I Don’t Know What Society Wants From Me! | Why More and More Men Are ‘Checking Out’

[@The_Real_JerBear]

Honestly, I don’t care what society wants from me. I don’t break the law, I don’t hurt or take advantage of others, and I certainly don’t dictate or decide how other people should be living their lives. I’m divorced and detached from society’s “expectations.” I don’t live your life and you don’t live mine.

[@ericperez7872]

🤣that’s not different ..you just think that …you don’t have to agree but you better align …there’s not much you can do to even be you or different lol everyone’s to conformed by what the higher ups painted for you to be 🤷🏻‍♂️ it’s all illusion and the truth is always at the bottom …goodluck with your illusion 👍🏼

[@kiriyareview9823]

⁠@@ericperez7872No, he’s right. You just sound brainwashed. If YOU’VE convinced yourself to conform and that you’re not different, that’s YOUR illusion. TF. Who are you to judge someone else?

[@eddiehulk7804]

Damn right!!! Eff em all

[@The_Real_JerBear]

@@ericperez7872 says the illusionist. Thank you.

[@brianmeen2158]

That’s where I’m at . I just do not care what most of society thinks or what they expect of me. I want quiet and solitude

[@axq3837]

There is no woman more beautiful than a man's freedom

[@jonmueller2117]

That is the truth! Well said.

[@jackperry6269]

hahhaahhah that is good one

[@shrunkensimon]

Me: "I'm married" NPC: "Oh, lovely! What's her name?" Me: "Freedom" NPC: 🤯

[@piperlong544]

I AGREE. But my high end silicone companion doll from Asia really gives my freedom a run for it's money! 😂

[@glidkomer]

@@piperlong544 😯

[@Rennette-td2mq]

Retired at 68 yrs. Last year. Live in the mountains with my dogs who will never betray me. Couldn't be happier

[@DeusExMachina10001]

Men are tired of sacrificing for nothing.

[@Campaign-gx8ty]

Jokes, y’all literally do zip

[@aZakthatAttacks]

@@Campaign-gx8ty COPE harder

[@andrewhernandez2987]

​​@@Campaign-gx8tyLmfao, men do all the work that keeps society going. Keep thinking blue collar workers are irrelevant because you'd be begging for them to come back if they just decided to stop.

[@TheBb6prelude]

​Sh_ ut up boy ​@@Campaign-gx8ty

[@FaithwWorks]

@@Campaign-gx8ty anyone who says that makes me think you’ve never been around a real man

[@sandbergmachineandtool6226]

Its shockingly cheap to live as a single male, especially if you are a minimalist. Once you realize your only working to impress woman who dont know what they want anyway, theres literally no point to grind 40 hours a week at a crap job just to eat and support minor habits.

[@JuancoPRoFlow]

Amen 🙏

[@publiclanddeerhunter]

I totally agree,why slave your life away when the days,months and years go by in a blur just because you are chasing a meaningless paycheck? I just resigned from my job which payed quite well as i felt it was crushing my soul...I'd rather pick fruit or empty bins if it means a more content life & gives me enough money to travel and enjoy hobbies like hunting & fishing...

[@AB1B1]

Bro I've went Uber and Lyft full time. Puting things in perspective has helped tremendously. I can work when I get ready, I have time to hit the gym now and I still can save some money. And seeing how unstable and temporary relationships are these days I can date women with the certainty of knowing it won't be long before it ends which is cool w/ me too. 😂

[@Donner906]

Maybe work in a field you actually like?

[@SonicUmami]

@@AB1B1 Based

[@guidofeliz8384]

Society fears people who are independently happy and free.

[@lilfairycupcake]

you bet. when u r not a part of the program, your a threat.

[@guidofeliz8384]

@@lilfairycupcake : I am not a threat. I am a peaceful person. I find things to do.

[@lilfairycupcake]

@@guidofeliz8384 i question you not.

[@guidofeliz8384]

@@lilfairycupcake : What?

[@unitedstatesdale]

The secret to life starts with not giving a hoot what society thinks. 😊

[@sameenergy9414]

💯

[@126theman]

Straight to jail

[@stephensivek6662]

True that.

[@MattPhannyPack]

​@126theman yeaaa it's pretty hard to not care what society thinks when the laws that govern us reflect what our society thinks 🤷🏾‍♂️ but I get it

[@Tempusverum]

Society is drunk, it can go home

[@redriderbbgun8018]

Almost every married man I've ever encountered has told me to never marry, they always say the same thing: It's Not Worth It

[@Patriotic327]

My Dad told me the same thing, avoid having children, take care of yourself cause no one cares about you more than yourself.

[@tdaye6978]

In my age group, I only know one, maybe two married couples where the man doesn't seem to regret it constantly. ALL of the other men literally envy every guy who's single and say that if it weren't for child support and alimony, they'd have left a long time ago due to what the women turn into after marriage

[@EzekielD69420]

Yup, this comment right here. Never have I heard 2 things more than, "don't have kids" and "stay single".

[@Zygmunt-Zen]

I am middle aged man with kids, dog, mortgage, the works. I agree. My wife has been socially distancing before COVID. I have more bromance with my friends and teammates than romance with wife. I don't bother with anniversaries anymore, last one went by without mention from either one of us.

[@dwaynelamberts3696]

Thats because you live in the West my friend. Marriage and family values in the middle east are different

[@d-bigboy-3025]

The only way to win a rigged game, is not to play.

[@neilfalcone376]

I got married 3 times. Age 22, age 38, age 54. Each one has had it's own consequences of never feeling whole and satisfied with their outcomes. I'm almost 80 now and I cannot change my life at this point because of financial and psychological outcomes. Just riding it out now with acceptance and grace.

[@VirginiaRe]

Marriage is over-rated.

[@thenima]

Thanks for sharing your story Neil. Part of the key to finding contentment is also realizing what we can and cannot control

[@Hyper_Driven]

Hey at least you can say you tried.

[@tristan583]

You actually managed to reach 80 years old, good luck . I don’t mean long life isn’t necessarily a good and full filled life but you know

[@Stillness-Now]

Wishing you peace of mind and contentment in your final years. Glad to have you as a part of this community.

[@travisworden8841]

Single men, three things for success: 1. Keep your pickle in your pants. 2. Work hard and live on way less than you make for 10 years. 3. Travel. Fuel your hobbies and passions.

[@jaye5872]

Good advice. Doing that right now

[@lexasusopra8704]

why Keep your pickle in your pants? and wont you become alone and lonely when you grow old?

[@torijones9992]

Literally the life I’ve been on these past two years ❤🎉

[@MaseraSteve]

This is the perfect rule for life and unfortunately many people gets tempted to break rule number 1 & 2 = disaster

[@mickqld3003]

Done. Worked pretty well too !

[@livingjoke3083]

The hookup culture and normalization of casual sex has definitely messed up family creation... Social media is just an amplifier to the problem

[@CaptainKneegrowMan]

Men aren't checking out... we're being pushed out... And society will pay the toll

[@alternateunreleasedshellac505]

I'd like to know how it'll look like in 50 years from now.

[@Beta_Mixes]

@@alternateunreleasedshellac505 There is a certain, very specific, book that tells what happens when this specific nation-wide geo-politicial-social situation. Spoilers: It doesn't end well for the socitety that goes through it. If you really want to know and read the book I'm talking about is Isaiah in the Bible, it's the first 10 chapters. It's basically what's happening right now in most countries.

[@TG-hf1gx]

Can't push what refuses to be moved.

[@STMARTIN009]

It is absolute insanity right now. When you have a society that says men can get pregnant,some do not recognize gender,boys are girls and girls are boys there is a problem.

[@user-kp4ml3sh8i]

thats right where being push out of are homes by the family court it should be renamed wee don,t give a fuck about the children court

[@rickynunez3109]

People just want you to be like them and work be a homeowner and be married to validate their life decisions. They're not really happy but they want approval and validation so they push that on you

[@jewelthompson4210]

EXACTLY!

[@youngboyharless9769]

You never truly own your home either, constant costly repairs 💸💸💸 (if the home is older) property taxes every year, also increasing every year, hoa fees (if aplicable) you have to give your whole life up for that headache of an existense. If you chose or are choosing this path i hope your boss pays you good and doesn't turn on you/fire you when you least suspect. Or you own your own income and don't spend more than you make/max credit cards.

[@triggered577]

I agree 100% - particularly when it comes to having children!

[@AdamEarthMusic]

Spot on!!

[@AvsFan32]

Whoa! This

[@MrGchiasson]

Society checked out on us. We logically responded in kind.

