I'm completely overwhelmed, but don't know how to stop | Is it AuDHD?

[@grizzmoose]

Hi Everyone, this is Bonnie's husband Travis. Your words are so encouraging to her and I appreciate them so much for what they do for her. Keep them coming! I hope you all know that what you see in her videos is not a persona. She is just as kind and empathetic in real life as she in on her videos. Bonnie is as good as they come. We appreciate all of your support, your clicks, your comments, and anything else you have done to support her. Thank you!!!

[@wendy_Bl]

Just wanna say your wife is awesome!!

[@Miroslava1985]

We love Bonnie so much❤❤❤❤🇷🇸

[@ItzMzJulez2U]

Hi Travis! How sweet of you to comment. We love her too!❤️ Perhaps it’s time for a movie night watching ‘Lonesome Dove’ again!😉🤠

[@user-cp1kw9hx5y]

Hi Travis , You have a wonderful wife in your life but you know that already,can I take this opportunity to say how appreciative I am to watch Bonnie’s videos and how much she is admired for all her hardwork I’m 100% supportive and understanding regard her work and home balance with personal experience it’s hard but it can be done with a strong Travis behind her . Eva from Scotland

[@KSprague2024]

How sweet of you to jump on and encourage our words!! ❤

[@AliciaBurbano-ik1yc]

Hi, I am a board certified psychiatrist. I love your channel! It soothes my own ADHD and OCD. I treat several clients with both ADHD and autism. Depression, anxiety and Rejection Sensitivity Dysphoria are common symptoms correlated with ADHD. It appears to me, *without a formal interview,* that this is a very normal response given your diagnosis and the amount of stress you put on yourself. There is treatment available through therapy. There are a handful of meds that may be helpful as well You need a mental break. You have a kind heart. You don’t have to do everything and it is ok to slow down and just breathe. Feel free to reach out to me if you need support

[@PearlPaisley]

Please like this comment so Bonnie sees it. Valuable info here!

[@chriswilford3576]

Yes ❤❤❤❤❤

[@reclusivelovey]

I couldn’t agree with this more. ❤

[@sfm2019]

Sounds a bit like compassion fatigue. Caring too much and wanting to help everyone with everything. It’s exhausting. You need to be fully charged yourself before recharging others. ❤️

[@johnwolfe2616]

Sue Wolfe- You have a kind heart Bonnie, and that's OK. Imagine that you have a giving pot. That pot contains all the care, energy, concern, and thoughts you can give to someone else. It's finite, and when that pot is empty, you have to fill it back up, so you can use it again. That's how you need to Imagine yourself. You have a finite amount that you can give to others and then you need to recognize that it's time to stop giving because you need that pot refilled. It's OK to do that for yourself, Bonnie. Others will need to respect that this is what you need to do. I hope this makes sense to you. Take it from someone who has been in your shoes! 👍🙃❤️❤️❤️

[@ms.laceysaeke9721]

Hi there, I came from Midwest Magic cleaning's channel and wanted to tell you that I'm thankful that you and other channels like Midwest magic cleaning are here to help out people in need. I hope things ease up on your end soon

[@bonnieknighton7296]

THINGS WE CAN DO FOR BONNIE! 1. Watch her videos! 2. Like her videos. 3. Share her videos. 4. Comment on her videos. 5. Comment & like other's comments. 6. Become a member if you are able. $4.99 a month. Less than a coffee! 7. Purchase merch 8. Use her Amazon link to buy stuff you need. 9. Pray for her or send good vibes or whatever makes sense to you. 10. ADD TO THIS LIST PLEASE....❤

[@wolfe6220]

Oh girl, I was the same last week. I made an appointment with my therapist to see if she can up my meds. Rest. Take care of yourself. You don't owe anybody anything. Do what makes you comfortable. If you don't want to do voiceovers for a while to give yourself a break, that's okay. I bet half the commenters are neurodivergent.

[@sidaraaustin1461]

-If she just posts videos of her blowing bubbles and talking about life, watch the video, -comment, help her keep her views up as she just sits and reads a cute story -watch videos of different cleaning methods done by others -Let her know its okay to not be okay all the time -She doesn’t have to help everyone herself. - send positive energy

[@bonnieknighton7296]

@DecoLemon omg! I think I did. In jest, and with the intention to show appreciation and encouragement. Sorry, Bonbon! Going now to rewatch all your old videos as an apology!

[@catea2551]

@@wolfe6220 put "no reply please😁" at bottom of your comment unless you really really want her to.

[@fangtasia2013]

Start a GOFUNDME and we send Bonnie on vacation! I know that isn't the solution, but it might help her to restore Energy to a Point where life feels "bearable" (?) again and then the brain chills a bit. That's at least what I'm doing right now. I booked a Trip to Romeo. The first days were an exhausting mixture: crying, i wanna Go home, i Love Rome I wanna move Here - switching Like every 10 minutes. But after a couple of days (where I forced myself to do nice Things Here!!) my mood got calmer and steadier and I was able to feel myself/my wishes again. So this ist good!! Sorry for the Blabla but this really touches me. Bonnie, all the best for you. You will geht Out of there!!!! Have confidence, Things will get better!! Sending Lots of Love ❤

[@bonnieknighton7296]

My Dearest Bonbon, I'm sorry to have to tell you that your condition is incurable. I've officially diagnosed you with being human, secondary diagnosis of being a Super Mom with traits of Autism, presumptive ADHD, definitive empathetic behaviors, and an overwhelming sense of compassion. Lucky for you, it's treatable with self care (including a trip to your friendly PCP and therapist). Ever flown on a plane? Ever actually listened to the preflight instructions regarding what to do if the oxygen masks drop down? Yeah, you know where this is going. Secure your own mask before assisting others. We love you. So does Tish, Cami, and all your friends and family. But do we expect you to wear yourself down until you're no good to anyone, including yourself? Uh, no. And we respectfully request that you do not. Why do I make long silly comments for your videos? To help your algorithm. Do I do that to every channel I watch? Nope. Only yours, because that's my tiny way of helping you. I hope others read, like, comment also. So, if anyone got this far, please comment, like, share, and become a member. We love you!

[@sabbys7750]

💯💯💯💯💯💯 She is human!! And we all love her and support her.

[@jeanettekvinlaug2772]

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[@anitastamm7350]

I had the exact same diagnosis!! And by being so raw with us, she is helping THOUSANDS!!!!!! THANK YOU, Bonnie!

[@Chloeandrewbolton]

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[@stephaniefinley7833]

❤❤❤. BEST RESPONSE EVERRRR. IF YOU READ NOTHING ELSE.. READ THIS AND TAKE THW ADVICE.

