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@europetruck58793 жыл бұрын
from the truth you are speking and i find my self here to calm
@TheImmanent3 жыл бұрын
A video about non-dualism would be appreciated.
@42VS3 жыл бұрын
I'm going to be honest. I love your videos, but this one is kinda not great. What it talks about is only half of the whole picture. What about the joys and magic of our choices? Whether they be having children, or not having them, or other ones. This isn't a comforting video, as I assume it's meant to be. It's a pessimistic, depressing piece of content. "You're f*cked whatever you do" is not only a purely nihilistic message, but also an objectively wrong one. I have made choices in life I don't regret one bit. Whether they be career decisions or relationships. And I'm sure all of us have. While there are no universally "right" choices, there ARE choices which are right for us. And I guess you are perhaps trying to say the same thing by talking about choosing the kind of misery one is suited for. But, frankly, what a piss-poor way to make that argument. Sorry if I come across as harsh. I'm a fan of the channel and the content all of you lovely folks put out. But sometimes, maybe it's a good idea to reflect on not just what we wish to say, but how we present it. Lest our expression ruin the intention of our piece.
@snaxicakes3 жыл бұрын
I like this because it emphasizes to do the best with what you have.
@joshuataylor35503 жыл бұрын
I find it bizzare that I only exist because millions of generations did have children.
@eddieb54523 жыл бұрын
Every child deserves a parent, but not every parent deserves a child.
@Nokss873 жыл бұрын
❤❤❤❤
@Nokss873 жыл бұрын
The best comment ever!
@nikiepunt86313 жыл бұрын
Yes 👍🏻
@SMN9a3 жыл бұрын
Agree
@lordoffraternity3 жыл бұрын
Brilliant words
@Jasta853 жыл бұрын
I'm an introvert who forced myself out of my shell and dated throughout college and afterwards and almost got married because "it's what you're supposed to do", only to realize I'm actually happier living alone at the last minute. Been single for about 7 years now and no regrets. Don't force yourself to make life changing decisions just to fit in with what society considers normal.
@bb61493 жыл бұрын
What about the urge to have sex with a person?
@bb61493 жыл бұрын
@@richardparker1338 Wow, good to know thanks bruh.
@tarikay933 жыл бұрын
@@richardparker1338 DIY?
@bb61493 жыл бұрын
@@richardparker1338 No wasn’t kidding lol
@BloodAsp3 жыл бұрын
@@richardparker1338 lmfao, you could peach that my friend!
@MrHorse-by3mp3 жыл бұрын
Never having been born would solve literally every one of my problems.
@hamstersdailylife49383 жыл бұрын
So true it’s what Ive been thinking every single day of my life.
@anandashani99233 жыл бұрын
That's Gospel
@MigiDJ20243 жыл бұрын
Very true, I feel the same way. Your awesome anyways
@flyingboi8903 жыл бұрын
I feel the same...
@mukhtarbaaser3 жыл бұрын
That is the Ultimate unawareness from purpose of life. Never give up, when you face difficulty in life.
@iselin45073 жыл бұрын
I've never understood the "you're selfish if you don't have children" narrative. For me, i believe it's the most selfless thing you can do
@hamstersdailylife49383 жыл бұрын
Yes, protecting your to-be-baby from this hell of a world, while receiving backlash for it from the ignorant majority is by no doubt the most selfless thing a human could do.
@tacitozetticci93083 жыл бұрын
I think those are just some christian values leftovers that are still floating around in western society and people feel irrationally right about them because of this.
@treasuretea35493 жыл бұрын
@@tacitozetticci9308 actually Paul advised the singles to just stay single lol!
@hectorherveyperaltaportela76072 жыл бұрын
Please dont reproduce 🙏🏻 you will regret it
@chillvibed2 жыл бұрын
Just shaming tactics. It doesn't make sense to have kids anymore. In the 90's, yes. Not now. How can people go to work and see the ballooning debt, see all the chaos on the news, and have kids??????????? Baffling
@hamzasaleem70173 жыл бұрын
In essence, you won't be ruined by the Wrong choice, but by the belief that there is a Right choice.
@RealmRabbit3 жыл бұрын
Well, you could be ruined by the wrong choice... Assuming free will exists, one choice could lead to you being a miserable single mother in poverty while the other choice could lead to you being a decently fine woman whose not in poverty because she doesn't have to care for her kids... Maybe having kids also wasn't all she felt it was cracked up to be, perhaps the kids even later on get orphaned... Then she's just financially ruined and miserable when she really didn't need to be had she made the choice to not have kids... But if you are a determinist and don't believe in free will then only the illusion of free will and the belief that a different and more right choice will make you miserable in a purely pointless way because really you had no choice and so no choice could really be right or wrong... Assuming your belief is correct of course*
@enzoma72533 жыл бұрын
Oh, i interpreted it the other way round - that we're fxcked both ways, just a matter of which way we get fxcked is slightly more comfortable.
@hamzasaleem70173 жыл бұрын
@@RealmRabbit you make an interesting point, there can be one bad choice and an even worse one. But you know what, in my view, enough literature, drama and even science has tought us that procreation is not always desirable or conducive to being happy( Madam Bovary thought that her child Berthe was strangely ugly), even less in the century ahead. So assuming again that there is a Free Will, choosing to remain childless might be a smart choice.
@thirtythreeflavors3 жыл бұрын
Thank you for getting the point and making it so clear. The comments are so focused on the joys of not having kids it seems the point of this video flew over most people's heads
@lesgrosporcdesifs3 жыл бұрын
Shit you got it
@enzoma72533 жыл бұрын
Most people have no idea how to be a parent nor how to raise a child. They do it simply because everyone around them is doing the same thing, and it's seen as a sort of life achievement, like owning a car or a house.
@SamiAlSharabi3 жыл бұрын
it's been like that forever
@NightcoreandAnimeVideos3 жыл бұрын
You should only have kids if both you and your fiance are of stable and mentally fit for the challenge. If either one of you grew up in trauma, are emotionally unstable, or immature you shouldn't reproduce. There are many great benefits to having kids and sense of fulfillment. Conservatives have the advantage in these aspects. You can go without kids but human nature will kick in and you will have regret and be alone. (Prodomently in females) The more you stray away for traditional values and human nature. The more you will suffer and hurt those around you. We already see this today with the current decline in the west.
@camelopardalis843 жыл бұрын
Misread "car" as "cat" ...
@AnEvolvingApe3 жыл бұрын
"I'd consider myself a realist, all right? But in philosophical terms I'm what's called a pessimist... I think human consciousness is a tragic misstep in evolution. We became too self-aware. Nature created an aspect of nature separate from itself. We are creatures that should not exist by natural law... We are things that labor under the illusion of having a self, that accretion of sensory experience and feelings, programmed with total assurance that we are each somebody, when in fact everybody's nobody... I think the honorable thing for our species to do is to deny our programming. Stop reproducing, walk hand in hand into extinction; one last midnight, brothers and sisters opting out of a raw deal." -- Detective Rust Cohle
@enzoma72533 жыл бұрын
@@NightcoreandAnimeVideos Instead of associating it with human nature, I would describe this urge or desire to reproduce as more primal and animalistic tbh. It's something that all beings feel they need to do in order to ensure the survival of their species, and more specifically their gene pools. IMO, to be human, is to have the will and the rationale to rise above this baser instincts. If someone feels they are ready and want to build a family, there is always the option of adoption.
@LilMan-bj8wx3 жыл бұрын
My spouse and I have been together over 40 years. We often laugh and say, "We'd be divorced by now if we had children!" We decided when we met that we didn't want to raise children in this world. We opted to save money, vacation and retire early. We both retired by age 50, moved to Central America and our totally debt free, healthy and happy!
@anuraag70753 жыл бұрын
I am 20 and I will go through this same path... There is enough children already in here we don't need anymore..
@Childfree3343 жыл бұрын
So happy for you. What a beautiful life🥰🏖
@idotgotitme32803 жыл бұрын
Wow, that's great 🤗
@mostwantedadrian2 жыл бұрын
👌
@bonsummers26572 жыл бұрын
The reason to have children, as I see it, is for making more of attractive, beautiful, and inspiring people, if that is you to begin with, and, the matter of heritage,…. who do you want to make for the future of the world. Racial and ethnic heritage is something to appreciate, and that goes for all types.
@musa27753 жыл бұрын
I wish I could call everyone who's ever told me, "You'll change your mind," and just update them that I'm nearing 40 and feel more peace in my conviction than ever.
@rsdxxxx3 жыл бұрын
It's sickening the amount of times I've been told I'll change my mind. I'm in my mid 20s and very headstrong, my body isn't a vessel and will never be.
@matheussanthiago96853 жыл бұрын
hahahah it's funny, cause I am such a mess that every time I tell someone I don't want to be a parent they concur even my own parents seem to be ok with the prospect of never having a grandchild it's just logical
@TheGarlicfather Жыл бұрын
Yeah because you know it’s over for your *ss 🤣 that’s the mind going in defensive mode
@musa2775 Жыл бұрын
@@TheGarlicfather what's over? Women in my family have babies into their 50s
@TheGarlicfather Жыл бұрын
@@musa2775 🤣 You just proved my point
@sudarshan39653 жыл бұрын
Video : whether to have child or not. 90% of comments : *NO*
@hamstersdailylife49383 жыл бұрын
Because the only people sane enough to think this question through would inevitably come to one answer lol
@baassiia3 жыл бұрын
This is modern natural selection process. Those who don't want have kids will not pass their genes. New way for our species to evolve. Egocentric people and those who don't have natural healthy instinct will vanished.
@Shwab16273 жыл бұрын
Generally, most videos about wether to have kids are not are usually filled with people who are childfree since they really don’t have anywhere else to vent.
@piyushmenon49873 жыл бұрын
I'd say it's your own choice.
