How We Manage Kids Brutal Honesty in Public

[@4tracey2inspire]

Anytime my son asked me why someone looked different, I would say "why do you have blue eyes and I have brown? No two people are the same. But we are all part of the human race, so treat people how you would want to be treated. With respect!"

[@keetykeetymeowmeow]

Exactly: We are all born "different" and...our blood is the same color, we cry the same tears, we feel joy and pain... differences make the world interesting and beautiful!

[@KarenGensler]

I⁷in

[@biddiemutter3481]

I love that

[@sonjamomberger556]

Great answer

[@sonjamomberger556]

❤

[@TimNoel2]

When I was in grade school in the 80s, there was a student whose parents both had dwarfism. His mom would drop her son off in the mornings and pick him up after school and she would always get out of the car when picking him up and all of the students in that area at the school would clearly see that she had dwarfism. Of course as most young children do, there would always be whispering amongst each other saying "why is she so short", etc. So one day she and her husband thought it would be a smart idea to answer everyone's questions all at once by asking the principal if he could call a school assembly where the entire school met in the auditorium and she would get up on the stage and for about an hour, she did a great job just answering every question any student had. They would raise their hands and she would call on them. I thought what a great idea to do this. That way there will no longer be any students that are unfamiliar with dwarfism. It was a great learning experience.

[@hemacdonald400]

I so enjoy Zach's broad thinking around his dwarfism and his overall outlook on life. He has such a balanced process.

[@mrs.p6128]

I agree…I would also like Tori to hold back more often and let Zach finish his thoughts…

[@Tammy-wh7wp]

Zach's character ,how he carries himself adds to his handsome demeanor.

[@bayareareefs8616]

lol you must have a fetish . Get some help with that

[@12hunter100]

Yes handsome and i love his voice

[@sonjamomberger556]

Me too love his voice

[@kelliannawebb5738]

My son is in a wheelchair and has a feeding tube. I was at the doctors. This mom was checking her daughter in and the little girl was hanging out in the waiting room. I was talking to my son about eating and getting his tube on to eat. She was very curious and I said would you like to see his Mickey Button where he eats. She came closer and I showed her as her mom watched on. I put it on and said now you can eat. She was like wow cool. I said everyone needs to eat my son just eats differently and that’s okay. I asked what she thought she said I eat with my mouth I said me too but Jace needs a Mickey button to eat. She said he is really happy because he was smiley and happy at am that point. Then we were called in and the mom said thank you. I said no problem. I would rather kids be educated about my soon then wonder why and no one answer. We went in for our appointment. I hope I had an impact Jon this little girls life. I would rather answer rather then have her wonder. It was a great teachable moment. ❤

[@cheryleaston6820]

What a great Mom you are. Education is the best way to handle it.

[@doreenkrajewski9775]

💚awesome what you did. Made me tear up.

[@doreenkrajewski9775]

Where do you guys film from? I thought this was your living room. Obviously not.. 😄💚

[@terinaforan1414]

For sure! I do the same with my son who is w/c dependent with Mickey (also non verbal without his eye gaze device). What I have noticed as a mom of “typical” kids as well; is the teaching of “don’t stare” has caused an issue where my son is just invisible now. Nobody acknowledges him or talks to him and many times goes out of their way to avoid him. He is only 11 and it does make me sad that he has such little interaction with other people when we are in public.

[@jscasecase471]

Absolutely. I have a son who has a disability and I would rather give knowledge about it than have them stare.

[@iluvphillip13]

I grew up with one atheist parent & one devout christian parent. I think that gave me a better awareness of all the faith differences in the world, and a clearer picture of genuine kindness coming from an individual rather than it being a product of any faith alone. I've seen that there are both cruel & kind individuals everywhere, in every belief system. While my husband & I usually chose to attend a christian church, we also had close friendships with a diverse set of people from various religions and the non-religious, which I think helps prevent an isolationist "us vs. them" mentality in other areas too. Kindness is a choice. ❤

[@violetash9597]

I just want to say thank you for putting up with TLC for all these years with your family to educate us on this topic. I wouldn’t have ever been exposed to differences if it weren’t for shows like yours. It just normalized this for many of us and I’m grateful for that.

[@TheJleliot]

What do you mean putting up? While the dynamics of this family has changed I'm sure they had a choice to ( put up with TLC) as long as they have. There has been alot of positives for this family as well as it's fans. I personally think the show will stop soon because Zack and Tori has stopped taping. I wish everyone nothing but the best

[@violetash9597]

@@TheJleliot if you watch some of the other shows’ cast members social media posts they will talk about their experiences working with TLC. While it’s typically positive, it can still be very tiring and annoying having cameras around almost 24/7 for a good chunk of your life. The editing can also change the audience perspective in a positive or negative way when they put things out of order. Prime example is when they brought up-in one of the previous podcast episodes-about how they (TLC) wanted to add more drama to LPBW when they were talking about the kids. Zach and Tori stated in the first podcast episode that this (the podcast) is where they can tell their story their way. So yes, put up with TLC.

[@applego6533]

It was for the money lol

[@daveshoemaker7137]

@@violetash9597 Like Jake being sexually assaulted! Did TLC give him anything for ruining his life?

[@violetash9597]

@@daveshoemaker7137 as far as I know, there was no compensation.

