I Left South Africa!! | I'm Back In Bali, Life Update and MORE

[@MJHarrisSpeaks]

What do you want to see me on on my next vlog?

[@tbj1315]

MJ I am so happy you went back to BALI alone to get the full experience of life there. I just can't help to wonder about Marco coping with you not around to guide him. I hope your MOM is there, because he doesn't quite make good decisions on his own yet. DJ is so laid back, trouble won't find him, but Marco? Have fun and live your best life. BTW, I love that shirt.

[@deborahphillips854]

Night life in bali...

[@Gigi-fc6lj]

show the beach

[@ll9212]

A tour around Bali 🧡

[@DoctorJoanieTool]

If you are ever coming back to the US? A talk about that.

[@freeajackson5115]

I'm so happy you're doing things to focus on you. You look great and I'm so happy with the growth you have made as a parent ❤

[@paulajohnson420]

I’ve made the same decisions you’ve made. We train our children and let them exercise those lessons …life is short enjoy it and we still can love our children.

[@demetricepryor6016]

This has really help me in my direction with my son. I have become so consumed with making sure his 23 yr ahh is good that I have put myself on the back burner. NO MORE! Thanks you MJ

[@ilovesilver205]

My daughter is moving out of my house and moving to Texas on the 1st of June. She will be 9-10hrs away and I know, this is what the both of us need. My husband and I were very young when we had her. I dedicated my Life to raising and nurturing her. She is a college graduate and is in a solid relationship. It's time for us both to evolve and become our best versions of ourselves. It's also time for my husband and I to focus on our bond. Taking advantage of our empty nest 😜 So I totally understand what you are talking about.

[@kimberlygray7629]

BELIEVE IT OR NOT YOU WILL FEEL LOST FOR A MINUTE, THEN YOU GOING TO BE LIKE LORD MY CHILD BET NOT HAVE TO COME BACK I LOVE NOT BEING RESPONSIBLE FOR NOONE ITS A GOOD FEELING,I KNOW EVERY TIME MY PHONE RING I HE THINKING 1 OF MY KIDS BET NOT SAY THEY NEED TO COME BACK HOME.

[@ilovesilver205]

@@kimberlygray7629 I definitely felt that when she left for college. This time when she leaves my wallet stays with me 🤣🤣 and I've already made plans for her bedroom. So I pray it works out for her 🙏🏾😂

[@GabbyNurse]

What's your secret? My daughter is 27 and still live with me! 🤦🏿‍♀️

[@GabbyNurse]

Tell your daughter "Welcome to Texas!"

[@eringiselle81]

Omg… I did the same as you ❤! I love to travel and I want to save money for a home. Plus, my jobs consulting as chemist has been remote since Covid luckily (documentation, GMP audits, and management mostly now). So, I decided to put all my items in storage, travel the world 🌍, visit friends and family, and live my best life before I buy a house and one day have a family with kids hopefully. I stayed in Accra, Ghana for six months last year because I met a boo thang. We just moved to his home country of Cotonou, Benin since he found remote jobs too (super cheap here to rent an apartment near the beautiful beach). We are living our best lives. I’m still traveling in between times. Sometimes we go together, but it’s tougher for him to get visas to some countries. I must admit us Americans have it easy traveling around the world and getting visa approvals so easily. I just love hearing stories like yours, because it inspires me and confirms that I’m right where I’m supposed to be in life! ❤

[@KamillesKind4565]

I felt ever moment of that life update. I'm 43 almost... And last year I started back with art learning a new technique and now I'm praying everything goes right for me to do my first sell and showing next month. So all good prayers for this next chapter. I still have a 15 and soon 18 yr old and a 23 that's beginning not to be let go but I had to let him fly okay. And now his room is my studio which can always be changed but at least resort okay 👍🏾 and bless all a good future. So I definitely understand this whole life update 💖💪🏾🦄

[@Tete-k3v]

Chile! Let me tell you. I binge watched your videos from years ago until the current ones. Chile let me tell you that they helped me a lot. Very therapeutic. By the time the guy I was dating was very sus in terms of cheating but I was just too weak to let go. Until one day I discovered that he married someone behind my back (we had plans to get married). I took it so well that even he was surprised at how well I was taking it. It would actually make him angry that I'm fine. Until one day he tried it with me and to his surprise I am now in a very stable relationship with a mature and masculine man. Thank you mj. What I am trying to say is the therapy I was getting from your videos allowed me to truly move on with my life and learn to appreciate the new good man who is in my life now.

