I don't have a dream job

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Hey guys in today's very casual video I talk about why I no longer have a dream job/why I don't dream of labor, college, and my passions or lack thereof.
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Book: So Good They Can't Ignore You by Cal Newport
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[@imani0nline]

I hate that our society reduces our identity so much to the point that who you are comes down to what you do to make money and how much money you make 😩

[@MelSpeaksMD]

Agreed. It’s time to evolve. Gen Z seems to understand this more than any prior generation and I’m here for it!

[@modmiss5081]

@@MelSpeaksMD hippies said this in the 70’s. All youth said this since the beginning of the modern era back in the 1920’s...

[@collyflower6623]

Right! And when you a kid it's "what do you want to be when you grow up?"

[@PewPewFig]

@@MelSpeaksMD Gen z is devolving, im in gen z, but people my age, including everyone here, have no concept of how economics work. You realize the lights don't stay on with magic right? The roads don't build themselves, everyone works and contributes so we have the lifestyle we have. This shit doesn't appear from thin air. You're not better than those who work their ass off, stop being entitled.

[@KrystalElizabeth]

Finacts 💯

[@daynademontagnac4694]

I always felt insecure about not knowing and not being on track to having a career. There is no job that I am passionate about, only subjects I have an acute interest in. I find myself getting bored in most endeavors I pursue. In all I just want to experience life and be financially secure. That’s what most people want in a capitalist world tho, isn’t it?

[@justinwatson1510]

Join a communist or socialist party and talk to your friends, family, and neighbors. We can build that world, but only if we work together.

[@astoldbynickgerr]

Your words resonate with me ;,)

[@Jane-oz7pp]

I had passion and drive for a career once. Then the government of my country just stripped every opportunity I had away from me in one fell swoop. Now? I refuse to work for someone else. I'm just trying to get enough plant stock growing to open my own personal nursery business and say fuck it to wage slavery.

[@stellatheestar]

Is anyone else seeing these videos everywhere ?? I’m glad we’re all becoming aware of constant pressure to push the wheels of capitalism

[@stellatheestar]

@@Chairlsy omgg hey girlie

[@Carroty_Peg]

You'll work even harder under Socialism / Communism. It won't be a UBI holiday at all. The bigger the State, the more they'll demand from everyone.

[@JulianSteve]

Yeah, I keep getting recommended, but Amanda’s the first person that I watched do this video🤔💯

[@talltreeyeti]

yeah it’s getting annoying

[@madj4743]

Yes and literally thought the universe has been reading my mind!

[@haggish_]

from the perspective of a 34-year-old: the best thing young people (everyone really, but younger folks have the advantage of time on their side) is create a firm separation between your work/career/job and your self-worth. we grew up hearing that we should pursue our "passion" as a career, but the damaging aspect of that pursuit is that who you *are* (or how you see youself) becomes linked to what you *do*. so when you inevitably run into obstacles or maybe aren't able to break into the field you chose, there is this immediate sense that *you* are a failure. i've watched brilliant friends demoralize themselves because normal hurdles at their jobs - jobs they are highly qualified for and perform well - become personal shortcomings. it's saddening, and it's a waste. even if you love your job and are successful at it, don't ever let that become your source of personal validation. it makes me so happy and relieved to see young people confront this mindset early on.

[@OrangeSpritzer]

Yes! I stopped working in my dream field and started getting random jobs to pay the bills so that my passion could remain just for me. Your comment is the only solid commentary on the topic I've heard. Otherwise, these conversations...monologues...reek of narcissism and brattiness that will no doubt be embarrassing in about six months when this trendy topic fades. Girl, you are wearing clothes and sitting in a building and eating food harvested or made by people who broke their back for its existence. We don't have to whitewash an entire generation of Black folks to feel 'free'.

[@Anna133199]

You're saying all this as if you're some middle aged person, close to their pension, but you're 34! 😂 I agree, though.

[@LovelySunshine17]

I agree so much with this ~ (I'm 33) I spent most of my 20s feeling like a failure because I was never able to get a job at any of my "dream" companies (although many of those companies were happy to have me volunteer my time for free). I ended up avoiding a lot of social gatherings with old classmates and mentors because I didn't want to be reminded of the fact that I wasn't where I thought I'd be. Its so rare to have a conversation with someone where they don't ask you about work. I hate that so much of our lives after school boils down to what we do from 9-5.

[@adannayoutube4243]

it’s true! there’s a quote i found in an article about how it’s okay to not be passionate about your job and sometimes your job is just to make money and that‘s perfectly fine: “focus on who you are from 5-9 not 9-5

[@rinomaeda2811]

As a sociology major, i find it ironic because you learn to hate capitalism and the metropolis society and yet we r still there paying to learn and falling into the pattern of society. I dont have a dream career either, i just want to live a comfortable life but even then to live comfortably you must fall into the system becuz money is the only way we are allowed to survive

[@mckamy4711]

I study sociology too and it's hard when you're studying a subject that a lot of people don't take seriously because it's not as valued in the mainstream capitalist society as something like engineering or medicine, yet its that very capitalist society that we spend time studying and pay money to learn about. I'm worried I won't be able to earn enough from a sociology degree to live comfortably, as much as I don't want to value money over interests it's not always possible unless its a career valued by society :/

[@rinomaeda2811]

@@mckamy4711 100% agree i find that we’re more self aware and view the world realistically. I wonder if there would be a place for our knowledge in the world one. Understanding the society unfortunately does not give in the value towards our current capitalistic regime. Its disappointing

[@hannahbrown9585]

Exactly! And honestly even being able to say “I don’t want a dream job” when you have the ability of monetizing on KZbin def is a privilege in and of itself. I’m sure many people would love to say the same but hence the wealth gap. “No one dreams of labor”- no sh*t- but also you have to work in this society in some form to do things like pay bills and etc or else start a farm and live off the land.