@Debora.l3 жыл бұрын
😂
@ashleyen13 жыл бұрын
As a woman in her 30's, I must say that it is very refreshing to read all of these comments. I've never had the desire to procreate, and I often feel alone. It's nice to see some many people commenting that they have the same feelings. Life is hard enough, why bring an innocent person into the mix, right? By the way, thank you for this wonderful video.
@AR-ty7nv3 жыл бұрын
Yesss period. Take care of yourself. You don't have to bring another life into this world. It's just more work. Use all the energy money and resources on You and your loved ones and if you have more... Donate. You don't need to have a child to be happy. That is just a thing boomers made up.
@vrnka.s3 жыл бұрын
so true~
@lesleyk37933 жыл бұрын
i’m also feeling the warmth from this comment section, thank you for agreeing 💓
@VerdureVision3 жыл бұрын
You are NOT alone.
@quashadqs3 жыл бұрын
Be my friend...we have similar energy
@smjenkin92553 жыл бұрын
I have observed many parents in an old person's home who are lonely, never visited, longing for their children.
@syasyaishavingfun3 жыл бұрын
That's why you should never expect anything from anyone. Don't expect your children to love you as much as you love them, you should find all the love you need from yourself or from god.
@cribbycrabby73213 жыл бұрын
agreed except maybe the god part
@idotgotitme32803 жыл бұрын
Exactly, that's why this idea that if you have kids, they'll take care of you when you're older is ridiculous, like they're not already busy with their own lives like their parents were when they were the same age.
@jessicaharris16089 ай бұрын
@@idotgotitme3280 I work in senior home healthcare. I have a 90 year old lady as one of my patients. Her daughter is so grateful for us aides, because whenever she's had to help her mother, they've butted heads and gotten into arguments. It can be a much better thing to have aides who are NOT family helping with daily care. The daughter is still actively involved in her mom's care but from a distance. They have security cameras to make sure the tough ol' bird hasn't fallen down and is safe. The adult children do watch the cameras for safety. It's actually works quite well. The adult children are like good managers for their mom's care.
@pylchott98643 жыл бұрын
If you thinking you're suffering, just throw kids into the mix and you'll be introduced to a whole new level of suffering.
@idotgotitme32803 жыл бұрын
Good one 👍
@bonsummers26572 жыл бұрын
The reason to have children, as I see it, is for making more of attractive, beautiful, and inspiring people, if that is you to begin with, and, the matter of heritage,…. who do you want to make for the future of the world. Racial and ethnic heritage is something to appreciate, and that goes for all types.
@teacher98822 жыл бұрын
So true
@Delete240 Жыл бұрын
My question for people who use the suffering argument is simply this: why are you still alive? If life is so hard, why live it?
@marielyspaduasoto1282 Жыл бұрын
@@Delete240 Because someone else forced me to be born and suicide is not socially accepted either.
@ThEEPOPO93 жыл бұрын
This video may have focused on the topic of children, but the underlying themes of universal suffering were very poignant. What an excellent way to convey the concept of choice, regret, and inevitable disappointment.
@muizzo50403 жыл бұрын
Exactly, I got pissed while reading through the comments and everyone seems to be concentrated on the example used to conceptualize the main theme of discussion. You don't have to have a PhD to decipher this. To paraphrase Elinor Ostrom "The most compelling theoretical arguments are those that have the proportional power to explain a diversity of situations" and that is what this video has done.
@nala68463 жыл бұрын
@@muizzo5040 Same. Lol everyone's just patting themselves on the back for their decision to not have their own children. Feel like they missed the point of the video honestly.
@jacquelynjacobs72813 жыл бұрын
I live by the phrase, “Life is hell and then you die.” Some have been horrified at this philosophy but I think it’s realistic. When something truly horrible happens to you in life, a dear relative is diagnosed with M.S. , you get cancer then you don’t take it personally but realize this is life and deal with it the best you can. Of course, many can’t look at life ‘s realities and resort to religion, conspiracy theories,etc.
@veryconfused97683 жыл бұрын
Facts
@trinaq3 жыл бұрын
It's incredibly toxic and damaging to have a baby primarily to save a failing relationship. The parents might resent the child for "ruining" their lives, while the child's self esteem might be non existent, and they could grow up feeling as though they're unlovable, and that no one really understands them. 💔😞
@thehuman28613 жыл бұрын
Be a wise person and you'll find wise person that understand you What you said happened to me too, parents...😔
@havingagoodtime28593 жыл бұрын
same, my parents were unhappily married and thought I would fix them, 2 kids later and they are finally divorced and have left a gigantic burning lack of self esteem mark on everybody.
@NightcoreandAnimeVideos3 жыл бұрын
You should only have kids if both you and your fiance are of stable and mentally fit for the challenge. If either one of you grew up in trauma, are emotionally unstable, or immature you shouldn't reproduce. There are many great benefits to having kids and sense of fulfillment. Conservatives have the advantage in these aspects. You can go without kids but human nature will kick in and you will have regret and be alone. (Prodomently in females) The more you stray away for traditional values and human nature. The more you will suffer and hurt those around you. We already see this today with the current decline in the west.
@havingagoodtime28593 жыл бұрын
@Tom Jones Im sorry, what?
@kp95853 жыл бұрын
Even if a marriage were to be revived by having a baby, it iis still a selfish act and does not protect the child against suffering in its own life. Having children should not be a means to an end.
@allis_o26283 жыл бұрын
There's a thing I read a while ago that summed up my fear and doubt about having kids: I can regret a lot of things in my life. I can regret a job, I can regret a home, I can regret a relationship. I can change all of those things with temporary consequences, but I can't change things if I have kids. Kids are the ultimate Ride or Die situation for me, I need to be really, really sure that I want them. My regrets can't be bigger than my desire to be a parent, and not knowing if that will happen is kind of terrifying...
@J0gging2 жыл бұрын
This is exactly how I think. How can you compare the choice of having children marriage or other circumstances. This is the only part I don't agree with the video.
@caqua10652 жыл бұрын
Exactly, the thing is that if you regret not having kids, you can just either have your biological kid or adopt one, but if you regrey having kid, there is no way back.
@biculturalfreak Жыл бұрын
Also a great comment.
@Niweera3 жыл бұрын
"Sleep is good, death is better; but of course, the best thing would to have never been born at all." -Heinrich Heine
@Niweera3 жыл бұрын
@@exudosid you are very welcome. If you are intrigued, check Antinatalism also.
@geraldineward11883 жыл бұрын
Love this quote. Its bleakness is dark and really funny.
@hoppeltrottel74843 жыл бұрын
@Read Research Articles with Me For me, the greatest joy when reading comes from discovering that other people far more brilliant than myself have had similar thoughts and felt similar feelings. The experience of life is as well universal as it is individual; that's why we can have a bond across time with people long dead and buried through literature.
@cosmicprison98193 жыл бұрын
Not to be. That is the answer. 😉
@Asher_Motionless5702 жыл бұрын
Facts Sometimes I wish I was never born if imma be honest
@100Stratusfiedx3 жыл бұрын
I personally have never had this yearning to become a parent. There are actually a lot of people out there who shouldn’t procreate at all. The biggest reason why people would stray away from having kids is the cost. I don’t believe that having kids is an achievement.
@MichL_713 жыл бұрын
Never regretted a moment of it, 50 years CF.
@korpakukac3 жыл бұрын
Most people can have children, yet the majority shouldn't.
@nikiepunt86313 жыл бұрын
@@MichL_71 40 years never a regret.
@jkjk83 жыл бұрын
I agree. its not the meaning of life.
@AGFuzzyPancake3 жыл бұрын
Indeed having children is not an achievement. Raising children that become successful, however, is a grand achievement. I can't fault anybody for trying.
@milkhomie45823 жыл бұрын
People want babies but don’t want kids or teenagers.
@eyesofra11113 жыл бұрын
Ahh yess, ain't nobody got time to deal with moody teens, just blame the phone & u're good to go ;)👍🏿
@joefur16253 жыл бұрын
i think im the only one whos the opposite, i dont have the patience for babies and kids, but i love wrking with teenagers, so i plan to adopt a teenager one day cos noone else wants them
@neilb97683 жыл бұрын
@@joefur1625 You are a great human being. If more people were like you, we could ameliorate the world's life quality by a lot. I too wish to adopt one day but am concerned whether I'll find a similarly level headed partner.
@hustlemami87323 жыл бұрын
Sooooo true!
@hustlemami87323 жыл бұрын
@@joefur1625 wow, you're beautiful!
@nothanks12393 жыл бұрын
I'm a parent and I have to say, it's great seeing people in comments know what they want in life and having no regrets. I've always found it sad hearing people pressure themselves into getting married and having children. You really don't have to do either of those things. It's entirely your choice. And choosing to have a child and get married doesn't make you better than anyone else, and vice versa. We are all making our way down our own paths in life and none of them are correct and none of them are wrong and we all end up at the same destination anyway.
@biculturalfreak Жыл бұрын
Love this reply.
@jenniferlex9439 Жыл бұрын
Actually you are better if you don't have children, because you have chosen not to destroy the planet.
@nothanks1239 Жыл бұрын
@@jenniferlex9439 Oh? Are you avoiding using every little thing that destroys the planet? Already using the Internet, so I'm guessing not. Always find it funny when people step on their soap box about the planet, but do absolutely nothing to stop their own carbon footprint. Please keep your hypocrisy to yourself. Thanks.
@beaulieuc8910 Жыл бұрын
@@jenniferlex9439 and risk of kids killing other people, so many kids turn out to crims and on death row
@keniceeunice2644 Жыл бұрын
@@beaulieuc8910 that’s really very true, even not drug or alcohol, they may get depression and complaint about you gave birth to him/her. That’s what I observed from my friends, one friend complained their parent who made him a man with depression, another friend has two kids but one is a drug addict for more than 20 years.
