I'm Not Pretty Enough...

Today I talk about low self esteem, toxic relationships and how I overcame those obstacles. If you are struggling right now, please find people you can trust to help you through this time. Never let anyone disrespect you, we all deserve love and respect, and remember to pass it on to others as well.
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[@PennyTovar]

Today I talk about low self esteem, toxic relationships and how I overcame those obstacles. Never let anyone disrespect you, we all deserve love and respect, and remember to pass it on to others as well

[@r.reyna.c]

:(

[@bye7940]

You are the most lovable person Penny! You don’t deserve to be hated, you are so nice!

[@venusduran5294]

❤️❤️❤️

[@111-cleo]

You don’t deserve any hatred from people! You are the kindest and sweetest person! 🦋✨ Sending positivity!

[@malikadovo1930]

I m so glad you made this video. We should see more of this. I m in this way Of hapiness and acceptation myself now for a few time and that can really help. Thank you

[@hiccup61]

“Pretty” is such a dangerous word for young girls. It either becomes your identity or this unattainable goal you’ll never achieve.

[@arseen33]

I agree. When I was going through this I realized that if I tried to talk about the way it felt to be "pretty" or "beautiful" or what it meant to be those things, but I couldn't use those words, I ended up just talking about feeling loved and important to someone. Cherished, heard, seen. Appreciated. I didn't want beauty, I just wanted to be loved. I think when we're little we have dolls that we love and figures to look up to that we love, and we're told that they're pretty. When every image of a girl that's loved or "worth protecting" is a beautiful princess, things get conflated imo.

[@Emily-us4gq]

Omg so bloody true! I feel like being pretty has become all people see me for and so I act in a way that makes me think I need to focus on only that for my self worth. I am catching myself as much as I can these days and trying to remind myself who I am is the most important thing and that I'm not some object for the way that I look

[@prettything6802]

I agree but disagree. Wanting to be pretty is so painful sometimes. But when someone calls YOU pretty your on cloud 9 especially when your so young. So the word pretty can be a painful concept or a wonderful compliment

[@brianastallcup6962]

Pretty Thing I understand what you’re saying but I think that’s the problem. Someone complimenting something as arbitrary as your appearance shouldn’t mean that much. It’s too much pressure and emphasis placed on something that has nothing to do with WHO you are, it’s just what you look like.

[@user-hm6xy8ii1o]

Lol these types of comments get such long responses but yes v true thank u

[@HumanFatema]

“It’s not your job to please strangers eyeballs.”

[@ziennanoordpool6639]

Not my responsibility-billie eilish

[@lyn3792]

For real

[@emmaheart394]

@A Human Being yes i workout to look in the mirror and feel proud of myself if people don't like what they see i don't care

[@cookiemaster772]

I honestly just wanna feel pretty for myself

[@alzaen2240]

Omg I've read eyeballs without eye...

[@crazytidy2426]

Honestly at this point, I don’t want to look pretty so people will like me, I want to look pretty for myself.

[@randomgirl9229]

Same

[@lala-4458]

I want both lol

[@majonaisse3986]

Yes! And it’s the most gratifying feeling ever

[@Jadeigital]

@@lala-4458 same

[@yourmum1963]

Yes

[@medinesonmez2213]

I think nothing is more attractive than a woman who is confident about herself.

[@addie8080]

Medine Sonmez ig that makes me even more unattractive XD

[@fatumaabdullahi8924]

Socially awkward -_- FR LMFAO

[@alexj7931]

I am confident in myself and you are right. Confidence is a turn on and all you need to do to be attractive and happy is to be yourself . To anyone reading this. I hope you have a wonderful day.

[@Bookwormxox]

I guess I'm 0% attractive lmao

[@ilikeyourcutg5597]

Medine Sonmez or men

[@Alyssaluv22]

I've been single throughout my whole 21 yrs of life

[@mxureentrc170]

Saaaame

[@isabelleaguilar3331]

And that’s ok there’s nothing wrong with being single

[@j.l408]

Same.

[@liz_mtz12]

Same, 20 yrs in 2 months 😂

[@boredshrimp9425]

Same and I don't care

[@okayra.s1106]

When she said he’s in prison I-

[@PennyTovar]

I was gonna share the article, but I don't want y'all to know who it is xD

[@noelleista]

i was s h o o k e t h

[@user-qp6ts2dp5g]

LMAO

[@yvonnegonzalez5311]

@@PennyTovar boo give us the article we won't tell no one SHHHHH

[@massielgonzalez3309]

You should've seen my face! I was looking to the side and I turned my head towards her like if she was just in front of me lmao

[@birkinmommy]

Bruh when she said her relationships as a child weren’t real I was like “thank God somebody finally said it.” I say this bc every girl at my school (I’m 13) is like “ohh I need a bf” and stuff like that and I’m thinking “girl ur 13 u can’t have a relationship when ur a child, calm down.” The only love you need as a child is from your family, not a lil prepubescent boy, or girl.

[@saratk5815]

And.. do you know what happens when your family is against you and also supports your teen'fake relationships? You are alone in your confusion, spiked from all angles.

[@ohd3ar-328]

I’m also 13 and every girl at my school is also like that, like chill we’re 13 (sorry for bad English)

[@rosaindica7896]

All the high school dramas have made children mad. Relationship is not chocolates n roses. Its thorns n roses. U need maturity to handle it. I maturity to choose a right guy. Y r girls into boyfriends at the age of making friends? I got my bf when I was 15. I that was a careful decision. I can say this becoz 3 years on....n we still together. N are so happy we wish to get married

[@madisnzz]

I liked someone in like 5th grade and kinda denied the fact or whatever. I didn’t want a “relationship” because I was a CHILD. To this day I’m so confused why people think they should date people at those ages.

[@Jadeigital]

I'm also 13 and all the kids in my school are like that aswell- it's just like, bruh. Why do you care so much about having a relationship when you should be trying to have a _childhood_

[@________3167]

The worst thing is when they go up to you and say that someone likes you and then that someone comes up and is like "NOOO EWWWW" and then say a bunch of mean things about you

[@alien_invation371]

Their insecure and young dw :))) your better then them

[@ashleysings2734]

Felt that

[@jakonjhn]

I'm reading these comments and I never really realised how mean boys could be until now. This is disgusting to know. Our batch of boys were all so friendly and supportive of our female classmates and vice versa. I thought evey class was like that.

[@enitsu393]

@@jakonjhn i never realised how rude i am. This person said i like this guy and i said everything i didnt like abt him. Although i prefer us insulting eachother.

[@audriiiiroberts3030]

I always think about school and it was such a good time, with friends but like I would never go back to middle school or highschool evverrrrr again.