[@yourfavoritepessimisticexi8041]

Off topic but you're so pretty!

[@rinomaeda2811]

@@yourfavoritepessimisticexi8041 im not sure if ur comment was directed to me but if it was THANK YOU BESTIE

[@confusedcorn1959]

This conversation about ‘i dont dream of labor’ is good and all but we also should consider priveleges. The people who post videos mainly about not dreaming of labor are influencers/ youtubers who are priveleged. Some people are trapped in situations where they HAVE to work a 9-5 to feed their families. We should collectively challenge the system to build greater conditions for workers so that they can actually have time and independence to do the things they would love to do if their maslow’s heirarchy of needs are actually met. Ofcourse everyone would love to have a sustainable source of income where they could also have the freedom to do their passions and unique interests. So this conversation should not only be limited to youtubers but also people who have low incomes. The videos with the same topic tend to forget about the conversation about their privelege.

[@slylover123]

So glad someone finally acknowledged this. There is something to be said about people who are posting videos like this and monetizing them haha. They are the model and in a privileged position to speak about this

[@confusedcorn1959]

@@slylover123 exactly^^

[@JadeLeahPilling01]

im working class and agree. i literally hate the thought of work and a career, but i feel i need to 'breakthru' if you know what i mean ? if i dont have that money i wont be able to flourish in my own personal life. its great to say f you to capitalism and labour but unfortunately we still have to play by its rules :((

[@maedasaboor5811]

Agreed with this!! I feel like it’s just another way of saying “9-5’s aren’t for me” and it’s like, I don’t think they are for anyone. Similarly having a passion is a myth, it’s more so cultivating goals throughout your life and running through cycles while creating new ones. Those who are privileged get to indulge in life and think about things. And those that aren’t, are stuck surviving. Those who get to think, do it on the backs of those who are surviving. Its a game of haves and have nots. That’s why this “I don’t dream of labor” is a reductive take on capitalism, but glad everyone is questioning things. The truth is capitalism is going nowhere. There are too many people who benefit from this, and they will protect it with everything they have. All I say is, push through until you’re done surviving and then indulge in life, because you do not have the luxury to be a philosopher, when you live paycheck to paycheck.

[@mirrepoix]

hi! also poor as fuck, and very confused by y'alls logic. this is a weird way to depict it, like you can't philosophize and live paycheck to paycheck at the same time. like you can't make a youtube video expressing the sentiment that capitalism is a drain and be poor at the same time. i don't know about you but i can work 40+ hour weeks and think about how it's wrong to have to do it at the same time... there is nothing about this video that's like "you should forget about money completely!" because of course you can't. it's acknowledging that capitalism sucks. and that the concept of a dream job isn't a real one. is that not exactly what you're saying? where in this video does it disagree with collectively challenging the system? is that not the point of the video? to remind people that we can collectively change the system? philosophers and working class people are not mutually exclusive groups. trying to separate people who are agreeing with your exact sentiment, who are saying the exact same thing as you, because you don't like that they can do it as a college student and not as someone who works like us is....weird. is she not right? y'all are playing into the 1%'s love for making you punch sideways and not upwards, nitpicking people who are a lot closer to you lifestyle-wise and just accepting capitalism as an immovable force so you might as well stop critiquing it. making you complicit instead of angry, as you should be. that's actually really sad and defeatist. of course we can't do anything to capitalism if you've already decided we can't.

[@wendigodeadpatterson2514]

As someone who dropped out of college at 20, went back at 28, and worked a string of crappy jobs, I can tell you that you don't have to seek a dream job, but you do have to find a job that align with you interest (family, morales, free time, etc.). If you can live with your potential job prospects that is all you need.

[@cora_m]

Agreed! Furthermore, I think there are a few objective factors that constitute a good workplace (e.g. See two-factor-theory and the likes) that are more easily pursuable than having to find THE dream' job. Passion is not a great indicator on the ability of a job to satisfy you. However, you could consider things you're good at combined with things where you can have an impact :)

[@SafianiMahat]

exactly.

[@GlamGoddes101]

“Work is not supposed to bring you joy” I agree mostly, because there are SO many other (better) aspects of life to draw joy/happiness from. But personally I do need work that aligns(not perfectly!) with my interests, skills, and capabilities. For me, My work life is going to be guided by interests and by things that bring me fulfillment. I like researching, teaching, and creating(art, writing) and more. I’m okay with doing jobs I don’t like for a short period of time but for things I’m gonna do long term it has to fit the things I listed above

[@danaekolyva3309]

I just wanted to say that you've described me perfectly! And that's why I think being a teacher suits me pretty well, although it's not my dream job (and I don't have one)

[@franfrankie7]

I sort of disagree with the first thing you said, if a job takes up so much amount of time, yes it starts to consume your life and when you aren't happy with, don't like, or find no point in your job other than money, is it really worth it? If I can spend my life earning money from doing what I love then why not do that, and if I can't then I don't want a job...

[@GlamGoddes101]

@@franfrankie7 oh that’s not something I said but its something amanda said and I was responding to it. But people are different when it comes to what they want from work. I’ve heard some people say that all they need is a job they feel neutral about so that they could live the life they want to live outside of work with the money they make. But what you said is how I feel, I rather spend the 40hrs a week doing something I love

[@chloetreagus5663]

@@franfrankie7 yes i agree with you, though your job does not define you as a person, it takes up many many hours of your life so why not choose something that you love and enjoy?

[@naylani7790]

I wish more high schools would encourage their students to take a gap year to travel or explore their options, instead of jumping straight into college right after graduation...

[@lavonnealexander6936]

That’s what I did , it was awesome. In general, people need it to travel, throughout their lives.

