I'm choosing myself

[@chrisr.1803]

Being such an introvert, if I was being my authentic self…I would stay home! 😊

[@anagoldberg]

Haha, I understand you so well, Chris! 😅

[@tawnytuppence5573]

I was thinking the same thing, haha!

[@ursamajormouse]

Yes! True. ha ha

[@mountain-mornings]

So relatable 😆

[@cheekypotato599]

😅

[@rhosymedra6628]

I really agree with Taylor Swift when she said "the greatest luxury is your secrets"...my authentic self does not have to be for public consumption and dissection. I don't think women owe that to the world. Also, I really appreciate your kind and thoughtful corner of KZbin!

[@websurfer5772]

Ooooh.. great points.

[@Lunulaana]

Dear Ana, i am sorry to hear about the hairdresser story. I don't know what he said, but whatever it was says nothing about you, but everything about him. To me, you are an absolutely inspiring, incredible beautiful woman ❤ thanks for sharing. Love, Romana

[@websurfer5772]

That reminds me, I've had some mean hairdressers. The last one was yelling at me. lol I don't stand up for myself either - I can't - not with my natal Mars in Pisces. I'm cutting my hair myself from now on.

[@Lunulaana]

​@@websurfer5772 this is so bad, why do people do that... wish you all the best

[@mickjaeger7573]

Ach, Ana, I remember being a working Mom with two young kids as well as elder care responsibilities in my early 30s with a pixie haircut suitable to my tiny face and long thin neck. I was walking into a store and two young men walking out commented on my looks, likening me to a wet rat. Did I change my appearance? No. Did I think less of them? Yes. Did it hurt anyway? Sure. Should I have confronted them? Maybe. But as a sleep-deprived, over-stressed, continually busy woman, was it worth what was left of my energy and resources? Not at that time. That's the way of it. Also, currently your "androgynous" look, by which most men simply mean short hair on a girl and limited makeup, is very popular. But even within that category, you are very feminine. Nothing wrong with your feminine goddess energy. Just carry on. Brian is correct, it is your authenticity that is loved. The world has more than enough fakeness. Also, the shot of the cats in the roof is fantastic.

[@anagoldberg]

Ugh, this story is upsetting... Such comments always hurt. Thank you for sharing it, dear Michaela ❤️ Some people think that their thoughts and aesthetic standards are the ultimate truth 😤 Thank you for your kind compliment too! 🤗

[@websurfer5772]

@@anagoldberg I think you look adorable and very feminine. I have super short hair too after 2 bad hairdressers in a row. (I'm female too) I'm cutting it myself from now on. I certainly can't do worse than they did.

[@petergarayt9634]

69 and still trying to shed the involuntary conditioning we all receive that had nothing to do with who I was.

[@michelemilne9612]

You have fantastic bone structure and skin. You look great.

[@anagoldberg]

Thank you for your kind compliment, Michele.

[@oneseeker2]

Yes!

[@michelemilne9612]

@@anagoldberg it is only the truth.😊 Have a good week.

[@wangarimuriithi8748]

The hairstyle enhances the uniqueness of your features. And having had 2 disappointing haircuts in my life, hair grows back when you forget about it (or maybe get used to it). This too shall pass Anna. I love your gentle voice.

[@anagoldberg]

Thank you, my friend 🌸

[@hidden909]

I can relate to this video. I’m also an introvert and an artist. I eat a vegan diet and dress mostly in black. I can tell I often make people uncomfortable and friends have been a challenge to find. Recently I suffered a heart attack and have had a difficult recovery mentality and physically. Now I find that I just can’t be bothered anymore to try and make others comfortable when they’re with me. I just want to be myself and not worry about other people so much. Maybe this will pass, but for now it’s been liberating.

[@anagoldberg]

I'm wishing you smooth recovery, Karen ❤️

[@oneseeker2]

You may be suffering from ptsd, and need help to navigate through ur everything, at least for awhile. 💓

[@RachelAnnHarris-Sparks-h8y]

Sounds like you were describing me….introvert, artist, vegan, wear black…lol!