[@luvlyelle]

This video resonates with me from beginning to end.. I’m about to travel.. My girls are grown ups now it’s my turn!!!..I am confident in how I raised them( no I didn’t do everything right)so they can be productive in whatever they choose to do with their lives. Thanks MJ ❤

[@ciarak3468]

It sure did resonate. I’m 33 & I feel like I do things to satisfy my dad because how hard he is on me, but I know what kind of person I am. I just want to enjoy myself sometimes. I feel like I’ll be an old maid if I live my life trying to please him.

[@Em.ThaGem]

I know exactly how you feel! I’m 34 and I always do things to satisfy my mom. I’m just slowly getting out of trying to please her and others.

[@qweezybabyfasho7363]

You live your life for YOU..

[@Chrissy411]

Y’all better live life. U only have one. I’m so upset with myself that I didn’t do me. Please change that mindset and enjoy life. Safely. MJ is a great inspiration

[@pythomas29]

I’m 42 and I can IDENTIFY!!! I have so many regrets caring about what they wanted. I retire in 7 years and IM GONE!!!! Be of luck to you!

[@portiarenee1537]

Thanks for sharing. I’ve been struggling with letting our young adult daughters live life and learn from their mistakes. I am so concerned and want them to be safe and make good decisions. The only way that I can do that is to let them live and make their own decisions. Thanks for the confirmation 💕

[@HouseOfBlessings2023]

You are so correct MJ!! My children are ALL GROWN UPS, if I do not see their problems or hear about them, I can enjoy mines'. Worrying when they do not appreciate your advice.

[@autumncast6280]

MJ they needed a break. MJ you are a beautiful person and you have the most loving and beautiful family. The young men needs a break to become strong Black young men.

[@earlenefranklin5620]

Yes it very much did MJ. I did it for 18 years helping out ungrateful entitled people not anymore it's time for me to focus on me

[@jacklynnenita]

I love you MJ. You are 100% correct. As a parent myself and ex caregiver, I've learned the importance of detaching and taking time for yourself. Currently exploring different things and enjoying myself for the first time in a long time

[@blkradiance]

Yess MJ is getting back to MJ. I just had this revelation for myself this past Saturday. I love it , this was great. Congratulations I'm happy for everyone getting back to themselves.

[@deborahlevesque4362]

Your so very right!! I’m so busy taking care of everyone that I have forgotten about living my own life ❤

[@MJHarrisSpeaks]

It’s time for you to focus on you ❤

[@bkkid100234]

Your message of setting boundaries and doing and thinking for yourself instead of others resonated with me ❤ thank uou for sharing MJ

[@MJHarrisSpeaks]

Yea yes!! Boundaries is the word of year!! ❤

[@PaulinePopoMoyo]

One person who I watch and just smile throughout the video…MJ Is just a breath of fresh Air🥰🥰

[@folaketaylormd]

Great share MJ! Our daughter is 15 and autistic, just finished 10th grade (barely!) but I’m starting to also live in my purpose too. Hubby and I are figuring it out to where even though she will likely need us more and for longer, we will not revolve everything around her to the detriment of self or our marriage. She WILL be OK. Periodt! 👌🏾

[@cajkali]

I LOVE YOU MJ, listening to you has really encouraged me to set my boundaries and stay firm on my peace💕

[@sandracornelius6200]

I was wondering what happened to you guys. Glad that you are safe and involving us in your day to day. I have been following you from the first days on videoing. Boy have you grown and changed…only for the better. Keep living your best life you are a true inspiration.

[@unicornrainbow222]

MJ I really appreciate your message about putting yourself first. I work full time in healthcare and it’s draining me. I think every day about how I need to switch to part time! Need to figure out another source of income still. But it’s nice to be validated that I’m not wrong for feeling the way I do about my career.

[@queenmoebetter6470]

Hey 👋🏽 MJ and enjoy! Thanks for taking us along with you until we can go. Much love ❤️

[@BabyGrand77]

MJ, you are speaking to my soul right now! I’ve spent my life trying to please the people around and caring for others more than I care for myself at times and I’m tired of it! I turned 46 this year and I’ve drawn a line on the sand and promised myself that I am going to spend the rest of my life living for me and prioritizing myself because no one else is going to do it! Thank you for posting this video…I’m taking this is a sign to do me going forward!! ❤

[@PresenceWithPurpose]

Good on you, MJ! I can sense how you have come full circle in your parenting! Love it! ❤

[@Ms.Bree8403]

I'm so happy for you, MJ. This video just confirms that I need to live my best life. Thank you.

