I'm Jealous Of My Husband's Ex-Wife Even Though I'm The Reason They Divorced r/Relationships

[@ondank]

"I guess I know how she felt" No you don't. She got blind sided by a home wrecker and a cheater. You were just dumb enough to marry a cheater.

[@xelectrix]

How does the saying go? "You lose them how you get them." 😬😆

[@Warlady_]

Exactly 💯 💯

[@pippo17173]

I still love how she knows no one will sympathize and still tries to ask for it lol.

[@MrJpaynebb]

​@@pippo17173what's shocking is she's shocked that he's not loyal to her, the mistress after betraying his wife. No one other than OP is surprised by this turn. No one.

[@MemristerBoogieDown]

@@MrJpaynebb…What’s that saying? When a mistress becomes a wife, a vacancy opens? Something like that.

[@Russman67]

The ex-wife just turned kindness into a psychological Mortal Kombat move And it is glorious! After the update: FATALITY!

[@THTB614]

Flawless Victory

[@nationalinstituteofcheese3012]

She wanted the ex to be angry so she’d be the crazy abusive ex in OP’s eyes

[@pollyc.1957]

😂😂 it's the return of "Friendship"! ✨️FINISH HER!!✨️

[@mztweety1374]

And I love it. If he’s still married on papers don’t believe a word he says.

[@lynnw7155]

The update is great! Ah, karma. It's satisfying to see both homewrecker OP and the cheating husband unhappy with the life they created.

[@Shinukuro]

He’ll cheat with you, he’ll cheat on you. When a mistress becomes a wife she creates a job opening. 😂😂😂😂😂

[@TheCentralScrutinizerAgain]

or she`ll cheat on him, either way building a house on quicksand never works out...

[@duraoon2153]

Permission to steal this.

[@Shinukuro]

@@duraoon2153 go for it!!!

[@wordforger]

Yep. Most fatally obvious with Anne Boleyn.

[@anthoniquebethley9711]

James Goldsmith ( a former member of european parliament who was married 3 times ) is usually said to have originally said this. The term " Wifetress " ( the title of a book series by Melinda Graves ) is to describe people like OP in Story 1.......

[@LKiel-j3m]

Do you know why she doesn’t hold a grudge against you, OP? It’s because you’re inconsequential to her. She’s the better person, and everyone knows it, and that’s all that’s needed.

[@zebnemma]

I also think the ex wife has some stellar dignity. Like her ex husband and the mistress are acting like ratchet animals and I think to her acting like that is just not gonna happen. She has more dignity in her body than the ex husband and mistress combined. She's not gonna make a fool of herself and go and do completely crazy things like first cheating and breaking up a long marriage and then also marry the mistress???? To any normal person those actions are just the lowest of the low, like an animal that doesn't think and just does because they want. Especially the mistress has zero dignity. She is really out here looking for validation from people that are married so she can feel like "they picked me over their wife, lol that means I am better than them". Absolutely sick to seek validation from hurting others like that. She has no dignity to act like that. She's the equivalent of a puke puddle on the ground, but thinks she's hot shit because their affair partner "chose" them in the end? (more like was stuck with them cuz they just bombed their marriage) Delusional to the max. She has no love for herself if she has to do such extreme things just to feel validated. They will probably never get it either. She can continue looking at the ex wife and realize she is nothing compared to her, she's a puke puddle and the ex wife is carrying herself like a royalty where dignity is not just a word but actually a way of life.

[@Maya-sv1pz]

it's because the ex wife know the husband well, he's a cheater, and she knows there is no point keeping him. the mistress is just secondary. it takes two to tango, and the ex wife has above average rational thinking

[@bmona7550]

​@@Maya-sv1pzIt's sad that to most women that ex is considered above average in thinking. So many women are so insecure nowadays it's a pity

[@Maya-sv1pz]

@@bmona7550 it's nothing to be sad about. it's a biological fact. not enough of us evolved out of it

[@nationalinstituteofcheese3012]

The ex wife lost a bad husband and gained the possibility of finding a better man. The prince she deserves

[@patriciaorellana6469]

The ex-wife is being the ‘bigger person’ and it’s the best revenge for her case

[@Davtwan]

This is the justice-boner we all dream of when we see someone bring the bigger person. It just drives the antagonists _nuts._

[@Zurround]

@@Davtwan I am kind of pissed at the ex wife. If she was not such a self absorbed person she would have at least PRETENDED to hate the OP to assuage some of the OP's guilt.

