Husband & MIL, Ditched Me & My Kids For His Rich Mistress's But Later Wants To Be In Kids Life Again

[@princetigermasters9995]

God I love that second comment because it allows me to bring up my favorite quote "Those who speak of peace without knowing war is unqualified to talk about either" The kids attitude changed once the father and MIL got back into their lives. So it's obvious that they were a bad influence on the kids!

[@jeffhoward1000]

Your so right I have been to war and I know peace. But even after war the peace I had before war is so much better

[@mari.s752]

I love that quote. Can you recall who said it?

[@brandypebler2054]

👍

[@Muney-hl9jh]

They got what they deserved. Hopefully Cody and Tobey wont be manipulated anymore by their toxic influence. They lied to their kids so they can manipulate them, how is that ok?

[@OfficerJohn112]

That MIL was way out of line to tell that kind of information to a Toddler even if it was true or not

[@mari.s752]

Unfortunately words once heard cannot be taken back

[@gregs2143]

Did I miss something? Did this woman deny the affair? Did she deny taking her ex to the cleaners? Don't fully trust a one-sided story. Too many people have been caught in lies with such stories. Hopefully, it is not but you never know.

[@susanmcpeak7267]

​@OfficerJohn112 Did we both listen to the same story??? OP did not have an affair. It was OP's husband who had the affair with Josie. He left his family (OP & kids) AND sold the house right from under his ex & kids. He made HIS CHILDREN homeless & penniless (the divorce was later)He needed the $$ from the sale of the house to cover his bets. HIS mother egged the affair on since Josie's family was rich. So OP's ex & mother were in the wrong Angela (ex MIL) told the kids lies to manipulate the kids to hate their mother & Isaac. Angela told the kids the their mother had the affair with Isaac when it was OP's ex that had the affair

[@gregs2143]

@susanmcpeak7267 maybe I missed something. She said he left. I don't recall her claiming he had an affair. Nor do I recall her denying she had one. If she did, I would have left to. Not without seeking custody or visitation. But 100% would have left if she did have a affair

[@sherrimunsey]

One of the comments calls what this family has been through, a "whirlwind. " Talk about an understatement!!! It has been an F5 tornado! I feel for this mother and stepfather. Because of the greedy mongruels in this story, the whole dynamic of their family is changed forever. I respect OP so much for fighting for her children and doing everything that she can for her babies. Despite everything, I believe that they will always remember the power of the love that mom and step-dad have for them. Sending you all love and respect!!!

[@sarahclapp505]

I hope the boys have a good life and good luck telling the boys

[@rebeccascott6508]

My response to the second commenter would be, "if you have not walked in her shoes, what right do you have to speak!" Greed and narcissism are bad qualities for raising children. Or more like neglecting them.

[@alexharney3269]

One of the best things my mom ever did for me was let me go live with my manipulative, abusive, alcoholic father. Boy did i beg to come back home not long after!!

[@naturalPaths]

I wondered about that!

[@JettSettingBengal]

I was thinking about that. She should have let them go and learn. Kids always find out which parent never really cared.

[@bjacres7057]

I did the same thing to my daughter BUT my 2nd husband felt sorry for her and begged me to bring her back. Boy did he regret it. Today my daughter 48 years old still plays her games but now my husband learned his lesson now that he has a bad heart (going in for surgery soon). She even messed up her kids and their lives and so it goes on. I'm finding a hiding place when my husband dies and will rely on the kindness of strangers.

[@naturalPaths]

@@bjacres7057 Wow, yours is a sad story. I’m so sorry for this ‘gift that keeps on giving.’

[@zeoinfinitneospace2134]

Op shouldn't give her ex-husband another chances because if you give them another chances they'll just trying to influence your kids and trying to ruin your own life. This is why you should never ever give many chances because if they keep cheating on you or keep hurting you it's going to hurt you even more. Both Theo and Angela got what they deserve in the end. Remember everybody do not give them any chances even if they were your friends your family your loved ones will always hurt you the most

[@lynnechapman6204]

I hate fathers who leave their kids. Then they come back like nothing happened. I think that Angelia should go to jail for what she did to those children. As for dad, KARMA!!!! Comment #1

[@brandygiovinazzi3460]

I'm glad OP was finally able to get those nasty people out of her family's life and hope that in time her family can rebuild the relationship they had before the toxicity entered.

