I feel alone & worthless and I believe that success won´t change that...

Today I reflected a bit and simply grabbed my phone to share these thoughts ...
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[@jakewittenburg1733]

Wasted my whole life trying to get approval from people. Maybe it’s just time to be alone right now is all.

[@mohamedaboujokh370]

If you made too good with others ,the world would do good to you , i hope that .

[@zibtihaj3213]

give us more details, what exactly do you mean, approval from others ?

[@brianmeen2158]

@@mohamedaboujokh370karma isn’t real though although I wish it was

[@mohamedaboujokh370]

@@brianmeen2158 it is dear, it only has ways we don't know off and rules , the rules by which karma works are unknown , for this reason we see some rich people getting richer and happier at the expense of others ,and a lot of poor people with good hearts suffering , the key is patience so we learn ,i advise you to watch a program called 1000 ways to die , developed by spike , indeed karma is seen on this program

[@dwayne2636]

❤️ Absolutely

[@girlnextdoor7012]

Oh my goodness, I'm not sure why this video got recommended to me but I decided to watch it and it's simply heartbreaking. I can't believe how many people feel this way it's like an epidemic, it breaks my heart so much because I had a son and he died during the Covid and I sometimes think he felt this way😢 I just wanna tell you you are worth more than you'll ever know and you are loved more than I could ever say, mental health is so important, and learning to love yourself because you're very special young man❤ Please do whatever it takes to get your head right and know how special you are. ❤❤

[@dennisbettinger]

I´m sorry to hear that about your son ... I appreciate you comment and your words.

[@girlnextdoor7012]

@@dennisbettinger thank you for recognizing death of my son much appreciated

[@YungPhilosopher]

Cope.

[@michaelbrwgntn]

I'm so sorry 😞, God bless u

[@jare2067]

i’m so sorry for your loss, that’s really sad

[@Game_Masters]

Put on a mask if you want approval from the world. If you are tired of this world, that means you're not stupid.

[@EsiriE]

This video was recommended to me, not too sure why but Jesus loves you. He died on the cross to save YOU! You’re definitely WORTH EVERYTHING and more. You’re loved and you’re valuable. Keep pushing ❤

[@Theforeveraloneguy]

He died because Roman soldiers put him on the cross. He didn't put himself on it.

[@Isiah59]

You’re right Troubled Knight. Success is meaningless without purpose behind it.

[@XOChristianaNicole]

Thank you for sharing. I’ve been sitting in a cold car, for the last four hours, just zoning out and processing similar feelings. I am glad this came across my recommended; it’s nice to see someone who’s capable of being so vulnerable. Thank you.

[@dennisbettinger]

Im happy that my video is helpful:) Many people seem to relate to this. We sometimes feel lonly and think that we are the only ones and nobody understands us, but it seems like more people than we think experience something like this.

[@chan2725]

@@dennisbettinger Knowing I'm not alone really helps me. Thank you for sharing this video..

[@tkw79]

My husband is going through a sad time…hang in there. Life is hard…struggling and barely getting by makes it even harder. Thanks for sharing.

[@TechnicalParadox]

There is nothing inherently wrong with having more money. If you feel sad with it you would feel sad without it. Find things that make you feel good and utilize money as a tool to fulfill them. We are all worth only the impact we leave on the world. You are worth as much as you want to be. You're talking about this fighting and anger with your family, so many face this. You're talking about it, you're helping people, improving lives. You are worth the communication you are giving out and hopefully receiving from others in return

[@minignlat]

The special hides in person itself, the more real, and different you are the more special you are. Never lie, never fake, never build on fake, one day you will lose everything that is fake, and it's going to be rough. Meaning in life is in what you do for other people, if you did something for others, that would change or even save someone elses life, you will realise, that in that your life had a meaning.

[@jadesea562]

Ah. I know what you mean. The problem with the vision is that you visualized the "result." The end result of anything will never be enough. The journey to the result is all that really matters. This is why you should establish goals that are relevant to things you enjoy doing, and then as you near the result set more goals to grow more. There is no destination that is a happy ending, climbing to goals is where purpose is derived. It doesn't matter if people accept you, and it doesn't matter if people approve of you, and you should never waste your time comparing yourself to anything or anyone.

[@jadesea562]

And you are welcome, for listening to you.

[@dennisbettinger]

Yes, I agree sometimes we chase some ideal that we thing we want, but the real benefit is the journey itself and the person that we become on that journey. And sometimes we forget this again and chase the external success again :D

[@jadesea562]

@@dennisbettinger fully agreed. And then we find people like us to help remind us to see beyond what we are currently seeing. I am on the same page with you, I ebb and flow through it too. It is special to see you connecting with your existence, thanks for sharing.