[@mamamadusa4219]

AuDHD here, a moose mentioned you were struggling and I thought I'd try to add a thumbs up of encouragement so I came to your channel to see your video- you are not going crazy. Yes, your brain is at war over the need for structure and the inability to create and/or maintain it. Yes, you can manage to juggle an unrealistic number of tasks FANTASTICALLY, right up to the point you can't and you never know when that point will smack you in the face. Yes, you can be super empathetic and not be super affectionate at the same time and that is perfectly fine. Yes, it does eats at you. I feel as if you are me and I'm seeing myself in the mirror. You're not broken, I call it being neuro-spicy and your mental well being may be similar to a recipe. You need to find a balance that suits YOU in life, and it'll look different from others. If you hit one area of your life hard and heavy you end up with something that's hard to tolerate and overwhelms the other flavors of your life. I found that talking things through with a therapist was really beneficial. Hearing my thoughts out loud and having someone trained to listen and ask really insightful questions back helped tremendously. Taking care of my physical and mental well-being meant setting firm boundaries, and that is super hard to do when you're driven to help others. A really wise lady I once worked with would remind me daily that I can't take care of everyone else if I refuse to take care of myself. She's right. I'm sending you lots of love, my fellow Brain. Life is a marathon, not a sprint; if you push yourself too hard at a go, you won't have the reserves needed for the long haul. Reduce your speed bit by bit until you feel a comfortably challenging stride in your daily life. Adjust as needed. You've got this, you've got superpowers that can help you overcome your kryptonite- when others say to think out of the box, ADHDers tend to not recognize there is a box we should be aware of. Add ASD into the mix and magic can happen. Whatever you choose to do, make the choice that is the best for you and your family and remember this: everything will be ok, even if we don't know what ok looks like right now. Get evaluated if you feel you need the peace of mind that may come come with it. Wishing you peace from Vermont.

[@lindajones2564]

Oh my goodness, I love that term you used there, “neuro-spicy”. Absolutely fabulous. 😊

[@Shrinkingviolett2]

@@mamamadusa4219 yes! I have adhd too so hello brains! 💕 I think it’s a part of what got me into this pickle while I was slowly getting sicker. But we prioritize and carry on as best we can and try to be kind.

[@janpetsch620]

@@lindajones2564 yes nerospicy…love it❣️😉

[@soniak2865]

1. take care of you 2. take care of family 3. before commiting to new jobs, say " i will get back to you after I check my schedule" 4. block those who put you down, make neg. comments,etc 4., go on dates with hubby

[@agnesnagy207]

Couldn’t agree more. Bonnie, you need a break. Need to recharge. Turn the focus to yourself for a while. Everything else can wait. ❤❤❤

[@annettek2678]

Words from a nurse: you can't take care of others if you are exhausted yourself. Remember to rest and recouperate when feel tired. You are awesome and are doing more than anyone could expect. Prayers for serenity. Love....

[@angelhaga8408]

❤❤❤Hi, Bonnie! Mac (MMC) mentioned burnout. I want you to know that you are a wonderful, gracious, empathetic woman with extraordinary patience & perseverance! You have helped so many people! Both viewers and recipients. I encourage you to take some serious retreat time when done with collaboration with Mac. New scenery for a week, sleep in, enjoy wiggling your feet in grass with your husband! Forget about editing, computers, comments, social media. If it’s important family stuff, your hubby has phone contact devices. You are precious and God loves you, as do I. I worked in home health care for 30 years. My clients were never an issue…it was family. I finally took 5 days off from it all, spending time with wonderful, understanding, enthusiastic people, in a different state and relished every bit of it! “The flame of a passion needs to be tended carefully in windy weather” (my grandma said). Our world right now is a very cyclonic windy place! Take care, we love and care about you. Let everyone know you are taking a break, specify time you’ll be back, leave “Comments” off! 🤣🤣🤣❤❤❤

[@ABeautifulMessExtremeCle-zl1wp]

I appreciate the advice. I do plan on cutting back on helping people for a couple weeks, but I'll continue the videos coming since I can't afford not to. But I think even just dropping the cleaning/dealing with someone going through so much will help immensely. 😊

[@josie_u]

♥ It is always worth getting tested if you have these suspicions. But as a 48 year old woman seeing that you are 46 I would like to also urge you to look into perimenopause symptoms. We autistics can get very VERY overwhelmed in different ways with these hormonal changes and the symptoms are definitely not limited to what you might expect and can most certainly creep up on you in ways that leave you unaware it's perimenopause at all. In any case, go see your GP and take care 🫂 I wish you the very best.

[@user-dk7me5ux2j]

Perimenopause and menopause can wreak havoc on any life. Some don't have a lot of symptoms, others do. Along with the autism and ADHD, you have a lot to deal with. Find out what is going on physically first, then the rest will follow. Prayers for you and the discovery of what works for you❤❤❤❤❤❤

[@LeaC-lw8xl]

@@josie_u very good point!

[@leslieh747]

Yes, it was very scary what happened to my mind in perimenopause. I literally did not feel human for a while.

[@Chloeandrewbolton]

Yes, perimenopause can definitely impact like this too.

[@josie_u]

@@leslieh747 Right? It's known that we'll experience things like irregular periods and maybe some hot flashes or whatever. But few doctors speak of how you can feel... just at random without any warning: feelings. From total disconnect or disinterest to profound anger or sadness or anything you can imagine and some feelings you cannot imagine. I am going through it now and HRT is not a good option for me unfortunately, but I'm over it. I'm tired and angry and sad. Anyway, I hope Bonnie can get whatever it is tested and sorted. She deserves to feel healthy, both physically and mentally.

[@LeaC-lw8xl]

Oh Bonnie PLEASE take a break & take care of you. You’ve done a tremendous & wonderful job & helped so many people. Also. Get a blood test. You may be low on something essential. You have yourself, your family & pets to take care of. Remember this is all virtual & none of us really know each other. And every one of us has more than one person in us. Someone told me “do what you can. What you can’t do let it go”. I am 72. You are a very intelligent hard working empathetic young woman. But you can’t do it all. No one can. What you do is very hard emotionally & that can come through physically. Also. Talk to someone. PS. No reply necessary.

[@lindamusser7370]

I'm 74 (on Friday), and you said it all.

[@LeaC-lw8xl]

@@lindamusser7370 Thank you. Happy b-day month!

[@ElaineAdair2024]

@@lindamusser7370happy birthday…on Friday!!

[@Bbwright1945]

@@lindamusser7370I’m 78 and I so admire what these special people do.

[@shirleybrewer8921]

So well said! I’m 68! At our age we have been thru so much on this earth and it’s our job to encourage and uplift! You are good at it! God has blessed you!

[@user-vu8ii9qv7o]

Growing up I was told I was too sensitive and to not take things so seriously. I thought I was defective until one day in my late teens my pastor did a sermon on sensitivity and spoke about how his wife cried at hallmark commercials and pictures of. puppies. He admired that in her and how it was an example of Christ”s love for us. Since that day I’ve never considered myself too sensitive or too serious! And also have had a therapist throughout the years to navigate my way through it. Bonnie you and your sensitivity as a giving person are a gift ❤️

[@letitbee7248]

Sweet Bonnie - you're burned out and completely exhausted with trying to do all the things. I completely understand where you're coming from because I tend to want to help everyone, too. Here are a few suggestions that you may not have thought of. 1. Decluttering/Cleaning huge projects is physically and mentally exhausting. I've noticed that your projects have gotten bigger and more complex. Maybe you can stretch out the project over several episodes and break it down to smaller sections of the room. 2. I've noticed that even Aurikaterina has broken down her cleanings into multi episodes. A few years ago, she would show an entire home being cleaned in one video but now she shows only the kitchen one week, then only the bathroom the next week, and so on. And she's doing tiny apartments. You're doing large homes with thousands of square feet and massive hoards with outdoor spaces, too. It's way too much for one person to tackle. 3. Schedule everything on a calendar - days to clean, days of rest, days for family time, days for video editing, etc. Back to Aurikaterina - I've heard her say that she has cleanings booked months out. I've also heard her say that she only cleans 2-3 days a week and leaves time for rest and family time. I think she was burning out, too, and created a schedule to help her not get burned out. That voice inside of you that says you can do it all is a mean taskmaster. Tell that voice to go take a flying leap because you're not going to allow it to beat you up anymore. 4. Seek corporate sponsorships to help even out the ups and downs of YT income. I don't mind watching a few product plugs in videos. Clean with Barbie does it a lot and sometimes she shows products that I can't live without. 5. Do not leave a comment on my comment. You don't even have to leave a heart. 🥰

[@PearlPaisley]

I will leave the ❤ instead so Bonnie doesn't have to 😊 Good advice 🌼

[@RoxanneR8375]

Excellent advice. You might want to print it out so you can reflect on it. Much love and many hugs to you, sweet girl!❤❤❤

[@JustJ-Me]

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[@carmenmegonnell9111]

Oh sweetie, take care of you now. Its ok to cry, im a big cryer. Its just an emotional release.

