I'm childfree by choice: 10 reasons I'm not having kids

Ever since I was 16 I decided I did not want kids, so I chose a childfree lifestyle. Here are 10 reasons why I don't want kids.
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[@enola_6871]

"kids deserve parents who want to be parents" 👏🏻

[@birdieculture-2]

And parents who are equipped, capable in every way

[@johnlewandowski8624]

@@enola_6871 I'll second that!

[@DakotaFord592]

Omg!! This man is beyond stunning!!! I want to eat his 🎂!!

[@Jonnyicey]

@@enola_6871 and the childless don't deserve being looked after in old age by other people's children 👏

[@jrv94]

@@Jonnyicey Don't see why not. After all, the child free paid their taxes to provide services to help them... And it's usually other people's children who look after other people's parents, anyway... I spend my child-free-by-choice life looking after parents whose children can no longer cope with them, leaving them old, frail and alone and funded by the welfare state, which, in turn, is funded by my childfree taxes. This especially happens because those children have other commitments, such as their own children or grandchildren that they are having to look after because their children chose to have children.

[@youtubesucks1499]

Never regretted not having kids.

[@jansleyreal]

Glad to see another childfree human! Thanks for stopping by :)

[@bruhmoment2578]

🩷🩷🩷

[@jonathanaldecoa1099]

Yeah bro; I’m 49 years old. I have no wife; nor kids; it’s fucking awesome 😎

[@LucareonVee]

41, bisexual in a same sex relationship. Never having kids or adopting kids. 😎

[@DeemanThomas]

​@@jansleyreal and remember this Jan the crazy part about having kids you never know what type of kids you're going to have think about it

[@Chromegrillz]

My family angry because I refuse to have kids. Saves me so much money and time.

[@beaulieuc8910]

brilliant, enjoy your life

[@whitneyanders5945]

There are many immigrant women where I am and they have many children. All the ones I see who are older than 50 (I think) can barely walk. They shuffle along ten metres behind their husbands. They also seem to have a lot of health problems like diabetes. Having too many kids can ruin your ability to be mobile. Being mobile as we age is very important. Birthing out kids can ruin your pelvic floor. Not being incontinent is important to me.

[@jesusmtz29]

​@@mmecharlotte it's actually the opposite

[@johnlewandowski8624]

@Chromegrillz They need to realize it's YOUR choice! As a Catholic, I am supposed to sing you that chorus about the necessity of procreation, how it's selfish not to, blah, blah, blah; but I WON'T! This is because I am ALSO an overthinker and I can think of reasons why some people shouldn't and I'm not here to judge! A few people without children won't lower the birth rate and parenthood ISN'T for everyone!

[@Jonnyicey]

@@Chromegrillz at least your honest... yes it's money saved and time. But you will lose out on so much else

[@m_jay5]

I have high functioning autism and I can't even take care of myself let alone a child!

[@Kizz217]

I’m 26 yr old man dude and I agree I’m also childfree it sucks that kids nowadays have to suffer due to having bad parents and the economy we live in can’t afford to raise kids it’s a struggle we’re bout to witness population decline people will see what the future will look like.

[@jansleyreal]

Yeah some people are definitely not fit to be parents, and it's a shame for the kid

[@willieportillo5829]

which is exactly why if you deem yourself as a good human. Your moral duty is to have kids.

[@kamra-archive]

​@@willieportillo5829Is it moral to bring souls into a world which is filled with danger?

[@willieportillo5829]

@@kamra-archive so you think its more moral to just not give them a choice? Is it moral to bring kids to school despite knowing its hard to learn stuff, or sports/athletics despite maybe getting injured or loosing?

[@lululunga3519]

Dating as a childfree person is hard, anyone relate?!

[@jansleyreal]

Definitely limits the amount of people for sure haha.

[@lululunga3519]

@@jansleyreal it really does! Woe is us.

[@DEBTFREEMIKE769]

We have enough people already

[@Europa1749]

Another 2 billion by 2050.

[@tylergnosis2581]

Choose wisely

[@Hunter-2689]

I respect people who dont get married or have kids so they can devote their life to a mission like being a doctor or something. A career that takes up too much time to have a family or that they want to give their whole life and passion to. I dont respect people whose reasons are so they can chase fun and have a party all their life. I mean if your that immature, then thank you for not having kids anyway. But its not admirable.

[@jansleyreal]

Totally agree, i think people should serve something greater than themselves in some capacity. For some people that means having kids, for others like myself it means helping other people with whatever skills or abilities I am able to.

[@chrisjudge-wm9hs]

Cope, the childless are takers.

[@baristaz8834]

The childless are more thoughtful and reasonable than you, cope buddy

[@tandelta6843]

Just let nature take it's course, if people want to end their bloodline because of their own selfishness, its over for them in the end.

[@baristaz8834]

@@tandelta6843 saying you being selfish to birth your child because of your lineage and creating more problems for society to deal with. Also you say end the Bloodline like some childfree folks don't have sibling who continue it. Bro just leave with your selfishness🤣

[@baristaz8834]

@@tandelta6843 also life is about the impact and contribution YOU make, the legacy YOU leave. There's nothing selfless about having children.

[@chrisjudge-wm9hs]

@baristaz8834 humans solve problems, more humans less problems. Your issue is socialism and the state getting in the way. It is selfish to take and not provide. You will one day be useless and my kids will be made to take care of you. Selfishness .

[@boostjunkie27]

No wife, no kids, no problems.

[@roxy629]

No meaning

[@boostjunkie27]

@@roxy629 In your eyes, but I found purpose outside of that, thank you very much. 😂👍

[@Jonnyicey]

It's alright while your young but as you age you realise the value of family

[@boostjunkie27]

@@Jonnyicey I'm in early 40s, I can't let go of my peace, quiet and freedom.

[@youtubesucks1499]

​@@roxy629Roxy, why does anyone need kids to feel fulfilled or a wife? Ever hear of having a girlfriend?

[@reckonerwheel5336]

Always appreciate the childfree men making videos on this topic; it's mostly women who talk about it. You're a wise man, enjoy the freedom!

[@jansleyreal]

Thank you so much, I’m loving the freedom! 😁

[@superchargedturbo]

This!

[@markmunroe-hz8rf]

​@@jansleyrealthe true reason I don't want kids is because the world is far too evil. Who in their right minds want to bring kids in such decadence.

[@carpenoctem775]

I’m 36. Don’t wanna get married or have kids. Domestic life seems boring anyway. But to each their own. Family life isn’t for everyone.

[@jansleyreal]

So true, enjoy your life on your own terms!

[@Darkless4X]

Having children is a choice, NOT an obligation.

[@jansleyreal]

Based

[@willieportillo5829]

Everything in life is a choice. exercise is a choice not an obligation. Being kind is a choice not an obligation

[@Jonnyicey]

@@Darkless4X if we want society to continue it sort of is an obligation. We can cope with a small amount of childless but the numbers that are predicted will collapse society.

[@Fan-zx1lz]

​@@JonnyiceyAI will replace humans, so society won't collapse. If collapsed we can go back to farming and growing own food kind of Life.

