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[@JoshuaFluke1]

This was almost 5 years ago now. I didn't make this video to start a witch hunt, or anything like that. I am passed it. It's just me, sharing my experience. Every story has 2 sides. Maybe in her view, I'm nuts. I don't know. You have to understand that when you're in the thick of it; you can't see what everyone else is saying. You're just 'blinded' with feelings and 'hope'. Finland is dope, my second home. A serious contribution to my overall being that you see now. One bad experience with a person from that country doesn't ruin the entire country. Plenty of generous people there. Once friends with a Finn, you're friends for life. They'll give you the shirt off their back, a place to stay, and all you need do is ask.

[@yt-sh]

better alone than friendly in bad relations better friendly than lonely in good relations - Last Prophet (PBUH)

[@yt-sh]

And dont try to think it from your end you werent weird or anything you were just different for each other BTW Man shes CRAAAAAAAAZY

[@mmx2731]

I guess those Finnish teachers don't agree with the Feynman/ Sagan model of teaching. The content is exciting, it's teachers like them that suck any life out of education...bleh Also had a very similar situation with a Russian ex. Engaged for a month, then she broke it off. Broke my heart, but you just figure out how to move on I suppose. Also, good thing it happened then when there weren't any of your assets to split. Would be tough giving it to someone that didn't care at all about you.

[@chrishuerta2506]

I like how you made a shoutout to the people that helped you through your tough time.

[@lalalalalala9333]

Thank you for sharing your story. You might not realize it but you might be helping someone out there whose in an abusive relationship identify abuse, so kudos to you dude! For anyone who is reading this, please please please understand that there is no such thing as "manning up" or "growing a pair" when you are being abused, regardless of the gender of the abuser. Abuse is abuse and you need to run as far as possible away from people who are hurting you.

[@junkaccount2535]

Man the first red flag is at the beginning of your relationship. She told you not to come, and you helped her cheat on her boyfriend. If a woman is unfaithful to her last partner, she will eventually dump you as well. "She never was your woman; it was just your turn."

[@heyjude4485]

Well. That just made sense.

[@diobrando4897]

Are you watching Darius m's channel by any chance? :)

[@junkaccount2535]

@@diobrando4897 Yes actually, the quote came from him, but the advice is from personal experience with another girl. Thankfully I didnt marry her tho

[@BboyDaquack]

@Itachi Uchiha listening to his story was just red pill red flag city. Glad I see em now

[@user-ti2xi9bd4u]

faxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

[@nguyenngocduc1993]

"i will not be friendzone by my wife " ,well that is the highest form of friendzone

[@amirhosseinetemad3094]

LMFAO 666 likes too rn

[@Erweezy27]

LOL :D

[@kennarnett8220]

Regarding your ex-wife: "You can’t be friends with those who broke your heart, ruin your life, took advantage of your love, kindness, forgiveness, or show contempt. They don’t deserve access to your life. There is no friendship there."

[@PlanetX369]

Well said. I believe this applies to any relationship in your life

[@samrapheal1828]

Correctamundo ✔️

[@DankBeatDubz]

True

[@cmrsamk]

true true

[@vincebu6441]

Unless there is servicing.. ok a little massageanistic.. around the naughty zones but ehh.. we all have needs lol!!! If the party presents itself have fun but be responsible and get that STD test printout from her.. The more you know.....

[@shreyaindia4024]

your first red flag was that she broke up with u and told you not to come and told u she found someone else. If ANYONE, breaks your heart EVEN ONCE, you are supposed to run in the opposite direction.

[@fangtooth4471]

Video game répulsion would be the first & last red flag for many of us.

[@shukhada6664]

@Matthew Neddeau Nah we just think that's not gonna happen for us.

[@Hawaiiansky11]

@Matthew Neddeau A lot of times, it is because (1) we are "in love" / "in lust" / infatuated / high on someone falling for us / being love-bombed by phrases like, "You are the most amazing human being ever!" and (2) it's the beginning of the relationship and we don't want to throw away a potentially good thing ('they think I'm the best person they have ever known' - love bombing!) over something seemingly trivial at the start of a relationship or (3) we are codependent from having grown up with bad parents, which sounds like Josh, because he used the phrase "knight in shining armor" and that he wanted to prove to her what it was like to experience real love (in hindsight, huge red flags!!), and (4) we don't notice the individual red flags until one day when we 'wake up' and see that we are surrounded by a sea of them, most times after which we are already committed, like married or having a child with them, or in my case, they moved in with you and you take pity on them because they have no money or other place to go, etc. so we say to ourselves, "I made a commitment and I fully intend to keep it," where the other person has probably already long since moved on. Speaking of which.... The one who seems neurotically paranoid about being cheated on, is statistically the most likely to be the one doing all the cheating.

[@vicfromest]

He was really young at the time and these were his very first experiences. We don’t always get it right at 20. I think he did well considering the age.

[@sheezy2526]

Yes it is unethical too trying to break someone's relationship to be the white knight.

[@christingunning293]

It takes a strong man to speak up about emotional abuse.

[@briannecaswell6204]

Very much so! It gives me hope that one day I will find a man who is able to share his feelings and have a healthy discussion when need be lol. So far no luck!

[@marybell2002]

I'm shocked at how many stories I'm hearing about verbal, emotional and physical abuse by women. I'm wondering if things were always like this but no one talked about it or if its a downside of radical feminism.

[@neronihil1710]

@@marybell2002 its been like this for a very long time. The woman who opened the first shelter for women in the UK was a devoted feminist. After a while she came to the realization that men experience very similar kinds abuse and tried to address this issue. The response from the feminist community towards her, was swift and brutal. They basically excommunicated her, poisened her dog and destroyed her reputation. I could be wrong but i believe her name was Erin Pizzey. Look up her story if you're interested

[@laurenshannon2703]

Her words were brutal, emotional abuse. So sorry this happened.

