I got tricked into sleeping with someone

[@RobertAlberti]

Obviously the problem here is that you keep dating people who look just like your friends if they wore fake mustaches. There's a lot to unpack in that.

[@LOVEAapjes]

😂

[@Emppu_T.]

Casual hookups no good?

[@michaelzona9880]

I have noticed that a lot of your love interests look like Anna with a backwards baseball hat and mustache. On the positive side , money not spent on extra cast members can be used for wardrobe.

[@wr1120]

@@Emppu_T. If you swim with the sharks, make sure you have the appetite of a whale.

[@shikharjha3192]

🤣🤣🤣

[@AskWhyMoreOften]

Trying to safely extricate yourself from a situation that has suddenly become very unsafe and having to find a way that doesn't escalate the situation is unfortunately something that far too many of us relate to. Thank you for sharing your story.

[@mojojojoe100]

So unsafe

[@lachainone]

Also for men

[@Milena-ss6jh]

@@lachainone yeah, cause men usually get physically harassed by the people they are dating *irony off*

[@VictorTheLegend]

technically the situation didn't get any unsafe, it was just dangerous from the start

[@mojojojoe100]

If someone is a bit unusual it doesn't make the dangerous ffs you bunch of snowflakes

[@PaulaReverbel]

Out of all the creepiness, this sentence stands out: "I would've told you sooner, but I needed to make sure we fell in love". This guy sees your decisions and feelings as something to be intentionally manipulated rather than respected. You're not a person in his eyes, but a glorified prop to satisfy his emotional needs and desires. Dating someone like that would be hell on earth. I'm sorry you went through this.

[@brunoverasferreira6263]

I see this all the time. Men usually manipulate to get what they want. That's the one time I agree with women. (Yes, you're terrible)

[@DreamsMeet]

Love this comment. You're awesome. You're so well spoken. Would love to work with you on a future project I'm looking for well spoken speakers to help me create some content/customer service/type from home opportunities. near future though, not now :) I'll message you in the future. Have a good day.

[@DreamsMeet]

and i think you'd like representing it because it is in alignment with 1 of your securities/observations from your 2nd sentence. "Manipulated rather than respected." and 2nd, im confident to make it viral once we do it. anyways i wanna stop talking about it and get back to work on other things that will lead up to the day ill message ya again, but then ill be hiring and paying haha so it'll be more beneficial for you to pay money for your time x_X peaceeee.

[@michaelrmurphy2734]

Moving to CA from somewhere else to find her is a BIG red flag.

[@michaelrmurphy2734]

@@DreamsMeet Creepy #2...

[@blingkong5036]

Thanks for spoiling season 5 of 'You' for me.

[@ktoo303]

😭😭😭😭😭😭

[@Doofwarrior88]

You were literally in the middle of a real life romantic comedy. As we all have known all these years romantic comedies are actually creepy fantasies

[@ryanpetheram6943]

Damn I never thought about that hella true.. no wonder our love programming is fked lol

[@Radb707]

Yeah but....in his case it worked. He saw her in a movie, did all this stuff to get close to her, to get her to notice him, and then he slept with her. I've never like seen an actress in a movie, fly out to a convention she's at, and then somehow get her to even hang out with me. I could never swing that. That's bonkers. This dude MANIFESTED. He also delusional as hell

[@jimx45]

I knew it but I didn't want her to know so she will stay easy to manipulate so she could run back to the films and watch another ROMCOM and be brainwashed by it next time this happens to her. Yeah I thought it was creepy when Edward Cullen just broke into Belle's room and was just glaring at her intensely. And we all know about Romeo breaking into Juliet's room at night while she was in her gown.

[@HighPhoenix1754]

Yo. Anna, I'm gonna be real with you, that title did NOT prepare me for what went down in this vid. Oof. I uh, really hope you're doing better after this. Be cool. Stay awesome.

[@michaelrmurphy2734]

Gotham...!

[@madhatten00]

yeah, i thought she got tricked like they got wasted and had some kind of one night stand that she didnt really want to but she committed to but naw; he went Borat + keyser soze

[@ireallyreallyhategoogle]

That's because the title is inaccurate.

[@joshsolomon4825]

@@madhatten00 Ye same

[@mr.someone5679]

@@ireallyreallyhategoogle exactly

[@jayshelton86]

That's not your fault. He was a stalker that went to terrifying lengths just to get at you. I knew it would be crazy but I had no idea how crazy. I'm sorry that happen to you and be safe.

[@dmp762]

This is why hookups and flings are a bad idea. You never know what they could be hiding from you.

[@childofk4993]

Come on. This is hardly stalking.

[@cinemathequerouge317]

@@childofk4993 Right. Not stalking. This some CIA level activity.

[@superbrian7997]

Pfft… If he had just toned it down a notch this would be the plot to a romantic comedy, lol.

[@RannonSi]

@@childofk4993 Actually, this sounds very much like stalking!

[@saratulloch6663]

None of this is your fault and you’re not dumb. That’s a level 10 creep, definitely get a restraining order. I hope you feel better soon ❤️

[@themike7d]

No she is not dumb, but she damn sure was not tricked. She willingly slept with him. She just didn't know he was a fkn weirdo.

[@themike7d]

@@drp1bb856 technically you're right. She indeed can be a bit more accountable for her own actions. But that dude is a fkn lunatic.

[@NigatsuNeko]

@@drp1bb856 Yes that is a lunatic and if you don't see it then it's likely because you're a creep too

[@versatilefaerie]

@@drp1bb856 She did decide to sleep with him, but that's it. She even said the guy has moved to LA and is contuning to bother her, he is stalking her and you are trying to say it is her fault? Wow, talk about victim blaming.

[@ArthurPMotta]

@@drp1bb856 Let me get this right: since you wouldn't sleep with a stranger right after a breakup, everyone who does is displaying "degenerate behavior", but somehow sleeping with that person knowing it is a one-night stand is not "doing anything wrong"? And if the guy lies by saying he was fine with a one-night stand when in fact he was actually looking for romance and had manipulated a whole situation in order to get close to her during a time he knew she was vulnerable so he could get into her pants and make her fall in love with him, after she explicitly said she wasn't looking for romance, that's cool and 100% honest? If that's not what you're saying, you really should work on your communication skills, because it sounds a lot like that's what you're saying.

