I'm Not Allowing My Father To Walk Me Down The Isle Due To His Views On Our Relationship - Reddit

[@maddiemaccheese8170]

Naming your kids "Stanford and Yale" in the US is like naming your kids "Oxford and Cambridge" in the UK. Pretty embarrassing of the sister lol.

[@LadyJoolree]

Mark thought of padlocks, but I thought of house keys. Which led me to Yale and Chubb - somehow I doubt it'll catch on 😂

[@immapotato1]

those poor kids.....

[@skeltonslay8er781]

I mean, Stanford can at least be shortened to Stan. Yale however…

[@LouisDartanyan21]

Though she is condescending, those are no different than naming their kids Mercedes or Louis (ad in Vuitton).

[@Allmightyimortal]

​@@skeltonslay8er781Yale shortened to AL maybe

[@GinnieMac-ui8jv]

I made a small quilt for my nephew and his bride to be as a shower gift. It looked like the first effort it was. But 5 months later I was told he would huddle under that quilt during his chemo treatments. Thank God he is now cancer free.

[@paulagoeringer9466]

How wonderful that he had something comforting from you when he needed it. I was gifted a quilt made from a coworker for my baby that we still have. She passed away not long after she gave it and it meant the world to me that she and her mom worked on it for us. They are truly wonderful people. I still think of Leona when I look at the quilt. ❤🌹

[@carolroberts4614]

My mum made the majority of mine and my sisters clothes when we were growing up. But we lost her when the eldest 2 grandchildren were 4 months old. I would have given fortunes for home made clothes for my baby then.

[@artemisvoltaire4743]

So happy to hear he's ok!! And to keep your gift with him shows how special it is to him ❤

[@cdarbo9818]

I am known to the girls from hs as the girl that will make all babies blankets, hats, booties, mittens and a little lovey with a animal head. So far I have decked out 5 babies and even make bigger blankets for a baby that's now 5.

[@haplessasshole9615]

@@cdarbo9818 My grandmother was perpetually crocheting baby sacques. Every baby in the extended family got swaddled in one of her creations -- always yellow or green, as gender-testing and ultrasound weren't around then. Now, when I say "extended family," I mean it in the Southern sense. It includes, but is not limited to, second cousins once removed, babies of women from church, and her longtime maid's great-grandbaby. I wonder how many she made, and how many are being worn by the descendants of the original recipients?

[@AndyyWithAY]

Babies are rapidly growing and a lot of those bought baby clothes will be worn a few times and forgotten. The homemade clothes took time and love. OP's parents are just AHs.

[@MemristerBoogieDown]

Oh Lord, I tried the homemade clothes thing. Had a friend who’s a seamstress help me make this cute little dress… By the time I finished it, it would not fit the baby. LOL! Homemade clothes are amazing and amazingly difficult. Massive respect to everyone who can work a needle and thread.

[@JW-vd4il]

@@MemristerBoogieDown 😂 I'm not great at sewing, either. I'm quite crafty and it was a bit of a surprise to realize I'm useless at sewing clothing: After a time of trying really hard I finally gave up that this is NOT one of my talents! I'll just buy it or I appreciate what someone might give me, hand-sewn! I'll knit you something! Damm, I felt so bad for OP's MIL even though it was GREAT that he appreciates her and told his parents how wrong they are. Even if you are not someone who appreciates hand-made gifts, them going out of their way to insult her is what especially sickened me. Glad he's a great guy but Wow, these people who go out of their way to be shitty make me sick. Hey, here's an idea: even if it's not YOUR style, STFU! I've been thinking about embroidering that, "STFU." 😁

[@Davtwan]

On the flip side, OP has balls of steel. I wouldn’t be nearly as brave.

[@MemristerBoogieDown]

@@JW-vd4il … I tried to learn how to knit and then to crochet. That’s when I figured out I was actually born with 10 thumbs. One of the most valuable things I own is this cheap little doll in this massive Scarlett O’Hara style dress that my aunt crocheted for me. I do not like dolls all that much and I don’t think I’ve worn a dress since I was 10. It’s not to my taste at all but I love that thing because it took her six months to make it and she did it because I was in the hospital and she wanted to make me feel better. That doll means love to me. Edit… If you make STFU sweaters, I’ll be your first customer! LOL! That’s epic.

[@alarmedregret]

Story 2: It's like naming their kids Oxford and Cambridge or Eton and Harrow. I grew up around pretentious pricks like this, and they're setting themselves up for disappointment with these names. Their kids will probably resent them.

[@audreym3908]

Harrow sounds like a nice name tho. Also, better than the other 3 you mentioned, but agreed.

[@artshowcreeper1978]

I quite like the name Stanford it was a name way before it was a college. I’m pretty sure, but I’m also a gravity Falls fan so 🤷‍♂️

[@maurer3d]

@@artshowcreeper1978 It's actually a fairly common name to, granted most go by Stan or Stanley in there day to day life.

[@standinthegsp6858]

Eton & Harrow might not be too bad... Eton could always tell people the hospital nurse accidentally left the “H” off the birth certificate lol.

[@artshowcreeper1978]

@@maurer3d true Stan ford or Stanley are all common shortened versions of the name

[@HaleyJo1992]

Story 2: I'm a college dropout who was getting straight As. Now I'm a successful jeweler and jewelry designer. Made several people cry by saving mangled pieces or turning old pieces into something new. Sis can be proud of herself without shitting on others who chose different paths.