[@DX-d]

Are you kidding! she was the only one working & spending money ON HIM?!!! And for YEARS?!! Unbelievable. And he says now that he doesn’t want to be a provider for a woman!! Pathetic. No one in their right mind would be with a loser that takes money from women.

[@MegaTriumph1]

They say love is blind, but marriage is sure an eye opener.

[@SuperLiliana1973]

LOL :D :D

[@KKKK-jr1nm]

Lol yeah.

[@sunset2.00]

thanks Disney.

[@nagisa0931]

Wow, this comment rhymed , it even be a poem

[@12akul]

@@nagisa0931 It actually didn't but ok

[@jeffhiggins4478]

Bud, your experience sounds so much like mine (apart from living abroad). You’re not alone, dude. I’ve been there too. Stay strong, brother.

[@RM-kw1hn]

Me too, I’m a woman but same experience with a foreign guy. Those experiences don’t define us or others though. You live and learn. You can not become a bitter person and think everyone is the same. Yes, we were wronged but not everyone will do the same to us again. What is this telling us? That there’s a lot of not so good people out there so we have take out time and look for red flags. We also have to be accountable for our poor judgement at the time if we think retrospectively about not getting to know a person good enough before marrying them and looking for potential red flags. Self-awareness going forward is needed.

[@jordanpremo]

I've never wanted to give someone a hug more than I did after hearing this. It takes a strong man to talk about stuff like this. So glad it worked out for you in the end.

[@Theoretically00]

U r so right.

[@erowal1]

This video shouldn’t be called “I’m Divorced...”, it should be called “I Dodged A Bullet...”

[@jackbacic868]

Sure did

[@fredachase5193]

erowal1 that’s for sure

[@hollyandlorifineart9591]

Yess! Thank goodness they didn't have kids!!!

[@aleckermit]

Dodging a bullet still hurts. I think about my ex of 2.5 years nearly every day. Bad break up and lot of regrets that I can't mend.

[@lyndonbauer1703]

He didn't dodge it, he married it.

[@TechLead]

why can't people just be happy..? after the honeymoon phase, it's harder than it looks. well anyways... you wanna trade ex's? I'm just looking for a way to also monetize your ex-wife.

[@1MinuteFlipDoc]

like TechLead did! LOL

[@KiraPlaysGuitar]

I'll trade. Let me start my KZbin channel first.

[@JoshuaFluke1]

Enter at your own risk lmao

[@KiraPlaysGuitar]

@@JoshuaFluke1 Man, seriously, KZbin seems to be about the least risky option at this stage. At least then it's really on me.

[@moonsdonut5188]

@@1MinuteFlipDoc tecklead monetize every thing ex Google lead ex Facebook lead all his thumbnail says that

[@InstructorMike]

Dude I am so glad that I listen to the entire of your story. If you don’t mind, I would love to continue to share it. It could save so many people who may be open to it

[@suraya1224]

It sounds like your ex was a narcissist. We all make mistakes, but don't let her make you eternally bitter. Just don't ignore the warning signs. Trust your gut, take your time, & look beyond the initial emotional romantic feelings. Proceed with caution. Good luck 🙂

[@RM-kw1hn]

100% agree

[@thereason1010]

Took a lot of balls to share this story. Really appreciate it man! We're all human

[@lucid3852]

thereason1010 exactly what I was thinking

[@kreativechaosguides4821]

it sounded like being in hell, especially the deportation threat and losing your degree.

[@714lmfao]

Loved the honesty. Abuse is abuse regarless of the gender.

[@karelhalim8090]

@@astondias810 dude the fuck you said that for?

[@karelhalim8090]

@@astondias810 ,okey i admitted it , wasnt ur fault u were bored , what should we do im bored too

[@siliconiusantogramaphantis2122]

I clicked on this expecting to hear a bitter man talk about his past experience with a failed marriage. What I got instead is a story of how a man was kicked down by circumstance, and still managed to pick himself up against all odds. Dude you're a hero. I'm subscribing to your channel now.

[@99994139]

I'm 28 right now, never married, I had two engagements both did not work out well. I know Divorce is not the same as ending engagement but I feel you and what you have gone through becasue it feels sucks to be lonely and don't have someone in your life to support you in times of need in this tough life.

[@Yolduranduran]

I agree people dont understand that men can also suffer abuse.

[@TheUtuber999]

Women are (usually) conditioned not to get into physical altercations, so instead they hone their skills toward doing psychological battle against others.

[@freedom13245]

@@TheUtuber999 yes that's a fact

[@liamdavis492]

@@TheUtuber999 women are as aggressive as men, except socially instead of physically. That's a psychological fact.

[@exstee]

@@TheUtuber999 And those psychological attacks often do way more damage then physical. It damages the mind and spirit. Bitches be crazy.

[@differentbutsimilar7893]

@@TheUtuber999 You'd be surprised. You know who have the highest incidence of physical domestic abuse? Lesbians. But in hetero relationships, definitely. Seen it many times, lived it myself.

[@robwembley]

ABUSE is ABUSE. There are NO excuses. Well done for terminating a 'toxic relationship'.

[@BaseerSiddiqui]

@@hjhiihjjhgguh wut

[@luthier747]

@@BaseerSiddiqui he is joking

[@BaseerSiddiqui]

@@luthier747 oh lol

[@ehtishamamin5601]

@@hjhiihjjhgguh hahaha....

[@ellenrichardson8701]

@@hjhiihjjhgguh What????

[@aimeenunez2904]

You have a heart of gold and I'm really sorry you been through these messed up relationships... Sometimes people are so caught up in their own issues they lash out at the people closest to them

[@BrianKarmo]

You my friend were dealing with a pure covert narcissist, I as well am now seperated for over 18 months but rather her presenting a divorce paper, she caused me not to recieve my federal taxes and drained all my energy, as well as my resources, but i have two kids with that Jezzebelle(A.K.A. Jezzy)although i did love her, she as well was draining on my emotions. Just be glad and happy , we are are survivors.