[@bensonabernathy4664]

2:03 Me: "You were in Ant-Man?!" Then I proceed to look this up, and behold Anna was a write r(according to Google) for Ant-Man.

[@Truthseeker77-up2ks]

The guy must of used chatgpt for his lines.

[@PlutozReal]

She wasn't a writer in Ant Man. She played a character referred to as "this crazy writer chick". She didn't have any speaking lines but had a solid 30 seconds of screen time. kzbin.info/www/bejne/gXjZoKOuoK92gposi=jiOh79DzLs-MsMg7

[@absurdwordslearns]

This is terrifying on so many levels and I'm so sorry this happened to you, because like wow, this is genuinely our of a horror movie and deeply traumatizing. On a lighter note, I've also been watching all your videos but it's because I just found your channel yesterday and love it, keep up the great work and I hope you continue to heal

[@tedmccarron]

Omg so what?! "The game" says that in order for girls to be attracted to guys the guys have to pretend to not want them or not even care about them. Here you have a guy who went out of his way to try to meet her and instead of being grateful and flattered she's pissed off because he didn't play according to the rules of "the game." She needs to knock off that "no woman wants a man who would have them" mentality.

[@liquidweird6055]

​@@tedmccarronYikes.... this is an abhorrent perspective

[@tedmccarron]

@@liquidweird6055 her perspective is definitely abhorrent!

[@Chris-gq8ev]

If he was obsessed with you he should have known the "I only ever date Asian women" wouldn't fly.

[@jclyntoledo]

True pretty sure she has at least 2 videos on how creepy asian fetishes are aka yellow fever.

[@dewdew80]

he would've had to actually listen to the videos instead of just staring at the paused screen unblinking

[@EmBotBeepBeep]

​@@jclyntoledo The thing is... he probably remembered those videos and realized she might realize sooner or later that all of his exes are Asian and tried to "but I'm not like those other guys" in the worst possible way.

[@MaviRB]

Exactly! He should have said "I'm a racist" at least that way Anna would know that he's honest

[@hughgreentree]

Only dating Asian women…ugh. That kind of fetish is racist. Because of pressure from my Jewish mother, I tried to date only Jewish women…who tended to be petite and brunette. My wife is half Japanese…and is now 100% Jewish (after converting…and she is a better Jew than I will ever be). My mother loved her…absolutely adored her.

[@MagisterialVoyager]

I have had some sort of variations of people stalking me or being creepy with me so I feel you on this. That was... something else and I'm sorry you experience that, Anna, oof. Regardless, thank you so much for sharing, I hope things are going okay with this, well, stalker. 'Sending you a virtual hug!!! I'm going to go and listen to your music now because they *slap*! ❤️

[@smartass0124]

D😉ck pics are alsome

[@michaelrmurphy2734]

Scary! She does not deserve this. No woman does, actually.

[@yyyd6559]

Ur not that beautiful and no one is stalking you

[@Myslexia]

I had a man try to get me to sleep with him by saying that even though I'm not 100% Japanese, I was still Asian enough that he could cross it off his "list of women of different races/ethnicities" that he wanted to sleep with. "Naturally, I was flattered and now we've been married over 8 years!" said no woman ever.

[@Sophieslazy]

My face is literally like this right now : =O and the mouth isn't big enough here to stress the "what the..?!?!" feeling I had reading you up there. Jeeeeez.

[@michaelrmurphy2734]

Hunh? This is not someone you know now, is it?

[@sayge2009]

When you think you already heard the dumbest thing a guy can say to a woman.....

[@seoulesskorean7311]

"still Asian enough" Wowwwwww

[@Myslexia]

@@michaelrmurphy2734 Believe it or not, he and I used to be friends. We don't talk anymore, though. He kept making comments like that and playing them off as jokes when I'd respond negatively and eventually I stopped talking to him.

[@yyyd6559]

I like how the whole comment section acts like the guy's a serial killer

[@gpgpgpgp1000]

I know right! How does "This man took advantage of me sluttily offering myself" turn into "This man wants to kill me?"

[@korosuke1788]

Only the most voted. If you sort by new, there's a ton of guys laughing at how silly the whole situation is. She wanted to sleep with a coworker, and she did. End of story.

[@JJTWrites]

Women have 0 accountability

[@Truthseeker77-up2ks]

The guy was fine until he fumbled and gave her the ick.

[@turkeypedal]

No, but he's a stalker who used emotional manipulation to take advantage of a naive woman. If you have a heart, you should understand why that's bad. Because it is bad.

[@theodoredavidmooney5703]

The "I had to make sure we fell in love first" line that kept coming up is definitely out there.,..

[@adriangutierrezguzman7097]

That's horrifying 🙃. Thanks for sharing your story. You will inspire more individuals to come to terms with their own experiences.

[@drp1bb856]

What?! She slept with guy on her own. She wasn’t tricked.

[@drp1bb856]

What’s horrifying? That she voluntarily slept with someone who put himself in a position to meet her because he found her attractive? Maybe she needs to make better life choices.

[@naninuna7440]

@@drp1bb856 ok victim blamer.

[@supremeoverlorde2109]

@@drp1bb856 I find it disturbing that people keep downplaying this. He manipulated her into sex and emotional intimacy by withholding information he knew would come off as creepy and by telling her he was okay with a short-term fling when he wasn't. That's not okay. It's creepy and trashy behavior. It doesn't matter if she chose to sleep with him or not. She communicated and made her intentions clear. He lied for his own personal gain. Let's not blame the victim here.

[@XYZ-bi9eb]

@@supremeoverlorde2109 Anna is not a victim. she was attracted to this guy and decided to enjoy casual sex with him. at first they agreed to only have a casual sex fling; however he did not keep his end of the bargain, and we must fault him for that. obviously the guy was emotionally immature, probably younger than Anna, and does not know how to behave around women. let's hope he learned his lesson to leave a woman alone when she does not his company.

