I Adopted My Brothers Daughter Despite His Wishes

[@MarkNarrations]

Where you at?! 🧇🧇🧇

[@magemastermlg6210]

Hello

[@emersonpup]

Gang gang

[@liamlemo93scott]

Becoming one with my duvet on the couch with futurama on 🤣

[@broken_queer_but_fighting8589]

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[@sciencenerd218]

🧇 I 🧇 have 🧇 arrived! 🧇

[@carolcarol9982]

Op is going to have to decide who she wants in her life more: Her brother Mark, who seems to be punishing the dead mother of his child by hating the child, or Mia, the very young child in need of a loving family. Personally, my choice would Not be the brother.

[@purepandemonium6769]

Also cut the family out too since they want to agree with him

[@Allantitan]

Hell if that was my brother I’d be kicking his ass for that behavior (though I may not need to since our late grandfather was big on family and I’m pretty sure he’d come back and haunt him for treating his kid that way...or any of us for that matter)

[@jlyo1991]

Maaaaan F that Mark If you’re going to be a Mark, be our Mark not that Mark.

[@wrestlingfan3117]

Indeed

[@missluciddreams3472]

I second that! 👍

[@zerobolt9506]

Or Markee too, he's great just like our Mark here.

[@BiteSizedCrafter]

Indeed.

[@xxxtantenciannaonfroydo1440]

Huh

[@pearl_lisha896]

Oh my God this dude is insane! He told OP she needs to respect that he is her father and if he doesn’t want to have custody of her that’s his choice?!? 😱 WTH OP take in your niece and give your brother the finger.

[@lynnw7155]

Mark needs every bad 'repercussion' that comes to him for abandoning his child. I HOPE he doesn't have any more kids.

[@saldiven2009]

It's crazy. You don't get to pull the father card when you're doing everything in your power to not be the father.

[@magemastermlg6210]

Last story: YTA, OP’s best friend was just kicked hard while she was already down and OP enabled the kicker to do so, she’s been best friends with her for 8years and decided the guys she’s been with for 6months is more important

[@raptorpeep2622]

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[@magemastermlg6210]

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[@raptorpeep2622]

@@magemastermlg6210 how are ya?

[@magemastermlg6210]

@@raptorpeep2622 good, you?

[@raptorpeep2622]

@@magemastermlg6210 ive been pretty mixed, but im glad to hear you are doing well!

[@pokefan213]

"As her father it should be MY decision what happens with her even though I said I want nothing to do with her as a father or uncle" dude. wtf. make absolutely NO sense here.

[@justine8387]

As her father I want nothing to do with the child and I want the child to have a worse life. What a piece of shit.

[@red0421]

I think I actually felt brain cells _die_ trying to make sense of the mental gymnastics he must have gone through to think this is logical.

[@Allantitan]

@@red0421 you too? I feel a bit dumber trying to figure out his logic...or lack there of

[@mpmansell]

First Story. NTA: OP should continue with the adoption and take care of her niece. Were I her, I'd also go NC with the brother and consider NC with the parents and other siblings. This includes preventing them access to the children. They don't get to pick and choose which children are worthy of their support, especially after the niece is adopted and is OP's child. The threats and disapproval should also be documented and, if possible, recorded. This should be useful later on should the family try to force access to any of the children.

[@bioshockbrat9171]

Story 2: I have a lot of nurses in my life and they all agree: patient records are sacred and should only be shared via the patient. It doesn't matter if it's OP or the president. You leave the files alone and stick to what you're supposed to be doing

[@francit4856]

Yes, enough so that I saw a nurse get fired for checking her husbands records on the office computer for the purpose of seeing an After Visit Summary for her spouse so she could pick up an OTC Med that was reccomended because he couldn't remember and lost the paper. It was a violation of patient privacy and he should have called the office. It's serious.

[@sianchild]

Telling a partner everything is supposed to be about telling them your own stuff, not other people's personal stuff.

[@maleandrolemale9467]

I agree fully, I would never betray a friend like that!

[@scheneli000]

This 👆🏻

[@TheAuthorgal]

About the second story: OP’s sister-in-law is the reason HIPAA laws exist. She should have known better.

