I don't like people.

[@sexytechreviews_]

My grandmother constantly told me "don't be sweet." I didn't take her advice until recently. She was right. Act sweet and you end up with flies all over you. Be cool, calm, and bitter.

[@KellyStamps]

Madea was right

[@damnmuggle]

I don’t wanna be bitter lol

[@joynjuwe8898]

@@KellyStamps pressure from outside will choke someone, it’s best to do things in your own way

[@joynjuwe8898]

I love you kell_y much 😅 Keep being our big sister 💜💜❤️

[@vibesbynate]

Not to mention I’m 6’6

[@erstellen7888]

Just leaving it here "Ignoring the red flags because you wanna see the good in people, will cost you later."

[@Darth_Bateman]

Ooooh, so THATS what that was….

[@yoso5934]

Facts!!

[@ayak6317]

Thisssss!

[@ss11733]

"listen to people when they tell you who they are" is a good one too

[@highpeacetess]

Louder! 📣💥💯

[@Jaymfs]

Looking back on my life I’ve had so many ‘friends’ who were never actually my friends. I was their entertainment, not their friend. I now work for myself, from home, and barely have anyone around me. The people I am around now are people I choose to be around. It’s honestly life changing, I’ll be labelled weird forever if it means I get to keep living this way

[@KellyStamps]

Oof, that’s exactly how I feel. I’m ghosting someone right now who I think sees me as an entertainment source but not an actual friend. She checks in asking if anything bad is going on because she wants to make herself feel better LOL

[@d.6486]

@@KellyStamps YOOOO this girl I’m trying to ghost does this too and I keep caving ahagajsj like the guilty check ins are so telling

[@ChevroletGirl1974]

I love being "weird" :)

[@befearless247]

Just work for yourself. And be a better version of yourself! @Jaymfs

[@danielle834]

You are not alone in this. I've had similar things with "friends" as well. Keep being you!

[@SeverineHowellMeri]

YES there is a difference between nice and kind. It is infuriating that people expect you to be nice all the time! Niceness often leads to people walking all over you. You can be kind and still mind your business. Also anyone ever noticed that dusty people start popping up when you’re doing really well in life? Must be doing something right if you’re attracting people that wanna steal something from you so keep shining, stampede ✨

[@KellyStamps]

Welcome back and thank you for being the most punctual Stampede student!!

[@tashahall1855]

So true . I’m a kind person, never strive to be overly nice. That’s a dead end street

[@SeverineHowellMeri]

@@KellyStamps thank yew professor stamps 🥺🥺

[@Designalily]

This is mostly applied to women. Men can be assholes and live scotch-free.

[@user-cp5yi8cr5w]

Girl. I said this to myself. I was alone yet happy and shining. Then along comes the dusty

[@MISSPHOTOGENICBABY]

I am currently working on my boundaries, I have “open book” syndrome 😫🙈 and it is a MAJOR flaw! I am so glad you explained the difference between “kind” and “nice”💃🏽!

[@Andygeofri]

RE: Good Book on the matter. Boundaries, by John Townsend

[@ChevroletGirl1974]

I've been working on this too! It gives toxic people access to our energy!

[@annaymous]

This is a very New York mindset

[@who511]

is that KELLY STAMPS in your photo? Lol

[@AOTFI]

💯💯💯 add for podcast coming soon related to this!

[@himynameishello64]

Now that I'm 26, EVERY single time I meet someone new one of the first questions are "Do you still live with your parents?" Especially people in their 20's or 30's wanna ask you SO many personal questions to put you in a category it's insane. It's like they wanna know that they're doing better than you.

[@kittysnowshoe6475]

YES! Omg totally! I started responding like this. Random nosey person: How much did that shirt cost? ME: Why, you asking for a friend? OR.. Why, you writing a book? It makes them instantly realize that they're being nosey AF and they go about their merry way or change the subject to something less invasive... works every time ;) ;)

[@BluePrecious77]

oh my goodness, or "Do you work" or where do you work" - do you have any children? Where do you live.........I am older than you and it still drive me up the wall and when they find out something about you that they don't like (perhaps you have a little more then them - they get an undercover attitude.

[@Momo-po5tn]

Yes it reeks of projection!!

[@saharagold]

@@BluePrecious77 I like responding with "are you a cop" or "are you an undercover cop". Usually shuts them up pretty quickly.

[@lealea9266]

They're asking because they want to compare their life to yours. So, if they're feeling bad about their current life, they ask about yours so they can feel better about still living with their parents (for example).

[@OpheliaSerafina]

Reminds me of the old saying. “They gossip about others, they’re definitely gossiping about you”

[@blanchegreco7201]

It’s so true

[@annaymous]

I literally only gossip about one person who annoys me

[@PhoenieFroe313]

Came to that realization at the beginning of the year 😂

[@LittleFlamesCo]

“It’s nobody else’s business how you live your life!” 💯 this right here is GOLDEN.

[@uniquewhimsy622]

Yep exactly, and no way of believing or behaving is objectively the right way. So do you! Your truth your life your happiness.

