I'm tired of waiting for my old clothes to fit

It's hard to put into just a few words how proud I am that this video exists. This week, i'm taking you along with me as I search for a new "fancy" outfit that I can wear out on my dates with Jonas. (The word 'fancy' is being used very loosely, here.) I'm nine months postpartum after having Oliver, and this time around is so different to my postpartum experience with August. In some ways, it's been a much more positive experience. In others, much more difficult. One of them has been learning how to form a neutral relationship with my new body and the pre-pregnancy clothes hanging in my closet.
I decided I'm finally tired of waiting until everything fits to enjoy my life outside of my house. That's why today's video exists. Shopping has always been an incredibly source of anxiety for me, but this video is a celebration of so many different wins in many areas of my life.
I'm so proud I get to share this with you!
Just keep hitting singles.
Love you! ♥
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[@nicoleklusaw9400]

Hi! I'm the cashier that checked you out in Old Navy! You were so so sweet, it really did make my day!❤

[@laurenseidel]

I wish I could like this twice; it makes me so happy!

[@jenniferdelrello5236]

I took her coffee order when her baby was in the hospital, she really is super sweet!! 🩷

[@nc2227]

I love this 🥰 Did you watch her before serving her?

[@bipolartorecovery1485]

Thanks for stopping by!

[@rachf9695]

Too cool, did you know who she was before she came in or only after?

[@beccad1213]

When you said that it’s the clothes’ fault for not making YOU look good, not your fault for not making the clothes look good 🤯🥹 I felt that.

[@notnicci3689]

I've been struggling with that since I had a baby too and it's exactly what I needed to hear ❤

[@shannonmackenroth256]

Me too!

[@elyse_myers]

It definitely felt groundbreaking for my own brain in the moment!

[@hollihall683]

I've struggled with this for 18 years now after having my first at age 21... It doesn't help that I'm a petite pear shape.where does one find clothes for that? I look in a petite section and they make me want to look like I'm in my 60's instead of almost 40... sigh.

[@therootedcoop]

@@elyse_myers that's what's cool about processing some of this stuff out loud, it can click in a different way than when it just swirls about in our own head! Vlog for the win!

[@amandaa4744]

"Don't make a pit stop on the way, because that pit stop will become THE outing" BEST words to have ever been said!

[@Julessa]

I think most of those clothes would look great on you in the right size! I hope you try again! I loved the black business casual look!

[@KimLarocquemuse]

That one was my favorite.

[@LindaTrap]

I agree 💯!

[@k.loulou3]

I agree! We need a part 2. I also loved the black business casual look

[@MatinaClapsis]

That was my favorite as well!

[@MarfaPavlovna]

Yep, one size smaller on most of those would have fit you better. Loved the yellow dress at the end, too!

[@HoneyMeadow_Lee]

Being okay with your body but not being okay with clothes perfectly explains how I feel. My brain was having trouble separating the two until you said it

[@elyse_myers]

I’m glad this was helpful! Honestly, even being able to separate them from each other is a huge win for me so hopefully it feels like that for you too!

[@ladybirdstyling]

❤❤❤

[@billyalarie929]

“I refuse to feel bad about this.” Best line.

[@southstreetcookies]

I’m surprised it’s less stressful for you to try on at home and return what doesn’t work. I get anxiety over returning items, even though I worked retail for 15ish years and 100% know they don’t care. It’s like the apologetic midwestern thing when I feel bad about inconveniencing them with needing to return the item. If something doesn’t work out that I bought, it’s just mine forever.

[@carolynturk-hu7je]

You could always donate the items or consign?😊

[@southstreetcookies]

@@carolynturk-hu7je definitely! My husband and I in the process of purging our closets right now. It’s something I need to do more frequently.

[@monica9450]

Same!

[@mrs_mothra547]

Yeah but she probably wanted to film herself doing the try on and it was less stressful doing that at home

[@southstreetcookies]

@@mrs_mothra547 that is a good point!

[@jazzmraz]

“It’s none of my business what that says about me” Favorite line.

[@katiehayes8596]

I’d also like to point out the hilarious rollercoaster of emotions toward Target during this video. “They used to be good but they’re so bad now.” “OMG! I can’t believe I found that much stuff!! Everything was so cute!” “I don’t know what I was thinking when I bought this” about all of them. 😂😂😂 and keeping nothing. We were just riding the Target wave with you and it was fun.