[@verapurrio5462]

Manchmal liebe Ana ist es auch erstaunlich, wie unterschiedlich die Wahrnehmungen sind, je nachdem wo man lebt. Frauen mit deinem Look fallen in Westeuropa nicht negativ auf, im Gegenteil. Du hast Stil!!!😊

[@anagoldberg]

Thank you, dear Vera ❤️ Indeed, cultures differ so much...

[@Marie41898]

You are right dear Ana, respect is the key.

[@LL-qi9mb]

Super Video Ana! There is so much truth in what you say. I think for me over my 70 years of life, I have found myself losing some of my authentic self and then rediscovering it. It has happened a few times, especially when I moved from Europe to the US. I found myself very different in my outlook to the people of my adopted country, and as a consequence I tried to fit in with what was expected. I completely lost my sense of self at that point. After a while I realized that all the pretense was not making me happy, so slowly but surely I found myself again and started to live the life that I knew was right for me and my children. My husband and I told ourselves we need to model the authenticity for the sake of our children, so they would be strong in their own identities and beliefs. This was a long while ago now, and I have to say I am now happy in my skin again and have been for many years, and mostly do not care what people think of me. I try to be kind and genuine and if my ideas and beliefs do not fit, oh well, that is not my problem. I would tell anyone who is young, you can walk to a different drum, and be your authentic self. Not everyone will appreciate you, but likewise you won't appreciate some of them either. Live and let live, and try not to lose yourself. A genuine person in my mind is a value beyond measure.

[@sharonshmuel3386]

Dear Anna Happy anniversary 🎉 I'm sad that you have had negative comments & a bad haircut experience but I think we've all been there !!! I know I have 😢You always look lovely 😍 You are kind, clever, generous, talented ....I don't put on airs or graces for anyone at 65 I act as I truly am - my authentic self & yes if someone has a problem & doesn't like me so be it. Wonderful content as always ❤

[@anagoldberg]

Thank you, dear Sharon 🤗

[@Ardis-takecareandenjoy]

"Thank you!" for your kindness and your reminder of the value of self-analysis. To say the least, it seems that there's always room for improvement. Relatively, I do admire and appreciate anyone who is working to that end (improvement). It seems obvious to me that you, are one of those people. Additionally, I like the way that you present yourself and it saddens me to know that someone has given you a reason to be unsettled; but that's OK! Be unsettled (but just for a short-while)! It is very revealing and true; kindness honors kindness, while being able to appreciate the value of unkindness. There's strength, wisdom, and beauty in responding with reservation, contemplation, kindness. You're in good shape! Wishing for you, yours, and all; enduring: wellness, security, and happiness! Take care and enjoy! :)

[@emanuelad3534]

True And also people feel our sensitivity and take advantage of it. I visited a lady 2 days ago.. I always bring flowers and gifts, she is older and I used to admire her 20 years ago. When I left she told me: “ it’s a sin if you don’t visit me often”. I just realize that I am used and I should move on from my ideal image I had 20 years ago. But what a shame people are so small. Some of them.

[@emmelinesprig489]

That quote at the end illustrated your thoughts beautifully 🌙 🌊

[@kgt9925]

No wonder I love listening to you. It's as if you're speaking on my behalf. All I have known throughout my life is criticism for 'being,' along with judgement for bad decisions I've made. I'm usually caught off guard by accusations, reprimands, etc., since I'm not able to respond in the moment - I need time to process information, especially insults and other hurtful comments. So, I resort to isolating myself for safety from emotional harm even though there is so much more to me than most people will ever know. Quiet Rebel - I love that.

[@Instrukcija4]

Giving up other people's expectations was one of the best decisions in my life. Thanks for the video. 😊

[@amandachapman4708]

I have learned that people who criticise others are generally dissatisfied with themselves and their lives. Their criticism says more about them than it does about me. However, the barbs of their criticism can still be hurtful in the moment, but only for as long as I allow them to be. It took me a long time to realise the truth of that.

