I Shamed A Friend Of A Friend For Not Having Money To Eat!

[@ThiccOgreBoi69]

As a bisexual woman, if I had such bad luck with men, that all of them left me because they realized they were gay, I would be cracking jokes about it left and right lmao It doesnt mean you think that you turn people gay, its just a joke about the fact that people have dated you and realized they were gay during it.

[@somedragonbastard]

If I dated someone before I came out, and they later joked that they turned me aromantic, I would laughing my ass off

[@Ifrit86]

I think maybe his ex may actually be bi and was just strongly attracted to women for a time and thought she was fully lesbian, but may now be questioning it so she's a bit sensitive about the topic?

[@ViridianAubergine]

About the story with the boyfriend giving his mom better gifts; OP mentioned that the mom unfairly favors his sister over him with gifts, maybe he spoils his mom in order to recieve affection he wouldn't normally get. Idk just a thought I had.

[@owl7072]

Story 3: "You pressure me! I still need to buy gifts!" *proceeds to buy expensive things for his mom for her birthday AND Christmas while making Op choose one or the other* It's good to buy gifts for your parents but last I checked the boyfriend is dating OP not his mother Edit: He's never even bought her a birthday cake smh poor OP

[@scarysara9364]

Yeah if I were O.P. ; I would say to my then boyfriend "I'm sure that you and your mother will be very happy together,well good bye now."

[@ShadeoftheRaven]

My husband's birthday is literally two days before Chirstmas. I have told him that I will always get him a separate Christmas and Birthday gift unless I'm getting him something exorbitantly expensive. (IE: Something worth over several hundreds of dollars) He doesn't expect it, but I know he appreciates it, especially since I also make him dinner on his birthday.

[@BiteSizedCrafter]

@@ShadeoftheRaven Most December people didn’t get that growing up so I’m sure he double appreciates it.

[@Ifrit86]

The BF is definitely still the A, but he may be operating under his inferiority conditioning and his coping mechanism is to downplay his affection for people who love/appreciate him in favor of seeking his mom's approval because she's clearly shown him that he's less loved than his sister.

[@rexcatston8412]

1st story NTA If someone invites themselves to food, has no ability or intention of paying and laughs it off, its no doubt incredibly indicative of the underlying reason he's couch surfing. I'd have said the same. Its practically theft in this context and so no reason to hold any punches. There's no 'low blow' when dealing with a p.o.s

[@babycakez8070]

Bro we just split the entire bill went uninvited people show, and stated it before the meal😂😂 we always assume the person that invited them is covering their bill.

[@quartniefunk9907]

I agree with you Rex Catston, if I know I won't have enough to pay I won't invite myself along. If invited I either decline or make a point to let whoever invited me I won't have enough to pay my portion so they can decide if they still want me to come along.

[@Zyart]

I used to know a guy who did that kind of crap. I had a friend who was struggling financially at the time, but who had helped me immensely when I was struggling. So, I'd take him to a nice restaurant a few times a week, and cover his meal, since it was something I could do that was within my means, and that he'd accept. Well, a similar situation with a friend of a friend happened. His roommate's "friend" would invite himself over to their house, and when I'd show up to pick up my buddy, would invite himself to dinner as well, order something expensive, and eat a tiny portion of it because he "wasn't all that hungry". And of course, I would have to pay for it, since he couldn't. It eventually came to a head when he started straight up stealing from people, since bumming off them wasn't enough for him. He eventually burned all his bridges, because he got caught stealing from his brother, and tried to beat the crap out of him because he wouldn't just give him money. So, he ended up being kicked out of the last place that anyone would let him stay... And ended up offing himself in the park one day. Which then led to the standard funeral discussions of "I wish I could have been a better friend to him." To which, my response was "A better friend to a mooching thief? Sure he's dead, but nobody liked this guy for GOOD REASON."

[@mpmansell]

S4: NTA. OP has been hurt by the actions, including those of his ex, and has a right to self deprecating humour. But, one thing that needs to be thought about. If she is so adamant that he didn't turn her lesbian (which, of course, he didn't), is she over reacting because she entered into the relationship with him knowing she was gay/bi and didn't tell him? I have seen several really horrible situations where one despicable person went out with another to 'confirm' that they were in fact not straight. I have to wonder if this is one of them.

[@zerobolt9506]

Ah that make sense

[@theundecidedfloral2141]

As a not-straight woman: as long as you meant it as a joke and don’t actually think you turn woman gay then I don’t see the issue - honestly I probably would have laughed.

