I Destroyed My Family - A Story I don't talk about

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[@JoshuaFluke1]

Here's the vid of my dad's birthday car - kzbin.info/www/bejne/Zom5dH93hZqGkNk Here's the vid of my dad quitting his job - kzbin.info/www/bejne/qKjEpqF9q6ygiZI I recognize that I didn't destroy them, but I'm not sure if we'd be all split of like this if I hadn't have tried to help

[@carolinaangele7547]

You are such an amazing person. The world needs people like you! 😘😘

[@theblur4828]

Hey I know it's hard man. My life turned out very differently, but I started in the same place as you. At least you have your youth, you know? Find a good woman, that's my advice. A career woman so you can have the safety of having 2 steady salaries, also a woman that is low maintenance, and you try to be low maintenance too, then make sure you both don't sweat the small stuff. Hang in there bro.

[@th3h0tpegla35]

@@amyp.575, you need to chill a lil bit

[@coachbluepill]

@@amyp.575 Do you have his memories to understand how he felt? He manned up pretty fast after he get over the shock.

[@toria165]

I am , you have to know the whole story. Watch past videos, his divorce and living in Finland.

[@maureenj.odonnell4438]

Forty years ago, my mother took out $10,000 in student loans, a Mastercard, Visa, phone and utilities in my name.It took me over a decade to clear my name. Not everyone gets good parents.

[@k3th.b.w122]

Dam 💀💀

[@superstraight173]

Mom was savage 😎

[@nicksennn]

Damn, man got a phone in 1981. Simply built different

[@GamrGalore3K]

@@nicksennn ._. landlines existed

[@c.f.okonta8815]

Damn bro

[@uppymcdowny58]

“I destroyed my family” You what mate? You did the best you could dude. I would have done the exact same thing

[@heavygustav]

Wait how did you get the Cog on your Username.

[@cavendysh]

Things that are going to fall apart, fall apart. I'm sure this would have happened regardless of your level involvement.

[@omemester6985]

@@heavygustav the wrench indicates that the person whos name it's beside is a "moderator". moderators can provide info on the stream they are on, but mostly they are there to keep the chat clean and safe.

[@heavygustav]

@@omemester6985 Awesome bro...Now im informed.

[@MrPsychosis]

@@heavygustav The wrench signifies a person that has paid a subscription towards the channel. You can join this channel by pressing the Join button next to the subscription button.

[@joetrosclair8434]

You didn’t destroy your family. You chose to step out of the fire

[@kristianmira4469]

Poor family

[@sugarmagnolia876]

Fact.

[@Lindasromperroom]

Yes! I have done the same!

[@thenickman420]

This resonates with me huge.

[@godthesonhasilluminatedme]

True…there’s only so much one person can bare

[@jocbrown]

Hey I'm 58 and I actually listened to your whole story it was like an audio book... you have the gift or orator and writer.... Put it together.. you will do Great

[@seahlilly]

He does have a great voice ☺️

[@almostlucky]

Audio book it is. Can't agree more.

[@AltaMenneh]

I agree!

[@picilocarnal]

I agree. Great voice, one great story teller. ❤

[@picilocarnal]

It’s not easy to listen to someone for as long as I listen to him. He is extremely talented.

[@NguyenDuy-jd6sm]

Joshua Fluke : - Full stack developer - Entrepreneur - CUTTING ONION NINJA

[@needthistool]

WH-

[@alejandrom.4680]

Nguyễn Duy Just making fun because you know that you and me cried at this

[@jayextarys8616]

Best comment

[@cranksinatra3591]

Josh, you're the most real dude on KZbin.

[@QuadraAce]

THE MOST.

[@justmeandmy]

almost as real as the XXX techlead

[@Regux]

Crank Sinatra so real! I actually went through the EXACT SAME situation...I took care of my parents for ten years after my dad’s many failed businesses and my mum losing her pension to loans she took for our school fees. TOUGHEST thing I had to do. I eventually built them a house and bought them a car. The house had 2 separate apartments so there is a tenant in one apartment from which they earn an income...all of this whilst going through an abusive marriage. I am a 38yr old female in Nigeria.

[@rantstips9231]

I agree!

[@Lokesh_Karki]

@@Regux there are more real superheroes in real life, than movies that are yet to be discovered

[@eusanagalilee360]

Man, from hearing your stories it's like you've lived multiple lives

[@bluefan651]

Yes and now it's time to live for YOU!