[@miixtxpe9438]

“He’s in prison right now!” Me: well that escalated quickly

[@browneyedlolita]

'I just wanted to be pretty' I felt that and it HURT

[@stutinaik4685]

Woahh if that is you in your profile picture, or even if that isn't, you are beautiful 💜

[@duellinks2898]

Yep I feel the same way I just wanted girls to be attracted to me but they was always attracted to stupid guys

[@jesusdied4u693]

Duel Links women are made for men! but God bless your soul ❤️

[@duellinks2898]

@@jesusdied4u693 that's not my belief I believe that people are meant to be with people whom they are attracted to and who's attracted to them I dont believe in god but have a good day

[@keyblademaster7175]

Same

[@jeni3386]

I’ve been extremely insecure since I was like 10. Not only physically but also I hated the way I was. I just turned 16 and honestly this is the first time in my life where I can say that I actually like myself. I finally want to buy clothes that I find pretty and cute and not hide behind the same heavy hot clothes that I usually wear. I’m not perfect but I think I’m cute

[@loubrjs]

Aww❤

[@seonghwasbae2771]

Omg how im 15 and i started to feel insecure at 11 how did u do it?

[@Kittx241]

Proud of u! Please keep this energy going, insecurity takes a lot away from life :(

[@maddie-xk2uv]

How do you guys deal with it? I think that I’m pretty but then others tell me that I’m not. :(

[@melteddarkchocolate000]

김제니 girl I feel you and I’m 17

[@expensivegurl1112]

*"I just want to be pretty"* I felt that-

[@whenthepotatodances]

Look who I found another Namjoon-wifey-sis

[@christinaloveschrist7522]

“Never let anyone disrespect you about your God given face” 👏

[@Morbid_Freyja27]

Amen to that!

[@tisharadoby9601]

Who drew your picture 😍

[@christinaloveschrist7522]

Tishara Doby thegardenboi on Instagram 💖

[@NoName-mm6gh]

Nah these are genetics. It's not only disrespect, but lack of opportunities and harassment that comes along with it. I'll bring evidence since people love to virtue signal

[@avery7964]

MyNamed Name 🤦🏼‍♀️

[@tesherolle78]

“It is more than okay to be single, actually it’s beneficial” this is not talked about or promoted enough. Thank you🧡✨

[@rosalyncolon3481]

When I first seen you I thought you were one of the most beautiful women I've ever seen and its nice that you male these kinds pf videos they help than you think

[@M3xican3000]

Bad Bunny been promoting this for the longest time

[@ginandromeda1618]

@@M3xican3000 uhh Bad Bunny has been in a relationship since 2017. I don't know if you meant it because of some his songs like Soy peor promote it and even though, a lot of his songs are break-up ones or expressing some kind of turmoil caused by fame. So, I don't see him promoting a message of singleness but tell me, how is he promoting it?

[@rhondasilver3582]

Yep!! Just me and my dog!! The only thing he wants is food, water and 3 walks a day!

[@zeinalbasam4733]

Quit copeing hun it’s alright

[@lupeamour6114]

Please feel free to correct me if I’m wrong, but the way I interpreted this is that at a young age it is instilled in us that our looks are tied in with our worth. This is why in today’s society, people praise the idea that nobody is unnatractive, when we should be teaching the idea that even if you are ‘unnatractive’, its okay! Everyone deserves respect. There is so much more to life than trying to look appealing to strangers. Your appearance shouldn’t hold any power over you or determine how you live. Like Peniel said “Beauty is futile” because no matter if you are pretty, average, or absolutely hideous, your happiness and how you live your life is up to you.

[@PennyTovar]

EXACTLY!

[@arkieologist]

Wonderful insight 💛🙌 This message needs to be taught to children before growing up.. My sister and husband told me "Don't call little girls pretty and gush and always say 'oh you're so CUTE! ' all the time." This teaches them that they will be praised for being pretty. Instead, build them up internally! More like the way we encourage boys. Tell girls that they are SMART, BRAVE.. and praise them for being KIND as well. 😊 I'd love to see this teaching catch a wave in our culture.

[@SaturnCrashing]

Yes; I wish we cared more about being smarter and stronger than... prettier. I wish someday we can stop focusing so much on such a petty thing.

[@christinecortese9973]

There’s a billion dollar industry out there working at cross purposes to loving yourself as you are. They can’t make any money off a happy, confident woman. So teach kids also to be aware of advertising and marketing strategies that sell “beauty.”

[@dollyeyeball777]

but I wanna be pretty :(

[@petrakaracsonyi9427]

when she said "you need to take care of your body" i was so ashamed for some reason... i was given this body and i did not take care of it. i hurt it on purpose, i was "punishing" it for not being perfect, for not fitting into this world's expecations. I regret it so much now and there is no way to undo the marks and scars. i gotta live with my past on my skin, with the visible signs of my so so deep self hate - but i've learned my lesson.

[@pickle5708]

I feel you! 😔

[@avaheredia1779]

im so proud of u! U ARE BEAUTIFUL

[@eylulvv]

So amazing that you’ve learned from your mistakes! Be proud of yourself

[@keepyourshoesathedoor]

I’m happy you learned and you’re here today.💕

[@vonKasa]

@Subliminal Reupload Archives who said they didn't know that

[@liaclaxton]

I’m 16 years old and I’m only noticing this now. My low self esteem has put me in so many dark places. There are a lot of girls my age that really need to hear this.

[@jesusdied4u693]

inner beauty is what lasts! God bless you ❤️

[@marybrown8878]

Lia Claxton yass queen me too

[@user-cv2vo5wn9m]

you are a queen. don’t let others put you down!

[@wavi_DXM]

You go girl!

[@sewarqawaqzeh]

I am too 16 years old, im glad that some of us a young age start to look up for fixing these problems with self love, esteem and confidence and educating ourselves,,,keep going

[@PerfectlieImperfect]

fun fact: the boys in my school/class would 'rate' all of the girls and that really messed with my self esteem...it's affected me immensely and still continues to.

[@xursssulaxx]

why do some boys find the need to “rate” girls ugh.

[@jksbottommole8463]

Like i would rate them all -

[@shreya446]

yeah true like what's up with guys everywhere doing that shit it really messes kids up dammit...

[@minnarin7324]

One boy in my class when I was in junior high, talk about rating all the girls in our class WITH me and not even mentioning my name because apparently I'm not even a girl in his eyes🤣

[@roserain7034]

I go to an all girls school so I never had to deal with this. Mixed genders sounds like a mess honestly.

[@Paokesm]

There was this one girl in my class freshman year and she wasn’t the prettiest but I always remembered how much confidence and high self esteem she had I had such a poor self esteem that seeing someone that didn’t need to get it from boys was so confusing for me. I remember her energy was so outgoing and confident she didn’t put other girls down and when she complimented someone it really did sound sincere, not just trying to be friendly. Anyways I later saw her at a talent show with her parents and her dad just seemed cool and nice I’m guessing her parents really showed her her worth idk though I never asked her what gave her such high self esteem

[@enitsu393]

U dont have to but this show called our school. Watch our school 5. Theres this girl whos called farah and is the best she is smart kind and wonderfull. When ppl were bullying her she didnt attack them she said 'if u wanna say something mean abt me say to my face not behind me'. She wanted to be like a school council or whatever and asked to talk at school to explain things so she could get more votes. She also went on the radio. Even though she didnt win she was proud of herself. She wasnt scared and was really confident and out going. I really want to be like that and made feel more proud of myself. She could become very famous and has a very bright future. BTW she was only 12 and wow like wow

[@ajl2232]

@21stcenturyenigma Very true. Unfortunately.

