I Cheated On My Partner... Now What?

[@abigailrocksyou]

The thing is, even if we are aware that cheating is bad, we still don't know the actual consequences until it's actually done. My deepest regret is that I hope these kinds of videos have been lingering around my youtube channel few years back, so I could have saved myself from the darkness. But it's all in the past, we all deserve to heal.

[@michelleangel5862]

I know of a man who could help you restore back your relationship either your ex or soulmate

[@michelleangel5862]

He was the one who helped me in restoring back my ex partner three days ago without delay

[@michelleangel5862]

Whtsaap him"**

[@michelleangel5862]

✚２３４８１４０7９９３２３

[@laurengonzalez8503]

There was a time when I used to think that checking your partner's phone was an invasion of their privacy but then I thought about it again. How can you give someone access to your private body but phones are off limits? CYBERLOGICS_ got me full access to sms, video calls, social media accounts without any trace back to me and all I can say is it changed my life

[@jissa683]

Matthew, you deserve standing ovation for this! I applaud your ability to critically assess the complexities of different sort of problems, I wonder if you got a degree in psychology or related field! I envy your amazingly structured analytical mind! Just stunning! You are the best at what you do :)

[@anetahomolova5216]

I was amazed by his calm and kind approach. :) He is the man at the right place. He explains it so well, he gave him pretty concrete advices and that is really important. Cheating is horrible, thatswhy it is touchy subject, but Matt handled it so well. :)

[@yasminerose1842]

Aneta Puskásová oh yaah its a great lesson, did you say the women and gay how present the show, i hate face there making and laughing as well pfff

[@anetahomolova5216]

yasmine rose what?

[@yasminerose1842]

i mean the two hosts who was joking on that! how do you think about theme ?

[@anetahomolova5216]

yasmine rose I have no idea what are you talking about.

[@leerae1442]

I cried so hard, feeling like for once someone truly understand and speaks my mind.. Your words are so comforting and makes me realize, this is what I want in a man.. This kind of change is what I truly want. This kind of mindset and change of attitude and approach in life, is what I want in him. And I realize now.. I'm not asking the impossible things.. I'm asking from the wrong person perhaps..

[@angellove855]

This one goes deep. Loved hearing a male on the other end and also enjoyed seeing how Matt approached dealing with a guy.

[@crystallim4809]

Thank you Matthew for showing anyone who watches this, whichever position the viewer is in in relation to this story, how to be compassionate to the wrongdoer and how to guide them back to a healthier mindset and self-care journey

[@Universum_1122]

I think woman are very intuitive, being cheated on is by far one of the worst things I've ever felt. Although, nothing in comparison to losing a loved one (passing away) I find strength in reminding myself that I've faced "real" loss & have adapted to their everyday absence. If someone can cheat on someone they say they love, it's ok to walk away from that & it is miniscule loss if it means finding someone that would never put you in such distraught mental/emotional disillusion.

[@GamerDude-vj9go]

thank you so much for this. i don’t think a lot of people realize that sometimes the people that cheat aren’t cheaters in their hearts. but it’s a a bunch of small reasons and things that don’t always relate to the relationship, at least at the surface. IF YOU CHEATED THAT DOESNT MEAN YOULL DO IT AGAIN. Work on yourself and prove it. i’m on day 3 of being caught cheating emotionally and i’m on day 3 of changing my shit and being the best man for her to come back too. (i’ll let y’all know how it goes. might be weeks, might be months, might be years)

[@holypotato6983]

Wish you luck man!

[@leaneleane6868]

And how are you? ❤

[@GamerDude-vj9go]

@@leaneleane6868 i have been sober from THC for the past 2 months. I’ve been journaling. i went to therapy. My ex and I have had civil nice phone/ft calls. she still doesn’t talk to me nor do I but on the occasion we both have stuff to say we both talk it out. We giggled like we used to when on the last call i had last week. I’m hoping for the best still…yet still expecting the worst.

[@Me_llamo_vic_arte]

What’s the update and why and how did you cheat

[@GamerDude-vj9go]

It’s been about 5 months…we are working through our problems. We have our first counseling session as a couple on Friday. She did sleep with others while we were broken up…kinda sucks because although we weren’t dating, it still hurts knowing she moved on so quickly and fucked people. I cheated but all I did was heavily flirted with a girl and it only was one night of flirting…I don’t see how it weighs out but that is why we are going to therapy…at the end of the day we are trying again :) and it makes me happy to see us fight through this together. We love each other very much and we both made some mistakes. It’s time to work harder and stronger for our future we so desire together

[@jennakenna7252]

This was nice seeing a different side of Matt. Addressing a more serious issue here u did a great job not only in advising the right things to the caller but helping him face the truth without being biased agreed with this advice good job Matt this was awesome!

[@Elizakmx]

This conversation is amazing, Kenny is brave enough to recognize his troubles but even better is willing to change his life in order to get back to his family, hope they make it work, family worth all. American society needs to put more effort in get their family values more strong. Matthew you are so wise and empatic with people there's no way of loving you as the great man you are.

[@sophieclinnick95]

💯

[@laurengonzalez8503]

There was a time when I used to think that checking your partner's phone was an invasion of their privacy but then I thought about it again. How can you give someone access to your private body but phones are off limits? CYBERLOGICS_ got me full access to sms, video calls, social media accounts without any trace back to me and all I can say is it changed my life

[@Adiscretefirm]

I hope she was strong enough to scrape that crap off the bottom of her shoes and move on. She can't count on him as a spouse or father, he is willing to throw away the future for a temporary thrill.