[@chairs3815]

A lot of school get money from colleges for instant enrollment

[@Animefreak242]

It'd be great if the vast majority of people were financially capable of traveling and exploring their options. 🤣

[@naylani7790]

@@Animefreak242 I know that…and honestly whether a person chooses to go straight into college or to take a gap year to travel, explore career options, etc. , it’s gonna be expensive regardless…that’s why I think schools should try to invest somehow in helping out their students financially who choose to take the route of a gap year for self discovery…but idk maybe I’m way over my head thinking that would ever happen lol

[@Anna133199]

@@Animefreak242 Here in Europe, where taking a gap year is very normal, some people will simply use half of the year to work and save money, and the other half of the year to do the traveling. People could also do some great working holidays, where you work a few hours a day in a different country, on a farm or in a hostel, or something, and you get to stay there and eat with the locals in exchange. Traveling doesn't need to be expensive.

[@SatansFire]

Its really unfortunate because I admitted this to my friends a while ago and they all laughed at me for it. Why is bad to be satisfied in a "mediocre" placement where youre surviving and doing okay, why do we have to strive to such high degrees constantly. I absolutely hate to sound like a nihilist but- nothing is forever, nobody will remember you or your hard work a day after youve passed and our society is bent on destroying you and moving on to the next individual. Live your life for you, love and in the moment.

[@sarapocorn]

Yes. mutual aid, community work, getting to know and appreciate humans. Read and live for the day. I‘m a teacher (luckily in a country that appreciates the profession) so I feel like I can add value working. I don‘t know what I‘d do otherwise.

[@oindrilabhar]

I am curious to know which country?

[@sarapocorn]

@@oindrilabhar Switzerland. I hold a Master's and teach at a college, an average starting salary at a full-time position is just about 6 figures and benefits are good. Yet recent surveys have shown that 40% of teachers in Switzerland have or are at risk of a burnout.. it's a demanding job, but at least it doesn't fall under the 'bullshit jobs' umbrella as per David Graeber :)

[@Michellesrene]

@@sarapocorn How is the work life balance in Switzerland?

[@sarapocorn]

@@Michellesrene It‘s hard to say, really depends on which country you compare it to. I‘d say the Swiss are very hard-working but we also have very strong worker‘s protection here. as in 4-5weeks of paid leave, the amount of notice you get when you get fired, unlimited paid sick days, etc. but Switzerland is horrible when it comes to families. I immigrated from a much poorer Slavic country as a kid and there we have much more maternity/paternity leave, child support, child care options etc. it really depends, but Switzerland definitely isn‘t really into hustle culture that much, it‘s quality oder quantity.

[@theotter7021]

Haha, it's funny because I'm about to become a teacher in a country that doesn't appreciate them at all so now I'm watching these videos to try and figure out what kind of career I could do next, since I don't wanna be a teacher my whole life. But at least I have the opportunity to study and think about it for a few more years. Wish me luck

[@teddygutz.3295]

this video is really comforting, i’m 16 and it feels so weird that adults around me expect me to have a full career plan when i’m still learning to drive

[@purple.things]

I'm 15 and I feel your pain. I don't even know what I want for breakfast

[@Bayo106]

that makes sense friend but time goes so fucking fast. I was 15 not long ago, making beats and uploading them to myspace Soulja boy was 16 at the time and he chased his passion and now he does not have to work if he doesn't want to I'll be 30 this year. Time flies. What I'm saying is just do something you enjoy and start making money now if you can. Have fun too and understand that the adults around you have been in your position and they know they know that if you start making plans now or putting in effort now, then you won't be a stressed out 20 something or 30 something person like many of us have been. Having plans from the age of 15 or 16 would have saved me from years of depression and lonliness

[@ellize1998]

If i could say one thing to my 15 year old self. Choose the most beta profile you can becausr this keeps all your options open for longer. (Don't know if you have to choose a profile in other school systems tho because im dutch haha)

[@goatmonty]

I'm struggling with this. I went through 4 years of a horrible college experience to get my sociology degree. I was so fixated on being an academic professor for much of my life, to getting burnt out due to multiple mental breakdowns...now I just want to be a janitor. That's my ideal job- you get to work, then leave and forget about it. I can listen to podcasts or music while doing it. Sadly, this doesn't fit my parents' idea of what my CAREER PATH TRAJECTORY should be so it's a real battle. I feel you

[@goatmonty]

I should also note that I've been a janitor before, so I'm not idealizing the job. It is really physically tiring, but way more fulfilling than the other "real" jobs I've seen on the market. The idea of jobs vs. careers is extremely elitist to begin with

[@ZechsMerquise73]

I really dislike career-oriented systemic thinking too. Why should a young person lock themselves into a career path that they don't even really know they'll enjoy? But the problem with having the ability to do more and not taking it is that conscientious people are placed further away from power structures and have less of an impact on society. Then again, we don't owe society anything; we don't have to fix the messes other people made. There should always be a choice.

[@Anna133199]

@@goatmonty Are you allowed to use headphones as a janitor? That's cool! I mean I'm sure it's different from school to school, but I can't imagine my old schools allowing a janitor to listen to podcasts.

[@goatmonty]

@@Anna133199 I work in the evening, so if people see me wearing them it doesn't really matter

[@gayanngodfrey2824]

Do it but don’t let them find out, work night shifts

[@Thefitty]

*"get a job just to gain the skill instead of tryig to find fulfillment from it" Interesting, new and refreshign perspective! Thank you!*

[@zaire-aniyarobinson2928]

At least people are admitting it. I feel like people are just lying to themselves. If money didn’t exist majority of us wouldn’t still be doing our “dream job”

[@estefmcruz]

Exactly! If money didn't exist, people just would be doing things that we like and experiencing new ones! And definitely, having enough time to LIVE! I fell in that trap too, all the capitalism idea of "success", "have a better life", "to be someone in this life (like if I wasn't a person before all this crap), and so on... This cost my mental health in my 20s. Now, I'm trying to look for a job that I can be comfortable, stable and in a state of mind that I feel peace within myself, but not putting my happiness and my value in my career.