[@pReCiOuStHePiMpCeSs]

@@Zurround what the hell are you even talking about?

[@susanwatson8691]

​@pReCiOuStHePiMpCeSs I think he's taking the mickey 😂

[@ruthsaunders9507]

@@Zurround 🤣Its tearing her up. She doesn't even have a flimsy excuse to be mad at her.

[@laur83]

the ex-wife is the epitome of class, elegance and grace. more power to her for being the bigger person! she’s incredible.

[@Normaschthewanderer]

It's a shame husband couldn't see it.

[@bmona7550]

​@@NormaschthewandererNah all he really loves is his d*ck. He should marry it 😂

[@thgritic102]

I wouldn't be surprised she (ex wife) was looking for a way out of th marriage, & when she discovered the affair, she instantly went for the divorce option bc she's been done w/ the marriage & don't love her ex anymore. Now she is probably laughing seeing the karma the mistress & ex-husband are going through 😂 She looks way better than them & flourishing.

[@andreariitano6497]

Story 1: The very same thing happens between me and my ex's mistress (now gf). I treat her the best ever, I don't badmouth her, I buy her a snack when my son sees her. Why? Because she did me a huge favor. She took my disconnected, financial irresponsible, man-child and she thinks he is her prince-charming (that's punishment enough).

[@nemostrangesonginthedirt8448]

Did the kids or family react the same way as this story?

[@patty-pat-pat]

Is she sick of him yet, or still in the honeymoon phase?

[@andreariitano6497]

Yesterday I had lunch at my MIL's home so I could visit with her sisters from out of town. Also, I am invited for bdays and celebrations. Sometimes I go, take some food and make sure to wish the mistress gf a Merry X'mas or other. She never eats what I make though. LOL.

[@andreariitano6497]

I found out she cheated on him (funny bcs he always accused me of cheating and I never did) but they are together.

[@ShinyShilla]

@@andreariitano6497 😂😂those two cheaters deserve eachother. Go live the best of your life without those two weight

[@ajzephyros7454]

The Ex is a stellar example of humanity. We need more like her

[@Zurround]

Any chance that on some level the Ex feels GRATITUDE to the OP? As strange as that sounds maybe she did not love him anymore when the affair started and was kind of wanting a divorce and moving on herself and this gave her a very convenient excuse to do so with him seeming like the villain (which might be true). Maybe she WANTED an easy way out of the marriage. Also, maybe she had a very high degree of RATIONALITY and knew that if her husband was a cheater he would find SOMEONE and expecting all women to be moral enough not to sleep with a married man is a much taller order than expecting him to be loyal. So maybe proving to her that he was a cheater gave her the "information" she needed. She might NOT have been so forgiving had she thought that the marriage was going well and had WANTED to continue her marriage.

[@Batman-lg2zj]

No we don’t

[@ruthsaunders9507]

@@Zurround Or she really loves her children and decided not to destroy them by kicking up a massive fuss. Its easier to let someone go and move on, than to hold onto all that hate.

[@RJLiams]

​​@@ruthsaunders9507o, it's not. It's extremely easy to hate someone. I still hate my father for sleeping with my ex fiance. Haven't spoken to him in 15 years. Though I still read the emails and letters he sends and laugh.

[@morganssmashingpearls3329]

@@ruthsaunders9507That takes a lot of wisdom and strength of character.

[@diamcole]

Story 1: Yikes lol so much second hand embarrassment. Why anyone would willingly choose to have a relationship with a married person is a mystery beyond me. And then to MARRY them?! You're not only bold but brave 🤣

[@thanos8077]

It's because she and everyone like her are pos with questionable morals who only care about themselves.

[@sharyebethancourt3660]

The comments cleared that OP so damn well, I have no comments lol

[@diamcole]

@@sharyebethancourt3660 Right? After that update, I just sat back like DAMN. The first commenter summed it all up for me

[@theinternetaunty5325]

And foolish😂

[@diamcole]

@@theinternetaunty5325 That part!!!

[@DragonbornMike-ym2er]

Story 1: Gotta love watching as a homewrecker realizes they aren't shit, and their partner isnt gonna treat them better than the ex. And seeing everything go well for the ex-wife is great.

[@juliearmfield2634]

Absolutely beautiful Poetic Justice she realized that she will never be anything but the mistress

[@nationalinstituteofcheese3012]

If she knew it was wrong to sleep with a married man then why did the marry him?