[@emmelinesprig489]

“Barb” is such a good word. Your comment makes me think about the plants that spread their seeds with little barbs on the shell. Mean and harsh people are like those plants, and their meanness and harshness are the little seeds of their misery. It can hurt us if we get too close to them, but it doesn’t mean anything about our self. It’s a symptom of their problems. We just happened to brush too close to a mean and harsh person. We need to still take care of ourself and gently pick the barbs out of our skin and hair and clothes.

[@abigailcross624]

People often make assumptions about me at work. If I was my true self I would be sat in the corner in comfy clothes either reading a book, staring out of the window or something that meant I didn’t have to talk to any of them, but they think I am sociable 😂 I’m reasonably new to your channel and I am loving your content so far ❤

[@anagoldberg]

I'm so glad to meet you here, Abigail! Haha, when I used to work offline with people, I was also thought to be quite a sociable person 😅

[@shaynaformity1384]

Dearest Ana, I am afraid for my country. Your channel gives me comfort, so thank you so much for sharing your life experiences.

[@maryroc1]

Happy aniversary , dear Ana and your husband. I find you really feminine and I love the fact that you know yourself so well. I am in my sixties, and I have a very nice partner too. I'm highly sensitive, like you, which makes my life complicated at times. I wish you and Brian all the very best from France !

[@anagoldberg]

Thank you so much, Mary ❤️ Sending love to France!

[@emeloin]

I always see you as being very feminine. You remind me a little of Audrey Hepburn who had a unique type of beauty

[@anagoldberg]

Thank you for this flattering compliment, Mary!

[@julianasalzer7726]

How others are labeling me, tells more about them than me. I was called a lot of bad things from a very early age on & I never identified with it. Either you know & feel inside who you truly are or you let others tell you about yourself. By the way, you look even more beautiful to me in this video & with this haircut ✌️

[@nerridag.8498]

💯🤗

[@anagoldberg]

Thank you, Juliana ❤️

[@ilariatremolada379]

Thank you dear Ana for another insightful and peaceful video! I hear you and I’m sorry for your bad experience with the hairdresser. I feel the pressure to conform is so strong and diversity is often perceived as a threat, hence people can get very defensive when dealing with different approaches, life choices and values. Thank you for having the courage to embrace and share your true self in an unapologetic and peaceful way. You’re an inspiration, keep thriving 🩵

[@Μελίνα-ΣτέλλαΚουφογιαννάκη]

I stay true to myself by singing through the heart. Mooving around often and dreaming deeply and higher. Times are quite umbelievable but we can choose to live in peace ❤

[@liesjedeventer3949]

I love, love, love your energy, Ana!!

[@KellyJ-e2t]

Thank you for the questions to ask myself to help identify my authentic self. I don't know who I truly am. I have spent most of my life trying to be someone else..someone "normal". To not be my highly sensitive, socially awkward, "weird" self. Thank you also for your transparency.

[@kayerains3513]

Thank you, Ana, for this lovely video...inspirational. I am a curvy woman, and people's offhand comments hurt sometimes. You have reminded me to love who I am and all that I have accomplished. Take care.

[@anagoldberg]

I think many people don't even notice when they hurt others... Sending love, my friend ❤️

[@marilynhaverly570]

Yes, yes, yes.! Such wise thoughts. Acting from my authentic self instead of adaptive self is especially challenging. I see people who can express their authentic selves with finesse and consideration for others and want to be able to do the same. Sometimes I can and other times I either fail and inadvertently cause harm, or I allow my adaptive self to come forward. I'm comforted and reassured to know I'm not alone in "humaning." It's hard for all of us but at least at this point in life I'm more relaxed about it all. "Radical acceptance" is really key for a sense of well-being, I think. Thank you for sharing yourself.

[@rchhtt5210]

Ana, I relate so much to you. I am a very sensitive, introverted, socially anxious, people pleaser. Of all the characteristics I have, I want to stop being a people pleaser. It doesn’t serve me or my relationships anymore. It’s SO hard to break that habit.

[@tedallenwolff]

Hi Ana, although I haven't commented in a long time, your channel continues to be a favorite of mine. I think of you two often. Your thoughts and ideas are a standout among all the other KZbin content.

