I "FIRED" My Bridesmaid And Now I Feel Awful About It r/Relationships

[@RokoFireFox]

"She blocked me" bruh.. I would have blocked her the moment she started spamming me.

[@ShatoraDragondore]

Story 2: What scares me about this is BF had that bread on him he was touching it and "helping" OP in the kitchen. And given the update and how he was spiking sisters Food with meat product. I fear he might have been deliberately dusting things with bread crumbs when he made his death sandwich.

[@pansprayers]

Yeah, even if he wasn't, particulate gets EVERYWHERE. It's on their clothes, in the food, and in the air. In a closed environment, that can absolutely escalate celiac and allergies. Celiac can literally lead to intestinal cancer, and dedicated vegans and vegetarians literally do not possess the right gut enzymes to process meat - this could have seriously injured a BUNCH of people. I'm absolutely furious for them right now.

[@ziggythomsen3436]

So disgusting, dont understand why he just can't let people eat what they want. Even if it was a choice not to eat gluten, he should respect that. Im a chef, and my worst nightmare is somehow cross contaminaiting something, and make a customer sick, or worst case die. I go out of my way to make sure it wont happen- And here we have some arsehole doing it on purpose. Infuriating as hell. The problems gluten can cause are immens, and not to be joked about. And the vegan/vegetarian part.... It is fine to disagree, but it is not his choice and should stay out of it. Especially someone so accomodating to actually cook meat for him. If it is that big of a problem he can stay away, nobody is putting a gun against his head. Plus, he might actually figure out that vegan/vegetarian food is so much more than a bowl of salat, and there are amazing and tastefull dishes that can be made without animal products. (I am by no means vegan/vegetarian myself or have any forms of allergy.)

[@petthequeenofmaddness8592]

they should have filed a police report. he could kill someone

[@ShatoraDragondore]

@@ziggythomsen3436 He likely got off on doing it. It was a thrill and game to him how much could he change before she caught on. And clearly she did Sister thought she was developing the same Alergry/Illness as OPs BF and was vary scared and worried that a DR trip was in the works.

[@ShatoraDragondore]

@@petthequeenofmaddness8592 Hindsight 20/20 but yeah. I think all people who deal with a deliberate allergen exposure should call the police it's a poisoning

[@CravenWolf1986]

That guy sneaking meat products into his girlfriend's diet is so freaky. I can't help thinking of a teammate in cross country. Her parents were extreme health nuts, and she'd never ever had candy in her life. She decided to try one freaking Skittle during our team retreat and got violently ill. This kind of shit isn't funny.

[@HeiwaTori]

why was she sick? was it something in particular or just lack of exposure?

[@CravenWolf1986]

@@HeiwaTori Lack of exposure.

[@HeiwaTori]

@@CravenWolf1986 thanks, that sucks for her :(

[@axepagode33626]

Op: How do you say your mooching and scamming is making you unbearable? Me: "Your mooching and scamming is making you unbearable." This should cover it.

[@TiffWaffles]

I couldn't with the first OP after I started reading that post. Can somebody say weak-minded person that allows herself to be walked all over and doesn't know how to grow a bloody backbone or what? I don't want to be mean, but OP needs to learn how to stand up for herself and become assertive instead of allowing people like that ex bridesmaid to walk all over her. No way would that bridesmaid/ex friend get away with any of that if it were happening to me... but then again, I am not afraid of confrontation and don't back down without a fight.

[@axepagode33626]

@@TiffWaffles Well said.

[@RockyGems]

No wonder the Story 2 boyfriend "isn't close with his own family." They can't stand him either!

[@owl7072]

Story 1: "My friends think I was too soft with her" because you _were._ I avoid confrontation like the plague but the second someone starts spamming, guilt tripping, and/or gaslighting me in what's essentially a temper tantrum because they're not getting their way I WILL snap back at them. Stooping to someone's level and being mean right back isn't always _recommended_ but sometimes it's _necessary_ in order to get it through their thick, entitled skull that their mooching, scams, and tantrums aren't going to get them what they want. Story 2: "I don't feel welcome here" because you're not anymore, good riddance and don't come back. Don't even stand on the driveway unless you're willing to go through a pat down to ensure you have no food allergens on you

[@ronniec427]

Burst out laughing at "And somehow pulled a baguette out of his a$$."

[@RekiTheRyvian]

My family is one of those who just do not believe in "alternative diets", aka "doesn't follow the Real American diet". For a long time now, I've been telling them that I can't have black pepper or onion because both cause awful intestinal distress and make me feel sick. But they kept telling me I was just being whiny and proceeded to continue throwing them in everything. It wasn't until I was almost 30 that a specialist told me that it's actually a legit problem and gave me a diagnosis saying that, yes, it is a real problem. But even after that I still have to avoid anything they cook because they STILL throw onion and/or black pepper in everything they can because they just do not believe in any diet restrictions. Honestly, I'm glad it's nothing potentially fatal like an anaphylactic allergy because I'd have been dead multiple times over because of their power trips.

