I HATE My 4c Natural Hair!!! | Natural Hair Rant!

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[@ClearAbyss]

I feel this video hardcore. And worst of all, a lot of people will just be like "Oh just love your hair!" or "You just have to find the right product". Ummmmm that's what the heck I've been trying to do! A lot of people seem to like dismissing the fact that type 4, especially 4c can be super hard to deal with. When no other group of people on the planet has to go through the freaking olympics just to get a style that lasts more than 1 day, you can't help but get pissed off at times.

[@CamilliaYvette]

Thanks for understanding babes! I'm getting a little love in these comments lol. I feel like I've tried everything. It's not getting it.

[@hannahsutherland5518]

ClearAbyss girl I feel you ALL the way

[@cbreeze123]

Have you considered sister locs or dread locs? If I was in your shoes I would do it in a heart beat. The hardest part would be the installation (if you do sister locs) but once your locs are set its all good. No more wash n gos and failed twistouts, just wake up and start your day. Either way I hope you can come to peace with your hair, whichever method you chose. Good luck sis:-)

[@tigana]

I have 4c hair, the thickest, curliest, and I love it. Whenever I do my hair my mood is lifted SO much. Maybe you just haven't found the right routine yet. Your mindset may be stopping you!! Remember to moisturize, this will make your hair so much softer as well.

[@chocolate4queenrules]

ClearAbyss tbh I have ignored the rules. I do what works for me and keep my hair in twists and call it a day

[@barnesfam]

At least you can be open and honest about how you feel about your hair. A lot of people like to scream "self-hate" if you hate your hair, and that's not always the case. It's more about manageability. Managing coarse/kinky textures is challenging and time consuming. It takes a lot of muscle and patience.

[@CamilliaYvette]

I know. I hear that a lot. I don't hate myself or how my hair looks, when it comes out the way I want. It's all of the work and time that it takes. And then on top of that, the styles never come out the way I would like. Thanks for commenting babes!

[@ASMReating280]

Marianne Macharia stop telling her what to do you don't call shots

[@arbitrarylib]

Mj fan?

[@2damecuteUK]

There also a misconception that every person who has kinky coiled hair has thick coarse high density hair, one size fits all of 4c naturals and it not the case. The moment you have low density or thin hair all the information drys up on how to style and deal with natural hair.

[@drea6131]

@Marianne Macharia I wouldn't just tell someone that they can't do wash and go's because their hair is 4c. There are plenty of people who have 4c hair that achieve bomb looking wash an go's and their hair is thriving. 4c hair comes in different varieties too. So it depends on the person.

[@timri5244]

I respect your honesty!

[@CamilliaYvette]

Thanks boo!

[@GianyGeorgianAnthony]

"aint nothing go about a wash and go" lmao

[@CamilliaYvette]

#truth

[@MsJoshyy123]

Hahaahha

[@Kingofthenet2]

😂😂😂

[@Netjunkie18]

The only rules to natural hair are the ones you make up as you go. What works for me, won't work for you. Different natural beauties, different natural rules.

[@CamilliaYvette]

Love this!

[@kristinagreen9505]

Exactly!!!!!

[@elizabeth-7064]

The NHC is ridiculous. Instead of helping and guiding her through her frustration, you guys in the comments are tearing her down for being blatantly honest and real which most natural hair youtubers don't. They make it seem easy as if one try to complete a hairstyle will do. It is a struggle for people to be tolerant with their hair and get frustrated. Better believe that and not judge.

[@CamilliaYvette]

Girl! You would have thought I said something about them personally!! Oh well. I expected some people to not like the video. That's fine with me. But most of you got where I was coming from. Thanks girly!!

[@theconcealedmistress]

YvetteLuvsBeauty find a good hair dresser and get a relaxer. I have 4 c hair and I'll be damped if I wear this shit natural. and I have a tender scalp. keep relaxed hair moisturized, and maintained, it will be fine.

[@elizabeth-7064]

Yes​ deleting your comment because sadly I don't want people to see your slave mentality and get discouraged and fall into a bad mental state. I implore people to love their hair and not succumb to the outdated standards of beauty

[@jelicianorwood24]

Elizabeth Lizzy Amen sista!✊

[@NaturallyKoilyKuteness78]

Elizabeth Lizzy Yessss omg these folks are horrible!!!!!

[@Rooted_Locs]

Y'all struggling with 4c hair because y'all over here trying to make your 4c hair do things it wasn't designed to do! Moisturized the damn hair, leave it alone and let it do what it wants to do. The more time you spent manipulating and trying to make your hair do things it doesn't want to do, the more frustrated you'll be. I've been wearing my hair lose and undefined for a year. No protective styles here. No flat irons here. Just 4c realness. The first step to loving your 4c hair, is accepting your 4c hair. And this isn't directed at anyone, cause I've been there before..that's why I big chopped 3 times.

[@disneytoysr4fun975]

Cause loose 4c hair don't stay moisturized unless its in a twist out/braidout duh. You putting some shea butter on a combed out fro ain't gonna do nothing but leave you with a shrunk up and matted twa at the end of the day.

[@jmeezy2362]

Disney Toys R 4 Fun Exactly bruh.

[@Rooted_Locs]

Disney Toys R 4 Fun -----liquid, oil, cream. LOC method. I do this method twice a day...and I don't have matting, yes my hair will shrink but that's what's it's supposed to do. Don't knock it till you try it. I have 4c hair. When people see well maintained, and MOISTURIZED 4c hair they want to call it something else's (4a/4b). 4c hair is WORK, and if treated right, it's easy to manage....if you can't put in the time then go back to the creamy crack.

[@FreeSpirit1111]

I keep my hair twisted most of the time. I twist in a nice design and leave it alone. It's growing insane doing that. When I get ready for wash day I untwist my hair and rock a twist out for a couple of days. I love it.

[@naturalforme]

miniimufin 😂😂 big chopped three time lmao ME TOOOO

[@Jus_asha]

It's been a year and I still don't know what the hell to do. I appreciate your honesty. When I watch other natural You tubers and I'm like why God 😩😩😩😩😩

[@CamilliaYvette]

Lol! Thanks for feeling my pain!!

[@Jus_asha]

It's definitely a journey plus it's only hair 😘

[@pageant10]

YvetteLuvsBeauty 4c hair loves to be left alone. Twists, shea butter, and aloe juice are my hair bestfriends. You can be extremely creative with twists and updos. Also Marley hair pieces will save any hairstyle. Truly less is more, leave the heat and combs alone, you don't need them

[@divyathoughts5938]

Okalani Wilson. the best product to get curls back is Cantu comeback curl....at least that's my favorite.