[@JonEleyetGuitar]

Some things that come to mind after listening to this video... (Keep in mind I have very little context about you. This is the first video of your's that I've watched, but I'd like to share this.) 1. Hang out with friends that you can be goofy around and have fun with. You don't need to talk about work-stuff with them. It's amazing how much your head will clear when you're having good times just hanging out. This is the training ground where you can learn to let your guard down and act more authentically around people. Make time to hang out with friends once a week or so. 2. Get connected to your purpose. Everyone has their own giftings given to them to serve other people. If you're not totally convinced that you have something to offer someone that would truly change their life for the better, keep searching within you to discover what that thing is. It's there, but it may be something different than you initially thought. Then, go all-in with using your gifting to serve others. That's where you'll find deep satisfaction. The satisfaction won't come from the end result of 'success' or money. Satisfaction comes from the process of serving people in a way that changes their life for the better. 3. Get connected with people that are pursuing similar business things that you are. This is where you develop and refine your purpose. If you can meet in-person a couple times a month, great. Otherwise, Discord servers, Facebook groups, group texts, Zoom calls all work great for sharing tips/advice/asking questions that will improve your business. Thanks for sharing your video. Sounds like you're experiencing a spiritual valley. You desire an authentic life, but you feel that the 'true you' is hidden by layers of inauthenticity. Honestly, I'd say enjoy the valley while you're in it. Let yourself feel the emotions. Don't push them away. Your soul is alerting you to the incongruency. This is where transformation can happen. Journal a lot during this time and give yourself small goals to work on each week that will help you to be more authentic with the people around you. Stick with it- big things are gonna come from you!

[@dennisbettinger]

Thank you for spening so much time and thoughts into writing me a helpful comment:)

[@judgeholder8112]

Well said. I agree with you G. 🤗🤗🤗🫂🫂🫂. Hobbies and daily routines will definitely keep anyone busy from time to time.

[@goawayimbating8405]

If you hadn't typed it, I would have. Time to be yourself. 🙏🏿

[@lachthavvirak]

I'm just a highschool kid but from my experience I'm the only brother in my family without a father so when i often feel lonely I used to hide these emotions by going to social media, playing games, watching KZbins and porn. I know that this is making me even worse so I had to do something with it. I would go on KZbin to find a way to help myself out with some techniques or ways to make me a better person but it's only effective up to 2 to 3 days for me and as I do more I started to lose respect of myself more and more. And as the day progress I gave up and started getting to my old habits again but one day I ask my friend how to deal with it She said no phone no laptop, nothing that could make u distracted or anything just stay outside for a while enjoy the environment even if your brain are telling to do something urgent just remain calm and after half a day it work out really good for me I realized that everything around me has meaning and it showed me that I'm wasting my time on something that would not help me in a long run so I started to enjoy the life outside more than before. It just make me feel really good about myself more and more Instead of a life inside social media platforms that would increase your dopamine like an addicted rat I stopped using social media like I used to and now at least I'm feeling better than what I used to be

[@dennisbettinger]

Hey, thanks for sharing this. I do not know how much you are interested in that topic, but the book Letting Go by David Hawkins might be interesting for you and help you. Once we experience a negative emotion we often try to run away from it and repress it (Social Media, Drugs, Pron, etc.). Hawkins said that the problem is that these emotions are not gone but still in your body. So what he recommends is to experience and fully accept the emotion which will automatically lead to you feeling better. I am pretty sure this is why you made such a positive experience being in nature.

[@CoverBoy_Official]

Positive vibes with this dialogue

[@hoho6708]

Semen retention will help you

[@Alpacabowl98]

that stuff sounds normal, "social media, playing games, watching KZbins and porn", lol.

[@xRavioge]

@@hoho6708 it’s a myth

[@WyattEmge]

If you don't have kids that'll change your perspective. When I was younger didn't know why I was building my business until after I had my son, now all my decisions make sense.

[@claw320]

Here's a piece of advice: stop focusing on yourself. When you talk about "feeling worthless", that primarily comes from self-focus and being preoccupied with yourself. When you focus on yourself that's going to create a problem no matter if you think good or bad things about yourself. If you think GOOD things, that could lead to arrogance or narcissism. If you think BAD things, that could lead to being depressed and negative. What I suggest instead is to only focus on things BESIDES yourself. For example if you're doing something focus on what you're doing. If you're talking or interacting with someone put all your focus on THEM. If you stop thinking about yourself so much then you won't get all these negative emotions.