[@aslierdemli6623]

Matt, my own self confidence is already benefiting a lot from your work but I need to say this: you, Sir, did an admirable job talking to this man! I am proud of you and proud of knowing about you. It's truly a priviledge.

[@lynnesawyer4999]

Nicely done! I also give that gentleman credit for calling in and asking for advice. Wish him the best and hope and pray that he continues on with his sobriety.

[@SmartSula]

We wanna feel SAFE. That's really all that we want!

[@arnavrawat9864]

Then riddle me this Why do women go after bad guys who can give them thrills? There's little safety in that 😂

[@sqoishicasette]

@@arnavrawat9864 Girls* do, not women*... A woman is someone who's grown up from that "bad boys love" phase... It has got nothing do with her age, it's all about her individuality, self esteem and internal growth... A woman who's 20 might know clearly what she wants and picks a high value man, other hand a 45yo can still be going through her high school cool girl bad boy phase and dating men who cheat... 💯

[@arnavrawat9864]

@@sqoishicasette How i wish that were true. People don't grow out of liking something. They just learn how to ignore it or control themselves better. As a guy who strives to be good, it really hurts that women prefer the bad ones.

[@sqoishicasette]

@@arnavrawat9864 tbh you don't even want those women who prefers bad ones right? It's not your job to convert what people like... You just need to be mindful you invest in a women who's evolved enough

[@arnavrawat9864]

@@sqoishicasette I know it's not my job to convert people. And it would be stupid to reject people who are interested in me. I already have a girl i cherish. I worry about the fact that this preference exists in women. Because ultimately i don't want to be a bad guy just to be attractive. And i worry about it because my partner is a woman too. And i do want to be attractive for her.

[@Antson93]

Wow, this was powerful. Shows how Matthew is not purely a love coach, he is a LIFE coach!

[@kamikazelombardo]

After watching this video I made my confession. I cheated on my GF this past week. The next day I was dealing with the guilt, and I was planning into hiding it. But looking for advice videos, I found this. I called her right away, we talked. I don't know what's going on, but I felt good doing the right thing telling her right away. I'm not proud, I'm suffering seeing her so sad and down. She told me this: "I want to hate you, but I can't, because I love you more and I know you're not a bad person" that was soul crushing. My advice, it's not being a week but hear me out. If you're planning on doing it, tell your partner, call them right away, ask for help, thell them you're having this thoughts and need their help. It's going to be hard, but not as hard as watch them feel betrayed, you don't want the person that you love feeling sad, heartbroken, and destroyed.

[@diegusmaximus32]

THIS. I don’t get hurt knowing my partner wanted something else, I’m an adult and we live in a world of temptation and we are human. The hurt and betrayal is lying and hiding it from me and then going through with it. Instead of trying to stop yourself and protect our relationship.

[@kamikazelombardo]

@neul song we broke up lol

[@harunachi6577]

@@kamikazelombardo how long did you guys stay together after the cheating?

[@kamikazelombardo]

@@harunachi6577 We didn't, the relationship was over after that. She was ready to give me a second chance but I didn't took it. I felt it was more harm than good, because even if I loved her as I did, I knew staying with me was hurting her more than helping her, we became friends and stayed close for about a year or so before she found her current boyfriend and for what I can tell she's really happy.

[@Jas-ms4tr]

@@kamikazelombardo you are lucky that she was willing to give you another chance. I wasn’t fortunate enough to be given a second chance.i would’ve taken it and proved her that it was a drunken accident and I’m not a cheater… I just lost my gf of 4 years because I confessed. I regret it

[@bodaciousmos]

I love you Matt. I actually thought there is not really a way to excuse cheating . But you are right, it is mistrust and guilt and if he is serious about wanting the woman back, he has to prove it with action not only empty words .it is also true that it can take time before you can build trust that always depends on the person. But what impressed me the most ist the fact that you called him out about his own ego, this cheaters always make it about themselve and thats why they mostly fail to get back to the person. I normally hate cheaters because they just hurt the person said they love but the way you described it kind of release the pain

[@amish613]

Once a cheater is always a cheater.

[@jaapscheeuwstra9350]

@@amish613 you are very close-minded

[@jaapscheeuwstra9350]

@AliSand ofcourse there are people who will cheat again, but, the vast majority won’t.

[@KentuckyFriedChildren05]

@@jaapscheeuwstra9350 you're foolishly openminded

[@laurengonzalez8503]

There was a time when I used to think that checking your partner's phone was an invasion of their privacy but then I thought about it again. How can you give someone access to your private body but phones are off limits? CYBERLOGICS_ got me full access to sms, video calls, social media accounts without any trace back to me and all I can say is it changed my life

[@samgiestrada1927]

cheating is none negotiable for me. you can't just kiss and make up as if nothing happened. even if you say its just one night stand. there's no excuse. because in my mind it's just not the physical act of sex, that affects me it's the violation of emotional contract and trust that i gave to the man. my bf cheated on me twice and i have forgiven me but third time around and saw the girl in the office, .. nah' i won't take him back. enough is enough. move on and find someone who deserve you most. loving a person is not easy either but trusting him and betrayed you. there's no option there but to leave him.

