I Answered A Phone Call At My Best Friends Wedding And She's Furious r/Relationships

[@CaydenSworn]

"She told me I was the a-hole and wouldn't be invited to future events." You promise?

[@BruinPhD2009]

Right? A couple responses went through my mind when I heard that: 1. “Don’t threaten me with a good time.” 2. “Whew, what a relief!”

[@H0r53f7y]

3rd option: weddings get dull after the second time anyway

[@PrincessQ-fj9ly]

My thoughts on Bridezilla uninviting OP to future events because she "stole" her spotlight were "Fine! Hope your desperate need for attention was worth your friendship with OP!"

[@destmichael]

Ha! I wasn't even going to go to your next wedding lady.

[@slayermoon666]

I would’ve said ‘cool beans!!!! Can I have that in writing?’ Toodles!!!

[@jsanto210]

The "best friend" in the first story changing her number to call OP tells me she expected OP to chase her and beg for forgiveness.

[@nadirimyers6643]

Yep cus why tf you contacting someone you said you don’t want to see or invite to thing again. Lol

[@jsanto210]

@@nadirimyers6643 exactly; she wanted to be a prize and was shocked to discover she was anything but

[@MrJpaynebb]

She expected to be chased because that's her MO with her friends and family. She's either The Main Character or A Main Character in all her family and friend's lives. She central to all their stories but by cutting her off OP, after years of being submissive, has shown her that she's actually not as important as she thinks. For anyone who is self-absorbed and self-centered like the ex-friend that's an exit door that quickly needs to be shut because once 1 person escapes and doesn't come back others will follow. Can't be a star without an audience.

[@janmots2829]

@@MrJpaynebb Yeah she couldn't show OP any empathy at all when their poor mom got into an accident. God knows what they'll be like in the future if something (God forbid) ever seriously happened to one of OPs family members or close friends.

[@brianlawson3757]

Narcissists absolutely cannot stand being ignored. It's part of their pathology. They absolutely must be the biggest and most important thing in everyone's lives and when they're not, it makes them panic.

[@kimberlyterasaki4843]

Anyone else laugh at the irony of the Bride TEXTING "it's not that hard to not be on your phone"? Girl, it's your wedding, you really took time out of your reception to angrily text your best friend?!

[@iamthebadwolf7296]

Exactly, lol, I didn’t even have my phone, on of my bridesmaids did. Who spends an important moment like your wedding on a phone?

[@lauriemeyer7030]

To show how clueless 2 was, the argument WAS NOT OVER COFFEE! It was invasion of her private meditation time. Should she have used her words to say this, yes. She contributed to the issue by not talking to you. You absolutely BLEW IT UP BY PUSHING HER! You are not very bad, but you are totally clueless!

[@nela3986]

The whole story sounds like it was written by an adolescent with a hang for bad telenovelas...

[@RawkLobstah88]

Story 2: *Anytime* someone says "I just want to talk" is just the biggest red flag to me. They don't want to talk, they want to be obeyed. Maybe they do just want to talk, but the case is usually they are so focused on their point of view that they think the problem is that they aren't being heard, rather than people being done with their garbage.

[@pippo17173]

I'm now legit believing op might of been complaining about the gf spending time with dad on his final days. Like why keep that a secret from him unless he is trying to move her away from her family. The updates sure shows that.

[@RawkLobstah88]

@@pippo17173 Yeah it reeks of isolationist abuse. Part of me thinks he's intentionally burying the lede so as to make himself look better, like we're not getting the full story.

[@Lestaticate]

Story 1: * ex-bestie panic calls OP when she realizes she’s losing her doormat *

[@Resilient_Sage88]

Lol sneaking out to the parking lot specifically so op wouldn't "steal the bride's shine' if the shit-stirring momzilla hadn't tattled, bride would never have known.

[@pippo17173]

@OriginalContent89 well she won in the end if we're to assume how she raise her and op mentioning other time she was awful.

[@lewisb85]

"its not worth losing a friend over" oh it totally is!

[@hi_stranger9156]

*"She told me the reason she was so upset is because I stole her attention and light on her day. she acted like I planned this and planned for my mom to get into a accident to steal her shine??"* I don't understand how it's possible for someone to lack so much empathy. It's so self centered. I can't imagine keeping a friend from leaving a visit because their family member was hurt. Under many circumstances, I would think less of them for not leaving. This girl is so self centered and selfish.

[@teamaang7915]

Lol the ocean's 11 of stealing someone's shine. Not to mention the amount of effort you'd have to do to go through with such rubbish. Self centered is definitely a word to use as well as clueless.

[@thehawkseye3412]

Bride is just not worth the time. And seeing that her husband also mother also abused the OP? Why she is even calling such people her friends. They are too toxic and useless low IQ people to behave this way.

[@lalvarez5151]

It was during the reception not the wedding...the friend is insane

[@teamaang7915]

@@lalvarez5151 total mpc

[@mikef2811]

Family Emergency Proceed EVERYTHING especially a stupid wedding. If my friends treated me like that, they would get slap.

[@Aelitagurl]

Story 2 OP: "My Ex girlfriends brother won't let me manipulate her into letting me stay in her home after I made her feel like shit for missing her deceased dad! HAVE SIMPATHY FOR MEEEEEE!!!🤬😡😭"

[@LoveK1]

Story 2: when you’re relying on someone for free room and board, WiFi, transportation, food, etc. then it’s best to just sit and eat your food. Don’t go starting trouble or being extra noisy. If you think they’re cheating then either ignore it OR start saving your money and planning your exit plan. He’s a moron for someone who’s so down on his luck and desperate.

[@lusnoct4298]

I will add that if you suspect your partner is cheating and you're not able to leave for some reason, you also need to stop sleeping with them. The number of stories where people continue to have sex with cheaters is disappointingly high.

[@WhitneyDahlin]

Yeah I agree. He's dumb. And IDC what Reddit says. A secret camera is perfectly acceptable if you suspect your partner is cheating BECAUSE it can make you infertile or worse if they are sleeping with someone else and sleeping with you. You have a RIGHT to protect your health and bodily autonomy. BUT if you are wrong and they aren't cheating and the camera proves it you should get counseling and work through your trust issues. If he had ignored Reddit and just did the camera he would have found out she was just speaking to her dead dad and never would have confronted her and everything would be fine.