[@kaylabaker2099]

I feel you on the onion. Same with not having an anaphylactic allergy because there have definitely been times where I've been given something with onion in it on accident. It also sucks because it's so hard to cook decent food without onion, and I end up in bed for days if I eat a real onion from the all of the pain.

[@llcdrdndgrbd]

@@kaylabaker2099 look up asafoetida, it may be a suitable way to replicate the onion flavor

[@kaylabaker2099]

@@llcdrdndgrbd I actually use the freefod onion replacer since my issue is a fodmap issue. Works for me, it's just really powerful and it takes a bit of trail and error to get the amount to use right.

[@KE-hr4sb]

S1: "This right here, this harassment and the way you keep bringing in other people that aren't involved (MOH, fiance), making them uncomfortable or asking them to cover you, is the reason you are no longer a bridesmaid, or a friend. Keep it up and I will file harassment charges." S2: I'd lose it on the bf too, but my son has celiac and I know what a pain dealing with it and trying not to cross-contaminate, is. He was told repeatedly not to bring gluten and did anyway. Play stupid games... ETA AND he'd been spiking sister's food their entire relationship? Not only can that seriously make someone sick, tampering with a person's food IS ASSAULT. Good riddance.

[@AliceinOverwatch]

There’s a saying I’ve come across recently that applies to the first story and I think you will like it too. “Your disability explains your actions, it does not excuse them”

[@pansprayers]

Why wasn't this person just uninvited and blocked universally? Sounds like there were a bunch of extra, unnecessary steps here.

[@WobblesandBean]

Because OP is a bit of a softie.

[@pansprayers]

@@WobblesandBean that's not being a 'softie', that's a mix of enabling bad behaviour, mixed with a pretty aweful self esteem level on OP's part. Her fiancé should have stepped in WAY sooner (or even a little bit, since it seems that she had zero real backup from him and MOH). Part of being in a relationship is helping your partner get stronger, and showing them how, not hanging them out to dry like this.

[@trillionbones89]

Some people never learned that bending over backwards doesn't do anything but enable terrible people

[@fishbowl5308]

@@pansprayers okay but how often do you think op told them. Or how often op defended her actions. You can't help someone who doesn't want help. Just like you cant change the way someone is unless they want to change. They encouraged op to stay strong thats all you can do. As for blocking i wonder why more people don't do that but it does become more entertaining.

[@pansprayers]

@@fishbowl5308 the first time your partner indicates something is wrong, your response should be to assist. This person was a known issue within the friend group, not some random behaviour that cropped up suddenly. Even the MOH and fiancé let her text them and harass them, and at that point, anyone who is old enough to be getting married is old enough to say enough is enough.

[@minimochi2206]

Omg thank you for showing up.. I was talking to someone awkwardly (in person) and now I can tell them I'm busy! Running away and hiding 🏃🏻‍♀️ lol

[@TheNormExperience]

Oh no, were you tickled too much as a child!? Kidding, kidding! 😆 I know I always appreciate a Mark Narrations video dropping to be able to avoid real life for a couple more minutes.

[@minimochi2206]

@@TheNormExperience I swear I'm not that bad lol I'm just super introverted and kind of like my space and this dude just apparently likes my space too.. 😅 🙃 lovely haha

[@jessicapalmer3455]

Oh man. I didn't realize I did this until y'all wrote this feeling into words!

[@gh0ulbunni817]

Story 2 - NTA I have to cook with reduced sodium, can't cook salmon or use anything salmon (dad is allergic), and have to use reduced sugar in baked goods for my dad or else his blood sugar sky rockets. If a guest tried to slip salmon or something with insanely high sodium to my father or contaminate his food with salmon, I'd have a shit fit and catch a charge

[@TsukiKageTora]

Who the hell complains about going to a family dinner that doesn’t have a thing that they all don’t have in their diet? One damn meal won’t hurt you. Why is he dating a vegan anyways if he complains there is no meat? 🙄

[@MiraTheWarlock]

It's nice that you feel some empathy and want to have faith that maybe the ex friend's going through a mental thing But sadly sometimes there are just bad people with a martyr complex. People who WANT a diagnosis not because they think something's wrong, but they like the idea of portraying themselves as someone who's had an unfair hand dealt their whole life And certain mental illnesses cannot be excused with 'well it's the illness', temporary insanity There's a difference between munchausen by proxy and schizophrenia, in how it affects the mind

[@Russman67]

Story 2: And you have to figure the boyfriend is on his best behavior here. Something tells me he wanted to make sure he wasn't invited back to the family again. Maybe it's to isolate sister or maybe it's just because he's a dirtbag.

[@trillionbones89]

This is his normal. He wouldn't know that he had to behave better in that situation.

[@kerridwynntheacegoblin6465]

I think these are fast becoming my ‘soap opera stories’ like how my mom would watch soaps in the afternoon.

[@Tammohawk1]

2. Some people are just so self centered that they can't see anything from anyone's point of view. This guys lack of respect for anyone is very telling. Cross contamination of food is a serious thing if someone can't have a certain food due to health reasons. Tampering with someone's food is illegal I think.

[@BersealiaDreamheart]

It is in the US. We take cross contamination and food poisoning seriously here. By law, all restaurants and stores are required to list any allergens and ingredients on food and packages for people with food allergies.