[@MisterNightfish]

Story 2: Just name the kids "please bully me" and "kick my butt" and be done with me. The sister sounds incredibly obnoxious and I feel sorry for her kids already.

[@standinthegsp6858]

I read somewhere that a man named his BIG dogs Timex & Bulluva because... they were watch dogs. But to saddle a child with a name like “Yale”? 🙄

[@condorboss3339]

We can only hope the sister doesn't have a third child after getting a fellowship at Princeton or Cornell.

[@jillimi]

Naming your kids because you studied in some “prestigious” university is so absurd that I just cannot believe that story. This sounds to me more like a person is upset with their sibling because the bullying, so this person made the story about the naming, just to hear the sibling is the a-hole because idiot.

[@damien678]

​@@jillimi Reality can be stranger than fiction

[@victorvaldez8869]

@@jillimi there are thousands of kids with terrible names like that, I'm hoping that there's enough in the same kid's school, that they can commiserate with others like them. The U-Nique's & Linoleum's (yes found on a page where a teacher claims it was given to a kid in one of their classes,) of their school. Elon Musk reportedly named his kid X Æ A-12, so "weird & kookie" names parents give are a thing.

[@KB-tg7pf]

The dad wanted the satisfaction of saying no. She took that power away from him by not even asking and having a perfectly good plan without him in it. 😅

[@ReyK_47]

Exactly. His reaction sounded like a tantrum he was throwing because he didn't get to have his little power trip and feel superior. Those are the actions of a man who found joy in making others miserable, and I'm glad he changed for the better eventually.

[@thetechguychannel]

Yeh if I were him I'd say, "OK no one asked" do an about-face and just move along.

[@Callimo]

​@@thetechguychannelSince a lot of bigots are stunted psychologically and emotionally, it probably didn't occur to him why his daughter wouldn't ask him at first. It took being a part of a progressive church that hammered into his skull just how much of an asshole he's been for him to realize.

[@thomasjoseph5876]

@@ReyK_47 OR...... Maybe he bent over for the OP while she was growing up and just because he doesn't like her fiance now or her lifestyle, the OP is acting like a gigantic C U Next Tuesday. OP showed she is a horrible human being by not even asking her father about walking her down the aisle and instead asked some old Douche to do it. She even bragged about how he was like a 2nd father showing us how entitled and bratty she is. What about all of those years before she came out of the closet where she was "Daddy's Girl" and he did all of the things that made him a dad??? To the OP those don't seem to count. It's only "what are you doing for me now???" What an entitled C*nt she is. The father didn't like her fiance or her lifestyle and he is called horrible names and homophobic. Guess what, people are not homophobic because they don't agree with a Gay or Bi-Sexual lifestyle. There is nothing wrong with not liking it, not agreeing with it, or not supporting it. If the OP's fiance was a dude and the father didn't like him, nobody would think twice about it. I am tired of hearing about people shoving things like who they sleep with down other people's throats and if they don't like it, they are attacked for it. People are allowed to have their own opinions and beliefs and nobody else has a right to attack them for it. As a disclaimer: I am Bi-Sexual and a supporter of dropping all the letters except LGB from our community as the gender-confused people have no part of our community which is based on sexual preference and has nothing to do with gender.

[@MidnightAndLuna]

Exactly!

[@malificajones7674]

Story 2, he handled that terribly with the sister. Instead of making rational points about the university names putting pressure on the boys to succeed, he should have burst out laughing and then asked what are they going to call their next kid? Massachusetts Institute of technology?! A few minutes of remorseless piss taking would have got them fuming mad. Then just switch back to a sombre expression and say: "That's what your boys will be facing every day at school."

[@Russman67]

Story 3: OP's parents over stepped. If the spouse's mom wants to put her heart into making the grandbaby clothes, she should be allowed. And the backhanded we'll take care of spoiling from here notion. Oh screw that.

[@Mewse1203]

The fact that they spoke on OP and his wife's behalf when it was totally opposite to how they felt is despicable.

[@condorboss3339]

The MIL gave gifts of love. OP's parents gave gifts of pride.

[@wilwong23]

My grandmother made me and my brother clothes and blankets, and those were the things we treasured most, because we saw how hard it was to make them. I'd take home made clothes over store bought anyday. Fuck his parents.

[@jgw5491]

That last story reminded me of one Reddit story (not sure if it was one Mark covered) of a grandma who couldn't afford an expensive gift for her granddaughter turning 18. She carefully assembled a cook book of all her family recipes and gave it to her. Granddaughter was so appreciative! But Mom later tore into her MIL for being cheap. Poor Grandma was deflated and asked Reddit if she was TAH. Obviously not! But people can be pretentious jerks.

[@paulagoeringer9466]

I bet that gift was the most cherished and kept and used for decades and will likely be handed down as a beloved heirloom. The other gifts were probably forgotten easily.

[@jgw5491]

@@paulagoeringer9466 Truth.💖

[@TutuFerret]

@@paulagoeringer9466 Granddaughter also wanted to be a chef if i remember correctly, and had spent time in the kitchen with grandma. It was a gift she would cherish.

[@dangomez5649]

U also left out that grandma had a custom made covering of leather to look like an old family cookbook

[@jgw5491]

Yeah, it had been a while since I heard that story. That's a good point that it was made to be special with nice materials. @@dangomez5649

[@Lis_Kid]

Story 3: OP has the shiniest spine I have ever seen on reddit, his reaction was so satisfying to read

[@dakotasan8719]

While Stanford can be shortened to “Ford” or “Stan”, let’s be honest, sister dearest will probably have a damn conniption over her son not going by the exact name she chose.

