45k in construction, what does he do, sweep the floors?
@LAM1960xyz8 ай бұрын
Exactly!
@willsinn10998 ай бұрын
I think they hold the stop sign 🤣
@mademoisellesura8 ай бұрын
Yeah, I was curious about that too! I know several men that are in construction, and all of them make waaay more than that.
@seosam6528 ай бұрын
I’m wondering too. Maybe if he put in more effort he can get that income increased. He does have a higher earning potential in that field than what his current income is at.
@DoctorSmartyPants8 ай бұрын
@@seosam652Depending on his skill set, if he has any. I'm guessing if he was skilled in the trades, he would be making more.
@callmeishmaelk7678 ай бұрын
If this was reversed and she made $45k and the dude made $200k, there wouldn't be any problems. 😂
@whitneyw.79198 ай бұрын
That’s right and largely because men don’t carry the reproductive burden or participate, equally in housework or childcare even in 2024
@whitneyw.79198 ай бұрын
So this lady will be kicking butt in her career while the guy flounders then come home and have five hours of housework and childcare
@Apollo03517 ай бұрын
If the salaries were reversed he would be a provider, but since it's her she's worried about being a sugar momma... She's a living, breathing red flag
@scoobie8amg8 ай бұрын
Why did she even bother dating him with such a gap if it bothers her? 🤦♀️
@thehungrywolf698 ай бұрын
EXACTLY 👏
@carolyn99618 ай бұрын
She sounds older, women have to settle eventually
@stevenpalmer77933 ай бұрын
True
@levigoldson2 ай бұрын
because "I can fix him" and she enjoyed having someone to date and fool around with
@musume7723Ай бұрын
She's 38 and her dating options are limited
@RoguePlanetStudio8 ай бұрын
She was fishing for a reason to say no and leave him.
@djpuplex8 ай бұрын
You can hear it in her voice the tone shift when Dave said pay off his debt.
@Loljjkb8 ай бұрын
Nah, she’s trying to trap him
@austinduke88768 ай бұрын
@@Loljjkb trap him with what? He doesn't even make a quarter of what she does. He's got nothing for her to take.
@Loljjkb8 ай бұрын
@@austinduke8876who cares what he makes. She’s an unwanted middle aged hag
@Loljjkb8 ай бұрын
@@austinduke8876who cares what he or she makes? The fact that a desperate woman almost 40 is either with a loser like him or a Nigerian online scammer
@Raegoul8 ай бұрын
I married into student loans and a car payment. She made half the money I did but while we were dating she worked extra jobs and knocked it down significantly. So I had no problem draining my savings account when we got married to put a dent in it. Now we're debt free except a relatively small mortgage (due to having a large downpayment) and she makes more than me now. This caller shouldn't be in a relationship with him if she looks down on him.
@philipgerry52288 ай бұрын
Good point. In the future he might be the major wage earner. When you combine income there is more money to manage. You can’t have it all all by yourself.
@biolife32748 ай бұрын
Do you have a brother?
@livingunashamed48698 ай бұрын
She makes more than 4x what he does, she will never respect him. She is already having doubts.
@FrankS1118 ай бұрын
BINGO! When the wife out earns the husband the risk of divorce dramatically increases and the risk goes up the greater the income gap. I now look forward to the comments by feminists denying statistics and reality…..and GO!
@MrJimmy34598 ай бұрын
Yea, listening to her verbiage they dropped the ball on this call
@SnifferSock8 ай бұрын
Stupid argument. If he'd been a soldier for last 15 years, he'd still be making a fraction of her pay. Most people her would call her trash if she didn't respect him though. I think it's more of a he's in his mid 30s only making 45k kind of thing. I know people in construction in their 20s making closer to 60k. We don't know a major detail or he just isn't trying.
@blakehanson51088 ай бұрын
Yes and after marriage "they" would make 250 but she wouldn't see it that way
@SonnyBubba8 ай бұрын
Did you expect them to say “you’re a woman and make $200k, so you need to find a man who makes $500k.”?
@SpoonHurler8 ай бұрын
She's never going to respect him and when they divorce in 6 years after he gets awarded alimony, she'll be crying and bitter.
@jimmymcgill67788 ай бұрын
YEP
@djpuplex8 ай бұрын
She won't marry him. She'll find captain save a hussie who makes over six figures but doesn't give her the tingles. Than the divorce will come. You can hear it in her voice.
@austinduke88768 ай бұрын
I listened to a divorce lawyer with something like 30 years experience talk about this and he said (anecdotally) that in his client base the number of men receiving alimony (or at least eligible to receive alimony; he said many men reject it) has risen substantially in the last decade.
@jimroscovius8 ай бұрын
We don't have that problem.
@genxx27248 ай бұрын
They’ll have joint custody of the kids and she will have to pay heft child support.
@nickm15878 ай бұрын
Ken, someone making 45k before taxes can’t just tackle 50k in debt in a couple years. The math doesn’t add up, not even close
@danmacgowan82428 ай бұрын
Ken was thinking he needed to hustle and get overtime and another job to start working the debt. I think she would have had a different attitude if he paid off 12-15K in a year. She did need to hear Dave say, once your married you pay it off. That is what he's been telling men for years.
@jjman5338 ай бұрын
They also mean the broke guy needs to find a side hustle delivering pizzas to tackle that debt. She needs to get a PRENUP. Someone that broke and low income is going to have family members that are gold diggers if not him.