[@424strawberry]

@@WhitneyDahlinThat’s scummy behavior. Either you have trust issues or your partner isn’t worth trusting. Just break up.

[@pinkraynebow317]

@@WhitneyDahlina secret camera in her house is absolutely inappropriate. If you can’t trust your partner while you’re living off of them, then you need to gather your things and go. If this was shared house or he was also contributing, then maybe he would have grounds to put up a camera. He was squatting and let his insecurities ruin his relationship.

[@WhitneyDahlin]

@@424strawberry yeah because confronting them without proof even if they are cheating will do anything. My best friend got cancer because her partner gaslighted and guilted her into thinking she was wrong for not trusting him. Cervical. She's infertile now. She followed your advice exactly and because she believed him and didn't get tested, it wasn't caught or treated right away and it turned into cancer. I wish I lived in your perfect world where people would never trick you and lie to you and cheat. Should you follow your gut instinct or not? Because your life is on the line if you're wrong.

[@Cjaj2]

Story 2: bro is freeloading off of her and has so little respect for her that he actually believed she would being having conversations with her affair partner right in front of him. Even if she wasn’t coping with the loss of her dad, there's nothing wrong with her waiting alone time in her own house.

[@saphira2323]

Oh my gosh there were SO many red flags and it just kept getting worse and worse. Not only did he explode at her and accuse her of cheating instead of asking her about it like an adult, but when he said, what could she possibly need from someone else when I’ve been with her constantly for the last two weeks? 🚩 🚩 🚩 Then everything from only wanting to talk to her and fix the situation so he’s not homeless, and “make her listen to me” and blaming the brother instead of realizing that guy is enforcing the boundaries that SHE wants. I just can’t. I hope they got him out of there and she’s safe from him.

[@Cjaj2]

@@saphira2323 for real, I'm glad the brother is there for her, OP sounds scary. and him calling the brother a bully like he isn't squatting in his ex's house

[@terramarini6880]

Lots of people, myself included cannot deal with peopling for the first hour after waking. My husband would hand me a cup of coffee and go do his own thing. He also knew not to tell me anything important or needing a decision that early while my brain was still booting up. This man sounds like a hobosexual. He's more concerned about HIS need for her stuff. Bro is indeed not allowing this guy to use his weasel words on his sis.

[@patty-pat-pat]

Dude needs a mic, a podcast and a tee that says 'High Value King' for sure

[@ComaLies225]

@@Cjaj2same. I love how he’s trying to make the brother out to be some manipulator when his post reads like a narcissist leeching off his ex. I’m glad the bro is around because I’m sure OP would have made it VERY DIFFICULT to leave the home

[@rosefriday4287]

Story 2 OP is gaslighting so hard it hasn't even seemed to cross his mind that maybe her brother is protecting his sister at her request from him

[@trickstergods]

stroy 1: snitching on someone using a phone in the freaking parking garage is wild. wtf. OP wasnt even inside the wedding venue. what does the parking garage matter edit: she's so self-centered holy shit lmao who acts like a parent getting in an accident is somehow planned

[@kagekun1198]

Exactly! The "best friend's" definitely a narcissist, but that little narc is another brand of toxic

[@PrincessQ-fj9ly]

​@@kagekun1198 I think you're right about Bridezilla being a narcissist. Any normal bride would've completely understood if their best friend had to leave early to go see their poor parents who were caught in an accident.

[@Kayenne54]

FYI: People who have an over-riding need to control every one else and everything in their environment, always think the perpetrator of the 'crime' against them "controlled" or created the annoying situation. My ex would blame me if we got a flat tyre. Somehow, I was so All Powerful, that I caused a tyre on HIS car to go flat. I kid you not. But worst I ever heard of this kind of idiocy, was a friend saying "we were in a rescue boat, our entire house now under flood water, and my husband turned to me and said 'It's all your fault'". They'd just lost everything. How their mind works is incomprehensible, but no one has to stay and put up with it. I would have had to resist tipping him overboard.

[@Woodie-xq1ew]

Yeah snitching on someone like that as adults getting married. Some people have just never grown up from being the fucking teachers pet

[@teamaang7915]

Ppl who are selfish and always want the attention on them would totally make something as fkd up as that. I've met ppl like that but it gives me faith in humanity when the majority actually do the right thing.

[@BulletTooth504]

Story 2: I felt some sympathy for OP, at first. Every update and reply, though, he just kept digging that hole for himself.

[@brianlawson3757]

I know, right? I felt bad for him at first and then it was like a never ending parade of red flags, like Pride Day for the CCP there were so many red flags! 😳 🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩

[@PrincessAshley-Kawaii]

I disagree, depending what the "ex" lied about or hid context. It sounds more like finachal abuse on the Ex's side. If the rolls was reverse on who was OP's gender. An echo chamber of "he was the worst". How ever its all his side so its "skeptisim" i have for the entire story. If the neighbors would lie then i dont know.

[@damien678]

Yeah nah in the OG post he admitted to being around 24/7 and then went bananas over her wanting 20 minutes of alone time in the morning. He's instantly not likeable.

[@AutumnFire1414]

Right? OP just keeps blowing things out of context and being an absolute bellend. It really sounds like she needs some grief therapy. Talking to her deceased dad is fine and absolutely human, but I'm sure it would help her. Edit: after the update, his "explanation" that it was an argument over coffee is absolute b.s. I still wish her the best and hope that she gets some grief therapy.

[@BulletTooth504]

@@damien678 Yeah, I must've missed the 24/7 remark. Looking at the first post again really makes him look worse.

[@Feralcottagecore]

That’s a good brother. He saw the 9 levels of assholery and stood between it and his sister.

[@BraveryWing26]

I love first OP. She just got rid of a false friend. She's definitely not a doormat.