[@rayanagi]

The black crop top outfit was 🔥. Just exchange the pants for the right size. Perfect for date night. I also highly recommend Shapermint camisoles and bras. Keep shopping! 😀

[@Jo-nh4vw]

I second Shapermint. So good and affordable!

[@beauty46001]

I feel like that black top with a maxi skirt would look cute as well

[@MageeMooney]

I agree! It was great and the pieces could be dressed up or down.

[@alyssawoj]

AGREE! You looked great!

[@thechristinediane]

😊 Foundation garments (aka shapers) make such a good impact on how clothes lay. Society forgot/de emphasized proper foundation garments sometime in the 90's.

[@arrtsnob25]

Yesterday my husband pointed something out that I say when clothing doesn’t fit me right. I say “if this was bigger it would fit me.” He then said “I like that you know you don’t need to be smaller, the clothing needs to be bigger. It’s not up to you to shrink, it up to your clothes to fit you.” I became a little flustered and thought about how different I talk to myself now then when I was a teenager and I was so proud of myself. I Iove seeing you talk to yourself kindly too 🥹

[@soozbq89]

Idk why but this made me cry 🥹

[@malonerevenant4584]

Something that helps me have a good relationship with clothes that might work for other people is that when I'm trying on clothes I choose a few options that I think will look silly on me or a bit over the top or will feel like it belongs to a character that isn't me. It helps me remember that clothes shopping is meant to be fun and also that what any outfit says about me while it's on isn't necessarily accurate or connected to me in any real way. I have also found some articles of clothing that have surprised me this way, and they are some of my favorite things to wear

[@larah.9568]

The black "business casual" two-piece could be dressed up with the blazer of your current date night outfit, or maybe a colourful long sweater. It was my favourite of all the looks!

[@MatinaClapsis]

I agree! And could be dressed down with jeans and mixed and matched to create multiple outfits like a basic tee with the pants, etc.

[@katzenbekloppt_mf]

Definitly that one looked good on You. Maybe You try a smaller size of it and compare? I am very bad in sizes, but for me You look very slim and You said the trousers felt to big (I liked it). The shorts (Latzhose) are great, that's "You". And the rest is just not fitting to You, it is saying nice little housewife with long pink nails or something like that. You are to cool for it and that is awsome!

[@blaireshoe8738]

Why are those overalls SO FREAKING CUTE tho?! 💕Honestly the whole trip was a win just for those, and it's hilarious that everything else was too big rather than too small- and useful, too, since you can still get an idea of how you like the necklines and colors despite being the wrong size. Can be harder to get a good feel for it if it's too small rather than too big.

[@lovelyrainflowerfarm]

“Let’s go……… Don’t think, don’t think about it….” I. FEEL. YOU.

[@socgrrrl]

I need to incorporate this! 😂

[@lauraKeepOnSwimming]

Elyse.. I would encourage to take a friend with you shopping. If the item does not fit in the dressing room, it's the friend's job to go get the right size. Take a friend that is honest with you and will encourage you to try on clothes in a variety of colors that you may not have selected on your own. The other option is to hire a stylist - totally worth it if you can afford it. The bib overalls are my favorite. Go back & buy another color! So cute. The polka dot dress, the black 2 piece and the black short dress with pockets are so cute on you - I would try the next size down to see if the fit is better. You can wear fitted black short shorts under the black dress with pockets or a cute pair of leggings! Loved the versatility of these 4 pieces as they can worn casual or dressed up; think of adding a denim jacket or a pop of color with a cardigan or sweater or color of shoe. A good fitted bra makes such a difference when trying on new clothes too. Do you have a VS&CO or Macy's near you to get fitted? It really helps. I loved this vlog. You're such an inspiration of support. We all need to do better with extending ourselves graces when facing hard things. You're doing great! "I'm not meant to make those clothes look good. Those clothes are made to make me look good" Best QUOTE EVER!

[@izholmes]

I was about to comment something like this! Except not this well. You are spot on. Shopping alone is so hard and frustrating. But shopping with the wrong kind of person is also hard and not recommended. I think you should go with her! 😊

[@elizabethball2963]

YES, I randomly went shopping with my best friend this past December, and she suggested I size down in a top. I think subconsciously I felt bad about my body and like I needed to hide my torso under loose shirts, but having a friend say IRL while looking right at me that a smaller size would look cute was REALLY impactful. Like I couldn't just write it off as shirt looks better in a picture than in real life etc. I tried on a smaller size and agreed with her 🥰

[@DishWithDina]

Also, Target was discount central for me (on a tight, grad student budget at the time), and now it’s got, like, Macy’s prices. Anyone else feeling this?

