"I Regret Transitioning" - Talk w/ Teen De-transitioner

[@BlaireWhiteX]

Special thanks to Elle for being so honest and telling her story.. What do you guys wanna see on my channel next?

[@zodiaccc1473]

Love you blaire

[@victoriajoy9672]

Do a video on Kaitlin Bennet, pls

[@ellapeters2297]

Love to see more Jessica yaniv stuff or something similar. Love your videos blaire 😘💙

[@ihavetwoturtles8166]

I want the natural hair back.

[@aprilv8829]

The beastiality woman on Twitter and the weirdos in the comments. 😂

[@Greywind920]

Vocal feminization surgery is a thing!! She can get her voice fixed with, time, surgery and medication, and the facial hair can be dealt with as well. If medication doesn't work, laser hair removal will take it off permanently.

[@maidende8280]

Yep but it’s dangerous, painful, & has consequences. The vocal chord surgery that is.

[@marinagaul]

@Remy with enough treatments it is effectively permanent. Very very little growth.

[@Quandry1]

While for her. Some things can be fixed. That's not true of all detransitioners. And there's also the aspect that on some levels she shouldn't need to have it fixed. Which is what they were talking about to some extent.

[@ivebeenjapanized]

It’s a risky but she can go to a vocal coach

[@John-gm8ty]

lazer hair removal does not work with light coloured hair, I can tell you from painful experience.

[@MamaMOB]

“I don’t have to be a certain way to be a woman.” This a million times!!! I’m a more masculine woman. I’m still a woman. Flamboyant men are still men. There is not one or two ways to be a woman or a man. The VAST majority of us are lucky and have no real problem with the body we are in. How we chose to express ourselves is how we chose to express ourselves.

[@pepita3467]

Morgan O'Brien-Bledsoe yeah 100% you are your body their is no line between body\mind/emotions

[@liablau]

David Vilar This is so not right. That's truly terrible.

[@maddiejo8487]

Exactly. My girlfriend is a butch lesbian and for a while was struggling with if she might be trans or not because she dislikes femininity and chooses to express herself more masculine/andro. She grew up in a conservative household and to her, masculinity=man and femininity=woman, in terms of gender expression. Once she discovered she could be a butch lesbian, she knew for a FACT she wasn't trans. This is what we need to be teaching kids, at that age I think a majority of the issues are gender-expression-based.

[@lookslikeiwin]

I have had some trouble with being comfortable as a woman and I am STILL glad I never even discovered gender dysphoria as a teen. I don’t know if I would have been interested enough to do it but I would have obsessed over it, and now that I am an adult I am pretty happy with my life. I am married to a straight man, I am beautiful, and I have a son. Plus I have enough health problems to worry about. I also have a perspective in life that wouldn’t really approve transition as a solution and I would have regretted that for sure even if I liked presenting as a man instead. I think for me, I saw that my brother got more positive attention than I did, my dad was the nice parent, and I think I got the impression that life was better for boys than for girls. I related more to Simba, Little Foot and Aladdin than any Disney Princesses, etc, I liked boys’ adventures better than girls, and their role in society seemed more fun. In retrospect I think I am just broken, and I have a sort of repressed misogyny that says good girls are lame and not like me. I wanted to be the best I could be but it wasn’t working as a girl so I got anxious and wanted to be like my brother instead. I think a lot of these people who regret transition are like this, and what actually needs to be done is spiritual healing and probably some anxiety treatment

[@kaiyodei]

@@averagepaolidamenjoyer9855 but it is paied for so "it's ok and they love their transgender people" or so I have seen typed out. people say srs is paied for, but then others say it is but as a cure for same sex attraction

[@tracieh215]

I really like how Blaire knows when to allow the guest to speak and she just listens quietly. Let the guest tell their story.

[@ramonaflowers2813]

Really good interviewer and how she adds her story or experience without cutting off Elle

[@chrisitl]

She would be a great journalist.

[@Pharphette]

Yes, but her frequent hair touching and mouth movements are a bit distracting in video form.

[@tyreejordyn]

kjc748 bad bitches tend to do that .

[@lockofmetal8894]

Thats just common sense. Why are you praising common sense? Hell, its very rare for ppl to interrupt someone they're interviewing. Unless they have an agenda against the person.

[@tbvolcomskater]

The fact that you can’t get tattoos, smoke, or drink in a lot of places until at least 18 but can completely change your body through surgery and hormones is the definition of insane. The argument for not being able to drink and smoke before 18-21 is our brains aren’t fully developed yet we can permanently alter ourselves through surgery and other drugs? Drinking throughout my teenage years didn’t do NEARLY as much damage as this now 21 year old girl was put through🤦🏼‍♂️ I can confidently say I’ve never in my life done any permanent damage to myself by using any of the drugs I’ve experimented with. Meanwhile people like her are called brave for doing what she did. What a sick society we live in.

[@hisloveiseternal1]

All. For money

[@lazyduck6922]

You realize you can’t have surgery until you’re 18 in most places right?? Like no 14 year old is gonna chop of breasts that they don’t even have yet. Also drugs are useless and harmful. While hormones are useful in order to help trans people off themselves less. They may have side affects but so does a lot of medicine for mental health issues. Dysphoria is a mental health issue. What we need is better therapists and doctors who will make sure the person transitioning is truly ready

[@Ben-li9zb]

Medical treatment is done before the age of 18, thats not new or strange

[@ev2730]

There are quite a few people who have undergone surgery before 18, as well as taken hormones. And the hormones have actually statistically shown to carry a lot of negative side effects, which Blair has talked more about on her channel with other people.

[@AylaMaiteSunset]

@@Ben-li9zb Here in Brazil we're only allowed to start hormones at 16 with the family permission or 18 without anyone, our surgeries only start at 18 and we need to wait for years in the public hospital if we don't have the money to pay private clinics.

[@demiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiii]

“You don’t have to be a certain way to be a woman”

[@softlyfalling8563]

Demi Colbert Ironically, that concept is what motivated me to transition. I always felt like a woman, but I thought I’d make a terrible girl, so I kinda gave up on it at one point

[@cieloceballos]

preach

[@PGOuma]

@@softlyfalling8563 i feel you but then i started listening to Blaire when she said "Can you imagine yourself growing old as your transitioned self?" and I just couldn't, which made me not want to transition

[@leeloo9402]

Just a woman. Which she’s always been clearly

[@videolad3057]

@@softlyfalling8563 "I always felt like a woman" How do you know what a woman feels like?

[@WoWGirl6]

The reason we are seeing more and more people detransitioning is because in hindsight the percentage of people with actual gender dysphoria is actually very low.

[@joejellyfish]

Not only that but the medical field is failing to diagnose teens on what they actually have

[@gadget_hack]

It is super rare. I went to 3 different psychiatrists to get a diagnosis. I knew when I was younger but never said anything because Mexican families are the worst when it comes to these types of things. It's not glamorous at all either. Dysphoria is painful and maddening. I hated waking up because of it.

[@dylancole1910]

CrowdControlQueen that is very true.

[@KiaRoane]

CrowdControlQueen Exactly. Like I totally be there are individuals are that have gender dysmorphia, but it’s not has much as the left tries to make it seem.

[@mick8982]

CrowdControlQueen the reason is because they finally wake the fucking fuck up

[@farinati]

'My puberty was medicalized' If thats not a failure by the adults in this child's life I don't know what is.

[@blackknight9558]

Wow

[@ezekielbrockmann114]

The Hippocratic Oath: "Am I a joke you?"

[@thickaroniandcheese9836]

Right

[@ida1799]

@blurble923 I think there are people who transition who think that all their problems will go away from transitioning, without actually getting to the core of what those problems are they speculate and convince themselves that transitioning is the best course of action. Chris chan is the biggest example i can think of.

[@mbd6054]

Agreed. Did the adults in her life not know that puberty by definition is a rough time? It is for everyone. Why not just keep talking to her, putting in the time, doing the work, helping her through? Why is everything over complicated and over medicated these days?

[@vanarilon]

I’m a therapist. I grieve for this beautiful young woman. Young people who believe they are transgender NEED deep, skillful therapeutic care. If the emotional/psychological issues are addressed and resolved and the person still believes they are transgender, so be it. But so, so often, there are emotional/psychological issues - often in the family system - that are manifesting in the rejection of the self/the body. No one should make any decision in life - great or small - from a basis of self-hatred. This is consistent as I work with trans adolescents and their families: abject hatred of their femininity (for girls). This needs to be explored, not “fixed” by transitioning to male.

[@MentalHealthMonday]

I love how you worded this. These ideas need to be explored!

[@soulshebang]

Thank you for speaking out and speaking the truth as a therapist!

[@vanarilon]

@Love 713 In my field, we use the term collusion. It’s serious. It does great harm. Ultimately, it serves the therapist alone.

[@kriskrissss]

100%

[@mchobbit2951]

When I was a teen, I wanted to be male because I was bullied for not wearing make-up and being "feminine" enough. I also kept hearing about women having to wear high heels to work and just hated the thought so much. I'm honestly glad that was in the early 2000s, when we weren't as "woke". I might have made a terrible mistake I would still live to regret. I still almost never wear make-up and never have worn high heels in my life, but I don't want to be a man. I just want to be a woman who is not a stereotype. It mostly makes me mad and sad when they already label small kids as trans because they aren't a walking stereotype. I remember when nobody worried much about a tomboy phase in a prepubescent girl.