[@chan2725]

But it's not easy to stop being self conscious... I can't keep myself busy all the time... when I get nothing to focus on, i get into depressing thoughts again..

[@claw320]

@@chan2725 Life is full of interesting things, infinite things really. Get more hobbies and interests!

[@inosokope8543]

@@claw320 dude that is EXACTLY what im always telling my buddies… I have never seen someone who is really invested into something who is depressed, thinking about yourself only just drives you farther down the vicious circle

[@scary5455]

@@chan2725 I did it

[@thehills1042]

The advice of not comparing yourself to anyone is interesting because comparing yourself to people who have the same comparisons as you somehow make you feel better about yourself

[@RAHHHWRRR]

you have immense worth, try affirmations, replace any negative thought about yourself with 3 good ones. and what would make you happy? think about it and go for it. we're gonna make it bros. God bless you.

[@ania3064]

I feel very similar in my situation and I'm glad I'm not the only one who feels this way, sorry if that sounded bad. Please, don't give up, don't pretend to be someone else because it will destroy you from the inside. I wish you to meet wonderful people in your life, who will accept you as you are. Take care.

[@broadwaykiry]

Don't give up on your goals, do what YOU want to do and the people who fuck with you and what your doing will come, you dont need to change yourself. It's a hard journey, i'm still fighting myself, but you'll have way more peace of mind knowing that your doing what you want, regardless of who joins you.

[@dennisbettinger]

Thanks for the supportive words:) I wish you the best for your journey!

[@broadwaykiry]

@@dennisbettinger you as well my friend !

[@BladeObssession]

All the money in the world won't make you happy without love, family, and good friends. Also my belief in God gets me through a lot of days when I feel unneeded and unloved.

[@dennisbettinger]

Hey thanks for your comment. Yeah I grew up with always hearing my parents talk about how we struggle with money, which is (at least in my unprofessional opinion) why I developed this craving for making money. Since a young age I told myself that I will make a lot of money, so I wont feel this "pain" of struggling with money anymore. But lately when I watch my emotions I have to agree with you. I neglegted relationships / girls in order to have better focus on making money. I think it had its upsides but it also comes with a price.

[@menschgebliebenergossenpar9213]

I told everyone, that money, status and the approval of this cold, uncaring society wont make anyone happy or fulfilled. And people are STILL wallowing in the dirt, working themselves to exhaustion, yearning to be loved by this cruel, old hag called 'society'. I stopped since 2019. And now feel a LOT happier than before when I was 'living for something and with purpose.'

[@HappyQuailsLC]

I can tell you that it helps to help others. When we want to help others we can explain advice that is separated from our own old issues. When we separate them out it really helps us see the works more objectively. I also encourage you to cultivate humor within yourself. It helps when we can chuckle at the absurd or the ridiculous rather than see it in self condemning terms. I hope this helps : ) and I think your path of reflection and searching is a good one and it will also help

[@chikotembo]

Excellent advice. I practice this.

[@sally.g.]

Really good advice!

[@TimRobertsen]

Somehow I was randomly recommended this video, watched it to the end. Todays social media needs more of these down-to-earth, real, insights into how folks feel. I see a lot of folks have commented, a lot of love in the comment-section, I'm glad to see that :)

[@utubewatcher806]

Older and wiser, now, but I recall this phase of my life from mid-20 to early 30s. This video is like my younger self reaching across time. The angst of young adulthood.

[@wolfh9831]

I’ve been struggling with similar feelings. So many people are suffering mentally and emotionally. Even when I’m trying to love myself, I still want to feel loved from someone else. Christianity has helped somewhat. Not an immediate turn, but the thought that God loves me, helps. It’s something to hold on to. Hopefully people can come out of this trial sane.

[@camillemorse5039]

Hi, youtube brought me to your video! It's very authentic and I love that! keep going!

[@dennisbettinger]

Thank you Camille. That was the goal of my channel to share everything, ups and downs, as authentically as possible. Glad to hear that you like it :)

[@carltwidle9046]

I had a large amount of money once. But it was all easily spent. It goes. People do wear masks, I think we all have at sometime. Now that im in my sixties i feel so much better in myself than i did when i was younger. I can see what's important, and what's not. It's so clear now. Things change, and you will.