[@anagoldberg]

Hi, Ted! Thank you so much for your kind presence here 🌿 I hope you're well!

[@tawnytuppence5573]

Great, relatable topic. I don’t know why people have to give their unsought opinions so freely. It says more about them than it does about you. I absolutely love your look - what a gift it is to embody so much natural beauty, inside and out! Thank you for sharing your grace and wisdom, and good looks! 😊 I’m quiet and think I’m generally likable, but this week I’ve been dealing with a high-conflict personality who is just mean mean mean, and it’s definitely thrown me off. It’s hard to recenter, but I’m getting there, and it’s worth the effort, don’t you think? We work so hard to find ourselves, and then someone thinks they can just knock us over-no! We’ve come too far to just give up on ourselves over one person’s opinion. Though I think taking a few days to heal is okay.

[@anagoldberg]

I think it's always worth the effort! We deserve not to tive up on ourselves 🤗

[@WaffleTraveller]

Привет, Ана! Thank you for raising such an interesting and important topic. As always, I have so many thoughts in response, but I'll try to limit myself to just one 😅 I wonder if anyone has a simular experience to mine: as a child I was labelled the smart and academically gifted one, which meant that my achievements were taken for granted and my failures (or anything less than 100% success) were remarked upon and questioned. I was conditioned to believe that nothing less than 100% was good enough. It left me with unrealistically high expectations of myself and low self-esteem when I couldn't or wouldn't meet them, which had a pretty bad effect on my mental health. It also made me shrink my world by not trying new things because I believed nothing was worth doing unless I could do it amazingly well. It took me years to understand all this and start changing my limiting beliefs, and it's been incredibly liberating.

[@Anita-rq9ev]

Thank you Ana. Very interesting topic. It's not easy being yourself. As I got older though I give myself the freedom to live my life on my terms as much as I can. Not possible at work though🫣😉. I don't harm anybody, but I don't always do what others want me to do as I used to do. Neither do I want to be liked by everybody, it's impossible and I'm fine with it. I have to admit that I don't like to be judged by my looks (as happened to you). I always think if they don't like my looks/face or short hair, they are always welcomed to look into another face 😁. Take care ❤️

[@anagoldberg]

Ha, I share your attitude to the judgment by looks 😊 Indeed, there are so many alternative faces to look into instead of being insulted by mine 😁 Thank you for your kind comment, Anita ❤️

[@willowbei]

What a tender, vulnerable, and much needed message in the world we live in today. Being ourselves begins with discovering ourselves, which I have found is not as easy as it might seem (at least for me). Exploring the levels of myself and working on authenticity are a constant challenge and opportunity to move another step down the path called life. Learning how to take care of ourselves, in whatever circumstance arises, is a gift we can give ourselves. Knowing, in our hearts, what is right, and good, and true for us, can move us in that direction. As we begin to know ourselves and trust ourselves, we can live life with more joy, more peace, more compassion, and more authenticity. All the best to you and Brian as you continue your journey.

[@anagoldberg]

Thank you, Willowbei 🌿

[@anngratton9600]

Definitely a valid conversation. I am 67 and continuously struggle to be myself. The reason that I say this is because it has been my experience that under every layer of authentic self is a deeper layer to be explored. Isn't this the healing journey .... isn't genuine healing all about being our authentic selves? What I find so very interesting is that this is not an imperative journey for everyone - healing destructive behaviours can be enough - lucky them. For sure healing those constrictive behaviours is very satisfying and helpful, ..... but for me it is just the beginning of the journey. I think, from getting to know you a little, that it is the same for you. As always - thank you for sharing some deeper layers of Ana and leaving me pondering.

[@Shirley-AnneDickner-lt4zo]

Very wise Ana. Your videos are like a breath of fresh air 😊

[@virsocarr95]

Thanks for this video , Ana. I am an introvert and I really struggle when I have to interact with more of a person per time. And when I made a friend in a group is a hard thing for.me when we have to interact all together. I tried to explain that and avoid other person to feel rejected. But sometimes i just don't have the energy to take care of other people feelings about my feelings, specially when the only thing that I do is share the energy that i have at the moment. I really enjoy walking by myself, visiting museums, new towns.