[@blondeboy33]

As a gay man, i support trans without all the politics. I worry that ‘woke’ parents / medical specialists are too eager to transition kids without due diligence.

[@annebos4634]

*SAME!*

[@thesleepydot]

Erin FW me too..

[@Anna-ve8yj]

Same.

[@PlayCodeCreate]

❤️

[@Vinadet]

Shammy M yo..............................don’t do this lol

[@Ronniecrane123]

You’re such a good interviewer. No interruptions, take and give dialogue, self disclosing without being selfish about it. 10/10 need more interviews.

[@Aethelhadas]

Rhonda H. Crane I know right I love her

[@williamuata9694]

Seriously. I would hire this girl if I ever became powerful.

[@guriguri6563]

I actually think the opposite. Not that she is a bad interviewer, but on occasions she would interrupt her to talk about her personal experience. You can see Blair literally interrupting Elle's speech.

[@sydoestuff]

hm she did interrupt her, ranted a bit too... so i disagree

[@markor6582]

You can actually get your voice higher with vocal training, it takes practice but it's possible.

[@kimmariebimmarie]

Yes! speech pathologists can help this!

[@marcelfr90]

And surgery, too.

[@TheMystique29]

Also you can have surgery for that. It's risky. Trans women do this get a higher voice

[@constantine9142]

Sounds all painful

[@VioletDeathRei]

@@constantine9142 Yeah but it's the normal painful transition stuff unfortunately, least she didn't get surgery that is a completely different bag of worms.

[@almamater489]

She sounds so much like a cis man, it's scary how people are trying to justify kids doing this. Kids that are younger than Elle, and if you dare question why transitioning works for some but not for others, then apparently you're a transphobe

[@amandavieira2543]

Using the minority of cases of regret to prevent trans people who are not confused and really want to transition is transphobic.

[@kanekicentipede8074]

Snake she wasn’t fully assessed, if you can show proof of someone who had multiple therapy sessions with a gender therapist and long assessment and then for them to detransition then your point will have validity.

[@TSBG2003]

Amanda Vieira She’s just telling young kids to be careful and maybe wait till their alittle older her comment isn’t transphobic.

[@Antsandy96]

@@kanekicentipede8074 Isn't that a problem if she wasn't fully assessed yet she was still put onto hormone therapy? Her body might now have irreversible changes now. That shouldn't be allowed.

[@FarikoWishless]

@@amandavieira2543 What? How? Anyone should wait until they're an adult and FULLY understand the scope of such a choice. Advertising and grooming an 8 year old to do it is evil. They don't even know what their favorite color is most of the time it's just what the outside influence suggest is their favorite. Only in some cases are kids truly forced to mature so fast but even then they're easy to convince of things. We have to Literally drill cautions in their heads for years for it to stick like stranger danger. Allowing them to change their genders physical appearance and cut parts off is WAY too much when they're not even in puberty yet. It's sad people think that's strength when it's irresponsible.

[@martialharpistmatthew1837]

It’s almost like children should wait till they’re fully grown to decide.

[@plushiie_]

Blockers are one thing, but hormones should wait

[@christinagarcia9353]

olt they shouldn’t be doing ANYTHING medically before 18. social transition is fine, but should be where the line is drawn.

[@colinrain715]

Christina Garcia blockers are reversible so it’s better then permanent

[@A-ID-A-M]

@@colinrain715 Blockers do cause some problems.

[@Overton_Windows]

Aimed2Kill life causes some problems

[@j.s.c.4355]

Transitioned at age 30; detransitioned officially at age 47. Thank you so much for doing this

[@โชที่มีความรัก]

Hi, If it's not too intrusive of me can you talk about how you decided to transition and then detransition? How much time did it take to realize it etc. I'm currently questioning my gender and trying to learn as much as I can but it's okay if you're not comfortable talking about it :)

[@necilya]

This is interesting. I would love to know more too.

[@chrisfinnegan4223]

@@โชที่มีความรัก well my question to you is why are you questioning your gender? What is there to question? I’ve had these conversations with lots of trans people of different ages. They practically admitted to the exact same things and I’m just trying to make sure or confirm my theory. I’m someone who began to question his biological sex, not gonna use a controversial term, when I was a child. And funny enough all the people who had the guts to actually explain things to me basically had the same experience but different outcome. So I’m trying to get to the bottom. The root cause of all this since many who don’t share Blaire’s views refuse to explain or elaborate. If anything their refusal only further confirms my theory even more. But I don’t want to jumped towards any general conclusions just yet.

[@bblcommisions]

@@chrisfinnegan4223 You said that they basically all said the same thing but you didn't mention what. Could you elaborate more and what the common narrative was as you understood them? It is something that I have been extremely curious about.

[@iTranscendx]

@@bblcommisions yeah that whole post he made was so vague

[@christoflood]

Perfect example of why anyone younger then 18 should never be able to do anything like this.

[@thereisnonegoodbutgodjohn363]

All Humans need to repent & Believe in Jesus. Why? Because all Humans have sinned (lied, lusted sexually, stolen, dishonoured parents etc). Avoid the fires of Hell (justice of God) and choose Heaven today. GOD IS HOLY

[@valentinamihalciuc]

Transition as a teen bothers me a lot.. Like.. Society: It’s forbidden to drink alcohol and smoke until you’re 21! Also society: Want some hormones? TAKE THEM ALL.

[@cennix]

fr. it's so dumb.

[@jceolyn]

actually :') they started me on bc before I was a teenager and now I regret it so much, my body is so messed up with hormones

[@justinnamuco9096]

Thats the government

[@tindrabrink7602]

1) just y'all americans, y'all r so weird with the 21 year thing like you can drive at 16 but not drink??? and 2) i wiiishhhhhhh it was that easy, but it bothers u that ppl get the help they need so they dont kts? ok

[@christopherdobney2927]

Not "society." Leftists.

[@iswallowplasticfigurines394]

what people don't understand is that transitioning is typically a "last resort" form of treatment for gender dysphoria, and should only be done if you're positive that therapy is not helping. I feel really horrible for the people that have done irreversible things to their body when they didn't know things could begin to change later on.. : (

[@iwo612]

It USED to be and then the medical and mental health systems went sideways. I have friends with kids who were prescribed puberty blockers after one therapy session. This will come out as mass medical malpractice down the road.

[@k.d9499]

that's why it's discouraged to transition as a kid..

[@0isay]

At least outside of N.America.

[@AtomicSim]

No it’s because lots of people hate trans people.

[@pingu3984]

@@AtomicSim please come back to reality.

[@daniellelee2309]

Alex Haven Blackburn no because kids brains aren’t developed & aren’t mature enough to make those decisions. You can change the hair and clothes and style but to make drastic changes like hormone treatments and such is iffy. The suicide rate is significant with people who have body dysphoria regardless of transitioning. There’s more to look at here

[@0isay]

@@AtomicSim Sorry, but that's a shit thing to say. Children need to be protected from psycho parents.

[@DCFunBud]

Who allowed a fifteen year old to transition?! That is criminal!

[@cobjam31]

Certainly is, I can't fathom how this is so promoted and "acceptable" today

[@armoredeevee8528]

I never medically transitioned but when I was 14 to almost 17 I identified as male, wore boys clothes, went by a male name, etc. and I am so glad that my parents did not let me transition medically because I would be so miserable. That being said, the group of friends I had at the time were sjw transtrenders and they ended up ignoring me after I started presenting as female again.

[@pinkghost2515]

Same. Middle school until grade 10 I thought I was a bisexual guy but nope not anymore. My mom didn't let me transition which although I don't get along with my mom and don't live with her anymore I am happy she didn't let me transition. It's sad seeing kids still have to go through this and you are better off without those SJW friends. You are much better than that and hopefully you made friends who are a lot better for you

[@boiboi6180]

no loyal friends anymore.

[@beansalad6242]

I also identified as trans from 8th grade until the end of 10th grade thank fuck I was never allowed to transition bc I would’ve been miserable and honestly I’m glad I only have to deal with name changes and not hormonal changes.

[@emiliap8790]

Lol these assholes

[@BBarNavi]

Lulz "sjw"

[@alaina1426]

i love how sweet blaire is to her guests(: she always lets them talk and makes her guests feel comfortable

[@thereisnonegoodbutgodjohn363]

All Humans need to repent & Believe in Jesus. Why? Because all Humans have sinned (lied, lusted sexually, stolen, dishonoured parents etc). Avoid the fires of Hell (justice of God) and choose Heaven today. GOD IS HOLY

[@AnthonyPooran]

“You can dress how you want, you can wear make up, it doesn’t matter if your a boy or girl, you don’t need to change yourself “ You are perfect the way you are.

[@p52893]

But don’t fool yourself

[@AnthonyPooran]

@@p52893 it wasn't that long ago that musicians rocked eyeliner, long hair and epic wardrobes. They were still guys, nobody really questioned that.