[@paigecook4750]

Same i think OP is just bad at explaining it was a joke

[@zerobolt9506]

Yea, but since they had date at one point you'll think that she should have known him a bit better and the way he jokes right?

[@lyndellrobinson3611]

@@zerobolt9506 You would think, but no matter how long you've known someone, if they crack a joke about something that's triggering for you, you won't necessarily stop to think, "that's just their humor".

[@zerobolt9506]

@@lyndellrobinson3611 hm true

[@Pumpkin_Kisses]

Second Story: LOL. My nickname is Pumpkin...imagine me trying to book ANYTHING with that.

[@ThiccOgreBoi69]

Desk worker: um.. So your name is.. Mr/Ms Pumpkin..? You: yup :) Desk worker: .... Well, sounds normal enough to me. Heres your room keys. 😂 i just imagined this when i read your comment. Had a good chuckle at it.

[@AngelaMerici12]

So sweet!! 🤭😂!

[@someonewho]

I have friends that is nicknamed Fishdick? So trust me when I say nicknames aren’t what everyone should reserve wuth

[@LilChuunosuke]

There's a twitch streamer whose legal name is Tucker Boner (iijeriichoii). I remember he once said he caught some receptionists at a doctor's office trying to stop themselves from laughing at his name right in front of him. His bookings are sometimes mistaken to be pranks

[@Flufferz626]

My nickname is Pebbles. Because when I was little when my mom did my hair, my cousin made the remark I looked like Pebbles Flintstone with a ponytail and used that moniker ever since. She is in her 40s and I am 30 lol and she still does it.

[@legtemal7304]

Ah man I kinda hate some of the people in these stories. Just means Mark does a good job narrating and getting their tones right!

[@skylarjnelson6898]

I never understood the whole making people choose between their birthday or christmas. my bday is december 19th, less than a week before christmas. My family has never made me choose and I always get seperate birthday and xmas gifts. I dunno, it just seems like a sure fire way to make someone feel like shit.

[@TheDecoCottage]

Same. My birthday is 12/30 and my family has always separated my birthday from Christmas.

[@yourneighborhooddeadpool488]

My dad’s birthday is 10 days away from Christmas and we give him separate gifts for his birthday and Christmas. I feel like giving someone a gift for their birthday that’s near Christmas and just saying that it’s for both also sounds like someone didn’t want to gift wrap for both

[@mstree9173]

I know someone whose birthday is on Christmas

[@violeta585]

I could understand maybe if they were poor and spending that much money in one month was too much for their budget, BUT...unless you've been dating for a couple of months, then you've had time to put some money aside and you could establish a max amount of money to be spent for each of your birthdays and on X-mas, so at least it's similar between the two of you or you could decide not to buy presents on your birthdays/X-mas, but do smth. nice...relaxing spa day at home - bubble bath, massage etc, go for a walk & a picnic in the park, ice skating, go dancing etc.

[@danielasarmiento3101]

In my case I get the less expensive gifts on my birthday (12/03) or they don't give me a present because the Christmas present is worth the wait

[@justinjones-smith5168]

Story 4: What are the odds that all the women would turn out to be lesbian later on?

[@digit5465]

Its like Ross’s first divorce but with everyone he dates

[@mustbetheSUN]

I'm a hetero girl who almost only attracts lesbians. Like, too many lesbians for someone who is not on the gay dating scene. I dunno sometimes you get a weird lot in life.

[@Its_like_the_T-Rex]

Whew: Story 3 - I have 4 family birthdays in December. They get both their birthdays and Christmas.

[@TheDecoCottage]

As someone with a birthday really close to Christmas (12/30), it always sucked when people combined my gifts and wrapped them in Christmas paper. My family (and husband’s family) all give me separate gifts.

[@Wander85942]

@@TheDecoCottage I have a birthday on Christmas so I’m seconding this. You gotta hold onto the minimal you can get on the date

[@thislookslikepatrick5070]

S4 "Is that like a personal attack or something." NTA feel bad for ya OP.

[@ohyeahbonsai]

Story 4: Lol NTA wtf dude you made a joke it's her fault she took it to offense

[@beliciapinkrah3919]

I thought it was a woman for some reason brother

[@paigecook4750]

that’s what i thought too but either they actually belive it or are very bad at explaining they just made a joke

[@omega1850]

ALL HAIL THE WAFFLE KING

[@sumtalks4790]

YESS ALL HAIL 🧇

[@digit5465]

Hear ye! Hear ye! The waffle king has spoken!