@SerenityChaos19753 жыл бұрын
We chose not to have kids, we have never regretted it. we love our life.
@an.amap13183 жыл бұрын
@Oritra Kar and al ot of old people who had children are also alone
@ultraboy99x3 жыл бұрын
@@an.amap1318 This is even worse
@idotgotitme32803 жыл бұрын
Yay 🤗
@Delete240 Жыл бұрын
@@an.amap1318 and a lot of people die in freak accidents. You can’t live your life expecting the worst. A good parent wouldn’t have to worry about their children abandoning them.
@luckydevil1601 Жыл бұрын
@@Delete240 do you understand that children are not obliged to be stuck with you? They have their lives to live.
@clicheguevara52823 жыл бұрын
I knew I didn’t want kids when I was still a kid myself. I’m almost 40 and I 100% stand by my decision.
@alchemist68573 жыл бұрын
52 and SAME!
@theviewfinder16523 жыл бұрын
Hi there, I'm 22 and i want to be CF.. since you are in your 40's , how does it feels not to be around with people ? Does it feel boredom and loneliness?
@clicheguevara52823 жыл бұрын
@@theviewfinder1652 I'm an introvert, so I don't need to be around other people most of the time. Does not having kids make me feel lonely though? No, not at all. I REALLY don't want kids though. I have some friends who didn't want kids until they were almost 40. Now they have kids and they say they'd regret it if they didn't. Everyone is different. It's common for people to say they don't want kids because of career or lifestyle, but a lot of them end up regretting that choice later. If your reason for not wanting kids is that you just simply don't want to deal with children, then you're probably making the right choice.
@STMARTIN0093 жыл бұрын
@@theviewfinder1652 I am 40 and my wife is 36. We enjoy our time together and apart by engaging in our own activities. People tend to live in separate fish bowls when they hit a certain age and you might only see your longtime friends once a year as people are busy with families or demanding careera. If you do not want kids that is ok. I would suggest getting a hobby outside of work such as running,lifting, kayaking,fishing,painting etc. I personally like to run,kayak,and fish.
@STMARTIN0093 жыл бұрын
@@clicheguevara5282 I like to see people but I truly value alone time. I usually will engage in hobbies like fishing,kayaking,and running. I have not been running lately though.lol
@badasszombiekillingmachine70003 жыл бұрын
Parenting is not for everyone and thats okay. I for one have chosen not to have my own, but instead got a stepchild and that works wonderful for me. Of course people (mostly women) tend to think that Im weird for not having my own biological children but hey, I am happy and the child is happy, thats what counts.❤
@dhairyapandya1403 жыл бұрын
I do agree on having a step child from my logic if we have a step child and even if we fail at parenting we won't be wasting a new life for me that's the best way to go around to be a parent.
@femaleintrovert11733 жыл бұрын
You’re not weird, you’re a kind person.
@createx17513 жыл бұрын
@Deez Nwuutz just the thought of it makes me angry
@veryconfused97683 жыл бұрын
Aww you are a really kind person
@badasszombiekillingmachine70003 жыл бұрын
@@veryconfused9768 Thank you🥰
@ChurlzVA3 жыл бұрын
Ugh, seeing how I was raised...yeah, some people aren't meant to be parents. Don't do it because EVERYONE else is doing it, PLEASE don't. Don't let your child hate you because of it. Become a parent because it's something you want to be and are willing to work with a significant other to get through it. Your child should ALWAYS be your priority when you're raising them. Keyword: RAISE.
@yaqiao244 Жыл бұрын
Darn. This was hard to read. I’ve always remember being neglected and made fun of when I was prolonged assaulted as a child, whenever I’m trying to talk about my problems or denying to be abused further, they’ll mark me as “selfish” and he’ll would come down. Putting a child as a priority it’s out of my imagination
@5th-Season Жыл бұрын
If your kids don’t hate you, then they will hate something else. Doesn’t matter. But without kids humans cease to exist.
@ryanstarlight8018 Жыл бұрын
@@5th-Season there's 8 billions humans on this Earth. Humans will live on regardless of our choice to have children or not as there are a ton of people who want kids anyway
@osoriolopez1388 Жыл бұрын
@@5th-Season chill, there still 8 billion more people, just date people who want children
@Jackintheboxzombie Жыл бұрын
@@5th-SeasonAnd you think i want humans to be here?
@goldiea85983 жыл бұрын
My husband can't have children and I've never liked children. So we make the perfect match.
@emmanuelimumolen86603 жыл бұрын
I think that statement is bad. Everyone believe like Children. But not everyone want to have them in this world that's filled with evil. "I don't like Children vs I don't want children" is two different thing.
@lonesurvivor8152 жыл бұрын
@@emmanuelimumolen8660 youre wrong. I hate children, they are so annoying. I agree that babies are cute, but doean't mean I like babies, I hate them too.
@emmanuelimumolen86602 жыл бұрын
@@lonesurvivor815 saying you hate children shows you hate yourself because you were once a child.
@emmanuelimumolen86602 жыл бұрын
@@lonesurvivor815 saying you hate children shows you hate yourself because you were once a child.
@lonesurvivor8152 жыл бұрын
@@emmanuelimumolen8660 that's correct, I was a bad kid, I dont want to have a kid like myself.
@nonny69903 жыл бұрын
Not having children was one of the best decisions my husband & I have ever made. No regrets whatsoever.
@Cacofonixravi3 жыл бұрын
How long since you are married? Will you stay together for ever?
@ChristianMeyer3 жыл бұрын
@@gevillarrealgzz Easy, take the 300.000 bucks you saved by not having a child and pay somebody take care of you.
@leonelgaldinomonteiro47833 жыл бұрын
@@ChristianMeyer I have 2 childrens and I love my father and mother.... We care about family by love... My brothers same... Money isnt focus in family but people and stay together. Be safe everybody.
@OceanBlueKeys3 жыл бұрын
@@gevillarrealgzz Food for thought: what guarantee do you have that if you have children that they will be there to take care of you? • they will have jobs and families of their own • what if one of them are born with serious mental/physical impairment and they need to be cared for • there are many lonely folks in care homes who have kids that have just dumped them there • regardless you have to save for retirement • you can sacrafice everything and have no guarantee that your children take care of you. Even if they are great it's still a lot to ask of them. Of course it's not so black and white and there are a lot of children who care for their parents, but why role that dice? I plan to save and invest as much as I can, choose a very comfortable and reputable home, and I'll go whither away in there when the time is right. This is just my thought process and it's not for everyone.
@naraendrareddy2733 жыл бұрын
Your forefathers though must screaming to you, hoping you'd hear, to have children and you owe them that as they gave you a body. People are so selfish, let it be.
@csillakaszas72853 жыл бұрын
Best of both words: be an awesome aunt/uncle to the children of your siblings and friends. It takes a village. be the village!
@sistaschin3 жыл бұрын
What if you don't have siblings or friends (local ones at least)?
@marcusanark25413 жыл бұрын
We need to talk more about this, my Cool Uncles were more helpful than my folks in many ways.
@ChiefTJBallout3 жыл бұрын
@M Z are you talking about vaccines and circumcision
@thesugarpuppie3 жыл бұрын
This is my plan actually. I feel like it makes the most sense for me.
@aminagaliyeva60793 жыл бұрын
This is actually perfect
@hb119123 жыл бұрын
I only had the one child, my 19 year old daughter who is happy, healthy and has never wanted siblings. I also had a traumatic birth with her which partly influenced my decision to stick to one. Having her was the best thing that’s ever happened to me and I could not imagine a life without her. I can also understand the new generation of people who are against having kids especially in these current times. It’s unfair imo to bring a child into a world of COVID and environmental disaster. Not to mention the stress and expense that goes into raising them. I applaud these people including myself who resist societal pressure.
@evelynnelavelle2015 Жыл бұрын
Having sex is the pleasurable bit, then pregnancy happens, then the pain of childbirth!! I believe that it you are going to have children, that you should have a nice House to raise them in, be financially stable and teach your toddler and young child the correct social skills before they start primary school!! No one wants to see their son or daughter lonely in this life, because they don't have the proper social skills for them to make friends!! You also have to be a decent parent to your child. A child deserves the right to live in a house, while they are attending both primary and secondary School, they also deserve to have a decent breakfast before they go to school every morning and then a nice hot dinner and a dessert, when they come home in the evening!! They also have the right to live, in a house with decent central heating and lighting!! What really annoys me is that some men get their girlfriend, wife or partner pregnant and they end up not being able to provide for their child as parents!! From evelynne Lavelle
@hb11912 Жыл бұрын
@@evelynnelavelle2015 I have been able to do all that and more thank you. My daughter constantly tells me I have been a wonderful mother and wouldn’t have wanted it any different. I haven’t been perfect but there again who is? We have an indelible bond and probably closer than any other mother daughter. She is all I live for and even now she is a young woman of 20 I still want to spoil and dote her. My partner hasn’t been a great father to either of his daughters but he’s been there for the emotional support and we are still together 22 years later. I don’t think there’s many couples who can equal that. You are right though, a child deserves the basics, a good home, a good education, clothing and love. If you can’t provide that then reconsider having children in the first place.
@biculturalfreak Жыл бұрын
This is cool.
@cal9112 Жыл бұрын
@@evelynnelavelle2015 EuropeEuropea European here, you are spot on! In Europe we have universal health care so no need to worry about medical bills, college is inexpensive, students loan are unheard of and even so nobody wants to have kids, reason? The huge responsability, the worry and many other things that having a child entails no kids is far more relaxing and sleeping at night worry free is heavenly ( love my 2 countries Spain and France)
@lesleyk37933 жыл бұрын
i’m 31 and knew i didn’t want to have kids when i was one. then i learned about genetics and it was solidified. some severe illnesses run in my family and i got lucky to only have non-life threatening ones, who am i to roll the dice and potentially have to raise a child and watch them suffer more than i did? no thanks.