[@dtownblastinsalvi62]

My name is Usnavi named after a U.S. army boat I love my name I was bullied for being hispanic I don’t understand what’s the big deal is there something wrong with my name?

[@AidaKittyBoy]

Incredibly amused by Ford and Stan in a post-Gravity Falls world. Those poor kids.

[@ashutoshverma237]

​@@dtownblastinsalvi62i had to think, suddenly realized ur name "us navy", that's even worse than stanford and yale😂

[@dtownblastinsalvi62]

@@ashutoshverma237 exactly if I love my name even when ppl say it’s weird what’s the big deal I ain’t here to please ppl im here to love myself and my family. Also I’m from the hood eveeybody got a crazy name got a homie called duck and another called toro its bull in spanish so what’s the big deal? I don’t wanna be like yall I am me.

[@Plexxis_SugarPom]

​@@dtownblastinsalvi62my guy im pretty sure Lin Manuel Miranda wrote a musical about you.

[@romonaelrod7870]

I love the idea of handmade baby gifts. So much time and effort and love goes into them. The family should cherish them.

[@jennysmith38]

My mum made most of our clothes. My little sisters medications and therapies cost a lot of money, dad had two jobs, mum had a part-time job, as she needed to be able to take my sister to appointments etc. We were very lucky, as mum use to be a tailoress, and she use to make men's suits, and she made clothes that looked store bought, but, they couldn't be bought anywhere. We also had a family friend, who worked in a clothing factory, and, she use to give us the factory seconds, sometimes the stripes/pattern didn't line up etc, all perfectly good clothes, which included underwear. That's also when I found out, that often these clothing factories made clothes for several brands, they just had the labels for each brand to attach to the clothing, so often buying the more expensive clothing was a waste, especially because the quality was exactly the same, no matter the brand. This was way back in the 60's and 70's, so I'm not sure if that's what still happens. Mum always made the clothes with love, she even made my wedding dress, it took her four and a half hours to sew the hem by hand.

[@LilFeralGangrel]

Story 1: awww that ending was so wholesome. i'm surprised the dad got that epiphany from catholicism but if it works it works. good for them 🥰

[@JS19-60]

I find that hilarious. 😂 And to quote Palpatine from Star Wars: “a surprise to be sure, but a welcome one.”

[@AndreNDP]

This gives me hope. I was raised Catholic, and left to a more agnostic viewpoint in adulthood, because the church sickened me. Maybe there's hope yet.

[@robertx8020]

Dad : "In need to walk you down the isle, I won't come to your wedding" is like saying :" let me burn your house down or I never p*ss in your garden again" 😂

[@fishbowl5308]

It's very shocking it was the catholics normally it's non denominational Christians who are more accepting. Not by much but still

[@CloudyOctober]

Funny enough theres a few Christians and Catholics who only just follow the 10 commandments as a defacto list of rules to follow religiously, and that everything else has been warped through interpretation way too much to follow directly . My family are some of the few. They've had their issues when I came out but they never cited religion as one of them , they just want me to be safe and happy and after reassuring then it's what I want their doubts and issues have long subsided

[@Russman67]

Story 1: Walking a daughter down the aisle is a privilege. And dad burned that option early on. He made his opinion clear about OP's relationship and is only upset about how he'll look if someone else walks her down the aisle. Oh well. Dad earned it.

[@onepieceisking5493]

Exactly 💯. He made himself look like an A-hole because he is an A-hole that refuses to accept his own own daughter as a loving parent should. Love how he op is undermining his authority as a parent when he doesn't act like a parent. He burned that bridge long ago with horrible attitude and treatment.

[@thomasjoseph5876]

@@onepieceisking5493 OP is a nasty C U Next Tuesday. She thinks her bisexuality is some sort of entitlement. I hate people like her who think everyone has to accept who she sleeps with. Dad didn't like the fact she was Bi and there is nothing wrong with that. Dad also didn't like his fiance who was a female and there is nothing wrong with that. The fact OP didn't even bother asking him shows she is a horrible person. So she has had issues with him the last few years well what about all those other years she was growing up and was "Daddy's Girl"??? Does she just throw all of those years away and they don't count because Daddy refuses to bend a knee to her now??? If she was marrying a guy and the Dad didn't like him, nobody would give it a 2nd thought because that happens sometimes in life. Because she is marrying a woman, then suddenly Dad is a horrible Homophobic. Whatever, he is allowed his opinion. As a disclaimer: I AM Bi-Sexual, I just hate A-holes who clutch their pearls because everyone doesn't agree with the way some of us live our lives. And YES, I am also "one of those" that believe we need to become JUST LGB and dump the gender-confused groups because they have NOTHING to do with sexual preference.

[@mindyschocolate]

Agreed. Her dad needs to sit down and shut up.

[@imajinallthepurple]

Story 3 really hit home because I *was* the kid in homemade clothes. And my classmates were sooo jealous of some of it because my mom would allow me to design the clothes I wanted myself, sown and knitted alike. 😏👍

[@wyn555]

My mom made mine too. She was really good about have the most up to date styles and kids would always ask where I bought it. Not to mention you dont know how good fitting clothes feel till you have them tailored to fit you. I was so sad when we moved away and she no longer had a good fabric store around and I had to deal with ill fitting store bought clothes.

[@imajinallthepurple]

@@wyn555 Ikr?! My own private tailor. I always appreciated the effort she put into them. I had some amazing knitted jumpers as well right up until my mom unfortunately got too old to knit. My preferred lengths, styles, colours, etc. I miss those the most.