[@omega1850]

Why do I feel like he needs a waffle crown lol

[@RadioactiveBear]

Hail to the waffle king.

[@86londongirl]

As an English girl who lived in Bangkok for 7 years, I can well remember the whole nickname thing - there was a girl nicknamed Honda (because she was conceived in the back of one), her sister Ham (their mum ate a lot of it while she was pregnant), and their brothers High and Hill. I also knew a Carrot, a Snooker, and a Bint.

[@TsukiKageTora]

Someone makes a joke about themselves and someone else gets severely offended from it. This is why people say jokes don’t exist anymore. People need to not be offended over simple crap so much. Especially in another person’s favor who most likely doesn’t care.

[@IlkaWaffy]

He intended it to just be about himself but it clearly wasnt because it involved the other person, too. She should have just explained why she didnt appreciate the joke rather than blowing up though

[@izzy10125]

Story 3: NTA, OP deserves a partner to go all out on both days!! my partner's birthday is on Christmas. He told me that his mom calculated how much she spent per sibling on Christmas and birthdays so that she could do the same for him. That's why it always looked like he got more on Christmas. His mom also used this math to shut up his sisters if they complained about how much he got lol

[@BronzeDragon133]

Story 3: Sorry for dual comments, but I feel this one. :-) My birthday and Christmas are two weeks apart. I've eternally gotten screwed on one or the other. "Now this gift is for your birthday AND Christmas, dear!" I've then done that back to them (one of whose birthday is in July) until they got the point. Some never do. And in this case, there's a distinct dichotomy in fuss and appreciation as well. One is always fully allowed to feel whatever one wants to. So of course NTA. But quite apart from that, the difference in appreciation and attention, not to mention the insensitivity of combining the two, is just ridiculous! Dump the chump and find somebody who appreciates you, dear. You deserve better. Even in the final update, he's trying to gaslight you. Expensive gifts aren't the point, making a big deal about it is the point. And he's clearly not doing that.

[@s.j.khoshaba6820]

Hey Mark, story 3 caught my eyes. I kinda agree with what you said at the end. Also, did anyone else think that maybe he is going all out for his mom so she can finally notice him. The OP’s bf said that he didn’t mind that he got less but what if deep down that he did mind and now he is giving his mom more so she can realize or know that he turned out better or because he wants his mom to love him more. I could be reaching, but it really did come across like that to me.

[@natnuss98]

I love the waffle logo. He looks so happy and has the same energy as your YT drawn character.

[@kylecabrera142]

Story 4. The fact she got so offended tells me there's a grain of truth in that statement.

[@jdd9993]

Story 2: You were nice enough to book her in & warn her about future problems. NTA The customer IS the AH.

[@TabbiToyCollectibles]

For story 4, I think a better way to put it is that there is something about him that makes all these girls realize that they are gay. Either way he's got some crap ass luck.

[@dougmartin2007]

That second story is one I can relate to. I worked in an accounting department on a company in the creative sector. Think Fashion, film, advertising, etc. We had a lot of artists who would use some kind of stage name when sending us a bill as a 1099 contractor. Then we ask for the tax form W9 to confirm what tax id we report earnings to the IRS under. So many times they would not be using their legal name for tax purposes and couldn't understand why we needed their real be to send payments and report tax info.

[@giselleyfish3612]

When I lived in Thailand, I learned this about the names real quick teaching English. Our class roster would have each student’s proper name, but since they go by their nicknames I would spend the first class doing an activity or two to learn the nicknames and jotting them down next to their actual names on my roster. My ex was Thai, I won’t say his actual name but it started with a ‘j’ and had 6 letters (not a common at all, in fact, many people would be guessing as they sounded it out, very rarely did a Thai person see his actual name and be able to pronounce it on the spot. Anyways his nickname that everyone, even his mom and dad and little brother, was ‘Ob’ which doesn’t translate to an actual word. It’s the sound a frog makes lol

[@halima-joyelliston5707]

Correct me if I’m wrong here, but from what I gather, and Thailand their birth names tend to be long and complicated, to the point where they mostly go around by their nicknames which tend to be short and succinct. I’m talking a five syllable first name compared to a two syllable nickname. But then again, I could be wrong. It’s just what I noticed.

[@kathrynandkandi9165]

Story 3- divorce in the future, calling it now

[@hiro4344]

In my teens I rarely had money so if friends and I were planning to go to a restaurant I would admit ahead of time that I had no money and see if anyone could cover me, and if not I'd bow out for another time.