[@ShadeoftheRaven]

While we don't have HIPPA up in Canada, both the government and the regulatory bodies in charge of our health care also take this kind of thing deadly seriously. As an example, I work in a hospital. If I was found to even be accessing MY OWN medical records, I would be fired. If there is anyone on my floor whom I'm related to, I have to disclose that to my charge nurse so we can try to keep me away from them. And if I were to look up their medical files? I could kiss my license to practice goodbye.

[@susankaempfer8427]

Blows my mind how the op is being punished because someone else poked into her private info illegally.

[@khaleesireyna731]

​@@susankaempfer8427 toxic families and toxic people love to attack the whistle-blower. Keeps them from having to take responsibility for their actions.

[@marleneperry6972]

​@@ShadeoftheRavenThere is PIPEDA, which protects health info in Canada.

[@lrock48]

Go through the custody case, and then cut contact with "Mark" and any family members who sided with him.

[@KyrieChii]

Agree entirely. What a group of assholes.

[@TonySamedi]

"He's entitled to his opinion" Opinions are like assholes, no one is offended you have one, but most people are gonna be pissed if you shove it in their face when they didn't ask for it. I love how OP claims both she knows BF so well she trusted him with this major secret, and then that his reaction totally shocked her. Seems it has to be one or the other. I could get into how incredibly hypocritical I find most folks who have that opinion being, but I'll let it lie for now, cause even if I agreed, he's still an asshole, and so is OP.

[@Purexfallenxangel90]

Op was clearly an asshole. Who the hell shares their friends info given to them in confidence with a 6 month relationship. Thats not enough time to be "oh i really know this person" yes confide with personal gripes like a shit day at work but not something a friend told you in confidence.

[@jonar.8650]

@@Purexfallenxangel90 especially something medically personal like that!

[@KyrieChii]

@@aduckofsomesort This is what I was going to bring up. 6 MONTHS? The way she was talking, I would've assumed they'd been together for like, _6 YEARS_ or something. You don't _'know everything about/share everything'_ at 6 months... You're not even out of the 'dating honeymoon phase' by then. She sounds really naive.

[@shavannac2771]

@@Purexfallenxangel90 fr, that wasn't even her story to vent about.

[@peggin169]

Totally agree, especially on the hypocritical part. Have you ever read any "The Only Moral Abortion Is My Abortion" stories? Pages of stories of people protesting outside abortion clinics and/or trying to block entry, calling women "baby killers" and all that, then needing an abortion themselves, but theirs is "different" and they have "good reasons" for needing the abortion... and then they go right back to protesting. Major, major hypocrites.

[@paigeconnelly4244]

Mark: "I don't want to be a father" Also Mark: "You have to listen to me because I'm her father" Lol, which one is it? You can't have both. He's essentially using his authority as her father to NOT be her father. Make that one make sense.

[@enkiimuto1041]

Guy should cherish that he can step up and be around the kid, and even if he doesn't want to, his family will still be there for her. Instead, the best part is he doesn't get the irony "oh if you prove you can be a better parent than me this will make me look like a bad parent when I become one" DUDE, YOU'RE A BAD PARENT RIGHT NOW. Not for putting your child for adoption but for preventing her to have a loving family! Wth.

[@rc-roda9370]

Story 2 - OP is NTA. As someone studying to go into a medical field, I am well aware of how serious HIPPA violations are. It's one of those things that is essentially beat into the heads of every aspiring medical professional, regardless of what level they operate at. You are not allowed to access anyone's medical files unless you are attending to them or they give you permission to do so. Even immediately family members aren't allowed to view these unless given permission. As a nurse she should know better than to use her access that way. She willingly ignored regulations and snooped around for no discernable reason other than to satisfy her curiosity, so I say she deserves what she got from the board. She has no real reason to be mad at the OP when she was the one digging into people's lives where she wasn't wanted. If she did this so casually and without remorse to her, how many other files did she snoop in?

[@bearhugzfam649]

I love how that last one tried to justify it with "but we've been together 6 months, we tell each other everything" Oh honey no, you could be together 6 years, you still wouldn't shit on your best friend's confidence. I have friends I've had for 10+ years, I wouldn't tell one of them something another one told me in confidence. That's just not how it works. Knowing someone for a while doesn't give them rights to your friends' private lives.

