How We Honestly Feel About Caring For Our Brother With Special Needs

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At 9, Jayden Tan was diagnosed with PURA syndrome, a rare genetic condition (there are only 200+ known patients worldwide). Now 17, he is non-verbal, has developmental delay and needs help with daily tasks like eating.
His three sisters, aged 19, 16 and 14, share about what it's been like growing up with Jayden and the expectations of them as shared caregivers. They also respond to comments from viewers after their family's story was featured on #OnTheRedDot’s Undiagnosed series.
00:00 Life with a special needs sibling
02:16 Brother comforts his sisters
02:48 How to care for special needs brother
05:13 Future caregiving arrangements
07:26 Are sisters forced to be caregivers?
08:35 Do sisters of special needs kid feel overlooked?
10:50 Tips for siblings of a special needs child
11:25 Resources for caregivers
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@mohdfahmy3814
@mohdfahmy3814 Жыл бұрын
Excellent job Daddy and Mummy for instilling good family values to your children!
@bobafett5757
@bobafett5757 Жыл бұрын
Dont forget about the maid
@NazriB
@NazriB 7 ай бұрын
Lies again? Special Agent National Service
@stephaniemuse
@stephaniemuse Жыл бұрын
If the parents had done a terrible job, their daughters wouldn't be this kind, intelligent, and eloquent. It is clear that they have their own goals and dreams, whilst still also understanding that their parents will grow older and so, eventually, the responsibility of taking care of Jaden would fall on them. There is a balance to be had - and these three girls all seem to have good heads on their shoulders and would definitely be able to make the best choices for their lives. May they be granted many days of happiness and fulfilment.
@elaineclaire7063
@elaineclaire7063 Жыл бұрын
Love the inclusiveness in this family ❤️ The maturity of each sister really showcases empathy and love in acceptance of the brother.
@opheliajadefeldt9123
@opheliajadefeldt9123 4 ай бұрын
These are very, very, special girls and their parents must be so proud of them. Just think, we are only watching about 10 ten minutes of THEIR day, they have done this for 24 hours 7 days a week. That is true dedication and sincere care. I hope all their dreams come true because they, more than anyone, deserve them to.
@limtimothy846
@limtimothy846 Жыл бұрын
You three girls have taken family ties & bonding to a new height with so much genuine care, concern, commitment & love for your brother. These days there're some who are so self centred with no time for parents or siblings let alone sibling with special needs. My respect & admiration to you girls. Keep up the good work !!
@ownthegame3
@ownthegame3 Жыл бұрын
Jayden knows he has great sisters and parents. It is not easy but the circumstances bring about the love, the bonds, the humility and empathy that are extraordinary.
@patt5085
@patt5085 Жыл бұрын
Growing up wishing my parents would divorce I never really had a moment like this. You guys have each other. Real loving family.
@elaineclaire7063
@elaineclaire7063 Жыл бұрын
naww, sending some love your way, chin up, sometimes our family are not from our DNA. 🫶🏽
@HalleysComet81
@HalleysComet81 Жыл бұрын
Love this! There's no divisive sibling rivalry b/c each sibling sincerely cares, respects, and loves one another equally including special needs brother, Jayden. It's selfish thinking, thinking that Jayden is a burden too. Thank you for sharing this story, CNA Insider! 😁💓!
@zZiL341yRj736
@zZiL341yRj736 Жыл бұрын
This is what family is all about. My family dropped me when I got into a car accident in 2011 and was paralyzed.
@sunnygarden4948
@sunnygarden4948 Жыл бұрын
Wow the 3 sisters are tight! Ive never see before, they are physically close, holding hands & hugging. And mentally supportive.