[@Jonnyicey]

@@Fan-zx1lz getting replaced by robots isn't great either

[@RuthlessAries_QueenofSwords]

I am 38 and I chose not to have kids, and I am happy with my choice.

[@jansleyreal]

Woo that's awesome! 🙌

[@RuthlessAries_QueenofSwords]

@@jansleyreal you’ll be surprised how many people our age have decided to live a child free life. All my friends are 38-50 and none of them have any kids. I think many in this generation have really figured that there ain’t nothing positive about having kids with the crazy bs going on and this economy. People complaint about stress, about having difficulty making ends meet bring a child into the mix and it will get even worse. The little time I have is for me to enjoy the way I want. I am already here and that is all that matters to me!!! Throughout this past years I have seen so many people from work getting married and getting divorced, now there are a bunch of single mothers dealing with child support. I actual don’t know how do they get by in this economy. I admire them. I am not trying to be any of that. Just don’t care for it. Peace and silence have more value to me than anything else.

[@bruhmoment2578]

@@RuthlessAries_QueenofSwordsI look up to you 😍🙌🏻

[@willieportillo5829]

@@RuthlessAries_QueenofSwordsI feel like your argument slightly is like justifying not exercising because you know so many people that either took steroids and died early, got injured, or something negative. I dont think excemptions like the ones you said are justifiable arguments to not do something. Another is like not getting married cuz u see so many people getting divorced. Now i am not one to impose a lifestyle onto you. But Id like to see your opinion in 10-20 even 30 years from now. Again like my other comment, i think hedonism is a spiraling cycle to a silent death. Creating purpose, any purpose, is what gives humans meaning to live. Challenges are part of that. Idk, i think its something beautiful you are missing out on. also… not saying this is you are anyone. But generally people of similar ideologies tend to lack self introspectiveness and reflection. Like say a relationship has never worked out, some may lack the ability to either humble themselves into admitting their own mistakes, or atleast view their situation as “oh well it wasnt meant to be, on to the next”. Just because of such experience, anyone who denounces relationships as a whole would be flawed in thinking.

[@ccjohnson6251]

yeah you better be, otherwise it would be very difficult for you as it is almost certainly too late anyways...

[@AceTheDuelist39]

I'm 39 Years Old And Child Free. I'm Not Bringing My Future Children Into A World Of Pain And Suffering.

[@bonganikato3016]

​@@bbing-99coz they are smarter. The brokes are dumb so all they can think about is sex. It makes them feel like they are contributing to something. When in actual fact they are not.

[@oaklandsoldier8520]

Real talk 💯

[@zonzore]

Exactly

[@Childfree_Jerra]

I was 15 when I knew I didn't want children. They gaslit me and told me "We'll see." Lol they SEE now that I wasn't playing!

[@jansleyreal]

That’s about the age I figured it out as well. Yeah sounds like they found out! Now you have so much time for yourself :)

[@pla4825]

😂😂😂😂

[@ThatGuy-js6mu]

Why do all you child free ppl feel the need to constantly shout that youre childfree....by choice lol. Idk seems like insecurities

[@Fan-zx1lz]

​@@ThatGuy-js6muWe need to give validation to other Childfree people. There is less content about being Childfree, There are lots of content about parenting.

[@Childfree_Jerra]

@@ThatGuy-js6mu Why do you non-childfree people feel the need to watch childfree content? Seems like you’re probably regretting your parenting decision.👀

[@croweater3638]

I have three kids and I can tell you anyone who isn't 100% committed will hate the experience and regret having them. If people objectively considered the reality of having kids, the commitmemt and sacrifice, the fertility rate would be even lower.

[@TheHouseofContemplation]

One of the biggest kept secrets is most kids are accidents. Very few actually plan their children. It just kind of happens. And then they bear the burden.

[@jansleyreal]

Makes sense, I know I’m not committed to the idea even 10% so that’s why I made my decision. I appreciate you :)

[@beaulieuc8910]

I can't imagine being tied down with 3 kids

[@sylviaschaffner2551]

Appreciate the honest response here. I m 38 and female and dont want children. My parents passed away decades ago and one reason is that I m not willing to raise a child without any form of additional family support. I also think it s too expensive. I like to travel and between working full time and keeping food and a roof over my head and looking after myself physically I have no idea where kids would fit in.

[@shaheemgirling3972]

Well said man, no one should be told or forced to have kids, it is a choice not a must.

[@jansleyreal]

Thank you, and yes exactly!

[@LouisianaCityboi]

I don't really come across childfree people who aren't happy with where they are in life. Makes sense, they spend their time and their money doing what they want to do. Parents will never admit this because the most terrifying thing in the world for a parent to think is that they made a mistake having a child.

[@jansleyreal]

Yep, that’s a very good point. I definitely know some parents who clearly have some regret with having kids

[@mrennie5158]

Bingo. They’re so terrified, they have to project onto strangers in comments sections. It’s sad, and very revealing- for them.

[@sjjsc92661]

I have three teens and if I could back in time, I wouldn't have had them even though I thought all I wanted to be was a mother. I have no problem admitting that, though I never would to them.

[@thepragmatist]

I'm a 55 year old woman who doesn't have children. I've also never been married. I completely relate with what you're saying here. Another thing that is not often discussed is that some people without children pick up the slack in society. For example, I worked in U.S. healthcare for 20 years with both children and adults in serious, traumatic situations. I don't think I could have contributed in this way if I had my own family. It simply would have been too much given what I saw and experienced on a daily basis. Having a family truly is all encompassing. And I agree with you...I started a one person consulting business and it truly is all encompassing. I couldn't imagine doing this with a family having to cater to the needs of multiple people. All the best to you and your endeavors.

[@jansleyreal]

That’s a very good point, thanks for sharing this, and for your service in healthcare :)

[@chuachua-hj9zd]

Do you regret not having children? Am asking because I am thinking of doing the same

[@thepragmatist]

@@chuachua-hj9zd I love kids, but I am glad I did not have children of my own. It would have been too much for me. It really is a huge responsibility and I take my responsibilities seriously. For example, I have an older cat (almost 16 yrs). I am up at night every two hours with her because she is very thirsty and needs to drink water. (She has dementia so she doesn't drink on her own.) I can be there for my cat, but I knew I couldn't do this for a child (it would be too much for me). To have a child, you really need a very supportive partner (and supportive extended family) and raising kids becomes the center of your life. Plus, my childhood was very dark and challenging and I needed time to recover from that. I did not want to pass that on to children of my own. With all this said, I may adopt a teenager in the future if it makes sense to do so. Right now, I started a consulting business and if I am successful, perhaps in the future, I can adopt a 15-17 year old, which makes the most sense because everyone wants a baby and not a teenager. All the best to you with your decision.

