Husband Comes Out To His Wife As A Transgender Woman | Lost In Transition

'If he transitions to a woman, as far as 'us' being like we are today...it's over.' Cindy and Troy are married and they are still very much in love. However, when Troy tells Cindy of his gender identity as female, she is unable to handle it.
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[@abernal123]

He has the right to transition and she has the right to divorce him.

[@ookipuki]

He should have not wasted her life in the first place. Neither of their time.

[@zivaray]

Adriana Bernal absolutely

[@michaelcarlu4793]

PukiFee Neemo I completely understand where your coming from. BUTT back in his day, transgender people were beaten and even killed for being themselves. I understand why he was scared to come out.

[@TawnyC_]

@@michaelcarlu4793 but nobody put a gun to his head and made him marry her. He didn't have to ruin someone else's life.

[@NewNew-oe1hf]

He had the responsibility to accurately represent himself so each could make an informed decision.

[@RJman87]

I feel like the fact that she wants to leave honestly shows respect cause she isn't a lesbian and she sees her as a woman. Very hard situation...

[@robertjames7014]

Yeah, but she is a being a total bitch about it.

[@robertjames7014]

@Wednesdayfornight She is a bitch who is so entitled by her female privilege that she cannot even empathize with her.

[@TheCathouseASMR]

@@robertjames7014 she can decide for herself wether she wants to stay with a transgender or not. She married a man not a women. Stop forcing it up on her!

[@GK222_]

@ Ray /// RJman87 well put

[@ilovebacon4458]

How is she being a bitch when this dude was married to her all these years and lied to her through all this time you expect her or be just ok with everything when her husband suddenly says he is a women lmaoo gtfoh y’all people are dumb and always wanna blame women because they stand for themselves

[@skaitlin9929]

The fact that you knew you were trans and still married her, come on dude. 40 years of marriage, and you kept it a secret, you lied to your wife 🤦🏼‍♀️🤦🏼‍♀️ you basically led her on most of her life.

[@sophiaanna8809]

Midoriya sweetpea it’s not 40 years of marriage , she got with him after her 29 year marriage ended

[@deedeesnow3780]

You people really need to get it on board...really. The fact that you think transgender folks know every detail sooo clearly and just go around "lying" is insane. He has been confused. Period. As he got older and EDUCATED himself, things began to focus. I think he still seems confused about some of the details, but that's normal for some folks. He is dealing with that on top of trying to make her happy too. He doesn't know how. I'm not sure he should. She's made his situation aaalll about her, giving demands. He needs clarification therapy. She needs to love and support him or move on.

[@emokiriemiabednegoabed2844]

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[@sweetazzpiew8490]

Dee Dee Snow SHE NEEDS LOVE AND SUPPORT!! TF!!

[@redsignal3866]

13 years.

[@fhxs]

Damn imagine being in an abusive marriage, a couple bad relationships, then when you feel like you’re in the most honest relationship. They were closeted all along that’s hard to process ☹️

[@zivaray]

He has the right the transition. She has the right to divorce him. Case closed. His fault for marrying her thinking she would stay. She wants a MAN.

[@marinar9506]

The best/worst of it is that he will always be a man (but with pussy and fake boobs)

[@molinj.710]

Marina Rosales who are women then.

[@extremedee7320]

Agree.

[@definitiveentertainment1658]

Marina Rosales lol How is that relevant? Is this like the first time you’ve ever heard of transitioning? That’s like saying “the worst part of being a dude is you got an ugly penis and a wrinkly scrote!” How does someone respond to that lol? Total non sequitur. When it comes to talking about the lives of trans folk it’s all “WHAT KINDA GENITALZ U GOT?!” Super embarrassing yo..

[@thehonestorange713]

@@marinar9506 DAMMIT YOU'VE WOKEN UP THE HIVE MIND! EVERY MAN FOR HIMSELF!!!!!!

[@wolfpupfilms231]

At first when I read the title I thought that he was born a girl and transitioned to a man and was her husband

[@nabilelmaniaa6581]

Yeah me too

[@isaachunter650]

same

[@ninjapistol14]

Yeah why did they title it like that

[@Vin11381]

that's what i thought at first too 😂😂. I was deep in thought for like 10 minutes like "if he was a girl then changed to a man, how come the wife doesn't know what gender her husband is everytime they had sex."😂😂

[@connorcastor1259]

Same

[@amandagrace31]

She is not wrong for wanting to break up with him over it. She married a man and that is what she wants, he should have told her sooner.

[@legioxciicorvus5917]

Hey is a man wanting to dress up in female clothing.

[@macaryl95]

@@kaminaridenki2481 Hey girl :)

[@ecluvsmiles]

Plain and simple he knew his situation but deceived her anyway. He should not have played with her heart.

[@jameds2nasty]

@@kaminaridenki2481 what?! 🤣🤣🤣🤣 Oh my God your either male it female ..you can't be born in the wrong body....you wanna think you're a women that's fine but you're still male

[@itsalanaxoxo360]

Legio XCII Corvus ⲟⲩⲱⲛϣ no she is a woman you dumb bitch

[@sixfootben4892]

Gender disphoria is a very rare condition. That being said he might be the real deal. But I lately I'm seeing a big problem with the amount of young kids who think they are trans. It's almost an epidemic. I asked my 17 yr niece how many trans people she knows and she said more than she can count. That's not possible in my opinion.

[@jasminevg9129]

Troy, unlike your family.... She doesn't owe you to stay. It's not fair, it's not ideal. But it is what it is. People fall in love with what in front of them, you're changing that. I hope you find happiness

[@lisvit3887]

Jasmine VG dude u almost got 700 likes just wanted to let u know

[@oliviarodriguez3544]

can’t blame her for being crushed by this, can’t blame him for lying about it. a super sad situation

[@Moiyo]

yeah, also woah we have the same profile picture EDIT: i changed it :(

[@andrakarsten226]

No. Get out of the closet or don't date. Stop wasting years of someone's life.

[@andrakarsten226]

@@potbunny7754 are you feeling beter now keyboard warrior ? Did mommy gave you 10 minutes on the internet and you did your 12 year old rant? You obviously have not dealt with gay or trans people or you would know they know from a VERY young age. There is no excuse to use someone to upkeep your image in the community. It's pathetic, it's selfish.

[@andrakarsten226]

@@potbunny7754 Lol practice a bit with your friends, being a troll, before failing miserably online.

[@b3j8]

It's a tough, sad, and bitter situation that illustrates WHY, as brutal as it is, simple honest conversation at the start of the relationship is the only move. To wait this long and then expect her to, somehow, embrace this...wrong.

[@LisaSimoneMaria]

KZbin is funny I was watching 90 day fiancé and here I am. I hope they both do what’s best for themselves and each other.

[@madhattermd1]

I was watching extreme cheapskates. And now here I am. I want more cheapskates =)

[@alvaroramos7564]

Bruh same

[@hollybanks4632]

Lisa Simone sane lol

[@denisereadstarot]

Same lol

[@wordzbyralph]

😂😂😂 it’s crazy

[@ObamAmerican48]

This exact thing happened to me 20 years ago. It crushed me and I've been 100% single with no dating ever since. "He" did everything he could to make me feel bad about myself so he could feel better about himself. "He" was the biggest mistake of my life.