[@MMAGrinders]

"You aren't suffering like the rest of us you must be lazy" "You are way too happy you should get married and have kids"

[@Jsteelies]

They want validation for the choices they've made and you can't offer that validation so they hate you for it.

[@TimothyWard]

😂😂

[@veebliss1266]

Or that’s your bitter projections 😂

[@pantherman8719]

Lmao

[@scenicdrive725]

Few things infuriate a woman as much as a content man who is not 'owned' by some woman.

[@shiptj01]

Society wants us to be bored and lonely with a decent paycheck where we earn enough for vices, but not enough to stop working.

[@TimothyWard]

Facts!!!

[@shiptj01]

@@TimothyWard Thanks, homes.

[@durgalakshmi2793]

​@@TimothyWardyour a wonderful man! Social media has brainwashed everyone. I have girlfriends who have college degrees good paying jobs and they married men who had careers as well and do 50 50. Some of these women who want rich men don't even work!

[@dustbowlhammer7119]

Ikr, we have a body that makes a profit for someone. But we get just enough to keep going. Enough to keep the wheels turning.

[@wacky.racoon]

Wow this comment came through on my fax machine !

[@donovanberserk4993]

The slave masters are upset the slaves are revolting

[@Gizziiusa]

No they are not. They know exactly what they are doing, as its part of an overall agenda.

[@jasondesselles9168]

Social media has been the biggest curse of my generation.

[@deadreckoning6288]

Spot on. It's changing humanity into something less than human.

[@JoseDiaz-rd9fh]

Its really only part of it. The social engineering started well before social media. Social media just finished the job. It started with usurping authority from men over the families they are expected to provide for. The bashing of masculinity and the artificial propping up of women. Teaching women that men are oppressive and need to be controlled. Most women are going to have some level of disrespect for men essentially dooming most relationships. They have also been indoctrinated in such a way that self reflection and introspection is not possible. Anything that challenges their ideology induces a mental breakdown. She will expect contradictory things from you and you would think pointing that out would help get a solution. And you would be wrong, all you will get is "figure it out"

[@mrconfusion87]

SocMed just exascerbates our WORST instincts, thoughts, and behaviors...

[@roadwarrior7401]

whats social about media ..............................just\ sayin

[@moviesynopsis001]

Depends how you look at it. It has saved many young men from divorce and suicide due to divorce. Its been an oracle for young men to see into a females true nature. Its like being given a map hack on a video game and complaining the game is too easy.

[@nubiandivegirl3316]

"Society is a group of people who don't know me and don't have my personal interest at heart. Treat people right and with respect, love yourself and live your life without apology." -atillman

[@Waterheater263]

Danm Son Well Said Just Danm

[@RetireandGo]

Well said Society is not really sure what it wants from men I’m not going to get incarcerated because I acted wrong for that week, haha Defend me Don’t defend me Don’t open the door for me! Hey … where are all the good men ? Haha, it’s chaos I’m out :-)

[@Andygb78]

That's it.

[@chipchippie]

Correct, and Thank You!😊

[@brianmeen2158]

@@RetireandGo yes and many men are not sure what they want from society .. everything is blurry these days . I think our fathers and their fathers would be very confused if they were young today

[@anicorp4952]

Society isn't going thru "weird stuff", it in full collapse! And I'm just drinking beer and watching it all burn!

[@user-xd7rc6eo8n]

These people still dont realize that this was mass murder perpetrated on its own citizens for the past 4 years. That's how dumb society is.

[@aZakthatAttacks]

Amen brother! Make some popcorn, crack open a cold one and just watch it all burn and then laugh at Women losing their shit because they don't have a simp to take care of them. Karma's a bitch..

[@jesseluciano1388]

Nothing else you can really do. It takes a group effort and we all know we way too divided for all that. No ones gonna listen to no one they’re too prideful. So I don’t see progress in anything. Just constant decline until collapse and that’s where we are now.

[@silkysmooth-vk2ux]

I will bring marshmallows lol.

[@ghoste1605]

Lol I can relate doing the same thing. Enjoy being boss babe put a chick in it and make it gay southpark😂

[@user-lj8fp8fb1f]

A true man doesn't look to "society" to tell him his path and purpose.

[@Humble_Legend]

I'm a 45 year old Black man, and things are sooo different than they were even 15-20 years ago when it comes to women and dating. It's too much work and mental strain dealing with these women who have been used up and spit out by thugs, playas, and married men.

[@theone7216]

Facts

[@Genesisonetwentyseven]

Is it bc these women are too smart to put up with bs? Some men usually define themselves as "good men" when they are the same as the thugs, just weaker

[@Bluzian74]

Totally. Im 48, educated white dude, and it's even worse for us now. Affirmative Action, "positive" discrimination, racist hiring practices, white women thinking that they can solve racism by sleeping with black dudes (not out of love, but out of cultural / sex tourism ). Merit has gone out the window, along with the morals of the baby and the bathwater. Money has no value, everyone has totally lost the plot entirely. (was it the plandemic lockdown, or were most people already unscrupulous?) . We all were far more equal and better off 10-20 years ago. But now?? Humanity lacks humanity. It's a wonder more men aren't committing suicide and murder. Seriously. Good luck brother. Namaste.

[@poetcomic1]

Used up and spit out women. Self damaged human beings.

[@timothyswauger3984]

In other words, the juice ain’t worth the squeeze.

[@email5023]

I 'checked out' about 15 years ago. I entered middle age unmarried and single. I was burnt out of the dating scene constantly simping and trying to figure how to attract women. I said forget it and I ignored all the negative peer pressure of being a single male in middle age. I unplugged my self-esteem from women and I pursued my own hobbies and continued my career. I am better for it. I thought I was a rarity but now via social media, there are others like me!

[@SpiKSpaN-ei6zq]

Not alone on that at All ✊

[@mattyrock2467]

same here. been done for years and never going back

[@michaeljoos9753]

“You are not alone”, General Zod, Man of Steel

[@user-qn1pb6ul4o]

I'm glad I'm not alone😢

[@r.thomas2684]

💯

[@solidwisdom8749]

I agree. I hate when society looks down on you automatically if your a grown man and aren’t a lawyer or a doctor or something high in profession. All these expectations. Just live how you want to live and do what you enjoy.

[@Wastelandman7000]

Yeah, and if all men became professionals, who's going to unclog the sewers? Who's going to do the rough carpentry? Who's going to do the welding? There are very few women who do those professions because they don't want to do them for the most part. The dirty work is mostly left to men, and without it society grinds to a halt.

[@BlueViperCodm]

Fr

[@LilXancheX]

@@Wastelandman7000 i agree. Society or this world in general has always been about balance. Why do you think murderers exist? Like a lion, they eliminate their prey so that humans/zebras wouldn’t overpopulate. If losers didn’t exist, we’d be screwed, because we need them to do the bad jobs like cooking our food or building our houses. We all play a role on this planet, wether small or big, I feel like destiny has it all planned out. It’s a balanced cycle, that’s how this world survives. We all play a role in this life

[@wesley6442]

Honestly, I secretly in a way want it to collapse maybe then society will see the value in men again and stop man hating all the time and start respecting us again.. @@Wastelandman7000

[@P-12345]

@@Wastelandman7000 that’s why they get you trapped early, kids, debts, some hag on your case 247, pressure from society, competition amongst peers, drugs everywhere, normalise binge drinking

[@mrstealyoblocks4473]

I'm a diesel mechanic and love it, but I'm at the point I only live for me. Not having a family, not getting married...just done with it all. Society hates us? We walk away, and we're not coming back. Can't wait to buy a small cabin in the middle of nowhere and society can F off.

[@mrstealyoblocks4473]

@@Jsteelies Hope isn't a strategy.

[@cavy369]

@@Jsteelies i think we also need to give up on the notion that one day we'll magically walk into our "soulmate"... that stuff doesn't exist. Maybe some people do have theirs, but most people don't if you take off your rose-coloured glasses. Marriage and monogamy is only an evolutionary phase/social construction that we as humans tried for a bit but failed miserably at it.

[@daniella8400]

@@cavy369it’s not even monogamy because poly isn’t the solution. It’s people and their lack of knowing themselves

[@daniella8400]

@@cattywampusmcdoogle don’t get married, there’s literally no benefit in it

[@daniella8400]

@@cattywampusmcdoogle same

[@Obese_Pterodactyl]

I've been single for almost six years and not a single woman has indicated any interest to me. I just got a hug for the first time in 5 years and 9 months from a girl but it's just cause we used to work together. I've just given up. Since being celibate it's basically like the Seinfeld episode. I started reading books again, drawing again. I'm getting smarter and now I'm getting into shape. I can't believe I ever prioritized having a girlfriend or wife like I had in the past rather than myself.

