I’m Treated Like My Family’s Bank

[@louisegowanlock7316]

I cannot imagine parents abusing a child like this. Praying for her.

[@annapatton4544]

My husband worked since he was 14, putting 90% of all his earnings into his savings account for his college fund. When it was time for him to go to college, his parents took all the money because their "very promising" nephew also needed to go to college and could not pay for it. They just gave his money away without asking. That guy never worked a day in his life, right now wanted to attempted murder and a bunch of frauds, his parents raise his kid. My husband never went to college because of it, he did not want to take a loan for the whole amount. He is incredibly smart and got where he is without help from anyone in this world, all by working his arse off. We bought our house 5 years ago and in 2,5 years we will have it paid off. That's our only debt in both of our lives ever.

[@eegernades]

​@@annapatton4544honestly sounds like your husband could have 100% used taxed payed for college other countries have. It's maddening to hear your husband's story. Sorry that happened.

[@drnobody5905]

I can. I am in the same boat. Except after saying no, i had my siblings dumped in my lap. And still get asked for money every month. So at 21, i am taking care of 2 kids and paying familys bills

[@annapatton4544]

@@drnobody5905 isn't it cheaper to move out?

[@drnobody5905]

@annapatton4544 i did move out. That's why the kids got placed in my home because i was the only one who had a place.

[@azteca6695]

Regardless if she moves out. Her family will continue to ask for money. SHE needs to put a stop to this

[@Cherrypi393]

Yeah but space makes it easier to deal with. Harder to put up boundaries when they’re right there

[@stevendurrant1724]

If she ain’t there they’re far easier to ignore

[@CarlaQuattlebaum]

YES! She'll have to make sure they hear NO every time they ask and then hopefully, they'll realize it's not worth even asking anymore.

[@bluejedi723]

She needs to put space between her and family and learn NO is a full complete sentence

[@vickieclark5931]

@@Cherrypi393 That's true.

[@lloydlagera6621]

As a father with 2 daughters in college right now, I cannot even wrap my head around what kind of person would do this to their own flesh and blood.

[@dyates6380]

Right, but these people are obviously ignorant, and ignorant people don't care about others' well being. This clan sounds like they live for today. I know many family just like this.

[@AGM-ts5bb]

Or to anyone.

[@drewdelaney4166]

Demented sick people who are flat broke and have no shame. It sucks

[@chosenone9074]

Choose guilt over resentment is a great mantra. Boundary is a powerful word.

[@willelliott5052]

She has turned out so exceptionally well to have been raised by the likes of her parents. I wish her all the best.

[@momof2momof2]

Interesting thing about people who behave like this (meaning the parents/family) , when you cut them off, they will always find a way to survive without you, while continuing to have a self entitled attitude. I hope the best for her.

[@FindMeOnABeach]

I've been my family's bank my whole life. I cut them off 4 years ago. I'm 59 now. And I'm scrambling to shove $ into retirement now because the $ that should have gone into retirement were funding my whole family. I feel her pain. But glad she's breaking those chains at 25 instead of 55!! You go, girl!!!

[@robertcohen1888]

My heart bleeds for this young person. Her family has been victimizing her her whole life and view her as nothing but the support that she is not supposed to be. It’s not bad enough that they’re basing their retirement on her paying for it but they’ve already stolen from her.

[@littlesongbird1]

Yes. Sounds like my mom. Once she stopped being able to use me for $ she disappeared.

[@pulidobl]

Sounds like my in- laws. In the name of „“culture“

[@rebeccaoprea9917]

The hard worker gets rewarded with more work and responsibility.

[@curiouscat3384]

I was not a huge fan of John at first because I don't always find his advice helpful on a practical level. But he seems to sense when emotions are in the way of a caller who can't see or think clearly to move forward. In this case John and Jade made a great team.

[@joyhope9486]

I don’t think I have ever heard any advice from John that wasn’t practical. Painful and unpleasant to implement? Sure, but that’s life. Do you have any examples? Not for the sake of an argument, but for enlightenment.

