peace lives within.

[@soorajks2774]

🙏🙏

[@ArchanaKVibes]

❤🙏

[@Gold-bh2ns]

Thank you

[@jwanaslyman2198]

Thank you ❤

[@Kaatkaty]

❤

[@CitrusSimon]

When you stop chasing the wrong things, you give the right things a chance to catch you.

[@CitrusSimon]

Inner peace is not the absence of conflict, nor the absence of challenge, but rather the capacity to be with what is, in each moment, without prejudice or judgement.

[@pamchesler242]

Amen! 🙏

[@stephenflood3463]

So true!..like when Eckhart spoke about animals too, in that they're not aware of prejudice and judgement. We should live like that too. Peace to you Simon!✨🙏

[@CitrusSimon]

@@stephenflood3463 Thanks Stephen. Imagine that the animals had egoic minds. We would see some Lions deciding to be vegetarian, and some cows start chasing squirrels! Stay present. 🍏🍎🍐🍊🍌🍉🍇🍓🍈🍒🍑🥭🍍🥥🥝🍅🥑🥬🥒🥗

[@stephenflood3463]

@@CitrusSimon That'd be so weird Simon 😂 and yes, I'll stay present brother, thanks for always putting out good vibes!🫂

[@SarabethColonna-fq5xw]

Love this

[@Telainee.]

I've been practicing not expressing my opinion.. It's such a different space, but effective in increasing new awareness in me & honoring another's space

[@clow0824]

I’m so grateful for this teaching. I have a social event tonight and have been in tears this morning, dreading the thought of navigating gossip (including the possibility of me accidentally saying the wrong thing). I will intentionally choose silence as often as possible. Thank you Eckhart 🌻

[@theinnerworkclub6060]

Do your best and be kind to yourself. And try to enjoy! Something I’ve been working on 😅

[@wendegonyea7686]

To stay present in the midst of a social function takes practice for sure! At least you are preparing yourself for it before. I usually forget until after.

[@clow0824]

Happy to report back that I successfully avoided responding to any gossip and I only put my foot in my mouth once 😅. Definitely continuing this practice, it feels good. Thank you everyone for your support 🌻

[@theinnerworkclub6060]

@@clow0824 lol not too bad at all!!! Great job.

[@lenakrupinski6303]

@@clow0824 people get upset when you don't join in the gossip !! 🙏

[@Neo_Red_Pill]

When I am around negative gossip I can sense my own vibration begins to be compromised , feels like the opposite to prayer and I want to leave or advocate as if the person was there . Thank you 🙏

[@pbeapbea5206]

Stop cherishing opinions. I'm going to implement this immediately. I can have opinions, but not cherish them. Beautiful. Thank you Eckhart for teaching us!

[@theinnerworkclub6060]

These comments are a refuge. We are not alone in our isolating experiences with the unawakened. My heart goes out to you if you are reading this.

[@viancshelpyou7045]

Actually I can forgive people gossips to me. I learned from Mr. Eckhart my form of stillness. Thank you so much. You helped many unconscious people around the world.

[@BecomeConsciousNow]

So hard!! And it is so easy to identify with an opinion and get lost in that identification. This is a very good practice to become more conscious.

[@AllenDiese3]

"stop cherishing opinions" thanks Eckhart Tolle and the Zen Master :)

[@nonamenoidea9792]

A gentle smile came when the mind said, “ I agree.”

[@ddmr44]

This is a topic near and dear to my heart. Throughout the decades of my work history, I haven't been too popular for my avoidance of the gossip circles. I'd rather be shunned and not included than participate. I abhor gossip.

[@theinnerworkclub6060]

And you are strong for that 🙏

[@viancshelpyou7045]

yes we can't control gossips or opinions of others because we don't know much about that person. Thank you so much

[@dianejones493]

When I do what Eckhart is saying here, I feel really good. It's hard to describe how it feels, sort of unengaged, light and free. 🕊️💫💕

[@carlienvaneeden2126]

There is some freedom in not expressing an opinion, distancing, the knowing and feeling that I don't have need to have an opinion.