[@schokigirl1989]

Story 3: If the bride-to-be is demanding & controlling, I would advice the son to think about, if he really wanna marry someone like that, than to steal money from a 16 year old for a marriage, that probably wouldn't last long (at least it sounds like that).

[@shontaysmith9268]

I don't know why, but I feel like she set that whole thing up. She just so happens to tell her boyfriend about her "best friend's" heartbreaking decision right before a double date and just sits back and let's him call her a child killer? Then has the nerve to defend him?! I think that she was using her boyfriend to express her true feelings because she wanted to be seen as a good friend, which she failed at anyway. The whole thing seems like a setup and she's the a-hole

[@itrasheditgood]

I agree somehow, the fact that she was calling her friend a Debby Downer says just how sympathetic she was to the situation in the first place, her notice to the boyfriend must have included her frustration which in turn gave bf permission for the personal attack. She must have had some idea of how he would react, she had that personal conversation before hand and if he felt that strongly about abortion he would have mentioned it to some extent. She had in fact created the perfect storm, when it got out of control she just acted innocent, what a terrible friend. I hope her ex bf cuts her off completely.

[@justine8387]

Story 4 / Abortion story - the thing that gets me is "They have this really weird arrangement set up consent stuff and what they would do if they got pregnant etc" You mean this young couple has taken responsibility for having sex, discussed in advance what is ok for them and what their expected are if an unplanned pregnancy happened. THEN they honour that agreement, even when it leaves them feeling emotional or conflicted to do so because they know it's in everyone's best interests. Wow. The OP is an AH and an idiot. The now former friend seems like a sensible young person with a loving and supportive partner. I hope she stays the hell away from the OP.

[@coutiya2007]

people can't seem to understand that others have a moral compass with values. It kills them because they have none of their own and are mentally unable to process such actions

[@delilahbelle2125]

I'm with you. Discussing issues of consent and plans in the event of unplanned pregnancy? That's amazing. It's not 'weird' that they do this, what's weird is that more people don't do this.

[@lynnw7155]

OP is the AH. She told BF something she shouldn't. Six months together and she totally 'knows' him. Clearly she DOESN'T know him. I hope friend dumps both of them.

[@ineedhoez]

They didn't taken precautions. She should be on birth control and be using condoms.

[@martinprochazka3714]

Story 4 is one of those "how could you possibly think you're not the AH?" stories...

[@Nyanx4]

18:17 _"I'm gonna stop for that, because, if you _*_do_*_ tell each other everything and you know your boyfriend that well, you'd know he's a gobshite so you don't tell him things that you'd know he's gonna blow up at someone, right?"_ Such a good response. Never early enough for the waffle gang, but boy that was a positively wonderful take. I'd have that on a t-shirt if I could, but the context would be missing.

[@rambofan334]

The first OP is only guilty of wanting to give their niece a loving home. Their brother decided he wanted nothing do to with her, which I'm fine with depending on the circumstances, but he's trying to dictate who gets to raise her. The level of entitlement from him is astounding.

[@nucitamoore]

"Not your wedding so you don't get a say" but make sure to pay for it pls and thanks.

[@broken_queer_but_fighting8589]

Mark please take care of yourself. Eat, sleep, take breaks, drink water, relax. I really hope that your dad gets better soon and 💜💜🤗🤗💜💜🤗🤗💜💜🤗🤗💜💜🤗🤗

[@indianspartan76]

Story 1: there has to be more to this story. Why else are the siblings on his side? The way OP talks about him, he's a horrible human being. I don't understand that kind of behavior towards the child, but maybe Mia's mother was abusive to him? From the way the story is presented OP is totally NTA, but I want to know more

[@delilahbelle2125]

He's probably lying and spinning the story to make himself the victim, possibly implying that he's trying to take back custody of Mia and OP is trying to take him to court. I can't think of any other reason, unless they're all just as horrible and selfish as Mark. What a horrible human being.

[@ineedhoez]

​@@delilahbelle2125exactly.

[@jennstewart3003]

6 months is NOT long enough to confide news like that. It was none of your business to tell him or confide in him. I hope OP's friends find someone else who is more trustworthy.

