a blanket, a bear, and a psychological evaluation (OH MY!)

[@emilyspirky]

The real housewife of Omaha intro made me laugh so much... "there's nothing mid about me" 😂😂😂☠️

[@emilyspirky]

Also, congrats on the somewhat new self awareness to being neurodivergent and continuing to learn more about that part of yourself. You figured it out all on your own! 🎉 I myself am struggling with self-identifying as autistic without having "proof" - this is part of the reason that I am seeking a formal diagnosis as well. There's so many complex and complicated feelings that come with late life diagnosis - I actually counsel people to support them through this process. Just wanted to share you're not alone in those feelings! Sending lots of love. ❤

[@giynxxentt.5626]

😂😂😂😂😂

[@cynthia1957]

@@emilyspirky im in this exact same place right now

[@Hollys_s]

Elyse, i love how genuine you are. You remind me of a golden retriever with anxiety. That is a strange compliment but i think youre just so lovable and pure friend material.

[@elyse_myers]

I receive this compliment with so much pride. I’ve been called an anxious golden retriever before and it made my heart happy in an unexplainable way. Thank you for this!

[@alissasonnenberg4108]

reading this as my golden retriever has her head turned 180° so she can keep an eye on my every movement 😂

[@christinec3170]

I'm reading with my anxious Jack Russell staring at me.😉 I was having a conversation about my do with someone once and the conversation shifted to my friend saying, "You know, I do think there is something to that old adage that dogs resemble their owners..." I have to admit I felt slightly upset as we had just been discussing how nervous, anxious, and pesty my dog can be....

[@Cups_of_Tea_System]

And here I went full on Swiftie with the Golden Retriever comment!

[@thewanderingqueen725]

I thought retrievers were prone to anxiety. Looked it up they were ranked third. 😅😂

[@sjayne27]

I actually DO care about the mic cover. I love crazy things like that! Glad it teleported back to you!

[@alisanhankins8762]

100%!!

[@irene_in_progress]

I watched the video where it was lost recently enough to remember it. I was so happy she found it! 😂

[@JPiplup77]

Yes, I DO care too! That mic cover reappearing has ‘glitch in the matrix’ written all over it. But I remember when it vanished and I feel better with this closure.

[@sarahleony]

Same. I have two favorite clothing items, actually three (one is my sons’s) that just went *poof*. Literally it’s a mystery and I’d cry with happiness if they popped up again from their black hole.

[@ktmonnin]

That’s some borrowers level shit right there

[@BlueberryPie-zq6so]

The diagnosis matters to childhood Elyse. Consider it a gift to child Elyse, the one who struggled to get here and now finally has answers. -someone diagnosed late teens

[@jennlamaye3018]

Well said. It helps the process of transitioning from negative labels you’ve internalized, to giving yourself grace for things that were not in your control.

[@SnazzyOne25]

Ooh I LOVE this. I wondered why it mattered to me and this makes total sense.

[@alilsparkle3732]

GIRL! IT MATTERS! I’m 54. I got diagnosed with ADHD last year (yes, last year) and it was like, “My whole life finally makes sense!” It was SUCH a relief! I was vindicated! I’m not just an annoying freak! I’m neurodivergent and it’s WONDERFUL! I’ve been able to forgive myself for sooo much and to be much more gentle in my self talk. I’m so proud of you for getting tested.

[@angelasevern4741]

Congrats! I've sometimes wondered if I'm on the spectrum -I do identify with being a Highly Sensitive Person -HSP which is similar - at any rate I can definitely relate to being neurodivergent in some respect -Now if only other people would accept me and not think I'm "annoying" or whatever!

[@KLR2322]

I’m so scared to ask about being evaluated for it because I’m worried that they’ll tell me I’m just neurotypical when I def don’t feel like it

[@Mel.ani.N]

Exactly!

[@Mel.ani.N]

​@KLR2322 I told my psychologist about this fear. They told me that, statistically, patients who identify their neurodivergence are correct in their self-assessment.

[@pyao]

For anyone wondering the test for adults who have went undx is called the RAADS-R test and I swear to god I had no idea 😭😭 It helped my life so much, diagnosed at 25

[@Skibbityboo0580]

I think you underestimate how much we are interested in interdimensional traveling microphone covers...

[@TheAlexa1983]

Right???

[@JaelynnCrafterofDreams]

Agreed!!

[@colleenfuller8412]

This is such a universal experience. It’s very affirming to see this happen to someone else, documented on video. I’m not the only one with a wandering trans-dimensional portal in my house!

