I Got Called the R Word... | What Is Ableism?

This is an Official Cole & Charisma Video Of: (Insert Title)
Subscribe: bit.ly/sub_CC
Follow Us on Social Media:
Cole's Instagram: / roll.with.cole
Charisma's Instagram: / happilycharisma
Our TikTok: / coleandcharisma
Watch the NEWEST videos:
• Binge from the start |...
Shop for Adaptive Tools: amazon.com/shop/rollwithcolec...
Our camera equipment: www.amazon.com/ideas/amzn1.ac...
PO Box:
Cole & Charisma
PO Box 28616
Henrico, VA 23228
Watch more Cole & Charisma:
Adventure Vlogs: • Adventure Vlogs! | Rol...
Travel Vlogs: • Travel Vlogs | Roll wi...
How-To/Educational: • How-to/Educational | R...
Newest Videos: • Binge from the start |...
Most Popular: • Popular Videos | Roll ...
About Cole & Charisma:
Welcome to the official Roll with Cole & Charisma KZbin channel! Since the start of our relationship we've gotten a lot of questions about our experiences as not only an interracial couple, but an interabled one as well. On this channel you can catch us doing travel and adventure vlogs, challenges, our inclusion series, couple first times, music, and so much more! We started this vlog to bring people into our lives, to answer some questions about how we navigate the world, and hopefully raise awareness surrounding accessibility and dating in a wheelchair. You'll quickly see in our episodes that we're all about inclusion and keeping a great attitude no matter your circumstances, so if that's what you're into, you're in the right place!

[@kylasaundersmiller2286]

My 11 year old grandson is autistic. While in a restaurant, a women walked by, back stepped and asked my son loudly, “What’s wrong with him?” My amazing son said, “Nothings wrong with him. He’s perfect. What’s wrong with you?” Some people are just complete and utter idiots.

[@gemmaluescher-verseckas1243]

Good comeback.

[@annmarielovelace7298]

A very good answer ❤

[@Innypoohjones]

Great answer, I have an 11 year old daughter who is Autistic.

[@michellebelgrave8285]

I've learnt to ignore people. Once they aren't paying my bills and taking care of my family. They're simply a nuisance. Nevertheless, I love watching you both. You're a great tag team together. I really don't see Cole indifference, disable I've always seen him as a normal bubbly strong youngman doing anything that comes his way. He has that determination in him. So God bless you both richly and your additional when they come.

[@nikkilucas9533]

😮 great comeback 🎉🎉🎉 cheers

[@JD-zv3nz]

It is SO Good that you spoke up to that man. You were direct, honest, but also respectful of his wife and small children. You handled it better than most people would and that's why you guys ROCK and are just pioneers for the disabled community. As a Special Educator, I am inspired. Thank you Cole and Charisma!!

[@iLitAfuseiCantStop]

I would t call them “pioneers” but they’re definitely amazing spokespeople & educators

[@valjean9581]

And also might have taught that man a lesson!

[@Areyousayingidontknowmyname]

And an example to the kids how to stand up for one's self .

[@patriciablagrove206]

​@@iLitAfuseiCantStop⁸

[@renee3n110]

I remember hearing your story on the news when we were stationed at Fort Eustis Virginia I now live in Florida and since moving here I’ve been called the n word and my children have been called monkeys and when in public with my disabled in-laws people automatically assume that I’m their caregiver because they’re white it’s seems racist like since I’m a black woman I must be the help

[@Cle4eva1]

I am disabled & my husband is not. When we go out people stops us & shakes his hand, keeps telling him that he is brave. 😒When I'm in my wheelchair then they pat my head, I get super frustrated 😤 they talk like I'm slow or don't understand them. Well when I get annoyed or just had enough of being ignored, I just give them sass. There is nothing wrong with our brains, just part of our body that don't function 100%. Sending you ❤ from Cape Town SA

[@agethawestphal4671]

Just wanted to say hello from CPT too so happy to see a fellow Capetonian on the chat❤. Love our country I am in an inter racial marriage but sometimes people do not have a filter.

[@Here4TheHeckOfIt]

I'm so sorry to hear this. People are just so ignorant ☹️ And it doesn't take much to learn so there's no excuse for it. The ignorant are people who are told what to think and they never question it.

[@stevedalebrewer8029]

They pat your head?!? I’m in a chair, trust me… they’d never do that again to me!!!!😡

[@Star-Mac10]

To think that this poor example of a father behaves as though he or his family will never encounter medical problems is mind blowing. When you attack others based on their disabilities, know that you or anyone you love can find themselves in that same situation or worse.

[@justjackie3792]

I hate that people correlate physical disabilities with mental competence when the two are not necessarily related.

