How Trauma Informed Care Saved My Life | Adrienne Rouan | TEDxDelthorneWomen

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Adrienne considers it an honor to serve as a guide to women who are overcoming traumatic experiences to successfully achieve their most deeply held hopes and dreams.
A history of traumatic experiences brought her to her knees. This ultimately led Adrienne to acknowledging her own inner strength, the power of trauma informed care, and to embark on the quest of creating communities and processes which guide women on the journey to thriving after trauma.
A personal and professional understanding of success patterns and a database with hundreds of trauma informed resources helps Adrienne lead clients to achieving concrete and life changing results. Naturally divergent thinking patterns and formal investigative training result in solutions which are far from status quo, and which address the complexities of living life after complex traumas.
A demonstrated lifelong learner, Adrienne is continually expanding and deepening her expertise.
When she isn't spending time with her family, she enjoys hiking in national parks, traveling the country, voraciously reading the newest management and physics theories, running in 5k races, and volunteering time and energy to her community. Adrienne considers it an honor to serve as a guide to women who are overcoming traumatic experiences to successfully achieve their most deeply held hopes and dreams. A history of traumatic experiences brought her to her knees. This ultimately led Adrienne to acknowledging her own inner strength, the power of trauma informed care, and to embark on the quest of creating communities and processes which guide women on the journey to thriving after trauma. A personal and professional understanding of success patterns and a database with hundreds of trauma informed resources helps Adrienne lead clients to achieving concrete and life changing results. Naturally divergent thinking patterns and formal investigative training result in solutions which are far from status quo, and which address the complexities of living life after complex traumas. A demonstrated lifelong learner, Adrienne is continually expanding and deepening her expertise. This talk was given at a TEDx event using the TED conference format but independently organized by a local community. Learn more at www.ted.com/tedx

[@victoriacrawford3760]

I’m an Addie. I’ve been searching for a trauma informed therapist but still haven’t found one. Thank you for this wonderful talk.

[@adriennerouan]

Awe thank you for listening Victoria. 💗 You are so welcomed to reach out and I would be happy to help you find one! 🙏🏻

[@Mosdefinitelyable]

You’re brave. You speak for so many girls who need advocacy.

[@adriennerouan]

Thanks for watching Diana! Yes, one of the goals of this talk, and my biggest hope, is to use my voice to lift others who need heard!

[@joeyelkins6195]

Thank you for bravely speaking up when so many of us can’t…

[@adriennerouan]

Thank you for listening! I’m working still on changing the narrative of mental health and domestic abuse so we all may speak freely and be supported as we need it to be by our healthcare providers of all types in the future. 🙏🏻💗

[@amberborchers1568]

I'm writing a paper, and perhaps a thesis, on the biological effects of trauma and the importance of trauma informed care. It is so important. Thank you for continuing to fight for it!

[@adriennerouan]

Amber, thank you so much for watching and writing your paper! Thank YOU! 🙏🏻

[@kollmanlisa]

Adrienne, your talk was potent, moving, inspiring, and raw. Thank you for so bravely sharing your story, and speaking about trauma-informed care.

[@adriennerouan]

Thank you Lisa 🙏🏻

[@littlemissk3603]

Brilliant fearless message. Thankyou so much! I’m a youth worker and this helps remind me how to support the young people i work with

[@adriennerouan]

From my heart to your helping heart, you are so welcome and thank you for watching! 🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻

[@AtooZ]

This speaks to me. I am also a survivor.

[@adriennerouan]

Zahra thank you so much for watching and sharing this. 🙏🏻💗

[@lacy143]

Beautiful, Adrienne! I’m in tears. What a powerful and important message. Thank you for having the courage to share you story and how we can all make a difference.

