I'm Tired of Being Exploited, But What Can I Do?

There's an ongoing debate about who is being exploited in relationships in the Philippines. Is it the foreign men coming here in search of love or Filipinas in search of a better life? Thanks for watching.
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[@calroach1]

To support my mission and continue to receive great content like this paypal.me/calroach?country.x=US&locale.x=en_US Zelle [e-mail] Calvin Roach Thanks for watching.

[@dezrenovations9142]

What's the difference in America? Where a woman with 5 baby daddies wants a man who makes 100K a year and no kids.

[@iluvlechon8810]

America, the land of the delusional. 🥴

[@DamienYuen7718]

Why does a certain community use the term baby daddy instead of Father like everyone else? Is it supposed to be some kind of slang? It just sounds uneducated. 😂

[@goatman3828]

​@DamienYuen7718 Because 'Father' implies they are involved in the child's life. And this specific demographic thinks it is important to treat their men like crap.

[@xret789]

As someone who wears hearing aids, thank you for bringing up this touchy subject. Dating in the USA is really tough for normal guys, so you can imagine what it's like for someone with even a mild disability. Fortunately, southeast Asia and Latin America make it possible for someone like me to have a girlfriend when it just isn't very realistic in any western country.

[@EtienneBraslSr]

Love you brother, keep having these uncomfortable conversations. You're during God's work.

[@calroach1]

Thank you brother!

[@alexanderdonmichael]

Brother Calvin 70 year old men in the USA 🇺🇸 are not getting any play 🥰 So we coming to get used💪💪💪

[@calroach1]

As long as we know the rules of the game we have a better chance to win.

[@MikeR505]

2 Adults it's a exchange to fill each other's needs

[@calroach1]

Dual exploitation.

[@spurlworld]

Exactly 🎉

[@bunbohue369]

it always been that way since the dawn of humanity.

[@calroach1]

This is a conversation and if it doesn't apply to you don't get offended 😂 thanks for watching.

[@garyt7232]

I like to think that the expat and the Philippina are consenting adults. Don't hate the player - hate the game.

[@dragonoftheeast0516]

Greetings from Angeles City 🇵🇭 Retired Army & Post 9/11 Combat Veteran, Japanese / Okinawan / Korean - American here. Just want to say that your video(s) are educational & enlightening. Wishing you continued success, peace, and happiness. Hooah!

[@kevinjennings5816]

Honesty and respect are good things!!!

[@Mr.SocialDistance65]

FACTS FACTS FACTS!!!! Cal never lies. Going through this right now as I am writing this to you here in the Philippines. And I got a KID (3 month old) to boot!!! She’s trying to make look like the bad guy in the scenario so I told her let’s end the relationship and now she’s having a fit. Make it make sense.

[@calroach1]

Sorry to hear about your situation. I hope it works out for you.

[@philippineantics]

Words spoken so well. Eyes wide open.

[@calroach1]

Good morning!

[@J.Shabazz]

Besides the women, to be free from the rat race and be part of the top 10% or even the top 1% is a PLUS (Socioeconomic class)!

[@jasoncatron1039]

Exactly. I'm married with a 4 year old son and seriously considering a move to Bacolod where my wife is from.

[@J.Shabazz]

@@jasoncatron1039 💯

[@Levi-zy5dr]

Any kind of relationship has some exploitation, anywhere in the world. Unconditional love exists in Disneyworld.

[@boohoo4962]

If a relationship is consensual why try to label it exploitive or otherwise. Ask 1000 people anywhere in the world why they're in a particular relationship and you will get 1000 different reasons. Great video Cal man.✌

[@calroach1]

It's just a conversation.

[@Rollinwithlove]

Calvin, I'm in a wheelchair and moved to Thailand after visiting the Philippines for 1 month. Your comment about me not able to have someone in America is a lie and you shouldn't talk about a situation you know nothing about. I'm a solo wheelchair traveler and I'm not ruled by women...I'm here to see the world, the cultures, the food and the beautiful women. Calvin you're talking about your life and your experiences...its completely wrong for you to make assumptions about Me (Wheelchair user) Please do better when it comes to talking about individuals or a segment of the population that you know nothing about....hlovejr

[@calroach1]

I don't know you & I certainly wasn't talking to you. Hit dogs bark. You got the same memo 18-80 blind, crippled or crazy. I'm glad you're enjoying your life in Thailand.

[@dezrenovations9142]

I think he's making a general observation and not a personal attack?

[@Rollinwithlove]

@@dezrenovations9142 I'm in the general population...

[@dezrenovations9142]

@@Rollinwithlove That's not what I said! I said a general observation from what HE"S seen! Obviously, he hasn't seen EVERYTHING in the world, but let's play this game. Out of 100,000 men traveling to SE Asia how many do you think are in your position? Exactly! you are in the minority and not the majority. Got it? And you are NOT in the general population! generally speaking how many people are wheelchair bound?