[@jollama]

@@joyhope9486They’re not answering you

[@Atlas-tp8dw]

A lot of the time, the hard truth is hard to implement. But it's necessary. John's advice is sound, we just don't like what we hear.

[@katiejon17]

I disagree. He’s a drama-llama. There are many other psych professionals who would be better suited. He had a caller on his show who was a new mother, was very upfront about having childhood trauma and mental illness, she was adopted and had relationship issues with her adopted parents and siblings, and admitted to having no friends - and was claiming that her husband only used her for sex. The only evidence was that anything was true except this poor woman had significant childhood trauma, PTSD, and quite possibly a personality disorder. Yet John was telling her her husband was a “dirtbag” and she needed to divorce him. This woman was clearly not able to see things in a stable manner and was suffering - and he never even suggested she might need help determining what was real or not. John is bad news.

[@Beginningtopeak]

What a nefarious form of child abuse. Making them think the burden of the household is on a 10 year old's shoulder.

[@username9999]

I'm not sure if I hear correctly, but i thought she said "balancing the checkbook" at age 10. It sound like education. I teach my child how to do a budget and how to pay bills. Her family may be taking advantage of her in other ways, but if she was using her parents money to "pay bills" that doesnt sound too absurd.

[@andrew8168]

​​@@username9999people who teach 10 years old how to balance budgets or checkbooks dont use their adult child as their emergency fund...

[@aroucagirl1898]

Girl, you are a fighter and a game changer. I pray you made it. CHOOSE GUILT OVER RESENTMENT. Well said. I wished I had done that years ago.

[@iamme50]

I cannot wait to disappear from my parents, siblings, and all the other relatives who bring narcissism, chaos and spite into my life.

[@JohnMWeaver]

2:34 nice to see some love. Sometimes it feels like folks calling in just get the hard love which is good, but I really appreciated the kindness here.

[@dougf9900]

It's amazing how certain people always have some emergency. Are people just that unlucky in life? The problem with people like her parents is that if she withdraws support, they won't magically see the light and start running their finances properly. What they will do is double down and make the next emergency even more urgent, upping the emotional blackmail.

[@mechiaaugustin2172]

Believe it or not, this happens more often than not in underprivileged families for generations. They lean on their "successful" kids to help get them out of poverty; you see it with Athletes all the time

[@jameshudkins2210]

It keeps them poor and there is no incentive to work hard and invent in yourself if the others will just take it away from you.

[@jameshudkins2210]

Some Immigrant groups bring an Old Country emphasis on the Family and not the Individual. Ambition and thrift is considered a sinister and selfish act. The lazy relatives will insist the hard worker Co-sign consumer debt for multiple musical instruments and other things. Some groups will demand the down on their luck relative get their act together. Others will place the burden on the hard worker to benefit a lazy relative. @@feiturvikingur

[@pulidobl]

Certain cultures, too…

[@pulidobl]

@@feiturvikingurTHIS!!

[@Atlas-tp8dw]

True

[@blackpoeticfire9068]

I grew up in a very similar fashion. I appreciate this real and raw conversation. Wishing her all the tenacity it takes to WIN! ❤

[@mattm597]

There is no feeling more frustrating, depressing, and debilitating than the feeling of loving and caring deeply for your parents, while knowing full-well they could not possibly care less for you or your future. It's a terrible, lonely, empty feeling. I was once in this young lady's situation. Parents like these see their children as nothing more than ASSETS to exploit. This young lady is working hard to get educated so she can have a future, and trying to change her family tree, and her parents couldn't care less. They just want to take! take! take! use! use! use! I know how that feels!! I feel for her. 😢😢😢

[@donaldcornwell1151]

Rule number one, "don't tell anyone what you've got"

[@everydaycontent1948]

I swear!! I live by this!!