[@joulecal7]

Thanks guys, your wealth , your country and everything will be for our children when you die , being intelligent is a blessing, kiekie , thanks again

[@cosmicdream108]

I'm childfree too. One of my biggest concern is the deteriorating state of the world we live in. Almost every part of the world is experiencing extreme weather patterns making living impossible. With corrupt government and no support from them it becomes even more difficult. As a female, I've seen the many ways motherhood becomes a burden on women. From lack of affordable healthcare to career taking a hit. It's a punishment for choosing to be a mother. Since I'm CF, I get to explore my talents and work mindfully in my career and life. I'm so proud of the choice I made. Because of it I get to actively engage in things that matter. I'm hosting the first ever CF meet&greet event in my city. So grateful I get to bring people together and help build social connections. Enjoy your Thailand trip. Hope you visit us too someday. Sending you good wishes from India

[@jansleyreal]

Yay fellow childfree human! I’m glad you’re enjoying your decision and are able to pursue life in a way that’s meaningful to you 🙂

[@QilinRider21]

Soo happy for you

[@Seriksy]

To be fair, if you look at the past, they had it way worse in regards to family and kids. We've never lived in a better world, so I find this a rather illogical reason not to have kids. However I myself am not having kids too, but that's because of other reasons

[@Fan-zx1lz]

​@@SeriksyHer reasons are exactly valid and logical. It is not illogical.

[@Seriksy]

@@Fan-zx1lz The world in general has never been safer or better to live in. That's just facts. Pretty sure they had it worse during the world wars, or back in the 1800's and before. There will always be things to worry about. If that's the only reason you don't want a child, then it's better to just admit that you just don't simply want it

[@Eliseg1579]

Kids will drain you in every way and you can never give them enough. They will want more. Just don’t have them.

[@oaklandsoldier8520]

Just like having a wife

[@jeremyvanb821]

@@oaklandsoldier8520or any partner. I’ve tried both. Men, women…being in a couple is just hard for certain people. I’m one of those people. Just me and the dogs these days

[@NaiadFloss]

Im 33 and i never wanted kids , .. seems like torture lol

[@jansleyreal]

I hear you on that haha

[@willieportillo5829]

Just geniune question. What do you hope to get out of life, and what do you plan to do for the next 70 80 years of ur life?

[@NaiadFloss]

@@willieportillo5829 I'm an artist (painter and singer ) reiki healer , yoga enthusiast and I have overcome for the most part horrendous bipolar and addiction , I intend to heal others (which I already am) and work with my talents to help people who are suffering with mental illness and addictions , and spread a message with my creative pursuits of healing and raising people into connection with God / and their higher selves. Spread healing basically. My life has been very traumatic, why would I feel comfortable bringing another life into such a traumatic place if that has been my experience? No , id rather wait till the world has changed into what I want to see it as .. and therefore I shall work on that until I see it for myself .. if it's too late for pregnancy by then and I'm old and grey , so be it. Much to work on.

[@NaiadFloss]

@@willieportillo5829 I wrote a sufficient answer for this but KZbin must have deleted it !!!

[@pla4825]

I’m 37 yrs old no husband or kids I’m not against marriage or children but I’m not desperate for it either. I love being child free and I agree parenthood is a life long commitment

[@jansleyreal]

Woo welcome to the childfree club! 🙌

[@Kaz.2719]

I’m 31, had my vasectomy last year and feel pretty much exactly the same you do. Appreciate you posting your thoughts!

[@jansleyreal]

Welcome to the sterile club, it’s great!

[@lovethyneibor22736]

"Not only is it very SELFISH but also EXTREMELY SICK to wish for your kids to witness your death or the process of your demise. I want to spare my kids from having to deal with all the stress and sadness that a human being can experience while watching how their own parents are dying, Therefore I decided to have no kids." ― David Benatar

[@whitneyanders5945]

Yeah, was awful watching my father die just after my thirtieth birthday. For months afterwards, every time I closed my eyes I would see him in his final hours and it was heartbreaking. Do miss him but watching someone die is incredibly tough and the whole ‘who will be there at your deathbed’ fear tactic is totally random. Actively dying is not a spectator sport and especially not for small children to witness.

[@willieportillo5829]

yes so instead absent them of experiencing life… what is more selfish. Also unless your a hedonist, which sadly most seem to approach now. Life is about challenges and purpose. “without darkness there would be no light” same concept. Learn to enjoy life, to accept the challenges as part of a journey.

[@ib272]

I have no desire to bring someone here to go through that good point. Side note I like the energy in these child free spaces.

[@Jonnyicey]

@@lovethyneibor22736 wow so much mental illness amongst the childless, almost like a family keeps you stable.

[@lovethyneibor22736]

@@ib272 you are so wise

[@TimeTravelingHobGoblin]

Being honest, I don't want kids because I had an Fd up childhood...yep, that's my reason

[@michaelfreydberg4619]

Valid reason

[@5jerry1]

~ 62 years old, no kids. No regrets either.

[@jansleyreal]

That's so awesome to hear!

[@alphacentauri8083]

Late 50's here, same thing. I never caved into social pressure or obligation/guilt manipulation tactics from family members.

[@chadguindon6909]

I’m childfree by choice as well. It’s a decision I struggled with for years but came to a moral conclusion. Here are my top 10 reasons why I will NEVER have children…. 1. Children are expensive, I can barely support myself. 2. Parenthood is a lot of responsibility. 3. It is selfish to bring a child into the world. 4. I like having my autonomy and freedom. 5. Climate change will be a problem in years to come. 6. I’m a vegetarian which would be problematic with children. 7. Possible heath (physical and mental) conditions may come along. 8. The education system is poor. 9. Too much school drama (bullying, shootings and stabbings). 10. I’m too old now (age 40) and there can be risks at this point. Again, those are just 10 reasons but I have so many more reasons (over 100). Being childfree is one of the best decisions I’ve ever made, I have zero regrets.

[@jansleyreal]

These are respectable reasons, glad you have no regrets! :)

[@willieportillo5829]

Im not one to say your reasons arent valid. But could you further emphasize on 3, 8, and 9. I could question others like 7 and 5. But more curious on those other 3. How is it selfish to bring life into the world? And as for the education system. Youd rather do nothing about it? (or maybe you are doing something about it idk) Point is, you are the one teaching your child. Why does a system that you have an option to give your child or guide them through flat out be a reason not too. and 9. Please. Thats like saying u wont go travel cuz lots of car crashes, and robbings. Idk. Also ig if we view your potential future children as actual beings. who are you to limit them of life. Is that not selfish. (btw if you literally cannot take care of them or are over the age, those reasons make sense👌) -

[@Mylisacamplife]

No one has to explain themselves to you. What a weird thing to do ?! Do you think about your actions?

