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[@MollyPrewittWeasley]

I think it would be healthier for you to be single and take time to heal.

[@mayfairlady_]

a healthier option is to not give unsolicited advice ✨ thanks Ej chick who took the time to correct my spelling mistake, instead of the actual point ✨ brain dead

[@zoooejenkins]

We cannot always heal in isolation. Especially when it comes to interpersonal / intimacy issues.

[@sunshinesideofdarkside]

I understand what you mean but remember when she uploads is not on the same timeline as she is, this could be from a few months ago. Who knows? Everyone heals at a different pace. Sorry the other commenters started in on you like that. I think they should take their own advice and think about what you may have meant and ask clarifying questions instead of immediately attacking you, as I think your comment comes from a place of concern.

[@pinpantrukutruku]

yeah.. she jumps from relationship to relationship to relationship.....

[@pinpantrukutruku]

@@zoooejenkins thats true, but some time alone is needed too

[@beauR-u9m]

I don’t care who you date. But you should have been single for a minute and worked on you and your mental health. You were with this person while you were still in a relationship with your ex-wife, you were open. Take care of you!

[@KAIJUKING123]

That’s what I’m saying

[@jaizenkingtaurean3543]

Who cares, her life

[@beauR-u9m]

@@jaizenkingtaurean3543 OBVIOUSLY it’s her life and OBVIOUSLY she will do what she wants BUT this is a comment section and we’re free to leave our opinions. Of course she will do what she wants but a little advice doesn’t hurt anyone. And if advice/comments hurt Julia then she would turn comments off. And who cares, well….probably the 300+ people who agreed

[@rainbowkiss100]

Just some advice and it is with kindness- this is your first time dating men. Older men have their own baggage and different life views and are set in their own ways and there will always be an uneven relationship dynamic. Women can be toxic etc but men are a different game.

[@starxvssv]

Exactly lol

[@ravynwoods5902]

We haven’t even met him yet.

[@starxvssv]

@@ravynwoods5902 so?

[@erinnnorris3989]

Not always. Sometimes, they actually have worked through their own shit. It is very refreshing.

[@sunbox4700]

In long term older men are usually difficult and want their own way too much. Hope she will be more lucky and have it easier. But most older men seek a younger woman to tell her what to do. Hope it's not the case for her. Hope he can listen to her and her needs.

[@glorias.2930]

You need to take a break from dating, seriously.

[@Poseidonblue123]

She can’t be alone, I think that’s a fact that’s given

[@louwinters508]

She doesn't want to. No point in telling her that. At least this time she's not tied down financially.

[@starchannel123]

She needs to go to therapy

[@Poseidonblue123]

@@starchannel123 yeah deal with her issues

[@Pixieshandcrafteddesigns]

@@starchannel123she said she goes to therapy.

[@Chowdeen]

When describing your new partner not once did you mention your physical attraction or connecting you have. You just mentioned alot of ways he takes care of you. My therapist said to me once; “Are you looking for a relationship or are you looking for a parent?”

[@helenaeliana5670]

I actually think she is looking for a parent to be honest.

[@TooCaro4U]

Did we watch the same video? Did you not see her beaming when talking about enjoying music together and going out and having fun together? And how they both raise each other up? She has already told us in the past how supportive and emotionally available he is. Did finding out how old he was change how you view him? I'll be honest, when she first mentioned him I imagined someone in their 30s or 40s and that seemed really healthy. When she said he was older, I worried. But then seeing how full of life and love Julia is when talking about him changed my mind.

[@karleensage5613]

She was full of life with Eileen. What happened there? New relationships come with excitement, with in 4 months the work begins to Maintain it. Yes, Julia is looking for someone to occupied her time. Elileen never did. Good luck to her.

[@ninamunsch]

@@TooCaro4U to be honest just liking the same music or football club and having similar routines isn’t that deep of a connection… I was surprised that she would mention these as evidence of their connection and not something deeper

[@Zarzarrb]

Not everyone needs physical attraction, I don't. It's all about the mind. I see happy Julia, who's suffered for a fews.

[@despairaid9361]

Girl u need a break old men r not a good rebound 😭😭

[@EmileeBreeana19]

You just got divorced. Be alone for a while. You need time to heal. Also keep in mind, you were sooooo in love with Eileen and thought she was your soulmate at first too. It’s called the honeymoon phase for a reason

[@KAIJUKING123]

I agree

[@heavenleighdollanger]

Babyyyyy plz take time for yourself…… you don’t need a man or a women you only need YOU!!! And the pets

[@MoniQue1995sco]

Julia I love you. But you need to heal and grieve your past marriage instead of jumping into a rebound relationship. You're literally repeating the same pattern of when you left Maria. Jeez I'm sorry someone needed to say it

[@judithmoore1545]

It bears being noted. You are correct in seeing the same pattern as when she was with Maria. Literally hopped from a video with Maria to a “I have a new girlfriend” video and “Moving in with my new girlfriend.” Another person posted that everything feels like content opportunities. I agree. So in the meantime while it matters to no one I will now yawn from predictable boredom and exit this channel.