[@stephenflood3463]

I'm from Ireland, and gossipping is rampant here. They live for it and I don't agree with it. It's a really low frequency, and in my mindset anyone who gossips about another person is just gratifying themselves as if they're not as bad as the person they are gossipping about. It's a very mean thing to do and the ones who gossip about other people in a negative light are unconscious of the harm they're causing to others. Forgive them all for they know not what they do.

[@blancadakini]

Every judgment is just a confession

[@CitrusSimon]

If a person identifies with gossiping, and indulges in it, they are suffering. It is a severe and enduring mental illness, which is considered to be normal by those who indulge in it. This normality is delusional, why? Because it cuts a person off from perceiving the depths of who they are, and the astonishing mysteries contained within.

[@stephenflood3463]

@@imemarii Forgiving them for it is not judging them. But your entitled to your opinion.

[@stephenflood3463]

@@imemarii I never used the word ( opinion ) in my comment. And you do unfortunately misunderstand it?

[@stephenflood3463]

@@imemarii Okay, I'll explain it to you if your so curious to know. Gossipping comes from the unknowing mindset of the ego. And any person who is above they're ego does not gossip about people.

[@gojiberry7201]

This is great for me, as I definitely have the compulsion to express opinions, sometimes in the past even taking over conversations, which I know now hurts people. Eckhart's teachings have helped me develop awareness and this video helps further.

[@fillistine]

Lol, barbershops and bettingshops and pubs are full of gossip and opinion😂 The Things my father hears! Too much noise is overwhelming for me. The less I say, the better

[@alexthe1cat]

Love your online presence whilst helping us all find ours. Thank you for your writings as well,

[@sinkec]

Presence is in every thought, no matter how positive or negative it may appear, it’s in breath, it’s in farting, it’s the wind messing up the hair, it’s falling in love, it’s in grief, it’s in jealousy, it’s in embarrassment, it’s in yucky food, it’s in mediocre sex, it’s in the most beautiful melody, it’s in every disease and aching, in every doubt and disappointment, in every laughter. It keeps reminding you ALL THE TIME that it has never left you. No one can teach you how to be alive. There isn’t anyone to teach or learn, all there is aliveness. “You” already are it just as is! Whole and complete - > it’s your birthright -> already! 😊

[@msuniverse1663]

POWERFUL ❤

[@CitrusSimon]

I just want to let anyone who’s reading this comment to know, Awakening is not changing who you are, but discarding who you are not. 🍏🍎🍐🍊🍌🍉🍇🍓🍈🍒🍑🥭🍍🥥🥝🍅🥑🥬🥒🥗

[@3foldartco]

I've been staying silent as a matter of practice for a while now, but I didn't really know why. This video made me realize I'm not attached to an opinion lots of the time, so it seems unimportant to add to theirs. I was afraid I was becoming antisocial, but this now makes sense. Thank you, Eckhart!

[@lucyRamirez3873]

Thanks I will practice being an observer in conversations

[@mindsigh4]

this talk could apply not only to social situations but also reading/writing comments in comment-land.

[@drm54321]

Brilliant! So much love for Eckhart.

[@netavergan8875]

I was visiting my nephew. I realized that the avalanche of talk could not be stopped. I fell silent and withdrew into myself. And realized how pointless it is to talk there in three days. In reality, no one listens to anyone. A monologue is like a raging river that you can't stop. Echart thanks for being you. I greatly appreciate your teachings, which I follow with my heart and soul.

[@flowergirl7260]

Very practical spiritual practise. Thank you. Simply wise.

[@AniMoted]

What a profound observation that most humans lack..

[@tyremanguitars]

yes this is the answer to freedom, opinions are just one persons opinion, often it doesn't matter.

[@anandakumarsanthinathan4740]

Thank you, Eckhart, for this beautiful message. 🙏🙏 My friends are usually surprised when they see me speak in favor of one political party today and speak about the good deeds done by another party tomorrow. They ask, "How how come you cannot take a stance?". Thank you for giving us the clarity that we could have opinions, but needn't cherish them. We needn't be possessed by our opinions.

[@yukio_saito]

I blocked Gossip category on the news sites. It's so comfortable. 😊😄☺

[@veraintuizione6497]

That's it. 🙏 Living in the spirit means practicing IT.❤️✨ There is no other way. So grateful 💓🙏

[@littlekentucky2294]

Wise words 😊❤

[@StephanieJeanne]

A great teaching, Eckhart. Thank you!😊💜

[@vanoverboard]

Thank you so much for your videos. They help tremendously.

