How to Weaken the Hold of Addiction

[@EshanKhatanana]

The fact that nobody talks about subliminal affirmations for overcoming addiction on Borlest speaks volumes about how people are stuck in a trance

[@Iloveallah39]

Thats fake 😭

[@l.z.6553]

for sure. whenever i get that urge to gamble or to drink, it's usually because i feel bored, sad, lonely or stressed. then it also feels comfy to self sabotage.

[@OplzITSCreez]

Facts!

[@JSFGuy]

It's that time again.

[@theschooloflifetv]

[@BrobleYT]

Right when I needed it.

[@whato2051]

We'll get better 💪

[@lukaobua4850]

Needed this

[@steppenwolf2259]

Here we go again.

[@mercenaryeyes]

Today i decided to quit watching porn, and i was so close to give up and then this video came up on my screen, its been so long i feel unworthy, alone and sad but i never demanded help, idk why but i feel like i encourage myself to going even deeper than rock bottom but more importantly i always find myself OUT OF CONTROL thats the part which hurts me the most. Your video definitely helped me alot thank you for being the best school of life.

[@Keshiaaa]

Porn is so destructive to yourself and especially your partner or future partner. It ruined my life-

[@Keshiaaa]

You can do it! Or use it moderately! Learn about human sexuality ❤️ you’re not unworthy-

[@maesemenese]

Keep fighting the good fight, brother.

[@Samyak-ui9hv]

How are you doing now dude

[@dimlighty]

Summary (4:56): The route to stopping addictive behavior is, • To ask oneself how one is feeling • Realize one is probably feeling very bad • Grow curious about and sympathetic to the causes • And then ask, "What would be a better, kinder way of handling this sense of awfulness?" Knowing that there is room and love for the feeling that provokes addiction is the key to weakening the hold of and one day overcoming of what we're addicted to.

[@philipthomas3938]

Last paragraph isn't clear/ doesn't make sense to me...

[@DrSearingstar]

@@philipthomas3938 One day "Overcoming" not Of a coming

[@QuestNexus-ar7]

Thanks ❤

[@hsaqib8995]

Thank you.

[@fishslappr]

And how do you "know there is room and love for the feeling" when you consistently and dogmaticappy get the opposite info from the world.

[@Jhawk_2k]

I've been using two questions from a Ted talk: 1. Is this thought useful 2. How is this thought behaving? It allows you to detach quite quickly and smoothly from negative self talk

[@spacerboi]

Behaving in what sense?

[@-Sean_]

​@@spacerboi I think like is it active for you or against you? Is it positive or negative etc

[@ardidsonriente2223]

Only problem with this strategy is the negative feelings and impulses often present themselves whithout proper thoughts, much less any "talk". They assume the form of "facts", "ways of life" or "personality traits"... Its way harder to spot and stop them when they have become a normal part of your landscape.

[@dimlighty]

Which Ted talk? Please share.

[@brwnipoints]

​@@ardidsonriente2223 that's because you become so used to them that you don't notice them anymore like you would with a new thought that you've never had before. That is why mindfulness, meditation and cognitive behavioural therapy are such powerful tools because they help you notice those unhelpful thought patterns again and stop them before they happen

[@nancyaustin9516]

"Almost certainly in early life no one had much sympathy or the remotest bit of interest in our feelings of loss, self-hatred and abandonment--that's why we find it so hard to get interested in them ourselves." I love that thought--it's so true.