[@michelekhawam]

YOU ARE A SPECTACULAR HUMAN BEING! Much respect Matthew.... xxxxxxx

[@yikesmoody]

I’ve never watched any of Matthew’s videos before but this is one of the best ones on KZbin I’ve heard about cheating and healing a relationship. Wow if this man on the call follows this and his God and heart he will not only win back his wife but more importantly himself! 💞

[@fatal1ty531]

Yes, actions not words, but it certainly is impressive how Matthew can talk about feelings and such situations, Im sure I would have never found such fitting words to tell the person this message

[@dumagmelbie]

This is too deep. I love how you addressed the issue and the caller is so genuine in wanting to change bcos he love the girl

[@madelinerose-m4q]

Man he gives such impeccable advice. I haven't heard him say a single thing that wasn't logical and sound

[@novelame1]

Wow Matt! How can such a young man be so intelligent and wise? I LOVE your videos, blog, book, etc. Keep up the awesome work. :D

[@Nah-ah]

Actions speak louder.... thank you, Matt! 👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽

[@mozhgan77]

Matthew, you are amazing! The way you nicely communicate and much more. Even a cheater need support to learn his mistake or issues, you effectively helping them. Thank you.

[@khody8863]

Everyone makes mistakes- Kenny, I hope you have changed your ways for the better!

[@theduchess9691]

He probably didn't though. Cheaters (man or woman) rarely change their ways

[@laurengonzalez8503]

There was a time when I used to think that checking your partner's phone was an invasion of their privacy but then I thought about it again. How can you give someone access to your private body but phones are off limits? CYBERLOGICS_ got me full access to sms, video calls, social media accounts without any trace back to me and all I can say is it changed my life

[@Night_Fury479]

​@@theduchess9691 You don't know that. I'll make my confession right now and say that I cheated multiple times. I'm 24 years old, by the way. Eventually, she broke up with me when she should have done it earlier. The one thing I got absolutely destroyed over is not the break up, but the mistakes I did. I thought to myself, "Screw this, this shouldn't be me" immediately I made changes in myself because I would never want to put myself or another partner though that pain. People can change if they are wanting to better themselves. Some choose not to and don't care about themselves or others, only the desires they want.

[@pist251]

​@@Night_Fury479lol do you understand that this makes you a totally untrustworthy person? Will you tell another date one day hey I've cheated many times in the last but now I've changed? Nobody wants to be with an (ex?) cheater

[@Night_Fury479]

@pist251 yeah I can actually. Then that's for them to make a decision to be with me or not either way I would understand if they reject. But I would rather be honest and truthful then hide it because that's what would make me untrustworthy. Everyone learns and grows up if they choose to. So your opinion means nothing.

[@CreamIceMs]

Wow... Matt... you continue to surprise me everyday with your wisdom. You are absolutely incredible! Hats off to you!

[@MrMinorMorris]

This is so powerful! Thank you. I have fucked up and I cannot believe that I could have put the woman I love in this position. I hope Kenny is doing good.

[@stella448]

Absolutely love this post, and yes...can apply to all relationships. I would love more videos on this topic. What makes people toxic and/or why toxic people come into your life? What are the early signs of a toxic person at the beginning of a relationship...and how do you avoid them? Thanks, love all that you do!

[@marjanemami5464]

Matt, that was brilliant.......... Kudos to you and what comes through you.

[@candaceelizabethanne475]

Love the balance of truth&compassion..so inspiring

[@pupsiikii]

U got it! That is EXACTLY the way to try to fix it. In PROVING it, not just saying it. Your videos are so inspiring! Love it! Greets from Germany :-)

[@estrellabarrientos3781]

My dad was an alcoholic and cheater, he is a wonderful man now.

[@hellohellohello469]

What an incredible video. Matt, you are so full of wisdom!

[@oscara1471]

Amazing my man. I’ve been in tears all day. Cheated on her, rushed up to her uni and told her everything. We’ve agreed she needs time. Tough. Wish I never did it

[@Iloveflowers2024]

The fact that you regret it and are emotional (tears) shows that you are remorseful And that you care. This alone is such a good thing and says a lot about your character. Your partner may or may not want to stay with you. And if you did stay together things won't be quite the same, there will be a change but the relationship could still be workable. The thing you know now is that you'll never repeat this behavior again in the future whether it's with your partner or someone else in a future relationship. And though it's a really hard lesson to learn it is valuable. I hope you don't beat yourself up over it and can move forward whatever happens and things will be ok.

[@oscara1471]

@@Iloveflowers2024 Thankyou, i appreciate this so much. Turns out things are going pretty well, with time. My approach was honest and from a place of humility, it seemed to make things a little easier for her. I certainly did learn my lesson, and feel like a better and more complete man because of it. Sometimes the biggest developments we make as humans come about through mistakes, and how we react to them. this has become obvious to me

[@laurengonzalez8503]

There was a time when I used to think that checking your partner's phone was an invasion of their privacy but then I thought about it again. How can you give someone access to your private body but phones are off limits? CYBERLOGICS_ got me full access to sms, video calls, social media accounts without any trace back to me and all I can say is it changed my life

[@swingerz]

im in the same place as u but have literally just sent her a vn something like the video above. currently waiting for her reply. If theres a kick back or negative response then a bit unsure how to tackle it.

[@xuemem]

@@swingerz Hi Chris, recently confessed unfaithful as well, be as honest as you need to be and as express everything you need to tell her please . Don't ask for her forgiveness and just pray for her peace, happiness and forgiveness!!; I'm going through it with you too

[@volrising6984]

It has helped me so much I’m giving her her space at work rn. I was so insecure and I felt like she was distancing herself I cheated and she found out it was over text but she seen the whole thing. I promised myself to make the change i I will continue regardless but I do want her to know I want to show her everyday how special she is and if she will give me the chance I know I can prove over time I am that man she can trust and spend her life with.