[@mmadi20]

@21stcenturyenigma im kind of curious what you mean by men being attracted to a female's temperamant

[@laurettandemanu8786]

That’s self love!! When you love yourself you’re completely secure and comfortable in who you are. You don’t seek others to determine how you should feel about yourself, you look inward, and most of all you’re accepting of who you are.

[@sarahB06]

@21stcenturyenigma this is too true. I've been saying this for so long. (I'm 14) unfortunately there's only like 000.1% of men who don't think like this. Men's standards are so high!

[@jasmineflowers3583]

Life has taught females the harsh truth again and again when it comes to being “pretty”. Many people ask why beauties go with the beast? Because being reduced to solely your looks on both sides of the spectrum teaches women that the only truly diserable traits are faithfulness, responsibility, intelligence, friendship and kind-hearted ness. But men often can’t recognise these treats without a pretty packaging.

[@sarahB06]

@Cee Z No it's definitely true in these times. Men care about looks more than anything else..

[@Queen-xx1co]

True

[@whatinthehalibut]

"I stopped explaining myself when I realized people only understand from their level of perception." One of my favorite quotes.

[@lyn3792]

Who said that

[@eeee71785]

I don’t like how kids nowadays think they are old and mature enough to get into “real relationships” when we should still be watching peppa pig .

[@delancey3181]

Exactly

[@mariavenchxo6330]

I'm remaining a child until I die😌

[@sharleenkmar2237]

@Narlenis Mendez Yes but that's a very small percentage of people. Also you just missed the point of this comment completely

[@pinkrainn8904]

Maybe not peppa pig but lol like teen titans

[@NovalieSweet]

Yeah I like being single I don't want *YA* cooties *MAN*, I'd rather watch cartoons *all* day 😊❤❤♥️

[@ocean87841]

LOOKS are not everything. YOU are COOL. Cool doesn’t compare to “pretty”.

[@westernrev9628]

The irony.

[@GForceIntel]

Girls can be cool and pretty.

[@thewitcherisdead7014]

She’s kinda pretty

[@madeinchina1835]

I think some girls still just want to be called pretty!

[@slovelyyx7718]

Umaibo looks are still important to most guys

[@SpacecowboiKilu]

I didn’t have my first boyfriend and lose my virginity until I was 24. Before that I was really depressed. I didn’t believe there was someone out there for me. At 24 at lost a lot of weight and started going out which gave me a lot of confidence. After my 1st boyfriend I dated 5 other guys. My last boyfriend traumatized me so bad that I’ve been single for a year now and I’ve never been happier. R

[@huna5923]

Stop depending on others for your happiness

[@elvirakramer371]

Supartholuv Luv that was definitely my problem until I grew to love myself. It is hard at times but it gets better

[@ishanibagal8353]

Edessa YES SIS

[@SpacecowboiKilu]

Jlu 03 lol thanks I saw that too but I try not to bother replying to stupid people

[@GabrielaPerez-tj9sb]

Pygmaleon effect?

[@christinag289]

Goals: - respect myself - be honest with myself - spread love where it’s needed - get on a path of confidence similar to Penny’s

[@freddiemercury4880]

The only goals you should need ☺️

[@shantellek2443]

#1 GOD

[@shantellek2443]

@Kenzie I personally don't. It is not healthy for you to think on those things. Philippians 4:8 (KJV) Finally, brethren, whatsoever things are true, whatsoever things are honest, whatsoever things are just, whatsoever things are pure, whatsoever things are lovely, whatsoever things are of good report; if there be any virtue, and if there be any praise, think on these things. Romans 1:26-28 (KJV) For this cause God gave them up unto vile affections: for even their women did change the natural use into that which is against nature: [27] And likewise also the men, leaving the natural use of the woman, burned in their lust one toward another; men with men working that which is unseemly, and receiving in themselves that recompence of their error which was meet. [28] And even as they did not like to retain God in their knowledge, God gave them over to a reprobate mind, to do those things which are not convenient;

[@freddiemercury4880]

Shantelle K are you seriously saying that questioning your sexuality is bad because of the Bible? Like yeah I’m a Christian, but that book was written like 2,000 years ago. Things have changed since then.

[@christinag289]

Idk what is going on in these comments but here’s my opinion. God may have not intended for women to be with women and men with men, but you should BE HONEST WITH YOURSELF (one of the goals that I listed). It’s okay to do things a bit different. The world won’t end if you chose to love in an untraditional way. Yes, times are changing and so are our minds and feelings. Feel what you feel NOW and don’t let outsiders waver you from experiencing what you feel is right for YOU.

[@savedbygrace5956]

Its sucks/is sad that looks dictate so much in a girls life.

[@JavierGuzman-zf1xk]

And for us guys as well 😞😞 it’s the sad truth

[@keeyonbeaty2424]

In general really boys and girls

[@GirlDo3]

Fr. The notion that a girl's looks and attractiveness determines her worth is such an outdated concept.

[@Thisprincessissleeping]

I honestly have nothing to say

[@phoenixrising9352]

Men’s too. It’s actually much worse for men, who society lies to saying looks don’t matter. Girls get a head start knowing they are everything. Girls got makeup. Men need new jawlines. A foot of height. And muscles that take years and steroids to get.

[@Lea-ov8vq]

Guys remember that whether you're pretty or not, people will still try to take advantage of you in any way they can, stand up for yourselves!!

[@lutamo2341]

In my opinion a pretty woman is that woman that takes care of herself.

[@angeIapaula]

i don't really fully agree. because there are people who take care of their selves, but has a bad attitude. for me real beauty is the one who has a nice personality. well, this is my opinion.

[@lutamo2341]

@@angeIapaula oh I agree! That's the most important thing and it didn't even reach my mind. Thank you for sharing!

[@keepyourshoesathedoor]

angela that is taking care of yourself.

[@cherry-vh7wp]

A pretty woman in my opinion is a one who is cultured a one who cares about improving her knowldege who always tries to think of things deeply and more logically who reads who takes care of her mind more than caring of her appearance

[@cherry-vh7wp]

A pretty woman who is always tries to break down the stereotype people have about females and stuff like that

[@AloeCloud]

We can all agree that Penny is one of the prettiest lady in the whole world 🌍💕

[@tayiswinnin]

No

[@owainh1347]

BUCKETSQUAD rude

[@AloeCloud]

@@Ada-to4xd 😍💕

[@tayiswinnin]

Owain H it’s not rude I’m telling the truth

[@PennyTovar]

@@owainh1347 lmao it's okay, this is exactly what I'm talking about. It's fine to not be attractive in someone else's eyes, that doesn't change who I am :)

[@aspenblue3580]

Okay, yeah, she's not pretty. She's stunningly beautiful.

[@aspenblue3580]

I haven't said they're not, I just highlighted her.

[@iclaimthisname9767]

I don't think you get the point of the video...

