I Started Over at Over 50: Here's How I Overcame The Challenges

Starting over in life at over 50 is not easy. There's so many things to consider, specially when it comes to finances. It can be difficult to know what help you can get and where to get the help that you need. In this video I share what I've learnt, how I learnt to live on benefits, looking for a job and what has helped me survive starting over at over 50.
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[@tomfocht8648]

I'm a 57 year old man who has struggled for years with anxiety since I was 10 years old, I was married for 26 years, have two adult daughters, and very proud of both of them. I've been divorced and living alone for 8 years now and counting. I struggled at first with being alone, but over the years had learned a lot about myself. I have not been in a relationship since my divorce, I thought it is best to work on myself first, as I felt this is important. You have to love yourself before you can love others. I subscribed cause I resonate with your struggles, your vulnerable, and how you're working to overcome them one day at a time. I wish you the best and will keep watching to see what you have next.

[@tuesdayschild7899]

Just found your channel. I stayed in a marriage for way to long without love, kindness or even a kiss. I was terrified of starting over and being alone. I finally 'escaped' at 60 but it was so hard. I am in the USA and lived with assisstance from gov. agencies until I was eligible for social security. At that time I got $800 a month. BUT when he died, I was able to draw his social security since we were married over 10 years....My income jumped to over $3000!!! He would roll over in his grave if he could... I got the last laugh. Thank you for sharing your journey. Blessings & hugs from a sister in America~

[@wildeevolution]

I’m so happy that worked out for you!

[@dharmagems]

I am Filipino American single woman at 51 years. I am single for 10+ years after divorce and currently this year I started another relationship. It has been a rollercoaster of inner awareness and to be more kind to myself. Like you, I am also more attuned to my physical and mental health no matter what. You are not alone. I am grateful to have found your channel. You are brave to put yourself out there and share your life. Much blessings in this part of your inner journey.

[@SoulCareOver50]

@dharmagems Thank you so much for being here. You've probably guessed I'm Filipino too! Well done on starting a new relationship. At this point in my life, I can't even think about another relationship, so I understand the 10+ years of waiting. Wishing you the best on your new relationship ♥

[@HANREG]

My first boss said to me not to be intimidated by people who come in with more knowledge, use them, learn from them. Another great video, thanks for sharing.

[@davewordsworth1251]

I am in my 40s and you really resonate with me, I am sending you love and kindness. You seem a lovely soul.

[@kimdavid2379]

You are a brave woman and don't underestimate the courage it takes to break away and learn to be independent. There is so much judgment if you leave especially if you have to go on benefits but your mental health is all that matters not what others think. Let them walk a mile in your shoes and see how they would cope, Blessings to you. x

[@SoulCareOver50]

Thank you so much for your kind words and your encouragement. I really appreciate you ♥

[@Kay-12345]

Finding your channel has been such a blessing to me! I am a single female in your age group and going through a change as well. It can feel scary at times. Thank you for your honesty ❤️❤️🙏🙏🏿♥️♥️.

[@SoulCareOver50]

Thank you for being here on this journey of ours. The 'change' is definitely a scary and challenging time! I will be sharing my 'menopause' diet and lifestyle in future videos. I hope you will find them helpful ♥

[@fyrish100]

I’m male 55 next month , travelled a fair bit ,own place ,great health ,love the outdoors no stress or debt a,life is good ,content on my own ,no kids , almost married a few years ago but never happened ,I kind of still think that I just haven’t met my soul mate yet but don’t really expect that to happen now , but seeing your videos you are gorgeous & come across as a cracking lass , gives me hope …u never know what’s round the corner yet ,thanks for your videos ,good luck ❤ from north Scotland 🏴󠁧󠁢󠁳󠁣󠁴󠁿

[@nicola1466]

Beautiful, strong, elegant and brave. Thank you for sharing

[@deborahdownward3881]

Learning so much from you. When I go food shopping I love finding those reduced items! I class it as my little win against supermarkets that pay their top bosses obscene amounts of salary and bonuses, don't be ashamed, treat it like a win. Everyone is looking for bargains these days and no one notices if you are too.

[@TheEuroPats]

But you have made it and life is now what YOU make it. I have been there too and can definitely testify that life is so much better now. Thank you for sharing. You got this!!

[@SoulCareOver50]

Thank you for sharing and your kind words. I'm glad that life is better for you now too! 😍

[@lyciamessersmith5348]

Thank you for your courage to talk about this topic. I went through the same thing at 55 after I lost my family of origin. What amazing freedom!!

[@DrPreetiSahu]

sending so much warmth and strength your way

[@Betsymillsome12345]

Hello, I have just watched your video, it's very insightful, just one thing about Universal Credit...THAY will pay all your fares if you ask, so when you go on Job fares make sure you look into this, THIS is for anybody who needs this info.......stay beautiful & enjoy your birthday..🥀🌺🌻🌹🎂🍪🍨🍧🍦🥧🍾..I am also alone after my husbands affair, it took me 3 years to come to terms and to start over alone has been the most difficult thing I had to do....This year I decided it was my time and I'm happy to go through my next journey alone...London aged 65..........🥰

[@CoffeandTea1]

To have youtube channel was good decision because you will help yourself and others ❤new subscriber

[@Dr.DorisTorres]

Yes, be kind to yourself. So proud of you for how far you’ve come ❤❤❤❤

[@SoulCareOver50]

Hi Doris, thank you for your support and for being here ♥

[@btlfilmmedia9514]

Stary strong sweetie many of us have tread your path ,like you say look after your health and self love and care are paramount youre looking fine for it ..God bless you

[@mjaybee]

You can’t look backwards or feel sorry for yourself. Just keep moving forward.