[@rakkatytam]

Or more of us would be doing our dream jobs too. Like there is a group of people who fucking love trash trucks, like they'll get in their car and follow trash trucks around and cheer like they're watching a football game.

[@lulu91318]

I really like this Ted Talk called called 'Stop searching for your passion' by Terri Trespicio......really helped me when I was stressing about picking a major. You don't have to have one true passion, this isn't like our parents generation where people have one job for decades....most people will switch their careers and do so many jobs in their life. A paycheck and a reason to get up in the morning is as good as any reason to have a job.

[@francheska2113]

"this isn't like our parents generation where people have one job for decades" damn that really connected with me. I can't see myself doing anything I choose for the rest of my life

[@Androgynary]

Speaking as someone that once was working in a “dream career” in a creative field, I’m glad that more people are not making work the basis of their self-worth & identity. Don’t get me wrong...I’ve had some very cool work experiences & developed a lot of skills from my former career. But at the end of the day, it just gave me severe depression, anxiety & burnout to the point I had to quit working altogether. I didn’t even have an outlet to escape to & decompress because my hobbies & passions were my job 💀 Not saying that this is true for everyone obviously, but personally my life improved drastically when I stopped making a career the foundation of my happiness!

[@djyua9157]

There was something wrong with you before you even made it your career because if yu have the chance to get paid for something you love to do that's the biggest blessing you could ask for on this earth you make me sick to my stomach being unappreciative I pray everyday I can get paid to do what I love in my creative field

[@eeeyooohoh]

SAME!!!!

[@sol.f]

@@djyua9157 you truly lack empathy

[@djyua9157]

@@sol.f believe me I get where you're coming from but I'm not disgruntled I have a pretty good situation what this person posted was the first thing to upset me in a while like how could someone possibly be that arrogant???

[@eeeyooohoh]

@@djyua9157 i honestly do get where you're coming from but the OP's point was that even your "Dream job" that you thought you wanted so badly will eventually emotionally drain and overwork you in the end and most likely underpay you too (speaking from my own personal experience)

[@Katherout]

craftsman’s mindset is an interesting way to frame progress! idk if you’ve read ‘The Artist’s Way’ by Julia Cameron but based on what you voiced here i think you’d really enjoy it 😌

[@amandamaryanna]

adding to reading list now!!

[@pleasedonotwatchmychannel]

Oh, my wife and her friend are currently working through “The Artist’s Way” together! They’ve both said they’ve found helpful things in there.

[@dreaming9to5]

As far as college, it doesn't matter what you major in for most things. If you're going to get a "regular job, " they just want to know that you have a degree. You may as well spend 4 years studying something you enjoy. 🤷‍♀️

[@Internetrando]

I had what I thought was my dream job; I was a writer. Turns out when you spend 8+ hours a day writing, proofreading, and editing, the last thing you want to do in your spare time, is work on your own writing (which is important to me). I'm also just fine now with good working conditions and a decent salary.

[@bbybee]

It’s really interesting to see this conversation expand...I’ve never had a dream job and have felt so out of place because of this

[@mckamy4711]

There's definitely too much pressure to pick one that's the best job for you out of all the jobs you could possibly have, which I have always found way too overwhelming as someone who could see myself working as 10 completely different things and enjoying it, maybe I'm just not as fussy🤷🏻‍♀️

[@saki-lx3jc]

i get so stressed and depressed from researching careers bc everyone my age that wants to go into that has a passion for it while I just want to do it for the money 😭

[@mckamy4711]

@@saki-lx3jc I have probably spent an absurd amount of time researching different careers and taking personality tests to try and figure out what I want, I have a lot of interests but a lot of them don't naturally earn a lot of money so it's conflicting, because even if I enjoy the work a lot I won't be able to enjoy it if I'm living from paycheck to paycheck, that would just cause me too much anxiety

[@saki-lx3jc]

@@mckamy4711 omg are we the same person bc i did the same thing i took every free career test existed they were saying i should be a teacher or guidance counsellor or occupational therapist but it’s like i don’t want to go paycheck to paycheck TOO or go to school for 6 years in occupational therapy I barely got thru high school and now another 6 years is too hard 😭

[@vanessaajohn]

Off topic but you are gorgeous

[@sky-zo2ml]

That's why I'm pursuing law, because i have no real job passion. I am passionate about my hobbies, my friends, my interests but not about my job. Law was the only thing that could support me without demanding too much of my already poor health. I totally feel you and, yeah, we should really unlearn this required job passion thing.

[@prettyacademia1823]

Omg you must be my twin flame. I had the same idea.

[@madh2562]

This!! I’m so over the whole “get a job that you’re PaSsIoNaTe about”! Why do I have to have passions I’m deeply invested in? Why can’t I just do a job that pays me well enough so I can do the things I want whenever I want? I’ve definitely started to unpack this whole concept and I keep coming back to the idea that fulfilment can come from the leisurely things I like and not my job, while my job is merely means to an end. Although I want to have a career that does help people, I am happy with it’s main purpose being to pay for a lifestyle I’d enjoy. In a perfect world, I’d just open a cute little bakery and decorate cakes all day while getting paid millions of dollars to do so haha! Does that make any sense haha? Sorry for the rant 😅 I just have a hard time conceptualizing stuff like this if I don’t write it down!