[@ineedhoez]

Gluten isn't the same as peanut allergy. You aren't going into anaphylactic shock.

[@jennywhite2462]

Story 2 I would ban sisters bf from my house permanently he sounds like a real douch. My sister in law has celiac disease and my brother has Gilbert syndrome. These kinds of illnesses aren't a joke. They both can get very ill from gluten and my brother is a full in vegan for medical reasons. I would throw someone out of my house for good over a stunt like that. He not only ruined dinner he did it intentionally.

[@pansprayers]

Ouch, Gilbert's is one I've only run into a couple of times. I'm sorry your brother has to deal with that, I wish him the best (and your sister as well!).

[@jennywhite2462]

@@pansprayers we have all kinds of weird autoimmune disorders. My son and I have lupus so did my great grandfather and 2 Aunts. We've been told it's not genetic. My one Aunt had MS. 3 of my mom's cousins have tuberous sclerosis. And my Nan had mycena gravis. That's just autoimmune disorders. When I gave my Doctor my family history she was stunned. She said 2 of them she had never seen in person and only knew about from medical school. My brothers has been able to manage his symptoms pretty well just from diet change.

[@pansprayers]

@@jennywhite2462 have any of you been checked for MAST Cell disorders? I ran into a family once that had a constellation of AI dx's like that once (Dietitian Nutritionist, with my own *totally awesome* list of allergies, AI's and genetic bugbears), and between myself and the really awesome Allergist I worked with, we figured out that it was a familial MAST Cell disorder, that was triggering the other cascades of crap. A strict FODMOP diet helped give them back a large part of their quality of life - might be worth looking into.

[@jennywhite2462]

@@pansprayers no we haven't but you can bet I am going to ask about it. I see my Dr biweekly. I also lost 2 uncles to pancreatic cancer. And Doctors have been telling us that the odds of them both getting it are astronomical. Because it's not supposed to be genetic. It would be good to know. It seems like every few years something new and rare pops up.

[@misschieflolz1301]

I'm not even halfway done with the first story and I can tell that this 'friend' doesn't even know what half of those mental health conditions are about. I'm just angry that she thinks autistic people can be even slightly this way. There can be communication issues since that's generally the main issue, but I've not met anyone on the spectrum that's this nasty and manipulative; I personally would die of guilt if I started behaving like that. Its really, REALLY hard for me to lie unless it's something that has to be kept quiet for a surprise or legitimate reasons. Outright lying feels like jumping into the nearest septic tank

[@SuperBatSpider]

I think this guy meant what he said with “Helping cook” and he intentionally let bread crumbs go to the others. Because he’s one of those crazy people that thinks dietary restrictions do not exist. Edit:I CALLED IT!

[@TiffWaffles]

Story 2 makes me upset. As somebody who does have Celiacs and has a pretty serious wheat allergy on top of all of that, I can't eat or even touch items of food that has wheat. People don't take allergies seriously and this has put my own life at risk because of that.

[@pansprayers]

I can walk into a room and just TELL if there's been wheat flour in it in the past 48 hours these days. My eyes immediately start to hurt, and my chest and throat start to flush. It's really not anything to mess with, hey?

[@Streetwisefirst]

I did not know that about celiac disease. I wasn’t sure how extreme it could be like was it only ingesting or was touch and/or being in the same room that could cause issues as well. From the get go this guy is a dick, and who disregards people food allergies.

[@TiffWaffles]

@@pansprayers I had a landlady a few years ago that thought it would be funny to throw away my gluten/wheat free cupcakes and replace them with gluten ones. With the wheat allergy, I went into anaphylaxis and had to be rushed to the hospital but with my celiacs, I was sick for weeks afterwards and was in a lot of pain.

[@itsjustmaddisen]

My sister has Celiac Disease and I have Ulcerative Colitis which means I have to restrict foods that I can’t eat or else I get extreme pain and possibly running to the bathroom. If someone ignored my sister’s dietary restrictions or mine (or both) I’d be so pissed. There’s a reason people eat or don’t eat certain foods and others need to respect that.

[@pansprayers]

@@TiffWaffles oh my god, what the HELL? That's assault. Please tell me you at least moved out?

[@mangoshateu361]

Last story: no cuz that actually really scary considering his behavior towards the sister. If he so comfortable to switch foods for her he possibly could have switched foods for ops partner. Thank god op noticed him with the bread, I think he would’ve tried to sprinkle in some crumbs.

