I'M OVER IT!! | SHOEONHEAD | Responding To Backlash Over ‘The Male Loneliness Epidemic’ | REACTION

[@bruhmoment1329]

i think the stem of this issue is the hyperpolarization we’re seeing in contemporary politics, a worldview where if you’re pro this you’re anti that. that’s not how beliefs in the world always function. we’ve completely left nuance of thought in the wind in favor for an entertainment society and we’re reaping the consequences for that.

[@brittreacts]

This. This. This. This. Thisssss!

[@StarsDie88]

I think it goes a bit deeper than that. As the problem between the sexes primarily started with the sexual revolution. They've been agitated by decades of gynocentric ideology released into the culture almost like a pathogen.

[@bruhmoment1329]

@@StarsDie88 well i’m only 18 so obviously i don’t have experience with the entire evolution of new wave feminism but i would say yes i agree with that but also i think we have to realize that this wave popped up due to the repression of women throughout the 20th century, even after the 19th amendment being passed in 1920 and the civil rights act of ‘64. now that this type of attitude has spread, yes it is demeaning others, but also with the rise of neoliberal economics where your income and color of your collar tells society how much ‘merit’ you have, it’s only inevitable that when blue collar men are being treated like shit by everyone it either reaches a boiling point via violence or self-violence.

[@Hailiums]

The world isn't black and white, it's grey. People are not one side of a coin or the other, they're a collective coin jar of opinions and thoughts that share a planet.

[@JustCrash]

Aw geez liberal, we get it you don’t like comedy or anything. Get lost

[@Whistler716]

I'm divorced. My kid lives with me. I have a library in my house with games, guitars, and self respect. I have a good life, dating would screw that up.

[@bobherring598]

"They're not in your world" - so you were unaware of this stuff, no blame here as this is just what happens. They're not in anyones world... they're ghosts that people pass in the street and work with, but they keep to themselves, no one checks in on them. Many like it that way, but many don't too. It's great to see more people learning about this as it encourages them to interact with those guys arounds them, some might really need it.

[@justinm4497]

we're dead men walking.

[@janihensley5306]

Women trash talk and make fun of men and are encouraged to actually. Look how they are portrayed in sitcoms. As a woman with 2 sons I’m worried.

[@StarsDie88]

I've noticed women typically start having more empathy for men when they have male children. While I definitely appreciate this perspective and I'm not here to devalue it or dismiss it -- Sadly I do think that women without male children are almost naturally inclined to have significantly less empathy for men/boys in general. It takes actually raising male children to DEVELOP that empathy that previously wasn't there before.

[@sthcproductions]

​@@StarsDie88that's simple: because they now have a stake in how men live. They are forced to start to see men as actual people, and not just some monolith.

[@docjohnson1]

​@@StarsDie88 ot if they wanted a girl

[@gigaport]

@@StarsDie88 I don't know if it's even empathy for men in general or if it's just empathy for their sons.

[@joshecker6907]

Guys, choosing to be alone doesnt make you immune from loneliness. Check in on your bros.

[@joshmc5882]

They are not bots. They are women that are bitter that dating apps and social media has channelled them all to the same men that have no respect for them.

[@TL_2919]

I'm not bitter! People should be genuine towards each other and communicate honestly not deceptively.

[@joshmc5882]

@@TL_2919 I apologise, I didn't realise I was addressing you directly. Britt was reading a series of horrendous anti-male quotes and she muttered "they are bots" in disbelief. Maybe you are telling on yourself...

[@TL_2919]

@@joshmc5882 not really but thanks for asking! I didn't watch all of the podcast as I could tell Britt wasn't that keen on it either.

[@sveinunglidsheim5828]

I am single. I have two close friends and i love my siblings and my parents. I'm 6 feet 3, slim and 49 and i don't look all bad. but i am really, really, really aware of why i am single. I don't own a house, i don't have a steady job cuz of my anxiety and i know i can't compete with men who "got their sh*t together". I don't even own a freakin car. I understand... Why would any woman find a guy attractive with not enough achievements. I know i wouldn't need to worry about that if i was a woman, but here we are. I'm not bitter, i'm just aware of the situation. I need to do better.

[@StarsDie88]

Men aren't achieving as much because there is less incentive for men to achieve more. I'm a guy in a similar situation as you. And it took me very recently to understand why I have been the way I have been. I was raised in a household where my dad put his entire livelihood into caring for his family. The dude almost practically built the house I lived in with his bare hands. Every year there was a new project on the house to renovate. The guy would be up on scaffolding painting the house after a full day running a wharehouse at a printing press and crushing it at work. And you know what he got for it? A wife that nagged and berated him for leaving lights on in a house that he paid all the bills for. His wife treated him like he was a gigantic pile of dogshit. Unsatisfied with everything he did. She literally hates his fucking guts -- and I didn't realize this until very recently when I actually looked back at the dynamic of his relationship. The amount of men I have seen in my life pour everything into their families while living with a woman who would disrespect them or roll their eyes at them was innumerable. This instinctively and subconsciously destroyed my aspirations to achieve what my dad had achieved. Because it made me feel like I would do everything just to have a miserable existence with a woman who would take me for granted.