[@lucitagomez9758]

I will tell you the same thing I tell my son we all need someone in our lives you know whether a woman finds a husband or husband finds a wife I know you've been damaged but if you have ever had food poisoning you see how terribly painful and it's so scary you're always afraid to get it again but it goes away and you get better so what I'm trying to say is just because you had food poisoning doesn't mean you stop eating you just say that is not going to happen to me again and you get up and you keep going I hope you do better

[@ObamAmerican48]

@@lucitagomez9758 it was my fault for staying in the relationship, the poor decisions I made were my fault, seriously. He never transitioned. He wanted to dress like a woman and have sex with men while dressed like a woman. It was a fetish, not gender dysphoria.

[@rachelsanchez1890]

He hid it for so long. Just my opinion but if my partner felt like that then telling me in the beginning of our relationship would be better. She has her preference too and he's changing now. I mean of course he should be happy but I don't blame her for being upset.

[@dickjohnson5025]

Ally C He needs psychiatric care

[@CheerleadingClover12]

True love is not skin deep and attraction is not a choice hes still the same person on the inside that she fell inlove with and rather than being supportive and telling him she'll love him no matter what she's making this about herself he's been living in the wrong gender for 40 years and she's acting as if he's doing this to attack or spite her so selfish on her end if she can't love him regardless of being transgender then she never truly loved him

[@rachelsanchez1890]

CheerleadingClover12 while that's true not everyone has the same definition of true love! You can't blame her for being shock and reacting the way she did

[@piratesfan123]

CheerleadingClover12 Did he ever truly love her though by choosing to commit to a woman who told him that she only fancies men then expecting her to be fine with their relationship after he transitions to a woman? He selfishly wanted to be with her so withheld information from her so she wouldn't have the choice to leave him and be with someone who can make her happy, and now that she's rightfully speaking up for herself and stating the truth about how their relationship will inevitably change because of his choice to transition into a woman she's the selfish one? OK.

[@CheerleadingClover12]

Piratesfan123 you seem to think sexuality is a choice it's not we don't choose whether or not to feel like women or men on the inside we just feel what we feel and most people who are trans don't always know that when they initially fall inlove with someone and even if he did know when he first met her he probably never planned to ever come out its likely that he was gonna continue to live in the wrong gender out of habit having already done it for 4 decades look at bruce jenner for example you think when he married Kris decades ago he did it thinking "Oh ill wait decades to come out and tell her I wanna be a woman so that by then she won't be able to be with someone else but for now I'll lie about who I really am"? NO! It doesnt work that way! Bruce didnt realize he was unhappy until late in his life just like the man in this video and when he came out Kris was understanding and supportive obviously its a natural reaction to feel deceived and lied to but not everyone knows from the moment theyre born that they are the wrong gender it took this man 4 decades to figure it out and that's nobody's fault she can either take it or leave it but he deserves to be a happy woman if thats what he wants there are billions of other people in this world if she has a problem, she can go be with someone else its not like she has children with him as a reason to stay (like her previous marriage)

[@TsetsiStoyanova]

This is wild as heck

[@bensinner6251]

Tsetsi Yea it is. But I gotta say that pink dress you're wearing in your profile picture is smoking hot. You're really something......

[@Goldenhawk5211]

*fuck

[@laferiousdequarius1636]

Goldenhawk521 hell*

[@thrownawaytubes]

*hecc

[@JamesSmith-fp7vq]

Are you five heck

[@user-ug3lj3ie5v]

I don't think it's fair of him to expect her to "get over it" I can't even imagine how I would react if I was her I would be so broken

[@valentinahernandez7291]

He should've never married her in the first place! Why would he marry a woman if he's been feeling like this his whole life, and the anger about having to continue being a woman trapped in a man's body has been building with time? It's not like he discovered these feelings after he married her. He's always known. This is really unfair to Cindy.

[@princesspink0816]

Valentina Hernandez I agree

[@3monsters014]

Using her to hide who he is. I have seen other stories like this. Makes me want to vomit.

[@littlebird8346]

It's extremely hard to be trans in this society so maybe develop a little empathy.

[@u.s.n.retired1995]

He is selfish.

[@theultimaterush]

Because judgmental people like YOU

[@sophiab.282]

I'm transgender, and I take Cindy's side... you cant expect her to just accept you as her spouse when you want to be a woman, even less living a miserable life and not transitioning... It's a heavy burden to bear for her and clearly it would just cause a lot of resentment on the trans person's side.

[@turq1824]

I would've never guessed someone as feminine looking as you was transgender. Nice

[@crofregernish4695]

I agree, but don't you think Wanda is making things worse? Genuine question. I see her as being completely insensitive and adding drama that's making it harder for both Cindy and Troy. It seems like Desperate Housewives or drama for TV at that level.

[@sophiab.282]

@@crofregernish4695 Yeah, if she wanted to get involved she should stick to supporting her friend. In the long run, making Troy feel bad about this will only cause even deeper problems for the only two that should matter in this situation.

[@zulunet3285]

Um, sir. Do you mean mental instability?

[@crofregernish4695]

@@zulunet3285 I believe you commented on the wrong post. There's no men here. 😊

[@dankk2754]

Why is this in my recommended

[@chanelguerra2734]

Right, uninterested

[@bigmain8553]

Dank Bonk ripper 65 same

[@phitalsyndrome]

chanel martinez well u werent uninterested enough to click and watch lol

[@chanelguerra2734]

@@phitalsyndrome it popped up in my recommended smartass.

[@phitalsyndrome]

no one told you to watch it though ♥

[@graphicsfxcgy]

He spent most of his life "hiding" who he was? How about most of his life lying to his wife?

[@anjuliambani5835]

It's not as cut and dried as ignorant people like you would have us believe. It takes incredible courage to accept yourself, before being able to tell those you love. I pity anyone in your family who has a personal or private issue that they would love to be able to share with you, but because you are so closed minded that they can't, because they know you'll disapprove of them and make them feel even worse. Let's hope no-one close to you commits suicide because of your attitude to people not being the same as you, and you not allowing others to be open and honest about what they are experiencing.

[@graphicsfxcgy]

@@anjuliambani5835 How enlightened you must be! You make it sound like my issue with this guy is what he does and judging that. BS! I have nothing against the life he chooses to live. Nor do I have issue with what makes him happy. What I DO have issue with is the fact that he is a bald faced liar and to such a selfish degree he is willing to hurt someone he claims to love and who definitely loves him. If someone chose to take the coward's way out with telling the truth, I should feel guilty when they take the selfish and coward's way out committing suicide? I pity you for not understanding that there is never an excuse for telling the truth, especially when the longer he waited the more devastated his wife would be after wasting her entire life on this garbage. I am glad that his wife didn't chose the coward's way out through all of this. My only guess is that if you put yourself in his shoes/heels and think his behavior acceptable, you are one of those people that feels that lying is never a sin of omission. Loopholes like that are the hallmarks of a deceptive mind incapable of recognizing what is right and wrong. My pity for you and your family is mutual.

[@larissaleigh4488]

@@a-terrible-fate532 true

[@emmagrace8495]

This is different than typical “lying”. He was afraid to, and he didn’t want to lose her and this is gender/sexuality and it’s not the same

[@tryingtocorrect]

@@emmagrace8495Dictionary, lying = not telling the truth. So yes, he was *lying*. There is no "typical lie", there is only lie

[@pnwnewyorker9088]

"40-something years and I was just sick of it." Well she didn't ask you to lie. It's upsetting the choices people make to steal someone's life to hide their own secrets. It's unfortunate and it creates unnecessary victims. Find someone that will let you be you. It may be difficult but there are people out there.

[@belle6083]

THIS!!

[@goingunder2548]

Why do people act like a trans person has committed mass murder when they come out lol

[@loris80]

He's sick of having to think of everyone else. What did he expect, Cindy married a man, that's what she wanted.