[@eevee9272]

Honestly the last story kind of opened my eyes. My SO has been non meat for quite some time but started eating meat within the last 5 years, and I am a total omnivore but most of the food I make has meat in it. He's been having a hard time with his stomach recently and I think it's because of all the meat he has when I make things

[@toothless3835]

Yeah, if you've been without something for a long time, your body's not used to it, and will react differently than if you eat/drink it daily. Just cut off sweet things for a month or two like soda or something, and when you pick up something you've used to consume, it'll be sweeter than you remember. If he's going to reintroduce meat into his diet, it should be slow and lean. Think chicken breasts oven baked with a light breading or grilled. Something that's not super oily or fatty. And small portions. It will help him get accustom to it. You can also, if you want, to cut back on the meat with every meal, as you don't need meat all the time. I personally think we eat too much, but it's totally up to you. Sub firm tofu for chicken in something like coconut curry. [Hello Fresh has both a tofu and a chicken coconut curry recipe that I tried on a whim one day and I find they're both delicious.. If you've got an issues with textures though, you may not prefer tofu.] Or doing a pasta without meat dish. Just somethings to help your partner out if you're doing your meals together. It's the little things and doesn't take too much effort in my opinion. But again, I'm not saying you need to or that it's morally right. Because I don't care either way what you do. It's your life. You know you and your partner the best. And you can take my unsolicited advice and toss it in the rubbish. haha.

[@Khrysalis01]

Being tickled can be a torture. I am very ticklish and when I was a child my dad would *hold me down and tickled me until I wet myself.* It was awful and embarrassing and humiliating. I’m 66 years old and my dad has been dead for thirty years, but I still fear being held down and tickled like that. I definitely suffer from PTSD and have been diagnosed by a psychiatrist. Incidentally, my father was a POW (3 years) during the Korean War, so he had PTSD himself, though back then it was called “shell shocked” and went untreated.

[@marshmello3455]

Story 2: Sister's boyfriend is a steaming urethra of a human being. I was thinking the same as Mark: who in the hell behaves that way when meeting new people? Their SO's family no less! And after the update - messing with his own girlfriend's food? Ugh. Disgusting person.

[@CactusDee1286]

Story one was crazy! Liars like that are terrifying

[@Becks-and-books]

I know a person like the "friend" in story 1, however in fandom spaces. This person is infamous for stirring up a lot of drama, making herself the victim, getting people to support her and give her all of these incredibly expensive things she wants that is far from a need, and the moment you're not 100% on her side you are a horrible person who bullies and harasses her. She lives for free, mooching off of people, doesn't work, and gets upset when people don't get involved in the things she does (because she has all the time in the world). The only reason she's not working is because she has insomnia. At least OP's friend has come up with some proper diagnosises, because while insomnia is the bane of my own existence too... lol

[@TiffWaffles]

Wow, that person in your fandom spaces sounds absolutely insane... not to mention incredibly entitled. Getting people to get her expensive things that she wants? My fandom friends are lovely and I can't imagine treating them as poorly as this person. Why hasn't the fandom turned their back on her? I imagine that everyone is sick and tired of this toxic sludge waste pile. Is she even participating in the fandom or is she just taking advantage of people because she perceives them to be easy targets?

[@Mewse1203]

Be kind, be safe, and take care of yourself. Have a great day.

[@getupjohnnyboy1531]

Hoooly crap! I knew someone (also a hs “friend”) exactly like the girl in story 1, minus having her own place and car. She lived with my family for a bit back in 2020 and she was horrible. Pitting me and my father against each other (he was horrible in his own ways and I’ve since moved out), stealing, lying by omission, lying directly, mooching and taking more than she was offered, manipulating (at least trying to). She literally tried stealing attention ON MY BIRTHDAY by making herself feel sick by taking a full pill instead of a half one (dunno the med) like she was told to by her doctor, all to try and make people take her to the ER immediately (she was requesting it) but turning around and refusing an ambulance because “it’s not that bad”. I had to sneak out to eat after she left the kitchen only for her to come back out to bother me. I’m sorry, but god that story made me mad through association 😓 I have sooooo much I could say on her, but it would be paragraphs.

[@OZARKMOON1960]

Last story - OP and her whole family need to keep in mind that someone who intentionally brings a food item with gluten into any of their homes - after being told it is a big NO due to deadly allergies - that they can file a police report for attempted murder. I would seriously keep this in mind if that a-hole ever comes back into their lives, or for anyone else acting up.

[@LillyianPuppy]

I don't know what happened in recent history that has caused so many people to believe "I don't understand why something is a big deal" is the same as "it's absolutely not a big deal and I'm totally going to do the opposite because if I don't understand something, it must not be real.

[@stirlingarcher7972]

Story 2 NTA the guy shouldn’t have complained about what they were cooking in the first place. Just have a meatless/gluten free meal, deal with it. It’s not like you’ll shrivel up and die if you don’t have meat one night.

[@jennywhite2462]

Love the wedding stories. I am folding clothes and waiting on my sous vide chicken.

[@Weirdandwonderfull19]

First story. I'm not saying the ex bridesmaid has any issues, and even if she has, it's not an excuse, but a lack of diagnosis doesn't mean a lack of condition. It took my friend 30 years to get diagnosed with PTSD and since the diagnosis, they have received a type of treatment specifically for PTSD that has helped enormously. For years and years I have been repeatedly fobbed off by my GP whenever I have seen them for severe back pain. They didn't take me seriously... Until it suddenly got worse... I had to have an emergency MRI and was in surgery within 5 hrs of MRI. It is a very serious but rare condition. Finally my doctors take me seriously when I discuss back issues with them. All of this is just a reminder that even doctors get it wrong. A lack of a diagnosis does not necessarily mean a lack of medical or psychiatric condition. Just to add once again, I'm not speculating about former bridesmaid either way, nor excusing her behaviour. I'm ONLY responding to the "hasn't been diagnosed with anything" part of the post. OP is NTA for setting boundaries and removing a toxic person from their lives.