[@Nadiemom]

My son has vitiligo (loss of skin pigment that can be disfiguring.) When he started school, I had a "talk" with him attempting to prepare for the "questions." I went into great medical detail about his condition and how he should explain it to his classmates. It was a loooooong talk. One day, I asked him if anyone had asked about his skin. Of course they had- I asked, "How did you respond?" He said, "I just told them it's the way God made me." It was a simple and the most accurate response. Sometimes, adults/parents complicate explanations. I learned a lot from him that day :)

[@ct6852]

What do you think about just saying 'I don't know' and then dropping the topic? Like we all have physical traits and personality quirks or family history facts and the truth is we just literally don't know where they come from or why they are there or what it's about. I feel like that combined with body language might work.

[@АлексейЕвтушенко-к1с]

Ваш сын молодец, пусть всегда будет уверен в себе

[@Diligent-dp7gi]

Zach is so PRACTICAL; SENSIBLE; & Full of GODLY WISDOM # Love & Prayers for your Family.

[@susantasker6120]

Yes and I agree it’s not his responsibility to teach people how to behave and adults! Just his own kids

[@nancyperez9728]

I like Zach’s simple response that is how God made him. With all the deceptions and lies nowadays is refreshing to hear absolute truth😊. Don’t change. May God bless you and your family Zach and Tori🙏💕❤️💕

[@LP-km7gj]

I live in a small rural state with not many people who have dwarfism. We moved into an apartment and there was a couple who both have dwarfism and because of your show, when I saw them I didn’t even give it a second thought. Without your show, I wouldn’t have stared because I was also taught not to do that but I may have given a second glance. The show definitely helped to educate people and teach people who may have only ever seen someone with dwarfism on TV.

[@HopeforSnoopy]

I’m absolutely loving hearing how your faith helps your family! I’m a Christian too and without God I’d be lost! Zach was the one I absolutely connected with the most from the Roloff Family! Thank you both!

[@calliehaynes8845]

As someone who uses a wheelchair myself, I am totally fine having someone come up to me and ask me questions, especially from kids who are genuinely curious. I would rather have that than have someone just stare or whisper or be led away like they did something wrong in asking the question.

[@SimplyLolly]

I, too, am in a wheelchair. I have CRPS in my foot/leg & cant walk… also can’t wear a sock or shoe on my left foot. I once had a very small child staring while in a grocery store so I said hi to her. It took her about 5 seconds to respond back & then asked where my shoe was. So I told her I lost it. I think it’s under my bed so I have to go home & clean my room so I can find it. But her shoes were sooo pretty. Mom smiled back at me…. Child was allowed to be curious, wasn’t met with contention & everyone left with a smile. 💛 Curiosity is what helps us learn.

[@danandloribobolz8552]

Little People Big World is such a great show! It really taught the world about dwarfism! ❤

[@katierojas8066]

Yes, that show paved the way for the other shows with dwarfs on TLC. It really raised a lot of awareness to the public.

[@spk633]

I have a son that received an autism diagnosis at 2 years old. Throughout his life I realized that Kindness starts in the home. My advice to others has always been to teach ALL your children about differences in others. Teach kindness. Teach Acceptance. I also know this. If we want this world to accept the differences in our children... they have to see them, they have to be with them, they have to get to know them. Inclusion is the answer! ❤

[@mienafriggstad3360]

👏 I completely agree with you. My husband and both of our children who are 15 & 19 are on the Autism spectrum

[@YaniraOtero-vb5ts]

I would love to hear Zach finish a sentence. To hear about his experiences. I do enjoy both of you.

[@gaylaallen2456]

Yes she's so annoying constantly interrupting Zach. I like Zach's perspective on things.

[@lilliansamuels6642]

Yeah I agree, it is so annoying, when she butts in, and he forgets what he was talking about.

[@janicearthur1279]

Yes, I know Tori has been trying to work on this, but she really needs to control her thoughts & let Zach speak.

[@jessicaheidivonbraun9035]

Like stop cutting him off and I'm wishing people would be honest with them instead of just kissing their asses, if you were real fan, I've watched since day #1. Asking questions is NOT negativity, a pod cast opens up your life to questions and newsflash, you can't talk about kids 24)7 or you need to get a life cause after the kids are grown and gone you both will have absolutely nothing left, just like Zach's parents duh.

[@cindibush8880]

Tori is fine.. quit ragging on her. Don't watch

[@marywatts6618]

Tori, I love your enthusiasm! But, please let Zach finish a sentence. Love the podcast/content!

[@CheekyMama58]

Especially when she interrupts him on the topic he is actually the expert of. It's frustrating.

[@xxVickiVikingxx]

She drove me mad with it lol Ask him a question then interrupts him to explain what the answer is to something he's the expert in

[@suziQ27]

It seems to just be their 'rhythm' -- it works for them - and I think it's cute 😊

[@Pewo7140]

I love Zach’s answer. Some parents don’t teach kids these things.

[@Livinlife33]

I know my story isn’t that big, but I had Bell’s palsy for almost 2 months, and my right side of my face was paralyzed, and I could tell you that I was almost in tears because we went to eat at a China buffet and a grown woman was staring at me, eating and making a disgusting face, because I was struggling to eat . Treating somebody this way is not OK and so I totally agree with what you guys are saying especially adults should know better.

[@mrsdahmer8]

I totally feel your pain on this. I won't eat in public cuz I struggle to eat as well because of something that makes my face look, well, ugly. In fact, I won't even go in public without a face mask anymore cuz, every time I even forget to put it on, it only takes a couple of seconds for me to remember cuz I first FEEL, then I see everyone looking at me and suddenly I feel naked, and then I snap RIGHT AWAY, MY MASK!! and then put it on right away. But it's SO WEIRD cuz really, all I have to do is walk into the grocery store and in just the FIRST FEW SECONDS im in there, it REALLY IS like I walked in there naked! I'm looking round like.... WHAT???!!! then the thought "OH, MY MASK!" is my NEXT THOUGHT! But when I have my mask on (as I almost always do) it's TOTALLY DIFFERENT! NOBODY NOTICES ME AT ALL! It's SO NICE!