[@Leslie-wb8cb]

The clearance section has been laughable!

[@DishWithDina]

@@Leslie-wb8cb 😩

[@TheVioletMaze]

Absolutely. Shopping at Target feels like a privilege. Plus, I agree with Elise that the styles of clothing have been off for a few years. Or maybe my body isn't similar enough to their fit model. Either way, I have given up on clothes from Target.

[@dianaw4072]

Yes! Also agree with the fact that the styles are not what they used to be. And anything I’d actually like there is $$$$ especially for what it is…fast fashion. 😞 I hate shopping so going to Target felt easy and convenient. Walmart has actually become my Target now. They have surprisingly cute basics.

[@Caffeinatedwife]

And their quality is garbage now, I gave up on them a few years ago.

[@leighannhowland]

During postpartum my therapist suggested stitch fix because I struggled with just going to shop, but also feeling overwhelmed trying to find things that worked well on my new body, but also that didn't feel like every other piece of clothing I owned. Having it shipped to me and trying on in the comfort of my home and pieces that weren't all winners, but made me see different styles I could try and liked was awesome. It can be pricier but so much of the stuff has been good quality and worth it.

[@JenniferHaselton]

The Black pant suit looked really good It would look so good with a bright colorful beaded necklace You've been getting into art and everything You could probably make a really cool necklace to go with it to make it brighter and customize it to your own look. I thought the pant suit made you look tall and when you were talking about it you were smiling and it looked really good It just looked like you look comfortable in it A nice chunky shoe I don't know I just thought I looked good on you lol You're the best! I'm the same way though I will get a whole bag or two of clothing and not like anything that are in the bags they do not make me look good I am very short and extremely curvy and it just isn't the same when I put them on😂

[@dianeparks9475]

I loved that one too! It looked so cute!❤ Better think about it! 😉

[@ColorJoyLynnH]

The problem is that they only make clothing for theoretical humans. I’m short and curvy also. I have a friend who is tall and curvy. I do sew, and that helps. When I make clothes for myself, I have to shorten my waist by one and a half inches. When I make clothes for my friend, I have to increase that same height by 6 inches. And almost every garment is made for a B cup or maybe a C cup in the larger sizes. Forget fitting if you have a size that bra stores rarely carry. Again, it’s not your fault… They’re just playing averages to sell the most amount of stuff.

[@iamthatiam7523]

Such a great idea to make a artsy necklace to go with it! I loved that outfit on her too. I also loved the color beige on her. It really was complimentary.

[@mrspitzz1]

I’m glad there’s someone else like me 😮

[@AuntieLeigh]

My attempts at clothes shopping are JUST LIKE THIS. The internal chatter, the working up to it, the momentum, all of it

[@angelhowell5420]

I’m telling you having a uniform for certain occasions is so freeing especially having little ones. You just need a few more options so you don’t feel like you’re repeating the same outfit for every occasion. Having a few fail safe outfits that you don’t have to think about and that fit well no matter what time of the month is such a time and energy saver. I’ve also found that a few quality pieces from Athleta, Title Nine or a similar athleisure store is helpful, quick dry, wrinkle resistant and washes up easily.

[@TheCydneyboom]

I just wanted to say that I too am in the “postpartum after baby #2 staring at a closet full of clothes that no longer fit and shopping at Target and Old Navy without knowing my size” phase, so I now feel very seen and un-alone. Thank you ❤

[@asiabudasia]

As someone who spiraled earlier today about new clothes not fitting right ..... thank you.

[@kyndramb7050]

"Maybe in another life I'll like sunlight". She never fails to be relatable.