[@DameNickum]

Hand made clothing is precious. I quilt. I was almost always asked to come to baby showers because everyone knew I’d make a quilt, colors of the nursery, special shapes, what ever the expecting couple liked. It’s a thrill to give someone something that took hours and hours to make, is filled with love and cute! Thanks for standing up for MIL, she gave a gift of love. Your parents were gifting from status, not heart.

[@sarahlowes1501]

I still remember the white Aran cardigan with red apple buttons my late paternal grandmother knitted me when I was about 6/7 years old nearly 50 years later. My sister had one with boat buttons. I learned to crochet in my early twenties and crocheted an outfit for my eldest nephew not long after.

[@juanhaines7295]

Story 2 Nta people need to put more thought and consideration into their kids names. People will bully them in an instant.

[@the_croissant5055]

liek stanford sounds alright???? but yale? like bro shes setting these kids especially yale up for failure and bullying

[@Sherwoody]

She’s setting her kids up for a lifetime of bullying and therapy.

[@carlrood4457]

@@the_croissant5055 Stanford is an actual name and can easily be shortened to Stan. There is a Jewish/Hebrew name that's pronounced like "Yale", but spelled differently. I'm not sure of the spelling.

[@ndawn90]

​@@carlrood4457I'm pretty sure you're thinking about the name Yael, but that's also typically a feminine name and it's pronounced more like, "yah-yale". Beautiful name, though.

[@sister_bertrille911]

@@carlrood4457 I believe it's Yael. The issue is that everyone will associate the names with the universities once they know what both children are named. Stanford by itself or with siblings named Mary and John is fine; Stanford with a sibling named Yale is tacky.

[@melissawittman]

Story 3: NTA. My mom made clothes for us, not all, but a lot. Then she took the scraps and made doll clothes for my sister and me! My sister-in-law's mom made her wedding dress. It was stunning! Good for OP for putting a stop to his parents!

[@megnotmegan1966]

It’s so rare now to see someone give gifts made by hand; the love, time, and experience put into creating those gifts far outweighs the ease of going to the store and buying something cute. Congrats to OP and wife for seeing things clearly. Just as in some families there is always a ‘black sheep’, well sometimes there is the one family member who is actually a human being with feelings, not shallow and narcissistic.

[@mkuti-childress3625]

I’ll bet his mother felt jealous of the fact that they obviously loved her mother’s handmade gifts so much and realized her own expensive gifts weren’t as meaningful. My most treasured gift is a hand crocheted afghan my grandmother made me when I was nine, months before she unexpectedly died. It’s in 1970s colors and definitely has wear and some discoloration, but I will always love it.

[@megnotmegan1966]

@@mkuti-childress3625 my grandmother was a fan of whatever material she could get her hands on, so I have some blankets with awesome 70’s crappy material….and it’s priceless!!👍❤️

[@abelink9229]

Story 3. I wore mostly handmade clothes until I went to school. My mother couldn't make formal suits or jeans, and buying uniform was less hassle than trying to find the matching fabric. I loved the clothes she made to bits. OP NTA, it warms my heart that he appreciates the heartfelt gift.

[@annamcnarin]

In my family, we treasure homemade items, they're made & fit better than anything you can buy in a store. We still have my maternal grandmother's Sunday baby dress (obviously no one wears that lol). That man rocks, I bet he'll continue to be an awesome partner & be an awesome dad.

[@AndyyWithAY]

I never understand why stories like 1 even exist. He's not supportive of her and hasn't been for a long time. He couldn't even say in the affirmative he would even attend the wedding. Why would he be asked to perform FOB duties? 🙄

[@ACAB.forcutie]

Ikr! Like, ok, fine, you're a homophobic ahole, but fine, whatever. But then to have the audacity to think she'd be interested in having that special moment with you. 🙄

[@immapotato1]

social pressure. u know people are very eager to keep peace by forcing forgiveness on the victim cause they're the easier target.

[@LilFeralGangrel]

he doesn't want to look bad. that's what his fear was.

[@thebladeofchaos]

Becuase obviously if he's offered the role he'll attend. /s

[@whitneybennett4857]

No, OP, he didn't actually want to walk you down the aisle. It was just a blow to his ego that you asked someone else to do it.

[@Nathan_Bookwurm]

Yes. He was only sorry the whole family gets to see that OP chose a "stranger" over her own dad.

[@thomasjoseph5876]

I guess if I had paid for and raised the OP her entire childhood and been called "Dad" until the point I didn't agree with her sexual preference and she never bothered to ask me to walk her down the aisle, I would be rightfully p*ssed off as well. So the father didn't like her fiance and didn't like her lifestyle, so what. The only reason it is a big deal is because Social Justice Freaks are shoving their lifestyles and other things down our throats and if we don't "bend the knee" we are considered some horrible name. The OP is an entitled c*nt and treated her father poorly and I bet she has been doing that her whole life. Before you get your stinky panties in a bunch, I am Bi-Sexual so save your homophobic rant for someone else.

[@taylorslade961]

Story 3: I am a person that makes things and enjoys handmade things. The things people make themselves with their own 2 hands are WAY more meaningful than store bought, mass produced, crap.

[@SilverKingGary]

Story 2: NTA and speaking from experience here (Named Gary and went to school with Sponge Bob airing) those kids are gonna be bullied hard for those name.