[@davidmcrae4791]

Nobody's perfect the way they are. Life is a trail of fire where the only way to live happily is to constantly be improving

[@facelesstrader1351]

@@davidmcrae4791 that's meant for our character and personality, not about our physical body.

[@Andrew-gn9qp]

@@AnthonyPooran Long hair and eyeliner are still in fashion for rock music.

[@val9502]

It’s sad that people are quick to try to “fix” their body before even considering trying to “fix” their brain.

[@aesthetichell267]

DIO Brando dio brando

[@kiklulu5149]

DIO Brando

[@emmarisby]

To be fair, fixing your body is the most effective thing to do when you have dysphoria. That's what she did when she transitioned F(M-F).

[@aesthetichell267]

Emma Risby dio Brando

[@liquidasylum2362]

People forgot how to think for themselves that's why they can't fix their brain they want to follow the next trend instead of being an individual.

[@bankrupt_batman]

Honestly, shes beautiful. Even with the deep voice. I couldn't imagine the struggle shes going through but I really hope shes doing well these days.

[@quackaddict9810]

So sorry that her family and society failed her. You’re beautiful, Elle.

[@thereisnonegoodbutgodjohn363]

All Humans need to repent & Believe in Jesus. Why? Because all Humans have sinned (lied, lusted sexually, stolen, dishonoured parents etc). Avoid the fires of Hell (justice of God) and choose Heaven today. GOD IS HOLY

[@crazydaisyog3984]

I know this video is a year old but the fact that people are bullied, rejected and attacked for de- transitioning is terrible. People say you should be who you truly are, why is her transition celebrated but her de-transitioning is demonized? This is cruel and so hypocritical, I wish her all the best.

[@cennix]

FR

[@bperez8656]

Radical leftists are authoritarians period

[@phillipff9923]

Because for decades and generations, being able to transition at all was made nearly impossible. These kinds of stories turn back the clock so it will once again become impossible. Which opponents will love.

[@hiitsme__-_-3760]

@@phillipff9923 "turn back the clock" so these de-transitioning stories aren't valid??? And your "because" sounds like you are defending bullying de-transitioners....

[@kfer9249]

@Hi it's me__-_- Regret after Gender-affirmation Surgery: A Systematic Review and Meta-analysis of Prevalence Bustos, Valeria P. MD; Bustos, Samyd S. MD; Mascaro, Andres MD; Del Corral, Gabriel MD, FACS; Forte, Antonio J. MD, PhD, MS; Ciudad, Pedro MD, PhD; Kim, Esther A. MD; Langstein, Howard N. MD; Manrique, Oscar J. MD, FACS Plastic and Reconstructive Surgery - March 2021 - Volume 9 - Issue 3 Abstract There is an unknown percentage of transgender and gender non-confirming individuals who undergo gender-affirmation surgeries (GAS) that experiences regret. Regret could lead to physical and mental morbidity and questions the appropriateness of these procedures in selected patients. The aim of this study was to evaluate the prevalence of regret in transgender individuals who underwent GAS and evaluate associated factors. Methods: A systematic review of several databases was conducted. Random-effects meta-analysis, meta-regression, and subgroup and sensitivity analyses were performed. Results: A total of 27 studies, pooling 7928 transgender patients who underwent any type of GAS, were included. The pooled prevalence of regret after GAS was 1% (95% CI

[@finntran1672]

I empathize with Elle, she’s very brave sharing her mistakes so other can learn from it. Kids who think they are trans should wait til they are 18-20. Transitioning is not like finding out you are gay ie. ‘when you know you’re gay, you’re gay’. Because if in the future turns out you’re straight/bi instead, you can always go back, it isn’t that forgiving once you’ve transitioned. Trans folks, and I mean ALL trans folks should sit down with adults and think about their future. I personally think, if I- in the future want a kid of my own (in my 30-40s), I wouldn’t be able to if I transition at 12-15. I can WAIT til I’m 18-20, freeze my sperm/egg and save it. Transitioning is a decision with long term, irreversible effects, so please talk about it like it is, be patient, safe and careful.

[@samisbiggaytm8763]

The hard thing about that is for trans women, male puberty will hit you like a truck. Miss London has a really informative video about it.

[@user-wc2jd3nn7u]

I started transition at 24 and changed my mind after 6 months of hormones. Swore I was trans, since I was 16. It's possible to be wrong even as an adult. Luckily I dont have to deal with it to an extreme like this but I do have permanent changes to my body.

[@samisbiggaytm8763]

@@user-wc2jd3nn7u I'm sorry you went through that, and it's very brave of you to share such a vulnerable story online. I completely empathize with detransitioners, I just think that this isn't a black and white issue.

[@nibbatron6283]

I socially transitioned at 15 and medically transitioned at 17. I'm now in my 20's, I have a very different/more mature concept of my gender identity than I did back then; however, I wouldn't go back for anything in this world, as I probably would've ended my own life otherwise, it was an extremely disparaging time to exist. Perhaps it's not a matter of age (as age doesn't equal maturity), as it is a matter of personal intent in wanting to transition in the first place and the disparities we might face with our gender. Is it due to stigma? Social expectation? Or is it something more innate, like my case and many others', for example. Though I've always been mentally mature at a very young age, which could be another critical asset. The only thing I suggest is to not base it around age at all, it means nothing when people are so different from each other.

[@user-wc2jd3nn7u]

@@nibbatron6283 yes, I was very depressed, I think a discomfort can happen with oneself and you can misinterpret it in a way. I didn't like myself, or my body, for sexual abuse I endured very young. I think I just wanted to be someone else, so I didn't have to deal with that part of my life anymore. Everyone is different, I think medical transition should be a prescription, not entirely given out easily. I just signed informed consent papers, and was given hormones. I was so sure that was what I needed. It's really not a knock on anyone trans but I think the issue is more complex for some people. Even when I was so sure that transition was what I needed after living socially male for 5+ years. Using male restrooms and all lol. I think a lot of people need therapy, I never got it, but I think it could have helped me get through those issues without supressing them for so long. I don't regret transition or that time of my life, it taught me a lot, and I'm lucky I don't feel the regrets a lot of people do. Thanks for sharing your story too

[@nh-wq6sw]

I think access to hormones should only be legal at the age of 18 tbh

[@orianaziegler5408]

It's weird that in America you have to be 18 to join the military, and 21 to drink or smoke cigarettes. All life changing things. But this isn't taken as seriously for how life changing it is.

[@comajuice]

It really shouldnt though. You wouldnt wait to give someone life saving treatment until theyre 18. I wouldve killed myself by now if i had to wait till 18 to get on hormones.

[@hexum7]

Elle threatened to kill herself unless she was put on hormones. And, she had actually attempted suicide twice and was cutting herself daily What would you do? Take the very real chance that your 17 year would old kill herself because of an arbitrary age limit?

[@CS-yr5jr]

n h there are far more medical reasons for hormones to be prescribed under 18, and besides it’s not like the local gas station where you go get your pack of cigs and a vial of hormones. It’s not the age, it’s the doctors and the psychologists who make it easier for these kids to get it.

[@roniyarose9470]

I think it should be allowed younger, but only with VERY THOROUGH mental examination to figure out if they really have gender dysphoria or not. Hormones should not be so easily accessable

[@teresawelcome8354]

"I would tell myself that I didn't have to be a certain way, to be a woman." This is the best line ever. Gender NORMS are the problem, not the feeling of being a man or feeling like a woman.

[@gryla5290]

NORMS AND ROLES. Remember when kids labeled themselves as 'gender non-conforming'?

[@ntlpz]

This is what radical feminists had been saying all along but everyone call us terfs or transphobic, but time is giving us reason, sadly some kids and young adults had to pay the price of being progressive for the sake of being progressive and not a product of critical thought.

[@somethinggood9267]

I agree

[@mattiOTX]

The problem is they take gender norms as gospel instead of a general guideline. I'm a transsexual woman and I would have been a tom girl had I been born female. I'm not hyper feminine.

[@somethinggood9267]

@@mattiOTX so to you, what does it been to be transexual? Like why transition instead of stay a boy who had some feminine traits? I'm curious : ) BTW you totally don't owe me an answer! I just like to hear peoples experiences

[@alfredocarrillo5922]

Teenagers go through a lot as it is already... transitioning while being a teenager is just ridiculous

[@olliemclaughlin3160]

As someone who was MTF and detransitioned back to male, thank you for this video. People like Elle and like myself do exist and there needs to be so much more awareness made to the fact that this is a thing and that it is okay if a person wants to detransition.

[@xxSome3Girlxx]

Ollie McLaughlin may I ask why you transitioned in the beginning?

[@SkeIetor]

Yes do tell

[@diavolo666]

Also interested in hearing your story

[@ellash]

yes i’d also like to know if you’re alright with sharing

[@dirtylittle5percent876]

Wow! There is alot of ppl interested. I mean, i didnt know do many ppl go through what Elle is going through. I send my heart and good vibes out to u all ❤💙😍

[@humancentipede33]

Where I live, it is illegal for any doctor to allow hormones to someone who hasn't gone through a 4-year transition therapist programme.

[@canyounot2102]

coffeekupp // where do you live? Europe?