[@af-pqueen4287]

SHES GORGEOUS u can tell just by her features

[@sativadva]

Don't lie

[@cleoj8572]

ᴀɴᴏɴʏᴍɪss 😌🖕

[@jamien.5528]

“A friend should be the shoulder that you cry on, not someone who causes the tears.” I needed that.

[@saksplaylist5623]

I’ve always been bullied for being plus size and didn’t have a spec of confidence left in me. I started bleaching my skin and wearing wigs because I didn’t like my natural hair and I thought lighter skin looked better but boy was I wrong. At age 14 I decided to stop fitting into people’s standards and became my own. Now I take care of my natural hair and wear it proudly, I stopped lightening my skin and now I’m on my weight loss journey to living a healthier life 💕 all you need is to find who you are and love who you are untill death because life isn’t supposed to feel miserable

[@Trinaexoxo]

I sent this to my 13 year old sister who is now “dating” boys and she hides things about her that shouldn’t even be something she feels self conscious about. I want her to know her worth before she gets to that low self esteem level so I constantly tell her she’s beautiful.

[@problemmadness]

Hello I am the 13 yr old sister 😑

[@mayuribhattacharya5352]

@@problemmadness I wish someone tried to build my confidence the way your sister is trying to do for you! ❤️

[@leeleeanna1999]

That’s so sweet ❤️

[@isaacthegoat1432]

Don't oversay it. She's gonna take it too literally and thinks shes too good for boys and gonna get prestige

[@kerstiesweeney]

@@isaacthegoat1432 Oh come off it dude.

[@noelleista]

"Friends should be the shoulder you cry on, not the person who causes the tears." 😊💞 that needs to be on billboards everywhere (periodt.)

[@parisfoster193]

Exactly my bff sometimes brings me down

[@noelleista]

@@parisfoster193 sweetheart you don't deserve to be treated like that. a real bff uses constructive criticism, not hate or jealousy. what i've learned tho is that love needs to be broken to be made stronger. so if your bff does that again, remember that if it's meant to be it will last 💖

[@rukayatmuhammad7995]

Am I the only one that thinks she’s pretty

[@GForceIntel]

Usually depending on how you look you will relate to what others look like. Your self image already knows what's obtainable and what's not therefore you see something in her.

[@LoneWolf-sy5ht]

Of course you are not. Maybe she grew up around people that just looked different than here or were not exotic like her

[@straycat3476]

I think she's ridiculously pretty, honestly.

[@Alex-sr7xu]

No

[@slovelyyx7718]

She’s average

[@Србомбоница86]

When you get sick k with a serious illness you realize how beauty means nothing , literally nothing ,body will rott in the ground ,never forget that ,care for your souls girls,because we are here for a very short time .Soul we take with us ,bodies and pretty faces and hair, NO

[@thenewclassic4]

Not to be overly negative or pessimistic or whatever but most people don’t take soul either. As we get older, there are high chances to get dementia, Alzheimer or we just become embittered. Our personalities change, our beliefs change, the world evolves and our views become outdated/frowned upon and there are chances that we forget everything about ourselves.

[@Србомбоница86]

@@thenewclassic4 dementia is sickness of mind, not soul ,God takes care of those people also and he takes their souls .

[@thenewclassic4]

@@Србомбоница86 Well you still don't feel or act like yourself

[@Србомбоница86]

@Misty Pony trust me ,when you get cancer , NOTHING else matters,not beauty ,not intelligence,nothing ,be grateful

[@BadoSee-vm7xb]

Put it hurt

[@Rachel-jg7sv]

I find other people flawless and beautiful, but never feel the same way about myself

[@scarlettwillow9257]

Well you’re beautiful to me. Take care and be safe. Make peace with yourself yeah. Sending you good wishes and prayers

[@reinaaqua685]

Same

[@keiishine]

Girl, what? You’re so beautiful?! Anyways, I agree with what you said. I find others beautiful!

[@miraanna7159]

Maria Del Carmen she is not necessarily fishing for compliments. people who you ( or even society ) possibly consider attractive, might also have to cope with lack of confidence due to several reasons. i cannot imagine you’ve never encountered someone like this before, it’s undoubtedly not rare.

[@potatochip5651]

beka míra I get what you’re saying, but if your attractive society (ppl) will let you know with the way they interact with you versus someone who’s not attractive. Example people approach more, feel more comfortable and in general have more positive reactions towards attractive even if they’re not interesting as a person. One way I knew I was unattractive was because I had to always like always approach people for them to get to know me not the other way around

[@maurarodriguez3432]

Here I am thinking," Penny is one of the prettiest girls I have ever seen."

[@kirsten3234]

Marilyn Rodriguez I know I thought the same!!!!

[@simplycass7872]

Yes she is!

[@shhdani]

For real!!

[@gatacalifas]

nah tbh tho she fineee

[@shejustafriend3213]

yes she is. all of you are beautiful 💗🥺

[@ryleereynolds5710]

Yeah in October when I was 18 I was saving myself for marriage. This guy came along and was the first guy to ever talk to me so I believed every sweet thing he told me. Unfortunately he took my virginity and started treating me like actual trash like as if I was nothing. He’d tell me he didn’t have time to hangout with me but he had no job and wasn’t in school so he had more time than I did and I still was trying to find time for him in my schedule. Anyways, moral of the story is they will say they have feelings for you and make you feel comfy. I’ve still never been on a date or had a boyfriend. He didn’t even kiss me on my mouth or show me any affection. You don’t have to wait for marriage but at least wait for a decent or the right guy or you could be like me. I’m 19 and feel lost and he made me hate myself and my body way more than I did before. I feel guilty and still cry myself to sleep for letting him disrespect my body and soul. I was even the S word from this.. Very very depressed. Also make sure you are comfortable with your body and confident before sharing something like that with someone else.

[@paperplate4675]

Awww I hope you get better, you are worth more than what happened to you. You are amazing and wonderfully made...he did not steal or take your value or dignity. Remember that....you are loved❤❤

[@majonaisse3986]

Im so sorry that happened to you I really don’t know what to say other than I hope that you can love your body again and that no ones touch makes you feel like this ever again

[@2abrielle]

Hey, sending you all my love 💕 incredibly courageous to share your story and hopefully you will walk soon on the path of self-love and discover yourself as a beautiful human being you already are. Keep going, you are strong!

[@md.md16]

It was never your fault, you were just too good for him, and kind. Take care of you, and don't you ever settle for less. Have patience to know people, unfortunately there are many who fake love, but they can't fake it forever. Have a great life! ✌🏻

[@ryleereynolds5710]

@@md.md16 thank you so much. I actually ended up talking to him again and I told him how I felt and he apologized and now he enrolled in school and got a job. He got in contact with me and told me that he was sorry for treating me bad. I accepted his apology and started hanging out with him again and so far so good. I literally hated him last year after what he did but I gave him another chance because I guess everyone deserves a second chance. So far he's been very good to me so I hope this continues !! People are prob gonna think or say I'm dumb though lol. He didn't know he made me hate my body and all that and he didn't know I was suicidal. Like he didn't know my virginity meant that much to me and he apologized. I probably am dumb for taking him back but I did..