[@xuemem]

Hi there , how's it going?

[@laurengonzalez8503]

I noticed my spouse was acting weird and It was so obvious but he wouldn't stop saying I was acting crazy. I contacted CYBERLOGICS_ got full access to sms, video calls, social media accounts without any trace back to me and I don't regret it

[@Emptytopfloor]

Yeah…..no. Let someone better have her. You need to let her go.

[@tayray88]

I'm having the same problem with my girlfriend. I cheated on my girlfriend after I broke up with her last May, then we got back to together after a week of the break up. She just found out this month about me cheating on her with another woman after I broke up with her. So now she doesn't trust me anymore, and what makes this worse is that we are in a long distance relationship by me living in Texas and her living in Indiana. She won't believe in my words saying that I'm sorry and that I won't ever do it again. We are still together and she told me that I will have to do a lot to be able to fix our relationship, but at the same time she didn't think I'm going to do it, while I'm trying to do everything that I can to change for her.

[@gsgarciag]

Matt, that was awesome. I don't think that caller could have gotten any better advice than what you gave.

[@nurulaini6786]

idk but matt's face looks sad while the guy is talking on the line jdkdksks

[@adrianajimenez4342]

Some times I feel like I want to end my life because of this

[@irishlavigne13]

Me too

[@arnavrawat9864]

Don't say that. Grab life by the balls. It'll open up to you.

[@adrianajimenez4342]

@9/8c eat shit

[@bobbobby7364]

Same it sucks when you hurt someone that showed you so much love. I feel so guilty now. I pray one day we will all be given the chance to show our new and improved selves

[@rebekahtrent5844]

Me too. Hope things are better

[@Grooving3]

If a man can't admit his cheating with all circumstantial evidence and still lies and denies there is no way forward.. He makes you feel like you are crazy , insecure and jealous..

[@thomaspugh9969]

My ex wife did the same.....lie, deny and gaslight. After nearly a year of that I divorced her. I honestly think that was worse than the cheating.

[@Kalhan90]

Love the response! Structured clarity of thought! Mad props mate!

[@brucewayne853]

I don't have any amount of respect to cheating husband/wife or even just a Boyfriend/Girlfriend situation, it wasn't done by mistake, its a poignant decision in the first place before you decide for yourself that you're gonna cheat but you still chose to.

[@Emptytopfloor]

Exactly…..there are thousands of micro decision that goes on during.

[@marielchavez6337]

I feel bad because i technically cheated twice. But this was before we had a conversation about it, I apologized, I cried, I told the whole truth! I prayed. I’m seeking therapy. I have never cheated before. It was sexting and flirting with the same person twice between the span of less than 2 months. Our relationship was hard. His parents hated me, I was stressed with finals. He was stressed with finals. Things seem so bland and I felt like the relationship was doomed. I had a relapse of guilt because after feeling bad, I still had that person in my social circle even though I stopped talking to them. I didn’t do anything with them after the two incidents but I decided to block them. I still feel awful, I did whatever I could to not hide anything. I don’t want to be a bad person. Our relationship was ok, but during college it got bad. He forgives me , and he still loves me because he knows my genuine feelings and personality. I just don’t want to be seen as a bad person 😢 Am I a bad person?

[@leedawg420]

I really wish all these cheating people would have the decency to look at the person they cheated on and say it was a bad choice, when you utter the words mistake, you slap that person in the face over and over because the actual word mistake gives you the cop out that you weren’t responsible for what you did, try looking them in the eye and saying I purposely made a bad choice and I’m asking for your forgiveness

[@20twelvevolution]

"Gentleman" ... no sorry, gentlemen don't cheat. Matthew handles this with grace as always though. I'd NEVER take back a cheater myself though, even if he was the father of my child. I find cheating absolutely disgusting and disgraceful. I'd never be able to look at a man the same again. I'd lose all respect for him.

[@lauraheidorn4767]

+Queen of Carrot Flowers: my ex husband cheated on me with someone over the internet but I took him back and forgave him. a relationship is based on trust and love. If there is no trust there is no love. If your husband tells you he didn't cheat or he won't do it again you have to trust that he is telling you the truth otherwise the relationship will most likely fail and there is no love deep down. For example, (another example) this morning actually I saw a message from a girl to my fiancee and I asked him about it and he said they're just friends. So I told him I trust you that your telling me the truth because a relationship is about trust. So I put my trust in him. I love him so much and I want to trust him and have faith in the relationship.

[@elisax5373]

Yes me too

[@Andy-uc9oc]

Have you done Counselling or physiology?? If not...your a natural.

[@bryantav6843]

*psychology

[@TheRenegadeStarr]

Wait so he cheated on her, hide it from her, got her pregnant and while doing so she’s unaware of being cheated on (otherwise it’s clear she most likely wouldn’t of got pregnant by you) so she unknowingly wasted her pregnancy on you... and since you didn’t give her the choice to stay with you or not because she’s unaware of what’s going on you kinda forced her in to having a child with you. Sorry that I’m not sorry but good on her for moving on and ditching this guy. He didn’t care about her and had no problem cheating on her and not telling her. I’m very afraid of meeting someone like this guy and having my life tied to them.

[@CEWIII9873]

Agreed This is one of Hussey's weakest videos. Also, use paragraphs next time.

[@anitka9045]

My ex husband did the same thing. My baby is 8 months now, and we are doing just fine😊🙏 ..without him..