[@BersealiaDreamheart]

False friend indeed. A narcissistic bridezilla and her family making unnecessary drama over a phone call regarding a family emergency.

[@ScurvyRascal]

Story 1 The best friend is an entitled bridezella! Emergencies happen. She's the most important person in her own life only 🤦🏻‍♀️

[@user-wr3vt8uq4s]

I was expecting that OP took a phone call as the bride was walking down the aisle. Forget the sunk cost fallacy of the friendship, she's just mean and massively self-centered. Who needs that?

[@marshawargo7238]

I think that the bride is an influencer & wants to be the First to post All pictures! She just couldn't admit it after finding out why OP was on the phone. That Would Confirm that that she thinks the world revolves around her! 😂

[@YellaBellaReno]

I’m two minutes into the video and already commenting, because wow. A no phones wedding? My first thought was, “What about all the people with baby sitters?” If you want a no phones wedding, you still need to provide a way to reach people in emergencies. And even then, that still wouldn’t account for some scenarios. Besides, I wonder how many venues still actually have landlines people can call, and enough staff to reliably mind the phone. Maybe you could let one person be the contact for emergencies, and keep their phone on them? Do cell phones have an emergency only ring function?

[@mellttabor2134]

She’s an entitled B but long before it stood for bridezilla. OP should have dealt with this red flag friend long before that wedding!

[@PrincessQ-fj9ly]

@@user-wr3vt8uq4s Not OP, that's for sure. Thank God she got rid of her fake friend.

[@VidGirl88]

Dude, if my mom was in the hospital and I got shamed for answering an emergency call way out in the parking lot I'd expose it all on social media, as people with main character syndrome hold their social media veneer in the highest regard.

[@JEPiper]

Story 1: “it’s not worth losing a lifelong friendship over.” It is, though. If she’s the AH, it’s towards herself for trying to save this dumpster fire of a friendship. Edit: glad she told her to kick rocks 🪨

[@pippo17173]

Hearing its her mom who tattle, should tell you she was awful from the beginning. Also tattle on? ARE WE IN THIRD GRADE HERE LOL!?

[@ellorasg4525]

Story 1: WTF? OP you need to reconsider the friendship.

[@joaolima7131]

And the groom needs to reconsider this marriage, he will be into a miserable life if he stays

[@io5897]

​​@@joaolima7131 I dont think that'll be a problem if he sided with his monster of a wife

[@joaolima7131]

@@io5897 yeah, after seeing the rest I changed my mind, they deserve each other

[@PrincessQ-fj9ly]

Don't worry, OP got rid of her fake friend and good for her in doing so. She deserves a better BFF, and I hope she gets that better BFF. ❤️

[@pippo17173]

@@joaolima7131 Eh he will have a limit. I expect cheating at some point.

[@ashassassin]

Story 2 was doozy! I understand why gf is using her intimidating brother to communicate with her ex. He is scary. Refusing to leave her home? But before that it was complete disregard that he ruined what connection she still had with her father and didnt care at all. I really hope she got her house back and that she finds someone who loves her for her instead of her stuff...

[@lemarch57]

Absolutely right. And then he whines about how he could ‘set it right in 5 minutes’ meaning he thinks he’ll be able to gaslight her into thinking it was no big deal and she’s overreacting.

[@Bethsabee_Sheba_Newrose]

Yes! Can confirm the whole “I just need to talk to her for 5 minutes” ploy is a tactic used by controlling abusers.

[@Cthulus_left_tentacle]

Holding her stuff hostage until she talks to him??

[@pamelajohnson6425]

​@@lemarch57and of course, SHE was so awful to HIM, the poor victim in all of this, so she has to make it up to him.

[@pippo17173]

Now I legit believe op is trying to distance her now ex from the family here. Like why else would she kept that a secret from this crazy guy holy crap.

[@pietracassolrigatti]

Story 2: OP has little money, works from home, needs a laptop and wif-fi connection, has nowhere else to go, doesn't pay rent to the girlfriend, has no way of proving he is living there, accuses her of cheating, wants to secretly record her in her own home, and wants to use her work phone as leverage in order to talk to her now. Wow. Wow. He never considered his own situation when he decided to be aggressive and risk his stability. Pff. Pathetic.

[@Nathan_Bookwurm]

Don't forget the part where he was kicked out of his old apartment after an argument that ended so badly that he doesn't even get his stuff back.

[@alexacarrillo4339]

I have heard guys like this called hobosexuals. They get in relationships to have a place to live and be taken care of by a woman.

[@albertmendez2262]

@@alexacarrillo4339 What's it called when a woman does it to a man?

[@alexacarrillo4339]

@@albertmendez2262 I think people just go with gold digger which has been around for a really long time. Both sexes can be predatory users.

[@huinismith]

​@@albertmendez2262basically, the same.

[@RoseKoneko]

Given how hard he diminished his part in what the argument was, her and her brother’s response, and just… the intense ick from his comments… Wanna bet he’s verbally abusive, it’s never his fault, and her brother was protecting her?

[@fallingawayfromthenorm]

Also considering he didn’t want to elaborate in what other issues he mentions at 19:24 that she’s “mixing” into all this, I’m sure he’s been a bad partner for some time and this was her breaking point.

[@RoseKoneko]

@@fallingawayfromthenorm Exactly. It’s reading a bit into a one sided version of events but he’s really giving off run away like your arse is on fire vibes.

[@MiraTheWarlock]

Thats pretty much a given Big scary older sibling show up right when OP completely broke the poor girl makes it very clear this is not the big brother holding her hostage, it's her being scared of how much of a creepshow OP is and needing protection from him and who better suited than her family? I know it, you know it, everyone knows it, and most importantly, OP knows it. He knows exactly what he's doing, he knows what's up, he phrased it nice but the true meaning behind his post is basically "I need to gaslight my GF into knowing her place and let me suck the life out of her rent free, but she has a bodyguard"

[@mkuti-childress3625]

I wouldn’t be surprised if he was abusive in other ways, too. I hope when she gets her house back, she also changes the locks and gets a good security system.

[@RuminatingRaptor]

@@MiraTheWarlock He probably moved himself in without even asking.