[@aliyahj1465]

I feel the same way. People just make me realize how I’d rather be alone. Most ppl don’t genuinely give a fuck about you anyways so I’ve set boundaries. I’m living my life keeping to myself & only sharing when I feel comfortable to.

[@KellyStamps]

Actions speak much louder than anything else! They need to earn their spot

[@aprilgarrett2596]

This has been me for the past ten years now and I haven't looked back!

[@sierraransom1254]

Facts 💯💯💯

[@misguidedpearls7456]

Amen

[@elenavernet2289]

@@KellyStamps exactly

[@theTruthSeekerishere]

What I've learned about people is that sometimes those that ask a lot of seemingly meaningless questions often aren't trying to be rude but are just lonely. Wine girl may feel alone or lonely and her way of connecting is talking to anyone who will listen. I mean someone walking around their apartment complex drinking wine isn't necessarily happy right? Sometimes people reach out is the only way they know how. Many people aren't aware of others boundaries or even body language. Many introverts (myself included) don't need so much interaction with people but extroverts do...and an extrovert who is lonely or lost may connect with anyone in any way possible.

[@XxBloodyCrumpet23xX]

I was thinking the EXACT same thing.

[@nanaak8617]

I mean I get you but it's still not your job to fix people

[@ED-ie3et]

THAT'S WHY THERE IS REHAB WHICH IS WHAT SHE PROLLY NEEDS.

[@ED-ie3et]

@@nanaak8617 thank you.

[@devinwatkins8953]

@@ED-ie3et rehab for what exactly? Cause going to rehab won't fix her loneliness going to rehab won't fix her ability to talk to random people for hours on in you don't even know if she's a drunk.......

[@lizzy240515]

Preach!!! Don't trust people, keep your boundaries, be selective with your friends, and protect your energy!! Loved this ❤

[@KandyceAurelia]

Sameeee! Which is why I’ve forced myself to be an entrepreneur and make my own money because I’d be damned having to go everyday for 8 hours around people i don’t like

[@KellyStamps]

I would have been fired at any other job by now if it wasn't for social media LMAO

[@ShandiCheekMusic]

ohhh speak!!!!! Quite my state job in 2019 never looked back

[@CurlyGirlLife1]

Same lol!

[@KandyceAurelia]

@@KellyStamps I’ve ghosted so many employers and gotten fired twice, it’s just not for me lol people and their weird energy and bosses that want people to feed their egos 👎🏽

[@KandyceAurelia]

@Aya 🤍 thank you 🥺✨✨

[@jasmine9o]

“Do I live a lonely life? Absolutely. But am I happy? Absolutely” This will forever be my favorite quote lol Also your peace and mind is high priority! Don’t let anyone tell you other wise 🙅🏽‍♀️

[@yakeenjafar7151]

Yezz wise words . gonna memorize this.

[@tsaunders4684]

Yeah but your social skills can diminish from living like this and not taking to others in person.

[@kamcat2901]

@@tsaunders4684 And if they do?

[@tsaunders4684]

@ Kamcat, yes like anything else. You go a long time without doing something you can get rusty in that department. You got to stay active even if you really don't like being around people like that.

[@jason20599]

@@tsaunders4684 eh not really. having zoom meetings and talking through the phone with a friend can solve it

[@introvertedbeauty00]

"When you tell people everything, they will use it against you!" WOW. If this isn't the truth💯

[@Rose_Ou]

I don't like most people, either. When I was your age I wanted everyone to like me I was so terrified of abandonment which I'd experienced at home, so I fought and fought and fought endlessly for approval and confirmation that I had the right to exist. This changed drastically in my early 40s. I started to heal since I realized I suffered from PTSD (abuse at home + out of home) and all these terrible decisions I'd made in my life and people I clang to were subconscious survival mechanism. The more I love myself and put myself first, the less I want to be surrounded by people. "I don't hate them...I just feel better when they're not around". Thank you so much for this much needed video.

[@flyingsolotiltheend3058]

I felt this whole paragraph

[@Angibbabee]

I’ve been saying the same thing for YEARS. “I’m kind not nice”. I probably came to the realization when I was Kelly’s age too. I REFUSE to let anyone but myself disturb my peace.

[@susporieaharris2431]

So relatable. “I never said I was nice” ✨

[@KellyStamps]

*Me going through all my old videos making sure I never said I was nice LOL*

[@ismahanm1118]

@@KellyStamps Lmao

[@Ray-pp5qb]

@@KellyStamps 🤣

[@JonnyCook]

@@KellyStamps This person was clearly just trying to be friendly, and you found her annoying. I’m pretty you are the problem in this picture, not the other way around.

[@usedtobehere02]

“there is a difference between kind and nice” - the strangest of people will come into my life acting all nice only to end up being the most toxic, draining people iT’S TERRIBLE But has taught me to not trust everyone blindly just because they open up fast and to trust actions over words instead

[@AlexAxford7]

If they open up fast, that's probably a red flag that they just want to lure you in so you have that first impression or "honeymoon phase" of the friendship that makes you believe there's something to hold on to when they eventually reveal their true nature. The Scorpio in me always trusts actions over words lol

[@Thejoshua_record]

yupp the action speaks louder than words I agree

[@n.g.l.]