@NWI_Steel8 ай бұрын
They are so clueless on their math sometimes and don't even factor in taxes either. I thought the same thing when Ken said that. Realistically making 40k, it would take that guy at least 5 yrs to pay off that 50k
@danmacgowan82428 ай бұрын
@@NWI_Steel Dave and Ken preach that they are one once married and she can write a check once married. Everyone feels better if he shows that he's willing to tackle it. She likely will always bring in much more than him ,but he's working. No one would bat an eye at Dave telling a man to pay off his wife's school loans
@jcherestal8 ай бұрын
Ken said "EWW" at that mans salary wtf
@evility16 ай бұрын
I think it was the gap in salary, not the Salary itself.
@Reaver12235 ай бұрын
@@evility1that’s still fucked up lol
@stevenpalmer77933 ай бұрын
Of course he said 'EWW". Ken is superior to everyone. Don't you know...
@davidjmaybee3 ай бұрын
Ken is cringe. He comes across very cocky.
@krobdawg8 ай бұрын
She sounds like how a guy should sound in these modern times regarding marriage lol
@d3adp948 ай бұрын
Explains why she is 38 and not married.
@blackworldtraveler37118 ай бұрын
Indeed. Many women want to be men nowadays it seems. Slowly learning what men have to deal with.
@thehungrywolf698 ай бұрын
😂😂😂
@k.h.a.l.i.l.6 ай бұрын
@@blackworldtraveler3711 someone needs to be the man in that relationship cause it aint him at $45K at 35 lol
@Elizabeth_lowkeyluxuries8 ай бұрын
Don't marry the guy if you're going to resent him. Let him go and let him live his best life if you're going to hold his salary against him. He's younger and didn't have the DR knowledge that you did for 20 years.
@dr.anarentasd.c.43178 ай бұрын
Exactly
@JasonGroom8 ай бұрын
Could Ken be any more disrespectful to this man for earning 1/4 of what this woman earns. He literally let out a groan of disgust. That is a horrible response, especially since in a reversed role, he would tell s guy that the debt is left would be her debt if they get married, and he would be responsible to help her
@bearscolts18 ай бұрын
Yeah, didn’t like Ken on this call. Disrespect is a no go especially if he’s wanting to get debt free
@lucialuciferion67208 ай бұрын
Could have been an 'ouch' this is bad reply?
@JasonGroom8 ай бұрын
@@lucialuciferion6720 why is it bad, guy earns money and wants to get out of debt.
@amandawithlov39088 ай бұрын
The gap difference would catch anyone off guard. It is gender bias as I responded the same way.
@TalyaT9227 ай бұрын
The caller had already set the stage of concerns about the income disparity and fear of becoming a sugar mama. Ken was simply responding to how significant the disparity was. No disrespect. This wasn't a call where the income was incidental and Ken was having an over the top negative reaction.... it was literally the crux of the problem. Ken's questions and advice were appropriate and helpful for the stated situation.
@kendrascorner8 ай бұрын
I agree with Dave's take here entirely. The concern that I have is this woman definitely already has resentment toward the fact that she's better off financially than this guy. If she could genuinely see him as a man worth getting behind, debt and all, and they both have the same long-term financial goals and all of that, then it could work. But I think she already views it as him being worse than her, and her doing him some great favor by paying off his debt after they get married. If she is viewing him as a responsibility and a burden, it's not going to work. If she can view him as an amazing man who shares her values, and they're going to get ahead in life together and commit to each other for the rest of their life living on the same page, then that's a different story, but that's not what I'm hearing from this phone call.
@GuilefullyNomadic8 ай бұрын
Well said.
@k.h.a.l.i.l.6 ай бұрын
how could someone making $45K have the same goals as someone making triple that? especially at the age of almost 40. i doubt they have similar goals in finances. I think this guy lacks ambition because i don't know anyone in construction who earns so little.
@kendrascorner6 ай бұрын
@@k.h.a.l.i.l. if a man and a woman share the same values (and believe in the same principles) regarding their finances, that will result in the same goals. For example, let's say this woman is in baby step 7... She's just living the dream. But this guy agrees with all the Dave Ramsey principles but is on step 3b, let's say, then that means he has no debt, has a fully funded emergency fund, and is saving for a downpayment for a house; he also intends to invest 15% of his income toward retirement after he has purchased his house, and intends to pay off his house in full as quickly as possible. If they got married and moved into her house, they would combine their finances, he would have no reason to buy a house of his own anymore, but he would start contributing his 15% of income into retirement, help her pay off her house (if it wasn't paid off yet), would not want to go into debt ever again, and would happily decide on and stick to monthly budgets. As for his income of $40,000 there are certainly people who work in construction and make that, or less. It didn't say he is a contractor. He could be a general laborer making $14 per hour (which is double the minimum wage, by the way, at least where I am from). If he worked 60 hours per week at $14 per hour, he would come out to around $40,000 per year. By the way, I personally know many people who make significantly less than that in general labour jobs. $7.50-$10 per hour is average where I am from. So yeah, a man making $40,000 per year in general labor indicates to me a hardworking man.
@aqm84708 ай бұрын
Ken groaning at the salaries is disgusting. If the male was the high earner, ken wouldn't have had a problem
@jdtreharne8 ай бұрын
Men and women are different
@thejakelegion8 ай бұрын
Your complete denial of gender roles is what's disgusting.
@lonestarrk93088 ай бұрын
@@jdtreharne Yeah, women can sell pictures of their feet and become millionaires. Men have to earn every penny we get. A plumber, electrician or truck driver can’t compete with an OF “model” making $20K a month. This is the current dating market.
@chanelletriplett8 ай бұрын
Well yes…obviously.
@mikemaroyi77567 ай бұрын
Yea of course that financial burden should be on the man not the woman. In an ideal situation the man should make more. She will eventually resaint him. It’s female nature
@jwelda18 ай бұрын
If the roles were reversed they would be like “You care more about money more than her!?!?” More guys need to be calling in with these concerns and not marrying losers.