[@aiva729]

maybe he's just being a good storyteller, because we all like good stories. Or he may have a theatrical personality disorder lol

[@davebarnessr.5805]

I can relate, My parents( actually my dad) took advantage of me financially the last 3 yrs I lived at home before joining the Navy 3 months before I turned 18( mama co-signed) I worked more/less full time and went to school and every cent nearly went towards the family’s budget. My first payroll job when I turned 14( you had to be atleast 16 , but we lied on applications) . The pre computer era made this possible when the requested copy of a birth certificate never arrives and nobody follows up on it, made this possible. Anyway in those 3 yrs I managed to buy my first car with what very little of my pay I was allowed to keep, but my dad kept the car for himself, when he did that I saved and bought my first motorcycle which he sold while I was in Basic Training! This was many, many yrs ago. Today, I’m a grand father, with grandkids from 3 of my 4 adult children, and I can honestly say not only have I never taken a nickel from any of them, but there was always lots of cash handed out by dear old dad and my youngest actually drove a brand new car in high school ( no I’m not rich, just generous . I have always resented the kind of man my dad was and I vowed to not ever let anyone harbor those thoughts of me, because they never go away , they are regrets that race forward with the mention of a name.If I am to be resented, it will have to be my views or politics that differ, or I asked someone to do something I myself would not do( not happening). Anyway good luck young man, you remind me of a guy that got kicked around yrs ago but had a strong work ethic and a level head on his shoulders. You will be just fine! Just Keep Diggin Young Man !

[@stargazer2042]

Same here. Also, 75% of identity theft is committed by parents. My father is old and lonely and paying me back with his social security.

[@isagoldfield7393]

🌻🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼🌻

[@denissorn]

Even if you had given everything, all your salaries and whatnot to your parents you would have still remained in their debt (Unless they tortured you or something), and here you are whining because of a car lol. Further, you're kinda comparing your dad (Who could have been an asshole, we don't know) to his dad, what also sucks.

[@floursandroses]

I am also a grandparent from 2 of my 3 children. My mother was an addict. I can't relate to the theft as far as stealing from me because I was gone as soon as I could get out and she got sober when I turned 21. But I relate to you when you vowed to not be like your parent. I gave my children nothing but love, attention, and a 💯 alcohol and drug free life that I never received. I know that Josh recently found out his mother and sister were using drugs during this whole period and that is why they used kept using him for money. He also stated he thought his father might be using as well. My mom turned her life around and became the best grandmother in the world. I don't know my father. He is a very evil person and is serving 2 life sentences in Florida state prison for a very sick crime. Being a grandmother is the best feeling in the world. I love every moment of spending time with my children and grandchildren. I will never understand how parent can take advantage of their own children like your father and Josh's did. I don't know why the commenter before mine decided to make such a rude comment. The whole point of these videos and also what every channel owner wants is for people to comment. Whether it is because they relate to their story or any other reason. Comment helps the channel. What your father did was not ok and only someone who has serious issues themselves would comment what that person did. It's common sense and family values.

[@sijandyola2791]

damn, who's cutting all these onions.

[@belligerentinstigator944]

I think your greatest asset is that you are a great story teller.

[@JoshuaFluke1]

Hah, thanks

[@gangcai2876]

The great story teller gene is from his parents. He has to give back.

[@19Nightwing91]

yea man, I was just so engaged and emotional the entire video

[@bandanaboii3136]

Steve ballmer did a speech where he said that to be successful you need to be a great story teller.

[@theorangekindle4565]

And it would even be more accurate in a court room. And best if there would be self repairing robotic pet attached to me since birth which helps the AI in recording.

[@Francis_UD]

Jesus. You have a harsher experience than I do. I've essentially lost both of my parents and nobody among my aunts & uncles give me a shit or either just mocking me or taking advantage of me & what's left of my old man . Ending up homeless stranded in a hotel for more than a month. Well fortunately I've still got a roof over my head and a computer to continue pushing my projects ahead making ends meet for the time being. Jesus. I'm heading to Turkey & Belarus to see what I can do to get back on my feet. Dude. I wish you all the best. You have my respect & thanks for this video.

[@ElleAngeles]

Best of luck with everything

[@kevinsmithgaming]

hope you're doing better now. if not, i hope you keep fighting :)

[@kt114]

You’re killin it, Josh. This is only the second video of yours that I’ve seen but it’s obvious that you are a really stand up dude. You have a good heart. Hang in there.

[@Neroskully]

beautiful profile picture.

[@DX-d]

His wife was the only one working & spending money ON HIM?!!! And for YEARS?!! Unbelievable. And he says now that he doesn’t want to be a provider for a woman!! Pathetic. No one in their right mind would be with a loser that takes money from women.

[@j4y167]

@@DX-d for years, while he studied at college. women will preach and bitch about equality this and sexism that, but conveniently when it comes to money so many of you seem to be traditionalists. my father provided for my mother for 6 years while she got her bachelors and then masters degree, is she a loser that takes money from men?

[@iamf6641]

@@DX-d who josh?

[@bishop7299]

This was so intense dude. I wish more people can see content like this. People are so quick to judge others who are in tough situations without even realizing the unfortunate series of events that got them in that situation. It's so hard articulating the pressure to work hard to people who have stable families they can always fall back on. When your entire family depends on you it feels like you are carrying the weight of the world on your back.

[@xtusvincit5230]

@@dakoderii4221 Dude, you've got to snap out of the victim mentality. It's not gonna do you any good or help you change your situation. No generation has been more pampered than the millennials nor showered with more time-wasting and demotivating technologies than the millennials, not to mention dope. Get off your emotional couch a turn your situation around. You can, and only you can.

