I Came Out to My Father As Lesbian | Can Ask Meh?

When Claire (they/them) came out to their dad, he accepted them without hesitation. Against hurtful & insensitive comments from people around them, Christopher stood by Claire and never once stopped defending them. Hear Christopher & Claire share their journey.
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Note: Claire’s pronouns are they/them, but they’re comfortable with their family referring to them with she/her pronouns. Though Christopher may not always get them right, he’s trying his best and learning ❤️ Thank you to the Pink Dot SG team for connecting us to Claire & Christopher. Head to kzbin.info/www/bejne/pGSqlmdjhtinrJY to check out the Pink Dot 13 livestream if you missed it!

[@HengOngHuatAh]

grammatically incorrect lol

[@SuccessforLifester]

Still don't know how to use. Want me to fail my English exam?

[@zexiniooo]

First time i’ve heard people wanting to be referred to as they/them, that sounds so awkward

[@mairaalisha8443]

@@HengOngHuatAh no its correct. when you refer to people w/o knowing their gender/pronouns you would say eg. theres a poster about someone who lost *their* dog. *they* must be really worried. its pretty normal but when its conciously used to refer to people whose pronouns are specifically they/them, people tend to think its grammatically wrong and weird just as the other comments say.

[@HengOngHuatAh]

@@mairaalisha8443 I would say someone lost his dog. Male pronouns are used by default in the context you raised. They/them is used when referring to a family losing their dog.

[@jjrmmrrja4535]

Dad looks strict and a little bit scary. But it turns out, he has a soft heart for his children.

[@laiyinquan8355]

That's why we must know everyone has layers like an onion. He may have the scariest outermost shell, but as you peel that out, it may become soft.

[@pinkribbon1007]

what a rare gem of a father

[@mvtildvz]

“what can I say? I love you so much” WHO’S CUTTING ONIONS?!?!!?

[@victorvictor4235]

Love overcomes everything

[@KamiKaze43v3r]

when he said that i just started bawling... he showed his love through both words and actions, they are both blessed.

[@Violet-nh9xi]

Watching this is public was a bad idea😭😭😭

[@horsepower8886]

I lost it when her dad said, " what can i say, I love you so much...that's the reason i accept you as who you are".

[@8krach]

Really glad to see a father sticking out for his daughter & accepting who she is/wants to be.

[@yawnxxn]

the vid says they go by they/them 🏃‍♂️💨

[@Remomba]

Are they supporting a disorda??

[@deborahpoh4729]

@@Remomba yo why wld u say that? Ive seen you comment before and hey just because you think that way doesnt mean others do too. If you don’t support it then why watch this video? If its not biblically right or wtv then so be it? Not everyone follows ur religion so dont use tgat as a reason to hate on other people

[@hotline333]

Your father, christopher is a beautiful soul.

[@eg1197]

Relationship between Claire and Christopher is beautiful. And Claire couldn't ask for a more loving and accepting father. I knew this guy many years ago, he was so tormented because his parents weren't embrace for who he is. He was so despondent, to this day, I hope he's doing ok and alive. Christopher thank you, Claire thank you, for sharing your story. Loving ❤ people as they are is being a decent person .

[@lynwarhol]

when he said "leave it to me. i will know how to bring this up." omg T_T

[@sgmei]

Grateful for parents like Christopher uncle. My dad would never. He said in my face before "girls are useless" and he only has eyes for his son. No matter how hard I tried, no use. I'm lucky at least I have my mum. I hope in my next life I get to meet parents with hearts as big as Christopher uncle.

[@LexicroftAlpha]

"Girl are useless" Told by a clueless man who born from woman womb I hope you can find happiness in life, because there are many kind of happiness to get, out there

[@LexicroftAlpha]

Also Boy CAN be useless too Clueless person thinks : What makes me happy? Why my life have to suffer? Was it victory, was it defeat? In the end, they still doesn't know what makes them happy, because their expectation doesn't match reality.