[@lizrumbaugh6119]

We are one. Love this comment SO much

[@HabitualHobbies]

I will never stop thinking that you are the MOAT RELATABLE human on the internet, and your videos make me feel seen and heard in a way that I didn't think was possible from a stranger. In my head, we are best friends! 😊🙂 thanks for sharing your thoughts with me

[@libbybeliveau7506]

I love that you had the courage to put yourself out there like that. It is NOT easy to face the dreaded "clothes shopping" trip. I used to work at a clothing store and women would get upset and put themselves down when nothing was looking "right." I would tell them: it is definitely not you-- these aren't the right clothes to compliment your unique beauty and I we *will* find something. It was so rewarding when we found something that made them feel confident. Also, I JUST went through this SAME EXACT THING! It took me until 6pm to work up the nerve to go out. I had to call my mom and keep her on the phone with me (which ended up being a blast--it felt like I was school clothes shopping with my mom again; my favorite few days of August back then). I even asked her "where do people shop these days?" I started at Target and got the best thing in the place: a caramel machiato. Next store, Burlington Coat Factory, I was able to find a few tops and a pair of pants. It was the first time I felt good about myself since I outgrew my wardrobe.

[@Kathleenhm]

Watching you work through things on camera is SO HELPFUL. I can't stress this point enough ❤❤❤

[@kylieebrook]

I felt so much peace watching this video because I have never related to anything more in my life, and being able to watch someone else articulate my thoughts so well made me feel less alone. I cannot thank you enough Elyse.

[@Ashley-xl1jw]

The moment with the yellow outfit was my absolute favorite😂 when you see an outfit at the store or online and you think it is so cute and envision yourself in it and it’s so cute in your head … and then you put it on … and somehow it just. doesn’t. translate. 😂 Loved this video and felt it deeply as I’m 4 months postpartum… thanks for sharing ❤love the overalls too!

[@mistysmeanderings6428]

I teared up when you said, "They're not doing their job." I think my next shopping experience is going to be way different. Thank you🤟

[@whateverislovely8654]

the overalls are suupeeer cute! And this is why for past several years I exclusively shop at thrift stores. I find things that are comfortable to me and look good on me, regardless of brand or size or trends

[@kristaolsen6236]

YES 🙌

[@SheWasOnlyEvie]

As someone who wears clothes until there are literal holes in them-and only will replace them when the holes appear in areas that, if I wore them in public, would get me arrested for indecency and/or exposure-all I have to say is… Yaaaaas! I don’t feel alone in my complete lack of desire to shop for clothes. With that said, I now want to find an outfit that will make me look good! Thank you, Elyse!

[@katherinep1010]

Same here! I have 3 pairs of pants and all have seen waaayyy better days. But there are no holes in the butt yet, so Icm not going shopping.

[@Pursepractioner]

I cannot emphasize enough how relatable this was. I had a mini meltdown last weekend because I felt like I had nothing to wear to a concert that: 1. Looks cute (not homely 😅) 2. Fits my 7m pp body 3. Has nursing/pumping access 4. Is comfortable/won’t trigger sensory issues 5. Isn’t threadbare from already being worn 1,000x 6. Conceals a gigantic frumpy nursing/pumping bra I achieved 5/6 (bra peeked out a bit 😕). Apparently I never have the right bra either. I actually loved the black set on you. I would have styled with a simple long “station” necklace. And I might be checking out that black dress for myself…

[@gfunk714]

I liked the two piece black set, pair it with some white sneakers to make it more casual. The black floral dress with puffy sleeves is also cute!

[@meganliberato9006]

I just yesterday had a mental breakdown in kohls trying to find clothes that I liked and fit properly and ended up just sweating so profusely I couldn’t shop anymore. I have a gift card I’ve been trying to spend for ages and after 3 attempts all I’ve purchased was 2 dog toys and an outfit for my nephew. This video made me feel a little better. You always know what I need to hear.

[@fldombro]

Allison Bornstein and her three-word method + her book Wear it Well is a GAME CHANGER. I also have two kids roughly the same age as yours and I completely get the feeling of feeling self conscious and disconnected from your closet (+ all the body changes, it’s a lot!). Highly highly recommend her content and book, both centered around creativity rather than consumption too!

[@purelife9013]

The only thing that saved me during bathing suit shopping for my honeymoon was the saying "There isn't something wrong with my body, there is something wrong with these clothes!" & now I have a new favorite saying when clothes shopping "it's the clothes fault for not making me look good, not my fault for not making the clothes look good!"

[@MandyTeachesYall]

I am so impressed that you have the resolve to return things. That always overwhelms me and I end up just shoving things with tags into the nearest donation bin.