[@allanmartinez7535]

Great video, there is nothing like a perfect marriage or relationship, I learnt that in everything there is always a solution, 5 years ago I and my wife divorced because we were having some difficulties in our marriage but we are back together, it was a really bad phase but we got through it.

[@wonhur885]

there is a lot of sense in what you just said and I hope mine works the same way too, we are currently separated but I cant live without her, I love her so much. wish I can get her back I can do anything to have her back, we have tried therapy amongst other things.

[@allanmartinez7535]

@@wonhur885 its always difficult to let someone you love go, but in my case I had the help of a spiritual adviser who saved my marriage from collapsing her name is SHELLY RENEE WHITE.

[@wonhur885]

@@allanmartinez7535 this is helpful, I will look her up. I hope this works for me too.

[@allanmartinez7535]

@@wonhur885 kindly look her up online and you won't regret it.

[@roowyrm9576]

I'm so glad the dad in story 1 managed to change positively. It's a rare, but wholesome ending.

[@gcarr1089]

Story 3 - I love hand made gifts from family members as they are unique and cannot be bought from a store. Everyone always asks were I bought it from and when I say someone made it, you can guarantee they will ask can that person make them one. Everyone else gives generic off the peg items you will see on other babies everywhere.

[@AndyyWithAY]

It was nice to finally hear a positive story about Religion from Reddit. Seems like everytime it's mentioned it's connected to bigotry and hatred.

[@xelectrix]

Well most people coming to AITA for help aren't there to tell good stories.

[@amberleeannalee1999]

That’s the majority situation that’s why

[@charityquill4965]

I'm a Christian, though I haven't been to church in ages. But I was so relieved to hear that the church the dad went to preached acceptance and love :)

[@paulastiles5507]

@@charityquill4965 Mine would fall apart without the gay parishioners. They do most of the work!

[@charityquill4965]

@@paulastiles5507 lol bless them (literally) 🤣

[@DonBoy22]

St2 is one I'm going to be hoping for an update for. Poor kids, I hope that the supposedly smart sister gets wise before they get here.

[@leaflet1686]

Story 3: Here I sit wishing for a normal family, that loved me, while I have a family that abandoned me, set me up for failure and hardship and let me run around in to small second hand clothes and then said I looked horrible after my teachers suggested I am creative and might want to try fashion design. They ridiculed my clothes, and forgot that I had no money or skill to do anythign about it... I would cherrisch this MIL forever!

[@lizzykayOT7]

My mum also used to sew clothes for us when we were younger, not because of financial reasons, but because that's how she grew up and liked it. She stopped as she no longer has time, but my sister now sews her own stuff sometimes and curtains. I'm not allowed to use a sewing machine because they're all afraid of me ruining things, but I hand-sew. Lol. Crafting your own clothes or clothes for loved ones is amazing and requires such hard work.

[@dannietea]

Story 2: NTA. Not only is it putting unbelievable pressure on the kids and setting them up for failure, but I also foresee a lot of favoritism, bullying, and begging for name changes in the future.

[@artygirl66]

So the kids will be named Stanford and Yale and prolly end up not going to college at all OR they won't be elite enough to go to those schools in the future. I feel bad for those kids as they grow up under the pressure of a "IT NEEDS TO BE PERFECT!" Mom. 3rd story nta. My mom crochets blankets and clothes for babies, toys, etc. And they're always beautiful and well received. I would treasure something like that because it's such a heartfelt gift.

[@TheTrueKarin]

What? I got tears in my eyes when I heard the last story. That is just so respectful. Op‘s Mil had not much but she made the effort and threw that made a priceless thing. I highly respect people who can made such things like cloth. Your Mil sounds like a so sweet person and probably the jackpot of all granny’s. You all are lucky and good Op that you stand up for your wife. On ask reddit there we see so much the spineless partner sickness but this guy did not fuck around. You did a great job protecting your family ❤

[@paden1865able]

If he doesn't support the relationship and is downright nasty about it, then he doesn't get the perk of walking you down the aisle. Family isn't always the people you're born to, it's the people who love and support you all the way. It's as much of the heart as it is biology.

[@LordGertz]

I remember when I was young and my Mother bought me a whole new bedset, sheets, pillowcases and a comforter. She did this because a single pillowcase my Grandmother had embroidered had gone missing during a massive laundry marathon which included the laundry of someone moving out and a guest leaving. It still didn't make up for it. What I wouldn't give to have that pillowcase back (and Grandma's Potatoe salad recipe) back. I still plant my Grandma's favorite flowers around my house. One set of gifts was effort & love, and the other was just money thrown at the issue. So set of gifts has a known cash value and the other is priceless.

[@storyjumper]

That last story made my blood boil. My grandma made each of my sisters and myself a dress. We got to pick the fabric. All of us lost the dresses in a fire and we are all equally sad about the loss even if we had out grown them for years ago 😔

[@horsemaddd]

Story 3. Wow. He did so good. What an amazing man ❤

[@aurora4218]

My grandmother knit each of her kids a sweater when they were in their teens/twenties. My dad ended up with 2 somehow? and he gave them to my sibling and i. I wear mine every winter, and I get lots of compliments. My sibling's sweater is the only acrylic sweater they're willing to wear. Clothing made by Grandma always gets a special status

[@ivy4104]

HAPPY MONDAY EVERYBODY!! Have a fantastic week, thx for the content Mark!

[@MarkNarrations]

You're very welcome, hope you have a good day!!