[@kickboxerforever00]

Believe me, Even if you are married it don't mean anything anymore, you become nothing more than a Paycheck to them

[@JayMacTìre]

A Man just wants peace 🙏

[@youngboyharless9769]

Amen brother. And many women i think see this and are appawled by it. They just can't ever understand i guess, just like we'll never truly understand them.

[@diginandpitchin]

We all want peace. 🙏🏾

[@jonmueller2117]

Sex, a sandwich, and a smile. Not complicated.

[@JayMacTìre]

@@jonmueller2117 if that's all your looking for yeah do you

[@PraveenSrJ01]

@@jonmueller2117you are really funny 😄

[@tubadurantdoda]

Actually more and more people figure out that there is no point in working hard anymore. So people find alternatives to enjoy their lives instead. This doesn't mean we are lazy, it just means we don't waste precious time on something impossible to achieve or won't fulfill us in the long term even if we achieve it. I think this generation realizes that being happy and content is the real success and putting yourself through immense struggle just to advance in your career is pointless as most of the time it doesn't even work.

[@kentang1528]

I am working part time ..I hate slaving in a full time job..enough to pay the bills and living a minimalistic lifestyle and saving up whatever I have. My mental health feels so so much better. I worked full time before , my body and my mind feels so damn tired all the time...two days off is not enough for me. I am currently working 3 to 4 days a week, still a part time slave but it feels a lot better.

[@jeyjones2887]

🎯🎯🎯Exactly right

[@tubadurantdoda]

@@kentang1528 I'm the same. I work freelance and although I don't make as much as those working in regular jobs, I have so much free time left for myself. I think companies need to understand that overworking employees will only result in less productivity even if they think otherwise.

[@shiptj01]

Part-time is better.

[@bluesrocker91]

This is something that has long been on my mind. We're brought up to believe in the importance of "contributing to society." But there's no end game to it. It's not like there's this utopia we're all striving towards. It's just generation after generation, on and on forever, and no matter how hard each generation works, society always seems to get worse. Society takes the best years of your life and then throws you away. It doesn't care about you. If you're lucky, after a lifetime of contributing, you might get to enjoy your freedom for a handful of years in reasonable health when you retire. If you are lucky. Society tells us we need a college degree, a prestigious job, to own our own home, drive a luxury car, have a wife, a bunch of kids and so on. And if you don't achieve all these things by 30, you're a loser. It's all bullshit. You don't need any of these hugely expensive things to live a happy and fulfilled life, and ever more of us are realising that.

[@Strider9655]

I think we were all raised to believe that hard work pays, work hard and you'll do well, but this isn't the case any more. In fact the harder you work, the less you get paid and if you're not self employed and you're too good at your job, or actually have a moral compass, you're probably going to go through 10 different companies dealing with insecure bosses who want you gone.

[@allesdurchprobiert]

So true! 😢 Jobs aren't fulfilling, and it seems a lot of relationships/marriages aren't fulfilling either. If only I could afford to totally check out of this system (well, to be honest except for stores, hospitals, doctors, internet, public transportation, police, firefighters etc., but just when it comes to jobs and people.), I'd do it today!

[@P_Higz_901]

exactly. You aren't alone bro,

[@shawnbeak6048]

Damn. This hits hard.

[@deborahfrederick916]

I am retired, but that was my experience my entire working life.

[@Strider9655]

@@deborahfrederick916 And I bet people used to point you out as the problem...... People always blame the victim because they don't want to believe that these things could happen to them.

[@Tommo77ful]

I'm 46 male, never married, no kids and single for about 5 or 6 years through my own choice. Getting into a relationship becomes less and less appealing with each passing year, and my willingness to make the effort to try has almost disappeared. I work hard and well at my job, go to the gym 2 or 3 times a week, my social life is at a level where it suits me perfectly, and I spend lots of my free time travelling and hiking/mountain walking by myself. Getting into a relationship just seems like far too much of an effort with a minimal guarantee that it's going to improve the quality of my life now AND in the long term. If people can't understand that I'm perfectly happy doing my own thing like this, I see it is their problem rather than mine.

[@Eee-I-Eee-I-Oh]

Great video. You are noticing a phenomenon many amen are experiencing these days. I have been describing it as “ upside down and backwards. “ I think the main thing for men is to adjust our scope and to dig deeper into ourselves and find meaning for ourselves first . In a way it is a great opportunity to be who we are and not who others want us to be. Men are under valued in todays society. We have been lied to to stay slaves. It is a new story and we must write in ourselves as characters we want to be. It isn’t easy , but what else you going to do?

[@crbraue]

Minimal guarantee?? How's about negative ROI?

[@DISH2IMPRESS]

Sorry you sound on the cowardly side

[@supremelordoftheuniverse5449]

Same here. I miss having secs though

[@LilXancheX]

Are you sad?

[@NookTommy]

Your own mental health comes first. Even if society sees you as a “loser”. Trying to live up to society’s expectations is being a slave to their demands and expectations.

[@joaquinben4458]

Very True!!

[@dougwhiley4028]

Women want the authority of a King. The privileged of a Queen and the accountability of a baby.

[@MRPhoto_Digital]

Listening to you while hitting the gym. You motivate me to not be a society puppy. Just turned 37 last Sunday, no wife no kids, just taking care of myself 🥇

[@Dewey-gx3lf]

I feel the same but don't let your bloodline die with you.

[@ericlarousse1149]

Bloodline. What an idiot.

[@glidkomer]

​@@Dewey-gx3lf y not?

[@flemutter7211]

On your schedule

[@_DeadBeat_]

@@Dewey-gx3lf in 2-3 generations no one will remember you

[@TwentytenS4B8]

I'm one of those men that checked out of society because just to put it bluntly, it's crap. I only go out in it to work so I can pay bills and to shop for groceries. Other than that, I want nothing to do with it.

[@zephyrr108]

same.

[@Brandanmayhew]

Lmfao working is the worst part about it, but of course you have to justify it somehow in your head because that's all you do... The way you said that is like you love work or you're just so used to being an npc bot that you don't even realise that the work is killing you and bringing you down. Idc if you HAVE TO WORK. doesent mean that that isn't the route cause. You are all the same... all work work work and say the same stuff over and over

[@Brandanmayhew]

You are literally helping turn the cogs on the big machine which is making the world what it is. People like you are just a part of the problem. Keep paying your taxes, keep working, keep shopping at the same stores and keep bitching about it. Perfect👏

[@Flagg1991]

Same. I have nothing but contempt for modern society and try to ignore it as much as I can.

[@greatbuilder100]

@@Brandanmayhew everyone has to pay their dues to survive. Even animals.

[@rashadturner5660]

American culture, social media, and uncle Sam turned society into a circus...so I'm out

[@clints8731]

I think a lot of men see the extreme moral decline in our society and are choosing to stay home more. Also everything is so expensive now, that practically everything has become a financial decision.

[@LilXancheX]

That’s because you humans keep popping out like one two three. Stop doing it with girls, because were already at 8 billion people. And yet here we have more people being born, like ever heard of birth control??? If we keep this up we won’t even have enough food for everyone. Think about it

[@JesusLovesTheLost]

Exactly 💯% I prefer to stay home and not pursue what will ultimately turn into drama.

[@migooknamja]

Societal Decline: Brought to you by Democrats. We are getting close to a point where all retail stores in Blue zones will shut down permanently due to looting. The mayors of blue cities are terrible. Crime out of control, no enforcement. Looking forward to another mail-in election where four states will flip in the middle of the night due to 99% democrat counties of Philly, Milwaukee, Detroit, and Atlanta

[@ampmri2434]

Exactly, things are too expensive.

[@dg1178]

I don't think there is an "extreme moral decline" in society. I just think society is changing, and with change comes growing pains. Extreme moral decline sounds extremely reactionary.