@intice9585 Жыл бұрын
Such a beautiful girl like you to not have children ?
@georgerpg6610 Жыл бұрын
@@intice9585 so, by your logic, you can have children if you look a certain way? Ohh, now I wanna have no children even more
@chrislancer3813 Жыл бұрын
Same
@luckydevil1601 Жыл бұрын
@@intice9585 are you Hitler reincarnated?
@tmone8023 жыл бұрын
I definitely want to have kids but I want to make sure I’m okay mentally first. Getting the help I need. I don’t want to repeat past family’s mistakes and want to break generational curses
@korpakukac3 жыл бұрын
Thank you, i respect you for coming to this mature and logical decision.
@jbee24073 жыл бұрын
This is my goal as well! May we be successful in figuring out how. I feel we are quite blessed to live in a time with more access to tools to help us accomplish such a task ❤️
@clarissa54893 жыл бұрын
Just remember trama changes the DNA so keep that in mind too.
@EmanDeMoan3 жыл бұрын
I agree completely and will do the same.
@nikiepunt86313 жыл бұрын
That is a well thought out plan! That’s taking responsibility for yourself and your unborn child.
@rojo403 жыл бұрын
Humans are perfectly capable of regretting anything. Choices are meaningless when one is unable to stay content with the outcome.
@atmatey3 жыл бұрын
You probably mean ’content’?
@saratf3 жыл бұрын
Yep, that’s it.
@HK47_1153 жыл бұрын
See that flying out the window right now? That's called logic. when you catch the horny that's no longer required.
@konan83533 жыл бұрын
@@atmatey I guess they both kinda work, same idea
@thereisnosanctuary61843 жыл бұрын
Freudian typo
@ytmandrake3 жыл бұрын
I have decided not to have children or not to marry 15 years ago when I was 23. Still can't believe that this is a "taboo" topic today in 2021
@blanckieification Жыл бұрын
Indeed,but happy to see like minded people here.
@haotang26383 жыл бұрын
When I was 25 I was told to have children otherwise i’d regret; when I was 30, I was told, your clock is ticking! When I was 35, my in laws were telling my parents to tell me to have children 👶 now I am 40, I think people stopped asking. 😄I knew since I was a kid, I wouldn’t have children, if I really want one to share my love - I’ll adopt. And if one day I regret - that’s ok too. 🤗🤗
@ranadanial7165 Жыл бұрын
100% same bro.
@biculturalfreak Жыл бұрын
yeah its ok to regret it one day
@blanckieification Жыл бұрын
I said to my parents "you are never too old as a man to begin with it(some men have children when they are 60)" and the dicussion was closed.👍Btw, For women they say "the clock is ticking" and "complications rise when you get older", but have you ever wondered why that is? In this society our body is bombarded with crap, crap we eat and other crap (like all sorts of cosmetics and others, crap literally is everywhere). In both cases(men and women): detoxify, stay healthy, heal👊
@js.44153 жыл бұрын
I’m in medical school and whenever the topic of family comes up and i say i don’t want kids everyone just gets weirded out. I’m more weirded out by the fact that when i ask them why THEY want to have kids, they don’t even actually know. When you know what happens to the body when you get pregnant, as beautiful as it may be to bring a person into the world, it is still a terrifying thing. And even if society tells you that it is what one MUST do, it isn’t the rest of society that will suffer the possible complications of having a kid. The physical, mental, emotional (and monetary) toll may well be beyond what some people can handle. It is definitely important to know who you are and where your values lie, and sometimes ignoring the “norm” is better for everyone in the end.
@otiliaiolanda83643 жыл бұрын
I agree.
@vkrgfan3 жыл бұрын
Life is a risk my darling, it’s the same as choosing a dangerous profession such as becoming a firefighter or police officer. Those people don’t have to do it for us, they don’t have to risk their lives and save everyone but they do it anyway because that’s who they are and who they choosing to be every day. I have no regrets about having my two kids, not because my life lack meaning or easy necessarily. In fact, I came from adversity. I thrive to learn something new every single day to be a better version of myself, to be a better parent for my children. To live or not to live your truth. I don’t have a problem with people who chose not to have children for reasons that bigger than themselves. They may be pursuing world-changing ambitions that they wouldn’t otherwise accomplish if they had children or they have concerns for the environment or they have disabilities or health issues or they would rather adopt. All of those reasons are valid, however, I’m bothered by women when they say their bodies will change. This is a strange explanation..., I mean, we may be hit by the bus tomorrow and be deformed, some things are much worse than giving birth. So, the lack of convincing reasoning on your part is apparent.
@isav73053 жыл бұрын
@@vkrgfan One shouldn’t have to explain why they are the way they are, and someone’s reason is not “more valid” than another’s for not having kids. I apologize for butting in, but for you to say that you don’t have a problem with people not having kids because they have a reason while accusing OP of not having enough reason for having kids proves the “illusion of the right choice” message stated in the video. One not wanting to have kids just because they don’t want to is just as valid as a reason for not having kids because they don’t want to pass on hereditary diseases.
@vkrgfan3 жыл бұрын
@@isav7305 You've misunderstood my comment, people that care about their "bodies" and grow immature into adulthood are total Narcissists. I'm glad women like that won't have children and they shouldn't, the poor child would be living in the misery of feeling guilty that they are the reason that mommy's body is no longer a perfect standard because she had to give childbirth. A child with a mother like that will develop anxiety and insecurity about their existence. It's not about whether or not the woman wants to have a child, it's about her Narcissistic attitude. There are plenty of women that decided not to have children, but later in life adopted kids. You don't have to be blood-related to care for another human being.
@isav73053 жыл бұрын
@@vkrgfan Whoa there buddy, seems you’ve edited your comments to add the phrase “all reasons are valid”. However, I’ll give you a pass for improving your statement since I’m in strong favor of adoption. I still don’t think it was fair of you to tell OP that their reason wasn’t convincing enough since no one should have to convince anybody regarding their personal life choices as long as it doesn’t hurt anybody. Edit: Upon re-reading your argument, I would like to clarify something: Do you dislike narcissistic women who have children, women who want to maintain a “good-looking” body but blame getting it ruined on their kids, or women who don’t want to have kids because they don’t want to “ruin” their bodies?
@dubzeefps41893 жыл бұрын
I’ve never wanted kids and of course everyone thinks I’m just being stupid. 32 years old now and I’m so glad I’m still free to do what I like when I like. 32 more of those please 👍🏻
@nikiepunt86313 жыл бұрын
40 years no regrets.
@sunji53903 жыл бұрын
I think I'm going this path
@ProfFibi3 жыл бұрын
Good call. I always think my parents should’ve never had children considering how much they complain. They would’ve been a lot happier staying childless but alas.
@sunji53903 жыл бұрын
@@ProfFibi then you would not be here commenting
@Me972023 жыл бұрын
Exactly twice as old as you at 64. Not having children was the single best decision I ever made. Period. Most of my friends with children are living some version of miserable.
@karlyg.e.m.21 Жыл бұрын
I will be 28 soon and I'm currently in the middle of the "have children/don't have children" dilemma. Didn't expect this video to help me so much. "Suffering is inevitable, no matter what you choose" was exactly what I needed to hear today. Thank you!!!
@lonesurvivor815 Жыл бұрын
Do not have children. It's not about you, it's about the children you bring here. Just sit back, breathe and allow yourself to ask a big question "AFTER ALL THE SHIT I'VE BEEN THROUGH, IS THIS THE LIFE I RECOMMEND TO MY CHILDREN?"
@squishiehunter693 Жыл бұрын
@@lonesurvivor815 My answer has been "no".
@anarcho-communist11 Жыл бұрын
I have two sisters who couldn't wait to have kids but they were clearly less happy after having them. It makes it much harder to get divorced, too, if you need to. You can always adopt if you have regrets later....But so far I've never come across anyone who had regrets about staying childfree.
@Kumari_kl10 ай бұрын
I'm not trying to horrify you but death while pregnancy is a real situation many women died while giving birth and have to be aware about the consequences of postpartum disorders and health issues.
@AmeBibabi17 ай бұрын
@@Kumari_klso freaking true. I have 2 friends who almost die.d during giving birth. One of them got blood from a donor and with horific consequences. Very very bad. She is still very sick, even after 17 years now
@colej3360 Жыл бұрын
I don't want anyone to inherit my anxiety. I have learned to cope with it myself (just), but I couldn't bear my child suffering as I have.
@MichL_713 жыл бұрын
"There are no solutions, only trade-offs" - Thomas Sowell. Pick your poison well.
@bones23jones3 жыл бұрын
Surprising to see a Thomas Sowell reference on here 👍
@JK-gu3tl3 жыл бұрын
@@bones23jones Why?
@philnightjar19713 жыл бұрын
If only that quote applies to my math problem sets.
@MichL_713 жыл бұрын
@@Sir-Kay LOVE that "uncle"! One of my top 10 humans.
@MichL_713 жыл бұрын
@@philnightjar1971 😬
@Hrshsngh_193 жыл бұрын
Anyone who wants to have kids they can and those who don't should be left alone. I'm 23 and I'm from India and I grew up in a very crowded country as you may guess. I never got anything at once and had to work for it and still I'm not remotely close to where I want to be in life and this is one of the reasons I don't want to have kids. It's just embedded in me and I think anyone who doesn't want kids should be left alone.
@itsmebxv3 жыл бұрын
You are just 23, long way to go, you can decide after 15 years.