@hussameddinshleh8 ай бұрын
Exactly.
@handleyobusiness8 ай бұрын
Well said.
@jimmymcgill67788 ай бұрын
YEP
@Loljjkb8 ай бұрын
David is super hypocritical. His misogyny is through the roof. He thinks women are weak and dumb, alway has patronizing compassion for women.
@tcgtpl8 ай бұрын
That’s the Ramsey Simpin’ Solutions’ Way.
@samrusoff8 ай бұрын
They talked over her way too much and didn't let her express how the main issue is really that she isn't comfortable joining finances in the first place when she "has worked so hard to get" there high income, not that he has some debt at the moment. But the hosts wanted to deliver the Ramsey message, not let it become a John Deloney counseling session.
@beechcraftpvp8 ай бұрын
I guess I’m confused. I make good money, and a bunch of my co workers make 400+. A lot of them have wives they don’t work or that make 30-50, and that’s seen as a “you go girl” type of situation, but if the roles are reversed and the dude makes less, there needs to be a high level of concern? What a double standard lol.
@ayintovah31328 ай бұрын
It's not double standard it's what men were created for to make money
@chartuck8 ай бұрын
@@ayintovah3132 Yeeeeah except in today's society men are expected to still be traditional and lead, while women aren't traditional, don't want to cook or clean, don't want to be mother's, and refuse to be faithful.
@NatalieS-kh3ck8 ай бұрын
What do u and your co workers do that make so much money?
@lonestarrk93088 ай бұрын
@@ayintovah3132 Yet women can sell feet pics and make a million a year. Between that, affirmative action pushing these women to the top and colleges pushing the feminist agenda, men are going to fall behind. Women have become the men they want to marry. 80% of women only want the top 20% of men now. Men can no longer compete. Hence MGTOW, Red Pill and the passport bro movements.
@NatalieS-kh3ck8 ай бұрын
@@alonpalmer only toxic women want that. U must like the toxic ones because there are good women out there. U probably dont want them tho. What a ridiculous generalization. All because u prolly have poor judgement and got burned once.
@lkj0822g8 ай бұрын
Sounds like those little short hairs on the back of her neck were standing up. Smart person pays attention when your instincts kick in. This might be a good time for a "long engagement." And Ken, nobody is going to pay off $50k of debt in two years making $45k per year unless you're living rent free in your parents basement.
@BrianW2118 ай бұрын
No kidding. My jaw dropped when I heard that. WTF was Ken thinking?
@danmacgowan82428 ай бұрын
@@BrianW211 I think Ken was wanting to see the guy work overtime and pay 12-15k a year which would show that he's committed to getting out debt. I think both Dave and Ken were thinking he needed to clean up half before they got married and then she can help once their married.
@BrianW2118 ай бұрын
@@danmacgowan8242 He first said, "what makes you think it's going to take him 2 years" and then he weaseled out of it by saying "you don't have to necessarily marry all of it" and "how gazelle intense is he willing to get".
@nleem33618 ай бұрын
The guy needs to invest in tools and improve skills to make better money. My dad is a carpenter. To get there, he would buy 1 or 2 tools every payday. He also learned new skills at every opportunity. Eventually, he was able to become an independent contractor, running his own projects, and making better money.
@Loljjkb8 ай бұрын
If the genders were reversed Dave would have said “marry her asap, her debt is yours” 😂
@beaniemac8 ай бұрын
He sure would. There's definitely a double standard on this show
@crashtestdummy19728 ай бұрын
No, he wouldn't. They had a call just like this and they said the same thing. Its all about the persons attitude towards the debt. If they don't care, you'll have problems. If they are doing their best to pay it off before getting married, you guys will be fine
@fernnoli8 ай бұрын
He literally said at 4:16 , “you’re gonna marry him, he’s gonna have debt, and you’re gonna pay it off”. Open your ears😂
@OopThereItIs777778 ай бұрын
HE LITERALLY SAID THAT! You have selective hearing 😂😂😂😂😂
@thehungrywolf698 ай бұрын
Exactly‼️
@Astro95Media8 ай бұрын
My wife makes more than I do (not by an outrageous amount) but it's never been an issue. I had debt when we got together but I paid it off before we got married. We've marched hand in hand with finances since tying the knot.
@Loljjkb8 ай бұрын
Yeah yeah you’re so perfect 😂
@frankfurter5058 ай бұрын
Cranky morning, huh? @@Loljjkb
@Mr.Boring_Man8 ай бұрын
Same here. It's only an issue when spending and budget priorities don't align.
@OopThereItIs777778 ай бұрын
@@LoljjkbWe work hard to make our marriages what they are. You’re on here in a comment section popping off to strangers; we know where you are in life.
@Astro95Media8 ай бұрын
@@OopThereItIs77777Bingo 🤣
@maximusdecimusmeridius54388 ай бұрын
She’ll never respect him bc she makes more. Guys don’t think like that
@nickm46628 ай бұрын
Yea when she said “I’ve worked hard to get where I’m at”. She implied that he hasn’t done the same.
@FrankS1118 ай бұрын
Schrödinger’s feminist. She is both empowered and a victim. The outcome is dependent on what is most beneficial at that moment. Hypergamy at its best!
@rabidgoon8 ай бұрын
She’s past the sell date for hypergamy and that’s her real problem. She has such a high opinion of herself that she thinks she should be with a man whose salary equals hers, but those men don’t want women in their late 30s, who are going to try and be the alpha in the relationship. I hope she likes cats:
@kleindropper8 ай бұрын
Correct; a 38 year old woman making $200K wants a 40 year old man making $250K. Unfortunately a 40 year old man making $250K is absolutely drowning in beautiful 24 year olds and he doesn't give a rip about how much they make.