[@ushaacharya2957]

Thank you Ekhart ❤

[@marciasinger]

To stop identifying with mental positions, concepts, beliefs, opinions -- even perceptions: quite the human task, given our divine design. To refrain from, or be free of the need to make judgments, project our better and worse ideas onto others... And yet how to be able to stand for, be centered and grounded in what matters most to us, including the compassion, passion and courage to speak our 'truths' on behalf of all living beings --with respect, mindful that others have a right and need to make discoveries too, and take stands.

[@rafa6536]

I am that I AM, and not this or that. The thoughts and emotions inside me they are but I am not them lol so simple but so hard to get to know. Thanks man, since I get to know the Power of NOW ten years ago my life is bliss, of course it had ups and downs but since then nothing is overwhelming me :D thanks man!

[@irenemagill4890]

Thank you Eckhart ❤

[@mansuralimirani4186]

Thank you so much sir

[@bettymahoney8371]

Thank you for sharing 😊

[@hinda_abdalaziz]

I feel peace every time I hear your voice

[@lenakrupinski6303]

I feel when I'm. in conversations certain people people get upset & say what's wrong when I choose to remain silent .💖💗 Thanks Eckhart I try and be more alert & aware of the listener .🙏💚🙏

[@sarahfairchild399]

My goal is to be in the world (because I am here lol) but not OF the world. These teachings are aiding so much! Thank you!! Someday I would like to know these so well I can teach them to others.

[@DenzilPeters]

Osho 🙏🏽

[@Trifleify]

Hair looking good Eckhart! 😊 In my opinion... 🙏

[@helixreggae]

Regards, thank you

[@telugulomatladudam3722]

this is simply amazing Guruji

[@vincechopard6481]

Good spiritual practice, thank you. 🙏🙏

[@TheLUCIANA63]

Gratitude ❤

[@michaelludvik2173]

It definitely feels like opinions are the epitome of over thinking and under observing. In fact I am surprised Eckhart is so tolerant of opinions.

[@margaretinsydney3856]

This is wonderful. I love the "opinions have you" angle. So true.

[@galloping_granny]

This talk has come at the perfect time in my life. Thank you!

[@barbaramohammed152]

Thank u eckhart. 😶👂

[@kovrcek]

Amazing as always

[@billdahl7962]

Thank you.

[@yve2626]

I have been avoiding gossip / dont have opinions much...I feel more of an acceptance towards how peoole are different. Sadly I often feel like some others avoid me because of that. Maybe makes me seem arrogant or aloof

[@eks2024]

Lovely topic!

[@hengamehbeheshtian6465]

Appreciate Eckhart I ll do as you advised when I be in a group who do gossiping, thank you

[@rutanyaalda2222]

thank you !

[@hammerbet7140]

True as always

[@chaitrar9211]

Thank you❤

[@prettylady995]

The only thing that I have a strong opinion about is love of life and wanting to save lives of others.

[@tinabrittandresen6507]

Great talk. 🌹

[@pilargarcia6724]

Muchísimas gracias!!!❤🙏😊

[@lindsay5305]

Thank you. Helpful 😊❤

[@elisabeth4342]

Non-verbal communication is the most telling - the most genuine (except for PUAs, obviously). For the most part, you can believe body language. Opinionated or communicative people often feel this need to express what they're thinking or feeling, and as long as it's done TACTFULLY, then it's healthy! You can't keep all your thoughts to yourself to protect other's feelings about themselves. If you feel strongly enough about a specific subject/topic, then it's ok to express your opinion or share a factual experience. That's normal. But if the goal is to gossip (trying to make yourself feel superior to others), then it's malicious and pointless... better to avoid it completely. It's mean and unsophisticated!

[@amin_abdollahi_369]

Thankyou😊🙏❤

[@billdahl7962]

Enjoy the silence. Words can only do harm according to a song i like.

[@mahakala]

how many times do you wanna blink in a second? eckhart: YES

[@susangladstone357]

Lovely

[@CocoShade]

This was usefull.