[@JoseAntonioBecerraAguilar]

To be fair, of you were 49 and a woman you would also be struggling, although for different reasons

[@xenon6]

Meanwhile, brokeas* Tyrone is swamped with women, and in a similar situation. The difference is Tyrone doesn’t care. He lets the women decide, instead deciding for them. “Son, let women figure out why they won't screw you. Don't do it for them.” -Justin Halpern, “Sh*t My Dad Says

[@SoCal_Penguin]

“I know I can’t compete…” Same here. I have more of my sh*t together, but I that was because I was able to get a better job to help me. If I didn’t, I’d be in the same boat with you. Even then, I know I can’t compete with tall, attractive, and wealthier men. I’m trying to do better, but there are also things I can’t change. Also, have you tried therapy, and maybe meds? Yoga? All three help me - YMMV. Don’t give up at 49 and beyond. Hang in there ❤.

[@prieatknight]

I am 42 going on 43 this year. I have been single for the majority of my life. Most of it was my fault, and it took forever to fix my mindset. I am still not perfect; I am very introverted and more comfortable speaking online. Doubtful i'd be right for any woman. But the level of craziness out there is horrifying. If I find a woman who can put up with my wackiness, Amen; if not, I do have real friends and some family who legit care I'm alive.

[@fewwiggle]

IOW, "SINGLE" is not alone. "ALONE" is alone.

[@ShadowPhoenix82]

Indeed, there is not only one life path that can bring fulfillment. Stay awesome and wacky, good sir. 😊

[@justinm4497]

same here

[@justanotherdave4835]

The funniest thing about the overwhelming female response to the male issue is that the ones that are lonely are the one that care about women and because of it those remaining good men are checking out and leaving women with the only the men that do not care about them and the ones responsible for the abuse and crimes they generalize to all of them.

[@dapug24]

It's karma for the degrading of men for years

[@sthcproductions]

While it is comical that the chickens are coming home to roost, the cost of it is absolutely not worth it.

[@dokidaddy1056]

The funniest thing about the overwhelming female response to the male issue is that, by visual observation, MOST of these sows couldn't get a man to look at them without wanting to Puke. Jealousy and Hatred are closely related.

[@JustADudeDoingSomething]

Yo

[@Benneducci]

"Is this how my husband feels when I nag?" I don't know either of you so I won't speculate, but THANK YOU for asking the question. It shows more self-awareness than most on the internet. Also, when Shoe is wondering why she's getting lash-back from men, perhaps she should ask why an abused dog tries to bite humans who try to help them. The dog knows that humans hurt it, and they no longer trust humans to do anything else. They think you're trying to trick them, because they've been tricked before. And it's gonna take time and effort and understanding to earn that trust back.

[@Xeranx]

The reason why women are questioned about their discussing men and men's issues is there are so few women who actually care. Men that take their own path will actually defend a figure like Karen Straughan and respect her. When Jordan Peterson called those men weasels, Karen Straughan released a video that made him rethink his position and apologize. And just for the record, Shoe has been on the radio show started by Karen Straughan and two other women, and Karen has spoken to Pearl twice. Norah Vincent is another notable figure that men have noticed since she's passed on. And E. Vilar published a book regarding manipulation of men back in the 70s. Not saying that she's firmly in the side of men, but the number of women that men will heed is very small because the trust factor is almost non-existent.

[@sthcproductions]

My god, it's not just that we respect the women who advocate for us, we absolutely adore them. They sacrifice their social value and currency to stand up for us when it would be far more valuable and much safer for them to just keep with the flow.

[@Blackwallz]

If you want to go even back further then Nora Vincent, look into Esther Vilar she was the early one 1970..

[@stefanoputignano1555]

And Erin Pizzey

[@unseenentity326]

I was married twice. Both cheated and accused me of abuse. I've been alone for a few years now. It's peaceful now, but it is lonely.

[@Xardion55]

16:17 - _"You and your 140 characters, shut up."_ 😆😆😆😆😆😆

[@brittreacts]

I was frustrated, I’m sorry 😂😂😂

[@Xardion55]

@brittreacts - No worries. Your frustration is valid.

[@JeffLowder-k1j]

Britt: “All men are not villains” and “All women are not villains” both are true..but “All of THESE PEOPLE in the video ARE VILLAINS!!!!”

[@kellykent131]

Britt, you’re an awesome woman. I love your thoughtfulness and your empathy. I’m ten minutes in and I wonder if the women in the videos think these comments about men would apply to their fathers, grandfathers, uncles, brothers and cousins.

[@brittreacts]

Exactly. Like… what about the men in your family… are they worthless? Useless? Would they be hurt by such words?! What the heck???!

[@razycrandomgirl]

​@@brittreactssometimes its the men in the family that jade the women and girls to the rest of the population first. 🤷🏾‍♀️

[@tobiaswedin]

I am pretty sure that they not only think it applies to their fathers and grandfathers, it's specificially a broken relationship with those men that they propject onto the world and "all men". It's kinda of a "my divorced mom always told me how bad my dad is so I take that as a universal truth about men".

[@Andre_Louis_Moreau]

You left out their sons... IF they didn't abort them. Ugh, we know enough of them are raising sons, too.

[@JeffLowder-k1j]

20:40 “And yet, thousands of tweets of how I was apparently ‘blaming women’ and how it’s ’not women’s fault’….” this is exactly my experience about 95% of the time when having an argument or disagreement with a woman

[@jasonbodden8816]

I think what modern feminism gets wrong is that they think going to extremes works well. Modern feminism has sold them that lie. This way obviously doesn't help the sexes to understand each other better but for some reason all these women think that jumping off the deep end to full on man hating is going to solve their problems and make them happy. Which, of course, it hasn't yet but they'll keep believing that lie until they no longer believe that it serves them. Sad, really.