[@lulumoon6942]

PREACH

[@leahzaloudek6978]

oOoOo quantum

[@boothgoodies6348]

At her insistence, I recently had my 14 year old evaluated for what we thought was OCD but is actually Autism. It has changed everything in our family for the good and has dramatically improved my marriage with my husband who is Exactly like my daughter. Yes- it matters

[@morganmurchison612]

I received my autism diagnoses at 43 and felt so much relief and validation. I could start giving myself grace for my quirks and limitations ❤❤❤

[@AdventurousDana]

Aww this is awesome! ❤ My 12 yr old son’s results just came back with him being high functioning autistic among other things. Going through the process made me majorly start questioning how so many of my personality traits are right in alignment with autistic ones and I’m 42 yrs old! 😮

[@zairabandy8695]

You considered yourself disable bc of your autistic diagnosis?

[@maryellensnyder1585]

Well if you are as diagnosed as autistic as you think you will be, you will be my all time favorite person with autism ever. I love your content and the amazing person you are.

[@theanadevine]

@@AdventurousDana42 year old, recently diagnosed. 1982, let’s effing go.

[@SmooshedPotato123]

As a lesbian, you are such an icon and we’re honored to be part of the “lesbian bacon blanket” 😂 ❤

[@elyse_myers]

CROCHETING THIS BLANKET IN YOUR HONOR 🧡🤍🩷

[@rwedereyet]

Jeez I dint realize there *was* a Lesbian flag. Now I know more 😊 💙🌈 ☮️

[@mamasrelaxation8612]

​@@rwedereyet there are a ton of flags! Demisexual, ace, pan, fun to research them all!

[@rwedereyet]

Indeed Thx ❤

[@lulumoon6942]

Just knew this 😍🌈

[@SnazzyOne25]

I feel like, if we weren’t both AuDHD introverts (and living in separate cities) we’d be besties that just would sit around crocheting and reading but in the same room, while Taylor plays I the background. Joanns is also my favorite for yarn. Always have had lovely experiences. But the woman that works the register at my favorite location is named Miss Rose 😂 My grandmother would have called the missing/reappearing thing having been taken by the wee people and then returned. I feel you 100% with the autism diagnosis. That internalized sense of justice means we really want to be verified and know that what we say is true. And yes, when you’ve been told you’re just weird and awful and whatever and ignored when you say something’s wrong it means you REALLY want proof you’re not making it up. I understand exactly what you mean about saying you’re self-diagnosed. Your description of your younger self feels so raw and true. I was told I was haughty and aloof and condescending. I’ve learned it’s just that NTs are reading my affect as those when in reality I’m just calm and straightforward with factual stuff. I’m sure you’ve already been processing the dual emotions of elation to have AN ANSWER but the sadness/grief of how different life might have been had you known from the beginning. Omg I just realized I did the AuDHD “I’m going to share a story from my life so you know I understand” thing 😂 You’re an amazing beautiful wonderful human and I hope you know that in the darker times.

[@ParyMarker]

My friend (30M tall, skinny, mustachioed mexican man) deeply loved working at Joann's. If they paid a living wage, he would have worked there the rest of his life.

[@elyse_myers]

Nooooo please don’t tell me they’re bad at paying their employees 😭💔 I need to research this so I can know where to shop!

[@ParyMarker]

@elyse_myers They don't pay any worse than any other major store like target, for example. But at least where we live in CA, you can't rent your own apartment on $20/hr. (5 years ago) I think he was making $14/hr, and I was making $12.50/hr at Target. "Store worker" is just no longer a livable, long-term career.

[@ParyMarker]

@elyse_myers They treated him well though, to be clear. Both his coworkers and the customers.

[@amandahoefner9183]

@@elyse_myersmy mother-in-law loved working there 20+ years ago. Even the crazy customers that are at every store weren’t that crazy there. I met her after she left there and still talks about it. It’s also still her favorite store to shop at.

[@YoNeener]

​@@elyse_myers I love how open you are to new information. ❤

[@melissaskinner2199]

I felt exactly the same way about getting diagnosed. My AuDHD diagnosis was completely life changing. My life makes so much more sense now, and my soul is more calm than it ever has been because I feel understood and validated. I was incredibly fortunate to be able to go through the diagnosis process, not everyone has that option. I will never take it for granted, and I'm happy you are able to have that experience too. ❤

[@samc2]

💞💞💞

[@amandaelle1462]

Exactly this! 🙌🏻🙌🏻🙌🏻

[@shariadiel]

Got my diagnosis at 26, 6 years later and i am still figuring out who i am but i like who that is for the first time in my life!

[@waitingandlearning]

My parents & pediatrician hid my Asperger's diagnosis (for my protection) until I was 25 and the laws/public attitudes changed. The diagnosis has been challenged by other medical professionals, b/c of old knowledge and Im still trying to get assessed as an adult. However, when my dr told me "You have Asperger's", I felt such relief. Realizing Im not just annoying or wrong, has allowed me to start figuring out who I am and love myself. I'm 15 years along and still learning about my brain, and while there is still so much trauma to work through, my default is now validation instead of gaslighting myself that I must just be acting up/misbehaving/weaponizing my needs for attention. For some people, self diagnosis isn't enough, and that is ok. That need speaks more to how we have been treated in our lives, instead of something inherently lacking in ourselves. 😂😊 Good for you for recognizing your need and pursuing the offical diagnosis 🎉

[@melissaskinner2199]

@@waitingandlearning it makes me so happy that you are figuring yourself out and loving yourself! Thanks for the support...and I am sending so much support back your way!