[@junedunne]

Very healthy.

[@chriswilford3576]

My old doctor said it was good for us to cry, plus let the tears dry on your cheeks! They have some calming effects! ❤❤❤❤❤

[@barbie5697]

Bonnie Bonnie Bon Bon ….. oh how I adore you! ❤️ I’m not autistic or have ADHD, but I’m a proud mama of a severely autistic daughter with severe anxiety. I myself battle deep clinical depression. My shrink also tells me that I’m an Empath. I feel other people’s pain. I absorb their pain. I feel I NEED to help them with their pain. I also run a cat rescue, work from home full time, volunteer at a veterinary clinic 2 days a week, run a volunteer beautification group for my city, and I’m in charge of decorating my city for Christmas every year! 😅 Oh, and I’m a single mom. 😂 We run ourselves into the ground. I sleep 3 hours a day. I’m late for my annual mammogram, and have needed to see a dentist for almost a year. BUT …. I make sure I have at least an hour each week for mental health. I talk to my therapist on the phone every other week, and the off weeks I go sit at the park with my phone turned off and drink a nice fancy coffee. ~Find yourself a therapist. ~Go have your hormone levels checked. ~Cry when you need to. ~Give yourself an hour each week to unplug and do nothing. I truly love your heart Bonnie. You’ll get through this. Remember to be kind to yourself. ❤️❤️❤️

[@ABeautifulMessExtremeCle-zl1wp]

I needed this message. Thank you for sharing, Barbie. There are so many of us out there just trying to take on the whole world's problems and we simply can't. A quote I just heard recently and now, of course, want to put on a shirt is, "Stop me before I volunteer again." 🙋‍♀️ So relatable. And another was talking about her "helium hand" that just floats up anytime there is someone needing some help.😁 That sounds like us. It can be a great thing if we have some boundaries call my detrimental if we don't.

[@user-nx2iu7iy7f]

1. Just breathe. 2. Remember that you have more people who care about you than you could possibly know. 3. Sometimes, you just need to cry.

[@stephaniethemedic7551]

Hi Bonnie! I'm coming from Mack at Midwest Magic Cleaning - he told us to tell you something we love about you. Something i love about you is the way you talk about the folks you help. You're so kind and caring about everybody and it's so nice to hear. You deserve so much goodness 💙 💙 💙

[@happytester]

I'm here for the same reason and Bonnie, I love how you keep everything so real.

[@loridodson6442]

I'm so sorry. I found you from Mack. Please take care of yourself and know we all appreciate the way y'all help people. Don't doubt yourself. You do great work.

[@1000thGhost]

Please take care of yourself and your family first. You are a wonderful and generous person who means more to people than you know. I will be thinking about you and your family. You matter not because of what you do but because of who you are.

[@MagickMomma]

It’s okay to not be okay. And quite often the bravest thing a person can do is admit to not being okay. We love you Bonnie!

[@kristinegrove2610]

Bonnie, I don't watch you because of thumbnails or the amazing befores and afters. You always do a great job, by the way. I watch you and all the other free cleaning and free lawn care content to remind me there are still good people in this world. You are genuine and selfless and an example of what we should all be. You live by the Golden Rule. People like you restore my faith in humanity. Please take care of yourself.

[@Shrinkingviolett2]

@@kristinegrove2610 exactly. When things get really hard, being with positive people and counting blessings are the best therapy around.

[@janejenkins5137]

You're not alone. I think a lot of poeple are feeling mentally ill after the crazy lockdown we had. Nothing feels the same since then and it's hard to keep going.

[@amygriff00]

Bonnie, my therapist pointed out something to me this week. I too have been feeling defeated, to almost being burnt out. She told me that when we keep filling other people’s “buckets” and our buckets are not being filled. We have to take time for ourselves do something we enjoy, take a day or two just for ourselves so we can replenish that bucket. Take a few days for you. Stay away from social media and online those days. Do a craft, read a book, nap, what ever feels right for that day.

[@DVD927]

Great advice.

[@tlccraftsdiys4158]

Sweet Bonnie ...I want to thank you i am a 50 yr old disabled woman and I have been struggling to get my home organized but after watching you and the other 3 cleaning channel's I watch I am almost all organized . So hang in there and just know your not only helping people in your videos but us that watch them as well 🤩sending love from Canada

[@elainelittauauthor2218]

@@tlccraftsdiys4158 so true!

[@kellislifefromherchair748]

Your amazing! I am disabled and a mom of three boys.. you give me so much hope that I can clean my home and keep it clean now that I live alone… you help me so much thank you!❤

[@craftylady7240]

Things Bonnie needs to do for Bonnie : Take care of yourself first ! Whether it is getting tested, going to a psychiatrist, resting, sleeping, meds... Never mind us. TAKE CARE OF YOURSELF FIRST ! Don't take the weight of the whole world on your shoulders. Take care of number 1 : Bonnie ! And please Bonnie, do not react to this comment not even a heart.

[@Suze-v6c]

When I’m near the edge I sit among the trees. Nature is healing.❤️🌳 ,

[@tapestrytart4087]

Yes, the sound of ocean waves does so much good for me ❤

[@pattiparsons3406]

I love your sense of humor and your compassion for the people that you help. Bless you for what you do. Xx

[@Grace-xi1zg]

I say to myself at this sort of contradictory mental crisis: if I have three legs; I can give one away. If I only have two legs I need to keep both for myself. Energy is a fluctuating and multifaceted beast, physical and mental. You owe nothing to anyone but yourself. No one else deserves your last breath or even your second last. You are more than the channel, comments, others needs. No need to explain to us. You have my deepest empathy on your situation.

[@anniewardlow9297]

Grace, with that comment you most certainly lived up to your name, thanks for such lovely words.

[@LeaC-lw8xl]

@@Grace-xi1zg 💙

[@Ruthy_N]

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[@chriswilford3576]

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[@j.haynes6162]

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[@valwright7147]

It is OK for "A Beautiful Mess" to be a TEAM. Keep the tasks you love and delegate other tasks to people who love those tasks. There are lots of people out there who would love to join your labour of love. Free cleaning can be a godsend to those in NEED. Together you could totally change lives in a positive way without stressing your life. Someone else could do the nasty moderating. You do not have thick skin. Instead of growing some, put a request out for someone willing to help in that area. While one person may love folding clothes, another might enjoy blocking trolls. Another could do video editing. Another could look for people who need your help. Delegate. Keep your sanity, the joy, and the beauty of the parts of this charitable work you love. Maybe, it takes a village to help a neighbour. So be it. I think there has been people wanting to help all along. Let them.