[@mentallatnem3421]

I overheard my older sister saying this but I noticed that I haven't related more. "My self esteem is really low, but my self value never dropped' I might hate myself but no one else is allowed to treat me like trash

[@eeshahaqeel9106]

Why are looks so important? Why can't we call a woman brave, courageous or intelligent before calling her pretty. Even people who are average looking according to society's standards MUST be called beautiful because that is apparently the MOST important thing. Everything else she has achieved in life comes after. We should teach young girls to be confident in their looks and also be confident when people Don't appreciate their looks, because they should know they are more than that.

[@kitsulu8576]

There was a study done on girls and how they perform in school Etc. They discovered that girls in kindergarten through second grade perform higher than boys and way higher in general, because social stigma hasn't been placed on them yet, so they aren't afraid of others perception of them, or to be outspoken, and have confidence... However, they found that drastically alters/lowers once societies standards for them set in and they've reached a certain age and have experienced the world more... I believe there are even videos on this study on yt.

[@menna2777]

@@kitsulu8576 I totally agree with u this is basically what happened to me. I was so focused on following the fashion trends and being pretty that I started neglecting school

[@kiriki4558]

Yeah, specialy in media. They have to stop putting the beauty or sexiness as one of the most important feature that a girl/woman can have. And stop putting "you are beautiful" as the best/only thing for boys to say to girls as a compliment.

[@ML-tx4gz]

Madawi Alshaikemubarak Khadija (r.a) 🤲🏽

[@madisonj5136]

Well humans are superficial and people calling other people beautiful is never going to change. It’s important to teach people what they think of themselves because most people judgements are wrong

[@yurirosa2408]

I’m 35 and when you talked about the prettiest girl in your school when you were 13 I visualized the girl in my HS who received that same treatment. It has taken me years and years to bring my self-esteem to a level where I don’t do everything for the approval of other people. This is so important for young women and older women to hear, bc some of us don’t grow out of it in our 20s.

[@kuramacabre]

I am 30 and I feel you. However, 12 year after our high school graduation, now I am the one every man in my class likes because I aged well, apparently. Thank goodness I am currently in a different mindset that doesn't allow me to settle down for less that what I deserve.

[@spikey0034]

@@kuramacabre Who cares what the men in your class like or don't like. They sound so fickle, and you totally deserve better.

[@Србомбоница86]

I am 34 and I remember when I turned 30,I LITERALLY stopped caring about pleasing others or guys attention or things like that ,couldn't care less .It was like a switch turned on after my 30th birthday ,I started caring about other issues ,politics ,my faith ,my family ,but the superficial society doesn't concern me AT ALL anymore ,infact I pity girls nowadays with such immense pressure to look pretty ,it's sad and so irrelevant in the long run

[@timelapse4088]

“A friend should be the shoulder that you cry on, not the person who was causing the tears” so true

[@devonnabrown1738]

“It’s a lot easier to fall down than to pick somebody up.” - Penny Tovar

[@videoeditor8857]

I love how straight forward this was! No long intro or anything. Just raw.

[@shejustafriend3213]

yep something really rare to see nowadays 😔🥺🥺

[@lovely_jexxie8762]

youtubers these days be having a 4 minute intro.

[@shreya446]

i hate intros

[@videoeditor8857]

shejustafriend true :,(

[@videoeditor8857]

Chocolate Cloudy dude one girl had a 5 min intro and I kept skipping and she was still talking in circles so I literally just clicked out

[@jennijenni314]

“I was basing my confidence on how males viewed me” That hit me so hard that I had a Jimmy Neutron moment. 😭😭😭 Love you so much, I missed these types of videos. ❣️✊🏽❣️

[@jelani_music]

If I saw someone who I thought was attractive, I'd describe them as pretty, fine, maybe even gorgeous. But I wouldn't call them beautiful just based on looks. To me, beauty truly does come from the inside, and a person can't just be "beautiful" if it's only on the outside and dependent on the superficial features.

[@MrBooYa-yd5er]

I agree with you.

[@americanojohajoha9906]

im an infp and totally i have a resting boring face that has no expression at all, and im kinda sad that literally every single people i met are scared to talk to me i can clearly notice them picking up words and be so damn careful talking to me like if i would eat their face or something, also the fact that my parents always told me stuff and try to change me into an extrovert is just sad

[@penelope8074]

Even at 23 years old i still get flashbacks of the times in school i was laughed at by the boys of my class. I also never was the pretty popular girl who got attention. Growing up as girls we put our value based on how boys saw us. It's a really messed up cycle that still continues today. My self esteem has never changed since then but as i grow older and more mature, so does my mental state. All i care about now is growing as a better person and learn as much as i can. I wouldn't have find your videos if i didn't let myself be okay with my natural curls, which was one of the many things i hated about myself as a kid. Thank you for teaching us girls who were pushed aside that yes, we can too be very pretty and love who we are!

[@WORSHlP]

thought i was the only one as well, who thinks like this. glad i’m not the only girl who dealt with this before.

[@alizamacarthy6491]

If you need someone to tell you that, there's still a problem.

[@madisonlewe1057]

We are our own worst enemy. What we see in the mirror isn’t what others see in life.

[@wisdom2baked]

She's speaking straight facts. I only know from my own experience, and I was manipulated into a relationship with someone. It was a toxic af, and it lasted for 4yrs. Leaving was the best thing I'd ever done; despite the harrassment and humiliation. I'm free now 🖤

[@pollyl4313]

In a past relationship I’ve been in, I dated a guy who told me straight to my face he didn’t find me “conventionally atttractive” and I was shattered. I changed my makeup style, I changed the way I did my hair, I changed too much of who I really was to be more attractive to him. However, we continued to date, it was pretty toxic and my self esteem and confidence was at an all time low when I was with him. We broke it off 3 months in. I’m now currently in a relationship where my man doesn’t care about only looks. He loves me and respects me for who I am as a person and helps me grow as a person. Looks are the last thing to worry about. He taught me that what really matter is to be a genuine person and to live your life to become a better you, it’s not about being appealing to other people. If people don’t like you for who you are, then whatever. I’m so much happier now and I feel beautiful when I’m with him, even without make up. 😊

[@enrapture6378]

so bittersweet~ so glad you are doing well now with a kind man who loves YOU ♡

[@pollyl4313]

bnwthing thank you!! it feels super good and refreshing to be with him ❤️ i hope others can find someone who can do the same 😁

[@sarakay1869]

It’s so sad that every girl has to go through this at some point in life. Social media in my opinion has completely destroyed beauty image and continues to get worse. I really wish we didn’t have social media. Everyone is beautiful in their own way and we all shouldn’t be brainwashed by what we think is “normal” beauty.

[@FaithsStardust]

Not everyone.

[@mel4340]

@@FaithsStardust ?