[@JulianSteve]

Me personally, I want to mainly do PR as a “stable job” and acting as a living after college. Also, I am thinking of becoming a casting call agent or even a director because I am TIRED of the misrepresentation of dark skin Afro-Latinos. It’s like we do not exist in movies that are supposed to be on the Latino experience (‘In the Heights’ for example). With so many passions and goals I want in life, I can not predict what will happen. Who knows, I can do all of them and KZbin too. Of course not in the same time or maybe🤔… Make me stop! Thank you for the well analysis video Amanda (the usual😌)💯

[@eeeyooohoh]

im 27 and my careeer peaked wayyyy too early in my early-20s and now i just quit my "cool" startup last week after only two months cause i got sabotaged by my "manager". honestly having a cool career is overrated cause i guarantee theres some shady shit going on in the inside. or everyones severely overworked and underpaid. i just wanna work in my local whole foods now having done everything that i thought i wanted to do

[@melodiesandmemories7739]

I think when things get tough/messy is when in order to survive, you're working a job that isn't fulfilling in any way for many hours per day, and then there's no time or energy left over for your passions/creative projects. I think especially if you're raising a family or caretaking in any way, then there's not much room in your life after work to do the things you actually enjoy. I worry about this as I'm trying to start my career in a creative field where my passions are music and fiction writing.

[@serenity6831]

This is a very mature observation. I feel like I'm finding out a bit late that following your "passion" leads to nowhere but misery. And I think you may have stumbled upon what I really enjoy as well. I enjoy perfecting my craft from the ground up as well.

[@melisdantou]

omg i love the rise of “i don’t have a dream job/don’t dream of labor” videos on youtube, cant wait to hear your take :) update: omg i LOVED it. a lot of people don’t really elaborate on their stance or r very unrealistic + aggressive w it but your personal experience was such a nice + balanced perspective to hear 🤧

[@JulianSteve]

Yes, Amanda did her thang with this video⭐️

[@ErinBecker487grbo]

i literally had this conversation with my dad like 2 months ago and he LOVES working, it was a shock to him lmao

[@nailswithkams]

I love that people are thinking out of the system , knowing that there are other ways to live life

[@jipella]

I have a job interview on monday for something I never thought of doing but honestly the fact that they want to invest time in teaching me everything and are hoping to have someone work there for multiple years is a dream job in a way

[@diannaa.62]

I went to a community college for the exact same reason, but still ended up transferring to a 4 year as undecided. I ended up choosing business, specifically supply chain management because some people said it was a good major for people who don’t know what they want, also bc it’s a career in the private sector lol. I’m nearing graduation and never found any of my classes interesting. No idea what I want to do with my degree, just kind of vibing rn. Great video!

[@vs9400]

I feel you. I did more or less the same.

[@angie1509ag]

D duy Wow, I was surprised to find your comment because something similar happens to me. I am also in my last year of an undergraduate degree in Logistics and Supply Chain Management. Although it seems strange, I am comforted to know that I am not the only one feeling this way.

[@diannaa.62]

@@angie1509ag yea I mean Ig I am happy I’m took all these analytical type classes bc of how transferable they are to everyday life but I’m not passionate about it at all lol. But I will do my best to make the most of my degree for sure. I’m sure u will too.

[@inah4923]

Only 8% of people live in the first world , most people even those in the first world have to be practical when it comes to choosing a career, I think it’s kind of difficult to get a “dream job” that aligns with your interests / hobbies , it’s definitely a privilege to get a job that will pay for your rent utility bills etc

[@melissamarie9839]

“Your job doesn’t have to be your whole identity.” I agree with this 100%

[@aminataba1666]

I genuinely don’t have a dream job. I’m about to finish college and people ask me all the time what I’m going to after and I genuinely do not know 😭😭

[@KatMarielle]

no dream job just vibes

[@Kevin-cy2dr]

Amen

[@The_Skrongler]

Honestly the only reason I'm seeking out a "dream" job is because I don't know if I could even function doing something I don't really care about 40 hours a week. Getting a job I'm passionate about is more of a survival mechanism than a dream. If I don't get a job as a rest home caregiver I might not be able to work up the energy to fight through my chronic pain and work around my neurodivergencies well enough to hold down some other job. I need all the strength I can get and passion is the only well I can think of to draw from.

[@CMacThaProphet]

As someone who had a passion/dream job for film his entire life, I have a different perspective on this. I’ve had trial/errors for the past couple years and lost so much money trying to get to where I want to be, to the point where 2021 was the first time I told myself “fine, I’ll settle for the normal retail job I already have.” So it’s not that I don’t have a dream job, it’s just life won’t allow it to happen, no matter how hard I work at it. I don’t dream of labor either, which is depressing because I feel like I have no other choice BUT to work labor, because it’s the only thing that’s going right for me. That’s the thing about this whole “I don’t dream of labor” thing, some people just don’t have a choice. It’s just fate, and I struggle to accept it because I know I deserve more, but it’s life

[@royalmata]

Love this conversation!! ❤️ I just graduated college. I'm about to start a job that is not my passion, and I'm ok with that. I have an interest in the field, but I'm more interested in the benefits of becoming financially stable and using the money I earn to fund what i wanna do outside of work (ex. travel). The company was also considered one of the best places to work in my area (which hopefully means i won't have to work in a toxic environment) and provides a great benefits package (which also makes it possible for me to access therapy). I find the stability comforting, and I'm glad I'll be able to support my 'passions' outside of work!

[@amandamaryanna]

That’s awesome!!! Congrats !

[@royalmata]

@@amandamaryanna thank you! 💕

[@francheska2113]

what field/job is this specifically? (not being weird, just curious)

[@balsamicjester3827]

this doesn’t really have anything to do with the video but your videos started appearing on my recommended a couple weeks ago and i’ve pretty much binged all of them and i just love ur channel

[@mckamy4711]

I have struggled with the pressure of finding my 'dream job' ever since I had to pick what to study in college. I could see myself doing so many different careers, that when everyone else seemed to have it figured out or had a clear ambition I felt like I was just lost. But I'm slowly coming to the realization that I don't need to have one and only job that I enjoy that's the perfect fit, and frankly maybe it's a good thing that I have so many different interests. I don't think I need my job to be amazingly fulfilling or perfectly tailored for me so long as I feel I can perform well, be recognised for it, not be overworked and have enough money where I'm not stressing about paying the bills. Because to me it's really just a job, the important stuff in my life is the stuff my job should allow me do, not the job itself. Thanks for making this video because I know it'll help people who have felt the same way I do.