[@ameliahill8273]

Story 2: He needs to leave her alone. I'm suspicious as hell as why he is locked out of his old appartment. But the only reason he is trying to get in touch with her is to keep a roof over his head. He needs to get out of her house. The brother is involved because she wants him to be. This guy is a massive a-hole.

[@xelectrix]

OP is so adamant about talking to her and how that can solve everything that I can't help but think he is very manipulative, and that's probably why the brother is acting as middleman. They've only been dating a few months and he's living in her house. Also, since the brother knows the owner of the building OP was kicked out of, he probably knows the circumstances behind it.

[@j.graham8068]

@@xelectrix Yeah. I'm guessing non-payment of rent for who knows how many months. That's why the landlord is holding his property. This guy says he works, pays nothing to GF towards living expenses, and is broke. Where is all his money going? He's a bundle of red flags. No, he's a raging dumpster fire. Maybe a stint of homelessness might teach him something about reality, but on second thought no, it would just confirm to him how unfair everyone else is to him and none of this is his fault.

[@MiraTheWarlock]

Imma be real, what made me see red the most was his post about getting past her brother...Oh not because of that, that just adds onto the long list on why he's a self absorbed creep who can't take the hint...but the blatant lying hoping redditors who don't know him will be sympathetic and help him corner her "We got over a fight over COFFEE of all things" like OH HELL NO

[@jumpmain]

He wants to reach her to manipulate her. She blocked him and left, he's really trying to not take the hint, and downplaying the situation.

[@MissAllWednesday]

OP from Story 2 is nutso.

[@hiro4344]

"She's having conversations." "Hey dummy, there was no cellphone. Not once do you say you saw a cellphone."

[@tully6648]

That's a good catch. Maybe it's meant to be assumed, but his only plan was to ever catch her talking on camera. Nothing about checking her call logs or contacts or anything.

[@vampire9545]

Cellphones fit in pockets

[@hannahdavis5725]

Story 2: Op digs himself deeper and deeper as the story goes on...

[@orchidoxs126]

Thing is, I'd understand if op was just scrolling on her phone, but her phone was blowing up so something was clearly wrong. Like a no phone event is fine, but things happen and things take priority. My mom in a car crash takes priority.

[@PinkOwl31]

Story 2: He is a homeless bum. Maybe he should have let her have her five minutes of alone time if he needed to stay on her good side in order to not sleep on a bench in the park. Im so glad she is rid of that bum. His desperation was escalating. She is lucky to have a brother that seems to have helped ensure her safety. Hope OP finds his local library so that he can update us though! 😁

[@dopaminedrought395]

Story 2: WHAT DID I JUST LISTEN TO They've been together only a few months, he violated the lease on his old place and got kicked out without his belongings (I'm assuming he did damage to the place, or smoked inside, or something similar), he never takes accountability for that or even says what it is, then towards his gf... he doesn't talk to her about this, just passive aggressively inconveniences her morning routine, then blows up at her with a cheating accusation and he's shocked she wants him out of her house??? A house where he does not pay anything? He knows the neighbors would side with the gf and he has no right to be there. He has no empathy to her grief and thinks their fight was over coffee, not over his disgusting creepy behavior? His overall conclusion after this was that he should have secretely recorded her????? I can't believe people like this exist. He's such a scumbag omg

[@crownvetch92]

He’s just like my ex

[@dodiekoehler]

Girl better stand strong with her brother and kick this Loser to the curb!

[@spoopysauce2456]

His crazy “woe is me” story reminds me a lot of my ex.

[@thefortnitemum]

Sadly my ex best friend was exactly like this, borrowed money then didn't pay a huge part back, wouldn't give my key back because they might "use it" yet they weren't talking to me any more after an argument where they blamed me for everything wrong with our friendship. They made some one attempting to end their life all about them and how they were angry they didn't save the person and how dare it be some one else who stopped them. They've now gone on to sexually harass a girl and laugh and boast how i blocked them because i couldn't take their criticism (them telling me to stop posting quotes on my social media and telling me to stfu no one cares. Totally criticism) after stalking me. But yea it's apparently my fault 👀

[@Germania72]

Yep. I was confused until he wrote about being homeless and that he was kicked off his old place. Plus, they've been together for a few months. This was such a weird story.

[@sianchild]

Story 2 - even without the fact she's talking to her dead father, she deserves to have some time to herself each day. This guy didn't respect her boundaries at all!

[@Cosmiccrying]

Right! Like Why is it that when someone wants to do something alone or does something alone a lot of people immediately resort to ‘they’re cheating’ like no, people are allowed to do things alone. It reminds me of the staff that would always follow me around in fourth grade because I wasn’t trusted alone. Sounds so gross and Not letting your partner have any privacy is SO toxic IMO

[@stephjovi]

I do get being curious. She's taking to someone every morning. But that's something to gently eventually bring up. Like hey I got up and heard you talking to someone. I'm so sorry I know it's not of my business but curiousity is killing me. Who are you talking to every single morning in secret? But the idea of hiding a camera, bullying her accusing her. And than of course things escalate and it turns out he just needed a free place to stay and a laptop to work with. Good thing she has a big brother. Being the one who posts this as if he was the victim, feels so fake. But would anyone really make that effort with all the updates?

[@vanzy01]

💯👍🏿

[@anwarpine6797]

Story 1 - did her so called ‘best friend’ even ask if her mom was okay? This is not a friend. Story 2 - this guy is a creep. It isn’t okay to be homeless for him, but he is cool with the actual homeowner being displaced from her home? He seemingly doesn’t have anyone to help him - that is very telling.

[@phoenixfire8978]

Story 2: I have a quiet morning ritual with my morning coffee (Autism Spectrum) and I need my quiet, alone time in order to manage my anxiety. I would NEVER tolerate anyone who felt like they were entitled to my private time. This guy honestly terrifies me. I’m glad his GF has a brother to help her get rid of her ex boyfriend.

[@JoC-mp6sf]

I’m not on the spectrum but I need my quiet time with my coffee in the morning. It’s good for my mental health and everyone else safety.