[@yanet_052]

I mean it’s not really social media though. Yes, it is very prominent and sometimes toxic but there were other things in the past that affected body image like social media does now (TV and movies with unrealistically pretty actors and actresses, magazines with gorgeous models, etc). Girls have been taught that their attractiveness is their most important feature for centuries (to conform to male desires). Look at Snow White (1937) for example. The prince didn’t really know her, and he only saw her as beautiful. The whole film is based on the fact that she is beautiful. Even then looks were used to qualify a girl. Pale skin, rosy cheeks, being skinny, having a “great chest”, having soft and straight hair, not having a “round” face etc, were all attributes that girls/women would strive for, either through makeup, exercise, or really weird stuff (u don’t want to know). So it’s not really social media brainwashing us to believe these things. These things have been around for centuries, based on the male desire to have a beautiful wife that would be pleasant to look at while procreating children with good genetics (maybe that’s not* the reasoning now 😂 but that’s how it began!)

[@lissadotelle]

@@yanet_052 oh I wish I'd read your comment before posting mine, this was perfect!

[@user-rx7uh9mg4f]

@@mel4340 If you went to an all female school you wouldn't have this problem (to some extent). There still is comparison but it isn't as toxic and students usually focus more on school work and their hobbies. I've went to all girl middle and high school and I felt liberated. Being able to focus on you as a person and not just your looks makes you feel more valued and naturally reflects on your confidence. So yes not everyone goes through this.

[@symmyx0x]

"a friend should be the shoulder that you cry on, not the person who is causing the tears" so true :'(

[@yn6213]

But what if you don't have that😭

[@jj-nt2nc]

1000 subs challenge then you better Go your way alone

[@michellegrobbelaar7379]

I needed this. I'm turning 21 and I've been single my whole life. I haven't even been on a date before to this day. In first year of varsity I wanted a boyfriend so bad. I was even willing to date fuckboys just for the experience of it. But those guys never saw me in a romantic manner. I was always hearing about my crushes going for other girls and I was wondering why can't a guy be loving towards me and see me as hot like I wanna be number 1. But to be honest especially these past few months I'm glad I never dated. I think God is saving me from this heartache and saving me for the right guy that will treat me amazing. Until my soulmate comes to fetch me, imma do me and be a beautiful and fabulous black woman and just finish this degree. ❤️

[@vuyiswamkhwanazi9503]

And just finish this degree😭❤❤❤YAAAAS QUEEN!!!

[@michellegrobbelaar7379]

@@vuyiswamkhwanazi9503 ❤️❤️❤️❤️♥️♥️♥️

[@Me-nc8rs]

"Never place your confidence based on whether or not someone else approves of your physical being" "Never let anyone disrespect you based on your god-given face" "You only get one body, you need to love it You need to take care of it" Thank you, now I love myself

[@myg1193]

I'm in highschool and I am really struggling with these kind of thoughts so thank you penny for opening up. It means a lot

[@yurirosa2408]

Just wanna say that you have so much more to offer this world then the experience you may have in your four years of HS. There’s a big big big world out there waiting for you to conquer.

[@acastacie3362]

I feel you 😔

[@isaacthegoat1432]

Americans are different then the English

[@SRPSKAG0RAZDANkA]

Mariam Yassen I can guarantee all of your bullies won’t be hot for much longer. Inner Ugliness ages people quickly ❤️

[@nicolekraft175]

I’m 25 and still dealing with these thoughts...Thank you penny! I needed to hear this today

[@sparrow9744]

I never cried or felt so emotional watching a video. My low self esteem started with very close relatives laughing at me when I was young...laughing at how I looked, at my hair...it still is very painfull when I think about it. I became so insecure, shy and always felt I wasn't worth the attention... In my thirties, I ended up in a very toxic relationship that lasted for about 10 years and affected me even more. Today, at the age of 48, I am just learning to love and protect myself and not let anyone make me feel bad or worthless !!! Thank you for making and sharing this video !

[@PennyTovar]

You got this!

[@abbeyfrancesca9291]

As a 19 year old I feel overwhelmed by the pressure to looks good, be interesting and intelligent. I still crave male and female attention and I hate it. I want to learn to love myself for me.

[@CarniBarbie]

I'm 52 and still feel like this. :-(

[@alexisnicholson8815]

😢 you shouldn’t feel like that because from what I’m seeing is a beautiful woman ❤️

[@thetruthuntold6255]

@@alexisnicholson8815 yes same ♥️

[@MulamboMedia]

Sorry

[@cell9077]

@@alexisnicholson8815 whats your problem could a human not be beautiful with 52..is that ugliness to be old...you silly human

[@bawsebicc5634]

You’re a white woman.ppl will adore u

[@luizavitallopes9889]

When I tell you I’ve never opened a video this fast I’m serious

[@starshotnails]

Me too

[@Paul-pw7lp]

same

[@PennyTovar]

[@elianna_ecc]

Me, too!

[@essewilliams]

I’ve felt insecure about myself since I was in middle school. I noticed how people were treating me vs. everyone else now matter how nice I was to them. In high school I was actually physically and cyber bullied which made me transfer schools and even now I don’t feel 100% okay with myself I had to let go a lot of negative friends and negative people in my life and I’ve slowly started to be more open about my appearances cause truth is I’m living for myself and no one else so to hell with those that want to call me names. P.S. I think you’re really beautiful and this video helped me a lot ❤️

[@dahyun1036]

Thank you so much for saying this. I was comparing myself to others in damaging ways before I even realised what was doing and it went on for years. I’m trying my best to undo that but it’s become natural and automatic whenever I see another person. It’s sad because I’ve seen other young girls doing the exact same thing and we all valued our looks so much that quite honestly I’m sure we had no idea who we were, and I see others all the time falling into the same trap. We should be striving to be talented, smart and creative before we are pretty. We should strive to be successful like our idols, not look like them physically. Society is harmful to a young girls mind in so many ways, I’m just glad I’ve realised.

[@cow1234ful]

I'm in the same boat. I realize the harm I'm doing when I compare myself, but it's so conditioned into me, im have a hard time not doing it.

[@gloriamurillo1324]

“hurt people, hurt people” that’s a fact.

[@prinduplayzx]

cosmicsky you’re a beautiful person, you deserve love, please always remember that💗

[@ruqayyakhalil4289]

True it’s kinda the same with bullying too “bullied people, bully people”

[@kaileyhoenigman8989]

there's a song called "hurt people hurt people" by Jack and Jack and it's pretty good

[@UnknownUnknown-yl1lt]

This isn't true..I've been hurt so many times but I never wanted to hurt anyone else on purpose..ever.

[@gold3427]

" It's a lot easier to fall down than to pick someone up " -Penny 2020

[@miaow9712]

Also this sentence was said by Finn, hunger games 😁🧡

[@mina6148]

In my opinion, I think that everyone is beautiful. It’s just society that has twisted beauty standards. I’d feel so much more honoured to have the affection of someone who is smart, funny, kind and has a great personality rather than someone who is just ‘pretty’. Be confident in yourself, love yourself and don’t let anyone make you feel like you have something wrong with you. To anyone who is reading this, you’re beautiful 💕

[@BadoSee-vm7xb]

You just help me

[@navyanair3222]

I'm a 15 year old girl and I've struggled so much with my self confidence. A lot of the experiences you shared really resonated with me and I felt so empowered by your advice. Thank you, I appreciate this.