[@Gigi-14]

It’s lovely to be free and travel. 😊

[@MsLj-kk8ly]

Omg! I cried when listening to you! I uprooted my life for my grown daughter! I gave up my dating life and just life in general! Just trying to protect my daughter from making bad decisions! Thank you for this! I have to live my life as well

[@rogers5622]

Yes get out there and live. You do not need to give up your entire life to support these young adults .

[@MsDeeNicol3]

You’re so full of light😊 I have a teenager waiting for graduation and honey I’m ready to move to Bali too!!!!

[@maryihezie1190]

This is exactly what I needed to hear! Thank you for everything that you said, for being your authentic self, and allowing the world to see! :)

[@mstea4325]

Yass! I just love you, MJ.... Live your best life!!!🥰 I made the mistake of being so focused on my daughter that I forgot about me. I really had a hard time when she was no longer my motivation. We mom too hard! Live this life! 😉

[@angelabraxton-jones3036]

Good info/insight. I have 2 adult children, 1 who is married w/kids. BUT "helicopter" parenting is all of the things you described. Especially when your makeup is caregiving, protecting, providing, teaching. Good stuff!!

[@idawilcox5275]

Im sooooo glad you are living your best life for you. Love you MJ

[@selfdiscovery.7052]

You better speak a whole word! Yes that definitely resonates! I am so glad for this chapter in your life MJ!

[@marniceblakemore]

This vlog hit so close to home for me. Thank you MJ because you said out loud what I have been holding in.

[@MsKarissaM]

I just came back from Thailand and I will say it definitely it changed my life. I now know how I can focus on my life and still make my finances. I went completely solo and I didn’t want to leave. Next stop Bali.

[@gwen415ca]

I just love you!! I am a 68 year old mom, grandma, and great grandma. You are amazing!! I am planning to come with my nephew next year. I would love to meet you and give you a big hug!! I can see you and my nephew being good friends.

[@gwen415ca]

Wow! My nephew said he met you in LA 8 years ago. You were doing a conference about insurance. That's crazy!!

[@renee.apodaca]

Yaaassssss! Thank you for those critical reminders, and for doing / being You! And encouraging us all to do the same … wishing you a joyful and exciting day ❤❤❤

[@pennygillespie8210]

I am so glad that spoke on doing you. Basically let go others to allow them to find their own way. Getting back to you.

[@johntirado-glover3574]

Yes!!!. Living your best Life. So glad your traveling the world. South Africa is my heart.❤

[@iriscummings7750]

MJ, this is so appropriate for me at this time. I have been waiting to make moves. Blessings brother

[@CookingwithAbigail]

MJ I love you..... I been following for years and you always been very transparent .... I needed to hear this message today because I been making a lot of changes in my life and loving myself... Continue enjoying your life, you deserve it MJ ....

[@leliawinfield8278]

I just Love you MJ! I wish I had been a part of your initial videos but I'm so glad I'm here now! Your Unique class and polish is distinct and real! I'm a 60 y/o Black woman who has learned a lot from you. Relationship tips, mental wellness and just life's lessons are some of the things I have started implementing in my life. God bless you sweetheart and I'm so glad you're " recharging your own cup!" 😘

[@bonnierantz6440]

Love seeing you happy and in a sense care free. Its inspiring and I know liberating for you. Enjoy every moment of this new journey!

[@jessycars6305]

Marc, very good decision to live your life and let the adult children develop to their best version. They are allow to make mistakes, its their mistakes. Live your life, you are allow to be happyyy! Warm regards from Curacao.

[@CocoaChanel-ef2kn]

You’re right MJ and ik you’re gonna say “I know I’m right” all my life I’ve always worried about pleasing people, looking for acceptance, put everyone before me, and never really even thought about myself much or what I want or don’t want

[@anelisahephzibah]

I just love you MJ. Your solid sense of logic and overall wisdom around the intricacies of living life and parenting. I wish you all the best on your “Do you” era! Blessings ❤

[@msbirdafter4056]

I love you and as a parent of 3 grown children and 1 teenager it can be wayyyyyyyy too much. You made the best choice a parent could ever do. SMART on your part. Have a BEAUTIFUL time in OTHER peoples country…🥰🥰🥰

[@mommatia6095]

Remember, Mother was in the house with MJ. Praise God for the immediate support of his mother. Malcom was dealing with so much as we all know being a tremendous uncle dad. Phenomenal. I'm sure the boys are set wherever they are. Successful business kids. Marco is probably taking care of DJ and growing the business. Happy Monday MJ❤

[@marya1081]

Amen to that!! Tomorrow is definitely not promised! My first born passed unexpectedly 3 weeks ago and I had to make some decisions similar to yours. I enjoy watching you MJ!