[@Lennox2638]

I basically DID say it lol

[@jennijada6730]

I totally agree with this comment

[@DorisStyles]

She probably moved on when she was still in the marriage (it happend to me too)

[@smileys462]

I watched the "coming out again" video and I didn't want to say anything but it concerned me. NOT because Julia is with a man, or in another age gap relationship, but according to what was shared (if it's the same guy), this male friend knew she identified as a lesbian, knew she was going through marital problems, probably knew she experimented with substances to deal with the marital problems, knew her mental health was bad, *had* to know she was emotionally distraught and vulnerable....and got with her anyway. That doesn't sound like a friend, but a patient manipulator who has been waiting in the wings for the proper moment. I HOPE I'm wrong and I absolutely hate saying this because Julia gets so much hatred online and judgment too but I'm not judging her at all. I had something similar happen when a family member passed away and this guy I'd been acquainted with for around 5 years suddenly started paying extra attention to me and I thought it was all coincidence and sympathy but then I learned later he goes to funerals to pick up girls. What's worse is I'm not straight either and wasn't attracted to him *at all* and I told him that but he love bombed me into *acting* like a gf and used positive reinforcement to train me to behave how he wanted. I can't help but draw parallels. Although that's no dig at her bisexuality!!!!!! Again this isn't about the age gap- my manipulator and I were in our 20s. And I *really* hope she is actually with a kind person who genuinely wants to help and support her.

[@oofihavenousernameideas2451]

This 100%

[@ninamunsch]

What do you mean experimented with substances? Did she say thisv

[@smileys462]

@@ninamunsch in other videos she has mentioned it. No judgement tho people will do lots of things when going through a hard time.

[@despairaid9361]

This omg I rlly hope she reads this and thinks it trough all my alarm bells were ringing

[@Longshot678]

Exactly. She falls for the love bombing every time. So nieve.

[@trishxo]

I know you need content but for the sake of your own emotional and mental health and the health of your relationship, I can’t understand why you wouldn’t keep this relationship offline

[@bobachii]

Damn, you got a rebound problem. Get your own shit together and then get in a relationship. This is your chance.

[@lisamandeville5111]

Just something for you to know, age gap lesbian relationships can work. We have been together for 28 years with a 24 year gap. Today I'm 60 and she is 83. We now live full time in a van and travel the United States all summer, then we winter in Florida. What has happened is just a learning experience for your future.

[@Nikkif1013]

My husband is 63 I’m 38. 25 year age gap here and we have been together almost 15 years. People love judging when they haven’t been in an age gap relationship. I was married before to someone a year younger than me but he was so immature. As I grew more mature it seemed he got more immature. Within 5 years and after one child I was divorced from it, best decision ever.

[@Colourfullauriecake]

That's real cool! I hope to be living to my fullest with the one I love well into my wise years as well. We should all be so lucky 💜

[@irrittt]

Aw your story is so cute! 🥰 sounds like a rly beautiful love story 💘💘

[@shaebellabella]

I would love to follow you and your partner’s travel journeys if you share!

[@corinatralala2556]

My husband and I have a 21 year old age gap and we have been together for 10 years (married for 6)❤

[@karleensage5613]

Julia, Spend time with your shadow. Finding someone to fill a void in your life will always become problematic. Maturity is finding and knowing who you’re. Honey, you’re still confused. Bless your heart.

[@michgonz314]

Is the relationship with him still open? Or youre just dating exclusively now? Do you live together already? What are your future plans? How long have you been together?

[@Cody_Skye]

They've been together over a year, and yeah she lives with him. I doubt they're open, he claims to be very much in love with Julia. 🙄

[@beanj580]

Where are the animals julia claims to love so much?

[@user-ol7yf8hl7f]

I had a friend who used to be attracted to mainly older men, until I realized she was being taken advantage of. I asked her why she found older men attractive, and she couldn’t answer. Finally she said that, since she had daddy issues, she never felt fatherly love from partners her own age. She just couldn’t. Since then she has benefited tremendously from therapy. Julia we love you but I can’t help but feel there’s some trauma tied to this. Please be safe

[@ashleyjasmine300]

I completely understand what you’re saying but this isn’t true for everyone. I am in an age gap relationship with a man and there is no problem. I do not have “daddy issues” I’ve always been attracted to older men and just don’t tend to get along with people my age very well. I’ve been in this relationship for over 6 years and it is the healthiest relationship I’ve ever had.