@pinsongorga8466
@pinsongorga8466 Жыл бұрын
Solid Sisterhood ❤
@qianliow4421
@qianliow4421 Жыл бұрын
i watched the entire documentary of the family since the previous ones. respect,admiration to the entire family. it's never ever easy to raise children with special needs. love and light and blessings to the family ❤
@vincentchanbiz
@vincentchanbiz Жыл бұрын
The true meaning of love, from parents and siblings. So heartwarming and a great lesson for all of us, staying positive. I wish your family well! ❤
@dchew5552
@dchew5552 Жыл бұрын
love that the sisters showed so much empathy. I have brain dysfunction, hypothyroidism and pituitary gland issue, brain dysfunction was due to the head injuries I sustained when I was in sec4, which was nine years ago as classmates always like to kick soccer which always hit my head but there's once, one of the classmates kicked soccer ball into the sky while at the field gate into the field, which I got head shot and nose bleed, since then I couldn't cope with studies and been at home ever since, as back then after head injuries I had trouble finding way home after school as I couldn't remember my way home and started having trouble walking normally as my leg would jerk, I usually walk to school within 15minutes but after the head injury it took me an hour. school shows no empathy especially the student council and teacher in charge of the latecomers, even when my teacher request consent from the principal to allow me to enter school after morning assembly and before lesson starts, along with class bullying me as one shouted that im fat and entire classmates laughed along, there bullying got worse as not fat shamed, they even moved my table and chair to somewhere else in the school, stole my textbook and followed me home all the way to my doorsteps. I stopped going school and only attended n level English papers only. principal only advised me to get tested for thyroid which I got hypothyroidism. and since my sis is an adult, my mom ever asked her if she could take care of me in the future when they're not around since I have brain dysfunction im incapable of getting a job as I tried before and had brain fog which impossible to remember the task given, her response shocked my mom as she said "dont ever rely on me, I dont have money" my mom was dishearten by such heartless respond as she earned more than $5k. I was dishearten by her response as for me, if the role were to change, I would definitely take up the role to take care.
@ethantay4630
@ethantay4630 9 күн бұрын
im glad that you are his sisters, you understand the role but still wantto help. not all of us can have such a happy family
@huilin0708
@huilin0708 Жыл бұрын
this is so heartwarming! lovely to see the sisters so united and grounded in their identity. i watched the previous series, and some people can be so judgemental. as they said, we are just seeing snap shot of what is happening in their lives, we don't have a big picture. kudos to them! tough journey none the less, much salutations to them!
@P53eud0nym05
@P53eud0nym05 Жыл бұрын
What resulted in those comments was the mum saying the plan was to have more kids so when they are gone there are siblings to look after Jayden. Whether it was edited to make it seem like she said that, or if she legit said that the audience will not know. But since the sisters say they don’t feel that way, good for them.
@berryspinelsun
@berryspinelsun Жыл бұрын
In the previous documentary, the mother did say that they (I assume she and her husband) told the girls that Jayden was part of the girls' responsibility when they are no longer around. That set off a lot of comments in that video saying that that sounds unfair for the girls.
@AMoKDuke
@AMoKDuke Жыл бұрын
Watching this video, I'm filled with immense respect and admiration for all three of you. It's truly heartwarming to see how you embrace the role of caregivers for your brother, Jayden, with such patience, grace, and unwavering love. Remember that it's perfectly okay to have moments of struggle - they don't make you any less incredible. Continue to support one another as you have been, because the unity in your family is truly something special. In a world that often seems lacking in empathy, your unwavering love and dedication to Jayden's well-being is a beacon of hope. Your story serves as an invaluable lesson for us all on the importance of love, resilience, and understanding. Keep shining and inspiring! You're making a difference not just in Jayden's life, but in the lives of all who hear your story. Stay strong! 💪❤
@jimw8615
@jimw8615 Жыл бұрын
Taking up responsibility is wat I see here. Rather then shy away. U can’t calculate and draw line in a family or in life in general. It loses its meaning after a while. J has somehow become the glue in the family
@izzabinteismail1566
@izzabinteismail1566 11 ай бұрын
amazing and beautiful sisters. just beautiful. brought tears to my eyes to see how optimistic they are, and just how much empathy they have.
@nicklee7002
@nicklee7002 Жыл бұрын
CNA should revisit this family for an update 30 years later.