[@Netjunkie18]

Bkoneandonly Honey, 11 years and I still hit road bumps on this journey but that's the beauty in our hair; it's strong, it's got history, it's not at all easily manipulated, and sometimes it's a downright pain in the ass. it's worth the work though. ✌🏽

[@Opinionatedchic]

See, some of these aggressive and overly opinionated comments are reasons why people are reluctant to join "the movement". Some of y'all sound like judgmental bullies and natural hair pushers! Sheesh! I just came across this vid and subbed because I feel your pain. I became natural unintentionally because I was wearing braids and other protective styles all the time while trying to decide what my next haircut/style would be. I looked up and realized I'm like 95% natural. I just wore it out for the first time today and it's slicked back in a bun. I went through all kinds of BS for literally hours last night trying to get this thick azz 4C hair slicked back! 😣 After noticing the new inches I have, I am starting to embrace my hair but the 4C struggle is still real and I can't say that I'll never relax again. Don't allow anyone to make you feel bad about feeling how YOU feel about YOUR hair. I look forward to following your journey.💞💞💞

[@CamilliaYvette]

Thanks so much for your support!!! I'm not sure what I said to make some people so angry but I was just venting. I will have to make a decision soon because life is waaay too short to stay stressed out over some hair. Good luck on your journey as well!

[@cryptoenthusiast4999]

U Miller What a kind comment.

[@jelicianorwood24]

U Miller Your right some of them on here are coming off like bullies. I am 4c and my hair frustrates me all the time. It stays not being moisturized but i still love my hair. Ive learned what it likes which is heat. A deep conditioner with steam. Steam for our 4c hair is perfect becuase it allows moisture in out stubburn hair and i love it.(( Also perms have a history of causing cancer and burning the scap)) Thats why i just prefer to press my natural hair out when i want to which is rare. But i love her honesty. Im always honest and blunt.

[@thatthingyouseeatthecorner5249]

U Miller Why try to slick back 4c hair? That's like trying to make an Afro out of 1a hair. (Idk what 1a hair is, but in guessing it's the straightest of the straight). It's doesn't and isn't meant to do that

[@everafter2611]

Yeah, when I went natural I just went to the salon all the time and got the hot oil treatment. It worked like a charm.

[@oclaa5089]

Thank you for being truthful...I am sick of the lies. My hair must be a 4z, ain't grown but 1inch in a year, ain't no gel working, getting headaches trying to wash my hair, don't even think about the detangling process. Thank God for wigs and crochet braids

[@CamilliaYvette]

Thank GOD for wigs lol!

[@mykaelawoodruff9186]

This video is a whole MOOD sis. Currently sitting in my bathroom crying from a failed overnight twist out 😭

[@ericadarby3186]

You sound like me. but i found out it wasn't my hair it was me. I was lazy and uneducated when it came to my hair. Now I'm still lazy but I have learned a lot. First thing I did tho was i killed the curl chart crap I thought I was 4c so i followed what 4c blogs said to do. That was a no no, follow you hair she will tell you what she likes or don't like and what she needs. if you don't know your hair porosity, find it out. MOISTURIZE YOUR HAIR TWICE A DAY! It makes a difference and its no such thing as no bad hair days.Also don't neglect your hair when you wear a weave. don't give up on it tho the fact that a bomb ass twist out is possible should motivate you.

[@CamilliaYvette]

I'm going to stick it out for now. I'm trying girl, I promise!!

[@Heykadi]

Erica Darby You honestly just gave me motivation to keep my natural hair Thank you ❤

[@creativespaceontheinternet4648]

Love Kadi your so welcome! Stay connected with me girl! Subscribe and follow my IG I'm starting a blog and I think you will love it!

[@creativespaceontheinternet4648]

YvetteLuvsBeauty I'll be looking for that natural hair video when you tell me how to get the perfect twist out!

[@lashondamitchell4345]

YvetteLuvsBeauty. thank you..I have been like this all weekend...I do not want to buy hair..I want to wear my hair only...This is a journey that I am making hard...I kinda wanna cut my hair off or go black to locs...my hair was so happy with locs...I missed my curls...now me & my curls are not getting a long...I am just gonna let it do what it wants for now...but we might be breaking up...when I came across this video..I was crying & laughing because it was like you were in my head..thank you for this..Stay strong Beautiful Woman

[@EvaLetitia]

I hate having to do my hair every morning, it's a whole other task🙄

[@CamilliaYvette]

Yes it is! Makes me mad sometimes!!

[@SherrhondasAse]

Queen Owono why are you calling people stupid? Brushing your hair into place and actually doing your hair every morning is not the same.

[@AS-cs9gi]

Queen Owono straight hair girls dont have to spend nearly as much time or work on their hair tf you talking about

[@maethomas297]

just keep moisturizing deep condtions and wash stay away from heat and you will be fine 4c hair is really sesitive hair so you have to becareful

[@drea6131]

@@maethomas297 That's what I don't get. People say 4c hair is the strongest hair, but it's so sensitive and prone to breakage. Which one is it?

[@goddesstara4949]

Maybe going back to relaxed hair is better for you. If you are feeling this unhappy and frustrated with your natural hair then maybe it's best for you to go back to relaxers. Girl it's not that serious. Do what makes you happy.

[@CamilliaYvette]

That's where I am with it. I don't have time to be all frustrated about it. Thanks for watching!!!

[@stellah2459]

Goddess Tara I did it ! I'm now relaxed and I enjoy wash days !

[@evbody3358]

Goddess Tara . agree. If it doesn't work for you, try something else.

[@sarahhenning2812]

Stella Hamilton what is ur regimen for ur relaxed hair and how did u make it grow?

[@stellah2459]

Jadya b hey, honestly I started also taking hair infinity & it's helped with growth. I also do a treatment on my hair every two weeks, keep it moisturized. Try not to use heat on your hair as much as you can, like air drying your hair after a wash.

[@ladyluck1873]

I hated my natural hair when I first started. It never did what I see girls do on KZbin. I think it takes a lot of time and energy. You have to commit to a lot of trail and error with so many different products. I feel you. I love it now tho, I usually deep condition and go about my business doing things around the house and whatnot. You have to do what's best for you. No judgement whatsoever.

[@ladyluck1873]

Here's your response, you earned it.

[@ladyluck1873]

Tebz Nkosi i'n nut goeng 2 iether. Gates a lyfi outsodi af KZbin. Is there no other Troll under your bridge to keep you company so you are not trying to force others to engage with you online?