[@emileejohnson7542]

I was a child of divorce parents, my mother who had custody of my sister and I, momma never ever bad mouthed our father to us, as a teenager I can't say my father didn't bad mouth my momma. After the experience I had with my father, I was grateful for her. She showed me proof the things he accused her of wás in fact him. I was always Daddy's little girl" it broke my heart. She has passed, I am on talking terms with Daddy, but honestly I have a half built wall because I can't trust him entirely. He didn't only break momma's heart but he broke my sister and I heart. My sister won't have anything to do with him, honestly I don't blame her.

[@kathrynbillinghurst188]

🥰🌸💞🌸👏 Your mum would be so proud of you…stay strong and safe! ✌️😁

[@joybernard7359]

After all those boy have gone through, I applaud you for getting them therapy and not talking to them about their dad for now. Give them a chance to be kids!

[@quasarsphere]

My guess is the second comment was from someone who knew the people involved, and was a flying monkey for Theo and Angela.

[@robingibson6561]

I agree 💯, the boys sustained mental abuse from Angela's sorry a**, they DO NOT need to be around Theo or his useless mother and NO, they don't need to know about their jailbird dad. Perhaps when they're a little older but not now after all they've been through

[@LordGertz]

Grandma was a grifter. And her son put money above everything, but his grifting mother. These people are toxic manipulative liars. They were negatively affecting the children, not for love, but to get either money or a lifestyle. People with good families find it hard that you must distance or cut off people even if they are family. Keeping them in your remaining family's life is too damaging and harmful.

[@nancymcclain2533]

I'm sorry but to let them back in your life after their antics was beyond idiotic. Should have followed your FIL actions. No contact. I remember leaving my x , moving out of state and giving all my contact info so he could contact his kids( boys). He never paid child support or contacted them and when I tried to contact him he was gone. One of my sons(7) got mad at me once and said I hate you I what to live with Dad. ME: okey pack your bags. I'll buy you a ticket . Where's your Dad live? HIM: I don't know . ME: well we can find that out, what's his name? He pauses and saids with absolute confidence...DAD

[@janicematthynssens8766]

For years I took the brunt of abuse (no hitting) and my son thought that I was the problem. He started to treat me awful too.I stuck around until he turned 18 and then found a way to leave without them knowing. I left all my stuff behind and left no forwarding address. After 6 months my son found me and the first words from his mouth were "I'm sorry " he discovered that I was not the problem. We keep in touch and that means much to me.

[@jefferypowell9885]

His own fault

[@LT02357]

Some people need to play the devils advocate for attention, destruction or plain malice. To defend the father / mother duo is evil defending evil plain and simple. I’ve noticed similar post on other videos, is that how they get their “kicks” ?

[@largol33t1]

The wife should have gone to CPS and told them that Theo was creating an unsuitable environment for the children. If the mother can't feed herself, how can she take care of her children?! He and his ugly mom should be in prison for creating a neglectful environment with their ABUSE.

[@joysimpson356]

I hope the kids are doing well nowadays. I don’t think they need to be taken to the jail to see a so called father like that. Sorry if this sounds rude to anyone but it is true.

[@adrianflores7269]

It doesn't sound rude at all Also, I totally agree with you

[@grannyell9487]

Never will I understand why a women would put up with this sh-- from anyone even husband aor mil. I would not have put up one moment of this crap. I am so glad that they got what they deserved.

[@femboy__bunny]

I’m a domestic abuse survivor. It’s hard to leave when you’re being beaten down constantly,esp if you already have low self esteem. Also he changed after they got married. She didn’t expect that. And leaving a marriage is harder than just breaking up, and when kids are involved.

[@sheliawaymon9023]

Maybe the boys need some one on one with Isaac. Maybe camping for the weekend.