[@paulastephenson1862]

First story. How heartless can a person be to want to deprive a four year old of a family? The mere fact that he is "worried about future kids" shows what a narcissistic jerk he is. Cut contact and give your niece a loving home she deserves.

[@karendaniel620]

That last story: I effing hate the whole idea that couples not keeping secrets from each other means telling secrets from others OUTSIDE the relationship. MY secrets aren't YOURS to share. YOUR secrets aren't MINE to share. OP and her boyfriend aren't AH's. They're toddlers who tell everyone everything, have no filter, and seem perfect for each. They deserve each other. Everyone else just needs to let them live in their own crappy effing bubble and hope they don't procreate.

[@NeNoItMe]

"She believed everyone is entitled to their opinion" OP is mistaking opinion, with personal attack here. Her boyfriend do not express his opinion, he personally offended and name call her friend. He was mean, rude and condescending. Expressing opinion would be "I don;t agree with abortion in case of oopsie" finished. Calling someone a child murderer is slander and being an ashole. OP should just instantly stopped it, told her boyrfriend to shut it and not talk about his with her friend. No excuses.

[@Mimiroo]

The last story made me want to scream especially when the OP said her friend was “a Debbie downer” for being depressed. My boyfriend (now husband) and I found ourselves in a similar situation 5 years ago. I was in university, 22, we were struggling financially and my grandfather passed away the morning I found out I was pregnant. It was the worst time in my life and the hardest decision we’ve had to make together but ultimately it was for the best.

[@emm_uhh]

The girl who told her boyfriend about her friend's abortion did her friend dirty. If someone confides in me about something so deeply personal I won't tell anyone, unless they are contemplating suicide or murdered someone. Yes, your entitled to your opinion, but you aren't entitled to harass someone.

[@ettinakitten5047]

Her friend did murder someone, though. That's what an abortion is. "You're entitled to your opinion" but not when it means actually acting in ways consistent with that opinion? The expectation that pro-life people should just keep out of it when someone they know has an abortion is not at all respecting their opinion, it's saying that they need to pretend they don't see the baby as alive.

[@bethyadamec7057]

HIPPA violations are serious business. That nurse is in big trouble. Fines, possible loss of her nursing license. That said, OP needs to write off her unsupportive family. I am proud of OP for being strong.

[@BIGEAGLEDUDE]

This is one of those situations where the man wants the title and the accolades but not the responsibility. It's pretty common when it comes to shity parents you know they don't want someone else raising their child but they don't want to raise their child. And the fact that her parents basically are either enabling this dude or not giving a clear say it just shows you that the family just doesn't want to deal with this mess. And the fact of his siblings are endorsing his behavior it tells you right there they don't want someone else raising her even if it's family. My advice to her take legal action and go from there

[@DuckTapeWarrior1]

So I commented on two other videos about my dad getting covid. Unfortunately he’s in the hospital now but is doing pretty good. My mom and I got our results back and we’re both negative. I hope everyone stays safe!

[@broken_queer_but_fighting8589]

Oh no I send hugs 💜💜🤗🤗💜💜🤗🤗💜💜🤗🤗💜💜🤗🤗

[@upstartgeek]

"if he has kids in the future" wha.....what about the kid he has right now???

[@frejasdorf6012]

He should not be allowed to have more kids

[@AsaACNH]

As a CMA, that 2nd OP had every right to call out her BIL's sister. HIPAA is taken very seriously (or at least it should be) and that's a violation of privacy of the patient. So messed up.

[@PixelPawse]

Omg story one is crazy. He thought his child’s mother was taking advantage of him for asking for child support? Excuse you? You took part in making the kid, you need to take part in raising her, even if it is money wise. And Jesus Christ... refusing to let your sister adopt your unwanted motherless child because you don’t like her? Bish stay away from her that’s fine no one wants you anyways!

[@LostCause-69]

She and her husband needs to cut contact with her parents as well as siblings if they think she is in the wrong.

[@tamsinmoore2111]

Absolutely feel the same regarding medical records. Through my upbringing where I had to fight for my mental health, alone, completely alone, I came across a saying 'you're only as sick as your secrets'. BUT! It doesn't mean I'm telling everyone, if I do inform people, it's MY choice. Not some nosy, damn bitch! I trained as a nurse and you are made EXTREMELY aware that patient's notes are not only confidential but also legal documents

[@storyjumper]

A very famous wizard is quoted for having said, "it takes a great deal of courage to stand up to your enemies, but a great deal more to stand up to your friends..." I think we can safely add family to the friends part. I feel this goes for both the little girl abandoned by her bio donor and the girl with the family hippa violation.