[@josephvolgyi3382]

Dearest Ana, this video was another great topic you chose to talk about. All of us are not 100% satisfied with our looks or demeanor. I don’t really like myself so lots of times I choose to be alone and at home where I can be my authentic self. I think we see ourselves differently than others see us. You, for example, are exquisitely feminine, lady-like, short hair and clothing style. You’re soft spoken, gentle, intelligent and kind. All these qualities make you lovable. Happy Anniversary to you and Brian. Love and hugs 💕

[@anagoldberg]

Thank you so much for your kind words and love ❤️ Sending warm hugs your way!

[@dannysmith2794]

Thank you Ana, much appreciated.

[@lainsimple5285]

My biggest struggle has been finding authenticity in the workplace. Corporate America can be so toxic and I’ve always tried to bring my true self to work and not stifle certain parts of me to fit a specific mold. Recently I was told I’m “too passionate” and that it will get me in trouble in the future. I honestly take this as a compliment. Shouldn’t we be doing everything with passion? If I’m not speaking up for what I feel is right or wrong, then I’m not being authentic and true to myself and my beliefs. How in the world can anyone have too much passion?

[@pansyflowerboy]

My whole life has been a process of shedding the expectations of who and what I was supposed to be, and discovering what is underneath. I diverge from what society deems acceptable and normal in so many ways that I've lost friends and family because of it and I am ok with that. Those people didn't really care about me, they just cared about me staying in the box they put me in. I'm still finding parts of myself that were forced into hiding since I was a small child and I'm in my mid thirties. I feel sad for the people I know who seem to stay on the path that was chosen for them and never question why.

[@anagoldberg]

So well said: "Those people didn't really care about me, they just cared about me staying in the box they put me in". Thank you for being inspiring, Lanen🌷

[@michelecraig9658]

Wonderful topic and so suitable to this season. Happy anniversary!

[@websurfer5772]

I like this. I just subbed you. I could relate to everything you stated here. Thank you Ana. 🏵

[@j4BnSPUgdu]

I see you have many wonderful friends providing support and encouragement in the comments. Isn't it perfectly natural and healthy for most children to want to do their best to please their parents? And yet at some point something causes many teenagers to turn away from their parents and seek deep connection with someone outside the family. Yes, I hear you, it seems difficult not to simply try to please people we're attracted to. I think for as long as we're striving upward, outward, chasing success and achievement, some of that involves wanting to be perceived in a positive way by others. Later in life, though, many oldsters get cranky. Get cantankerous. It's as though we realize that hey, here is where we are. This is what we have to work with. Maybe it's all downhill from here, but at least we're going to do it on our terms. Пока пока

[@traceyp6333]

Thank you, you are truly beautiful

[@russelllear5682]

You are honest and brave! A dangerous and exciting combination. I think the notion of a single fixed "authentic self" is problematic. There is a quote I vaguely remember that says "I am not who you think I am, nor am I who I think I am, but who I think you think I am". I believe we (rightly) adjust our behavior to the setting and the audience and our relationships with those in the audience. These selves aren't necessarily "fake" - these can all be genuine expressions of different facets of ourselves. The self exists in dialogue with others - it's not formed in isolation. A person might be both a nurturing parent and an aggressive competitor in sports, without either being "inauthentic." It might be better to think about it in terms of congruence - having our actions align with our values and being honest about our multiple facets rather than pretending to be unchanging or unaffected by context.

[@anagoldberg]

You make a great point here! I can't but agree 😊

[@ashaw6960]

I appreciate this comment as it strikes a balance that allows freedom of being yourself in different settings in different ways. We are still being who we really are.