[@larhondah.2793]

Great advice😊 and hard but necessary for someone like me to hear❤. I want to go back to school for cloud security engineering and get an internship but some people flat out will keep asking to borrow more money instead of applauding

[@deborahblackvideoediting8697]

When I was young, my mother followed a very strict budget. (She was so good with money that she paid off the mortgage on our little house - with a modest monthly income - in 5 years!). Every now and then, she would be short a little bit of money and ask to borrow it from me. I would lend it to her, and she would ALWAYS pay me back the following month. Occasionally I would borrow a small amount of money from her and always pay it back within a few weeks. We 100% trusted each other financially, and continue to to this day. (She's almost 82 now.) I was under the false impression that everyone was like that. As I got older, I was shocked to learn how many parents have taken advantage of their children financially (and sometimes vice-versa). I was even more shocked when my mother eventually told me that her own mother repeatedly stole money from her (along with her belongings to sell them for money). Her mother stole thousands of dollars from her over the years (and this was way back in the 50s and 60s - it was a lot of money). I still find it difficult to wrap my head around the fact that parents do this to their own children.

[@mikenelson8377]

Yeah, that’s a cute story but def a lie. 🥱

[@deborahblackvideoediting8697]

@@mikenelson8377 - Ok troll.

[@rosec8101]

I was in this situation. I had to do a lot of work to walk away. Then more work to be able to be around my family with out being hurt or angry. I now can say I will never do that to my kids and they know how loved they are.

[@joshuawilliams6153]

My Wife got a job at 16 and paid the bill, her father his in prison and her mom didn't work. She joined the mil at 18 and after getting stationed in CO moved her mom and brother in with her and they just didn't work for 2 years. Stories like this are so crazy to me, I couldn't imagine doing that to my children. I truly hope that she is ready for the hate she is about to receive for setting boundaries. She is going to have to get through realizing her families relationship with her was only of monetary value

[@smokinhalf]

Many people have heard of physical abuse, mental abuse, even emotional abuse... financial abuse is bad also and should addressed.

[@DDDD-of3hv]

totally agree..... been there...... when you get used and you get dried up.... you're ditched...

[@donnaallgaier-lamberti3933]

I had a family member who refused to work, lost her home (even with two degrees) to non-payment and who had her daughter take out credit cards to pay for phone bills etc. Then she did not pay the bill and the daughters credit took a dump. This happened more than once unfortunately.

[@FourFourSeven]

_"I had a family member who refused to work, lost her home (even with two degrees) to non-payment and who had her daughter take out credit cards to pay for phone bills etc. Then she did not pay the bill and the daughters credit took a dump. This happened more than once unfortunately."_ Did she give a mighty, hearty laugh when her daughter's finances collapsed?

[@brandypeters2098]

She needs counseling! She won’t be able to do this on her own

[@resaboutb.9566]

That's why Dr. Delony suggested it.

[@joyhope9486]

Don’t speak that on her. You’d be amazed what people can do on their own when they are leaning on GOD. Getting help with be a GREAT benefit, but why would you speak that upon her? Words matter.

[@toddhill1465]

I'm in my mid-50s and I've had to bail my parents out of small things a few times over the past two decades, and also recently had to step in to avert a foreclosure on their home. After my mom died, it fell upon me to settle her debts and pay for her funeral. Extended family members and friends helped contribute to the cause, but I was still out of pocket by several thousand dollars when all was said and done. The guilt drove me to pay, even though I could barely afford it. My father's still alive and thanks to him not liking shopping, he's staying on budget. Here's hoping I won't be needed for another bailout ever again.

[@SpermDonorAnthonyGreenfield]

Bailouts 😢

[@curiouscat3384]

Every situation is different and sometimes we SHOULD help out any family member, even our parents. Parents may have structured their lives based on their own deficiencies from their own childhood, not necessarily because they're selfish deadbeats. So I applaud you helping them out because you could barely afford it and you still have a relationship with your dad. Best wishes !

[@barberjungle]

She is your mom who gaved you life.

[@bpeper1365]

In some families women shouldn’t be let near a bank account lol

[@LadyRishae]

I’m SO glad baby girl got this therapy session in REAL time! I pray she has nothing but love, peace, joy, happiness, support, and BOUNDARIES from now on! It is worth the separation ❤

[@zeldazoom4415]

I feel her pain. From my experience. See a counselor to learn how to set boundaries. Your family will pull all kinds of stunts to get you back. You need someone to keep you grounded and supported through the process.