[@ericshawnthompsonjr.510]

Believe me I’ve tried being a man enough. I gave up society because of expenses, failed dating experience, social interactions, seeing couples & too many trends on social media. I don’t see the downsides. I’ve hated society since I was a kid. Social media is not socializing. Communications just die off if you’re not caught up to their interests or just not following it at all. I have some social medias but not a lot so I’ll catch up later. Trying the red pill, didn't work out. Trying the masculine role does not work for me. I don’t hate the role but I just can't do it. I lived without a father. I’ve embraced my downfalls. It’s already hard being man enough trying not to lose my mind in front of my family, friends or anyone. I would have to shut down & shut everyone out for my own good. If I have to isolate & push everyone away without giving emotional baggage, then I will. I work a regular ( part-time-overtime ) job because all I care about is saving or spending whatever I want without asking anyone. I gave up my car after the accident just to commute to work by bike. Every day & night even past midnight because I don’t care how dark it is outside or how crazy I am. I burn calories instead of gas which saves me money. I used to walk home from work once, 12am to 4am after a late night shift. I respect people's personal space, stay in my lane & stay out of trouble. I don't even care about my future. I live in the moment as my fate decides. I’ve been through hell in life. I’d do it again. Been told way too many times “Don’t give up on yourself. Don’t doubt yourself.” Too late. Not helpful enough. If I don’t get what I want from this world, then I don’t want it at all. I will just stop bothering & asking. Even if I got what I’ve wanted but still not happy yet, I’d give up & trade it all away just to start over with nothing. I’m learning lessons everyday. I don't hope anymore, I just cope. 4th year being single. I travel & explore when I have money. I just let conversations & interactions naturally flow. I enjoy the company of people at times whenever I meet someone cool. I have outlets, money & hobbies to escape. That’s the only few reasons why I’m still alive. “Good enough” isn’t really good enough anymore & I’d rather die doing whatever I enjoy. If my life ends, oh well I’ve tried my best here. That's just what it is.

[@TimothyWard]

Really appreciate your honesty in this comment!

[@p.i.m.ppaperismypleasure6601]

Just living a simple life is the best life....peace of mind

[@outbackgearforu]

Sorry things look so dark for you bro,I would suggest ,and this is only a suggestion , that you volunteer for something that actually helps some one,as you said relationships are off the table,supporting the “system “ is off the table ,and I agree with your conclusions, but , if you only live for yourself then you are not going to have your spirit nourished , this is the core of true Christianity ,at some point you need to do things for others without the thought of some kind of a return ,this doesn’t mean allowing yourself to be abused , but it is a part of our make up as humans, we need to serve each other in some way,otherwise we die inside

[@ericshawnthompsonjr.510]

@@outbackgearforu Sadly I’m not Christian or religious. Grew up going to church mostly because my mom say so. I was given everything so feeling spoiled as a kid. I’ve seen how screwed up this world is. A few of my family members have been homeless & living in the car for years until they could afford it. They used to be asking my mom for money. That can be a struggle again. I can’t sacrifice if not given respect or been through the struggle with me. I respect people’s religion. It’s just not my thing at all. The problem is if they go to far with it by controlling others life & judge others I’m way past forgiving. I’m friends with two gay couples. One of them was judged by their pastor when opening up. The pastor couldn’t pray the gay away (Greys anatomy).

[@wesley6442]

Thanks for sharing, it truly resonated with me and I could totally relate.. I still struggle with putting on that facade of masculinity, don't get me wrong I am definitely a man and act like one at my core but sometimes I notice I put it on because society expects it of me but I don't know how to act any other way i.e. "be vulnerable" "ask for help" "trust" etc and your comment on hating society since childhood, I can totally relate and as an adult I often struggle with misanthropy but at the same time I have met some of the nicest, most caring people so I say to myself metaphorically "you'd burn a world with people like that in it?" and I begrudgingly agree with that inner monologue and say to myself "you're just frustrated with a select few" its vital to not make broad sweeping claims that everyone sucks.. there is the online world and then there's the real world, two completely different arenas and online is the only place where I get fed up and disgusted with society but in person for the most part, everyone is pretty chill maybe it is my personality in person but most people are really nice to me, rarely do people mistreat me or bother me (except arrogant aggressive drivers) and your mention of staying in your lane respecting personal space, I think a lot of us guys are this way, were normally pretty chill with one another and conflict avoidant, its only ever a problem if someone crosses "that line" ya know? but I totally hear ya on living life your way, doing what makes you happy. I've got so many friends that just do the 9 to 5, 40 hours a week, barely get time for themselves and if they do they're doing busy work at the home or with their GF or wife, its a busy life, maybe even another form of escapism or coping, I remember talking to my friend about such things and I told him "I don't want anyone to take my happiness away.." and I live by this mantra now, I've done what society expected of me, worked the miserable jobs because as a man it is necessary and no one else would do it.. was I proud of what I accomplished? did I feel a sense of accomplishment, were there aspects of it I liked? the camaraderie, the challenge? sure. but it wasn't worth my physical and mental health, its a long life to live and I can't imagine living most of it in misery, I will die doing what makes me happy, because after this life there is nothing else, I've one life to live and damn it I'm doing it my way

[@RADIUMGLASS]

I checked out many many years ago. 43, no kids, single, never married. I do my own thing, I don't care what society wants or thinks. I've been criticized in the past for not joining the military, starting a family and not being a guru. Last year I got my real estate license and that is my main focus to sell homes. I don't give a damn about being alone, that's the best thing I ever did for myself and by the time I am in my sixties I'm going to have a wonderful retirement without any baggage.

[@rakashaagain]

until they come for your money or your property because everybody voted you out.

[@scproductions9878]

You give me hope 🙏🏾 not going to lie. Thank you Brotha!

[@Ciskuss]

How are you in peace of mind? i want to live so free but idk how

[@SIB_COMEDY]

"Isolation is the Gift" - Bukowski

[@gojiberry7201]

As a woman, can I just say that I am so happy that you are speaking up for men's self care. If someone wants you to behave a certain way, I think usually it's for their benefit, not for yours. You are a great role model, Tim, for men and everyone else! 😊

[@veebliss1266]

😂😂😂

[@jabril520001]

Relationships and marriage is about relating to others. In the Americans matrix relating to others is not a value. Today independence, lone wolf , SELF obessession is praised

[@DisasterService]

​@jabril520001 disagree. In the West today women are praised for being independent. But men are _expected_ to support and contribute to these "independent" women.

[@jabril520001]

I actually agree with you . Strong independent is not for me. How you gonna be independent and from your spouse . Makes no sense . I'm not independent from my wife. I expect the same thing from my spouse? Am I wrong ?

[@DisasterService]

@jabril520001 it doesn't matter what you think. It's all up to her. Women control access to sex. The courts hold them to a lower standard of accountability. They are protected in ways that men aren't. And they are evolutionary hard wired for hypergamy.

[@mysticallavish1360]

My 2 sons have different lives. My 29 year old is in a relationship with 2 sons of his own, not legally married yet. My 20 year old lives with us and works part time, saving his money to move out eventually and he never wants to marry or have kids. I believe if they are happy in their life and self sufficient or working, then that's OK. I'm happy for them.

[@tristan583]

I mean God designed women for men but l don’t actually know how some men things just by themselves they can just fill all the gap but who knows

[@daniella8400]

@@tristan583they’re getting fulfilled from porn & prostitutes. The 20 year old has likely been watch too much KZbin & video games

[@chriscm3384]

​@@tristan583cope

[@visaman]

If your son has 2 kids of his own from the same woman, then he is legally married.

[@jakemaxwell2800]

I think parents should let there kids live with them indefinitely, it's probably the only way people are ever going to afford to own a home in the future

[@michaelfortenberry5735]

Know who's not worried about men who checked out of society? Men who checked out of society.

[@Patrelable]

I agree‼️ Screw society‼️ Do what works for you.

[@ShabreaChandler]

Exactly 💯💯💯💯💯

[@travisworden8841]

"I'm confused about what society wants for me." Right there with you.

[@jewelthompson4210]

Society is such trash. It's the last thing you should look to to define you. Introspect & seek what YOU want.

[@GoodMrDawes]

Don't be afraid to speak your mind if you find something or someone offensive, yet be a gentleman about it.

[@mexdrago3009]

Was religious and had a great job for 7 years. No one stayed even tho they said they loved me. Im talking about family and women. I got hurt and couldn't walk right for 8 years, but I still made decent money. The problem is that it will never be enough to afford a house and children. I won't put my dream car and trip to Japan. I have already sacrificed so much time and health. I can't and will not do what society asks of me.

[@GoodMrDawes]

@@mexdrago3009 I can't afford those either, like many men. Just enjoy what you do have and be true. We live in a fascinating time, and many died for us to be here. Things always go back to basics eventually.