[@liammcweeney1674]

Another great topic Ana Have a great day

[@anagoldberg]

Thanks, Liam! You too

[@dagnolia6004]

i was given the gift as a small child of having the realization that i don't like everyone, and i don't have to be liked by everyone. there was a little girl in my kindergarten class that was so pretty, truly like a little rose; but she was dumb as a box of rocks. as a little 4 year old, i realized that i liked looking at her, but i couldn't be friends with her. just because things are not "for us", doesn't mean they can't be admired (from afar). my grandmother used to say that i wasn't everyone's 'cup of tea'. even if we are strong and resolute in our sense of self, a truly sensitive or tender person can feel the rudeness and lack of sensitivity from others. i am rarely 'bothered' by negative opinions, but i love that the poets, artists, writers and other sensitives make beauty from their pains, great AND small. keep being ALL that you are.

[@oneseeker2]

At 4 yrs old I was quite, introverted, stoically 100%, at 6 yrs old 1st grade, I could have been called "dumb as a box of rocks", I still had I same characteristics, forward to 7th grade, a different school, teachers, classes, I became interested in classes, still quiet, same characteristics, " just being". She knew she was "dumb as a box of rocks",, you didn't know why,,what home life was like,, she could not help she was beautiful, or as smart as you. You had Ur mothers tongue, at such a young age, add Ur mother's finger.

[@dagnolia6004]

@@oneseeker2 i never had my mother's tongue, or any true part of her. but i do KNOW that everyone will not like me; nor shall i like everyone. the beautiful little rose from my childhood was probably happier and more at ease in her own skin than i was (or will ever be). but the GIFT, was the REALIZATION that i was different, and that was ok....

[@maddyfox8545]

Thanks Ana. That struck home on so many levels, and made me sad 😢

[@anagoldberg]

I'm sorry, Madeleine... I didn't mean to make people said by the video.

[@maddyfox8545]

@ no need to apologize. I just meant I was sorry we were both feeling that way. Please hang in there. I think of you often.

[@oneseeker2]

From the very beginning of "meeting" you on ur channel, I found myself taken by you, I saw strength in Ur vulnerability, and saw that you navigated urself here and there, did exactly what you needed to do, in order to get all the papers you needed. I was anxious and found myself telling you to hurry up and do his AND this AND that, (my brain is sending you info via my thoughts), Ha! Yet, you were always steps way ahead of my concerns, and here you are now, having come though many travels AND countries. I don't see you as black and white or this not that, I see you, A whole person, of course I find you interesting, wholesome beautiful, the color of ur skin, beautiful hair, attractive personality, likable. IV had a haircut as short as urs, it grows out, quickly. You are learning to "just be", what all sentient beings long for. 💓

[@anagoldberg]

Thank you for always being so kind to me 😘 Sending lots of love!❤️

[@SchneppFlute]

I think most people are innately people pleasers to some degree. We all need to get along with coworkers, family members, tradesmen, etc and so I don't think that not being authentic for a short time is going to be much of a problem. The problem I've had is when the situation persists for any length of time and I've started out "just getting along" but now it's no longer tolerable and I want out. Then my authentic self shows up and I say or do things I regret, just to make things better for myself. I wish I could go back and not be such a people pleaser then! 😮❤

[@anagoldberg]

I agree that everything should be in moderation and politeness doesn't have to turn into a life-long people-pleasing marathon. How exhausting that would be! 😅

[@anon6243]

Seems to me you are handling it all exactly as required. We often overlook the simplist of things as does a fish in water. Had you not had the experiences from the events you shared you would not have been covering this subject within the domain of your channel for all the viewers that will listen to it. That alone speaks volumes. Moreover, there are different gradations and degrees to being authentic and genuine. Although it is a most personal and subjective determination the level shared at a dinner party will not be the same level as say in your bedroom with your marital partner, nor your KZbin channel for that matter. So, imho be gentle with your self on this matter. Acknowledge the courage and vulnerability it took for you to show up as you did and give yourself that understanding. My guess is you were probably the most genuine and authentic individual there while most or everyone else were wearing their worn personas that conceal their true selves and therefore lesser in these qualities. You are a true rare and precious gem Ana. Happy anna-versary!😊

[@anagoldberg]

Thank you for your kindness 🌿

[@marianne8280]

You are beautiful Anna and your hair will grow out. You remind me about my best friend and her mum who took us to the hairdresser. My friend cut her hair first and I didn`t like what I saw so I run away. My mom got so angry so she took a saucepan put it on my head to measure and cut all my hair of. I was just six and had to go to playschool the next day with and haircut that looked unprofessional and not so nice.