[@funkecorinna5510]

I think we all agree that the black business casual outfit looked objectively good on you. The pants were a perfect size.

[@vanlifecara]

The black 2 piece is fire on you. Hair up with dresses with the puffy sleeves would look great, the yellow looked awesome on you. One size down on most of those is all you need!

[@phoebepenix5163]

I love that you’re sharing about making the choice to find clothes that fit right now. I think it’s so common to wait and try to fit into clothes from eras where we had different needs or different bodies, and in my experience it makes such a difference to go ahead and find clothes that fit and work for the right now!

[@vanessaprestoncreative]

This might be my favourite Elyse video ever! So relatable, the shopping anxiety, struggle to find and wear clothes, self talk to remind yourself what matters. LOVE it! The overalls are 100% a winner.

[@alien.aryn88]

I really really loved that black outfit with the wide cropped shirt. You came out in it and looked so confident in it and excited about the top...and then completely psyched yourself out. Lol. Keep on trying. You did great 😊. Clothes can be hard.

[@rondewalch5540]

I agree, just get it in a size or two smaller and you'll like it more.

[@thevallins4324]

You were correct at the beginning when you said target doesn’t have good clothes. You are absolutely gift to the world. Thank you for making this.

[@katiehayes8596]

Yeah the black business casual as you called it look was GREAT! I laughed out loud for the entire segment of classic Midwest mom dress. The censorship over the crotch was too brilliant.

[@MKB122]

YES YES YES to all of this. I am an body image therapist and I love how you are taking care of yourself. Your body is the least interesting thing about you. Clothes are made to fit your body not the other way around. ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤

[@JenTheHippie]

I've never heard of a body image therapist! That's cool.

[@marissap2841]

Elyse is so relatable to all us introverts in this video. Her awkwardly realizing someone is watching her while filming was the best. It would be me 100% if I tried being an influencer 😂

[@addictedtoelf]

"I'm just gunna stop standing in front of 8 dresses that don't fit me." Thank you. Postpartum here and also got very ill for most of last year which caused me to gain weight, including everything I'd lost postpartum so this really hits. Thank you for sharing

[@meganpender]

Saving this to one of my playlists so I can watch it in the future and have you remind me that it's the clothes' fault if they don't look good, not mine. Thank you for this Elyse.

[@BJM617]

I can totally relate to you in this whole video! I am embarrassed to admit it but I finally threw out my one "dress up" shirt that I have had since 2010. Now when I go shopping I get drained doing it, don't enjoy trying things on in the store and usually get the wrong size (sometimes even after trying it on). Thank you so much for making this video. You are such a joy to watch and so relatable!

[@cheriebullock1778]

Thank you. I hate clothes buying and watching this made me feel less alone. :)

[@clairelewis3714]

I loved the first dress (just need to get it in the right size as you said) and the second outfit with the top and pants...they both really suited you!...also the overalls were cute as!!....ultimately wear what makes you feel comfortable and what's makes you feel amazing 🫶🫶🫶

[@elizabethwalton8754]

Ok but those overalls look sooooooooo cute on you!

[@MakeWayForCat]

AuDHD mom here - everytime I watch one of your videos, it feels life changing. The "i don't think a perfect bra for the occasion even exists," "it's the clothes fault for not making you look good," the self-pep-talks from a journey of healing... you're the most relateable content creator.

[@klee52724]

Motherhood changes EVERYTHING! Your old body your old self and your old life are (likely) not coming back which is a good thing. Waiting to be what you were will just cause a spiral. You don’t own a Time Machine and that is ok.

[@jankoraven]

I'm three months postpartum and I needed this. Thank you. ❤

[@gailthomson3873]

For sure! I went bk to my original size right after my son's birth and was over the moon,then 3years later I went up 3 sizes and it took me 8 years to lose it. Now I'm just accepting that I can't eat what I want and that's ok x

[@mivical]

i dont think thats the lesson to be spreading per se😅 adulthood changes the body, motherhood changes the body, these things are normal and beautiful and part of life. we are living humans constantly evolving

[@mivical]

(reply is to gailthomson, idk if thats clear)

[@funkecorinna5510]

@@mivicalwell, it s definitely HER lesson. One lesson is not more spreadworthy than the other

[@its.me.mj.anotherone]