[@MadMattInc1]

This has always been what it's about. Horrible people that feel bad, trying to make innocent people feel bad too. No one is to blame for the fact that I'm about to be 40, and still single. Much like a lot of other things in life, it's bad luck. I just have to sit here and hope that it turns around some time soon, and I can hopefully live a more fulfilled and happy rest of my life. Until then, just keep on keeping on.

[@coreysewell5984]

"Have they tried smiling?" Yes, literally the first thing men learn for attraction is positive disposition which is why it's the first recommendation to someone who has the privilege of being objectively attractive and being on the receiving end of attention by traditional standards. You literally can't loose unless your a horrible person if you just "Smile more."

[@joshking5303]

First❤ love your videos Britt. It’s not so much loneliness, I just want to be alone. I have tried dating and have the opportunity if I choose to find a relationship but in the last five ish years, it hasn’t been worth it. I just find myself working on me and focusing on my job

[@louisenglish8069]

Same. House, car paid off, no credit card debt 💪 Enjoying my peace 😊

[@DarrowAndromeda]

Love her makeup! And Hair

[@xlDysenterylx]

I am a man who was raised by my mother. Never met my father. I am also the oldest of four and the only boy. I have three younger sisters. I also raised my son alone from the time he was two. He's now 23. Oh, and my disabled mother now lives with me. Tell me more about my "toxic masculinity," ladies. Ironically, the women in these comments are the same ones talking about "the sixes," but they'll go on for days about how shallow and selfish men are. 😂😂😂

[@scubaspookryu]

The women in this video have a snowball's chance in Hell of getting a man that satisfies "the sixes!"

[@yarsivad000.5]

I’m sure your self sacrifice just gave a bunch of them “the ick”. Keep up the great work. Using turn signals give them the ick, too. Drive safe, anyway. Smiling gives them the ick, also, just FYI (I’m sure). Don’t let that stop anyone, though. All women aren’t “ick” listers.

[@HailinBlue]

"Peace is nonnegotiable," I have to agree with this. But there's a harshness to it. If I were available and looking, I think it'd end up quite frustrated at the insanely high amount of emotionally damaged people existing out there. And what's concerning to me is that decades ago, emotionally damaged people were usually older, as in 45 and up, which is a primary reason why single older folks specifically sought out much younger partners because they simply hadn't lived long enough for life to have beaten them up so much causing emotional damage that makes these people seem absolutely undesirable. But over time, I've noticed this dysfunction of emotional damage showing itself with people as young as their 20s. What's going on there? Peace is absolutely nonnegotiable, and there's no peace if you end up in a relationship with an emotionally damaged person. But also, some older folks see emotional damage in themselves, and maybe they've decided that "peace" is their only pathway to emotional healing, if even at all.

[@tonibufu6103]

10:20 "These are bots" "These are bots" Me: Nope. You just haven't yet met really bad people and see how bad some people can be.

[@jasonbodden8816]

I envy Britt's little wholesome bubble. I'm glad she doesn't experience some of this horrible stuff that is so prevalent in a lot of the world.

[@Lloyd-Franklin]

You can be lonely in a packed room if the one person you care about isn't there.

[@mlong1958]

ShoeOnHead is a very rare person. A left wing liberal with a brain. I love her show, and I'm a right leaning Libertarian.

[@eonisone]

How is she a liberal? Think you're just further right than she is.

[@Greg_Andrews]

@@eonisone She claims to be a liberal herself.

[@eonisone]

@@Greg_Andrews she's also dressed like an American Girl doll in front of a huge American flag all the time. It's a character, not reality. If you listen to the words she says, she sounds of sound mind, then says something completely out of left field. She puts out the bait, you bite.

[@spencerantoniomarlen-starr3069]

​@eonisone I regret to inform you that people cannot actually read other people's minds and any Pretense to be able to do so is unjustified.

[@eonisone]

@@spencerantoniomarlen-starr3069 can't trust what they say when they're showing you the opposite, either.

[@robmaxfield780]

I’m a middle aged male who has been single for the last 7 years. My last relationship gutted me. Long story short I basically emptied my bank account and retirement to pay for my ex’s medical bills due to surgeries and medications for cancer and intestinal/colon related issues. She was out of state getting treatment and never came back(no I wasn’t being scammed I saw the bills and receipts by the hospitals and doctors involved.). So basically I have been gun shy ever since not to mention just trying to recover mentally and financially from that relationship. I’m alone and it sucks but I deal with it. It is what it is.

[@darkkhalwb]

I would argue that you still got scammed, it's just that it was to pay for all of that. Regardless, sorry it happened to you, and I hope you're doing well, brother.

[@robmaxfield780]

@ no I wasn’t scammed, she had to have emergency surgery a few times while she was living with me, it was definitely a real thing. Yes i didn’t have to pay but if I didn’t help she could have died.

[@darkkhalwb]

@@robmaxfield780 Oh, she was honest and upfront with you about everything? She didn't lie, manipulate, or do anything dishonest to get you to pay for all of that stuff? Just because what you paid for was legit doesn't mean that you weren't scammed.

[@robmaxfield780]

@@darkkhalwb do you let those who you love die if you have the means to help?

[@darkkhalwb]

@@robmaxfield780 No. Do you not consider pretending to love someone to get them to pay for your survival scamming them?

[@betsybabf748]

Those are miserable, bitter, very unintelligent women who lash out their own misery, They are definitely alone and have no clue what it is to love and be love, and we all see why.

[@davemick7216]

So... our punishment for being men is that you're going to have to provide for yourself? SIGN ME UP!!! It doesn't sound like the smartest plan but, I'm on board. Girl Power! You go work those machines. I'll stay home and fold laundry.