[@clover1593ify]

I was cheated on. The girl my ex cheated with was always asking him questions about me and comparing herself to me. He told her to stop and when she finally told me about the affair she said "why do you think you're better than me?" And i was so hurt and shocked i was like "i didn't even know you existed. " some women don't feel confident and want to take a man from a confident woman in order to try to steal that confidence but obviously that doesn't work. He threw her away and begged me back for months.

[@rogue6344]

Thank you for leaving this comment… I went through something similar!

[@gzapray7203]

More like, "Why are you better than me?" is a better and more correct question.

[@kusu_ma]

Did you take him back ? Please tell me u didn't

[@clover1593ify]

@@kusu_ma nope. We broke up and I am now engaged to a great man that treats me like his partner

[@selinesbeau]

I mean "I wouldn't pursue someone else's spouse," is a pretty low bar to clear, she already failed at that.

[@randomusername3873]

Wait, are you telling me that this catch of a guy, that Op started a relationship with based on him cheating on his wife, is not committed to his side piece? What a shocker😂 Oh, and he's not in love with his ex. He wasn't in love with while married, he's obviously not in love now. He just misses sneaking behind her back

[@SappyDuder]

Its possible it's a "don't know what you have until you've lost it" situation for the husband. Though, TBH, they're all getting what they deserve: husband is miserable, OP is miserable, and the ex wife is living her life as best as she can

[@pippo17173]

@SappyDuder I love when I hear Cheaters having that realization. Makes it more satisfying.

[@D-me-dream-smp]

@@SappyDuderhe is probably one of those super indulged people who is never happy and always wants more of “something/someone else” and it’s usually what they can’t/shouldn’t have.

[@sugakookie7985]

He could be a true narcissist not hostile or covert he's only true to himself he wasn't happy with his first wife he isn't happy with his present wife but he wants to hold on to both women ex wife won't play along so he's soon going to be looking for a third option.

[@Lordofthelosers01]

I agree the cheater misses how people treated him. Family and kids want little to nothing to do with him and his ex has moved on.

[@JMac7395]

The ex-wife isn't being the "bigger person", she simply stopped caring. When a woman stops caring about the person that hurts them, it makes moving forward effortless. Sometimes when a person hurts you emotionally so bad, it makes you numb & sometimes exhausted. You no longer feel the need to fight. Because what exactly would you be fighting for? The ex-wife has accepted that her ex-husband is an unfaithful lying spouse. The only thing to do is to move forward with her & kids lives. As for OP, unsurprising that she's selfish inconsiderate & lacks accountability. OP is an example of how cheaters & individuals that knowly get with married people need to make the spouse the "bad guy" to justify their awful behavior & attitude

[@carlrood4457]

This is a true example of "being the bigger person". It's not done to appease the crowd, keep the peace, etc. OP's husband's ex acts in the way that best suits herself, happiness, and her moral code. That's what the term really means. It's not about being a doormat, but about acting in a way you believe is right, even to people who have wronged you. You don't "stoop to their level", because those tactics and behaviors are not who you are. It has nothing to do with what outside forces want you to do, nor is it about appearances.

[@WhitneyDahlin]

Usually people who are telling you to be the bigger person are saying that because they want you to let the bad behavior slide. The wife did not let her husband's behavior slide. She divorced him but wasn't vindictive about it. He faced consequences for his actions. That's what the difference is. If someone is telling you to be the bigger person and if you can replace that phrase with don't say anything and let this behavior slide then that isn't what you should do. Reasonable consequences are different than being petty and vindictive

[@immortalsofar5314]

Of course the husband still loves the wife. I've only just heard about her and I think I love her!

[@nationalinstituteofcheese3012]

“I thought she was a silly woman” says it all doesn’t it?

[@yesterdayitrained]

Very well-said. Thank you.

[@SLTheOneAndAwesome19]

Markee got *emotional* reading that last update. That poor OP. She literally poured her heart out to her father, explained how horribly hurt she was and he still tried to twist it around to make *himself* the victim.

[@srsmedic8285]

I know this an old post.. but that just made me cry

[@lolo_z]

Story 1: Is he really still inlove with the ex wife though or he's just feeling salty that the ex wife moved on and seems happy with OP'd cousin? I wonder. Also, when the mistresses marry their cheating partners, do they not think damn he could do this to me too? 🤯🤯

[@MrH347]

I remember this story. This ex is such a stand up person. She holds no grudges, she accepts that the relationship was over and there was no point of saving it. “When life gives you lemons, make lemonade.” She dropped the dud, kept the family, got a better partner and OP is living a nightmare. This is just what a good person does. OP has no where to hide, everything was the husbands and OP’s fault while the ex looks like a saint. She has compassion, empathy and total control over the situation.

