I'm in a rut.

[@B_Sledge]

Yep! Motherhood is HARD!! I let everything go when I had my daughter. I used to rock the lash extensions, keep my nails done and changed my hair often. I had my daughter, loc’d my hair and let EVERYTHING go cause I just didn’t have the time OR the money anymore to do that. I have a 1 yr old, 9 yr old, and a 12 yr old step son!!!! I be going through it!!! It’s draining emotionally AND physically. You’re completely exhausted at the end of the day! I’m just now starting to try to snap out of it. It’s a struggle for me to get dressed up now and I only do it when an occasion calls for it. So I feel you, wholeheartedly!!!

[@teacher4life06]

You have every right to pivot and change directions. You have every right to change topics. Yes, I started following you because of your locs and you are definitely part of the reason why I started my locs, but if what you're doing doesn't feel authentic, dont do it. you have the opportunity to work from home while doing what you love! With that said, mixing topics wouldn't work for me, but it sounds like you can spend more time creating content for your other channel and have more fun doing it. I probably wouldn't watch day in the life videos (honestly, I'm here for the locs and self care), but I'm sure others would love to watch whatever you post. You may lose followers, but you will gain new ones too. Do you, Sis.💚

[@klynn8308]

Thank you for being transparent. I’m not gonna lie, I’ve been here for the locs. But there’s only so much you can do, especially after 5 years. Things change; seasons in our lives change. Life itself is a journey. The locs are just a part of it. Do what comes natural. You’ll continue to shine.

[@mslydiaslife]

Desiree rebrand your channel to a lifestyle channel! Including hair and beauty, vlogging your life as a wife, mom and boss. It's done all the time. Life is a evolution. You will continue to evolve and grow each year. Your true followers will grow with you.😊❤️

[@taraw.5852]

You’re so precious and genuine and I appreciate that. My heart aches for you- you seem so torn. I had to increase the video speed to figure out what was going on. We all have the same amount of time in a day. My suggestion would be to just prioritize yourself, your husband/ marriage, and your baby, and your spirituality. A strong, close family is crucial in these times. They are real. Internet likes and people come and go. If you can’t put out videos for online folks, they’ll just click on the next or rewatch your old ones. You’re “ LIKED👍🏽” in your own household and that’s all that matters in real life. Personally I’m not interested in anyone’s lifestyle videos so I wouldn’t watch. I wish you and your family the very best whatever you decide💙

[@ozzy4323]

Hi Desi!! I've been watching you, b4 your locs and you were vlogging your life going into your locs and I loved that. I didn't know you had another channel??...gonna have to binge watch it! YES, combine those channels, that would be great! We started our locs at the sametime, but I have restarted mine twice, lol!

[@Antionette89]

Post whatever content you want to post. This is your platform. I'm not interested in new mom content but I'm sure you have some viewers who are interested in that type of content.

[@GWhite-fq8je]

What you are feeling is totally normal. Motherhood is a life changing event and we change as a result. My boys are 18 and 13 and lm just feeling like l can breathe easier and regain me. Its a sacrifice but worth it. Dont be too hard on yourself. It will all come together soon! I think you already incorporate both(locs and life) well here already. I would love more of that!

[@ZPHINEST496]

Sis, when we add the honor and title of "mother", there becomes a creation of a new part of your personality. It takes time to reconcile the hormonal changes that happen for at least a year after giving birth. Take time and enjoy the process.

[@sandratee5547]

I am very much open to you revamping your page and will continue to support.

[@LakeiaCreates-2010]

Definitely mix it up and do what makes you happy. I’m one that has been here since the beginning and have watched you on your journey of life and it’s exciting to see. So yes, please continue to share all of that!

[@MindFullNicole]

Girllll. I felt every part of this. My baby is 10 month old. First time mom at 33 (I made a video on my channel some months ago) but GIRLLLL.....I be so tired by 8/9 o'clock everyday. Not easy at all. I can't even find time to do videos like you do. I admire you chica

[@MindFullNicole]

And yeah my fiancee is very supportive but momma is like THEREEE DAY/NIGHT I semi freeform, I wash once a week and use aloe vera water. No time really for nothing else

[@ewest1471]

I'm right there with you. My little one is 8 months next week so it's nice to know I'm not alone. You do what's best for you. I'm a forever subscriber and love all the content you share.