[@viperswhip]

Most men eventually learn that you can be alone without feeling lonely.

[@fewwiggle]

What's the point of existence without relationships? Looking in a mirror?

[@xenon6]

@@fewwiggleVery few people have zero relationships, and relationships outside of a work environment has varying levels of importance to different people. That can include number of relationships as well as strength of each relationship. That being said, the comment about being alone does not mean constantly alone. It can be momentary or temporary. Not feeling lonely in these short periods is more of a strength, rather than a weakness. I’d call it being able to be independent.

[@Hawkkaii-ih2ps]

@@fewwiggle there's more to life than relationships bruh

[@maxpayne232]

That just means you have given up all hope.

[@xenon6]

@@maxpayne232 That’s a misguided assumption, in my opinion. Being independent means, by definition, not being dependent on others. In this context, that would be not needing others to maintain your own mental and emotional well-being.

[@thecannabistreatment7236]

I wouldn't take these Twitter "misandrists" too seriously, fellas. Most of them are just putting on for a few likes knowing damn well they depend on a man for almost everything in their lives. Seeing this shit doesn't make me mad or sad, it makes me laugh. 99% of these women would be absolutely screwed if men disappeared off the planet. Stay up kings.

[@truemenimprovedaily]

As a man, I’m not looking for all women to feel sorry or have sympathy, I’m not looking for all women to like me or help me with being lonely….. I’m simply looking for one woman to actually see me and want to take an active and ongoing part in my life. Being single I can handle but being truly alone knowing that I don’t have that person to talk with, ask how their day was and just simply be someone to someone else takes a daily beating on me. The other thing that many women are not understanding is how men should NEVER talk about their issues or struggles with their woman. Men are only able to suffer in silence or else their wives, GF’s WILL lose attraction to them. I’ve lost my wife and watched more then one of my buddies lose theirs all because we answered that trick question of “what’s wrong babe” Imagine for a second knowing no matter how much you trust and love a woman, you MUST lie to her to keep things good😑. That’s the foundation most women require to build a relationship( and they don’t even know this, it’s just wired in their minds) and then we ask why the divorce rate is so high.

[@henlohenlo689]

being alone is good like solitude, helps with healing and getting stuff done and health, like meditation and lets you focus and think. being lonely is when you lose your family members. you are stuck a job taking all your time while you are not making enough money no time or energy to build new relationships at home, and meanwhile losing your friends and family. and also hard to build new employment relationships or business relationships. etc. so this kind of loneliness can be very damaging to ones life, as we all need other people to help lift each other up, and buddy system in life is a good thing. to have atleast 1 family member like buddy system is good. but many people even struggle even having that. they lack support.

[@embracethenoid9085]

"I wanna eat my food" resonated with me. If you like good food learn to make it. Cooking is such a great skill.

[@cashflowhustles]

BIG DIFFERENCE between lonely and alone at least IMO.

[@brittreacts]

Very!

[@bjoardar]

Just dropping a reminder to let Shoe's videos play out in full so you don't miss out on content she has put in the end.

[@BrawndoDrinker]

I work in cyber security, no way would I put my name on the internet any more than needed. I mean Shoe O Head is not her real name. :)

[@farfromperfek]

IMHO is how people let their bitterness control them is the real problem. Anyone who wishes ill will against others because of their own issues need to grow up.

[@SoCal_Penguin]

“Have you tried smiling more?” I tried smiling more many years ago and stopped after I noticed a girl get creeped out (who got traumatized more?). I thought it would boost my confidence and perhaps help me make a connection with someone, but now I keep to myself to avoid a similar outcome. THANK YOU to Britt for acknowledging this!

[@pokermark870]

24:00 OMG, that was so real... "is this how my husband feels..." Unfortunately yup that happens 😂

[@malice926]

24:43 Every time I hear this one read out, I always feel compelled to respond to it. Every day of my life. Every day, I wake up and wonder what is so wrong with me that every time I think I have a genuine connection with someone that relationship falls apart. Every day, I wonder why I can't seem to find good people who will actually support me. And every day, I still get up, work my ass off to try and make my life better, not in the vain hope that it will change that, but because I don't want to be a burden.

[@xzonia1]

I think it's the society we live in. 100 years ago, people had roles to play, and as long as they played them, they got social approval and could feel like they were good people (and everyone else had awful lives, but no one talked about it, so it seemed like everything was fine). Today, there are no roles. People are encouraged to be their real selves, which would be great except our society also encourages competition over cooperation, materialism over substance, individualism over community, etc. All our values are wrong to help build a working society. Things weren't great 100 years ago, but people didn't realize how messed up it was for those suffering in silence. Thanks to the Internet, no one suffers silently any more. We hear about everyone's suffering, and it ends up making everyone feel like a failure who takes the time to listen. What we need are ways to build community again, for people to feel safe to interact with each other again, and for those who are suffering to still be heard and helped. We don't need to go backwards, but we need to figure out a better path forward. I doubt there's anything wrong with you specifically, but the way we go about societal interactions today need to be improved upon. I wish you well in your life and hope you make friends and, if you want, find someone you can share your life with. Peace.

[@xenon6]

That seems like an odd direction to take. Instead of “not want to be a burden”, how much more effective and enjoyable could wanting to be a blessing or a positive note in someone’s life be? Not wanting to be a burden is exactly how Eeyore from Winnie the Pooh behaves. He may be likable in short bursts, but his attitude gets very tiresome, and ironically burdensome after awhile.

[@williamsatnan4380]

Not being a burden in your solitude. Yeah I get it.