[@leegraves8878]

Multiple Doctor's though????

[@WobblesandBean]

Self. Diagnosis. Is. Not. Valid. _Period._

[@Flakey101]

@@leegraves8878 I had multiple doctors over multiple visits over 5 years and they still would brush my symptoms off as panic attacks,or some thing else, and not the birth defect in my heart it actually was. Until one day it got so bad I was rushed into hospital with a heart rate of 380 bpm.

[@Harleyxjokerforever]

Yeah but like what are odds of having PTSD from being tickled?

[@damien678]

Yeah, this, and not to mention how much worse docs can be towards women in general

[@broken_queer_but_fighting8589]

Just got out of school and from a stressful group project cause they are frustrating but now I can relax by this

[@BigL_TheKing]

Much love Mark. I appreciate you for your positive ability to sympathize and empathize with everyone who's stories you read to us. I just recently joined your subreddit and enjoy reading a commenting on the stories there. I also hope you do another Livestream in the future.

[@MysticalBlueRse]

First story, the ex friend might have a personality disorder of some type. Many of the personality disorders are “demonized” over “glamorized” like other mental illnesses. Someone with ASD will probably get more sympathy than someone with BPD

[@pambarab5506]

Story #2. I know someone like the boyfriend. It's like "if they themselves don't have that problem, there can't be that problem, it must be in their head". But it's just for the "newer" diagnoses, like celiac, fibromyalgia, PTSD (this can only be for soldiers who have been in battle), etc... It's infuriating, but other than that mind block, he's not bad. He wouldn't have brought bread, even if he doesn't believe in celiac.

[@pansprayers]

If someone's unwilling to separate their conformation bias from actual medical reality, they really are that bad, I'm sorry to say.

[@philwill0123]

Even worse, he's one of those people who want to "test" someone's intolerances, choices and allegies. But yes, on an introduction with family 1. Couldn't get through one vegetarian meal with new family, had to bring meat, for not reason that he didn't want to be denied it. 2. Seemed to weirdly enjoy trying to make OP uncomfortable cook duck for him. 3.impatiently demands he get some of his dinner 10 mins earlier 4. Uses that as the excuse to inflict the gluten. 5. Takes half credit for cooking 6. Can't be bothered to apologise I dread to think what else he would have done if OP had briefly left kitchen/food unattended...

[@sandrakeen4000]

Having PTSD for tickling? Really strange but I can tell you that I am triggered by tickling. It is because when my father tickled me and my sister as children he would take it way too far and ended up actually being painful with gouging us with his fingers. I just know I do not allow anybody to tickle me now. And I am 59.

[@pansprayers]

It happens, but I think something else is going on with her.

[@saraparks4024]

Honestly I’m the same way! Thank god I thought I was just over dramatic! It always feels like I can’t breathe when someone try’s to tickle me!

[@jaymel4691]

Story 2- yeah I hope sister breaks up with that creep. She just got a preview of how he would treat her if she ever got an illness. At the very least.

[@chetarisin3035]

Story 2 update: holy fuck! You NEVER introduce a new diet to anyone who's been a certain way for years! And since it's been since she was little, that will only cause medical issues!! Glad she has no issues now

[@madisonl3401]

Have a wonderful Friday and weekend Mark and Poppy! 🖤🖤🖤

[@kristinwiebold2433]

In story 2, I 100% agree with mark. OP was fine if he brought meat but said no gluten. He disrespected that and make a mess without cleaning. Possibly contaminating OP's parent's food. I wouldn't want a tummy bag so op is 100% right to be upset. If he wasnt such an a$$, then dinner would have gone great.

[@alicewilloughby4318]

Story 2 - Sister's BF sounds like a real piece of work! (Or maybe a piece of something else.) Bringing gluten into the kitchen of someone else's house when he's been told absolutely not to, claiming that he "help cook" when he did nothing but cause extra problems for OP, taking an "I don't see what the big deal is" attitude and then stomping off home, telling his GF that he "doesn't feel welcome here," as if HE'S the victim? I realize this guy is quite young, but he's not a baby! OP has nothing to feel guilty about and the sister should seriously consider dumping him and finding herself someone better! Still Story 2 - Later - So he was sabotaging Sister's food with meat products on top of everything else?? I can't believe that in five months, Sister never mentioned to him that she was having stomach trouble. He never stopped to wonder if what he was doing had something to do with it??? Jesus, I'm glad she was wise enough to dump his garbage ass!

[@zerobolt9506]

OK following your mom's advice here Mark I'm thankful for having your channel & listening to stories you read, I like to wait to listen to your videos when I'm at work to help the time go by 😁

[@rahulmodi8706]

Story 2: the sister needs to dump him and not bring a toxic person into her and her family’s life. There is a reason his own family don’t want anything to do with him at 21

[@rylashadow18]

Getting help for my mental health needs was the scariest thing. I decided I deserved to start healing after what I went through, that I deserved to be my best self for those who care for me and myself. It was so relieving to get that started. Looking back I don't think I'd of gotten where I am without reaching out for that help. For those that don't know where to start if you have a doctor you feel you can trust try talking to them about help. Its what worked for me. Remember everyone who cares about you wants you to have your best life. Cause you do deserve it! You're worth that work and effort. Never give up!