[@andreeahecate]

Hope you’re ok Anna. That sounds incredibly scary and traumatic. I admire and appreciate everything you do, I don’t know how I would handle such a situation. Wishing you all the best, you awesome human!!!

[@bottle1211]

what a simp haha

[@superbrian7997]

Really… I came. I saw. I conquered. Is precisely what this dude she let get between her legs did with her multiple times over. I certainly don’t have the chutzpah, obsession and tenacity to go that hard for anyone that I’m infatuated with but he sure did and succeeded too. So on some level I have to give him his flowers while he’s alive on this one.

[@andreeahecate]

@@superbrian7997 as long as you appreciate an obsessed fuckboy.

[@annatati]

It’s the way that the creepy man is going to see this. I wonder if he’ll take the hint finally

[@xEternalSoul]

I'm just scared he'll get angry and aggressive... it's not uncommon for creeps who get called out to double/triple down and get more and more desperate to "prove their love". hopefully shes only sharing this WELLLL after the fact and the guy has stopped a long time ago already so that wont happen

[@MegaKhelditia]

Or he'll change his tactics to "try and win her back," when she never fell for him in the first place. Even if he tried this with an actual ex-GF, he'd need to stop after the first, "No," and not caring to do that will keep him wreathed in red flags. I hope her friends and friendly neighborhood grocers/servers know the face of her Stalker and can shore up defenses. I know I want to, for her and myself and my friends who have been through similar enough.

[@AbbyTayu]

did Anna offer hints? I thought her strategy was to "get out alive" by feigning interest as hard as possible.

[@bifurioussiren]

@@AbbyTayu yeah, when he first confessed that he was a stalker. in that moment she has to pretend she's not upset because she's worried he might kill her. Once she's out of that situation alive she can tell him the truth: that she doesn't want to be with him, get a restraining order, tell the world the story here, and hopefully move on. We have fight, flight, freeze, or friend. I have had to use the friend one myself to get away from someone sexually assaulting me. Who then immediately lied about it when I told someone. Who then laughed at us and talked about us being bf/gf. you do what you have to, to survive.

[@AbbyTayu]

Yes, I agree you should either go full deception or full honesty. I think hinting is a bad idea, which is why I'm skeptical that Anna offered hints. If you are alone with your predator and think he may be aggressive, offering hints of your disinterest may trigger him. If you later decide to reveal the truth from the safety of your home, it's best to be as direct as possible; giving hints may make him think there is still room for you to change your mind. Sorry to hear about your story. It sounds like a scary experience. I was surprised by the behavior of the "someone" you told. Was this a friend? An adult? I expect most people would treat an earnest report of sexual assault seriously. We do need to think critically about why a person might respond that way though. Perhaps they also felt intimidated by the predator and took his side to maximize their own safety. Or perhaps the "someone" was a child or someone who didn't know how to handle the situation, so they pretended it wasn't real, as an easy way out. Sorry if this wasn't a discussion you were looking for, and sorry if it looks like I'm making excuses for everyone besides you. I offer these discussions because I think it's valuable to consider why people don't react the way we want them to, so that we are less surprised when it happens and so that we can think of other strategies to get what we want.

[@Cluless02]

OMG that is too creepy, this dude needs to be tagged. She deserves better, hell of a lot better.

[@tedmccarron]

No she doesn't, she should be flattered that he liked her enough to go to those lengths to try to meet her.

[@Truthseeker77-up2ks]

She was just attracted to the image of him and not the actual guy. After he fumbled by treating her like a therapist, and then followed that with sharing every detail about his weird and unhinged behavior, it killed the attraction and gave her the ick.

[@AmericPet]

As a person who has gone through something similar enough to understand that gut wrenching fearful feeling, scrambling, and a heartrate that is pumping through your ears while you try to keep your face from showing it. I wanted to say, you deserve to be proud of yourself for getting out of and handling that situation in the best way you could, no matter what it looks like now. You did a good job. All of the emotions that crop up in you are entirely valid. Your life is your own, no matter how many people want it to be otherwise, it will always be yours. As an aside. Eventually there will be people who you will be able to trust one day. I'm sorry if they haven't come around yet. These are some gentle words to help if you want them.

[@lunabear3060]

So like… I know this was meant to be a humorous way to deal with this story… But I still feel like this was a really vulnerable thing to share despite the laughs about it. Thanks for that. 🖤

[@Michael_Arguello]

Super vulnerable. And also that stalker can read all these comments and find himself both validated and also as something scary. Hopefully these comments, along with therapy, can help him.

[@Liayso]

In a better world, the director of the film would have found that guy wanting to work for free in another country suspicious and you know, not hire him. I'm sorry this happened to you. Stay safe everyone!

[@michaelrmurphy2734]

Yeah, why did the director not clue in that something was up?

[@summahthevegan3796]

@@michaelrmurphy2734 bc they only cares about free labour and not about the risks to people on set

[@ZechsMerquise73]

@@summahthevegan3796 They were probably flattered and smooth-talked by a psychopath, is my guess. I doubt all or most directors want free labor. A lot of them are Marxists.

[@GothicPotato2]

Realistically there are plenty of people willing to work for free to bolster a resume, and plenty of companies willing to take advantage of this labor availability.

[@royalboyrizzy]

Yeah a better world for all you rich females huh? 😂

[@rubinne1581]

Anna what the actual f~ck is wrong with people. I've watched your videos for years and years, mostly for the bite-sized therapy advice that I am in deep need of, and also the sketches which I LOVE. Never commented, don't know if you read them or not but girl. GURL. What in the name of sweet baby kittens is the matter with people. I am in awe. And do you know what the WORST thing is? This is what we grew up with, what the rom-coms taught us. Before YOU there hadn't really been a huge open discourse about how damaging it all was, and not only for the women with the ~unrealistic~ (read abusive and dangerous) expectations, but for the men too. Um. A farm sounds pretty idyllic right now. I'm sure you have thought of all possible ways to deal with this creep and there really isn't much that can be done. I sincerely hope you will be OK. Maybe it's time for a dog?