[@christine713]

I totally believe that mic cover went into another dimension. No other answer for that 😂

[@elyse_myers]

NO OTHER ANSWER! 😂

[@ktmonnin]

BORROWERS

[@whaleyou]

@@ktmonninOMG

[@clairep7199]

@@ktmonnin For using as a nice warm hat like guards at the front of buckingham palace?

[@ericabrooks1004]

@@clairep7199that was a visual I didn’t know I needed, but I’m glad I scrolled and found this 😂

[@creakystaircase]

I'm on a waiting list to be diagnosed as autistic. They told me it'll be about a year before they can see me. I'm not sure if I'm specifically autistic but in my opinion, I'm definitely neurodivergent. I want a diagnosis because I'm constantly overwhelmed and I feel like I can't do all that everyone else can. I feel broken and I hope with a diagnosis people will understand me better and not just assume I'm lazy or crazy.

[@elyse_myers]

I was on the waitlist for 8 months, and then the process to be assessed is multiple months long, and multiple appointments. I’ve almost canceled every single one of them because so much time passes between them that I lose a little hope (and momentum.) but I can say with certainty that it’s worth the wait if you can get in and get on that list. I didn’t expect to matter so much but now nearing the end, I’m grateful I went through the long process!

[@zairabandy8695]

So you think everyone around is neurotypical and that is why they can do life and you can’t? If that is true, is autistic a disability?

[@QueenShiva1920]

I provide these types of assessments and it is so important to get these answers! I got my ADHD diagnosis in adulthood and it changed how I approached so much. I have so much more self compassion. Most importantly, I know why my toddler asks the way he does and will be getting him an assessment ASAP to help get him services now. The sooner kids get support, the better for their overall health! The waits are terrible, but there aren't enough psychologists to provide quality accurate diagnoses. We try our best (and as someone who's been on both sides of the table, I can say it can be life changing in the most needed way). Hang in there!

[@kiyahforever]

The Borrowers finally acknowlwdged your suffering and brought the mic cover back. What a reason to celebrate!

[@sabrinasmileyevans3252]

Borrowers was my thought too♡ Those cheeky scamps.

[@TanyaWestley]

1. Yes we are interested in the time travelling mic cover 2. The diagnosis matters because it matters to you and it's an important step in accepting yourself (going through the same process myself), and we already love you for who you are

[@heuchera88]

Elyse, I paid privately for an Autism assessment last year and was diagnosed at 35. I felt very similar to you especially as a high masking person. I am AuDHD. It has been extremely validating for me and it.’s been helpful as a parent as well . My kid just got her adhd diagnosis this year.

[@bree1540]

That’s when you read on your Kindle and then buy the physical book as a trophy when you finish the book! Best of both worlds!! ✨

[@yvexyz8704]

Yes! I do another version of this: the kindle books that REALLY stole my heart I go and buy the paperback version of it secondhand. This way I can have it in my bookshelf but not spend double the money for one book 😊

[@Leeeg]

hard relate on the reasons you give for going for the diagnosis. thanks for sharing!

[@madmommy]

Labels are interesting things. On the one hand, we try not to label people, because it feels impersonal and judgemental. Yet labels can be very empowering as well. Having been diagnosed with bipolar disorder late in life (at 30 years old), I decided that I would embrace the label as a part of who I am.

[@dawnhughes9942]

I am a late diagnosed autistic woman. Unfortunately even with an official dx many people will not believe you and all those bad broken feelings about yourself don't just disappear. You may even face increased discrimination and bullying for becoming official and coming out with your ASD. Be very careful who you share this with and prepare for grieving time after your dx. Still worth finding out for your own piece of mind. Good luck!

[@skyler.dean.]

Reasons I thought I might cry today did not include relating to your autism story so deeply. Thank you for sharing. Hearing that made me feel less alone, less annoying, and more normal ❤ I hope you are able to process, heal, and find grace for yourself with this diagnosis.

[@samanthaodonnell]

Haha me too! 😅 We’ll be alright all together ❤😊

[@sbchick37]

Ugh same. ❤ Literally hearing “annoying” is so triggering for me.