[@adriennerouan]

Lacy 💗💗💗🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻

[@julianab.andrade357]

Wow! What an example of strength! "In order to change the world we must be the change" - Adrienne

[@adriennerouan]

Thank you Juliana!! 🙏🏻💗

[@thaiszoe2971]

I think you know I am in your corner... and, so grateful you are in mine. Thank you for your guidance and warmth today. 💛🏆

[@adriennerouan]

Always Thais!! Thank you too. 💗🙏🏻💗

[@tarakalkman6121]

I don't know you but I am so incredibly proud of you. The strength, vulnerability and resilency it took for you to do this is astounding. Although healing is often messy, it is also beautiful. Thank you for sharing your story. Well done!👏🎉

[@adriennerouan]

Thank you for commenting and watching I’m so grateful for you taking the time. 🙏🏻

[@katrinabang7698]

You are brave and resourceful! Thank you for sharing this!

[@adriennerouan]

Thank you for watching Katrina! 🙏🏻

[@nataliesimon852]

Thie brought tears to my eyes. Thank you for sharing. Come to Jesus and you will find rest.

[@adriennerouan]

Thank you for watching Natalie. 🙏🏻

[@joywilliams4014]

Hi Addie. You are super brave. We need more Addies out there to tell our story. I’m 60 and have been through various therapies my whole life. I often feel robbed. I would like to find a community that I can heal with as it can be so lonely. I appreciate you doing this talk. I wish I could meet you in person.

[@adriennerouan]

Thank you Joy, for watching and for your heartfelt comment. Please feel free to reach out I would love to chat with you sometime.

[@daburningdezire]

I'm sorry Adrienne. For all that happened to you. Thank you so much for being vulnerable and sharing with all of us. And I truly relate to many aspects of your story. Even if the details aren't exactly the same, the feelings are very relatable. And I just want to say you are not alone.

[@adriennerouan]

Thank you for your beautiful comment Nidhi. 🙏🏻 May your journey continue in healing as well.💗

[@Dani-jo9yr]

Strong and empowering🙏💖

[@adriennerouan]

Grateful to you for watching and posting. 🙏🏻🙌🏻

[@nicolebeaudry9597]

Thank you Adrienne for sharing your courage and bravery. A great perspective on the importance of trauma informed care.

[@adriennerouan]

Thanks for watching Nicole! 🙏🏻

[@MarkLawry]

Wow. you have helped others by standing on this stage and sharing that.

[@adriennerouan]

I thank you and am so glad this journey is helping others. 🙏🏻

[@LadyWebz]

I work with brave powerful women like your self who are learning to spread their wings with the assistance of trauma informed care. Thank you for sharing your journey 💜🦋💜

[@adriennerouan]

Thank you Lady Webz 🙏🏻 Thank you. 💗

[@justacoginthefkery]

Hugs 💗 I felt those breaths in my soul. Thank you for sharing your story.

[@adriennerouan]

Thank you Jacque, for this comment and for watching. 🙏🏻✨

[@joywilliams4014]

You should be so proud of yourself. I am.

[@adriennerouan]

🙌🏻 😊

[@soniamonteiro8786]

I am also one of the Adi in this world. Thank you Adi for speaking up on behalf of all of us. God bless you.

[@adriennerouan]

Awe, Sonia, thank you so much for watching. I promise to never stop speaking up for all of us.

[@nourghaddie6633]

So brave! Thank you for sharing your story, what an inspiration

[@adriennerouan]

Thank you for watching I appreciate it!

[@asafeplacepodcast2690]

You are a remarkable human being. Thankyou for sharing, ❤️❤️❤️

[@adriennerouan]

Thank you guys...it's so awesome to know you are also doing this work for so many as well. We got this!!

[@bellanoire2271]

@@adriennerouan you are AMAZING!! I had chills listening to you pour your heart out bc of how much I can relate. You inspired me to seek help in TIC so that I can finally heal and become a fierce advocate for other survivors ❤️‍🩹🙌🏽

[@adriennerouan]

@@bellanoire2271 🙏🏻🙏🏻♥️♥️ Reach out anytime I so enjoy supporting others on this journey in any way I am able! May you find healing, depth if soul, and beautiful growth aling the path of healing. ✨

[@bellanoire2271]

@@adriennerouan Aww I really appreciate you for saying that 🥰 Healing from trauma has been a lonely journey. Most ppl can’t relate and the ppl who can (my siblings) are still in the denial phase. I am still trying to process this new awakening within me. But once my emotions are settled, I will be in touch. Have an amazing Memorial Day weekend! 💕

[@adriennerouan]

@@bellanoire2271 ​ Amen, so true about the loneliness. May you also have a beautiful weekend. I look forward to connecting when the time and space is right for us both!