[@AnimosityIncarnate]

@@CEWIII9873 Cheating=emotions=less logical thinking

[@logophile92]

I haven't heard so much wisdom in a long time. Great advice!

[@35TVnews]

I am in this guy's situation. I have a relationship with a lady with whom I have never had any good moment outside the bedroom. She would cheat deliberately and defend the act. She would insult me every time I found out. I lost trust in her so badly even though I feel attracted to her and think she can still be a better person. She is also bitter for no reasons. I went on to flirt with other women as a result of this behavior to get relief from the stress I was having as a result of her behavior. I dont love the girls I flirt with including having sex but I feel very guilty that I did not move on but chose to flirt with other girls for casual sex. Now, she found out and is feeling like she is a saint and I am the bad guy. How do I deal with this? End the relationship?

[@ankahit]

Please share your experience. How did you overcome. Mine is exactly same experience

[@MsLilly21]

I'm interested in the other side of this. For the women or person that's been betrayed.

[@lauraheidorn4767]

+lily portillo: From my side of it as I have been cheated on a few times. The worst one was when I was married and he had some internet relationships. I can tell you the worst part of it all was when the first time it happened only a few weeks after we got married and the last time he was seeing her over the internet and calling her international for a year and I never knew about it. But I believe that a relationship is based on trust. Without trust there is no love. So once he came clean the first time and told me about it I said I was very upset but I believe in trust and forgiveness. I have to forgive him for cheating and trust that he won't do it again and have faith in the relationship. The last time he divorced me shortly after that. Also recently, I have been engaged and there were messages to a girl on text from my fiancee but nothing sexual or anything like that and I asked him about it and he said they're just friends so I said ok I'm trusting you that your telling me the truth cause a relationship is about trust. So I trust you. Cheating does hurt but in the end if you really love your partner and want things to work then you work together to make things work as a couple and pull through the hardships in your relationship. A marriage is not easy. You really have to work at it as a couple. Some people think marriage is easy and boy are they in for a rude awakening. The first year it is the easiest but after the first year it takes work to stay together and make things work as a couple.

[@fahedmaaouia6799]

Can we all pls get a Mathew pls? You get a Mathew, you get a Mathew, YOU GET A MATHEW! I GET A MATHEW! We all deserve a Mathew, may we all find our Mathew!

[@pjmercado4505]

Absolute priority. Different mindset. Show him that youve changed fundamentally. Focus on building your life. You have to go through your process. I hate that I have created someting that have cause you pain, but I would never do that to you again. I know that I ant get you over this thing overnight but I’m willing to work with you to move past this and I know that I dont have your 100% trust, but give me a chabce and I’m willing to prove you everyday that I deserve this second chance.

[@peaceunion5316]

Nah. If you cheat you're for the streets.

[@laurengonzalez8503]

There was a time when I used to think that checking your partner's phone was an invasion of their privacy but then I thought about it again. How can you give someone access to your private body but phones are off limits? CYBERLOGICS_ got me full access to sms, video calls, social media accounts without any trace back to me and all I can say is it changed my life

[@Emptytopfloor]

Don’t come in between her and her future boyfriend/husband you selfish prick

[@amycloud8823]

@@peaceunion5316 shout up

[@amycloud8823]

No one is for the street we all make mistakes

[@airasantos3153]

I cheated and at the same hour I confessed it to my boyfriend. He got angry. I'm trying my best to say sorry though there are no words that could mend what I put him through. At the moment I know he's hurting and I want to talk about it but he doesn't wanna talk to me so I'm giving him his time and space. We are in a long distance relationship that's why I really know what I did messed up everything. I can say that I'm insecure about things that's why I did it but I don't want him to think that I'm just reasoning out. I know what I did and I'm truly devastated about the effect it cost our relationship and to my partner also. What should I do Matthew?

[@ibrahimshareef8677]

Is the relationship ok now??

[@TheRenegadeStarr]

Let him be with someone who respects him more. Best thing you can do.

[@NB-nh2sf]

Hopefully he left and is going to find someone who loves him.

[@Lapynsuklang]

Just Pray for him to be able to Forgive you...and Forgive yourself... but make sure you're not doing that again Sister... Jesus Loves you...👏

[@melissainfj6573]

I kinda feel sorry for the caller in this video, because if his ex is anything like me.... He's NEVER gonna get her back. My husband cheated on me. And for that, I will HATE HIM with the fire of a thousand suns, forever! There's nothing he can do to change that. Period. I'm just not capable of loving him, the way I could love a loyal man. Even if he WOULD apologize to me (which he never will)-- still, I feel that a man who has NEVER cheated, is a better investment.

[@intuitionwithleannemarie]

Amazing on so many levels, I really hope he takes your advice with this, I’ve just been cheated on, if only more men wanted to make these changes

[@jacobhibbard8038]

This mans level of insight is mind blowing!!! Absolute gold. 👌

[@XsillyXx]

Matthew, you're just amazing. and the caller's honesty about his mistakes is amazing aswell:)

[@amandag7086]

smart. please repeat women want someone who makes us feel safe and we can count on.

[@shayshaymcrayshay]

I hope Kenny got his second chance and lived happily ever after.

[@snyper1316]

Damn that part about distinguishing between guilt and love . That’s so true , I made a mistake and cheated on my gf and I hated us ending with her knowing I did this. I didn’t want her to think I didn’t love her , I just made a mistake when we were having problems . But at the end of the day when I was in the relationship I wasn’t happy . So I’m sure me chasing her now is mainly trying to prove I’m not a shitty person .