[@user-ol7yf8hl7f]

@@ashleyjasmine300I definitely agree it’s not a problem for everyone and am happy for your long term relationship. It’s just concerning seeing Julia jump from relationship to relationship so quickly. Especially when she just got taken advantage of too. She has spoke of her past traumas so it’s just kind of sad to see 😞 I seriously pray she is okay

[@Nikkif1013]

Your friend probably was tired of dealing with immature men her age. Women mature faster than men do. I don’t believe your friend told you she wants a father figure. You’re definitely making 💩 up.

[@taylorfrink1182]

you've already gotten a lot of comments reiterating this, but girly just be careful, it can be super easy to miss red flags when you jump in quick to a new relationship after leaving a different, very toxic one (in part because you get in a habit of thinking, well since they aren't acting exactly like my ex, this must be fine/acceptable/normal/etc when sometimes it's still very much a red flag just a different shade of red). just stay aware and protect your emotions and mental health Julia xx wish you the best!

[@moondust9970]

I don't think the "unhealthy" pattern you mention is the age gap. It's the fact that once again, you will sacrifice your relationship for the modest price of views, easy content and your mental health. Your new partner truly seems great from what you tell us. Are really willing to risk him for a like from anonymous123 ?

[@katydonna6015]

KZbin is her job. She shares her life on here. Her last relationship, nor the one before, broke down because of her sharing their life publically.

[@ninamunsch]

If a relationship can be “sacrificed” just from showing it to people, it’s not very strong then is it….

[@moondust9970]

@@ninamunsch It must be nice to see the internet in rose tinted glasses... But the strongest person, the strongest relationship can be affected by "people's" (trolls and bored strangers on the other side of the planet) opinions and judgements. I just hope this relationship will be strong enough. Time will tell, I guess.

[@Lady13Paranoid]

A question, how did you meet?

[@mercyfulvickv2810]

He was her landlord I think

[@cassiebravevlogs1868]

IT WAS SUPPOSE TO BE ME!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

[@JuliaZelg]

Omg love this comment 😅💕

[@thenursenanaofficial]

That's what I was thinking thought, too! 😭

[@user-te7zk5qq5p]

❤😊 There are lucky many lovely queer weman in this world. The flower field is full of pretty flowers. You will find your person and I wish you love! 💕 😊 Your future wife is out there go to find her.

[@amandag.1453]

@@thenursenanaofficialdu bist doch immer bei Jane im ASMR Chat , KZbin ist klein 🙈😂😂

[@rebeccabaldwin9594]

Nope meeeeee! 😅

[@laurakafi7201]

Enjoy your life, but definitely establish your own home so you have your sovereignty. Enjoy being hosted by him in his home and enjoy inviting him to your home. Have your own place.

[@marieconner565]

A decent piece of advice advice right here :)

[@mariahorange9089]

I’m genuinely scared to see this guy! I can see it now some old man coming in hot with his cane and alll 😂

[@Li-oz1ux]

Am ready to see the comments tear him apart. He is a WHITE man and most of her fan base is queer/feminist females 😅

[@admalma]

I'm getting flashbacks. No one can stop you from repeating the same problematic cycle, but at least keep your relationship offline. You can try to ignore this type of comments, but if you do a video with him, people won't be as supportive as the last time. I don't think you can take the scrutiny and criticism coming your way, the views are not worth it.

[@lavaghoul]

We aren’t surprised

[@GothToad]

I don't care about the age of your partner, all I care about is them making you happy! Just make sure you're safe and happy and secure in any relationships you're in and we will all support you! (most of us, the nice ones, you have a loving and supportive community, just remember that!)

[@ninamunsch]

Another interpretation from what you described in your childhood could be that, since you had only your mother and she was a best friend to you, perhaps in some ways you were lacking a real parental figure. Therefore now you would be looking for a partner to fill in that role, as we are all programmed to look for partners that replace our parents (unless a lot of therapy and deconditioning took place). Obviously I can’t make assumptions from such little information but that could be a possible interpretation also. In which case there would still be nothing wrong and nothing to judge, and you’re absolutely right in that the responsibility lies with the parents and never the child

[@ai2549]

There will always be an unhealthy power imbalance, and I say this WHILE being in an age gap relationshp, me being 15 years older than my partner. The Power imbalance is SO obvious to me, the thing that matters is whether the older person chooses to exploit it or not. Denying the power imbalance will not make the relationshp healthy.

[@Elizabeth76335]

Waiting for the cover 'i kissed a Boomer and I liked it' by Julia Zelg 😅

[@JuliaZelg]

Omg LOL

[@ellouisebadger849]

Would be a hit to be fair 😄

[@mykatianworld4676]

😊😅

[@minamonday69]

What a trainwreck

[@bravingthehallways8169]

Love drama and here for it!