[@broken_queer_but_fighting8589]

You too m8💜💜🤗🤗

[@stevebanner5609]

Story 2: I am so stunned over OP’s sister I have no words except 2-“entitled” & “narcissistic.”

[@madambutterfly1997]

I have a grandfather and uncles like that. They're more of my father figures than my own father is and even my step-father has been making progress at least enough progress that I can say I love you when I hang up

[@laurentiare]

Hey Mark, to answer your questions about *Stanford* and *Yale* ; Both are “ivy league” schools because of how prestigious they are in the US. Hope that clarifies everything! ❤

[@MMKMoore1]

Story 3 - NTA Good on OP for defending his MIL! His parents are horrible, judgemental people. How dare they say one word to MIL about her gifts. They don't get to decide for MIL's own daughter what's a valued gift. As a crafter, I'm outraged on MIL's behalf as well. My most treasured possessions are things that were made for me by my mom and grandmother.

[@blairn8748]

Handmade gifts are the best. The thought and effort that goes into them shows the love of the person who made them. I can buy nice clothes from the store. I cant spend 60 hours sewing or knitting.

[@Brizlebird]

Story 2 brought back memories of my mum being so upset at being the poorer grandparent compared to my brother in laws family. They would spoil my niece and nephew with material goods… cheap plastic stuff from China. My sister and I reassured mum that the kids would remember the skills she taught them, the toys and clothes she made them. She tearfully accepted our reassurances but we never thought she truly believed us. My nephew is now 19, my niece 16. He regularly takes Grandma out to lunch… he even took her to get her first ever tattoo… a frog… and he surprised her by asking for the same image to be tattooed on his thigh… “so that a part of Grandma will always be with me”. Both my niece and nephew have memory boxes… in which they put something precious each year…. inside is a treasure trove of the stuff mum has made them over the years… the felt 1st Christmas tree ornaments, a button from the button game she made and played with them… even chewed and much loved sock puppets. There is nothing in either box from the other grandparents, because nothing given by them ever meant anything. The kids remember playing with my mum, learning how to grow fruit and veg… and picking and eating the produce… making sock puppets… memories which genuinely meant everything! Their other grandparents ? … they went low contact about 2 years ago, after they felt slighted by the “lack of appreciation” for all the age inappropriate, expensive (and unwanted) plastic stuff they had posted to them for Christmas.

[@heatherweir8726]

Story one. The dad doesn't need op to look like an @$$. He's doing a fine job of that on his own.

[@swiftninja91]

Story 3 - My Grandmother made some lovely crochet cardigans for me and my sister. We still have them somewhere and the design on the little buttons is so cute. I just know she would have spoiled us rotten if she had the chance ... she died when I was 2. She never met my brother or youngest sister. I'd give anything to have a Grandmother like the MIL in this story ... I would treasure her always. Good on the OP for showing that shiny spine

[@AndyyWithAY]

I have a dentist appt today to see if they can save my tooth. Wish me luck. My dentist said earlier this year, she couldn't say at that point, but if I kept up my good dental routine, it was possible. Let's just say I've been keeping up with my oral hygiene like it's my job 😅🤣

[@stephaniet1389]

Wishing you luck. I had to get a root canal a few days ago to save my tooth. It was scary at first, but wasn't that bad. Modern medicine and novocain are amazing.

[@Andrea.S.Alvey12]

[youtube.com/@andyawe13] Good luck with the tooth! ❤

[@christina1764]

Good luck, I hope everything goes well at the dentist and you keep your tooth 🤍

[@lisathornton2187]

The only items kept from my childhood were handmade dresses from my mother and handmade dolls from my grandmothers. In my own life, I've gone through some financial hardships. One Christmas, I didn't have money to buy gifts. I made everyone big boxes of homemade cookies and candies because baking ingredients are cheap. My family loved them and now request them every year. One of my uncles told me my baked goods are always his favorite part of Christmas. Thoughtfulness and love always make the best gifts.

[@Cassandra-i6j]

I'm 54 and the only clothes I remember from my childhood are ones that my mom make. Specifically a green Raggedy Ann dress complete with red yarn for hair. I'm still sad it's gone.

[@ladypeyton]

YIKES! As someone who literally works at Yale, even though I love it, I am horrified that someone could be saddled with it as a name.That poor boy.

[@alyzu4755]

Story 1: So glad to hear about this happy ending! ❤️ Story 2: Those poor boys. Not even born yet, and they're got a tough road ahead. ☹️ Story 3: NTA AT ALL!!!!! OP's parents are, though. MIL is a gem, and so is OP. 🥰

[@tgbedini]

On story 1, one thing no one I noticed commented on. The dad said, "you're undermining my authority!" to his 27 year old daughter! That line alone tells you a whole lot, doesn't it? He thinks he's still able to treat her like a child. Oh, damn, that update was too great. Good for him, and all of them.

[@lvincent7493]

Story 3: Reminds me of the crochet college blanket my grandmother made me that my dad's wife trashed. I never got to use it. And it burns me alive almost 34 years later. I've kept all my children's handmade baby blankets.

[@sardonically-inclined7645]

Story 3: I stand by the use of the term. That is "Chad Husband Energy".

[@thomasmacdiarmid8251]

The best nickname for baby Yale is Eli (that's the school nickname, after Elihu Yale, the Welsh businessman who gave a big donation early on).

[@notovny]

Story 1: If you can't even _lie about saying yes_ when asked what you would have said if she _had_ asked you, she's more than justified in not asking you. Update 1: Well, that went far better than I expected.