[@willieportillo5829]

​@@Mylisacamplife Im asking a question... because news flash this is a comment section and thus i assume a place for conversation. Im not intending to attack anybody, and if you view it that way then again like ive said before, it may hint at insecurity. Imagine i was to be uninformed on this topic, and when given an overview i believe that yes kids are a good thing and people should have them, and imagine this topic of conversation wasnt as political as people make it out to be, and then a person comes around and says they have hundreds of reasons for why they believe in something that i may initially not believe in. Guess what, ill very likely in a spirit of wanting to LEARN and perhaps change my perspeptive (wait what, we can do that now and days? and have conversations without taking them as attacks)... Point is... i would likely ask that person, hey honestly most of the reasons you brought up dont make alot of sense to me for this and this, i think im still leaning on my side, do you care to explain your position a little better so i can better understand (which i assume they should be able too since they said they have tons of more reasons for having their rigid stance, and if anything, it is the OPPOSITE of insulting because i believe they are smart enough to give me a better reason than the ones that they gave (which honestly i thought i made it clear how they dont make much sense)) Imagine what society MyLisaCamplife you desire to live in that you consider it SUCH A WIRD THING TO DO so much so that they must THINK ABOUT THEIR ACTIONS, before caring to engage in a conversation with someone whom they may disagree with or just not fully understand their point. Infact, how DARE YOU, ask me if i think about my actions. I dont need to explain myself to you. What a weird thing of you to ask from me. just in case you didnt catch on, with that last tine... its called scarcasm, i dont want u commenting again saying how seeee you did it youself. which i frankly wouldnt be surprised if you did based on your answer (this last part is something that you maybe could tell me is rude to comment, but wtv, im a little annoyed lol. have a great day, maybe you can respond and we can have a conversation from this. or be like the rest and shut up. and then perhaps continue to get mad at people without never engaging in conversation and progressing anyone.)

[@Chillax-rb7it]

​@@willieportillo5829do you have kids if so do you regret them?

[@Shipslitz]

parenting is like singing. not everyone should do it

[@CactusCowboyDan]

It’s weird and cringy whenever some parent turns up in the comments and writes about their kids and then makes baseless, judgmental statements about childfree people like they are the bad guys or less than human just because they don’t have kids. Here’s some advice for those small minded parents or pronatalists in general: You’re NOT special. You’re NOT entitled. Don’t go around calling other people selfish just for not having kids like you have and then expect us to give you respect just because you’re mommies and daddies. Nobody cares. If anything, you come off as insecure and jealous. And there’s plenty of data out there about parents who regret ever having kids just as there are people who regret never having any. So quit these nonsensical, meaningless arguments that are designed more to cast anxiety and belittle anyone who doesn’t want to procreate rather than convince anyone of the joys of parenthood.

[@jansleyreal]

preach 🙌 neither choice is better or worse, they're just different paths.

[@jansleyreal]

Also, your animations are incredible!

[@LB-ci8pz]

You are not selfish for not having kids! You will be the ones left behind the loosers on the game of life 😂

[@CactusCowboyDan]

@@LB-ci8pz Life isn’t a game. If you treat it like one then everyone looses equally. Life is just life. Stop making a competition out of it.

[@Minho48400]

Im 21 years old, my mother told me in future am I gonna have kids??.....and I said no cause its too much work.... in my future, I would like to be a free man. No worries, anything.

[@annas4191]

32, no kids. not sure if I want any. the world is a chaotic gong show. I don't think you need to have a child of your own to know love, absolutely not. Not everyone needs kids. Live your life, be your authentic self. much love!

[@jansleyreal]

Well said Anna! Thanks for stopping by :)

[@christianfinkbeiner684]

1. Kids are annoying. That's the only reason I need.

[@jansleyreal]

Yep that's fair 😂

[@A_Muzik]

I’m 34. I’ve been childfree for the last 13 years. No regrets.

[@jansleyreal]

Hell yeah, glad to hear!

[@HowlingFantods]

@@jansleyreal So she/he became childfree at the age of 21? Did you lose a child or something? WTF...

[@richradtylr4]

​@HowlingFantods 😂 shit dont sound right.

[@charmedprince]

​@@HowlingFantodsit definitely doesn't add up 😂

[@MaxinetheLoLGamerGirlUSA]

@@HowlingFantodsSounds more like she made the conscious decision to never have kids when she was 21, and has held a child free stance for 13 years, with no regrets. Not sure where the confusion is it’s quite simple

[@alexlindquist2986]

For those commenting "who cares", I don't think this video is meant for you. I live in Chicago and I don't want kids, but that isn't a big deal here. When I visited a friend of mine in rural Louisiana, the first question asked everyone asked me was "Where are your wife and kids?" They got very judgmental with my response that I didn't want that, it made me glad that I lived in a place where I didn't have to deal with that. For many people in liberal cities, this video doesn't mean much. For those in small-town 'Murica, it might be a nice reminder you aren't alone.

[@jansleyreal]

Thank you for sharing this. This has by far been the most backlash I’ve gotten on a video. It’s kinda interesting actually. The video is really meant for those who feel like they “need” to have kids to fulfill some expectation or life script. Or even for those who also want to be childfree and want to know they are not alone :)

[@alexlindquist2986]

@@jansleyreal You're welcome, I definitely loved the video! Don't let the haters get you down, the video wasn't meant for them anyways.

[@Huseyin_Gazi]

I am 31 who still live with parents due housemarket disastrous in the Netherlands and some expect me to marry and have children under these circumstances, no thanks I enjoy my freedom and happily! ^=^ Other than that, I don't have the commitment and responsibility it takes to care a child x.x

[@jansleyreal]

I lived with my parents until I was 30, I think it’s definitely more common these days anyway. And yes, enjoy your freedom! Life is too short to live it under some societal script.

[@jamielehman4934]

I never understood the argument "who will take care of you when youre older." Whats the difference between being pushed in a wheelchair by your kids who see you as a burden, and being pushed in a wheelchair by a nursing home employee? At least you dont have to feel guilty for troubling the nursing home employee.

[@willieportillo5829]

I think u should have kids but. Yea that argument isnt very strong lol. Also if your reason is because you would rather not burden them. Then take control and get rich and afford to live somewhere nice w other people taking care of u

[@jansleyreal]

That’s a great point!

[@maxcarren112]

I think this shows a superficial understanding of what “taking care of someone” means. Like it isn’t just pushing a wheelchair or giving a sponge bath or whatever. It’s calling your parents on the phone, visiting them, talking through life’s struggles, watching out for shady people, fighting for someone if they need it. And yeah, you’d hope everyone is responsible enough to build enough wealth to handle their own living in retirement, but if something happens unexpectedly the only people that will really help are your family. Can’t rely on friends or the government for big stuff. Kids aren’t pets, they’re not dolls, they’re not “little angels”. They’re an investment in the future, a future that you won’t see. They’re not an investment you expect to be “paid back”, it’s enough that they become their own adults with their own future. The return is knowing them and being a part of their lives, being able to help them like you were helped.

[@angelaholmes8888]

I made the choice to be childfree when I was 11 years old i don't regret my choice my mother struggled to take care of me and my brother my father was in and out of jail most of my childhood so my mom was the breadwinner

[@jansleyreal]

Yeah that sounds difficult for your mom, kudos to you for being childfree

[@willieportillo5829]

Not asking this scarcastically btw lol but what exactly does this have to do with you and your kids though? Are you gonna treat then bad because of that? Or are you saying your exposing yourself to a bad partner? in which case, should the off chance that YOU decide to choose the wrong partner. Youd rather deprive yourself or ur future children of life?