[@CamilliaYvette]

Play nice ladies. And thanks for commenting girl! I have to figure out what I want to do because I'm tired of the frustration!

[@biglittlemason2]

Lady Luck 187, thanks for putting a more positive spin on it, because I'm almost waist length, and I get so tired of pony tails and buns. When I wear it down, it looks like a giant afro on my back...LOL. I am going to try some of the many tips I see on KZbin for our 4 C hair and see if it works. I love that it is healthy and all, but whew, it's a chore.

[@ladyluck1873]

tanya hamilton Have you tried curl formers, might help with your length? Look up flaxseed gel. You can make it at home and it's very inexpensive. Seriously couldn't deal with my hair for about 2 years after I went natural until I found these things. Don't give up, just try different things. Something or some method will come along and make it easier. Either way don't be hard on yourself it's just hair.

[@MustardSeedFaith-lp7zr]

I feel her pain and honestly this is how I feel about my hair. Natural vloggers make you believe all you need is some coconut oil and some good conditioner 😩 this is not true. It's time consuming and the anxiety is real.

[@CamilliaYvette]

Thanks for understanding. This is NOT easy. I did decide to big chop though and my hair does feel better!

[@madisonj.8712]

Natural Hair isnt for everyone lol. Everyone is saying just find your products. But dont nobody got time for that. Natural hair is time-consuming and hair is just hair. Wear it the way you want. yes being natural is nice but there is nothing wrong with creamy crack. It's whatever works for you. Not White Society or Black society,YOU.

[@Orthodox.777]

Then why are you borned with hair? Lmao. Everything started by natural things. So we are natural we can't say it's not for us

[@rose-gl4io]

@@Orthodox.777 not everyone likes natural hair. It's too much to handle and it never cooperates

[@user-sl2gj3pb4g]

when you go natural your main goal shouldn't be to have long hair. its should be to have healthy hair.

[@CamilliaYvette]

My goal is to have both. But neither seem to be working for me right now so I'm thinking about my next move.

[@sahra1021]

Everyone's main goal is to have long hair ..a big part of what most people co sider healthy is long because if your hair is healthy it is expected to grow so idk what tf your comment was for 🤣🤣🤣

[@nickimillennium]

I accepted that I don't like the look of 4C hair and I don't like the results that I get from straightening so I just keep my hair in box braids and call it a day. If more women would be honest with themselves, we wouldn't be so frustrated

[@Jamila.A.]

I feel like permanently straightening my hair or shaving it off

[@MsJoshyy123]

Loooool

[@ZalinaW]

It's your hair at its natural state. You don't have to do a lot to "natural" hair. Keeping it moist, keeping it clean and conditioned. That's all. Your frustration is due to you want your hair be like someone else's hair. "We" want a different texture than our own texture. It goes back to when "we" were told there is "good" hair and "bad" hair. If your hair is kinky, then it's "bad" hair because it's not straight or curly. If you can't accept that you have a head of kinky, thick hair that is not intended to be straight nor curly then you will always be frustrated. Self acceptance is a hard pill to swallow, when all you see and hear is straight and curly hair are good, but kinky hair is bad. I've hated my hair and decided to stop telling myself "I hate my hair" because it plays with the overall view of myself. The struggle is self acceptance.

[@achiepalaago]

You’re a very intelligent woman.

[@funnybears3389]

Luciana De oliveira I agree with you! You gotta do your hair to grow it and stuff unless u wanna look like her in the picture

[@SherrhondasAse]

Everyone doesn’t want to walk around with the same hairstyle all the time.

[@elianayisrael82]

Zalina 💯💯

[@lisat-wright99]

This is the soapbox of a holier-than-thou "natural." You've completely disregarded this woman's clearly detailed personal experiences, in order to emphasize that she "denies" her hair texture as a result of some sort of deeprooted self loathing. -she last attempted to straighten her hair an entire year prior; -expressed that the time consumption of haircare is disruptive to her scheduled responsibilities; -that her personal experience in managing her hair has proven more strenuous than other 4C hair types (& would be satisfied with more options) You're neither in her life or on her scalp to say that her haircare necessities are simplistic and manageable. if she has a tough time dealing with her hair, then that's her truth. She's not to be reduced to her hair, or to have her self-love/importance undermined, because you find a cathartic rant--out of reasonable frustration--to be some sort of heresy, or a solidarity breach.

[@LumerasLight1201]

Thumbs up for the realness!

[@CamilliaYvette]

Thanks boo! Always!

[@nancymurray6848]

Hey, it has taken me 2 years to figure my natural hair out to. Yes my hair is thick and wash an go don't work for me, neither does that eco gel either. so what i have found that works for me is just an bun, i wash and use castor oil, and put it in an bun, then pick the top out. Stay with it. We are in this together

[@CamilliaYvette]

Thanks for that encouragement! It's been a journey and I'm learning as I go. I'm just soooo frustrated with it all!

[@jsbreezy]

YvetteLuvsBeauty I don't have 4C but I do know that type 4 hair can be really dry. Maybe try focusing on moisturizing and keeping water in your hair bc ain't nothing harder to style than dry hair. Try distilled water after a wash, balance your hair's PH with aloe Vera spray. Maybe try using all natural hair products. Your hair could be reacting to chemicals in the products you use. Think about finger detangling rather than using a comb. Figuring out your hair's personality is annoying! Girl I feel you and I know! But constant moisture (try LOC method and over saturate your hair with water and cream) it will probably change your life and attitude. I hope this helps ❤️

[@nancymurray6848]

thank you, i will

[@Fabulosity84]

Nancy Murray I'm seven years in and I'm still figuring my hair out

[@jillmont3342]

Jeneen B is finger tangling your hair bad for your hair. I’ve done it before and found it easier but I don’t know if I do it all the time if that will damage my hair

[@jazmynzahara3321]

Our hair is just so high maintenance you need so much patience to deal with it!! Appreciate your honesty girl!! I subbed!! Keep it up!! 🌸

[@CamilliaYvette]

Thanks for understanding honey! These people act like I cussed out their mother because I have thoughts about MY OWN natural hair lol. Appreciate the love!