[@lightgiver7311]

I guess I was lucky. I married a divorced man and I was a young widow. Marriage is hard. It had some challenges. We made a pact. We gave each other one thousand I loves you every day. One touch to the face, 1 hug, 1 kiss, a daily reminder of our love. We were together 37 years. I lost him to death.

[@tommak6516]

You were a young widow, now you are an old widow. Ironic.

[@donitawhite8111]

@Wally Reyes 🤣🤣

[@Observer82AB]

That is how marriages are supposed to work.

[@zander4529]

very sorry for your loss

[@gillpb638]

F these losers making jokes you were wonderful and every marriage should be like this.

[@dumbr457]

"My parents were sued and lost their house. They were basically homeless...." That couped with the divorce, rough times.

[@Sean-ll5cm]

I want the story behind that.. I'm curious about his family situation now

[@Xellos976]

@@Sean-ll5cm in a previous video, he has spoken about how his dad was let go from the company he worked for his entire life and then when he tried starting a business he was sued because he signed a non compete clause or something when he first got the job.

[@Sean-ll5cm]

@@Xellos976 ah damn

[@jasonreviews]

Now he's famous on KZbin

[@justinTime077]

Sean its hard to miss. Dumbr it just sounds like a few days on planet earth to me.

[@IAMCHIDERA]

He’s such a sweetheart I’m so sorry you went through this 😭

[@BrendanStBrown]

I want this guy to do well in life

[@ENIGMAXII2112]

ME TOO

[@Bushey4545]

Haha You know that's true

[@cuybueno]

This kid have made many mistakes due to his short age. Thinking that she was going to foot the bills while he was studying was the worst mistake.

[@Dice-Z]

I think he is.

[@adeneo.g6456]

He is a good solid dude, you could play pool with and share a few drinks. The woman is spawn of satan my goodness.

[@yourcaseworker6916]

*You don't know a woman...* *UNTIL YOU MEET HER IN COURT!*

[@MetaLNadia]

LMFAO

[@sebas8225]

You dont know how low a woman can be... Until you meet the Widow version.

[@stevenjodeir534]

Amen!

[@yourcaseworker6916]

@@sebas8225 Yes...I do!

[@jpai1411]

Sadly 😢

[@ikennaq2]

There is something about you Joshua. You're the type of person that makes the world a better place. Thanks for sharing.

[@HillyPat]

Josh, I can't imagine anyone not just loving you. It wasn't you, it was her - and she realized at that airport what she was losing. God bless you, young man.

[@jjlatinopedia]

Not a Tom Leykis listener I see. Married at the age of 20 - Strike 1 Talked to a girl online for a few years -Strike 2 Dropped the "L" word - YOURE OUT!!!!

[@zerocool527]

Yup

[@coldtruth6354]

Exactly

[@mycoblue9320]

agree 100%

[@Oliver-tm7jm]

Sounds like he spent more than $40 on a date also

[@jeffreymcfadden9403]

"long distance relationships" STRIKE 4.

[@jonlouis2582]

I keep my divorce certificate in a frame in my bedroom to remind me never to do that again.

[@user-ti2xi9bd4u]

@@Comeswoopfam not everybody is like that, chill bro. there's someone who loves you, but she just has yet show up

[@b__w_4565]

@@user-ti2xi9bd4u dude honestly it ain’t even that...fuck the legalities involved with marriage. They fuck men over. Why can’t we just give each other a ring and call it a day...it’s 2020 men and women work and the laws can’t be like the fu king 40’s anymore. Why do we need a contract to spend our lives with people!!!

[@bestredditstories1158]

Fucking legend

[@nicoleholley7049]

If I get a devorce that's what I'm going to do!!!

[@littleripper312]

I think people get married way too lightly. Also what people don't seem to realize is that even if you are well matched it's going to take a lot of work to build a strong lasting marriage. For me it's not something I want but I know plenty of people who are happily married and would never want to be single. I think we need to just stop pressuring people to get married because a lot of people dont really want it- both men and women.

[@veggiesalad1878]

I’m really proud of you and how far you’ve come! 😊 Thank you for opening up and sharing with us your story

[@generalcarver]

josh, man, so sorry you had to go though this. But thanks for sharing. As painful it is to recall this, there are some good lessons for people.

[@AEDIVINE]

Watching this video made me get up and hug and smooch my husband while he’s doing his schoolwork. I can’t believe anyone would treat their husband like that, how horrible. I hope your life is much happier now

[@ishmael802]

H3DDIE best of luck in your future

[@felixt1470]

H3DDIE Don’t kid yourself. It’s a common scenario!

[@md.mehrabhaque2223]

Your husband is lucky

[@AEDIVINE]

cbr9292you lolol who hurt you? I’ve been happily married since 2013 actually, sorry your life is miserable though :(

[@AEDIVINE]

cbr9292you wait?? You’re a married 45 year old man but you talk like a scorned 18 year old virgin? Yikes. I asked who hurt you because you came on MY comment being negative, when you don’t know me or my relationship. Sorry if your wife cheated on you or whatever but if you talk to her like you’re talking to me then it’s no surprise really

[@McofCOD]

Imagine being able to say "Sorry I can't go on vacation with you, I'm banned from every nation in the EU." Your friends would be like wtf did he do?

[@BernardBrunu1]

I guess he might now be a supporter of Britain leaving the EU.