[@hetalkantawala6502]

40 single and childfree no regrets

[@jansleyreal]

Woohoo! 🎉

[@orblyworbly1357]

36, almost 37 year old woman - still no regrets on not having kids. Knew from high school kids just weren’t for me, but was always told “my biological clock” would hit me at some point. Hasn’t so far, and I reckon if it hasn’t by now, it probably won’t (and I’m perfectly happy with that!). Here’s to retiring early! :)

[@RC093]

I had one at 30 as well. At first my doctor refused because I didn't have kids, but then I showed him my mental health records and then all of a sudden he changed his tune and approved me for the procedure and it was the best decision I ever made. No regrets what so ever.

[@Andy-uj1fe]

Same here!!! I just had one and that was it for me!!!

[@daniellelee4618]

I think as woman in America it stems from lack of community, universal healthcare, rights taken away, cost of living, no universal childcare, and the world just becoming a bad place overall. Fertility is down globally because of a lot of these reasons.

[@Nothereforit174]

The world is less violent than centuries past but white people won’t let anyone feel that because it’s not satisfying to ruin the climate without everyone else feeling crappy too. Also, don’t speak for me. As a Black woman in America...I just don’t particularly desire to carry a child nor be responsible for it as a parent in any capacity. We are not all having the same experiences though for you to loop us in together because BW who do want kids have to consider medical racism that kills us more than other group when pregnancy is involved, climate change we aren’t driving but suffer for via environmental racism when white people’s(richer mostly Spanish Hispanics and certain East Asians too tbh but it’s white supremacy based), landfills are placed by our homes to pollute the air causing youth to have skin and respiratory issues lifelong(if not ruin our water from river dumping rural white towns do that drains into mostly Black cities like Jackson), and the assault against our existence by police, systemic/institutionalized racism unaddressed, and now schools even banning our books, lessons on race, and some wanting the little bit of history they tell about us besides segregation(slavery that they lie about being gone as if the thirteenth amendment doesn’t clearly state it’s not) off school curriculum. Now I personally hope that drives the more baby loving to make even more of us and fight the system but I also totally understand not wanting to risk one’s life or their child’s for that effort. I’ve had medical racism affect me in literal life or death situations more than a couple times. Can’t imagine doing it in a situation where the body is already trying to accommodate another life form. There is no American woman and white women’s voting habits make that very clear, as do white Latinx women’s, and more AA women than I care for even if overall they still vote blue(it all sucks but don’t actively hate yourself for goodness sake)

[@Nothereforit174]

But the world isn’t bad, and often you’ll find the places struggling have a western source to thank so is the world becoming bad or is just suffering consequences of white imperialism/colonialism that’s ongoing in many cases and never fixed its mess before leaving in others? Like Afghanistan, how dare our CIA ruin their democracy for a power foothold in the area when it was more central, then desert them because “bring home our troops”? Well maybe people signed up for what they did and we shouldn’t interfere if we don’t want to partake when the getting is no longer good. From a society of people living alongside each other how they chose to women not being able to leave their homes or abusive relationships, because our leaders couldn’t stand the idea of a democratically elected communist. Remember these things when saying the world is getting bad as you live safely and Palestinians die because of something British/US forces started and the US is literally participating in. It’s not the world. It’s certain areas that you don’t have to worry about anyway, that are just blooming with conflict from seeds planted long ago, while you say meaningless things and don’t hold your government accountable for their actions in the mess

[@youtubesucks1499]

As a woman in America why is it someone else's responsibility to pay for your child? Why should your neighbors be taxed so you can have their money?

[@xandercrew6088]

YOU SOUND LIKE THE ULTIMATE FREELOADER

[@madhouse8301]

⁠@@youtubesucks1499those children pay for other people’s pensions so I’m not sure who’s using who here.

[@sngjess]

Completely understand, I'm the same age and I don't think I'll ever have kids. It's struggle enough just taking care of myself and trying to figure out my path in life lol. It's something that gets snide remarks where I'm from (Asia), especially for women, but it's definitely not worth inflicting an unwilling and unready parent like me on kids who deserve better. As they say, you do you!

[@jansleyreal]

I know the struggle of figuring out a life path, it's been one of the biggest things that has haunted me in the past few years. Gaining more clarity each week though! Hope you are too :)

[@sngjess]

​@@jansleyreal And I don't think the process will ever really stop! Which sounds depressing, but I think we can all dedicate small pockets of time to improving ourselves in the tiniest ways every day. I believe we'll all be okay in the end as long as we keep reflecting and taking small actions towards figuring out what brings us fulfilment, and just trying to practice empathy and patience for others around us too.

[@willieportillo5829]

⁠​⁠​⁠Dude honestly. I thinka false narrative is that everyone is gonna have shit figured out. Thats the beauty of life, the unknown. However your desire to continue to improve is what makes it worth living. When you first start at something, you accept your gonna suck, and you go from there. No amount of books u read on how to drive will prepare you to drive perfectly the first time you do it. Also theres something to be said that you fall to what you accept. If you had a child, your awareness on not wanting children should allow you to realize that you must work harder now to earn more for them. People back then had it worse and they had children is what im trying to say. But i think the truth is, nobodies perfect. The fact that you would want to be a good parent tho and provide is what i think signals that no matter what. You would be a good parent because you GAF.

[@chevlim]

After learning that you have left your job, I was curious whether you have kids to provide for, since the finances would naturally be a concern. Now I know! Having volunteered with many children with autism before, giving birth to a child with birth defects is my biggest fear, and the biggest deterrent for me. None of my peers seem to empathise with me, and they think that I’m just overly pessimistic 😂 (maybe I am haha) Funny that we have a lot in common!

[@SimplyTakara89]

What if you had children and they were healthy? I had this same fear and reasons as well to have this fear. Our Fears are not always true and you should always challenge your mindset and say hey what if my child is healthy?

[@chevlim]

@@SimplyTakara89 i think it’s because my fear of having an unhealthy child far exceeds my desire to have a healthy child. With a healthy child, I feel that my well-being will only improve slightly. But with an unhealthy child, i think my well-being will go be significantly be hampered

[@SimplyTakara89]

That means you let fear win. It’s so relatable growing up I was told I was a scaredy cat and worried about everything all the time (I still worry too much, working on that). I hate fear because it can be so detrimental to us, fear stopped me from alot of experiences and when I choose to go against fear the greatest things happened as well! I carry the sickle cell trait, if my husband also carried the trait my kids would have the full blown disease. I also carry something else I forget the name but they told me if my husband also carried it my children wouldn’t even really been able to be born something about organs getting to large causing miscarriages well anyway he doesn’t carry any genetics I carry. God is powerful both my children are healthy and like I said my husband carries none of the harmful genes I carry. I also lost my mom 1 month after my daughter was born so yes there’s a lot of fears but fears don’t mean truths…

[@jansleyreal]

Apparently we do have quite a bit in common! And yeah, that is a real fear, for sure.

[@MySunshine234]

Yep autistic kids are hard! I work with some of them. Makes me not want to have kids I'm good with them there because I work in classroom and have the teacher and the other support services. I could not imagine dealing with that at home. Makes it a lot easier to deal with them when I do my daily gym sessions after work gets rid of the stress. If I had a kid after work I couldn't go to the gym like that. I truly love being childfree.