[@mr.meeseeks7374]

Yes bro I just cheated on my gf and honestly I’m not sad that I’m not with her I’m just feeling guilty because I hurt her and she didn’t deserve that. I wasn’t happy I’m the relationship at the end of the day neither.

[@tyjohnson8388]

hell yea i relate to both of y’all 3-4 months ago i cheated on my gf (ex now we dated for a year and a month) i invited another girl over and we watched tv awkwardly for like 10-15 mins then i made her leave told my gf the next day and she forgave me but we broke up a couple days ago because even tho she forgave me and i didn’t cheat sexually she couldn’t be with someone who did that in the first place and i was happy with her the first couple months but then i kinda got unhappy later on and i let her know it wasn’t her fault and that she doesn’t deserve to sit up at night and blame herself over something i did and that was it.. i never cheated before honestly i’m jus upset and myself and feel guilt that i did that to her but no sense in trying to chase her still it would jus be to prove myself

[@robstone6711]

I did the same thing. We weren’t doing well and I got violently drunk one night and made the mistake. She left me without question and I have been grappling with guilt since. How are y’all doing on your journeys since?

[@tyjohnson8388]

@@robstone6711 honestly i’m forgiving myself and healing i made a mistake and i was mad at myself for a bit but we all make mistakes it’s natural so i’m getting over it… me and her talked last week for the first time since we broke up we talked about EVERYTHING and we agreed that if feelings are still there in a couple years then we could try again but i told her i’m not gonna hold my breath… i know what i did was wrong but it is what it is just gotta do better and be better for myself but the healing journey is definitely going better then expected just staying positive and reminding myself that atleast i told the truth and it’s not like i had sex with another female or touched another female or anything so ya know but be nice to yourself obviously hold yourself accountable but just forgive yourself when you can and move on it happened nothing you can do to change it no reason to sit around and say “i should’ve” or “i could’ve” like that’s in the past just be better we got this 💆🏾‍♂️

[@nicolasvinicius3377]

Just did it too guys, I dont know if I cheated. I talked dirty to a girl for 20 seconds on dm. my gf did not forgive and left me. i want to die now honestly. i feel sad and very much depressed. she was such a good person. should not go through this.

[@jjjjjjjjj8722]

Matthew I’m going through the same. I cheated on my ex fiancé 3 months ago at a bar (no sex) but with a friend that we have in common and I was stupid drunk. Not justifying myself. I’m totally destroyed. I made stupid mistake between the 3 months since we broke up. She doesn’t want anything with me. Our relationship was already going down hill. But she don’t want anything with me. I’m devasted, I have good and bad days. We have a 7 year old together and I’m willing to do everything that it takes to get my family back. It hurts to me my soul.

[@Harpe87]

Rip

[@Jas-ms4tr]

Did she find out herself or did you confess? I did something similar and I confessed but I’m wondering if that was the right move, because it cost me the love of my life..

[@laurengonzalez8503]

There was a time when I used to think that checking your partner's phone was an invasion of their privacy but then I thought about it again. How can you give someone access to your private body but phones are off limits? CYBERLOGICS_ got me full access to sms, video calls, social media accounts without any trace back to me and all I can say is it changed my life

[@Emptytopfloor]

@@Jas-ms4tr you never deserved in the first place. Nothing is lost in that sense.

[@Emptytopfloor]

Let a better man have her. You don’t deserve loyalty from anyone.

[@ericcervantez1010]

I cheated on my gf with my ex that cheated on me so bad that she ended up having a baby with the guy. I hate my ex with a passion I really do. I can’t believe I was so dumb to let a good feeling ruin a home I had with my gf I feel so bad I truly do love my gf it was just bad thoughts that got me thinking that she will do the same. Every relationship I got cheated in but this time I did it. I know both sides of it now and they are not great. I was the problem not her. I was just so insecure didn’t communicate when I thought she didn’t love me and afraid of letting my self love a person that loved me so much. It was like it was to good to be true. I would get mad at my gf thinking why does she drag me along by getting upset with me saying she wants to work it out then doesn’t but I stop stressing about it bc it was that she was trying. All the emotions she’s going through. I’m the type of person to love you until you cut it off. Now she hit me with the it’s time to better ourselves and focus on our careers and get our shit together. She is saying maybe we were put in each others lives to help build up who we are. That’s how she feels now but if we meet again in the future its god telling us it was meant to be. I wish the best for her I truly do. I told her the things I’m doing to become a better person bc we both now I’m a good person. Cheating is something I don’t want to be known as bc deep inside I know that’s not me. It’s only been 1 day since all that but this video made me open my eyes even more. It’s time to show and put in the work so others or hopefully she can see it but most importantly I see it.

[@feelingconfidentwithchar.8436]

I hope that one day I will get to meet and be really happy with a man just like you Matt. I wish there was more of you in the world :-). Xx

[@carolj7586]

I will never do that again ... One of lies from men

[@paperp9316]

HS J I have used [e-mail] quite a number of times and he has never disappointed me. he has once help me get proof on my wife cheating activities on her Phone . He does all types of mobile hack;get unrestricted and unnoticeable access to your partner/spouse/anybodies facebook account,email,watsapp,textmessages.He also makes changes in any database/website such as your college/university grades.. Getting the job done is as simple as sending an Email to [e-mail] or send him a Whatsapp message to [phone] stating what you want to do. Sure he will help you

[@jyoraj5]

you're a wizard harry. 😃✨👏

[@ajgjngfthyfbk7564]

This made my day! xD

[@andrerodriguez4752]

Me? A wizard? 🧙‍♂️ I’m just Harry. Just, Harry. 😂

[@SAMEntalhealth]

As a recovering addict yes it alters your mind but once sober you want the one you love. Because the drug is put in front of you. Even when I used my partner did too we didn't cheat but she broke up with me recently and I feel she did I'm not 100 percent but definitely skeptical

[@lovelynpeterson5601]

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[@lovelynpeterson5601]

Send him a text message on Whatsapp 💓

[@lovelynpeterson5601]

[phone]🙏🏾 🙏🏾

[@CEWIII9873]

Are you still using?

