How we met… and they were roommates?? | Q&A

[@toddkingsley4942]

It is so hopeful to see such a sensitive warm couple able to discover their happiness as gay men early in life. As a 62 year old gay man, I remained closeted until age 23 growing up with so much fear of being discovered as different from all my friends and family. It was mentally damaging & sadly affected my career goals. Live happiness every day as it is precious.

[@Δ-Δ-Δ-Δ]

And what happened? I'm 22 and gay. My family knows. My friends know. But I've never found anyone. I'm a virgin in all the sense possible. So I feel hopeful for the future, that I'll find some guy who truly loves me. And it's not only with me for superfluous reasons.

[@jasonbristow]

@@Δ-Δ-Δ-Δ Yeah, what happened? For me it's similar, but I'm 34. And I'm just slowly coming around to what my gay life could look like. But last week, I met someone who completely amazed me in how honestly nice he is and how much he likes me. He has a boyfriend, but I will keep looking for someone else. And no worries, you will definitely find someone, you have a lovely future ahead of you :)

[@Δ-Δ-Δ-Δ]

@@jasonbristow Thank you! I came out to myself when I was 17 and it was good. A world full of possibilities. Now I've become kind of disillusioned.

[@quarter-lifecrisis5127]

similar feeling here im only 20 years old but i live in the middle east and i know that i will be forced to stay closeted until i can afford to move out (at least five years from now) and even after that I'm not sure where I'll be able to go and what I'll have to do watching young gay people living their lives is a way for me to feel like im compensating for the things im missing (and going to miss) in my own life

[@tranty65]

Hello chào bạn , tôi cũng vậy năm nay tròn 60 tuổi vẫn độc thân , vậy mong làm quen với bạn được không nhỉ

[@joscreen3252]

Oh my god! You are the most wholesome couple in the entire world! A planty person and a librarian is like a lo-fi picture with soft cozy music and vibes ❤

[@zephyr84]

omg i love the image this is the perfect description

[@sunnysideup33]

Soooo true! ❤ ​@@zephyr84

[@Star_Light_Power]

Are they a couple? UwU so cute

[@joscreen3252]

@@zephyr84 I can imagine in the style of lo-fi girl an image of benji repotting a plant on a little table and Chris laying on a couch reading and little Theo sleeping beside him. Add the peaceful music from Benji's videos and play it on loop for hours.

[@hritika535]

​@@Star_Light_Power yes, would 10/10 recommend watching this video.

[@prp134]

I love how they have very similar voice volume, very ASMRish without even trying.

[@inbedwithkpop]

“I like having not to do anything with you” -Benji to Chris. I am crying. 🥹

[@anthonymciver9541]

Yall are giving me unrealistic expectations for my first year roomate 😭😭

[@khelimeli126]

Just don't 😂

[@veshiwa]

too much bl series.haha

[@pokegem8733]

Don't ever go for your roommate even if he is gay it will become very awkward later on.

[@BELIEVER78989]

Fr😂😂😂

[@sayturn8510]

Just go with the flow

[@GarrettWatts]

Yall are so cute and good that it's dumb.

[@psychadelaxy]

fancy seeing you here Garrett, hope you're chillin' and eating good food

[@SyntheticSnowflake]

ARIANA WHAT ARE YOU DOING HERE--😂

[@nothingmancer1607]

They are so cute its insane. Like they say the same sentence and look each other and giggle after years in a relationship, like are you kidding THAT EXISTS IN REAL LIFE! So happy for them and also my heart its melting here

[@Kexkrummel]

"We drank wine, but we were 18" *me being confused in European*

[@sergiocesar5013]

lol, we start drinking too early according to USA

[@spawn3721]

**me also confused in Latino**

[@customcartoons]

Technically the drinking age in USA is 21, but we're not good at enforcing it. Yet you can still get drafted into the military at 18, so that's awkward.

[@lucasbrady4639]

Idk if anyone else remembers, but in his first Q&A, one of my favorite questions that someone asked was how Benji came out to his parents, and he just said "I haven't" and then laughed. I'm so proud of how far you've come Benji and it's been such a pleasure getting to watch you and Chris literally thrive together 🌱

[@Star_Light_Power]

Ahh I am going to be their fan from today. I wonder if they have seen the drama "The Untamed". If they watch it, it can strengthen their bond more

[@prakhargupta5210]

exactly !!

[@lindamedina1447]

Need more videos. God bless you both. You really make a beautiful couple 😊😊.