[@budrome4247]

A BIG dog. Bernese are intimidatingly large, but super chill.

[@Michael_Arguello]

Great comment. And as far as the romanticism. I’m not singling out Disney, but I will use them as an example of how we grew up with this. Aladdin stalked Jasmine. Ariel stalked Eric. And they had happy endings. We saw it from the stalkers POV and no one was complaining or terrified then.

[@michaelrmurphy2734]

Did you not see the dog in the bed? Where is Congress The Brave?! A farm? I'm on three acres up the country. Will that do?!

[@rust719]

This is weird. I had the exact same thought as you. Confusion

[@namehere5675]

Yeah, sadly a lot of media has given us a warped view of what is romantic. There are a lot of "romantic" movies that are extremely unrealistic, and would be extremely creepy if they happened in real life. As a guy, I know that those movies have affected my way of thinking. The whole, pursue a woman and perform antics to get her attention thing is in my head. Thankfully, it isn't really acted upon, but the influence is there. I don't really know how to go about romancing someone that I'm interested in. I wasn't really taught about it, so I just do the best that I can. I try to be cognizant of a woman's potential concerns. Meeting in public, trying to leave a safe path out, and keeping the lines of communication open. Until I started watching videos like this and learned other things women deal with I was quite ignorant. The thought of harming a woman for rejecting me is one of the last things on my mind. I'm more likely to withdraw and heal than do anything to someone. That said, I also can see how someone as obsessed as the guy mentioned here could be dangerous. I am aware of how that mindset can come about, and that such people can be extremely dangerous. I hope that Anna, and other ladies in similar situations stay safe. I am grateful to Anna and other ladies for sharing their experiences. It is really informative. We need more open conversations about these and other relationship adjacent subjects. Many people have largely been left with media being their only teacher when it comes to romance. Which really doesn't work.

[@carlruppert7324]

Despite the obviously sickening creepiness of this whole ordeal, I will say ONE thing in the stalker's defense: at least he came clean. This isn't a fact that we should dismiss lightly, because, well, you have to admit that he didn't HAVE to come clean, if he didn't want to. Anna didn't suspect any foulplay until his confession, so he could easily have kept the lie going for as long as he wanted. But I believe his conscience got the better of him (yes, really) and he decided to tell Anna the truth, which in my opinion was actually the right thing to do. It's also very clear that he developed genuine feelings for Anna, and started to take the relationship more seriously as time went by. It's just such a shame that he couldn't be honest with her upfront, from the very beginning. If he just told her from the start that he in fact knew her, and that he was a fan, then things would probably have turned out fine. But obviously he was too insecure to tell her that, and probably feared that it would make her reject him.

[@AndreaGiuliari]

I think you're wrong, he came clean about how he met her because he thought that Anna was so much in love with him that she wouldn't find it creepy but romantic, and accept this fact as a cute story of how their romance started. I agree that he could have continued to not tell her but that doesn't reeded him from the fact that he stalked her in order to enter her life unsuspected.

[@Truthseeker77-up2ks]

Him treating her like a therapist is definitely wild, especially to then follow that by telling her every detail about his weird behavior he had for years.

[@stonergamer420]

I don't see how she got tricked here. She thought he was cute, they started flirting, dating and then they slept together. Everything after that is super creepy tho ngl.

[@Gillsing]

I didn't get it either. She wanted sex and that's what she got. But then she got more than she bargained for. If she had known he wasn't a casual and safe choice she wouldn't have slept with him in the first place. Thus she was tricked. I guess? I still think "Guy tried to trick me into a relationship" would've been a more accurate title. And more entertaining.

[@victoriajenkins1424]

You don’t think that offering to work for free and fly to a different country just to work at the same place as your celebrity crush isn’t creepy? Well, congrats, because you thinking that way is ALSO CREEPY!

[@stonergamer420]

@@victoriajenkins1424 well congrats cause it seems like you can't read

[@Truthseeker77-up2ks]

The guy fumbled hard and gave her the ick.

[@noornasri5753]

I agree that tricked is probably the wrong word, but it is a scary experience because she was pretty much stalked. She was probably tricked in that he lied about not knowing her when he had a huge crush on her, and he also 'tricked' her by hiding how creepy he is. But this is what 'I don't want anything emotional, I just want physical' means - you don't get to know a person enough before getting physical. Of course everyone hides their negative qualities!

[@darkanddolly16]

What a story. I mean, I was envisioning a very different direction. I was expecting like "oh he made it seem like he wanted more." But damn, this was a movie plot.

[@thehungrycatherpilla6427]

Literally the start of a horror film.. 😬😰😰

[@michaelrmurphy2734]

@@thehungrycatherpilla6427 Starring Anna Akana!

[@N3dita]

Yeah I was surprised too! Cause it was actually the other way around!

[@15.johnsonangel]

The creepiest part is the "needed to make sure we fell in love" before he told you he was there to meet you. That's so manipulative and makes me cringe... wtf. I'm glad you're alive Queen 💖🙌🏿

[@NickNotas]

This is really creepy, thanks for sharing. We hear so many stories (from men and women) like this. Especially in online dating, pretending to be cool with being casual all the while thinking, "Once we were intimate, they are surely gonna fall for me.” It’s so prevalent and breeds a ton of mistrust between partners.

[@bobbobson6290]

That order is f**ked up. Normally the intimate part comes after the gonna fall for me part, or I'm just old...

[@codyfernfan6274]

Some of these men end up killing the woman 🤷‍♀️

[@DrBeardface23]

You weren't tricked into sleeping with someone. You slept with someone, entirely on your own terms, then realised they were a stalker.

[@estebanslavidastic4382]

always a victim ya? hahaha no accountability

[@ghoot]

@@estebanslavidastic4382people who say this are usually the ones who always blame others 🥱

[@Katriella.]