@dustyrhodes27178 ай бұрын
This and Kens response to the guys income was cringe. They would never respond that way if the roles were reversed.
@Mr.Boring_Man8 ай бұрын
Exactly!
@boredoreos8 ай бұрын
@@kleindropper It's funny how red pillers talk about how men making a lot of money are drowning in young girls, but none of them are actually those men. They just fantasize about living that life to escape their own lonely reality.
@JosephStransky-qw7zv8 ай бұрын
Women can't handle dating down she will never respect him hypergamy.....Dave is talking Hollywood and Disney bs
@barnabusdoyle49308 ай бұрын
I love the double standard when it comes to income. If he made $200k and she made $45k things would be fine. As soon as it’s her making the larger income then it’s a problem. Of course, statistically making so much more than your partner is toxic for a relationship. The earner looks down on the other person and feels like they have far more say in the financial decisions before that extra income is their’s. She clearly isn’t going to marry this guy. She already sees it like this.
@GAFB11228 ай бұрын
I like and agree with your 2nd paragraph. Also a thumbs up for using generic terms like earner and other. Additionally when one earner in a partnership far out earns the other it can make for a skewed power dynamic because like it or not... $$$$ rules the world!!
@frankfurter5058 ай бұрын
That makes sense if you view relationships as competition, adversarial, or transactional..@@GAFB1122
@Simpleharmonica8 ай бұрын
Absolutely agree a high earning man would have no problem in this situation as long as his girlfriend/wife was loving and supportive and good company
@Buggu38 ай бұрын
That guy don’t need her … I hope he listening n run for his life
@madisonhruschka37188 ай бұрын
As a woman, I think it is the fear of having to be the provider and homemaker simultaneously. From a practical standpoint, if she wants to stay home with the babies or work reduced hours, the disparity in income becomes a major obstacle. There is a lot of opportunity/comfort/luxuries 200k provides that 45k won’t. I think she has the desperation to have children and is still scared of “settling”. They can still have a great life, it just may look different than what she has in her mind.
@JesusisLordgh8j8 ай бұрын
I can tell that she had a problem with him making 45,000 . She is the breadwinner and will hold it over his head.
@stitcher47298 ай бұрын
The debt would bother me more than the salary difference. It would be interesting to know what it consists of.
@BigJon4108 ай бұрын
Yep is the $50k for a mortgage or car/credit card debt.
@WendyTruscott3 ай бұрын
@@BigJon410She said his parents forced him into an expensive college, and he came out with nothing.
@WendyTruscott3 ай бұрын
College. She said his parents forced him to go to a special college that was expensive, and he wasn’t interested and came out with nothing but debt.
@AmarisKrisla8 ай бұрын
This relationship doesn't work. 😅 she already has questions and doubts about him. I don't know maybe I am wrong.
@d3adp948 ай бұрын
I agree and find it funny. Money is going to make her stay single for a while. Women will never date down.
@asl199998 ай бұрын
Her partner needs to run for the hills. Sounds like she doesn't respect him at all
@currenteventsenthusiast94778 ай бұрын
Nots true. Getting married with no prenup is his best bet 😅
@lionheart938 ай бұрын
bc she makes a lot more lol
@danielfurr73568 ай бұрын
It sounds like he's coasting and unmotivated.
@WolverineIncognito8 ай бұрын
Not a partner. Boyfriend. They ain’t in business together.
@asl199998 ай бұрын
@@WolverineIncognito You are dumb
@KS_19958 ай бұрын
The reverse happens all the time. This is good for a lot of people to hear..
@cutehumor8 ай бұрын
it's equity part of DEI . men can marry sugar mamas 🤣
@scottbailey2448 ай бұрын
He is NEVER going to get out of debt without his prospective sugar mama wife paying off the debt for him. A man or woman knows full well when they have met their "Sugar Daddy" or "Sugar Mama". She is a sugar mama. He is trying to marry in to money. At his current wage, he is at the poverty line in virtually all areas of the US. She needs a husband that could potentially support himself if need be. That way there would be no dependencies on her money if/when they get married. How much does need to earn? It depends on the area, but I would suspect it is $60k-70k per year.
@JPerez-xm8yh8 ай бұрын
Wow..she's brave. When a guy wants to get with me, I immediately ask about his debts 😒. I tried hard to clear my credit and buying my own home. I get that ppl have some debt thats not extreme. But I see it as, I cleared my debt for you. Why didn't you want to do the same for me?
@saladboy14658 ай бұрын
If your girl makes more than you the shot clock is on my friend. What this woman really means is she doesn’t like that she out-earns him. She doesn’t respect him & never will. It’s a wrap. These guys are so out of touch on dating/relationship questions
@FrankS1118 ай бұрын
If they get married, statistically there is a HUGE chance she divorces him. 50% of marriages end in divorce. 80% initiated by women. When the wife out earns the husband, the odds of divorce increases another 50% and that risk increases the greater the income gap. She’s hesitant because she already resents him for his inability to keep up with her income and doesn’t respect him. It’s hypergamy.
@SnifferSock8 ай бұрын
That stat uses people who were married multiple times but to be fair we don't know if either have been divorced before.
@MikeNapoli19898 ай бұрын
I don’t disagree agree with you. I’m curious why that happens when the wife divorces the husband when she makes more.
@jimmymcgill67788 ай бұрын
INCEL
@jimmymcgill67788 ай бұрын
@@SnifferSock And those stats are flawed to begin with.
