I Never Wanted Kids.

[@LiminalityOfVitality]

I decided when I was 18 I didn't want kids. 15 or so years later I still feel the same. There are just too many reasons to not want them that for me outweigh the reasons to want them. I think it's mostly money/stress/time driven for me.

[@MsCutie2010]

I have never felt so heard and seen 😢. As my 39th birthday approaches I have been thinking about this more and more. I never wanted children either and I have always been made to feel like “my time will come” or “I will change my mind” and that day never came. That “instinct” to be a mother was never there. My friends and family always told me that I would make a great mother and I never understood why that was said to me. Now that I’m almost 40 people constantly want to pressure me to change my mind before “it’s too late” and it has been so stressful to try to speak my truth and for people to accept my life choices. Thank you for making a video about this topic!

[@SeannaMiriah]

That pressure really starts to get harder as we get older as women, like a clock is ticking. I'm glad this video was helpful to you and knowing you're not alone in this because so many women decide it's not for them and it's awful we have to constantly feel guilty for making that decision.

[@LiminalityOfVitality]

Also I consider myself to have a family as I have a partner of 3 years and two kitties so I still feel surrounded by love

[@SeannaMiriah]

Yes! We can make our own families fit what's right for us. I love my little bubble with my husband and pups 🥰

[@monicabarnett9231]

Child free by choice here as well ❤ the auntie life is great. I had a coworker who had 3 kids and should would constantly ask when my partner and I were going to have kids. I said we weren’t having kids, and she’s constantly tell me “oh, you’ll change your mind!”. Uh no, we won’t. I don’t think people understand how weird and unnecessary these kinds of comments are 😑 The saddest thing for me is I’ve lost a lot of friends after they had kids. Our lives just took such different directions, it became hard to connect and we didn’t really have things in common anymore. Thanks for sharing your perspective ❤

[@SeannaMiriah]

Oh nooooo not the "you'll change your mind" convo. I've heard that a lot as well. And great point to bring up! I wish I had touched on that, as far as friends and how it divides you from the majority. You do become a sort of outsider to all the people that start having kids. I have a handful of friends who are also childfree thankfully. That's really helped me feel like I'm not alone and getting older while everyone else are going to birthday parties and soccer games. That all sounds like a nightmare to me, lol.

[@marcievega7972]

Lyle and I talked about this years ago. He asked me why I never had kids. My answer was much simpler than yours - just didn’t want them. ☺️ I don’t think my parents ever understood that decision. I’ve never regretted it and I’m much older than you. 💞

[@SeannaMiriah]

Having you as my family, and as an example of someone happy to be childfree is so nice for us to relate to! ❤️

[@Angel-nx6wy]

I'm a teenager at the moment. Despite that, hearing you say these things made me feel heard. My mother has been speaking of the day I'll eventually settle down as an adult and have kids, yet the idea of having kids just... doesnt make me feel anything. When I imagine my future, I dont imagine myself as a parent. I used to think this was just me figuring myself out, that soon enough I'll be like "yeah, I want to have kids" when... I don't know. I love hanging out with kids but the idea of having my own is an odd concept. I still have time to decide, but regardless, seeing your video made me feel heard, understood with everything you stated. I hope you know I and many others respect your decision! You're a wonderful person

[@SeannaMiriah]

Thank you for the kind words and lovely comment, you're a wise one! We go through so many different phases throughout life, who knows what the next will bring but I do know that being able to trust our own gut and do what's right for ourselves will always be the correct path. I'm sure your mom just wants you to be happy. My mom said the same things when I was younger but she eventually realized I was going to do what felt right for myself and she totally gets it now! She's a doggie grandma instead 😂 ❤️

[@EmiliaLecter]

Thank you for making this video! I don't want childen for a number of reasons but one is I dont want to pass down my husband and I's mental illness/addiction. There are very few families I see that look like they're all happy. Either the parent is upset at the child, their partner or their child is unhappy with them. It doesn't look fun to me. I just don't like kids either. Even as a teenager I hated kids who were younger than me. I also have body dysmophoria so I'm scared I would develop a series eating disorder from the weight gained during pregnancy.

[@SeannaMiriah]

I hear you, and totally get you! It doesn't look fun to me either. I'm just not a baby person and never will be, I've tried to fit in and it feels so forced. Like when I worked at makeup counters and say a lady walks by with a baby in a stroller, all the MUA's would run up and say "aww so cute" and ask tons of questions about how many weeks and yada-yada. I'd always be hanging back, smiling all awkward 😂. But if someone walks up with a puppy- that's another story. I will audibly squeal and want to pet it, lol.

[@EmiliaLecter]

@@SeannaMiriah yes that's how I am with animals! Especially cats. Dogs are awesome too. And bears, and bats, and butterflies, and sharks, and bunnies. Lol you name it I wanna pet it (even if it might eat me. Ha!) I think babies look like aliens even when one is laughing it's like okay I guess I can see how it's cute but it doesn't feel naturally cute like a puppy does, ya know?

[@vp2618]

I did change my mind late on. It definitely does happen to lots of women! What I realised is that all the pressure to have children or not was from myself not other people. Other people don’t really care if you have children or not, they’re just making conversation.

[@SeannaMiriah]

It sounds like your experience has panned out differently from my own and I respect that. I think as long as you're happy that's all that matters. Thank you for sharing ☺️