[@summerrain7466]

@marianne8280 I had a similar experience at that age. My friend gave me a haircut (also the same age), and my mom said if I was dumb enough to let her cut it then I had to live with it. It was about 2wks before my grandmother saw it and took me to her hairdresser to have it fixed.

[@alwayscuriousalwayslearnin]

I am mostly adaptive , I personally think that anyone wants to have to be adaptive they want to feel relaxed but for some people like myself sensing reading people it makes us not feel secure because we see the masks others wear and It's hard to trust. I am very sure that most people don't know their true self enough to realize this is what is actually going on as to why we feel shy or insecure or out of place , it took me probably 50 years to see and finally admit that for myself this is what is happening and guess what that is ok I am sure the majority of people are the same most wear masks be someone they truely are not they pretend and over time believe this is who they truley are and wonder why ther life isnt the way they want it to mbe also alwasy feel tired I would like to call it trapped they trapped themselves into this other person and have forgotten who they truely are so the yare adaptive to it all sine I admitted this to myself I see it in most people and well its ok its just the way society is . this is also why I have been alone single for decades I cant be around people that are I guess lost or too lost because its fake and draining

[@sheliamaynus9869]

Authentic self. That's a great pondering. I really don't know. Today myself might be such and such and tomorrow it might be such and such. Not sure if that's good or bad. Interesting pondering

[@debbievermilyea4037]

We could be BEST friends. Being genuine makes me feel standing on the outside looking in, but I am fine with that. I've learned how to manage my lonely moments. I'm an introvert. I like me. I'm ok if others don't understand me 😊 and they don't. I am a loyal friend to those who love me. Life is good and some people just don't care if they hurt others. Be glad you're not like them and never let them know they got under your skin. Just write them off. Especially if you are paying them for a service. ❤ U! Stay true to YOU.

[@anagoldberg]

Thank you for this heartwarming sharing, Debbie ❤️

[@joni1]

❤

[@janacivinova4235]

👍🍀

[@wilmabrock5462]

That is so sad. My mother got angry a lot too.

[@lynby2108]

Really interesting topic I wonder if there are any books on this subject as it’s fascinating.

[@anagoldberg]

I haven't found any specific books yet, but I'm sure there are such!

[@rchhtt5210]

It’s baffling that anyone thinks it’s appropriate to criticize someone else’s hair style choices. I have never felt traditionally “feminine.” I am a practical person and I don’t like fussing too much with my appearance. Ironically enough I feel way more feminine with a short pixie and zero makeup, because I know I am not performing anything for anyone. I identified my sensory issues with longer hair and makeup in the last year. For probably 17 years I’ve pushed through the discomfort of makeup and long hair because that is what I thought “beautiful” and “feminine” were supposed to look like.

[@cheekypotato599]

Politely leave a constructive review on their page x

[@grady4757]

❤🍵🍵

[@RachelAnnHarris-Sparks-h8y]

I like your hair. I’m sorry he said something to hurt you. Men, I think, get uncomfortable when women “wear” their looks better than they do. Jealous, that’s all.

[@gergkatshi5806]

Ana. Notice how confident, respected, successful people all have enemies. Maybe the hairdresser is one of yours.

[@anagoldberg]

I hope he's not 😅I don't like having enemies 😊

[@oneseeker2]

Why would he be her enemie.

[@gergkatshi5806]

@ perhaps, they find it inconsistent to know someone so interesting and individualistic.

[@emanuelad3534]

Maybe it’s not a bad idea to go back to that hairdresser and tell him, “ I am very polite but you were not appropriate and u hurt my feelings!”

[@oneseeker2]

?

[@barbarahimmelbauer-mayer340]

You are a very attractive and feminine woman!!!

[@anagoldberg]

Thank you for your kind compliment, Barbara ❤️

[@mihaeladaia4673]

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[@rosenberg6060]

Its not their business.