[@christinelamb1167]

I hate that too! The thing is, even if someone does have an intellectual disability, or a condition that causes them to struggle mentally, no one deserves to be made fun of. It's just cruel and mean, and very hurtful!

[@kenya9540]

I totally agree with you.

[@justjackie3792]

@@christinelamb1167 definitely

[@twoandtwo4]

They are absolutely not related!!! And that crude fellow you encountered was not only disrespectful, he was ignorant !! An admirable comment to him from Cole, and on the spur of the moment.

[@leezafeyisetan2774]

Even if it is, they still shouldn't use it as an insult.

[@EmmaSammon]

I have to say that I just Love you two. I am 92 and recently treated myself to an IPad. I am really into KZbin, I use it on my tv for streaming and on my IPad for health info and to read my Kindle. Well, I came across one of your videos and haven’t read a book in the past two weeks!! I have gone from your original injury to your move to CA. I love your parents (no wonder you two are so special) your brother wonderful people. I love the way you two look at each other, just melts my heart, and Cole, those dimples😊. As a couple you are doing great things for your particular community and are to be commended for your energy, your moral skill and your awesome communication skills. Keep rolling kids and be sure to keep each other first in this very hectic life you live. Your love for each other is very, very special. Looking forward to more videos with my Love.

[@garciamavis2271]

I’m 72 and I love following you 2! Growing up we had a family in our church, the dad broke his back as a teenager. He was married to a beautiful artist and teacher, the head of his family, owned a jewelry store, a lake house, drove his own boat, disciplined his boys and was a great man. I never thought of him as lacking in anyway because he was paralyzed and in a wheelchair. He also lived happily for over 80 years. Hugs from Texas

[@eshannon922]

People are so ignorant. I’m glad you spoke up.

[@taijalerae8961]

I got chills when you said someone called you both 3/5ths of a person. How horrible. I love you both so much! You all are amazing people and I'm so glad you made a video on this.

[@TJohnson7782]

We all know who said it too! Smfh

[@ActionMan-Grant]

Oh hell no. Who the fuck does that?

[@newleft2254]

It's most likely an incel who is mad that someone who is disabled can still find a beautiful woman and be in love while they are struggling. It is usually deeply socially disturbed individuals who talk that way and make these sort of insults.

[@christinafidance340]

My jaw DROPPED. I literally had to pick it up off the floor because I forgot to close my mouth back up again. Wow.

[@grandmalin4999]

I have been in a chair for 30 years... disabled has never bothered me but a few years ago someone yelled " she's a criple", for some reason that really bothered me. I didn't confront them, I went home and cried. You did good!

[@punchline43]

George Carlin did a funny bit on that very subject and how our language keeps getting sterilized and non-offensive etc.

[@LoveAuntAshley]

Understandable. Cripple has always had such a bad connotation to it that was always it's intended purpose. It is meant to demean people.

[@sheilruthkaumba4669]

Everytime someone confronts you about your disability, just ignore them coz some disability is invisible because it is in the brain. Don't waste your beautiful tears on such brain disabled people.

[@pathway777]

That is ok to cry . GOD has Avery tear🥰😍😘

[@Edavis247]

I'm sorry people are so hateful.

[@shantereed]

I am legally blind and it took me connecting with successful blind people to gain confidence in myself. I have been underpaid and even fired because of my disability which was actually a blessing in disguise because that’s how I learned to advocate for myself. I am now having to learn how to actually accept genuine help because I had to fight to gain independence. Interdependence is a challenge. I really enjoy that you share how you experience life because I get to see a different aspect of living with a physical disability. Disability has taught me humility that I wouldn’t have otherwise.

[@BukolaRY_TV]

That's really sad that SOME people are disrespectful to disabled individuals. It's cost absolutely nothing to be nice.... WE NEED TO DO BETTER. Love and light to you guys ❤️❤️🫂

[@melaniewoolcock2628]

You both have helped me head to a healthy acceptance of my disability. I have heard so many rude things or people in a crowded area are busy running around and are not always observent of a person in a wheelchair. I have been ran in to and then they become angry because I inconvienienced them with my disability. There have also been amazing people who are quick to offer to get something off the grocery store shelf. I went from being fully ambulatory to semi-ambulatory. I lost my career and my favorite activities like dancing. I did not want to go out of the house, because I did not want to hear rude things. I have learned to enjoy knew things I am passionate about and I am still working towards goals...they just look different now. I am amazed by how strong and open you both are. God bless you both. I really needed to hear both the perspective of someone who was fully ambulatory to disabled. That has made me grow. I have appreciated hearing from the perspective of your beautiful wife. Care givers are my heroes! It helps me to understand my husband's perspective. Thank you again and keep on rolling! ❤