[@drpeppergurl]

good

[@ciganyweaverandherperiwink6293]

"Presenting" as a man and BEING a man are two intensely different things. I find that choice of word noteworthy when used by de-transitioners trying their best to explain themselves. These interviews are so valuable and I'm coming across more and more of them online. I'm hoping these brave people will work hard on their thinking and articulation/vocabulary because their voice are desperately needed right now. Thank you.

[@luizaculau2541]

As a kid I loved to play with more typical “boy” toys and didn't have much interest in “girl” toys. I am biologically female and also completely happy with being a woman. It haunts me to think “wow what if in the past someone looked at my toy interests and thought I was a trans boy”. So thank you so much Blaire for talking about this subject.

[@godhateseveryonewhodoesntr5977]

Yeah, toys for boys were just way more fun.

[@kithalie]

Same

[@carolynmay5759]

Luiza Wille exactly! My son plays with monster trucks, but he also is obsessed with Disney princesses and has all the dolls. He loves playing outside in the dirt but he also likes dressing up. To think that someone could look at him and say he’s transgender just because of this is crazy to me. He’s just a kid! If he gets older and decides otherwise, that’s fine. But we need to let children be children.

[@hailstar8185]

I don't think most people would instantly think you're trans for playing with "boy" toys. Toys are just toys lol.

[@snoozyq9576]

Same! I would hang with the guys when I was really little. Would've been terrible if people back then made me feel like that made me trans. Glad I grew up before all this stuff.

[@abbatrossadore4712]

Yea, I follow this really hyper-left makeup page on FB. There is this mom who has a 10 yr old son who was curious about makeup, and so she did his makeup and gave him a pair of boots. He loved it and he came up with a drag name "Lacy Boots". It was cute, but then someone in the comments says "Have you considered that maybe you might have a daughter? Maybe it's time to have that conversation with him." Like what???? Please don't confuse that boy, if he's trans he's trans, but 10 yrs old isn't the right time to push that idea into his head.

[@pilargonzalezolivera32]

also, makeup does not have genderrrr, why would they comment "maybe you have a daughter"? makes no sensee. Now drag queens have to be girls wth

[@Randomgirl866]

Right, I think the person has to come across the idea themselves, it shouldn’t be pushed on them.

[@danniemikeey579]

My kid is 7 and likes some of his sister's stuff lol

[@cutecommie]

@@danniemikeey579 Based kid. Let him have it.

[@parisinthe30sx]

My sister's and I used to dress up our little brother all the time. He loved the attention I think. Doesnt mean he's trans at 6 lol People are idiots

[@phangirlable]

That whole transtrender thing started around five years ago and many teens have been drawn into this and are now at the point where they realize they are not actually trans, never were, and they are now detransitioning. Very sad. :(

[@kateofone]

Transgender started in the 1920s actually. That is when the first sex change happened. It gained more attention in the 1980s and acceptance in the last 20 years in the year 2000.

[@kateofone]

@@leslieb551 I agree and I think people who claim they are gender fluid ruin it even though gender fluid is impossible. I am not just saying that. They basically say their brain is differently wired on a weekly basis. That from a biological standpoint makes no sense. I have come to realize non binary maybe real and gender non conformity but not gender fluid. I think people don't want a box. Yet I am a binary trans woman and it came down to transition or die for me.

[@EllieUltra]

Leslie B I’m convinced my parents would have transitioned me when I was a teen because I was and still do have some disphoria but I know I wouldn’t have wanted to transition. I may not feel female but I don’t feel male. I wish it was more talked about that it doesn’t have to be black and white. There’s a lot of room for variation and deciding permanent changes later.

[@TheRagingPlatypus]

It's almost like transitioning is trendy and they pass out hormones like Skittles.

[@deborahzukoski9000]

As a pre-teen, I was a tomboy, but I always was attracted to boys. I hated pink. I hated florals, dresses, etc. Now, as a grown woman, I love being a girly girl. I love florals, skirts, makeup, etc.

[@goofygoober4457]

That’s not the same sis

[@3thalluing339]

Goofy Goober that’s the point of their comment 🥱

[@LordAmandus]

@@goofygoober4457 That's her point. As a teenager you dont really know who you are and what you want. Thats called puberty. Teens are extremely confused and malleable. To change things irreversible in this period cant go well

[@whatadollslife]

great quote, "my puberty was medicalized"...……. insightful interview

[@thatssorissa9923]

This is why I believe you shouldn’t be able to begin transitioning until you’re 18!

[@kittygIitter]

More like 25 or older, as the brain's prefrontal cortex can take more than 25 years to mature.

[@serenity0367]

SS edits And? Thats still a reasonable age. I mean it does a lot to your body, and youre still able to smoothly transition at this point. i mean, look at blaire. In the future maybe itll be easuer for people to do it younger, but i think at this point in time with its current social stance, it should be 18.

[@aimdog2000]

maybe 21? 18 seems a little too young, but 25 seems a little too old.

[@Felix-sw7dq]

I think 18 is alright but with medical evaluation. (Not with those lgbt psychiatrists that say 'youre trans' in the first session)

[@antoniofernandezgarcia6611]

When i was 4 i knew i was a boy and i knew i liked girls, im 15 and im now trangender ftm and im kinda sad about the fact that my parents didnt react when i said that i was a boy but i kinda understand it, your point is not right. I feel like i lost time beeing myself, you understand what i mean?

[@CoShPe]

I wonder if some of the people that get triggered over the topic of detransitioning might have underlying doubt..would explain why they attack it so much. Just adding to the conversation

[@babysis6.059]

That's exactly what it is, and not just doubt, there must be a whole lot of them who regret going through the process and don't want to admit it, I predict that more people will come forward and denounce the whole experience

[@Ben-li9zb]

That's very true, I and other trans people haven't felt any discomfort at the mention of detransitioners (unless its an attempt to invalidate trans people existing) if it genuinely makes you unhappy to here about it, there might be some things you need to work through

[@smalltownhomesteadAC]

The Entire LGTB movement is that way. Far to much "pride". It's overcompensating

[@Ben-li9zb]

@@smalltownhomesteadAC it's compensating for the hate directed at them from parts of society. I'd say its pretty proportional, even undercompensating

[@PuppyBIood]

Yep, it's most likely projection lmao

[@eonkshabonk]

From the age of 5 until I was about 16 I thought I should have been born a boy. I was attracted to women and all of the "boy" things. I wore basketball shorts and beater and always wore a hat and I have to say I genuinely felt like a boy as long as I didnt look in the mirror or see my naked body. At 16 I still felt that way most days, then some days I felt so curvy and feminine and wanted to feel like a woman. Then, some days I felt like a football player in a dress so I dressed more masculine. I am now 37 years old and I STILL wake up some days feeling masculine and some days feeling so feminine. I could be called gender fluid I guess, but the truth is I'm just a human that wants to be comfortable in my skin. I am so so so glad that my parents did NOT let me transition or even entertain the notion when they saw my tomboy ways. It was way less common back then but still.

[@leahp1765]

You are who you are. Tell yourself I am who I am. You will no longer have such thoughts.

[@allisoncollins2988]

Thanks for sharing! God bless.

[@bodybalancer]

Cool. Honestly i admire women like you & find them sexy! Those who are chameleon like & can switch up their looks & rock both tomboy & feminine looks, I think androgyny can be really sexy. I dont see why it’s such a big deal to some people or the need to always make it about our identity or gender. Im a natural born female, have always enjoyed my femininity so I feel very blessed about that now coming to slowly understand trans issues better. I’m mostly straight, i think we’re all on a spectrum... & one ex in particular i remember very fondly, I appreciated how confident & free spirited he was, he was like me, mostly straight, but had experimented a little (just like making out) w/same sex... he would enjoy holidays or occasions to dress up, cross dress, wear makeup- music festivals etc. & he was one of the sexiest guys i ever knew. It would honestly be such a more joyful world if everyone had more fun, and less shame over all these things. I feel blessed to feel relatively confident in myself these days, at this age. Even as a feminine woman, I still have another aspect to myself where I have a very masculine energy sometimes.... This is actually the concept of Yin & Yang- Yin is the more feminine, receptive, nurturing moon energy. Yang is the Solar, active, masculine, assertive energy. We all have a little of both, and it can change moment to moment. There’s no real need to identify with those more subtle & super impermanent shifts in our energy & tastes & who we want to be that day ✨💕✌️

[@jojomama09]

Sonnenschein As a autistic I feel like that a lot which is most common in autistic woman.

[@eonkshabonk]

Crystal Petterson I didn’t know that! Autism/Aspergers is pretty common in my family. My son has severe Autism and I can picture how that would occur. I always love to hear how other people think and process information!

[@mlangbeen8008]

Elle, Don't be too worried about the voice. I know some girls who naturally have a really deep voice like yours. It may not be the voice you remember having as a child, but it is ok to have a lower pitch voice.

[@sekluzhenimvu5148]

Indeed...this is SO true... I am female and always have been, but it's hard to tell if you're talking to me on the phone because my voice is so deep for a girl... I once called into a local radio station to win tickets to a basketball game and gave them my name so they would know it was me when I picked up the tickets...5 minutes later, they called me back and said "I hope I don't offend you, but are you a guy or a girl?"... I laughed 😂... and I'm also big for a girl (6' tall) and because I'm so big, mens clothes fit me better and are more comfortable, but I've had people standing behind me call me "Sir" more often than not... I don't get offended, it's just how I am 🥰💯

[@kiraloveall2651]

@@sekluzhenimvu5148 I'm so glad to hear you are comfortable with your body and confident in the person you are. Don't lose that. Continue to love yourself!!!