[@Edge9404]

@Reach Honduras Man US education is so sad.

[@Edge9404]

@Reach Honduras Yes. Getting this huge of a debt this early into your life is a scam.

[@Edge9404]

@Reach Honduras Other countries have that for free. Look at Germany and its public education. Look at Denmark, Sweden, Scotland etc. I don't understand why people in the US don't fight for a more fair education system.

[@kaplislemesis4789]

nah it was the sister who did the most damage, you take her outta the equation and none of these issues happen or of they do, the impact is minimal. I have witnessed very similar situations in other countries, the family model especially the modern one is prone to failing their daughters. They clearly did a good job with the son. Daughter just contracted entitlement. I call it Curse of adoration. Once u get it, is almost incurable.

[@user-qo7vq6yx8q]

1. I cried. 2. Your sis needs to wake the hell up. 3. Hi Joshua's dad! I hope you're well!

[@googleuser4720]

I dont think number 3 is doing too well

[@kyled3660]

There’s more to this story. Sounds like a major addiction, father, mother or sister, maybe all three.

[@DanielGillen]

Perhaps, as I understand non-competes in job contracts are basically unenforceable. It seems crazy the father could lose so much over it. Maybe he had a terrible lawyer...

[@kkittycatkat1990]

I have been watching all his crazy stories. I also believe there is addiction with his Dad for sure, probably sister as well.

[@pocketlinttreasures33]

@@kkittycatkat1990 100%. He even said he thinks its pain pills.

[@sugarmagnolia876]

This hurts my heart.

[@stamatiskotakis9110]

this comment sadly aged very, VERY well

[@PleaseSignOut]

Josh, what your family did to your finances is absolutely inexcusable. You are so strong for not being resentful. I hope your sister wakes up.

[@LilJbm1]

It's inexcusable but not unforgivable, and you should be able to forgive. That's the only way healing can start, and luckily it seems their family is doing much better now. Absolutely should try to avoid being resentful.

[@madratter7031]

@@LilJbm1 the healing will begin when you remove those people from your life, a thief is a thief

[@priscillam8903]

@@madratter7031 dude...wouah you are heartless

[@Jdb63]

@@priscillam8903 Fool me once, shame on you. Fool me twice...

[@The_Harylaba]

@@madratter7031 you're wicked

[@DmSujaEntrepren]

As a parent, you feel a lot of shame to go to your children for money. Honestly, dude, you are a good son. Make those videos with your dad.

[@bowilliam3865]

This!!!!

[@DmSujaEntrepren]

@Solve Everything Honestly, he's a good dude. Bad shit happens to good people.

[@brendonryan5285]

Yeah I think it would be good to see these wholesome videos!

[@curiousgeorge6921]

It's hard but maxing out his credit card isn't a solution you know...it seems a cowardly decision

[@LilJbm1]

@@curiousgeorge6921 It is a cowardly decision, but people are human and imperfect. When you are living with tons of problems and are stressed, have all these conflicting emotions, you don't think clearly and are desperate. You do stupid things. This is why you gotta forgive because we make mistakes, and as long as you are trying you are worthy of forgiveness.

[@djb6313]

THE reason I subscribed to your channel is YOU. The way you share your life and the wisdom you’ve gained in your young years is inspiring. You’re such a good man - smart, compassionate, level-headed, committed, integrity to the moon and back, loving, strong while not fearing vulnerability, principled, and so much more. You’re not perfect (no one is) but you are so human and not afraid to show it. Totally endearing and you’re the type of guy I would be friends with if we met. Keep being you! It’s beautiful.

[@toastom]

I completely agree. The first video I saw from him was his history of jobs and I thought that was a rough one.

[@saraelisa8938]

Beautiful and precise words, Denis! I quote you, man! Go Joshua 💪

[@DeadbeatSuperAffiliate]

You're a tough SOB Josh. None of this is your fault. You did way more than most would have. It is commendable.

[@dfxjedi]

Kinda surprised to see you here

[@lifeonwheels5756]

I stumbled on this and man, I’m glad I did. As a mother , I just want to say I would be so proud to have a son like you. God bless you in all that you do.

[@UPDT8243]

@ Three clowns, I thought so, too!!

[@lifeonwheels5756]

@@UPDT8243 I later changed my opinion of him after he spoke of what he expected out of someone he is dating, such as making her pay for her own dinner ect...

[@UPDT8243]

@@lifeonwheels5756 OMG!! Which video is that one?

[@lifeonwheels5756]

@@UPDT8243 not sure , you’ll just have to go thru them but yes he is the least romantic guy I’ve ever heard..

[@sadiemakesmesmile]

@@lifeonwheels5756 lol he is prob traumatised from what happened.. he likes people to be self sufficient

[@normalguy8499]

Dude you've been through more shit than most people can imagine. You're a strong man.

[@l2ob1222]

Your fucking kidding right

[@DerJuvens]

1.) your name and 2.) it's a very sad but a common situation in many families.