[@novlesbooks7560]

They broke there own children this man deserve nothing in life.

[@mbstephens8034]

That second comment is beyond ridiculous. Those 2 were completely destructive and ruined everything they touched. Thank God she was able to shut their antics down eventually.

[@vaseline69]

forget everything that happened after the reappeared, the fact the abandoned the kids with no contact for years is enough to label them ................... (insert word that will have this removed here)

[@JackieStults-wg1ko]

Girl you did the right thing And so happy for you

[@skyhook7913]

She should have told the kids the truth from the very beginning when their dad left

[@MrBeevee5]

Too young. I disagree.

[@robertx8020]

@@MrBeevee5 I agree with your disagrement 😂

[@kathleenhuff3059]

​​@@MrBeevee5my mom was quite honest with me about my dad early on ..but she never tried to turn me against him!..not only did he cheat on her, but he beat her too..he knocked her across the room when she was barely 7months pregnant with me!...I was born 4 lbs 8oz....the next time he tried to attack her after I was born, she took his double barrel shotgun and stuck it up his nose and dared him to hit her again! Their divorce was final when I was a yr&half old..I always did love my dad...but I wasn't delusional about his behavior...my mom handled it well!..there are right and wrong ways to speak to children... being honest is key!..for girls it's about teaching them to NOT fall into the same trap of abuse..for boys it's about teaching respect for women ‼️..so yea..it IS ok to speak honestly with ones children when NOT done for selfish means!!

[@brandypebler2054]

​@@MrBeevee5I agree with you

[@shelleyzaragoza2195]

What your EX plus MIL done to the kids was outrageous turning them against you plus their step dad love. Painting the picture that you two were the bad guys raising them. When they were the ones turning your kids away from you just to care out their awful plans. Glad that things worked out at the end only because their dad went to jail for his illegal gambling. It’s just all karma coming back on them both.

[@ronaldmotley6453]

Tell them he's in jail making some man happy

[@theresiasingleton7055]

Big daddy Brutus is the name! And he loves his new playmate Theo🤣🤣🤣🤣

[@celestialbutterfly]

Op majorly NTA! I also heavily agree with commet 1 that you read.

[@caroleharrison8884]

The kids don't need to know their dad is in prison... They gain nothing from the information!

[@deborahflynn3441]

I agree with you one hundred. percent. Discuss it with the kids when they get older and start asking questions.

[@kathrynbillinghurst188]

Haha🤣 Theo…mummy’s little man! Oh…heeheee🤭 I’m rolling! 😝😝

[@gaby88clarissa]

They got what they deserved, I hope the children didn't get stuck with bad influence that they get after this incident. I recommend that, you and your family move far away after this, because I am afraid that Theo will after the children after He is out of the prison, or something like that.

[@TakaS013]

For myself, I had come to know both peace and war due to my circumstances in life. I would never give a toxic people a second chance ;because that gives them the opportunity to hurt you even worse in the future.

[@Lynxan]

Ahh, a true story of how the best revenge is to live you best life.

[@juanitathompson6837]

Iv seen this one before its good but don't like to rewatch these stories

[@juanitathompson6837]

Comment #1

[@mari.s752]

For some reason the phrase "fkuc around and find out" keeps repeating in my head. Messing with a child's emotional well being is one of the worst, most vile things a devorced parent can do. Unfortunately it happens far too often and is frequently ignored by the Court's.

[@MrBeevee5]

What kind of stupid does a judge have to be to not recognize how fatal it was for them being gone for six years out of the children's lives? That should have been two strikes, if not three, before the hearing even began.

[@largol33t1]

There are too many stupid as hell judges. No wonder our so-called "justice system" has been a disaster for over a decade.

[@mllokie9075]

Well as what they do now

[@MrBeevee5]

@@mllokie9075 I think a gradual introduction program would be the best, not sudden 50/50. Even supervised would be warranted.

[@syrusorelio2309]

The father gave up custody and it sins like hw would have been too greedy to pay child support so wtf is the judge doing giving him any rights?