[@sweetcandysugaarmy8480]

Girls are useless? Your Dad ought to be ashamed of himself. Even Mao Zedong, a dictator and tyrant in the eyes of many, once famously said :"Women hold up half the sky.", which means: male or female, all genders are equal. I hope that you are living a happy life now. 💖

[@sgmei]

@@LexicroftAlpha You're right, I always question myself "does he not know that he was born out of a woman?" oh, wait, then I remembered that his mum aka my grandmother is also the type that only feel that boys matter and girls don't, the fact that she managed to give birth to 5 sons. I just try and learn it the tough way, and don't wanna become people like them. I'm glad that the younger generation doesn't follow their footsteps in the same thoughts.

[@sgmei]

@touchdownbattle Yes, I'm kind of tired when I share my story to people and they'll be like "you can try educating them" because you would understand it won't work. They are stubborn and have been stuck with the mindset, so it's fine. I will not force them to believe in what they won't, they should believe it on their own will. As long as the younger generation doesn't walk in the same path, I'm very glad. I've learn to just not engage :D it gives me peace honestly.

[@crablrone]

i would think most parents who are unacceptable over children being lgbt is because they think this is a disgrace to their family. The way the father defend her when the uncle comment about her boyish hair, is really a good example to tell those close-minded relatives to mind their own business. Just like asking people why don't get married or have kids.

[@Remomba]

No, it’s because it’s not biblically right

[@orangeworm]

@@Remomba cry about it

[@Remomba]

@@orangeworm you’re crying already ouch

[@LexicroftAlpha]

I don't understand why people preach They just need to mind their own bussiness because who enjoy heaven if their "teachings" was right? Themselves Because nobody can prove which teachings was right because nobody came back from heaven and tell this religion or teachings is the right one.

[@brokewizone6535]

@@Remomba being rude isnt biblically right either though? also not everyone is a christian

[@Its_a_me_WSA]

no one chose their disposition, gender or sexual preferences. What is more important is that they live decent, honest lives as best they can and be contributing members to society

[@kittycake1294]

Yes! What’s matter they’re a good person.

[@gp5675]

"I love my children very much." Not just lip service. We need more parents like him.

[@gilian89]

The assurance that he gave to his daughters are so reassuring 😊

[@robinr3666]

The only thing that stopped me from ugly crying was a stupid Milo ad.

[@myblacklife6]

Lol

[@novicetim6138]

Damn I didn't expect to shed a tear or two watching this. It's so nice to see a progressive and accepting father at that kind of age. The world would be a better place if more parents were like him. Happy pride month everyone, be proud!

[@dubbie89ify]

Kudos to Christopher. He may look strict but he is actually a very very good man and a super dad. He not only tells his children that he loves them, he truly accepts them and protects them. 🤧🤧🤧

[@iamroyroyful]

The papa got an alpha vibe. However, protective over her daughter. 💪💪💪 Father's love.

[@beckham48]

She could have choose the easier route out by having long hair but despite of all others criticism she choose to be true to herself that act itself is a courage act

[@benchua7100]

yeah very courageous to purposely be ugly

[@alecrosewell6959]

@@benchua7100 what? So if men have long hair they purposely be ugly?

[@animeargonaut3127]

@@benchua7100 Very courageous of you to use your anonymity to degrade others for no reason

[@phoebelimm]

@@benchua7100 They didn't cut their hair to look good for you in the first place, why so triggered

[@benchua7100]

@@animeargonaut3127 very courageous of you to be a keyboard white knight

[@LT-qt5xj]

shout out to my fellow singaporean closeted queers - the fear is real and it's also okay not to tell your parents if you don't feel safe/ready. but if it helps, you're not alone. we're in this together xx

[@padmeboudreau3004]

these honest conversations are so importent, their relationship is so precious

[@daisybb8148]

I salute this father. He truly honestly loves his daughter his children. Yes, be true to ones gender. More Sporean fathers and parents should be like this man. We should learn from him. God bless him 💕