[@paperbark3754]

I 100% take my crochet projects to waiting rooms. I keep it all in my handbag, lol. It helps keep me calm in public when my anxiety is running rough

[@michellethornton3822]

Elyse, I got diagnosed with autism at 31. It’s simultaneously relieving while also being something I deeply grieve. I grieve the criticism and pain I brought upon myself for not being able to “do life” as well as everybody else. But a relief in the sense that I truly do just process things differently than other people. So I’m not too “bitchy” for preferring quiet, too selfish for preferring certain clothes or foods, too standoffish for wanting alone time. I was diagnosed in march and am still grieving and rejoicing. Enjoy the ride. ❤️

[@zairabandy8695]

In which parts of life aren’t you able to do? Do you feel that an autistic diagnosis makes you part of the disable communication? True question

[@MeldaRavaniel]

This is how i feel with my ADHD diagnosis. Grief and relief. I cried out of both. The first because life was so much harder for me, and it didn't have to be (I got diagnosed at 35). The second because at least now I have support and understanding and more coping strategies. ❤

[@itsGabrielaCristina]

I’m going through the process at 31!! Just waiting to hear back about my evaluation.

[@CurrentChoices]

labels that important these days?

[@michellethornton3822]

Being rude seems to be important to you. I’d worry about that instead.

[@chrstinamercado2205]

My 10 yr old son is autistic. His autism is his super power. My husband and I have always told him he is a super hero. My son is my most favorite person in the whole world.

[@jkuhmann]

Elyse, you are a TREASURE. Thank you for sharing with us.

[@elyse_myers]

Thank you so much 🥹🥹

[@vegan_hanny]

Thank you, Elyse for including the bit about your diagnosis process. I have been going back and forth with wether or not I “need” it and you explaining how dismissed and invalidated you have been made to feel and how you have been made to feel “annoying” “particular” “a bad friend”, etc, made me have such an emotional reaction due to the similarities. Your videos bring such joy to me. Your journey and experiences are so valuable, unique, and important. Thank you for sharing ❤

[@jessycayers]

You are such a precious gift to the world! I’m so proud of you for going through with the diagnosis process, simply because it matters to you. You matter, and you should feel whole, not broken. Thank you for the joy you bring to the world!

[@rhiannoncallahan1329]

Watching Elyse's Vlogs are like a warm hug and a warm cup of coffee combined, cozy and comforting

[@NZKiwi87]

Girl! I’m getting my autism diagnosis on Monday, aged 45 🙌 I can relate SO hard to how you’re feeling. For someone who loves logic so much I’m bemused by how emotional I’m finding the process. Thank you for being open. love your content 😊

[@user-mw4wl5zl1z]

I’m waiting to be assessed for autism myself and it was like you took the words out of my mouth. Getting a diagnosis as an adult can still be useful. It’s okay to get emotional about it and I do too. You’re doing great, even if it might not feel like it. Feel free to show all the projects you’re working on and talk about it, I’m quite interested and happy to hear your enthusiasm and thoughts.

[@elaboratelizard]

Getting a diagnosis can be so important to just feel okay with yourself. The understanding and knowing you aren’t broken is incredibly important and valuable. That is one of the biggest reasons that I got a diagnosis. Plus it will help if you ever need accommodations. Also if any of your kids get assessed it can be helpful knowing you are too. Plus Joann is always the safe store for me too. 😊 💖

[@AdventurousDana]

This! 🎉 When I got my son assessed it was the first time I was told that many of the diagnosis are inherited. I come from a family that just didn’t get psych health treatments in the past.

[@WildChildMama]

I care about the mic cover. The Joann trip made my heart happy. I think you just verbalized EVERYTHING I have felt about diagnosis. Thank you for being you.

[@Savxaysmom17]

I had a horrible day and received some devastating news, but this video has literally made my soul smile. Your glow and energy and smile and excitement are everything. I love hearing you say, "I'm so happy!" Your energy is so beautiful. Thank you for being here. 💜

[@AdventurousDana]

I applaud you for getting an official assessment Elyse! 🎉 Everything you said about being diagnosed for autism, from how hard it is to actually get tested to just wanting the validation is EXACTLY what I’ve just gone through with my son. The results proved what I as a mother have always known about my 12 yr old for years but getting a professional official diagnosis was important. Now everyone we interact with, from family to teachers will know that this is something REAL that my sweet bright boy needs his community to acknowledge and that he can understand doesn’t solely define him but rather helps him (and everyone else) understand his own self. ❤

[@elyse_myers]

I totally see self-diagnosis as valid because of how hard it is to get into being assessed (and how difficult the assessment is!) And with that being said, I see so much of myself in my boys and I always want them to know that it mattered to me to go through the process of getting diagnosed because it helps me understand myself better and if they need to go through that process too one day, I’ll be able to tell them I did it. I never want them to feel like they don’t belong or that they’re are broken. So if I can do this for any possibility of them needing this in the future, I can encourage then with my own experience!