[@dustinvuong]

imagining chris dapping u up is crazyyy

[@yeuxdeli]

the fact that i just watched a video of yours and now im here watching benji's video and you left a comment in it lmao i love this

[@harley6947]

@@yeuxdeliBYE THATS ME RN

[@levaaaaaan]

omg is there any meaning of dapping someone up beside fistbumping?

[@moonlightmoonchild1133]

@@levaaaaaan not really but it's just something usually straight men do with each other haha

[@benjiplant]

@@levaaaaaanto me it feels like a secret handshake amongst straight guys that changes depending on what area of the country you’re in lol. I’m not sure if it’s something people outside the US do, but it would be interesting to see their version

[@dannettesavas3269]

I’m 74 and I play World of Warcraft and I’ve been playing about 13 years keeps my mind in good shape. When I get out of a dungeon I’m exhausted. But grandma loves it.

[@babushkka]

you are so cool

[@benjiplant]

I started playing WoW at 7 and didn’t stop until I was around 13. After that I played on and off until college. I think most of my childhood development happened in Azeroth lol

[@ultravioletcatastrophe]

i want to be you when i grow up

[@wishingonthemoon1]

That’s so cool!

[@marsdiep1976]

Elune-Adore! 😊

[@finsfables]

the sweaters in this are superb

[@mikewalker161]

I'm an old guy 62 to be exact and coming out gay was not an option for me when I was young. I love how everything has progressed to the point that being gay and loving a same sex partner is normal. I wish it was like that for me when I was your age. It is so refreshing to see that you guys have so much support from everyone gay or straight which is how it should be. Thank you guys for a great video. Hugs

[@prakhargupta5210]

we wouldn't be here today if it weren't for your generation. much love for you :)

[@oakpkdude]

I have been with my partner for over 30 years and to this day if I go to the store by myself I think about what I can get for my partner that will make him happy. You guys seem like such a sweet couple. I hope your relationship stays strong for many years to come.

[@allad7n]

This is KZbin Heartstopper.

[@kmf3594]

They give me Nick & Charlie vibes in a good wayyy

[@BELIEVER78989]

Omg sameee, so cute❤

[@jenw5854]

“praying for her”. I cracked up. You guys seem very good together. Thanks for sharing with us!

[@RodneyakaBlue]

You two are the cutest ever. Very sweet souls. One love!

[@cryinginmairoom]

They are so in sync. Much love

[@miurtouissi1093]

It's true that Benjis personality shines here. He's more bubbly than I thought aw I really liked this video you guys fit well together

[@emanuela1279]

Hey guys, I wanted to thank you from the bottom of my heart for being such a good example of a same-sex relationship. For some time now I've been in love with a girl (I'm a girl too and it's my first time ever being in love with someone) and thanks to you I'm not afraid of having a relationship with her. Unfortunately, there aren't many positive/non-toxic examples of same-sex relationships in the media so thank you for sharing your love and influencing me so positively

[@noeltimberlake165]

OMG these soft spoken young men are so effing adorable. Is there a dedicated skin routine because you guys easily look like teenagers.

[@megindenver]

“If you have a garden and a library, you have everything you need.” - Cicero

[@richardbernard6845]

You two remind me of my husband and I, who are also hortisexuals. We immigrated to San Francisco 1982, from the old south, when our parents found out my husband and I were more than just "college roommates". While in San Francisco, were active in the cactus and succulent societies all over California and when we bought a house, maintained a greenhouse with a large collection of plants and yes, Benji, I also maintained a choice collection of Anthuriums. We lived in San Francisco for 33 years and are now retired back in the south, now that the coast was clear and our families got used to the idea we were a happy couple. We are now 45 years together and still maintain a large collection of plants.

[@MJosephRendulic]

You are seriously the nicest and most beautiful souls on the entirety of the internet. So refreshing.

[@Plantsmusicstyff]

It’s so nice having videos with both Benji and Chris😄

[@critiqueofthegothgf]

you guys are like a cohesive unit and clearly bring the best out of each other. it really is true that benji's personality comes out ten fold when he's around others and chris. this was so sweet and insightful, thank you guys for opening up on here, I loved this so much!

[@Robin-rc9ro]

You guys really need to run a podcast! The voices are so nice and calm.

[@deborrasanders]

You two are the most adorable couple ever. I've always thought so.

[@60SecondsOfMusic]

Hey Benji and Chris! I just wanted to say thank you for sharing your journey together with us. Your shared positive energy radiates off the screen. I stumbled upon your content last year while struggling with looking back at myself through my early 20s where I had glaring lack of self acceptance about being a gay man. Part of my healing journey was (and, still is) consuming positive content like yours. Seeing such a healthy, thoughtful and meaningful relationship between two incredibly sweet souls really has made such an impact in how I perceive my future and what I want for myself one day. Wishing you both the utmost happiness and success in your futures together, and I’m excited for the next travel vlogs!