[@EmperorZaph1512]

Truth be told, our society has degraded to a point where there is no virtue in participating in it. Men and women alike have been so badly damaged by it and the expectations set that checking out is the only thing logical if youre not already at the top. Gone are the days of duty, respect and even bravery. Much to lose, and crumbs to gain. So when society says "you should do X", my response is "Why should I? What do I gain by impressing you?". Focus on and care for yourself and the people in your life that you care about. All else is extraneous nonsense.

[@RaptureHead1993]

No excuse to leech off loved ones. Everyone should work at most 30 hours a week

[@ronynninjastar2414]

As a millennial, I can definitely say the juice is no longer worth the squeeze. Previous generations ruined so much for my generation. High cost of living. Can't really even save money anymore after bills are paid. Higher education is more expensive. Too many barriers of entry for good jobs. There needs to be real reform in this country if things are going to get better.

[@flightographist]

Nobody ruined anything for you brother. It's the march of time and civilization, just remember- you were built for this.

[@AG-xt6ei]

Plenty of people are doing everything you just named….

[@lau77771hh]

The guy living in the richest country... 😂😂😂😂 Come to Latin America, brother. I think there are plenty apportunities, especially in USA a nd few more countries. Stop crying.

[@derekluna7700]

⁠ .

[@CaldonianDude]

Don't blame previous generations for your problems. There are so many opportunities that young people have now that we never had. There are more and more varied jobs, better education, so many chances to learn for free - I mean YT is a blessing we never had. Technology is light years ahead of what we had to deal with. Believe me, you've never had it so good. By the way, there isn't a high cost of living - it's just your fiat currency is worth less, so stuff costs more. You can thank the Fed for that, not previous generations!

[@CanadianDrifter777]

The best path for us men is to just heal, follow our hearts, and live from our authentic selves. This is why Tim is such a good role model!

[@user-jz6to8md3c]

As elvis once said im gonna follow that dream wherever that dream may lead.

[@sjcobra84]

Male. Millennial. Unmarried, childless and single. I work full time, have my circle of mates, and my hobbies. Content just doing my own thing. And I don't not care about social expectations. Been a superstar, a provider, chivalry or any of that crap. I live for myself, fight for myself, keep to myself and it rocks. 😋

[@JustSomeGuy201]

I'm done with society in every way. Im never getting married or dating ever again. I'm going to stay alone and only worry about me and my children. I will not fight for, or do anything to help western society.

[@wesley6442]

exactly and why should we? why is it my responsibility? I am already a good, well adjusted person, society needs to fix their own shit by adjusting their attitudes and behaviors, not playing hero anymore

[@JustSomeGuy201]

@@wesley6442 exactly brother!

[@ravenzyblack]

The only problem with that is that society crumbles in the purge begins in your children have to live in that. Think of the holocaust but 10 times worse because it spreads everywhere and affects everyone. Whether you want it to or not the collapse of the western society will directly affect you and your children. No one is getting out of this unscathed.

[@vinnieriley7227]

Do your little bit to shape the world in any small way you can. If enough men have the same mindset as the men in this comment section, it's only going to make western society worse. Giving up and checking out is not the way.

[@JustSomeGuy201]

@@vinnieriley7227 that's pretty much the point. Let it completely fail.

[@All.Natural.]

Many women checked out, too! I completely understand! It's every man/woman for themselves! With rent so high and minimum wage so low, everyone is just trying to survive! It's best to just do you and take care of yourself as best as you can! Sign of the times!🤷🏼‍♀️

[@handleyobusiness]

Feminists have wrecked the family unit and nobody wins, except the apartment landlord.

[@glock4014]

It’s because women destroyed the family structure feminism they feel the men not important is selfishness

[@wealthyscientist3197]

@@glock4014 nooooo...corporations not women

[@DisasterService]

​@@wealthyscientist3197corporations are only exploiting the parasitic nature of women.

[@Violent_Wolfen]

​@wealthyscientist3197 No, women did it. It mainly self-inflicted as well as idiocy and lack of foresight. They were even warned.

[@monteblazilla7776]

Dating ain’t the same, everything has changed. Finally said I’m done. I’m definitely one of the ones who checked out, better off alone, I can take care of myself.🤞🏾

[@debbieg8951]

“You can’t look to society to tell you how to behave.” I agree with that. Just live how you want as long as you’re being true to yourself and not hurting anyone. There’s so much NOISE out there, it can be deafening. We have to step away from the constant chatter and just do our thing. Everybody has an opinion and there’s a whole lot of ignorant people out there pretending to be experts on stuff they know nothing about. I absolutely LOVE it when I see other people living a life that doesn’t follow the “norms.” And honestly, in our current world, “norms” are changing so fast, they really don’t even matter anymore.

[@nubiandivegirl3316]

Facts

[@Stillness-Now]

Really, really well said

[@uniquehorn1480]

I had to give this some thought first, but I realize that you are right. Thanks

[@TimothyWard]

Excellent comment Debbie!

[@Hyper_Driven]

Yeah if most people are getting it wrong then why follow most people.

[@MountainGirlwIPA]

Listening to society's norms is about as satisfying as watching paint dry.

[@zephyrr108]

but you are right? youre a pretty womxn, out and about, mountaneering. so you took all societys empowerment seriously. you are listening.. thats the problem.

[@andykumar4103]

lol , well said. You made my day with this comment

[@imorccUO]

Or fingernails on a chalkboard.

[@brianmeen2158]

I find society’s norms to be very odd and I just can’t adhere to them

[@kuuppafin6011]

Absurdity of this is I literally quit society, went into the garage welding, fabricating and after that I enjoy the paint dry hearing from the radio how the world burns. Funny thing is tradesmen are needed everywhere soon and we might not even show up until we can get the six figures from doing it as the ladies demand even more then...

[@beareroflife]

More and more everybody is checking out.

[@JJ-rp2df]

Society desperately wants a man divorced, homeless and impoverished supporting a stunning brave feminist 304

[@greatbuilder100]

And women still won’t be happy

[@bobsnittle3793]

Barely exaggerating that's literally word per word what it is nowadays. I realized I was only "loved" for what I could provide, not who I really am as a person

[@theangryblackman5054]

😂😂😂

[@nicolaspace1182]

@@greatbuilder100twice as miserable in fact.

[@DagonNaxos]

​@@greatbuilder100Women ☕️☕️☕️

[@chadguindon6909]

Tim, I just love this testimony of yours. Society seriously needs to learn to leave men alone!!! A man should be free to make his own choice of how he wants to be. I’m not a “Real Man” according to society….I don’t have interest in sports, I don’t eat meat (vegetarian), I don’t work out, I’m not married with children and I have a high speaking voice. However, I do work full time and pay rent. No wonder too many men are checking out of society’s norm, it’s too exhausting and stressful for us.

[@brianmeen2158]

I highly recommend working out though - it is just so healthy for your mind, body and spirit

[@chadguindon6909]

@@brianmeen2158 I am actually thin. I go for walks, however.

[@rickybobby8616]

you can be all those things and still be strong imo

[@ishyameru6232]

And it don’t just stop there. After being just a man THEN you deal with the consequences of being a black/White/brown man and it’s EVEN MORE pressure to conform to “racial” standards 😂 (Black men are violent jail birds) (white men are racist patriarchs) I’m not gonna name every example because I haven’t walked in everyone’s shoes, you get the idea

[@myfriendgoo2816]

It's hard to maintain the working out when it's only your own standards. Though in other countries, especially in car-optional cities, you do a lot more walking and stair climbing and everyday exercise in the course of doing other things. Here we've engineered that out and people will take an elevator just to go up one floor.

[@bardofhighrenown]

For me personally, with regard to work; I feel like with it feeling impossible to ever afford a home and the collapse of the ability to meet women to date so I can start a family, I'm left wondering what there is left to work for? Owning land and having a family were main motivators. Why should I spend 40-50 hours a week working a job I don't like making money I can't use on anything meaningful? So I now work entry level jobs, live cheap and I'm much happier

[@tblack9711]

One of the biggest issues for us as men is the definition of a man. A man is an adult male, that's it. People confuse what a man DOES with what a man is and they think "man" is a title that needs to be earned and can be taken away, it's not. A "real" man is nothing more than an male that has physically fully matured, all this nonsense about someone not being a real man based on what he does or doesn't do is ridiculous and used to diminish men psychologically. With that being said we have to stop letting other define us based on their superficial and illogical standards and rules and focus on being the best humans we can be.

[@myfriendgoo2816]

Joe Jackson wrote a song and made a video about this, "Real Men," way back in 1982. He was ahead of his time.

[@Wastelandman7000]

Those people are only interested in what a man produces. Mostly because they're all scheming of ways to take it away from him. If a man produces less then there is less for them to loot from him.