[@GuitarGangsterArmi]

“It’s not supposed to be like this” -My Papa after my 23 year old cousin died of a fentanyl overdose

[@mattkraig]

Thank you Joshua for being so open with us throughout your journey on this thing we call life. We realize you're putting yourself in an extremely vulnerable place, and we appreciate it a ton.

[@ancientname]

Yes, Matt. Truth spoken.

[@cherryness14]

Man, you’re the sweetest. You might get tons of comments from me about your videos, and not only are your Corporate Cringe videos absolute gold... your home-hitting videos are the absolute best. And it fucking hits home, let me tell you. Thanks. I’m proud of you for doing what you did to help them as much as you could.

[@MichaelGarcia2006]

Joshua, I wanted to tell you that you are a good man. One day you will look back on these situations and you will realize that they were the pieces that God used to build you up to be the man who he created you to be. It's situations like these that they don't only try us, and break us, but they also build us up. Make us question the kind of man we want to be. I feel something just telling me to tell you.. one day you will be that man who was brave enough, had courage enough to step out to do what needed to be done. To face your life head-on and that makes you a good man.

[@UPDT8243]

@ Ricardo Garcia, I just found out about his videos, and I loved your comment! You must be a wise and caring man!

[@trippmoore]

Lol, an all knowing all loving and all powerful being could come up witmh any number of life situations that could build someone up into a “good man” and all he could come up with was to have his parents steal and max out his credit card then take further advantage of his generosity almost destroying his life while destroying his trust in them and eventually taking everything and destroying their relationship ! Seems like god could have at least found a way to accomplish the same thing that didn’t involve his parents being huge assholes and taking advantage of their only son killing his self esteem. Either he’s not good, and he just wanted to hurt Josh but he was already of such great character that despite the evil meddling of this lesser deity he managed to get through it. The other alternative, and the more likely one according to Occam’s Razor, is that God doesn’t have anything to do with this becasue such a being doesn’t exist.

[@Lunamana]

I can't believe how privileged i am when i hear your story, i feel like i'm leeching off my parents for having to do 1 extra semester at uni because of my lazy ass. I don't think i could've handled your situation man :/ I love my parents and we have a great relationship but i can't even imagine my family in tough times and i guess that's a good thing. But one thing's for sure, i have to work my ass off like you to be successful at life, thanks for making this video and showing me that, it's a good reminder to do my best every time no matter the circumstances.

[@Strangeland701]

I had the same reaction I realize even the worst of my problems dont compare to situations other people are going trough

[@asdfkjahsdfkls1123]

You need to realize that Josh was thrown into this situation. Not to downplay what Josh has done, but more to up-play your individual talents. Don't underestimate yourself. Josh was a "naive" 20ish old when he went to Finland. His exwife made him the man with such huge discipline. When he almost lost his visa if he didn't pass all his classes is when he buckled down and hauled ass

[@lewisbirkett4428]

It's not leeching they created you so they're responsible for your wellbeing always

[@lewisbirkett4428]

@@numbhalo4901 how is it

[@HussainAhmad-kh3eo]

Hm

[@mbasakosani8386]

dude you tried to help your family dont be so hard on yourself , remember no matter how bad it is stack overflow is worse

[@markbertenshaw3977]

😁

[@segefjord]

Lmao

[@Isaac-ev3nq]

Mbasa Kosani Lmao glad to see I’m not alone with stackoverflow

[@brinker50]

😂

[@billiejoan86]

"The road to hell is paved with good intentions."

[@resared8538]

Damn Josh, you've been through some shit. However its these tough times that help you build character. Life is hard. I got nothing but respect for you.

[@vipatron]

Dude, this is so vulnerable and authentic. It must have been hard. I don’t know you, I just watch your videos, and this was so honest I feel compelled to tell you I admire you.

[@udntknw001]

Sometimes kindness doesn't end up being kind and cruelness doesn't end up being cruel. It makes things so incredibly complicated to do the right thing.

[@gulamelaka77]

Agree.. Nice isn't always kind and kind isn't always nice.

[@MrPaultopp]

Sometimes the more you give the more they take ....love sent from England 🇬🇧❤️🇺🇸

[@cees4617]

You didn’t ruin your family. I can’t believe all the stuff you’ve gone through.

[@arno94s58]

Dude I so feel for you. All the suffering you went through. You deserve every bit of success. You are a real inspiration

[@LilEugene100]

31:17 is the story of my life I'm tearing up now; loneliness from family 👪 is killing me. I miss my 2 sisters, my nephew, and my parents. I have no friends because they are not worth it. Stay blessed Josh! -Eugene

[@Ramtrap]

Hey man, you’re a really good dude and you’ve had a shitty string of luck. You deserve all the success you’ve gotten this far and more. I appreciate you! World needs more Joshua Flukes.

[@richardnicholas2957]

Will Dutcher I was going to comment but you said it all perfectly.