[@danacarter9147]

I agree with you 💯%, the ex-wife definitely has a heart of gold.💛

[@taylorlibby7642]

1st Story - I've never understood how you can start a relatioship off with lies and cheating and still think that you could ever really trust the other person.

[@whitneybennett4857]

Isn't it obvious? He'll be faithful to HER (lmao) because she's so much more attractive and more adventurous in bed AND makes him so much happier than the old woman did. 🙄

[@taylorlibby7642]

@@whitneybennett4857 Hah! Very true. Goes both ways though. Why should he particularly trust her? After all, he knows for a fact that she likes married men. ; )

[@whitneybennett4857]

@@taylorlibby7642 For sure. It's been proven that many women who will go after a married man won't be happy with just getting ONE married man away from his wife. With serial homewreckers, "love" doesn't have anything to do with it; it all comes down to ego/narcissism.

[@invisigoth510]

Story 1: I’m not as good a person as the ex wife. While I feel the tiniest bit of sadness at the OP’s naïveté (seriously, she thought a cheater would be faithful to her) I do feel a bit of glee at the knowledge that the only reason she won him was because the ex doesn’t want him back & he was too chicken spit to be alone after the divorce She is now reveling in the fact that she truly is second choice & a consolation prize. Not the first picked

[@Midnight0Mistress]

the comment where they pointed out that OP still hasn't learnt her lesson in all this was brilliant. "you have no empathy, but expect so much.

[@Colorbrush21]

My how the tables turned. OP thought she was hot shit. The sexy, younger homewrecker who stole a woman's man. It must have really knocked the wind out of her sails to find out her husband is still in love with his ex-wife. The wife she felt so smug and superior over. The wife who was supposed to be jealous of OP but couldn't care less. OP thought she had stolen the prize. It must be a bitter pill to swallow to find out ex-wife doesn't want OPs husband. So she can keep him. And to add more salt to OPs wounds, verybody loves the ex-wife, including OPs parents.

[@PowerStruggle555]

2nd story: her dad acts like paying support is a big deal. usually those are court order. being forced to do something doesnt count as a good deed. Im sure the sperm donor would argue "Yeah but I couldve easily ignored it and not paid" which would be a crime

[@Draggonny]

Yep. He wants a reward for doing the absolute minimum while stepdad stepped up and acted like an actual father. It's ironic that the cheater got replaced with a better model and was non the wiser. Looks like just the karmic kick in the balls that he deserved.

[@silvaniamain7780]

Next Post: "My husband is still in love with his ex wife. I feel so alone." You can only imagine big shit eating grin I had my face as soon as I heard that. As the saying goes cheaters never win.

[@m.o.4240]

I like how the ex wife is in a relationship with homewreckers cousin . Its like she brought ex wife and him together lol

[@LightSage89]

Story 1: Nearly every Redditor pointed out that cheater's gonna cheat, and just like every other affair partner OP thought to herself "Sure, he cheated on his wife with me, but there is no way he'd cheat on me! We love each other!" And then got surprised that he is not loyal to her. Story 2: OP should tell her deadbeat dad "Okay, the only thing that you ever contributed to my life was money. So just give me a dollar bill, and I'll hold it in my hand as my step father walks me down the aisle. After all, thats just like being there as a father according to you."

[@brinagotsued]

That is a wicked burn 🔥! Nice job!

[@lulul0l039]

👏

[@BeczaBot]

Lolololol

[@melissamiller3345]

I looove your explanation for story 2..

[@SappyDuder]

Story 1: everyone got what they deserved in the end Story 2: in the wise words of Yondu "he may have been your father, but he wasn't your daddy"

[@SpookyMissLuna]

Im so happy she has Lenny. Every child deserves parents but not every parent deserves a child.

[@SpookyMissLuna]

Parents being any variety of parental figures one may have. Guardians, etc. Children deserve loving community.

[@crazycat58]

I'll never understand father's who treat their daughters like less than being surprised when said daughter repays the treatment in kind. It's also hilarious to see the father try to say how his daughter should feel about certain things that have happened in the past. My own father is like this, not understanding or, more likely, refusing to see how their actions have consequences like anyone else's do. She's not the asshole and she knows it, she's just dealing with a narcissist throwing a temper tantrum. Ignore it and live your best life.