[@pamelac.3241]

Tori I completely understand no one liking "negative" comments. I just have to say though, that I was so excited for this podcast because I was born with a disability. Please, let Zach finish his thoughts/sentences. I think there was so much more I could have learned from him. Love you both!

[@reichmuth100]

OMG, I just made a comment about that. 😂

[@cathinuferrous2336]

… this might just be how some couples share stories and talk together… Zack can hold his own and he comes back to it and gets his point in 😃 It’s obvious they both have a ton of respect and love for one another 😊

[@suziQ27]

@@cathinuferrous2336 Right! It's their own unique rhythm -- and it works great for them 😊

[@latoya5239]

I came on here to see if anyone else felt like she was cutting him off. Cause it was driving me crazy

[@shannonpolk9366]

Yes I agree. I love this podcast and love hearing from Both of them, but not one podcast has she not interrupted something he was going to say that I was disappointed I didn’t get to hear. Unfortunately she isn’t reading these comments because she is still doing it months later every single week. 😂

[@sharonforkin6064]

When my daughter was 4 we passed a little girl in wheelchair flailing her arms and moving her head oddly. My daughter asked me why she was in a wheelchair. I replied that I didn't know for sure but it appeared that she had cerebral palsy. (I'm a nurse) She asked all types of questions as we walked and I answered as best as I could. So about 2 weeks later she said she wondered how Sarah was doing. Unaware of anyone named Sarah I asked who she was talking about. Her reply was Sarah Popalsey, the girl in the wheelchair! I'll never forget that moment.

[@sharonbrown6595]

Kids say things I just wished my girls both of them wouldn’t be so loud.

[@kimhuebschen1657]

😂🤣 Damn I didn't see it going there. Oh sweet children

[@kr6484]

Adorable! ❤

[@clacoski]

Cutest story ever❤

[@0KellieCollins0]

That is so genuinely sweet. I bet you smiled so big🥰

[@susieashley4566]

Tori. Please don’t over talk Zach all the time! Let him finish his sentence! I REALLY don’t think that you even realize that you do this! You are a lovely couple and you certainly complement Each other! Please don’t take this personal!! Love your podcast!!👍🌹❤️🙏

[@lindamele5005]

Tori, please let Zach finish his thoughts before you speak, please, thank you!

[@brigitnunez6735]

Both adults know each other and clearly communicate between them is just fine. No outside instructions needed

[@trishfuerte705]

Would love to see Amy Roloff on one of these pod casts with you guys! Great podcast you guys! Love that you talk about your faith and Jesus❤

[@MamaBehr312]

Yes, and hear her thoughts on parenting Zach along with three average height children. I know we had their show, but having her and Zach discuss now as both adults would be interesting.

[@miss2doggies]

Yes me too ! I would love to see Amy on y’all’s podcast .

[@carolyn.carter91]

My Aunt was born with spina bifida. She is one of the most amazing and CAPABLE women I know. When I was little she could still walk with crutches. As she aged she needed to use a wheelchair to be mobile. I can remember when I was a child I would get so upset at people who would stare or make dumb comments. She was great about it. She would ask them “would you like to see my crutches or would you like to look at my wheelchair.” She always approached it as a teaching moment. But, she always handled it with such grace and kindness. She always was open to explaining her condition and to educate. She raised us to politely and kindly ask questions if we met someone who might have a different abilities or body differences. She said “people are usually happy to tell you their story.” She raised all of us (13 nieces and nephews) to be kind and compassionate. A trait we have passed on to our children. Knowing her has made all of better human beings.

[@Katkjc]

Tori hun, to those who berate you for venting your frustrations, fears etc, screw those haters as they're nothing more than extremely jealous/envious of the beautiful life you and Zach have created and worked so hard for. You have every right to have a place to let your frustrations go as we all do. I'm so sorry y'all have to deal with haters, just remember that there are far more of us who truly care about y'all ! You do you ❤️❤️❤️

[@Shell-s4d]

I love how you said this❤ Haters/trolls are toddlers in adult bodies that need therapy and possibly meds! Lashing out on anyone, especially complete strangers, makes them look like jealous, immature idiots who are bitter. Max Lucado. daily meditations : Bitterness and anger are cancer to one's soul. The only good news is, bad comments also pay them 💪 and many will jump in to defend, more money for them! I try to always find good in the bad 🤷‍♀️ But, broken people need not reply, period!

[@suziQ27]

Love your comment, agree 100% 😊

[@pennyswanpspoliticalnewsan441]

I love that you guys are Christian’s and not afraid to talk about it and pass that onto the kids, we need more of this in this world.

[@pennyswanpspoliticalnewsan441]

@@nancystasinopoulosjalowiec7668 give me a freaking break, clearly you aren’t. Mat 7:4 Or how can you say to your brother, 'Let me take the speck out of your eye,' when there is the log in your own eye?

[@pennyswanpspoliticalnewsan441]

"Do not judge, or you too will be judged. For in the same way you judge others, you will be judged, and with the measure you use, it will be measured to you.