[@debbieskluzak913]

Not all judges think of the kids and how these influences in their lives are detrimental and how it warps little minds.

[@mikethoroughgood16]

Well that's the MO of some of these people to try to buy love instead of trying to work at the relationship some people don't get that and the kids are better odd without grandma or dad as one was a heavy gambler and the other cast aside her husband for money

[@Asia-sk8lc]

Always remember Misery loves Company.

[@thisisnotmyname396]

Those kids need consulting

[@vickichavez9956]

Both mother and son were terrible people they left the boys for money didn’t care if they had food

[@Audiogeek-kf2ez]

Typical Mama's boy. Horrible father and MIL. Take the divorce and run

[@JackieStults-wg1ko]

John great person and he just a great job

[@dorothylloyd1804]

Never go back

[@ibelieve96]

Op owes step daddy a kid of his own

[@tracygardner6318]

It’s no big deal ,OP does not need food?🤬

[@andreavanhoof6047]

I would not give Theo another chance!

[@JackieStults-wg1ko]

That's so great

[@joellaogilvie2744]

As someone that works with kids I would ask the counselor how I should deal with the kids regarding Theo’s jail info.

[@JackieStults-wg1ko]

So great

[@julietesatchell103]

OP did not use her head. She never should have let him take the children away from the home. Her ex was weak and evil and never should let him in the kids' lives. Also, you should have told the kids reasons for the divorce. You allow those kids to much freedom. Also tell husband to stop trying to include the kids, just ignore them like they do him. They need to be the ones to approach him. They know what they did was wrong so let them get it straight.

[@delorescannon455]

Go hungry only never a lazy husband and a evil selfish MIL

[@JackieStults-wg1ko]

That's so funny and glad what y'all did

[@trishallain6503]

Little boys that have been traumatized by their father and grandmother's greed and toxicity should not be told that their father is in jail. When they get older definitely or if the boys keep asking about, "Where did Dad go?" Then be honest. If he is going to be un prison for a long time, maybe be talk to your husband and see if he would be willing to adopt the boys as his own sons. Then talk to a lawyer to see what you need to do to get their sperm donor's rights changed, either by the court taking away his rights. Or he signs over his rights of his sons. Sweeten the pie buy showing him a bunch of cash to be deposited into his cantine account at the prizon store. But honor the deal this time and bring your lawyer with you to the prison.

[@JackieStults-wg1ko]

John great person

[@suzismith9011]

I am going with comic number 1

[@juliehawks2987]

Why is it important for the kids to know their lower Dad is in jail. Maybe in a few years but not now. The second commenter sounds like they need to stop taking drugs. The Mom is doing the right thing and needs to continue to protect those boys. I hope the boys will return to calling their step,dad....Dad.

[@NPRYRS]

I'm confused on child support 🤯 how he get back in court to get visitation without paying support ❓ did I miss that part of story 🤷🏽🤷🏾‍♀️❓

[@sheliawaymon9023]

I'm on OP's side.

[@janmarie3976]

My mother did something similar to me and my husband and unfortunately it broke the family the only thing I think you can do is move out of the area take your children your husband and don't like your ex-husband and your ex-mother-in-law find out where you live make sure they are not allowed to pick them up at school or anyting

[@ravenfox926]

Who cares if THEO is lonely? Did he think of how LONELY the wife and kids he unceremoniously tossed aside like garbage all those years ago? And I'd have told my kids EVERYTHING about MIL and the sperm donor.

[@whiplash1938]

Second comment was completely wrong. Angela and Theo tried, and almost succeeded, in destroying the children. Stupid comment.

[@vaseline69]

the fact that the abandoned the kids for so many years is enough for me to say they don't deserve to see them, the other stuff the did is just gravy

[@JackieStults-wg1ko]

Your pretty and your great person

[@lastofadyingbreed4850]

The second comment was stupid AF, OP tried once plus how would that sit down go at the prison, Theo can be a father to you when he gets out in 20 to 25 years, yeah big happy family. I'm not even going to address Angela.