[@copingforever6093]

es ist schön zu sehen das leute die so erfolgreich und gut aussehen wie du auch probleme haben... macht dich menschlicher, sympathischer und schraubt meinen neid zurück.... aber die unangenehme tatsache ist nun mal das wir alle im wettbewerb gegeneinander sind und wir immer mehr wollen

[@dennisbettinger]

Danke für das Kompliment, nur Stand aktuell bin ich noch nicht soo erfolgreich ... ich arbeite aber dran:D

[@martinjackman2943]

This video is an achievement. No other I have seen is at once so personal and yet so universa SO MANY young men- bombarded as they are by 'you have to be like THIS! advertising pop promos while at the same time vilified for 'toxic masculinity and other immutable characteristics. Feel as you do but suffer in silence. You speak for them THANKS

[@drellz9361]

Nice to meet you brotha don’t give up you are more important than you think

[@RighteousCenturion]

My brother, the wisest man to ever exist king Solomon said that all the riches, power and glory is all vanity and meaningless. I hope you read this message and receive it, I'm here to tell you my brother that the only way to achieve true happiness is through Jesus Christ. You are worth more than precious stones because you are a child of the Most High God and he accepts you for who you are! Please buy a KJV Bible and start reading with Matthew, Mark, Luke and John. I promise if you do this, you WILL feel happiness and Joy, I know this because I did it and The lord came through for me! If you need it contact me and I will buy one for you or even send you the money to get one. And If you need a friend I'm here for you bro. God Bless you my brother, and Jesus Christ loves you.

[@dennisbettinger]

Thank you for your words. I dont need your money, but still I extremly appreciate your offer :)

[@PXRTYPXN444]

I can relate to you so much!! I’m joining the Air Force to escape it all and maybe be useful. Even if it’s as a shield

[@thedeependpsycho]

This relates on so many levels.

[@tavogs1]

you are going to be fine btoher, me too, trust the process. LOV

[@Daniel-tq2re]

I feel like that most of the time. There's really nothing you can do about it. Acting a sort of way to satisfy pple will only take you so far. Every Friend group I've had I've always asked myself "If any of them were asked to call their Friends would they call me ??", sometimes It's really not them being mean but just me not being so involved. Its better you act one way and know that's why something happened than act like a mix of two different pple and be confused on what's making everyone act weird around you. Like them making a Group Chat without me and only added me when I asked about it and what hurts is that few weeks later the group got dead, and I feel like its cuz I got added. Worst for me is that feeling that am gonna grow old and have no Wife or just be lonely cuz guy friends can only go so far especially if they have gf or female friends they spend a lot of time with. Sorry 4 da long a** storyy

[@dennisbettinger]

Thanks for sharing. I totally feel you and I wish you only the best for your journey. Our future lies in our hands. And I am strongly convinced that it might not be easy, but it is possible.

[@guitarman0365]

Robin Williams had every reason to enjoy life. Great career tons of fans made everyone in the room smile kids that love him and it still didn't take away the void he felt. Sometimes people are just empty. Now obviously not worrying about shelter or where your meal is coming next is the one thing money and success can greatly impact your feelings. But there comes a point where your soul is just missing something.

[@BrokenAndStable]

I didn't have a horrible childhood, just simple bullying and parents not there for me emotionally. But I believe I also, am not worthy of anything. I'm afraid that even if i put in the effort fully; to lose weight and get in shape, to go back to school and find a career. It would all be pointless and i'll still feel the way I do about myself.

[@tuncsuzen]

Brother I get your point but I have some things to share. You are lucky because you are looking really good a handsome young lad. We the ugly ones are facing discrimination more than you can imagine. So do not give up and try to pull yourself together try to improve yourself everyday.

[@caddarikace6607]

Stay strong bro. Summer is short but winter shall pass, life is full of love. There's just painful growth involved along the way, learn to see the positive sides of the down moments which allow you to know yourself more. Your inner peace is what's important and it's priceless, always put it before any goal you're aiming for. Everything happens for your greater good, keep it up and God bless you. Much love

[@PossibleBat]

Open yourself up to others by engaging in stuff you like. Try to learn how to dance by joining classes, or play volleyball on the beach, reach out to old friends to genuinely ask them about their life. The sad truth is that most people never approach, but if you approach most people will be open to engage with you, hope things go better for you ❤

[@JoeHinojosa-bd9hu]

I spent 64 years searching for perfect love. Then it hit me. Dont expect love, just become the love you believe in. Cool.

[@coolcat5798]

I get the pain I do but society doesn't care about men in pain we have 2 push forward there's no other option stand strong kings

[@dennisbettinger]

Sometimes it really feels like this is the case. When you feel low, nobody could care less. But I also think that life is fair in the long run and if we work out asses of in out twenties life can become pretty amazing.