[@mrsdig57]

So happy you talked about being a Christian I all ready thought that y'all were. I love your😢 parenting skills. All I want is to watch your blog.❤ I don't stare because enough people stared at us. My dad was a double amputee (legs).When he would have a heart attack and in the hospital he want us to bring them with us when we picked him up. He didn't care if people stared at him. Here we go mama would carry them over her shoulder and you should have seen it. Some times we would put them in a wheelchair and pile blanket on them and let people think we had a serious problem. If anyone ask him he would talk to them and explain what happened to him. He would pull up his pant leg and let thump to see how they sounded parents even wanted tosee.I grew up with a father with no leg. He couldn't run of play ball but he would seat and rally for up if we were playing ball. There's wasn't much he couldn't do. Sorry, I was rambling and it was a different circumstance than y'all . Love to all the family. Can't wait for your next blog.❤

[@NothingButTheTruth-en9ec]

Me toooooo!!!!❤️🙏

[@NothingButTheTruth-en9ec]

That is the canned response every non Christian always says. Read the bible cover to cover three times through before you can qualify yourself as an expert on how Christians are supposed to be. Christians are normal people with normal feelings, and have a right to their feelings. Even God does not expect them to walk around as perfect humans, thats why His son died for us.​@@nancystasinopoulosjalowiec7668

[@Cullenore]

Thank you TORI for specifying your family’s faith-based perspective. As an atheist who parented my children accordingly, it was always just as simple an explanation: We are all different; some differences can be seen, some can’t. It’s science. I really appreciated though that you stated your family’s perspective and acknowledged that there are others who do not share your faith. I thank you for that.

[@kaylariggs5188]

Well duh lol obviously she or anyone know other people do things their way. No hate but that just seems obvious and I sense perhaps it's backhanded. We need more people bringing others to Jesus not less. And its beneficial for children to have that at a young age.

[@Cullenore]

@@kaylariggs5188 Sure, that’s if you believe in all the Jesus God religion stuff. I was being sincere and thanking Tori for actually stating that those of us based in reason/science and not Christian faith may have other ways of educating our reason-based children. And wow, very mature of you to say Duh. Trying to be engaging in a positive way here. It’s hard to live as an atheist in what Christians think is a Christian nation (thought it absolutely is not). We atheists have to deal with the “given” that faith-based families always put out there (God made it that way). Well, uh, no, not for those of us who have no belief in your god

[@sherrywarner383]

It's not 'YOUR' God it's everyone's God. I will pray that Jesus will work thru you & let you realize that God IS REAL...The Bible is the truth.

[@Cullenore]

@@sherrywarner383 It most definitely is YOUR god. Not mine. No imaginary supreme being takes up vital real estate in my brain or heart. You believers in the greatest and most dangerous ruse of all time need to stop imposing your god, religion, and frankly detachment from reality on others. Keep that crazy to yourself.

[@kr6484]

​@Cullenore how did we get here and why? From an atheist perspective

[@MissyDcherrydaisypie25]

Tori you had very valid frustrations . As a mom I feel like our hearts are in our homes and when your rhythm is off it’s a struggle . Hang in there and sending hugs from Eastern Oregon .

[@cheryleaston6820]

Children notice anything that is different then what they are used to. Clothes, hair, glasses, mode of transportation and disabilities. Its the parents obligation to educate them on how diverse their surroundings are. If they stare, use this moment as a teaching moment. Lids adapt so well and understand much more than some parents give them credit for. Thanks for a great podcast.

[@cindycox57]

Sorry about your kitchen and the flooding 🙈

[@jennifercroshal189]

I don't have the faith based answer but I think there is nothing wrong with saying that we are all made differently. It can be generic too. Every person looks different, talks different, things differently. I really appreciate this conversation. Thank you both for being so candid. Very very helpful to a fellow parent of three small kiddos.

[@shellylavigne5913]

No burden in educating others. That’s how GOD made us??? How is a kid supposed to make sense of it without educating. You really think educating is a burden??? Not right . Sorry

[@sherrywarner383]

I LOVE the way y'all parent .... Christian.... Understanding....Kind....Acceptance....& Above all LOVE. I've never seen any differences even though there are some differences. But as Zach said, 'God created me like this' and it IS okay❤️.

[@cedesday8859]

Zack nailed it on the head!! Kids need parents to Step up! Not every experience outside the home should be a teaching experience teaching begins in the home. There are plenty of opportunities to teach your kids the proper way to address someone being different.

[@sandy6130]

I can’t imagine the challenges with the show but Zach, I hope you know how much the show has educated people about dwarfism. I appreciate that so much as I feel much more educated and I’m sure there are thousands that feel the same

[@dwilliamston5]

i love the approach you guys have with your kids when in public seeing someone who is different. And honestly, it all starts in the home. Children are not born to be prejudice, they are taught it!!!!

[@scequine6305]

I love you both, it would really be great to hear what Zach has to say without being interrupted.

[@kitkatsplaylist5483]

You two are a breath of fresh air. I Love that you know and live the life of Christ and are bringing your children up knowing His truth. I have no children, but have lots of opinions having watched all my siblings and friends become parents, and now grand parents. It has ALWAYS been obvious, to me, when the parents laid out a solid foundation in Christ and trained their kids to trust that guidance and truth. Even though their kids slipped and faltered, they made it through all the tough stuff BECAUSE they had the foundation and knowledge on how to trust God. I feel honored to be witness to the growth and love of your dynamic and beautiful family. Thank you both for sharing these topics with someone like myself, who appreciates the clarification and can't wait to hear more. Who knew, this old bird would love you youngins, lol I am impressed, if that even matters to you, but I think God is smiling as well. 🙏

[@Jaxxons_NeNe]

As a adult with a physical disability I want to thank you Tori and Zac for answering the question as to how a parent should reaction to a child asking about a disabled person. I have said all my life that a child never learns without asking but at the same time parents usually need more help than the child.