[@kimberly8185]

Sending love to you Bonnie. Burn out and depression are real and it is hard. Going through a bit of that myself. You are doing amazing things and making a difference in so many people's lives. We love you and what you do ❤

[@kellief8611]

Your job is very physically and emotionally draining. Set boundaries and figure out how much you can actually handle and stick to it. Much love ❤❤❤

[@souixzeeq]

Dear girl, Doctors, psychologists, social workers receive lots of training to be able to set up emotional boundaries to prevent the burn out your going through. Yet they still have burn out. You are very hard on yourself and also very compassionate. Remember what they tell you on the airplanes…put the oxygen mask on yourself first then your child or someone else! You must take Two days out a week for yourself. But please don’t feel like you need to respond to me. Not everyone needs something from you, there are others out there that are like you and just need the reach out and help others. Your brain is fine, stress and anxiety causes mental blockage. Love you and take care of yourself.

[@CattleDogsMom]

You are an amazing, generous person, and I cannot imagine the amount of stress you’ve been dealing with. Please take the time to simply breathe and rest. We all love and respect everything you’ve done to make the world a better place. You have made a difference. Love you! ❤

[@wolfe6220]

AuADHDer here! You described me to a T. The detachment+empathy, the info dumping, wanting to know everything about something or someone, being 100% or 0%. You have my sympathy on this. I just had a meltfown last week. Yes, get tested! I went through an online service. Im 58 and I got diagnosed with ADHD and austism last year. Its a whole lot to deal with. No reply please

[@BlueBird-nf2gp]

Sending you a big hug!!! ❤❤❤😊🐦

[@suemccomis106]

Bonnie Mack (MMC) just posted a video explaining in detail (as only Mack can do). We love and appreciate you. (Hugs) I've already shared this with Mack, so I am gonna share it with you. I spent 4 years coming home from work, melting into my recliner. I would fix dinner and tidy up but other than that I was in my recliner. I was browsing on KZbin and was looking for cleaning inspiration. I found You, Mack and Dana K White. My house isn't perfect however it is better. I put one of you on when I clean. I don't go to bed with dirty dishes anymore. If you can't keep going I understand but you are helping so many people just like me. I truly appreciate you.

[@ABeautifulMessExtremeCle-zl1wp]

And I truly appreciate you sharing that. Thank you, Sue!

[@samsyummysweets]

Bonnie, I so completely relate to you! I've been right where you are with the complete exhaustion of helping everyone else while neglecting myself. You are so brave to be so real and raw. Just know that we understand your family needs to come first. Sending love and a big hug from Ohio! ❤️

[@vantasiaaway]

Dear Bonnie, you take such good care of other people, it's time to take care of yourself. Please reach out for help from friends, family, professionals. I appreciate the honesty of your voice overs. You are strong and wonderful and you mirror to me that someone so good and kind can have self-doubt. Please, please take some time for yourself!

[@gloriamairs9518]

Oh, Bonnie. Hugs, prayers and love.

[@orlahastings4563]

Bonnie I have just watched Mack’s latest video and he asked us all to hop over to you and tell you what we like about your channel. So here goes… I am completely in awe of you all that do these free cleanings for those in desperate need, but your channel is particularly special because you often have the resident with you so it allow us to connect and understand their story so well. And that in turn promotes empathy and ultimately educates us mere mortals in the crippling disorders that lead to these situations. I also love that you often go back to a residence a few times and bring us on a journey with you. But most of all your unbelievable generosity to do this at all. Oh and by the way, I love your tips on folding… I have completely rearranged and re folded all my towels and bedding according to your teachings!! Take as much time as you need, you and your family are far more important than us. Sending you as much love as can possibly be sent ❤❤❤❤❤.

[@PeelingAwaytheClutter]

Just want you to know that I know how hard it is to be overwhelmed. I'm sorry you feel stuck. Also, no need to worry about not helping me. You've already done so much! I am forever grateful. I am fine to keep going one small space at a time. I always want you to do whatever is best for you. Will finish watching now.

[@jademcarthur]

I love that she mentioned you Mira and it shows her deep care for you and how proud it has made her to help you. You are special to her and that is an amazing feeling for you to know. When I watch the videos you have done together - I always think of Bonnie Power. Might be an idea for a video for you (Today I am going to Bonnie power some tasks and get it done). Your orange 🍊 tasks :)

[@tijenhoca6371]

Lovely Bonnie, just an idea, can you hire somebody to edit your videos like Aurikaterina,? Ex, your son?

[@ABeautifulMessExtremeCle-zl1wp]

Love you, dear friend. 😘 you are one of the easier people to help, so you're not done with me yet!

[@thewhatsup]

You are going to have to find that sweet spot where it is fun. Dump the rest. Like declaring your schedule. Remember it is your schedule.

[@AliciaBakerLeashy]

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[@melissawilson4796]

Girl, I don’t mind if you cry! I find it sad that people automatically feel like they have to apologize for it or stuff it down. We cry because we’re human and need to release tension! It’s healthy! It is actually cathartic for me knowing that you get overwhelmed and emotional just like I do.

[@natalielundgreen1343]

I hope today and the coming week feel brighter for you! You deserve all the best ♡ You're so relatable on many levels. Remember, you are a daughter of the Most High & SO loved by all!! ❤

[@elainelittauauthor2218]

Bonnie is a BRIGHT LIGHT on KZbin! I'm glad her husband posted and said such sweet things about how real she is. It comes through the filming. I think her jokes are cute. They show how real she is. She looks at a house and gets to work. She and Barbie are much alike in their empathy. She goes the next step to friendliness that seems to have led to friendship. She is so relatable. She inspires me.

[@ABeautifulMessExtremeCle-zl1wp]

🙏

[@church8042]

Oh Bonnie, in tears with you, on my knees in prayer. Hey, please don't feel bad about opening your heart and crying. I appreciate it. I suffer this on a daily basis. I literally fall to my knees and look up, crying out to God! Dear Bonnie, spiritual warfare is rough. You are so special to me. God, through you, reminds me to fight, stand strong, and love unconditionally. I am thanking the Lord for you. My prayer for you: "Heavenly Father, the one that you love Bonnie, is suffering. Please bring her peace, joy, and strength." AMEN! You never need worry about replying to my comments. I never doubted you read them and a "heart" response is just fine for me. I never expect a response. I always pray that what I say can be helpful. God bless you and so much love in Christ. ~John ♥🙏🌞

[@mariwillalwaysgivethanks]

Our Heavenly Father is so full of mercy and love for His servants who love and keep His commandments. Until we receive our glorified bodies; as Christ told us "I have told you these things, so that IN ME you may have peace. In this world you will have trouble. But take heart! I have overcome the world.”...John 16:33

[@church8042]

@@mariwillalwaysgivethanks Amen! God Bless You!

[@johnkelly9451]

🙏 💖

[@MariaSegovia]

Oh Bonnie!!! Give yourself some grace. I can totally relate with what you are saying. I was diagnosed with combined ADHD at 41, this year and has been on medication for almost 2 months now and it has been a game changer. I also helped overwhelmed young mamas to organize their spaces, although my KZbin content is more towards tips on how to get organized. I also now the feeling of being overly empathetic but learning more about my ADHD, changing my routines and a little help from medication has made a big difference. You are a blessing to all these people that you help, but please look for help for you first so you can continue to shine your light. Hugs.