[@queenwoofy2k967]

HIPPA violations are career ending offenses. Shes lucky if she didn't get huge fines and jail time.

[@mothmanlol6263]

Confiding is telling someone something about yourself, you can't confide someone else's secrets in someone on their behalf

[@joshb444]

Story 1 -i demand that this child has no connection to me whatsoever and that I have no responsibility to this child -as the child's father, it is my right to determine where the child can live and who they can live with These are mutually exclusive positions. Entitled prick needs to pick one, he doesn't get both.

[@purpleiguana208]

Story 4: If she knows her bf so well and they tell each other everything, then she wouldn't have been surprised that he views abortion as baby killing and holds that opinion so strongly that he would harshly confront someone who is hurting. So the situation is either that she knew 100% that her bf would react this way and at least to some level agrees with him and let it happen, or she is an abusive/controlling relationship and didn't feel like she could speak up against him, or she just doesn't know her bf as well as she says she does. Either way, she actually supremely fucked up and caused this situation to happen and for her friend to be hurt. She broke her friend's trust AND permitted her to be attacked on top of that. OMG, and calling her a "debbie downer" after what she'd been through?? If I were the friend in this situation, I would be just fine never speaking to OP again.

[@GinDenkai]

that *oh no* mark said in the first story was hilarious

[@BankruptMonkey]

I still regret NOT reporting the person who violated HIPAA against me like 3 years ago now. I'm so glad OP had the strength to report this and protect the next person.

[@smileytuna]

Ooooo these HIPPA stories make my blood boil. I once BLOCKED a coworker from taking over for me in a sitting position (suicidal patients have to be sat and watched) because the patient was a coworker and the new sitter worked in her department. I immediately called the staffing office and insisted they send someone else. I stayed at work for a full extra hour on top of a 12 hour shift to protect this person's identity.

[@lucymarie8611]

Story 1: I’d adopt the kid but I’d know my family would be 100% on my side. We have had a similar situation and my family puts kids above everything you aren’t separating the kid from the family.

[@lanellsoto1732]

Oh, and the hospitalization story--- Since when is a sin to end up in a bad way, and have to be in a hospital to heal, whether it's physically or not?

[@susanlayton2143]

Story 4 the OP actually made me angry here, her best friend had to make what was a heart wrenching decision for her, she ant her bf both asked OP not to tell ANYONE about it, OP told her bf then sat by quietly as he berated this girl and called her awful names. She said that she and her bf are at a stage where they tell each other everything, I have been with and married to a man that I love with my entire being for YEARS but if a friend told me something and asked me not to tell ANYONE I would not even talk about it with him and I most certainly would not sit quietly while he berated and called her names over doing what she had told me about and I most assuredly would not then defend and/or justify what he said.

[@KT00700]

My sister died when she was 24. She was pregnant at the time and had a 5 year old son. I have custody of both. Neither father is involved no support or visiting. If this guy doesn’t want to be involved, as much as op loves Mia, she will be better with her mom’s family. I am not judging her but sometimes when death happens we have to do what’s right for the kid in the long term. If he doesn’t want the girl now he never will. This will effect Mia badly. I hope Mia finds peace and thank you for being a amazing aunt op.

[@mothmanlol6263]

I hated when she said that at the end of the day she is mark's daughter because morally no she is not and he chose to make that happen

[@InevitableSecrets]

First Story: If I was that women Id tell him he doesn't have to be an uncle to Mia, because he won't be being an uncle to ANY of my children any longer. What a monster. Also he thinks it fine to abdicate any and all responsibility for that child and then call the dad card when making decisions about her life. Forget the repercussions for his life, he is a grown man who set that up himself. The only person's future that matters is a little girl who has lost her mother and been rejected by her father. She needs someone in her coat who will fight for her and let her know that she is wanted.