[@FrankieBonsignoreMusic]

I was diagnosed with autism at the age of three. For many years of my life, I have been active in autism and disability rights and the fight against ableism. Sadly, though, when one thinks of activism, it isn’t very popular to think about autism rights or even disability rights as a whole, especially given the unfortunate state of race relations, women’s rights and LGBTQIA+ rights in America, among other things. The media outlets we rely on aren’t doing very much to support disabled and autistic people like myself. We’re still portrayed hurtfully in the films and television we consume on a regular basis, and the most we usually get in the news is a quick shout out to some cutesy video on KZbin. Most communities are making leaps and bounds in progress in terms of educating people on the struggles they face... but what about us? Where's the happy ending of the autistic or disabled individual? Where is the respectful, diverse and creative representation in our mainstream media? The endless social media posts and debates? The political discussions? It sickens and disappoints me to know that the stereotypes and struggles that we disabled and autistic people face, on top of the lack of support from our mainstream media, is going mostly unnoticed. Let me be clear: I am NOT in any way saying that one issue is more important than the others. However, it is important to understand that we as the autistic and disabled community are capable of just as much as any other community. My lifelong passion for autism and disability rights heavily inspired me to create my own cartoon characters in 2018 called The Puzzle Piece Kids (the name is NOT related to Autism Speaks or anything they stand for), centered on nine young kids who are best friends and have their own rock band together. One of the main characters, a 9-year-old boy named Robby Edmonds, is on the autism spectrum. Like myself, he has coping mechanisms he uses to deal with stress or fear, like patting his knees to a certain beat or humming a melody to himself. The reason for this is due to my strong desire to portray autism as I experienced it for years. I believe in the powerful capabilities of mainstream entertainment, and although I recognize that some people will inevitably remark that my work “isn’t for them,” I sincerely hope my characters can transcend its initial demographic and inspire people of all ages and backgrounds to embrace their differences, for they are what make us who we are as people. After all, wouldn’t it be great if people not only see the characters, but see themselves? I’m proud to be autistic, and I know I can use my disability to make the world a better place. We can do better. ❤️

[@ddd-604]

Wow, such a well versed and informative comment. Thank you we can all learn and we can all do better.

[@sedellethomas2860]

"NUff' SAID!! N'one could have done it better!!!

[@FrankieBonsignoreMusic]

@@ddd-604 anytime! Just trying to tell my story ❤️

[@utakatjivena66]

I hope he realize what he did and apologize...that is so bad..we all can do better than that....love you C&C

[@sarahmacanda8990]

Love your input and it opened many of us. You said it clear. Love 💕 you to bits 😍😍😍🙏🏾

[@KPazzz]

Glad you called his ignorant a** out - perfect response, Charisma & Cole! And I’m sorry you experienced that ❤

[@joy_oo]

I have an invisible disability and the word disability does not and has never bothered me . Well done guys for speaking up about this ❤

[@saltycrunch]

On a totally shallow note, your living room looks great. Color-wise the blacks, yellows, and grays go very well together. It's the perfect spot for a video.

[@herbertnedkailipuahilof.4732]

That's it, I'm putting on my gloves 🥊. It hits close to home because I have 2 brothers with disabilities and they keep pushing every day to be what they think is "normalcy". People just need to accept and help one another. I'm so sorry you both had this experience with uneducated people. Your amazing🎉 😊

[@yaphehhairskin-shiphrah4498]

Appreciate your thoughts 💪🏾❤️

[@mirandawyatt3488]

I am in a wheelchair to because I had a stroke before birth and I'm also missing my left hand I had a teacher in high school that told me one day that she couldn't teach me because she had never taught anybody with one hand before I just looked at her and said what does my hand have to do with my brain

[@herbertnedkailipuahilof.4732]

@@mirandawyatt3488 well said 🙂what was your teacher's response?

[@yaphehhairskin-shiphrah4498]

@@mirandawyatt3488 absolutely 💯❤️

[@joellenblevins6351]

I don't think I will ever understand why people just don't want to learn and progress. I am 47 and watch your channel and channels like yours to make sure I grow in knowledge. It is like my old saying "go read a book, ignorance is a choice."

[@chalenesabino4801]

It was honestly such a great thing for those children to see you reprimand their rude father for his ridiculous behavior! It may have given them some sort of courage to stand up for what is right in the future!

[@Beanee1965]

Why do folks not understand common decency? I lost my left foot three years ago. Frankly, prior to that, I never really thought about folks with a disability. I actually knew no one personally with a disability. I've defiantly noticed a difference regarding attitudes and reactions from a feeling of that person(s) feeling uncomfortable to down right rudeness. I love that you made the choice to educate through these types of topics. These days I try my best to educate from a place of kindness hoping that someone will see that I am a person first and foremost. Thank you so much for talking about this topic and your channel! I truly appreciate you both! Side note: You both are such a beautiful couple!