[@dylnpickl846]

​@@elyse_myers Beautifully put

[@cassidywillhite12]

My husband was diagnosed with autism at 43 after our daughter was diagnosed and a light bulb went off for him. It was VERY good for him and has really helped him understand himself and why he is how he is in this world. I’m very happy for you to get this diagnosis. Sending love. ♥️

[@leilalu84]

The crocheting a blanket in a waiting room scene 😂 I wish people actually did that

[@loricope2453]

Girl!!! I just want you to know!!! You make me so happy and you are the greatest human crafter on the planet!!! I appreciate all you do and how you work!!! Thank you for sharing your world and ABILITIES with us!!!

[@AngelaMeagan]

I second that!!

[@heidinetherton4523]

I care about the lost microphone cover going into another dimension DEEPLY....thank you for sharing

[@katieyoung7271]

I had suspected that I was autistic since I was 16. I finally got a diagnosis in February of 2020 in my mid fifties. It’s worth all that you go through to get the diagnosis. I forgave myself for so many things. All the best to you with your diagnostic journey ❤️❤️❤️

[@8May8]

14:17 thank you for speaking on this 🥹 the knot in my throat I didn’t know I needed 😆 I’m new to watching your vids…have you spoken on this before? It’d be great to hear more. I’ve always felt so deeply misunderstood, watching your content gives my heart and fills my insides with joy and a sense of belonging. With tears and deep gratitude 🌻💖

[@c471]

When you held the bear speaker close to you....I felt that in my soul. I don't like loud sounds most of the time but I LOVE feeling the sound. And I loved seeing the joy on your face when you held it close to you! 😊

[@ree9560]

I'm in the outer right now and keep thinking...where does the bear come in from the title? Your comment made me realize it was the speaker 😂

[@cinemarie2]

just.... thank you so much for talking about getting assessed. I look forward to hearing more about it. I`m considering that too and... your videos and you talking about it, it just helps. thank you Elyse :)

[@tammycurtis4751]

I saw that microphone cover fall and disappear too! You are NOT CRAZY! You are wonderful and amazing!

[@amandahalley530]

Omahaian here. If you ever want to get into quilting, embroidery, or just want to look at and feel fabric, The Country Sampler on 120th and Center is such a great place!

[@KimberlyGilbertDC]

I have never watched a Real Housewives...and now I don't NEED. TO. No notes. Mary is a stonecold B, and will sabotage your birthday party, S-A is wealthy BUT down-to-earth approachable, and Elyse is my soul sister that I want to bake a pie for.

[@samc2]

😊😊👍

[@angelabeatty6538]

Are you SURE you’ve never watched Housewives??!!😂😂❤❤

[@KimberlyGilbertDC]

@@angelabeatty6538 well…NOW I’m not! 😏

[@angelabeatty6538]

😂😂

[@survivingstripes9853]

I fully understand the safety Jo-Ann’s provides. I met a fabulous little ol lady named Carol who only crochets Christmas stuff and I see her every other week now and we call her Christmas Carol. I will dodge any person/conversation in public due to anxiety. But not Christmas Carol. I can talk to her all day! 😊

[@amandaelle1462]

I was diagnosed autistic and ADHD at 32 years old and getting that evaluation was the best thing I’ve ever done for myself. I hope the same for you! ❤

[@BronPuca83]

Elyse, I think we're friends in the same dimension that your mic cover went to. I'm a little autistic and adhd, the adult diagnosis is... it doesn't matter, but it does. Also, I super super care about the mic cover. I'm there too.

[@TheFashionChase]

Praying for your courage to complete the diagnosis journey. Do it for you! Believing and accepting yourself. We believe and accept you

[@xmizukagex]

Hey, Friend, adult diagnosed autistic female here too. Your talk about diagnosis was from all of us-the need for an official dx is kind of an autistic AND trauma thing. When you’re raised to believe that the way you are wired is full of “character flaws” that need to be overcome, it can be an internal wrestling match that goes on for years. 15 years into that journey I’m happier than I’ve ever been, jettisoned a lot of abusers out of my life, and still struggling to be whole. Welcome to the healing journey, Friend.

[@Narlynaarr]

I very recently got a diagnosis of ADHD. I went in looking to get a diagnosis for my dyslexia and was hoping they would find autism because i was so sure i had it. When I was told I had ADHD (among other things) and not autism I was so surprised. it never crossed my mind that it could be ADHD that caused my crippling anxiety and low self esteem. I’m so glad I did it for so many reasons. It felt so nice to see how my brain worked on paper. It was very validating and worth the year long wait for my appointment.

[@pjp9383]

Diagnosed ADHD at 51, and can share 2 things I've learned that help explain the low self-esteem. First, Rejection Sensitive Dysphoria, which makes us perceive criticism even when there is none, or amplify mild criticism in our minds. But secondly, they estimate that kids with ADHD have received 20 000 more negative comments by age 12, as compared to typically developing kids. I mean, that low self-esteem seems pretty logical then, doesn't it? (But hopefully not irreversible once you know and can work to counteract)

[@WhitetailedWhimsy]

12:19 no because the way my jaw FELL TO THE FLOOR AS SOON AS YOU SHOWED IN SITTING THERE!