[@teriboyd8423]

Theo is their parent also and if the children are getting out of hand and they want to go live with their dad and grandma let them go that's their parents too So once they go and see and see how he will have them living they will want to come back so let them go

[@JackieStults-wg1ko]

Great and so funny 🤭😄🤩😀😅😃😍🤠🥰👍😂

[@teristricklen2844]

Commentor 1 was more on the money. Commentor 2 obviously can't see what a bad influence Theo & Angela were to those kids!! SAD to be so blind.

[@JackieStults-wg1ko]

Girl you did the right thing 🤠😍😃😅😀🤩😄🤭

[@JaimeMason]

OP let him take the kids w/ out an order from the court?! OP's ex would've had to take me to court. I wouldn't have told him that, he would've had to figure it out. He wouldn't have seen MY kids w/ out that order.

[@-randychasechase2660]

Let them go and live there. Then start your own new family. Maybe that will change their minds fast . Living with Grandma might get old

[@-randychasechase2660]

Take them to the prison to see the jail bird . So they learn not to be like him !

[@jackiehenry3372]

I'm sorry you chose to allow these people back into your life. I can't understand why you did. It's your children I'm concerned about. I don't care for your first husband as a man, he just seems spineless. The mil, well she would never be allowed back in my life. Your reason for allowing them doesn't make sense, but it's you life.

[@doreenhenn1969]

No the kids are to young to know their bio dad was arrested. She is right to protect the children from more pain.

[@tracygardner6318]

How about OP’s ex husband try to be a better father and husband.

[@DameNickum]

Comment #1. No compassion at all for people who abandon wife and children to live with wealth. Both got what they deserved.

[@stephaniehoyland4901]

I think we just decroved a new species of parasite, named theo and Angela

[@susangamble6888]

Op is right.

[@stephenstevens6573]

You can clearly tell that this bit of fan fiction was clearly written by someone eho has no idea sbout law. Firstly, the police cannot put someone in jail for betting, etc... without proof. A first yesr law student would have had him out in 15 minutes. Second, unless there was a clearly spelled out abdication of parental rights, and even if there had been, it would have been reversed if the father had wanted to become a part of his children's lives upon beginning of child support payments he would have been allowed access. Just becsuse the mother did not like them, they eould not have been denied. Thats the hell of our legal system..its all about money. Some of these stories are amusing, but some are just ludicrous.

[@deborahmenard3982]

Number 1

[@alejandraalcantar679]

Are you kidding. As a childs whos innocent was destroyed at such a young age because no one cared to put a damn filter on. And trauma. Dont tell your children how the parent is in jail so young. It fucks thwm up. We'll grow up one day and know the trust but as a child, as long as we know to stay away uts mot fair to keep breaking their hearts

[@centurycountess4949]

good for o.p. I support her decision, i also like commenter one's comment. However, Commenter 2 needs to do a reread. anyone who takes money over their kids don't deserve a second chance. plush the way commenter 2 was talking... why do I've a feeling they are some how related to the evil ex husband and mil or perhaps one of them is the ex husband and mil who found the reddit, put 2 and 2 together and is trying to support their claim by pretending to be someone who agrees with them wanting a second chance and wishing o.p would tell their kids their dad is in jail for some sort of feel sorry for dad reaction? oh well in all honesty oit's op's decision when she's ready to tell her kids and even if she tells them now I wouldn't be surprise if they just brush it off as daddy is in adult time out type of reaction. But as I said it's o.p's decision and I support it because let's be honest childhood is very short, why ruin it with updates of old news drama with people they themselves have admitted they don't want anything more to do with?

[@bautistalover]

To be honest I don’t think highly of people who pay other people off. Don’t get me wrong her ex and his mother are god awful people but OPs not that far. Tempting someone on purpose is just as bad as giving into temptation. On top of that she made sure those kids knew their father chose money over them which isn’t okay either.

[@Catti003]

Comment 2 was written by Angela.

[@williamwallace5545]

I agree with comment number one. I think that comment number two is living in a fantasy world.