[@isarose3136]

Wow that is such a powerful talk Adrienne. Thank you. I'm just finding TIC and I'm probably twice your age, but this gives me hope. You are being a fierce warrior for health, I hope your daughter sees that strength.

[@adriennerouan]

Thank you Isa 🙏🏻 I wish you powerful transformation on your TIC experience, filled with renewal and many moments of joy on the journey still yet to unfold. 💗

[@LanaiintheSky]

You did it Adrienne! CONGRATULATIONS on a very powerful, informative and truly necessary talk )'(

[@adriennerouan]

Thank you Lanai!! 💗

[@dianacollins9360]

What an incredible woman. Thank you so much for sharing your vulnerability and being fierce enough to fight for others!

[@adriennerouan]

Thank you so much - always!!

[@jamiequantrille6951]

You are a rock star! I admire your bravery and strength. Your advocacy for trauma-informed care is very inspiring. Thank you for sharing.

[@adriennerouan]

Thank you for watching and for sharing your comment, grateful to you for your time! 🙌🏻🙏🏻

[@marjoriestallard1272]

Thank you for sharing such an empowering message for those in this field!

[@adriennerouan]

@marjoriestallard1272 I am so grateful to you for watching! 🙌🏻💛

[@nje2409]

Amazing presentation!! I have been trained in TIC and have done presentations on the topic - but will tell you, have NOT heard quite as moving of a presentation as you did. I applaud your bravery, resilience, and advocacy. Thank you for letting people into your world in order to make services safe for everyone. Thank you - and particularly for never giving up!!!

[@adriennerouan]

It's great to hear your thoughts and thank you for sharing and watching. I am grateful for your support and am so happy to hear about your TIC training...the more awareness and training around TIC the better our world will be!

[@marydino808]

Thank you Adrienne -- well said and much needed. Continue in courage and compassion!

[@adriennerouan]

Thank you Mary!! Appreciate the encouragement. 🙏🏻

[@origamisensei]

100% courage, and such an important topic! Thank you for the call to action.

[@adriennerouan]

Thank you! Our world needs hugs right now...I hope this helps someone!

[@goofustheatre9637]

Thank you very much for your inspirational talk :)

[@adriennerouan]

Thank you so much for spending time watching and for posting your comment. 🙏🏻

[@laurag7936]

Thank you. I’m also someone who is defying those statistics. I hope that in my professional work I am able to use the fire lit inside me by my personal experiences to create safety in the world for others. “Though my voice shakes, I will not be silent”

[@adriennerouan]

YES! Thank you so much for creating transformation. ❤

[@CanadianBear47]

lols i feel your overwhelming grief and sorrow i also feel these feelings and mostly ppl try to shut me down because it makes them uncomfortable. i am cing that i am not broken i am normal i want freedom and love. hmm more things i can look into for my healing journey

[@adriennerouan]

Yes, we are perfectly normal based on what we've survived!! Thank you for watching, and may you keep journey towards your light and may your pain turn to purpose.

[@noid1978]

That was an amazing story, thank you for sharing. I am glad that your subconscious remained you of the true selfless promise you made. Suicide is never the right answer. It just takes the pain you are experiencing and moves it to those that love you.

[@adriennerouan]

Amen ❤

[@Merzui-kg8ds]

I slowly over time gave away pieces of myself for decades. On the outside, like Addie, I was successful. On the inside, I was, to sum it quickly, not ok. It is very isolating, as most people who "know" me don't know me. And, worse, when trauma symptoms surface, most people (no matter how "close" they were to you) back away, and away, and away.

[@adriennerouan]

Yes, such a troubling issue in our world, the lack of trauma-informed care space. We will never stop building!

[@maggib3971]

Courageous young woman 💗

[@adriennerouan]

I appreciate you watching the talk Maggie 🙌🏻💕

[@floracrosby6983]

Such courage and spirit. You have so much to give to the world. Thank you.