[@UlexiteTVStoneLexite]

My husband and I are 36. He got a vasectomy last year. He never wanted kids and I thought I did but I really didn't. I was just going with what everyone else was saying to do. We want to spend our money on what we want. We want to go and travel and do whatever we want. I also just don't want to take the risk of having a child with medical complications. It is absolutely a possibility and it's not something I'm willing to risk. Most importantly I don't want to give birth. Yeah do not want to do that.

[@jansleyreal]

Sounds like you all made a good choice!

[@ohhhhhnooooo]

1. Can have health problems carrying kid, I could die during childbirth 2. Kids may born with birth defect or health problem 3. Kids may not turn out the way I want them to be 4. Even if they are perfect, they might end up dying from cancer, committed suicide or kill by somebody 5. Life is too harsh for me, why do I want them to have this type of life 6. I haven't met the right man for me to have kids with. 7. Freedom... no responsibility... if I have a job, I can quit at anytime. 8. Kids might not like me. they might not talk to me ever again or they might kill me. 9. stress out... they might run away, or get hurt, have to pay medical bills 10. I don't want to take care of them. I rather they take care of me... I'll force them to work as model or actor.

[@kme321]

Being childfree is a decision i made by age 27. There is nothing selfless about bringing life into this world since people have kids for selfish reasons. In my culture I'm definitely expected to have kids especially as an African and a Muslim.

[@jansleyreal]

That’s dope you made that choice for yourself, enjoy it!

[@willieportillo5829]

By what u said, it sounds like u have other reasons. But since u highlighted the selfless bit. Both are selfish and selfless in their own way. (im not saying You said that there is nobility in no children, but there is people who do think that its purely a Selfless act)

[@RedLegPiper]

As someone with teenage kids....i dont regret being a dad. But yep. $200k/child is the norm for 18 years, and thats without college or any major health or disabilityissues.. I also like how you didn't throw shade to those with kids. Each person has a different purpose in life. Wish you well bro. Your mom was right.

[@bimmyfrizzo3988]

I'd rather be in prison for life than to have kids!

[@childfreedude8656]

How old were you when you got snipped? Did you get any hassle about not already having kids? Like you I knew at 16 I didn't want kids. After two near misses when I was 22 it didn't take much for me to jump up on a table. First two docs were dinosaurs who wouldn't do it for me because of my age and not having kids already. Third guy was awesome. Have never regretted it and would do it all over again. Absolutely bang on about the lifelong parent.

[@jansleyreal]

I was 30 when I got it done. I didn’t get hassle from people I know because I didn’t tell anyone about it. The doc gave me no hassle, congratulated me actually haha. No regrets from me either!

[@beaulieuc8910]

thank you

[@Starry_Night_Sky7455]

Childfree Kimberly started a channel on this topic. Given all of the cultlike irrational pressure put on individuals to spawn, I completely get why she felt the need to launch that thing. Too many people sell myths and fiction about kids. It is far more irritating in the South. Quite frankly, it harms kids. It's too much pressure to have to be your parent's reason to live.

[@ghostzone985]

30 percent of my salaray goes to healthcare coz I have health issues. 40 percent goes to monthly expenses - food, bills And I do not even have a car, how can I afford having kid?

[@corypopoff865]

I respect your decision! I'm a 35 year old father of a 12, 9, and a 6 year old. We also have two dogs! Lol. My life didn't start until we had our first. We just came back from Vietnam, travel is doable!

[@jansleyreal]

Good to know travel is still doable with kids! Sounds like you all are doing it right, cheers!

[@alvaresCarr3887]

Hey buddy, I'm from Mexico and I agree with you, society puts a lot of pressure on people who don't want to have children. I don't wanna bring kids into this competitive and insecure world. Sorry if my English is not very good, take care ✌️

[@mamba137]

I feel where u coming from and i respect your 10 reasons why u dont want kids some of my reasons are similar to your reasons im 36 single live alone i get questioned all the time about why i dont have kids i tell people i just dont want none and they look at me like im a monster kids are expensive and i love my freedom and peace plus i love to travel shit having a women is expensive as well im good how my life is going and im very blessed and i have no regrets about not having kids

[@jansleyreal]

I'm glad you have no regrets, childfree life is great option for those who are willing to go against the grain :)

[@AdmiralBison]

People choosing to be 'Child free' is ALSO good for people with kids. - It allows more resources to be made available to families in need like - childcare, maternity leave, prenatal care etc... - 'childfree' have more time and energy to help out and contribute to society in other meaningful ways "It takes a village to raise a kid" more and more these days. Stressed out struggling parents will thank heavens in a few years as there will be many 'childfree' friends and family members that can help out from time to time. - baby sit - tutor kids - talk to and emotional support (childfree have more time and energy) It's a GOOD thing for everyone and far from selfish, it's thoughtful.

[@jansleyreal]

This a point of view I never considered, thanks for sharing this!

[@willieportillo5829]

Maybe… but i think this is just Cope. A decline in population is not a net positive for the world

[@ib272]

Exactly. More resources for their kids. Less polution less population less suffering less poor etc. Why would they care about somebody else not wanting to make kids? Doesnt make sense. These people have a weird psychology that I dont even want to understand

[@AdmiralBison]

@@ib272 I can only speculate that on a personal level it's resentment. On a macro level a Capitalist Economic system relies on infinite growth otherwise it crashes. In this case Pronatalism/birthers A huge population of cheap, poor, obedient, poorly educated, desperate labour.

[@AdmiralBison]

@@willieportillo5829 *8 BILLION* global population not enough to fuel Capitalism? How many billions more people and net stress on natural resources and environment do we need until Capitalism is satisfied and sustainable?

[@mh0mz]

Me too man me too. 35 this year and no desire.

[@jansleyreal]

Very nice, all aboard the childfree train! 🚂

[@willieportillo5829]

your young. Thats like saying, im 17 and still have no desire to graduate school. or get my wisdom teeth out, or start exercising and eating right.

[@Matrix333-o5e]

They said pain make you strong good thing I'm never having kids no pain to start with

[@willieportillo5829]

kids aside… Youd rather be a person of weakness then? unable to face and overcome challenges or atleast instill discipline?

[@ThatsTravelUSA]

This was great to hear/see from the other side. I do have a child (one) and I really enjoy hearing stories like this. I feel like this is becoming more and more popular and I think it is fantastic!

[@jansleyreal]

Appreciate you stopping by! You are much more open minded than a lot of parents that have been flaming this video, so thank you for the breath of fresh air! I feel like neither path is right or wrong, just personal preference :)

[@ThatsTravelUSA]

@@jansleyreal I went through a really rough time having my son and have had to have many operations since and it has been a life changing event for me and I can’t have anymore children.. I love my son more than anything, obviously but my life would have been very different physical had I not had children.. I guess that probably helps me see it from both sides. I think it’s beautiful people being fulfilled without having to take that next step that society has created to be the “next step”. It’s a very interesting topic! 😊

[@justinbecker4976]

No regrets being child free at 49 here. By the way, I've been working online from Thailand for the last 10 years, travel a lot every year, and loving life. I've got a great housekeeper/nanny that takes care of my dog while I'm gone....