That's called being tricked? The terms she was setting was already compromised before she even knew Like, one consents to intercourse because baseline they don't think the other is a stalker That consent would never be given. Consent is when both parties know the full terms they're agreeing to When the other reveals secrets that would have swayed the initial permission, that's worse than just trickery.

[@DrBeardface23]

@@Katriella. That's like saying "I was tricked into sleeping with someone. I gave consent then found out later they were right wing/a cat person etc" The person was a complete creep but she wasn't tricked imo. It wasn't like he pretended to be another person and faked a life to make her fall for him. He was himself then honest about his inappropriate and completely creepy behaviour.

[@peytonrowlands5858]

​@@DrBeardface23he literally did tho? He pretended to be a normal waged staff member who happened to run into her, a woman he had never met. In reality he was someone there, volunteering to work for free, for the express purpose of hunting a woman he had an obsession for and had tracked down every publicly available detail about. Almost everything she "knew" about him was a lie from beginning to end. The person she was sleeping with was a completely different person from who she thought she was sleeping with.

[@LanceTobey]

You weren't tricked. You were attracted to him, you flirted, he flirted back, one thing led to another and you ended up in bed together. Now, the fact that he was an obsessive stalker is certainly good justification for being creeped out by him once you found out, but you weren't tricked.

[@zemoxian]

He lied to her about his intentions. That’s what she was tricked about. If he had been honest and upfront about his intentions, she would not have been in bed with him. He’s a one man Truman Show level of deception. I’m not sure how you missed that detail.

[@linstein5903]

@@zemoxian She stated her situation, and he stated his. Incompatible, they broke it off. In terms of men dating women, deception and illusion exists, even in terms of creating initial impressions.

[@stephenkolostyak4087]

​@@zemoxian "He lied to her about his intentions. That’s what she was tricked about. [...] I'm not sure how you missed that detail." I'm on the fence about this because she mentioned emotionally connecting which isn't what you do when being purely physical with someone.

[@zemoxian]

@@linstein5903 You do realize that it’s experiences like these that make women feel safer with bears than men, right?

[@linstein5903]

@@zemoxian experiences can be traumatic but comparing us to bears is a little derogatory.

[@technicalsupport-eo1ck]

I'm so sorry, stalkers are terrifying, and such a drain on your energy. I hope he switches his obsession to a picture in an art gallery so he can spend the rest of his life looking at it and leaving everyone else alone. It sounds like you handled it as well as anyone could. Best wishes.

[@michaelrmurphy2734]

Except people like me who go to art galleries...!

[@Michael31358]

I saw something a while ago that said, "A man knows a women much longer than she's known him", which I get. A lot of us will run across a woman, check out their social media, even ask about them if they have people in common (friends, coworkers, family friends, etc.), and do this for a little while before we decide whether or not to pursue them. Depending on how a man (or woman) goes about this, it's kinda(?) normal and gives you the opportunity to see if it's a good idea - or its obsessive and kinda stalker-ish But THIS? THIS RIGHT HERE??? This is something else entirely. That man needs HELP

[@manart6506]

I still can’t tell if he is a creep… or he is but until we get to some details of the story. Not for actively acting to make a relationship happen, that’s is just living and not letting only chance handle all your life.

[@Michael_Arguello]

Creepy or not is in the eye of the beholder, and she was creeped out. It’s a form of obsession and it’s unhealthy and he indeed needs help.

[@MatthewCoast]

Women often do the same thing with guys, it's not gender specific.

[@michaelrmurphy2734]

Right. And Anna needs protection.

[@benjamindonahue9434]

I get what you're saying but I think that's because it is typically seen as on the man to make the first move. Sure women can but the ratio of will/won't/need is ver disproportionate

[@juliogomez2534]

Holy cow!! I've had friends go through similar situations and boy was it terrible. It's insane what some people are willing to do when obsession becomes their normal.

[@DanishCamp]

Then don't have sex with that kind of men. Problem solved.

[@tony4996]

Tbh for being a stalker & creep, he definitely seemed hyper aware on social cues, & able to do a good strategy to get you two to hook up. Especially since he caught up on the hat gesture. You probably were also in a vulnerable position, & he was aware of this, maybe using it as a point to pivot.

[@MrShiggitty]

This is why the 3-4 date rule USED to be a thing. By the 3rd or 4th date they'll probably expose themselves as a psycho. If you meet in 2 hours and then end up in bed, yeah that's a horror movie script.

[@andrewrivera190]

I am also a believer in that rule. Although, always be perceptive. They may not expose themselves that early. I have known people who have dated creeps for well over a year before they finally saw them for what they really werez

[@katakara308]

This sounds like "You" irl, terrifying. Hope you're doing okay Anna

[@dreamcometruesubliminals3974]

Okay! How do people have the time and money to stalk a person across different countries? This is just next level creepyyyy 😵

[@merrimankaylynn]

Im so sorry someone did that to you

[@ratrobber15]

I remember that you mentioned this experience in one of your old posts on Facebook. The reason I remember this is because it was CREEPY AF. I don’t blame you at all when you lied that it was cool just to get out of the situation. I watched some psychology videos before where they analyzed the situation of ‘fight or flight’ and women are often blamed for not fighting the rapist/attacker. What most don’t understand is that most women have instincts to ‘flight or deceive’ which the latter ensures the victim to slither out of the dangerous situation by acting positively or accepting to the attacker. I’ve personally done this before when I was suddenly on the bed with the guy straddling me from behind, I thought he was so kind to offer me a place to sleep on the couch surfing app after my hostel cancelled on me last minute. I had to pretend it was funny and that I didn’t see it as a vulnerable position to be in (acting innocent and harmless) so that I could secretly start looking for help in th middle of the night and leave first thing in the morning.

[@rekt3651]

Thank you for sharing this. You're inspiring. We love you Ana! Plz stay safeee

[@divinity5482]

that is truly terrifying. I hope you're okay and stay safe x wishing you all the best

[@iamjacksselfloathing4857]

"I had to make sure we fell in love first!" - Line spoken by every creepy stalker...ever! Stay awesome Anna, and maybe update your home security system cause damn that's creepy!