[@sjlongcreative]

Yeah. Some people call me a 'tranny' for having a low voice

[@aurora8749]

It goes back to being more feminine yhe longer you're of testosterone. I've seen it with another youtuber that detransitioned.

[@PwnZombie]

Yeah, but it’s a 100% deep male voice.

[@christinerenee]

Elle is such a beautiful young woman and I am touched so much by her story. It hurts my heart that adults didnt protect her when she was a young girl. So sad...

[@thereisnonegoodbutgodjohn363]

All Humans need to repent & Believe in Jesus. Why? Because all Humans have sinned (lied, lusted sexually, stolen, dishonoured parents etc). Avoid the fires of Hell (justice of God) and choose Heaven today. GOD IS HOLY

[@kashinimeyo]

She will have to do vocal training to get her voice back.

[@toshiyaar7885]

This!

[@radiomandelbrot5868]

maybe voice feminization surgery can also help if she's willing to take the risk eventually.

[@martaleszkiewicz5115]

@@radiomandelbrot5868 it's very risky though. It can destroy the vocal chords even worse.

[@aidenbelle2079]

@0 2 False. Many trans mtf have deeper voice but managed to pass the sound of a girl. She just need extensive practice.

[@Sketch1ish]

"Figuring yourself out" is meant to be done between the ages of 18 and 24.

[@comajuice]

No it isn't? Dysphoria isnt just gonna pop up at 18

[@Sketch1ish]

@@comajuice no but "being moody and uncomfortable in your body" is puberty 101. Might want a little restraint until you're sure its not that

[@comajuice]

@@Sketch1ish ok but that isnt dysphoria. Its not just being a bit moody and uncomfortable.

[@comajuice]

@bishes be mad thats not how top surgery works and most countries prevent minors from getting top surgery

[@Sketch1ish]

@@comajuice i know but I don't trust a 15 year old to know the difference. If the kid is literally trying to chop their dick off in the kitchen thats one thing but just having a kid who doesn't display stereotypical gender norms isn't a good enough reason in my book for life changing operations and medication. Blair started at 20 and she looks great. Im just saying live with it until you can buy cigarettes and you can do whatever you want to your body

[@imjustmadisonn]

im 15, and im a detransitioner. i was on testosterone for 11 months, and on december 15th of 2023 i stopped. thank GOD i stopped when i did. im now 3 months off and my face has gone back to normal, my voice has gotten wayy higher, and i look and sound like a girl again. im so fucking glad i snapped back into reality and realized how wrong it was, and how forced it was upon me.

[@LilRy21]

Omg wtf. I am so sorry that happened you must of started so young.. As a gender queer person this is why our youth should not be able to consent to any of this.

[@noah1502]

I also am a female who thought i was trans for a year due to social media, you speaking about this matters

[@johndoeiii6103]

How long did you feel this way? what made you realize you weren't?

[@antighastly]

@@johndoeiii6103 not op but Im a girl who was in a similar scenario I became dysphoric at 14 due to social media and I'm still dysphoric to this day, basically what made me see that I don't actually want to transition was seeing different viewpoints like this and talking with other women who were dysphoric but wanted to stay as women

[@gloria5783]

same with my sis. she is influenced by tiktok and big tech.

[@johndoeiii6103]

@@antighastly oh damn....that sounds harsh...how exactly did you feel if you don't mind me asking...

[@ookipuki]

Me too. I was always a tomboy and loved it. I have a pretty face(ppl say..not me) but it's a bit androgynous. So my own fault, but social media also made me think there was something wrong , or off about me. Or that I was meant to be a dude. So fkin dumb lol...

[@NYMusic89563]

This is why children under 21 should not be able to transition. If we can’t drink then this is even more important.

[@SkySolo0]

You're legally an adult at 18 and able to go into the military, so why shouldn't you be able to start the process for transitioning? I wasn't able to start medically transitioning until I was 19, and I truly wouldn't have been able to continue living if I had to wait even longer (I knew that I was trans since I was 13, and my teenage years were hell living as someone I wasn't.) I get that it's a difficult topic though, because while I know transitioning earlier would have been good for me, obviously it's not the same story for everyone else. We really need to do more research into gender dysphoria and educate people more about this before they start hormones. Letting kids express themselves and/or go by a different name is a good way to let them explore their feelings w/o making life-changing decisions.

[@emilytustin4540]

Actually ur brains not fully developed till 24. But some of the changes are easier if ur still in puberty so it makes it difficult

[@lisalegato0109]

18 used to be the drinking & smoking age. Now it's 21.

[@devinlindberg253]

@@SkySolo0 I regret joining the Army so young. The first person who died in my hands working on them as a medic I was 19 and I was not ready for that. I wish I was older to comprehend better what I did.

[@uneagerly]

i understand the good intentions and i support the idea of waiting to transition into adulthood but what about all the 14, 15, 16 year olds who have identified as trans since 7 or 8, what happens if they start puberty and become extremely depressed and suicidal? like i said, i know you're intentions are good but your idea is very flawed and there's always certain exceptions.

[@Drea_A]

This is why it was so insanely dangerous for trans being trendy a few years ago. We're seeing the effects of that now. Why couldn't they have just gone through an emo phase like the rest of us 😭

[@pinkghost2515]

I love emo music and consider myself as emo and hell when I was in middle school I thought I was trans and let me just tell you my emo phase is lasting a lot longer than my trans phase lol. Thinking about it I don't even know if I would consider me being emo a phase lol

[@xladder3972]

Blaire, always remember there are more supporters than haters! please never stop posting videos!

[@streetpoliticswithtalessia]

This is why you don’t let kids transition. Let them wait until they’re older to make that decision.

[@TipTheScales27]

Street Politics With Talessia The transition won’t be as good though. The longer they wait, the less “passing” they are unfortunately

[@d1etpussy621]

@@TipTheScales27 Exactly. Especially when you're MTF. Boy puberty is one hell of a thing.

[@briathomas5310]

@@TipTheScales27 not a good enough reason to make such a life altering decision so young. Blaire made it at 20 and she passes fine.

[@sofijamort]

I agree, but if you haven't you should watch Elles full video on her experiance. Because problemme can also be therapist, parents are sometimes just confused and think that they are doing what is right for their child. There should be better support system and good proffesionals involved.

[@lexi3157]

Bria Thomas That’s true but puberty effects people in different ways. She was just lucky enough to be able to pass, because I know boys who are like 15 and already look like a grown man and some don’t. So it depends on genetics and other things.

[@bdgsharris]

The prefrontal cortex houses our ability to make decisions... this part isn’t full developed until early to mid 20s. So making such huge decisions should definitely wait

[@TheZenytram]

no wonder why teens have so much anxiety about choosing a college.

[@sofitocyn100]

I'm 28 ans can't take decisions I stick to yet ...

[@lucyduran305]

Wait until certain groups start to challenge this biological fact I'm afraid that will happen

[@zuiiee]

@@lucyduran305 don't you know? Biology and science dont matter anymore... it's all feelings and opinions

[@ehrichan6726]

Well I started HRT when I was 17 years old and my mom used to pay for my hormones and it was the best decision of my life! I am happy to be me. And I’m now 24 and I don’t regret anything ^~^

[@MethCrystal666]

Elle's original video is so good -she's sweet and compassionate and not transphobic at all. She's posted an update since then too, answering some of the questions people asked. It's good to see Blaire boosting her story!

[@candyzappa58]

This is very educational and this needs to be heard more.

[@leamarye923]

It seems that she was kind of forcing herself into transitioning looking for answers because doctors didn’t try to help.

[@cv-cq9ry]

Absolutely. Doctors push drugs and cutting off body parts instead of offering counselling, which is what many of these kids and adults need. If they were supported properly in the first place then I am doubtful that many would subsequently try to change gender. But hey, it's a multi-billion dollar operation for the pharmaceutical and surgery industry.

[@imcloud305]

Because if the doctors did They can get fired for "Transphobia"

[@yagamijubei28]

Correct. You hit the nail squarely on the head. It makes them money. These days people are not patients in hospitals, theyre cash cows.

[@e.j.vkanty4482]

I'm watching this in 2023, three years after it was posted. I would love to see a "where are they now" update video.

[@sunnyshowers7007]

I feel like detransitioned FtM could learn a lot about feminization (or re-feminization) from transwomen. These are important connections!!

[@Hamaswife]

Colette Showers Particularly voice training. Estrogen doesn’t change the voice so clearly Elle is missing something if Blairs sounds way more feminine but Elle isn’t even trying

[@rik0904]

who the hell allow 15 years old decide about things like that.

[@Omar-bustos1997]

Scary, cruel and irresponsable...but that is where it is hesding more and more even in my country in Spain and I believe in europe, we are coming slowly to where u guys r

[@sekluzhenimvu5148]

Now they are saying that a 5 year old can decide if they are not the gender they were born to.... so, my grandson pretends he's a cat...does that mean he identifies as a cat?, that I need to feed him cat food and get him feline lukemia shots?...HECK NO, because he's going to eventually change his mind because he's a child and isn't mature enough to make life changing decisions!