[@perrylover99]

Baguette was the worst possible thing he could bring!! You even look at Baguette wrong and it get crumbs and flakes everywhere! Ive picked it up just to move it and got crumbs all over myself it was incredibly dangerous

[@colleencook382]

Mark, I am thankful for your dedication to giving us awesome content and narration! Thank you! Hugs for you and belly rubs for Poppy!

[@Raphrules143]

We love and appreciate you too Mark 🤗🤗🤗

[@barkquad]

Hope you’re having a good day, Mark!

[@SamanthaTotimeh]

Sorry I'm 11 minutes late! Was watching others trying each others beans on toast. Can't believe how different everyone has theirs. So gourmet and I'm just here with my simple palate (when it comes to simple dishes, they should taste simple imo lol) Ig I'm just boring lol but I just whack some cheese on toast and top with microwaved Heinz beans. How do you lot have your beans on toast??

[@impishrebel5969]

I don't. I never encountered it until moving to Britain, and likely requires a growing up with it to acquire the taste. There's also this weird deep fried toast they sell as morning breakfast around here that made me feel a bit ill when I tried it. Give me waffles with strawberries and cream instead.

[@Becks-and-books]

I am luckily not severely allergic to anything food related, but I do have sensitivity that is really rough to deal with. One thing I *cannot* eat is onions, and the other day I ordered McD as a delivery and it's been great before where I got my cheese w/o onions. Well. I would've noticed there was onions it if they hadn't added an extra slice of burger so that I couldn't taste the onions. The lable on it said "no onions" and yet???? I am so angry and panicked quite a bit about it, and I'm not even allergic. I just have to deal with a few weeks of stomach pains, flair ups, and I'm very sure it's a reason why I was throwing up this week. And this week was really important to me, and I've had to stay home because I had onions when I shouldn't have had them. I can only imagine how terrifying it is when you're actually allergic and face so many health risks from exposure, and someone does it so ignorantly with no feelings of remorse.

[@DragonicGamer32]

Had a friend do this actually and I ignored them. Other friends asked for my side of the story and most stuck around while some even tore into said friend from the fake twitter drama he came up with. About a month after that he messages a family member to try and get into contact with me. They full on apologized on Twitter and admitted to everything being a lie and in person admitted to me that they had hoped that I would come to him instead of ignoring him after the fallout. These people want the attention and want the drama and if you don't give it to them then it's like taking away their oxygen.

[@Jessidafennecfox]

Oh Gawd, story 2 pissed me off my younger brother has celiac and if I consume gluten I sure as Hell wash up after using gluten products.

[@shadowm2k7]

Hi Mark! I have another anime convention next month as a seller! The one from last week didn't go too well 😭😭😭! But I know where i went wrong so hopefully can fix it! Thanks so much everyone for your words of encouragement last time!!;

[@IForgetWorlds]

Early! Thank you Mark for the great stories!

[@christina1764]

Story 1 It sounds like someone with a personality disorder, of course I can't diagnose the person exactly, but these are clear signs of a personality disorder. ❤️©️‼️

[@SIXPACFISH]

Story 1. There comes a time to stop being nice and put your foot down. Tell her to stop bothering you and everyone else immediately ,or she will be disinvited from even coming to the wedding. Then follow through as needed.

[@Lisapizzza]

Thanks for reminding me of the slug story with that last bit

[@bethanntay]

Hello all.hope everyone is having a wonderful Friday or Friday night!!

[@louellacharlton4425]

Tyvm Mark.. Stay safe please. PEACE

[@KCCAT5]

Sneaking food into a diet where a person is not used to it and then making them think that their stomach problems or something else is akin to gaslighting. There should be a law against that

[@cynicalminion]

when in doubt, boil it down to its simplest form. does "i demand that this horrible person have me as part of their wedding celebration" sound like an even REMOTELY sane thought to have??

[@chibijay78]

1. Story: OP sounds like me 😅 I hate confrontation and Drama as well. Even when people do awful stuff like that I often avoid hurting the other parties feelings instead of telling them to F* off. Poor OP. Hopefully nothing happens/happened further. The best way actually is to block and ignore that person and it is the right way not to write anything that could be used as "ammunition".

[@chulutheimposter5415]

Hello Mark!! How are you doing today? I hope all is well and I wish you a great day!! I'm currently vibing, just waiting for school to end ;w;

[@ZanyaZalkran]

Story 1: it sounds mostly like entitled behaviour. Since they've gotten everything thus far by nagging the shock of not getting what they want sent them into crazy.

[@maurer3d]

Story 2: NTA, intentionally bringing an allergen (or other medically necessary dietary restriction) that you are warned about into a home, is a huge AH move, to the point of a criminal assault if it leads to the harm of the person who has the allergy or medical restriction.