[@superbrian7997]

Let’s get one thing straight. Stalking is harassment. Is people watching, stalking? Is simply pursuing what you want out of life, stalking? The way she told this story, she was the one pursuing him for bedroom fun, not the other way around.

[@iamjacksselfloathing4857]

@@superbrian7997 Ok Shep...let's really get one thing straight. If a person saw you in public, researched online who you are and where you work, flew to a foreign country and got a job at your workplace just to get close to you, then hid all that from you until they felt it was safe to confess because they needed you to "fall in love with them first"...THEN moved to your home town after you called it quits...that is stalking. All Anna did was meet a guy at a job who was PRETENDING to be a sane, decent guy. See the difference?

[@Truthseeker77-up2ks]

The guy was questionable from the beginning. At that point he just couldn't hold back and went completely unhinged, especially by thinking it was a good idea to treat her like his therapist and tell her all these things in full detail.

[@Truthseeker77-up2ks]

She took part in taking sexual advances with someone she did not truly know.

[@supremeoverlorde2109]

I don't understand how so many people on here either don't see the problem or are willfully missing the point. This is creepy af. I'd be terrified too.

[@marciamcdevitt964]

It’s creepy af how many people think it’s ok and she’s overreacting, EVEN AMONG HER OWN VIEWERS. Now imagine how many more people think like that, who wouldn’t be in the demographic to watch her videos in the first place. Downright terrifying.

[@manart6506]

I kinda get it but also don’t… Some people have to actively act to make things happen or things just won’t.

[@supremeoverlorde2109]

@@marciamcdevitt964 I agree 100%. What's really weird is I'm seeing a lot of comments where people are being like, "I don't see how she was tricked. She chose to sleep with him." And I'm like, do you people not know what "tricked" means? It's as if people think it's totally okay to manipulate and deceive others into intimacy as long as they're not actively forcing them.

[@brunoverasferreira6263]

@@supremeoverlorde2109 I'd agree if maybe 60% of the women I knew were not somehow manipulated and deceived into a relationship. I think that's just how the ball rolls. And I get it why it's wrong. I just think that's a bad thing that is normal.

[@supremeoverlorde2109]

@@brunoverasferreira6263 It shouldn't be how it rolls though. We should be fighting back against the normalization of that kind of thing. If we just throw our hands up and accept it without seeking accountability, there's no opportunity for change. That's like saying, "Oh, well I had to suffer, so you should have to suffer too." People should be allowed to demand to be treated better, and for other people to be treated better. And they SHOULD demand it. Also, the guy Anna is talking about was not just a manipulator. He was a stalker. And that's definitely not normal, nor should it be portrayed as such.

[@j4ASM]

U didn’t get tricked…U unknowingly smashed a stalker…big difference. 😂

[@turkeypedal]

Seriously, dude? She didn't know he was a stalker. Why would she have?

[@j4ASM]

@@turkeypedalThat’s why I said the word “unknowingly” 🤦🏽‍♂️

[@diegobencomo7132]

Lmao this is me right now watching all of Anna’s videos. However, I’m definitely never going to go out of my way to run into her.

[@Arthera0]

What is really scary is how casual this stalker is and totally knows what he is doing

[@turkeypedal]

Yeah. If it wasn't for him still clearly being obsessed with her, I'd be worried he's going out and doing this to other women. He must be pretty hot, and have good communication skills. There's not even any reason for him to do this method other than some sort of sociopathy.

[@spde]

The fact that you even shared this makes you the bravest person I have seen in a LONG time ❤️ You didn't deserve that but how on earth does one even recover from this? Time? FBI level screening from now on?

[@superbrian7997]

Recover from what? He didn’t have involuntary sex with her. This dude went after what he wants like he’s Bruce Wayne/Batman or something and honestly. It’s damn impressive!

[@Truthseeker77-up2ks]

Moral of the story don't make sexual advances with random people you don't know

[@chrislowe6926]

And yet this person would be cast as the hero of a typical romcom…..

[@MonPettitChou]

I'm so sorry that happened to you. Thank you for sharing.

[@shiva-qf6iv]

Anna - This is the one of the most highly produced warning shots at your stalker's feet I have ever seen. I know this is your professional life and you maintain a flow of content, and being visible in the online space is the name of the game with navigating the entertainment business, but please -- be careful out there! With hugs, a long term fan

[@erint5373]

This is so relatable and that makes me sad.. it is absolutely terrifying feeling to know that someone has no respect for you or your boundaries, and has deluded themselves into thinking that who they want you to be is who you are, and if they can just manipulate you into being close to them youll see it too.unfortunetly, wayyyy too familiar with that feeling-this needs to be talked about more so thank you

[@Emppu_T.]

Why one shouldn't hook up with whoever

[@MissJJoan]

Wow, celebrity stalkers actually exist, creepy! I had something similar happen to me once in a foreign country but not on this level. He called to ask me out, and at the time I made a lot of acquaintances in that country and I was sure he was probably someone who knew one of them but no, he saw me in passing on the street after I said goodbye to a classmate of mine that I was randomly assigned to do a homework assignment with, and that classmate gave him my number without my permission. He called asking me out and I thought he had a cute accent. He told me how he got my number after I asked him in the middle of the date. That’s when I realized my mistake and when he asked to take a picture with me, regrettably I did because I was freaking out and was trying not to show it, and then I just made an excuse to leave and went home, circling around the blocks a few times to make sure I wasn’t being followed. You’ve gotta be careful especially when you go abroad because you just never know. But wow, your thing must’ve been terrifying! Hope you feel better now that you’re home!

[@asdfghj13579fly]

Seems the classmate is more in the wrong. At least a heads up with some backstory on the guy would have been nice.

[@matfudge1143]

The difference between Creepy an Romantic is so subjective. If the person likes the other truly they would think this type of action was romantic, if not then it becomes creepy.

[@brandonwilcox3307]

This seems like one of those situations where it could either be a horror movie or a romantic comedy depending on perspective.

[@leslier302]

The title is misleading, you chose to sleep with this person. He just happened to also be a stalker.