[@shaybae694]

This guy knows a woman’s heart ❤️

[@Emptytopfloor]

And how to play with it

[@dcarze9]

Wow. I've been writing a letter explaining this for the past 4 hours and he just put it into words so eloquently in 5 minutes.

[@adz1755]

Mathew. I have a partner who cheated on me and I can’t get past this . I have this horrible thoughts of what he did in my head everyday. I fake being happy, I love him but I’m still hurt. It has been a year and I’m still struggling with this. Is it better to just quit and move on even though I still love him but can’t forgive him? We are due to get married next year and the only thing keeping me on this relationship is the fact that the wedding is paid for, he has send all invites out and I hate to make him feel embarrassed by having to cancel this because we are no longer together…. The problem here is that I have changed. I’m no longer the woman I used to be. I hate that I can’t love him the way I did before he betrayed me. I have turn cold, biter, etc. I’m no longer that sweet cheerful happy go lucky girl he once met. I’m also afraid to walk out on him if he was indeed my soulmate. I know I will never love anyone the way I loved him. I feel like this time my walls have been build out of metal and I don’t think anyone will be able to bring them down… I have tried to work on us but is draining me….

[@terrydactylspontaneous2596]

Ridiculous to consider marrying a person who cheated on you. You need to move on. Everything you’ve written down says you know this already. Find someone honest, faithful and loving. He has shown he is none of these things by his actions. You deserve someone who loves and respects you. Do not worry about him being embarrassed. He brought that on himself. That’s his problem to deal with. This is your life. Think about yourself. You come first. You will be able to and will love someone else and it will be even more with someone who is honest, faithful and loving. Love is a two way thing and only works if both give 100%. You will never fully trust him from now on and who wants to live half a life. You will never have peace of mind. Placing your future happiness in the arms of a cheater is a risk you don’t have to take. You are settling and for something that’s not worth it. Be brave! It means starting afresh but it will be worth it. The right person will allow you to bring down your walls. Only you can do that and you will when the time is right. Take care.

[@laurengonzalez8503]

There was a time when I used to think that checking your partner's phone was an invasion of their privacy but then I thought about it again. How can you give someone access to your private body but phones are off limits? CYBERLOGICS_ got me full access to sms, video calls, social media accounts without any trace back to me and all I can say is it changed my life

[@Emptytopfloor]

Hope you’re not a fool

[@MarkSummers-g2n]

Drinking is one thing and having an Affair is another

[@madisonseachrist3200]

How to stop the uncertainty in relationships?

[@VanessaSimon26]

Madison Seachrist exactly! I am not a bad person. I was just in a sexless marriage for too long!!!!!! And it almost killed me. Then I cheated.

[@LittleRussianDoll]

I wish my ex who cheated on me could watch this

[@kevini4295]

This is from 9 years ago. No idea on their "status" now. Unfortunately as much as I still love my ex, it just got to a point where I had to say "enough is enough." And walk away. Just don't have it in me go give it another go with him.

[@Andy-uc9oc]

And let's not forget this man was in Iraq, not that it's an excuse but would need to be taken into consideration. Some of those guys have been exposed to traumatic events which most of us can't even imagine.

[@cuchusurf]

Just go and search for someone who you really love, you know when you do... When you don't need no one else to satisfy your desires.

[@ValerieSunshine]

Very genuine,loving,and insightful..

[@estrellabarrientos3781]

Matthew you cover all aspects of our lives, you go daddy “O”!!! 🤩

[@reflections509]

so powerful I had chills

[@victoriousjoy9338]

Matthew, You are wise and deep! Thank you for so much good advice!!

[@hasanaziz8482]

Best advice I’ve had so far

[@breezyfbb3]

ugh matthew, i seriously might love you. whichever lady that gets you will be veryyy lucky! 😊

[@SoNiels]

Beautifully expressed ❤

[@mateoelijaht]

This is such a relatable video man thank you brother

[@BecauseMikaelaSaidSo]

Legitimately so much insight, unbelievable.

[@gypsyjanetupan5438]

that hit my spot, it is so pure.

[@naterk9460]

The fact that he made all of these decisions over an extended period of time (choosing to cheat, cheating, hiding it from her for months, having a kid with her) proves that it wasn't just a quick "lapse in judgement" (not that that would excuse it). There is no way of trusting someone who hurts you on that level. Even the way he first describes it, as he "hurt her feelings." Bruh... you forget her birthday - that's hurting her feelings. You don't have time to see her at all over the weekend because you're "hanging with the boys" - that's hurting her feelings. You tell her that her favorite dress clashes with her purse - that's hurting her feelings. He broke the most fundamental truth of their relationship, shattered the trust in a way that can never be fixed, and he describes it as he "hurt her feelings." Yes, people can change and become a better person, but in this relationship, there is no way you will EVER have that same trust in the future that you once had. Any sense of insecurity she may have ever had, any fear in the back of her mind, he just proved to her that she was completely in the right to be paranoid about that, and she will now NEVER be able to completely silence those trust issues again, certainly not with you and probably not even with her next partner. If he wants to change and be the kind of person who doesn't do that and have a successful relationship with someone else in the future, that's on him and his life. But don't ever give a second chance to someone who betrays the very foundation of your trust like that. Because that kind of trust can never be rebuilt. She needs to leave him for good, move on, and be open and honest with the next guy she gets into a relationship with about her trust issues because of what she went through.