[@SelenaT]

✨❤️Be Authentically You. Period.!🥰

[@brandimcd2564]

I remember this struggle, it's like you're anxiously waiting for them to be a little more independent and you don't have to hold them constantly, and then boom. Things get better though.

[@LadyDee150]

Motherhood brings a whole new set of responsibilities with it. It's almost impossible to explain to someone who hasn't had the experience how much it changes life albeit in a good way. Girl, you are doing well to juggle wifely and motherly duties and whatever else, while still doing videos. Your body and mind may adjust over time or it may not. But it's all good which ever way. Connect with us in whatever way makes you comfortable. I am sure your loyal supporters will appreciate any new and varied content you present as we go forward. I know I will! God Bless🌹

[@HolisticSoul123]

It’s very overwhelming when you’re a new mother when your son is 3 you will begin feel much better give yourself time

[@amberherron503]

Hi, I entirely and understand, but you got to take time for yourself. I have a 14-year-old and a 9-year-old. I still have to take my breaks, but you got to do your time during naps and when the family wants to spend time with him. Sometimes you have to get up earlier than your child and sip some tea and read the bible; just embrace being you without the titles you hold. It takes the little things to get you thru but trust honey, you will get back to you, and the older your child gets, the better. The good part is you got help. I am a single mother with two and trust me it was hard in the beginning but you will get back to take care of you in a major way. Also take your channel in every area of you. You can mix it up.

[@StayGOALden]

We’ll said Sis…💯

[@angelab.1201]

Girlll we support you, and I will watch whatever your content is on your channels 😉 Keep your head up. We got you. We are here for you ❤ Girllll do you!!!!!!

[@Sweetladyebony]

You are amazing doing all this... take care of yourself mama and I am here all the way.

[@morandalanier6450]

I started watching of course because of your locs and me starting my daughter's locs, but I subscribe to both channels. I love seeing and hearing about your new baby and family life. Do what makes you happy.

[@43nesspkindp48]

I would love to see more photography content. Although Im not sure if you are a photographer or not lol. For some reason that comes to mind when I see your channel. Also, some cooking recommendations would be great.

[@vikkideclue9289]

You are awesome! I enjoy you and the skits you do are hilarious! The first year, being a new mother is a challenge. Babies grow and change so much in the first year! Along with the other challenges you are going through, it makes total sense that you feel “in a rut.” We are here for you! Thanks for being so real! You are helping someone else through your transparency. Keep up the good job!

[@da_bigleadtv5658]

Congrats I just had a daughter 10-23-21 and I know what you mean you will get all your mojo back soon just keep doing your thang

[@LakeiaCreates-2010]

I know you’re not looking for advice but the thing that comes to my mind is evolution. You’re not the same person that you were before having your baby. You’ve entered a new chapter of life and it’s going to require a different you. No you don’t have to loose yourself, maybe just readjustments. And self care as well as your KZbin channel might look a little differently with your new role. And always remember to be kind and patient with yourself. You got this! Love and light to you always 💖

[@paulabrowning922]

You were 1 of my 1st youtubes People that I watch since I started my locks four and 1⁄2 years ago. I have not stopped watching you since LOL. Whatever you choose to do I for 1 will be here watching you whether it be hair, family or whatever. I love watching you I wish I knew you in person LOL your spirit and Personality is so stunning god bless you and whatever it is you do I will be watching

[@prettyinpurple]

I support you on both channels! I know how you feel as a content creator. I love making hair videos but there's only so much you can do besides forcing things sometimes. That's why I combined my hair and thrifting videos together now. I think all KZbinrs eventually gets to this point

[@DesireeMarie]

❤️❤️❤️

[@enigmaticminx]

I'm all for doing more videos other than hair. I think people came to your channel for hair, but they stick around for your personality. I'm not married and not a mom, but I watch videos like that all the time. And who knows, it'll probably help you reach new viewers that you wouldn't have gotten if you exclusively keep doing hair videos. Best of luck! ❤

[@thetaureanmisanthrope]

There's nothing wrong with not being okay all the time; especially being a first time mother. I hope you have a lot of support because having people be there for you for at least the first year of your child's life is critical. There's also no harm in leaving baby with someone who you trust so that you can enjoy a few hours to yourself. That's so important. Trust me, I've been where you are before. Your feelings are valid, and it will take you some time to adjust to your new life, but being surrounded by supportive people makes a world of a difference.