[@jannetteg]

I'm sapiosexual, which means I'm attracted to intelligence, and I believe that comes with age... so I also tend to find older individuals attractive.

[@hiramapontejr.1992]

take time, dont rush

[@hannahrose4091]

We have nothing but time 🙏🏼

[@poeppiesnoeppie]

It will never work sorry ❤

[@starchannel123]

A healthy person dates the best person. Younger people can be mature. Old people can be immature and closed minded. Anyone who strictly sticks to a certain type tends to have issues that they need to unpack. I feel bad for people that are not open to the beautiful diversity of the world.

[@Emma20248]

As a bisexual woman I can definitely relate!💜 Also, when I was in a relationship with a woman I was so much more comfortable in my queerness. Now being in a relationship with a (cishet) man I often feel like I don't belong in the queer space anymore and it makes me sad sometimes. It is so strange to suddenly be perceived as straight, and even though that is a privilege and it definitely has its pro's, I don't want to be perceived as someone I'm not.

[@Notmyr3alname]

I really relate too!

[@Nobodysbby]

Why wouldn't you belong on a queer space if you dating a man if your bisexual. Who are you so worried is "perceiving" you to be straight ? & Your in a relationship so why are you worried if a another man or a women knows a) what's between your legs or b) who you would take home at night ? . You sexual identity or sexuality should NOT define how other perceived you. If other LGBT people are judging you it maybe seems like a problem with the community ? I mean should children and adults all walk around with gay lesbian or straight tags on our bodies ? How about you go where you feel safe and appreciated and that can be in all kind of places.

[@Nobodysbby]

Your insulting I feel like a whole generation of gay people and I don't think y'all even realize you are doing it. For you to say to actual gay people who have struggled that there are pros to being straight and more privileged that seems like something white supremacists would say how dare you say straight white people are superior. Im so sick of hearing it. You guys are the only ones thinking like this . How many straight and white people have suffered for you to realize you sound like a dictator. Straight white people have tons of their own struggles too navigating life if gay man and woman in the past generation could do it, ride above the bs & lead normal lives (like miss Julia is so successful doing. ) than so can this generation.

[@Jess-Rabbit]

Absolutely 💯 I am the same and just wrote a similar comment. I know its ridiculous but I can't stand when people assume my sexuality. Just because I'm with a man doesn't mean I'm straight. I know logically why people would think that but it really bothers me

[@em-tt1qg]

Ugh, I feel this one in my core.

[@itamarp3314]

Flashbacks… the way she talks about him… anyway… good luck girl!

[@bd1043]

Hm i dont think my issue with age gap relationships is that they're "different from the norm", because theyre not really that different from the norm tbh. In my opinion, people with huge age gaps generally are in different stages of life and have had experiences that make these relationships difficult. A person who is well over 50 has had WAY more experiences that someone in their 20s. I think this *can* lead to power dynamic issues, possible manipulation, and for the younger person to receive ideas built up by the older individual. My parents had a 40 year age gap, and it's certainly not something i'd ever want for myself.

[@rebekahcreates]

+

[@sunbox4700]

Yes, older men often manipulate and force a younger person to something. Hope it won't be her case.

[@mariahorange9089]

You always say older people when it’s OLD people you’re dating..

[@carebear8655]

They’re not THAT old.

[@mariahorange9089]

@@carebear8655 24-25 compared to 60-70?! Can you do math!!!

[@carebear8655]

@@mariahorange9089 You clearly lack reading comprehension because you never said he was too old in comparison or that he was too old for her. You said it is “OLD people you’re dating”. She said he’s a bit younger than Aileen, so I’m assuming he’s still middle aged. Also, someone in their 60s isn’t old. You sound extremely immature.

[@mariahorange9089]

@@carebear8655 your probably 60 yourself saying that because you know damn well that he is way too old for her, it’s one thing dating someone older and then other dating geriatrics. With name like carebear you would be down with this shit

[@carebear8655]

@@mariahorange9089 I’m in my 20s and into older men, myself. But nice try reaching. I can tell your ignorance hasn’t taken you far in life. Have fun spending the rest of your years as close-minded and bitter as you are.

[@helloitsme9604]

You look absolutely stunning Julia!! Your hair color + that top & the hair clips is just 🔥🔥!!

[@ingridonthemoon3783]

Exactly my thoughts as soon as I played the video 😍👌🏻

[@Lennox2638]

Julia.. as someone that cares about you, you should give yourself some time.. don’t jump into any relationship right away because more often than not, it’s a “rebound relationship” .. I know because at one time I was with someone and we ended up breaking up.. so a friend of mine introduced me to someone new .. we ended up getting together.. we have since broken up but in hindsight I’ve realized that I never should have been with the new person because it was just a rebound. Ultimately though, you’ll do what you want but PLEASE be cautious and remember everyone is all sh!ts and giggles at first. Then the mask comes off.