[@georgewagner7787]

I have a friend whose dad left when she was 10. Mom never went to work. One sister stayed home and eventually got a job but my friend still had to do repairs even though she moved away.

[@debbieholoquist2059]

I hope Hailey followed their advice. This one really touched my heart. She has a wonderful future -- if she pulls away from allowing her family to use her that way.

[@christopherwanamaker828]

I definitely know how she feels because I've gone through something similar during my first 20 years of adult life. I've estimated that because of my families selfishness, greed, guilt, stupidity, and trauma's over all of their lives I have lost an estimated $40K-$50K helping and being used by them as their personal bank and multi-task problem-solver!

[@joyt458]

I’m rooting for you Hailey! You can do this and you are not wrong for moving out. Wish you nothing but success and happiness ❤❤❤

[@MXRiderFiftyTwo]

It's all about being assertive. Once she starts saying NO, All aspects of her life will improve

[@cabayern9416]

Also difficult being a parent whose adult child does not step up. This girl is amazing.

[@curiouscat3384]

Oh if I was in her town I'd go get her and hug her and move her into the little studio apartment I'm renovating in my garage. And then I'd hug her some more and encourage her and let her cry until she's healed.

[@kevinfernandes8527]

Before watching, I thought this was a BILLIONAIRE calling in! 🤯 People will take advantage because we let them

[@JosiahK555]

Separate bank account, get an account with only your name on it!

[@Letsmakethis-DGC]

I knew at 18 that I couldn’t trust my father and had to open a new checking account at a different bank because the bank that I had my checking account with would not remove my father

[@nordrassil1]

YES! Thank you - this poor girl needs to make a lot of change in her life.. Hopefully she makes a list and can do it all, really tough doing so while also being in school.

[@DDDD-of3hv]

when you have money, you will have so much family love. when that well dries up, you're in a ditch or nursing home with no visitors..... We stopped buying/giving things to family, now, its peaceful as no one contacts us anymore, especially asking for money.....

[@MW-on6si]

I feel like there’s a lot to unpack here before considering moving out. Is she living rent, utilities and groceries free? And then coving the emergency? What kind and how often are these emergencies? Her hesitation to move could be that she”s living there for free or very little, which makes it less stressful when you have to study for board exams. After all she moved in with them because she was in a financial bind and needed help. I think you need the whole pic if you are going ask someone to remove themselves from their family. This call felt like a lot of assumptions were being made.

[@RGTomoenage11]

I tend to help my mom after my brother Fucks up but I’ve stop doing that.

[@RichMind-2327]

I gave a personal loan to my parents with the condition I would get it back. Helping your relatives is a great thing, but you should set boundaries and a clear line.

[@dc76384]

Oh dear I'm so sorry for you. Make the hard decision...it has to be done.

[@royalredus]

Ooof... this was a powerful call. Poor kid.

[@gabolujan3109]

These parents stole her college m9ney!

[@royalredus]

@@gabolujan3109 I know, how awful!

[@mattm597]

Terrible parents!! Her parents should be ashamed of themselves!!

[@blackworldtraveler3711]

Some have kids so they can be taken care of later by them.

[@mattm597]

@@blackworldtraveler3711 Yip. Have kids so they can exploit them.

[@jessicastroble9801]

She can be part of our family! I helped my mom pay for bills all throughout college and eventually after graduating from undergrad, I pulled the plug. She ended up getting a terribly crazy roommate and then subsequently moving into the same apartment complex that I was living in but not the same apartment. She has been on her own since then and has struggled but has managed to figure it out until the recent inflation skyrocket. I get it. They’re grown adults and need to learn to live on their own. I was 24 when I moved out. You’re 25. It’s time.

[@joyhope9486]

…how does this even happen? How do people turn out like this?

[@letstalkaboutgermany8288]

I think it would be interesting to learn more about the parents: how old are they, what are their jobs, how do they spend their money, etc.