[@bunnyslippers191]

@@JoC-mp6sf I honestly thought she was probably either praying, meditating/doing EFT tapping, or talking to her mom/dad/sister/brother every morning as part of her little start her day ritual. When OP got indignant and said he had been with her 24/7 for two whole weeks I thought to myself, "OMG, no wonder she's going into her office and locking the door! She needs 15 minutes away from this weirdo just to keep her sanity so she doesn't kill him!" That's my version of Hell, tbh, having to be around someone 24/7/365. Hell, there are times I go out just to be by myself without having to be around my cat. I adore the little shit, but he can be pretty demanding and sometimes I just want to be alone with my cup of coffee without even the furry one so there I am at 7 am sitting on my front porch drinking coffee with my coat over my nightgown, my warmest slippers on my feet,knitted cap on my head, and fingerless mitts on my hands listening to the quiet. Bliss!

[@thehawkseye3412]

Fact: OP has been with her only for a few months. He apparently had a trouble( what kind exactly) with his landlord and moved in with the girl. She let him move in - probably just to be nice, seeing they have been together for a short time only. He is using her laptop, living for free and then accused her of cheating. I fully support the brother. OP just wants a chance to manipulate the girl in to letting him keep exploiting her.

[@freudianslip2010]

I like downtime for myself in the morning. My husband usually leaves before me and comes home first. So he gets alone time before I get home. On days when he goes in late or has the day off, I don’t get my routine in. It is fine once in awhile, but if he had a change of schedule and was there every morning, I would have to have a conversation with him about me needing my space before work.

[@user-blob]

Same here 😊

[@MangaGirl232]

With friends like OP's in story one, who needs enemies. My word what a horrible person!

[@fakelu8576]

Exactly, like, even the most selfish and self-centered person in my friend group would never act like that.

[@PrincessQ-fj9ly]

My thoughts exactly! I'm so happy OP got rid of her fake friend. In a strange way, I think OP's mother and sister saved OP from a toxic friendship.

[@RuminatingRaptor]

S2: the ballad of the hobosexual. ETA: so Creepshow’s stuff is locked up and inaccessible, he doesn’t have a laptop, but he just so happens to have a camera on him, that’s small enough to put in her office, to spy on her? That right there is a nut job. I hope she got away from him.

[@Cel3ere5]

Story 2: "I need my laptop" *Streamer* "Most of my money is tied up in deals" *NFTS* Yeah, we see you, dude.

[@MarkNarrations]

Well hello there

[@cupocatty]

Good morning! 🌤

[@dopaminedrought395]

Evening, Mark, hope you're having a good week! Thanks for the consistent uploads. I listen to them when I eat or do stuff around the house

[@rylashadow18]

Good day Mark. I hope it's going excellently.

[@kieramaccourt8717]

[@335chr]

Story 2 what is funny is he legitimately believes he actually used his words when he didn't

[@Nortarachanges]

Comments: explain yourself and your feelings OP: WHO ARE YOU CHEATING ON ME WITH?????

[@wildfyah]

At all!!

[@dorianleakey]

its interesting how badly he comes across, because i suspect she is more similar to him than he shows, because she could see he was overly concerned about her morning routine and was deeply insecure about it, but never said anything, just took the coffee and locked herself away from him. I am not defending him, more commenting on how someone so blatantly awful could attract a partner, because he found someone else with a different set of problems who would put up with them

[@swearimnotarobot3746]

@@dorianleakeyI’m guessing she just wanted space in the morning and did communicate that. But he kept pushing because he also needed to know why she would ever need personal time.

[@LoveK1]

@@dorianleakeysome people just don’t want someone all up in their face first thing in the morning.

[@Whistlesonthewind]

I can’t help but think OP in story 2 is the problem. That father thing was probably the issue that broke the camels back.

[@natlisan]

The "Best Friend" story, What if the mom had died in the accident?! She would have said how dare your mom pick "MY DAY" to die!!! Thank God this situation opened your eyes OP!!!

[@sunnykitten815]

Story 2. Maybe it's a therapy appointment? Or she wants to talk to other people without you being in her life fully. Or maybe she is too cooped up with you.

[@Jrskeetpro]

Dude is an asshole, but don’t you think it would be better to tell him those reasons? Like dude, I have therapy, leave me aloneeeee.

[@sunnykitten815]

@@Jrskeetpro my husband was wondering who I was talking to in the bathroom. I was talking shit about him and our kids. He asked and I told him it was something private for me to talk about my feelings. He didn't push. He realized it was something I needed and it was an actual therapy appointment. I didn't need to tell him it was important for him to know

[@carolinaazevedo2088]

Story 2: i love quiet mornings, specially living with my boufriend and working from home. We need time apart too. He sounds controlling and unbearing

[@carolinaazevedo2088]

Honestly the landlord cant stop him from getting his stuff. That is 100% a lie.

[@agentzapdos4960]

@@carolinaazevedo2088 Legally you're right, but OP can't afford a lawyer because he threw away his meal ticket from his own insecurity. Even if she was cheating, it would be because he's not good enough for her. Any guy that thinks they might be cheated on deserves to be.

[@Nathan_Bookwurm]

But he also said he broke the lease, and we know he "invested" all his money so he has like zero cash. We don't know how much money he owes the old landlord. My assumption is: more than his stuff is worth.

[@Paul_pp]

When I wake up I don't want to say a single word to anyone. He would drive me crazy and is obnoxious

[@shadowkissed2370]

He sounds unbearing because he was wondering who his girlfriend was talking intimately and lovingly on the phone to, while hiding off somewhere else in the house to do it?

[@chb5628]

Any friend that cares so little about my family is no real friend. I hope she gets a hard reality check.

[@TopazFire15]

Story 2: if OP were a decent human being capable of rational communication, he could’ve sat gf down and said, “look, I’m feeling really insecure about your conversations. I’m so worried it’s with another guy and you’re cheating on me. Please give me some reassurance you’re not.” And she probably would’ve told him it’s her deceased dad without ruining the trust.