[@spinergywheelz8083]

Cole and charisma thank you for making this video and shedding a huge light on ableism. I am a 43 year old man who has encountered people using the R word towards me in many situations in my life. I have always been taught as I was growing up to ignore those type of people and not say anything to them but as I have grown up I have taught myself to approach those who say something derogatory towards me but to do it in a positive way and make it a learning experience. I am not good with conflict and confrontation but those hard times that we go through in the disability community have made me a stronger person who now approaches conflict no matter what the situation. For the last 9 years I’ve been working in the developmental disabilities and it’s the most impactful job I’ve ever had. Once again thank you for making this video.

[@dalecorbin8655]

Sometimes, a person thinks the wife is responsible for the outward appearance of their husbands. Comments like you look really nice, your wife dresses you, or she is feeding you well, and I am referring to both being able body.

[@ladymiss9466]

I'm proud of both of you for standing your ground. 💪🏼You taught him a lesson.

[@Here4TheHeckOfIt]

This is another fantastic video! This is such an important conversation on so many levels. Thanks!

[@irenesantillanes3952]

I'm so sorry that happened to you both...it really grieves my spirit when I hear of incidents like this because you are both amazing people. You took the high road, addressed it and moved on; using this situation as a learning opportunity for us all. Thank you.

[@roseschwiebert7157]

I’m 56, and I remember the word handicap being used to describe people with disabilities. Then the word handi-capable was also a popular one. Times have changed. Words evolve and change as well. I agree Charisma…We all need to always remember to be respectful, show kindness, and be nonjudgmental. Thank you for sharing. Thank you for your courage to confront, educate,and for being so very gracious to that man and his family.

[@beverlyisidore8672]

Cole you have come a long way after 12 years of your injuries. Charisma by your side have help you to see things positively.

[@robinhoward474]

I'm so glad that you guys have this channel to help educate people. Keep living your fabulous lives.

[@theresaf1529]

I’m so proud of both you . Not only standing up for yourselves but being a great example for those little girls. Those girls will remember this for a long time 🥰

[@sirbluey5776]

You are so loved, Charisma and Cole! With my mobility disability and my son's neurodiversity, we are familiar with ableism. One of the things I think about often is something Richard Simmons said years ago (paraphrasing, I think): When you are different, the world will let you know about it. The real irony is that no one is exactly like anyone else or can do all the things others can do. I'm going to paraphrase somebody else, one of my main heroes, Mister Rogers and note that everything comes from love or a lack of love. Again, we love you! ❤️🥰

[@Max-dc6mh]

I’m flabbergasted that this unkind, In humane behavior continues. I can’t stand how people are so disrespectful towards others no matter the disabilities or abilities. This insensitivity needs to stop, be kind to one another, it doesn’t cost a thing! I’m so proud that you stood up for yourselves. 😊

[@crystalparker6774]

Thank you for sharing Cole and Charisma.

[@lydiandinda8823]

Thanks Cole and charisma you share your experiences and truely bless us most of us who have people with disability,that was so brave the way you handled that man, stay blessed

[@lmkays]

I think people think having family near is just helpful in general. When there’s a baby or sickness or whatever, it is nice to have family for support. Just my opinion. You guys are great. Your response to that man was perfect.

[@coleandcharisma]

We absolutely agree! Our family will be here when that time comes. We have always found family here in LA that are amazing and so helpful.

[@SaintsandSushi]

A disabled person shouldn’t have to rely on family or friends to defend themselves against derogatory comments. You are gaslighting disabled people by telling they are the problem for lot having someone to help them. The problem are the mean and disrespectful people who for no reason like to insult people who they don’t even know. Disabled people Jane the right to go anywhere by themselves without being fearful of being verbally assaulted by disrespectful strangers.