[@beepbop1740]

I'm 14 and I REALLY needed to hear this, there is this girl who gets all the guys but I'm out here with no makeup,crazy curly hair and covers myself and I never got one.But I'm fine with that, I like my natural beauty even if others aren't.

[@x._ana_.x465]

at the end of the day you need to love yourself because you know yourself the best. As long as you love yourself you'll be happy. You don't need anyone to validate that just yourself :)

[@dawitbeemjage5066]

Always remember to love yourself. Listen to bts. They helped me so much to love myself 💜💜💜💜

[@beepbop1740]

@@x._ana_.x465 thank you ,its great advice!

[@soapy6619]

Be careful boys break girls hearts just self love yourself as much as possible treat yourself like your own bestfriend

[@angelycamacho6211]

Yes Girll natural is so beautiful

[@Minicarrotjuice]

I feel weird when people call me cute because I think that they are trying to call me stupid sometimes.

[@loveiseverything003]

i feel the same, complement my character not my apperence

[@Victoria-bo9xk]

IKR looool

[@sofialepe7380]

Same, i hate complements 😌

[@j.l408]

Ellie Puff Same, people call me pretty and I feel so uncomfortable and like am being lied to.

[@jesusdied4u693]

inner beauty is what lasts! God bless you ❤️

[@sera2852]

I was lucky enough to have been to an all girls school for my 12 years of school. There was never any drama. Everyone was friendly and nice , we always brought eachother up. And I didn't have a phone until i was in 11th grade so for all my childhood and almost all of my teenage years I never worried about how i looked since i wasn't aware of the society's beauty standards. At the time i hated that i didn't have a phone or that i went to an all girls school but now I'm super grateful. Although now after i went to college and noticed how everyone is so damn beautiful I felt insecure, but I'm starting to accept and love my self again , as everyone should 💜

[@jewlzn7130]

I'm ashamed to say I'm in in my 30s learning this. I rushed into a marriage to try and get some self esteem. And that messed me up so bad, I went into one relationship after another, just needing validation. Thanks for making this video

[@kuramacabre]

I made my peace with not being "attractive" when I was a teenager and even thought I did have low self esteem, it helped me to avoid being mistreated and disrespected by males. As my queen Amber Scholl said, all men are out of every woman's league. Love a cherish yourselves. 💖

[@carlaconce]

You mean all women are out of every man’s league?

[@quemeveramirezz8767]

Bruh same

[@laureanalogioia5919]

i think you meant it the other way lol

[@starchannel123]

Carla Concé I think she meant that all men think they are out of a women's league. I took it as don't expect much from others.

[@selinkorkmaz1019]

This is bs

[@zb5698]

There is something pretty in every face. Some people just have a very narrow focus on what qualifies as beautiful, so it is their fault if they can’t see the substantial beauty in your face.

[@liss8628]

true

[@elsietheordinary721]

I was gonna like this comment, but I’ll leave it at 111, because I felt this comment on a spiritual level ✨

[@lala-4458]

But my guy i look like kermit

[@zb5698]

FUNGUS ????? Kermit is hot af

[@spudd5832]

I completely stay away from relationships because I want to avoid anything bad and all the drama that comes with it. Edit: this is 100000% not an excuse. Totally.

[@karineyo1561]

"A friend should be the shoulder you crie on, not the person who is causing the tears"

[@cheshirecat7819]

Why does she looks like 2007 Kim Kardashian? She looks gorgeous. Edit: ok some people found this comment pretty offensive. Some of you kinda misunderstood what I'm trying to tell. I found similarities in many people's physical appearance even if they are quiet a stretch and when I tell people about that, they will think that I insulted them by comparing them with other people. So I started complimenting them after saying that or I won't say anything about their similarities.

[@idontlikeyou7702]

I was wondering that too

[@NatalieNicole2222]

she looks like herself not dumb ass kardashian.

[@jarnagaard]

@@NatalieNicole2222 haha I agree, why do people immediately try to validate her looks? why can we not value whats important? our personalities, our humour, how good we are at math or what a good friend we are... i mean c'mon, are you not getting the message? some are born beautiful, but theres more to life than looks.

[@chad7554]

I see that as an insult, that's low my yute... Smh... Probably most offensive thing you could say..

[@IHateEverythingInIife]

@Joe Castiglione nah she looks better now

[@sofiarobbins712]

For the popular girl story, it is soo relatable for me. There was a girl in my class that had the same name as me and she was a lot prettier than me and I was the “loud annoying girl” and I was known as “the other Sofia”. It kind of hurt. All the guys liked her and I was sooo self conscience that anything I did I compared myself to her. But I finally realized, we are different and that is fine. I am beautiful even if I don’t look like her. We don’t have to be the same person everyone is different I am my own person so I gotta love myself and own who I am. And more ppl should realize that💛

[@sofiapettala6747]

Funny that my name is Sofia and I also had the same experience. I was a new Brazilian girl in an American High School and people would be" are you really Brazilian?" since I wasn't the stereotype "pretty and hot Brazilian girl". One day another Brazilian girl came to school, her name was Sofia and she was beautiful, at her first day everyone would want to talk to her and be her friend. Even though she was a nice person I always caught myself comparing to her, and at some point (I regret this) hating her. At the time, it was like a punch of my stomach to see how differently people at school treated her just because she was pretty and I felt like trash since I didn't had the same "positive experience" when I started attending school. But now, I realize that I'm my own person and I have my own beauty. I'm happy to see ppl in this comments realizing that too 💜

[@jesusdied4u693]

inner beauty is what lasts! God bless you ❤️

[@anaswaraharikumar8136]

@SofiaRobbins there is a Korean drama called 'Another Miss Oh' I think you should try watching that you may relate😄😄🤗

[@aniqatabassum6922]

I really love the way you had this sudden transformation from within and you indirectly prooved that Sofia how beautiful you are from heart and mind! ❤️

[@mel4340]

Wow, this story is just like the Korean Drama "Another Miss Oh"!!

[@DaenerysGOT18]

Girl you are Gorgeous!!! Please don’t listen to anyone who try’s to say otherwise! Those people are miserable with themselves so they go after others to make them feel bad.

[@user-pd2zq7gz9t]

YOU ARE BEAUTIFUL.

[@melanierichardson2304]

"Friends should be the shoulder you cry on not the person causing the tears". That's some deep shit right there. #truth

[@jocelynflores8538]

Thank you for being so vulnerable. Many people can relate, but they can’t speak about their issues. A lot of people have strict parents or simply people they can’t trust, so the fact that you’re open to bring awareness with your personal experience means so much to women of all ages❤️🙏🏽

[@andypandy8744]

the fact that she’s literally one of the most gorgeous people i’ve ever seen 🥺🤎 a piece of art

[@janahussien5084]

God made him break up with you because he didn’t really deserve you

[@jeninarvaezmelo656]

"TRUE BEAUTY COMES FROM A HUMBLE HEART" Yes, GIRL PREACH

[@joleen931]

as a 15 year old struggling with my beauty and comparing myself to others (thanks a lot tik tok) i really appreciate you making this video :)

[@champagnethebest7532]

Me too 😪

[@liv.2800]

Same

[@mizo3856]

Dont forget the filters alter people’s appearance in the videos. Its not as real as you think.