[@adriennerouan]

Thank you Flora! It's my honor and if it helps even one...it all has a purpose.

[@contentbible615]

I sincerely wish you the best. Thank you for being brave

[@adriennerouan]

Truly appreciate you watching and holding the space Shanice. Thank you too.

[@helensimmons]

What a moving and powerful talk. Thank you for sharing your personal journey and making a difference

[@adriennerouan]

Thank you Helen for watching! 🙏🏻💗

[@kelseymariebell1357]

Thank you so much for courageously sharing!

[@adriennerouan]

I’m so glad to have been able to stand and share it has been such an incredible journey. Thank you for watching 🙏🏻

[@susanamolinolo7112]

Dear Adrienne, I'm so grateful to have discovered your magnificent talk. Echoing @daburningdezire to say I too am so very sorry for everything you've had to go through. Thank you for speaking up and modelling capital B, Bravery. May the rest of your life be filled with the gentleness and kindnesses that everyone deserves.

[@adriennerouan]

Thank you so much I truly love knowing that this talk is helping others it literally brings me tears of joy and purpose to my heart each week ❤

[@jeremyleis]

Amazing lady! wow 👏💖

[@adriennerouan]

Thank you so much for watching, and for taking a moment to comment. I truly appreciate that. 🙌🏻

[@dodo3366]

wow God bless you .i lost my job as a doctor trying to work this way although I didnt know this was what i was doing

[@adriennerouan]

Thank you for sharing that Donal. I believe it happens more often that we would like to think and that is a part of the why of my mission! Thank you for watching! 🙏🏻

[@TheKingdomFeminist]

Thank you Addie❤❤❤

[@adriennerouan]

So appreciate you watching and leaving this comment. 🙏🏻💗

[@andriagraham5087]

Thank you for sharing.

[@adriennerouan]

It's my honor...and thank you for watching.

[@peterfnss8234]

Thank you Adrienne 🙏🤗

[@adriennerouan]

Thank you for watching Peter. 🙏🏻🌻

[@be.yourself2686]

Your absolutely amazing thank you xxx

[@adriennerouan]

Thank you for watching my talk.

[@wingsforchildrenandfamilie7130]

Much respect and gratitude to you Adrienne!

[@adriennerouan]

So grateful to you for taking the time to listen! 🙏🏻

[@maxincrease]

I am so honored to have met you! Thank you for sharing your story!...hey PURPLE looks good on you! ; )

[@jwhite5396]

I would love to see ACE testing done at maternity check-ups and in schools.

[@adriennerouan]

Wouldn’t that be incredible! Yes, we are working on this! 🙌🏻

[@salmankhanalokozay9907]

Bravo

[@adriennerouan]

Thank you Salman 🙏🏻

[@lanacrystal8147]

Your amazing 😻

[@adriennerouan]

Lana, thank you for watching! 🙏🏻

[@sharzihughes7055]

🕯️Yes🕯️

[@adriennerouan]

💕🙏🏻

[@KB-cv6eq]

She got fired for confiding in her peers bc she was hurting. I hate that for her . Thry didnt deserve you babe . Not at all.❤

[@adriennerouan]

I recently connected with a former colleague from there and it was really neat to have her confirm what a toxic space it was. Authentic humans is not what all places want, nor is it healthy for anyone, yet especially for those on the trauma recovery journey! Thank you for watching. 🙏🏻

[@mekdeszerfu1483]

WE WANT THE TRAINING PLEASE WE ARE IN TRAUMA WHY DONT YOU GAYS COME AND TRAIN US IT IS REALLY ON THE SPOT PLEASE

[@adriennerouan]

Please feel free to reach out I am be glad to connect you with programs.

[@earthcoloredeyes5043]

Are we teaching resilience or how to be a victim?

[@adriennerouan]

Hello Earth Colored Eyes - I suppose it depends upon the lens of life one looks through. My intention was not to perpetuate victimhood, but to empower the victim to rise above by finding meaning. That is the trauma-informed way. We also hope to free victims of abuse from the vicious cycle of perpetuating abuse in the next generation.