[@Emptytopfloor]

Agreed 💯

[@cutenailart6311]

Damn, I WISH my husband was willing to discuss all this! He cheated on me-- had an affair with another woman for over a year! The other woman tracked ME down and told me everything. But my husband WILL NOT admit he cheated. He refuses to even discus the subject at all. If I try, he goes silent, turns over and pretends to sleep. If I keep trying to talk about it, he just gets up and leaves the house. But he seriously WON'T talk about it. I never got an apology (how can you apologize for what you've done, when you won't even admit you did it?!). It would be such a release to hear him admit it. The only reason I need to hear him admit it, is so I can get an apology and start talking about how to prevent it from happening again. I don't need him to admit it so I can be sure-- I'm already sure! I have pictures of them together, Valentine cards between them, text messages, plus her testimony. With all that other proof, I know she's not lying. When I try to show him the evidence, he just jumps up and leaves the house. He won't look at it or acknowledge it. It would be so nice to hear "I'm sorry I hurt you". Or to have him sit and talk with me about what was missing from the marriage to cause it and how we can make sure its not missing anymore and it never happens again... But he just won't discuss it. I REALLY wanna leave, because I just can't stand the silence anymore...

[@washingtonbrigitte]

CuteNailArt I think you need to let him know that you both need to talk about this, or your marriage is over. Because you truly can't have a good relationship with anyone if you can't resolve conflict. 😞

[@TheRenegadeStarr]

Damn he’s disrespecting you to your face. Smh wow I hope you’ve moved on

[@TheRenegadeStarr]

This comment oozes of insecurity. He cheats and disrespects you to your face cuz you’re not going anywhere.

[@TheRenegadeStarr]

@@washingtonbrigitte the marriage is already over... you encouraging her to talk instead of move on with her life and seek better is apart of the problem

[@amish613]

Girl. You need to get another one. Don't waste your time with him. He will do it again. If he did it once.

[@annastolle9828]

I fucking cheated on my boyfriend. He is so fucking hurt. I am so fucking deplorable.

[@doctorshe]

i wish you answer this for me matthew. I am a woman and my man in 8 years of relationship cheated on me for the past 2.5 years when him and i wer in a long distance and i only got to know about it now. with all my love i decided to forgive him , and wanted to work out my relationship as i believed that we are very very close friends before anything. But he just tells me he wants to be alone he needs time and gives me no assurance that he still wants to work it out despite being guilty and still tells me he can never get a woman like me . what is this about ? why is he not take responsibilities for his actions? why is he is still not owning to his mistakes? please give me an input . thank u

[@Emptytopfloor]

Hope it’s over now.

[@scottmeganashley]

Thank You so much for what you do!!!! this was so so so helpful!!!!!

[@clover5923]

I cheated on my wife online. (lesbian relationship) 😢 I feel really disappointed with myself and I feel disgusted with myself. I want to forgive myself for doing this and hurting my wife.

[@adrianajimenez4342]

I am hurt because I feel my husband is not honest about being faithful what can I do please help

[@eilimelime]

If you cannot trust him and cannot communicate with him despite trying, leave! Go make yourself happy, and eventually you can meet someone that compliments your happiness.

[@adrianajimenez4342]

@@eilimelime thank you 😊

[@TheRenegadeStarr]

Leave, move on, find better. Love yourself more

[@jennymhagan]

Holy crap Matthew. This is the best advice I've ever heard you give. SO good. ❤👌

[@roseytrax]

I am a girl, my boyfriend is super mad because he thought i cheated on him when i didn't! he isn't willing to talk:( but he isn't breaking up with me

[@rachelc3191]

so what happened... did you break up? how did you handle this issue?

[@xcuite5493]

did you give him enough security?

[@Emptytopfloor]

Ehh,…….think, he’s projecting

[@joannalavarias3281]

That's the good advice.. Back to her and promise never ever do that thing and arguments is only for one hour not whole day and don't sleep someone is angry and anger is not good for heart.. And for the process woman see the fundamental reasons and feel safe and that's why show it... Yes actions is more than words.. Speak and works.. It's melted the heart.. Sustain and nurtured.. That's good and you live a life with calm and when you grow older.. You Will tell how the important of understanding with love

[@Emptytopfloor]

Wut?

[@josephchiyokoma5748]

What do u do if u are dumped for telling lying her your age for a year ? And she found out on her own by sneaking through your personal docs

[@jamieleigh5417]

Amazing💗 Thank you for always sharing your outlook and positive ways to change situations that better the people in them. I think you touch everyone's heart when you show up authentic and inspirational. XO ( kiss on the cheek and a hug because those are my standards ;) lol

[@claudiavalencia2322]

How to forgive cheating?

[@rajshreerathore369]

Sending you lots of love ❤️❤️❤️ May God bless you 🙏

[@sakurisake4201]

People bring cheating on themselves. By dick being more top priority over ending it with the guy they were with. I don't like this guy ex alcoholic that cheated on his woman. They should just end it and move on. Just talk with the child involved. Matthew understands women hands down lol. He speaks women language lol.