[@niameyers6686]

@@sekluzhenimvu5148 you don't need to go to the extremes of treating him exactly like a cat but if he wants to wear car eats, meow, and ask you to call him a cat what's the harm?

[@farovail6838]

California

[@veronicaemmerichs4528]

@@farovail6838 They usually go to California from ANOTHER State. Probably Your State.

[@robgau2501]

This is why it shouldn't happen when someone is so young. I don't mean any offense. It's just that we don't let underage people make decisions on a lot of things. This right here, it should be one of them. This is an adult decision. Period. The parents should have protected this person from the consequences of this adult decision.

[@blackqweenmars]

Fr we don’t even let them get tattoos or piercings professionally by themselves and you can’t drink or smoke or any of that but for some reason you can mess up your body with hormones and mutilate your genitals so young and then there’s people trying to be supportive But instead you’re encouraging in impressionable person down to path they just can’t jump back up from and it’s worse than doing drugs alcohol or piercing you can take out a piercing and be left with a small hole you can cover up with tattoo But if you mutilated your genitals as you can never get your reproductive function back and if you get testosterone or whatever it will take a long time to actually look like what you were born as again

[@prettytiff2562]

I’m a cis woman, not sure how I ended up here but learned sooooo much from this conversation and I’m very thankful 💛

[@baylorsailor]

It popped up in the feed for me as well. I've always liked Blair but didn't follow her channel till just now. My daughter is 10 and has been questioning her gender and identity. When I asked her why she felt that way, the conversation always goes towards wanting to "fit-in". I struggled socially growing up, so I get wanting to fit-in, but I don't find that a good enough reason to transition. My stance is if she feels the same when she is an adult, ok. But I will not help her as a child transition.

[@blkmerican-.2934]

@@baylorsailor 💕👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾 People often make it seem as if children are in the right mind to decide what is best for them, but I am glad you are thinking about what is best.

[@annyms5092]

God bless, Jesus loves you and died for you all

[@YasminYoruba]

Me too!! This made me sub real quick!!

[@aimeemackie8332]

Same here

[@maxmeier4039]

Wow, hearing about Elle's experience really makes me feel lucky I wasn't raised in a more progressive household. I distinctly wanted to be a girl when I was a kid, but completely grew out of it by my late teens. It's scary to imagine kids now going through the same thing, and being pushed into a major medical procedure like transitioning that they might deeply regret later on. I know I would have.

[@gocelotspice5766]

same, when i was young i straight up wanted to be a boy and not a girl, but now i know i'm just a femme lesbian, I would have ruined my life if i transitioned- i feel good being feminine

[@pinkghost2515]

Same. I wanted to be a boy but I am so glad I grew up and realized it was just a phase. I feel like educators should be more open about how people detransition and how transitioning should wait a while. I also don't get how you have to be a certain age to drink, drive and smoke weed but transitioning is fine. I think people should be 18 or 21 to be able to transition

[@asph0le531]

i'm really starting to think a lot of it in early to mid childhood might just be from curiosity of the other gender. i mean kids are always really curious, so of course they'd be interested in what boys act like or girls act like lol even i was like "omg i wanna be a boy boys are so cool!!" and i diagnose it as a case of going on tumblr too much and curiosity

[@Crybatty]

My parents are progressive and they advised against it for me.

[@pinkghost2515]

@Indecisive N.E.E.T Yeah I think that's a really smart idea. If I have kids in the future and they say they are trans I am doing that with them to. Cut your hair or get a wig? Fine. Dress like a boy or girl? Fine but I would tell them to wait until they are older to take testosterone and transition

[@ValHeartNDHeartSuqquNoHeartPat]

I thought this was such a brave video - for both of you. Fwiw you come across as an authentic person and not some misogynistic caricature of a woman, and I admire that you pursued a path that helps you live a more authentic and intentional life. Moreover, you don’t demand that others accept you as female, because it’s not about seeking other people’s validation. You’ve made me think about trans people in a more humanizing way and recognize transphobia when it happens. I feel so much sympathy for your guest. It’s so sad that these voices are stifled online. I wonder whether she could get vocal training to help with the deep voice? Anyway, I’ve returned to this video a few times. You’re doing really important public service for women, trans-women, and detransitioners. I hope you know how important and valuable you are.

[@DonswatchingtheTube]

It's sad when someone who suffers, who think they've made a mistake is hated and bullied by people who are asking for people to be sympathetic to them. Very hypocritical.

[@violenceisfun991]

0:59 i didn't know you were a transwoman, this video will be an interesting perspective for me as I know very little about the topic; also I've never heard a transperson talking about de-transitioning

[@JiaPia3]

I have had the experience of counseling 6 people who wanted to or were in the process of detransitioning. There is so much pain in each of their stories. Each of them tried to take their life at least once. I felt so terrible for them because they were shamed by the trans community, and they feel ashamed of themselves. I had vicarious trauma from a couple of them. It's so hard for anyone. Please, have some empathy or sympathy for these people. They are humans who deserve care and love. Thank you for reading.

[@tzcaptor108]

Honestly it's so nice to see a trans person willing to criticize the trans community. It's such a nice change of perspective

[@Vidyut_Gore]

The really freaky thing here is that Blaire sounds more feminine than Elle, but even with the changes, Elle's features, expressions are more "real"? If that is a thing. But both of you have gone through changes that can never fully be reversed. There is no undo. You move forward, choosing your direction. It is a huge responsibility. It is insane this journey can start before you're old enough to vote. As a woman, I don't think I became the person I am now (well, that keeps changing), till I was almost 30. Women in particular are a mess of hormones for a long time. I've never fit into anything all my life and I can't even blame it on gender. Even if there were such a thing as a psychological need to change gender (specifically, as opposed to a choice to alleviate dysphoria - which, frankly can be anything from age to psychology) - the process to conclude that reliably would be incredibly complex. I don't see the competent professionals to correspond with the flood of trans people and I can't but help think a lot of people are making choices for all their life on very flimsy evidence and even more flimsy thinking from a place of emotional distress.

[@danhard8440]

no offence but i think people like Blair are causing upticks in people wanting to transition because they look how pretty she appears and think they will turn out the same but in reality she is a 1 in a million and i bet not even near as good without the makup

[@reginageorge6619]

The last time I was this early Jessica Yaniv was still a free man 👨

[@gachadanger380]

🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

[@salamabdulali7852]

I love the honesty. People have become very sensitive and are unable to have conversations. Our human purpose is development and change, and it’s not crazy to change your position, or have a completely different view. Thank you, Blaire, for sharing. I don’t agree with transitioning, but I also don’t believe one has the right to force anyones state of thinking. The developmental process is soooo fragile for each of us and it’s a personal journey. We’re all one family heading in one direction, the faster we realize we’re in this together, the better the world will become.

[@cristinaw.5824]

"You don't have to be a certain way to be a woman" what a wonderful piece of wisdom that I'm sure many of today's questioning youth could really use. Both for men and women. This could apply to so many things too. Especially in today's world of hyper-diagnosing--like Blaire talked about in her experience of the medical system. You don't have to be a certain way to be a human.

[@kaysuewood]

Hey Elle, this may not help but as a cis female I also must shave at least every week. Best of wishes for you ❤️

[@NecroCh]

don't use the word cis, pls

[@Champ0222]

I am also a cis dude

[@alaskagirl391]

Yeah a lot of women need to. It can have a variety of causes from genetics to PCOS and more. I pluck my chin hairs with tweezers when I get them (I am pretty heavy and women with weight tend to have hormones that don't behave well).

[@joanbaczek2575]

If you are a woman with facial hair have your overies checked.

[@kaysuewood]

joan baczek get them checked for what? 😂 they’re working, trust me

[@gingermo]

Guys, kids shouldn't transition. Let them just grow up a bit first

[@problematicbitch8014]

Im going on horomon blockers when im 13/14 thats a pretty good age right?

[@allie54774]

I'm glad you covered this, it's important to acknowledge that people can feel a certain way at one time & it can change later on. Specially when we are teenagers & growing up! Thats perfectly normal, it's sad that other trans people get angry toward people who have de transitioned, as if they haven't been through enough coming to that decision. Will Elles voice change to be more feminine again in time? I hope that can happen for her just because she mentions here that it bothers her 💖

[@lilbutthead2107]

As a 25 year old woman and tomboy who told their mother they are a boy at age 6. I'm so glad I stayed a woman. Maybe you are gay or like to dress unisex

[@joewu294]

I agree with you. When I was kid I always like to impersonate female characters from TV (well, still do it tho) such pink power rangers, etc... But now that I grow up, I live my life as a man and have no problems with it. Even learn how to look more masculine sometimes...