I get you. People are out of control bruh. And want you in their life to treat you like a punching bag. God gave us peace, protect it!

[@KellyStamps]

PROTECT THE PEACE

[@cosmicqueen8632]

"People want you in their life to treat you like a punching bag" 👌👌👌

[@cookiegirl891]

This!

[@flyingsolotiltheend3058]

THIS!!!

[@jenk8385]

When I finally started realizing my own potential and smarts...people were shook. Thank you for being here, on this crazy floating planet, in a weird universe.

[@KellyStamps]

YEP. You see who is just checking in when you're convenient to them.

[@connie2285]

I'm glad you were able to recognize that! Im working on it too. We have to give ourselves credit for our accomplishments, we are all important.

[@Jacquelyndorindachic]

@@connie2285 ABSOLUTELY

[@BienAimee868]

THIS spoke to my soul. Looking back at my first few jobs, I'm realizing that people really feel entitled to go beyond my boundaries because I'm younger than them. They'd cop an attitude and get offended that I'm aloof or share the most surface level stuff that Is revealed to them. Very weird and I don't want to give my energy to it anymore. I'll take being called bougie, stuck up, selfish, etc as a badge of honor

[@TrulyHaja]

I felt

[@highpeacetess]

Protect your peace! 🥰

[@dinajones2761]

I don’t tell anyone my business either

[@Jo-ds3xv]

This! Describes my experience at my previous job

[@user-qf3my3tl6p]

I know you posted this a year ago, but I agree! It happens even more so when you’re a young woman. People really expect women to be overly friendly to EVERYONE and if you’re not, they begin mistreating you.

[@asharaperkins2296]

I was JUST telling my friend today that PEOPLE ARE PISSED!! People are mean lately and PISSED about everything! It's Hard to make friends and meet people. There's DEFINITELY a weird and OFF VIBE and it is not cool 😒

[@FILIPPI107]

I always say "People are not happy" you just defined it lol . The only people you can talk to freely are pensioners.

[@Pocketrose3]

Of course people are pissed, especially when the media and society shove irrational fear down people’s throats everyday

[@a.y.greyson9264]

I realize this recently (it wasn’t like this in the past) but when I go out with my family and laugh out loud occasionally, I’m always met by someone glaring or scowling at me from across the way. Excuse me for trying to enjoy life.

[@Gabster1990]

Have you tried Meetups? I find that people who actually want to talk join these groups on Meetup.

[@BlackPanther203]

I’ve been noticing this for some time. And the way people handle this unhappiness is what has me working on boundaries.

[@its.maya.h]

I felt so invested in this story because there’s nothing worse than extremely nosy neighbors 😭 loving today’s lesson from Professor Stamps 💀💀

[@j.c8727]

I have that type of energy that people just come trauma dump on me and tell me all their problems/ business. I used to be soft and listen but once I learned to protect my peace I shut that s!&% down IMMEDIATELY.

[@PortraitofAsha]

Saaaaaame

[@labelmeposh]

I was seriously just crying ab this. This week. I tried to express my frustrations to others this week because I'm usually the dumping ground and I realized I don't get the same in return.

[@serengeti4027]

@@labelmeposh yeah, it's crazy when you listen to someone and then they don't repay the favour when you need them. not that that was the motive in listening to them, but yeah, it always strikes me as surprising. especially when they comment on how helpful you were. oh well. just gotta find people with similar values and those that you mesh better with, really. could be 1000 reasons why the person didn't listen to you as well I suppose. I'm just kinda one to be loyal to those that help me.

[@twinkincarnate]

that's why with the five friends i do have we all make sure we're in the right headspace and ask for permission before we "dump" .. and even then we don't go overboard, because we also all have therapists 😭

[@cecilecorre6082]

@@labelmeposh same

[@paolaanimator]

I have had people act "nice" to me and then I find out they're not that nice. Ever since that experience I am more cautious with how I interact with people.

[@pierrexo]

the shift is real. too relatable. loved this

[@SacramentalASMR]

I love your vids Pierre! Wasn't expecting to see ya here 🥰

[@lumieredice485]

lol why are you even here

[@mariarodrigueza1358]

I needed to watch this, my entire life people have made me feel like a weirdo just for not being very social and for liking to be alone. People just bring unnecessary drama that I don't need nor want 🥴

[@ilovesunsets]

Yes!

[@mochiicrii]

Facts 💯

[@ValiaStef1990]

Yes and it seems like they even come as a group against you. They don't like each other but they just want you to feel alone and to have low self-esteem 🤔... Basically they are miserable energy vampires

[@mochiicrii]

I was always bullied by the group of pretty, popular girls growing us as a kid because I was different and didn’t care about fitting in. Only difference now is these groups of kid bullies grow becoming adult bullies and I grew up having confidence and still not giving AF about fitting in 😂

[@ValiaStef1990]

@@mochiicrii good for you 👏👏✨🎉

[@JustJann]

I have a coworker just like wine girl - long story short I wouldn’t give her any details on myself and my life cause mama ain’t raise no fool but played nice cause we work together. When I got offered the promotion and not her she immediately blocked me on all social media/messaging platforms 🙃 beware of wine girl - it’s never genuine. Stay neutral friends!