[@fallingawayfromthenorm]

Story 2 - OP is a mooch who is majorly insecure, hostile, boundary stomping, and a “good guy”. His ex’s brother is protecting her from this guy who thinks he can force her into staying with him and won’t leave a house he’s just squatting in at this point. Where are friends when he needs temporary housing while he figures stuff out? Is it possible he’s such an unpleasant, ungrateful, leech that he’s driven off everyone who could have possible been a part of his support network? Probably.

[@davidlionheart2438]

The GF did everything possible to make it look like she was cheating, yet out of pure misandry OP has to be the AH. Typical.

[@fallingawayfromthenorm]

@@davidlionheart2438 Did you miss how he isn’t contributing to anything, didn’t just have a convo and screamed in her face, is now considering harassing her using her work contact info, and refusing to leave her house that she owns? He refuses to let her end the relationship when it’s clear she doesn’t want to be with him anymore. People are allowed to leave a relationship. He’s not some upstanding dude to defend.

[@asherikamichaela8425]

​@@davidlionheart2438Are you spamming the same comment, dude? I literally just replied to you.

[@sister_bertrille911]

@@fallingawayfromthenorm Yes, he missed all that. @davidlionheart2438 is either the crappy boyfriend or sees anything a woman does to protect herself as misandry.

[@sigisig3941]

@@asherikamichaela8425OMG he really does xD maybe he is OP. this is so funny. I saw the coment and your reply.

[@katiekates4416]

It amazes me how wrong someone can be and they just keep digging

[@sharyebethancourt3660]

Listening to OP downplay his girlfriend’s feelings and try so hard to make the brother seem like the villain is insane. And he didn’t even his words, he blew up. He sounded so unhinged by the end.

[@DragonbornMike-ym2er]

Story 1: When you find yourself saying you don't want to lose a friend over something. You also have to ask if that friend is willing to lose you over it. Aside from that, expecting people to cut off the whole world for a day just isn't reasonable. Emergencies like this or even worse can happen at any point in life. Imagine how this would've gone if OP did fully follow the rule, and the accident was much worse.

[@DragonTatooToo]

Story 2: Nobody is making OP homeless. His own actions made him homeless. He is a deadbeat and girlfriend is unable to talk to him because he only wants his way, stay there for free.

[@agentzapdos4960]

Well he's dead now, so it doesn't matter anymore.

[@DragonTatooToo]

@@agentzapdos4960 He was working on being homeless before gf met him. He didn't mend that bridge and weaseled his way into her home after knowing her only 2 months. She could not get him to leave or contribute for the 2 weeks he was in her home. She was afraid of him and made like everything was okay because she was afraid of him. Every morning she waited for him to leave the house so she and her brother could get him out. So he stopped leaving the house.

[@owl7072]

Story 1: "That's not an excuse!" Okay but it is, because if someone is repeatedly blowing up your phone trying to get ahold of you, you're gonna assume it's an emergency which it _was._ I get she had a rule/theme, but your rule/theme is not to be put before an emergency. She sounds hella entitled to hear that there was an emergency and instead of understanding, she had a fit and got mad about her little rule being broken and even when as far as to cuss out Op for it. "It's not something worth ending a years long friendship over" Doing what you did isn't, but the fact that she's willing to cuss you out and berate you over it _is_ something worth ending a friendship over. Edit: Definitely someone worth dropping. The nerve to speak that way then try to continuously reach out after they block you. I guess she's not used to someone actually following through on consequences 🙄

[@carlrood4457]

So I guess if someone had a heart attack on the dance floor the bride would have flipped out if someone called an ambulance.

[@ce731]

Last story -- the guy is a creep! He only wants her back for a free place to live.

[@agentzapdos4960]

*was *wanted He's dead now. The streets claimed him, which is good because it means she is safe.

[@jinentwistle4964]

well that went from suspicious to call the cops in record time

[@icelliana4684]

Story 2: I was originally gonna say NTA. But the update kinda threw me. She was kicking him out, and her brother hates him, and her brother is just "being a d*ck". They've been together a few months. A dispute with the landlord. It sounds like there was way more happening behind the scenes. She obviously doesn't have to tell him what she is doing in the mornings if she's not doing anything wrong, and she wasn't. Maybe I'm just out of the loop on this stuff, because I wouldn't think that she would react like this. But it's starting to seem like more 'nail in the coffin' type response rather than just this one event ngl.

[@loganjoh1]

Story 2: yikes OP definitely has a victim mentality he refuses to take any responsibility.

[@NeroTheDarklord]

Story 2: It is beyond obvious that there is more going on than the OP is willing to see. They seem like a very self-centered person absolutely lacking any ability to self-reflect. Typical. It is always everybody else's fault your life is shit. Never your own.

[@HORIZON00236]

Agreed I want to hear the girls side of the story

[@LukiaChan08]

Agreed, the fact that later he describes this as a disagreement over "coffee" and states how the ex is confusing other issues into one - tells me that there is more to it and it's a pattern of behaviour.

[@stephjovi]

​@@HORIZON00236no need. With everything op posted about, having trouble with his landlord so he loves full time at the place of a fiel he's known for a few months, works with her laptop, doesn't have any friends or family who could take him in. It's obvious that he's a freeloading a hole and her brother is her hero for protecting him. If anything I wanna hear the brothers side of the story

[@mztweety1374]

I lost my mother in July so no way in hell are you going to tell me not to answer the phone when it could be my mother.

[@rhaenfals7661]

Story 2 is such a scumbag I'm so glad the gf's brother is there to stand up for her! OP is used to being manipulative, he kept saying he was so convinced she'd come around to his side if only he could talk to her.

[@LaineyBug2020]

Story 2- OP out here trying to convince everyone he's a good guy when they can see his post history and he just keeps saying it was about coffee and he only talks about getting through to her so he won't be homeless. He's having trouble with his lease because the landlord was mean. The brother doesn't like him because he knows the landlord. She's only mad at him because her brother is whispering in her ear. He doesn't have any money because it's all tied up in deals. He yelled at his girlfriend and accused her of cheating because reddit told him to use his words instead of record her in secret. Nothing is ever his fault and everything is always happening to him because everyone is out to get him. Yeah dude, you're a real winner!