@alexgrazie933 жыл бұрын
And when you get there? You will want more... This is called toxic feminism. In the end what you worked for will be donated to your 9 cats or to some stranger or the lady who will take care of you later. Often mature women become very frustrated because of what they could achieve in younger days instead of running after money. For a man its easy but for woman 40 or 45 its most likely game over. But hey, its your life we leave you alone just saying...
@jeevananand48103 жыл бұрын
Indian here and I literally am with the same mindset. India has so many mouths. Why bring another? I am not against the idea of people having children, rather it is about me not wanting to have them. A lot of things to do in this life and children are a huge responsibility. Harsh my friend, I get you. Good luck to you and your life ahead.
@Hrshsngh_193 жыл бұрын
@@alexgrazie93 well I'm sorry if I came as a woman to you but I am a man.
@Hrshsngh_193 жыл бұрын
@@jeevananand4810 well exactly. I know alot of people my age and older than me who don't want kids and feel strongly about it.
@kristenkellytv Жыл бұрын
I always said I would never have kids, at 32 I said I want a baby and had one. Now I’m 37 and want another. I never held a child, changed a child. I was so anti children. I’m so happy I changed my mind. Having a child is the most wonderful thing I have ever done.
@inpugwetrust Жыл бұрын
I can relate to this! 😅
@enchantechan Жыл бұрын
Please explain what makes it wonderful. I always dreamed of having a daughter, but all I see is videos that makes it seem like parenting sucks
@kaliuchie315 Жыл бұрын
I have been seeing so many childfree people say it’s the best choice they’ve made and they don’t regret it. Seeing as you have, I’m curious. What’s so great about kids ?
@myradelacruz8277 Жыл бұрын
sometimes, people say it's the most wonderful thing that ever happens since they have no choice but to take care of it.
@beaulieuc8910 Жыл бұрын
until it growns up to be a drunk driver, conartist, murderer, narcissist...
@ky2226 Жыл бұрын
This is a scary world. I wouldnt want to bring anyone into it.
@flower_rewolf57843 жыл бұрын
I wish more people understood that you don’t have to have children to be happy and had more acceptance over someone not wanting to have children. Please don’t just assume everyone can or wants to have children. I also like how this video explains this topic of life, it’s not talked about often but is true in most things in life.
@thehuman28613 жыл бұрын
Yeah it's a very big misconception that you have to have children or you won't be happy, even getting married is not important too but society... But people are getting wiser day by day so hope or a better world
@iamwhoyousayiam67733 жыл бұрын
People are far too self-indulgent to not know this. Rapid decline in births show people are just fine without kids.
@iamwhoyousayiam67733 жыл бұрын
I just found out I'm pregnant. I was fine without kids before, but I'm super happy after the news... It's what you make of it and no shame either way imo
@leli47003 жыл бұрын
@@iamwhoyousayiam6773 You will be even happier in 4 years when child can start giving love back to you.
@flower_rewolf57843 жыл бұрын
Nathan K nowadays there are already too many people in the world, so it’s not like we’re going to run out. And I know some people want to pass their genes on but with how many kids there are with no parents, there is no real reason to pass genes on except if you really want too. There are plenty of kids to adopt.
@NastyNatasha3 жыл бұрын
I've been married for 9 years and most people we know have had children already (many got divorced due to that), yet, they ask us "when are you going to get kids?". Since the beginning (and still) our reply is "never". How hard is for most people to understand that some others simply don't want to make new humans to "feel complete", that having kids would be misery. Parents often think child free couples are missing out, what I think is, I am traveling the world, seeing and experiencing things most "traditional families" don't because they are too busy or too poor paying education, going to jobs they hate to feed their kids, for me, parents are missing out the real life.
@omerozgurcelik9073 жыл бұрын
As Alaine said Life is suffering and you will regret every decision you've made but why bring children into this nonsensical , pain maze also without their consent, why forcefully shed them from eternal bliss of nothingness.
@matheussanthiago96853 жыл бұрын
@@omerozgurcelik907 I miss my blissful nothingness
@emmanuelimumolen86603 жыл бұрын
Having and not having a child is a great choice. Non is missing out.
@bonsummers26572 жыл бұрын
The reason to have children, as I see it, is for making more of attractive, beautiful, and inspiring people, if that is you to begin with, and, the matter of heritage,…. who do you want to make for the future of the world. Racial and ethnic heritage is something to appreciate, and that goes for all types.
@hanalala31642 жыл бұрын
@@emmanuelimumolen8660 Lol keep telling yourself that
@sharonmassey29233 жыл бұрын
There are millions of kids already here who desperately need parents, and I wish people would stop having them...out of narcissism, carelessness, because that's just what you do, whatever the predominant non-reasons are...until these kids are taken care of. I am especially irritated by people who spend who knows how much money on IVF, because they supposedly "want to be parents so badly". I wonder if they ever think about how the kids already here feel about that. I doubt it ever crosses their minds.
@otiliaiolanda83643 жыл бұрын
I agree 1000 %
@otiliaiolanda83643 жыл бұрын
So many people that I know of call me careless and jump at me for not wanting to have kids. I want to adopt.
@sharonmassey29233 жыл бұрын
@@otiliaiolanda8364 Whenever I hear adoptive parents talk about their kids, they generally seem to be more joyful than "regular" parents. They talk about them being a gift, that the kids have given them much more than they have given. I think yours is a fine choice, and will probably be a very satisfying one.
@otiliaiolanda83643 жыл бұрын
Thank You very much
@halcyonzenith441111 ай бұрын
I don't know how anyone can study human behaviour and still think that there should be more of us.
@MariaM-qq6kv3 жыл бұрын
People have children as a means to heal their inner child... shouldn't they heal it in themselves first before having them? It's cruel to "test on animals" so why risk the transfer of generational trauma??
@bucksteingold43343 жыл бұрын
Based. I wouldn't have had kids for this reason, but two women felt they knew better...
@ottosump33563 жыл бұрын
Or maybe people like me had kids because we wanted a family .🙄
@hnyii3 жыл бұрын
They're probably not aware that's the motivation they're on. It's sad.
@SteveWKk3 жыл бұрын
no....people have kids because they slammed their wet parts together and nature took its course..........
@ProfFibi3 жыл бұрын
You took the words out of my mouth. There’s nothing as painful for a child as having to see generational trauma passed on, and realizing what that was as an adult.
@MH-et5sn3 жыл бұрын
Those bunnies would have a lot more children than just one.
@trinaq3 жыл бұрын
I know, they have MULTIPLE births, not just one! 😂🐰
@theywalkinguptoyouand40603 жыл бұрын
It's not the point of the video
@georgplaz3 жыл бұрын
I am sure, if bunnies knew about contraceptives, they'd have much fewer babies 😅
@iamwhoyousayiam67733 жыл бұрын
Especially during lockdown
@enzoma72533 жыл бұрын
They actually had a litter of eight but only kept one because it's "too expensive" to raise all of them in the modern society, plus it's simply impossible to afford all of their future education, especially when they get to Uni. So the rest were sold to meat farms and were slaughtered by the time they reached a year old. (Yes, this shit turned dark real quickly, as is the world we live in)
@flowersandragons3 жыл бұрын
I hate having to explain myself when I say I don't want kids, like I have to convince the other person about my decision. And even then most will downplay it as "don't worry, we all thought that at one point, I'm sure you'll change your mind later though" or some shit
@anewlife58463 жыл бұрын
You don't owe an explanation to anyone for your choice and freedom. Simply ignore those despicable ones and give a cold shoulder. If they cannot respect your individualism, why should you respect them!
@herbayum76 Жыл бұрын
@@anewlife5846 i would answer, maybe you are right, maybe i think differently later, i could even be more convinced not to have children then now...
@EmyN3 жыл бұрын
I mean, I technically do want kids, but there are so many factors to take into consideration, like a probable environmental collapse, do I really want to put a child into this harsh world, am I willing to raise a human being for the rest of my life...? It's a decision that shouldn't be taken lightly
@colinogorman82793 жыл бұрын
Yeah bigger decision than most think
@jonathanrosado88743 жыл бұрын
The world hasn't been milder. Like, ever...
@EmyN3 жыл бұрын
@@jonathanrosado8874 Sure, but things are far more complex now, and if there was to be an environmental collapse, which is what we are currently heading, if things don't change it could be very well our doom... and that's novelty
@dreaminez4722 жыл бұрын
@@jonathanrosado8874 There are over 7 billion people alive on a planet that is running out of fresh water and burning to the ground by millions of acres every year. Every forest that burns releases massive amount of CO2 and reduces biomass that is capable of absorbing it. Do you understand that? Not only are we burning the candle from both ends, we're throwing gasoline on it. Its time to snap out of it for the sake of the next generation. This planet is obviously doomed. I fled 2 wildfires in California 2 years in a row. That's fucking crazy and it's going to get a lot worse.
@dreaminez4722 жыл бұрын
I'm relieved to hear you're a thinking person. The United States is collapsing. Our economy is collapsing. The ecosystem is collapsing. It would be evil to bring a child into this world.
@AR-ty7nv3 жыл бұрын
Haven't even watched the video yet but....Not going to have children. Period. If I ever do have a kid I would adopt one so I can actually help someone instead of bringing in another life to this world when there are so many in the foster care system that needs rescuing. I would most likely adopt a teenager too coz they are usually lost in the system whereas younger kids are more likely to get adopted. But I'm not even going to think about it until I'm at least in my 40s or 50s. If I ever adopt a child it would with the purpose of HELPING Someone. Not expecting them to be the source of my happiness. You don't need to have children in your life to be happy that is just boomer propaganda.
@thehuman28613 жыл бұрын
👏👏👏👏👏👏
@sonikakamble93 жыл бұрын
Hey, I think you need to meet a certain criteria for adopting. So make sure you have that down before you move ahead with your decision pal.