[@icedmocha5264]

@NPC #11919 exactly. She's an aerospace engineer. I think he felt emasculated by her and that became his fetish and fantasy. To want to act out his fantasy of being a girl. Gross.

[@Justaperson354]

Kim Taehyung even after you transition it doesn’t get cured lol once you have it you always have it, it just might decrease the frequency of those thoughts. But some trans people regret transitioning and then kill themselves. But some also kill themselves if they don’t. It’s really sad. I wish people researched a drug to treat gender dysmorphia like depression or schizophrenia rather than to do all those surgeries.

[@KimTaehyung-rk3zl]

justaperson the thing is that if people take drugs then it really won’t help them since they still have the body of the gender they aren’t. And there’s always the option of detransitioning so they don’t really have a reason to do that. And if you can’t because of money then there are countries that cover those surgeries.

[@qp4904]

@@KimTaehyung-rk3zl I think you are a bit confused. No one has a body of a gender they aren't. You are who you are, that's it. Your personality can be endless choices and mannerisms and likes and dislikes and fetishes and things that make you happy. That's kind of the joy of everyone being different. No one has to act a certain way because they are male or female. I do very much understand people with a history of sexual abuse wanting to disassociate from that gender (which they often share) and this is common in transgenderism, but it is often more helpful to face reality and deal with it. Detransitioning isn't some simple thing. Some changes are permanent when people take the hormones long term and have the genital surgery. Many things cannot be undone and no you can NEVER, and I do mean never go back to how things were. The person will never look as they would have naturally, in some cases never get their original voice back and let's not go into the absolutely mutilated genitals (which is many cases are not sexually functional after the initial surgery, let alone after changing them again). It is a huge decision and as much as I do believe transsexuals exist and deserve support, I can't help but completely separate them from this fad of transgenderism which is ridiculous and very harmful not only to the individual, but to their children and those around them. To add, transgenderism is NOT due to gender dysphoria in many cases. People can and do go through the motions of changing their outward appearance including genital surgery without gender dysphoria, in as little as 18 months from expressing the want to be someone else to actually getting altered genitals. justaperson is correct, "transitioning" is not a cure and the suicide rate stays the same. There should be better funded research into finding helpful ways for people to cope with this psychological condition, just as many others cope with theirs.

[@notyourfriend5899]

Right! What a selfish bastard.

[@camilayael6427]

I get where Troy comes from but I do think it’s selfish to enter a relationship knowing you’re going to break someone’s heart out of your own cowardice. I’m a gay woman and I would never enter a relationship with a man knowing damn well it’s never going to work and I’d break his heart. It’s not cool to lead people on.

[@misstynax3]

gr8t thank u!!!!!

[@ImaDoWatIWant]

agreed!!!

[@alexisapostolof4096]

gr8t I don’t think Tory truly meant to hurt Wanda I think Troy entered the relationship because Rory was trying to become like what everyone wanted for him/her to be and if he truely through he/she could change it was with Wanda he/she can’t help being attracted to people

[@camilayael6427]

bigboy “bigboy”

[@feraoranma]

Not the same though, you are lesbian, you wouldn't be attracted to a man in the first place, so it would be a lie completely. He enter the relationship because he was attracted to her and didn't want to lose her because something he thought he could control for the rest of his life. Though I agree that he should have said something before marriage, I told my wife before we got engaged and we have been taking baby steps since then...

[@ysabiau4058]

He/she has the right to transition. She has the right to not want to date him. As a female to male transgender, I have been rejected by people once hey find out i’m trans and they are interested in me. It’s okay if they’re not comfortable being in a relationship with me as long as they respected me and my pronouns. They are both beautiful people and deserve kindness, both of them will suffer but they will get through it. He will be a beautiful woman.

[@dwmusic147]

SugarSkøllz I hope you continue to have a beautiful journey❤️

[@Ffollies]

A beautiful woman? Let's be real here. He won't be anything close to a beautiful woman if he transitions.

[@lizzy6696]

I don’t give a fuck, if you’re a man you’re a man not a woman and you will never and I mean never be a woman.

[@ellabias8224]

don't listen to the two idiots above me. you're absolutely right and i love and appreciate you 💜

[@nathanielgaryantes9742]

Ffollies I think they were talking about the inside my dude XD

[@lionsforscottie]

“acted like a teenage girl, could not resist” ........... 😳😬 *REDALERTREDALERTREDALERTREDALERT*

[@mgw9562]

LOL! 😂 sooo freegin True!! Best comment.

[@forrestallen9354]

@@bru-uh6868 Every race has alot of pedophiles man stop being racist.

[@6ftNaturalBeauty]

Forrest Allen making that statement does not make someone racist. But your statement makes you an idiot for not knowing the difference between being racist, bigotry, stereotypes, prejudice, Discrimination, etc.

[@forrestallen9354]

@@6ftNaturalBeauty Yea it was racist sorry sweety.

[@joelboy26]

The wife is so hurt. Big hug to her.

[@lg6002]

Wanda's right, he can't expect his wife to be ok with such a huge bombshell...And not trying to be mean, but he won't look like a woman, he'll just look like an old man in a wig trying to look like a woman

[@azchanna]

@@lg6002 we share the same sentiment

[@noeldee9236]

Blessed Bee trying to look like Caitlyn Jenner

[@mejustme479]

Troy is being forced to remain Male, I think thwt is a tragedy. If Cindy loves him really loves him, she should let him transition. She has the rigjt to divorce him, and move on.

[@mejustme479]

@@lg6002 Not so. He has feminine features, I think he could pass it off. Either way, Cindy is not pretty herself, or her friend Wanda for that matter. And if Troy is happy as a woman, pretty or pretty ugly, He wants to be a "woman" and that is his goal to happiness. He should do it. Cindy and Wanda have no right to keep Troy from being happy. Cindy can go get another man. Why be with someone who isn't happy. What is the point of it?

[@monaleon7184]

That’s sad she stated how miserable she was in her first married then after dated lames then to be with someone who wants to be a woman that’s a hard pill to swallow

[@SmoothOperator2013]

They'll compromise and she'll just use a strap on on him.

[@stardustgirl2904]

This is beyond SELFISHNESS, he used her to make himself look normal!! She wasted how much time with him,she can't get BACK!

[@iainfleming9516]

@@stardustgirl2904 no he didn't use her to look normal, he fell in love with her and still wanted to marry her

[@iainfleming9516]

@@SmoothOperator2013 just because he is wanting to transition doesn't mean he wants to be fucked by a dick they could still have sex without a strap on

[@stardustgirl2904]

@@iainfleming9516 No because when you love someone you are HONEST WITH THEM, you put that person's needs first, because love means you respect that person ,enough to be Honest with them, so you don't get that person on FALSE PRETENSES!💔💔💔💔💔💔💔💔💔💔

[@danniieem2840]

They shouldn’t be together

[@Moonlite444]

When you get married, you can't just walk away. You have to be there for your wife or husband through sickness and health. Thick & thin. If they cant work it out then fine but you cant leave when it gets hard

[@itsalanaxoxo360]

Andriana Dunn you mean wife and wife

[@harluquis1229]

Wanda need to mind her own damn business she ain’t too hot herself

[@PapaCreates]

🤭

[@mariah9216]

Yassss

[@bstmeg5237]

No

[@mingoringo_]

Nope

[@mingoringo_]

K nvm I thought Cindy was Wanda for a sec lol

[@justinmitchell8343]

The friend should not be in their conversation. This is a very deep conversation that should be between the man and his wife... liiiiiikkkke lol

[@jacobhartwell8211]

Justin Mitchell And not a camera crew and a TV channel.