[@pinkiepower1968]

The more the second OP posted, the worse and worse he seemed. I hope we someday get a post from the brother's pov to show the full story!

[@tully6648]

Story 2: When OP's relationship advice post started with "My girlfriend and me had an argument last week over coffee of all things," that's when I knew we really, really could not trust his narrative in any given post. I knew I didn't like him from the way things were worded in his first post, but that really did it for me.

[@Hope_this_is_just_a_dream1994]

Story 2: YTA, she was grieving, and OP is so self centered and clingy. I hope she leaves him. The brother doesn't have to twist their words, he is doing a bang up job of doing that himself. The Brother isn't trying to keep them apart, he is protecting his sister from a scumbag. He's just trying to save a place to live. So now he is manipulating her via her job. Oh jeez, this keeps getting worse, this dude is too stupid to be a narcissist, but he does have some narcissistic qualities.

[@Jen321able]

Story 2, so he met her a few months ago, moved into her house, pays for nothing, isn't allowed back into his okd apartment, all his money is "tied up in other things" and he spends so much time with this woman that she cant even be alone for 20 mins in the morning. His biggest issue is being made to leave her house. He doesnt give a shit about the relationship, he just needs a place to stay. The camera idea and taking her coffee already make him sound manipulative and controlling. Thank god she got fed up and her brother has her back.

[@kieramaccourt8717]

Story 2: What a narcissist. Playing the victim in everything that's wrong with his life. Hey, if everyone is shutting you out--maybe it's a you problem.

[@coreymartin6486]

Story 2- he sounds unhinged and completely unable to accept accountability.

[@star3catcherSEQUEL]

Story 2: The fact that OP lied by omission about the fight with his GF being "over coffee" to make her seem less reasonable and him continually portraying her as having no will or agency of her own in her decision not to talk to him, telling himself that this is all the brother's fault for "keeping them apart," tells me all I need to know about OP. I bet this was not the only bad incident they've had and that the one he talked about was probably worse than he described it.

[@Kirby-zp6cg]

Op: was a horrible tenant to the brother’s friend’s dad and a bad boyfriend to his sister Also Op: “I gave him no reason to hate me”

[@simonbrushes]

Story 2’s OP is a psychopath. His ex needs to get a restraining order. Good thing her brother protected her.

[@beccaf262]

“I just need to make her listen to me” he actually typed that out without realising how it sounds…

[@salomerodriguez5145]

Not the friend trying to contact OP after they got blocked 😂😂😂

[@katbird5872]

Story 2 OP gives me the ick

[@Azulakayes]

Story 2: OP messed up his own life. Knowing he had no home, no laptop, no money and his girlfriend was paying for everything, he went on ahead to invade her space everyday and accuse her of cheating while he could have just asked, " I heard you talking in the morning, were you talking with someone?" Ooommph 😂

[@agentzapdos4960]

Doesn't matter anymore. As soon as his account went silent, that was proof enough that the streets claimed him and he's no longer alive. Public libraries have internet.

[@tkb5726]

Story 2 - I don’t understand people like OP. Even when I was listening to it the first time something felt very off. I wasn’t concerned about OP getting cheated on - I was concerned something was going on with the girlfriend. ESPECIALLY when he mentioned she started doing it after her dad died

[@MsMookalate]

13:00 she was talking to her father in the morning. My ex kept his mom phone on to call her. My stepdad did this with my mom too before he died, too.

[@sophdog2564]

That second guy was trying so hard to convince everyone he wasn't a controlling asshole to the gf. But clearly he was. I hope she can get her morning ritual back

[@coreymartin6486]

Life-long friendships dont always mean good friendships.

[@HaleyJo1992]

Story 2: I was with OP at first, her behavior would have made me a bit nervous too. But using her job to talk to her?! And if bro hates him there must be much more we don't know

[@Nathan_Bookwurm]

He gives really creepy vibes. The whole world is against him; lost his stuff in his old house, broke the lease, keeps wanting to use things against GF to get what he wants, doesn't contribute to anything yet has no money cuz his money is "invested." So he uses all GF's stuff in a few months old relationship??? Yet, everyone is at fault except him. Yea no, this is so creepy. Good for the gf to let her brother handle it all.

[@agentzapdos4960]

It's okay, now she's safe. OP is dead from being homeless, which is relief since it saves the brother from having to go to prison for murder.

[@dopaminedrought395]

@@Nathan_Bookwurm right? and his conclusion was that he should've secretely recorded her to avoid this fallout? I hope she gets a restraining order

[@jenniferkay9789]

All his money is tied up in "deals"? I won't ask what kind of deals, but I'm going out on a limb, and say probably not legal!

[@RockinTheBassGuitar]

Yeah, at first I was leaning that everyone was at fault. I mean, it was really suspicious, and the GF could have used a million excuses from meditating, affirmations, prayer whatever to be alone in the mornings... Then the OP turned into a psycho.

[@simac8396]

Story 2: he, must have done something rotten if his previous landlord won't even let him back on the property to collect his belongings...this goes beyond just" breaking a lease ".

[@owl7072]

I literally just woke up and was looking for something to listen to while getting breakfast 🤭

[@MarkNarrations]

Perfect timing, love to see it :)

[@owl7072]

@@MarkNarrations ✨️💙

[@broken_queer_but_fighting8589]

🧇🧇💜💜🤗🤗

[@sharifaa.8887]

Listening to this while having dinner😊

[@teenalot1235]

Story 1: The Entitlement 😮. The friend is trash. Story 2: The delusion 😮. Crazy work.

[@streamerssaymyname]

Story 2 OP is a poor narcissist, he started living with his girlfriend for weeks out of kindness due to his own stupidity, decides that all her attention needs to be on him whenever he is home and then pulls the most cowardly standoff to get what he wants. Even thinks about messing with her work devices in order to get her to talk to him. Constantly sure he could talk his way out of this, he knows he can manipulate her and hates that her brother is keeping him from getting to her. Dude is a loser with a lucky charisma roll. "Her brother swore at me! He is a bad guy, not me!"