[@josevasconcellos9633]

Jajaja

[@HickoryDickory86]

😂

[@yvesgysel9834]

Strange. Here in Belgium, you would keep your permission to stay after the divorce and it is also within the EU. Josh is also talking about deportation back to the USA and a 10 years ban from visiting any EU Country. Josh, I think your ex wife and her family were playing you. This would never happen within the EU. In reality everybody can come over to the EU, file for a citizens permission and wait. In the main time you get food and shelter. If your citizens permission is declined, you can always go to court. Here totally free. Courtcost and Laywer. So You can prolonge your stay for 3 to +10 Years. Yes I know a case, we're it took 16 Years to have a final Verdict. She got a piece of paper, saying that she had to leave Belgium, that is all. She is still living in Belgium and has now even the Belgian Nationality. You can always file for a new citizens permission if your situation has changed. Western European Countries are still feeling guilty for the Holocaust and Hitler, so we would never deport people. To my American friends, You should definitely come over and visit Europe. Greetings

[@Ukraineaissance2014]

My brothers banned from spain for stealing a saudi princes boat

[@UmeshABhat]

Had a simliar experience here in Estonia. Many thanks for sharing. Stay Strong.

[@cherylblack184]

I am going through your videos. If you haven't already, hire an attorney and follow up with the divorce. Make certain the paperwork has been filed and you are divorced. It's concerning you signed something you couldn't read and obviously aren't clear on the process. Hopefully enough time has passed that emotionally you can revisit it if only to make certain that chapter is indeed over.

[@inconnu4961]

very good advice!

[@gman9090]

Repeat after me boys..finance before romance.

[@kaputasri]

More like never romance cos romance can take your finance to zero pretty fast.

[@mgtowgoose8862]

Acquire currency, ignore women. Be the best version of yourself you can be.

[@dannytheman2217]

Yes let them beg

[@gabrielmorais3554]

mgtow goose Disregard Females, acquire currency or Fuck bitches, make money 😎

[@spiralviper8158]

@@dannytheman2217 there's always more men for them, it's on us to avoid the well of bitterness and misery but becoming our best selves. but it's difficult to reach that point without then desiring love

[@typingcat]

You might say, "Your marriage was FINNISHed.

[@TheGalacticEmperorOfLabels]

You deserve way more likes for that.

[@wilseph1]

Well played!

[@Ms.MD7]

Lol

[@violahbalson8901]

😅😅

[@alexward8596]

That divorce was a blessing, imagine being in that situation still.

[@Jay-hd4jx]

The experience was rough, but you are much stronger for having conquered a situation where many people would have given up. Respect!

[@go4damo]

"'How old were you?' 'I was young and dumb. That's how old I was.'"

[@paultexasusa1366]

20

[@xdandychiggins]

@@paultexasusa1366 aka young and dumb.

[@keepforever726]

"I love you so much I want to get the government involved." ~ Jim Carry

[@Hawaiiansky11]

That's why it should not be called marriage unless you do it in a church, where you ask God's sanctification. A marriage involved three; you, me and God. Without God, it's nothing more than a domestic partnership.

[@KitNKitty]

I love your honesty. It’s so refreshing. It takes a lot to be that open, vulnerable and speak about such a painful time in your life. I’m so happy that you got out of that toxic relationship and are doing so well for yourself. Never give up. Never stop trying to better yourself and your station in life. You have a new sub because of this video. Keep being honest and doing you. ❤️

[@goldencedi5016]

Man what a real story! I love you bro! I'm glad that you came out on top. Life can be tough and you made the choice to find your own happiness!

[@starboy2013]

Ok when she says she meet someone and you make out with her.There is your red flag.

[@YorktownUSA]

Yep.

[@dougg1075]

Yes

[@harryking4007]

Yes that's right. But he ignored that .like we all have done

[@starboy2013]

@@harryking4007 totally,if you do the postmortem like we all do there were red flags everywhere.

[@kevinmiller8111]

Young and dumb, we've all been there. I dated some horrible women when I was younger and in retrospect the red flags were obvious to everyone but me. You learn from your mistakes, can't blame him for that.

[@IBennx77I]

Josh you lost someone who didnt care about you, but this girl lost someone who really loved her, so she is clearly the loser. Learning from such situations is more worth than gold.

[@xo_kryptoknight4147]

This is the exact quote I tell myself all the time

[@sunnydays405]

Cope. She'll find someone else in no time. Joshua lost big time here, but it seems like it was a good learning experience for him.

[@sunnydays405]

@@alantinoalantonio you're right josh won in the end becoming successful, I just think assuming she is going to have a shitty life is cope. Who knows how her life turned out.

[@alantinoalantonio]

@@sunnydays405 It's safe to assume that people that live for themselves and are damaged will end up bitter since they are damaged. Damaged people don't love themselves and therefore it's impossible for them to love others. Josh grew, learned, and knows what to look for and what to avoid. Look around. Wholesome women love people and are genuinely joyful. Selfish cunts end up lifeless inside.

[@sunnydays405]

@@alantinoalantonio perhaps you're right. I'm a little jaded and think too many people commit a just world fallacy when looking at these kind of situations. For the record I hope you're right.

[@jayc9179]

I'm Finn and yes we're very blunt!! You married a cosmetologist and they're typically nuts.

[@karikari7336]

😂 💄 that’s hilarious

[@kinghill3423]

OMG LOL

[@edithtierce8209]

Keeping it real... 😂

[@superbaran9042]

True statement. Horse ladies and cosmetologists are 100% nuts.

[@Hawaiiansky11]

Generally, very shallow

[@isagoldfield7393]

YOU DESERVE THE BEST JOSH, ONLY THE BEST. Blessings to YOU‼️⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️

[@kitt7082]

Now tell us your fitness story

[@ProactiveIfeatu]

i can tell your not an OG fan he made a fitness story years ago

[@moonsdonut5188]

Boom roasted

[@robertjif6337]

FitnessReel coming soon

[@JoshuaFluke1]

I was fat. Then I decided I wanted to go on dates again. Girls don't particularly want to date another planet. So I decided to slim down.

[@moonsdonut5188]

@@JoshuaFluke1 saturn is huge but is doing well in dating so many moons

[@Saffeyah]

The fact you said she said she found another guy from the very beginning and you spent money to take a trip to see her. That would have been case closed. Aside from being young. Guys, do not take crap from any woman who tears you down. No matter how gorgeous she looks. She’s toxic, stay away from her.