[@deadreckoning6288]

Spot on.👍

[@GenerationfleX897]

So agree. No matter how we present ourselves it’s always gonna be antagonistic criticism thrown in our direction at the end of the day we need to live and find what makes us happy relationship wise, culture wise and career wise. Life is too damn short.

[@mrconfusion87]

Society changing is inevitable. However us men are like babies that were thrown into the deep end of a swimming pool and expected to float/swim somehow despite NOT being told how to. And that is where much of the problems and complaints are stemming from...

[@EveryoneHasAVoice]

Men realize society wants too much and definitely not falling into the trap! We need to invest in our own happiness and goals.

[@wesley6442]

When you see young women getting on social media or only fans and racking in ludicrous amounts of stupid easy money for doing practically nothing useful (getting paid by men by the way) and you have worked construction or electrical, brick laying or whatever other trade killing yourself, sweating, miserable you realize what bs it all is, why bust my ass when shit like that is going on? it's all just a big joke so just follow the money, live within means and maximize happiness that's what I have done and now I only need to work a few days out of the week doing fairly simple jobs and I'm happy, I've got my hobbies, friends, me time etc

[@chorderline]

💯👍

[@neal4444]

This needs to be on a talkshow or Podcast,This is a real deep discussion.

[@user-jz9ke7yu7u]

Society wants too much and gives back almost nothing if not nothing at all

[@TheSakufighter]

They don’t want to much, it’s just the “prize” is not a prize for the average man anymore. Modern women are entitled and delusional.

[@JTA1997_]

I’m a 26 year old man and I’ve checked out. Women simply don’t like me. I’m just getting deeper into solitary hobbies and minding my own business. I don’t know what society wants from me either. If I’m courageous I’m a chauvinist but if I’m meek I’m a weakling. Society just wants to make a large % of men obsolete

[@bazinganigga618]

cool

[@JTA1997_]

@@bazinganigga618 glad you find it cool. You’ll probably be in the same position after you hit puberty

[@sadhu7191]

Same. I was mad but now since they don't I don't have to work job I hate, even move back with parents. Workout be manly

[@jewelthompson4210]

The problem is too many ppl are trying to set rules for how we ALL should live. If you want to have a traditional family, then do that. If you want to live a more modern life, then do that.

[@DNA350ppm]

100% agreement from me, there are no traditions and norms set in stone!

[@andradeb2695]

Except get ready to cut ties with some family members because they won't accept my lifestyle

[@roderickcortez138]

This is why I don't like the left OR the right. They both wanna tell you how you should live.

[@chrisbirdsall6055]

You're not alone. I know what society wants from me, I just don't want to give it! I am a human individual, not a machine.

[@typingcat]

Or so you thought.

[@involuntaryanalysis]

Here's the bottom line, I don't live in my mother's basement, I DO work full time, and if I want to smoke pot, and play video games on my days off, that precisely what I'm going to do, and frankly, society can f*ck itself to death sideways.

[@TimothyWard]

😂😂

[@XYZ-bi9eb]

you got that right.

[@RaptureHead1993]

lol I live with my parents and looking for part time never going back to wage slavery!! Society and the world can burn

[@youngboyharless9769]

As a man. It's too expensive and/or back breaking to be the provider anymore. Women fought so hard for equal rights to work, they can work. I'd help with rent and buy groceries whatever but i'm not paying 100% of everything. F#ck that. It has to be at least 60/40, she can work part time and pay some bills, Unless you're some yuppy ceo guy making over 100k a year.. it's just not feasable.

[@Genesisonetwentyseven]

Lol sounds like whining to me

[@durgalakshmi2793]

I agree. If a man is paying the whole rent than a woman can atleast pay for groceries cable and duke energy bill.

[@youngboyharless9769]

@@Genesisonetwentyseven sounds like survival to me. Taking care of yourself before anyone else, the way it should be.

[@mrconfusion87]

​​​​​@@youngboyharless9769Indeed! Doesn't society continually push the "love yourselves before you can love others" narrative 24/7/365? That is precisely what they are doing by looking out for themselves first and foremost. 🤣 And what about the expectation that men should always respect "no means no" regardless? Be glad they are walking away and dropping out if they are unwanted for they are respecting your wishes anyway... 🤷‍♂️ These goalposts move so damn often that many men today have no idea how to keep track anymore, but society still wants to blame them for NOT "manning up" and trying still to chase the goalposts. MAKE IT MAKE SENSE! 🤦‍♂️

[@briandupre1494]

All we have to do is decide that this is a BLESSING and leads to our FREEDOM. I work, go to the gym, have fun with my hobbies and every once in a while get something casual going on the apps. No marriage, no kids, no major obligations and I stopped letting people pressure me into doing things I'm not interested in just because. I used to work 2 jobs, had 2 car payments and a mortgage. Let my ex drag me around on my only day off. Now I focus on myself and have a few strong friendships and close connection to certain family I actually like being with. I'm liberated, not lost. Just change the mindset, boys 💪

[@TimothyWard]

Sounds like a great life brother 👍🏾

[@Waterheater263]

Well Done Well Done Son Ur Too Young To Pay Mortgage and Have A White Women Expectations Dragg U Down Those are Things of the past Am Happy For U Son From A Black Brother Stay Single Childfree Marriage Free & Live ur Life

[@briandupre1494]

@@Waterheater263 Thanks bro 🙏 I had a gorgeous, intelligent, SWEET Caribbean (black) gf for 2 years before she moved for a job. I'd never seriously date a white woman again. Too many beautiful and sweet Carribean and African girls out there!

[@briandupre1494]

@@TimothyWard Love your channel, Tim. I'm thinking of starting a channel for single people and how to do things like meal prep and simplify/minimalize chores and expenses. Like LifeProTips type of vibe. Just gotta finish remodeling my basement first.

[@daniella8400]

This is exactly how ally of women want to live as well!

[@fatalkookie]

I love your approach here. You clearly state that we're in this together. No gender bashing or calling people out. Just pointing our predicament outright. We need to band together and talk about this. Global situation in "the west" is absurd. Complete pandemonium.

[@King_SHANG_Presents]

You’re NOT alone Tim, things have gotten really weird, to say the least.

[@tranger4579]

I went back to my Mexican roots. I was born here in the USA but I took up my parents and grandparents ideology and live based on Mexican traditions. I married a woman born in McAllen TX her father was from Mexico. She cooks, cleans , washes and works. I maintain the finances and make financial decisions. Yes I work and pay all the utilities. We are debt free and own our home. We stick to our parents ideology of what a man is and what a woman is. We are happy.

[@TimothyWard]

Glad to hear you and your wife have figured out a situation that makes both of you happy!

[@23STEVO23]

fantastic

[@shiptj01]

Nice, hogares. The Mexicans know how to be happy.

[@jasonleveck8546]

Amen and more power to you my brother!

[@ssjwes]

I tell immigrants all the time that they should make sure their kids still have a connection to their roots. The US is great but not all of its influences are. I love Texas. You can find foreign born women from all over without even leaving the state.

[@ggarcia393]

Corporations are to blame. They are the heads of house now.

[@pseudoname3159]

100% As far as the US is concerned, America's version of capitalism is either directly or indirectly responsible for many of these issues relating to our ability to live and thrive, happily, in good health and in good company with a shared sense of community.

[@nealmccoy5727]

You killed it with this video. No hyperbolic, nonsense talking points like you see in the manosphere. Just concise, neutral, stoic points. And this is coming from a guy who is a proponent of the manosphere. Really good video, Tim. Keep up the good work!

[@TimothyWard]

Thank you! 👊🏾

[@PondLeHockey1234]

I’ve been saying for a long time that men are operating under their own conditioning just like women. We’ve all been trained to play a part. It’s time we write our own programming.

[@Brijustmeh]

As a young woman, I really needed to hear this message. I’ve personally been through a lot these passed 3 years and almost died last year. And honestly, it made me realize how easy life can be taken away and be taken for granted. I try my best to always treat people the way I want to be treated and help out my community when I can. I can say that dating, is rough for people in general and I personally don’t want to get married or have kids. I’ve seen so many bad marriages around me growing up and I will say that most of the time it was the woman’s fault.

[@ilikepancakes2368]

You don’t want marriage or kids? Then why would a man waste his time with you other then pump and dump? You are only good for a fling then. Nothing more.