[@Rrrrcc4666]

Justin Mitchell Exactly

[@CourageDearHeart316]

She was brought into this.

[@katebattista7400]

Bina Chosen True but she should've had the sense to say No. Any adult her age (and younger) should know better than to get involved in a marital issue. They need a licensed therapist who has experience with this situation.

[@CourageDearHeart316]

K Batt that does make sense. In that case the decision made or the advices that are given won't be biased or in favor of her only.

[@abbybarron8328]

He can't just expect everything to stay the same. She can't change her sexual orientation just as much as he can't change how he is. He should have told her before they gor married, because I'm sure that this makes her feel like she has been married to a different person this whole time. I feel so bad for her.

[@laydenh]

Abby Barron based on their age, she probably felt like there was no way to change herself, so she might as well marry the person she loves.

[@nolanharris4111]

Agreed, though I think he can change his thinking. From how he described his childhood it seems as though he equated masculinity with pressure and stress-- he was in constant fear of not being a "pussy" in front of his mother and society, so he adopted traits that weren't natural to him and suppressed those that were. Because he was so isolated from the world for so long, I believe he started to fantasize about fully embracing his feminine side-- something that he was taught was bad as a child. He likely sees feminity as freedom and thinks transitioning into a woman will make him happy. But I don't think it will.

[@noahq2130]

*she

[@success_storm]

@@noahq2130 sorry let me correct u ****HE****

[@deedeegreen8338]

Stay out of it, Wanda. This is between husband and wife. Only they can define what kind of relationship they'll have, going forward.

[@trevizolga]

Wandas got some nerve.... Wanda is not a pretty woman herself. It's not her marriage, it's none of her damn business.

[@aliyahbeaudry3355]

trevizolga THAT

[@harluquis1229]

Wanda need to mind her own freaking business

[@bzb85]

She’s being there for her friend who can’t vocalize her feelings for herself

[@SandraNowlookout]

She reminds me of Danielle from 90 day fiance, dont know why

[@ysabiau4058]

trevizolga EXACTLY!

[@AwkwardBlackGal613]

The difficulty on both sides appears so exhausting. This is definitely a learning experience people in Troy's generation didn't have much support and transparency.

[@dickjohnson5025]

Their support was a state hospital

[@mandyschmidt7164]

Cary Meyer I agree that conservatism is definitely a mental illness. If only everyone was liberal, then we would have an actual intelligent society. No more child abusers, or mental retardation (conservative values)

[@dickjohnson5025]

Mandy Schmidt Its just the opposite

[@outrun1453]

Mandy Schmidt liberals want big govt and they want government to control every aspect of their lives because they can’t think for themselves. You want to spend more money than you take in and bring us deeper in debt. You want a small military. You think more gun restrictions help reduce gun violence. The list is endless I’ll gladly be conservative and think for myself than be an entitled liberal that wants to destroy this country.

[@dickjohnson5025]

Cary Meyer You are spot on!! You are forgetting that you cannot have an intelligent, logical conversation with a liberal. Their train of thought is purely based on emotions and feelings. If you try to talk facts and logic they get all flustered and hostile. I have some liberal assholes in my family who I have tried to have adult conversations with and as soon as I debunk their crazy beliefs with real facts and statistics, they get pissed and leave the discussion, saying I cannot talk about this anymore. Unreal.

[@James_follows_Christ]

You know damn well that chicken was unseasoned 😂

[@christineben5020]

Diss_track god1 lol

[@bozumoyo3277]

Yeeees

[@tiger_844]

Diss_track god1 I don't get it

[@eleaschoenian7027]

Diss_track god1 exactly

[@Quietsloths]

lol.. white people only use salt and pepper and if we are feeling fancy garlic. yeah black people may fry their chicken ( who the fuck doesnt like fry chicken) but THEY USE ALOT OF SEASONINGS!!! ITS NOT JUST BLAND ASS FLOUR

[@neilfrasersmith]

Wanda might do better if she minds her own business.

[@jenniferhennigan3936]

Cindy and Troy might do better if they don't open up their marital issues to friends and invite them to have an opinion on their relationship.

[@kaitlynparis6803]

Wait....so a grown man catfished his own wife

[@christineceralde]

😂😂😂😂😂😂😂

[@christineceralde]

Sad but true on his part

[@greeksun369]

I'm so confused. Was he born a woman or does he want to transition to a woman?

[@ellabias8224]

@@greeksun369 he's mtf transgender meaning he is biologically male but he feels like hes female

[@bethp3320]

I see both sides. Troy has always hidden he wants to be himself, he has every right to be a woman. Cindy loves her husband but she’s not a lesbian, she shouldn’t feel obligated to be with a woman.

[@alpal4612]

But you can’t hide something that big going into a relationship. How would you feel if you were going to sleep with someone and you get in the bedroom and they’re like “oh yeah, by the way, I’m not what you think I am” without a doubt I’d feel disappointed, hurt, and played. Or worse, going into a marriage wanting kids.

[@bethp3320]

alpal As I said I see both sides ok

[@user-ej3jy6eg6h]

You can't 'be' what you arent. Unfortunately.

[@bethp3320]

Phil Thenry what?

[@user-ej3jy6eg6h]

Beth Pierson 'he has every right to be a woman' Unfortunately that's not how it works. You cant 'be a woman' if you aren't a woman.

[@wu_v]

He should have stayed single or told the truth before they were married. He knew how he felt.

[@jennifers.3818]

in tht time coming out as. transgender isn't like it is today...or even 15yrs ago. he wouldve been ostracized by everyone. wouldnt be able to get a job, housing, or anything. they were shunned by society back then. if he wanted to survive and thrive he felt he had to hide his true identity...as many did. thts why now there are so many older people "coming out". they feel it's safe now. it's sad on both sides. I feel bad for her and him

[@aimeebutler6545]

Tiffany M I know it’s random but... are you British

[@gorillagetsbigger]

@@tiffnym i don't think he was selfish. I don't think when he married her that this innate feeling would translate to anything. He isn't what you would call a gay man. He loves her and so he though I'll be happy. But if he can't be who he really is then why would you want someone depressed and suicidal. It hurts because you love them but you also have to be a little selfless and let him go too. She has a right to happiness too. As a married woman you don't think back on your ex husband and think "my trans husband was a waste of my years" like you love that person. They treated you right all those years. It sucks but no one would put this on the same level as physical domestic abuse.

[@TawnyC_]

@@jennifers.3818since you mentioned things had changed for the better 15 years ago, they've only been married 12 years at this point. He could have been honest about who he was to her, and let her decide for herself if she wanted a man who felt that he was really female.

[@lizziewhite868]

Aimeex Butler As a English person, I am confused...

[@josephneiconi7725]

See this is why you should tell them BEFORE the relationship and not forty freaking seven years later

[@racheldemain1940]

Exactly and he can't understand why she's upset !!

[@TheKelsey]

They were only married for 13

[@jennb1768]

Yah, 6 years of marriage here and I'm dealing with the same

[@GeoffreyBronson]

@@jennb1768 No way? Sorry to hear that Jenn. How are you dealing with it?

[@nadia535]

Oh shut it, wanda.

[@laaannnaaaaa]

*I understand her. Imagine being with someone for over a decade and then they tell you they're not what you thought they were. Living with someone and getting used to them and then losing them. I would cry so hard.* Because you know, he's alive and well, but you lose your partner as if he passed away. Really sad.