[@Jinx4you]

Watching you two make me still believe in true love 💓 Thank you both for being you

[@Ladyj588]

So here’s the thing Cole & Charisma, this world is unfortunately not always kind. Please don’t ever be surprised at what people will say because there will ALWAYS be ignorance in this world!!! 💁🏽‍♀️🤷🏽‍♀️The both of you are incredible, beautiful,unique, and loving individuals and even stronger as a couple.❤❤Don’t let people steal your joy or allow there insecurities to take any space in your heart. Let it go and let God take care of it. That man had a lot to explain to his family on his ride home. His wife and kids will also remember that moment! The both of you responded perfect!! He didn’t expect it and you surprised the heck out of him. LOL!!!! I’ve learned a lot as an old Black woman. Perception is never key because you can’t live for anyone but God. You and Cole need to have situational plans so you are prepared for those moments. Please don’t let these moments stick with you.🤦🏽‍♀️🤷🏽‍♀️ Remember GOD has got your back always!! 🙏🏽🙌🏽Many Blessings!🥰😊(Just FYI…. I would have gone off also a few years ago😂😂😂) I’ve learned to hold my peace.😊😊👍🏽Sometimes it’s REALLY, REALLY hard but I do try my best.😂😂

[@maphutigondo4482]

From South Africa. You love each other. That is all important. They are not worth your TIME. Keep loving each other

[@terriwaters2842]

you guys absolutely rock with everything!! thanks for sharing your lives with us.

[@ashlyngardner6897]

thanks for sharing this! just got back from hanging with one of my good friends and her hubby. he has schizophrenia and a lot of things we consider normal are a challenge for him. but he doesn’t let that stop him from practicing his faith, pursuing hobbies, supporting his wife’s art business and more. I really admire the both of them for their love and insightfulness and I appreciate youguys for spreading love and awareness too. thank you!

[@ericareynoldsladye9667]

Thank you for this discussion. I have a walking disability and it is often that people assume I am useless, when I offer to do volunteer work. I would like to be allowed an opportunity show how smart my brain is. The awareness you bring through your show will help make the future better for disabled individuals.

[@willyd7744]

I think that you were the first one's that I was able to learn about disabled people. You both have had a huge impact on our society understanding this topic. Together you have served your purpose in life well. THANK YOU and by the way, "You are some GREAT PEOPLE".

[@tammyrolle4733]

Keep on pressing on Sydners! You are 2 wonderful people. Very motivational and beautiful too🥰 Some people are just ignorant when they make their comments. Pray for them and never stop what you’re doing. Trust me, you are touching many lives and will be remembered for what you are doing !🇧🇸

[@RollandExplore]

I was about to enter a parking lot from the ramp at a shopping center in Erie, Pennsylvania. I am a quadriplegic in a power chair. As I entered the ramp a car pulled up and blocked the ramp. An older lady got out of the car so I backed up and let her exit and use her walker to come up the ramp. When she walked past me, she said “At least I’m not as bad off as you are.” That’s the worst I’ve had so far. But not being talked to is also very common.

[@Financiallyfreeauthor]

I hate the way people compare like that

[@sharonharris7245]

I just love you two so much! I started watching your channel right around the time C-19 hit when I was working in Richmond as a Travel Nurse. I am so proud of your growth and maturity! I feel like a proud Auntie (Kelly & I talked & realized we are the same age). Staying Positive!

[@mom2sophia1]

You guys are wonderful! It is so important to speak up and create teachable moments, not only in front of that guys family/children but for the people around. My daughter who just turned 4 uses a wheelchair/walker/leg braces. The comments we get, the staring, whispering…its tough. I’m an introvert but I have had to learn to speak up. At just 3, my daughter was denied access to school, our hospital case worker called and recited the laws. All the sudden all sorts of preschools in our area had room for her. My daughter is cognitively typical and is starting to notice that she is different…she takes note of the comments and asks why people look at her. Nothing could have prepared me for that. Let me just say, I have been watching you guys for a long time, even before I had my daughter! Even so, I just never could have truly understood how challenging it is to navigate the world for her. Nothing could have prepared me for the hurt those comments generate.

[@marym.1567]

I think what you said and how you said it is going to resonate very strongly with the mother and even the dude. I have so much admiration for both of you.

[@agethawestphal4671]

Have been watching some of your earlier videos vs now, love your openness and realness now. You are so caring and loving to one and other. Really like this video I know this was a serious topic but you where so light and funny and still brought the message across 😊

[@Monikered06]

I am so proud of you both, teaching people but also being honest about your experiences and still how far we as a people have to go. Keep shining and doing what you both do best.

[@GraceDowWrites]

Thank you so much for covering this topic! As a disabled person myself, I’ve had many experiences similar to Cole’s. You both handled that situation well. Personally I wouldn’t have known how to respond to that.

[@crazyboutknitting]

I am really glad you said something that was important. Thank you for doing that. I am 57 years & have been a support staff in some way or another since I was 19. I have seen ableism so much over the years. It is hard. The people I care for can speak for themselves, can do things for themselves. They want to have a life, period. Seeing them thrive & enjoy their live is a wonderful & hard. Thank you for your channel

[@the_aesthete]

I have learned so much from your channel and deeply appreciate the efforts that you both have undertaken to educate us on your shared experiences as a couple and as individuals. One of my most formative friendships was with a beautiful soul named Elizabeth who was born with a battery of disabilities…she taught me more about life and compassion than anyone in her all too short time here on earth. You, Charisma and Cole, are doing exactly that on your platforms. Sending you all love and much gratitude!