[@joeandjan_]

A good dude isn't enough to describe you man. I hope you are proud of what you have done and your success however you define it despite everything you've gone through. Life is gonna keep hitting you with more and more difficulties and you've gone through enough to able to handle whatever life throws at you. You're so admirable and I hope your outlook on life gets more and more positive. May God bless you and be by your side always. Joe C

[@SkysMomma]

Wow, so sorry you and your family have gone through so much. I hope things are better.

[@KlassicKent]

It’s hard to understand why someone so close could betray you. I’m sorry you had to go through this Josh. Thank you for sharing your story; I know it’s a difficult topic.

[@Mkarixb]

Very powerful story . My respect for you went up by 1000 when you helped move your family out of Georgia. Serious boss move. You went above and beyond. My grandmother always says things eventually fall into place. Stay positive and take care of yourself. 😊

[@r.m5883]

You didnt break the family, the family was together, they naturally drifted and you couldnt control it, it would have happened in Georgia too. Youre so strong and responsible :)

[@careerpathpodcast26]

You're a freaking inspiration. This made me thing about my finances differently and made me orient myself so that I could always cover an emergency my parents may run into in the future.

[@DutchmanRadio]

Wow, I ugly cried during this. Really really powerful video. God bless, I’m so sorry you’ve had to overcome so much in your life man.

[@MrShell311]

Joshau, your story really hit me in the feelers on many levels. We all have our problems and issues but it takes a courage to make such a heartfelt video. I'm sure that so many people can relate and watching you talk about your issues and how you're dealing with them will really motivate others to help themselves out of the pit of despair we often find ourselves. Sometimes we forget that we're not the only person in the world facing problems and it feels like the world is against you. But even if a person like you who seems to have so much more of their life has such a burden on their mind, but yet prevails to achieve and follow their goals, it's a real motivator. Your videos are really motivating and you have a positive impact on so many people. Don't forget that you mean so much to so many people. All the views and comments come from real people, a lot of whom respect and appreciate you a massive amount. Now I don't tend to show emotion or BS people with emotional fluff, but I can see when a bro needs it.

[@JohnRuggero]

They didn't want to bother you so they maxed out your credit cards and ruined your credit. Yup, no trouble at all...sheesh.

[@Argumentiveableish]

lmfao I know right!

[@attitudeproblem6462]

We didn’t want to burden you, we wanted you to live your life...so we racked up $5,000 in your name. AND we’re not paying on that $10,000 you took out for us either!

[@yeobo]

@@attitudeproblem6462 literally couldn’t get worse

[@johnbouzy84]

This guy is so real and relatable he just keeps breaking my heart every time I listen to him and yet I still can’t stop listening to him.

[@nileshudipi1691]

This was the most real thing I've experienced I've never seen anyone's life go this wrong and still continue to do his best And what the fuck do you mean by saying I destroyed my family My guy, u did ur absolute best and that's all that we can do Stay strong man, we are always here with you

[@crcurran]

Your Mom and sister failed the family. Your Dad and you tried to compensate. Fight or flight. You are both fighters.

[@Blensidi]

Why the fuck have men always to carry women's asses all the time though? I mrans it's so ironically that the ones who failed his family were woman but the ones who were trying to do something men...

[@crcurran]

Blensidi your first sentence is not true. You must have been having a stroke while typing the second sentence. It makes no sense.

[@Blensidi]

@@crcurran its just the moment I heard him saying how his family got in trouble because of her sister not only having the nerve of not helping her dad at all but also doing criminal actuvicties to make it even worse. Made me so angry.

[@Minoru72991]

You didn't destroy your family, bro. You did the best you could. No one will fault you for that. You did your best, Josh.

[@gaap12345]

Bro, just write a book. This is like the saddest ish ever!!!

[@jmy106]

I've never related so much to someone on social media before. Thanks!

[@franpietrowski]

I lost my dad when i was 14. In 34 now. There is a moment of every day where i literally have to keep myself up on my feet because i get hit with such a deep momentary sadness that i forget how to breathe and i have to will myself not to start crying. Everyday. I never had a chance to help him. My brother... I disowned him when i was 24. Drugs. Stealing. Lack of concern for his choices and i was struggling to find my way alone in life. After my father had died i got family hopped, my mother was not involved in my life to that point, and basically enrolled myself in a night school program to graduate 2 years early from high school so i could legally work 40 hours a week to support myself. Anyway... My brother died from a drug overdose a few Christmas's ago. I hadn't talked to or seen him or even thought of him for years, and even over the phone with the police as they told me i was very heartless about the situation. I went to i.d. his remains and see him before i called our sister and grandmother to inform them of the situation. Those few moments alone in the hospital room with his body was as tough if not tougher than losing my dad. I never gave him a chance and i have to own that for the rest of my life. Long story short. Family blood is no thicker than any other blood. It runs just as fast from a stranger. Looking back now, i wish i had the willpower to not just suck it up from day to day when the memory hits me. I wish i had the ability to try when it might have made a difference. I appreciate this video. Im so happy i subscribed to your channel.