[@NathanaelDuke]

TRENCH TRASH 🗑 It’s not lying. We live as who we have to be, and we do the best we can with what we have and try not to get murdered. Eventually, for some of us, we find out that we’d rather die than live another day as the persona we built to protect ourselves and the people around us.

[@ShannonsChannel]

Exactly. It is like a death.

[@jasonrobert3849]

I think it’s unfair to expect the partner to just go along with it and be okay. I’m gay and if my partner decided he was a woman, well that would be the end. I’d be supportive but I have no desire to be with a woman.

[@hayleyscomet3447]

Jason M exactly!! I am a straight female and would be supportive but would no longer be in a relationship with them.

[@oneofthemany7322]

To provide a little contrast between you two, I would not leave a relationship if my significant other came out as transgender. Personally, I like people for their minds, and gender doesn't play a large role in who I find attractive and why. BUT, I completely agree that divorcing someone is an acceptable course of action. You entered the relationship expecting one thing, and now the person is changing. I'm too young to really know, but I think major life / personality changes are one of the main reasons for divorce?

[@eighmii]

I’m gay and it’d be very rough. My fiancée is the most masculine woman I’ve ever dated and I usually prefer more feminine women, aesthetically speaking. I just happened to fall in love with this woman. (She’s definitely not trans and is definitely a woman on the inside.) And I just don’t think I WOULD be happy being with a man. I deserve happiness as well. I love my fiancée so I would obviously try and be open minded - but I can’t really say exactly how I’d react until I was in the situation. I wouldn’t stop loving them - but something would be missing in my life. Or things. Like boobs. To keep it PG-13.

[@ITI-xi5zx]

@@oneofthemany7322 the thing is, often trans people put on masculine or feminine traits to "blend in", so once the person changes, they DO change in personality.

[@roughcollies1811]

You go girl! Aerospace engineer for the win!

[@techiescrapper]

How does someone do this....if you know you want to be another sex then don’t marry someone and then tell them...it is sooooooo very selfish. He was selfish...he knew before he married her...how can you do that to someone

[@EricaGamet]

It might be hard to understand if you've never had to live as someone/something you weren't. When society continually tells you you're wrong for who you know yourself to be, you internalize and learn to cope...and do things that often end up hurting others. Someday society will accept everyone as they are and people won't have to hide.

[@idaayers9120]

Erica Gamet YAY!! Then i have decided that starting tomorrow I am going to be a 5'10" 115# beautiful multibillionaire supermodel. Ok? Oh goody, I cant wait to be what I've always felt I should be!

[@Neckbeardicus]

@@EricaGamet "Someday society will accept everyone as they are and people won't have to hide." Holy shit woman you're delusional af lmfao

[@thelmamadrine38]

@@EricaGamet that is the most selfish excuse I have ever read. There can never be a good enough reason to play with someone's heart and feelings. Just don't get married or be in a relationship wasting other people's time, emotions and energy. You do this kind of nonsense to someone's heart and then you start playing victim??? Don't be delusional.

[@danielj.nickolas]

@@EricaGamet I was reading all the responses to your comment, and thought I would mention, that I get exactly what you are saying. It amazes me that we live in a society where everyone feels the need to hide themselves, yet those who feel the need to hide the most, are the people who get the least amount of sympathy for having done so; they need allies such as yourself. Don't let people who have no idea what there talking about stop you from encouraging others to think more critically and with a bit more compassion. Such discourse is needed. I apologize if my comment is a bit sappy, but I've noticed it is very difficult to talk rationally about transgender issues, and figured you were probably in need of little encouragement after the ridiculous responses you received.

[@Godzgift777]

Be whom you think you want to be but don't expect her to settle for you.

[@Cristalack]

Nkechinyelu Ogogor And if that means being a lying mentally I’ll narcissist, who cares!

[@anasmith3120]

Just because you don't have your sexuality settled it does not mean you lie to someone like this for 40 years!

[@TheUchihaRin]

The issue he is having is not about sexuality

[@sikisese1117]

Lol Wanda needs to get out. Let the couple figure out their issues.

[@arizonarangershat3831]

It’s not fair or acceptable in any way shape or form for him to expect her to just get over it. He’s been deceiving her their entire relationship. There is nothing wrong with being transgender, there’s nothing wrong about coming out as a trans person after a lifetime of hiding it, but it is so wrong for him to just expect her to get over it. You’ve had a lifetime to come to terms with it, she hasn’t. You’re telling her that you’re not the person she’s in love with, you have no right to be angry that she isn’t interested in you as a woman, especially if she’s straight.

[@uwpride]

Does anyone else think that he kinda looks like Nicolas Cage. Maybe an older version in another life

[@jessetm7732]

Ashley s YESS i was looking for this

[@jake9547]

No lol

[@brendayoung-kelley9133]

Yes especially the forehead ,eyebrows and eyes

[@gd.523]

Yes..hahaha😂

[@bigbysnow6306]

Ashley s fuck NO

[@XDeCoDeX13]

How heartbreaking to build your life around someone who is not truly who they portray themselves to be. Poor woman. And how heartbreaking is it to live your entire life not being yourself. I hope the best for the both of them...

[@fhm21]

Jay and poor all LGBT people who are mistreated by society and cannot be who they really are

[@jessicadavidson6396]

Letsmakethishappen thank you.. thank you. Like she can't help who she is. If she is trans.. that's all there is to it.. someone shouldn't have to stay what you want so that you can be happy. Whether it comes out 10 years after birth or 100 years after birth.

[@sarah-gm4tl]

Hi sorry but i love you so much for this there are so many transphobes here and it’s neither of their faults :///

[@sharonlatour6230]

he shouldn't have married her at all.

[@rm104]

@@jessicadavidson6396 The pronoun is HE.

[@LindaCasey]

Don't bait and then switch .. if you're going to trans ... at least hang out with like minded people so that nobody will be hurt by your decision.

[@kitschyliepard]

Don't know what rock you've been living under, but it's dangerous enough coming out NOW. 30-40 years ago? Forget it.

[@anjuliambani5835]

It's not as cut and dried as ignorant people like Linda Casey would have you believe. It takes incredible courage to accept yourself, before being able to tell those you love. I pity anyone in Linda Casey's family who has a personal and private issue that they would love to be able to share with her, but they can't, because they know she will disapprove of them and make them feel bad. Let's hope no-one close to Linda commits suicide because they were never allowed to be open and honest.

[@LindaCasey]

@@anjuliambani5835 Dear child, I agree with you. It DID take incredible courage for me to accept myself and face the world. If you only KNEW my history .. you certainly wouldn't pity those around me. Bless you 🌹

[@tnlwithtrixiekat478]

It;s not that easy.

[@LindaCasey]

@@tnlwithtrixiekat478 Being brave when it's easier to be afraid IS much harder, but it's the more honorable way .. I know .. I've spent a lifetime proving it. 🌹

[@GabrielleBrodeur]

Why wanda look like “miiiiike wazowskiiiiiiii” headass

[@jsm5448]

He looks like Nicolas Cage

[@iAmMadeOfSoup]

:/ I was thinking Gene Wilder 😂

[@wildxix1578]

lmaooo

[@strongkid2532]

:/ Nicolasiandra is her name get it right.

[@ramoshabaramoshaba9561]

You're reaching......