@Semper_Iratus3 жыл бұрын
How stunning & brave of you. 😬
@AR-ty7nv3 жыл бұрын
thank you I'll look into that. I'm only 20 and this is a LONG way to go so I'm not that focused on it right now. But thanks I'll def keep that in mind :)
@sonikakamble93 жыл бұрын
@@AR-ty7nv So am I! Great to see our generation looking out for things like these. Best wishes.
@georgeluna58453 жыл бұрын
I’m not childless, I’m child FREE.
@andsch38813 жыл бұрын
Love this one, it's a great choice of words ❤
@laraking8043 жыл бұрын
Absolutely. The difference in definition is important. Childless: someone who wants kids but for whatever reason can’t have them. Child Free: Someone who made a conscious decision of never having children and more importantly someone who simply never wanted any.
@hectorherveyperaltaportela76072 жыл бұрын
True
@anon95793 жыл бұрын
I’m never marrying, dating, or having children. I’m happier on my own
@vickiecordon78873 жыл бұрын
Excellent decision. I agree 💯👍
@SasyaShyamYella3 жыл бұрын
I wish you happiness for a long time!
@herbayum76 Жыл бұрын
Friendship is the optimum in life
@joeblow9284 Жыл бұрын
I have 2 and if I could do it again, I definitely would not.
@anarcho-communist11 Жыл бұрын
LOL I'm sorry. I know it isn't funny but there's something about the bluntness when people just come right out and tell the truth about it.
@niranjankris3 жыл бұрын
I don't want to involve with other humans. Even if I feel lonely(everyone does at some point), only a short interaction with some friends or even a stranger would be enough to get me going. For people like me, having kids is a self-inflicted suffering. Even though I love watching kids play/smile/do their stuff, I know that I cannot raise them properly. Everyone has to know their own limits first before marriage or having kids. As a side note, not sure about the reliability of articles I have seen, but saw some studies where they say having less kids is most efficient in becoming eco-friendly.
@amarelopiscante3 жыл бұрын
Exactly how I feel
@musicy.86383 жыл бұрын
I admire you, if you don't feel ready you don't have to do it, more people should realize not having kids sometimes its the best for the person they are talking about. They are not gonna take care of them after all.
@niranjankris3 жыл бұрын
@@musicy.8638 Agreed. People need to understand about themselves first before involving another human's life. Marriage and having kids should not be treated same as impulse buying.
@carolynsherman66313 жыл бұрын
I Applaud you my good viewer.
@1sr03 жыл бұрын
Exactly!
@roberts.90533 жыл бұрын
There are two ways of being unhappy: not getting what you want and finally getting what you want.
@thereisnosanctuary61843 жыл бұрын
Is that yours? I'm about to tattoo it on my face
@roberts.90533 жыл бұрын
@@thereisnosanctuary6184 for sure not, but I cannot remember where I have it from.
@bencollier15404 ай бұрын
so true
@ddieter6033 жыл бұрын
I was already 33 when I got married (my husband was 25), and had prohibitive health issues. We were told that any child of ours would have X% chance of developing disease Y, Z% chance of developing disease A... genetic odds that we didn't like. We were old enough to know that no parent is perfect, and knew ourselves well enough to know that being anything short of perfect as parents would destroy us. By the time I went through surgical menopause at age 42, we had settled the question of having children. Now I'm 60 and he's almost 52; and at no time in our lives have we ever regretted not having children. We've often said we're glad we didn't, given how the world has changed since we were newlyweds.
@665Kattt2 жыл бұрын
I'm a woman in my upper 40's who never wanted kids. I have no regrets. Life is a whole lot easier without kids. In Canada, child-free couples now outnumber couples with children. The child-free way of life is growing so fast.
@giselaperez699311 ай бұрын
It is easier.....???
@halcyonzenith441111 ай бұрын
Maybe the human race is finally figuring out its own best interests
@inkypaige45053 жыл бұрын
Its nice to see that the cons of not having kids do not seem like cons to me at all lol
@ashleyen13 жыл бұрын
Well said! I agree
@Vashtibucket3 жыл бұрын
Yup! Each of these arguments can easily be knocked down with “children don’t exist to please you”.
@thereisnosanctuary61843 жыл бұрын
More money for tats
@isav73053 жыл бұрын
Right! Like I can respond to every single one of these cons with an upbeat attitude. Allow me to demonstrate: -“missing out”: Ah yes, nothing like the crying, screaming, and putting up with stinky nappies 24/7 -loneliness/boredom/constant distractions: Boi, there is a long list of hobbies I wanna do and 195 countries in the world for me to visit. Not to mention the different pets me and my s.o. plan to adopt. -sentimental longing: According to many people who have worked in nursing homes, the kids don’t even visit their parents (maybe just once a year but that’s it). Plus, what’s the guarantee you’ll be comforted by their presence? Maybe they’ll just be discussing your will and arguing on how to divide your properties amongst themselves.
@misshantrope3 жыл бұрын
yesss
@GC-fj4lc3 жыл бұрын
The thing they missed: if life is nothing but wrong decisions and suffering, why would I want to pass that on?
@perspecteve3 жыл бұрын
It's not and the video isn't saying that, it is only saying that there will be misery and suffering either way but there will also be a lot of happiness and joy, for either choice.
@matheussanthiago96853 жыл бұрын
@@perspecteve 2 decades of being alive and I'm still waiting for the joy and happiness bit to start
@perspecteve3 жыл бұрын
@@matheussanthiago9685 I'm sorry man. :(
@Shwab16273 жыл бұрын
@@matheussanthiago9685 You can’t wait for happiness and purpose. You have to go after it.
@codyh24923 жыл бұрын
@Oritra Kar Why would we need our species to survive?
@joebloggs613111 ай бұрын
As a man, child-free & in his 40's, I went on a date, just to see, maybe a companion, but within a couple of questions it turned to "do you want children?" I said "No way, this line of genetics stops with me", haha she appreciated my honesty. Within the week she unmatched me 😂
@eizqarqash1991 Жыл бұрын
32 and no children, living the best life!
@ronisila30403 жыл бұрын
I never asked to be born. Why would I do that to someone else?
@purplemonsoon83763 жыл бұрын
Exactly. #Antinatalism
@J11_boohoo3 жыл бұрын
You regret being born because you are born - the video
@marcusanark25413 жыл бұрын
Can't do that; it's either adoption or childfree.
@purplemonsoon83763 жыл бұрын
@@J11_boohoo no one can regret not being born, because that person does not exist to regret it. Loophole.
@matheussanthiago96853 жыл бұрын
@@purplemonsoon8376 them not lucky bastards
@dunyanaser57453 жыл бұрын
I have decided a long time ago that I personally don't want to have the responsibility of another human life, and my parents cant seem to understand that (lol). To some it's a privilege, and that's great. To me, it's not. Because I don't want to carry a never ending worry about a life that is ultimately out of my control. there are many more reasons but that's one of my main ones.
@sigmaboi2946 Жыл бұрын
Despite being financially incapable, some people choose to have children. I find that stupid because they are not thinking about what kind of life they are going to give their children. Instead they do it for selfish reasons.
@evilds32612 жыл бұрын
With rising food prices, and rising prices everywhere, having less mouths to feed helps to save money.
@txlyons29372 жыл бұрын
You're right. It's a tragedy how few parents realize this.
@hello-sz7hp Жыл бұрын
Make sand cassies
@TheTrueKailash3 жыл бұрын
if you decide not to have children and are 'happy' then you are a stronger person that most. society will demand you have kids and be smug about it
@egg25203 жыл бұрын
If someone really doesn't want kids it's fine. But it probably doesn't feel good realizing you do want kids late in life when your biology isn't as capable of producing children
@sisimou73503 жыл бұрын
@@egg2520 well it's better to regret not having kids than regret having them.
@MK-kk8ml3 жыл бұрын
@@egg2520 pressures of society don't phase me.
@STMARTIN0093 жыл бұрын
@@egg2520 life is full or regret either way so go with your gut.
@STMARTIN0093 жыл бұрын
American society is more liberal now than ever before so why would there be such a big surprise if a single person or married couple decided not to have a child or children? You have to live your life the way you want to live it not through another person's idea of how you should live it. Be strong! Be bold! Never give up! Never give in!
@me-df9re3 жыл бұрын
Issue is no one thinks from child's point. Do they want you as parent? Do they want to be born and suffer this life that includes forced education system, working everyday, cancer, heartbreak etc? Life is hard and cruel. So answer is no, there is no reason that is not selfish to have children.
@bellasuchoza96533 жыл бұрын
sure. in the middle ages reproducing should've been banned
@theenlightenedarab80813 жыл бұрын
What if we've lived much like the distant posterity depicted in Wells's The time machine? At least one would be haunted by the anxiety of being eaten at any point everyday by his cousins.
@bellasuchoza96533 жыл бұрын
@Oritra Kar yeah, it was pure sarcasm😂
@ihatelife4862 жыл бұрын
@Misha Sunne Most are dealt the wrong hand.
@justaway69012 жыл бұрын
I don't really have a problem with that as long as they know the gravity of their responsibility
@maryherbivorre3393 Жыл бұрын
This is me. I'm 42 years old and still don't want to have kids. And I don't feel any regret thus far.
@jedics13 жыл бұрын
I knew by 21 I would never have kids and it ended a few relationships which was tough at the time but now I'm older and I see that kid having a melt down on the street I know not having them is one of my biggest achievements. Also seeing how terribly your average person treats their ex partners and the worst of all, those that have kids with that ex partner that they now have to deal with for the next 20 years. I'm quite happy with the freedom I have and will never give it up completely no matter how special a person might be to me.
@alinegomesbatista81603 жыл бұрын
Have kids is not the same as being a parent. I would totally have kids. Being a parent is something I don't feel like I could ever do properly. It's a whole person you're shaping. Thats too much work, too much time, and even if I would end up being a good parent society do the work of damaging their minds. Also, I doon't think the world needs more humans, anyways...