[@malice926]

@@xenon6 Ah, yes, let me just put on my fake smile, and continue to suffer in silence for you. Ya know, like I did for decades trying to find ANYONE that would be there for me when the cracks started to show. It's not hard to understand, I didn't start here, I was driven here by years of doing what you're talking about, and having it fail 100% of the time.

[@xenon6]

@ Why would you do that for me, or anyone else? That’s missing the point entirely. Do what makes you happy. If being miserable makes you happy, fine. My point is, you get more of what you aim for, and less of what you don’t aim for. This is obviously an important topic to you, since you came here and commented to begin with, and wrote a significant amount to explain your position. What I’ve learned in my own life is that getting angry or upset at others not reciprocating, or even appreciating, isn’t enough to ruin my own mood and direction. My mood and direction is more important than someone else’s flaws or failures. As an old friend would say, “flush them” and move on. There are no second thoughts in flushing a toilet, and unproductive relationships can be categorized the same way.

[@Average_CoD_Clips]

My dudes, focus on yourselves and don’t prioritize trying to impress Women. They’re not the most important thing in life, you are being controlled by that thing in your pants. Make yourself a good Man and you will attract a good Woman.

[@AJ-ut8cz]

I've never met any male murders (cause they're probably in jail) I have met a woman murderer. Wanna guess wether she went to jail for it? She did not. She told the police he committed suicide in front of her, and was shot in the side of the ribs. The believed her. She is now living off his savings and inheritance.

[@ed-straker]

I love June. She's kinda like you, married with a kid, so she puts out fewer videos these days.

[@WhtCrstlJudgmntDrgn]

I keep the same energy they're giving. Except this is true. "A man can only take so much disrespect, until he says 'Todays the Day'", and when he does, there is no going back. Men, its 2025, the era of Ignore and Avoid. Let them suffer the consequences of their choices. Men, it's okay to be villains. It's okay to Put on the Mask.

[@tonyb7615]

Guy here. Lonely. And ok with it. Been that way for way too long. Im not sure I'd be healthy for a woman. I need to relearn how to not be alone.

[@omgwerockhard]

A friend of mine got killed trying to step in and help a girl from a drug addict. She got hurt but got away rip bro :(

[@darkkhalwb]

Sorry for your loss.

[@bujotrys3236]

I don't know of a man that ever tricked a woman into believing that's her baby

[@djasteress6068]

That would be a good point if it weren't an impossibility. 😂

[@dapug24]

Because of this blatent hatred, the double standard in dating, inequality in marriage, the doublestandard for men, and the crappy dating scene makes me think I shouldn't date and thinks that love is not real and is just a concept poorly described by humans.

[@sthcproductions]

I won't say you shouldn't date, because ultimately one of the best things to have in your life is kids. But, you have to be extremely careful and picky about who you pair up with. It's like playing Russian roulette with five bullets.

[@TROLLINDOWNTHELANE1]

The opposite of love is not hate. It's apathy and it's worse than hate when your husband or boyfriend gets to the point that he doesn't even argue anymore you're about to be alone.

[@gwilli9511]

IMO social media is the cause of many of society's issues.

[@michaelmckesson6997]

Teddy Roosevelt "The man in the arena". It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena, whose face is marred by dust and sweat and blood; who strives valiantly; who errs, who comes short again and again, because there is no effort without error and shortcoming; but who does actually strive to do the deeds; who knows great enthusiasms, the great devotions; who spends himself in a worthy cause; who at the best knows in the end the triumph of high achievement, and who at the worst, if he fails, at least fails while daring greatly, so that his place shall never be with those cold and timid souls who neither know victory nor defeat.”

[@8mmpews]

Recently I had a really bad scare. My bff/brother wouldn't reply to any of my attempts to contact him. Being a high functioning autism fella, I thought I said something he didn't like without realizing. My brain started spiraling, and then doom fantasizing because I thought my only friend had just left me. I started having suicidal thoughts, then 1 day later he calls me back and says "hey, just saw you tried to call, me n Yoder have been working on our trucks in the garage, and don't have good service." I felt like I died then came back to life

[@RedSinter]

😂😂 Men..."Deserve?" 😂 To be lonely... Men deserve Peace, Respect, Acknowledgement...the Ability to be human and vulnerable as we all are. Unless you're a raging Narcissist. Just as I might say....So, do women. What women need to get over is unrealistic expectations...

[@fewwiggle]

No, men and women deserve nothing -- that's gross entitlement. Each individual deserves what they have earned.

[@Tim_G_Bennett]

I'm mid 40's now and have never been on a date. I do however have more friends now then I have ever done and I don't get lonely anymore. I fell through the cracks in society, I found out at 40 that I have dyslexia and asd1, school was horrible, I left with learnt helplessness and depressed. Apparently I was 'too smart' to have a learning disability. Along with childhood emotional neglect and emotional incest, I didn't get a good start and that sort of thing just snowballs from there.

[@PossumsTophat]

Being too smart to have a disability is a curse of mine as well. My intelligence has helped me learn how to mask issues and pretend to fit in but I have always felt like I am observing life not living it. I experience life like a viewer of a TV show I am supposed to react to. I'm not a character, it just happens to me.

[@ShadowPhoenix82]

I've never seen another video of yours but I loved your takes here so I'll have to hit that sub. Hope you feel better soon! 😊

[@nagillim7915]

Britt, i appreciate you and Shoe for covering all this despite how frustrating and infuriating it can be.