[@EmmaB843]

Story 1: I'd want more info: specifically is it possible that OPs siblings know something that OP doesn't about why Mark resents Mia's existence so much? This sounds silly, Mark could just be an unbelievable AH, but him not even wanting a reminder of this childs existence in his life, it sounds almost like a trauma response.

[@Bazinga.Punk.]

That last story pissed me off. My husband and I don’t tell eachother secrets that our best friends tell us, we understand it’s not our business

[@persephoneszeliga]

Last story: Mark called OP a “huge gaping asshole.” Omg, I’m crying🤣🤣🤣 I of course totally agree, but he sounded so funny when he said it.

[@NoName-ov1hk]

Damn Mark didn’t know you had a four year old daughter lol 😂

[@musicallydisneyamvs6731]

I’d take the child and go no contact with family if that’s how they feel. Just signed the damn papers, and get it over with.

[@katecooper3410]

Story 4: YTA. Not your pregnancy, not your judgement call. Not to mention you knew better than to tell your loved ones business.

[@halfdemonamanda]

My old best friend's mom was a nurse at the hospital my mom was going to. She told my friend and the rest of her family about what was going on and when I went over to their house the next time she said "you know your mom's not going to make it, right?". I didn't know it was that bad and it really upset me that she told me that before my dad was able to sit me down and talk to me about it because he was running himself ragged trying to get things figured out, and then also telling my friend and her family who are all gabbers. The next school day everyone knew and were staring at me and making me feel even worse. So yeah in story 2 definitely NTA in my opinion.

[@placateddoll]

Story 5: OP is TA. I love, love, love my best friend to peices. I also know that she shares *everything* with her husband and, if I don't specify that something is private/ secret, she will share it with everyone else, too. So, as much as I would love to be able to talk with her about everything, I cannot because she is not trustworthy. OP is also not trustworthy and will, some day, wonder why no one tells her anything or why she's the last to find out everything.

[@oliviabean8264]

All I have to say about the first story is it made me wish for the materialization of a device which would allow me to punch someone anywhere on the planet in the face based on a story I just heard about them before disappearing because that is clearly a power no mortal should permanently possess.

[@tanyacasey3395]

Story 2: NTA, you did the right thing by reporting the misconduct. I had a someone at a mental health agency share information after I made it clear not to do so. I sued the agency and the person it was very traumatic for me. Take care of yourself be glad for the no contact. It will be the best thing for you bless you.

[@JayeEllis]

Story 4: First - You gossiped. Not your secret to share, especially without the secret teller knowing about it. YTA Second - Not his kid, not his business, not his right, especially the way he went about it. If your boyfriend was going to act that way, he should have excused himself from their company before he lost his temper or told you beforehand he wouldn't be able to keep a civil tongue and just not gone. He's an AH, too. Frankly, apologize one last time, step back as gracefully as possible, leave that poor couple alone, learn and grow from this, then move on.

[@feraltaco4783]

If any of my family members looked through my records (especially mental health) I would ring their spine like a dirty sponge.

[@julietshaskey5453]

The last story...fucking hell. It seems like Felicia has a healthy relationship and a plan for what would happen if she ended up in a difficult situation. If my partner starting spouting that kind of bull, especially to my best friend, I'd drop them in a second

[@kireta21]

Story 1: WTF is his problem? He abandoned her, why he thinks he has any say in it, legally or morally? Why should he even CARE, who the kid lives with? Story 2: Context is everything. YTA if OP did it because she was upset. What BIL's sister did was stupid, but there's no reason to believe there was malice in it. Should have solve it face to face. NTA if OP did it out of respect for rules. It's a delicate profession, with plenty of responsibility, and what she did was serious violation of rules. Story 4: Holy sh*t, how's that even a question? Forwarding someone's secret like that, OP deserves everything that comes her way.

[@rambofan334]

In what context in violating HIPAA okay? How could you even think like that?

[@lanellsoto1732]

first one. A child needs a home and a family. This uh father wants no part of this child, but those that have stepped up to adopt this child do, and the biological father won't sign off because it's all about him? WHAT?????

[@alicewilloughby4318]

Story 1: Why the hell is Mark so hostile toward poor Mia?? I mean, it's not just that he doesn't want the responsibility for her - he's angry at the idea of having her in the family at all! He'd rather see her flung into the foster system. It's like he genuinely hates the poor kid! And what is this double-think where "I don't want anything to do with her, and AS HER FATHER, I should have the final say!"?? WTF?