[@coolcat5798]

@@dennisbettinger agreed good man your not alone I suffer but in silence because society sees us as disposable we gotta stick together and stand strong. Salute from across the pond

[@casper_b2bmarketer]

Takes some fucking balls to do what you just did, respect bro keep you head up

[@dennisbettinger]

Thanks:)

[@jovokostic7544]

Honestly man, you should fix your mental health first then chase success later. I don't know your situation but fixing your mental health will make your success journey easier. Also the reality of life as man is that you only get approval from people when you do something . The more you embrace it it becomes easier to live your life. Keep your head up and move forward. Wish you luck

[@dennisbettinger]

I definitely will :D

[@thebatman1889]

How can I cure my mental condition please reply

[@jovokostic7544]

@@thebatman1889 Honestly this is a very broad question, and when you ask broad questions you can only get a broad answer. Broad answer is to work on yourself. There is probably something that you don't like about yourself right now, and that is OK as long as you do something about it. That is all i can say. By working on yourself you will respect yourself more which will lead to better mental health overall.

[@oscarramirezdelavega1035]

you just have to see yourself like the most perfect thing of the creation, even if there are some failures, they are perfect failures. You are perfect as a world.

[@alexteimoori]

Man... Success wont change that - true; but that doesn't mean "nothing will change that"... Don't over think - don't suffocate yourself with negativity - move forward, and let life happen. It will get clearer as you go

[@dwayne2636]

Your not living for people and what they think doesn't matter. Be yourself and don't worry about being alone. Solitude teaches you alot. Healing isn't easy but there is hope my friend. Also you are very handsome sir. I love your German accent. Don't give up. Don't isolate yourself. Spend time in nature, socialize, let someone find you and the right person. Don't look for it. Choose friends wisely. Live your life for you and do what makes you happy. You can be happy. Do not worry about approval and don't strive to be liked. You are likeable and a beautiful soul struggling in this hell we live in. You can make it what you want it to be

[@annahanson9733]

Thank you for sharing your thoughts with us. People who have the courage to be authentic and express what their honest feelings are highly undervalued in society. You're helping people and making a positive difference in their lives.

[@feukka2148]

this is rough advice but it might be useful to resign yourself to the fact that you ARE worthless, it's not a you problem, we all are worthless in the end. we live and we die. the alone problem can be easily fixed though. you're a handsome, amicable person and being cool and having money often doesn't matter, people will like you because you are honest and speak your mind. i think you're just stressing yourself out a whole lot. 🙂just breathe and hang in there we're all in this life together and we need to learn to help each other out.

[@oscarramirezdelavega1035]

I just can not imaging me having low moments like this allowing me to tell myself this type of things. I made exactly the contrary today morning, I was like: OSCAR YOUR ARE, YOUR ARE AWESOME; YOU ARE HEALTH; YOU ARE ENOUGH; YOU ARE THE BEST; YOU ARE GOLD; YOU ARE WORTHY. And i practically have conversations with myself everyday and I think these things or like, if he can do it, then I can do it for sure, and even though I could do it better... And oscar don´t forget ,,to fail today, dosn´t mean to fail in the future one time and another" you´ll success.

[@jenjen2868]

I can relate. I feel the same way. Especially looking back, realizing I wasted all my life. You're still young. You can still change your life. Don't wait till it's too late.

[@immyslmao553]

You know it's really surprising when hearing about loneliness from someone you least expect it. You're an attractive guy and people would assume you are privileged in the way people treat you and want you around them, but no one know the truth. I don't think it's just about being confident in yourself, trauma is a damn big setback. Hope you make it through man and realise your worth.

[@Endymion766]

We live in a meritocracy where one is defined by what one does, especially if you are male. So by not doing you are essentially allowing your personhood to disintegrate in the eyes of most others. It's just the way it is and has been for a thousand years. But as long as you are not imposing on others, it's completely ok to drop off the societal map if that's what you need. A quiet life of free time and recreation is a very good life to have. Nothing has to happen.

[@JoshHitti]

This might not be the answer you’re looking for, but I want to confirm that success will not fix your feelings of loneliness. I’m successful by every financial measure, but I’ve given up many potential connections along the way in lieu of that. It takes a lot of effort to make and maintain friendships to help ease loneliness. Best of luck, dude

[@dennisbettinger]

Thank you.