[@Devoughn]

As someone who has also experienced the same thing as story 4 it's a fucked situation because it really does feel like that sometimes.

[@PurpleKatK]

Story 3: Half of my family was born in Dec (Mother - 3, Aunt - 7, 2 Sisters - 3 & 11, Myself - 15, and my Daughter - 28). My family always made sure birthdays were treated the same regardless of the month and Christmas was the same for everyone.

[@faeryb0mb]

Awesome work as always Mark! Hope you're having a great day! ETA: God that story about the boyfriend and his mom pissed me off. I was born November 25th and my 21rst is coming up soon. My birthday sometimes falls on actual thanksgiving so what my family has usually done is we do thanksgiving and go out as a family on a later or earlier date and celebrate then. never had to pick a day. ETA2: "Because she's autistic" is not an excuse. I've got mild aspergers myself (female fyi.) I've gotten better at managing it over the years. Holy fuck that's setting both children up to fail. The sister will think she's entitled to everything because of her autism and the brother will just....well look at OP's posts. Iron Maiden summed it best with "Run to the hills" OP needs to run and never look back.

[@juanperez9688]

Hey mark I know what I’m about to ask you might be a bit much but tomorrow is my birthday so it will be a cool birthday present. I like to think that r/aita is the internet court rule, so I like hear you treat it like one “Our first case is U/(name) to see if he/she is the AH for (title)” “Mr/Ms (name) base on our jury decision we pronounce you are NTA/YTA” *gavel* KNOCK KNOCK KNOCK 😂

[@emanx222]

Lets get This to The top!

[@tkb5726]

Thanks for the awesome vids Mark! Im a music major struggling with feeling overwhelmed with performances and exams. Lots of stuff happening at once

[@Its_like_the_T-Rex]

Story 1: Call the waitress back and get separate checks. This entitled boy needs to wash some dishes rather than steal OP's hard earned money.

[@bobot.chimpanzee8612]

That's a tv thing restaurants would never let a customer do work as that can get them sued if the customer gets hurt, there was no way to get OP out of paying the restaurant doesn't care who pays just that the bill gets settled. They'd call the cops on all three and have them all banned.

[@carolbelvin5278]

In the first story, when Joe made it clear he was not going to pay and be a freeloader, I would have called the waiter/waitress over and asked for separate checks. After I paid for my meal only, I would have left. This way, Joe would have to figure out how to pay for his own bill.

[@calliewalsh7058]

That birthday one I thought the OP was the A, thinking they'd not been together long, until she said they'd been together FIVE BLOODY YEARS. Oh honey run. Run far and run fast

[@BritInvLvr]

I’ve had the same group of friends since high school (over 40 years). We would go out as a group and one friend never had money and a job. He was an art student at the time. I didn’t mind covering for him, since I had money but one of my friends hated it. She made a T-shirt that said MOOCH in big letters and a cartoon pic of our penniless friend…and gave it to him. Lol. He never wore it. No got their feelings hurt and no one called anyone an asshole. I guess we were made of tougher stuff then. If someone invites themselves and has no way to pay, get ready to catch some shit for it, buddy.

[@Badartist888]

Story 1: What pisses me off, right at the start, was that his food was the most expensive. I've been broke (not as broke as that guy) and if other people are shouting you, then you at least offer to get one of the cheapest things on the menu unless they offer to get anything.

[@rebecca4480]

3rd one, NTa. Just sit down and tell him how you feel and give him a lump of coal for Christmas lol.

[@DuckTapeWarrior1]

I’m doing a finicky bit of homework and among other problems this is helping me regain a bit of sanity. Thank you for doing this!

[@thepoetato6201]

For a second, I was sad because I thought he didn't call us waffle gang. So I restarted the video and heard it the second time. Now I'm happy again.

[@ACCER]

Many years ago I made a new friend in summer. He was 23, new to the area and didn't have any friends yet. We were fast friends and spent a lot of time out hiking and collecting rocks (we are both rock hounds.) December rolls around. His birthday is December 21st. I knew he was leaving on the 23rd to go to visit his family for the holidays, but I took him out to dinner and bought him a birthday present.....because that what you do for friends on my planet. That was when I found out that he had never, not once, had a birthday party or gotten a birthday present because his birthday was "too close to Christmas." I was stunned. Even more stunning? He's an only child of two only children. So he was not just the only child he was also the only grandchild...... Another friend with a birthday on December 26th burst into tears the first time I gave her a birthday present. I was the first person outside of her family to give her a birthday present NOT wrapped in Christmas paper. She's Jewish...... People are weird.....