[@jackiehenry3372]

Some parents are able to separate on good terms. Then their are those who should never be around let alone try to raise them. Kids usually have a tough time when the family split. It's really nice that you try being amicable, but reality is reality. Keep the kids in counseling and as they age give them more and more of the truth. Lying to children is going to backfire., but as age appropriate give them more and listen to your kids, really listen. In this way you will give them a decent chance at growth into this world. Be Blessed.

[@turlisalewis8236]

Why didn't Theo's cheating, abandonment of you and the children and the fact that he sold the home leaving his so called family homeless,ever come out in court.. Secondly MIL Angela would have caught an ass whooping long ,long long ago...

[@stickingupformyrights]

The father and the grandmother got exactly what they deserved. The kids are young they don't need to know their dad went to prison for doing something wrong ,when they get older yeah then they can be told that way they would understand. Yes people are human I agree with that part but the part where the grandmother would manipulate the grandchildren just to get what she wanted. The father chose his mistress over his children I don't care how human you are you don't leave your children behind for another person.

[@bautistalover]

If they are old enough to know their father took money to abandon them again they are old enough to know he went to jail.

[@JackieStults-wg1ko]

The Mom Is in the right

[@rebeccajohnson8579]

Listening to many of these stories, it blows my mind how DESPERATE some of these women who TOLERATE this kind of disrespect! All aI know is that since I came from a big family EVERYONE HAD HANDS ON DECK! Brother's HAD TO TAKE CARE OF & KEEP THEIR ROOMS CLEAN and if they were NOT working, they had other HOUSEHOLD CHORES! These CHAVANISTIC MEN, I am sorry, I would have SPIT THEM OUT LIKE A BAD TASTE IN MY MOUTH!

[@JettSettingBengal]

She should have been honest with the kids from the beginning. Especially little boys. They had a loving male figure and if she told them the truth she would have looked like a lier.

[@tashastout7343]

Sooooo you realize they manipulated your children. An then let them to continue the visits🤨

[@ciciwhitley]

Sure she could tell the kids their father is in jail. She should also tell them why he is in there. Afterall, he is a criminal. Had he ever really cared he would never did those things. It's not like he was doing it to support his family. Where was the child support or insurance. He just didn't care.

[@JaimeMason]

What part of Reddit do I go to tell my "This happened to me" stories?! They would make your hair stand on end. All true, some w/... "questionable" content. The time my great grandmother went to our neighbor's house, w/ an axe, to cut off her rival's head. The time when a woman showed up to my aunt's to tell her she was sleeping w/ her husband. My aunt Maggie slashed her w/ a straight razor, then kicked her off the porch. There are many, many stories. I had a stalker & that's a story about me & what I did. 😆😆😆

[@whovimctardis4903]

I agree with the first comment. She gave them a chance and they abused it. My parents divorced and I haven't spoken to him since I was 17. I wasn't really wanted there anyway as he prefered the boys.

[@dianafrazier2830]

I think that comment number 2 was written anonymously by Angela. 😻😁😻

[@gigibonquin1616]

I think the commenter no. 2 is Angela herself LOL.

[@JackieStults-wg1ko]

It will get better for you and

[@McBruce999]

Theo left OP and her kids to die, so that he could live a lavish life of lust with his mistress. He comes back later after several years because he got kicked out by his mistress, and wants to reconcile and be a father. OP should have been smart enough to have a court approved supervised visits. When you make decisions based on your feelings and emotions, the outcome is mostly disastrous. People in such situations should be able to think on their feet and not depend on emotions and feelings. Very poor decisions by OP, and she forever destroyed the peace between her children and her current husband.

[@JackieStults-wg1ko]

So funny

[@JackieStults-wg1ko]

He got what he deserves what he got

[@JamieJ-c7w]

Let them have what they want they turned your kids into disrespectful brats it isn't easy to live with children like that their grandma and Dad will run for the hills

[@fredvelasco9187]

Comment #1 all the way.

[@gabiegbeauty8605]

This can’t be real .. What juge would give the boys to a father that didn’t want ans or see them the first 6 years !!!