[@unknown_bitch6734]

Wait I dont get the 1st story... They are not asking him to have any custody nor be an uncle... They just want custody of Mia... I dont get what the problem is...

[@bibliowolf5735]

Biodad is an asshole & does not want his sister, the child's bio-aunt to adopt her bc he wants to go "no contact" with a child he apparently hates. Sounds like he wants the child to suffer out of hatred for the deceased mother.

[@Purexfallenxangel90]

Jerk thinks the world revolves around him. Since op is his family he'll end up seeing mia with op and co during family gatherings and clearly doeant want jack to do with his own daughter. Thats why hed rather have Mia's maternal family or even strangers take her so he can forget she exists and when hes "ready" to be a dad and have kids down the line his s/o then wont know how sh!t of a father he actually is.

[@unknown_bitch6734]

@@bibliowolf5735 But he could do so even if the sister adopts it unless he has some kind of relationship with the sister meaning hed be seeing the child?

[@unknown_bitch6734]

@@Purexfallenxangel90 Oh okay! That makes much more sense now... Thank you...

[@FlamingoSundew]

Waffle gang strongest army on the planet

[@raptorpeep2622]

hello. will and e

[@victorampo1137]

I would argue it’s the little stinkers. MAYBE Greg

[@tamsinmoore2111]

We blither-ers have your back. Lead in McWaffle!

[@tamsinmoore2111]

I was raised in a medical family, my Dad (vale) was a GP and Mum and I nursed. (Albeit not at the same time!) You're actually trained to be nosy but we're DEFINITELY given boundaries. Patient confidentiality was continually was always right up there with asepsis. Kind of fitting that: Clean hands and say nowt. I'm sure it's been best said by others.

[@lorifiedler13]

Mark doesn't want to be Mia 's uncle either? No problem. Go NC with him.

[@nashty31113]

"If you know someone that well, you know he's a gobshite" Damn it Mark just made me laugh spit Diet Coke all over myself!! 🤣🤣🤣

[@MsTemptation]

Story 3: YTA. Your son needs to get his shit together before getting married. Since he can't afford to get married then he and his fiancee can just wait until they can afford to pay for their wedding. Asking your husband to use his daughters college money to fund your son's wedding is ludicrous and I totally understand why he is pissed off at you for asking.

[@itsjustme7487]

Or have a nice small wedding at a park, beach or a backyard.

[@BiteSizedCrafter]

Story 4. OP’s the asshole in so many way. 1 Telling her friend’s business. 2. Not stopping him from attacking her 3. Not sticking up for her friend 4. Putting his opinion over her friend’s feelings. For sure the ah. Her bf too.

[@1992KCWolf]

OP’s Mark (not our resident cinnamon roll Mark, of course.) is most definitely TA. Such a negative attitude towards his own child. OP taking his little one is the farthest thing from, OP/grandparents and their family are good people who are trying their best to love and care for the child that HE chose to abandon.

[@Sophie-jt3sj]

Story 1: NTA. And I have perfect solution. Adopt Mia and cut off contact with Mark. He wouldn't see her again and she will be happy 👍

[@veezopolis]

He DID get to make the decision. He CHOSE to give mia up. He's done now, go away mark

[@narutohuntmendemon6354]

If he removed himself out of her life then his not the Father any and he wants drama that's all

[@ADWebTV]

6 months and he got such super privileged information. I wouldn't share that information with my husband about my own friends because literally there's not a reason for him to know.

[@babybluehashyo]

If he has kids in the future? He has a kid now! You dont get to pretend you didn't make her...

[@spacetofu5306]

Story 2: NTA My mom works as a nurse and my dad used to work in a hospital for nutrition services and they always told me HIPAA laws are taken very seriously and when someone is found of violation of HIPAA, they do not get off lightly. So OP is in the right, especially when it's a literal law that those in the medical field needs to follow.