[@lee02jepson]

Story 1 - NTA regardless of the last comment. He knew he didn't have the money to pay but came anyway expecting someone else to pay it. Your last comment was true. You now know why his family booted him, irresponsibility. So what he heard it, he should, learn that his behavior is unacceptable + change his ways.

[@Lisapizzza]

Sometimes I see these titles like the shaming for not having money and I'm immediately like yta, but then I hear the story and it's not that clearcut

[@UnlimitedProduction1]

Story 3, is a realistic ending. She spoke her mind and he understood. She doesn't have to write it so complex and detailed he needs to come off perfectly.

[@UnityDoesWhatever]

Hahaha I’ve dated countless people that ended up being gay and have said what he said, they thought it was funny, but I never felt like I was actually turning anyone gay. I agree that his friend did overreact a little bit.

[@IlkaWaffy]

I keep thinking that either the ex just overreacted or he delivered the joke extremely poorly and she didnt quite believe it was meant to be a joke

[@brigzbeebroadcasting2870]

I think my favorite word to hear mark say is "what?!"

[@paigecook4750]

Story 4: i too thought that they were just joking at first, but as they went on it seemed more like they Legitimately believed it which may warrant his friends reactions

[@FlamesofJagger]

Love the new intro Mark. Keep up the videos and hope all is well

[@julietshaskey5453]

Last one, NTA, this was clearly a joke. I have a bad case of 'girls...pretty' and I think that this is hilarious

[@Tiogair]

Christmas is sandwiched between my boyfriend’s birthday a month before and mine a month after. We usually give the options of normal presents for each, or a blowout joint gift. I can’t imagine telling him or being told by him that birthdays and Christmas gifts are an either or situation. It’s not unreasonable to expect to be celebrated twice a year, that should be expected.

[@tiffanykey4589]

Yet again I’m doing the dishes and I had to run around the flat with wet hands to get a towel. When you read the comments then I heard update. And was like no no no run back. I must remember to dry my hands and pause . 😂 I need to look for more stories. Am I the ass has to be my favourite. You you are my favourite Reddit KZbinr . ( shh don’t tell the others. 😂😂) hope you and your family are well.

[@olabrent8487]

Nta on the first story. Not only did the guy freeload on the meal, his tab was more than his friends. He did it on purpose and laughed when he was told to his face on what he did deliberately. The guy got what he deserved, low blow or not.

[@perlamedrano3637]

Cake Story GIRL THATS NOT YOUR SOUL MATE PLEASE BREAK UP WITH HIM.

[@littleolmee]

Story 1: ESH. OP knew Joe was staying with Nick because of his situations. OP should've made sure what they were doing about the meal costs before they ordered & come to an agreement or told them you weren't flipping for NIck's & went separate checks. Yes it sucked Joe & Nick expected OP to handle all the cost but OP was in the wrong for how it was handled too. Story 2: NTA. It's the company's policy & you have to do what you have to do. She was being a Karen because she didn't like being called on doing something wrong. She'll learn when she gets stuck with no hotel because she doesn't want to give her real name. As far as what they were doing probably something illegal or something she doesn't want to be traced back to her. Story 3: NTA. If you are talking about getting married he needs to step it up with the gifts. Sure his mom gave birth to him but he's banging you. The least he can do is buy you gifts for both birthday and Xmas. Actually it sounds like his mom is more important than OP is to him. Story 4: NAH. I think OP was just using dark humor to try & deal with his track record. He might be right that he's attracting a certain type of person. Probably not the right folks to say it to. I get why his ex & her friend got bothered by it, but they over reacted IMO.

[@philwill0123]

Story 1. The fact that Joe went out with no money is nick and joe. Both expected you would pay and probably arranged it. As for telling him thats why he was disowned, if someone was smug about making me pay dinner for them, i would call them all sorts of names to wipe that smile of the of their face.

[@Sir_Gerald_Nosehairs.]

1) NTA. What struck me was that Joe ate the MOST out of the three of them. The person who wasn't invited, couldn't pay, and didn't care about either fact. Maybe his family DID disown him for a good reason?

[@Acidfunkish]

All kinds of people use nicknames to book hotels.

[@randiveland9857]

What I have heard is in Thailand people gives nicknames so evil spirits would not find the real name and use it against them. But I really don't know for sure...