[@dothemath3664]

Thanks for sharing your story. Happy birthday! My birthday is next week as well. I'll be 48 on 11/14 and I am having to reinvent my life in a way. My son joined the US Marine Corps and I am suddenly an empty nester. I am having lots of emotions. These changes are happening to all of us all the time and it's nice to hear other people's experiences and perspectives. Thanks for these videos. Good luck!

[@SoulCareOver50]

Thank you for being here. I feel for you being an empty nester. It was so hard when I was a new empty nester. It took at least a year to start feeling better knowing my children were getting on with their lives and being aware that I had the opportunity to do what I wanted. Wishing you a happy birthday and happy new opportunities! ♥

[@ann_undefined]

A great list of lessons learned

[@cheesymice]

My mother taught me to look for the "quick sale" foods. My dinner last night was quick sale pork chops, and they were delicious! No shame in it at all, you're saving yourself money and saving food.

[@georgechan9258]

All the best

[@Bella34544]

At 46 childfree and never married never lived with anyone and have always been financially independent I'm so thankful for my choices. Nothing is more important than keeping your financial independence no matter your circumstances. Never ever ever rely on a man financially and have your own house learn how to do things for yourself keep your independence

[@balzoemg8415]

Me too!

[@balzoemg8415]

Me too!

[@kiarntz]

Thanks for sharing❣️

[@mercurious6699]

Great video, and kudos to you for your courage. Wishing you many blessings and all good things. May the rest of your life be inspiring, filled with abundance and kindness, laughter and good friends

[@SoulCareOver50]

Thank you for your kindness ♥

[@DrPreetiSahu]

you’re very inspiring and courageous

[@sujatadang2704]

Hi.....u have come a long way. U should take pride in what u r today... YOURSELF.....I also went through something what u went through ....I've stopped being people pleaser.....I hope your journey gets better....love and light to u 🤗🤗🤗

[@Wellbeing-ub6js]

Thank you for sharing your story and for inspiring others that it is possible to start over again over 50. Also thank you for sharing your tips on nutrition when going through a difficult time as it's so easy to reach for junk food, which only makes one feel worse afterwards. I really wish you all the best on your journey.

[@peterashton5941]

Thank you for sharing your story. I found you to be resourceful and courageous. Take care and stay safe.

[@Florica-d9d]

You are very strong 👍You are not alone 🌈🌹❤️🙏

[@cxa011500]

Keep it up. Keep sharing your story.

[@PompanoSunshine19]

You are kind, smart, strong and inspirational. Thank you for sharing with us.

[@getthoma300]

Thank you for sharing your story. HappyBirthday. As a side note the location you filmed in is beautiful. 🙏🏽🙏🏽🎊

[@SoulCareOver50]

Thank you for your birthday wishes 😍 I'm glad you like the location. I wasn't comfortable talking about the topics at home, so I had to find a different location. Thankfully the park was pretty empty at the time 😃

[@spindelnett6315]

What I'm getting from this is that you're a survivor, so that's massively to your credit. From my own experience, I believe that very few relationships work out long term. It's better to master being independent and having a few best friends, than living with someone and expecting it to last. I'm gobsmacked that The System is taking more than half your income though. That's just downright theft! It's partly why I left fulltime work years ago, to create an offgrid smallholding in Cumbria and live very comfortably from a below taxation threshold income. Stay strong 🙏

[@SoulCareOver50]

Thank you for being here. You're right about relationships. I think that we never really know what happens behind closed doors in those seemingly perfect relationships. As for the system, it's a case of two steps forward and one step back. It's rubbish I know, but it has helped me. Otherwise it may have been a different situation. Having a small holding sounds lovely! I'd love to be able to do the same one day 😍

[@spindelnett6315]

@SoulCareOver50 It took a lot of blood, sweat, tears, burnt bridges and lost friends to create my smallholding. But it's proven to be the most important life decision I've ever made, and is paying back at last. My first guest cabin has now been built, of materials from my land and I'm crossing my fingers that guests will love staying there, free of WiFi and the daily demands of city life. It's a beautiful landscape here.

[@justinaoska5901]

Thank you for sharing

[@SoulCareOver50]

Thank you, I really appreciate you being here ♥

[@7SideWays]

Happy pre-birthday and thank you!

[@SoulCareOver50]

Thank you for your birthday wishes ♥

[@alexadellastella5247]

thank you for sharing!!! and congratulations for what you have done and went through

[@dawnhopkins5495]

So courageous ....I admire you thank you for sharing!

[@TheSoulProponent]

Refreshing video content. Bold and beautiful.