[@madmommy]

The "extra yarn" myth is like the old hot dog and bun issue, where they would sell you 8 hot dogs and 10 buns. PS every time you post an awesome crochet vlog, that particular Joann's runs out of those colors right after! I made my mom a pillow using the daisy square tutorial, and almost couldn't get the same colors because that's the store I shop at. Guess I'll have to start going to the one across town lol.

[@elyse_myers]

Omg I had no clue I affected the color options that much! I think the same thing happened with a jalapeño Mac n’ cheese I mentioned on my stories a while back. I couldn’t find it anywhere after I talked about it 😂😂

[@depcat4629]

Neither CouldI"We" 😂 ❤hahaha​@@elyse_myers

[@impatientclothing6709]

5:18 is me every single week at my allergy shots 😂 If I have to wait for 30 minutes to see if I have a reaction I may as well crochet!

[@juliablanchette8126]

I got diagnosed with ADHD a couple months back (at the age of 30) and I would love to encourage you that it is actually so freeing ✨it might feel silly to want a diagnosis so bad, and that it won’t change anything but for me it really did! It was so validating and relieving. It gave me permission to be who I am and also a better understanding of who I’ve always been. On the surface it may just feel like a label, but for me it put so many things into place that haven’t made sense my ENTIRE life. I always thought I was lazy or dumb or something but now I know I just really really really struggle with executive functioning and I’ve been able to implement so many tools to help me operate at a “normal” baseline. So proud of you for seeking out that information even though it can be scary/embarrassing/feel imposter-syndrome-y!!! 🧡

[@montanalilac]

Granny squares make for fantastic mobile crochet projects!

[@anidanielle]

It's so true that the craft store is the safest place. You can find me at hobby lobby during their 30% off yarn weeks frolicking through the aisles and telling myself I don't actually need to take it home and add to my yarn stash.

[@briannarouse8796]

Oh Elyse I want to hug you! I got my Autism and ADHD diagnosis TODAY!! I understand SO intensely your “why” of getting a diagnosis and how validating it can feel to have a professional say, ‘you’re not broken, you just run on a different operating system’. 💜💜💜💜 All of the hugs and love❣️

[@gracefulkimberella]

The validation of the diagnosis is worth the trouble. I love that things return, even interdementionally. 😮

[@CrowShady73]

OMG I JUST REALISED THARPT U WERE ON MS RACHEL!!!!! I love your channel and while my sister was watching ms Rachel today I thought you looked familiar!!! 😅😁

[@homegrowncozycrochet]

I loooove Agatha Christi! My husband and I do an Agatha book clubs with each other and it’s so fun. 😊

[@elyse_myers]

Okay “And Then There Were None” was a little scary! I was reading it and then about halfway through I had to try with audible instead to see if it helped it be less scary for me and it might have been worse? 😂 I got into AC with Five Little Pigs and that was a lot more mild! And then this last one I found myself being a little spooked when I was alone! Hahaha Please give your best AC recommendations if you have favorites!!! I love the writing so much now that I’m in the brain space to consume her books!

[@carriecook8600]

The Murder of Roger Ackroyd was AMAZING!!! I also love Death on the Nile which I think is a movie now?

[@sabrinasmileyevans3252]

Love Agatha Christie! I feel like I've primarily read one's turned into PBS specials before watching 🤓

[@sashapantel7629]

I have read or listened too almost all AC’s books. Murder on the Orient Express is a classic. Murder of Roger Ackroyd is also great. A Murder is Announced is also a great one as well as death on the Nile. I also love her short stories- the Labors of Hercules, Murder in the Mews. I could go on lol.

[@sashapantel7629]

Also, for audiobooks try to get the ones narrated by Hugh Fraser. He is the best

[@devv_nicolee]

Elise I am so jealous of your beautiful curly hair! It looks so good

[@ashleyromero8645]

Future counselor here! Diagnosis is such a complex subject, and I appreciate your candor on what a diagnosis means for you. I was diagnosed with ADHD at 32 years old, and having access to a new explanation for my struggles helped me set foot on the path to unwinding all the other reasons I had come up with or been told for why I was struggling. (E.g., laziness, poor work ethic, quits easily) Your reason for diagnosis rings so true for me too! Women in our society are cultured to look outward for cues about our identity, and this diagnosis sounds like it will help you starting developing some self-trust and comfort with turning inward to understand who you are. I’m so excited for your journey of unlearning and relearning and shedding and believing and confidence! Keep up the good work!!! 🎉

[@lulumoon6942]

Just realized that craft stores is one of the few places I feel that way, too! Same with Women's Bookstores, my safe space in college! 😍

[@meredithneeleman1979]

Lmao. Love it. Your mic cap was hanging out with my Tupperware lids. If you can have it send them home also I’d be most grateful. ❤

[@reebeme]

I’d love to hear more about your school experience when you’re up to sharing it. I think it’d be helpful as someone who is also self-diagnosed yet didn’t struggle academically (until college) and is now a teacher. And yeah people assume bc I can force myself to make eye contact and am not socially awkward on all occasions that I’m not autistic. I hope to get an official diagnosis at some point too.