[@Saffeyah]

@Daniel the Maniel yeah you’re right

[@everythingisupsidedown9593]

Ever had a relationship with woman that doesn't tear you down? From your Mom onwards?

[@gondaljarrat8864]

kzbin.info/www/bejne/iICTl5ygibuWis0

[@shanedowling4214]

@Mahta The Great wait till you hear my story, worse than his but glad I made it out and found a throne through my run in dirt. We only know what we experience hence why you didn’t know this is rampant and trust me it is. Same way we men don’t know much about what women experience cos we don’t live their experience. Understanding each other’s struggles is the way forward. There are wicked toxic people in all sides.

[@shanedowling4214]

@Ig Hanchks I wanna live in this world. I will definitely marry here. Sadly the society at large is the opposite of this such amazing society. Out of curiosity, where is it? I’ll understand if you don’t want to share. Please protect your community at all cost. Rare and golden

[@aerodylluk2543]

What a story dude. You got a new sub. I am glad you made it through everything. You done some life miles there for sure.

[@MayLinh_ASMR]

I can relate. Thanks for sharing your story, Joshua! Stay strong 🙏💖

[@Adefuye]

That relationship sounds like a freakn NIGHTMARE

[@spiralviper8158]

all too common though. as a culprit myself, it's on me to learn to live without love

[@spiralviper8158]

@Pewdiepie's Hot Dog Boss touche, fuck that shit

[@spiralviper8158]

@Craig X to me it seems like the more you try to control a situation the more it gets out of hand. People do what they like, but social magnetism and push-pull dynamics are a thing. "The more you chase after it, the more it gets away from you." - Alan Watts

[@TuulaMaaria]

As a Finnish woman, also long ago divorced from a man (British) who tried to adapt to life in Finland, this was super hard to watch. You really came up with the worst sides of Finland, and unfortunately, your story is one I have heard from others in almost the same words.

[@yavuz9038]

I think Russian people are better at marriages.

[@felixt1470]

Well, he plays video games all day and doesn’t have a source of income! What could go wrong???

[@RodneyKimbangu]

Why hard to watch? I wonder ...

[@yunusbars4586]

​@@felixt1470 as a former exchange student who moved to Finland and lived there for a whole year I can easily say that living in Finland as a foreigner is not that much easy. Even though I had too many friends and good experience not everyone among my exchange student friends was as lucky as me. Most of my exchange student friends had hard times with making friends or talking to people. And if you can't speak Finnish it's almost impossible to get a job there also Finnish language is world's one of the hardest languages to learn for native english speakers. Because Finnish is a completely different language among european languages, it doesn't have much similarities with english. I have one more last thing to say: Finnish people are one of the worlds warmhearted people but you gotta touch/reach their hearts and it's not easy to do that because they are too shy to show and express their emotions.

[@neirienvy]

​@@yavuz9038 according to russia beyond (rbth) and statista, russians divorce nearly equally as much as they marry. if that's considered "good", i'm worried

[@thatguy6207]

I was robbed when my ex wife left... I was working over seas, came home, everything was gone... everything. I thought I was robbed... then I found out I really was robbed.

[@Zorocanify]

That sucks man. Hope you’re better now..

[@Krakkokayne]

About the bro moment you had with your finnish friend, i really felt that. For most of my life I've ever only had one friend that I would vent to and he would always be willing to listen to me and offer help the best he could whenever things seemed to be going wrong, he was my best friend. I just lost him a few days ago and it's been the hardest thing to deal with these past few days. R.I.P.

[@keltongreen5455]

between seeing Josh and THE TECH LEAD coming out about the effects of divorce and shedding insight on this topic will help young men be more analytical about marriage. Thank you so much for sharing your story sir.

[@jonreyes166]

agreed, really got to weigh the pros and cons of it

[@alashawn8]

I LOVE THESE TWO GUYS!

[@JoshuaFluke1]

I'd like to think we love you too

[@hendrixansel9750]

The difference is, at this point, josh is very redpill and techlead is pretty blue pilled.

[@saraache9420]

I am a girl and because of those two vids and some real life experiences from my family, I am honestly traumatized to get married.

[@sam.0021]

i cant think of a more real and down to earth youtuber than you bro. thank you for spreading your message and your story. it has helped me and countless others.

[@JoshuaFluke1]

Sure thing, but don't go to jail.

[@ohyeah2269]

mann thanks for sharing... really needed this and resonate. I just have so much appreciation and respect for you, hearing this story.

[@anaestrada6906]

I just sat here in complete shock after hearing your story. I'm sorry you had to go through that extremely abusive relationship. I hope you can heal from it and find a woman that truly loves you and cares about you with every fiber of her being, as you deserve. 🥺💔❤️

[@vinolabikunda7418]

You married a women who wasnt ready to be married. You are doing better as a single person. Stay blessed

[@toushiri9476]

No biiiiig nooooo He is a good guy and i hope one day he find a good girl too I am not saying go and search for one.. but at least keep your eyes open There are good people out there don’t punish yourself because of single woman Your sexual needs are not something to be ashamed for.. it’s more than normal.. they are life enjoyments. It’s just she couldn’t end the relationship and couldn’t say it clearly so she tried to make you feel bad so you are the one who stop it People like are wanted.. don’t let a good loyal girl goes a way just because you had a bad experience with a random bii**

[@tross8863]

He WASN'T ready to be married.

[@alanadenham7997]

Huh? He was literally a man-child who did nothing for himself or her and played video games all day. No woman wants to raise a man! No one.

[@sergeijegorov1440]

@@alanadenham7997 They had no money to do anything else and she wasn't letting him drive or do something, this is the only thing could do to stay mentally okay and relieve some stress.