[@NeroTheDarklord]

Fathers can sometimes be capable of the most unexpected changes of heart imaginable. Mine is a screamer. He always had a very short fuse and exploded in hour long screaming fits over the smallest things. Due to his impatience, he never really taught me things correctly and just shoved me aside when I wasn't fast enough or wouldn't immediately get something. I still struggle with learned helplessness as a result. When I moved out, I expected of him to be the least caring about it. But it actually deeply affected him. Now that my life is falling apart, he's willing to do just about anything to rescue me and give me back all the stability I lost. He showed some real empathy for my situation and acknowledges I worked incredibly hard to make it by myself. I'm honestly floored. While I don't think the main problem of constant screaming has been resolved and I still doubt he learned patience, his recent behavior makes me see him in a different light and I have hope that things with him will eventually get better.

[@ellorasg4525]

Story 1: Happy to see the stubborn Dad change. Im glad for OP 😊

[@AryonaSamoto]

Story 1: I'm so happy everything turned out alright for OP❤ Story 2: I hope that the sister gets off her high horse but from the attitude, I doubt it. I'm sure OP has had enough of the condescending attitude and came off as snarky but I agree with him for saying something. Kids shouldn't have great expectations forced upon them from a young age. Story 3: I'm so glad OP is such a great hubby to stand up for his MIL. Maybe OP's parents will see the error of their ways, maybe not. But OP can stand tall knowing he has a titanium back bone of integrity and virtue🙌

[@Andrea.S.Alvey12]

[youtube.com/@AryonaSamoto] Agreed. But I'd like to add: Reinforced with LOVE. 💛

[@tralee2006]

Story 3 : my nan never gave me huge gifts. Was always $10 (AUD) and a coat-hanger with a beautiful knitted cover with padding under it. It's great for all my jackets, no coat-hanger marks Grandma sewed my prom/formal dress and up until lately (getting too old now) she did all my alterations. Most expensive gift off my grandparents was my piano... but they sold a few cattle to buy it for my 16th birthday (in time for big high school exams too) They spent something similar on my brother

[@MarkNarrations]

OOOOF! Monday again but you got this!

[@Cazlouisa123]

Happy Monday mark 🎉🎉

[@juanhaines7295]

Morning

[@kerribottriell-baxter7345]

Last story: I'd do the same thing as OP. There are talented seamstresses/tailors out there, and some of the stuff I own, and my husband owns are homemade from our own grandmothers who knew how to make stuffed toys. Screw anyone who looks down on the poor like that.

[@celestialangel666]

Story 3: I think the stuff I’ve kept or loved the longest were homemade items from my mom and others. I still have a baby blanket that was quilted by a family member. NTA.

[@ILJ68]

I have never liked my name. Never. I was teased relentlessly. My kid? Traditional name. Was never a question.

[@paulagoeringer9466]

Yes. I gave my son a normal name after his father and grandma tried to force a traditional family name on him. His father had it for his first name and hated it, always going by his middle name. Why would you want him to go through that too? He had no answer. There wasn't even any good reason for the name. It was because they were vaguely related to the wright brothers. Yep. They wanted his first name to be wright. Ridiculous. Old fashioned clout chasing. Smh.

[@owl7072]

My first and middle name are combinations of names from family members I never even met, I didn't care much at first but over time it started to feel like I was just a tribute to people I never knew and as if I was supposed to be like them, it was especially bad when I went and changed it (socially, not legally yet) and my mom got _incredibly_ defensive/offended about it. Like, excuse you it's _my_ name and I'll do what I want with it.

[@ILJ68]

@@owl7072 My parents were hippies and reading about gods from around the world. No idea where they got my middle name, but hate that too

[@Davtwan]

I love these years-later updates for big issues like these (even if I haven’t seen many). Who would have expected that a major epiphany like that would happen?

[@American_Liberty]

Handmade gifts bring me to tears. Best gifts ever! Someone took so much time to love you and think of you while they made them. Op! Go hugs tha beautiful mil of yours!

[@raynellemccathern3018]

Story 3: Crazy that people like Ops parents exist.

[@Weirdandwonderfull19]

Story 1 update made me so happy 🖤💜. I'm so glad things worked out with OP, her now wife, and her family. Story 3 - Well done to OP for standing up to his crappy parents and sticking up for his wife and MIL. Finally we have a story with a spouse who sticks up for their significant other! Love, time and effort will always be far more valuable than money. An expensive gift is a nice gesture, but will never beat the love and effort that goes into something handmade. I wish I had the talent and skill to handmake things. Story 2, my neighbours rescue dog was called Stanford. The sister sounds insufferable and exhausting. Looking down on people because they don't have same level of education or money is sad. Sister might feel superior, but she isn't better than anyone. Life isn't a competition, acting like it is a contest to "make it" is extremely immature.

[@musarocks100]

LOVE starting my workday with you Mark! don't tell my manager but I crochet on the job during slow times

[@MarkNarrations]

Nice, send me pics of the creations!! :) Don't get caught though haha

[@Ospyro3em]

Final story- when i was little my grandma always knitted me and my siblings clothes duch as cardigans. I remember loving them so much.

[@BerryTrekkin]

Story 3: Petty me would've sold all of parents' gifts and given the proceeds to MIL as an apology, but I suppose returning the gifts is a bigger FU to the parents.

[@ingegerdandersson6963]

Walking down the aisle together is the formal, traditionel way in Sweden. Two equals, not one being given away to the other.