[@ElleMakesAHome]

Listen…you can bring embroidery to waiting rooms and go from sitting to walking in 5 seconds flat without getting tangled in your project. 💜

[@SarahEBarlow]

I'm AuDHD and watching you always brings me peace; making me feel less alone. So happy for you to be able to pursue diagnosis. It's a heck of a journey but so worth it.

[@patchyrain6752]

It's so lovely to see the joy you get from going to Jo Ann's, it's about finding the little things like that and embracing the magic it bring us 💛💛,

[@MeSlighte]

As a late-diagnosed autistic elder (I'm 57, finally diagnosed at age 54), validation is essential. I, too, have been told by parents and exes that "no one can handle [me]." I get it. Sending energy for your diagnosis journey.

[@ruthm390]

I know lots of people who read on kindle and collect the pretty books anyways lol. Also the open dyslexic font option on kindle is a game changer for my audhd brain and reading!

[@katyy102]

As a fellow late-realized autistic, I deeply understand the desire to pursue a formal diagnosis and feel validated. For me, I needed that to feel believed. Information is power, and I'm so glad I did it. I'm a Psychotherapist who works with mostly autistic clients, and the journey is long, filled with ups and downs. So happy you will soon have your validation. Welcome home❤

[@helenaross4584]

I was over the moon when I saw a new video from you- coming off anxiety meds after about 5 years so having a rough couple days. Your videos have brought a lot of comfort so thank you so much! ❤❤

[@helenaross4584]

Also as a late-diagnosed ADHDer, I know diagnosis is SO affirming for a lot of people- the neurospicy community gets you my love!❤

[@carriecook8600]

Omg I’m in the same boat this week 😭😮‍💨

[@helenaross4584]

@@carriecook8600 it’s rough so rooting for you too! Just went to see Inside Out 2 as well and that was hard minus meds lmao

[@liciadee123]

Elyse - as someone who was diagnosed with ADHD as an adult, I can tell you that it is SO important to have that official diagnosis. It is the most validating feeling to know that there is a REASON that you have never quite felt like you fit in throughout life. And it allows you to be able to seek out support for challenges in your life that you didn't even know there was support for! I hope you find some peace at the end of this process and can begin the healing journey of self-love and acceptance! Thanks for being your wonderful self! ❤ As a fellow neurospicy content creator, I can't wait to officially welcome you to the neurodivergence club! ❤😉

[@SarahELynchDesigns]

Omg, when you panned to that microphone cover I said, 'there it is!', totally remembered you losing it. I feel you on wanting the official diagnosis. I'm pretty sure I should have been evaluated for both ADHD & Autism when I was younger. But instead I had to learn how to mask what others saw as bad habits/qualities/behaviors. I did horribly at school and I'm pretty sure that could have been rectified with an ADHD diagnosis. At least officially knowing you can confidently seek out things to help you.

[@soundslikephiladelphia]

It ABSOLUTELY matters. Even though a late diagnosis, and not one that changes your life going forward, it helps you understand yourself - and ACCEPT yourself. It's validation. ❤

[@laurencreaghe5812]

Love your vulnerability Elyse ❤ You’re an amazing human.

[@pippalongstrum4780]

Oh man! These things do so matter! I’m 53 and I got diagnosed last year with adhd and let me tell you…it was like a boulder of shame was lifted right off of my shoulders! I salute your search!! And you’re so right when you say that a diagnosis doesn’t change anything outwardly at least. But inside…it turns the lights on!

[@Lieyalutionary]

“I don’t think there’s anyplace I feel safer than at JoAnne’s Fabric”should definitely be their new tagline

[@angiesolomon9343]

A diagnosis means confirmation and validation that what you feel, how your brain works, and things you do are influenced by Autism. When my son was diagnosed it was an "Ah-ha moment" because the little quirks, struggles socially and emotionally finally made sense and it allowed us to find the supports outside of our home to help him be successful. Also, having confirmation of your diagnosis may help you advocate for your children in the future if you see similar traits in them as opposed to dismissing it as your over thinking! Been there done that. I wish you the best in your journey for answers!