[@vastya.3255]

Jazmyn Zahara it doesn't have to be , once you keep your regimen simple, it won't be. Just need to cleanse your hair and scalp, put the moisture back in after (deep conditioners, conditioners) , moisturize when you feel like , seal that up (I use grease , it stays moisturized for a whole week) and put it in a protective style or just leave it as it is, but stretch it to prevent fairy knots etc. and just adjust your regimen to your life, like if you do something daily , weekly , maybe even monthly. And if you protective style with synthetic hair like braids , or weaves, just keep your scalp and hair moisturized. You don't have to be a product junky to have healthy hair, do what works for you and your hair will thank you for that. I recommend JourneyToWaistLength , and watch her video about how to build a regimen. Yw

[@DriPPeDManGO]

Try a Rhassoul or Bentonite clay hair mask its supposed to help with moisture and getting some form of curl pattern

[@sincerelucas2915]

Vasty A. That sounds simple to you

[@vastya.3255]

Sincere Hoodlum it is simple. Protective styling , keeping hair stretched and moisturized , and a clean scalp. That's it. You just have to retain your length to see the growth, and those are things that help you and your hair with that. I understand that having 4C could be either a blessing or a curse, because I have it too. I'm a school girl and I have a very busy life but I still manage to maintain my hair , even with the little time I have. I have thin strands and dense thick hair , which makes it a lot more difficult to maintain. But I'm just saying, when she find that regimen she will regret disliking/hating her hair. Believe me , I went through that stage too, I even wanted to relax it. But now I love my hair :)

[@HerLovesBooks]

I've been natural for 7 years. I just purchased 3 wigs because I was 10 seconds off a perm. my hair is 4a, 4b, and 3c in the back. It's still a bum mess. My hair is longer. It's healthier. But I look like a grizzly bear sometimes.

[@CamilliaYvette]

Thanks for sharing! I knew I wasn't the only one!

[@lordieb5668]

Just get a good perm, good trim and start again. Hey, the truth is it does suck to have this texture and hair styles are limited. I say go for it girl and enjoy life! You spoke for a lot of us out here.

[@monicaparker1299]

I just said the same thing yesterday. "I must have 4d, e, f, g hair because nothing works!" Ugh!

[@CamilliaYvette]

It's nice to know that I'm not alone. Thanks!

[@monicaparker1299]

I finger shingled my hair yesterday and it turned out great!

[@rosettAIRcps]

If you want to relax it, relax it! There is nothing wrong with making a choice for you. But trimming is super important, my hair is a mess when my ends aren't trimmed. Good luck!

[@ashleynicole9423]

rosettAIRcps Soooo important. And some people need a lot more than a trim. They need an evening cut!

[@filmgeek1711]

I used to hate my 4c hair too. But now that I've learned how to properly moisturize my hair and stop using products that don't work for my texture, it's great. 4c hair is so beautiful and versatile.

[@CamilliaYvette]

I agree it's beautiful! I'm just confused by it!!! Thanks for watching!

[@Topself24]

That's why I relaxed my hair. I'm not playing with this 4e mess.

[@CamilliaYvette]

Girl!! Please stop tempting me!!

[@kendralp8109]

lol Exactly

[@CreoleGoddess89]

Yessss Amen!! I've cried a many day over my lame ass 4CDEF hair as well. Its been 5 years since I've been natural. Its still freaking short. ugh I'm about to start crying again. thank you for this video

[@CamilliaYvette]

Don't cry!!! Life is too short to be upset over hair. That's how I feel at this point.

[@kaybull1945]

The thing I don’t like about is it takes me about 2 hours just to put it in a simple puff just not to like it. 😔😔

[@destinyluv8828]

I’m so sorry to hear that. Know how you feel. I’ve done twist outs before that took me HOURS to do and DAYS to wear but don’t look right when I take them out or get ruined after a “night of fun” if you know what I mean.. 😉. It just sucks.

[@Milkk_and_Honeyy]

“Ain’t nothing “go” about the wash and go LMAOOO I feel that 😭😂 hair still be damp the next day

[@ConverseEatDEF]

I TOTALLY understand. My hair basically mats itself for no reason and its too much work trying to get it together, I appreciate your honesty so much!

[@CamilliaYvette]

I'm so happy you get me lol!!! People act like it's a breeze to do this hair and it is not!!

[@MsJessika2012]

This is the realist video I've ever seen this is so me!!

[@CamilliaYvette]

I'm so happy my message was not lost on everyone! Thanks for understanding!

[@mame3241]

i feel your pain i also have "4c" hair and its so hard and draining. when your twist out turns into shrunken mess and straightening it looks like a blown out look. i hope you still keep your natural hair because it is a journey❤

[@esmaray7834]

As someone who has super kinky hair, that always felt dry like straw and seem to refuse to retain length. I have learned that these thing helped me the most. 1. Leaving my hair in small twists (Start them off as braid first then twists to avoid matting). I shampoo and condition my hair while in twists and sprayed my hair with water and oiled with a mixture of shea butter and coconut oil everyday. I would take them down after a month and repeat. Did this for 3 months over the summer. I retained so much length I was flabbergasted. I also finally found a brand that turned my dry straw like strands soft. It's called Camila Rose. The deep conditioner is literally Black Magic.

[@CamilliaYvette]

I may try this!! Thanks for the tip!!

[@AneesaH.]

I feel like y'all aren't patient enough with your hair, but if it's too much...just relax it.

[@CamilliaYvette]

I'm not very patient. I did second big chop so I'm starting over and I'll see how it works this time.

[@Rue367]

It’s super frustrating. Even with protective styles- it’s still covering my natural hair most of the time. I can’t just wear it out whenever I want.

[@destinyluv8828]

Right?! Can’t wear the hair out like other races of women. So fucking frustrating.

[@bmw0688]

Words. outta. my. mouth. I'm over it. I've been 4z natural for almost a decade and I've spent so many hours trying products, new methods, researching videos - twisting retwisting detangling, etc.. I don't even like my hair relaxed and don't want to pay for it, but I've considered going back because this is TOO MUCH. Being natural as a 4z has been demoralizing. Honestly, my hair is RARELY cute. My hair regrew from big chop to the same length it was before (not an inch more), and I spent more time on it now than I ever did. The only difference is that I dont have to worry every 8 weeks if a perm will burn my hair out. Have you -- or anyone - found a solution for us? Literally NONE of even the 4A styles work on my hair.

[@fatoulo2226]

I hate my hair too

[@CamilliaYvette]

Is it damaged? What do you hate about it?

[@jasmintheartist9710]

Hey itz Fatou Me too i just hate my hair

[@overcoffeee]

Me too😑

[@DinaAwd]

It keeps falling n falling I am about to shave it I hate it

[@lisakaye3919]

me too. and i hate people who tell me i shouldn’t hate my hair even MORE

[@Galaxcgrl00]

I feel you 😩, I've tried everything I could trying to get my 4c hair the way I want and nothing works, I've switched up my products, watched almost every tutorial on youtube, and got advice from my friends. Sorry but I don't have the patience for natural hair. I think I'll stick to wearing weave for now

[@CamilliaYvette]

I'm with you!!!