[@MydieLy]

Story 3: this one has so many levels and most people involved only scratch the surface. The real problem lies with the mother seemingly tying attention/love to gifts. No wonder the guy showers his mom in gifts, he wants her love so badly. He's not a mommy's boy, it's way more messed up than that. With OP, he probably hoped he'd found someone who lives outside of that cycle. Too bad she doesn't. She makes the same mistake as her bf, thinking gifts equal love. Now he has two women in his life he needs to overindulge on a high level, because his mom surely won't accept a lower level now and he'll need to match it for his gf. I'll go with ESH on this one, because even though OP mentions all the dots, she seems unable to connect them and see where her bf's true issues lie. She needs to show him that love isn't shown with gifts, not add to the narrative.

[@CrystalBallEclipse]

Story 3- my birthday is 3 days after Christmas, I sometimes have be careful with what I want for both days but I never have to choose between them. They’re two seperate days, two separate holidays. I don’t think op’s boyfriend can decide for her which day is more important.

[@Daydream_N]

People in Thailand generally have really long names and most Thais don't ever go by their real names, only by their nicknames. The biggest example of this is the Thai kpop artist BamBam who doesn't even remember his own siblings real names.

[@yellowishgreendragon.-.]

Story 1. He is NTA for being upset that he was used. But he is an AH for the line "no wonder your family disowned you". That was unessecary and a really not nice thing to say.

[@Jamiee-p]

Story 3: My birthday is new years day. Literally one week from Christmas and my fiance still gives me multiple small presents on both days and one big big one. He always gets me 11 presents. Being forced to choose between one or the other is no excuse

[@TheZombifiedFairy]

My birthday is 1 week before Christmas and everyone (partners, family, and friends) always celebrate both as individual days, not as one event. Its insane that people actually do this

[@Jamiee-p]

@@TheZombifiedFairy I know right! They're 2 different celebrations on 2 different days.

[@canadalovesanime3137]

Story 1: NTA You are telling truth, you called him on it. Story 2: NTA Who does this crap! Story 3: NTA OP NEEDS a new boyfriend. He doesn't respect OP. Story 4: NTA Those are your genuine feelings!

[@VesnaVK]

I LOVE 😍 the new channel art! LOVE the new intro! Cutest waffle ever!

[@MarkNarrations]

Yay, only made it last night so I'm glad someone spotted it haha :)

[@VesnaVK]

@@MarkNarrations It's fabulous! I love the syrup atop the channel banner. I think our waffle needs a name, don't you? How about "Initial Waffle"? "I. Waffle" for short. Just saying the waffle's name makes a statement: "I. Waffle." Think about this: "I" is the waffle initial for Initial Waffle! Deep! As deep as a waffle well!

[@Hyozee]

In Thailand, since birth names are so long and formal, parents give their children ‘nicknames’ ...a second name in a sense.

[@carolynfox704]

The guy who keeps having girlfriends coming out as lesbians isn't an asshole. I've made similar comments, since I'm in a similar but opposite situation. (I'm a lesbian, but tried dating guys before I came out. Both of the guys I dated later came out as trans women.) Usually, no one cares, though it may be worth mentioning that when I do it, I do it in a "I'm so gay I ended up dating girls even when I was trying to date boys" way, not a "I made my exes trans" way.

[@PixelPawse]

In story one the biggest thing everyone is harping on is the family disowning him part. While honestly the matter of pay should’ve been discussed before even eating. And yeah separate checks should’ve been established. He kept laughing after she made it clear that she didn’t want to pay for him. She really should’ve not said anything. Went to the counter. Only paid her her share. And left both of those guys to themselves.

[@ruddiko]

In many asian countries they have other names, specially if they work with people that are not asian, it's very common, per sample, in taiwan and china to have names in english, my taiwanese friend english name is Alex, and his own name is nowhere near that

[@JJerseyGirl]

Stop going all out for his birthday and Christmas if you can't afford it.

[@emm_uhh]

Nick name culture in Thailand is wierd and many people receive one the day they are born. Some children grow up not knowing their legal name till they're much older. It can make it hard to reunite lost children with their parents.

[@pyro014]

I LOVE the new intro screen and profile picture

[@WolfGirlRin813]

As a queer woman, I find that last story hilarious and agree its self deprecating humor. Something like that is discouraging and I understand how he feels tired of it and don't blame him and I understand his feelings post edit. There's a big difference in what OP said and those dumbasses who are so smug when they say shit like, "You've never been with the right man," or "I'll fuck you straight," kind of thing. His ex is overreacting I feel.