@melvintan7781
@melvintan7781 8 ай бұрын
The family cohesiveness is heartwarming. And the maturity of the sisters at this age is impressive. When some windows close, other doors open.
@myeongwol
@myeongwol 11 ай бұрын
So nice to have so much sibling love. Wish the sisters all the best ☺️
@danicafong-shoji6052
@danicafong-shoji6052 Жыл бұрын
You girls are awesome! So much respect for your family of taking care of each other ❤
@jasminetan736
@jasminetan736 Жыл бұрын
Well brought up kids and well spoken and mature in their thinking. They will ride out well in life
@Lemonkisss
@Lemonkisss 11 ай бұрын
Really strong family made of rock. The wonderful girls are so mature, sweet and awe inspiring at the same time. Jayden definitely feel very cherished every day to be part of this loving family. ❤😊
@ngenxiadelenbss1849
@ngenxiadelenbss1849 Жыл бұрын
the three sisters are so mature !!
@shumlulu6605
@shumlulu6605 11 ай бұрын
I also have two siblings with special needs, but I totally understand this is not easy. These three sisters show how much they love & care for their brother, and treat him like a normal kid. This is not everyone can do the same thing as them. Hope your family is happy forever. U guys have done a good job.
@jennieloh6312
@jennieloh6312 Жыл бұрын
Proud parents! All of you are so wholesome.
@dessy982
@dessy982 Жыл бұрын
You really know these girls has quality like a diamond. Hope they could become successful people in world especially Singapore.🙏🏻
@metallooily7606
@metallooily7606 Жыл бұрын
Take care of each other too, we are proud of all, Parent too
@Athenaforever2308
@Athenaforever2308 3 ай бұрын
You can see the sisterhood is strong!! You girls are beautiful and inspiring, Thank you!!!! And your brother and your parents are very lucky to have you!!! I am sure you will all go very far in life! Hello to Jayden all the way from Tanzania!
@jxc168
@jxc168 11 ай бұрын
Amazing sisters. You all are the epitome of sisterhood
@belugaservices8424
@belugaservices8424 Жыл бұрын
I feel you . What a wonderful siblings !! I can relate it , the ups and downs . Keep it up, gals
@marionsmith4728
@marionsmith4728 11 ай бұрын
What a wonderful family,so loving and accepting ❤
@dessy982
@dessy982 Жыл бұрын
I'm very glad if he has very warm-loving sisters and family in his life..❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️
@glitterbomb6700
@glitterbomb6700 Ай бұрын
I would look after him he is so sweet he is a gem
@paulinewong5906
@paulinewong5906 Жыл бұрын
These parents are lucky to hv such 3 wonderful girls.. Ya no matter what he is your brother n family stays together or cares for each other
@suhaimielibra478
@suhaimielibra478 Жыл бұрын
im really understand how your feeling when have 1 bro or sis who special, just like me have 2 sisters that Thallasemia,, taking care of them is a happiness for me cause thats my destiny ,,what an inspirations family
@SGrailadventure2004
@SGrailadventure2004 7 ай бұрын
A great 'sisterhood' of staying strong despite the struggles in helping their special need brother. Seeing fights or arguments within a family is something I won't want to see.
@cheewanng6138
@cheewanng6138 10 ай бұрын
All I see is love from every pixel of this video.
@6969Liverpool
@6969Liverpool Жыл бұрын
Lovely siblings & great parenting from parents. Stay Strong ❤❤
@youtubeaudience384
@youtubeaudience384 11 ай бұрын
I feel so bad for his parents, imagine raising a child like that!? How unfortunate..😢
@salmasalamoon
@salmasalamoon 8 ай бұрын
Did you learn nothing from this video?