[@selbarton]

1. So OP thinks the friend should get someone to buy the dress for her, but she's annoyed the friend is trying to get them to buy the dress. She's bothered by her doing what OP wanted. And OP said she lied making the firing her and not the friend. She's lying and then wants praise for it. Her anger over the friend lying is just hypocritical considering she has yet to tell the truth. Yes, her presenting herself as poor was an issue. So friend isn't wrong on that. There was actually a lot of focus in the post on the resentment toward friend getting things given to her and her not having to work for it and the comment about she can get someone to pay for the stuff yet doing that was part of why she was gotten rid of. 2. Didn't feel welcome? Who welcomes attempted murder? Dude was weird enough in his anti-social behavior, but the complete lack of concern for others is a neon sign, well beyond a red flag. Have to wonder about sister allowing him to stay that long and didn't kick him out. He made sister ill intentionally. He seriously put her health at risk. She should have questioned getting ill as soon as he's in the picture.

[@HAnnB24]

These stories are horrifying to hear. I've had a friend like the one in the first story, thankfully I got her out of my life before my partner and I got engaged - but she tried to stop us from even getting together in the first place. In regards to the second story I'm so glad the sister dumped him. The fact that he was cooking with meat and lying to her makes me so angry on their behalf. I have an aunt who has celiac disease, my sister is vegetarian, I'm lactose intolerant plus both my mom and I (and other extend family members) have some odd allergies - my list is long. Food choices/restrictions are hugely important and majorly health affecting. I think I would have blown up at the bf too if someone around me pulled a stunt like that.

[@idgarobingoodfellow]

As someone with multiple diagnosed mental health disorders, including autism, who cannot get disability, who has not been able to find work in the past 2 years, has to live with my parents, and has never been able to be a bridesmaid, even in my own brother's wedding, story one makes me *FURIOUS.* Not at the OP, but at the bridesmaid. I wish I could say I can't believe someone can be that entitled, rude, and cruel to their supposed "friend", but unfortunately I have experienced being the butt of it, and I STILL wouldn't have pulled that facebook crap she did. What a trash human.

[@Weirdandwonderfull19]

Yay just sat down in time for some waffles 😁

[@jackandgrey]

Story 2: well at least he can read the room correctly😂. He was indeed no longer welcome

[@davidnash8208]

"She has officially messaged my fiancé". Officially? With a rubber stamp and a seal?

[@carolinejohnson1022]

I have celiac disease and what he did is legally attempt assault with a deadly weapon. That’s incredibly f*cked up what he did. Reactions are no joke and he’s lucky you did call police on him for trying to poison your partner.

[@Kyubinooni]

My brother is like that bridesmaid in the first story. He's bipolar and has very bad manic and depressive episodes.

[@WobblesandBean]

12:05 A DUCK?! This....this is war.

[@minecraftmum3436]

Story 2, I think I can see why sister's boyfriend doesn't have a good relationship with his family, what a rude and arrogant individual. smh

[@DerekScottBland]

Story 1 - gods, I've been wating to write my own AITA over something like this. I booted a groomsman because he was dragging his heels on getting his tux fitting. I spoke about my concerns to a bridesmaid, and she told me he was pleading poverty. This was BS. Not only couid his GF help pay for it (I knew her longer than he had), but he and I play a game called Magic the Gathering, and he could have sold a couple cards to help pay for his tux if necessary. It wasn't necessary, because the bridesmaid had already offered to pay for his tux. I watched as she texted him to try and offer again, and he refused. Then he finally told me he was backing out because he couldn't afford it. Then another bridesmaid told me he had been shit-talking my wife and I because he wasn't best man. I was furious, because I had put a roof over his head when he needed it, helped him get jobs, fixed his car when he was broke, etc. I told him I saw his texts, knew he was full of shit, and told him not to come to the wedding. Then his GF refused to show up because he was uninvited. Some of my friends don't understand why I get hostile towards them when they ask me (obviously at his request) if I think I could ever be friends with him again. They really do not understand why I get angry, because in their mindset he didn't do anything to hurt them so why should they care what he did? Story 2 - sister's BF needs an ass beating. A good solid ass beating.

[@mgen278]

Story 1: I'm not a medical professional, but just for fun I'll give my completely unprofessional diagnosis: Bipolar Narcissist. Honestly though, I don't want to give Bipolar folks a bad rap....it's the Narcissist part that I can't have the patience for.

[@me5706]

Okay I did have a friend like the girl in the first story. Has diagnosed himself with a bunch of stuff and uses them to manipulate people around him. Like OP, I put up with it and was soft until he went mental on this one kid in our group. I mean lashing out and bullying the kid. He also lashed out at me for hanging around the victim and said some really hurtful stuff. I responded with the nicest but firmest messages I could manage stating that while I still care for him I can no longer endorse his behavior. He berated me some more, acvusing me of things that never happened then blocked me after his tantrum. I stopped responding after the first few messages and left groups that he was associated with after he blocked me on everything. I have screen shotted our messages incase he comes after me again since he is pretty unstable mentally. Thankfully during the whole thing no one was really on his side with his accusations and while I don't talk with them anymore I do have peace knowing I wasn't the person at fualt.