[@KellyStamps]

YEP!!! Some people in the comments think I’m crazy LOL but I’m glad you get it. You have to experience being burned by one of these fake nice people to understand what’s really going on.

[@michifairy936]

Nothing like minding your business 🤫✨ It’s such a peaceful life🧚

[@soulspirationgoddess]

Sometimes I think “omg I’m 27, single and have no friends and only hang out with my immediate family and sometimes my roommate” and then later I realize.. I’m 100% okay with that 😂. I’d really only want maybe 1-2 solid girlfriends in my life.

[@plasticbag5308]

Exactly

[@M.j.7]

Same!!!!

[@soulspirationgoddess]

@@M.j.7 glad to know I’m not the only one!

[@mahoganysoul7195]

Same 💯💯💯

[@spiritualak5147]

Trust me ain’t nothing wrong with that ❤️

[@CiaoColeG]

I'm really guarded about making friends too. I believe that friendship and any kind of close relationship could completely derail your life so it's important to watch for red flags and to align yourself with people with similar values, not just people with shared interests.

[@blackcurrantpop]

Well said❤

[@flyingsolotiltheend3058]

Sista you are spot on

[@MariW736]

You had me at “I don’t like people” 💀

[@reflections4me]

Periodt. We are not angry black women ladies, you just know who you are and you value your space and boundaries. There is nothing wrong in being assertive and knowing what you want from life. I just love my space and my quiet time.

[@bougiepeaches5497]

Yessss! We deserve it

[@craigwiggins8287]

@Reflections..Amen!!!

[@Michelle-pn9xt]

She is black, but the video is something that everyone can relate to.

[@PrimaYoo]

Growing up in an Asian household, I was always told to be nice no matter what. Luckily following this policy resulted in my patience has been worn down out of existence and I’m now living my life Stampede style ✨

[@raedasama]

That’s great! I still can’t get out of that niceness. It’s really killing me. Though, I’m working on it

[@gmarkphillips]

"If you feel like you are going insane right now you are actually completely sane." Kelly S. Right on! This rant so resonated with me.

[@Saiuriyon]

I do not like people. I will always prefer being alone. I will never understand the chatty, talking just to be talking. Thank you for your relatability. And thank you for that pineapple ponytail too. ❤️

[@taykhamilton]

Lmao I just realized I don’t like people either. I get very irritated now when people are talking to me because most of the time they don’t even be talking about anything. And you’re so right about the shift that’s happening. People are getting weirder and more sinister by the day.

[@msanja70]

Or people ask you a question, but then do not even listen.

[@tsaunders4684]

@ Tay, exactly

[@liastorm795]

Preach

[@elenavernet2289]

🤣🤣🤣

[@FIREENGINE3]

Lmaoooo weirder

[@Narisse222]

I totally feel that. I used to be proud that I was really nice and cool with everyone then I'd ended up feeling drained and unappreciated. Now I try to find the balance of enjoying the peace of my solitude while relearning how to be a little more social when networking.

[@daisyzara]

There is a 100% difference between being nice + kind

[@KarleyCottrell]

I hate when strangers feel entitled to my time. They ask personal questions as if I wanted to talk to them at all. I friggin hate small talk with a passion. Actual purgatory.

[@ninabeauty3099]

Omg same I hate when strangers feel the need to talk to me 😂

[@JonnyCook]

Those people don’t feel entitled to your time. They are assuming you are a human being with agency who is capable of communicating your preferences. The world would be a shitty place if we all just assumed everyone wanted to be left alone at all times.

[@KarleyCottrell]

@@JonnyCook that’s a long way around you saying people want to talk without regard to the other person wanting to or not. “Having agency” and wanting to participate are not the same. My boundaries are not your boundaries. I do not owe anyone my time just because they want something.

[@JonnyCook]

@@KarleyCottrell You aren't understanding what I'm saying. Of course, you are not obligated to to participate in any conversation. You are entitled to your own boundaries, but you are also required to assert those boundaries -- you cannot assume people will know what those boundaries are if you don't communicate them. And we cannot have a functional society if we assume everyone feels as you do. People talk to you because they are hopeful for a human connection, not because they are entitled. If you do not want to talk with them, you have the agency to politely excuse yourself from the conversation. If they are not respectful of your boundaries, *then* you can judge them for being entitled. But it is not fair to make that assumption purely on the basis that they chose to initiate an interaction with you.

[@audaciousenuf8606]

@@JonnyCook you're right. I agree with some of the rant but I've also wondered why people get angry these days when you're just making small talk, I see it a lot in young people. Small talk I don't mind you could never get to know anyone without it, the relationship has to start with baby steps. She(Karley Cottrell sounds like one of those people that will think you are trying to be friends with them when you're just being a bit social.