[@TheyCalledMeT]

just be aware, your bological clock will change your mind. women change a heck of a lot somewhere between 26 and 34 .. facing a "that's it! no kids, for good!" decision

[@gemmad-m3083]

@@TheyCalledMeT women can freeze their eggs so please stop this narrative

[@TheyCalledMeT]

@@gemmad-m3083 are you nuts? we're talking about a woman which stated herself she does NOT want kids. so .. SUUUUUURE .. she will invest a fortune in freezing eggs so she can later artificially fertilize them in desperate hope nothing goes wrong and the kid will turn out healthy, IF it works. you should rethink the narrative you try to create here .. MOST normal people can not or don't want to afford IFV and if .. then do it so late the pool of eggs is already amongst the high risk pregnancies. and that aside .. i talked about how she will look at the situation in her late 20s early 30s .. not what a career woman theoretically could do

[@krystalizedmagic4894]

​@@nightowl6811Pretty subjective statement. This creates a gender war too. Being attached to which gender ruins marriage creates a blindfold to even men ruining marriages, cheating, killing, and creating unhealthy attachments to women. Which is why both men and women (or just basically incompatible partners mess up marriages). Also, why did you have children? Just so they can be subjected to a society where they have to deal with unnecessary expectations?

[@devilsadvocacy]

Society simply makes demands on us without providing any return on our sweat equity. We’re expected to grind as we always have, but with no reward for it

[@mrconfusion87]

And society calls us "entitled" when we notice this and vocalize that something is wrong with that setup...

[@JunkanooBob99]

Marriage is not for everyone as most men realize a bit too late. Marriage and relationships have become obsolete in this new age, society just hasn't fully accepted that sad reality as yet.

[@daniella8400]

Most *people…. A lot of divorced women regret their marriage as well

[@joec3703]

@@daniella8400No one cares!

[@daniella8400]

@@joec3703 so angry, jeez, take a nap!

[@GaryD9988]

@@daniella8400Lol, females don’t regret there marriage because they’re the ones divorcing men and taking half of everything. Females are the ones who benefit from divorce not men

[@mrconfusion87]

​@@daniella8400Yet it continues to be a dealbreaker for many women when a man refuses to "put a ring on it" and "sign the dotted line"! 🤷‍♂️

[@adamc2320]

This whole video really hit home for me. No one really respects family men anymore and getting married and having kids is such a huge financial burden now with wages not keeping up with inflation and the cost of buying a house out of reach for most men.

[@josephbrown9685]

I was married 8 years. I’ve now been divorced for 10 years. During that time I’ve dated some, including a 2 year relationship. I have a daughter from my marriage. I want to make sure she is cared for properly. As for employment, companies used to value employees more. Now there is no loyalty and a lack of rewarding hard work. I don’t care because I’ve checked out after sincerely trying for a long time. Society isn’t worth the hassle anymore.

[@giocallejas21]

They try to label men that realize this as an incel. Society tries to shame people that don't conform.

We didn't tell women anything. Women told women that.

[@who_is_dis]

When you've done most of what was framed as 'correct' turns out to be a scam on all fronts and facets - it's kinda hard not to be completely discouraged and to give up entirely.

[@myfriendgoo2816]

I think you mean completely discouraged. You were trying to avoid being completely disparaged.

[@who_is_dis]

@@myfriendgoo2816 🎯 Well spotted

[@deadreckoning6288]

This is where I'm at. I don't care about society anymore. It doesn't care about me so why should I?

[@rih2370]

I am the same age as you, single, no kids and recently i moved to another country. My mother and a few family members live here too, but i have zero friends or social contact other than family. I feel pretty good living a solitary life, i made some investments and now i don't have to work anymore and focus on my hobbies and relaxing all day, every day. But i can sense that people think i'm a weirdo for being alone, they don't say it to my face but a middle aged guy that is always alone is seen as something weird...my neighbors probably think i'm mentally ill or very lonely...But i feel so blessed to be able to do what i want, while they work themselves to death and have all these obligations and drama. This society is very sick and i want little to do with it. I've been so dissapointed in people...i just want to be left alone and make peace with myself and the spiritual dimension and be free. But society sees me as a weirdo for this...oh well.

[@AG-xt6ei]

What exactly do you do all day?

[@RickyTPB4L]

@@AG-xt6ei whatever he wants

[@AG-xt6ei]

@@RickyTPB4L you are his Spokesperson ?

[@andradeb2695]

​@@AG-xt6eiwhy does it matter to you?

[@AG-xt6ei]

@@andradeb2695 maybe im looking for information? What is it to you?

[@minfamous5841]

They gotta fix the divorce laws if they want to bring family back. It literally makes no sense to get married

[@gregariousaccountant3025]

1981 was the last year a man could work one job and take care of his family and have a wife to take care of the house work. After that it took two incomes we don’t talk enough about what this is done to men’s psyche.

[@user-wv8zr7zi1s]

I’ve been a loner for the majority of my life. Being apart of social groups were fun. I’ve been constantly hearing about how dating is awful. How education is terrible. How 925’s are draining. How times aren’t how they used to be. How society behaves. How the laws are being viewed. How everything is expensive. etc. etc. The majority of people in the comments who agree with this vid, I don’t blame them at all. I, myself could care about what others think about me. They don’t take care of me, pay all my bills, buy me groceries, provide clothing etc. Overall I live my own life as I see fit. Like you said in the video as long as I’m not hurting anyone and committing crimes, it shouldn’t be no issue. That’s why I enjoy my own company in peace and happiness. Don’t know if I was on point with this one however that’s just my take on it. Thank you for this video, Tim.

[@MissRedWine]

I agree. Everything you said pretty much describes me lol

[@cerellebarnes3971]

Amen! Well said. That's exactly how I think.

[@wesley6442]

I can totally relate, honestly I am starting to really isolate more and more, most of my friends are "normies" they go through the motions, do as society expects, work and live their lives as dictated by the masses of lemmings and I just don't relate with them as I use to, plus as I have gotten older the more I want to be left alone, not because of depression but because of the misery and unpleasantness of dealing with different personalities, the occasional passive aggressive comment, random mood swings, backhanded comments its as that old saying goes "familiarity breeds contempt" and I often say to myself "how long do I have this friend for until the niceties stop?" as in the more time we spend together the more likely they can't keep up with the "nice" facade and sink into being passive aggressive or a jerk, the mask falls basically.. and as for the breaking down of society in all regards, I am big into science and I think the principle of "entropy" systems tend towards disorder applies even to civilizations/societies and that is what we are seeing today..

[@LouSaydus]

Society wants you to get a high paying job and pay taxes. That's it. Society couldnt care less what happens to you as long as that sweet sweet tax dollar comes in. The only way to recover from this issue is to deny what they want. File exempt, refuse to pay for a system that doesnt represent you.

[@kellyupshaw6598]

They want you to do the impossible with nothing. The environment isn't even conducive for their standards. Things have changed A LOT over the years and not for the better. You can't let this stuff take away from your self worth and who you are.❤

[@bboss7712]

Exactly. They have over priced themselves. That why by 2030 like 50% of women will be single in my opinion.

[@roderickcortez138]

Like the boomers that don't understand why you're 21 and don't own your own house yet.

[@1439315]

"Mediocre management Incorporated" permanent low pay model coupled with govtards high tax model does NOT work for long. You make corporation & govtards rich the whole time we work for peanuts. fiat currency more worthless over time . . .

[@deadreckoning6288]

​@@roderickcortez138My mom is 95 and from different times. She doesn't understand the struggles of these present times, like who the F can afford a home anymore?

[@MsMaxinejoy]

Well....if a man wants a "traditional " woman, HE NEEDS TO BE TRADITIONAL, and bring home the bacon and a protector. The problem is, many aren't qualified. Many women want a specific quality, but aren't providing the quality men want.

[@Diego-Designs]

I agree with you, Maxine, that neither gender is bringing something of quality to the forefront. As traditional as I am, I'm just not going to force anything for the time being. If someone comes along the way, good, I welcome that.

[@Jsteelies]

​@@Diego-Designsexactly. It has to be natural. I've come to realize the process takes a lifetime. It doesn't happen over night. I mean, it could start with happening over night, if you know what I mean

[@erwina4738]

Ive met more “qualified” men than I have women. I know many men with stable and good paying careers. And ive met many women who make alot of requests without providing much back.

[@erickonassis6310]

Okay can he do that without marriage, just in case she wants to switch it up?

[@nicholasowens2351]

many men are waking up to say, "i wasn't born just to pay bills and die"....you have to have some parity...and have happiness in some form, in the past men would marry to have access to sex, and social status, but the dead bedroom is very common, and being a married man only makes sure your boss knows you have a hellu;va mortgage, and takes advantage of that......the jeopardy is too high, and its a toxic lifestyle in many ways...