[@tristanrodenhauser5267]

Had a friend in a similar financial control situation except her mom wanted to retire at 50 and the parents were taking trips abroad once a year.

[@carkarlaw]

I am at her position since my early 20s. I am sorry to hear you have parents just like mine. And no, I couldn't get rid of them. I am their bank and they are too old to fix their finance.

[@lovetobe6118]

Why can't you get rid of them or at least go no contact even if for a time?? Distance really is key when trying to reset and restart.

[@Tashas_Travels]

She should also look at renting with other young people, she doesn't need to get a 1 bedroom on her own because she's not earning a lot. Also start saving for your student loans now while they're not due so that when they are, you can pay a lump sum.

[@ColleenMarble]

Could have been my story, in a way. The things I had to pay for while I was still a dependent .... just ridiculous, and as a parent now of college-age kids, I would NEVER ask them to do the things I was asked to do. I bought my grandma's dentures, for Pete's sake, all while my dad and stepmom lived way above their means .... Couldn't take food out of the fridge for lunches, had to pay for copays on medical visits, had to pay for my own glasses and wisdom tooth removal, and absolutely worked three jobs to pay my way through school. It's nuts, but while you're in it you don't know that it's toxic.

[@kathleencooney1518]

The same happened to me, my parents lifestyle caused an early death & I adopted 2 siblings. It was a beautiful time. I loved every minute of it. My parents partying caused me to grow up & live a lifestyle that I chose. I got to do it with one brother & a very special baby sister.

[@commonenglishmistakes4360]

To anyone with family like this - anyone who comes to you like a bank is using you. They have broken the trust you should have. Never feel guilty about saying no or cutting contact if they keep insisting and if they steal from you, they deserve to be reported to the police. No family is better than a toxic family.

[@Lon1001]

Appreciate Deloney on this call. This girl can't afford to move out (but also can't afford to stay). The issue being she will need to find a room-mate or 2 in order to have a place to move to... but she's better off taking that amount of risk vs continuing to be exploited and financially abused under her parent's roof.

[@mikep5475]

wow. this is moving. great job walking her through the issue.

[@tbaer4894]

I am praying for her and that she develops a nonbiological family to grow and be healthy with!

[@michaelraimi1377]

Thank you for helping her out

[@anthonya2349]

Next call: My daughter's 25 goes to school and doesn't pay rent, once in a while she pays one of the bills. Host: 25 and doesn't pay rent? You need to start charging your entitled little girl for rent or she's got to go!

[@kmoliere504]

This literally made me cry 😔

[@katim2644]

How does a 10 year old have the means to pay a light bill? Did she have a settlement for something? What did/does she have going on that she has money and her family doesn't? Sounds a little sus. Sounds like we are missing a piece of the story.

[@Rick_Kn]

Quite possibly the best John Deloney segment I have seen.

[@lindaparks4486]

This happens more than it should.

[@meditationmusicvideo55116]

Great video ❤❤

[@mariaceja3190]

You are not alone.. I'm in the same situation:/ it difficult

[@pagalhokya]

With how colleges are these days, telling the college counselor she needs a transition plan might cause them to refer her to "gender affirming" care.

[@NipItInTheBud100]

I have never felt so bad for a caller than I do after listening to this video. I really hope she moves out on her own. Until that happens, she won't find peace!

[@lindawilson4625]

This poor lady is going to need some support (maybe check in student services) to get on enough of an emotional even keel to get free because I have a pretty good idea of the mind games her parents are going to subject her to. It won't be easy for her. They are not going to let her be free without a fight. My heart goes out to her.

[@kompamusic1222]

When family has programmed you to put family first and it's your job to help the family if they're struggling, then it's hard to cut ties 100%. I have been in her shoes since 16. I am 50 and still obligated to family. I have housed family members for years, I have paid their bills, their mortgage, hospital bills, insurance payments, college expenses and the list goes on. I spend over $5,000 a year helping family still.

[@jimroscovius]

That's all on you. Just stop doing it and be free. Don't be foolish!!