[@randomperson8695]

I'm no expert on the topic, I'm just a Carpenter, so take what I say with a grain of salt. I'm 56 and 4 years ago my wife divorced me, lets just say my marriage didn't survive menopause. What I've learned over the last 4 years of my solitary life as a divorced empty nester is, I'm the answer to my problems. And the only thing I can control about life is my outlook on it and how perceive and process it, which means I'm always counting the blessings I do have and trying to appreciate them, and not look past them to the things I don't have. Focusing on something and working towards it is fine, but everybody, please don't torture yourselves over what you don't have. I remember after the split complaining to my daughter* (she's Shoe's age) that I don't know what to do, I've spent my whole adult life thinking of myself as one half of a whole. She told me it's time to start thinking of yourself as whole just the way you are and that she loves me just the way I am. *I'm sure your daughter is awesome too, but my daughter is more awesome!...but of course I'm not exactly objective when it comes to my little girl : ) PS- hey Britt, keep up the good work, I really appreciate what you do.

[@lord_haven1114]

I think most people who are lonely that way and say not to feel badly for them are in denial. They will be awfully regretful and depressed when they’re getting on in older age and have nothing but themselves. It’s why the elderly are always trying to have conversations with call center agents. Nobody is okay with being totally alone. No family and some part time friends who have their own lives

[@Charsept]

If my wife ever leaves me, I might give up too. I don't know what happened since I left the dating scene but this looks like a huge pile of you know what. I met my wife at a boardgames night at a mutual friends house. Get off the apps people. Social media was a mistake.

[@Trifler500]

Stable man here. I love all women and men until they give me a reason not to. I appreciate good people who care about each other immensely. I know that no matter how lonely I ever got, I would never become a troll.

[@JR-tr1df]

how the heck did they make it about themselves o0

[@brittreacts]

They did NOT pass the vibe check

[@WattaVT]

everything is about them thats why they are unhappy when they see men happy, why does these kind of women hate men that play video games for example

[@TommyBuskulic-u2k]

​@@WattaVT They hate these men because these men are spending every waking moment with their attention focused on these harpies.

[@TruthIsTheNewH8]

Whats funny is all of those comments are coming from the love and acceptance group.

[@thethesaxman23]

Loving the ShoeOnHead reactions! Shoe is absolutely hilarious! I’d definitely recommend checking out her video on reacting to men’s living spaces. It’s a lot more lighthearted so I think it would be a good break from the heavier loneliness videos

[@MrHws5mp]

Took the words right out of my mouth!

[@leitheparsons1186]

Years ago on a Denver radio station. A woman called in about something else but, she mentioned that she is a lesbian BUT she had been married and how much easier it was being in arelationship with a man but she is attracted women. The radio station was flooded with women saying very same thing. Several women said this is why they quit dating. Years later when I heard "red pill" mens movement, it sounded really familiar. At this moment I have dinner in the oven for my wife and I while the game is on and she is talking trash about Russell Wilson. Not all are crappy.

[@westonwhitham5894]

For thousands of years Women were put on a pedestal in society, admired, a beautiful mystery, cherished. Wars were fought for Women. Men understood that Women, were a Gift from God. But the feminist movement changed, manys Men's cherished views of Women. My proof: “If I could write the beauty of your eyes And in fresh numbers number all your graces, The age to come would say 'this poet lies! Such heaven never touched earthly faces” ― William Shakespeare

[@Swift2Grift-e8t]

These are the same people who go online and say we shouldn't care about people in LA losing lives and property because bad things are happening in Gaza. Prioritize tragedies any way you want, but don't act like suffering ANYWHERE should be ignored or mocked. Remember, your next bad day is coming, how do you want to be treated?🤔

[@PossumsTophat]

It is frustrating how many people say nonsense like "there's a difference between alone and lonely" or "I enjoy being alone". It's easy to feel this way when you vacation in this world. I have Asperger's and have apent all my 37 years alone and lonely. I've never dated or made friends. I don't understand how. There have even been a few times when I have almost ended it just to quiet the deafening loneliness. The people that choose to take a break from dating don't understand the hopelessness of loneliness. They are just alone.

[@lesbourgeois1829]

ShoeOnHead is awsome. I lean right but she is fantastic.

[@chrishubbs8633]

Being lonely is a great alternative to being used.

[@robertsmith4681]

You are an exceptional woman Mrs Britt, never change :)

[@brittreacts]

Wow, thank you so much!

[@JefferyAlanMatlock]

Love your videos and your infectious smile. I can remember when discourse was encouraged (civilly of course). No one person or one group has all the answers, and no one person or one group of people is the cause of all the problems. I wish I wasn't about to board a flight and elaborate more, but I can't!

[@bigwrig0485]

"Where's your man? There is no man" Head of nail has been smacked

[@RahuldeCabanaBoy]

I still Adore you Lady Britt 🌹,My struggles are Assumption, Expectations Both leave me open to " Pain".