[@velmaharrison58]

It’s called “B GOOD 2 Urself “ 🧡💛💚💙💜❣️💕💞❤️‍🔥

[@nessaj4522]

I AM so happy for U that U have U for U now. Stay happy and continue your gr8 journey.

[@CHARITAJONES]

LOVE YOU LOTS BEST FRIEND MJ 😍❤️ YOU ARE AMAZING ❤️ 😍 HAVE LOTS OF FUN 😍❤️🎉 ENJOY YOURSELF 🎉❤️😍

[@melissapriester1873]

Wow MJ, For sure setting boundaries and taking care of yourself is important. Parenting can be stressful when they become adults and trying to continuously protect them. Let them grow and know that you have provided them with the tools to be successful.

[@ach3180]

I fully understand, you Sing to be very heartbroken when your nephew's move out but you will see that you will have a life, and my son just got his doctorate he lives in Vietnam and I'm happy I'm in New Jersey let him And his family live their best life, so let your nephew's live their best life like you live yours and I live mine You have given them wings

[@monib337]

I was going through the EXACT emotional situation you were going through with the boys. I am a caregiver-a people pleaser . The weight of the situation gets better when we ask ourselves what have I done for me lately. What do I want to do, now? It is so liberating when you look back and know you have to give yourself permission and the responsibility to take care of self.

[@sallyrivera3591]

I love your life MJ! I live vicariously through you! I enjoy these type of vlogs. I absolutely agree, tomorrow is not promised. Live life to the fullest. I spent so many years working two jobs with no vacation. Last year, I finally took a vacation and I did not want to return, lol. I'm making it a point to take a vacation each year.

[@Connie4580]

YOLO and that doesn't include parental guilt once they're young adults as you've done ALL that you can do. Trust your teachings! I'm so tickled to have found you and I'm a subbie all in!

[@carolkirkland819]

Yes be intentional and explore and find your best self you deserve it🤸🏿‍♀️

[@nicholediamond2430]

MJ, you are totally 💯 correct. I've dedicated my life to raising my daughter and she's grown now. That's where I'm at, trying to figure out my next chapter in life. We do need the time and freedom to do so. You're such a blessing and I appreciate the inspiration. Looks like you're having a wonderful time and I'm very happy for you🎉🎉🎉

[@nessaj4522]

U seem more comfortable in Bali. Still so good U got that experience. Good 4 U Malcolm Xxtra. Geeet in here!! 2023

[@valerieanderson4864]

Hello Butterfly! It’s good to see you sooo happy.

[@TheLovely990]

Hello. You are a great father to these young men. Glad your focusing on yourself.❤❤

[@lynnelspringer1394]

I just love your energy. The jewels you speak are so much needed. We are never to old to learn.

[@kimmieb4706]

I’m so glad you came to this conclusion. You can’t protect them from all their bad choices which are in reality learning experience. And live your best life!

[@marcelw3225]

I L♡♡♡♡♡Ve you MJ. You always have encouraging things to say. Gods continued Blessings and Success 🙏🏼🙌🏼

[@thequeendiva72]

Yessss honayyy 🌞🙏🏽. MJ you're Glowing 👍🏾👍🏾. I Luv it. Thank You for this fun video. I Luv to see people Happy and Enjoying Life 🌞 🌞. I also Luv that you took your 2 Nephew Sons 🤗 🤗 and helped them to grow in Good Young Men. We need more people like you. *NOTE TO SELF...... Now that my kids are Adults it's time to live my Best Life. I needed to hear that. That Family, Friends, Spouse, Mate, Etc "WILL BE OKAY". I felt that in my Soul. STAY SAFE EVERYONE. GOD BLESS US ALL 🙏🏽 🙏🏽.

[@sswan9689]

I didn't realize that DJ moved in with Marco. That's good & they will be fine. As I always told my daughter "figure it out" that's what I do on a day to day basis. And she also likes to travel the world. She has been to Spain a few times, Bali, & Belize. I think her next adventure is Greece or Turkey. My daughter also bought activated charcoal

[@darleenmatthews3190]

MJ ain’t nothing wrong with choosing you & living your best life….you are sooooo on point with the video I to have had to face this….& I’m trying to live my best life rn & STOP ppl pleasing…..Thank you I needed this convo 🥰

[@glendarelli]

Hi MJ Dearest, it's Auntie here...sending you so much Love~ I'm so thrilled and so very proud of you~ Enjoy yourself to the fullest wherever you may travel.