[@marierodriguez7029]

Oh my goodness Bonnie! Please take care of yourself. You are exhausted simply!!! We love you and you are only human! Take a break from all this! Sorry! I’m a 70 year old grandma and love you! ❤️

[@applegirl4468]

Another 70 year old mom and grandma who thinks you're wonderful and have such a kind heart. Just rest and do only what's necessary for a while and regroup. We your viewers will be waiting for you when you feel better...you and your funky shoes.

[@wendymartin4251]

In my mid 30's, I felt exactly like you described feeling like I needed to check myself into mental facility. Had lab work done, found out a had thyroid issues and hormonal imbalance. Thyroid medication and HRT-hormone replacement therapy helped tremendously. I'll be praying for you!

[@erose847]

Yes thyroid abnormalities and hormonal imbalances can contribute to these types of feelings, especially us women who are perimenopause Al and going through menopause ❤

[@crimson7572]

I don't know you and we've never met but I am so grateful for what you do. It makes me feel better that there are people like you in the world.

[@lesliesingh6772]

First lesson I taught my children: Charity Begins at Home. Help yourself and your family first. If there is anything left, then it’s okay to give to others. If you need help, get help. If others are in trouble, point them to resources available to them. You cannot fix the world’s problems. Don’t answer every comment, it’s not necessary. You are an amazing person!

[@shirleysullivan7606]

My son has been diagnosed with both and I see how difficult but also how wonderful his life is. You are a treasure and we'll pray for you to feel well.

[@lindsaycarey7231]

Oh Bonnie 🥺 My heart hurts for you! 🙏 Saying a prayer for you right now! Thank you for being honest and vulnerable and REAL! Your videos have been a blessing to me. I love watching you clean while I'm washing dishes or folding laundry. It keeps me motivated... like I'm not doing it all on my own❤

[@kirstinmckeown3581]

Hi Bonnie, I'm new here, came over from Mac's channel. I'm AuDHD, technically self-diagnosed with the ASD (but validated by the neuropsych who did my daughter's evaluation). ADHD medication really helped me get more organized. I have cPTSD and a whackload of chronic illnesses, so that may skew things, but just take what is useful to you. The number one thing that kept me from burnout until now was boundaries. Knowing my limits, drawing boundaries to keep me within those limits, and then holding on to those boundaries even if it hurt. I had to leave some friendships that were just friends trauma dumping on me, never reciprocating, and re-dumping the old stuff plus new stuff. If KZbin is not fun anymore and the financial stress is overwhelming (and not giving you the space you need to recover), but you still really want to help people, maybe it has to go back to being a side thing, at least for a while. If you have a way of taking care of the financial stress that isn't going to burn you even deeper, take it. It doesn't mean quitting KZbin altogether, just dropping it down to a place where it's not fuelling the hamster wheel of intrusive thoughts (I have those, they are unmitigated hell, I don't want that for you--or anyone!). I've also found that it can be much harder to draw necessary boundaries with families--that's why I'm currently burned out. They're good people, you love them, they have needs, Mom-guilt is real, but none of that changes the fact that you still need boundaries to protect yourself, because it is so much easier to pour everything you have, and more, into your family because they are so close, so loved, and need you. Maybe remember that they need you for the marathon of life, not just sprints right now. In terms of organization, lists, whiteboards, corkboards to pin the lists, hell, tape them to a wall, because it is easier to remember when you have reminders right in front of you. I know a lot of folks use their phones/whatever electronic devices to do that, and if that works for you, awesome, but I find that having a physical piece of paper right in front of me helps. That's it for easy to communicate things I can think of. Hope some of this helps.

[@ABeautifulMessExtremeCle-zl1wp]

It absolutely helps. Thank you! I am getting better and better with boundaries and being more direct about my needs. Some of those boundaries have been crossed, though I know not intentionally and it is a work in progress and getting better, but still, if the boundaries can't be respected, I will need to be done to save my own sanity.

[@abbisneezer]

For me personally, my therapist is a life saver. Helping me sort out my thoughts. And my psychiatrist for meds. to calm my racing brain. It was scary to go this route, but it's less scary than what was /is in my head. Take care.

[@danielleporcaro5422]

Girl, I feel all of this SOOOO much. I was diagnosed with ADHD inattentive type a couple of years ago at 35 and sometimes I think I have a touch of Autism as well. I get to this place too, mentally, and it's awful :( I know this may not help, but just know you're not alone. And I think you're so brave for being this real, raw, and honest with your followers. Sending you lots of love and encouragement!

[@ABeautifulMessExtremeCle-zl1wp]

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[@normahenley5834]

Please take care of yourself and your family first. We'll be here when you're ready.

[@babszilla6967]

My life rules right now are: if I feel like the world hates me - take a nap, if I hate the world - eat a snack.

[@ElaineAdair2024]

😂

[@bobbihood8904]

I love this

[@joleengreenaway9012]

OH MY GOD! That is crazy true. I was just noticing yesterday how my personal moments of insecurity, overwhelm, and anxiety are connected to fatigue and low blood sugar. Thank you for your comment. It's so validating! ❤

[@rccyberwarrior2267]

Could also be a vitamin B-1 deficiency.

[@johnkelly9451]

​@@rccyberwarrior2267Or a thyroid issue, or B12 deficiencies, five Brazilian nuts for selenium a day, iodine test on skin ect.

[@PseudonymTim]

Dear Bonnie, I haven’t followed you since about 2013. Every bit of the 5:44 minutes I’ve listened to so far, I just want to give you a hug and tell you how amazing you are. You inspired my Missourian crafter heart to great extents. Hearing a lot of similarities with everything you’ve opened up about so far and am undergoing a journey on exploring that I may also be AuADHD as the larger umbrella to explain my anxiety, depression, and OCD, but I digress. THANK YOU for every ounce of your soul you’ve put into your blog and website. THANK YOU for your crafts and sharing your creativity to the world. THANK YOU for your everything. (Now I’ve learned you’ve had a successful KZbin channel too?! THANK YOU for that too!) What a gift it is to be alive at the same time as someone so talented! You’ve worked so so hard. Allow yourself the grace and space to relax. Take as long as you need. To enjoy your days wholly and reconnect with your joy and passion no matter what it may come to be. With so much Missourian crafter love, Kayla - Ope. Finished the rest of the video now. Let the record show you’ve earned a like, subscribe, comment and I hope your finances come together and your vulnerability helps turn things around for you in all the right ways. Please do not feel obligated to respond or to heart or to anything. It’s my gift to a genuine, kind-hearted, woman that deserves so much back in return. Too many of us love you and we don’t expect you to spoil us all with individual acknowledgement. Just go have fun and drink a fun summer drink with a little umbrella or something. ❤

[@Snoops510]

Dear Bonnie. You wouldn't have nearly 70K of us here for you if we didn't love what you do....and WE are each different from one another too. As someone who lives with an autism family member and an ADHD family member, I have seen lots of emotions coming out first hand. Sensory overload is a very real thing. Use whatever coping skills you've learned and if something needs tweaking...try to find and learn more. YOU are your own best advocate b/c YOU know how you feel. Meanwhile, we are here for you. xo

[@stormyswann6177]

As an empath you absorb others pain and emotions. Your super power is your curse.