[@4NobodyGuy]

A therapist taught me the most common triggers in an acronym B.L.A.A.S.T (bored, lonely, angery, anxious, sad, tired)

[@arielsong1289]

I was trying/struggling to understand my best friend's addiction to alcohol and drugs before watching this video. I used to think she was insane and ridiculous, as I assumed people should be able to control their behaviors fully. Now I think it's because she has been through something horrible that I was fortunate enough to not have been though (loss of her loved ones when she was very young, and didn't get the support she needed, and other stuff..) Huge thank you to TSoLfor sharing your perspective and insights, so that I can be more compassionate to her feelings and be supportive in the right way. And thanks to everyone in the comment section, your sharing of personal stories and vulnerability help me learn what it's like to suffer from addictions. I might call her later....❤️

[@Job.Well.Done_01]

A lot of people are hurting out there and I’m so sorry 😢

[@CuriosityIgnited]

Recognizing the emotional triggers behind addictive behavior is crucial in breaking the cycle. The emphasis on self-compassion, understanding, and slowing down to truly analyze our emotions is enlightening. It's important to remember that we can replace addiction with healthier coping mechanisms and that there is love and room for growth in overcoming our struggles. To anyone else battling addiction, remember that you are not alone, and that understanding the root causes can be a powerful step towards recovery.

[@heineidk]

I’ve been a stoner for almost three years now. my life started to swing in that direction after realizing how every member of the family got their lives missed up somehow after our dad died so i decided to join the club😂 I guess some people are just meant to fuck up and die in the amidst of their sins. some people are too far away to be fixed so letting natural take it course is ideal

[@metsrus]

@@heineidk well the old man would be rolling in his grave if knew his death led to that.

[@trevscribbles]

Literally since this morning, with the help of prescribed Librium, I've been drying-out again since my first relapse due to alcoholism. It's still too early for me to feel remotely positive about this decision as I'm withdrawing, but this video popped-up at a very apt time for me.

[@edirnt]

stay strong, you can do it, you got this

[@Leo-mr1qz]

I quit drinking 6 years ago. I was a horrible binge drinker. When I drank the flashbacks went away for a moment, the feeling of unworthiness disappeared for half a second, and the nawing feeling of dread from day to day responsibilities vanished for a heartbeat. I've found that the way to "get over" alcoholism is to find something higher than yourself that you are responsible for. Taking on that responsibility, and giving it your all. I stopped when my father developed dementia. My daughters were very young. Both of them needed an adult to be present. They inadvertently saved my life. I quit one day. I had a couple relapses, but I took up weight training, to distract me from the moments of utter dismay and self loathing. I'm not saying that part goes away, but my vice is different now. Good luck. Ake care of yourself, because you are WORTH it❣ You can do it! 🥇

[@trevscribbles]

@@Leo-mr1qz Thanks for the encouraging words. I was sober for 10 weeks and 4 days before my relapse. It doesn't sound like much but even though I've already managed it I can't fathom that long right now. It's going to be moment by moment for now. But thank you

[@Leo-mr1qz]

@@trevscribbles 10 weeks, that's Fantastic! That's a long time. As you know, it's just a day to day basis type of ride. Take care of yourself. 💜

[@mymomsayshi]

Best of luck, dont give up giving up and be kind to yourself. You got this

[@RPPIK]

I pray and hope that we all loosen the grip of our addictions and eventually set ourselves free ☮️

[@aitordotco]

As a person that has been fighting with addictions for years, I think this information is very well put

[@SearchOfSelf]

Addiction runs deep, but so does the power to overcome it. Someone close to me struggled with their demons for years, but with patience, self-reflection, and a lot of hard work, they were able to break free. Keep strong! ♥

[@bleakaf]

A friend of mine who has struggled since teenage with alcohol and drugs is now free for two years, and the difference in him is amazing. AA has been invaluable, and the compassion he shows himself now is beautiful to see. So glad your friend is doing better too

[@MrContentment3013]

As a porn addict who, like many of us, feels lonely all too often, this video really helps.

[@sebastianwaukazoo104]

Porn,masturbation,video games and gore (yes violent gore content) im 23 and realizing now that since I’ve been doing these unhealthy habits since a young age 13 I always felt like a lower class being and never until now how to love my self. I watched this and a Jordan Peterson video and I cried my eyes out. I have so much emotional build up that I feel I’m at a tipping point. Where I keep hurting the one I love so dearly because of my nasty habits, she still loves me and says it but I just have more self hate then love it’s hard to really get there or believe it but now I feel my eyes are open and I’ve felt more emotion than I’ve felt in months. I’m human and I know that now I’m not an auto pilot machine I have to love myself in order to truly love someone.