[@Joseph-vm3sp]

I'm 50 years old, I checked out in 2013. I've been a homeless Veteran living off of a small monthly check.

[@MrSheymie]

Society will encourage you to do what benefits society, not what benefits you. Better to invent your own dreams than to look to society for inspiration.

[@magnum567134]

What sucks for me is I'm trying to enter all this shit now at 33. I never figured out girls in my teens and things only got harder as time went on. But now, after a period of depression and years of just numbing myself to everything, I'm finally in a good place mentally. I wanna find me a woman, but I don't know what the fuck is going on and I'm just as confused and overwhelmed as I was when I was 13

[@mwt5040]

In the same boat and the same age good luck to you.

[@magnum567134]

@@mwt5040 Good luck to you, as well

[@JesusLovesTheLost]

I hate to say this, But you are better off alone. The women in our Country have been conditioned to use and replace. I don't want that pain for anyone. The only alternative I see is getting a passport and going to a Country that has women who still embrace traditional values that are good for raising a family and keeping a home. Best of luck to you friend.

[@Mist3rEM]

Don't do it, it'll send you back into depression and probably this time it's gonna be worse. You're only truly at peace when you learn how to be alone.

[@SpiKSpaN-ei6zq]

Horrible time to look for relationships. I'm 35 and already went through all that in my teens and 20s. Stay single and get your preps ready for the collapse....

[@wilburDDPpowell]

Thank you brother. As a male educator I see why boys and young men are checked out.

[@rhysmc3926]

I checked out 6 years ago. No kids and no partner. I'm happier now than ive ever been, I'm grateful I went my own way. ✌🏼

[@responding8185]

I checked out 15 years ago not sure if I ever checked in I work hard, workout and travel and pay for my entertainment No wife no kids I also have no stress no blood pressure problems and a WHOLE LOT OF PEACE. So for me being over looked or being invisible is a plus. I SAW THIS COMING A LONG TIME AGO so I got out the way.

[@ReneeTester-er1rk]

Tim, it never ceases to amaze me how right on you are with the social aspect of humanity.

[@TimothyWard]

🙂

[@RB-45ACP]

Don't care what society wants from me. My parents are gone. I have no responsibilities except to take care of myself. I do that. 'Society' can take a flying leap.

[@Veganisbadhunter-wx5nt]

A lot of men are living the 5 NO's. 1 No wife. 2 No children 3 No debt 4 No pets and finally 5 No job (financial independence)

[@Servant_of_Christ]

I'm 52 years old, I stopped working 12 years ago. I have two hobbies, sailing and fishing. I thought why don't I do that the rest of my life and use the money I saved for a wife and a family that never happened, and fix my boat to live on, sailing the world and catch as many different kind of fish I can. I'm leaving next year!

[@TimothyWard]

That sound like a great adventure! Good luck!

[@deadreckoning6288]

Dream life right there. Kudos.

[@ourblissfulhaven]

I definitely think that if you didn’t meet the one for you, the decision you made is wonderful. However, you may still meet someone. I didn’t think I was going to get married. As a Christian woman, I desired to get married. I finally accepted that I wouldn’t one year. However, I thank God I met my husband that year. Is everything perfect? No But is the single life perfect? No So, it’s best to enjoy the best of whatever you have. I am a working mom who works from home & homeschools. My husband has a hybrid schedule & commutes every single day but finishes off work at home. God can provide exceedingly more than we can expect and we will experience trials both in or out of a marriage. Hoping you continue to enjoy your boat and fishing! 🙏🏼🙏🏼

[@roadwarrior7401]

sailing .................................................................. la la llll l lla la la la

[@Arven8]

I think it's a bad idea to orient your life around questions like, "What does society want from me?" or "What do women want from me?" That puts the control of your life in other people's hands, not your own. It places your center of gravity in other people and "society," instead of where it should be -- inside you. It turns you into a conformist and approval-seeker. Not a recipe for a good life. Turn inward. Ask yourself what you want. Ask yourself what is important to you. Then go from there.

[@koshkacao]

💯

[@myfriendgoo2816]

You're right, though it's very hard to put it into practice. Most people are followers...heck, that's why tyrants come to power and hold onto it. Society also will ALWAYS try to tell you what to do, with the followers bringing that down to the personal level. At least with the Internet it's easier to not feel isolated like they want you to feel.

[@calisthenicschristhebodywe5524]

I always tell a friend of mine you’ll always lose playing everybody else’s game

[@hed2410]

Perfect.

[@InaStanley83]

I think there are 2 main problems. First, people are looking to society to understand how to define themselves and their identities. Second, as humans we need to understand that EVERY SINGLE PERSON has inherent value, simply because we exist. Your identity should not have to be wrapped up in something like being "the protector" or "the breadwinner." Your worth and value are NOT defined by how much you earn or what you can do for or bring to someone. You have worth, simply because you ARE. The sooner people let go of these societal expectations and definitions of gender roles and worth, the easier it will be for ALL of us to communicate more authentically with each other. Speaking from my own experience, I have checked out because I feel exactly the same way. I have not yet met a man with whom I feel safe enough (mentally and emotionally) to entrust certain aspects of my welfare and well-being to his care. When I have tried to give that trust, I have been taken advantage of, lied to, cheated on, and abused (mentally, verbally, emotionally, and at times physically). So of course I'm in my "strong, independent woman" vibe now, because that's the best way I know to protect myself right now. A lot of men out here are showing (by the ways they speak to and about women as well as their actions) that I will not be safe, respected, or valued with them. I mean, being a "provider" or "breadwinner" means nothing if that person is an a-hole who is abusive and unconcerned about the mental and emotional well-being of whoever they're claiming to provide for. So yeah, I've checked out too. I'm single and staying that way until the man I am most aligned with comes along. I don't need anyone to "pass the time with" until then. I'll just focus on growing and expanding my business, launching and growing my KZbin channel, falling in love with myself again, healing, finding joy in the simple things, and appreciating the adventure life has to offer. And whether I'm single or in a relationship, I refuse to have society's expectations forced on me or to define myself by what society thinks I should be. As humans we were put on this Earth with free will. We were never meant to be a "hive mind," so stop trying to fit into these weird, boxes that restrict and define you for no reason, and stop expecting others to fit into those boxes. The beauty of our species, and one of the most fascinating things about it, is our uniqueness...our individuality.

[@TimothyWard]

Great comment Ina! Thank you so much for sharing! Good luck with all the things you mentioned you wanted to focus on in the future 👍🏾

[@myfriendgoo2816]

You make a lot of good points, though your mom or grandmother might tell you you're setting yourself up to be single likely for life because the demographics just keep getting more stacked against you with age. Though there are certainly worse things, like the abusive relationship.

[@InaStanley83]

@@myfriendgoo2816 my mother or grandmothers *might* say those things, but I am who I am in part because of them. They were all incredibly strong women who had thriving careers as teachers and made a little history along the way. But both of my grandmothers were abused and ended up being single mothers, so I have a feeling they'd never want me to settle for just any guy or make myself small for someone else knowing what they endured. There are absolutely worse things than being single for the rest of my life. I have literally been through the abusive relationship myself...for 9 years. That is no way to spend a lifetime, just because society says I should have a husband. All 3 of them were also very outside-the-box kind of women. They didn't live by society's imposed standards either. 😉

[@scartissuefilms]

No. This is life from a female perspective. Men are human DOINGS and our worth is entirely defined by what we do and what we produce. Only women have the privilege of being Human BEINGS, where you simply have to exist to have value. You might not like it, but nothing is ever going to change that fact. It stems from a matter of biology, which is if all men but one died, humans would go on as the one man could impregnate many women, but if all the women died but one, humans would cease to exist. This is why women are naturally protected in traditional societies and why both genders have an overwhelming bias towards women. Your point is also contradictory...if all people have this innate value, why are you so traumatised by them? Why didn't you just accept the people exactly as they are, instead of placing demands on them to provide for you emotionally? It's their failure to provide their assigned gender roles that has caused your problem, not their lack of doing it. They failed to fulfill their traditional gender role to cherish.

[@Humble_Legend]

The longer you are fine being alone, the less patience you will have with the man you eventually meet. You will become so accustomed to being alone that you won't really want some man coming in and forcing you to compromise.

[@briandanielson5818]

So true. I'm just doing me, playing video games, painting, keeping it simple. Me and my dog. I tried a few of those other things, but honestly, it's just easier to keep it simple and play solo. Not falling for the Hollywood movie life story.