[@porcupinesauce]

this came at the best time for me. i don't want to spend my days doing meaningless work, but you gotta be a realist sometimes. i love this perspective of doing it for you, growing your skills for you, and finding satisfaction in that.

[@thefrankstank3404]

And honestly with the way capitalism is structured the notion of even having a dream is depressing due to the way those without money and power are suppressed I hate to say it but it’s beginning to feel like dreaming is a waste which as a dreamer myself is sad to hear

[@juliaaraujoatriz]

I totally understand you, sometimes I think like this too :/. But I try to still optimistic

[@melisdantou]

same but i try to b optimistic and do as much as i can so if, God forbid, things don’t pan out the way i hope, at least i tried my best y’know

[@JulianSteve]

As long as you try, that’s all that matters. Do not give up on your dreams👌🏾‼️

[@Lucy-id3df]

I agree somewhat, however hyperfixation with a career is not something I see being unique to capitalism. Regardless of the means of your economic organization, if there are better outcomes the MORE productive people are, people will strive constantly to be more productive and have their work consume larger part of their lives. The profit motive is only one of the ways this could happen, and overworking and career obsession was very much prominent before capitalism, if not MORE. Think of all these last names Smith, Archer, Cooper, Fletcher, Wright, all of those were ways people defined themselves by their work.

[@frannyglass61]

ive had so many “dream jobs” throughout middle and high school, even since childhood, and like you, i dont know what to major in lol. rn my mindset is just instead of finding a dream job or passion, i have missions or values that i want to work towards.

[@slylover123]

Just want to acknowledge that we are privileged to have this conversation and even have options to consider

[@bigcitysmalljoy]

I feel like i have my "" dream job "", waitress. Unfortunately, i am leaving the industry because i am sick of being treated as a sub human. I wish that i could earn a living wage doing what i love, but alas, it isnt possible (im not even in the US). Very interested in this topic though.

[@majorgarcia152012]

Really great insight! I never had a dream job growing up either and it gave me so much anxiety in college. My friends joked that I was always going through an existential crisis. Now that I've been working for 5+ years, I can confirm that I have had less career anxiety/anxt as I have let go of the idea of building a career just to make a lot of money or make people to envy me. It's also soooo important to just find a place with a good boss who respects you and nice coworkers, after that the work really doesnt matter. I would only say one thing though - its good to focus on building skills, but if you don't make enough money to cover all living expenses, it can be hard to stay at a job that gives you those skills. You still end up being tempted to go to other better paying jobs

[@mimit9216]

I've never been able to imagine myself working a job. I just don't think I can do the whole capitalism thing.

[@sarapocorn]

neither, about the capitalism aspect. you‘re definitely not alone. Not because of work per se, but just because our options are becoming more and more alienating. I highly recommend Graeber‘s essay „On the Phenomenon of Bullshit Jobs“ on this topic.

[@The_Keeper_of_Names]

same! also that whole competitiveness for getting a job seems so stressful.

[@estefmcruz]

Same! It's like I don't know how to build my life, having a house and those "important, mature, adult decisions"...

[@incognitoincognito7500]

I don’t really have a dream job but I want to have a fun career, that I enjoy

[@gracefulclutes]

I love your video!!! You are absolutely right about everything!! As someone who graduated from college more than 5 years ago, your career shouldn’t define who you are. If you are breaking yourself for a job, then you need to quite and re-evaluate what you want out of a job. People in college act like they have their shit together, but have no idea what’s coming to them after they graduated and they can’t get into the industry that they think they are supposed to be working in because it is their “dream career”. And I have always just followed my interests and allowed myself to try new industries that I never thought about going into. It has allowed me to grow as a person in so many ways. News Flash to our SOCIETY you can be in your late 20’s and even in your 30’s and still feel like you want to try something new!! No one in life has their shit together.

[@braydenpetersen]

I’m passionate about working on stuff but I just see money as a barrier to what I want to do. Capitalism is all I know and so I’m expected to work and I don’t know if a life without work is even possible

[@tradelyfewbphil2119]

Define capitalism.

[@Matthew-gy2ep]

Everyone who is following this trend should start our own country and just live in peace and just vibe out with each other.

[@JordannGeorge]

Ok but where are the resources coming from?

[@ATD909]

…you mean socialism? Fails every time!

[@TheFxEditor]

@@ATD909 No, only crappy political governmental powers failed socialism. Socialism is not an entirely failed system.

[@ralphiesarch8980]

How would anything get done if no one wants to work?

[@TheFxEditor]

@@ralphiesarch8980 I think you can't escape the labor of life but jobs are definitely not something everyone should be striving for.

[@sms1511]

I feel so early I have never been here before. As a 31 year old woman who changed her career and now looking for another switch I am very happy that young people are making this realization early on. In an ultra capitalistic society its very rare to find people with a true passion in a career that also gives you a comfortable living wage. Changing careers to what suits you at different stages of your life and also, lets face it, the global economy and job market changing like we saw during the pandemic is essential. It is also important to note that in a more just society people would not be burdened with essential worries like medical expenses (I live in a country that offers socialised medical care and subsidised university fees) so I do feel for people who are in countries that dont offer that. Honestly the shift in understanding that work does not give you joy is important, make your job just fufilling enough that you dont burn out from it and gives you financial stabilty. However I would not call it a " craftsman mindset" either, its simply labour that you offer and always make sure you are compensated to it accordingly. 🤷🏾‍♀️

[@SimplyErinful]

I totally get not having a dream job but honestly having a job you enjoy really, really helps with overall happiness.