[@clairebear-96]

Honestly as a bisexual woman I think the “turning women gay” thing is hilarious... I can see how the ex specifically might be offended, but she probably overreacted tbh

[@Bestarcher-rm5bc]

Hey I’ve been watching your videos for a while (bout 2 months) I know the chances that you see this are one in the couple hundreds of comments that will be in this video but back onto the point. I think that if you added a animation over a song audio might make your videos more lively then they already are. Btw love the vids keep up the good work you always make my day a tiny better don’t stop this any time soon your a amazing person

[@KcLee677]

We'll, dumped hem.. disowned hem.. We'll his is free-lower..

[@troubleinthevalley5884]

Man the story about the boyfriend showering his mother with gifts and love and affection on her birthday and then doing barely anything for his girlfriends birthday reminds me of my ex. He withheld physical and emotional affection as a form of control over me because he knew how much it hurt me down to my core. He did things ike wait until my birthday and then fly his daughter out and spend ALL the money he'd put aside for my birthday money (started out at around $400 but kept going down until I was gone) on stuff she didn't need plus his whole $3000 paycheck on top of the plane ticket he bought. I was still trying to fruitlessly prove myself to him at this point so I let him spend my money on her as well, drive her around in my car and take over our home that I paid for. This was all on top of the plane ticket he had already bought for her last minute because for whatever reason it HAD to be on my birthday, he couldn't wait to get a cheaper ticket after my birthday even though it was summer time and she had the entire summer to be able to come down. Did her mother lift a finger or send one penny to help pay for anything? OF COURSE NOT! She was too busy leeching not only off my man but her new man as well. Then when I'd beg for his affection, he'd say he's just not that kind of guy, meanwhile being all types of lovey dovey cuddly sweet with his teenage daughter that suddenly became the woman of MY house and shoved me to the outside. It still makes me absolutely sick and lived just thinking about that piece of shit. He was such a mind fuck.

[@ianiskapetanidis9196]

Ohh boy the 2nd story is very cringe for me because in my home country there is a very commonly found name that if you shout in the middle of the street you are more than likely to get a response from several people. I can only imagine what sort of a hurricane of trouble it would bring if people here used their nickname to sign up and what sort of hunger game scenario they would have to go through to prove it's their room.

[@MusicInTheDarkness]

This doesnt change the fact the OP is NTA but there is actually some interesting context for the whole nickname thing. How nicknames work in Thailand isn't the same as how ppl think about it in the west. I tried to write a comment explaining it all but it was a mess lol so instead here have a blog that explains it really well: ohmissannabella.com/thai-culture-thai-names/ It's really interesting and definitely worth reading!

[@Akichan07]

*runs in throwing eggos at people* LET'S GOOOOOOO!

[@skylar6301]

Re: names in Thailand, Idk if it's the way all Thai names are but the one Thai person I know of has a VERY long name that tbh I don't know any Westerners, myself included, who can pronounce it, his full name is Chittaphon Leechaiyapornkul but he always goes by Ten, I don't think I've even heard anyone say his full name out loud and he's in a pretty famous Kpop group (NCT, specifically the Chinese subunit aka WayV), though I could have missed it as I'm not fluent in Korean or Chinese (the two main languages I've heard him speak and others speak to him in). I can see how someone with a name like that and a lazy demeanor might end up ignoring or "not noticing"/not reading the part about it needing to be their ID name and putting in their nickname instead, and how that would be frustrating to hotel workers. And then taking prevelance of nicknames into account and that excuse, someone shadier could try to cut and run by using their nickname and trying to get the front desk agent to not correct the info in the system.

[@MusicInTheDarkness]

I started reading thinking you meant a random thai friend and I read Chittaphon and was like "wait a minute..." haha

[@skylar6301]

@@MusicInTheDarkness Lmao this is the best way to read it, and I'm happy to find another NCTzen here, not somewhere I really expected it!

[@RainMakeR_Workshop]

I would have refused to pay for him. It’s his problem. Let the management and police deal with him.

[@hiimryan2388]

That's it im starting the syrup friends, we shall over throw the waffles!

[@MJISA5]

🧇🧇🧇🧇🧇 You’re the only Reddit youtuber whose videos I still hit the like button on. Unfortunately, it’s the only way I can support you other than watching them. But I do watch them. Every single one.