Omg this is the first longer video that I've watched from you and i have never related harder in my life 😂😂 the energy to leave the house, the pitstop, the wrong sizes/styles. And the clothes meant to make YOU look good mantra!? Chills. Tears. Laughs. Holy cow i love it hahaha ❤

[@lindsaya7733]

My struggle with my body changing over the years is not only what I see in the mirror and just not knowing how to dress my current body, but also the guilt of spending money on new clothes. Somehow I feel like I should work harder to ‘get back’ to the body that fits those clothes because the money for clothes should be buying things for my kids or groceries or a million other things. I feel selfish I guess for spending. Even though, especially after having my kids, my body will just never be the same. I know thats ok. But the additional layer on top of my lack of body positivity is rough. Glad you are healing from your surgury❤

[@mads3677]

That’s how I feel too. Especially when it’s nice clothes that I still am very affectionate over. It’s so sad and I feel guilty

[@mariellkjonnhaug]

I’m only 15, and obviously i have never been pregnant. But this still helped me so much, i’ve always been the «bigger» kid because all the girls in my grade are very small. And the thing is, iknow i’m not fat it’s just the place i grew up. ❤

[@danishinypink2600]

I think the last one looks so nice ! If you ever want a dress there are those black jumpers that are also a dress so they are longer . Very popular in Asia 💖.

[@livbrereton8893]

Elyse honestly, you are a saving grace for me, I relate to you on every level, and I just wanted to say that sharing your life with the KZbin community, sharing your struggles, your difficulties and big emotions, and your beautiful moments, sharing the things you love most in life, like cookies, singing, and stories of your loved ones, makes me and everyone else here, so happy and so seen. I hope you’re well and I’m proud of you. ❤️

[@Betsybel0726]

The top from the yellow outfit with one of the darker bottoms like the black pants would be really cute for date night

[@85728itsmeee]

And i was thinking maybe the black top with the yellow skirt!

[@Betsybel0726]

Yes that would work too

[@HRHDMKYT]

@@85728itsmeeeThat yellow skirt is too bulky at the waist though… I do agree the top looked cute. Black ‘business casual’ looked the cutest on her, I thought. Just need the pants in a smaller size.❤❤

[@Jman99]

No. 2, 3, 6 and overalls! The basics all look great. And if you get 6 in your size the top will be great interchangeable with no.2 pieces.

[@gracewithouttears3687]

Absolute genius…” I’m not meant to make those clothes look good. They are meant to make me look good. And if they don’t, THAT’S THEIR FAULT”!!!!! Maybe the most profoundly brilliant thing said ever!!!

[@JC-hm2xd]

I really have to thank Stitch Fix for finally having jeans that fit me in all the right places. I know it’s not the most cost efficient for everyone, but I really love that I don’t have to go into stores to find clothes or return them.

[@lfleia]

I'm only a minute and a half in. and I relate so hard to this. I'm tired of wearing only the frumpy things that fit my body, I started purging my closet recently, and now I'm facing the dread of buying clothes. Thank you for sharing your journey on this with us.

[@maryellensnyder1585]

You look awesome in the black business casual outfit. It’s definitely date material!

[@gentryab4646]

You did so good! You were positive during shopping! I personally hate trying on clothes but ive noticed just trying them on at the store is better for me than having to get out twice to go to the same store. Especially just to take things back instead of leaving with a reward

[@zorgbarley1762]

I aspire to this level of openness about my thoughts. Not necessarily to do it all the time, but to be ABLE to do it.

[@muphphin]

Don't let your clothes body-shame you! Heard this on youtube years ago, and it's easier said than done, but a good mantra to remember.

[@janelleh]

I loved the black 2 piece one, and bonus if it is a little more dressy, you'd have it for events too!

[@PlatinumMyst]

Those overalls were worth every piece of clothing you got that didn't fit or look good! So cute!!! I'm struggling with clothes right now due to chronic pain that the wrong pants or shorts can make worse. Often, I can't even wear a proper bra. I had maternity overalls and LOVED them. I've been considering getting some again....but at 48, I feel limited by what I "should" or "shouldn't" wear at my age. I'm really not trying to look younger or having a mid-life crisis! I just want to wear something that fits and doesn't hurt!!!

[@JessicaIsAVegan]

After 2 kids, elastic waistbands are my new fave. Totally get it.