[@Radafi007]

:\

[@dietmtmdewbbynyc]

*The Kardashians have entered the chat*

[@hiltonchapman4844]

@Tayloristhe: Re your "The Kardashians . . ." Breath of fresh air! Hilarious! HC-JAIPUR (09/Jan/2019)

[@Alkemmiztt]

they all trans though lol not just their dad

[@tlc1614]

Yes the Kardashians have entered the chat with trash once again. Boy do they know how to pick um.lol

[@metal.kittens]

Jenners*

[@jayg7533]

they can exit

[@nicolew672]

To hear a grown man say a woman behaving like a teenage girl made her irresistible is disturbing to say the very very least.

[@BreakingStreams]

geneva nicole He means she had energy like she was young as opposed to women her age. Stop trying to degrade over something so sinple

[@ruth540]

Nothing wrong with bring young at heart

[@BlakersReacts]

How old was he when he met her? Probably young. Things will appear to you only how you see them. Maybe you’re the disturbing one?

[@jaxystarr7108]

Yeah I guess but I mean 18 and 19 are still part of the teens right?

[@randielaine9652]

She was already married once and divorced when she met him. She had the energy of a teenager. 🙄

[@scottievaldez4194]

Just break up. I’m gay and that “husband” just needs to be with someone in the community not a straight person.

[@i-7195]

5:25 lmao thats my reaction when someone confronts me on something ive clearly said💀💀😂😂

[@faith-jg9qb]

Wanda was caught in her whole lie and then she has the AUDACITY to fucking smirk while acting suprised.#ded

[@SniperRose1]

Lol. Me?? Schocked face. Hand on my chest.

[@zeze9640]

Donaldina Xxx LOL LLAAAAMMMMOOO

[@irisa3618]

ki ki Do you love me? Are you riding?

[@wildchild7764]

I feel bad for her, she deserves to be happy, especially after all the shit she's been through.

[@ss5187]

Sassy Girl so does he

[@wildchild7764]

Sammantha sandoval I never said he didn't deserve to be happy either, but acts as if it's all about me, me, me . You should watch the whole documentary, it's great, but he sucks.

[@nijaaustin8717]

The Fastest Taco thats gross

[@DeltaEagleWhiskey]

Yeah he should have never gotten married. He made a very selfish decision to marry her knowing he was struggling with something so major for so long.

[@markipliersyoungestson4204]

Wild Child yes, she deserves. to be happy but doesn't she too?

[@a-terrible-fate532]

I dont blame her if my wife said this shit to me and tried to transition into a man, ( which is not possible no matter how many body mods you do) it would be over very quickly.

[@qb13warner8]

I swear bruh

[@ellabias8224]

sex and gender are two different things

[@mcguinness5494]

@@ellabias8224 I mean the dictionary states otherwise... I have never understood people that say that. I support LGBTQ+ not to mention my sister is lesbian, but how are they different when they are classed as synonyms in the dictionary?

[@ellabias8224]

@A random human being on the internet some people may not be comfortable with their identity because of their upbringing, their past, or whatever. trans women especially receive a lot of hate and that can make coming out for them even more terrifying for them. its not like coming out with your sexual oreintation because this actually affects the people in their life

[@MissParkette]

Breaks my heart for everyone involved.

[@akufromthefuture7159]

This is a matter so complicated, I can't comment on it. It's not my place. I just hope they're happy in the end, and live their lives as best they can.

[@jasongermain7924]

He should have told her up front I feel bad for her

[@harrythomas2224]

She probably hadn’t accepted herself as a woman when they got together

[@dof8406]

Eli Thomas He. It's a he

[@angelface101ful]

Jason Germain same!! Hes really selfish

[@angelface101ful]

Eli Thomas no he did

[@Ladyblackwolf]

Forreal what a fuit loop! I wud slap the shit out him

[@sunkissedbeach]

It’s great when people call out others on their exact words and then their mouths fall open like a Venus’s-flytrap. It’s not Wanda’s business, and I’m not sure why they’re even having a conversation about this with her. They definitely need professional counseling. It’s very sad at their age’s for this to have happened. I think he missed his opportunity in his youth. He’s probably at or getting very close to the point where sex, and sexuality are pretty meaningless, and companionship is everything.

[@arizonarangershat3831]

Just the thought of my partner hiding something from me and deceiving me our entire relationship would be so incredibly hurtful.

[@sweetncool]

WTH! If he's wanted to be a female since he was young. He shouldn't have gotten married to her. Did he think she was just going to be happy about it. 🙄 he should've talked to her about his struggles before they married.

[@myavatartablet2567]

He saw that Dove soap commercial, where that fruity guy said that he is his baby's Mommy. The actual Mommy just sat there and smiled, or approved of him, or something. I use Olay now.

[@alanilin239]

@@myavatartablet2567 bro it's soap. get a grip.

[@myavatartablet2567]

@@alanilin239 - Yes, Dove is a facial soap and is also a company that supports Daddies pretending to be Mommies. Dove is insulting women and AS a woman (not a bro, sorry), I'm not going to spend my money on a company that insults me. Just to be clear, I'm a woman who was born with a vagina (and it's sad that this sort of clarification is needed).

[@ploopy2782]

sweetncool Yeah... I feel like it was manipulative on his behalf to have her marrying a woman and she doesn’t even know it.

[@ZanyZaftig]

MyAvatarTablet 2 you’re actually disgusting and that’s why you’re bitter.

[@0MGitsRayRay]

gender dysphoria is absolutely miserable, if transitioning will make Troy happy, then Troy should not be guilted into not transitioning. if Troy's wife is having trouble coming to terms with transitioning, then she needs to move on. both people will be miserable if the wife stays with her closeted husband, or if the Troy transitions and the wife stays.

[@imwaytoshort]

teethglitter She has said he should transition it seems but he knows it will end his marriage so hasn't. At least it appears that way. Cindy would move on if he became a woman.

[@0MGitsRayRay]

imwaytoshort she sounds a bit more manipulative than that

[@ASmith-jn7kf]

If he's been miserable all that time, he can continue to be so. He'll be alright.

[@0MGitsRayRay]

A. Smith that's not true at all, that's an incorrect claim. gender dysphoria is absolutely terrible and unbearable, that's why people transition. it's so fucking difficult to keep it in for so long. i hope she transitions and makes a new, much better life for herself. she doesn't need the wife's validation.

[@whiteisright4142]

Stfu freak!

[@tb4954]

Honestly would be so sad to get to this point in your marriage, thinking you’re going to retire and grow old together and even die together….just to have it taken from you like this. Can’t be mad at either of them. Just unfortunate for both sides.

[@funkgraphiczllc1641]

4:45 that food look dry

[@aquarius12595able]

He black😂🤭 and stating facts.

[@mysisterskeeper5365]

Wanda is the real MVP, because she's honest without hesitation. Everyone needs that kind of person in their life.

[@idksamir]

wanda is rude as fuck

[@minarooda]

Loud, pushy and "honest" about her opinion doesn't mean she's necessarily right. It seems she enjoys being in the middle of drama

[@mysisterskeeper5365]

@@minarooda He needed to get his behind kicked for going into a relationship with a woman knowing what he knew of himself. He's lucky that's all Wanda did!

[@minarooda]

It's a horrible situation overall. I can't imagine going through this. She's questioning the last 10 years of their life together. He's excited about who he wants to be, while expecting her to stand by him out of love. I wonder how everything worked out for them.

[@mysisterskeeper5365]

@@minarooda I tried to sympathize with Troy's position in the beginning, but the more I observed his behavior, the more disgusted I became. He's acts like an entitled spoiled rich kid. I hope she moved on and left him.

[@icedmocha5264]

She has a right to divorce her husband if he starts to transition. I know I would.