[@carlalsss]

Some people in the comments forgetting that Julia is a grown up woman

[@Poseidonblue123]

She is. The fact is that she is 18+ , but her way of dealing with her problems is not mature.

[@kittybelly]

Crazy. Because she keeps calling herself mature but is the maturity in the room with us?

[@ashb1212]

Your channel is amazing to watch. You said once you felt like you overshared and I don't agree. Watching your videos is like watching a journey. That's what life is our perspectives of people change we fall in and out of love, we have ups and downs, good days and bad. The wonderful thing about the internet is that we can experience the different styles of life and people. Sadly, there are those who can't just keep their negativity to themselves. Life your best life girl and you do you. I am bisexual myself and my brother is gay and is married to a man and he called me "greedy" and I got called that by my mum at first too and I remember getting mad like why are bi people called this yet many people have polyamorous relationships and most of the time nobody has an issue because it involves straight people. Just because I like both men and women does not make me a sex maniac.

[@annamarchi4600]

babyy just be alone for a whilee

[@CarolinaVasquezEnglish]

I think you are a beautiful young girl who has so much ahead of her. I think you're attracted to older people because you have unresolved emotional baggage,abandonment issues that you have not resolved and worked through. Take it from someone who was also raised without a father and was always looking for an older male to protect me and provide emotional support on a level that a father was supposed to. Only years later after counseling I realized that and have been working through it. I don't want to sound like I am judging you, but my humble opinion for you is to take your mental health as a priority. You just finished a long term relationship with a person who was much older..you were hurt, crying on camera for your pain 😢 and all of us sympathized with you, and jumping into another one with a person who also is an elder might not be the smartest or wisest decision. Dont you think ? I'm talking to you as if you were my sister and coming from a caring place. Take time alone, heal your wounds, learn to love yourself without the validation of another person, in this case a father figure. That way, the next person who comes around will get the best version of you. And you will also be able to pick a better partner from a healed placed. ❤ wish you all the best.

[@namenamee5061]

The nicokadoavocadoification of Julia zelg.

[@becky5212]

I’m so confused! You were previously so insistent you were repulsed by 🍆 specifically so how does that suddenly change? 🙈😂

[@carmencar123]

He can’t get it up no more so😮

[@kittybelly]

@@carmencar123They can, it’s just more of a process. Which is even more of a turn off, I would imagine.

[@heathermirabal1]

It’s not the age gap, it’s getting into another relationship so quickly

[@mayragarcia9367]

you did homegirl dirty dirty.

[@clefairy2260]

why do you keep doing the same thing 😭

[@Longshot678]

The reason people are saying the reason your marriage broke down was the age difference is because for someone THAT much older to desire a relationship with someone young enough to be their grandaughter, that there is *usually* something intrinsically wrong with that person. They likely want someone they can have a lot of infuence over, and they themselves are likely *extremely* emotionally stunted; eileen being a perfect example of this. In my opinion, you continue to seek these relationships as a protective measure against actual intimacy, because relationships with these types of older people can never last. and even if they do, you'll outlive them by a longshot. The relationship will be over by the time you're 40 no matter what. I really feel that this is a toxic relationship pattern that you continue to repeat because you subconsciously feel that being with people your age is too high stakes, too "real". You're scared of having an equal partner. You choose people who are not only mostly intrinsically stunted & dysfunctional, but who you know you will vastly outlive. Just my two cents.

[@aracnofiliaaa]

i really really hope this is not love bombing because it sounds like it. We care for you Julia, just be careful

[@user-dp4sx7xs1v]

Isn't it too soon to move on? Just asking??

[@TimeMovie93150]

people in toxic relationships (or even healthy ones!) are usually over it way before the relationship ends, so no. speaking from experience

[@jenniicaroline1218]

LOVE your makeup especially this lip color!! would love an updated makeup routine video!

[@cherylbrown2357]

I really hate to be a Debbie Downer but .....although I am very happy for you ..this is a new relationship and you are still in the Honey moon phase when everything is new and great ...it's always great at the beginning ...let's see if things are still the same 6 months or a year from now ...I'm just being realistic here ,.I hope you have found your person but it's all still very new ....if it's still this great and exciting a year from now then you will know this is the person for you !!! Either way I hope it works out and I'm happy for you!!!

[@d11j09l92]

The previous two were unhealthy, not to mention you started dating this one while you were still married to Eileen. Please take a break from dating.

[@__tatiana__]

not againnnnnnn

[@Regina.6692]

She moved on fast, huh

[@mason4966]

Not quite. I think she "moved on" long before the actual divorce. She was very unhappy.