@JenniferKim-kv8rx
@JenniferKim-kv8rx 11 ай бұрын
Amazing family! If only every family was like this…
@sarahrean7174
@sarahrean7174 11 ай бұрын
For the moment parents don't think about the future because everything gonna be on sister's shoulders A lot of adults with disabilities can't leave on their own its very Very Very hard To take care of them You are scared all the time people look down on them You can't have your own life too so It's a burden like older people who are sick I have a brother in the case Family values It's one thing but the difficulties who came with it It's not easy
@moonstarsun633
@moonstarsun633 11 ай бұрын
Reality is always hard. If brother suffers from mild autism or mild down syndrome, at least not so bad. Once the sisters have families, it will really be a challenge. The parents must prepare financially well for Jayden's so sisters no need to dig into savings to take care their brother. The sisters can use the funds to take care the brother. This is better I guess.
@moonrei69
@moonrei69 Жыл бұрын
Awesome sisters, loving family!
@cherylang4108
@cherylang4108 11 ай бұрын
stay strong rooting for your family❤❤
@JaneJohnson-vg3xi
@JaneJohnson-vg3xi 6 ай бұрын
god bless you for caring for your brother you girls have alot of love for your brother
@user-yg7hc6mi6y
@user-yg7hc6mi6y 11 ай бұрын
What an amazing family!
@EmEm872
@EmEm872 Жыл бұрын
What a beautiful family❤
@lplk
@lplk Жыл бұрын
Respect!
@MuhammadTahir-lf4hu
@MuhammadTahir-lf4hu 11 ай бұрын
You are strong sisters & your parents are also strong
@jag4064
@jag4064 Жыл бұрын
Lovely family.
@yueling3424
@yueling3424 Жыл бұрын
I LOVE THESE GIRLS!
@priyavicky3401
@priyavicky3401 11 ай бұрын
jayden is so lucky to have such loving sisters. One day , when the parents r not around I am sure his sisters would take care of him. Jayden is also good looking .
@moonstarsun633
@moonstarsun633 11 ай бұрын
Wait till the sisters are married and have kids.
@CocoaBanana914
@CocoaBanana914 Жыл бұрын
Beautiful families
@bchpls24
@bchpls24 Жыл бұрын
Quite sad that they have to make another video just to address comments. People can be mean. How is it even our problem if the sisters want to take care of their own blood?😅
@youarehere1251
@youarehere1251 11 ай бұрын
As time goes by, things will change for better or worse.
@clara.t68
@clara.t68 Жыл бұрын
Jayden is one lucky lucky child (:
@mathshouldntdie9996
@mathshouldntdie9996 Жыл бұрын
Unlucky because he contracted PURA syndrome. Sorry if I was being sorta ableist
@mmsutantowrites
@mmsutantowrites Ай бұрын
Family ❤❤❤
@AungThu-cg2ov
@AungThu-cg2ov 2 ай бұрын
Good family.
@abdulrajaf6
@abdulrajaf6 Жыл бұрын
Honestly...He is Smart...n TRUST...me...he knows a LOT of things that we NORMAL PERSON...dont know.....
@HarpaxA
@HarpaxA Жыл бұрын
Hopefully they still stay true and taking care of their brother, AFTER they are getting married.
@moonstarsun633
@moonstarsun633 11 ай бұрын
When they have their own families, it might be different story. The sisters can said whatever they want now. Unless each of them is willing to take turn let him stay at their home and hire a maid. But I'm sure the parents have to prepare for Jayden's so as to relieve sisters from bearing the bulk of responsibilities. Wishing them well!
@bobafett5757
@bobafett5757 Жыл бұрын
*Am just wondering is there any type of cure for such condition ?*
@bobafett5757
@bobafett5757 Жыл бұрын
*Unsure if the sister knows the difference between a caretaker and caregiver cos its not the same based on the brothers situation*
@wanderfooltang3520
@wanderfooltang3520 Жыл бұрын
3 great lovely sisters
@gpaulac5284
@gpaulac5284 Жыл бұрын
Pass
@bobafett5757
@bobafett5757 Жыл бұрын
*Looks like theres a maid in this household so all respect to the maid*
@janeli1351
@janeli1351 Жыл бұрын
❤❤❤❤
@KironManuelCards
@KironManuelCards Жыл бұрын
If anyone wants care either in Singapore or Malaysia,let me know.