[@MarkNarrations]

Aww thank you so much Mandy :)

[@MJISA5]

@@MarkNarrations - I hope you are doing well. I think about you often, I know home life is rough and I’ve gone through similar situations (my grandfather when I was 14 & my grandmama was in was 27, they passed 13 years and two days apart). My extended family is no-longer because of fighting over their money and property and I was disowned. It took me almost 13 years to get back on talking terms with my mom and it took me yelling at her and going NC. It’s been a year since that happened, I have only seen her three times. I still have no intention of keeping a relationship with her after my father passes (he’s in his 70’s, she’s in her 60’s). But watching my grandpa slowly go from from the man who could do anything to the man who couldn’t even get out of bed, changed me. I’m lucky that when I think of him, I think of him sitting in his La-Z-Boy chair, drinking an iced tea in front of the tv, laughing. His beautiful blue eyes sparkling with life and smiling. I do remember his last day, I was the last person he saw before falling into a coma and passing the next morning (he wanted to pass on a Sunday and did). I had gone to see him to tell him I love him and that I will miss him. We shared some of our favorite stories, I hugged him and have him a kiss. He said he was gonna take a nap, it was his final nap. I woke up the next morning knowing he was gone. I was not told he was in a coma. I did not hear the call after midnight. There was no talk in the house about it. I woke up, rolled over and said to my cousin, “my grandpa died”. She knew, but denied it. She was waiting for my dad to come home and tell me. When my dad walked into my room an hour later, he said “I’m sorry” and I started screaming “No! No! You’re lying!” He just kept saying “I’m sorry”, tears running down his face. I was sobbing. He was cremated and because he had a twisted sense of humor, his memorial was a BBQ in February. My family no longer celebrate holidays, my grandparents both passed at the end of January. @nd the holidays were always at their house (grandpa was the cement that held us together, after he was gone grandma was the tape that TRIED). Sorry for the rant.

[@truecooler21]

OMG The Profile Pic with the Waffle awesome

[@dwoktheraynejonsohn4849]

Early! Man, how do you post so many videos a day?

[@BiteSizedCrafter]

Story 3: NTA OP spoils him but he doesn’t for you? Dump him! The mother thing aside.. He’s selfish and a mother’s boy. Idk about the update.. Love language with gift seems.. Gross to me. Idk

[@KinguKirai]

The waffle is fresh out the toaster

[@ArmyOfFreaks]

My birthday is December 9th and the only people who never asked me that awful question was my mom and my fiance💛. I Thank them for that. I hated when people blew over my birthday😒💌 also i love the new profile picture it made my day🥞🥞🥞😁😁

[@ruansteenkamp4289]

Story 3: The Bf is an A**, he is a momma’s boy Story 4: Damn NTA, I just feel sorry for the OP, he basically never actually felt what love is and only knows what it feels like to be used as someone else’s stepping stone to find themselves

[@seankeller1560]

For #3 I tool the update more as the guy is a victim of abuse Even if just a little bit He thinks its normal to do this because his mother did it to him. In the end it sounds like his gf is getting through to him or at least she thinks she is

[@leah_beaute]

I love your new icon lol

[@JJerseyGirl]

Who uses a nickname when making a reservation. Whould you book a flight with a nickname?

[@axepagode33626]

Story One - No money for IHOP: NTA - It is a dick move to invite yourself to a breakfast knowing you could not pay.

[@WBFNBS8809]

Thai birth names are usually very long so most Thai people in day to day things use their nicknames as they typically much shorter but for legal things like booking a hotel room with your bank account I can see why that would cause problems. I'm not Thai just love shows and media 😁

[@BiteSizedCrafter]

Story 2: Using nicknames?! That sound stupid af.. I never heard of this. NTA. OP was kind enough to warn her. Hmm

[@joimumu]

I’m wondering if people how use nicknames to book hotel are cheating?

[@stanleypennock2118]

Soulmates? Are you crazy? Dump his manipulative butt and run away fast! If he treats you this badly now, think what you have to look forward to if you married him! You deserve better!

[@nancychisholm5399]

Hmmm my grandkids named my stoma so I was stuck with stinky mcfartfart until I had it reversed (five weeks ago now and you have made me laugh a lot during surgical recovery)

[@lizcatty9281]

Yay, finally on time! 😜 You're the best Mark, have a fabulous night 💜🇦🇺 Much love waffle gang! 🧇😘

[@Ashenicky2009]

Story 1, nta but I personally would've paid for his meal. I also wouldn't allow him back out with us and tell my friend that.