[@user-pq8lm4fh9g]

the child goes by THEY THEM PRONOUNS

[@0001Mxrcel]

this was heartwarming to see, especially in a country where lgbtq is not accepted by many, where some get bullied to leave the school. this warms my heart to know we still have a chance

[@steffitan8926]

I'm really really blessed to also have a father like Christopher, told me exactly the same thing and now I'm missing him so much :'(

[@tomryann86]

As a singaporean gay muslim i wish that my parents could accept me of who i am. Unfortunately i still am couldn’t come out, still in the closet cause i’m still living in her house afraid to get chased out if i ever come out. I hope someday i could get a affordable rental room and leave that horrible place soon

[@MsEverAfterings]

Take care man, stay strong!

[@Oreo-vh7rk]

As someone who's not straight and from a muslim family as well, I know how much that really sucks. Keep moving forward man ✊

[@englishmuffin2893]

Your not alone too same but I'm from a Christian family I love my parents but I know they won't accept me for being gay so I keep a low profile and study school hope to do well and moved aboard

[@pp33448]

It takes a lot of courage to tell your parents but it takes even more to take a video of it! Good job!

[@Jae-lg6nv]

He said, "Daddy's here to protect you." ♥ I replayed it and acted like it was said to me.

[@krizdeep]

I wish all dad can learn something from this man ....

[@weezersg]

Accepting parents…..really love and care for their children. Those that reject……..only care about themselves and what others(society) thinks.

[@outerspace7]

I teared alot at the last question segment. Dad has such a beautiful soul and the love for his children is so pure and unconditional. I am so touched.

[@nadhirahhan7676]

Wow...Such a beautiful, strong and unconditional relationship between a father and his daughter. Love this so much!

[@lovedblissed]

Love is accepting, unconditional. Thank you for this video, we DO have families that loves truly.

[@cr899]

Thank you Claire and dad for sharing your story. Its full of love :)

[@nadiabrook7871]

Well done, Christopher, for being a BRILLIANT dad!! XXXX

[@yipeyaya]

There was a year that I had my hair cut as short as Claire and people would ask why I cut so short and mom would defend me saying “fashion la”. Love my mom

[@raymondwoo2648]

Bravo for this very wonderful, very loving Dad! God loves everyone! God bless Claire & Christopher & all their family! 🙏🙏

[@shahvei]

Freaking good Father 👍🏻 so lucky to have him as your Dad.

[@wenwuipu5831]

I agree with your father, be happy, be you. The worst thing in life is always to live according what is expected of you as being "correct".. have a good life claire.🥳

[@viet862]

It is normal that all parents want to look out for their children happiness and protect them at all cost. Definition of happiness depend on the understanding of each parent.

[@tamalim7886]

So so blessed to have such a daddy

[@rachelkohwoonsim7445]

they are my classmate in poly and i think it's really cool that they and their father are so brave to share this with us. i wish them well

[@tngchinghwa]

quick, someone take a leveling meter and put on top of uncle's hair

[@ayulene]

My favourite OGS video for sure.

[@sher2942]

Claire is very blessed to have a father who protects her; mine has never done so.

[@yao9598]

omg this video is so beautiful!

[@marcashleyde9800]

Awesome dad and family. 🙏

[@nancylie9431]

Protect your family to the max, they really precious🥰🥰🥰

[@zgang761]

That's a great father right there

[@leigh7816]

as someone who isn't out to my my fam yet this makes me so happy for them and hopeful that maybe one day my fam will accept me too 💓

[@liztan3457]

What a wonderful Dad! The love he has for his child is so much greater than anything else....

[@TheLetyougo]

You been bless to have a lovely , more understanding father. He's so supportive. Take care fam

[@user-tq7it9pu2g]

Every father should be like this.

[@bchpls24]

my dad will flip table if he knows. you're lucky to have uncle as your dad. rather than living in constant fear of being ousted

[@sharontham11116]

Be happy with who you want to be,you are very blessed to have a very understanding father!!