[@nadirimyers6643]

Story 1: I’m tryin to feel bad for her…. But I don’t. They both deserve each other fr

[@MrH347]

That’s the thing about cheaters, they are always looking for that rush, something different, something better. She’s having a hard time respecting herself. The ex accepted it and made the best out of a bad situation. OP isn’t holding herself accountable.

[@fufufuaru]

damn, I really like the way you read the part when OP was giving her sperm donor the cold, harsh truth and hard-hitting questions, really felt the emotion there

[@humansizedbirdnest9435]

So true, he’s got a real talent for reading these🤙

[@Warbles_]

Damn Markee you need to be a book narrator or a voice actor or something cuz you put so much emotion into these😭 super impressive man

[@gabriellemeche992]

His voice kinda reminds me of ZSakuVA

[@aurora4218]

Wedding story: op's dad thinks his daughter is a toy, that he can set her down and that she'll be right where he left her when he comes back

[@UpsideDown853]

Well put, though heartbreaking ❤️‍🩹

[@merykhan97]

Imagine being a homewrecker and have the audacity to complain about feeling like an outsider. "Is she trying to win her husband back?" No she's just a nice person and you're not

[@D-me-dream-smp]

Story one truly is the epitome of “the best revenge is living well”

[@patty-pat-pat]

S1: Glad to hear youre suffering. That's karma coming back for you.

[@carlrood4457]

I wonder if the dad "broke" because he was racking his brain trying to come up with something he knows about or did for OP. When a person lies to themself for decades and gets confronted with facts, the dissonance can really break them.

[@Iflie]

Adults always try to forget what they did to the kids. My father is convinced my mom told me stories to make me dislike him, she never talked about him at all, he was just mean and uncaring to me on visitation and more importantly, to my brother. I just started staying home and never regretted it. He left his second family too and stil thinks he "loves his kids so much". Total narc.

[@brib6046]

12:50 it’s crazy how many family members expect someone who was cheated on to stay in a relationship. I’m so happy the ex wife doesn’t have to experience that.

[@mbyerly9680]

The emotion in Markee's voice as he read OP's letter to her dad was really good.

[@Markee]

Thank you c:

[@heatherweir8726]

When will mistress learn when they marry their affair partner they create a a vacancy.

[@carolrondou6161]

Story 1 Ex sounds so classy. Everybody hates on OP and loves the Ex. I love how OP is wondering if he can leave an amazing woman like Ex, when will he leave her? BWAHAHA!

[@baileymoran8585]

Stay away from married people who cheat, and you won’t have these problems. It’s easy to not have drama like this. The ex wife was mature about it. She knew they would have their own issues since they were both drama-filled cheaters. This is how I handled cheating. It’s all just because mature, stable people don’t want to deal with that. He wasn’t worth fighting for, and the OP wasn’t worth fighting with. Who would waste time with these people?

[@flamelily2086]

I am divorced but have maintained a civil relationship with my ex for the sake of the children. I was told that his wife was jealous of me, and I have no idea why. I don't want him back and wouldn't take him back even if he wasn't married. However recently she has calmed down and we can meet occasionally for coffee. OP needs to get over herself, she has no reason to resent or be jealous of her husband's ex. I think OP feels a certain amount of guilt.

[@coureenlawrence4915]

Apparently she did, the husband still loves the ex and he didn't want the divorce. Also the ex is physically beautiful with a great personality. You cannot beat that.

[@dy9300]

​apparently she wasn't enough to keep his attention. All the beauty and personality in the world won't save you from being cheated on. There will always be someone prettier and more charismatic.

[@radish6740]

Absolutely zero empathy for the homewrecker. I hope it fckng hurt when he shattered her heart. Op deserves every bit of the pain she’s caused herself.

[@jessicamarshall1975]

Story 1: There is a reason “if he’ll cheat with you, he’ll cheat on you” and “a man who marries his mistress only creates a vacancy” are sayings.

[@driversuz44]

The correct answer to, "Are you still angry about the past???" is, "No. I'm angry because you still don't understand that your past actions mattered, and that they largely define who you are."

[@colleens1107]

Story one: OP really really should have remembered the old adage, what he does WITH you, he’ll do TO you. She’s correct to be concerned about the faithfulness of her husband. And that update, man is karma kicking the ever living shit out of OP. But it’s no more than she deserves. I do hope she has a good career and can be financially independent because this marriage is OVER

[@gechen85]

Mistress-story: when you aren't the main character in your own life...