[@thetruestfaith]

This was beautifully said and something I've learned about people. I used to think there was something wrong with me, because I had difficulty getting comfortable with certain people, but then I realized that I was actually picking up on some bad energy. One lesson I have learned from having a narcissist parent is to be wary of people who want to know too much info about me, especially after meeting me, because those people will use any info they gather against you.

[@CurlyGirlLife1]

This is why I will do whatever I can to continue to work for myself, and only have a few like minded friends! Got to be careful and pray about the people that come into your life nowadays smh

[@KellyStamps]

You really do have to be careful! I met some new people recently and I had to block somebody. Thank goodness we never actually met in person, it was just over the Internet but still. I had plans to meet. She just dumped all her problems on me and it was super weird and insane and unexpected. It made me concerned like she needed something out of me that I’m just not comfortable providing.

[@LMNOmic1234]

@@KellyStamps get the spatchula out. dont loose it. or the inner spatchula. dont loose touch.

[@NikkiJabs]

Someone commented on my last video, “You aren’t an introvert if you post your life online.” Glad to know there’s another introvert who posts online. 😏

[@KellyStamps]

I totally understand that. I’m probably an ambivert which apparently is somebody who shares both qualities. But even if you are an introvert that doesn’t make sense for them to comment that LOL. Introvert to the most creative sometimes and it makes sense to share your work online where do you feel calmer from judgement and interaction.

[@DefineMorena]

Thay person who commented doesn't know anything about being an introvert.

[@nataliamontelongo2781]

Was literally just thinking how annoying people are, specially the ones I don't like.

[@KellyStamps]

Starting with Putin #1

[@nataliamontelongo2781]

@@KellyStamps Lukashenko #2

[@uniquewhimsy622]

@@KellyStamps all politicians are fakes phonies imposters liars creeps. They’re all corrupt! We have been lied to that there’s a difference between parties lol. Why are things getting worse with a “democrat” in office? Like the ICE facilities increasing by 50%!

[@NEXTWEALTHPARTNERS]

Story of my life. I used to feel bad for not liking people. Now in my late 30s I have completely embraced my hatred for most human beings. I’m glad it’s normal 😂.

[@julianoner]

Literally, most people suck big time. They don't even know you. Only you know your true self and where you've been. 99.9% of people are just strangers.

[@helenatube]

I've been progressively realizing over the last 6 months or so how toxic and not actually caring one of my best friends is, so this is definitely relatable. I'm basically letting our relationship fade away at this point while I work on myself and look for new friends

[@SB-se7vb]

And there´s absolutely nothing wrong with that. Surround yourself with people who interest and inspire you. Anything else (few exceptions) is dead weight.

[@ayak6317]

Same here

[@Hxny.KayKay]

I resonate when you said that people brings you nothing but pain and misery

[@mariah-rv4dk]

GOD, i can’t tell you how much i related to rant and i’m so glad i’m not alone it’s so hard to find genuine people & it seems like everyone is off their rocker lately it’s insanity. i hope you’re doing great kelly i love you sm

[@ValiaStef1990]

Same here

[@MrNiceguyjin]

This is why I am like a sea urchin. Prickly on the outside and mushy inside. Strangers rarely approach me. But I also wear headphones outside at all times. 😂

[@KellyStamps]

MUSHY

[@ImTash]

headphones is actually a really good shout. i always get the crazies coming up to me

[@juls8022]

AMEN!!! People call me antisocial and I call it serenity.

[@inhabitantofearth]

I HATE small talk! I wish there was a "people repellent" so that when I go out in public, people (who are not involve in my business transactions) will leave me alone....but then again the cashier always feel obligated to small talk also...It's like NO escape!

[@KellyStamps]

My people repellent is pretending to be a radical Christian. Think about it, people can’t stand anyone shoving anything down their throat. So I just recite Bible verses from middle school and it works on annoying men LOL

[@inhabitantofearth]

@@KellyStamps Then I might bump into someone who's Christian and they'll want to talk all day long about some stuff I actually have no interest in. But, good idea! :)

[@queenpmfk]

I’m dead how she said the wine lady was an NPC. I used to work in retail, and saw this all the time. Heads just empty and spouting random sayings lmao

[@KellyStamps]

literally every GTA character in los santos

[@julietijerina8176]

I thought I was a complete weirdo for having that thought about some people. Also? Like some of these avatars are just getting hair and skin tone changes. They're the SAME characters!

[@AnnaEvanz]

You speak only facts. Exactly how I see and feel about others. Keep your mind safe from others wanting to use you to validate their lives. If you like being alone, that’s totally FINE! Nothing wrong with boundaries and knowing what works and doesn’t work for you.

[@KellyStamps]

Thank you for understanding! Some ppl are always trying to leave disingenuous comments saying “I’m concerned for you” LOL. i’m probably not even an introvert, but it’s similar to how people act like introverts are evil for not wanting to interact the same way.