[@Alresu]

Well, he gave false pretenses. And in a pretty clear and planned manner. I'd say that was manipulative and should count as tricking someone.

[@frigginresulrum]

The trick was manipulating events to appear organic and natural. It's like when a closeup magician asks you to "pick a card, any card", in reality, they've already chosen your card for you. It's a matter of making you pick the card without realizing it.

[@marcioa1811]

Thank you! I was looking for this comment! I agree the title is misleading. More like she was tricked in getting close to someone and choosing on her own to sleep with him rather than her being tricked just so he could sleep with her. Still, what that guy did was wrong.

[@Alresu]

@@marcioa1811 I am curious. What _would_ count as tricking someone then? Aside from litereally switching out the person.

[@cinemathequerouge317]

@@Alresu I can't say what Marcio means, but to actually "trick" someone to sleep with you would probably not be easy. The best I can think is if you're offered sex with Brad Pitt, but it turns out that it was a celebrity lookalike. Or if a man thought he was having sex with a woman, but it turned out to be a transgender.

[@naveerakhan9622]

This was scary af bruh 😳. The fact that you're brave and vulnerable enough to share this story with us knowing that this man watches your videos, girl please be safe 🙏 ❤️

[@hannahbanana6149]

Wow I'm so sorry this happened to you. It's actually kinda scary how intuitive and tactful he was in all of this. Stay safe out there y'all.

[@funnyfuckerfranco]

Okay but hear me out... What did he actually do other than decide he really liked her and that she would like him then turn out to be right?

[@lowlypeasant]

Yes, it is a horrible tragedy that she slept with a guy that was really into her.

[@amelie3012]

@@funnyfuckerfranco basically tracked her down based off her online persona...

[@IncendiarySolution]

@@funnyfuckerfranco he could have opened with 'hi, im a big fan, and i only took this job because i was hoping to get to know you' like, yeah, thats a problem.

[@yobeago]

@@funnyfuckerfranco he pushed himself into her professional life and built a relationship with her predicated on a lie, she says it very clearly

[@vaggs75]

I have practiced acting cringe on command, so that when moments like these come up, I know how to handle them. Like "let me take a walk" and then just leave.

[@chris92S]

Well that's absolutely terrifying.

[@moonrose100]

The fact that he's self aware is freaky, cause you only hear of the ones who are 100% convinced that you're already in a relationship with them. Like he knew it was creepy, and wrong, but he did it anyway. 🤢🤮

[@thisisdk7859]

It blows my mind that people that come to terms with stuff like have to decide to keep the behavior up until bad outcomes happen or get professional help. It's in their hand to act on it, baffling to think that's someone's experience. I've seen troubled people with personality disorders that do interviews for awareness and they aren't prisoners or anything, just formaly diagnosed and sharing information. Being in their shoes sounds scary to me because I'm nervous to admit my fear, or my weaknesses, or my limitations. I can't imagine an arsonist, or pedophile, or cleptomaniac signing up for an appointment and asking someone for help. *Bizarre!*

[@mydee1]

You’re totally right - he actually even knows it’s creepy and just keeps going

[@marshallfield2138]

doh that is creepy. Glad you are recovering. Stay safe.

[@EmissaryofWind]

Wow, this is more horrifying than I could have imagined!

[@richardcelaya7361]

Good god woman thats horrible.. i need a shower (like a crying game shower) after i just saw this . Ughhhh i felt this in my bones . 😩

[@Sukurin]

You say you want just want a physical thing and later blame him that he tricked you 😂😂

[@donc-m4900]

This is why guys don't talk. They end up saying dumb stuff...

[@Truthseeker77-up2ks]

and especially by thinking it was a good idea to treat her like a therapist and then tell her every detail about his weird behavior.

[@gigibritannia]

I already knew this happened to you because of the post you made in the first few months of quarantine. I thought it was scary then, but damn. Going into detail made it a whole lot creepier. Yikes😬😬.

[@teen0rz]

Do you have the post handy? I wanna see

[@gigibritannia]

@@teen0rz oh. Sorry. It was in 2020 and I didn't save it or anything. But it was posted in her fb page

[@willmoore8708]

"I'm not looking for something serious". Translation: Do you have ceiling tiles? I want to count them. LOL

[@outlet997]

That is horrifying. Like I thought people like that were only in hitchcock movies.

[@76tennboy]

😂 Telling a guy you only want something physical and expecting him to not be OK with it

[@Truthseeker77-up2ks]

I think the crazy part is catching feelings for them then going straight to trying to sleep with the guy even when she didn't really know him.

[@ZarliWin]

Ouch! That's scary. I had a friend who was almost tricked by a pickup artist. Luckily she noticed at the last minute

[@cupidsproblem3915]

The key to getting into bed with a woman Step 1: Wear a hat Step 2: Take off the hat Step 3: Profit

[@asumazilla]

Now we have the code.

[@saintroddy]

Note: Said hat cannot be a fedora or else your chances of success plummet exponentially

[@mitchellanderson3068]

I am one third of the way there. Now to take off the hat

[@DarkConstruction]

First and foremost this experience is totally creepy and totally wrong! But in general I don't think its that odd to plant yourself at a location to get in touch with someone you liked and seen. Aka, you seen someone at a bar so you go back the next weekend to see if you can get a chat if you missed them. However, it's the lengths this guy went to and the delusion of love that really makes it wrong. Yikes!

[@marcioa1811]

Thank you! I was looking for this comment! I agree, if you want to meet the person you need to put yourself where that person is/goes.

[@JB-kx9bx]

That's a little different, although I'd say thats something desperate guys would do.

[@lothos-tu4uh]

"...oh my god, that is so crazy...so crazy that i should be held responsible for my own actions..."

[@Truthseeker77-up2ks]

She wanted to sleep with him because she had saw a desirable image a strong handsome guy who turned out to be different than what was imagined.