[@saintchris5387]

Keep your head up l,stick your chest out and handle it,it's a cold man's world keep holding it down brother

[@diocletian607]

my friend if you do not suffer from an illness like ALS or muscular dystrophy then you good sir are WINNING and should cherish every moment that you can go through life without a disaster/nightmare of a progressive and fatal neurological or muscular condition tearing your very being down to nothing. You can be happy and enjoy your life on that basis alone that such a possibility was averted in your lifetime.

[@DylanDallion]

❤❤❤ Dennis you are absolutely not worthless and you don't have to be alone. I would love 😍 to be your friend? No one is worthless! I notice an accent in your voice, so we probably are not in the same country. I'm in the United States. But we could still be friends, if you want to. I have absolutely no one. No friends or no family and to add insult to injury my fur baby ginger passed at the end of June. And buddy money is not going to make you happy. Sent to you from me with the utmost respect. 😊😊😊

[@paulcooper5748]

I can relate brother to what you are feeling with the loneliness and emptiness.

[@judgeholder8112]

What can I do to help you feel better G?

[@paulcooper5748]

@@judgeholder8112 I think communication helps.

[@judgeholder8112]

@@paulcooper5748 All right. Connect with some friends or with your family members. Volunteer in clubs. Join the gym. Join the book club. Go to a bar or nightclub and meet new people there. 🤗🤗🤗🫂🫂🫂. I don’t know if you have a job or not. I hope you have good communication social skills. That’ll be a incredible gift. Keep doing you and your hobbies. I don’t know if you’re seeing or dating anyone. If you find someone, that emptiness and loneliness will go away and I guarantee you that. Have a good 1 G. I hope my advice helps you.

[@CoverBoy_Official]

think positive...ignore the negative thoughts. your podcast/youtube page is a start in regards to expressing yourself etc. keep up the good work.

[@reackizback]

So you realized that it's not your outer reality that defines your level of happiness, and if its not it must be our inner state. Its a deep realization, maybe you could try looking up ways to find hapiness from within.

[@PM-yc1rf]

It can happen when you have things/feelings that you've never dealt with from an early age. It is hard to say it this way but no one will accept you if you don't accept yourself first. Seeking othetlr people approval is like trying to fill a bucket without bottom. Do the shadow work that help greatly. You feel so unhappy and alone because you didn't meet your true self that will guide you in what YOU really want and need and not what society is dictating you to be. It is hard because a lot of us grew up fot some reasons learning to hid the true self because something or some made us feel like it will cause us trouble or rejection. When you get to know who you are and what you want, everything fall into place so much easier 😌 and you find real satisfaction in life despite hardships.

[@dennisbettinger]

Hi, I am 100% with you! I am in the process of doing that, but there is still a long way to go.

[@davidlam6702]

Hi brother, i can relate with that, I encourage you to find meaning getting to know Jesus Chist, read the New Testament, it can fill your life with purpose

[@tpow2651]

I know the exact feeling. I’m in the same boat. Idk the answer. I think brotherhood might be the answer because I think we’d value and appreciate each other because we understand each other

[@jasonburden7999]

I instantly had to watch your video when I saw it suggested to me. I don't know you yet Dennis but I accept you for who you are, you sound like a really cool and introspective guy. You're not alone in feeling this desparate need to prove yourself financially. As guys we feel valued when we have responsibility and status e.g. a father, CEO of your own company. This is why we can endure hard times for a greater purpose but feel depressed when it feels like we're not devoting ourselves to something meaningful. Have you got hobbies where you can forget all about this pressure?

[@HoboHiney]

It Really doesn't matter what you " feel" or what you "believe " Your a Man, Think with Logic!

[@stephenmarcus9601]

I can relate as I don't feel that my pain will ever end. I've wasted my entire life trying to be "good enough". I have those same feelings of low self worth. Compounding this I'm indecisive which makes matters harder. I've hit a point where self isolation is best because I don't need the front.

[@nicholaswills1574]

jesus gave me fulfillment living waters that never run out i also feel that way nothing in this world will fulfill its all temporary but faith in my savior through grace im saved and i am not alone i share this body with the holy spirit and you are important dont trust your feelings they can decieve you trust god i will pray for you and be yourself i understand how you feel share with god gods waiting for you and god loves you

[@crivera7c5]

I wasted my whole life running after things in my life that had no meaning . I had the fame , money , materialism but after a while all of it was meaningless . I put my whole heart into things & people that was using me, until I met someone who would never let me down. I met JESUS! The Risen King who conquered the grave & saved me from death & sin. He gave me a purpose & a meaning to my life that I want to share with everyone reading. We are all broken because we are running away from the God who created us , we chose to live our life without him & made the choice not to believe. You find your true identity when you believe the truth about Jesus and what he did on the cross for you🙏🏼 God bless you all ! Open up the Holy Bible & May the Holy Spirit show you the Truth 🙌🏼

[@bennie_1]

Jesus is the answer bro. A relationship with Him gives you everything you need. He gives you purpose, His love gives you worth, and a relationship with Him will literally change your life

[@pumbaapig]

This helps a lot of people tbh. I'm glad you made a video to help so many people dealing with the same issues.