[@mememe733]

What I nice message. I wish you a happy future 😊

[@60SecondsOfMusic]

@@mememe733 likewise!

[@jackhemvallespin3191]

❤❤❤

[@Outputable]

How could u guys still be SO CUTE together after 6 years?! That's a lifetime in gay years. Congrats!

[@charlottesmom]

My mom and her wife have been together for over 30 years so it does happen (sure “technically” not gay but lesbians couples are not historically long lived either).

[@cainemichael977]

All of my gay male friends who are in relationships have been together for 10-16 years. It's weird that those stereotypes linger on.

[@lenteramerahismyusername]

​@@charlottesmomYour MoM and her WIFE? dude isn't that like your other mom

[@maxonite]

Whatever that means… can we not perpetuate this stereotype in 2024

[@charlottesmom]

@@lenteramerahismyusername They got married when I was 26, so no she’s my mom’s wife….

[@theblackicetiger533]

Me and my boyfriend also were room mates before getting together. We are engaged now 😊 Wish you two all the best.

[@itsallmeaningless3944]

You guys are so cute I’m wishing you all the best! The story how Chris asked you on a first date was so lovely

[@sujammaz]

ikr ❤❤❤ i literally squealed 😊

[@sunnydaisiez_]

„i realised it sounds so american to be like: i love french fries…” „but- but no! they’re french!” I DIED LAUGHING ( 15:00 ) it was so nice to see you guys doing a video together again!! you seem to create such a good and supportive couple. i hope everyone had this kind of bound with somebody - romantic or platonic. and congrats on being 6 and a half years together!! a lots of love from poland haha

[@hsinghungyeh]

omg you guys are such an adorable couple!!! it's really a blessing when the love languages are compatible. When one thinks of problems the other might face and take initiative resolving it or just be considerate by taking care of them before it even becomes a concern. And in the meantime, the other is always grateful for what's been done. That's just lovely!

[@lynnmartin1548]

❤It’s as if your separate paths led you right to each other. How stupendous it has been to hear your story! 🪴Plus, on a side note, I’m not going to be able to rest until I know how Chris’s plant is doing😂 And, by the way Benji, please add doing plant design not just for residents but also for businesses. Your gift for the needed motifs of a business setting shines through in your videos as well.

[@tash_g]

KZbin recommended. It’s like a warm blanket and hot chocolate on a chilly day by the fireplace.

[@jac3.14]

Hello there! I knew you guys in college, well, mainly Chris (we were coworkers). It’s so good to see you guys thriving🥰. Just discovered this channel after looking up indoor plant care videos. Your content is great! Hope you enjoy Stoner, one of my favs. Wishing y’all well 🪴🪴🪴

[@applepickerify]

loving this laid back youtuber couple vibe

[@little_arson]

Ohhh I couldn't stop smiling throughout this video, you’re such a sweet couple 🥹❤

[@Zoeaxel]

So cute!! You two are such a harmonious couple. Your home is so beautiful and inviting with all the plants, books and cozy decor, but I can tell your presence makes it even more so ♥

[@ethel_lana]

12:59 the way they were blushing omg They're so cute 🥺❤

[@binaryvoid0101]

It’s nice to see examples of sensitive and loving relationships.

[@kimsplants]

You two are so sweet together! Your story sounds like a beautiful book I’d love to read 🫶🏻🙈

[@KelliMarissa]

You two both have the most soothing, calming vibes (and voices lol)

[@samyoung2260]

Benji and Chris r a sweet couple together. The energy I feel between the two u is serenity. U two r a lovely couple. I love what u did to your house with all your loved plants. Your home is so homey and comfortable. It looks like u really enjoy your home and garden. I m so happy that u found each other and tied the knot. Benji u don't need to tell your parents, they already know. They have accepted and welcome Chris into your family!