[@alanadenham7997]

@@sergeijegorov1440 The reality is that while in school he could have worked on campus part-time and made some level of contribution. Per his own account, he went to school and played video games like a 15 year old. No woman will put up with that mess for long. "Let him drive" Lol He was grown, he could have caught a cab or walked. Lolol

[@77moonwalker77]

What a horrible experience. She was most definitely emotionally abusive.

[@timsteinkamp2245]

I'll comment to you but it could have been many others. It is life and no foul done. It is just an experience he had and shared. I didn't see him looking for sympathy. Something I learned is to never take sides in people's relationships because they may kiss and make up.

[@DX-d]

Are you kidding! she was the only one working & spending money ON HIM?!!! And for YEARS?!! Unbelievable. And he says now that he doesn’t want to be a provider for a woman!! Pathetic. No one in their right mind would be with a loser that takes money from women.

[@mateuszmazurek7991]

​@@DX-d Why is this any worse than a man spending money on his wife and working? That's MARRIAGE!

[@RATIMUS169]

Did not expect to hear a story like this today. Not sure how I got to this channel. I wanna say wonderful and warm things but I'll just say that I'm very happy and proud of you. ❤️

[@StanleyMaeschen]

Thanks for sharing your great story. So many similar experiences also in another country at that time. Keep up the good work.

[@mzansimomentsreloaded913]

Bro I cried when you said she didn't even give you food.

[@jnjerinduati]

She was a narcissist

[@ivanjdrakov1957]

Yeah the money for lunch was terrible, that made my eyes water.. No money for food and having to ask, beg for lunch money for school!!! I think that it's absolutely sick how she treated him... I'm sure he learned some super valuable lessons from this whole experience! Sweet Keep well and be safe everyone! 😁🇧🇬🛸

[@tyggy3]

Omg! I'm still crying! How could anyone do anyone like that, especially when they are from another country? My heart is sad for what he went through. I pray things are much better now 🙏🙏

[@ivanjdrakov1957]

@@tyggy3 can you actually believe the nerve this girl had, or has..... I'd try my best to get away from her asap....

[@mzansimomentsreloaded913]

@@tyggy3 Some people are just pure evil its sad.

[@inconspicuousbystander6224]

"She was a hairdresser..." Hooo boy, how many divorce stories include that line friend.

[@hassibk6121]

Matt W Lmao

[@johnsmith-vu3sv]

Lol what?

[@SenhorBeGo]

LOL...but you are not lying

[@MentalDeviant]

In the crazy hot matrix. Hair dressers are mentioned as a negative but they are not all bad.

[@attractiveforce8609]

@Assoluto Cosmico but when it comes to murder it's always the gardener^^

[@bretonvikanderakabret4468]

I appreciate your candor. We have very similar relationship/divorce/family circumstances. It's quite difficult. It changes you forever, and you will never figure the relationship or her out. It's all quite extraordinary, actually. I'm very sorry.

[@localstrangeness]

This was a wonderful video. We're with you man. So many of us have learned the hard way.

[@JoelAntwi]

well this was a surprise. really honest and real. I like it

[@rotmgWevouls]

You like beta males?

[@SProductions166]

Hella shed a tear for you brother. When you got the call and dropped the phone and hugged your friend.. I felt that

[@brelendwiggins7238]

Inspiring. Thanks for sharing

[@dougl8248]

Count yourself as lucky to have not had a bunch of kids with this woman and begun making money because it could have been much worse.

[@UndertakerU2ber]

I know I can’t watch this video. It’ll just resurface bad memories of my parents’ divorce. One of the worst parts was knowing how my mom beat my father over the most trivial issues, and my dad started making secret recordings of her abuse. When the inevitable divorce proceedings started, the judge just blindly went along with the narrative that my father was the abuser, and my dad couldn’t present the video evidence he had because the state has a law prohibiting secret audio recordings in a private setting (such as a home). My dad was then charged as a spouse abuser by the district attorney, and before the case went to trial, his lawyer went to the DA and handed him the videotapes. The DA said “Steven? C’mon you know better. We’ve gotta let this go to trial and see what happens as usual.” And my father’s lawyer just said “Just...look at the tapes, for Christ sakes...” The spouse abuse case was dropped the day after those lawyers talked with each other, but my mom was never charged, because the tapes were inadmissible in court. My dad still has a public listing on the docket that he was charged with assault despite the case being dropped. He never wants to talk or think about it, because the thought of being treated as the villain despite being the victim is a very, very painful experience to endure...

[@lifeandhomewithmeredith9050]

UndertakerU2ber I am so sorry you and your dad went through that! I learned early that life is never fare. Much Love

[@lowdieee]

How do you feel about your mom now?

[@user-cm9kd3bw7y]

Stay tough . Wish you and your dad the best .

[@AgeofMachines]

Yet one accusation and men are guilty....

[@Mike-yy4ll]

@land otter1 My wife broke my sternum - hit it with elbow (she used to do martial arts) for me hiccup for too long. When i got to a doctor, he understood it instantly and tried to call the police to arrest her. I refused, but that man is doing the right things and doctors actually can help you in those domestic abuse cases.

[@VangaroZeon]

It's really crazy how similar our lives went around our same respective ages. Same deal...met online, moved to a new country...the stressful visa process...the starving after I was robbed...Just discovered you today and I really enjoy the content.

[@jessealexander9074]

I had a similar experience with a long term relationship. Thanks so much for sharing your story, makes me feel less alone.

[@iamrockness]

I was with a beautiful girl for 3 years who was my best friend in every sense of the word. We treated each other so well, moved in together, bought a house, nearly got married and nearly had kids. We almost had the american dream, so to speak. Over the course of 2 months, I watched her emotionally and mentally fall apart before my very eyes and abuse me emotionally, mentally, and even physically. I was basically forced to move out for my own health as trying to keep our relationship together withered me away. It still baffles me how someone who looks you in the eyes and promises to Love you forever, talks about growing old with you, and even discusses the names of children with you can go to the lengths of hurting you with a smile on their face, blaming you for why they're hurting you, and then projecting their insecurity and infidelity onto you. I've learned since then that those people are only to be pitied and forgotten. They fester in their own narcissism and lies, never really feeling guilty until it's too late and they're desperate for some other sucker to love them. Truly awful stuff, but we all grow stronger from it. Much love to all of you.