[@louisaklimentos7583]

You are very courageous discussing your deep feelings on social media . You are a good person and deserves all the happiness in the whole wide world . I will pray for you 🙏😇

[@dennisbettinger]

Thank you for your words Louisa :)

[@93adblue]

Watching you say all of this made me want to give you a big hug. I feel the same way, it feels unbearable sometimes, I wish you find your tribe

[@jimbaker5110]

You are worth something…you are special. What you witnessed and went through when you were younger was horrible but also it WAS NOT YOUR FAULT. Understand that you are and even back then were better than this and deserved a better childhood experience. You currently ARE BETTER and back then WERE BETTER than how you were treated. Always remember this. Separate yourself from toxicity and rememeber…that was temporary and you went through it so you can be stronger, wiser and kinder today.

[@Gilgal_hmar]

❤️ we got this Brahsssss

[@vpguitarcovers4088]

you dont know how much i can feel you..

[@larryyeboah6689]

Human being are meant to be in a relationship. Now that doesn't mean that the relationship is always going to be bad and toxic. And doesn't mean that the relationship is going to be good and pleasant. You have to have at least one person, usually a long lasting friend that you can reach out and have conversations and feedback.

[@larryyeboah6689]

Plus you need to try to move your mind out of seeking approval. That's not your path. If you're seeking acceptance and approval outside yourself, the human being will always fail. What helps me is reading philosophy on life and how things started.

[@PariahKamikaze]

This is a wonderful video. I have so much to say on the topic, but I'm feeling a bit too lazy to collect my thoughts to type out an elaborate response to the many things you've said. You're definitely not alone in how you feel though. There are many people who feel the way that you feel. creating a KZbin channel is actually a good idea because it can potentially connect you with SOOOO many people around the world. before social media, people who felt isolated and alone in whatever city or town they are from pretty much had to suffer in silence of get publicly berated on an incessant basis. now more than ever, we have opportunities to broaden our horizons and venture away from the places we in our hearts know that we don't belong. I hope you obtain whatever it is your soul desires.

[@dennisbettinger]

Thank you:) I totally agree, this is my first video that actually reaches some people and its crazy how so many people from several countries can relate to how I felt / feeling from time to time.

[@lomparti]

Hey man I have very similar childhood like you and suffer from similar problems that you have right now. One thing I can suggest is get a motorcycle and join a motorcycle community in your area on facebook etc. You will start to feel alive and make good friends.

[@au10666]

You can't play the victim card, everyone has gone through shit... you need to find a way to keep moving forward, no matter what.

[@blahblahopper]

Thanks for sharing bro that helped me. stay strong brother

[@captainmeowzers]

dude this is all in your head you seem like an interesting person thats easy to be around.

[@Tmhen]

Thats because a majority of guys are in up to their eyeballs in their jobs, gf/wives, family church, debt. in the matrix of life. Consider yourself lucky and ahead of all these simps. Too bad no time to themselves or their brothers in life. That's our culture now, total isolation and making YOU feel like there's something wrong with YOU. Really sad & pathetic way to live as a male in today's world. Stay strong brother!

[@johnellis7445]

London Calling .Hey beautiful, please always remember that you are a valuable human being & do not seek to please other people, just be yourself friends and partners come & go in this life. I wish you enormous luck and every possible happiness.❤

[@dennisbettinger]

Hi John, thank you for your words and your wishes!

[@Meneek]

Sehr starke Worte! Bleib Stark und lass die negativen Gedanken nicht überhand nehmen Ich bin der Meinung, dass jeder Mensch mit sich selbst ausmachen muss wohin er möchte unabhängig was andere wollen oder über dich denken. Mach das was dich erfüllt, ganz egal was es ist... Vor allem, wenn man einen anderen Weg einschlägt zb. wenn man sich Selbstständig macht, dann ist der Weg steinig, einsam und hart.. Aber ich bin mir ganz sicher man schafft alles was man sich in den Kopf setzt. Geld macht nicht glücklich aber der Weg zu deinem persönlichen Erfolg macht glücklich.