@mikezerker69258 ай бұрын
I think the 80% goes to 90% of divorces initiated by women if they outearn their husbands.
@queen.kristal83958 ай бұрын
for a guy who is 38 he doesn't make enough money to raise a family I will encourage him to make more money and maybe advance his career.
@scottlaux69343 ай бұрын
Maybe he doesn't want to change.
@irvin_rodriguez8 ай бұрын
This just proves that women are unhappy when they’re the bread winner in the relationship, and that they are unwilling to provide for a man 🤷🏽♂️. She obviously doesn’t respect him and never will unless he makes at least 200k
@laundrygoddess48 ай бұрын
I made more than my partner. Not all women are this selfish
@BuiltNutritionFitness8 ай бұрын
She thinks she’s above him and is settling for him since she’s 38. That man will never get any respect in that relationship. Doomed relationship where they are getting together for the wrong reasons.
@danielfurr73568 ай бұрын
Everyone here seems angry at this woman for expecting her potential husband to earn more, but I'm kind of on her side. She said he is 35 (or maybe it was 45, but I heard 35). $45,000 is about $22/hr assuming a 40-hour work week. That pay rate makes more sense for someone who is new to construction, but not someone who has possibly been in it for over a decade. At 35, this guy has been beyond college age for 17 years. There are several avenues he could take to earn more - go for construction manager, work overtime or extra jobs, career pivot, etc. I live in a low cost of living area, and you can earn more than that being a gas station supervisor. I get the impression her boyfriend is someone who is just coasting. If I were in her shoes, my issue wouldn't be so much with his salary, but more so, his motivation. Maybe $45k works for him, but it doesn't work for a couple who has aspirations to get married, own a nice home, and have kids.
@odibua91078 ай бұрын
People are angry because when the same calls happen with the genders flipped the men get a lecture and how it should be "our money". They just want Dave and Ken to give her the same energy.
@danielfurr73568 ай бұрын
@@odibua9107 I can agree with that.
@fauxbro19838 ай бұрын
Remember men, what's yours is hers and what's hers is hers.
@cleliaparnell87438 ай бұрын
Men want to be the head of the house, but they also want no responsibility. They quit jobs to play video games. Be a man or go away.
@gingergann39348 ай бұрын
That's not what I heard them say.
@lonestarrk93088 ай бұрын
@@gingergann3934Yet, it’s still true.
@fauxbro19838 ай бұрын
@@gingergann3934 the women was complaining about the debt the man would have if she married him and she'd be paying it off.
@bmg50158 ай бұрын
Her $200,000 income will be thrown in his face over and over again
@garyclark64278 ай бұрын
There was a book I read several years ago called Date-onomics. It told how there are more women now with college educations than there are guys with college educations. The situation in this call is going to become more common.
@benruss41306 ай бұрын
more common, yes, but women tends to get the "less useful" degrees, which will help stave this off.
@cleliaparnell87438 ай бұрын
Women are wise to the pre-nup men who leave them, with children, penniless in a few years. This is the same. She's afraid of losing everything she worked for.
@ciobalina74458 ай бұрын
Yeah, with such a revenue, she is prone to attract vultures. She needs to vet possible partners very well.
@ethxo67348 ай бұрын
The mentality it takes to earn 200k and be debt free is not compatible with someone earning 50k and in debt. She isn’t a pacif woman content with bare minimum. She should not move forward with the relationship.
@AS-gf5jn8 ай бұрын
Opposites attract
@revondamehovic31328 ай бұрын
I currently make more than my husband, but with the current job market who knows what the future may bring? I think it's more important to think of money in a marriage as ours vs worrying about who got paid what.
@GAFB11228 ай бұрын
The comments on this call requires that I make this comment. If you are a man and you do nothing but put down and negatively criticize all women then you are shaming your mother/daughter/sister/aunt/etc. AND SHAME ON YOU!! If you are a woman and you do nothing but put down and negatively criticize all men then you are shaming your father/son/brother/uncle/etc. AND SHAME ON YOU! As for me... there are good men and women. There are also bad men and women. The character of the specific person is the only thing that matters to me!
@LAM1960xyz8 ай бұрын
I immediately see a red-flag. A guy working construction and making less than $75k is basically a laborer.
@Loljjkb8 ай бұрын
So? He’s still a human being who deserves love and marriage, right? Laborers are bad people?
@NWI_Steel8 ай бұрын
The guy is working. Not everyone is super ambitious. The world still needs ditch diggers
@1CJ68 ай бұрын
Obviously, you've never been to eastern NC.
@rays2428 ай бұрын
Most of the "High Value" men are taken at her age.She has been sold a bill of goods to put everything into her career. A woman's job success means very little in the dating game sadly. It is everything for men.
@Loljjkb8 ай бұрын
How much you wanna bet she’s obese?😂
@rays2428 ай бұрын
Men go by appearance.....just the way it is.
@luminous69698 ай бұрын
Oh look at that, when the WOMAN makes more, it's called being a sugar mama 😂
@defiantlypinki11078 ай бұрын
This is a bad idea. She makes 4x more than he does so there’s no way finances are going to split evenly. Also, women are expected by society to take up most of the domestic work (cleaning, cooking, child rearing.etc), more than men do. He’ll probably feel emasculated, then go off with someone who makes less than him.
@ruhhshelle8 ай бұрын
When my husband and I met, I had $17,000 in debt. My husband was debt free. $6000 of that was credit cards. I wouldn't let him pay that, I spent it, inwanted to pay it off. The rest was on my car. We're paying off the last payment next month and will never get a car loan again. I'm glad my husband didn't judge me based on my past stupidity. That said, inDETESTED the debt and we have always been very aligned on our hatred of debt.