[@juliespady]

THE LOUDNESS OF THE FANS IS DEAFENING!! I love Zach’s thoughts about asthetics! Insurance!! 😮 The haters can just stop it! You go right ahead and vent!! I’ve been there with a kitchen flood! “Where is your mother?” For sure!!! I agree that LPBW taught me about dwarfism. Later seasons, not so much. But I still love it. “That’s how God made him”…perfect first response! To the parent…don’t be embarrassed. Perfect advice! Every podcast I say that was the best one!! Love you guys! I don’t know how it happens but I love how the camera jumps between the two you! Haha…the gene mutation explanation…Zach you crack me up! “Dwarf privilege “ 😂😂 If I saw you all in person, I would be tongue tied! I’m such a fan! Bottom line…parent your kids, so true! You both are very wise, and it comes so naturally! The child without a parent story…😂

[@raea3588]

My parents were always very open to answering any questions I had growing up. I knew that and I think it's good to let your child know that because it is easy as a young child to become curious and point and just blurt out bold questions at inappropriate times. My parents also taught me that everyone deserves respect, it's not polite to point, stare or whisper and we should treat everyone as we want to be treated. Therefore, if I saw someone who looked different than me and I was curious, it was easier for me to wait until we got home to ask my parents because I knew how I should behave and I also knew that my questions would be answered.

[@marshabraswell5681]

Thank you for sharing your faith!!! I retired after 40 years of being a teacher and administrator of children who experienced significant disabilities. Whether it was my own children or the typical children I taught in choir and missions at church, I talked to them about how God made us all differently. Not just in hair or skin color, but in abilities and challenges. I hope they went on to teach their one children that God creates each person as a unique individual; and our responsibility is to love everyone like He loves us.

[@maryomen3841]

My dad was disabled in a motorcycle accident just before I was born and he was obviously handicapped my entire life. He was a teacher and encouraged people to just ask questions about his condition. He also taught us that we were an obvious example to others that people with disability are fundamentally part of the community just like everyone else!

[@gigieyre]

When my daughter was 3, we were at a fall festival and a very large person was coming straight toward her. She had never seen someone that size before. She said very loudly "whoa! That's the biggest lady I've ever seen!! Mama do you see that lady???" Not only did the lady hear her but everyone else did and they all turned to see who my daughter was talking about. My husband and I quickly scooped her up and walked away. We were very embarrassed. It wasn't only a learning time for her but for us. We had never thought of how to teach her to react to someone different because we'd never had the situation arise. We immediately saw an area of parenting that we needed to work on. We told her that yes, it was the largest person we had ever seen, however....it isn't polite to say that out loud. How would she feel if someone said something loud about her that might hurt her feelings or embarrass her? She took it all in and learned from the incident and so did we.

[@vickisturgill4792]

I have recall back in the late 80’s early 90’s there was a man with dwarfism who was one of the meanest grumpy individual I ever met - he was always mad in general due to businesses not accommodating due to his height and he was known to get drunk and he always carried a large stick to help him walk but would definitely hit people when he was drunk. I am so grateful for your program Little People and now your Pod to educate people

[@J1737-t7y]

All of Zach’s family, Tori’s parents, and your kids would be fun guests

[@hollylindow-uz8xj]

Friends

[@veronicabeannna5702]

Amy and Chris

[@NothingButTheTruth-en9ec]

These PodCasts have become a favorite part of my day…thank you for producing! Love your family👏

[@rebekahperrin5734]

I've been disabled my whole life. I'm one that has not embraced my disability. I've always hated it when someone pointed it out. Sometimes I would feel mad, sometimes I would be embarrassed and sometimes I would just stare back at people until they felt weird about it. I'm also a very timid person and people in general make me nervous. I've always liked to keep to myself a lot. Flash forward to now that I'm almost 50 years old I try hard to educate my kids and others but it's still hard for me. Thanks for talking about this. I can relate so much to Zach and all that he said..

[@TrulyTara86]

I could have wrote this …..this is me 100%

[@conniet2319]

I love this episode. I have a son (now in his late 20s) with tourettes. The neurologist at his diagnosis told him when people/kids ask why he's doing something, to say, "that's how God made me." I ALWAYS told my son that everyone has something - some things you can see & some things you can't. ❤ Love the LPBW show & now Raising Heights!

[@HiTechRedneck]

“Everyone has something” I love this! It’s so true and that’s what makes the world beautiful when we can all embrace those differences ❤

[@brookenicole7209]

I watched LPBW from the beginning, but it has been a pleasure to discover you two in an entirely new way. God bless you.

[@Indianaparadise]

You are allowed to vent about ANYTHING that you want to vent about. Anyone who has an issue about you being frustrated obviously has their own issues don’t apologize for being upset.