@NightcoreandAnimeVideos3 жыл бұрын
You should only have kids if both you and your fiance are of stable and mentally fit for the challenge. If either one of you grew up in trauma, are emotionally unstable, or immature you shouldn't reproduce. There are many great benefits to having kids and sense of fulfillment. Conservatives have the advantage in these aspects. You can go without kids but human nature will kick in and you will have regret and be alone. (Prodomently in females) The more you stray away for traditional values and human nature. The more you will suffer and hurt those around you. We already see this today with the current decline in the west.
@narakaren25713 жыл бұрын
The comment I was looking for! Perfect! BTW Aline, are u Brazilian? (based on your user name)
@punkrock19893 жыл бұрын
This generation is to focused on themselves and lazy, they make so many ridiculous excuses to not have kids, it's incredible 😂😂
@ru40413 жыл бұрын
@@punkrock1989 a lot smarter than previous generations for not having kids “just because it’s supposed to be that way”, that’s for sure.
@syasyaishavingfun3 жыл бұрын
@@punkrock1989 lmao how is it being narcissistic if they don't require their copy to be happy?
@charlesthedeadlifter43763 жыл бұрын
I've been told on numerous occasions that I would be a great father but I don't have kids and don't want any.
@EctoMorpheus3 жыл бұрын
That's great. Then you choose not to have them from a position of power rather than a position of weakness. Respect
@stephanieh54783 жыл бұрын
Same here! I'm a preschool teacher and many people have told me I would be a wonderful mom.. However, I'm not sure if I will have any children!
@annannan97865 Жыл бұрын
After being traumatized mentally abused beaten punished looked down on devalued , suddenly we expect the same abused people to relive the trauma through their own kids ? Sure …..
@Yaelia3 жыл бұрын
“Who is going to take care of you when you get old?” - last resort of a question when I have debated all the others. This is why you become a mature, great person. You work hard to have a good retirement, get insurance for assisted living and being a good person you can create lifetime friendships that will actually care for you better than your burden child. At the point a child is going to “take care of you”, they are basically raising their own family or focusing on their careers. They will put me in a home anyway. - Also hate the one of “is unconditional love”. Sure. For the first years. Until they start forming a mind and opinions of their own. Is SELFISH to bring a child just to be loved unconditionally. Sounds to me you need to love yourself more.
@ryanstarlight8018 Жыл бұрын
I agree, but if you live a long life, there's no guarantee that your friends will still be alive
@cal9112 Жыл бұрын
About the unconditional love is really hilarious , even my mother didnt give a damn aboutme, the true unconditional love comes from a dog. Trust me
@darcyone62913 жыл бұрын
My main problem with this video is that it focuses on the misery / happiness of the parents and ignore the position of the children except for an extremely brief mention.
@BassistBreakdown3 жыл бұрын
Yes. Exactly.
@SerratedMilliner3 жыл бұрын
Fucking this.
@MisterPol3 жыл бұрын
"You can learn many things from children. How much patience you have, for instance." - Franklin P. Jones
@MisterPol3 жыл бұрын
btw your videos are great, big inspiration for me! :)
@enzoma72533 жыл бұрын
No, they are dirty, evil, and mean. Literally minions of Satan.
@kuroroedamame3 жыл бұрын
Yea but sadly a lot of parents not learn, just beat the s* out of it whenever they want 👀
@anuragjangam2 жыл бұрын
@@kuroroedamame true. Its kinda sad how we all could relate to physical abuse. I would never wish that upon my child or anyone else.
@flowwwtube3357 Жыл бұрын
@@kuroroedamame These sayings are guides for smart/contemplating people only. Morons will stay morons regardless of having children or not.
@carverkain5226 Жыл бұрын
I can list 1000 reasons why I probably shouldn’t have kids but the main reason is it’s seems selfish forcing someone to live because I was lonely
@jilleonbristol559 Жыл бұрын
I just wanted to add that many parents end up in nursing homes and sadly the kids and grandkids are too busy to visit. I work in a nursing home and I have seen this happen on many occasions. And I have met a few elderly persons who live alone. This one lady was 80 years lives alone and had 7 children and many grand children why because they moved far away to live. So the point I am making is life with children is no different from life without children.
@VS-vx5hi4 ай бұрын
You are so right. My mom lives in an elderly community and I visit her often, however, so many other residents complain about how they are so lonely because their children have other lives and don’t visit. It’s so sad 😢
@thehuman28613 жыл бұрын
First ask yourself "Are you worthy of being parents?"
@TheStitchWitchPodcast3 жыл бұрын
and I think a lot of people don't do that
@andre.19843 жыл бұрын
Wrong question. It's not about being worthy. A child is not a trophy to signal your worth. The right question is, "am I competent enough to be a decent parent?" Having children is a responsibility that you accept for yourself and hopefully get some joy from. Feeling worthy or not will not solve the problem of having to be competent as a parent.
@mrzukunft3 жыл бұрын
@@andre.1984 Agree. Though there is a problem with asking this question. Most people will answer 'yes' to this question, even if they are objectively incompetent. And they may not even be lying consciously: they are probably just convinced of their competence.
@andre.19843 жыл бұрын
@@mrzukunft Yeah, although typically, if are asking yourself that question seriously, you're already open to the possibility of a negative answer.
@bri34493 жыл бұрын
The sad thing is that doesn’t help. A bad parent would still think “Yes”
@bobathefett58063 жыл бұрын
I can already tell this link is getting posted on r/childfree. Also, hello to all my cf bretheren.
@theenlightenedarab80813 жыл бұрын
I am blind, have had my full of the bitterness of rejection many times, and I feel I would have to receive adequate training to take the decision to lead a lonely life without a partner or children. Much of the time it is not a decision, it is just wisdom to take it to extremes.
@elmograbi31523 жыл бұрын
It's gonna be tough on you though
@DCLsMusic3 жыл бұрын
A life without a partner and a life without children are two different things, you could have a partner and no children or children and no partner if you separate. Having a healthy social life is the most important thing and learning to love yourself for who you are instead of wanting your children and your partner to do that for you...
@theenlightenedarab80813 жыл бұрын
@@DCLsMusic What is a healthy social life? Begging for acceptance? No sighted woman would happily want to be wedded to a blind guy. Besides, I am much of a nerd and passionate about books and reading so I am not really a sociable person. If I weren't blind I wouldn't give it second thoughts. I wouldn't like to have my cultural pursuits disturbed by being obliged to care for a child. The coolest thing about having a child, for me, is to seat them on my knee and have them learn to enjoy reading with me. Which is not realizable as you already know in such a vulgar age in which attention span had rapidly declined. Imagining a boy absorbed in reading Goethe in this century is almost insane.
@AlvinCwk2 жыл бұрын
They say if you dont have kids they no one will look after you when you are older. The truth is, even kids doesnt mean they will always look after you.
@ZakkuTakku2 жыл бұрын
True. Look at all the people in nursing homes who hardly ever get visits from their children or grandchildren, so sad...
@harrisindustries3143 жыл бұрын
Many want the benefits of having children but not the responsibility. You get what you give and not even that is guaranteed.
@SteveWKk3 жыл бұрын
What's one of the "benefits"? I have 3........it's mostly a lot of tedious hard work and plenty of stress with some times of joy built in....lol
@cometcourse3813 жыл бұрын
What in the world are the benefits of having children?
@harrisindustries3143 жыл бұрын
@@cometcourse381 What do you think motivates people to have children? They think it will make them happier, give them a purpose and fulfillment, give them a retirement plan, give them kodak moments, for unconditional love....Why would people keep doing something that they don't think benefits them?
@harrisindustries3143 жыл бұрын
@@SteveWKk Then why did you have children?
@SteveWKk3 жыл бұрын
@@harrisindustries314 Started at 21.......unplanned... Love my kids, don't get me wrong. But it's not all the joy and bliss everyone tells you it's going to be. It's hard work. Like marriage is hard work. Then they become teenagers and it adds triple the stress.
@litepaw73 жыл бұрын
It's better to regret to not having kids then having kids then regret having them.
@EctoMorpheus3 жыл бұрын
@CHAOSCANDIDATE it is that simple, for reasons illustrated by another comment here. If you have children and regret it, you've not only ruined your own life but also quite likely theirs (which is arguably even worse). If you don't have children and regret it, it's just you. You haven't wronged anyone but yourself, and maybe you can even adopt some foster children and actually add value instead of creating yet another human.
@thecount_19573 жыл бұрын
I agree!
@laraking8043 жыл бұрын
@CHAOSCANDIDATE I’m not young. It is that simple.
@SerratedMilliner3 жыл бұрын
@CHAOSCANDIDATE lol you don't know what you're talking about dude
@slimetank3943 жыл бұрын
@CHAOSCANDIDATE lmao try not eating for a month and we will see which urge is stronger. People ain't just straight up dying from not having children
@Millienfilm81 Жыл бұрын
I am 42 next Tuesday. My motto “no kids, no regrets”.
@djalice Жыл бұрын
I have zero interest in having children and am as certain as can be that I will not regret it. I love my life and don't want any distractions from it that I can help.
@coreygeiger813 жыл бұрын
I don’t think Alain made a convincing case with misery involving not having kids, lol
@secularmonk51763 жыл бұрын
Misery: "A lack of constant distraction/calls on one's time ..." Somebody's trolling! XD
@jensonly3 жыл бұрын
@@secularmonk5176 so true! And boredom??? No way, I'm out doing fun stuff
@tylerdurden36183 жыл бұрын
Lolol yeah that was a stretch.
@yvettevernet47593 жыл бұрын
Many people in nursing homes never get a visit from their children.