[@SoonGii]

What a lovely relationship between the two!

[@spanishjo4282]

i award you the best charismatic stylish father 2021!

[@turtlegeneral]

Amazing - every lgbt child needs a father like this!!!!

[@entertainment1443]

What a wonderful and logical parent 😍😍😍😍😍.

[@lavenderandwoods7804]

Really proud and wise what claire father's do, "although they are my children, they have their responsibility"👍

[@jmeigh]

What an incredible Dad. A model parent.

[@cmccoll34]

Saw this on PinkDot yesterday and JEEZ THE WATERWORKS WAS INTENSE They have such a beautiful relationship ❤️

[@spanishjo4282]

The most importantly is your family are happy!

[@redditstuff5535]

"I'm always a very protective father" 😭

[@LaBerry02]

he’s so supportive

[@yuucreations8569]

so touched

[@RenLuvSuju]

He can be accepting because he's exposed to the community and accept it. The second part is really important.

[@Konushku]

Christopher is a role model for unconditional love ❤️

[@jacquelinebary4168]

Claire, u hv a great father and as long as what u do dnt hurt ppl, then be youself n be proud.

[@krystalise]

Love this so much ❤️❤️❤️

[@mariafanny6238]

A wonderful and sweet Dad 🥰

[@Cyberoll]

That's amazing father & son relationship. I wish I have father like him.

[@AOTLTng]

Love is More important then everything else.

[@66695]

Dad's gold game on point.

[@jag4064]

What a great dad 🙏🏻

[@cindychiew832]

What an amazing father…well Done 👍you and your Wife have both rsised wonderful kids

[@MrZomfgwtfbbq]

Christopher is a baller. Look at that flex ready to throw down for his children.

[@calamari39]

It must be nice to have parents who are like Christopher. I don't think I can ever come out to my Viet parents/family since I know they will never accept me.

[@yvonnescully5037]

Blessings to your Father or both your Parents. Blessings to you to proceed on to a beautiful life ahead🙏🙏🌹🌹

[@areiaaphrodite]

I love this story ❤

[@melodytan5603]

they are so sweet

[@Violet-nh9xi]

What are these things tryna coming out frm my eyes😢 too wholesome

[@JL-jm7]

My respect for the father.

[@erinmok6334]

I wish to give a message to Claire. It’s awesome to feel secure and have the best daddy in the world. But be prepare. Daddy don’t be forever with us in the world. When we lost the security we will go upside down in every way. That’s happen to me. So I need to learn how to treasure the moment and accept things once my security is lost.

[@galaticallysane9773]

I didn't not expect to cry

[@kindsouls5326]

may we all embrace each other and understand our differences, being lgbtq is not something you can change, please respect that!

[@Breadca]

I am crying 😢

[@eggyolkdeli2618]

I wish i can be this cool parents in the future

[@iharu-jp]

Oh how lovely is that!🥰🥰🥰

[@doomsdaydragonsproductions2801]

_cries in non supportive parents_

[@michaelseet9320]

right there is the father of the year..

[@kayalsubramaniam4579]

Sibei touching wish my parents like him also

[@tommyliangwei3724]

Christopher 62 (1959) and Claire 24 (1997)

[@adelinelimst]

omg it’s so cute!! 😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭

[@march4ththebatmanmovie8]

omg awesome

[@nakoF1030]

who's cutting onions 😭

[@spencercavanaugh1673]

this is love bro

[@__ValentineChristella]

I’m speechless

[@toixcchicken4019]

I feel like women's body check up is like quite important. But you know, coming from a traditional mindset family, it's hard to like ask about these question. What if I feel wrong but just dk who to ask, how to find out. This has make me feel less confident. so, really hope that yk there's a sharing of where to contact or what can we do

[@karlmnz]

a good father.

[@erth2877]

The dad looks fierce, if I were to encounter u in the public, I would be in a pressure situations