[@tenminutetokyo2643]

Petro Success At least you had a good one. Mine destroyed my spine and my business at the same time. He always verbally abused me as a kid and even tried to physically stop me. There are advantages to being alone,

[@NoName-to5xl]

Trying is better. No regrets that way.

[@doxydad2818]

We are similar my man. Dad was taken young too. Hope you're doing okay these days?! Lost my brother same way in 2018, now his son, my Nephew, is on that path. Most of us humans learn after our mistakes, but your story will possibly help other's before it's too late. And sometimes, there's just not much we can do either...

[@MsRotorwings]

That’s deep. Thanks for sharing. Grief is painful. I can’t imagine losing my father at 14. Have you ever received counseling? Addiction stole your brother.

[@wolfumz]

I worked as a drug counselor for homeless and probationers. With your brother, I think you did the best you could. There's no manual for how to deal with addiction in the family, and people who haven't been through it sometimes struggle to understand how painful, enraging, and terrifying it is to go through. You didn't cause his addiction, and you couldn't have cured it, either. I really hope you'll consider professional counseling to talk about your losses. It can seem silly, that talking and doing these thought exercises is supposed to help with something so enormous and painful... but you won't know unless you try. If you can find a trauma-informed therapist, who is experienced/willing to work on any trauma that comes up, it could make a big difference. It did for me. I went though stuff during my childhood and my addiction where I didn't even realize i was carrying around this trauma for years and years. Once I worked on it with a professional, I noticed differences within the first six weeks. I started to really feel good. I started to feel normal. I wasn't wracked by the same old cyclical thoughts and memories anymore. I stopped having so many nightmares. I got clean and sober, and stayed that way. It's been many years, now, since I started that therapy, and internally, I feel like a new person. Just know, recovery is possible.

[@Welcome2Niches]

These stories about what happened to you fascinate me every time. I am so sorry you and your fam have gone through this. On a brighter note, you are an excellent storyteller.

[@charleshemphill5447]

I salute you Josh. You have been through a lot of bulshit aka life. You are strong and truly a beautiful soul. Shame on your family for not being responsible especially once you took them under your wing they needed to step up to the plate and yet they did not. Enough of that. I would have done the same as you and I understand it which is why it angers me. The most positive aspect about these stories of yout life ( I have watched 2 so far) is that you do NOT take the victim attitude. Instead you learn you grow stronger and you become more aware of life and what really matters. Keep sharing your stories buddy and keep strong you are doing great and you are on your way to better places as you grow. Love ya Bro

[@hyesuwon585]

I'm so glad I came across your channel. I just appreciate how you got up and better your life with everything you've been through. I'm also on my own now. I walked away from my family cuz Im so tired of being the scapegoat (being blamed, shamed, ridiculed, mocked, held back from my dreams). Nobody listens to me. I don't blame people for avoiding me thinking that I am negative. I've learned to be silent about everything. But listening to you, telling and showing people that no matter what she you are in, you can get up and get out from it. Especially your story in Finland and about your family; THANK YOU. I just don't feel so alone hearing that and I'm so inspired to get up and better my life. Thank you.

[@quantummath]

Dude, believe me, you would never regret helping out your parents in hard times. That's the one thing that I've learned in life. More power to you and wish your parents all the best.

[@gidlesbird7820]

Haha lol, after seeng how it turned out it seems u were wrong

[@KS-cl8br]

Really stupid saying.

[@akua171]

Mad respect. I'm in a similar predicament as well with my family. It's really hard. Thank you for posting this.

[@aaronpcjb]

There's a book I remember reading called: "The Black Man's Guide Out of Poverty" by Aaron Clarey. There is a chapter where he speaks about the hindrance of helping family and the costs of culture and moral duty - he predominantly talks of sons feeling they need to support their single mothers as "man of the house". In your case, your parents didn't make poor choices but fell on extremely hard times and you made it your moral duty to help them. Your plan was admirable and likely would have worked if it were simply you and your dad. You felt compelled to support your father, your father felt compelled to support your mother, your mother felt compelled to support your sister, but your sister felt compelled to support nobody; she is the most worrisome character in this story. I'd focus some attention on building her self-esteem. If she's unresponsive to help, cut her off because watching the people you love self-destruct is painful.

[@c.rincon7145]

You have to keep your mental health !!! You have done the best you could and beyond. You are experiencing life as is everyone else. Worse is out there than what you going thru. Again, Your Mental Health is important !!!

[@eddiejaoude]

Man intense 🤯. Great to see the truth and not the usual social media BS, “my life is perfect”, thanks for sharing. All the best dude, you rock, looking forward to the new style videos with your dads adventures / reacts

[@justinbixeman617]

I had a very similar thing happen to me in 2008, and sort of perpetuated itself throughout most of my adult life. My dad left my brother and I in a house that was foreclosing and I had no idea until one day a sheriff came to our door and asked for my dad. I had told them that he hasn't been around in months and I don't know where to find him. I was in total shook, I was 18 years old, my brother was 15. My dad wasn't answering his phone, we had 30 days to be out with no where to go. My brother ended up dropping out of hs and living on the streets for 10 years before he got his shit together. I could go on about this and what happened in between the 11 years since then. Life isn't easy it's not meant to be. We are all heading towards the same fate. We have to help the people we love the best we can and if they aren't grateful for the help and reciprocate even it just by staying out of trouble then you have to move on and take care of yourself. I'm sorry about your loss, and I hope the best for the future of your family. I enjoy your insight on things and how you share stuff like this. Kind Regards.