[@littlevirgobean]

I work in the entertainment industry and feel the exact same way! Down to your attitude about NYU haha (I went to BU for film). I'm so burnt out now from trying to convince myself that this is what I want to do forever and it's just not. Thank you for sharing this

[@neutralmoons]

oh my goodness girl I've just started my channel and I'm literally about to post about the same topic!!! I'm glad we're all realising that we don't actually dream of labour and want to enjoy our lives on this planet instead🥰 love your channel!!💛

[@MicahRion]

I’m in a similar place. I’m leaving my “career” in mental healthcare to work a cooperative grocery store. I cannot do the working conditions at my current job, it’s too much. I’m just looking for a humane job so I can pay my rent. Fulfillment doesn’t need to come from my work and it doesn’t need to be about my life purpose.

[@GinkgoTree123]

POV of a 28 year old. Balance is key. Find a job you can tolerate and a workplace with those who you feel supported by. It doesn’t all come at once but you will get it. Do a good job, but set boundaries. Take time to pursue passion pursuits on the side. I work in the creative field. It’s demanding - ive learned to separate myself from my “day” job and start carving out time for my pursuits that feel close to my heart. You can do it too. Blessings to you. I think you could benefit from the concept of IKIGAI :)

[@dianecalderon1700]

You have so much insight for your age! I’m glad to see it. Being 25 I have some work experience now. I agree as long as I’m not hurting anyone in my career, I’m happy.

[@katyrutenge]

I've felt this way literally ALL my life! And every single time my career choice was easily swayed by others opinions. Now I'm 18 on the brink of going to university to study a degree I could literally drop if I got the chance

[@ilostmyjacket3997]

It's sad that people are valued for what job they have or their status in society. This video is so liberating.. work is a topic that has always given me anxiety. The grind and huddle mentality is just so unhealthy. I hate capitalism!!

[@ZechsMerquise73]

I get hating the hustle and grind, but how is being able to own your own property and freely exchange goods the problem? All the alternatives to capitalism that have been proposed also glorify grinding and hustle. At least with capitalism you have the option of working for yourself and not be told you have to work in a mine or ammunitions factory. I don't think a state economy would ask you to make your own youtube page.

[@ilostmyjacket3997]

@@ZechsMerquise73 that's a really good point you made there. I have to agree with you on this one!

[@a-nf3qk]

@@ZechsMerquise73 people own property under communism, capitalism directly profits from the hustle and grind mentality/culture

[@xionelectra]

@@ZechsMerquise73 because when people get too good at making money it ruins it for others and we run into the problems we have now. People will do anything for money, killing isn’t the most far fetched one either…

[@lorenzoperi203]

I'm 32, and I feel exactly the same way. One caveat is that the difference between a good job and a bad job, I think, is mostly the people that you work with and the atmosphere that you work in. You can't be too picky on that either to be honest; I work in IT and the people I work with aren't really my kind of people, but I've had the luck to pretty much always having worked in reasonably chill environments, with chill people, and I wouldn't trade that for a "cooler" environment that would be more stressful or competitive.

[@kamsyanyachebelu1613]

Omg yesssss I’ve been thinking a lot about this “I don’t dream of labor” conversation. So stoked that you’re doing a video on it.

[@RaveYoda]

"It doesn't have to be your whole world; it doesn't have to be your identity." It is if you're barely making ends meet and living paycheck to paycheck. 🤣

[@amandamaryanna]

very true!

[@menassies3224]

Question if someone told you that they’d pay you ten times your current salary to do another job outside of your stated skill set and dreams if they promised to train you would take it?

[@RaveYoda]

@@menassies3224 Since no one will make me such an offer, it's a moot point and not worth thinking about. My answer then is that it doesn't matter what I choose.

[@Bayo106]

@@RaveYoda funny you say that because I'm experiencing that right now LMAO so yes, someone can offer that

[@RaveYoda]

@@Bayo106 I never said no one would or could make such an offer to someone else. I simply stated it wont happen to me (most likely not for most others too). Your case isn't the norm and is an outlier at best. Also, I don't care it "happened" to you. Congrats. But, I don't care.

[@Alexis-nk4ks]

I’m so grateful KZbin algorithm overlords recommended this video, because it hits home. I entered ‘the wrong major’, but in this final year, I feel tired.

[@vitoriasouto7702]

I think - speacially in creative areas - there is a certain pressure for us to feel *extremelly* passionate about the thing we do (or will be doing) for living. I am a Design student but I don't have an overwhelming love for creativity, arts, etc. I just have an interest, that's all, and I am happy with my choice. There's a quote from haikyuu that impacted me so much that I keep it on the top of my College Notion page: "I don’t think you need an unwavering will or lofty motive just to get started(...) To get started, I think you just need a little bit of curiosity.”

[@natasha03.]

Yep I hopped on this trend too cos I’m so tired of my labour being exploited. I’ve worked for 10 years full time and I’m tired 🥵

[@nicoleniceel]

I loved this video, I’ve been pressured to chose a career path and I’ve also been shamed by my parents for not having a dream job. Loved everything you said. I’m glad more people are bringing attention to this topic.

[@LynetteAdkins]

I love this, thank you for the mention!❤️ I love your point on a craftsman mindset - working to get better at a skill instead of chasing accolades or money is way more fulfilling. Seeing you talk about your short film made me smile bc you can really tell it brought you genuine joy!

[@matildebruneel7867]

I love this video! I couldn't really find myself in some other "I do not dream of labour" videos because they very much come from the perspective of someone who has youtube as a source of financial security. Your view is so relatable. The whole thing about having realistic expectations of what a job can give you and not letting it be this huge thing in your life is someything I've been thinking about a lot, and the cratsman mindset seems like such a fulfilling way to look at life.

[@hecatrice2064]

I just can't imagine my work being my identity

[@Atmviola]

Great video per usual! I do have a dream job in music performance, and so much of that is because I live for the relationships you form with others through music and collaboration.

[@The_Open_Book]

Love your discussion of a craftsman's mentality! I feel that way, I love learning new skills regardless of where I get them from, growing is the goal over success :)

[@sienagallo199]

These kinds of videos are so encouraging as a freshman in college who has never had a "dream job" !!!