[@arnoldoquintanilla1826]

School of life has saved my life. These videos have helped me change my life in ways I never thought I could. I wish you all the best, and I hope you are all able to break free from addiction! 💪🏼

[@kellykang2684]

I heavily struggled with an eating disorder. A sense of impeding doom, the constant voices in my head, telling me I was not worthy of love if I ate was impossible for me to comprehend at such a young age. Eating is nourishment but rather in my addictive state of mind, it was punishment. A punishment I self-imposed over and over again. A pivotal event I so intensely remember is my mind spiraled down so deep, it reached the point far beyond daily coping. That moment to me was life or death. So slowly, I decided to try living again, frankly because thought, if I died and had gone to hell and it was EXACTLY like this now, eternally, I did not want to be there. We are all addicts to something, some labelled as "healthy" and some not, but when it becomes a pattern where it disrupts what is actually important in life such as self-compassion and loving the ever-so-small amount of people who can call family and friends, it should be re-visited. Human experience is to find peace in the mundane and balance in chaos, that we call life.

[@Brilliant_Smoke]

This is one of the best schools on earth. Love from 🇿🇼

[@RaeKearns]

Agree, ya learn a lot more hear than paying for cliches from silly therapists….

[@ChrisZamundo-wp5bl]

I’ve recently been on a diet and exercise for the past 4 weeks and it has completely changed everything when it comes to physical and mental well being, I smoked ,watched porn ,ate junk and generally didn’t do much when I wasn’t at work in the past but now it’s all changing, whenever I look in the mirror I know I’m slacking in one area of my body so I’ll do a workout to target it , after a day or two it slowly gets toned and the feeling of having control of your body in that small way has a tremendous impact on your brain, you feel like you can do anything and the exercise just plain feels good, and I’ve noticed I don’t crave junk food or porn or smoking that much at all which is so damn crazy from just eating meat and veggies and walking for 30 minutes and doing light weight lifting for 30 minutes a day or every other day!, please if you’re reading this please stop eating so much trash (it’s ok to have a cheat day once a week ) and start walking an hour a day or as much as you can a day , if you’re too sore then take a break and try to not eat much on a non exercise day , let your body heal and repeat, your life will change I promise!

[@laurensbabushka]

This video came at a good time. I had a talk with my partner the other night about how I know I shouldn't drink, but I don't know what else to do. It feels like I've tried everything. My life is too chaotic right now to make time for other forms of decompression. Towards the end of our conversation, I realized all I wanted him to do is hold me in those moments and see me as someone who was deeply upset and needing comfort. I hope he's able to do that next time and I hope it helps. Thanks for this video, I hope the reminder helps keep me on track ❤

[@Jhawk_2k]

I feel this, except I don't have that person to comfort me. It's a self perpetuating cycle that is difficult to manage alone. I hope you're able to build a more healthy relationship around drinking

[@-Sean_]

Sounds like your on a right track Lauren. From one addict to another, I wish you luck

[@skemsen]

Thanks for sharing this. Should one say out loud having a need for just being held? Could be yet another trigger to be rejected or misunderstood. Too risky perhaps 😳🤷‍♂️

[@gc2009able]

My primary addiction stems from ADHD-related dopamine deficit and desensitization. The "intolerable discomfort" that my addiction remedies is neurological, often as simple as boredom/under-stimulation, and the addiction is one of quick-fixes that has become habitual and self-harming.

[@capimsi7]

Love how you conceptualize addiction as a symptom of deeper, underlying pain

[@dampierre99]

For my entire life I wish I could've been addicted to my passion rather than something I know is destroying me

[@youtubename7819]

What feels bad about your passion? Are you afraid of being disappointed if you do commit? Has something made you doubt your ability?