[@jas6940]

I used to think she was a silly woman for not being mad at me 😂😂😂😂 girl seems like that type to be ready to tell the wife or she will tell but ex wife doesn’t give two fs about the situation Happy for ex hope she keeps on having a beautiful life while OP is drowning in self pity and embarrassment 😂

[@arieblanche1489]

My parents became parents in high school and my dad often says "Anyone can be a father, just takes some DNA, but the man who steps up and is there for his child, that's a dad."

[@carlrood4457]

Given her relationship with bio dad, how much contact has she even had with his side of the family? Chances are, they don't even know OP.

[@loganmatt.7912]

I absolutely do not blame ex-wives of unfaithful men for treating the affair partner like garbage but there are probably so many benefits to being the bigger oerson and this is a prime example of it and I love it

[@gilles111]

2nd story, yes, she made a mistake. By inviting her bio-dad and his family to the wedding at all. Cancel the invitation and have a celebration with the people you like to have around.

[@whoome1638]

I heard someone say homewreakers (women and men) don’t want the person in the affair. A lot of times, they want the essence of the spouse being cheated on.

[@cauzie8281]

I’ve heard it’s the thrill of the chase.

[@Mglay556]

Story 1: Op is upset cause the ex won’t give her the attention she wants. Op sounds like they have such such low self esteem. Edit: hahahaha karma is real and op and her husband suck

[@juliearmfield2634]

Story 1. Yta. Just because you put a mrs. Sticker infront of your name doesn't change the fact you're still in mistress

[@dessnatazha]

Story 2: My dad didn't even mention walking down the isle when I got married, I think he was waiting for me to ask until word got him I planned on walking alone. I had so many other people ask if I was going to ask him and the answer was always no. I don't have the best relationship with him and I didn't trust him to be sober or show up on time. He ended up skipping altogether even though he was invited, but I'm honestly glad for it.

[@Draggonny]

He sounds like a piece of work. I'm sorry that your dad sucks so hard.

[@dessnatazha]

@@Draggonny lol it is what it is. I don't deal with him as much anymore, makes my life that much more peaceful

[@nightdweller6446]

S1. Exwife is a complete class act. She is handling the situation with grace, and killing the other woman with kindness. OP is utterly sunk with everyone, she has no legs to stand on. S2 NTA. Pick the dad who actually lived that role. Lenny sounds like the one who fulfilled OPs dad's spot. ProLenny

[@hi_stranger9156]

Story 1 : "I guess y’all are happy. Because I am getting what I deserve.” I still think people who usually say this are just being passive aggressive. Story 2 : "He went silent. He asked me if I was still mad about the past? I told him past was the reason I know he is an unreliable man. All these years if he has taught me anything it is that he is a shitty father and someone like him cannot be trusted. I made the biggest mistake of my life believing he would come through. The only reason I never even bother because of what he did in the past. Lastly I will not push him to come to my wedding. That is his choice. It's not he is paying for it anyways. That was it. Later I got a message from my stepmom that what I said has broken my father. He is very much upset. I told her well if he upset by the truth then he shouldn't have asked and pushed my buttons. He has ignored me all my childhood. He doesn't get to play the dad." Hello, 911? Yeah, I'd like to report an attempted murder. The subject is severely burned, and I'm not sure he will survived. Damn OP Straight up roasted his deadbeat ass soul so fucking hard, his wife called OP to whine about how much OP permanently left him all different types of wrecked.

[@squash6497]

The most perfect example of "living well is the best revenge" I've ever seen.

[@chinavaughan6383]

Story 1: Given what you have said, I am beginning to wonder why the husband left her for you!😒 Story 2: How could your dad be surprised that you didn’t ask him to walk you down the aisle at your wedding? He was a crappy dad. Crappy dads aren’t entitled to anything!😠

[@magiv4205]

She left HIM, as any self-respecting person should!

[@heatheraucoin5832]

I wonder why he cheated on his 1st wife in the first place? He didn’t leave her, he stepped out on the marriage and tried to have his cake and eat it too.

[@ingloriousbetch4302]

​@@heatheraucoin5832yep. Likely never intended on leaving the ex wife. He just probably got bored or tired of the same-ole-same-ole and decided to cheat instead of put effort into the marriage. Then he got blindsided when ex-wife didnt want him. Lol he took the one chick who still wanted him.