[@BaileyKYT]

14:47 literally sounds like me and feels like me 🥺

[@shmpooch]

4:48 this is absolutely a midwest thing ❤ ive moved all over and no other areas and so kind and chatty

[@mahroutabesh]

The thing u said about getting a diagnosis from a professional as a sign of being finally validated in your life, i totally get that. I have been dealing with depression and anxiety and even though i am professionally diagnosed and on medication, there are still so many people everyday that try to picture me as a sad sassy and bitchy and nagging person for no reason, while there IS a reason for all these behaviors. So I guess what I try to say is that even though there will be steel people who do not validate you and your behavior as autistic it is still good and beneficial for yourself to get professionally diagnosed so that there are less times that you self invalidate yourself.❤

[@chellagirl3664]

I love that you are getting your evaluation. It can just be a personal validation. That way you know that all of your struggles weren't just your imagination. The Real housewives intro was hilarious. The microphone cover did leave through a portal. I have dripping things and they just disappeared, vanished into thin air. It feels really weird when they just magically appear at a future point in time.

[@lydiakies9053]

I absolutely understand the desire to be officially diagnosed. It may not change anything, but you'll have a name for what makes you who you are. Also, I totally care about the mic cover.

[@kimberlybrown8500]

Dear Elyse, the psychological evaluation portion of this video absolutely destroyed me and my husband just witnessed me devolve into a puddle before his very eyes. I have never heard someone put so perfectly into words what I have felt for so much of my life. I may have to pursue being tested myself. If not for you, I may have just spent my life thinking I'm crazy. Thank you for your honesty

[@puplife7939]

After over ten years 2 weeks ago I was diagnosed with POTS. I cried when I got my diagnosis just from feeling validated. The night before, I bawled because I just didn't want to feel crazy. Thank you so much for these videos I relate so much to you.❤ I always talked too much for literally everyone. Here I am doing it again 😅😅

[@XoRacquel]

7:09 spoke to my SOUL. The untangling of the yarn literally makes me want to quit altogether most of the time 🤣 it’s like the lost time in a project you just don’t account for ♥️😩

[@elyse_myers]

Especially when you really don’t have a whole lot of free time but want to get as much out of it as you can…and then you spend 80% of that free time untangling yarn hahaha it’s like NO PLEASE NO

[@serena5472]

I can definitely understand everything youre feeling about the diagnosing process, and I hope you know that the world is a better place because you are you. You help all of us be our most authentic selves, and I hope this process gives you any validation you might need. ❤️

[@krystalingram]

“But there’s nothing mid about me” absolutely killed me and gave me such a big laugh and so much joy!!! 🤣🤣🤣 Thank you for bringing some good humor Elyse ❤️❤️❤️

[@rwms731]

Also so helpful to know if you have ASD to then also keep an eye out on your children. I know you get it. My husband was diagnosed after our daughter was. It’s been so freeing for him to understand himself.

[@carolinefox3602]

I'm crying over your feelings towards getting diagnosed because that's exactly how I feel about it. It feels like I'm making it up when I don't have the diagnosis to validate it

[@ys1876]

I love listening to you. You are me 100%, just everything. You’re great. I just got an ADHD diagnosis and started meds but autism is probably closer..❤️🇨🇦

[@sarahbrown9841]

I love how you do your videos in such a stripped down format. Other creators come off over scripted to the point that they don’t feel like people in my mind. You come off as just a genuine person living their life. If getting documentation on your autism gives you peace of mind then it absolutely matters. I have seen that blanket and now it is going to live rent free in my brain until either I ask my friend to make it for me or I convince myself I can crochet it. A blanket isn’t a blanket unless it can double as a tent ⛺️. 😂❤❤

[@camilaramirez2794]

Thank you for showing all of the emotions that can come with seeking a later in life diagnosis. I received my autism/adhd diagnosis two years ago at the age of 40. Yes, its been validating, but it has been hard as well. There is trauma in a life lived without true understanding of why you are the way you are. Lots of positive energy to you.

[@kimmmy86]

As a fellow ADHD newer crocheter, this is the content I’m on KZbin for.

[@jillisenberg9704]

There is such power in self understanding and self discovery. Understanding Autism and how it impacts your life is a really important thing. ❤

[@DeAnn_Davies_1227]

Elyse, I spent 25 years working in pediatrics a child development specialist. I also served as the director of child psychology for a hospital system. One professional on our team was a neuropsychologist. I identified children we suspected are on the spectrum. She evaluated and diagnosed. I can’t tell you how much this video tore at my heart. You deserve an answer. It’s actually that you deserve validation for what you already know in your heart is the answer. My thoughts are with you. ❤

[@rachealalmeida2273]

Elyse, I’ve been hyper fixating on sewing for coming up to A YEAR. It’s so fun and relaxing and the best of a million hobbies I’ve picked up! You should try sewing next!!

[@doctormo26]

If you learn anything from the diagnosis process, know that you are not alone in all the things you mentioned about growing up and how other percieved you. My son has experience those same types of things and also thought of himself as broken. In no way are either of you broken. Neurodiverse people are amazing and so often very creative, intelligent, sensitive, persistent and deep thinkers. As a mom of someone similar to you, I can appreciate you and your stuggles. Please know, you are doing an amazing job as a human!