[@jansleyreal]

That’s incredible Justin, sounds awesome! What kind of work do you do? Sounds like you are me in the future haha

[@darkwhitedirewolf]

good on you, can't argue

[@jansleyreal]

Thanks, appreciate you stopping by :)

[@willlyon7129]

I’m in my 30s, I’m still single and happy without kids.

[@willieportillo5829]

your young af

[@JazzGaming26]

I'm a 29 year old female and I'm very glad I didn't hop on the have kids bandwagon. I know for a fact that I wouldn't be a good parent. I also enjoy uninterrupted sleep. When I told people I didn't want to have kids and got the " you'll change your mind" sentence all that did was make me want to prove them wrong.

[@Upload-video-terserah-gue]

Enaknya jadi manusia = 1. Ada makanan 2. Fisik sehat 3. Panjang umur 4. Punya keluarga 5. Ada tempat tinggal bagus 6. Manusia Jujur 7. Saling toleransi 8. Masuk surga 9. Dapat rezeki. 10. Damai dengan orang. 11. Mempunyai pemimpin yang pro rakyat. Dll Gak enaknya jadi manusia = 1. Kelaparan 2. Kadang merasakan sakit , ada yang berkebutuhan khusus ( tidak bisa melihat, tidak bisa mendengar, tidak bisa berbicara ), ada yang sakit berat = stroke , kanker , dll , ada yang kehilangan anggota tubuh . 3. Suatu hari meninggal 4. Ada yang Gak punya keluarga 5. Ada yang tidak punya tempat tinggal atau tempat tinggal jelek 6. Ditipu orang 7. Rasis SARA ( suku , agama, ras dan budaya) , Rasis yang lain. 8. Masuk neraka 9. Harus bekerja kalau mau punya harta 10. Di hina orang 11. Mempunyai pemimpin Tidak pro rakyat Dll. Maka dari itu saya memutuskan tidak punya anak. Ada gak enaknya jadi manusia. Mungkin anak saya mengalami hal buruk tersebut . Yaa walaupun ada enaknya jadi manusia, saya tetap tidak punya anak. ( Indonesia language) .

[@GrantMcLeod-u2r]

Excellent video. I never wanted to bring children into this world of wars, hatred, divorce ~ and so much suffering. Parents want children to have grandchildren who would be a reflection of themselves and "marriage". Society, schooling, religion ~ all push children into "having a family." It is not easy to choose to be single. So much pressure of the group thing, to be married. But I have accepted my life choice and have no regrets. Perhaps in a perfect world where people all got along and shared, I could have had children. But NOT in this reality of our world as it is.

[@Hola.soy.normii]

Completely relate! 😊

[@jansleyreal]

Glad to hear that!

[@paulalobato5987]

My daughter and son feel the same way

[@Melnokina.-.]

Good for them. I hope you support their decision

[@Alan-lv9rw]

Whatever makes your boat float! I know my life wouldn’t be significant if I wasn’t able to parent my son and daughter.

[@faitharnett8177]

Honestly things today are pretty terrible too. If I ever had kids, I’d want them to experience life as it was before technology completely took over, like the way we did back in the 90s and earlier 😢

[@MikaelChoi]

21st century economics and social life are the best birth controls ever😅 No kids either and will stay that way.

[@jansleyreal]

You got a point there!

[@willieportillo5829]

FAXXX. Id rather have a baby in 1500’s without modern medicine, or modern technology. btw what dies social life mean? u can go outside find a gym and make friends, or join a club, or an organization. if you cant make friends, thats on u lol. Btw i used to be shit at it, but got better. stop making excuses, take responsibility, realize the abundance of opportunity in this world. (and i hope u better not have commented that from a place with AC in the US.)

[@gusmonster59]

You don't need to make list. You don't need to explain yourself. It's nobody's business but your own. Just be honest with anyone you have a relationship with.

[@wheatstonebridge]

Im childfree, more not by choice, but it really really helps me watching videos like this.

[@jansleyreal]

Whatever your situation, glad the video helped you :)

[@HCTarik]

An intense horn huh? My man, you made the right choice. You're not cut out to have kids.

[@prunejuice3796]

I got the snip at 30, 38 now, kids are great but not for me. 😂 Life is peaceful, cheap and stress free.

[@jansleyreal]

Nice! It’s a great peaceful feeling!

[@dundundun4242]

Everyone has the right to choose the path in their life

[@johnlewandowski8624]

To each is own! Parenthood ISN'T for everyone! I realize there is a need to maintain a birth rate and sustain a population; but if you're not fit for it, you're not fit for it! Plenty of people are, so don't worry about it!

[@JoJo-vz5uy]

43 here and never wanted kids. I love animals and have 5 furry rescued fur babies and my life is a paradise.

[@jansleyreal]

That's amazing, stoked for you!

[@QilinRider21]

I for one cannot in good conscience call myself bringing a child into this world that we live in. There's the fact that this world is a scary and disgusting place that is going to hell in a hand basket more and more everyday. There's also the fact that I'm someone with a very short fuse and I do not have the patience for the responsibility that comes with having to raise a child. There's also the fact that I struggled with my weight for the better part of my 31 years on this planet (I inherited my weightiness from both parents) and I would hate for any child of mine to inherit that and have to deal with the same struggles. I also have some personality traits and behavioural characteristics that I DO NOT wish to pass down to any child. Then there's the current education system which has gotten so deplorable that I would have to be a total maniac and moron to even think of subjecting a child to that. And that's not including the bullying and the other mess that goes on with that. Then there's the fact that unemployment among young people is so outrageous, I cannot stomach the thought of my child having to inherit a world like this. In short I value my peace of mind way too much to jeopardize it with having a child I know I've rambled a bit but yeah those are my hang ups about having children. As a man also, I'm happy to see more and more men addressing this topic. Peace everybody.

[@DarylSolis]

I'm 37, divorced, and no kids. I can't tell you how lucky I feel to not have kids with my ex wife 😂 It's great! I agree with your points. But of course, as men, we can not have kids anyway without a woman. And of course they can't have kids without us men. So, for a man to make a video about choosing not to have kids is like a rooster choosing not to ley an egg in his life 😂

[@bogeysbaby]

I'm child-free. Wish now that I wasn't. Sure, I had every reason to not have a child when I was younger but now...now it's somehow different.

[@paulalobato5987]

Oh yeah I definitely do . There should be more people making that choice because there are so many unfit so called parents . Unfortunately it's very sad.

[@lilyann168]

Thank you for making this…the childfree community needs more men to speak on this. Thanks for being one of them.

[@jansleyreal]

Happy to talk about it!