[@angelav4568]

You seriously need to be single. You're putting yourself through the same thing over and over again. If you can't be comfortable with just yourself, you're not going to have a successful relationship. I highly recommend you start therapy and focus only on yourself. There is a reason you keep seeking out relationships and can't be alone. It isn't healthy and your mental health is crucial to a happy and healthy relationship in the future.

[@rebecca.m6068]

She is in therapy.

[@sarahchurchill3184]

date whoever makes you happy. you don’t have to justify anything. you look so much happier already and i love it!

[@ciciisims]

Julia I’ve been watching you for YEARS and I’ve NEVER seen you so happy and smile so much when talking about someone or something!! You’re absolutely radiant and I am SO EXCITED to meet him!!!

[@tinahatfield8077]

I have reservations about this relationship you are speaking of. I would feel better for you had you waited maybe a year after breaking it off with Eileen. It feels like you’ve jumped from the fire into the frying pan. Eventually, you’ll get burned again. This “new person” is only new to us as you have had him in your life while still with Eileen. You have had no time alone to adjust & really work on yourself. I care about you, Julia. I have respect for you. I feel you are so young & just need some serious time to date around & enjoy your freedom before getting into a relationship. I also wonder if you being with a man now has anything to do with your desire for a baby?

[@ravynwoods5902]

Omg how long do we have to wait. I need to know who you’re dating like right now 😂

[@DaveGrohlsprincess]

My man is 31 years older than me and I’m 24 😂

[@daniellebuie8098]

Happy for you, Julia! I came out as bi in the 90s, and I totally relate to what you're saying... frequent distrust from the lesbian community and frequent assumption of promiscuous intentions from straight folx. And also bi erasure since I've been married to a woman. Also she's 16 years my senior and we have 99 problems 😂 but literally none of them have anything to do with the age difference. Sometimes i worry about her dying a lot sooner than me, but honestly I could go before her. Life doesn't play by predictable rules, that's for sure. Happened exactly that way for my godfather, who lost his much younger partner to cancer. In any case... Wishing you all the best! ❤

[@Jess-Rabbit]

As a bisexual woman who is married to a man I basically can't tell anyone I'm bisexual unless I know they are also LGBTQ and have less of a chance of judging me. When I was younger people used to ask me "how do you know you're bi if you've never had sex with a girl". Hmm maybe the same way you know you're straight when you're a kid, duh. Why is it suddenly different if you're a woman who likes two genders? I definitely feel like I'm not allowed to call myself bi because I'm married to a man and that's frustrating. People act like your sexuality just disappears depending on who you're with. I'm not straight just because I'm in a hetero relationship

[@cam410]

That's right. I'm bisexual too and I had only one girlfriend. Now im with s cishet man and we live together. People think "it was a phase" and it wasn't. It's so frustrating sometimes, but the important thing is you know who you are and that's enough ❤

[@amazonionavalon8252]

I usually describe myself as Bisexual but tend to have long-term relationships with men. Not that we need to justify our desires or use labels though! ❤

[@polina400]

This is so sad, I get this too. Like, it doesn’t make sense. Why do they think I need to have sex with woman to know I’m bi? It’s about feeling the attraction…

[@itsanditimevarietyshow]

I have no issues with bisexuals. But I do think it's odd to call yourself bi if you've never taken the plunge. LOL

[@ainhoasr6577]

​@@itsanditimevarietyshowbastante estúpida tu respuesta...

[@lanaborodina1499]

Boomer dudes (specifically dudes) can be unbearably patriarchal and sexist - this is their "factory setting", even though some of them claim to be pro-feminists and pro-everything blah-blah. I could feel it with my ex, who was 14 years older. And I am an X-er (born right in the middle of 1970s), I can imagine how this could feel to a millennial.

[@marieconner565]

Key phrase..."can be" not 'are', there are exceptions to most rules, if you think about it .

[@lanaborodina1499]

@@marieconner565 Oh yeah, and we all hope that the exception is exactly our case, until we learn it is not, otherwise where the statistics comes from.

[@carebear8655]

She’s not even a millennial. She’s a zillennial *sorry, I have to be that person* 🤣

[@janin.2331]

​​​@@carebear8655She was born in 1994 and is a Millennial in almost every existing definition out there, she is just a younger Millennial. Zillennials are just a combination of the youngest Millennials and oldest Gen Z by the way. I'm Zillennial as well (born in 1995) but also considered Millennial in many definitions.

[@carebear8655]

@@janin.2331 Well, it’s silly. What does someone born in 94 have in common with a person born in 1980? My mother was born in the early 60s, and it’s as clear as day her upbringing was much more similar to someone from “Gen X”. I was born in 1995 and barely relate to Millennial memes. The west loves their labels and boxes.