[@FaiK1845]

That definitely creeped me out.! Mine was very similar. And do they all use "I would've have told you sooner, but I needed to make we fell in love" line? My exit didn't go has smoothy and turned violent. I still find myself looking for her over my shoulder. I am much more careful and slow about making any kind relationship. Understand how you feel and has taken me long time to feel it wasn't my fault. I'm glad you are safe. If you can get a restraining order.

[@traveler-a113]

Okay, this guy, totally needs a restraining order, cause wow, that’s insane

[@lolo-vh6xh]

A literal stalker

[@drp1bb856]

No. He put himself in a position to meet her. He didn’t attack her, she voluntarily slept with him. She wasn’t tricked. She’s trying to blame him for her desperate attempt to avoid real life.

[@omolisa3783]

@@drp1bb856 She WAS tricked though. He made it seem like a chance encounter, but it wasn't. He tracked her down beforehand. Had he opened with "hi, I'm a big fan, I'm actually working for free here in hopes of meeting you" she would not have slept with him. Plus, disregarding that she didn't want anything serious and admitting to only dating asian women are two more red flegs on top. You do not start relationships by stalking and then forcing yourself into someone's work life.

[@ligahuga333]

@@drp1bb856 wat? u serious?

[@DeePeeZee]

@@omolisa3783 ignore this guy. He clearly sees himself in this situation and has been trolling the comment section. It's almost like he's obsessed with Anna himself.

[@thomashester2]

Im so sorry that you went through that 🤦🏾‍♂️ You’re not dumb, you were open Nd honest They violated your trust and betrayed the boundary you set

[@morganpavelka4945]

I mean this is stalking. You could probably get a restraining order if you wanted to…

[@saraalbouji]

These kinds of people don't care about restraining orders

[@dewdew80]

sometimes the best bet is to lay low and hope they lose interest. A restraining order sometimes backfires on the ones it's needed for the most, the psychos who latch on even harder when you try and get away.

[@queencleopatra007]

@@saraalbouji she needs a restraining order and a gun. The restraining order will be good for legal purposes if she's ever in a position where she'd have to use the gun.

[@tremackin]

This would be a Rom Com in the 90's with the right soundtrack

[@MaxIronsThird]

That's like a guy saying he got tricked into sleeping with a girl bc she had good make up skills.

[@PixPMusic]

I was super proud to see you had made it from =3 to AntMan. So much progress. Sorry you picked up a stalker along the way

[@driekeijlders281]

Feels like the first thing men should learn: don't overfocus on a woman, before you're actually talking to her.

[@Emppu_T.]

Who approached the man

[@j.harvey3228]

Thank you for sharing but please get a restraining order against this person.

[@mrmostlyharmless]

It is funny but I know a happily married couple who have been together for decades and they have a similar story to this. Guy saw the woman from a distance, did everything he could to be around her, got noticed, and they have been happily together for a long time. The woman never saw it as creepy but awesome. I think this kind of behaviour was more common thirty years ago, but now, is seen as creepy due to the times we live in.

[@tanizaki]

You: I just want something physical. Him: Ok. You: How could you trick me into sex?

[@camerapunk4109]

This is the most terrifying situation I’ve ever heard. I’m just gonna stay off the grid for like . . . . EVER!!!

[@cinemathequerouge317]

No. Terrifying would have been if he never told her what he had done. The relationship might have blossomed and become something real.

[@jacobstone4real]

Damn Anna. I’m glad you’re safe and was able to get away.

[@akirataifu8470]

She said, "Build high walls and never let them down." 🤣🤣🤣

[@jimbojimbo6873]

Honestly going through that much work to get laid with the person you seen in a movie and it comes off Thats bloody impressive

[@jakemitchell3212]

Damn ana. That's a lot to take in and for you to literally just throw this out on the internet with your perfect humorous delivery. Hope you have all the support you need and thanks for existing. ❤️

[@SonofJones]

Holy crap. I've heard plenty of horror stories from women in my time (and some men too) but this is serious Play Misty for Me level stuff. Really glad you're safe and keep safe out there

[@victoriamoncayo2742]

As a young female, this message is good to hear from time to time. Thank you for sharing and I’m sorry you went through it.

[@CalculusDaddy]

Today on things that would be great in a romance novel, but criminal in real life:

[@ShotokanRed]

This guy was definitely a creep, and I'm truly glad to see you safe, but where is the trick exactly? I'm sorry, but this is the risk you take making yourself physically vulnerable with a stranger.

[@joeyc666]

Interesting, I thought she was saying "tricked" ironically but I can see your interpretation too!

[@Truthseeker77-up2ks]

She was "tricked" but also decided to make moves and sexual advances with a guy she didn't know.

[@turkeypedal]

He is a creep. He deliberately pretended not to be one. If she knew what he had done, she would not have had sex with him. This guy learns everything about her to try and be her perfect match to try and manipulate her into not only having sex but falling in love with her. And you guys keep asking "how did he trick her?"

[@jenniferbaldwin8204]

In all seriousness, stalking is no joke, but I am glad you can find humor in it and that you're safe.

[@TheUnhappyporky69]

you're not dumb, Anna, thank you for sharing. I can't imagine the fear you must've felt at that moment and we're all glad you got out of it alive.

[@salvation4all313]

She's not dumb you say? She had casual, non committed sex with a total stranger! Wake up! Actions like that always end badly!

[@beestarjay]

I was excited to see you in ant man because I was a long time follower, it is insane to me that he saw that brief cameo and decided to get on a plane and stalk you

[@Frankcirque]

Happy Birthday Anna!

[@Lbzovsky]

As messed up as this is,and it is. If a creep like that can sleep with a 9 there’s hope for all of us.

[@davidx.1504]

Joe from "you" is very talented to be able to work on a film set

[@theoavg]

I really didn’t get how she got tricked when she was the one who started and set the agenda for the entire thing. Is it a trick when a guy is confident enough to think he can sleep with someone and finds a way to meet with them? I think he is very lucky he dodged a bullet there but he shouldn’t have thought of having a serious relationship with someone that sleeps around out of insecurity in the first place. I am going to rewatch ant-man, It was a good movie.

[@Emppu_T.]

Spot on