[@wendypierre6863]

First of all change your language, when you say “I am” follow with something positive! Your words have power and creates what you speak! So not “I’m in a rut” 😁🥰 “ I’m in transition, or my energy is low . Much love ❤️ I raised 2 boys now adults. I’m 68😁

[@DesireeMarie]

You're absolutely right ❤️ thank you!

[@deebarksdale3228]

As soon as I read the title, I was like, "Wow, me too!"

[@buddhagoddess1]

Sounds like depression. Take care of yourself! Sending you good thoughts!

[@paradise95]

I think you should mix it up and have just one page. You can have a playlist for your different content.

[@mila8239]

Yes, would love to see more bts real life kind of content on this channel. Thanks for asking us ❤️ just out of curiosity, will it overlap with content from your other channel? xx

[@denycew]

I watch both of your channels and I am just wondering if the change here would differ from the other channel or would you combine the 2 and have just one platform? Any which way you decide, I will.always support you...I have been subscribed for a long while and I truly appreciate your content. I know it will be greet no matter what you decide. Blessings

[@sinceresong9907]

It takes time...remember your body is still recovering from the birth. Breast feeding is an amazing gift for your child(helps bonding) but it is draining to the body. Having children full stop is a big life adjustment in different ways and yes the early years of child rearing are generally demanding(all about baby). Once children start nursery it is the game changer to focus some time on yourself. For now just be easy on yourself your doing fab ...many of us mothers can relate. Please keep discussing the reality of motherhood.

[@DesireeMarie]

Thank you so much for your encouragement ❤️ you are totally right about the affects of breastfeeding and the first few years. I will definitely keep mom topics a thing on this platform.

[@sinceresong9907]

@@DesireeMarie No problem my sweet. I'm 43 now, been through it . I have had two very active sons. Both beautiful rewarding experiences but I was drained.. exhausted in the early years..Just like you I was at home with both(that is no easier option) in fact going out to a job would be easier. Looking after a home babies partner/ husband(properly)and finding a bit for yourself is strength. Remember creating this safe secure base for your little boy now will set him up for the rest of his life. My youngest is 8 now (has Autism)so we ride through different ongoing challenges still. However, I can really see now where my commitment to him, sacrifices made, has paid off...he is exceeded medical predictions. Eat lots of high carb foods/ protein. Check out natural remedies... vitamins you can supplement your diet with that don't interfere with breast feeding to help balance your hormones and give an energy boost. Love to you my sister.

[@jasminewilly175]

I think you should switch it up. It can still be relatable and most importantly genuine.

[@lindaclark1875]

Hi, I would like to see more of your life as a mother and how you handle it and what you go through with being a mother. I would also like to see you do try on hauls every now and then when you can.

[@dotsonms]

What's the second channel?

[@DesireeMarie]

Hey love! Here it is: kzbin.info/door/ZM2vOEaQkL70-GET88TgCA

[@dotsonms]

@@DesireeMarie thank you dear!

[@LatoyaNickee]

Your brand is allowed to change and evolve as you do, love. I had to learn that. I also realized that who you are in reality doesn’t have to be separate from your “flagship” selling point/product/service. Why did you choose to open another channel? You could have created a playlist of your life vlogs on here. The playlist would have separated the content into categories but make it more manageable and authentic for you. Just a thought.

[@APlanetCalledOther]

Nice blouse, top!

[@tammywilliams9138]

Behind the scenes content

[@SelenaT]

🎉🥳‼️

[@lenaparker4576]

Although I have no children, I hear you when you say, you’re busy with family and other things. It’s very difficult for you to take time for SELF. I’m sure there will be many that will suggest ways and tell how you can do that. You mentioned yourself, that locs are supposed to give us a certain amount of freedom, right? Have you ever tried to free or semi free form ?? I invite you to check out 2 young ladies channel….Ingrid from Toronto and Berny Heals. I personally use this method and it has really saved sooOO much time and money ! I’m very interested in what you think.

[@baltimore4life34akallswerv3]

😍🌟✨✨✨

[@angie9042]

Girl...Do you! Mix it up

[@jillianlavaughnforteau-fra1075]

I enjoy your content as is but if you feel the need to make improvements, that's quite ok. I tink if you already have another channel that deals with your life and family it should be separated though. I will support anything you decide.

[@deshannsears5392]

Nice

[@DesireeMarie]

❤️❤️❤️