[@lilmamagc]

You honestly don't even need makeup your skin is so pretty

[@CamilliaYvette]

Awwww. Thanks so much! But I have to give some credit to the camera lol!

[@tigana]

Tbh you're probably having issues with moisture which is why you're not liking your hair. My hair used to be SO dry but I didn't really care. So I never had any issues with not liking my 4c hair. I've begun a new hair routine with lots of moisture (the LCO method using water, Cantu Shea Butter, and Coconut Oil). I do so many fun things with my hair and you just have to be creative! You need to nurture your hair for it to grow. Coils may even appear once you moisturize it properly. Your hair looks very dry in this video (not trying to hate) so perhaps you should try a new routine. Here are some tips for detangling I have for you: 1. Make sure you've sectioned your hair before you start anything. 2. Make sure you've pre pooed, shampooed, and conditioned, and applied leave in conditioner before you try to detangle. 3. Detangle in 4 sections. Your hair doesn't seem to be too short so 4 should be fine. Use your fingers and the slip from your leave in conditioner will help you not rip your hair. Washing your hair should not take more than 35 minutes (15 minute pre poo, 10 minute shampoo, 10 minute condition). 4c hair is not hard to deal with if you properly moisturize it. Don't try to get it as tangle free that you'll be able to run a rattail comb through it. It's pointless and you'll end up breaking your hair. Try wearing your hair in medium sized twists or bantu knots. An afro is also lovely!! Learn to love your hair. Any problems you're having can be fixed. Feel free to ask me any questions

[@daijaaki]

I felt this hard. I’m definitely what people would consider lazy with my hair. I just hate that I have to do SOOO MUCH to get it to remotely look right. I hate that it has to be defined or twisted or braided or edges have to be laid to be socially acceptable as having my hair “done”. I hate that I prefer to wear my wigs cause I can just throw it on and put a few curls in it and I feel beautiful that way. I just hate that it takes so much time and patience and planning and arm strength just to feel secure and beautiful with what I was given. I just find it unfair that it seems like other people with longer looser and probably healthier hair can do styles and look a certain way but I can’t. It’s just not fair to me. I saw a post on Pinterest of a girl with her hair slicked back in a ponytail, no waves, with a clip and I almost prayed that I could do that but I know I can’t. I wish I could have other styles other than wigs or braids. Anyways this was my little rant

[@pilar689]

Totally agree. I look like Don King in my natural hair state. I just want silky hair that flows down. I don't want to have to do twist outs, bantu knots etc., do not find it lovely or becoming. Even my Guinea Pigs have silky hair. I've prayed to have my texture changed and asked why for so many years. Song of Solomon talks about hair and how it's long and wavy down her back. I'm definitely not represented.

[@NappQueen]

The first step is to embrace your hair. It's always going to be ugly and unmanageable if you think your hair is ugly and impossible and that everyone else's hair is better. I've been doing my own hair since I was 13 and am 4C with hair down my back. My hair is the way it is because of trial and error mainly, but also education and embracing what's mine. Your hair is not impossible, it's beautiful just like you, you just have to know it and own it.

[@BettyBr29]

Marianne Macharia yes! leave the wash and go idea on you tube. Pay attention to what your hair likes and most of all stop watching tutorials on you tube. They turn us into product junkies and a little resentful of what is the reality.

[@queennana1438]

yesss same

[@mydearmya]

Well my hair isn't its short and I can't even put it into a low ponytail,it does seem like its growing as much as I want it to

[@Foreveralonecuuuh]

Rip Queen!

[@Kekelicious]

I just learned how to do mine 😩 length was a big factor for me. It seemed like the longer it got the easier it was to deal with

[@vivelise16]

Keke do u love me

[@mommirenee2013]

OMG yes!!!! I'm at a super awkward length right now. When it's longer I'll be able to do it like I want

[@VirgoGoddessXxo]

It just takes time and patience to figure out what your hair likes. Once you get that part, it's really not that serious. And I'm speaking as someone with very kinky "4 c d e f" hair. The key is moisturize moisturize moisturize. I personally don't think my type of hair is meant for "wash & go's" either.... and that's the other thing, we have to change our mentalities and erase the false expectations from our minds. Stop expecting your hair to look like everyone else's and take the time to appreciate and understand your own hair. I can't really relate because I was natural most of my life except 7 years (college and 3 yrs after), but it just saddens me that anyone can literally hate something that is apart of them because of societal conditioning. And I'm not being judgmental, it's something that does make me sad. When we have daughters, how can we teach them to love their hair if we can't learn to do that ourselves. You wouldn't want her to think there is something inherently wrong with how she was born and that starts by example and embracing your own hair from within.

[@briana8404]

I would suggest learning the porosity of your hair if you don't already know it really explained helped me understand my hair and its behaviors, Also I understand washing your hair and taking care of it can be time consuming but I would suggest taking the time to do it(deep conditioning, hot all treatments, oil rinse,d.i.ys) and then leave it in twists or braids for a while but make sure you keep them moisturized under your wigs. Since your hairs damaged it might take some extra tlc but the healthier your hair gets the less time you have to spend on it because it's already in good shape

[@VirgoGoddessXxo]

One word of advice tho... I only wash my hair in sections and it makes life so much easier. Another thing, I've learned that I must dedicate one particular day to washing my hair. The night before, I separate it into 6-8 sections, and one by one I spritz the hair with warm water and slather on an ungodly amount of coconut oil (it's dripping everywhere and for that reason I wear old clothes and an old towel.) then twist that section and move on to the next. I don't worry about detangling at this point. Once I'm done I Saran Wrap my hair (lol yes Saran wrap,it does conditioning wonders), go over that with a plastic cap and 1-2 head wraps to keep it sealed, then I go to bed. The combo of the coconut oil and your body heat does it, it the morning your hair is soft and supple and way easier to detangle. I detangle each section and retwist then jump into the shower. I rinse the oil out then shampoo each section, twist and tuck, then go back and rinse each section, twist and tuck, then condition in the same manner. When the conditioner is in all the sections and twisted and tucked, I bathe/soap my body up. By that time 3/4 minutes have passed. I then comb thru each section with a wide toothed comb (the best is tresseme, their conditioners give so much slip! The best detangler imo), and rinse, then move on to the next section. The pre wash from the night before only takes about 30 minutes. The actually wash process about 1-2 hours. But this makes your hair so manageable and takes away the stress that comes with washing it as a free un-sectioned fro. By the time u get out the shower you don't have to detangle because you detangled before and by keeping it in sections it remained detangled. When you're done, you can either moisturize and let it air dry or moisturize and tension blow dry. Either way, I do that step by sections as well, one by one. It's not quick, but it works the best and the end product is worth it. If you are someone who grew up with your hair permed all your life, it will be hard at first but it's not impossible. It's like dating a new person and starting a relationship. You have to get to know that person and learn how to love them, and it doesn't happen over night. It's a process that will have ups and downs, setbacks and break throughs, even after a year sometimes.... that's the same concept with your hair. Don't be discouraged. And when life gets busy and you feel overwhelmed, get some braids or a weave for a month to take a break, but don't neglect your hair and lose sight. Keep an emergency wig handy also, for days that shit doesn't go as planned and you gotta go out to work or wherever. KZbin is a great guide, find ppl who have similar hair to you and take tips from them, don't have false expectations, just use trial and error and you will find your own routine that suites you and your hair best. Good luck! Hope this helps.