[@janabrown6608]

What a horrible experience you both went through, glad you said something to him, Cole! I use the word disabled to describe myself, I have a birth defect called Spina Bifida and am physically disabled! I hate when people use retard or handicapped to describe people with disabilities! People are always ableist toward me when I'm out in public and even some of my relatives I don't see very often. Everyone should treat people with disabilities as though they can do anything an able bodied person can do! It's really sad that there are people out there that don't! Thank you for your video, love them, spreading awareness!

[@amandabrown5983]

Just keep doing YOU! You guys are rocking life ❤

[@averagejoesmiling456]

AMEN!! AMEN!! Well said, you guys! COMPLETELY agree!

[@judylee3589]

You two are precious together and are both growing together with the same thoughts and insights. I think ya'll are making a huge impact, in a good way, on KZbin. Keep it up guys, the world need more people like you in it! ❤

[@wonderwomancarter518]

Continue to be the amazing people you both are! You both enlighten the world daily. Glad you stood up for yourselves and called him out. So many people don’t have the courage to speak up, proud of you both! 👊🏼🫶🏼

[@trisharaichatterjee2578]

I’ve been called the R word so many times in my public school days. I kind of have become unusually desensitized to it. Or at least, I thought I was unusually desensitized to the word. I am a young woman with high functioning, ADHD and autism. And I wasn’t into the party lifestyle. Most of my classmates were into that stuff, but not me! And then a few weeks ago in passing I heard somebody yelled the R word. I do not know who it was. But I all I can tell you was they were clearly in their late teens early 20s. And they were boys. But what gives me chills. Because not only do I get transported back to the four years of hell that was my high school. But I am shocked, also simultaneously as to why that word is so prevalently and nonchalantly used still to this day, without thinking twice about the meaning behind that word.

[@jenniferpruden4059]

So proud of you 2 for making this video and well done for speaking up to the ignorant person but being mindful of the young children. That was appalling of him. So sorry it happened to you, such a lovely couple who have, and continue to work to make the disabled community better, and others aware to improve lives. Well done on all your achievements Cole and Charisma and may they continue. You are both amazing❤️🙏👩‍❤️‍💋‍👨. Love your videos and Thank you for sharing your lives.🙋🎊

[@Daphnevasquez]

My son is 25 with cp. genetic doctor was trying to help get him services when he was under 1 year old. His official diagnosis was severely mentally retarded. He isn't severe. He functions between 4-7. I am so happy times have changed. I much prefer cp or not neurotypical.

[@drdenisetoday]

I am so sorry that you both had to deal with that kind of ignorance. God bless you for taking the high road. I love you two. Thanks for setting the perfect example of strength.

[@naturalgalwilliams]

Cole and Charisma, I applaud and love your positive disposition! Many blessings ❣️

[@vanessaellsworth9381]

I am so sorry that this still happens in the world today, and so sorry that you had that experience on a fun night out But, thank you for setting an example of the right thing to do for everyone there who witnessed that, especially his kids, but also for your time and emotional labor in making this video to educate further. You both are such a light in this world and your work makes such an impact. Sending you love ❤

[@newsteps3876]

❤you Cole and Chrisma your love, support and respect for each other is very clear. Good for you to call this behavior out. Best to you both.❤

[@lesmoonbeam]

Thanks for the discussion on this. I’m an abled person learning how to do better around disabled people. Meaning not rush around insensitively. I appreciate your content a lot and find it very heartwarming and relatable as well as super informational.

[@hobbithause9481]

Shows the mans ignorance and immaturity. Im glad you'll set him straight and showed his family how shameful his words were. Im sorry it happened.

[@SharonRepici]

You’re both so much better than I am. I would have spun around and asked the dude if he wanted to compare degrees or something. You reacted with grace and every video of you I watch makes me want to be a better person.

[@danrynazewski4151]

I fight them lol I laugh but it's true! I don't mind a night in jail!

[@evamaynard3021]

I appreciate that you two are so transparent with your experiences. You don't have to share so much of yourselves, but the fact that you do I'd encouraging. I am not currently faced with the ableism issues Cole deals with, but as a Black Latina, I can relate to some of what Charisma endures. You are role models for me to continue owning my agency, not apologizing for being a positive, hopeful person, and it gives me hope in people around me. I hope more of us give you your due praise and encouragement more than the detractors.