[@rubynava7857]

I LOVE ZACK, TORI, AND THEIR BEAUTIFUL CHILDREN. I LOVED THEM ON THE SHOW BUT IM SO LOVING YOUR PODCAST #RaisingHeights ♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️ I AM HOOKED, AND I AM LOOKING FORWARD TO THE NEXT SEASON 🙌🏼✝️♥️🙏🏼☺️💕💕💕 CONTINUE THE GREAT WORK, DON’T LISTEN TO THE NEGATIVE COMMENTS JUST BLOCK THEM 😁👍🏼

[@jscasecase471]

Have been loving your honesty about everything. We too have sons with different challenges. I am so glad you stated “they want to be just like you”. So true. I have never treated anyone with a challenge differently because everyone wants to be treated the way and we are all unique in our own way. Exactly Zach, God created us in our own unique way. We are all his.

[@Nobody_Fresh]

I love that you guys upload really early Thursday mornings, because I travel really early every Thursday. You help me pass the time while waiting for my flights.

[@jackieguzman4786]

I love your podcast. Tori, let Zach finish what he is saying. Love you all.

[@joyceadair3003]

As a parent and teacher, I will say that I’ve always made it clear that you don’t ask questions like that in public. That’s something that you go home and ask your parents -why is that person different than I am. I’ve always taught my children if you have a question about something when we get home-you can ask me and I’ll explain it to you. The children are rude because parents have not taught them what is appropriate and what’s not. I agree with Zachary that it puts a burden on the person to answer it in public. Keep doing what you are doing by explaining these situations to people. Thank you so much for today’s message.

[@SmileyKy]

Thank you Tori for addressing that not everyone has the same beliefs. I personally would not use God to explain people’s differences to my son. I would use a very simple explanation of science. All bodies are different but some have more noticeable differences.

[@godslady8]

God created science

[@Sumlerly]

LPBW was such a great way to help all able bodied people see people with dwarfism as normal, which was a first for television. Children are a sponge for learning and teaching and it’s a great opportunity to show your child how to talk to and think about anyone who is different than them. 👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻great episode guys! Also love the sweatshirts💚 you have swag now😂😂 ❤ Look for the teachable moments!

[@Shay-e9e]

I have a 2 month old and a 5 year old and I instantly get embarrassed when he points out differences in others in public. I never know how to react so thank you for the information and insight. Love your podcast and have always loved watching your family on LPBW! Keep em coming family! 🙏🏼❤️

[@daniellegeyer1219]

This episode was so great. It’s helpful to know ways to handle a situation like this. Until your reality show, I don’t think, I’d ever ran into a little person. I would never want to make anyone uncomfortable so hearing how to help kids understand differences is great. Your explanation was great. 😊

[@kristraub7788]

Interrupting is part of conversation...but WoW! I'd really like to hear Zach complete his thought.

[@faith8771]

I love Zacks perspective on things.. This conversation was needed. It has me rethinking some of my parenting skills when it comes to how my child reacts in public.

[@triplesss7229]

The “brutal honesty” in children is part of the developmental process, or so I was taught in my school psychology program. Eventually the prefrontal lobes allow all of us to “think before we speak/act.” We lose that skill again-in our dotage. The degrees of being “outspoken” and of impulsivity vary among personalities, but well-parented children aren’t being “rude” per se-or trying to make messes or have accidents! But-children can be taught appropriate protocol. I really like your comments about being unable to teach on the fly what has never been discussed before! So true. I’m glad you two discuss this particular topic frankly.

[@bettyfreeman9253]

I am catching you for the second time. I enjoy catching up with your family. When people ask question why something is different , I just tell them the truth. Zack, you have a great voice!

[@amber4315]

Zach and tori need your own tv shows

[@ssla8723]

You teach your child not to call out differences out loud or by pointing. You quietly ask questions of your Dad/Mom. Educate, but don't discourage the questions. Zach and his children are great at teaching all of us. 🙏

[@karenz396]

Hey guys, just want to say I love your podcast and so happy your in Battleground now. My husband went to high school there and we have lots of family there. We live pretty close to you in Woodland since we were married in 77', yes a long time and yes we're old now. Your kids are sooo cute. I think as a child the only dwarfs we ever saw was on the movie Wizzard of Oz as the munchkins. My sister and I acted out the song, The Lollypop Kids for our parents. Remember it, so cute. I love that your believers gifted with so much wisdom to share. Keep it up, your such blessings. 🙏🏽

[@susanerickson4811]

As a young first time mom (about 30 years ago) I was in the post office with my 3 year old son. Another mom entered with her son about the same age. He was in a wheelchair. Tyler looked up at my and loudly announced, “hey mom! That boy is different than me!” Having never experienced this scenario I didn’t know how to handle it. I knelt down in a panic (not wanting to answer inappropriately). Before I had a chance to formulate my words, Tyler continued, “yah! He wears glasses and I don’t”. Sigh of relief. The boys began playing. I glanced at his momma and noticed that her eyes were glistening!!

[@theredbutterflyzm]

I recently started watching. Love the content but yoyoyoyo @Tori please let Zack finish his line of thought ❤🇿🇲

[@rosalinamarie2938]

There are times my kids notice , Maybe a kids with Autism screaming or someone in a wheel chair & have questions but of course they ask loudly, But I explain that’s rude , don’t point it out . once we are in the car I explain God made all of us different & that it is very rude to stare & point that We are all human & should be kind to everyone . I also ask how do you think that person feels when you point or say certain things . I try my best to teach them it’s not ok & to do better next time .

[@lynnsteele7255]

Unfortunately kids learn from their parents how to react to differences. Keep up the good work. All children are special.