[@angiefaye9863]

My hair is type 4 (4b, 4c mixed), and after hearing you talk about how "long your hair takes" left me with question marks. 3 hours is not really that long to do natural hair. my twist out (whole wash day included) takes about 4-5 hours, and I think an issue with many type 4c naturals is a lack of patience. Ladies, stop expecting to get in and out of the shower w/ your hair done in 10 minutes like white woman. it just aint gonna happen. Try to develop a regimen that can work better with your schedule, but once I set aside time for me to do my hair, and developed a regimen it was not hard at all. Just be patient. Hair care is a part of your personal hygiene.

[@jerishamarie]

Maybe you should get it done by someone who specializes in natural hair. Maybe they can teach you how to deal with it better

[@CamilliaYvette]

If I don't big chop, that's my next move. Thanks!

[@Fabulosity84]

jerishamarie I agree! I watched the failed color and keratin video. I suggest going to a professional stylist who specializes in natural hair. There's only so much that YT can teach you about your hair.

[@alisonhilaire4170]

I totally understand the struggle. I've been natural for more than 4 years and my hair is still frustrating me. I loved it when it was super short, I could do a real wash n go but with even just a little bit of length: BAM! PAIN IN THE ASS!!! I feel like with natural hair we have 2 choices : either go back to the creamy crack or accept ALL the flaws of our hair (and they can be A LOT lol 😂). The problem is not really our hair per say, it is our expectations. I think in this case, the expectation is "my hair should be easy". But in reality that ish is complicated AF lol 😂

[@dannigirlxoxo_7538]

GIRRRRLLLLL I HAVE BEEN FEELING THE SAME WAY ABOUT MY HAIR! I love the honesty in the video! Unlike like these other natural hair gurus you kept it real in this video. Got a new subbie here!

[@Weberlyn]

I subscribed so fast! The struggle is real sometimes especially when you workout alot.

[@CamilliaYvette]

Girl! I workout 5x/week and it is murder on my hair. Hang in there!!

[@nylahsmith9844]

I feel you girl! I'm currently trying to finger detangle bc my hair is so knotted. I'm so done with the single strand knots and shrinkage. Having 4c is really a challenge

[@liveloveGlam]

Aww girl.. I don't have the exact same hair type but I feel you!! I went on vacation & it was humid and my braid out was not digging that weather. It lost ANY definition it did have, got SO puffy/frizzy.. it was the worst thing ever. Then when I was at Disney world looking at all the people with long straight hair I was like -_- it probably took 2 seconds to do your hair while I was prepping mine the night before for SO long only to have the humidity mess it up, very frustrating! Also in regards to a wash & go, I hear you on that too. I wouldn't be going anywhere, I just figured out a new method but I do it the night before & thankfully it has been working out for me. Also don't feel bad about the colour, the same thing happened to me. When I dye it, it doesn't get as light as I want it to be so I'm just going to get it professionally done. All the best! xo

[@sydneypettrone5094]

I feel you. I have super thick 3c/4a hair and The summertime is NOT my friend. I always spend a lovely penny on box braids every summer to avoid that reality. I hate how any drop of moisture in the air at all; rain or summer humidity makes my cute wash n go just shrivel up into a frizzy cotton swab looking 2 times shorter than it is. Can't do anything with it.

[@Chimiri88]

As a 4c natural, I feel this way sometimes. When I'm having a hate relationship with my hair, I put it in a puff and I don't worry about it for awhile. That's one of the benefits of having long 4c hair. It took me awhile (like years) to appreciate my hair in puffs because all my natural hair gurus are doing twist-out, bantu knot out, etc...all types of hairstyles in under 30 mins. I have learned to let that go and I'm still learning. Anyways, good luck :)

[@pilar689]

But I don't want to wear my hair in a puff, afro, Bantu etc. I just want it to flow down. I don't like the way any of those styles look, it's not becoming to me. Nothing else to do but wear wigs.

[@latasharice2404]

girl 4c hair is the thickest and strongest hair on the planet. I love my none curl pattern 4c hair wouldn't change it for the world. 4c hair loves water and butters. Dont give up on your hair just pay attention to what it likes and dont like. It's really all about retaining moisture.

[@sahra1021]

Its really fucking not , go educate yourself.... the coils and grip doesn't mean its stronger . .there mere fact a non black person can do whatever tf they want with their hair and still have longer n better hair than us says it all ..not to mention the fact that we have to do all this extra treatments n protective styling n shit just for it to barely grow or not grow at all ..its pretty fucking weak and thats why it constantly needs to be protected.... yes we in the light now as bkack people but we know the truth about some things no matter how much we sugar coat it for appreciation

[@fudgecake76]

@@sahra1021 Preach

[@taotaostrong]

We all have those days. Thanks for your honesty. You have beautiful features btw!

[@CamilliaYvette]

Awwww. Thanks so much!!

[@tumonpoole2014]

The way you feel in this video is exactly how I feel now 😩....somebody help!!

[@arij9609]

Yesssssssssss!!! It's like a never ending struggle! This spoke to my soul! And if anyone knows how to lay these damn edges down, please let me know! 😩🙄 haven't had a relaxer in over 2 years but I'm like 2 months away from breaking out the creamy crack.

[@CamilliaYvette]

You took the words right out of my mouth!!

[@ynellynel]

OMG I FEEL YOU!!! YOU LOOKED SO DEFEATED AND THAT'S HOW I FEEL

[@doggybag11]

I can understand your frustration. I hope you're feeling better! 😊

[@charmingflowers]

It is a lot of work. Between me and my daughter our sundays are a wrap. But it important to me that my daughter never has a desire for "good" hair like i did when i was younger. Its the only thing keeping me from perming my shit lol

[@CamilliaYvette]

Lol. I feel that way about my girls too. I want them to love their hair for what it is. But then I think about it. What's so wrong with having less stress on yourself and changing it if you don't like it? I don't know. Too many decisions lol.