[@ladybirdstyling]

Elyse, thank you for sharing such a vulnerable topic. We want you to know that this is such a common issue when it comes to shopping/choosing an outfit. We define style as "the way in which," meaning style is how you do everything in your life. You my friend, have style! Everyone does! For some, learning the tools of how to express it and connecting it with who you are make all the difference. We have helped so many women who hate shopping and feel distressed in this area find freedom in their closet. It's 100% possible! ❤

[@emilygroff2039]

Thank you for not showing me your stitches! ❤ I can't do those types of things!

[@Hollis_Creative_Corner]

I can't afford to be a member but I just want to say thank you for being so relatable. Your content literally relaxes me and it's a comfort. Definitely helps since I have a 13 year old daughter and an 8 month old son so I am exhausted. ❤ Hope you're doing well. Keep being you.

[@FC-ds9ve]

Coffee is my emotional support beverage as well ❤

[@missfigs5255]

I am so proud of you. I struggle with intense anxiety and am extremely isolated and introverted. I go out maybe 1x a week. All this to say I feel you - you are an inspiration to those of us who struggle with you as we share some of the same anxieties. The video made me cry honestly because I have been a big girl all of my life and I feel you so hard with the connection between clothing and our sense of worth. You are a beautiful soul, don't ever forget that. Since you did all of that for me I decided to "reward" you with giving my opinions about the looks - but in Canadian. 1. No, yeah. 2. Yeah, no for sure. 3. No, yeah, no .4.Yeah, no. 5. Sorry, bahd (bud). I love the overalls, like yeah no for sure (means definitely). Thank you so much for sharing something so vulnerable.

[@Plaegu]

The intro 😭

[@elyse_myers]

😂😂😂

[@samanthahansford8361]

I laughed so hard I almost cried at the end. I identify so much with having no idea what size you are postpartum! I'm in that boat right now and it's so bewildering. Seeing you face the same struggle helps remind me that it's normal... And also helps me see the humor in it! I'd much rather laugh at myself than feel bad it.

[@SaraMcLu]

2:20 - As a wound care nurse, I actually do want to see your incision, but ok. 😂

[@LizR-h]

"Either I can choose to try stuff on in a store, or I can go to multiple stores, but I... I can't do both. I don't have it in my to do both."

[@ericahoward8185]

10 months post partum here and this was so relatable-so thanks!! I just ordered a bunch of stuff from Amazon and returned it all as well. Thanks for the reminder that I’m not the only one, and it’s not my job to make my clothing look good!

[@AuthorJJHanna]

Thank you for sharing the reframing work you’re doing to help your brain. Reframing things on the fly (from “Those clothes didn’t look how they should have” to “those clothes didnt look how i thought they should have”) is a very important and healing and hard to do shift. Its inspiring to be reminded we can adjust things as they happen and we can learn over time how to reframe the way we think about ourselves

[@JennieKennedy]

Gosh, this is SO relatable 🥹 I’ve had this saved to my watch later for a while and remembered it today as I was going through a box of clothes I piled up while I was pregnant. I tried on some clothes that definitely still do not fit, and told myself you know what it’s time to watch this, you’re probably going through the same thing and it might make me feel better 😅 and it totally did. Your videos and stories are so comforting; I vibe so much with literally everything I’ve seen you share that I feel like we’d be such good friends in person! It helps a lot when I’m so isolated as a SAHM in a state far away from my friends. You look so bright and beautiful in yellow btw!!! ❤

[@maryronquillo2993]

I’m kinda new here but as a first time mom who is just starting to crawl out of PPD and wear clothes that flatter my new body shape…I just kinda wish I could go shopping with you and hype you up. You’re beautiful in all the ways.

[@tessachampagne3580]

I absolutely love your videos and how open you are with your every day struggles (I mean this in a nice way, not in any sort of rude way). It’s so refreshing to watch your videos and see that others struggle with the same things. You’re amazing :)

[@RizzIzz-pl5vw]

There's so many comments, you will probably never see this one, but tip. You go to the store, you pick an item you like, but don't want to try it on there. Fold the neck down a little and put the item up against yourself. I usually gold the item with my chin then, and then check how far/not far the item goes to my sides. You don't want it to just barely cover you're front, that's too little. You don't want it to go past the mid point of your side, that's too big. But if it goes pretty well to the midpoint of your side, it's probably the right size! Works for shirts, dresses, pants, shorts, everything 🙂

[@haleydawn3972]

Absolutely love the overalls on you!! Also, I love how you’re working on your relationship with clothes/shopping & appreciate you being open about it because I can relate and you are inspiring me to look at clothes differently. ♥

[@TheNamesLexel]

I need some overalls. Those are so cute! And I love that “I was not meant to make these look good, they are made to make me look good” put that on a sweatshirt! ❤❤❤

[@Annboulderkodak]

Elyse. Trust me. Old Navy is amazing. Great quality, great sales, cute clothes. My four adult kids, my husband, and I have lived in their clothes for the last 30 years.