[@brattent]

❤ It was nice to hear more from/about Chris! 📚

[@tisanedeverveine]

I smiled so much throughout this Q&A, thanks you two for sharing some good vibes with us we love it and will demand more!! ☀️ Btw Chris if you like chips you HAVE to go to Belgium bc we have the best fries everrrr ❤ like for real, Belgian fries are for the win (I could recommend my favourites)

[@humbulaniyuhwl3761]

Please recommend

[@tisanedeverveine]

@@humbulaniyuhwl3761 Thanx! Changed it, I knew something was off (English isn't my mother tongue and in French you say "recommander")

[@tisanedeverveine]

Omggg sorry just realised you wanted my recommendation! My bad! I'll list the three "friteries" I prefer in Brussels! First the "Frituur Vandermeulen". The first one I went to, so sentimental. Prices are ok, sauces are delicious and the chips are well prepared. Second is "Frit Flagey". A bit more affordable and the fries are also very good. Plus: it's next to a park with big ponds, very beautiful. Third is "Maison Antoine", with normal-priced fries. A plus is that they also sell many other things such as burgers etc. but still keeps the "baraque" vibe iykwim. They salt generously, which is or isn't a good thing depending on the person. PLEASE don't buy chips in the very centre with the tourists unless you're sure of the quality. Don't!!! Buy cheese sauce in Brussels, they're awful at it!! If you want the cheese sauce of your life go in the south of the country, in the South of the province Luxembourg. Look for the "Fromage d'Orval" (type of cheese sauce, the best imo).

[@s-ti6ml]

you guys have the perfect romance book coded relationship iykwim 😭😭

[@PhoenixFyreRising]

I loved this Q&A. Thank you. I told my husband you two are the sofest spoken young men and I love it. By the way Benji you adorable boyfriend has the most beautiful eyes. I think you are one of the cutest couple I have seen in a long time. And I hope you have many many more years together. You fit the "Soulmate" to the tee.

[@shellyl4902]

omfg.... you guys are so cute both individually and together. I hope life brings you great joy and discovery

[@ethel_lana]

I've watched this video so many times but I still come back every now and then. It's like therapy! They're the most genuine couple I've seen recently.

[@mariajosedelatorre4197]

About the cat! My best friend and my mom and boyfriend and me were all like "oh but i'm allergic to cats blah blah blah" and let me tell you exposure therapy does work!!! Having a cat can actually make you less allergic to cats. There is also other alternatives like having short hair breeds and/or looking into a hipoalergenic breed (adopting is best though) aaaand you can also look into the whole chicken cats phenomenon that is where a chicken grows up around cats and if that cat eats their eggs it stops producing the protein that we're allergic too. I just love cats so much and I want everyone to have one, It is truly an amazing experience you shouldn't miss out on.

[@wenam87]

I could listen to you both talk for hours. Your voices are sk calming!

[@kreexp]

Thank you for letting us intimately be part of your lives. I blushed watching this Q and A. ❤

[@leonidasmetenidis9703]

what a cute couple! the way you look at each others eyes is just... 🥹

[@critiqueofthegothgf]

woah, a college roommate finder app is such a cool concept. my college offers something similar but not to the same extent; with profiles and stuff. anecdotally, my sister and her husband lived together for a while, so they also didn't do the whole 'living together phase' that other people do. it's really interesting to think about how much it can impact a relationship

[@morphinehannah3274]

This video was recommended to me and I am not complaining. This is too cute, you guys make me feel very singe rn. 😭

[@08pepperdog]

You guys are adorable! So nice to see a couple happy together and care for each other. The video made me smile.

[@sujammaz]

you guys are just so perfect, i can totally see you grow old together! chris reading/chilling on the porch while you potter around in the garden and theo (oh no now i ruined it because theo might not live that long! 😢) running around being happy ❤ i often feel like this about loving couples because my parents were horrible to each other so please don't read too much into it, but: i wish you were my parents 🥰

[@igorpawlak6807]

I love your vibes, youre just a whole aesthetics, such cozy nice joyfyl peaceful people and no one feels jelous, we just appreciate

[@LeafyConversations]

You two are adorable! I am so happy you both were willing to open yourselves up on here with us. I love how much you both are alike I can tell Chris is as peaceful inside as you are Benji.

[@Joel-lq5gl]

I never thought I would see two sweethearts find each other and fall in love. This is so rarer on KZbin.

[@patriciaromero5347]

I think you both are so cute. I imagine you both complement each other. Really like your vibe.

[@scubashar]

I'm with you, Chris! No catsup for me, thank you. Re: cats, siberian cats are hypoallergenic and fluffy! Breeders will often sell their retired breeding pairs for much less. I also would have preferred to adopt, and we do shirt term fosters every now and then, but for folks with allergies it's just not an option.

[@OnlyMusic16]

The two of you both share such a beautiful and harmonious energy, it's lovely to see

[@feehi_2275]

Love how chilled y’all are. Cute

[@lucystevenson4951]

So excited for the book swap vid! Your dynamic of plant lover and book lover is so sweet

[@mhollick63]

we were room mates too. together for 35 years. It can work.