[@AbigailThinks]

I admire and appreciate this honest post. I'm also in the 4 type category and have had days of frustration and desperation about my hair. I'm actually at a plateau because I feel like my hair isn't growing and is lacking in something and I can't quite figure it out. But it can be many factors: hydration, stress, bad ends. The struggle is real and I wish you the best!!

[@CamilliaYvette]

Thanks girly!!

[@123missiprissi]

Yesssss girl! Preach ! We starting the “4D” movement!

[@Orthodox.777]

You hair is fine..mine too..we just don't have confidence..

[@SimplisticallyDigital]

I can imagine your frustration. I can't "wash and go" nowhere!!! 😂 4c issues

[@CamilliaYvette]

Right!!!

[@ciannej7390]

go watch nappyfu TV. trust me she will save your 4c hair life.

[@marbelysamparo7984]

Yass

[@kaheaisaac1]

Not a fan

[@pamjam098]

@@kaheaisaac1 Whats wrong with nappyfu? What don't you like about her channel?

[@JolieDea]

I can relate to this video soo much 😢

[@rose-gl4io]

Same

[@queenieboo2407]

omg giiirrrlll you took the words right outta my mouf!! I feel you soooo much on this right here

[@SacredSham]

I love you! lol I like how real you are, I can totally relate! new subbie. keep up the videos!!

[@Zzucia]

F natural hair... seriously. Whyyyyy does it have to be be this harddd. So tedious and time consuming for no f'en reason.

[@CamilliaYvette]

I'm just working my hardest to find a regimen that works and to stick with it. I feel you though!

[@Zzucia]

YvetteLuvsBeauty I just wrestled with it for about 2 hours last night and was just so done! I won't completely ditch it yet though. Sooo frustrating lol

[@CamilliaYvette]

I know your pain!!

[@sahra1021]

Facts, its always either shrinking or dry n matted like tf? God dead choose us to have the worst fucking hair

[@sahra1021]

Ama do my kids a favor that my mama didn't do for me and make sure they aint gotta worry about shit like this

[@slcruz72]

I admire your honesty! Too many trying to make it seem as if it's a breeze...

[@CamilliaYvette]

That's why I made this video girl!!

[@dd60622]

I certainly feel you. I've been natural for about 7 years, 4C, and I still hate my hair. Ugh

[@CamilliaYvette]

I'm learning to embrace it. Come on this journey with me!

[@neeceebensen9596]

"There's nothing Go about a Wash and Go..." That's so funny and true!!

[@CamilliaYvette]

I hate that term! It's so misleading!

[@expertonmyself]

part 1: i was natural (as an adult) from 8/2008 - 6/2012. for most of that time, i wore twist-outs, but to maintain that fresh look, i re-twisted just about every night. that's what "drove" me back to the relaxer, because i was like if that's what it took for me to maintain my hair, i can't deal, i needed a break! plus, i missed the convenience of straight hair and just wrapping it up every night. i also started experiencing thinning and scalp irritation, which was my seborrhea dermatitis revisiting me. i too, thought my natural hair would be healthier. even having said all that, i will mention that i'd always wanted to go back to natural, but i needed a break, because it was just too much work. so in feb-15, i decided it was time to get back to my roots. this time, i did a big chop. my twa was about 2 inches and that was hella short for me, but i said F it. i was going to take this journey differently this time. it wasn't until one day last year, during sometime in late spring/early summer, that i had finish twisting my hair but needed to run some errands. i felt like a dear in headlights, because i had gone out only once with my own hair in twists and that was during my transition in summer 2007. again, i said F it. i got so many compliments that weekend. i was like wait a minute, i could've been doing this since 2008?! this time, i had done smaller 2-strand twists than i had in the past. this has significantly changed the way i view my hair, myself, cut down my styling time. yes, the initial process is a B****; detangling, washing, blow-drying [because i like the elongated look] and twisting, which usually takes 2-2.5 hrs [i watch a movie], BUT, my hair is healthier for it. i realized that my hair was thinning the first time, because i was manipulating it just about every night! to be continued...

[@Fearless-wi4ng]

Y’all do too much. Just wash, condition, leave in. Done.

[@jazz351f9]

Thank you for being so honest! The struggle is real with natural hair so I can understand.

[@hadiyahfields6982]

I appreciate you sharing how you feel. In the end you have to do what works for you and no one else. Best wishes 🦋

[@misse1228]

I also think that people forget, it just takes longer to do your OWN hair in general. Washing your hair should never really be an all day process lol, but the natural hair movement has made this seem normal. But this current natural hair movement isn't really about embracing natural hair, it's about trying to get your hair as close to straight as possible without a relaxer. Which is really stupid and defeats the entire purpose of a natural hair movement, especially one that devalues 4c hair. I will say, I really don't think 4c hair is "harder" to manage, it's just that we don't really know how to STYLE our hair and maintain our styles. I've noticed that it's actually very easy for me to wash, condition, detangle, and blowdry my hair, but I'm just completely lost when it comes to styling it lol. Overall, the natural hair movement just needs to get back to basics. I've started using HAIR GREASE again, and my hair has been so moisturized, with very little shedding, which means less detangling I have to do. Now all I need is to learn how to style it. I have not found the "KZbin Naturalista" community helpful at all, so I really had to take a step back from it all.

[@angelgirl02368]

I feel you so strong on this. I'm 4c too and all these videos of twist out never be happening in real life for me. I know i can't go back to perm bc I shed like a dog and had thin hair back then (also I don't look good with straight hair). I have gotten better and I think it helped that I stopped listening to all the extra shit natural hair KZbinrs have to say. I don't finger detangle, I don't do a million products, and I don't do too much. my hair is almost waist-legnth now stretched out. I still kinda hate my hair but I've now realized I have to modify or completely ignore what KZbinrs say for things to work for me. End of the day it's up to you but I've heard a lot of people regret going back to perm but you do your own hair so block everyone out and make your own choice.

[@mslady1521]

I deal with it daily because my edges were completely gone due to weaves/wigs and now they have grown back! That alone is worth it during the summer time when I want to swim (I'm no longer worried about bald edges in braids or ruining my straight hair). I do not straighten my hair at all, I did have to finally big chop but the results.... so worth it! If you are wearing it under a "protective style" then just try again. DON'T GIVE UP and don't wear tight weaves or wigs.