@Loljjkb8 ай бұрын
Oh the pick me comment 😂
@ruhhshelle8 ай бұрын
@Whiskerman oh the 'I'm trying to be relevant, but I can't even use slang correctly' comment
@irvin_rodriguez8 ай бұрын
@@Loljjkblmao as if being a “pick me” girl was a bad thing 💀 that’s just a term bitter feminists use to shame women who can keep a man lol
@iamme76648 ай бұрын
I wonder if you would have judged HIM if he was the one with the $17K in debt…And you said you didn’t want to let him pay for your debt but you also said “We are paying off the last…” so HE DID help out. Wonder if you would have married him and done the same for him if the roles were reversed.
@ruhhshelle8 ай бұрын
@iamme7664 given that I've dated people in debt before, I'd like to think that I would have. At the end of the day, I agree that perspective is the most important thing.
@SlyTwin8 ай бұрын
I’ve really noticed that women never love a man that makes less then her I’ve watch multiple episodes of Dave Ramsey and they all sound the same when it comes to that aspect, but men will marry a woman with no income and 20k + with of debt it’s scary out here
@THX50008 ай бұрын
Maybe because XXs are not capable of love.
@danielneutral86978 ай бұрын
Dave must be like “I’m too old for this” taking some of these calls. 😂😂😂
@rvog65842 ай бұрын
theres a reason the otha folks r on air many [most?] days now :-)
@n1k01k08 ай бұрын
Is he a good man? Does he have a good work ethic outside of work? Does he need to be reminded 10 times to take out the trash? Does he show up for his job on time and work hard? His 45 could be all you make at certain periods of life if you end up down on your luck. Are you defining too much who you are based on what you make?
@justwatching83578 ай бұрын
If it was the other way around it would be expected that he takes her debt.
@SusanGarza-li2bw8 ай бұрын
I understand the strangeness of deciding to give up/share the asset security blanket going into marriage, especially as a woman. I came in with a hard earned nest egg, and adding my husband to my back account and paying off his car loan was a significant step for me within marriage. BUT, i knew we were aligned on the important stuff. We've been able to pull a much larger cart together than separately!
@rbraxton008 ай бұрын
Okay, interesting. Just never let him stop pushing. Don’t let him be a stay at home dad, to take care of the children. He should definitely keep being motivated and growing. He’ll get to where he needs to be.
@amamadarkly8 ай бұрын
The problem isn't his salary, it's his management of it. She doesn't trust his judgement. She is afraid he will sabotage what she has built.
@SpoonHurler8 ай бұрын
That's not how she presented the question and yes, she could have struggled to express her thoughts but I struggle to accept that if she earns 200k. She lead with dollar figures because that was the major factor that bothered her.
@dylsvob62178 ай бұрын
No it’s both
@amamadarkly8 ай бұрын
@SpoonHurler I disagree that it is about the figures. I think is about emotions and security. If you believe that, then you must think she is engaging in something like a "my figure is bigger than your figure" contest to "win" against her man and feed her own ego. I think you are projecting a masculine thought process there. I doubt that is the case. Maybe I am also projecting, but I am a woman, so I think I am able to hear what she is saying. Money is emotional, representing security and freedom. Tying into different emotions for different people. Some amount of the success of this show is based on that same deeper realization, e.g. paying off debt by snowball and small emotional wins vs interest rates. I think her issue is, regardless of her high salary, she wants to be a woman to a man. She wants to be able to relax and trust his judgement.
@frawdulent8 ай бұрын
Women have standards that aren’t realistic. She’ll leave this guy to find her “prince”, but he will never show up. 40+ and still single.
@amamadarkly8 ай бұрын
@@frawdulent Yeah, if she doesn't want kids asap, she should probably just stay single and swim in her money vault like Scroogica Mcduck
@tokenblkguy008 ай бұрын
Caller. If you read this. Please leave him and let him find peace in a woman who respects him.
@alberttang69558 ай бұрын
He only earns 45k working in construction?? That's really on the low end for the building trades. He should be making a lot more if he's a skilled tradesman or a contractor. Or is he a handyman doing odd jobs here and there, and she calls it "construction" because it sounds better?
@GAFB11228 ай бұрын
Lol well with all due respect as a white collar worker, I condense all building trades including handy people and laborers as construction. If you touch grass then I'd refer to you as a landscaper. And so on.
@davidbrayshaw35298 ай бұрын
You get a lot of tax deductions as a construction worker.
@d3adp948 ай бұрын
I think this was great advice from these guys. I’m married and her age. I see where she is coming from but this convo should have been said months ago. I took on my wife’s debt. She gave me a family. I’d do it again. We are one.
@Loljjkb8 ай бұрын
Simp 😂
@d3adp948 ай бұрын
@@Loljjkb “He who finds a wife finds a good thing and obtains favor from the Lord” “Therefore a man shall leave his father and mother and hold fast to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh.” “Then the Lord God said, “It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him a helper fit for him.” Should I go on? I am a God fearing man. I don’t need a kid calling me a “simp” for loving my wife. My Lord knows what is best for me. I’ll pray for you child.
@blackworldtraveler37118 ай бұрын
@@d3adp94 Heck I’m in the Bible Belt and seen it all. Maybe better to say all of that when you’re married at least 50 years or at bedside before death. Too many I know who are just like you are divorced now. All of that wasted time listening to people telling me things like that through the years I can’t get back now.
@jusplay73098 ай бұрын
God bless your marriage. May you continue to prosper, grow closer together and closer to God as you live out the purpose HE has fore your life!