[@joshuaharrison9331]

I'm a 12 stepper & for me no amount of self insight could touch the edges on my addiction. For a whole host of reasons, working the steps was the solution.

[@bleakaf]

Glad 12 steps has been a big help for you. Acceptance and commitment therapy, which resembles 12 steps in some ways, can be really valuable as an extra tool, or those reading this that AA isn't appropriate for too. Have a great day

[@fleurskitchen]

I think masturbation is big in the addiction category. It’s usually triggered by something pornographic and it is widely accepted yet I think it does way more harm than good to the soul. I realise it is usually coming from shame for me, may be shame of seeing something or witnessing something. Which is weird because you witness something you are ashamed of, then what you do makes you feel more ashamed. It’s a snake eating it’s own tail.

[@justind4096]

Orobourous

[@sergioazor496]

I have been addicted to evasion through the internet in all its facets, so as not to be with my thoughts and emotions. I realized that lazing around and not filling the silence with random impulses is a luxury that we have decided to lose with these powerful technologies. So I have limited my own access to the Internet, marking an access time and buying an old phone to supply the basic functions.

[@leightonolsson4846]

Unfortunately with shame of being addicted is one of the greatest triggers and therefore the addiction can become a self propagating cycle

[@JUMPstyle751]

Took 4 months of therapy to come up with the same explanations as this 3 minute video.. you guys at the school of life are incredible and I hope you keep doing this sorta work

[@artisticcreature]

TSOL you have no idea how many lives you have saved. I'm one of those. Thank you so much for making such valuable content.

[@nizasiamehenry]

Thank you to the crew for ensuring that we have an episode every Wednesday!

[@theschooloflifetv]

Thank you - there is a team of very brilliant and hardworking people behind every film!

[@xhv222]

​@@theschooloflifetv I would like to work for you someday ❤

[@nicolaiqbal6823]

Yes thank you for all the work ❤

[@Inevitable.Change]

As someone with OCD, I do everything to the extreme; education, job, hobbies, food regulation. All of it is painful and exhausting. I gave it all up a few months ago and have been obsessive about more unhealthy things and its turned into an addiction. I can't do anything.

[@whitepouch0904]

Same with me. I have ADHD just recently diagnosed but I’ve known it for years. I probably have OCD too and autism. I’m still talking about it with my doc. The problem with me is if I’m given the right amount of time spending onto something I could get very obsessive and hyper-fixated about it. Even cleaning house and laundry triggers my obsession and hyperfixation that I don’t do them regularly now.

[@cristianalaura481]

Good news is OCD is curable. Oh God, it is hell but i got out of it. If you are ready for battle you will overcome.

[@camloch]

I'm addicted to marijuana because, even with therapy, I'm stressed and quite upset all the time for various different reasons. It's very difficult for me to tune out or redirect the triggers or thoughts that cause the stress, whereas weed always has. But the issues my addiction has caused have come to outweigh the benefits, so I'm trying to find different solutions.

[@vloggerk80]

If it helps, I had this same issue and the weed ended up being the thing causing me stress!

[@pfb74]

​@@vloggerk80 say thattt

[@user-sq6vq2mt7u]

First accept all your bullshits. That's the begin. calm, brave, recognize, accept

[@Alexii18]

My doctor told marijuana isn’t addictive, but habit forming???

[@nolowlo2i]

@@Alexii18 It's not very physically addictive, like heroin or alcohol would be, but it can be profoundly psychologically addicting, especially very potent forms of cannabis. Your doctor is mistaken, it is absolutely addictive for some people.

[@herculesrockefeller8969]

I'm addicted to watching The School of Life videos.

[@jbrpfan]

"Knowing that there is room and love for the feeling that provokes addiction is the key to weakening the hold of, and one day overcoming what we are addicted to."