[@SheenaShines]

It’s so brave of you to show your vulnerability. It’s a strength. I hope you’re feeling energized in time, you’re very inspiring! Sending good vibes✨

[@Chloe7324v7h]

Everyone who gets to be in your circle of friends is fortunate . I thank you for letting me have a glimpse of your kindness. No reply please.🎉

[@lizardsofozz]

It is more difficult as women to get diagnosed with ADHD. I was in my 30s before I was diagnosed. My advice, if you have a therapist or a psychiatrist/psychologist ( i forget which one can prescribe meds) talk to them about the possibility of ADHD or alternatively if you have a good PCP that you have a really good relationship with talk to them. I don't have autism, but with ADHD the way I describe it was its like picture a room with filing cabinets and all the files are just flying around constantly and things just kinda randomly float across your vision....once your medicated its like all the flying around files suddenly like float down in an orderly fashion into their place into the filing cabinets. Dude, as an ADHD person, you totally do have ADHD. You sounds just like me lol. I swear if you read through this paragraph you can totally tell which part of the video I'm in when I wrote it, but I'm sure to a neurotypical person it looks like nonsense. KZbin is hard work. Especially dealing with the populous side of it. The internet people can be so hot/cold and finding the boundary is not easy. To be honest I've had folks tell me I should start a channel talking about my animal keeping/education but the people part of it is what scares me. I'm a 40yr old, overweight, non-attractive woman with poor mental health. There is no way I'd survive the bs that would happen. Anyway we're here for you. Please reach out if you ever just want to get it out and if I can help in anyway I'm totally here for you.

[@lisabisco3583]

Bonnie...what you are doing for people is true love and kindness ❤! You are a fantastic human and you are so hard on yourself. Most people could never do what you do. The filming, editing, cleaning, organizing....it is phenomenal! Please, please be kind to yourself! You are an exceptional human but you cant do it all.❤

[@jennifercooke2198]

Thru my experiences I have learned that there are seasons in my life where I need to focus heavier on self care. Burn out is real! Self care looks different for different people and that’s ok- it doesn’t make us wrong or dysfunctional because we need it. During these times it’s necessary to create bigger boundaries, ask for time to think about making any commitments and saying No when bitterness, frustration, feelings of obligation, and/or mental, physical, emotional fatigue arises. You are valuable Bonnie! Your worth is not reliant upon what you do for others. It’s hard to ask for help AND it’s ok to ask. You are not selfish or uncaring if you take on the projects that give you joy and income and let go of the ones that overwhelm and trigger you. ❤️

[@cindysturges6540]

I was taking a class recently and one of the things we did was list the 5 most important people in our lives. After a few minutes the instructor then asked, "Are you on the list?". It stopped me in my tracks!! We always forget to put ourselves on the list. Take care of you, just think how much more happiness you could spread if you were chock full and even overflowing with piles of happiness?!! Take a breath, reset, reorganize, regroup, restart and then reappear!!! We'll be here waiting for you, the you that is always so beautifully honest, kind, funny, real, human, emotionfilled YOU!!! BIG HUGE hug to you!!! (And don't you *dare* respond! 😀)

[@rosiembanks1]

You are so kind to others, please be kind to yourself. You are such a light, on KZbin and in the world. Whatever you choose, you will still be a light.

[@Just-Jill]

Go to your doctor. Much love ❤️

[@kriss1956]

Oh Bonnie, we've all been there and know how hard it is so here is a virtual hug. I know I'll be here to enjoy any videos you create. YT is hard for creators and we are lucky that anyone struggles through to give us content to watch. I hope things get easier.

[@jenniferwelch]

I get you... i was caregiver for the past 10 years and I treated my senior clients as family. 5 clients + 10 years = burn out; so much effort in making others safe and happy and in the end they all pass over. My therapist at the time told me I need to care as good of care of myself as I do for others. Another therapist taught me we cannot pour from an empty cup. I was like yeah yeah yeah... it took time, but I began practicing putting myself first. We are the only ones who can take care of ourselves, and it's difficult at first, especially placing boundaries, but it comes with practice; recognizing the moments when we are not taking good care of ourselves, then treating ourselves the best we can. Now 53 years old, I was diagnosed at age 51 with ADHD and that understanding helped me catch myself when I'm stretching myself thin; it's so easy for me to take care of others, but doing it for myself has been difficult. I can go-go-go for others, then I shut down/crash, leaving no energy for myself; it's so hard to live with ourselves when we are going through the depression/anxiety that comes with the crash. I remind myself all my time This is Temporary, Everything is temporary and I'll get through it... I've gone through worse and got through it, so I will get through this too. Catching intrusive thoughts, I tell myself NO, I'm in control, as our minds can be our worst enemy. Please love and care for yourself as you do others... you are number 1 in your life so You take good care of You

[@j.brickner6990]

Very well said.

[@Azoreanislandgirl]

You just helped me understand myself with all in to help others. I get so tired and couldn't understand why and your explanation fit. I want to thank you for helping me see that I struggle like you do in the sense of ocd and taking on so much. God, keep blessing you and keep you healthy and safe. ❤

[@Purdey921]

@@jenniferwelch You put this very well. I tell bad thoughts “You are lies!” It isn’t my only help, the Lord is, but it cuts the negative stream short.

[@jenniferwelch]

⁠{HUGS} to all… hopefully we learn from our own experiences, and then share them to help others ~ I’m glad what I’ve learned/shared has helped anyone ❤🤗

[@deannapritchard6660]

Listen to your body. Exhaustion can make a person's anxiety explode.

[@lisasites3364]

What you do helps more than just the homes you clean. I'm having a hard time with cancer and fibromyalgia now. I watch you videos to keep me moving. Thank you. Keep being Awesome!

[@quaintlyso]

Hi, Bonnie! So do NOT reply to me, heh, but everything you are saying is 100% resonates with me. You are not alone and I see you and I thank you for giving words to this! Context: my wife has severe ADHD. I was diagnosed with mild ADHD, but I score much higher on ASD questionnaires. So yeah, take it all with a grain of self-diagnosed salt, but as a 46 yo woman, too, I fully relate to the constant pendulum swings between “must fix! must impose order!” and “ooo, shiny!” with my brain just blue screening when attempting to concentrate I don’t think the hormonal swings of perimenopause are helping, either I have no solutions, but lots of commiseration and affection for you

[@AngelaH.-sf2zc]

Oh Bonnie, I’m right with you. I’m a mom of a young adult who does have ADHD and autism. She was diagnosed a few years ago. She goes through everything you’re describing. You are not alone and I do feel like it’s a really good idea for you to get a diagnosis. For the simple reason so that you will know and have a piece of mind. I’ve been watching you and Mack for a while now and I told my daughter about the both of you because there’s so much in both of you that remind me of her. I swear Mack’s a male version of her. I love watching your videos but it’s more important to take care of your mental wellbeing. Taking breaks is not a bad thing. I will be here and so will all of these other people that are here for you when you come back. Hugs to you!!❤

[@francesdonald8743]

Getting a diagnosis will give you some clarity. Having a good talk therapist is worth its weight in gold!! You may have to try a few before you find the right one. But it is worth it! if you need to medicate to help with some symptoms, it is not something to feel shame over. If your body/mind needs help to regulate , then be compassionate with yourself. In a book titled, "12 Rules for Life", by Doctor Jordan Peterson, it says, "treat yourself like someone you are responsible for helping." Books by Joe Dispenza will clarify the stress=creative body revolt for you (maybe get loving husband to read one.. Try "Becoming Supernatural" get it from the library, read first 3 chapters). I saw a video from Midwest Magic Cleaning recently where he mentioned collaboration between his channel and 2 others is going to happen for awhile.. being necessary for the mental health of all 3. I hope you're part of that collaboration.. Stress creates a vicious cycle. You need to create new coping mechanisms so you preserve and maintain some inner peace. You cannot give until you collapse and still keep trying to give. Your body WILL be creative and SHUT YOU DOWN. Please! Do not go there.. I would recommend finding someone else to edit your videos going forward. Also, NOBODY out here expects you to answer all the comments! I think I can speak for the majority who watch your channel in that we make comments to provide feedback. But in all honestly, most would be happy with a simple emoticon. A picture says a thousand words. And THAT, only if you felt a genuine response to the comment! You cannot be a people pleaser to thousands of viewers, and we don't need you to be, nor do we want you to be - if it is draining your life force! As a final word, I would suggest maybe taking a part time job and doing collaboration videos for 6 months to give your mind and body a break. This was a passion of yours which became a job which then reduced its fun level.. You need to delegate some of the channel work (editing) and find a sweet spot where it's fun again.