[@iamrockness]

@Steven Boortz I totally understand your confusion and your pain. It is unbearable at times and it just feels like a pit of despair that you won't ever get out of. Just know that it's okay to feel all of what you're feeling, and that it will pass. What they did was cruel and unjust. They do it to try and rid themselves of the guilt. They do it because in their mind, if they can convince themselves of the lie that you're awful, they dont have to feel bad for hurting you. They will go to the extent of gaslighting you to the point of making you wonder if you were as bad as they make you think you were. However, a relationship takes two. Both parties contributed to the beginning and failure of the relationship. One the catalyst and one the receiver. The only thing you can do, is keep your head held high and maintain your dignity. Your time is worth way more than what they've done to you. It will take time, and it is going to hurt a lot. I mean, a lot a lot. I'm not going to sugar coat it. It will sting for a long time, but as a result you will gain wisdom, insight, and strength from it. So much so that someone who values you will notice it and be drawn to it. For now, let the pain flow. Cry if you gotta. No shame in it. People will hurt you in life, but you'll always be there to get yourself back up. Love yourself first, and no amount of BS others put you through will ever be too much. Take your time. You fuckin got this. I hope this helped. Have a great day.

[@AFuller2020]

And yet, everyone probably blames you....BTDT, go overseas, I did.

[@ahmedcheikh3082]

@@iamrockness u need some red pill wisdom

[@iamrockness]

@@ahmedcheikh3082 way ahead of you. I got therapy, started hitting the gym and eating clean, looked up guides to be a strong successful male, earned back my self respect, learned the nuance to women, studied stoic and taoist philosophy, and am now red pilled. I don't need nor want a woman for my happiness. After this arduous journey, I am much happier internally than I ever was. I dodged a great bullet, and I'm thankful for my freedom and all the babes I can talk to for free. Life is good.😎👌🏽

[@aliibrahim1001]

Wow you just described what my recent broken relationship of 10 years was, word for word! Its so difficult to process everything and live a life like the past 10 years never existed..

[@SiaarZH]

Josh being real the most wholesome thing on youtube. So many people "fake it till they make it" and keep faking afterwards too, because they never knew how to be real. Kudos Josh. You broke the algorithm and you're making (my) world better.

[@mountmeron267]

Wow 👏 Thank you for sharing. You are healing so many people through sharing your pain and victories.🙏

[@vincenthaegebaert1854]

Sounds like hell, glad you made it through.💪💪💪💪

[@Skychupie]

My goodness...you seem so sweet. This just sounds horrible. She was laughing at you when you're crying. I'm sorry but that's just a new level of evil.

[@edwardgeorge4881]

They're out there!👺

[@OhVictoria]

What a kind & patient human being you are. Wow. We don’t stop and think that men get abused this way just as women do. Just, wow.

[@paigelovette8156]

THAT PART.

[@75Cee]

I agree with you.

[@drakelondon6849]

Haters gonna hate and betas gonna bate.

[@Krbydav328]

and why don’t women think about the abuse they do to men?

[@suzannekeil3170]

Aww that’s sounds so harsh, really sorry you went thru that ❤

[@gabbyperez548]

I'm so sorry they put you through all this. You didn't deserve it. Sending you all the positive energy. ❤

[@IAmMyself3504]

You seem like a good guy, Ive seen plenty of your videos up until now. You certainly did great progress by either way ending that thing. Ive been in that ''thing'' as well, and I reached a point where I realised I was being treated badly, so I ended things and kept my ground. Something that this person wouldnt like. But I dont regret standing up for myself once in my life and never will. Congratulations young man, you did yourself a great service and I hope the best for you.

[@supern0is349]

"just suck it up" is the perfect excuse to coerce a man into doing things that are not in his own best interest and keep him a slave.

[@FGuilt]

Truth. This is the essence of MGTOW. We won't be lied to anymore.

[@littleripper312]

This is actually a common way people are taken advantage of and abused. I'm a female who will never marry but I know what you mean about men being told to just suck it up. I think men and women should still come together as a team to bring up children but everyone should be pulling their weight and not demand so much from their spouses.

[@dominikbradvica9406]

@@littleripper312 i do respect your opinion, but in this curent age, marriages /relationships are a dying relic. Feminisim destroyed the whole meaning of that term nowdays and to top that "whole MGTOW movment"is doing the same thing, marriage is a obsolete relic of the past. Also if you want to have kids, then you will have a shitty life without freedom.

[@FGuilt]

@@alexander8548 sure did. I'm paying 1600$ a month for ten years but I have the privilege of rebuilding my sanity. Cheers 🍻

[@FGuilt]

@@alexander8548 one can only hope. Be well brother.

[@friendlyfox2189]

Man I used to be jealous of you and pissed too. You know your successful, good looking, confident, well off. But knowing what you went through in life. I'm rooting for your success more. Keep up the good work man!

[@toomuchtruth]

Same here tbh. Shows why you should never compare your life to others or be jealous. You can never tell what they went through/are going through.

[@catzcatcher9772]

Just came across your video and it tore me apart just watching and listening to you talk about what you went through. How I wanted to give you a huge hug and adopt you as one my sons! You deserved so much better in life. I am so elated to know that you persevered and finished your degree. I am so proud of you. This woman didn't deserve to have you or be with you. She completely mutilated your ego, self-worth, and your whole demeanor. You are such an awesome and wonderful human being. You didn't deserve to be treated that way. The offer is still on if in case you're ever or get a chance in coming to California. Would love to meet you. I pray to God that you're now situated and functioning successfully. Keep looking-up and thrive each day! Take care.