[@roehaitian9768]

Omg Mark your pretty great yourself, thank you! 😊

[@KawaiiandDark]

What is worth people causing problems then getting upset that they made themselves unwelcome and are thus unwelcome My BIL's last girlfriend was like this and was emotionally and physically abusive, she'd literally get mad about the smallest thing and ban my SO from seeing his own brother, or even visit him in his apartment (he also moved her and her kids into his apartment causing him to get evicted and tried to suggest he be homeless in the next city over because that's where he apartment is, and "you can come help me with the kids when you're not job hunting") They dated for about 9 months on and off before she kicked him out of her apartment (he lived with her for 2 months vs her with him for 7) Her reason "because I don't want to lose my apartment"

[@Zaners82123]

I have agoraphobia. If someone asked me to be a bridesmaid I will politely turn it down. It doesn't feel right being around lots of alcohol and people walking around me. I would absolutely have a mental breakdown

[@jediday6664]

Genuinely good people don't want to hurt others, even their feelings. Sometimes you have to be stern.

[@thatwitchychick2717]

Story 1: While I don't agree with anybody self diagnosing, I do want to point out the unwanted tickling is a violation of one's bodily autonomy and absolutely could cause PTSD. I know people who's parents used tickling as punishment and they would tickle them until they literally wet themselves. OP just kind of made it sound as if she thought that this couldn't cause PTSD and was using it as a reason to not believe her friend because it sounded weird.

[@haannishh]

I was vegitarian for many years and once a pizza place gave me a pizza with ham on it. I thin on purpose since it was kind of inbedded in the crust on a othervise veggie pizza. I was sick for days since I already ate 1/2 the pizza when I saw the ham. I csn only imagen the stomach issues if you never eaten meat before

[@Icalasari]

Story 2 - Oh good, the sister can sue him for poisoning her as her gut can't take meat

[@tamsinmoore2111]

Story One: as someone with properly diagnosed mental health issues (clinical depression, a major anxiety disorder with a degree of agoraphobia and PTSD) it really gets on my tits how people self-diagnose and 'understand'. I once went to an anxiety workshop, one evening a week for about six to eight weeks, where we could bring a support person if needed. I asked my friend 'B'. The thing was during group discussions she talked about when she felt anxiety. Now everyone has felt anxiety, that's a given, a molehill if you will. However an anxiety disorder is WAAAYY different, it's a mountain, no equipment, no Sherpas. It ended up destroying our friendship as it showed she had no empathy nor understanding of the issues involved. A degree of narcissism or just a lack of inner self-awareness? I just don't know. But that woman is/was a nightmare and her lack of presence in OP's life is possibly the best wedding gift she can give.

[@telinhajp]

Hi Mark! Hope your day's going great! ❤️

[@PinkMarshmallows]

story 1: I'm dealing with someone like that, though she is not a friend. I called her out on her bullshit last year and she's still harassing me. She "called me out" on one of her youtube videos a week or so ago. The best thing to do is to ignore people like this. She's pissed that I'm not engaging with her petty bullshit, hence she "called" me out lol. Edit: “Your self-respect must be stronger than your feelings” -Britney Spears, 2022

[@KaeyaDraws]

final story update made me think of cartman tricking heidi into eating real meat by saying its 'beyond meat'/

[@saraparks4024]

Story 2: honestly that bf needed to go and I’m so happy for that sister. I was diagnosed with celiac 2 months ago and the food anxiety is so real when you feel like you can’t trust food because you can’t control it and even if ops bf wasn’t on the verge of serious permanent damage you still have horrible symptoms for a long time after exposure. I accidentally contaminated myself (face palm) about five days ago and I’m still feeling it so I can only imagine how horrible ops bf would feel if he accidentally got glutened

[@Wildeyedrotgut]

i just wanted to say that the getting ptsd from tickling can probably happen. i dont have ptsd but growing up the adults in my life would tickle me till i peed myself and then tell me to grow up and stop crying because it didnt hurt even though i was begging to stop and trying to get them off of me

[@kitkat9091]

S2: Poor OP! I have cooked Xmas for 10 many times with a total mix of diets - it's hours of thankless work sometimes & OP's sister's B/F is such a jerk - deliberately I wonder 🤬🤬🤬🤬

[@oakenshadow6763]

He was told no gluten. How hard is it to listen to that?! If they said no peanuts, would he listen to that?! Lucky OP caught him. It may have saved a life. Should have gone to the cops about him giving her meat, especially since it made her sick. That has to be illigal.

[@iamalbertwesker2]

As someone who lived around it for a good 20 years of my life, sounds like OP1's "friend" is a narcissistic sociopath

[@draconicfeline6177]

There was another reddit post about a guy going to his vegan in laws. IIRC, he politely asked if he could bring a rotisserie chicken for himself and his also not-veggie brother in law - his wife and the commenters jumped down his throat.

[@MalkavianGhoul]

I know someone who says allergies are all in the head and you can just think your peanut allergy away if you wanted to....people like that scare me honestly because they really don't understand not everyone's bodies aren't the same