[@lsjtreasures9967]

You have the sweetest kindest heart ❤️ Being able to acknowledge you are not okay in the present moment is the first step to moving to okay! Your honesty is such a help to others who are walking thru their own “I’m not okay” journey.

[@pjenkins733]

Im sorry you're going through a bad time right now. Love yourself, remember those of us who matter LOVE YOU. Those who have negative things to say DO NOT MATTER. Block them.

[@kathyehrisman1759]

Everything you listed as your autistic symptoms fit me perfectly. I also have ADHD. Now that I am taking prescribed herbs for neurological issues, I am able to observe my thoughts and behaviors and make conscious choices on how to think and feel better. Do seek out help. I have had the most contentment and sane years of my life in the last two years. I am 75. Listening to you and Mac talk about your symptoms have helped me understand my life. Thank you. You deserve have peace of mind. Be kind to yourself

[@joannevans2505]

Bonnie, you’re my hero! You’re such an amazing organizer. I love watching you figure out how to organize and clean OVERWHELMING amounts of disorder.

[@christinan.1153]

I‘m from Germany, so maybe my words are not all right written. I like your videos so much and the changes you do for other people are huge! On the other hand, these people probably need some help from professionals, and I think, that this is a main thing to your theme. You want to fix problems, which you did not produce in the past. I think you do so much for people, but in the end it is their life an they have to change the way of life. Please don‘t quit, but please get yourself a safe space for your mental health. You are just a piece in the puzzle of their life so you need to let some of the weight get of your shoulders. Easy for me to say, but I hope you understand what I meant. Your a big soul, so you need a big ‚place‘ to rest it. ❤

[@francesdonald8743]

Hello Germany.. Canada here! What you said makes perfect sense, and I completely agree with you.

[@christinan.1153]

@@francesdonald8743 hey there! I hope she will get better soon. She is such a nice person. Greetings to Canada😊

[@francesdonald8743]

As she does read the comments, I'm sure it will be interesting for her to see how far-reaching her videos are!! And for other people reading this, drop a message saying "hi from..." and then you're location!

[@christinan.1153]

@@francesdonald8743 you‘re right, I guess she will be surprised about how far she reaches out to people.

[@Thebiene64]

Hi from Germany ❤️ greetings to Canada

[@madzabinga8382]

Please listen to what your body is telling you. Excessive stress can be deadly. It's most important for you to stop, pull back, and refresh your head and heart. You are right, you're physically capable of doing way more than the average woman, but that doesn't mean you need to, nor does anyone expect you to. You have to protect your empathetic energy by resetting, reevaluating, and setting firm boundaries so you can focus on your family, because it sounds like they are your #1 priority. You have worked so hard to make this channel successful. Therapy and medication might help you to develop ways to recognize when and how to get through, the times you feel yourself crashing. I hear you and see you Bonnie. Please do whatever you need to do so you can live your best life. ❤

[@ABeautifulMessExtremeCle-zl1wp]

Thank you so much for your comment and your advice.❤️❤️❤️

[@lauriepardoe7390]

Im so sorry you're going through this, Bonnie. Everyone has self-confidence issues, even the most seemingly confident people. What you're doing is truly great and has such a positive impact on the folks you help directly as well as us watching. Do whatever you need to do to get back to a happy place and we'll be here for you. Absolutely no need to reply! 😀

[@reeviews2]

I think you need time for you. The channel can wait. ❤❤❤ I understand the feeling.

[@piastewart1974]

Bonnie, honey, from far away I am holding you. All you have to do right now is breathe. Just breathe. As you described yourself I saw myself 2 months ago at my job. Like exactly the same. In a panic mode, thoughts racing, trying to find the way out, trying to find the solution right now. A wonderful lady helped me through ‘the storm’ as she called it plus a very complex underlying set of issues. As a result, I have people pleasing tendencies. Do it all, save everyone, or do nothing. I understand that mindset. Right now just breathe. Give yourself grace. You are safe, you are loved, you are enough. Just breathe. This storm will pass, right now just breathe.

[@JenWilcock-rs6mx]

I think you, and channels like yours, are amazing! You see piles and piles of chaos that are eating people alive, and you help them. You tame the chaos monsters, even if only for a little while, and people's lives are better for it. I know sometimes the bad voices are louder than the good ones, but just try and remember, the good ones are still there, and we love you ❤

[@violentcat345]

You know how when you go on an aeroplane and they give you the safety lecture, when they talk about the oxygen masks they tell you to put yours on first before going to help others, because if you pass out you're not going to be helping anyone. Put your mask first Bonnie.

[@MindyMikami]

Came here to say the same thing. Without taking care of ourselves, we can’t give to others.

[@jeanetteandersen-wv2ty]

Bonnie you do great. We All feel like this at times. It's Ok. If you do t sound confident.itz ok.if watchers don't like it they can mute or not watch. It's a choice. Your numbers say many like you And your content.i would not have the energy to do what you do.itz OK.❤😢

[@bonnieknighton7296]

​@@MindyMikamiGreat minds think alike! That's exactly what I said! ❤

[@wendyeskelin8765]

You've given so much of yourself. I know you enjoy helping others, and I know in some ways it helps to keep moving. Sometimes, it's when you want to move the most that you actually need to do the opposite the most. Do something easy or just go in nature, whatever low key thing helps you to relax. The amount of work / help that has processed through your brain has been so much. There will always be people that need help, but there comes a time when you have to say no, and that is so hard. Boundaries are hard to set and harder to keep, but so worth it in the end. Being burned out is a message from your body and it will ramp it up until you "hear" it.

[@Zombie-adventures]

Bonnie, it’s okay to cry; my Nannie always told me that when you cry those are cleansing tears. ❤️ I admire all that you do for others; you have such a good heart and you try so hard to help. You have my respect! Sending love and prayers for your complete healing and peace of mind. 🩷🩷🩷

[@catouniverse]

I come from Midwest Magic Cleaning. I watched a few of your videos, and even I, a complete stranger, can tell you're a wonderfully kind person. I'm commenting to try and balance out the mean comments/people out there. take care of yourself. also, your videos are very enjoyable and what you do is amazing!

[@dawnandsonnylaird5629]

I’ll be praying for you ❤ this is anxiety and it will make you feel like you’re going crazy I have lived with this 50 years. Ask God for peace and let him take on this anxiety for you ask him to come into your heart he is the one that helps me.