[@CoralNeon-nk6vf]

Sharing this and being vulnerable shows just how strong 💪🏾 you are. New sub, thank you for all you do. ❤

[@avalerionbass]

I was in a 5 year relationship with someone I thought I was going to marry. Turns out I was delusional and she was a gas-lighting sociopathic narcissist. The pain was real, but talk about dodging a bullet.

[@StoicContrarian]

Derek Ball fellow musician; excellent. Been married 11 years; playing guitar is the only thing that wards off the depression.

[@crystalianike]

Me too! i dunno now who is my soulmate is just living best life now.

[@lavish_1717]

trojan Same! When I see my friends in miserable relationships, I’m like damn I’ve been blessed to be single lol

[@eminemilly]

@@StoicContrarian I appreciate you comment I'm struggling but I am getting back into guitar

[@KirstenMarie_MS3]

@@crystalianike There's no such thing as "soulmate." We aren't living in a fairytale or some sappy RomCom.

[@tellurye]

Shes crying and screaming at you, then 4 seconds later she is laughing .... yeah, sounds like a psycho, dude. WTF?

[@JustNodIfYouCanHearMe77]

Nope. Just sounds like typical Finnish woman

[@gmeister03]

Typical

[@minglee9288]

@@JustNodIfYouCanHearMe77 *most

[@donnalangley117]

@@JustNodIfYouCanHearMe77 sounds like my ex husband.. so it happens in both sexes. People are crazy.

[@winning3329]

The real problem is men just marry women soley on looks then get disappointed when she turns out to be a nut job. You men always chase the bad girls and turn your noses up at the good women just because they ain't hot.

[@bobv7753]

You're a good man & person Josh! You've done well surviving very hard life lessons so early. Continue to move forward. Very best wishes for the contented happy, healthy life you deserve. Thanks for sharing your story.

[@rickwaggoner8479]

Omg Josh, this breaks my heart knowing how you were treated, I would hug you till no end, greetings from Arkansas!

[@Donamtrx]

Crying doesn’t make you weak. It takes courage to cry out loud. It makes you human.

[@sugarcoma7662]

I love your comment

[@PatrickSmith-hv1um]

U only weak as a Man when u dont scream out Loud to GOD with tears Bro

[@Nihilist_Waltz]

I'm not sure. I still remember the first time I cried infront of my ex, and she laughed. Probably best to do that alone...

[@xoxoJGWS]

@@Nihilist_Waltz i can imagine that wasnt a good experience.. your emotions are valid tho, and there are people out there that would like to comfort you instead of laugh :)

[@Nihilist_Waltz]

@@xoxoJGWS Thank you. I appreciate the sentiment genuinely. However in general, when it comes to relationships dynamics between the sexes. As a man, you are expected to be the rock. If you're with a woman, and you start to become emotionally vulnerable wih her, she is hard wired to lose attraction for you. I understand that everyone is an individual, and has individual preferences, but if you tell men it's okay to cry in front of your girl, you're setting the guys up for failure.

[@Harry-nn4px]

"A poor man may marry but his wedding night is short." (Old Russian proverb).

[@taylorj6177]

I fuckin love it

[@user-ee8cq9jt3y]

Which means?

[@cx777o]

@@user-ee8cq9jt3y if you got no money, you get no honey (in this case no pussy)

[@bitzartdev]

I am actually russian and I am seeing this for the first time in my life

[@Harry-nn4px]

@@bitzartdev I read the expression in an Aleksandr Solzhenitsyn book some 35 years ago. He was using it as a metaphor for something in his musings that I long ago forgot. The literal meaning, however, stayed with me and is applicable to the poor boy's misadventure in Finland.

[@Dezzo0721]

Watching this 3 years after you posted this, and this story telling is very valuable to me as a 21 year old man wanting to be with a Dutch Woman from the Netherlands. Also im from the south of the US, studying mechanical Engineering and wanting to move in together in the Netherlands, and also failing many of my classes. I am terrified

[@brandiew7611]

As a mom of four, and a person with a son myself, it really breaks my heart that she said those things to you-- you're clearly a very smart, strong person. I wish you the very best and continued success in all your endeavors.

[@GearZNet]

“I will not be friend zoned by my wife!” 😂😂😂😂😂😂

[@benjisea]

GearZNet sad. Bad position to put himself into

[@APPi711]

MGTOW

[@SaraFJones]

Hannibal L yes, please go your own way and stay that way to spare people.

[@IronTeddyBear]

Unfortunately, as a divorced guy, it always comes down to this. Women lose interest in sex much sooner than men.

[@Gravitywalker20]

@@SaraFJones MGTOW is growing every year there, hoss. Plenty of "people to spare."

[@Judi-CA]

Josh, I saw your story. My first marriage was emotionally and verbally abusive like yours. When I started to seek healing through therapy and personal growth I learned that those type of relationships were good because it forces you to learn about your boundaries and stand up for them. I hope you find true love, not all people are like your ex so, don't shut out love! Best wishes, thank you for sharing.

[@oscarwilliamson1264]

Judi-CA1955,you don't deserve to be with a narc 😈!

[@ale347baker]

I would Not call those relationships good at all....however, once you realize you are in one, I suppose the best thing to do is look at the positive like you mentioned. Live and learn.

[@bull.dog.]

What is love? Love is first and foremost RESPECT! 2nd is DUTY! These days women have no respect towards men and no sense of duty at all!

[@LosBlancoo]

So much respect to you, I've learnt so much from you. Keep pushing on, you're so strong 💙💯

[@terryregas1748]

Well done. Good job. You’ve been through a lot that life throws us. However, yours seems condensed in such a short time.

[@Feedaneeshaqua]

Damn, the food part broke my heart. So sorry you went through that.

[@vonsimms9116]

Yeah, sure it did lady sure.