[@Justacreative1]

I knew before my teenage years that I didn’t really want kids. But I just thought it was something that was just part of life and I’ll be okay if I just go with it… But as I got older…I really started to have internal conflict with myself because I am in those “child bearing” years. And the thought of no turning back if I chose to have them was just overall a dooming feeling. I am done fighting with myself on it and chose to be 100% child free. I would rather regret not having them than to regret having them. Watching this gave me hope that I can find a partner that wants the same lifestyle as me. Not all men wants kids 😅

[@jansleyreal]

oh hell yeah, there's childfree dudes out there! I have 2-3 guy friends alone that are childfree.

[@Justacreative1]

@@jansleyreal that’s very refreshing and encouraging to hear 😼

[@cinematicwinter]

Number 8 is something people rarely consider, but to me it's very disturbing that people choose to have children not understanding that their child could easily come out with severe health issues, mental health issues, disabilities. It's a gamble. I would say the majority of people who are trying to have kids, if you asked them if they're prepared to take care of that child for the rest of their lives and spend every cent on their care, they would probably say no. To me it's so incredibly selfish that people have children hoping the kids will bring something to THEIR life, essentially playing lottery with someones life. Unless you're fine with and would appreciate a severely disabled child and you're fine with caring for them for their entire adulthood, AND you're fine with your adult child going into the care of strangers who probably won't care about them when you die, then ok. Have the kid :) I'm Antinatalist, but you don't have to be one to understand that if someone is not prepared and wouldn't be *honoured* to take care of a disabled child/future adult, then choosing to have children of their own is very wrong. Because you ARE gambling on whether or not that will be the case.

[@jansleyreal]

Preach, some people definitely go into parenthood with rose colored glasses 🙌

[@willieportillo5829]

Thats like saying. UNLESSS your prepared for the gamble that your Plane crashes and kills you when traveling. NEVER TRAVEL. unless your prepared for food poisoning, never eat at a restaurant. Unless your prepared to get mugged on the street, ir crash your car, or get injured in the gym. Never go out, or drive, or workout. (maybe an extreme, but u get the point) Its not selfish. Im not going to say having kids is selfless either. But you not having kids is not selfless either. Some would argue even selfish because youd rather live la vida loca yourself for you and your “peace”.

[@antinatalistwitch111]

Great video 🎉

[@jansleyreal]

Thank you 😁

[@lovethyneibor22736]

Do you know that antinatalism is beautiful ❤️

[@LunitaArtCraft]

Thank you for sharing! I am just like you. I dont want them for most of those reasons.However my main reason is because I dont want to give birth. 😅 I have health conditions that will make things more difficult for me pain wise. And I dont want to ruin my body perhaps it sounds selfish to think that way but it is what is. 😂 Also, I can't afford it either. Something thats helped me is having a pets. Cats are the best thing for me. So if I feel lonely I can always count on them to make me laugh or smile. They sometimes howl at night for no reason at 3am. Lol which reminds me of a baby. 😂 Anyways, I wouldn't worry about what others say about this topic. You do what makes you happy and I hope you can find a partner who is on the same page as you.

[@debra05]

Giving birth is no joke!! Women have to prepare the best they can and white knuckle through it. I made it through one and thought I could never ever ever go through it again. Managed to do it one more time after a long long gap. My body STILL had muscle memory from the first experience! 90 of this man's fears will likely not come true. But I think if he is totally right that if he is content as is, he should totally do that! The real trick is when one partner wants a kid and the other doesn't

[@LunitaArtCraft]

@@debra05 The ladies gotta be brave! Lol well at least you made it through. 😊 My partner doesn't want kids so I am good there. We rather save money to go on vacations often. 👍

[@jansleyreal]

That makes total sense why you wouldn’t want kids then. Great point about pets. I would definitely be open to getting a cat in the future 😁

[@beaulieuc8910]

I prefer plants, don't get the expensive of vets bills and hassle and expensive of finding someone reliable to look after pets

[@willieportillo5829]

This actually makes some sense lol. And its not selfish when your at danger or health risk🙏 id only say your missing out on something beautiful in life.

[@larenmunday2568]

Reason 1 "me" Reason 2 "me" Reason 3 "me" .... You get the point. This is the repeating ignorance of the self absorbed nihilistic narcissist.

[@jansleyreal]

I like me

[@CactusCowboyDan]

Try naming a single reason to have kids. They are all “me me me”. More so than not having kids. Oh and plenty of parents are narcissistic

[@Capital_KP]

I do agree that kids should not be a default for all. I changed my mind from not wanting (16-26), to wanting kids in my life, we had our first at 32 and second at 34. I pressured myself to not wanting kids eg. with ambition to reach goals and success that I later felt superficial for me. I just lowered my goals a bit with work and traveled a lot before having kids. They make me a better person, even if they also make me crazy from time to time 😂

[@petarkamenski5362]

One kid costs 300-400k until 18, with global inflation it will go up to 500k

[@userpapa-f4d]

i`m 36 and been single for about 6 years and i don`t want to have kids. We`re not alone bro.

[@jansleyreal]

Respect ✊

[@jamiebishop9512]

I just don't have the space for adult goats in my garden so don't buy kids.

[@STCEdits01]

damnnn brave chose, also if U wanna scale ur personal brand with short form content just hit me up!!

[@mjfraser04]

45 male, no kids, never married here. I am childless for two reasons: #1- I personally do not want kids #2- I feel that creating a sentient life that didn't/couldn't give consent goes against the foundation of my moral compass: Do no harm to others, especially direct harm (creating a sentient being who will have to deal with life's struggle for survival just because the parent wanted to is the definition of "selfish"). #Antinatlalism

[@Blackavian]

All the other reasons are secondary to the most important one: not having the desire to have children. I never wanted them and now, despite the pressure from family and other women, I don’t want them. I’m 72 and I have never regretted my decision.

[@danieltenorio3559]

Population decline may be good for a personal life but for a society it will led to collapse. It’s called population problem

[@JohanaGrey]

I am constantly pestered by people strengers and familyl , about having kids. ITs crazy how people feel its ok to tell you how to live your life when you are a woman. The resenment toward society not letting me make decisions myself is growing every time.

[@jansleyreal]

Yeah I imagine it's frustrating. Good thing is you are ultimately in control, so if you don't want kids, then you have that freedom

[@scootergirl5940]

You're Totally on the mark With Everything; Not Everyone is Suitable For Parenthood.... And There Are Numerous Ways To Leave A LEGACY That Doesn't Involve Kids.... I Cannot Have Kids Due To Going Thru Early Menopause From Endometriosis At Young Age... However, I've Not Had "Maternal Instincts " Since I Was 16 & It Never Changed..... So I Consider My Physical Situation A "Blessing in Disguise "..... Besides, There Are Tons of Kids In Foster Care, There Are Lots of Kids Waiting to Be Adopted As It Is, WHY MAKE MORE..? If Folks Really Wanna Be Parents & They're 100%Ready, Then More Power To Them..! However, Those Who Aren't Interested SHOULDN'T BE FORCED TO HAVE KIDS.....!! Just My Opinion....

[@lc7169]

You are 100% correct. I’ve had 3. I had them because of following the status quo. I would never recommend it unless you really want it. I didn’t and still don’t.