[@risiathelemon]

Love you sm for being so real

[@mysticmoon3042]

I just loced my 4c hair i love it and it's way easier to manage and less products.

[@heerthbvvff]

I feel your pain, 4C comes with it's own type of struggle that other naturals can't even imagine :( hang in there girl, or not, if you don't want to, no judgment!

[@kxlxh5730]

this is the most relatable video i have ever watched lol wow! the struggle is REAL! i hope you manage to figure something out :) you are gorgeous xo

[@CamilliaYvette]

Thanks so much!! I'm hoping it lets someone know that they are not alone with the struggle!

[@basicallymid]

Gurl, I get it. I think we've all felt this way at some point. I had to stop watching KZbin twist out videos because like you, I wasn't getting the results I was expecting. You are NOT alone.

[@keverstarks6529]

And btw,, sometimes moisturizing it and letting "do what it do " turns out ugly ,, do what makes you smile when you look into the mirror

[@vastya.3255]

Once you learn how to take care of it , you will regret that you've thought about relaxers. Keep your hair braided so that you don't have to think about your hair all the time , but just keep your scalp and hair moisturized underneath those wigs. Don't listen to those natural hair nazis. I use petrolatum-based pomades like blue magic , which is a natural hair no no, but my hair is flourishing. I use sulfate shampoo , etc etc, all no no's. Blow dry your hair to keep it stretched , which prevents tangles and fairy knots and detangling would be so easy. Also if your hair is "hard" , try pre-pooing and DEEP CONDITION weekly or every two weeks. And protective styles will be your best friend. Tell me your hair problems and I will try to help you with 'em. Don't go back to relaxers, it's bad for your health too.

[@CamilliaYvette]

Thanks babes! That was actually really helpful and inspiring! Blow drying I've found does keep me less frustrated because my hair is straighter. I just didn't want to use all of that heat because I was afraid of what it might do. Thanks for sharing!!

[@vastya.3255]

YvetteLuvsBeauty u don't have to use heat to get that blow dried effect, you can either do an braidout/twistout and comb that out, band your hair , use cold air and just stretch out your hair really well with your hands while blow drying, African threading, look up how to get a blowout without :) becoming a blowdried natural is better than getting back to that creamy crack.

[@whyyoureadinmyname5145]

Vasty A. u can also stretch with yarn

[@vastya.3255]

Yelly Yellez yep you can :)

[@tigana]

Vasty A. comparing militant naturals to Nazis is so disrespectful honestly. you are taking away from how horrible the nazis were.

[@Goodrootswellness]

Girl I've been there. I learned a long time ago that I just have to find out what my hair needs and what it likes. I do hope that one day you get to the place where you can love it. I don't feel like it's hard for me now like it was when I first started because now I understand my hair and I have different expectations. Someone commented below that we have to let our 4c hair be who she is and she ain't 4a 3a 3b etc. some great curl defining products for 4c hair you might want to try would be TGIN which is black owned and in your local target. Good luck on your journey girl! You and your 4c hair are beautiful!

[@THELAZYNATURAL]

As long as you feel confident and beautiful in your own skin it shouldn't matter weather your natural or not

[@CamilliaYvette]

Agreed!

[@tab2go675]

Gurl, thanks for your honesty.. I'm natural and i know it does take time to find the right style, products for your type of hair. I'd suggest you don't wait to go to the salon, a good trim will help with tangling as well. If you need to go back to the relaxer do it.. it's about how you can best manage your hair. Natural hair needs moisture, moisture moisture.. so that may be an issue that your hair isn't getting enough moisture. Why dont you get braids, twists, faux locs since you workout so much..at least for the summer..

[@CamilliaYvette]

I was also thinking that about the salon. I may go sooner rather than later and see if they can save me from the relaxer lol. Thanks for watching!

[@gatubela_nay]

YvetteLuvsBeauty i wish i could detangle it for u 😚😚

[@eurelaalexis5918]

i know some people on here saying you just lazy but i understand perfectly how you feel. there are quite a bit of people who have hair like this so you not alone. my hair also takes a while hour to wash and detangle. this does not include moisturizing and styling after which take anywhere from 2 to 3 hours. i used to pray literally to have curly hair when i was younger. now i have learned to appreciate my hair for what it is. i see the hours i spend on my hair as theraputic. some me time so to speak. always watch a couple movies while i doing that. most importantly i dont compare my hair to anyone elses. except for educational purposes and maybe some tips. but i dont expect it to look or behave like anyone else's. its like expecting your skin to look like someone else because you black. if you black and you have oily skin you might be more prone to pimples. so you deal with it accordingly. i promise if you learn your hair and love it, it will love you back.

[@Jeneile22]

Dying the hair and using keratin treatments is damaging to the hair. You can't make natural hair do things it doesn't want to do. Moisture will be your best friend and less manipulation.

[@CG-fb9fx]

I’m literally crying right now because I feel the same my problem is retaining moisture & length I feel if it was longer I would be ok smh

[@Princess_Pixie]

I wouldn't deal with this if I didn't have to. Perm makes my hair fall straight out I go bald every time. I didn't believe I'd learn to love my extreme 4c natural hair too but I did .....accept when I lose the time to take care of it....those times I absolutely hate it. even start getting depressed about it.

[@TheOnlyGFergie]

I've been there. I'm 4C as well. What I've been doing recently are twists (with my own hair). I wash my hair, moisturize it with coconut oil and rosemary oil, blow dry it (you don't have to blow dry but it prevents shrinkage/adds length), and do several twists. It turns out nice! I feel like my hair has growth from me doing this! From the washing to the twisting, it takes about 5 hours but you only have to do it once every week (or week and a half). Moisturize the twists, especially the ends, every night with coconut oil, or any oil of your choice. I use a mixture of coconut oil and rosemary oil. Rosemary oil is an essential oil that is known to promote major hair growth! I stumbled across your video today and I don't know what your faith is, but this is what I believe: if God created our hair, then He knows the solution for how to make it grow! Lately I've been asking the Lord to help me find the right products and regimen for my hair & so far this coconut/rosemary blend is working!

[@alwaystatiana595]

I can't stand my hair either. It never turns out right. I keep it in a bun, box braids, and on occasion a sew in. Ain't nobody got time to be detangling for 2 hours 😂😂 People have stuff to do lol. You are not alone

[@omgitsthequeen]

I'm really feeling this right now. I feel like nothing is working. I moisturize, low manipulation and my hair just does what ever the hell it wants to do. Some days it curls up some days it locks. Everyday is a new adventure. In all honesty, putting my hair in box braids had been the most effective styling for me. Hope you(we) get through this rough patch.