[@AmericanWears]

Did God bless them with eyes, limbs, and a brain? If so they are able to work. Remind them of the gifts they were given.

[@lukerider479]

A more gentle reply to this would be what results has that yielded? Has your assistance changed them or are they still the same? Answer that and you’ll know what to do moving forward

[@resaboutb.9566]

Tell us: are you resentful of your family because of the burdens they've placed on you? It appears you need to free yourself, too. It's not too late to 'change the channel' on that programming that's been instilled in you. Why not now? Why *NOT* you?

[@jimroscovius]

@@lukerider479 Child abuse does not respond to gentleness. You have to be tough.

[@analyticalchick3064]

I don't believe she makes that much while in grad school and I don't think her parents are asking for money to the tune of what it would cost to pay rent and bills. So, she's likely living rent free with parents and they're asking like $500 a month average for money or something. I doubt she can live on whatever they're getting from her and they're likely saying to her that she should help them because she's a working adult living rent free. That's probably why she paused and hemmed and hawwed when they told her to move out, because she knows she actually can't afford to just move out. I'm surprised I'm not seeing comments nailing this.

[@WendyW7508]

I really hope they do what they do often and hook her up with someone who follows up. Sometimes, it's an advisor or a counselor, whatever fits. I hope they did that with her and keep in touch. To support her when she feels weak in her decisions. Family holds are very strong. And it can feel like ' the outside world almost led me astray" when family gets to have their say.' I feel safer here with family. The evil i know. " It's important to have ongoing neutral people helping her process as the screws start being turned.

[@tombellamy7167]

Caller might want to lock her credit down in case there might be some credit cards out there that she doesn't know about. I wouldn't put it past her family to try and steal her identity since they already stole her college fund.

[@personnesenki4521]

This is why you move out and tell everyone you're broke.

[@aolvaar8792]

When I tell people I'm broke, they know I'm lying.

[@personnesenki4521]

@@aolvaar8792 That's their problem.

[@lisahinkofer2085]

My heart aches for her.

[@nowlaterkiss9811]

Pray for guidance and GET OUT!!!

[@jarelchico]

She's strong and brave having made that call.

[@KnowledgeIsComfort]

She shouldn’t feel guilty, they obviously don’t

[@dennischiapello7243]

"And those muscles aren't for dragging them along."

[@R20-d4t]

Im dealing with b.s. right now with my mother. I pay the mortgage on her house, I pay the cable, i buy the groceries half the time, i pay the trash bill, i provide the transportation, she doesn't have a car, i pay half the phone bill... When shes short or is unable to pay the gas or electric, water... I am the emergency fund for that b.s, i have furnished almost the entire kitchen, replaced the range, dishwasher, microwave, etc everything we use to cook....all this while paying for my own car/life insurance and while paying out of pocket for school. Before the pandemic she was working full time and could cover the mortgage and I could save money for it to be worth staying home, despite all the other sh** I help with...but ever since the pandemic when she stopped working she has just decided to partially retire on me...and just to work 12 to 20 hours a week at the job i helped her get. Now I got to work between 50 and 70+ hours a week while going to school part time just to have my own fkn money!!! I have been dropping hint after hint for her to get an easy government job where they hire boomers... but through her actions she has refused.. shes just content with sitting up watching soap operas and watching the news all fkn day talking about politics and gossiping about her brothers and there problems. The she has the nerve to ask me when im gone get a girlfriend/wife and have kids....lmao...make her a grandmother. I'm like how I am supposed to take care of a family when your a hindrance!!

[@bpeper1365]

How much is left on the mortgage? Can you afford to move out?

[@creolelady182]

Incredible to me that people cannot make decisions and they have to ask the Dave Ramsey show about what to do. Absolutely incredible to me

[@ColleenMarble]

You've never been in a toxic family environment, I think. When you're in the middle of it, it's hard to see a way out. The guilt is overwhelming when you've been made to feel like you have to carry the weight of your parents' poor choices.

[@chuckokoye2410]

Whats so wrong about wanting a non biased 2nd opinion from someone knowledgeable? thats how great decisions get made….