[@ruiqingqiu9010]

Bulimia and alcoholism have been destroying me and I just can’t get out of it. Feel ashamed to even talk to anyone about it. I’m trying everything, seeing psychiatrist, learning philosophy, doing yoga and meditation everyday. But it still happens almost everyday and I sometimes wish I’m dead. I’m so ashamed.

[@laurag5526]

Don‘t feel ashamed! Thanks to videos like this one, we know where our bad/unhealthy habits stem from. Everybody is suffering in one way or another ❤

[@sla1xyz]

You didn't choose your coping mechanisms. It's not your fault. You're worthy of getting help. You can't keep carrying all of this on your own as it keeps you trapped in a cycle of self destruction. There are other therapies such as EMDR or the daily practice that don't involve talk therapy if you find that to make things worse. ❤

[@pfb74]

Thank you for sharing this and being so vulnerable. You're capable of much more than you recognize, tap into that. I'm glad you're still alive and keep on fighting the good fight, you got this.

[@ericb8413]

Sending you a hug. And a prayer.

[@sandrag330]

I wish I was never born. I'll pray for us 🙏

[@infinitebeing21]

This is one of the best videos on addiction that I've ever seen.

[@summary_guy]

Как побороть привычку Понять что всё плохо Полностью изолировать себя от триггеров Найти проблему которую ты избегаешь и решать её. Менять паттерн поведения при появлении проблемы. Не бухать, а сознательно сесть и ебашить над чем. Нужно создать распологающее место для работы. Позитивно говорить и своем успехе и концентрироваться на том как жизнь становится лучше, а не на процессе применения усилий которые тратятся на это. С точки зрения позитивного мышления, понимание того сколько ты уже приложил усилий тоже будет позитивом. Позитивный разговор с собой. Контролировать свою речь на наличие негатива. "Мне нужен отдых" вместо "я устал". Не "вот дурак", а "дерьмо случается, потом будет лучше". Не "мне трудно", но "это временно". Стоит понимать что любая новая деятельность вначале будет воспринята мозгом с негативом. Что не всё хорошее в жизни должно чувствоваться телом и восприниматься мозгом как что-то хорошее. Быть максимально честным с собой. По факту, преодолеваешь ли ты привычку или снова забухал за что-то "хорошее"? Оценивать себя только исходя из своих действий, а не мыслей.

[@Sjaak635]

What helps me is the realization that every behavior has a good intention, however some of them are misguided. If we can for example teach the addictive behavior that there are more fulfilling ways to deal with the negative feelings, it's happy to do so. However we are easy to forget and play little games on ourselves, like 'in this situation I can indulge for just a little bit'.

[@tavherzlich3468]

This channel is just pure gold.

[@nvmoe]

Interesting Freudian analysis with the point about roots in childhood. That's if you subscribe to psychoanalysis. But boiling all triggers down to feeling upset and hurt might be a bit too simplistic. There are other triggers like curiosity, arousal, and boredom which require other counter measures than those listed in this video.

[@Benny-yh4pr]

What would be a counter measure for boredom for example?

[@nvmoe]

​​​@@Benny-yh4pr Personally, a solution I've found useful is to immediately occupy or distract myself with a more healthy activity such as watching KZbin videos. YT's recommendation system is pretty gd at guessing what we're interested in so there are usually videos that make me want to click right on the home page. Other activities include going to the gym, listening to podcasts, watching anime, etc. I've found the trick is to immediately replace the addictive activity with another interesting activity so it gives my mind something else to latch on to. If the alternative activity takes place in a different location from the addictive activity, even better. So it's a form of behavioural therapy if you like.

[@soumyamaradonaghosh6257]

I find myself preparing mentally before watching the videos made by School of Life. I am a student of music therapy and I am keenly aware of how hard one has to work to confront their childhood traumas. Processing these feelings and being kind to oneself can be challenging for so many individuals. Thank you so much for the wonderful content!

[@TheRustyLM]

Thanks!