[@johnnystewart83]

It looks cleaner after the storms.

[@charlesburke2379]

As long as you're getting what you want out of things, and the exploitation isn't unreasonable, there's plenty of guys that live long happy lives that way.

[@calroach1]

I agree. I'd rather know the ugly truth than live with a pretty lie

[@hanglee5586]

You should be making an informed decision and the same with the Filipina. But I believe if a man introduced a Filipina livung in poverty too fast to a good living, the man will probably be in trouble. I suggest men do what Calvin has been doing. Rent first then talk it over with ur lover what the both of you want in your future relationship.

[@MVProfits]

Yep. Same as men that quickly send money "to their GF", often a woman that have NEVER met! Or that spoil an otherwise innocent not conniving Filipina. Don't create a mess that wasn't there before.

[@DamienYuen7718]

@@MVProfits When you goto the Philippines or Thailand you will see lines of women getting money at western union from their overseas guy that they never met or had a short fling with and then get on the back of a motorbike with their local BF or husband. It's very common and is considered normal. That is my observation after many years in these countries. It just never stops and the guys keep doing it over and over again. It's beyond the point where we just makes jokes about it while watching. Nothing we can or should do about it.

[@MVProfits]

@@DamienYuen7718 what really annoys me with these fools is that they obviously create more scammers. I mean, a gal could be 95% pure and all, have never thought of doing anything to the like, but when you see friends or family members or neighbors scamming foreigners and making bank, it can corrupt them too.

[@tonyfabulous6775]

Are you exploited if you have a certain level of acceptable losses❓I don’t think so

[@justaskKj]

We all experience exploitation in some form. Some people acknowledge it, while others ignore it and pretend it isn’t happening. That’s just the nature of life.

[@gregvasser6944]

You don't have to leave the U.S to get exploited, its happening here to Calvin& you know it coming from here😂99% of the time when marriages end,a relationship ends it don't work out for us men to well,so when we get older or old as men we want to end life a little better on our terms,so i think meeting women in foreign lands is good with there mostly easier to get along personality & willing to have sex when you want it,in the process they get taken care of it's a win,win situation.

[@A.I.CoconutGuy]

I'm just here for the coconuts because Tijuana doesn't 😊.

[@MoorDragon]

Maybe the right word is " transactional" instead of exploitation.

[@danielsantiago6886]

Calvin, Maybe this isn't the platform but I ck with you every now and then and I always have seen the best of you and your wife. I know that you have been stung by others. I will tell you, you are highly respected and thank you for not stopping the help you give to others. Danny from Puerto Rico.

[@craigjordan7835]

Isn't this conversation a more sophisticated version of the 'mating ritual'? Men and women have been playing these games since the beginning. The game is never going to change.

[@KuyaHirt]

I get booty everyday multiple times a day, I'm not coming there for that... I'm coming for the financial gains and island hopping brother... booty is easy to get for some of us with smv and game.... I'm 40 btw, retired and heading back to the Phil's very soon!

[@calroach1]

Ok then why even respond if it doesn't apply to you?

[@TrumplostBig]

I think he's responding to refute your generalization 💯

[@DamienYuen7718]

You sure like to hype yourself up when nobody asked. 😂

[@calroach1]

You're invisible who cares 😂💪🏾

[@jacobtonge5386]

The unspoken agreement is Real

[@bruceadams9542]

with out blame you are right it works both ways. Thank you for sharing your video 👍👍👍👍👍

[@missme3916]

So what happens if Marilyn doesn't need you financially anymore? Or gets a better deal/deeper pocket?

[@u-cos]

The video is about exploitation in relationships between foreigners and Filipinos, particularly those between American men and Filipina women. The speaker, Calvin, argues that these relationships are not normal and both parties are exploiting each other. Calvin says that men come to the Philippines looking for easy sex and women date foreigners for financial gain. Nobody is honest about their intentions and this leads to problems. He says that the law of supply and demand applies to these relationships. There are more Filipinas looking for foreigners than there are foreigners looking for Filipinas and so Filipina women are seen as the prize. Calvin says that the only way to avoid exploitation is to not get involved in these relationships. He says that if a man doesn't want to be exploited, he shouldn't come to the Philippines looking for a Filipina girlfriend. If a woman doesn't want to be exploited, she shouldn't get on a dating site to meet foreign men. Calvin says that the key to a good relationship is honesty. He says that his girlfriend, Marilyn, is the only woman he has ever been with who has been honest about her reasons for dating a foreigner. She told him that she was struggling financially and needed help. Calvin says that because Marilyn is honest, he trusts her. The video ends with Calvin saying that people should help each other and that we are all guilty of exploitation.

[@calroach1]

Ai? Hilarious but needed 😂

[@u-cos]

@@calroach1 Yeah my phone summarized the video 🤣

[@JohnThomas-li2vi]

And I don't see anything wrong with that whole scenario that you just laid out, or should I say Calvin laid out.