[@TamTheTerrible]

First of all, I love you, second you are not alone in your "love/hate" relationship with clothes. This video of absolute chaos is making me feel so much better. Also thanks for the tip. Either try o clothes from one store or visit several stores! I love it! I am a pear shaped human and finding clothes that fit (irrespective of size) has been a challenge my entire life. I HATE clothes shopping, why can I not wear my pjs out is often a question I have. Now on the outfits, that black two piece pants situation is lovely, def a size down, an maybe a different colour to make it more casual. The res dress is lovely, perhaps put on a belt to give it a bit of shape as it is too big, but a belt will do it. Also wear it with sneakers, and dress it up with some jewelry. Remember its about styling the clothes, not just wearing it. The dungarees (hopefully that's what you call them), YES QUEEN!!! Just wear different shirts for different occasions and your are good to go. You got this! We believe in you.

[@slowlife2158]

The horizontal neckline of the “business casual” outfit suits you so well! I bet that top would look amazing with a variety of bottoms, maybe a flowy colorful skirt.

[@bookmania5055]

Thank you for this video ❤ I was having one hell of a low energy day, and this video is just what I needed. You've got me determined to reconsider my wardrobe to match the philosophy "let the clothes work for you"

[@SuperKallieFragilistic]

I had twins a year ago and I have been really struggling with the fact that none of my clothes fit. Even clothes that I bought a few weeks postpartum no longer fit and it has made me emotional. This video was really validating and a great reminder that our clothes are meant to make us look and feel good, not the other way around! I guess it's time to do a massive purge

[@vlong7112]

1) Love you and your authenticity so much! 2) My body has changed drastically over the past couple years due to medication. I hated growing out of my clothes! But giving myself permission to buy things that I like (and that fit) has been a game changer. 3) Neutral is it!! I've said it before and I'll say it again, sometimes I want to look cute and other times I'm not sure why it matters what I wear so long as I don't get arrested when I go out in public. 4) I too had an aversion to Old Navy (the place with flip flops and matching 4th of July shirts) but it has become a staple for comfy and not too pricey work clothes. The range of sizes is so freaking great.

[@humorme991]

Literally just experienced the whole my new body vs my old body crisis like 2 days ago. It's so hard to not feel bummed when you walk into the dressing room with a stack of clothes, come out, hand every single piece back to the fitting room attendant, and leave defeated. The perspective that it's the clothes' fault and not mine is kind of hilarious, but also so encouraging. Thank you for sharing. 🙂

[@amberr6]

Cheering you on! You got this! I know this was weeks ago, but you can ALWAYS return something. Don’t feel obligated to try things on in the store if you’re not up for it.

[@jazmorgann]

Thank you so so much!!! I feel so much less alone in this post-partum longterm feeling. My body changed, I want to accept it. And yes, I also bought all kinds of wrong sizes!!

[@PepsiInc341]

I feel like warm tones like coral, orange, or a bright green (or lime green!!) would look absolutely AMAZING on you!

[@tiffannyk2113]

You’re amazing!!! Love, love, love how you share your inner monologue and how incredibly relatable it is! 😅 Also love the work you are doing on self love and healthy perspectives, so inspiring and helpful. Thank you so much, please keep being true to YOU! 😊

[@kaitlinoconnell517]

yay for two stores! i also have to psych myself up. something that helped a lot with my confidence / relationship to clothes was learning which colours are most flattering to bring out my skin, eyes, hair, etc. if you want a new rabbit hole (like you, i collect these, such as crochet and curly girl method, and most recently houseplant care) --- might i recommend learning about 12 blueprints colour analysis. i "had my colours done" in the fall, and armed witn this info i can basically ignore trends and still feel confident. very fun rabbit hole, 9 out of 10 carrots, would recommend. hugs