@emmajk7433
@emmajk7433 4 ай бұрын
❤❤❤
@irenekoo
@irenekoo Жыл бұрын
FAST AND FURIUOUS X is the bomb!
@martinarchie2902
@martinarchie2902 Жыл бұрын
It is a JOKE OF A MOVIE
@kinokunia
@kinokunia Жыл бұрын
whoa, wondered who would even think that he is a burden.
@brucelee5576
@brucelee5576 Жыл бұрын
Man I haven’t seen a Hungry Hungry Hippo in 35 years.
@jewelpteltd439
@jewelpteltd439 Жыл бұрын
Your World in mine 你的世界我们懂
@Honeymagmangospoof
@Honeymagmangospoof 11 ай бұрын
Why you all only feature this Chinese family
@CUSSLIKEASAILOR
@CUSSLIKEASAILOR Жыл бұрын
☝🏾❤️🤙🏾
@officialnyiyanmoehtet
@officialnyiyanmoehtet 11 ай бұрын
What are the heights of the 14 and 16 years old girls? Jeslyn and Selene. And why were they born as girls? Is it because they want to be females? So jealous, I don't want to be a male. I want to be a female but my parents don't let me.
@joelsimpp
@joelsimpp 7 ай бұрын
I want to be autistic pls
@jewelseng9900
@jewelseng9900 Жыл бұрын
Everything’s cool before they found their “the ones” 😂 after marriage it’s totally gonna be a different story with the siblings
@moonstarsun633
@moonstarsun633 11 ай бұрын
Agreed
@jewelseng9900
@jewelseng9900 11 ай бұрын
@@moonstarsun633 after them having their own kids to take care of meh 🫤 that poor brother , hope the parents are still alive
@Julio-wf8go
@Julio-wf8go 11 ай бұрын
Promo`SM
@jessz3104
@jessz3104 Жыл бұрын
the parents are very selfish. to limit their daughter's opportunity by tying them down to their brother. the 3 sisters have no husband or boyfriend yet. easy for them to say anything, wait till they have their own families and children...
@fuschiarose
@fuschiarose Жыл бұрын
Clearly you don’t understand, nor do you have the honor of caring for a loved one with special needs. Can’t you see that they’re happy caring for their brother? Is life really all about finding a mate? You believe they won’t be able to find someone all because their brother is disabled?
@hayatieow4727
@hayatieow4727 Жыл бұрын
I think the parents are trying to push the responsibility of taking care of the brother without considerations towards the 3 girls who have their own individual challenges in life to manage! It is a real challenge for the parents to do what are the right things to do , in all aspects of the family life ! Nevertheless, instilling the genuine care n love giving is universally recognized as the proud value that each n everyone of us should. Have to be spiritually strong n committed while facing adversities in life. Good Luck!
@chowpoknga6805
@chowpoknga6805 10 ай бұрын
I think the brother make these 3 girls to be strong and mature faster than girls of their age. So see it as a blessing in disguise. Let’s face it even normal people can’t tell how the future holds. So stop worrying and just enjoy the company around you now.
@user-rw6vz1br9w
@user-rw6vz1br9w 11 ай бұрын
Hwre i am a sjngle daughter with some defects in me. And my parents hate me, for bejng a girl 😂
@lpericteo
@lpericteo 11 ай бұрын
阿弥陀佛🙏🙏🙏善哉善哉
@GPTMagana
@GPTMagana 11 ай бұрын
well, I'm sorry. But I will see Jayden as a guy on drugs overloaded with sugar
@playmobil806
@playmobil806 2 ай бұрын
Muttersprachen überprüfen....
@tokitoyotokitoyo
@tokitoyotokitoyo Жыл бұрын
Too much pork !
@CrystalCat24
@CrystalCat24 17 күн бұрын
LMFAO get out of here 😅
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