[@AhmedRama-lf3ml]

Thanks brother I am learning a lot from you

[@ssamsan]

I agree with most of what you said. Every relationship rather in the PI or america or wherever is about "what does that person do for me", and what can I do for them..call it exploitation, but in the end it's an exchange of services..

[@stevenbaer9061]

mutual exploitation

[@Goodman849]

C. For me it's not about sex. I'm looking for other benefits. Maybe she sees my strong currency but I'm still gwapo according to many ph women. No matter what country i believe the correct term is exchange of value in the market

[@brucesnyder690]

Retired expat from the US living in Thailand 6 1/2 years. Have a great Thai partner. Everything great. Happily never had to put up with any of that bs.

[@fortybelow1973]

I've lived here on Guam 38 yrs. About 30% of the population are Pinoy. After back surgery I plan on travelling Asia to decide where to stay. P.I. is the most likely. I listen to your live chats but don't sign in. I listen to you because I you have much credibility with me. Keep on speaking the facts!!

[@ragjamrock]

I have stopped watching all those vloggers who prey on others for content. I understand your frustration, especially when they bring your personal life in their discussion.🤦🏽‍♂️🏝🇵🇭

[@jeffj7217]

thank you for sharing and speaking the truth.

[@thehallhobbyfarmsusaandphi4457]

Unfortunately, the same happens in the States. Not sure if everyone is "exploiting" each other. I'm sure not exploiting anyone and headed home asap.

[@user-hq2dk9cg9t]

Great information Bro.Calvin!

[@rutgersmarine2065]

Your are so correct brother Calvin!!!

[@jasperrickels4937]

Man I love Calvin’s honest and cold hard truth! Thank you Calvin for not being afraid to just say openly what is the real truth. I do appreciate you

[@frankellis9627]

Yeah, I saw where Myk and Big Man made a video about you. In my opinion Big Man wasn't really sick and was running a scam. But what can you do. You live and you learn 🤨

[@iluvlechon8810]

You might be on to something there? 🤔

[@paulstanley7953]

U help the right one this time

[@donridgeway4904]

My way of dealing with the situation is to build up the youth. They are the only ones that can help reduce your financial burden. Help them become Nurses and seaman.

[@calroach1]

Yessir. Become a part of the solution or remain in the problem.

[@calroach1]

Yessir. Become a part of the solution or remain in the problem.

[@mrdacusthenavigator4989]

Men just need to set some ground rules and stick to the agreement. And don't take issues w/ the expectations of being a provider. Remember, she also accepts that you wouldn't be interested in her if she wasn't younger and attractive

[@user-le5vl5rt1o]

I believe the same dysfunction that goes on here also happens everywhere.

[@AlexandersHomeRepairs]

Use me until I'm used up 💪💪💪

[@hello2546]

It’s time to invest in a microphone , just a simple clip on the shirt type

[@calroach1]

Some will say I'm too loud. It is what it is. Thanks for watching.

[@oceanbreeze369]

The sound is very good.

[@bunbohue369]

point blank Kelvin, most relationships foundation are base on transactional.

[@c.a.sreacts]

nice

[@passporthands]

"Time to send this one home."

[@tomasikalougata3499]

Keep it brother ! Their are many who are listening and watching who are not taught to respect and honour the precious life and the breath of life we have right now and every day we live in this sinful world we live in . We have to be very happy that a brother is speaking the truth that he has experience and the lessons he has gained and he’s given his free time energy’s to give his wise advise to many stubborn and stupid drug fuelled brain dead fools who is judging the brother for his knowledge about the beautiful women of the Philippines . Let’s have some common sense listen and obey to the word of truth spoken by our dear brother Sunshine Shoulder .

[@AlexJacobsOfficial]

Nice shirt!!! 👔

[@quentinwillis7695]

😅😅 Exploitation is inevitable right Calvin?

[@oledread7200]

You do challenge substantive thought.

[@amigo2k10]

Yes I seen that video a guy in a wheelchair I believe he has a daughter with the woman

[@jamessims4802]

I respect your wife sir. They're very few people with the caliber of character she has. IT WOULD HAVE SCARED ME TO DEATH!!!!!! 🤣😂🤣😂🤣😂

[@TrumplostBig]

Good video Cal. I think this equation applies universal. Thanks

[@maximumsecurity9411]

You're in the right place Calvin. Western relationships are abnormal. Keep doing what Your doing. Its better than whats going on at home! 👨🏾‍🎓🙏🏽👼🏽🙏🏽👨🏾‍🎓

[@Lu-ir5mz]

All good with me Calvin and thank you for referring American Christian in the Philippines video.........🇺🇸🪖🫡🇺🇸

[@smoothriffz6794]

Nice Video Topic "BigCaL" If both parties are getting what they want from Each Other...Then it's Not Exploitation it's A Mutual Agreement 🧾....