@nikolatasev49483 жыл бұрын
This was my first thought. None of the reasons I would be miserable from not having kids seemed compelling. Maybe the society part, a tiny bit. in the face of my in-laws disapproving. But they are far, while a child would live in my own home and keep me from sleeping at night every night, so no thanks.
@stevenmcardile72873 жыл бұрын
Only if your ok with letting go of: Your time Your looks Your money Your future Your freedom !!!!
@otiliaiolanda83643 жыл бұрын
Agreed
@hippidippi83 жыл бұрын
And people say having kids is selfish..pssht..more like selfless!
@otiliaiolanda83643 жыл бұрын
People Say îs selfish because most people do It to perpetuate their genes. Also a kid produces almost 58 tonnes of carbon dioxide. That is a lot of pollution . If you also think about all the pampers it uses and if you add that on a global scale of babies , that is an awful lot of pollution and damage we are causing to the planet.
@otiliaiolanda83643 жыл бұрын
Is also because so many kids do not have parents and is very much like buying a dog when there are lots of dogs without a home. Like is best to try to adopt a kid who doesn't have a home. Because you would then actually have a good impact in the world .
@hippidippi83 жыл бұрын
@@otiliaiolanda8364 the creation of the world was meant to support the creation of human beings. The planet is for humans, not the other way around.
@ancientcall77372 жыл бұрын
Man this message is pure gold. Being in my early 30s I often feel overwhelmed by this constant pressure to have children... All of a sudden it is nearly omni present or maybe I make it that way by giving it too much thought. I never had the wish to procreate, simple as that ... and I don't need to explain myself.
@ennuiblue42952 жыл бұрын
I actually have a hatred for people who try to guilt others into having kids. The *ONLY* reason for that is if they're miserable and resent people who they deem as 'free'. People who are content with having kids wouldn't do that, because they Know its hard, and they Know it's just not for everyone 🤔 I gor lucky with my son, he's a great person, but I respect anyone who says 'no thanks'. That's ok too (sorry rant over)
@ancientcall77372 жыл бұрын
@@ennuiblue4295 Give me all the rants you have! Thanks for sharing and I think your point is very true, people who don't respect the decisions of others (not just on this topic but every other one as well) are just insecure.
@beaulieuc8910 Жыл бұрын
great, but so many men have accidents becuase they don't use protection or have a vascetomy
@ancientcall7737 Жыл бұрын
@@beaulieuc8910 risky!
@hououinkyouma55393 жыл бұрын
Given the current choices of humanity, perpetuating suffering is pretty much on the top of the list why I won't reproduce.
@Leisloth3 жыл бұрын
I'm battling hard with this at the moment. In principle, I would love to have kids, but the thought of bringing a child into this world (at least how I perceive it right now) and to cause it to suffer is unbearable to me. Me being the creator of the child and having made the conscious decision to bring it into the world.. I would feel responsible for its inevitable suffering and that I can't morally justify for myself. But I also think there are some personal issues regarding this world view that I have to sort out for myself first. It's complicated.
@hououinkyouma55393 жыл бұрын
That, and when the cost can be $300,000+ given inflation over 18 years. It's increasingly hard to justify
@RezhwAmanj3 жыл бұрын
@@Leisloth The world is in the best state that it has ever been for humanity right now.
@thetombuck3 жыл бұрын
@@RezhwAmanj 7.5 billion people and climbing with a looming climate crisis and mass extinctions. Humanity is oblivious heading for oblivion
@AGFuzzyPancake3 жыл бұрын
Suffering always has and for the foreseeable future will continue to be a fundamental part of human existence. It's your optimism or pessimism for the future that dictates whether or not you should raise children.
@whisperingwooper17633 жыл бұрын
I’ve known for awhile now that I do not want to have children. First is that this world is pretty bad and seems it will be harder for generations to live as it goes on. But most importantly I don’t want my entire life to be about raising children. Sure it may sound selfish but I have a lot of dreams and goals I want to complete. I don’t think there is anything wrong with a peaceful life with me and my future partner without children. I commend those who decide to have children as it is the hardest job in the world. But it’s time we stop judging people for having kids or not. If you decide to have kids great! If you don’t then that’s great too!
@user-mt3nu1vm7n3 жыл бұрын
🙌
@HandyAndyTechTips3 жыл бұрын
All too often, the burden of responsibility for kids is placed on the woman. Obviously she has to give birth to them in the first place, and even if her and her partner have committed to an equal share of caring and household duties, the balance inevitably tips towards one of them (usually her) because it's 'just easier'. This can squander her potential and stifle her ambition. That's another reason why I'm opposed to having kids - I feel it's unfair for one partner to be limited in this way. I'm a guy BTW.
@MmmMulholland3 жыл бұрын
Well have a kid and go above and beyond in your responsibilities then? Be the change. Children don’t get in the way that much when they hit school age, ambition can still be chased. Especially when there are two parents!
@FueyChan3 жыл бұрын
@@MmmMulholland But isn't that still at least 5-6 years taken away?
@aysh15523 жыл бұрын
Since the age of 8 I knew I didn’t want to have children. I am 23 and nothing has changed. I have never felt a maternal instinct to bring humans into this world and I don’t think I ever will. I completely recognise the that I will never be a great or even a good parent. I know that I am too selfish and honest enough to know that being a parent isn’t for me; and no child should ever feel unwanted or be brought into this world for “just the sake of it” . Also I would just like to say, nice to see all of you likeminded people in the comments ☺️☺️ - makes me feel less lonely about this topic lol
@joandurand86483 жыл бұрын
I, too, knew early on that I didn't want kids. When I tried for a sterilization at 19 in 1975, I was told such procedures weren't permitted unless my age multiplied by the number of kids I had given birth to came to a number over 100. 100! Much has changed since then, and if you decide to be sterilized, I'm pretty sure you'll find a doctor that will help you. Although I had to rely on conventional birth control for all the years since that day, I am childfree and truly happy about it. Good luck and stay strong.
@aysh15523 жыл бұрын
@@joandurand8648 Thank you for sharing your story and journey Joan 💗. You don't know how much I appreciate it🙏. You are giving me hope and to many others who read this, so thank you again for responding. Hope you are having a lovely day 😊🥰
@JmasterPullmizter3 жыл бұрын
Would I want to have a child? Yea sure Do I have the time and money to maintain a child? No Easy decision I have ever made
@hanalala31642 жыл бұрын
Wow.. never thought of it this way..Lol
@blakelip33 жыл бұрын
School of life & Psych2Go are perfect
@forpurposes31683 жыл бұрын
Mark Manson is a great KZbinr too, you should check it out!
@lucianac.21623 жыл бұрын
a colab will be great
@Jatmoney3 жыл бұрын
can’t stand psych2gos narrator tbh
@zt25523 жыл бұрын
Yes agree! I watch a lot of their videos both ❤️
@blakelip33 жыл бұрын
@@forpurposes3168 that’s who does these videos
@ItsJustLib3 жыл бұрын
Even that list of either/or when it comes to children, you can't deny that not having children is less painful overall. As a childfree woman in her 30s, it's so nice to have a video NOT tell me that I'm wrong for my choice to never become a mother. I've known since I was small that I didn't want kids and it's often exhausting being told that one fateful day I'll change my mind.
@BillusTinnus Жыл бұрын
Both sides mean suffering, but one side is less suffering
@shinigami9563 жыл бұрын
I will admit, I'm scared of getting old and being lonely 😔, but the idea of having kids kills me!! I don't want to ruing another human being, because. Already damege good's.
@AR-ty7nv3 жыл бұрын
Even if you had kids you have no guarantee they will be there for you when you're old lmao. My parents had me fix their marriage and take care of them when they are older and fuck no. I'm out and I'm cutting them off. So don't have kids with selfish intentions. Don't have kids at all if you expect anything in return. It is their choice to stay and you have no guarantee they would even make that choice.
@Hayatiiiiiiiiiii3 жыл бұрын
To combat loneliness and stop the selfish birthgiving for reasons of loneliness, we, as a society, should go back to building communities or come up with new forms of communities.
@ChristianMeyer3 жыл бұрын
Deciding whether or not to have children just comes down to which part of your life you want 20 years shaved off of. The middle or the end?
@theviewfinder16523 жыл бұрын
@@AR-ty7nv superb answer
@otiliaiolanda83643 жыл бұрын
Don't make a child because you feel lonely. That is beyond selfish
@SellusionStar3 жыл бұрын
There are so many kids without parents. For me there is no real choice but to adopt a child. Simple reasoning.
@SellusionStar3 жыл бұрын
@Oritra Kar That's probably also a valid point of view. In my personal opinion it is like for every child I produce, there is one without parents. And the kid might not be more strange then the pink blob coming out of my wife's cherry
@an.amap13183 жыл бұрын
@Oritra Kar even your child, that doesn't exist, they are child of your parents, not yours. You have not your own DNA, you have that from your ancestors. You are juts nothing, you just transfer genetics of your ancestors. There is a big probability, your child can look like your mother, father, grand parents etc.
@matheussanthiago96853 жыл бұрын
I'm still trying to undo the damage my parents did on me when they decided to have a kid with no emocional nor financial preparedness whatsoever so nah, I pass
@Smitecrawler3 жыл бұрын
As an antinatalist, the answer for me is a resounding 'no'.
@harrysox28153 жыл бұрын
I'm going to have several children in spite of you.
@eddenoy3213 жыл бұрын
I never wanted to have kids but if I went around calling myself an anti-natalist, I surely would be a knob.
@playlistenthusiast3 жыл бұрын
I'm also antinatalist although probably won't ever be financially comfortable or independent enough to have a choice anyway I would never look at where the future of humanity is headed and say "Yeah I'll bring another life into that".
@martins38853 жыл бұрын
@@harrysox2815 very mature answer
@hnyii3 жыл бұрын
Hi. I really want to read a book on that. Do you know a good one?