[@TheFoodGuideOfL]

Even if OP's MIL had plenty of money, I feel like the homemade clothes would be a more touching gift than just bought stuff. I can only imagine how many hours she invested into them. Glad OP was able to reassure her that his parents are just twits

[@MyCarhuggerShow]

For the second story I think it needed to be said and I applaud the OP for messaging the sister separately instead of blasting her on the social media post. That takes class when you have been looked down upon by the person.

[@AndreNDP]

And I don't know where the commenter got that she was sarcastic...those are just bluntly stupid names that your kids are gonna have to live with.

[@ReyK_47]

My mom didn't grow up with a lot and had to learn how to crochet and sew. Even though by the time I was born my parents were more financially stable, she still would make things instead of buying them when she could. I have every dress, every scarf and pair of gloves, every blanket and baby hat that she's ever made for me and they are irreplaceable treasures to me. More love and thought went into those items than anything else I own.

[@whiskeyontherocks]

Story 3, homemade clothes aren't that cheap either. I'm an avid knitter and usually knit to the family. I recently knitted sweaters with a tractor motif for my nieces sons size 1 and 3 years it costed 50€

[@ladydamiana6841]

I know a kid whose parents named him Prince'Ton (for real!), so he's Prince'Ton when he's in trouble (lol) or for everyday, he's a Prince. No telling where he'll end up.

[@alexanderhenby1362]

I crochet, and I have crocheted many a baby shower gift, many a birthday gift and many little things to hide around the office for folks to find. They are all made with love and care and hours and hours go into making something. 15 minutes goes into buying sruff. Thats not to say bought presents arent important and sentimental but they arent the only way to let people know you love them

[@maneeb1299]

I knitted my first ever beanie and sent to my nephew. I didn't even know if the quality of it was okay, if it would unravel or anything. But my cousin sent me photos of him wearing it and now it's been handed down to his little brother. It makes me so so happy. So I can imagine just how heartbroken the mother-in-law must have felt when OP's family said those things to her. I hope OP showed her just how much they appreciate her clothes

[@deettekearns9092]

Second Story - I live in Los Angeles, grew up in New York so used to "uncommon" baby names (hell, I have a name no one can spell or pronounce) but the names the sister chose are East Coast blue-blood-type names. If the names had some kind of meaning in the family, maybe, but to not have that kind of family lineage makes the parents seem like desperate social climbers.

[@LakeGael]

I was listening to this AS I was sewing; I was a cosplayer in my 20s but now I focus on historical fashion. I would have been SO livid if I were OP in that last story, sewing clothing for your family (or anyone) is such a labor of love. I'm glad OP confronted the parents about their comments.

[@telinhajp]

Good afternoon, Mark and Poppy! Wishing you both have a relaxing Sunday! ❤️🤗

[@broken_queer_but_fighting8589]

🤗🤗💜💜

[@maggpiprime954]

Yale locks are what I'm thinking, too! (Canadian) But those kids for sure are gonna be called Waldorf and Stadler. Which, tbf, is way cooler lol

[@mindyschocolate]

S2: wow sister sounds high and mighty. Her kids will hate her for those names and she’s ridiculous putting that kind of pressure on them. What would happen if they don’t do as well as she thought?

[@mamm7223]

The handmade gifts I received at my baby shower were, and still are, the items I most treasure. I still have them....and my "baby" just turned 45 years old! My grandmother used to tell us that money can't buy good manners and class, and OP's parents are living proof.

[@s.d.berard7518]

Have an amazing day everyone and thank you Mark for the video!! 💚😺

[@FriedaMMartin]

Good morning! I got a lot of stuff to get done today however, I hope all is going well!

[@MarkNarrations]

You got it Frieda, I have faith in you

[@erikgutierrez3613]

Greetings from SoCal! Thanks for the content Mark!

[@onecrazybritishlady9613]

I cherish every gift I've been given that was homemade or has been given thought to. My nephew gave me a picture of a weekend trip I took him and most of his cousins and siblings on. My niece painted a picture of one of my favourite characters. Inexpensive but full of consideration. As the saying goes it's the thought that counts.

[@tinapetrovicz9741]

Recently my adult daughter talked with her friend and I about how much she loved the clothes I made her, when she was young. The whole experience of fabric shopping and chosing whether she wanted shorts or a dress, ect and having clothes that actually fit (she was lanky so I often had to alter her clothes or buy things that had adjustable waist bands). Taking the time to make things makes them special. OP's parents are AH for what they did to the MIL. OP did do something drastic by returning their gifts, but I am not sure they would have understood just being talked to.

[@messinalyle4030]

Story 1: What can I say? That's the happiest ending I've seen in a long time.

[@Habitarse]

Story 3: I do cherish very much all home made clothes that my family did for us! They were gold! Fitted to us and we had a lot of fun with them! My aunts would also make changes to clothes bought in shops to adopt the fashion at the time. it was the 70s and 80s. I loved so many clothes for the new wave fashion with the neon colors made by my aunts and a seamstresses friend of the family. My friends always tight we got those from high end shops. I cannot believe people that just think that industrial clothes are better than hand made. They don’t understand the meaning of a couturier…. Clothes made by Chanel were hand made! With exceptional textiles. Such an ignorance.

[@LizLuvsCupcakes]

I’m glad that first story ended well. Somehow him coming around and apologizing was better than some other more dramatic ending.

[@mariantopham6907]

Story 1: those damn onion ninjas

[@briansmaller7443]

A Yale is a type of medieval monster - a goat type animal with boar tusks - was used in heraldry.