[@Acadian.FrenchFry]

I left a comment that was very similar to this, but I went into more detail. I was also about 6 yrs old or so when I kept saying I wanted to be a boy. I stopped saying it around 7 or 8, but still wanted to look and dress more like a boy. So my mom cut off my long hair (it was down to my butt) and bought me boys clothes and I was happy as a clam. Till about 14 yrs old when I discovered Madonna and I instantly started to wear make up and change how I dressed to look like her and I also grew my hair out. I am now a mother and wife and so grateful that I am, I cannot imagine how awful it would have been for me if my parents took my wanting to be a boy literal and had me transition. I'm still a Tom boy at heart, but I am very much a feminine woman and a happy to be one.

[@c0smicyb0rg]

Me as well. I'm a 20 year old woman and questioned my gender identity a lot when I was a teenager but ultimately I just enjoy more androgynous/masculine style. I'm personally very happy being a woman. I think questioning who you are is a very normal thing as a teenager, you're figuring yourself out and it takes time!

[@retouriste]

When I was a little girl, I wanted to be a boy, because I liked to hang out with boys, boy toys, active games. When I hit puberty, I hated the changes, and thought I was trans for about a two years . I got bullied and called a lesbian for my appearance and behaviour. Kinda glad russia's so homophobic, cause transition would have been almost impossible for me, too difficult and scary. It forced me to think about my gender a lot, and eventually to realise I'm not trans at all. I struggled with dysphoria for 2 years even when I didn't identify as trans any more. and now I'm 19 and happy to be a woman.

[@sofiaskakalovaw4137]

Lil butthead I played with cars when I was little . No one ever talked about it , I wanted to dresses as a boy , just bc I thought it was cool . My mother never even considered this as a SING , bc it wasn’t . I’m straight as a pole , and still love “boy stuff”

[@mydreamsnow4135]

Hey Blaire, thanks so much for giving Elle a chance to share her story with us. I do want to mention one thing on the subject of transitioning at a young age. Others have mentioned below that gender dysphoria is a very hard thing to live with, and I've known since I was very young (1960s) that there was something "different" about me, always wanting to know what a girl was thinking about, why she chose the clothes she was wearing, how she got her hair into a certain style...and I wanted that. In other words, by the age of 10, I was already wearing my sister's wigs, etc. However, in those days transitioning was never openly discussed. I know in my heart that I had to have said something to my parents and it must have been laughed off as though I was going through another "thing!" So, I just can't agree with the concept that people are just to young (teenage years) to make the right choice for themselves, though for some it may have been rushed. I never transitioned, never tried HRT, and I live a rough life psychologically living with this dysphoria. But I do wish the best for all trans folks, especially those who need to de-transition, because until you find peace within yourself about your true self, you live in this limbo wondering what if. And Blaire, your transition is amazing, you're beautiful. Thanks for you time.

[@Considerthisplease]

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[@homestyledchicken1582]

Growing up in China, I was very active as a child, and that led me to being called an unacceptable girl and a wannabe boy by my family and friends, and even strangers. Growing up then, I became so frustrated from when I was 3-8 years old, I wanted to become a boy so I can satisfy what I thought was myself, and everybody else. And now a days I describe it as gender dysphoria that was forced down upon me, and something I did suffer through at one point. I was born in the US and I distinctly remember when I moved back to the US and I learned about LGBT, i whole heartedly thought that this was the way out. Now as a teenager I know that i’m a girl, even if i’m active i’m still a girl. It’s gross to think about how different things would be if I was trans, except it’s not too different. If I was trans I would be shamed by my family for being trans. But now that I figured out that i’m a girl and I want to remain a girl I was still shamed for the way I dress, because I dressed to girly. I’m shamed for my makeup because it’s too girly.

[@marcosantos3381]

Girls and women get shamed and judged for literally anything they do. We should address that, rather than encouraging them to become men to be free to do whatever they want. That is why the number of ftm young transsexuals has surpassed the number of mtf. It's just sad. We should overcome the idea that gender stereotypes are compulsory, instead of making people believe they are trans because they can't conform to them. Feminists have been saying this forever, that is why radical trans activists hate them so much. Sorry for my poor english, I wish you all the best! You are perfect just the way you are and you don't need to prove your femininity to anyone!

[@kimberleywilliams7802]

Double standards amiright

[@marcosantos3381]

@Ciaran L1998 it used to be like that but it has now changed. Young trans people are mostly ftm

[@marcosantos3381]

@Ciaran L1998 that used to be the case until a few years ago, then the number of young girls with gender dysphoria surpassed the number of mtf trans. I became concerned with this topic when my ex, who was sexually abused as a teen and had mental health issues as a result of trauma, suddenly decided to transition. Try google rapid onset gender dysphoria. Here's an article. www.theglobeandmail.com/amp/opinion/article-why-the-surge-in-gender-dysphoria-among-teenage-girls/ Ps:sorry for my messy english

[@letsoffend695]

Wow this Elle girl is amazing. She's so young but her perspective is just wow. Thank you Blaire for supporting her the way you have.

[@piscesmoon6333]

my heart hurts for her. transitioning seems hard enough but to go back the other way afterwards must be quite the journey. what strength! also i LOVE your eyeliner and am always so jelly of it!

[@richb2229]

I don’t just feel bad for Elle, but more for all the young people that are going through mental issues and stresses, but are not getting good advice from the mental health community.

[@benandjerrys338]

Only recently found your channel and researched about this whole topic of trans, detransitioning, trans kids, etc and the more I learn the more grateful I am for being a 90s kid and not having to be a young person having to navigate this craziness. As a young girl, pre-puberty, I was a tomboy. Then in my mid 20s I was diagnosed with PCOS and my abusive ex was very nasty to me about it, calling me a man and transgender because of my pcos symptoms. Now in my 30s I'm not as much of a tomboy as I was as a child. I still have more male interests but as I went through puberty and became an adult I became more feminine and my fashion sense and how I present is very femanine, bleach blonde hair, makeup daily, I wear pink often, etc. I'm glad that as a child I was allowed to be who I was and allowed the time and space to grow into my femininity as I got older rather than be judged and medicalized because as a kid I didn't present myself as a human Barbie doll... I am also high functioning autistic but not diagnosed as a child, and I have always got on with male friends better than female friends. I know if I was a young child today the trans activist mob would have targeted me and I dread to think what would have happened. Bring back tomboys and let kids just be kids

[@dantelundell9386]

It took me four years to even get ON t. What the hell is going on in america

[@StphnHrrll]

In her original video, she said the first doctor disagreed so they found another doctor who was actually trans who helped push it through. Anyone-Correct me if I'm wrong

[@tijanaself897]

doctors just dont gaf abt anything but money there

[@kirbotime]

Been out for over 4 years but still on the waiting list for a gender clinic 😅

[@llallogen7380]

@@tijanaself897 There are plenty that do, but when someone is determined to have their way, they will often doctor-shop until they can find one to agree with them. As not all doctors have the same clinical judgement, stuff like this happens.

[@adrichiii839]

@@StphnHrrll If I remember correctly, it wasn't a doctor but her therapist. The first one Elle saw was against her transitioning so she changed to another therapist that was working at the LGBT Centre Elle was going to. That therapist immediately agreed to get Elle on T, and Elle mentions several times that that therapist wasn't good at her job as she would only talk about herself and her struggles as a lesbian rather than listening to Elle's struggles.

[@whocares_bear]

The doctor who gave her testosterone (basically steroids) at 16 belongs in prison for child abuse. Parents need to hear these stories

[@amberrose2274]

When she spoke about how 10 years from now whatever is bothering her won’t matter it really stuck with me. Always awesome vids from you Blaire

[@hannahn7375]

Please see a professional therapist in the meantime.

[@henrymccafferty4025]

i saw her videos in my recommended, she’s extremely interesting and i’d love for her to make more videos on this topic

[@leeriches8841]

Doctors are too quick to pacify rather than clarify and rectify. I was put on antidepressants at 15 and even the doctor said at the time that I was the youngest person she had ever given antidepressants to but she had been instructed to do it to get fast results. I just thought 'well the doctor knows best' and did what I was told. Been on them ever since without much actual therapeutic intervention and feel trapped on my reliance of them. Can only imagine the pressure doctors put on those questioning their gender identity.

[@llexcusesll7933]

Why isn’t there a law where you aren’t allowed to transition until you’re 18+???

[@thekarkiealex3235]

Bc, for many people cant wait till then to get treated for this, many end up killing themselves bc they vant wait till 18, it's not easy, and some have bad experiences but SO MANY are doing great now bc they could transition, and its effect is weaker the later on in life you start

[@samssung5771]

llExcusesll people will invest in transitioning, invest in the lgbtq community but will never INVEST in Ending racism, violence, etc. Sex is now more important than human life and worth🤔

[@Saidriak]

@F End 25 is at a point where doing hrt wouldn't even impact as heavily. Most people won't see major changes unless it's a around the time of puberty. Aka like 16-20.

[@whatamievendoinghere5804]

TheKarkie Alex That simply is NOT true, and that type of scare mongering is unhelpful. Listen to this woman’s voice. That is irreversible. The medical establishment is damaging young people with this nonsense.

[@kipperz.]