[@sugakookie7985]

Ex dumped the cheater he just didn't reveal that fact until the last update she won nothing he was cut loose, as to the cheating he probably didn't feel worthy of his wife so went hunting for a woman he deserved and he found her

[@kenshin491]

The Ex Wife: Hate doesn’t hold benefit to a Jedi.

[@AudreyKaneWaypaststrange]

dude the EMOTION in that second story????

[@alnova2438]

the truth... it makes me happy that the OP in the first story is miserable... anyone who is with a person KNOWING that that person is with another, loses all respect for me... same goes for the husband . It is very clear that she wanted to feel like the sexy cat that destroyed the ex, that the husband chose her for being so much better and she could wallow in her tears, while enjoying seeing how this woman's life collapses in the misery of seeing her with husband... but life gave her a slap in the face, not only did the ex not stop to cry over the spilled milk, but also the family that she wanted to win will never accept her and the only reason they half tolerate her is because of the request of the woman she wanted to destroy...and besides she is winning over her own family! 🤣 . Same to the husband, for being a horrible and selfish man he lost his ex, his family hates him and he has to see his ex succeed in life and get someone much better than him.

[@tartlynerdy]

Story 1 - "If he loved her why did he marry me" silly question. lol because his wife wouldn't take him back. Duh. A lot of people only marry their affair partner because what's the point of losing two relationships? If his wife had been ready to give him another chance op would have been tossed out like an afterthought and forgotten about. Op is really stupid. Ofc I'm glad for this outcome. I never root for homewreckers and loved all of the commentary tearing into op. Story 2 - I heard this one a few times. NTA. He's aware of what it'll tell people seeing his daughter prefer her stepdad over him and he only cares about how people will perceive him.

[@brittaniharold1880]

She pities you because now your old job is available

[@ivorynk752]

After that first story update, How much younger did OP say she was? I can't tell if she was being naive or just really, really stupid.

[@ravengulledge3659]

8 years

[@ghostsheet777]

She's like 40 though so she can't be too naive like girl Ur old enough to know better 😅

[@nadirimyers6643]

Whaaaaaaat? Actions have consequences? That’s crazy

[@Syzygy-xu9cd]

The worst person in story 1 is the lying husband pretending he was getting a divorce - well he got it in the end lol He had the gall to think he could have an affair and then be forgiven and carry on as usual - until the next affair. Wonder if OP was the first?

[@jaymevosburgh3660]

Just tell "dad" that he is no longer invited since his anger will probably ruin the atmosphere.

[@howdelydoo]

My mama always said...kindness and living your life the best you can is the greatest revenge for those who have wronged you. It takes all of their power away and they cant stand it

[@whatteamwildcats4033]

Kindness is truly the best revenge. Sis is just being nice and OP cant compute/is being burned up inside by that

[@juanhaines7295]

Story 2 nta he paid child support because it was his legal obligation. He's lucky to be invited as a guessed.

[@domeatown]

Don't get revenge: get right. Don't get jealous: get inspired.

[@nimisilverbird1239]

Nta. He abandoned you, neglected you and abused you. He can rot. Lenny is your dad.

[@krystalfloods6197]

This is what they’re talking about when they say “kill them with kindness” I genuinely don’t think the ex cares about her or her ex at all, because she was just in the marriage most likely for her children and him having an affair was a way for her to get out well looking like the better person because she is the better person

[@jodieg6318]

Story 2: as it was said in Gurdians of the Galaxy "He may have been your father but he wasn't your daddy."

[@Markee]

Was actually gonna mention that 😂

[@MsStrangeEmilie]

Story 1: the trash met trash. Saved the ex wife from dealing with trash in her home. 😂😂

[@Frazzled_Chameleon]

When a man marries his mistress, it creates a vacancy.

[@TrumpetsGalore4]

At the absolute least, she's honest in saying that she tries to find fault in the ex wife. She's hanging on to that sliver of hope that the ex dies something bad so she can say "SEE? I KNEW IT." and finally feel justified. But yeah, the ex is killing OP with kindness without an ounce of effort. Good for her! Edit: I saw the update and it SUCKS TO SUCK.

[@jamimazada7428]

My ex left me and got a new wife. I moved on. After few years i got better job and bought better apartment than his. He called and suggested we can be together again. But, his new wife then? He said, i can be with him, take him back from his new wife and thus take my revenge on her. I have till date sympathies for the new wife. At the same time, i think she got her punishment by having this cheater and ass****.