[@stephengnb]

And you're only still considered roommates after all that time? Bummer. 😉🙃

[@melsyoutube]

i’m crying y’all are so sweet 😭😭😭 his eyes light up when he looks at you 🥺 the smile!!!!!

[@patrickochinski6754]

Can’t get over how cute they are 🥰🥰🥰 their energies seem to match perfectly. 🙃💯💛

[@whuangjaison6931]

the best part is when you guys look each other people can see the love in the eyes. Could I ask how you guys came out to each other?

[@jaydeny4124]

I love how quiet they conduct their conversations. I wish my partner and I are like that.

[@Shelby_antaya]

Awe the description of when he asked you out for your first date was so cute! Such a sweet couple.

[@sonofcirce]

u guys are too cute im ripping my hair out screaming gnawing at my knuckles

[@clarynlab]

Hearing your San Francisco story, bag being stolen.. but had a great time! Honestly the most calm people I’ve come across. I literally watch your videos to zen out. :’)

[@orakachee]

You look great together! I love how your sweaters suit your skin tones❤💙

[@lilypad342]

This is the most heartwarming video!!! I love it!!!!! Thank you for sharing yourselves!

[@anasana]

You have the sweetest energy together

[@quayswae]

Yesss Benji, thank you for giving us more of Chris! I love it when you take a step back and make more personal videos. I wish the best for both of you guys. Thank you for sharing!!

[@Moonriversoul]

Hey Guys! Thank you for popping up on my recommend list - you are inspiring me to choose to study environmental science like I initially wanted. I love you and your story! You are giving off so many cozy vibes, lovely to be in your presence while I enjoy a nice meal

[@litomesina9155]

Chris has the cutest smile.

[@KeevanNorton]

you two are so beautiful, your chemistry is undeniable. this is a super chill watch

[@TheDiande]

Well I wasn’t planning on watching all of the video , yet here I am finishing it. Y’all are very cute , I hope y’all continue to have a long and happy relationship.

[@SlashFredo]

Randomly clicked on this but was compelled to comment. You guys are just adorable. I love that you met as roommates in school. You will have a world of unforgettable memories to build your life upon. I wish your relationship continued success!

[@rodadelossantos6194]

So cute...thank you for sharing! You two seem well-matched and intuned to each other!

[@johnnytran4365]

So happy for you two! Wishing the both of you an amazing and successful future together!!

[@RizeTB1]

I’ve seen you before but you came up on an HGTV feed recently. Loved your ability to work so diligently putting in those brick paths, and also making the “Rock Star!” Thankful that HGTV linked your KZbin. As a straight guy, thank you for giving me more ideas on how I can show someone I care for them. I didn’t know taking care of things for someone the way you mentioned is a common Asian thing. I will now start looking for moments like that to add in my relationships with others. I am a fan for life. Keep kicking ass!

[@endswithme555]

Yall are so damn cute. I’m 40 and I just came out last year to myself. You guys give me hope

[@cheekynandosss581]

I love seeing more of your personality come out when chatting with Chris ☺️ you guys are very wholesome 💖

[@softeillo]

i love your relationship ! you two look so cute together, love the sweaters too :-)

[@yeri_san5028]

Your story is so similar to how I met my Boyfriend, I'm just missing the part in which I meet him😩

[@lekhachill7886]

u guys look, sound, and live like angels sent straight from heaven

[@iancampbell168]

Always love an appearance from Chris! Nice to learn more about you two! Love your videos Benji!

[@plantsbyisaac]

i love you both so much 🥹 this was a great video!

[@happyfrancis]

You guys are two puzzle pieces that fit together so sweetly.

[@y1ny4ng75]

I just came across your channel few weeks ago. It's so interesting knowing Chris took Psychology and is now a librarian at an elementary school. You guys are my favorites on youtube now; I would open youtube to watch your videos.

[@bellabana]

Such a lovely couple, they seem so grounded and sweet. I really don’t know why so many people believe that MBTI is real as the worldwide Scientific community regards MBTI as being ‘pseudo-science’ as it’s not based on facts or any peer reviewed studies. In other words it’s madeup nonsense. Basically it’s the same as believing star signs are real. Human beings are complex individuals that change and evolve all the time so believing that you can label a person as having a particular MBTI trait is not in fact based on scientific evidence.

[@Ayi16]

RAAAHHH this was so refreshing 😸 love you both sm!

[@71blze]

You both are the most sweetest, chillest couple. Chris seems like a gentle soul. He has the most gentle thoughtful eyes, especially when he looks at you. 😊 Like I said your lil fam is adorbs.