Because then real trans kids would have to suffer with dysphoria until then. That'd be fucked up to have them suffer for that long

[@resurrectionevil6581]

i'm 24 and I'm so happy i didn't have to grow up in these later years. our teens and tweens are being bombarded with so much information above their age rang and its confusing them at a very important stage of their lives. i'm a biological female and growing up i was the textbook definition of a tomboy. I loved the mud, biking, hockey, fishing and hunting. I wore more boyish clothes and didn't care about female trends. even as an adult i'm still a tomboy i go hunting and fishing with my nails done (lol) wear dresses and like girly things but i'm going into the video game industry. my friends and I always make the joke that i'm either one of the other a tomboy or a girly girl no in between lol. didn't make me trans or gay or anything, it was just personal interests and the home I grew up in. but now, if a kid steps out of their gender norms they are hounded with questions if they are trans or have a disorder so hard they start to question it themselves. let the kids freaking live their lives and be happy with what ever interest they have.

[@samu-chan]

preach

[@AnnaHans88]

It angers me so much. Parents should be monitoring their child's usage of the internet. I warned people about this several years ago, but many of them would just virtue-signal and claim I was somehow the bad guy because, "Kids should be free to express themselves and do whatever they want." And/or they'd label me as some type of "x-phobic." People only bother to become aware of, let alone attempt to solve issues, once SHTF.

[@No-pp1yi]

Rem Remm I agree and disagree at the same time. I get why you say that parents should limite kids usage of the internet but I feel like there should be more conversation than just limitations of knowledge. For example when eight year old kids discover inappropriate content usually in the form of pop up adds parents make such a big deal out of it and blame it on the child who had nothing to do with it. In those cases I think it’s more important to just sit them down and have a conversation about why it’s inappropriate and to just ask them to tel their parents when they see such things so the parents can deal with it calmly. I think the same thing should happen with this subject. If a child thinks they are trans a parent should have a calm conversation about waiting until their brains are developed to transition if it still applies. People may say that a child won’t listen to their parents but there’s a lot more to that. If a parent yells at their child for discovering something instead of being calm the child will learn to hid things so the won’t be punished or yelled at. People need to learn to be a lot more mature when dealing with children. My father has always dealt with things calmly and rarely blamed me for knowing about shit and I’ve grown to really respect his input, meanwhile my mother is the opposite and I’ve grown to dismiss her input and hide things from her. It’s important to help a child grow as their own person instead of being emotional and yelling at them.

[@emelymarcelo9454]

I am 15 years old and recently had a similar conversation with my mother, I have always felt comfortable as a woman but because a friend revealed to be "non-binary" I started to have doubts about myself, i.e. I don't think there are more than two genders but I respect who does, the problem is when I start to doubt about my , and come to the conclusion that the excess information is what was hurting me

[@resurrectionevil6581]

@@emelymarcelo9454 what's important is that YOU feel comfortable. Don't worry what others think. I always remember the time my mom "stealthily" tried to see if i was gay just because I didn't date and still don't date :/ I guess no one is allowed to be comfortable on their own anymore (rolls eyes) and I bet me being a tomboy played up her suspicions too lol I remember being a late bloomer was a thing back when I was growing up, and I associated myself with that group, but now that's gone too. And you're right, the amount of information being shoved into your faces today is mind boggling and filled with half baked data. As long as you're happy, that's all the info you'll need.

[@daria5846]

I really hope she takes voice lessons. Re learn how to talk using her head voice instead of her chest voice. She will sound so much better after learning to manage her voice differently and I think that would hopefully alleviate things a little bit😢

[@Bloneymon]

I am 15 an i indentified as a guy since 12 now, i live in a muslim contry where it's actually ilegal to transition even as an adult and tbh am kind of grateful of not having acceds to testosterone (as a minor), 13 yo me wanted to go on testosterone and have a deep voice and cut off my chest bcs that's what trans ppl "tend to do". And even tho i still think am trans, i dont label myself as much since i dont want to put myself in a box, am not sure trans and i still have various other mental problems that i want to cure before my gender. Ur videos really helped khow when the time is right so tysm, ur not like other trans creator who just tell u "u are trans if u do this or that"

[@fowchiiiliedpuppiesdied]

What a couple of old souls. Lovely. This is a failing of all adults. Period, unreal, to place an expectation on a human being, who has only lived in the world for 15 years, with no life experience beyond school and the home, as a consequence of nothing more than the age they happen to be, that somehow, they could know, and be so certain, about something so permanent. What a miserable failing of adults, medicine, and society. Despicable, and unforgivable. Grow up, parents. Jesus. Unreal.

[@ginahoffsteder2181]

You are a beautiful being, and I agree all sides need to be explored .....you are very emotionally mature , and open minded , and that’s what the world needs 🙏💕

[@Puttagirlon]

Nah, I've seen a lot from her and I have absolutely nothing but respect and love for her. People don't understand how incredibly difficult it is to make an enormous life-changing decision, not once but twice, where the second is an admission that the first one was a tremendous mistake/failure. Considering the circles I've travelled with (especially in the past ~5 years through recovery) It's very common for people to stick with a bad decision because of how much that initial choice cost them. I think that's why the suicide rate for T people and addicts is so high. We are now dealing with some extremely immature, brainwashed children who have literally tried to Nerf the entire world for their security from experiencing pain. It started with the boomers but it's impossible to deny that it isn't just as prevalent in GenX, Millennials, and getting worse in GenZ/Alpha.

[@crunchybiscuits4080]

Elle I’m so happy you are well and did not have any surgery, your voice will soften in time , and if you ever want children you saved yourself by not having the surgery. 🩷

[@Pwanchi]

This is why *real* therapy is needed, not affirmation "therapy". Affirmation therapy is essentially the same as someone going to a therapist saying they're suicidal and the therapist says to the person to commit suicide.

[@Ben-li9zb]

That's not even close lol. Affirmation therapy is meant to build trust with the patient and help them discover more about themselves and draw their own conclusions. It gets better results than trying to reject a person's feelings when they come in for help

[@TheSadie9110]

@@Ben-li9zb Children aren't old enough to draw their own conclusions lmao This is evident

[@fwedlovesbwead]

@@TheSadie9110 so children arent old enough to draw their opinions? If a child thats biological female says they are female, would u say that children arent old enough to draw their own conclusions THEN?

[@TheSadie9110]

@@fwedlovesbwead No children aren't old enough to make LIFE CHANGING decisions. They aren't old enough and their brains are not developed enough yet to make such decisions.

[@fwedlovesbwead]

​@Mansa Musa ??? help?? are u saying ur transphobic? or are u just saying that biologically by having a uterus your female. If so, i can understand that.

[@lizrivera389]

8:48 This right here is so powerful. I remember growing up in a very sexist household and at 4 years old praying to God I would wake up with a penis. I hated everything about being a girl at that time. Then as I got older I realized that I didn’t hate being a girl. I hated how I was forced to express my femininity. Knowing that interests, colors, activities, careers don’t have a gender changed everything for me. It actually made me proud to be a woman because I felt like it was my responsibility to be true to myself and represent my definition of womanhood.

[@ashleysovilla2037]

Yes! This!

[@jennifereverett6298]

We should all be living for eternity and focused on morality (including being grateful for God's design--he made us all completely unique with varying degrees of beauty, masculinity, and femininity--instead of vanities and the praises of mankind. God's definition of femininity is very different from mankind's and does not involve heels, makeup, and acquiring praise and/or lust for our outward appearance. Likewise, helping others is more praiseworthy in God's eyes than accumulating excess possessions. kzbin.info/www/bejne/bmfHpJl4l7-ZjdU

[@mygirldarby]

Freud called this stage in a girl's development "penis envy," lol. He may have been right. Freud believed most women don't remember this stage because it is at about 2 or 3 years old and they repress those feelings. If the girl gets through this stage successfully she will accept her lack of a penis and when she grows up she will enter into a relationship with a man and he can "share" his penis with her through sex and marriage. If she doesn't get through this stage successfully, Freud thought it could cause her to become a lesbian.

[@lili-kayypark5577]

Yes! Exactly! That’s how I felt and still struggle with feeling sometimes. It isn’t my body I hate- it’s the way people treat me in my immediate circle.

[@Pomoscorzo]

So true.

[@locketeats]

blaire: 'i started transitioning when i was 20' girl you LOOK 20

[@karneez]

@@upthevilla9505 girl*

[@ezfaze4935]

@@upthevilla9505 Then why are you here? She is a woman. Doesn't matter if was born a man. She wants to be called she.

[@karneez]

@@upthevilla9505 pls get the fuck out why are you even here

[@ezfaze4935]

@@upthevilla9505 No it really doesn't. Why are you here? This channel is a safe place from people like you.

[@Thedefenderof707]

Sensei Lion dude, YOU learn biology. Maybe if you researched it you would find out sex and gender are different things and there’s scientifically more than XX and XY chromosomes. Love seeing transphobes ignore actual facts lmao

[@VultureVlogger]

This is really sad... this person will probably always be perceived as a trans woman which is gonna bring a whole other set of problems

[@user-gz7kt7vf1g]

VV i never thought about that but yeah :/

[@andreaam805]

Lol trans women don’t have such deep voices

[@tompossessed1729]

Yeah therapy requirements should be in place before making the choice

[@skybear17]

Ya she'll probably actually develop dysphoria now which is so sad :(

[@VioletDeathRei]

@@andreaam805 They don't after practice or shorting the vocal cords with surgery. Doesn't mean they can't speak in a deep register.