[@heatherchrisco9106]

You two are so awesome! I have throughly enjoyed every single episode. I can't believe this first season is soon coming to an end. It's went by so fast! I'd also be interested if y'all done an episode similar to this one but it be about if you've experienced adults being brutally honest saying something about Zack and the kids being different. I'm curious about this because Tori mentioned seeing a man at the swimming pool with only 1 leg, and my husband has actually lost both his lower legs in the past year. We've actually experienced more adults being rude and making jokes and their kids actually saying hey Dad/Mom don't say that it's mean.

[@jessie4737]

Small kids are very observant. They might bring up something that's different..but it is human nature to do that. However, once a SIMPLE and reasonable explanation has been given..they are always the first to move on and treat every1 the same. Curiosity isn't rude. It is natural. Adults could so learn some things about socializing with people who are different from kids.

[@MichelleRPN]

I’m science based- and I did my best to give my son information at his level… We all have a special code that makes who we are.. every code is different.. so there will be all different kinds of people… there isn’t a code that is better than the other.. we all do the same things but differently.. If my son spoke out like that, I would introduce myself and my child to say hello and nice to meet you! We would then have a later conversation about how nice you were and that they’re just like us.. and if you see someone being mean you can stand up with them because you know!

[@GMA_OF6]

Great podcast! Just one thought..I would love to see Tori cut back on interrupting Zach when he's trying to speak. Just when he finds the words he's trying to say, she interrupts him. It's so frustrating to watch. But Zach let's it slide, and Tori takes over his thoughts. For instance, Zach trying to tell the story of Jackson's response to seeing the waiter at a restaurant... Tori totally took over the story, and Zach never finished his interpretation of the incident. Tori, please rewatch this podcast. Notice how many times this happens.

[@theresabarker3522]

First of all…love you guys! So happy yall are having this discussion. I remember the first time my son asked a man why he didn’t have any teeth…I was so embarrassed and had no clue what to say in that moment. Would saying God just made him that way work then!? I later told him if he ever had questions about how someone looked…to wait and then to ask me when we are in private.

[@timhallila8887]

Yeah I would NOT suggest telling your kids go ask them, “what happened? Why are you in a wheelchair?” Makes them feel like their existence needs explanation. And like Zach said, we don’t owe anyone an explanation for how we move through the world. I was born with Spina Bifida and use crutches or sometimes a scooter, but in listening to people who use wheelchairs due to a spinal cord injury, they’ve made the point that often that due to car accident or traumatic event, and they don’t want to have to relive that over and over. I think if it’s an issue of a mobility aid, a good in the moment answer is something like “some people’s bodies work differently and they might use something to help them get around more easily”. Then later follow up maybe like Zach suggested about teaching them what is good manners in those moments. Thanks for takling this subject. Love you guys!

[@user-uv4ml3ju3r]

I just want to say I really appreciate both of your persons . When y’all was talking about God making us all different I almost cried. Your amazing individuals and a God blessed couple. We need more parents like you two. And more people like you as friends . Love and prayers .

[@sonjaanderson6933]

Boy, this was so good. I love this family so much. I am older than both of them but i have learned a lot from this topic, love, love it. Thank you Lord for people that can enlighten us, and do it with pure love.

[@juanitawalker4836]

The two of you are such wonderful souls and great people. Thank you for sharing this with everyone. We use the same saying as y'all do, because God made them that way and we love them so much. Your both so great at this and I will miss you while you're gone, but looking forward for ya to coming back... 💖💖💖

[@ellyne3863]

As a parent with young kids I'm so happy to hear you address how we should respond as parents to questions about dwarfism or another disability. So good to keep in mind!! Sometimes it truly is hard to know what to do in a situation like that.

[@emily2624]

Zack seems so much more relaxed since leaving the show. Same goes for Tori! I’m pleased for them!

[@luisescontrias4379]

I have grown up watching LPBW since I was maybe 10 and the show had really enlightened me about little people. As a kid I really didn’t see a lot of little people so the show definitely help me realize that we are all just humans and capable of so much! I can remember when my family and I were leaving a restaurant and I was helping my little brother get into the van and a little person family pulled up next to us and I can remember my brother pointing and laughing saying “Looks at those midgets!”. I was so distraught and was so emotional and the first thing that came to my mind was Zach and his family and I had to educate my brother that they are just like him and I and they are born a little different. That memory lives rent free in my head as a learning experience but also a realization that LP will forever have to deal with these comments and looks from people of all ages! I love you guys and your family, we will always be fans of the show and will miss you guys! ❤

[@toostinichols5260]

Thank you so much for your honesty! I'm originally from Hillsboro, Oregon and watched you and your mom Zach, go to Home Depot for the Saturday kids day and you would build a birdhouse or tool carrier with her and I distinctly remember my little girls asking me questions about how small she was. I taught them to ask questions like that quietly and then we would continue the conversation in the car on the way home. This is why I think it is so important for your kids not to be continuously glued to videos and games while in the car because you can have such good conversations that would be missed otherwise. You offer very good and sound advice and I pray you continue!

[@maryanneendeman2073]

We have a daughter with Down Syndrome, and we've had to endure stares in public over the years. God has given me the grace to not let it really bother me. I am proud of her, and I am so glad that our girl doesn't seem to notice these looks . I also worked in Special Ed and out on the playground with my students I've had lots of questions from kids regarding my daughter or other students with disabilities. I just tell them that we are all different, and that's a good thing. I also don't shy away from saying that God surprised, yet blessed us with this special child. I wouldn't change her for anything in the world! You two are awesome in how you handle these situations.

[@sarahr6285]

I handle stares at my adult daughter with Down Syndrome with a proud smile. I prefer to answer questions that kids might have.