[@mariekano9730]

@@KellyStamps I've been an introvert all my life. I like going to work minding my business and go home and hang with my brother and sister. They're my only best friends. I've been single for years im 27 and I haven't found the one yet but I'm not rushing I like my life the way it is

[@Sage-yh3zj]

Thank you for validating how I’ve been feeling for so long. I thought there was something wrong with me but the truth is, I’ve just always known better. I don’t like interacting with people. I’m not the type of person who will invite drama into my life just to feel something. I’m self-aware, I’m at peace, and I have my boundaries up for a reason.

[@pelosuelto70]

It's ok to be cordial to people. It's also OK to say "NO". People who can't break your boundaries and they're upset need to be left alone.

[@AlleyDreamer]

I think we all need to be like Maddy from Euphoria. She is genuinely kind towards the people she loves but she isn't nice. A queen honestly 💅🏾

[@TheVideoChatter]

I felt this deep in my soul.. people are such a letdown. If I have anything to do with it, I tend to avoid them at all costs. 😶

[@uniquewhimsy622]

There’s the smallest percentage of truly awesome people hiding out from the other 99.99999% of total dirtbags. Don’t lose faith!

[@Cevin.]

I’m a barista and it’s so frustrating dealing with “wine girls” everyday in order to pay my damn rent

[@KellyStamps]

😂

[@SharongudaRN-BsN]

😂😂

[@dayvid009]

Yes it’s a huge difference between nice and kind! Many customers of the service industry don’t understand that! They often mistake niceness as flirting when no, I’m actually being kind because it’s part of the job and who I am.. I don’t want anything from you outside of this business transaction.

[@trialandcreate]

Some people are so clueless, they think everyone is like them and they feel entitled to your attention. Hell no, boundaries first, I don't need to be liked by most people anymore

[@ameliagraham7284]

Agree. I dislike most people also. I'm an Empath, Capricorn, introvert, and INFJ-A with anxiety. I think this seems it up well enough.

[@aylinlugo8031]

Same 😂

[@coldtink93]

To me it was just a neighbor trying to get to know her neighbors. However, the advice you gave is very good advice! You shouldn't feel as though you have to share your information just because someone asked. Also, its so true, it is such a red flag when people share everything about their life immediately.

[@elenavernet2289]

How is that a red flag?

[@spaceowl5957]

@@elenavernet2289 I also feel like it's a red flag but I don't understand why

[@kelechi_77]

@@elenavernet2289 Oversharing is link to insecurity, the constant need for validation or trying to connect on a personal level with someone you don't even know

[@simpleplanfan011]

I feel this so hard. At work the other day a girl asked me if I was okay for the SECOND time after I said I was already. Pressing me with “Are you sure?!?!?!” like she didn’t want me to be, so I yelled “YES, I’M FINE!!!” and she said I was on my period 😐😐😐 You are so right about these people, girl.

[@KellyStamps]

I would just start barking at her

[@pelosuelto70]

I would've yelled "im even better if you can just leave me the f*** ALONE!"

[@96PLAID]

This has been me since day 1. I feel like for most of my life I've been surrounded my the wrong people. I thought something was wrong with me but really I've just been in the wrong environment. I just need to work on forming stronger bonds with wholesome people rather than letting them slip away.

[@uniquewhimsy622]

Yes this exactly. Learn how to spot authentic, grounded and humble people. Ignore attention hungry vampires with zero boundaries.

[@VickyVeeJonas]

You are who I want to be in real life. Being too “nice” as a way to people please sucks. People violate my boundaries and I hate it so much. It makes me resentful. I’m working on not caring what people think… AND NOT BEING “nice”

[@elenahale1922]

I have never felt closer to a human in my life. This is how I talk and people always act like I’m just this rude person and that’s not it and she gets it.

[@dewinquinones4687]

I feel you! It’s like when people ask me “do you work here” when they can clearly see I’m wearing the uniform of the store. 🙃

[@KellyStamps]

Like no bich ✨, I just bought the uniform to show my support

[@shannon7813]

this reminds me of when I used to be a rep for a dog food company and my job was to literally patrol the dog food aisle in Petsmart. I had a little orange apron to differentiate me from the regular employees but it didn't work. People would come up to me and ask "do you work here?" and I'd be like "no, ma'am I work for the dog food" and they'd just get so mad about the fact that I existed in that store but couldn't sell them a hamster.

[@theTruthSeekerishere]

When someone asks if you work there and you're clearly in uniform it's just their way of getting your attention for assistance. Also, some people who work at any store may be on break but still in uniform and when a customer is unaware of this they ask to get your attention.

[@Michelle-pn9xt]

@@theTruthSeekerishere If you need help, ask for help. You know that someone wearing a store uniform works at the store/

[@estefaniazila]

man, I 100% agree that something's going on in this world; my energy has been so low this week for whatever reason, I don't even feel like talking or being near people🥴

[@uniquewhimsy622]

We are in Pisces right now. Guard your energy. Things are about to get very messy!! Be gentle with yourself and interact with others only as necessary.

[@KellyStamps]

Happy Tuesday thirstrap thumbnail day!