[@YourFunkiness]

Her family has manipulated and used her since she was a child and conditioned her to believe this was normal.

[@timothylopez4250]

Finances are just the symptom of these problems. That is why Dave Ramsey has to deal with a lot of these issues.

[@creolelady182]

yes I have and I soon made them disappear@@ColleenMarble

[@linuxsurfer2002]

John is right, she needs to move out. It won't solve everything but it would be a big step in the right direction.

[@abetterlivedlife]

Reading the comments, a lot of people either didn't watch the whole video or they are trying to justify their own behavior/feelings. Her parents stole the college fund she saved up. This is not OK. This is not a healthy environment. This isn't a child being asked to "pitch in." If you have done this to your kids, the chickens will come home to roost. If your family did this to you so you think it's OK, consider that you may be trying to deny your own pain and resentment by buying in to the abuse going on here. It is not OK to steal from anyone. Justifying it because it was a family member is not OK.

[@fire12731]

Wtaf what kind of parents treat their child like this?!!!!!! Disgusting. How the heck did she turn out so well and so kind -hearted with l___rs like them for parents? I am seething

[@ronica2623]

They groomed her from a young age to spend her life taking care of them….it happens all the time. It’s easier if there is a sibling

[@bevanhartley4090]

With so many of these calls, the answer is so obvious in the first minute without the hosts needing to say it. I guess she's in an emotional hole after years of this treatment so she needs someone to spur her to do the obvious thing and just move out. People can't exploit you to pay all the home expenses if you don't live there.

[@AGM-ts5bb]

I would rather share a one bedroom apt. or rent a room and move out now.

[@gwenj5419]

My dad guilt tripped my sister and I (age 18 and 20) into paying for my brother's orthodontic bill. We honestly didn't feel like we had a choice.

[@jg-xx8oh]

What a sweet young lady ! I wish her all the best! 🇨🇦❤️

[@TheKingsOutpost]

So the parents don't know how to manage money as adults after all these years but expect the child to pay, she needs to learn to say no.

[@stewbugz5213]

Ten years old and trying to keep the water and lights on?? Shame on her parents! she needs to run away!

[@mikesawyer4707]

A studio or an apartment with a roomate.

[@marcenelj]

Lol

[@resaboutb.9566]

Doable, Mikesawyer!

[@Dametime213]

Nothing wrong with saying no 🤷‍♂️

[@VioletEvans-yt2fd]

If this young lady lived near Austin, she could live with me. This sickens me. I would never abuse my sons like this.

[@alinatamashevich3354]

How much is YOUR rent?

[@carolcraig6053]

I know how you feel

[@wenchyfoodwench4098]

Get out. Get away from them. Don’t let on That your leaving.

[@mikeshaw4610]

It may be tough but they are correct. You need to start living for you not someone else.

[@BG-qs6ii]

She lives in Columbia, she could probably get a really cheap room off somebody. Needs to get out of that situation. It won't change unless she moves out and gets sime space.

[@artieshell9205]

We need an update on this episode

[@CarlaQuattlebaum]

What a bunch of loser family members! She finds out her college fund is gone just before she applies! I hope she CAN move out and be free like he said.

[@jesssc402]

cries in Filipino as my family’s emergency fund + parents’ retirement account here 🙋🏻‍♀️ this is the norm in our culture

[@reese85]

Gotta hear both sides for this call

[@danielmarkelon7807]

Depending on how much the college fund was I might consider suing to get at least some of that money back

[@dyates6380]

Suing? These people have to steal from their own child. You think they have some stash somewhere?

[@genglandoh]

My sister and husband have taken money for everyone in the family. When one person has had enough they move on to the next. It would not be so bad but they then spend the money of stupid stuff. Example they spend $2,000 on 2 toilets.

[@JustinCase780]

Yea, that is pretty crappy.

[@CarlaQuattlebaum]

Two, because they both seem to be full of "it".

[@gunnerarshavin2009]

That's literally money down the toilet!

[@Lumbeelegend]

What a badass this girl is.