[@Lswisdom77]

I think your mother is right MJ, you didn't give yourself enough time to Be yourself and have fun. I'm happy you moved back to Bali and I wish you the Best. Much Love to Ya! Keep some pepper spray or something for protection.

[@helenarmstrong8725]

MJ enjoy yourself but just remember be careful

[@bintajammeh3637]

Much love to you! I hope every parent will reason like you MJ

[@monique0534]

New subscriber, when I tell you everything you said hit home, I needed to hear every word

[@terriesavage4897]

Happy you finally got to a point where you could let your boys go live their life and make their own mistakes. Good for you.. So excited that you went on the Bali trip for yourself! YIPPEE ENJOY!

[@bridgetsebolai6207]

Oh sweet I’m so happy for you, I’m a South African based in China 🇨🇳 I totally relate with everything you are saying. The freedom especially because no one knows you. I hope one day you can visit China especially because it’s so super safe ❤️ Have fun darling I love you 😘 Have fun

[@mattiea7801]

I LOVE that you are enjoying this journey! The learning and discoveries, chiiiiile😅 Happy, looks fabulous on you😃❤

[@cherylbailey6161]

❤❤ I needed to hear this because I want to move on to another state I'm 59 but I need more

[@lovely.nellie]

MJ you're like sunshine, and I absolutely love the wisdom that you poured into us on this video. Cheers to enjoying life🥂

[@goldenb1592]

Yes MJ, I feel you on this, my mom is retired and Thank GOD in pretty good health, but sometimes I tend to not do anything for myself because I wanna make sure she is good. But I do need to say yes to myself and take a trip, hey maybe even Bali. Your such an inspiration! Thanks for sharing❤❤❤!

[@FloMLavaran]

Home is wherever you are - live and make it amazing! LOVE the fit, as always! 😍

[@nicolestyles7684]

In essence; no matter how it happened you are experiencing the GOOD thing about "empty nest syndrome! Have fun.I am!!

[@behealthymindbodyspirit9016]

I love it MJ… Choose YOU as you care for and care about them…

[@carmenalberto2275]

I love the way you inspire me. I have said yes to everyone around me except my self.

[@TTTarot]

Love you love you love you! Thank you for all the inspiration❤ thank you for living BIG and showing us that we can too!

[@veniestagourdine3881]

MJ please elaborate more on the Activated Charcoal please.

[@cassandrakeise7799]

Enjoy life MJ. I LOVE YOU ❤️

[@patriciamorrison187]

You know listening to your videos make me feel uplifted ty MJ😍

[@asantebychoice]

you seem so happy MJ. love it for you ♥✨

[@viviansolomon1808]

Hello Mr. Harris I would first like to say I enjoy all of your content. You have said some things that hit home for me and I'm using some of your tools to work on myself to be a better person to me. Please keep up the great work. I'm looking forward to what you have next. ❤

[@FranMnguni]

Haaibo you were here in South Africa and my sister and I didn't know. We love you so much

[@YoulandaDBarber]

I'm grateful for the Marco event. He helped you see how: you need to let go; how he needs to be on his own; and how life goes back on for you.

[@yvonnecherry]

I so need to get back to myself. This message was for me.❤ Learn to live again. Thanks MJ

[@CBrown9758]

That joy is radiating off of U!😘🥂🫶💯💫

[@ll9212]

MJ I needed to hear this( I've been thinking lately about taking a trip or doing something special for me 🥂)💜💙💜💙💜

[@MysticChick]

I thought about you thinking you would leave Africa and go back to Ali looking at someone else’s instagram and a you tube. I thought How Is MJ and Maurice? Found you here and look at here you back to Bali! Wonderful for you!

[@agentj3942]

Well I saw this coming. When mj took those 2 boys with him to Bali the first time I was like, bad idea. I have learned the hard way that if you want to do a major life change, do it by yourself. Those boys will end up back in Los Angeles, promise. Next time bring no one with you and start your new chapter alone. You are now starting exactly where is should have started. You on your own journey. Can’t wait to see what this adventure leads to.

[@jacquelinesequira2210]

MJ, I am so happy you’re taking time for yourself. Enjoy! 🤗🇯🇲🇺🇸

[@asta9386]

Yes yes yes so happy for you and the boys. You had some wisdom in that advice. I'm 64 and raising my 11 (going on 14) yr old granddaughter and would love to have that balance in my life and it's challenging.

[@Tluv_1955]

I agree our phones enslaves us i need to start putting away my phone as well and just be

[@aroundanni3630]

I like your energy in this vlog!keep your spirit up!