[@iluvphillip13]

I've known a number of people with Down syndrome throughout my life, and I've always been in awe of how wonderful each and every one of them were, and I've learned so much from them personally. I think people with Down syndrome have superpowers that the rest of the world can benefit from.❤

[@MaisesMom-ix6yi]

As a follow up, I'd love to hear from parents/teachers at Jackson's school, or Lila's dance class. Teachers and instructors need to be informed, as well, as they are usually an alternative to the parent that doesn't "parent" in this area or a secondary voice beyond the home.

[@missytheiss266]

U guys are great. Hang in there.....dealing with household drama really sucks. I lived through hurricane Michael a cat 5 that occurred in 2018. Insurance is a nightmare.

[@SherrillWargnier]

I’ve seen your dad and my granddaughter saw Zach and Jackson at the beach. Our thoughts were it was fun to see you in person and appreciate all that you have taught us.

[@deborahdodge8483]

Most kids ask questions just like yours! It’s not unusual at all . As long as they aren’t bullying it’s a normal part of Children’s curiosity.

[@darmae51]

I love you guys. I also think that kids react to things that are different the way their parents react. Some parents are more ridiculous when people are different. I used to work in the school system and have literally seen parents look at kids that are different and say things vocally that you really shouldn't see happen. I feel that parents actually need to teach their childrent to realize that not everyone are the same but they are people and have feelings too.

[@karenraymond9572]

Every human being needs to watch this video… thank you for inspiring all of us to be authentic loving people. ❤️🙏👍

[@brewmastersteve]

My son had tourette syndrome. During grade school and middle school there was a fantastic school nurse who would come into his Class and explain what Mike's disability was and why Mike made those sounds. It was so helpful for Mike. I'm so happy that when Mike was 19 he had brain surgery for seizures. It not only cured his seizures but it cured his tourette syndrome. I was so happy for him. He's challenged but is 39 now and doing great.

[@lindayoung6388]

I have loved listening to Zach. He’s very educated, and he really expresses himself well, much more so than he was allowed to on the show.

[@ashleyclarke1123]

Love this! I also like to add in "we don't talk about other people's bodies" this covers disabilities and disorders of all types. I always try to bring it up in private and offer to answer questions or explain as much as I can and then remind them to think of others feelings. *long time nanny, you're not less than or worse of a parent for having less experience and not knowing how to react to situations you've never been in.

[@barbhawkinson659]

I've been overweight almost my entire life and I know how it feels to stand out, be ridiculed by kids at school and even family members. There was a time when I was very self conscious and tried to avoid children knowing there would be comments out of them. I understand what you guys are saying here. Watching your show for yrs and also the Little Couple with Bill and Jen really did let us know, just as Amy said and all of you have shown, you truly are just like us doing things a little bit different. Zach your light has always shone brightly. I watched your show because of you and your mom❤ The guest I would love to see is Amy 🥰

[@janicebean5448]

I worked for a Korean Doctor and he was very small. Our nurse was “Shack” size and black. A very gentle soul. A child went into hysteria when he called him back to his room. He couldn’t get his breath because he was so upset. His parent was embarrassed to the max. So much so he couldn’t comfort his child or find out what the problem was. When the parent finally ask what was wrong, the child said trying to breathe “He’s black”. At that point the nurse to over and said “yes I am and it’s ok”. That’s all it took. The child totally settled down when told the truth.

[@Sarah-ic2ce]

This is a great episode. This may help alot of people. Great job. Thanks for all the info and advice. Blessings

[@BonnieDavis-hl1sm]

Proud of you for teaching your kids to have faith. You are a sweet family!

[@kellyblanton6969]

Zach I have watched the ro rocks since it began. My adult kids now were I Jr. High and highschool when I watched we all watched together. One wknd we went to the ml south center in Washington (Tukwila) and you were at zuzumis with a bunch of dwarf freinds...I thought it would be fun to talk to you but there were too many people in the store. I ft bad cuz I said to my 3 kids while pointing at you...look it's Zach from the TLC show you saw me point and stormed out of the store. I'm so sorry..I have never forgotten about that..I really wanted to just show the kids there's that tv. Celeb. I have always thought you were are the most humble man in your family...keep up the great husband stuff and the great fathering. My son who was in Jr. High that day is now a father with 3 beautiful daughters..ps. I adore jackson..he reminds me of my son when he was Jackson's age. Just try to remember sometimes people are obnoxious not trying to be obnoxious...they see you and are reminded about the show and it may not ever enter onto their brains you are a little person. You have a big heart and a big personification...I still think you are the one kid who is now an adult that the whole family can count on for support and wisdom

[@beachgirl0668]

Thank you for sharing that info. I have a sister with Downs Syndrome and people don't understand alot of people who don't have a clue about different disabilities or people who are different. I appreciate the Roloff's show to learn about little people.

[@chessyharris6200]

I suffer from a physical disability . It's called Nerofibromatosis. People stare at me, I hear comments not just from kids but adults also. I had someone I worked with say, "I wouldn't go out in public if I looked like her." Not to my face but to someone else. It encourages me to hear you talk about how one can handle how people react to you. Some days, I just want to stay in and hide because of the stares and comments. 😢 it hurts. You have such a positive attitude, and it is encouraging . ❤ your family. Your kids are so adorable. ❤

[@tdshopper]

Love this conversation, you guys are so amazing at explaining the difference in people , and how to handle it . I had a blind neighbour who had a lead dog and my nieces asked him “ are you blind or the dog “ children are so inquisitive . Good job guys ❤️🇨🇦❤️