[@velkata94]

you explain that you have found a soul mate. But mate does not always mean loving in the sense of the word passion, romance, irrepressible attraction. In most cases, a soulmate is a friend, a very close friend, you feel like a real family. This does not mean, however, that you will not seek after time, without even realizing it, the real burning attraction of passion, which is stronger than reason

[@curlwhurl8054]

She also called Eileen her soul mate when she first introduced her....

[@autumnt396]

That seems kind of fast. I think you should take time to heal

[@katiewright4075]

Julia, I’m so excited for you to introduce your new partner 😊 this video really resonates with my life right now and I’m so happy to be able to relate to someone going through a similar experience. I had also thought I was a lesbian prior to my current partner who is a man.. were also in an age gap relationship and have been together for 3 years. I’ve truly never been happier. It’s so good to see you smile and talk about how much you have in common because I can feel what you’re describing. Also, Everything you said relating to how you feel about men and women and coming to terms with being bisexual is seriously everything I have felt myself. When you mentioned the stigma against bisexuals even within the community .. it’s so true.. I’ll admit I used to have that same mindset about dating bisexual women when I thought I was fully lesbian.. never did I think I would be realizing that I like men as well. I can admit now that I used to have some toxic ways of thinking from internalized insecurities. We learn and we grow. don’t listen to the negative comments… if you’re happy In your new relationship that’s all that matters ❤

[@isaperez9667]

I'm bisexual too. I've been married with a man for 23 years, and now I'm in an age gap relationship with a woman. I'm 15 years older than her and I am so in love. I understand you

[@shannonmathews7235]

My husband and I have been together for over 5 years. We have a 19 year age gap. And I've been questioned and no it's not for money because we're broke. It's because I laid eyes on him and I knew he was my person, he's so handsome , I just think he's the most wonderful person I've ever met. We even had a baby a few years ago and it's his first baby at 52. I've never been happier in my life. So I get it! Girl live your life, love who you want to love, and fuck what anyone else thinks.

[@HiHi-lt1cb]

I don't think age matters as long as you're both adults. I hope you're happy! 😊

[@lorat.4701]

Dear Julia! First of all you are not weird!! You are different and you stand out from the crowd and that is FANTASTIC. That is something to be cherished!!!! Thank you so so much for sharing your life with us. I have recently broke up with my girlfriend who was 20 years older than me and found myself (I swore for ages that I was a lesbian) dating an older man now. For the first time in 25 years. When I tell you our life is crazily similar (moved to the UK when I was 18 on my own too) I mean it and your openness always gives me hope that some people do actually understand and I am not alone. Might be a birthday thing as we share the same birthday (again lol what are the odds!) - I'm not sure, but thank you from the bottom of my heart and keep shining like the absolute star you are xx Always trust your gut and the glow you have lately - that's all you need to know you're on the right path.

[@__elise333]

Sexuality is complex and can be confusing! I feel like the labels just complicate it more. ( for me anyway ) But if you find one you feel comfy in, then go with it! Super happy for you Julia! You look so beautiful and happy :’)

[@bethgardner2257]

I’m obsessed with the hair/hair clips/top combo in this video 😍 you’re glowing!!

[@zoooejenkins]

Every word you said described me. I also prefer a mature look over a youthful one. And older people are way more confident, experienced, and refined than younger people. I find them very magnetic and attractive.

[@Tishmazza]

You don’t have problem to date older people or being attacked to older people, but do you have problem or are you not happy about ageing? (If you tend to worry too much about ageing) Because that’s a pattern right there. It’s a condition called Gerascophia. Those people (apart from others symptoms) prefer to have way older partners.

[@stephe93anie]

Ahhhhh can’t wait for you to introduce him to us!! So glad you guys are getting to enjoy doing life together 💕

[@bangbutton8322]

Have you considered being single?

[@GojksHoi-ur4di]

No it is not good

[@Fantasia1976]

Is he the same man that you travelled to Asia?

[@Ghostywiththemosty]

Will never understand dating people you will out exist but want you to be happy wish your content wouldn’t be so relationship based feel like we haven’t had a Julia focusing on Julia era in a long long time

[@ladymadras1705]

So happy to see you glowing.. stay blessed❤

[@moonling_0_0]

Wanna meet him! Hurry up 😂🤭🤗

[@noraalden5501]

You have a very open heart ❤️ both towarfd yourself and others . You are so brave for living your life whilst simultaneously trying to figure it and yourself out (in the open) I know it's your job but no one really deserves that part of you 🙏🏻 It's far greater than what most of us can say we do, so please know that your frankness and honesty towards yourself and others, the way in which you care is completely unique. Don't let anyone tell you otherwise x I wish you all happiness, gentle care and wild love 💕

[@drnot442]

It’s “so great to have someone on your team” 💯! This is so true, and I’m so happy for you!