[@politereminder6284]

More likely Borderline. Narcissists are way smoother than that.

[@krishnavyas313]

​@@politereminder6284 not all narcissist are smooth

[@errantwinds-up8uu]

Hey Mark, just wanted to say how much I appreciate your videos every day!

[@KarinWaffle]

Loving these new upload times! just about to finish work so I can listen to these soon 🖤 Hope everyone is doing well

[@MarkNarrations]

Yeah been trying out a couple of diff times, difficult to find the perfect time for all time zones :)

[@KarinWaffle]

@@MarkNarrations don't put too much pressure on yourself, you can't please everyone plus it needs to suit your life too we are all just grateful for one or two videos a day

[@cycloneriot]

Story 2: Wow it’s not often that the toxic person makes the post and we can see what goes through their heads

[@krissylb2199]

Story 2- OP is so many red flags it’s unreal.

[@andie8989]

story 2: the OP gave off red flags for me the moment he didn’t respect her boundaries. you are living in HER house rent-free after only a FEW MONTHS together and yet you cannot allow her mornings by herself whilst she (presumably) adapts to an unpredicted routine change in her house which she previously inhabited alone. the OP is only worried about losing his very nice living arrangements and continued to not respect her boundaries by trying to contact her all the time.

[@valgardener7656]

Story 2: Let's see: He wants to install secret cameras just because he doesn't know everything about his girlfriend of a few months. He sists beside her during her morning alone time after he knows how much she hates it. That bullying move with the coffee mug. Describing what he did as "an argument over coffee" and no big deal. This is the kind of guy who is unrelentingly awful even in his own version of the story, and a thousand times worse when we get the other perspective.

[@RaspberryHugs]

Story 2: The way he tried to spin it in that other thread. She left because they had an argument that was just about coffee. Her brother is a bully who just doesn't like him, he's poisoning her against him and is trying to keep them apart. His landlord won't let him collect his things purely because he broke his lease.

[@robertmerrill4460]

Story 2- it keeps on getting worse and worse, i was on the op side because I would be curious too if my girlfriend was doing the same thing, but he went about this in the worse way possible

[@jackspring7709]

Story 2: Oh man. the fact that the 'phonecalls were early in the morning at a specific time and not in the evening or night time showed she wasn't up to anything nefarious. I thought maybe it was therapy or a close family member: I guess i wasn't far wrong.

[@ondank]

Story 2 : she spends 20 minutes a day on the phone and he spend 24/7 with her. So he knows she isnt cheating. Categorically. This isnt emotionally cheating territory. The update is horrifying.

[@YellaBellaReno]

When he said, “What is she getting from another relationship when I am with her 24/7 the last two weeks?” That sent me. Absolutely delusional thinking. I haven’t even made it to the update yet. Looks like I should brace myself, huh? 😂

[@retroMartin]

​@@YellaBellaRenomy thought was she was maintaining a second relationship that she had before he came to spend so much time home. Half the cheating stories on reddit display her behaviour before it was unveiled. She definetly is too immature for a cohabit relationship at this point, should probably take time off dating and heal, and train on communications with a future partner. She just up and left too. Again, no communications. Mustve been extremely frustrating for the man.

[@YellaBellaReno]

@@retroMartin Your user name suits you. When were you born? 1892? 1926? Can’t be a day past 1948.

[@tuesdayriot]

For the last story- he barely talks about being worried his girlfriend is going to break up with him and he's scared to lose her. He's just scared to lose her apartment. Dump him.

[@kristelneedtoknow3207]

Story 2 if I had a friend or family member who was with a leech that brought nothing to the relationship and constantly took I would do everything I could do to get them to see the light. Like dude you are a user. You're sweet ride is over. He needs to stop leeching on his gf of a couple of months and learn to stand on his own.

[@bigrdmp]

That one with the girlfriend making calls in the morning is crazy. Like, everyone is on the womsn's side because you know the full story now. But the boyfriend wakes up, goes to get coffee with the girlfriend, and she ignores him and goes into another room and locks the door. That's not okay. She's talking to someone on the other side of the door, clearly trying to hide it. That's not okay. When OP asked who it was, she refused to tell him. If he did nothing, people would call him an idiot and that she's cheating on him. They're both in the wrong here

[@Kouu17]

Story 2: So this guy is going to be homeless and doesn’t have any friends, family, close coworkers or old classmates that can take him in for a little bit? There’s something up with this guy; other than his paranoid behavior.

[@s4rcelle]

Or he's already exhausted his other options by being so insufferable 😂

[@iamthebadwolf7296]

Story 1: “I might just up and leave again if one of my family gets hurt”, the only answer to this “yes, of course I will up and leave if my family gets hurt, my family means more to me than a friend’s party. You act like that’s wrong? But I put my family first, and quite frankly, if you didn’t leave my wedding if your mom got hurt I’d think you were a sociopath.”

[@Akichan07]

ALL HAIL MARK OUR SUPREME WAFFLELORD!!! AND PRINCESS POPPY!

[@KarinWaffle]

This is my favourite comment 😂🖤

[@Icalasari]

Story 2 is amazing in the complete inability to see reality

[@teamaang7915]

Yup. Bride is an a grade godgeral Banker

[@latestsubject3212]

Op: “ my best friend is usually understanding..” a minute later… lists times she hasn’t always been understanding

[@TeacupHeart]

Story 2: in the original post, I noticed he's staying over at Her place and working from home at Her place, and he himself says he's been with her 24/7 the past 2 weeks. That would drive me insane, I need my personal time and space, a quiet coffee by Herself is more than understandable. All I'm hearing is he's smothering her and encroaching on her space and privacy, then the updates come, and he's a controlling mooch, who hasn't been paying rent, but has been working, and is whining he'll be homeless. Motels exist and you have money. Also you're 32 years old mooching off a 26 year old? Very predatory, I'd call the cops.

[@taurus3alexis]

I love quiet time. GOD THAT GUY IS SCARY AND GOOFY.