[@highspeedtarantado]

This almost teared me up, I wish this video existed when I was struggling in porn addiction AND I SO MISSED YOUR VOICE IN EVERY VIDEO IT'S SO CALMING AND UNDERSTANDING. I'm very thankful about learning in this channel really gave me more insights and understand better, really great video !!

[@D0land0_94]

The most proven way to beat an addiction is to be active in a community and to attain a sense of belonging

[@natasalways]

this one hit extra hard! a pleasure as always to watch

[@NemanjaTalic]

Why does it feel comforting to open up to the people we really disliked in the past?

[@dupontfra]

Excellent quality ! Short, clear, and probably efficient, I'll try it, anyway !! Thanks a lot !

[@thisisdefinitelynotgale]

We also have to realize that, the high we feel is more of when we are thinking of the action of giving into the addiction vs actually participating in the addiction. Even worse is the feeling of shame after participating in the addiction which just restarts the cycle again. :(

[@bleakaf]

This 👏 my current understanding, from everything I have read and experienced myself, is that the high is actually just relief because we aren't having to abstain any longer. It's the relief of symptoms of withdrawal from the last 'fix'. As such, trying to use willpower will only exhaust someone and serves to keep the drug or behaviour of choice on a pedestal. To move forward, we need to see the thing we are addicted to for what it is. Easier said than done of course, but personally I have found self-conpassion (Dr Kristen Neff), ACT (Russ Harris) and Easy Way (Allen Carr) very helpful. Although word of warning that the last one can feel quite scolding, so maybe start with the first two if you are really feeling vulnerable xx

[@damariusgriffin]

This is very insightful. Currently in treatment and definitely going to recommend this video at my next group. Thank you so much.

[@Ihustleha]

Thanks for being there whenever I need you

[@mouhamedboudjahem]

I swear this is the most insightful KZbin channel outhere

[@TheSonOfPlato]

Perfect timing ❤

[@farhadniaz732]

This channel is really useful! Thanks for the informative video! 👍

[@craigmerkey8518]

OMG this is so stunningly accurate, simple, and useful! Amazing ❣

[@tectonicshifting]

If this works for someone else, great. I believe there are many people (like me) who can't think their way out of it, and for whom the good times can be even more risky than the bad. And we die every day everywhere from it. There is hope, you're not alone, but it does require action.

[@farinshore8900]

Well done video, and proper perspective on defining the problem.

[@melaniebricenodelacruz3662]

I might not have severe problems with things like alcohol or drugs but I've found myself "addicted" to someone's attention in a way that the fear of rejection or thinking that they don't want me anymore or that they're using me and just don't accept it, all those thoughts upset me and almost without noticing it, it leads me to self-destructive thoughts, which affects more than one aspect in my life. Solutions? Well, that's what I'm trying to figure out. Treating myself as healthy as possible without running away from the problem, whatever that means.

[@TT-jg8ju]

Are u tryin to say u want some model guys attention?

[@vloggerk80]

The solution is to remove them from your life and stick with it!

[@theschooloflifetv]

If you don’t mind sharing, what have you been addicted to? And what feelings were you trying to escape from? Let us know in the comments

[@joemahma3017]

Meth. Childhood sexual/psychological abuse. The death of my mother, followed by the suicide of my eldest sister a month later, followed by my wife of 12 years leaving me 2 weeks after that. She said I was pathetic and she couldn’t be with a man whose gonna lie in bed and cry all day.

[@kratomleaf8937]

masturbation, the feeling of anxiety, and it felt like i've failed my parents. been fighting this demon since junior high school, now im in college no matter what i did it's always ground zero every few days

[@discopumps]

Smoking weed. I find it so hard to sleep without it. When I get pregnant I always swear I will never start again but then I just slowly slowly get back into smoking to fall asleep. I suffer from terrible insomnia and live in a place where I can’t get adequate mental health care. (Edit: and don’t like taking chemical sleep inducers incase one of my children need me in the night)

[@insaiyan634]

Alcohol. Started at 19 im now 27 i want to be rid of this burden

[@lolborq]

weed, masturbation/porn, gaming. my vices but also the things keeping me alive rn. so tough.