@handleyobusiness8 ай бұрын
@@d3adp94 I’m happy for you brother, but no way in hell would I be someone’s bail out plan.
@listerinr8 ай бұрын
This is what the feminist wanted. Congratulations....you played yourself.
@Twotonetonyy8 ай бұрын
Love this video my gf makes more than me thankful and hopefully she doesn't think like this woman. We are aligned with our goals and want to be debt free
@ayintovah31328 ай бұрын
She is not smart
@stud64144 ай бұрын
Dump her. She doesn't respect you.
@NWI_Steel8 ай бұрын
The way she said "yepppppp" when dave said "youll pay off his debts when you get married" shows she already holds resentment. This marriage will never work. She is always gonna hold resentment
@MrClassicmetal8 ай бұрын
If one of the partners has to pay off the debt of the other one, it's going to cause issues. This marriage is not going to work.
@djpuplex8 ай бұрын
Welcome to the life of a man. Oh well wanna be a boss babe that's how it goes. Women don't share their gold. She won't marry him. She'll find a guy who makes more money than divorce because he doesn't give her the tingles. These types of relationships don't work.
@rodrigok12208 ай бұрын
I kinda disagree. It sounds like at some point she’ll resent marrying him if they do start to have financial issues.
@OICU812-8 ай бұрын
No way this works. She is leading him and will have no respect for him.
@luck98378 ай бұрын
I bet if the role was reversed this call would never exist because the man wouldn’t complain, she stated no red flags about him besides income
@Mr.Boring_Man8 ай бұрын
She basically said, this is the best I can do. Other men my age that make what I make or more want NOTHING to do with me. This guy, her equivalent in the dating marketplace, blows her back out and treats her well BUT if divorce happens, she won't get a satisfactory heist. The Equality feels unfair to her. She should have him sign the prenuptial agreement she would never sign if he made more money.
@genxx27248 ай бұрын
Perhaps the men her age who earn what she earns or more are not nearly as attractive as her beau.
@egresk18 ай бұрын
This is the problem with marrying a 38 year old woman. It took her 38 years to find "the one" and she is having doubts over money even though he is on board and is taking her advice. Men are faced with decision every single day. Screw her and the high horse she rode in on. She will look down on him until the divorce. Initative will NEVER be enough for most women, especially this one. Run away man and find a younger woman that loves you for being you.
@SnifferSock8 ай бұрын
I just want an explanation how he's only making 45k at 35? Career change? Lazy? Temporary job? It doesn't add up.
@deusphyllis8 ай бұрын
True 100%
@HOLDXSTEEL8 ай бұрын
@@SnifferSockYoj sir are an asshole
@uncle_tones12228 ай бұрын
BEST RESPONSE EVER!! you’ve nailed it.
@CJ2023Incognito8 ай бұрын
@@SnifferSocksome people are just not high earners. Maybe he is a more nurturing family-man type. 🤷♀️ (Wouldn’t be my first pick, but to each their own!!)
@Dad-9798 ай бұрын
This hit close to home. Very touching episode for me. Thanks, Uncle Dave!
@rabidgoon8 ай бұрын
What she is really saying is that she’s not good enough looking to get a man that makes a salary equal to hers. Those men are not looking for a woman with her age or baggage. So either get over it, lady, or enjoy your cats.
@SnifferSock8 ай бұрын
Weird fantasy to project on someone you know very little about...
@USMC69768 ай бұрын
@@SnifferSock That's exactly what this show is doing.
@rabidgoon8 ай бұрын
@@SnifferSock she's not going to choose you, bro
@sabrinaliu668 ай бұрын
i chose dogs.
@Loljjkb8 ай бұрын
Yup😂
@shobull86958 ай бұрын
Shes values status over companionship.
@THX50008 ай бұрын
Like all women
@Earstolisten8 ай бұрын
What part of automotive makes that much??
@callmeishmaelk7678 ай бұрын
Ken...you guys always talk about the debt being mutual...when of course it's the woman with debt. Ken, please get some integrity. On the flip side Dave doesn't recognize she's marrying her ovary tingles...aka 6'6" construction worker. 😂
@saeedhossain60998 ай бұрын
her $200k annual income in the "automotive industry" is a really wide array of possibilities, could be an auto engineer, a manager at corporate GM, or she's in sales and had a good 2023 when cars were absurdly priced and it's very unlikely to happen again.
@A_w_2008 ай бұрын
Why does it matter?
@saeedhossain60998 ай бұрын
@@A_w_200 good question, it matters becuse if she's resentful of floating her partner when she's up, but that being up is subject to radical change, and he's then floating her, is she going to be ok with being the "lesser" partner. based on the pre advice info she provided, if she doesn't take on board the view that his attitude/character, not his relative bank balance, then she's setting the stage for problems down the road.
@Loljjkb8 ай бұрын
She’s not specifying what she exactly does for a living. That means she’s hiding something. If I was making $200K a year I would not lose an opportunity to tell the world what I do for a living. She’s probably getting paid alimony of child support from a previous marriage.
@willleslie27458 ай бұрын
If you are below your woman socio economically then your relationship is guaranteed 100% chance of failing
@cesaravegah37878 ай бұрын
If a man earns 4x what his SO nobody baths an eye, because this time the situation is reversed that as an issue, doesnt looks as equal and fair to me
@joann51578 ай бұрын
I understand what Dave advised, but doubt this relationship will work. First of all, with the large disparity in earnings, that tells me that there must also be a large educational difference. How well are you going to relate when you want to go to a concert or some other cultural event and he wants to have his buddies over to drink beer and play corn hole? Secondly, making that much more money than the other person makes one feel resentful AND entitled to make the financial decisions. I don't see this working out.