[@jonathanmanning345]

I feel exactly the same way it's hard trying to please people just for them to turn their back on you I guess being alone makes you stronger ✌️❤️

[@ranakchauhan]

Humans are conditioned through culture and tradition in this loop. Go through it SEE IT and LIVE IT . The comment section is the proof people are the same as all love u .

[@jimbaker5110]

Also remember…the world is a big place and full of possibilities. First off…..take care of yourself. Find out what it is that makes you smile, makes you genuinely happy….and keep doing that. Eventually you will meet someone people who will share those same hobbies or natural pleasures that you have found. Don’t force it though. Just focus on yourself and doing what makes you smile or happy or content. The rest will eventually happen naturally.

[@marilynhoward4561]

God loves you more than you could imagine. Seek God along with your goals.

[@warpaintdubz]

We make our own happiness choose to wake up everyday

[@del1111]

I think every person should learn about narcissistic abuse. I believe after we have come to this knowledge we will be extremely careful about what other people think of us. We will also notice that regardless of our situation we are definitely the head and not the tail. Also please read the word of God. It is food to the spirit man within us.

[@pianoguy1118]

The problem with society now is we have all the technology and shi but nobody cares about each other anymore

[@abdkyrios]

Hello Brother. I am just like you and I share all those insecurities. Without mincing words, the only answer I found to be truthful and accurate and constant is The Christ and his teachings. I did not grow up religious, nor have I been that way inclined until very recently as a result of the search you find yourself on too. Best of luck brother, I hope you find your way to the truth.

[@trishato9438]

You gotta push for success thank me later ima prey for you bro I prey positive energy an love over everything an everyone reading this!!! I hope this help you guys💯💯❤️❤️❤️

[@viktoriyarts]

I know for sure, speaking as an adult, that I would parent myself very differently from how my own parents did. Their parenting was motivated by approval, my own parenting would have been based on failure, because knowing where I would fail, I wouldn't have wasted so much time trying to be something I'm not, not to mention so someone else can be happy. So goals to me are BS, we all play certain roles in this life, and it's so easy to take bad roles for us, bad jobs, relationships, influences, so important to be reasonable about that. Being wise or sensible about things, has brought me closer than any passion, I can have, to understand myself better, and I can guarantee, that no one else can do this for you, even people who say that they love you.

[@jilldezsenyi7361]

Mist loners and misfits are chosen by God...as hard as it feels ...your blessed ...talk to your spirit father and these thoughts will be mire under control...he will fill your cup...gb Jesus is the way the truth the light

[@ZaviahIV]

Material success won't change anything because you have an inherent understanding that material possessions, social status, money and basically any worldly attributes are ultimately meaningless. This is an indisputable fact. You can't take any of that pointless crap with you and it has zero meaning beyond the flesh and this fallen world. I felt the exact same way that you are feeling right before I found Jesus Christ. As soon as you find Him and realise He was there all along and wants you to be reconciled to Him your life feels renewed and you feel like you've finally 'got it.' The emptiness you feel is the lack of a relationship you have with Him. Please be open-minded and trust in what I'm saying. I can't force you to pursue Him or make you want to but you can certainly be open-minded and find out for yourself and allow Him to pull you out of this rut. God bless.

[@romainvicta3076]

Love you dennis ; from England. - I feel alone too. You are not alone feeling alone ; there is a funny irony in that

[@dennisbettinger]

Greetings from germany:)

[@seantuaima]

Hi Dennis I'm in a similar situation I live in a city that doesn't have many like minded people like me.

[@emreyasa7450]

I deeply appreciate the effort you put the express your true self. I can understand some of your thoughts since I have some similar ones. While it is not easy think about that for me, you are sharing via internet. Such a bravery. Have a good journey

[@2501vai]

We're social animals. We're happy when we're together, not when we're superficially wealthy. But it needs to be with the right people. Stop creating broken homes with half assed decisions to have a kid with someone you're going to fight with 24/7 or divorce in a year just because you get frustrated with them sometimes. Be completely sure and stay committed. It's that simple. Stop making excuses

[@GorgonDrageil]

I'm in a very similar place, bro. My justification for continuing is... I'd rather have options, have experiences, have possibility and just see what's on the other side. It doesn't matter either way, right? By the way... you don't need the wrong people liking you, they're of no value. They're not relevant to your truth and your authentic path. You're not wrong for your goals, people just don't want the same things. You still have value, whether they see it or not.