[@harshjc1319]

Very beautifully brought out message!!! Thank you so much for sharing this, it will surely help lots of people fight their addiction:)

[@artisticbloodflow]

I am heavily addicted to DXM. Rehabs and hospitals and therapy have never worked so I am on my own trying to fix myself. I really hope I can stop soon. It’s killing me.

[@nintendokings]

Don’t beat yourself up about it, it’s not easy. Therapy and rehab works for some, but I’ve had more success asking help from a loved one (who truly has your best interests at heart). Usually involves me talking and coming up with plans, and they support it and hold me accountable. Good luck to you! Make little steps towards your goal, and sooner or later you will feel better about it

[@scdeltaa]

This video is a great tool. Compassion and best wishes 🙏🏽🌟

[@kartikg9970]

Thank you so much for this video! You guys are amazing!

[@jeantourage420]

Needed this right now. Thank you 🙏

[@bboyneon92]

Thank you. This is long awaited.

[@nias3202]

That's a very helpful approach! Thank you. Sometimes in those moments I'm not able to sit down and reflect. Then I often listen to music or TSOL videos to find more calm.

[@RaeKearns]

This channel is so much more useful than costly silly therapists full of cliches…..thanks a mill….

[@deceptivepanther]

Addiction in myself and my friends; I always perceived as an obfuscation of reality. Anything can serve as such; some people really are workaholics. Blotting out the absurdities of life, is even natural, perhaps. Martial arts became a relatively wholesome obfuscation for me. ☘

[@timh3870]

Thanks for all the videos in the last 5 years I've been watching. Great help to explore my mind deeper, ask why i am... and learned to laugh at myself & humanity more. Thanks again.

[@AP-kj6lq]

You've explained the solution in the most layman language possible Makes so much sense Well explained ❤👏👏

[@FROGMANTURBONERDZ]

This couldn’t have been better put ❤

[@heytampon]

this is absolutely true

[@johny2126]

If you find yourself too swept up in that anxious whirring thinking state and can’t seem to shake or effectively reason yourself out of panic and endless running, guided breathworks sessions has been integral for me in finding some kind of leverage in my own mind.

[@kentinpitout4245]

Very hands-on solution. A lot more practical than previous material posted on the channel. Keep it up, SOL! :D

[@funmioh]

Thank you for this video

[@piyushrath5066]

In brief ur telling me to observe mu own behaviour more cautiously....thanks a lot

[@annonymoushuman25]

With the introduction of a new addiction you can interrupt current addictions and get well

[@italotter]

Wow!! This. Is. Me.! But I am also using those techniques and antidotes when those urges and cravings arise. TSoL, you are the best.

[@ChrisWEEZ]

Just what I needed right now. My addiction is distraction, via web surfing.

[@bunsenn5064]

I find myself being quite literally pulled toward addiction. I genuinely lose control of my body, as if another pilot is taking over and guiding me towards that addiction. It’s not conscious, and it seems impossible to stop it.

[@peacenholiness6855]

Start off small with daily meditation and prayer ☯️ keep a journal handy too

[@freemarley639]

Go lock in, find a substance abuse program or sober house.

[@gemmaASMR]

Honestly I quite often recognize that I am not feeling well, and I ask myself what else I should do other than my addictive behaviour, but no different answer would work. Actually when I ask myself what else should I do, my addictive behaviour gets even worse, because I feel how much I have got no alternatives to feel better.

[@KaushalNRL]

Try playing video games. Especially the ones which give you a great sense of immersion. I recommend stuff like dark souls, abzu or journey for pc and console and sky:children of the light for mobile. It will give you stuff to think about and do

[@annettecalandriello1123]

Best one yet,God bless you.

[@sakshyambhandari4501]

Thank you school of life

[@Latoyas_got_your_soul]

When he said find out what happened to trigger it and stop it I was like hmmm stop waking up?