[@lujunabrown4621]

I am so proud of you two for being so positive in this situation. Good for you guys!!!! I also have to use a wheelchair as I'm an adult with a disability and have never had an experience like this. Thank you to both of you for educating in the best of ways!!! Much love to you both! Stay Positive!

[@Jeriann-027]

Thank you really good Topic. Cause we have 3 disabled people in my home and it has happened to us too! I loved your come back to that guy he might think about it next time he says something, especially around his children. God Bless you guy's.❤

[@denisejackson776]

This was a lovely enlightening conversation.

[@monnie1027]

Wow! How can people leave messages like that? Unbelievable! You guys are Awesome ❤Ya'll

[@foxfire1894]

To look at the both of you is inspiring. To hear both of you letting the other one talk is very sweet. We get to hear both point of view and feeling.

[@katherinelayne7262]

Let me just start by saying how much I love you guys!!! I came across you through your interview with Chris on the SBSK channel, and I am a huge fan!! It makes me sad that you face some of the issues you do, especially in 2023. Love is a beautiful thing, and it is so obvious how much you love each other, I wish more people in this world had your outlook!! I believe the exact same, the most important thing is always the inside and the heart, and you guys have it all! I wish you only the very best, and all the love and happiness this world has to offer...❤️🥰🙏🏻

[@sherrithomas5776]

We are sorry that you went through that; and thank you for saying something to that man. Both of you are such treasures of gold and you are a tremendous encouragement to so many. Thank you for being you.

[@crosstatt7441]

Absolutely! It’s good to see Cole showed respect in the moment.

[@DianeL325]

I am so freaking mad, way down here in South Louisiana!! I absolutely DESPISE the "R" word! My late husband was seriously visually impaired & he was called that all thru his school years. I literally demanded that our friends & family remove that word from their vocabulary! Well, he showed them, and he went on to get his Bachelor's degree in Journalism!! Sadly a series of strokes prevented him from using that degree. I took care of & advocated for him till the day God called him home in 2020. I applaud you both for standing up to that bully & for graciously calling him out. I love your channel & the 3 of you!! (Can't exclude Miss Sophie 🐾)

[@Tee-kc3pn]

You can't make anyone do anything... that's madness

[@dmweir3084]

"STAY POSITIVE ".....you two remain true examples of this!! Continue to remain true to yourselves ❤ and keep your bond strong!!

[@yvonneblache1515]

Hi Cole and Charisma, thanks for having this important conversation, let's hope this get passed along and more light is given especially in schools, also your background color scheme is beautiful, the gray and yellow, the art on the wall, lovely presentation.

[@flecko333]

Props for saying something! I hope that man is stewing in his ignorance!

[@rbroxton3068]

I love how you bring the importantance of words and subjects to the world in the correct way, my son was called the R word back in 2001 and momma here responded very calm 😂 Keep just being Cole & Charisma......🙂 No matter of disability we all have strengths and weaknesses which make us who we are and end of day thats what makes us unique in this beautiful and crazy world.

[@vernidakendall8524]

You guys are my favorite yiutube when I’m watching it. I used to work with mentally challenged adults for 7 1/2 yrs, and I was very protective of them. My children and all who knew me knew that the R word was not a word I tolerated. Disabilities come in many forms. I’m disabled due to a stroke, but I’m also very functional. So I’m baffled 😮 at what that father/husband said and I feel sorry for his children who has such an insensitive person as a father. I love you guys and you have really inspired me. Keep up the great work ❤️❤️❤️

[@castillomary4]

I loved this topic, I also live, thrive with a disability and am an advocate for talking about ability over disability. Thank you for sharing our truth the reality of what we confront in our day to day interactions. I applaud you both.

[@laurieknowles6097]

Yes I agree. My son was in a wheelchair from seven years to 21 years old. He had muscular dystrophy. I always had to explain to people that nothing mentally was wrong with him. ❤

[@christinelamb1167]

That's such a shame to have to explain that. And even if someone does have a mental disability, it doesn't make them any less of a human being, and certainly not worthy of disrespect and cruel comments!

[@sheels3893]

Y'all are my milk and cookies! Your souls are not black or white or disabled- they are perfect and complete and without designation of race. Beautiful!