[@gogetit9078]

No wife happy life stay strong brothers🫡

[@Sinful_morality]

Britt, i really love your videos and your perspective on things, so im gonna do something i rarely do. Imma lay out my whole situation with dating, but it's gonna need a lil background info... I'm sorry in advance. So I had a fairly normal upbringing for someone like me, single mom, one younger sister, nice enough house. Then i turned about 14 and everything went to shit. Mom had to quit her job due to carpal tunnel, had to become a bartender, i dropped out of school to help pay bills, ended up falling in with a bad crew doing bad shit for a few years, got kicked out in the midst of that, ended up doing virtually every drug known to mankind, got hooked on shooting meth, quit that, got out of the bullshit, got my life back together. This is where the dating shit starts. I was living with my grandma working as a prep cook when i met this girl who also worked there, we hit it off, got along really well, and well, i ended up getting her pregnant (oops my bad), so we decided to keep it and start a family. We had a beatiful, healthy baby girl, and I got to name her Freyja, and she took my last name(simce her mom and I weren't married). We got along well for a little while until it seemed like she got disinterested over time, admittedly i probably could have been more attentive but i was really doing my best without a father figure to teach me. Over the course of the next couple years, she slowly started becoming colder and less responsive until, eventually, i found messages from another guy on her phone. So i asked her about it, and apparently, she had been talking to an ex because "he just gets me". We have a fight, i block him from every communication on her phone, i think its resolved. Fast forward 2 more years, and we dont even know each other any more. Our only communication is through arguments, I'm constantly leaving the house to de-escalate, our baby is now nearly 4 years old, and we cant be freaking adults. So i moved out. I started a new life in a new house. I pay her an absurd amount in child support every month because i truly love my daughter with all my heart. I choose not to seek out love because every time i think i should, i remember i tried starting a family before, and it turned to disaster. I lost what i thought was my future wife, everything but minimal contact with my daughter, and now i have to figure out if love has any benefits at all. If i see a woman that I'd like to ask on a date, suddenly a rolodex appears with every snide, prejudicial response I've ever been given by approaching a woman with even slightly romantic interests. If i think i should make another dating profile, i remember the hundreds of hours i spent swiping, initiating, imagining dates, stashing date money, etc, etc... not worth it. If i think, maybe I'll get to the bar or the club and try and find a wife.....well, i immediately laugh to myself because my future wife doesn't do... clubbing activities. The reality is that average women think they deserve Ryan fucking Reynolds when their personality deserves ron Jeremy....

[@gsnaps0314]

I can tell that you have had a rough go at things. I will say one major thing is to not dismiss the thought of falling for another person because of past relationships. Everyone is their own person and should be treated as such. If you go into a new relationship treating that person like they are an ex they will immediately start feeling like that person because your brain will hyperfixate on the negatives and create perceptions of that person that may simply not be true. It is my belief that everyone in this world deserves to feel loved in some sort of way. Whether that be from friends, family, or from a partner. I also believe that there is a major difference between love of friends and family and from a genuine partner. Call me a hopeless romantic but i do not see a purpose of this life without family being the ultimate goal. I will also say that i understand why you will feel like pursuing a new relationship might feel like a gamble because of the previous one. I will say that the previous one was never right to begin with. There wasn't enough time between you two to form a solid relationship to start that family. You have to give these things time. I am, however, glad it resulted in a kid that you love. It is hard to find the positives in these sorts of situations but i know that you can do it. It takes an effort but i promise that if you make a list of the positives and focus on those you will be able to convince yourself that it is worth pursuing again. Just next time know the person better before getting them pregnant, yea? I am in a boat that is similar to yours but for different reasons. I stopped pursuing a relationship because i felt i was unable to find a meaningful connection. It is my choice though. I have hope that one day i will be able to find that but simply not worth the investment for now. It is a difficult thing to actually find today because of the general mindset of each gender. Each have a preconceived notion of how the other acts, we have a short attention span and patience level as a species now, and there is so much underlying hatred between the genders that just make forming those solid relationships so incredibly hard to do. I will say though, the biggest takeaway i would like to give is to learn what you need to learn from your previous relationship but do not carry that luggage into another relationship expecting the same result or else that is what you would get in the end. Treat each person as a new encounter for everyone is different. I can go on and on for this but what i really would like to leave you with is I understand that you have had it rough and i truly hope things improve for you. That you are able to learn to trust another with your heart and that you do find that person.

[@Sinful_morality]

​@gsnaps0314 Oh buddy, trust me, you're 100,000% right in all of this, but you gotta know this is my choice as well. It is so fucking hard to find a good woman that can trust me with my past that I've stopped looking, unicorns just don't exist, no matter how much you believe in them. I get plenty of happiness and fulfillment from my own life as it is (currently fabricating a 1/10 scale rc car trailer). I've chosen hobbies and loneliness over the burden of trying to find a unicorn. I appreciate your words of encouragement, but I genuinely don't want another relationship....

[@gsnaps0314]

@Sinful_morality Absolutely, I agree. It is your choice at the end of the day. I personally have chosen the same thing although I definitely see the positives with being someone. I just feel like I won't find what I'm looking for. That is going to take time lol

[@timpack4956]

I Loved that video lmao 😂😂😂. I didn't really understand all of it but I enjoyed watching it.

[@elfdogre2181]

The loneliness does go away eventually, as long as you don't keep pining for "the need to be in a relationship". Once I got it in my head that "I'm fine with or without being in a relationship", the feelings of depression and loneliness went away.

[@allenfrost2051]

When i went thru a divorce i lost everything and i told myself that will not happen again, that was a long time ago and yes i get lonely some times but i get over it and do what i want and don't have to answer to anybody but myself

[@sthcproductions]

8:09 man dont throw my lesbian friends under the bus with these train wrecks! Ive known several-they have the exact same issues as us men when it comes to dating women. Also, while you wont win in the eyes of the wider society, anyone who is willing to publically stand up and show that this nonsense is nonsense is cool in my book. So thank you.

[@levelu7]

Solutions for Men: -Maintain your Health (Exercise, eat healthy, be fit) -Social Skills (keep them sharp) -Trade School, Crafts...etc....develop a skill-set that you enjoy and is economically competitive. Developing these 3 keys, will alleviate a great deal of life's challenges and sorrows.