[@epdlc2889]

When you said TikTok, I felt that

[@Knightfall182]

Why compare yourself to others? 😕 You're being unnecessarily competitive

[@Camila-df6yt]

"I just want to be pretty'' this is so real... I say that to myself all the time and I feel bad for being envious of other girls like " why can't I be as pretty as she?". And yes, I know beauty it's a social construction, but I still feel that way 😥 I have amazing friends and didn't really care about this until now, it's sad because I'd never wanted to be that superficial, like beauty it's all that matters. One of my best friends used to say that any time she feels insecure about her appearance she remembers herself that it's a few of her parents and ancestors on her, and that makes her who she is, it's really kind... But I don't know, sometimes I feel like it's unfair that some people are soo pretty and then I feel stupid because it is a little stupid 😥

[@BadoSee-vm7xb]

How are you now

[@chaymaelyrics8056]

Every girl is Beautiful in her own way ! Let's love ourselves and live the life 💖

[@brookemarieann4567]

Why am I crying in the club right now

[@moaomn]

Hahahahhh why are you watching youtube at the club??? Save it to watch later, have a shot and go make out with someone!!

[@corneliathefifthya7452]

Ain't not crying in the club 🎶

[@judithchavez7777]

Brooke you’re me!!! I’ve been in the same situation, sending you a warm hug girl! 💖

[@RenM908]

Where is this club? The ones by me are all closed due to covid 19.

[@kerijohnson2287]

“It is not your job to please the eyeballs of strangers” WOW. Amazing. This was such an important video but so sad that this is something we still have to talk about. I love how well you use your voice and use your platform to help others 💛

[@Automated_Angel]

Totally agree. My low self esteem has made me do so many things that were out of character and that’s I’ve regretted. All to be viewed as pretty, and in the end, I never really felt pretty. No matter what people would say. I think with time you come to realize that physical beauty is meaningless and it doesn’t bother you as much, but like everything else in life, it takes time. Thank you for making this video it is so valuable especially in these times where so many young girls suffer from the pain of feeling not good enough because of constant exposure to social media. 🙏☀️

[@lnfk]

"true beauty comes from a humble heart" Love it.

[@clau6023]

This made me happy that I've never been in a relationship before. I'm almost 17 and I've always felt that something is wrong with me because I never really cared about getting attention from boys. My friends are talking to like 5 guys at the same and I used to think I should do it as well. But I then realized I don't need anyone's opinion or attention because I'm so confident in myself and I know I'm beautiful. Sure, we all have days where we don't feel good about ourselves but that's completely normal.

[@kmistry710]

sorry but i gotta say it OMG WE HAVE THE SAME PIC

[@alexandralee303]

yes girl!! You couldn't be more right! I just turned 17 and I've never been in a relationship either (despite several attempts lol). It makes me so scared when my friends talk about their boyfriends as if they don't know how they could possibly survive without them. I feel like young people in relationships way too often forget that they are their own whole complete person! There is absolutely nothing wrong with you for being single and uninterested in boys! I honestly feel like I'm better off, they seem awfully problematic!

[@kmistry710]

also i feel ya i'm almost 21 and i got my first boyfriend only last year and he's the best thing that's ever happened to me so no rush things will come when the time is right

[@clau6023]

@@alexandralee303 Yes, fully agree!! I'm not like uninterested though, I could maybe see myself in a relationship and getting guys attention can be fun sometimes lol. But it doesn't really happen to me because I'm not looking for it if you could say that? I also barely use snapchat and I would never talk to someone just so that I can feel confident or get the attention I want, that feels so wrong and fake to me. I don't even understand how dating works today lol I feel so left out.

[@clau6023]

@@kmistry710 aww thank you, and i'm happy for you that you met someone and that you're happy!! ALSO YESSS WE HAVE THE SAME PFP FINALLY SOMEONE ELSE

[@Chelsea-dq9og]

The only person who's ever taken an interest in me, was a lesbian. She was nice and all but *I'm straight*

[@yeru737]

Bruh same. And a few gay guys who were looking for a beard

[@europai1793]

Thats still alot better than having nothing.

[@googoogaga8566]

Well then you must be pretty pretty!!♡

[@yeru737]

@kayla vibess I'm going to assume you're confused about the beard part. It means a gay man that is looking to date a woman as a cover in order to not reveal he's homosexual.

[@saffy771]

But honestly, isn't there a saying that a sincere compliment from a woman to another woman is even more worth than one from a man? Because women know the struggle of looking pretty and well put together all the time, so they're better at recognizing true beauty when they see it :) But I know how you feel, though I've never been hit on by a Lesbian, I occasionally do attract very very feminine guys who I first suspected were gay. I could be wrong though because of course not every guy that's acting quite feminine is automatically gay. But these particular guys just gave off these vibes to me, so I was even more surprised when one of them actually asked me out.

[@berfin5865]

I'm so happy I saw this video. When you said "you only get one body. You need to love it. You need to take care of it" i instantly started to cry. I've been telling myself it's okay to treat myself the way I do because that is what I deserve for not being good enough and pretty enough. I kept telling myself it's okay there's nothing wrong and this is how it should be for me. But I have a problem and those words made me face this fact. Thank you for saying that

[@vspxjuna]

I have this one girl as my friend and when I tell her how uncomfortable I feel sometimes she gives me tips for a unhealthy diet and stuff but sometimes I just want someone to tell me that it’s okay that I don’t need to be sad and sometimes she really hurts me with her “jokes” but I know her since 6-7 years now and it’s just hard to forget her

[@apricot7488]

I remember feeling like i was SO ugly. Like, i thought i was painful to look at. It took me a loooong time to fix my self esteem. And you know what? Now when i look at myself, i see a beautiful girl. I was always beautiful, but i had an extremely negative self talk. How pretty you are is all about self love.

[@katharina5996]

I love these words ❤

[@crissypoo69]

i feel like i’m painful to look at 😞

[@nihlus5652]

When you talked about how someone would just project their issues onto you in a relationship- I FELT THAT😭✋🏼 I tried helping this friend I liked to change for the better but it just ended with me in tears every time. Even though he was a good longtime friend, I had to remove him from my life and it was one of the best decisions Ive made in 2019! Love you so much Penny!❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️

[@mariagu2602]

this is my favourite quote you can never please everyone. I dont need to be certain type to feel pretty. you are ENOUGH and im ENOUGH too

[@briannasanchez8104]

Thank you penny I needed this and after this I’m not on Instagram anymore because I’m tired of looking at photoshopped pictures and I’m sick of girls thinking that makeup is the norm Please listen to what she saying guys it’s important