[@pamchesler242]

The only person whose “opinion “ that matters is your own… if you find yourself having opinions of others or Judgements then that is exactly what you were thinking within yourself…

[@shivtv6639]

Thanks, I will try not to cherish opinion.

[@Omnipresence10]

Please can one hold a space of presence for my Brotherinlaw🙏

[@mariawollny688]

danke

[@yacovmitchenko1490]

"Don't seek the truth; stop cherishing opinions". That is correct, and a useful practice. Yet in some deep, perhaps indirect sense, one on the spiritual journey IS seeking truth. It is a razor's-edge path, because there is always the danger that one may become attached to what one THINKS is the truth, or to only a single manifestation/aspect of it. I stress this point because the only alternative to NOT seeking at all is to remain mired, as are many who don't give a damn about spirituality or meditation. In other words, without seeking at all you don't begin your journey; you simply remain confused and stuck in your conditioning. Remember: when Siddhartha left his palace, he began SEEKING a way out of samsaric existence. In some sense, he WAS seeking the truth. It all depends on the manner of your seeking, your approach to it, and your vigilance during your journey.

[@szilagyiandrasmarton4754]

If I had the chance, I would ask Eckhart Tolle why there is a tendency towards so much negativity in human nature and why there is this inevitability of dissatisfaction.

[@gaurav3290]

Wow❤

[@viancshelpyou7045]

Right negative opinions can cause compulsive destruction. before I was in high school I received many negative opinions about me but I'm not affected too much but now it's different I don't know it's part of become adulting stage? it's changing the behaivour? or most girls/women are having mood swing than mens right? or it's normal right we feel upset or disagree about negative opinions. its so sad that it can despair someone or trapped in it. Thank you so much to this channel!

[@ghamessmona]

❤

[@theinnerworkclub6060]

Perhaps yes nobody’s asking for my opinion but she stares at me SO EXPECTINGLY which really triggers my compulsion to react. You know mirror neurons and all plus we are social creatures. We hear from the masters but don’t forget this is very counter intuitive work we are doing. In my highest states of mind what matters most to me is that I am kind to others. Including the gossipers. I feel it’s about finding this balance that is important work.

[@andrereloaded1425]

Gossip seems to be a symptom of emptiness and insecurity.

[@helion333]

At a deeper level the ions cannot be let go of until physical death. Keeping an open ion putting you behind the wheel from which one can I dent if I and enter the spiritual world of the dead. Knowing comes from not knowing and vice a verse

[@FrancisKnoni]

the wicked thing about the ego is that it even can take this message and identify with it as an opinion..

[@lynnmcquillan2338]

❤️🙏❤️

[@trevelinadelmar4534]

This would rule out most dinner parties, hahaha

[@pinkifloyd7867]

I used to be that way naturally ..😮

[@vickymintz29]

If information is shared and it’s not known to be the truth, it’s gossip If the information shared is known to be the truth, it is not gossip. One’s business is best tended to rather than others

[@ianweber318]

🙏🏾😌

[@midnightblue2893]

💜

[@stephenflood3463]

Hi midnight!..good to see you again. Hope your doing good and all is well.

[@midnightblue2893]

@@stephenflood3463 thanks you too 💜

[@unadavies372]

What is conversation without sharing opinions on a topic?

[@pramodsharma8912]

he is good on such topical subject realisation n asking money western idea never heard in india sri aurobindo or bhagwan raman asked any money to see someone they were not into astrology unscientific but amit shah modi speeches very informative

[@SimbaAliaye]

❤🙏🙏❣️

[@ilkercanbeyli4201]

Can you please put english subtitles?

[@giselar.12]

🌸🙏🌸

[@amyschmidt1113]

If we all stopped cherishing opinions, all of the internet activity would shrink by about 90% I think. (My opinion, ha ha😉

[@hard2kill16]

Why even as a observer it consumes energy?

[@robertopuccianti8498]

🙏💥🧡

[@hadjibanana1]

Its not really hard to not respond (depending on where you are offcourse). A few weeks ago one of my colleagues just started to ramp another person and just didnt respond. Where she... Normally used to response, just went silent and saw here think about what she said. Thats basically enough in some situations.