[@Prashasti]

I read the title and just ran at 100x speed to watch the video.

[@KellyStamps]

🏃🏾‍♀️

[@iamwinklebottom]

Ty for this video. I’m the exact same way.

[@TritonTv69420]

Got me....

[@latenightdiy1496]

@@Prashasti lol I decided I was done with my piano work for the day. Then came in to turn on my projector and make popcorn to watch it. 😂 I just wanna hang out with her at least once in life. Or more...

[@pbj4732]

The story of your “friend” that only popped up to ask about who you’re dating literally happened to me last week! I posted a pic of me and my bf for the first time and after months of radio silence and ignoring my messages, she suddenly wanted to know everything about my boyfriend!!! No, thank you!!!

[@FightsRightsAlways]

This is why I have headphones EVERYWHERE I go. And I make sure that people can see the cord and understand, that I'm not interested in starting or being apart of a conversation. A lot of people aren't worth the time and energy of being around. Love the distinction of "kind and nice". People need to know the difference

[@elenavernet2289]

😭😭😭

[@maxerinjames]

I like your comparison between kindness and niceness 🤔 Amazing nails, and your humor never dulls 😌 you are right about not telling people everything about you. You can be patient with sharing your full self while still progressing well pass the "small talk" bs. Great video, great advice, and looking forward to your reign.

[@hansonel]

"Where is the concierge?" Hiding from that crazy toxic lady. Do not trust people who give out all their stuff right off the bat indeed. Trust is earned, not given out like candy on Halloween. Learned this lesson the hard way after a short stint working retail with a personality disordered boss - never again.

[@Prashasti]

Kelly's video is a signal from the universe to take notes, Stampede- When you've this inviting energy you invite all kinds of crazy sometimes, don't trust, people...keep your guards up. Stay neutral, stampede. Preach. ✨

[@gaurisharma7493]

As a female INTJ-A living in INDIA I don’t just get this video, I FEEL IT. Please keep up the good work. I love you. Self preservation is everything.

[@alexmacchalatte]

INTJ’s unite

[@MeliYT]

There’s so little of us 🦄

[@michellephoenix9377]

@@alexmacchalatte Damn straight!

[@annicks7385]

@@MeliYT yes it's true . We're rare

[@ameliagraham7284]

Same, but I'm an INFJ-A, so I understand it completely.

[@LexxieDivine]

“I never said I was nice.” Oh my goodness, I say this all the time to people who try to waste my time and take advantage of me. I’m a kind person in general lol but I have boundaries and I’m not afraid anymore to communicate them anymore.

[@okayboomernyc]

That was fun. I have a neighbor next door like the wine woman. Whenever we clash paths while I am putting the key in my front door, and she happens to be leaving or entering her apartment, she asks me if I work. Do I have a job? Marie Marie you've been asking me the that same question now for twenty- years. Believe me, Marie is always looking for bad news. She is the worst person to run into when one is between gigs. She lives for the drama in the lives of others. Sick woman.

[@KellyStamps]

YEP. They live for the drama and they are competitive with other women.

[@Desiraymershani]

This is why I freaking love you!! It’s true, its okay to be an introvert and selective about who you keep around. Why would I open myself up to disappointment and being annoyed.

[@luzzguerrero]

Lmfao I feel this in a deeper level. People are so aggravating.

[@ChristandLocs]

“There’s nothing wrong with being neutral”. Kelly, you don’t know how affirming that statement is. Thank you.

[@andallthatyazz]

I relate to this SO much. Last year was a transformative year for me and thank goodness - I’m over people and I was way too trusting and gave people WAY too many chances. I’d rather be alone and friendless rather than entertain toxic people who just take and take just so I can have someone to talk to when I’m bored.

[@kathlinncabanas6743]

When you low-key throwing shade to make them realize how ridiculous they sound but they got a built-in umbrella 😭

[@uniquewhimsy622]

Yep because they don’t listen! They just talk to hear themselves.

[@MahoganyPinkYT]

I would watch any movie with you as the star! Kindness and Niceness are FUNDAMENTALLY different things.

[@LetThereBeLight1111]

Ooh not one of my faves on another fave’s channel😍😍

[@marckid93]

*Kelly Stamps being a relatable queen for 13 minutes straight*

[@AnitaKurkach]

Kelly, it’s okey to be nice 🌸 You can to be just honest and say sorry I’m busy or I am not in the mood to talk, have a nice day, bye. So you can save your nerve system 😇

[@XX-cv5zt]

whoa, thank you for saying that. i’m so glad i’m not alone. i’m called anti-social, loner, etc. truth is, i’m tired of being nice and getting being used by so called friends. one day i decided to cut off these “friends”. i rather be alone than be with a bunch of superficial friends. and i’m enjoying my life now. i am happy. no drama. btw i love your job and i’d love to have this job if things work out. i love staying in so much that i don’t go out unless i ran out of food. i’m working on filming a video but so nervous. wanted to ask you for advice but decided not to as you receive tons of emails and i don’t want to bother. we are quite alike in alot of ways so i can relate when you say these things. love you. love your videos. xx

[@dancesweeter]

I always say I "nice" means absolutely nothing to me.. ANYONE can be nice! Most people who've hurt me were super nice when i first met them. Psychopaths are freaking CHARMING! It takes sooo much more effort for someone to be kind. Don't take the bait. Give it time, close your ears, open your eyes.