[@tasnimfk2014]

Mr.Nighthawk 450 yes it is! They need to be treated

[@heyclaire6894]

Mr.Nighthawk 450 not anymore and I accept transsexual people, but I will never stay in a relationship with my husband if he will tell me he want to be a she. He/She wtf is can f*** himself away from me after lying to me about his/her identity 🖕🏻

[@sophiem9613]

Claire Thompson in other words, you don’t support transgender people.

[@emmertt]

Seriously? Is this how people really think? I honestly find this conversation disgusting. If you truly loved someone, you wouldn’t care how they dressed or acted. Yes, she has the right to divorce her husband, but should she really do it because she can’t stand the thought of him wanting to be a woman? That just isn’t right. She should love him for who they are. And if you seriously think being transgender is wrong, you should maybe try to see things from their perspective and not shame them for it.

[@emmertt]

Shame on all of you close minded people.

[@gigicats6]

He's acting like a man, blaming her girlfriend for how his wife feels.

[@ClanToreador]

That should have came out on the “getting serious date” 😤

[@nhlgamescomparisons6245]

If he's been hiding that all his life why did he get married and stay with her for this long is the real question?

[@Springerror]

Did you even watch this video

[@icedmocha5264]

He's selfish. And I think it's just a fetish for him honestly. Most men in their late age where they transition are just participating in a fetish.

[@ashleyburbank3129]

it had to do with the times it was not possible to come out as transgender even just a few years ago and if you did you're exiled bye all of society

[@icedmocha5264]

@sarah sherrer I'm a woman and a lesbian myself. I find your assumptions both hilarious and repulsive. Transgenderism is part fetish especially for older men. I bet he has felt emasculated all his life cos his wife is amazing and that developed into a fetish for him. Many women who oppose transgenderism are women AND lesbians.

[@thesimslover82884]

@@icedmocha5264I personally think lesbian, gay and bi people who oppose transgender people are far worse then straight people who oppose them. You know what being hated is like, bullied, called names etc. Why do you choose to hate, with your knowledge of being hated? When you know and realize, there are people out in the world wanting nothing less then our complete and total annihilation. It's like being for Hitler while being Jewish, makes absolutely no sense to me. I know what what it's like and understand how it feels, I'd never join Neo Nazis or the KKK, because it would be very hard to do to others what's be done to me.

[@maryann7941]

My heart breaks for her.

[@-Princesse-]

Especially with what she dealt with from her first husband... it's sad

[@charlettaramono8949]

Mine don't. Fuck ha!😂

[@-Princesse-]

Tristan Descostes Why would you say that?

[@tristandescostes6986]

Sara S because I’m just that good.

[@-Princesse-]

Tristan Descostes How so?

[@kevinewing3540]

My heart goes out to both ladies. The thing is you do not choose being transgender, no one would choose all of this pain. These feelings simply won't go away.

[@ellabias8224]

i love seeing positive and accepting comments on this video despite the negative ones

[@jonusmadison438]

Both ladies? And you do choose, (transitioning) is the choice.

[@TheDannyroy69]

one lady and a guy in fantasy land..fixed it for you

[@regularity2556]

You choose how to live your life tho.

[@ITI-xi5zx]

agreed. it's a sad situation for both, but at the same time, society never forced her to get married. she knew that she always wanted to be female, but she married someone who she couldn't be open with...why?

[@mainelady2020]

The friend keeps putting words in his mouth!

[@Dr3Mc3Ninja]

I see both of their perspectives. She hid her true identity and presented herself as a man. It's not fair to go into a serious relationship under false pretenses. That said, she had little to no choice but to remain a man. Air and space engineer? Damn, nice.

[@AllenJun]

i like the gazette too

[@aznmochibunny]

I think she meant Aerospace engineer. Not air and space.

[@unusedchannel4400]

Himself*

[@athenaanffinson4161]

@@cinematictheatre2577 it's not a mental illness so please stop useing that one.. it's was disproved as mental illness.. since your obsessed with calling yourself spider man a made up character who's the one with a mental illness?

[@hikingbird42]

@@athenaanffinson4161 what does your degree have to do with this situation. By antagonizing others to get "educated" does not give you brownie points in convincing them to change their view. There's a difference between bullying and disagreeing with someone. In no way did I bully someone by my statement. You however are the bully by feeling morally superior from your comments. Someone with a master's degree should be wiser. If you truly wish to educate others simply leave a link to a scientific article with published studies. I'll gladly be fine with that. This is the problem happening in the states. No one is placing the effort in having a discussion with the other side that will not end with violence,riots,insults thrown at each other. It won't get better if both sides stay in an echo chamber with their ideologies

[@christinaharrison1329]

It just shocks me that men wait to tell there partners. Not before they date.

[@Checheelingling]

christina harrison I agree

[@10byrdie]

christina harrison it’s very selfish to let someone fall in love with you and not be honest.

[@sierrastewart5725]

It was a different time then. 40 something years ago you couldn’t even be gay let alone trans

[@10byrdie]

Sierra Stewart she was with her first husband 40 years ago. They looked like they were at least in their 40s when they started dating. He knew who he was at that age.

[@ghostwarriorcats]

Its not their fault... Try being him/her and having to supress his womenself from everyone for years. Insensitive

[@Memememe-ze1hb]

Cindy and Wanda need to go on with there lives by going to bingo on Tuesdays as single women bff's. Let that make be a woman if he want🤗

[@jesusbutagirl4018]

“ I tHiNk hE FEeLs thrEateNed bY Me” u are basically attacking him about how he feels he’s not exactly going to be planning a party bc u said he would be ugly the way he wants to be 🤷🏻‍♀️

[@bellamaria310]

Honestly if I was the wife, I would support him 100%. But, I wouldn't be able to be with him anymore because I would feel lied to. I would still love him as a friend though 😊

[@xnessayx]

Average Potato In practice it will probably be a lot harder to face the man you’ve spent most of your adult life with who you love deeply and go back to being “friends”.

[@bellamaria310]

violetta I'm just saying my personal opinion

[@xnessayx]

Average Potato Until you’re in their shoes hard to gauge how you’d actually deal with it

[@amelialouise9089]

Sexual orientation cannot be changed. She is heterosexual. You can’t expect her to want to be in a lesbian relationship with a trans women.

[@bellamaria310]

@@amelialouise9089 that's why I said I wouldn't be in a relationship with him anymore

[@nikkinewell3971]

I went through the same thing with my first marriage. It’s hard to see both sides without seeing the pain. I wouldn’t wish this on anyone. It’s awful. 7 years later and I’m still struggling. I’m lucky though I found love again and so did my ex.

[@sarahmurphy8030]

I'm so happy you found love again Nikki.

[@stardustgirl2904]

SHE WILL NEVER BE GOOD ENOUGH FOR HIM, SHE NEEDS TO MOVE ON, HE HAS NO RIGHT TO TRY TO FORCE HER TO LIKE WOMEN THAT'S REALLY SICK!!!

[@3monsters014]

stardustgirl I agree trying to make someone change their sexual orientation is disgusting.

[@belalugosi_isdead]

They're not? Theyre just trying to express themselves.

[@ToastyCoClothing]

he should just suicide tbh since there's no reasonable expectation he'll ever pass as a female.

[@emersongracewolff]

He’s not at all trying to do that. He’s expressing himself and she can take it or leave it

[@eternalisolationoftheworld680]

@@skye.s2515 I don't get what u are saying u do realize that he been the one hiding his gender identity from her right so that kind of does make him the bad guy. Because she basically married to a guy that don't want to be a guy she waste her life on him when he could have told her this a long time ago before getting married.

