I Hate My Singleness | A Christian Perspective

Welcome back to A Journey with Jordan! I welcome all dialogue below - can’t wait to read your thoughts.
One little mistake made in the first few minutes of the video - Not “one year and one month. It should’ve been eleven years and one month ago from the date of this video. I am not sure where my mind went.
How do you define singleness? What’s been your longest stint of singleness? How do/did you cope? What do you notice differently about yourself in your singlehood vs. relationship/marriage?
“Two are better than one, because they have a good return for their labor;” Ecclesiastes 4:9
“The LORD God said, ‘It is not good for man to be alone. I will make a helper suitable for him.” Genesis 2:18
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[@MatthewVerse515]

As someone who has been single for the last 7 years (not counting situationships that never resulted in a relationship) and is now in their late 20s, I feel this video so hard. God Bless you Jordan, thank you for voicing what so many of us who are in this position are thinking and feeling. Its hard to live in a world where marriage and family is glorified by both the secular world and the Christian world while not being able to be apart of it, as if you never will, as if there something about you that makes it so that you dont deserve it and they do, even if youre living for God as best you can while those who arent seem to be getting the lives that you want . It can seem so depressing and unfair. I dont know what the future holds but all we can do is trust God, keep praying, and try our best and not let despair or resentment consume us, because thats exactly what the devil wants.

[@ajourneywithjordan]

You phrased that all perfectly. And I know one thing: we will see the goodness of The LORD while we wait.

[@Kadenogi]

You don’t know how much I needed this video as a single man that’s never had a real relationship with a girl and also a virgin. I got really annoyed with what people said about being content with Jesus only. It only made me feel bad and ashamed for wanting a marriage. Some made me feel like I idolizing for wanting marriage. When it’s not even idolatry to want a partner as long as you both love Jesus and want to do good together

[@ajourneywithjordan]

Never feel ashamed for desires that honor God but make sure to lean into Him with all of your questions, frustrations, and doubts. There’s no emotion too big for God. And hopefully, His answer will be for you to have a lovely bride. Soon!

[@Kadenogi]

@@ajourneywithjordan One way that helps me remind myself that I’m not idolizing marriage is I ask myself would a date a non Christian just to be in a relationship and my answer will always be no. She must be a believer, and if I never find her then I’ll learn to be okay being single even though it’ll be VERY hard

[@carameldarling2980]

Hey Jordan, I commented on your last video about this topic and our journeys are almost identical. I'm 26, i've always desired to be in a committed Godly relationship since I was young but it never happened for me. I've never even been in a relationship. I too am a virgin like yourself and navigating the single life as a Christian woman who is advancing in age and has a desire to be married. There's no other way to articulate it other than this; it is tough. I do wish the Church stopped treating singleness as either a terminal disease that needs a cure or pretend it doesn't exist. So much content for the married folk and the single people get neglected. I also wish married people were honest about how they truly felt in their single season. It's like they have selective amnesia because everyone seems to have been so happy and content with the Lord before their spouse; to which I call CAP 🧢 For example, I have a friend who when she was single, she admitted that she was going from church to church looking for a husband and was out on multiple dates to find one. Lo and behold, now that she's married and has a child, her advice to me is to be content and that singleness is a gift. Erm, you sure didn't take your own advice when you were single sis lol. A lot of people just aren't honest enough about singleness and how isolating and lonely it can feel. I know you said in your video that no one can understand you, but as a woman with 95% of my friends who are married with children, I understand you fully. I will say though, where I'm at on my journey, I do appreciate my singleness a lot more. I am fortunate enough to see marriages around me and get insight into what marriage life really is all about. Whilst it is a blessing, there's a lot that goes into it that I don't have to ever think about as a single woman. I have friends going through all manner of things in their marriages, from infidelity to unmet expectations to the pains of motherhood and wifehood. I have a married friend who is feeling loneliness too! Her and her husband are going through it right now and she feels isolated and lonely. Marriage is a whole new ballgame. Even the happily married people are going through real difficulties. It's a covenant and a commitment to an imperfect person with a real devil attacking the marriage. I'm grateful for so much insight because it makes me appreciate the small things I don't have to think about which will change once I get married. I never want to be in a place where it's only when I'm married that I start appreciating the freedoms my singleness afforded me. That is why all these people, as annoying as it is for us singles, are always telling us to enjoy and take advantage of our singleness. It reminds me of when I was a child, all I wanted to do was grow up and be independent. Now that I'm fully adulting, I wish I would have enjoyed my childhood more and not have focused so much on being an adult because it's not what it's all cracked up to be lol. Yes there's freedom and perks, but there's also a real responsibility. That's how I'm viewing marriage now. I love the way the Bible describes patience; long suffering. To be patient and wait on God is suffering for a long time. Suffering is not fun, it is painful, distressing and hard. All of us have something in our lives we are suffering long and hard about. I think it's just part of Christian life and it has its purpose to build our faith and trust in the Lord. Waiting on the Lord was never meant to be easy and enjoyable; just ask Abraham and Sarah waiting on their promised son. But waiting has its place and its purpose; you usually can't see it fully until the wait is over. There is a time for everything under heaven including a time to be single and a time to marry. The time will come for both of us, I have faith. Apologies for such a long comment, I have many thoughts and truthfully this doesn't scratch the surface of everything I think about on this subject. But i'm praying for you and bless you in Jesus' name 🙏

[@Stecie101]

I would love a podcast from u u are so insightful

[@ajourneywithjordan]

A podcast would be so cool! I’m in a transitional season right now (check my community tab lol) but maybe once I’m settled this is something I can invest in.

[@y.m.505]

'Ask and shall be given, seek... Knock and the door shall...' Understand as well that 'All good and perfect gift comes from above...' Now having done the asking and seeking, and yet not receiving the answer, all you have to do is wait. The waiting must be done with a good attitude: with expectation, thanksgiving and fully trusting Him. People's perception or attitude, which will always be and you have nil control over, should never be the focus. It is a personal journey and not corporate one. Much can be elaborated regarding this topic... Remember, Joy, that God is faithful and He will grant you the desires of your heart.

[@creativechristiancontent]

You are taking the verse out of contest it refers to asking and being filled with the Holy spirit Luke 11:9-13

[@y.m.505]

​@@creativechristiancontent ​I guess you are not aware that the verse and the message the Messiah sent forth is not only recorded in Luke; you can find it in Matthew as well: Matthew 7:7 -11. It is further explained in Matthew 21:22. It is not only about the Holy Spirit as recorded by Luke. Importantly, if you have the Holy Spirit, your walk with God, prayers, asking or seeking the Lord on matters of life become effortless, because He will empower and guide you on how to pray and how to approach and overcome the challenges of life. To say that applying that scripture to all aspects of life, is out of context, is actually a lack of understanding. After you have received the Holy Spirit, what next? Asking God ceases? Seeking Him ceases? The cares of life automatically disappear?

[@johnburns272]

I've found that all the hollow, cliché advice everyone tosses around.... "just be yourself" and "just be a decent person" ... only works if one is blessed with magnetism, which is due to looks and/or vibe, wavelength, level of awareness, neurons, pheromones, and all the invisible technicalities. The je ne sais quoi of attraction. I ain't got it either. Those who do, aren't necessarily a "catch". Many of them are toxic train-wrecks with nothing going for them but magnetism.