[@Myraisins1]

Going through a tough time right now. This helped me. Thanks for sharing.

[@alejandrom.4680]

I truthly cried at this video, at your story, at how you treated and made your best at this critical situation. I hope you my bests, I wish to your father my bests, and I’m really sorry for your loss. You bring me in tears, but they aren’t comparable with your tears. You are pure gold man.

[@laurenj3268]

Most dev channels advertise how to "get rich quick" if you put the grind and hustle in first. Josh, you're one of the real ones. Thanks for telling it like it is and sharing your life story as well as your dev journey. It is so similar to what I've been going through these last couple of years. Also, I'd love to see Millennial vs Boomer videos 😂😂

[@PixelJunks]

Dude I'm so happy I found your channel by accident. You're the most humble dude ever from my perspective at least. HUGE RESPECT from me to you for all you've done. Cheers to you dude!

[@evensron]

Man, it’s been awhile since I shed a tear. Your story hits me. Keep your chin up

[@agnesmonalisatucaliuc9579]

We need more of this reality, I'm happy you show that part of a man and being truthful to your life journey

[@in7l]

This video teared me up. I have a huge respect for you, man! You've been through a lot but you've always tried to do the right thing!

[@Atheist269]

You didn't destroy anything, you did your best man.

[@yulyasevelova769]

Joshua, you didn't destroy your family. Life in America has changed since 1980. The laws don't work for the common man anymore. They work for the rich. The country is in dire straits. The old rules don't apply. And, new laws about credit are coming into being soon. More info later.

[@yeobo]

it’s really inspiring to hear all this that you’ve gone through and see you be this successful, your willpower is amazing josh

[@daRich_X]

Heartbreaking. So many ongoing difficulties. Please dont feel bad about sharing these stories of your experiences. I really hope that things get better somehow.

[@davidboivin4111]

How can you label this 'I destroyed my family'? It sounds like you did everything you could to save them but they still destroyed themselves. It's hard but at one point you have to let it go. I know: I cut ties with my family and moved out of my country.

[@mountainman6172]

I fervently agree. I'd never satisfy them and, unfortunately, longed for their acceptance, love and warmth. Bit unreasonable to seek validation, love and acceptance from someone who's oblivious to those concepts/feelings; might as well be alien language. There's only so many times you can silently forgive them. Soon or later, you're going to have to live your life and we're not getting younger lol

[@Soumya041]

Clickbait bro but I am not angry it was so good.

[@Mikorkor]

Man your Channel is growing fast and for a good reason.keep it up you’re probably the only youtuber I actively watch and like to help the Algorithm, put more ads in your videos cause in the whole 33 mins I encountered 0 and I’m not using Adblock.

[@phoenixflightmanual3887]

So great that you share your story so openly!! It’s very powerful 🙏🏽

[@PumpkinSpicePretzels]

I'm so glad that you're willing to tell these stories... a lot of people are suffering through things like this and blame themselves and feel guilty for not doing enough while being eaten alive financially by family or friends no matter what the reason is. That's why these videos are among the most popular on your channel.

[@RedTitan5]

You are a good son.. Some americans this days wouldn't do the same

[@GuitarGangsterArmi]

RedTitan5 I wouldn’t have. My dad is a jerk. What this man did for his parents was very nice.

[@RedTitan5]

@@GuitarGangsterArmi my dad is also same with yours... But he lives with me... But im not a good son like you and joshua..

[@mathewbrown37]

Bruh.......you are an incredible human....much love coming from Portland

[@belindaroulston152]

You are amazing Joshua, wow how many hurdles you had, and you were so resourceful. You deserve so much respect. For a young guy at your age and providing for your parents and supporting yourself. So much admiration for you.

[@PechPongTT]

Thank you for sharing! Its great perspective about life. Keep your good attitude.

[@gramzulu]

I have mad respect for you, Joshua.

[@ariellau9170]

This video popped up in my recommendations and I teared up after watching the whole thing. I don't know who you are but what you did is admirable. I wouldn't be able to do what you have done for your family.

Duuude, you can't even imagine how many people can relate so much & you inspired them with this! Cheers from Europe!

[@DSavageLife]

Thank you so much for sharing this. I can relate so much to that family situation, especially with your dad. I’ve realized by watching this video, I have a lot of trauma I haven’t been willing to face and I’ve already done so much inner reflection. Thank you. Here’s hoping to find peace and stability in both of our journeys.

[@1013katya]

Hey man, really sorry that your grandpa passed away. May he rest in peace.