[@madison1275]

Thanks for making this video! I'm two years out of college and not feeling all that passionate about my work as an engineer. I didn't have a name for it but this "craftsman" mindset is a great counter to the regret and worry I feel about my career path

[@Erica-jh4xk]

love that more people are having this conversation

[@jo6513]

I really appreciate your honesty and bravery in this video, I've been thinking about the same thing lately (because of the pandemic and online classes I was pondering upon the question of why do I care about uni and what do I want to gain from it) and it's really upsetting at some point to realize the lack of the passion you see in other people but also it's kind of freeing to know you can just want to learn and gain new skills; now it's a bit easier for me to study and just to think about the future because the pressure of being in love with my next job isn't there anymore. thank you for speaking about this!! x

[@carlyandmitch]

I love ur videos, you speak so well and I love ur deep looks into random topics it’s always so interesting. I hate when ppl just sit and talk but ur hella captivating ❤

[@storiesbynaima]

Thank you so much for your honesty. It's very comforting!

[@treefing4s]

UGHHH THANK U!!!! Recently Ive acknowledge that in my practice essays for college and even In my resume, I've said how I enjoy not knowing much of what I'm doing and later learning and mastering those skills. I want to be able to experience things that will me improve my personal growth and later be able to apply it my life, whether its in trying to help others or in a job. SO THANK U FOR SHARING THIS!!!! I NOW HAVE TO PUT IT INTO WORDS!!!

[@Lillyjoy]

That sponsorship was so perfect for me, all the flavors sound so good and it's not expensive, so I actually bought it :)

[@engineeringbookisha]

Omg. I feel like this video literally just changed my life and completely shifted my perspective on my career. Let me go journal. Sooo much to think about

[@emmacooper4453]

Such an important conversation and so eleoquently put!!!

[@kerry2372]

this was such a great video, have been so anxious for years because of people asking what my career is going to be and ALWAYS linking it to this "passion" that everyone apparently has but noone can explain,, gonna go scream

[@esmesal6006]

Thank you for all these comments . Really making me aware. I’m going to college in 2 months, I have to get a job soon. Dreading it but these comments reassured me I’m not alone and to just do what’s best for me.

[@komaldsouza6725]

This video is so inexplicably comforting to me(especially now when I have to prepare to goto college)

[@DrWHO-jv5qi]

It's scary how accurately this video describes me as well...so glad I found your channel.

[@emmaleadora]

Thank you for sharing- I really relate to your university experience/ having many interests you want to explore without one focused passion

[@brookarisa9734]

Fun fact: A few weeks ago, I saw the Cal Newport on your shelf in another video and read it. Changed my perspective on having a career and my approach to work. For months, I’d been agonizing over figuring out the right “path”. Now, I realize that it doesn’t really matter. I thoroughly enjoying learning for the sake of learning. So I’m spending my time learning interesting skills that may be helpful later. I wish I’d figured that out in college. Great video. Subscribed! :)

[@itsameerah2400]

I'm in high school and I always make up something random when I get asked what I want to be when I grow up. It's crazy how I relate to everything said in the video.

[@wishyfishyrox]

I love this conversation amd that people are starting to have it! My "dream job" isnt anything specific, its something where: no customer interaction, flexible working hours, working from home at least half the time, decent pay. My current job is all those except the last one, so I guess Im working my dream job even though its not particularly 'special' - it allows me to live the life I want outside of work

[@siennadietze9914]

as someone who has a dream career and personally finds so much value in career success, i find this so interesting to learn someone else's viewpoint. honestly i am kind of jealous that you feel this way, and that you are open to any job! it's admiring how free you seem :)

[@mariavictoriaoliveiraespin1749]

Hi Amanda, I love how raw your videos are because sometimes I could tell that you were starting to trip with these ideas and it felt like I was listening to a friend rant about something hahah

[@celestemarie8745]

I totally relate to this video as a former Jack of all trades. I was good at school, but no passions and lots of interests that I didn’t want to burn out on. “Find your passion” is often bad advice. Ended up going into IT on a whim. Now I have a stable job that I’m good at that I use to support my hobbies on the side. Maybe one day they can fund themselves. Here’s to hoping my bf and I can make a bestselling video game 😂

[@zaafarj]

Thanks for this vid, definitely opened my eyes to the realities of passion

[@amymcivor1220]

wow i just realised i've had a craftsman mindset my whole life. so thankful that i decided to study radiography because it is such an open field with a million things to learn and grow my skillset ☺️

[@lynnspacek894]

I've been lost thinking about future careers and university programs FOR THE LONGEST TIME NOW and I thought I was pretty much alone on that front😖, so thank you for sharing. Similarly to you i've always gotten good grades in subjects but never felt a strong drive towards a very specific pathway or career. I tend to jump interests really quickly and all I know is that I want to have a comfortable stream of income that'll let me travel and experience life outside of the workplace. Your videos are all honestly a blessing and you're such a comforting presence on youtube. I'd love to be friends with you if only I lived in the US.

[@wihans]

i love you ! this seems good already

[@augustvirgo26]

One thing I just have to accept is that work is not my life, and I won't make it. No matter what I do, I always clock out leave it behind until the next day. Of course, I don't want a job where I'm miserable and I dread the hours before I go to work, but if it's enough to keep me going, I'm fine with that. I remember asking myself one night, why is that when people ask "What do you want to do with your life?" the answer you're supposed to say is the career you're going into? Life isn't supposed to be work and I refuse to make it that way.

[@890oo7]

Ive been on a gap year for a year and few months now & still don’t now what I want in life & being forced into a career field is even more pressure. All I can do right now is learn more about myself & create things that actually bring fulfillment

[@PogieJoe]

Love this mindset. Happiness is a fleeting emotion anyway.