[@canadalovesanime3137]

Story 4: YTA Keep your BIG mouth shut. OP did NOT have the right to "share" information with her boyfriend. The friend is NOT a hypocrite. The friend revealed something in confidence, not something to be "shared". The boyfriend needs to be dumped. He IS entitled to his opinion, but not to harass and insult other for theirs. The friend made the mature decision, DO NOT bring unwanted children into this world. If someone wants a child so bad, then adopt one of the MANY that are currently in foster care. But those people who whine about "m**dering" unborn, don't really care about the children. They just believe they are "morally Superior" to everyone else. Hundreds of thousands of kids are in care right now, but nobody wants to adopt "damaged goods", they all want cute little baby dolls to dress up and show off. People like that are sick!

[@alyssahardware205]

The creative in the intro is ASTRONOMICAL!

[@Buff_Helpy]

22:04 Buff Helpy needs you elaborate the question, do you mean before or after Buff Helpy knocked the boyfriends teeth out with one punch.

[@ezra2701]

Hearing "Gobshite" (I think that's how it's spelt) is the funniest word I've ever heard. I love hearing these dope British words

[@heyitsrae5407]

"Huge gaping asshole" is not something I had expected you to say, Mark.

[@PixelPawse]

I just wanted to add to a comment from story two: Dishonor! Dishonor on her! Dishonor on her cow!

[@jenmalcom7004]

If she won't postpone, then she can pay for it.

[@tegantalks9612]

Story 2- NTA. I’m in Canada so it might be a little different, but my boyfriend was hospitalized in the spring and nurses were only able to share information with me and his mom. They could share info with me because he gave them consent to and with his mom because that was his emergency contact.

[@denisemadison1298]

SIL knew the LAW and willingly violated it. By doing so, she gave Private Legally Protected information to others (I guarantee she told Brother, her family, etc) and actually exposed the Hospital to a potential Lawsuit for violating the Law. SHE broke the LAW with full knowledge of that LAW and potential consequences. Who else's private files have been accessed by her and who else's private protected information has she shared. She did this without a second thought, indicating that this is NOT the 1st time. It leaves the question of who else has asked her about another person and had her illegally give them that information. And the fact that family thinks it is okay to break a major law and give info out is okay?!? WTF!

[@Solutad]

First dude doesn't want to be a parent and step up for his kid, but does want to claim parent rights to decide what happens to his kid? Can't have it both ways, bro. You're either her dad or you're not. also bold assumption from him that anyone would even want to stay in contact with him enough for him to have to play uncle, I thought NC was the obvious next step.

[@princesslulu5795]

The wedding one definitely YTA. Son & his fiancée are grown adults. They need to learn to live within their means and budget for a wedding they can afford. If the specific date is that important, elope at the courthouse and take your friends & family to a nice restaurant. This would be so much cheaper. Education is way more important than a party. Also regardless of the reason its not her money she has no right to ask. If stepdaughter offered money on her own without being asked, that would be a different story, but op is so wrong

[@15oClock]

1. Bastard!Mark should've just given OP Mia if he didn't want it effecting his life, but he's being difficult. His mental gymnastics are Olympic level. 2. Not only is a HIPAA violation a firing offense, it probably means you can't practice medicine. It's because they can't trust you, and that's on you, not the people you hurt. 3. Destroying one child's future to enable an expensive wedding that doesn’t sound like it will end well. There's so much to unpack here. 4. Felicity and Michael deserve their privacy, especially on such a sensitive issue. Too bad OP was her friend at the time! Never making that mistake again!

[@gertlowenhamn9746]

What is it with people and "sharing secrets". I have always shared all MY secrets with serious partners, not ever someone else's secrets, they are not mine to share, not with partner, therapist or priest...

[@justine8387]

"if you know your boyfriend that well then you know he's a gobshit" I laughed out loud with happiness that you are such a decent human.

[@beautybard]

HIPPA ain't no joke. Even a WHISPER of a violation as simple as the blinds being open at a drug rehab (people could see the clients... police, toxic family, etc) could get someone fired to say the least. That whole story made me sick.

[@Joybuzzard]

If 'Mark' doesn't want the child, that's the last decision he should make for that child.

[@christywhiteman4249]

"You know he's a gobshite" 😂😂

[@et5895]

How dare you ask for your stepdaughters money?!!! HELL NO who cares her wedding is late? She's not paying

[@simsgirlgem]

He said he stepped down as a father so he shouldn’t have a right to stop op adopting Mia