[@kimberlyanne434]

Im a straight woman watching this my heart sank. Troy has to live his life finally. As does his wife she must live a new life. It’s never to late to be happy. Troy’s going thru the feelings probably of his Mum shamming his walk, talk and smile etc..., I don’t give a rip how people look every human being is beautiful. Period Amen.

[@samanthajo1593]

He has to expect some backlash, it wasn’t fair to his wife that he told her a lie and lived it so long. But he expects her to just be understanding and deal with it. Not ok, he started the marriage off on a lie

[@psalmanthamonroe7298]

Samantha Jo she had to live the lie because of our society.

[@samanthajo1593]

Still doesn’t justify having someone start their life with you on a lie.

[@natachasmith2539]

But he never said that, he never said that he expected no backlash, I’m sure he did, if he was hiding that for like 50 years I’m sure he knew that it takes a toll just like it took a toll on him

[@jadeacampbell5206]

Samantha Jo exactly

[@poopjeans1135]

Because society knows that you can't magically change your gender. Just like you can't magically change your age to take advantage of senior citizen discounts at stores and resturants.

[@Zerofightervi]

" I'm sick of what I am or who I am pissing everybody off " I'm sorry but you went into a relationship with a woman who thought you were her ideal man, then years down the line you spring this on her, I think she's got every right to be pissed off with you.

[@alexthompson8977]

Zerofightervi remember how the lgbt say being trans affects no one. They will label her as bigoted.

[@Zerofightervi]

Alex Thompson The LGBT community has a lot in common with religious zealots, it's either their way or the highway. Well I'm afraid I'm as stubborn as a mule & once my mind is made up there's little changing it.

[@samisoesah8393]

Exactly

[@kyrlics6515]

100% Real Woman 4 The Throw the Bum Out Party! Im gay someone I liked and asked out was heterosexual, I thought he was gay because of the signals he'd give me but nope. Im fine with it though and it's not everyone it's the same as the idiots in other religions that are same in unacceptance.

[@jamesbell3255]

Zerofightervi she shouldn’t be pissed off, yes she can be shocked and she has to have time to process it but, she can’t ignore his wife’s feelings.

[@AaronTheGhost1]

Him: I always wanted to be a girl Well I always wanted to make the NBA

[@ellabias8224]

Those are two *very* different things

[@JakeDrives1]

lmao... for some people.. it just ain't happenin'.

[@tristinbrown6001]

Well hell be trans height I choose to be 8 feet tall

[@lw3851]

This is the same lady from the TLC “I ate my husbands ashes”

[@diesel1able]

He shouldn’t drag is wife into it .. If he know all the time , he should be honest about it from the beginning ..and let her choose if she want to get involved with him or not .,

[@FlaMan991]

he could give her and her girlfriend some tips... the need all the help they can get

[@roddo1955]

"Drag"?....wow.

[@thorisomolefe2276]

The way I couldn't get over the pun😂

[@helena4440]

I'm trans and I feel no compassion for him. My heart goes out to the poor woman.

[@helena4440]

Chad K buy me dinner first :)

[@nicholasleach2019]

Oh I'll take you to dinner right now

[@Ssendameigots377]

Helena Godinho well good for you

[@kirby8964]

Oof Man oh yeah yeah

[@signumcrucis71]

Helena Godinho NATURAL LAW People have a basic, ethical intuition that certain behaviors are wrong because they are unnatural. We perceive intuitively that the natural sex partner of a human is another human, not an animal. The same reasoning applies to the case of homosexual behavior. The natural sex partner for a man is a woman, and the natural sex partner for a woman is a man. Thus, people have the corresponding intuition concerning homosexuality that they do about bestiality-that it is wrong because it is unnatural. Natural law reasoning is the basis for almost all standard moral intuitions. For example, it is the dignity and value that each human being naturally possesses that makes the needless destruction of human life or infliction of physical and emotional pain immoral. This gives rise to a host of specific moral principles, such as the unacceptability of murder, kidnapping, mutilation, physical and emotional abuse, and so forth.

[@maemetcalf3027]

this is actually super hard but amazing at the same time because Cindy sees her as a woman and isn’t a lesbian so she wants a divorce. sksksksksksk high respect for Cindy for supporting her (ex??) wife

[@gloriadorlich2878]

The Man needs to do what he needs to do. She needs to move on im truly sorry. I'm sure it's devastating for both. 🦋

[@cautionaryfairy-tale4958]

This is a prime example that you can never truly know another human being. The heart is deceitful.

[@dickwwee9366]

I feel bad for her, man she was abused before for years. Then she finally found a rock a man she trusted. And then he kinda betrayed her. Instead of telling her upfront, he kept it a secret and broke her heart later

[@foureyedchick]

EXACTLY!!!!!

[@ashleypayette1009]

fick wick // Maybe he didn't know? It can take years for someone to figure out who they are.

[@dickwwee9366]

Silver_ Fox he did know though, he said he has known for 47 years.

[@ashleypayette1009]

fick wick // Oh, sorry, I guessed I missed that part. Still, he may not have been sure of it or ready to tell.

[@foureyedchick]

+fick wick That's what I have been saying from the beginning. The wife can't run away from the husband because she is too old and too ugly to find another man. As fas as her husband becoming a woman, she will just have to grin and bear it.

[@christinacataldi877]

I feel deeply for the both of them. Neither side is easy. I hope that they got a really qualified competent therapist and not just friends to mediate, whether they can work it out or not after going through the grieving process they can still remain family/friends on some level. It breaks my heart that people like this have had to suffer in silence for so many years. I’m amazed he didn’t have depression or any substance abuse issues. An exceptional human being really. When I found out my Boyfriend was into transvestism, it threw me for a loop but I still loved him madly. It didn’t work out for other reasons.

[@Anna-jh7iy]

I can understand both sides. When you grow up in a close-minded environment with no support you just try your best and live unhappily. A lot of people commit suicide before they can even come out as trans. It's not easy for either side. She has the right to leave him/her and he/she has the right to transition. Hopefully they can remain friends.

[@SamEsss]

“I’ve felt like this my whole life yet I still decided to enter into this relationship under false pretences and lead you on into believing that me and our relationship was genuine and I put your feelings at risk for my own self gain and have only decided to tell you know that I know you love me deeply” is a transition of what he said.

[@marcuswardshow]

I'm Trans, Not a MAN: Don't call me Sir | Marcus Ward Show kzbin.info/www/bejne/aInCYnuHl8ufoNk

[@goingunder2548]

How exactly was this self gain? She just said she felt like she had to keep it to herself for so long and couldn't live as her true self. Do you think that felt good to her? If it didn't then it wasn't self gain. It was the by-product of a society resistant to accepting trans people for so long, and hopefully as time goes by there will be less stories like this as people will be able to come out earlier in life. The situation isn't black and white like you're depicting it as.

[@Tyrosine0910]

@@goingunder2548 It really is black & white, though: hiding such a massive secret for so long was a highly selfish, immoral choice. The fact that it's "really hard" doesn't actually make it complicated.

[@CHASZI272]

I agree with her she need to gone on with her life and move on without Troy if that’s what he wants to do

[@--Voltz--]

live for yourself. not for others.

[@pamelajohnson866]

What a perverted situation to be in. This man is evil. You don’t manipulate and deceive someone like he has done. If he had those tendencies he should have never deceived her knowing full well he was planning on transitioning. That’s just dirty and low down and toxic selfishness. He is a narcissist.