[@Tiffanyt899]

I feel you on some of this - I've went through similar credit situations with one of my parents but the action behind it was not as pure as your parents. I'm happy to be in a situation where I can help out my siblings and parents. You've clearly went above and beyond and I know deep down your family is grateful for your efforts.

[@tonydynamite33]

You´re a solid Cat. Much respect to you and many many more blessings to you and your family

[@notsure6222]

Couldn't have know man, you did a great think. You were in a position to help and you did, who knows how things will unfold based on our actions. Sorry it ended the way it did, but you're not alone in this situation, my family is split the same way (not the same things lead to it), but we are all in different cities and countries even, so I know how it is and the thoughts you mentioned when you were looking at the windows of houses really resonated with me (I do the same thing when i see families together). Keep your head up and keep doing what you are doing!

[@maryalexandriamailler2255]

Wow.. Just wow.. One of the best videos I've spent a half hour watching in 2019.. Thanks for sharing... wow.

[@animel03erlol34]

You are doing great with helping your family out, I’m sure they are appreciated you. Your family has going through a lot. Hope your dads health is improving

[@Fishingnlife]

Josh I have been listening to these big events in your life, they are some of the saddest experiences I have ever heard someone going through. Especially since your heart is always in a good place. I thought my life was tough but it isn’t anything like these stories. Keep your head up.

[@mercymurimi3337]

This guy has been through so much and i just pray for healing for him. You are such an inspiration . It takes character to go through so much and get up and keep going.

[@karldilkington8587]

A lot of people try to pretend they've had it rough, but I think the people who've *actually* had it rough know the value in being positive and spreading positivity around. Props to you for spreading positivity. Your videos helped me get my first programming job less than a month ago. You're one youtuber who deserves the success for sure.

[@alldogsgoheaven]

Everybody has problems... Everybody is different... Uno

[@mistywindy]

Everyone's "rough" experiences are unique to each individual. You can't say whether or not someone has it "rough." You're putting expectations on what you think rough means.....don't do that.

[@xyhmo]

The people who really have it rough stop functioning. Their brains literally stop working properly, eg it becomes impossible to even speak fluently, can't find words properly, sentences come out all jumbled etc, concentration gone, memory impaired, and many other things. Anyone who's successful and fluent and functional isn't anywhere near this. They might be unhappy and whatnot, but negative feelings is a much earlier stage. The problem is you never hear from the people who are truly destroyed, they're not the ones telling their story on social media.

[@tenminutetokyo2643]

Karl Dilkington I just live outside off a bike and eat tree bark after I read “Eat the Trees” by Lyda Runyon. Rent is for suckers.

[@moha-tk5gz]

Thank you for sharing your story with us brother. You have been through a lot and I hope this is the beginning of a joyful chapter in your life. Much love and respect.

[@elepapelashvili9553]

This whole story and now events unfolded for you is so heartbreaking. I just came across one of your videos today and i just had to know more about your life.... i'm sorry the it has been so heavy and unbearable for you guys. Its incredible how much you had to take on your shoulders quite early in life. I appreciate you from halfway around the globe ❤️ love from Republic of Georgia

[@nym4960]

I teared up watching this. Such a powerful story. I hope God bless you and your family.

[@mjyoussef7417]

The world needs more caring people like you. You are real bro. The fact that you took care of your parents and you had to go thru all of this speaks about your character. It takes a lot of courage to speak your story on KZbin. Destroyed your family? I have no clue why you would think this way. To me, it sounds like they'd be in a worse place if you didn't help. You've not only helped your family but also helped others relate and even motivate them to do good for their parents and be a good person. You are definitely an inspiration for a lot of people, and certainly me. Keep pushing man. The sky is the limit for you, you got this bro.

[@jmannumbers12]

With this content the YT algo will chase after you. You're doing things right Josh, keep going strong 🙏

[@newlifenewme7316]

Josh 🥺 you are..... wow. You’re a stand up man being so young and being level headed. How hard that time was for you. We need more men like you in the world. Definitely pulling at my heart strings.

[@scarlettchappendenden9059]

Wow! Just wow.....Your story telling skills are phenomenal. Brilliant. Thank you and I send you love from London. To all your family. My eyes were nearly into my laptop. Write a book. x

[@SGM805]

Sorry for ur loss, I’m getting a lot of life lessons from you, thank you 🙏

[@SammySideFX]

That was incredibly inspiring, I'm touched, I can't wait to show my gf she'll appreciate the struggles you've been through, it sounds like these trials were the gauntlet that birthed the tenacity inside you. Whenever I feel like things aren't moving along or growing or that I'm a loser with nothing to offer, I always feel like I've learned something after watching your videos, gained some new insight. I'm just blown away by your story, I try to imagine myself in those situations and I'd hope I'd do the same for my parents, and that I'd just pull up the big boy pants and power through, but I really don't know, either way it's highly admirable, and I'm in awe of your resolve.

[@matthewhughes6889]

Thank you so much for sharing this