[@BullshitDetector]

Exactly. So many people are naive enough to think a nice person is a good person. Two charming and well liked guys that I know are rapists. Nobody would have known otherwise because they’re so “nice.”

[@jerrilynpapilon9611]

Damn you are so right I've met countless people who seemed nice scratch the surface and they are not nice.

[@Cevin.]

“I never said i was nice” period

[@erstellen7888]

"misery loves company" let me tell U, this shit hits hard. Recently put boundaries between a friend and I BC she was only there was I unstable but gone when I was happy - toxic man

[@KellyStamps]

Daaang

[@erstellen7888]

@@KellyStamps holy shit thank you professor stamps for commenting (internally fangirling)

[@helenatube]

Yup, this is real. Had this realization about a "friend" in my life recently too

[@samanthacruz5587]

Wow! You're intelligence is unmatched. You my friend are alive and when you referenced the lady being an NPC from grand theft auto I lost it! I couldn't agree more. I feel you have the power to become our first woman president. You are one of the few people I hear and actually listen to. There's a lot of nonsense and chatter out in this world. You see life for what it is and you stay true to yourself. I really admire that about you! I look forward to seeing more content!

[@KellyStamps]

Thank you!!!

[@eallen6936]

I’ve been feeling so weird and “crazy” lately because it feels like the world is falling apart and there are so many bad things happening and I kind of take notice of other people around me and it’s kind of like people don’t see it, or they just don’t want to. It’s just not normal, like yes bad stuff happens all the time, but are there not like a million bad things happening right on top of each other, just one after the other? Are people this detached from reality, or have peoples standard of life and how people should conduct themselves become so perverted that no one else can see it? The speech that Leo gave in “Don’t Look Up” when the reporters were making a joke about a comet hitting earth is exactly how I feel about our current state as a people.

[@manufacturedreality8706]

People are aware of all the bad things that are happening, but they feel powerless to do anything about it, so they try to tune it out as much as possible. People have lives to live, families to take care of. They can't do what they need to do if they are sad, depressed and frustrated all the time. Detaching from reality is basically a defense mechanism.....trying to protect their sanity.

[@victoriajoy7016]

I literally adore you and relate to you so much. Thank you for being alive 😂

[@meronpat]

This is the most accurate rant ever told. Sick of being the element that makes other ppl learn or feel better (leaving us mentally tired).

[@helenatube]

and some of them have the audacity and depth of ignorance to "thank" you afterward for helping them grow while it was making you miserable. WTF

[@shawtylotty]

YES ! a thousand times YES

[@TheJestBee]

Girl, that's what headphones are for. Lol. I just wear those and act like I got blinders on, I don't see nothing in my peripheral 😂😂

[@jennifercuellar9245]

I low key needed this reassurance. I know how I feel about people and it’s draining trying to be nice just so you don’t feel like a mean bean.

[@flyingsolotiltheend3058]

You betray yourself when you treat people good who treat you bad. It took me awhile to learn. I'd much rather be mean or be an ass if it protects my energy and sanity.

[@karmen1265]

I do not know what's wrong with me, but you made me realize it's what's right with me! I seriously don't like talking about irrelevant shit that doesn't go anywhere, but everyone around me likes to bug me about it. I always feel so alone, but not today, thanks again Kelly

[@bhavyasingh1625]

This is so helpful, I've recently had a falling out with all my friends and although it hurt, I've realized they were carrying dusty energy that I just don't need/should have to put up with and I've made my peace with being a solitary human just doing things I like doing and working on myself. Thanks, Kelly, you always affirm what I feel intuitively

[@mejustbeingme369]

lets be friends

[@bhavyasingh1625]

@@mejustbeingme369 omg yes please stampede winning as always

[@mejustbeingme369]

@@bhavyasingh1625 yeah! 😊 Are you from India 🇮🇳?

[@reallygoodatfolding]

When I was in a really emotionally abusive relationship, my friends would be bummed out when I was having a good week with my boyfriend and wouldn’t know what else to talk about. Safe to say I don’t have many friends anymore and I’m so much happier

[@jasmine283]

1st off Nosey ppl are one of my biggest pet peeves. 2nd, This is one of my favorite videos of you. I’ve always felt this way and certain ppl will try to make me feel wrong for having boundaries and protecting myself. I’m glad I go with my intuition and go along with what makes me happy and feels comfortable with my spirit. It’s so important to create your own world and not be of the world. And what you said about the difference between kind and nice is sooo true.

[@SynsBookNook]

It’s hard to let people in because people are the worst. We are living in insane times and I’ve become more and more of a hermit. Although I’ve been spending more time in nature, gotta stay in tune with Mother Earth. Really enjoy your humor and real talk. ☺️🛸-Syn