[@TheBunnyusagi]

I've been watching so many of your videos after recently discovering your channel. I find myself relating so much to the things you say. The bright room light really hit home for me as I love being able to clearly see what I'm doing. I've loved organizing things since I was toddler. Your videos are so satisfying to watch, especially the really tough jobs like Mira's scrapbooking room. I get the exhaustion though. It's so difficult to be empathetic and listen to others for hours/days. It's so much to process. We could all benefit from taking some time for rest and a mental reset. It's hard to take that time when we want to do so many things. I try to look at mental health like physical health; if you push through when you are sick, you are just going to be sick longer and less productive in the long run. Thank you for sharing all your amazing transformation videos and you're doing a wonderful job!

[@Ruthy_N]

Dear Bonnie, someone has to copy what you do here. I couldn't do that. I couldn't deal with the negative comments. I'm like you: 99 positive feedbacks and 1 negative one... and the negative one sticks and drags me down more and more. If You Tube doesn't make you happy and stresses you out so much, stop. You are the most important person here. I love love love love your voice over, I love your videos and I like you a lot. You're doing an important job, but no job is worth keeping if it's going to break you. Seeing you cry tears my heart apart, please look at you, take time for yourself. I hug you.❤❤❤❤

[@ABeautifulMessExtremeCle-zl1wp]

Thank you! I'm sure that I will figure this out. I am taking the next two weeks off (of cleaning, but I'll still do my videos since I have enough footage to do probably 5 or 6 videos right now 😊) just to evaluate things and get a better plan in place moving forward. ❤️

[@StephanieJongsma-cw5jp]

Her comment WAS rude!!! She insulted your voice! That would have hurt me too! I love your voice! I love you just the way you are!

[@robinbriggs4976]

Apparently, the mean voice critic can't find the mute button....I am sorry for her! You are geat Bonnie

[@michellesmith6558]

Mac has said for his followers to pop in and say hi and help you however we can. I’m ADHD OCD. I completely understand your frustration with your head. It’s incredibly difficult. You’re the kindest person we love you.

[@reeviews2]

Can you have it so. Your comments get approved or read by someone you trust. Right now. You may not want to be reading all the comments.. ❤

[@lauraricci611]

Please be as kind to yourself as you are to others. You do not owe the world your entire life. Get help and keep some of your time just for you and your family. The people that you want to help can wait a little bit longer.😊

[@ItzMzJulez2U]

I love that…’be as kind to yourself as you are to others’ That’s really profound.

[@marystrenke3050]

I hear you! I am you!❤❤❤ You are wonderful and will get through this. I shut down a few days ago and feel like myself again but it's no longer "all about them". The struggle is real!

[@fifefreecleaning]

Aw Bonnie, it's okay to not be okay ❤ take care of yourself first and foremost, if you need a break then we'll all be here if/when you feel ready. I believe that I have adhd (undiagnosed) and often take on sooo much and then burn out too, I'm the same with being unaffectionate but empathetic! I'm sorry that a (possibly unintentional) negative comment has upset you, I know it's hard to read the comments sometimes. If you want to email me, we could maybe zoom call or something as I'd love to help you if I can. This video is so raw, we ❤ you x Edited to add: I just finished watching the bit at the end and honestly felt like you were describing myself! You're not alone ❤ x

[@ABeautifulMessExtremeCle-zl1wp]

I hope I didn't scare you two out of doing your channel. 😋 I think it's great it's the two of you so you always have someone to reign things in when you're needing a break. I would actually love to do a zoom call with all my favorite free cleaners sometime. It would be fun and therapeutic. Thanks for your support. 🙏

[@fifefreecleaning]

@@ABeautifulMessExtremeCle-zl1wp you could never scare us, if anything it made me want to reach through the camera and hug you and I'm not even a hugger. I'm glad there is two of us two and we completely understand how you feel, we've been doing this less than 2 months and Danielle has already decided she needs to take a step back for her own mental health. She is still going to clean with me but I'm editing, posting , replying etc. We'd love to zoom call with you. Take care of yourself ❤️ x

[@Ninja0814]

“Those that mind, don’t matter. Those that matter, don’t mind.” Sending hugs. ❤

[@feedthebirdies]

Hi sweet Bonnie! First, you are not alone. I was diagnosed with severe ADHD about 8 years ago, and I’m so grateful, because it changed my life. I am medicated, and it takes a long time to decide which medicine and how it is titrated with my other medicines to get to a therapeutic level, but I’m there now. I still struggle, of course, but coping mechanisms, accommodations, plus the medication and education about ADHD have helped more than I can say. I’ve been through two years of life coaching (amazing experience!) and counseling, because it affects executive functioning and relationships and work life. I struggle with many of the things you mentioned, and, specifically the brain that’s never quiet and most often awkward when I’m among others. The medication provides the stimulant to slowwwwww your brain down so that you can think straight. I remember thinking, how can my friends/family not have racing thoughts all the time? After medication, I was astonished that I can sit and be still and quiet and complete a task or project without much squirrel business. I’m disorganized, time blind, and highly sensitive, especially to rejection. This is very IMPORTANT-your racing thoughts and thoughts that make you think you are losing your mind/crazy-are very typical of OCD and ADHD!! You are NOT crazy. I can tell by watching your videos that you struggle with many of the things I do, including self-esteem. There is a stigma with women and ADHD that doesn’t help matters. I am lucky that my family doctor specializes in ADHD so I see him for that plus all of my medications and regular checkups. I have so much more to tell you, but here are two resources that will help immensely and are trustworthy: ADDitudemag.com-a plethora of online education for patients, families, teachers, and doctors (I’m certified in special education for EC-12th grade); I’m always learning something new. ALSO, take a break, put your headphones on, and stream Mel Robbins’ podcast on KZbin or wherever you like to listen. She will change your life in an hour! She has ADHD too, and there are some episodes she’s consulting with experts in the field. Many of her podcasts are highly relatable to particular ADHD struggles. I know we’ve never met, but I love your channel, and wish you would fly to Dallas so I can hug your neck and take you for coffee! Bring your husband to visit old stomping grounds. You are going to be just fine. I promise. Take the time you need and I’m sure we will all be here when you get back.❤️ XO Birdie

[@harperdean203]

I just found your channel today so I can tell you EXACTLY what my first impressions were: - You are stunningly kind hearted and genuine. - You are funny and silly in such an uplifting way. I've giggled my way through every video I've seen so far (besides this one ofc.) - You have grace in how you approach other's messes, both physical and mental. - You are a wonderful and GOOD person. My heart aches for you. I'm also Autistic/ presumed AuDHD and I have fully been in the state you are currently in. I don't know anything to say that could help but please know that I am out here rooting for you ♥ Thank you for being YOU, not just for the things you do for other people. Your genuine nature is needed in this world. Take all the time you need, friend.

[@angierichert7986]

Oh Bonnie - prayers are flowing for you. You work so hard, and take it home with you in your car and your heart and your head. I don't know why people feel they can be mean or judgmental or even offer advice for improvement when you are out there helping people, videoing it, making all of us aware of the trauma that people face. You are fantastic and I love watching you. My heart breaks for you. As a spouse and mother of ADHD, I know that neat and tidy help so much - and that you just get exhausted because your brain and body work harder than most other people. It sounds like your husband loves and cares for you very much. Lean on those around you honey and know of my prayers for you.

[@shortthinhg]

Hang in there. Take a break and take care of yourself. You and your family come first.

[@MsArtistwannabe]

I don’t hear any self doubt. I hear compassion and empathy. I love your videos.