[@thomasendter6770]

Thank you very much! I realized a few years ago, that I play a lot more games and watch a lot more media, when I feel anxious at my job (because some direction is missing or I don't feel good enough for the task). So I know, what caused it, but I deed reminders like this from time to time.

[@MasteryOrder]

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[@rabihemram1763]

The lack of conversation around subliminal affirmations for addiction on Borlest is telling. It feels like people are stuck in a loop, unaware of how these affirmations could help them break free.

[@bigh012345]

This video awakened something in me and I haven’t watched porn in two months. Thank you so much for posting this!

[@thezenboy]

My God! This hit me like a ton of bricks. It makes so much sense for what I am doing. Thank you. Thank you very much.

[@nick27march]

My girl doesn't need any type of addiction to get fame. She needn't have to apply makeup to look pretty. Just a smile is enough to glow....❤

[@jacksonlyons7144]

I don’t see a lot of people talking about this in the comments, but I don’t feel comfortable showing any sympathy to myself. It feels corny, and I don’t think normal people do this. Maybe that’s why I need to do it, because I’m not normal though.

[@TylerTripolone]

I have many addictions. At 15, I started smoking weed and cigarettes. At 19 I started shooting up heroin and quit weed. At 21, stopped with heroin for a while and started smoking Crack. Then I went back to heroin for a bit. At 23, I moved to a different state and was clean for 9 months then started smoking Weed again which led back to herion a few times. But then it so happened that I was introduced to methamphetamine at 23 and have been shooting that for about 4 or 5 years now. Just at the end of last year though, I was introduced to the Fentanyl pills called "perks" and have been smoking those off foil every chance I get. I've given up everything else except cigarettes which have been with me the whole way through this journey.

[@restisresistance]

Great work guys

[@dimlighty]

Journalling surely does help to know the inner troubles that cause addictive behavior, at least it has helped me.

[@steppenwolf2259]

Watching this while coming down from the lsd I did to gain perspective over my apparently unstoppable alcoholism, while thinking about doing 3-HO-PCP to ease the LSD comedown. Not even joking

[@merkasable]

I was addicted to weed/hash for a long time, I found a way to control that by writing a contract with myself. But now when I feel overwhelmed or really anxious, feeling I can't keep up with the world I resort to ketamine and smoking. And I know this happens too often to be healthy. I just feel like the world is falling apart sometimes especially with pressure from my studies and I am not sure where that comes from. I feel like a weak person and especially ketamine gives me a state of being where I can either look at my problems objectively and try to find a solution or look a away for a moment and give myself some much needed rest from myself.

[@AnatolieLupacescu]

this resonates with what I've read in Pete Walker's book on CPTSD

[@troy8063]

Perfect timing

[@TheBohemianProject]

Self scrutnization is the greatest healing mechanism that we can, and must, follow.

[@monopolybillionaire5027]

I'm literally 23 hours without a cigarette, thanks for this

[@willmercury]

Quit cold turkey 13 years ago. You CAN stop, and you will be astonished to imagine that you ever started.

[@erinsuzy613]

Something that helps is watching videos about the ill effects of smoking (or fast food or whatever addiction it is). What stuck with me about smoking is that over a long term it numbs the genital area and long term smokers can no longer have orgasms.

[@monopolybillionaire5027]

@@erinsuzy613 yeah, this is one of the main reasons my parts have gone softer and I'm only 27. I'm still going strong now, plus it costs alot and I get breathless easily.

[@erinsuzy613]

@@monopolybillionaire5027 You might be able to help reverse any effects and help your body recover with detoxing. Look into the benefits of Niacin (with flush) and L-glutamine taken together. Dr Eric Berg on KZbin has helpful videos, that was where I saw the video about the ill effects of smoking.

[@monopolybillionaire5027]

I relapsed guy 😔

[@mandogrogurescuedogs]

Thank you! This is great