@Red_19768 ай бұрын
She is worried. Go with your gut feel. He’s a risk. Don’t go there YET. Let him show you he can clear his debt (& still date you!) This is a challenge he should rise to should he want to be with you & align values. Other thing to point out is asking him will he feel ‘emasculated’.. yu can’t stay home with children. He will have to.
@lorenzoherman81992 ай бұрын
She wants him to make more. That’s what she isn’t saying. She is uncomfortable being the primary breadwinner in a marriage. That’s why she said she doesn’t want to be sugar momma.
@laladesy73523 ай бұрын
She’ll be stuck carrying the kid and paying everything. Run
@MusicPhrase8 ай бұрын
She's the red flag, not him. Entitlement and ego issues: she worked 'hard' for her money and doesn't want to give it away. She literally stated nothing wrong about him or his attitude and yet is scared of being a sugar momma. That's translation for I don't want to share when I've made most of the money and done all the work.
@riceball7778 ай бұрын
women and men are not the same. Majority of men are ok providing and working and making most of the money for the family, and the Majority of women are not going to be ok long term if they were the ones working, providing and making the vast majority of the income for the family. This a a very big problem for high income women, because they want a spouse that makes at least the same amount if not more than them but these high income men have no issues dating and providing for younger attractive women than makes much much less income than they do, in fact many of these men prefer it this way. Many high income women get into these types of relationships in hopes of helping/motivating the man to increase his income to her level and when that does not happen the relationship will end. In the end its hard to fight biology. Women want men that are better then them in every way especially in finances and physical size/height.
@joanneburford63648 ай бұрын
BS!
@edwest88047 ай бұрын
Dude should run, this upity woman isnt right for him. If it was the man making more and the woman making the lower salary it wouldnt be an issue and she'd be spending his money so fast.
@jasminebaby33758 ай бұрын
🚩🚩🚩Women making more than their spouse, I don’t want to be a SUGAR MAMA. 🚩🚩🚩
@armandoweckmann56998 ай бұрын
I have no issues making more than my significant other. I am a man, though. 😊 when I get married, it's our money
@oneeyedman998 ай бұрын
I do think women should be open to relationships with men who earn less than they do, but 4x his earnings is a lot, and construction workers do not age well. Insisting that he work when she's making so much more money and he's likely coming home too tired and sore to even take a shower won't make a lot of economic sense, unless she wants to live in a pigsty and be the one who does most of any child care that is needed.
@DBS4728 ай бұрын
Welcome to being a man for all of human history
@carlosmiro49323 ай бұрын
I’m no feminist, but if I were she I wouldn’t marry a guy who makes so much less money than I do and has more debt than his yearly income.
@advancedchiropractic6678 ай бұрын
Funny How about most of history men have taken on their spouses debts. I guess about every man you meet is a Sugardaddie.
@Carolina4802 ай бұрын
He’s gonna pretend he loves her then divorce her get her money to enjoy with a younger woman Don’t do it Don’t even bring him to leave with yuo
@littlejimmothy28188 ай бұрын
The problem here is she makes $200,000 to his $45,000. I think that is her actual concern.
@noelrutherford63218 ай бұрын
Run away from a man who has no savings and 50k in debt by his late 40s. Not worth your time to try and change his lazy habits.
@currenteventsenthusiast94778 ай бұрын
Did you watch the video he is 35
@handleyobusiness8 ай бұрын
What’s wrong with that? She has 200k, so obviously she can afford it and still have 75% left over. 😏
@SnifferSock8 ай бұрын
Tell me you lack comprehension without telling me. _is off by 15 years_ That'll do it.
@alex1826188 ай бұрын
He works in a much more stable business than she does. If he opens his own home repair business, he is going to be a king.
@DoctorSmartyPants8 ай бұрын
He's probably not skilled in the trades, based on his pay.
@benruss41306 ай бұрын
Having been an engineer in the automotive sector, it depends. When one part is booming (say, new car sales), the repair and parts sector shrinks, and the inverse is true too. However, Engineering is rarely effected because automotive companies HAVE to continue innovating or the will succumb to their competition.
@ronmexico59088 ай бұрын
She sounds like she’s more into money and status than people
@jhonilocran60778 ай бұрын
She doesnt like that hes broke….like girl just leave him thats what u want
@lv43662 ай бұрын
Don't take on anyone else's debt. Marry afterward. Ugghh.
@enricopallazzo32448 ай бұрын
My man better pick up some Uber Eats orders until his gravy train is secured.
@hastycontemplation8 ай бұрын
One humbling thought to consider is if the 200k job is lost or there is a disability or other change. Look at yourself in a context of not having the job and see how you feel. Construction workers are often very strong and can fix anything, these are very valuable assests. But debt can be a problem, that is a different issue.
@genxx27248 ай бұрын
Either of them could become disabled. If she becomes disabled, they’ll be living on his income. If he becomes disabled, the strong ie masculinity he brings to the table won’t be there.
@swayzieandchinita8 ай бұрын
She can also get a prenup if and when he proposes. However, it sounds like she has a good man who is aligned with her and making changes. A committed man with gainful employment, who is aligned with your values; that is what is very important.
@amylukenash40488 ай бұрын
She makes 200k in the auto industry. They are doing terrible right now. Sadly those high paying positions will be the first to lay off. She shouldn’t be bragging about that high salary. It’s going to be obsolete soon. What she should do is stick most of that money in the bank and live like you make only 45k a year. . I’m glad so glad I’m a saver. She also seems like she loves making more than him. What happens when her salary is gone and she can’t get that kind of money again. Karma is real and it puts you in your place quickly