[@678ally]

I been following you and your journey for so long now... I am so happy for you and can tell you are truly happy

[@violetwaterford9381]

You may be addicted to "being in love" the rush when you first start a sexual relationship with someone new. Once the relationship gets old, you go into the depression and unsettled moods. The reason I say this is a pattern is seen in your videos and you have hooked onto a new relationship and not even legally divorced yet excited to start a new one with no serious thoughts when your still married. I don't think the age gap is the real issue, but you need to be in a love rush of starting new relationships with new partners like a drug addiction to get that HIGH to combat your personal depression issues.

[@curlwhurl8054]

I absolutely agree. I think she suffers with serious limerance. Love bombs like crazy in the beginning and then gets bored and jumps to something new instantly. There's no way she would have left Eileen if there was nobody to jump to.

[@mercyfulvickv2810]

Spot on

[@TiSa1985]

You look so vibrant and happy :-) nice to see after such a long time with you looking unhappy. You like who you like, love who you love and we have nothing we can say about that. Important thing is that you are happy and that’s that. Will be exciting to see your introduction video of your hubby :-)

[@nuniibabyx3]

Julia … DO WHAT MAKES YOU HAPPY! ❤ so excited for you can’t wait to see him! I’ve been following for awhile! Love you girl! Xoxoxo

[@Lietotajvards9]

Youre attracted to older people because your dad wasnt present in your life so you want safety, stability, wisdom and someone who actually is present in your life and protects you.

[@DaveGrohlsprincess]

I’m attracted too men older than me because my generation suck.

[@MaryCostantini]

shut up

[@stephaniebaird6937]

sooo where did you get your psychology degree from?

[@CarolinaVasquezEnglish]

​@stephaniebaird6937 you don't need to be a psychologist to see it. It is obvious at this point.

[@hayleygrimes8804]

@@DaveGrohlsprincessSame.

[@kerryswann655]

❤❤so glad to hear your happy Your a beautiful person. Never worry bout labels.Everyone an individual with different likes etc. You deserve support and happiness. Been a follower from start.

[@hannahmiller5515]

So proud of you for your courage to grow and changed through the confusing times! That's the best thing when a partner helps bring up the best in us, like healthy habits and lifestyle 🙂 My question is what is your boyfriend's favorite meal to cook? What is his favorite classical song?

[@MissLea922]

Does he have any children? Or does he want children?

[@kayleighjweb]

Honestly you are GLOWING and your hair and everything just looks so amazing!!! I’m so happy for you and can’t wait for your future videos 😭💖

[@kaitlynfarley9594]

You seem so happy. I really hope this works out for you. At the end of the day, you know what's best for you, and if he's the best for you then go for it. ❤️ I love watching your videos. I'm so proud of you.

[@flav2689]

Oh my God. I never realised you have a degree in _classical_ singing. And liked classical and opera. I didn’t think I could like you more but now I do, lol. And he seems to have a good taste as well! I’m really curious and excited to see him. Also, as a feminine bisexual woman, I feel you. It can be a quite problematic at times since we get critique from both sides but luckily many people don’t actually care and just let us be. I understand that you are especially struggling with the whole thing - after all you lived a long time identifying as a lesbian. It takes time to get used to it but it will be fine, I promise. ❤🥰

[@ladyredl3210]

Congratulations on your new relationship, Julia. Whatever makes you the happiest should be top priority.

[@johnhunter251]

I’m just really glad you are happy Julia. X

[@gabrianahmccallistermarcus3689]

Julia, I have been subscribed to you for a while, and yes it is a bit unusual, but we are here for it! Your crazy personality, is amazing! Do what makes you happy. I am so happy for you swell! Love you!❤

[@nsanenthembrane]

Are you ever interested in dating older people with good looks? Like a Pierce Brosnan or Helen Mirren? This is a genuine question btw

[@JuliaZelg]

OMG lol I think good looks are very subjective 😅

[@ge5493]

@@JuliaZelgit truly is

[@riverbonilla8108]

I’ve never related to someone as much as I relate to you! Seriously. I’m a bisexual woman who was raised by a single mom in Mexico (I’m half Mexican and speak Spanish) and then moved to Oregon, USA when I was 18 COMPLETELY on my own. I grew up very poor but have made a successful life for myself. I have always like older people and had older friends. I also always felt like I wasn’t part of my own generation and my dad was also absent. I’m currently 29 and in a relationship with a 59 year old man. I’m vegetarian and love the animals sooo much. I had an obsession with Michael Jackson when I was 15 and have a tattoo of part of his song “earth song”. I’ve stayed in toxic relationships and been struggled with being codependent and had an eating disorder in the past. We are SO ALIKE. I’ve watched you for a few years now and used to come to all of your live streams. I really feel like we should be friends! ❤ I know you get lots of fan girls and boys, but, if you’d like to connect sometime I’d love a pen pal!