[@brendaarchbold255]

Proud of you guys. Blessings❤

[@Narsha43]

Keep thriving p, you guys are amazing 🤩

[@deniseroepel8392]

U 2 are a ray of sunshine. Keep the education going ❤

[@toyajohnson9556]

I’m sure this was a painful moment to experience... thank you so much for y’all being so much mature than him & handling it in a mature matter ... thank you so much for sharing this with us ... I’m sure y’all are so upset from this experience bc I’m upset just from hearing about it to know at this day & time some people are still so closed minded & evil ... I’m so happy y’all are very strong & a positive couple & don’t let people’s stupidity get to y’all or effect y’all relationship

[@JA-tp1zr]

Since you both mentioned it in your last video, I have been waiting to hear what you experienced. Well Cole and Charisma, I believe you handled it really well. There are times things need to be addressed and this was one of them. No need to carry it give it back to the source and let it go! Remarks such as that needs to be dealt with in the most reasonable and mature way…….which you did! Good on you both for bringing it to our attention. I so love your channel (by the way I’m over 60, you’ll be surprised at the ages of your followers) and not from the US between the Caribbean & UK and have followed you from the beginning. You have brought me tremendous strength at trying times. Keep going, there will always be haters (unfortunately), but those who love & admire you both far out weigh the others.❤️

[@jessiemcnealy5554]

Many many hugs to you two 4:57 And a tear... for that man!!!❤

[@lisasprovidence4572]

It's hard to escape generational ignorance/ arrogance but it can be done with awareness and education.

[@carolyncornelius1492]

Absolutely And Unequivocally Always So Very Happy To See You Both!! .. God Has Definitely Blessed You Both With So Much Happiness And Pure Joy!! .. Oh Yes!! .. We Are All So Happy To See You Both Blossom And Grow!! .. Please Never Let Anyone Steal Your Joy!! .. Much Love!! .. ❤❤❤❤ PS: The House Is Absolutely Gorgeous!!

[@marlenesmit9347]

wow I was flabbergasted too) can't get my head around people saying that.. and so good of you stand up for yourself! Pretty sad what people say these things ! you two are amazing and I love you ❤

[@elizabethnewsome-amos4088]

Keep the positive messages flowing. We sure miss y'all in Richmond.

[@kmp12091]

That man has a big mouth, but a very small mind!! This husband and wife team are a huge inspiration to the world!! Thank you so much for sharing your wonderful life!!❤

[@queen_butterfly08]

Thank you for explaining the euphemisms because I have a disabled child who is in a wheelchair (born with cerebral palsy), and I was told to use the differently abled euphemism during college. It led me to feel like I am harming him when saying he is disabled. But, heck, he is disabled and he does not mind.

[@SaintsandSushi]

As a disabled person and parent to a disabled child I got you my advice: never ever listen to outsiders when it comes to your family choices regarding disability. Never listen to an able person who forces people to do or say things they want. In my family we say “person with autism” and I will not disrespect my own family members who have autism by saying autistic just because outsiders think is more PG. Always follow your instincts or what your disabled family members ask you to do…but never listen to strangers who don’t know your family needs.

[@tericarter2019]

the windows to the soul are the eyes …both of each others eyes still have that special brightness I love the way you both look at each other. Don't marinate your beautiful spirits in negativity. you already know the difference out there. Roll On together👍👍

[@emmaharris5523]

I love you both so much. Thank you for always educating us. I admire you and always look forward to your videos. I’m 77 and love learning from you

[@sandraleon6248]

You both handled that incident with maturity he didn't have.❤

[@bevl7989]

Glad you guys stand up for your rights, Cole you have lyrics…BLESSINGS 🙏

[@denaedeshields2542]

Sorry you went through this Cole, you’re respectful and mature and I applaud how you handled yourselves, Cole and Charisma!! Better than I would have in the moment! People need to do better, and think before uttering hurtful comments.

[@michelleb6363]

I’m glad you decided to say something this time. And I love the way you responded, I truly do hope what you said put an impression on those kids as far as knowing that that is not the way to treat someone.

[@yaphehhairskin-shiphrah4498]

Well you really can’t tell people nothing, just bcuz they aren’t happy they have to find someone else to make miserable, we all are disabled in our own way from wearing glasses, some people can’t be in the sun to long, some people have allergies, you don’t have to be in a wheelchair to be disabled. So what you do is go on and live your life and do you and keep yourself happy. Just keep Rolling On 💃🏽💪🏾❤️❤️❤️❤️

[@LMason-qd7sq]

What's even crazier to me is that this was an adult with (presumably) a wife and kids. You both handled that with so much more than anything that a...violent interaction would've caused. I really think that was much more impressionable and impactful to his (presumably) wife and kids. Round of applause for standing up and talking about this on your channel.

[@denisewilliams7018]

Proud of y’all how you handled the unfortunate situation. I too feel sorry for the children living in that environment. On a positive note…..I’m loving your living room. I think this is a great place for your vlogs. As you say at the end of vlog “Stay positive”. Hugs from Texas 🤠

[@faithvansanden82]

So pleased that you spoke out , I have a special needs granddaughter and when she was first diagnosed people were so nasty, but things have improved over the years she is 14 years old but still get the stares. Love watching you both ❤