[@JoeTheUberGeek]

I laughed out loud when you thought you needed to tell people the definition of what a homosexual is 😅, You can't move in the whole of June without realising what Gay is... LOL.

[@MrLato2000]

The Comment About You Nagging the Hubby Has Me Cracking up Cause You Not Wrong.😂😂😂

[@ShadowNavi82]

I feel called out for the 5 hour documentary

[@randallmcvey2883]

Great content!!! God bless you!!

[@seanwallace89]

I think my favorite type of inauthentic, pretentious, and condescending content creators... Are those who regularly insist upon eating something during their video, cuz ppl MUST understand how little time they have due to their awesome busy schedule and super fly lifestyle of success and wealth! Ish is so shallow, low class, and rude!

[@mattymatt6970]

This was such an important video. I've been wanting to make a video like this, but I'm waiting fir my equipment to come in to do it. And it's not about men, or our plight. Its about people, listening instead of talking, and not doing the tit for tat thing, or looking for ways to rub it in. The red pill community is equally as toxic to these tweets women made in response to the male loneliness epidemic. I just wanna hear people's issues and talk about what could make it better. Im lonely myself, and imo am good looking and have a lot to offer a woman, not just as a lover but as a companion. Its hard. Im so open to talking about this with people. I miss community. I just can't imagine being this bitter and jaded about anything.

[@xzonia1]

When you do get your equipment, will you be posting your video on this account, or do you have a different one that you will be posting it on? I'd be interested in watching your video when it comes out, but I don't know if I should subscribe to this account or a different one.

[@mattymatt6970]

@xzonia1 oh. Sick. I appreciate that! Idk yet. Im undecided. I'll check back here when I know.

[@xzonia1]

@@mattymatt6970 Thanks!

[@scottgman86]

The angle isn't the problem with these videos the 4s are always the ones responding to these videos in these ways

[@richardarcher7093]

I was married for 13 yrs, then got married again for another 13 yrs (lol) so then I decided to take a holiday to Central America, it lasted (yes) for 13 yrs, I’ve been home 9 yrs & now taking another holiday to Da Nang in Vietnam 🇻🇳, I’m alone now for 21 yrs, I’m ALONE I am not lonely. I chat to women but I definitely do not look at them as a part of my future life.

[@patchesblue155]

I have never heard such toxic comments in my life.. why would anyone wish that kind of misery on anyone? Absolutely appalling. 😢😢😢

[@brittreacts]

Right?!?

[@MylezNevison]

Hell hath no fury my friend

[@Jason-ji8ql]

I think whats most frustrating is, if people try to talk about it, you get brushed aside at best, called names at worst. Meanwhile, these same women complain about how the dating scene is so horrible, and that they'll be fine being alone because they have such horrible experiences, and god forbid you make a comment on that at all. Make it make sense.

[@dulappen494]

13:24 I genuinely think it is not a hard concept. I think it's that these people are chronically online and simply have lost all sense of reality. I swear no matter where I am I have never met a single person in real life that thinks or says the stuff these people say. Most people you meet in real life are fairly reasonable. I think these extreme point of views come from people who only live on social media and never leave their house. They clearly lack actual human interactions and don't have actual decent people in their lives.

[@matthewdooley7855]

If you don't care enough to sit up, I don't care about your comment. Let's all start having standards in 2025. I'm single, in my mid 50s. Never been married. I bought into the idea that women didn't need men, which worked for me. More time to do whatever I want. But too late, I now realize that having a family is a whole different sort of leveling up. There's a pride and satisfaction from having a good family that can't be duplicated any other way. You are blessed in that regard!

[@wearenotamused6455]

I haven't bothered asking anyone out in 10 years... I gave up looking because all I saw was vacant, judgemental, selfish, drug-abusing, toxic women... a few good ones here and there but I have nothing to offer them anymore. I'm just done.

[@fadoraarmed9674]

30 year old virgin planning on it staying that way. Im basically done being treated like a piece of crap because im straight male or white. Already told my mother to expect grand kids from my brother because im not might even get a vasectomy. Due to the fact that all having a kid is just a business venture.

[@sthcproductions]

12:22 also, the problem with this is, the spotlight is taken off of the monolith that is women's grievances for 4 seconds and there is a suggestion that the demons that oppose all that is good and right in the world (men) are actually people with problems and not just this evil, oppressing force is problematic for the wider society, because it bought into that position

[@stephenlouwbiokineticist4127]

Listening to Shoe read these tweets, I am happy to report that it didn't raise my pulse. I could not be bothered. That's the power of walking away.

[@MrXstacey]

Been MGTOW for nearly 2 decades, don’t feel lonely at all. I’m not incel, I’m volcel. Done with y’all.

[@semi6544]

Labeling and generalizing is easy and lazy. Generalizing punishes undeserving people and it lets evil people slide. If there is an evil human that wronged you, name them so innocent people can steer clear. Don't include a whole race, gender, nationality, or social class in your hatred. You didn't help anyone and actually turned everyone into a potential predator with a simple lazy generalization.

[@TheLordNugget]

What men crave more than anything else after a long day of hard work is peace. The old ideal for a woman was to be beautiful but to not know how beautiful she was. A demure woman would be that ideal. The "modern woman" is anything but that. Many modern women are confrontational, loud, hostile, judgmental, and are not inclined to be a house a home. The reality is that a house is not where a man finds respite, it's a good woman that gives him that. She revitalizes him so that he can go back out and slay the next dragon. Unfortunately, people have become to narcissistic to care about those around them, let alone to be somebody else's support.

[@DavidJackson-y4d]

The comment posted at 15:54 can be applied to any social issue so remember that.