[@srkh8966]

Story 2: Walk down the aisle with the Dad who showed up. My cousin caved in a similar situation, and she’s regretted it ever since

[@yurionice1131]

I am confused when the OP said that "although I was much younger than her) but y'all weren't that much apart in age for grown adults (if the op/mistress is 40 and the ex wife is 48 that's just 8 years in difference)

[@Davtwan]

The ex killed her with kindness (likely unintentionally too). Beautifully executed. (Although it’s kinda weird she married OP’s cousin lol.)

[@pippo17173]

Op does state they all would of been more sour towards them more if it ain't for the ex asking to soften it and not cause drama.

[@mysticmaadeehrc2181]

Lol. Id stamp that petty revenge 😂 now she gets to see her happy😅

[@usagi18]

Killing with kindness at its finest. Ex-wife wins... FATALITY... flawless victory

[@trentberry6968]

He cared about how it would make it look not about his daughter.

[@laurag502]

a lesson in the phrase “play stupid games win stupid prizes”

[@heatheraucoin5832]

The 1st wife has a new man (OPs cousin) and sounds like wedding bells are in the near future. I wish…..That there would be an engagement party and the oldest child says to her future stepdad, “I wish you both best of love in your future marriage. Be good to my mom.” And then the guy says, “I will do my best to make her the happiest woman ever. Besides I would be really dumb to lose a wonderful woman like her.” And then everyone would silently laugh and look over at the ex husband with his unhappy 2nd wife. He gets angry bc she moved on and is happy. I wonder does he blame OP bc it’s her cousin? He seems like the type to blame everything on everyone accept him for his problems. 1st marriage was shaky so he steps out of the marriage bc of their problems. What problems they had that involved him to cheat? And when his affair was discovered, he wanted to make this right. He should have done that before cheating not after realizing he was going to lose her and their family

[@andysixxstalkerangeloftrag5833]

Dang even I love that ex wife. She was way too good for her ex. I aspire to be like her.

[@LilFeralGangrel]

the last comment on story 2 is something i vibe with. it's not just self-examination that's vital but you also need to have the ability to deal with discomfort. growth and discomfort come hand in hand, and that's probably why OP's sperm donor is the way he is. he only ever seeks comfort and runs away from anything that makes him uncomfortable, that's why he cheated, that's why he deflects blame, that's why he didn't show up at the wedding and that's also why he was never there for his child. because he fucked up, he knew he fucked up but he never wanted to confront that. it's emotionally easier to pretend that everything is fine and you did nothing wrong then to accept that everything is not fine and you fucked up.

[@racheltoler3895]

I wouldn't put the man who called me and asshole and abandon me over the man who raised and loved me.

[@nationalinstituteofcheese3012]

If he wasn’t loyal to his first wife, why would he be loyal now?

[@NoMoreHeroesAnymore1334]

Story 1: You're a homewrecker and you deserve to feel bad and insecure. PS: If he'll do that once, he'll do it to you too.

[@ComaLies225]

Op in story 2 and her shiny spine is just *chefs kiss*

[@valonajennigs1023]

Brrooooooooo the way she laid into her dad 😂😂🎉🎉🎉🎉 I did the same damn thing (not for a wedding it was him ignoring my 16th birthday, and then blaming it on me?? It wasn't the first time he completely ignored the day and ghosted me. First time was my 13th and it was the day we were putting my abuser in jail. So less about the birthday and more about what that day represented) and my gods it was cathartic as ffffffuuuuucccckkkk. He reacted the SAME DAMN WAY! It hurts like a bitch at first, but holy hell she's going to be so much better now

[@AlyssaAllen.a]

She's mature, graceful and emotionally secure. That's what the mistress envíes. She's none of those things

[@littlegreycat]

2:56 the OP is now Wondering why the husband let go such a good catch and now knows she will be next.

[@cpaul9269]

"Rights as a father.." LMFAO - NTAH.

[@PowerStruggle555]

2nd story: My guess the sperm donor's family doesnt know he is a deadbeat dad. He probably spun it that op's mom was a monster...he did everything for op. he figured theyd see a happy daughter with her wonderful father at the wedding. how wonderful he put aside what the mom did to him to be the better man. but he cant look good if he isnt walking her down the aisle

[@nixxybabez5774]

She is dating her cousin. That is petty on the next level. NICE😂

[@user-ky7jx1cr5k]

That woman is an inspiration to us all. God bless her and hope she is living her best life.

[@addicted2mako]

When it comes to killing people with kindness, the Ex-Wife is a master assassin!