[@SoulCareOver50]

Thank you so much! 😊

[@Suranjitds]

Thanks you mam❤❤❤❤ sharing your experiences👍👍👍👍

[@lesb9613]

Looking forward to more of your videos. Your story is inspiringhawould you share how you got out of your marriage. How did you leave?

[@Materialworld4]

Oh God Honey, it really hit me hard seeing you being overcome by your emotions at 2:43 in your video. Please know and understand you are worthy of deep and profound respect just as you are. My god you are an exceptional human being with a very high Emotional IQ. In life there are so many people who have no empathy, are cruel, who thrive on denigrating those around them. I experience those type of people everyday in Scottsdale, Arizona, USA where I live, so please understand what you are experiencing is the norm in many places. Cruelty, and thoughtlessness are inculcated into vile people's souls from a very young age, and they are incapable of seeing it, or recognizing it as evil. As an American my own experiences are not that different from your own. Some emotional themes in life are universal no matter where you live. From my own personal perspective you are on the right path, you are growing spiritually and emotionally which is to be commended. Now I am give you my verdict, you are highly intelligent, have a high emotional IQ, are grounded in reality, aesthetically beautiful, and elegant. I have no idea where you live, but I sincerely wish you well on your journey.

[@lucythornton7402]

You are in control of you and all will be well awesome job being a strong person ❤

[@SoulCareOver50]

Thank you so much 😊

[@johncee8084]

I am 55 and I'm July 2023 i made radical changes and dropped 45 pounds/20.4 kg by walking and changing what i drink and eat. I understand when you said 1 pound 75 was the cost of a meal so, no taking transit into town. Hard times make people strong. You are incredibly strong. Best wishes from the USA!

[@SoulCareOver50]

That's amazing transformation on your weight loss! Well done! Do you feel better for it? I lost a lot of weight from walking too (a bit too much). Thankfully my improved life situation has helped me put healthy weight and muscle back on. Thank you for your kind words ♥

[@johncee8084]

​@@SoulCareOver50 I brought up my physical health updates b/c you mentioned somewhere about you joining a gym even though you are getting thru some financial challenges. The physical activity and exercise has a direct correlation to your mental health and I'm glad you've joined the gym. Results I noticed with my changes: - I don't 'huff n puff' by going up a flight of stairs to my apartment or up a small incline in the community where I live - My brain feels 'lighter' - I don't know if that makes sense (but it does to me) - I can clip my toenails without issue - LOL!!! - And, of course, clothing fits (or fits better) *I need to work on muscle physical strength and I have literally just started doing yoga. About Me: July/2023 - 265 pounds/120.2 kg March/2024 - 220 pounds/99.79 kg -I'm 6'1"/1.85 meters -Alcohol Free since July/2023 to ensure weight loss success ----------- PS: You got me - and probably every single person (who has a heart) right in the feels at 2:40 - when you tell people, "Be kind to yourself. Be really really kind to yourself." You teared up a little and took a time out. You were reminding yourself while telling us. And this is a challenge you have currently and will overcome. I teared up a little here and I felt your pain. I felt my own brain needing to hear 'Be really really kind to yourself." I understand looking for and buying the yellow sticker on food that will expire and cooking it or putting it in the freezer. Your message is strong and powerful. I don't think you realize how many people you are going to reach with your videos because in 1 year, if you keep going down this path, you are going to see something magical as you and we get to see your continued transformation. (You may also like DanaFindwell (on youtube) she is re-starting also). Thank you for sharing your journey. I'll keep watching if you keep posting. 😊 It's 640 AM here and time for my 4 mile walk. Peace. -JC

[@CalvinMorris-cf8jk]

great job, wishing you the best and may all your dreams come true, thank you for sharing your stories 👍

[@SoulCareOver50]

Thank you for being here and your kind words ♥

[@AbidaS0301]

Thank yoy sweetie for sharing great honest story ❤ you take care ❤beatiful soul❤❤❤❤

[@SoulCareOver50]

Thank you for your kindness 😍

[@severineskichen]

These are amazing tips, thank you for sharing

[@SoulCareOver50]

I'm glad you find them helpful 😊

[@bridgetb9899]

thanks for sharing this...I'm 52 and planning to start over. I'm really worried about finding work to support myself.

[@SoulCareOver50]

Thank you for being here. Starting over is hard, I won't lie. But it's totally worth it and you'll feel the relief once you take the steps to doing what's right for you. The most important thing is to believe in yourself and focus on the positive of where you want to go. I talk more about this on part 2 of my learnings. Wishing you strength on your new life ♥

[@bridgetb9899]

It does seem hard, thanks for saying it's worth it! You're an inspiration ❤ ​@@SoulCareOver50

[@margarettownsley9500]

Hello there and thank you for your video and sharing your experiences you say how expensive you found it food shopping for the 1st time shopping on your own ? Can I ask why didn’t shop previously to have a understanding of the price of food ‘ I’m also living on my own and I totally understand what control is and to what extent some people go to for the sake of controlling us’ I wish you well on this new journey you find yourself in 🌻

[@SoulCareOver50]

@margarettownsley9500 Thanks for watching and asking. I did wonder whether that topic was going to be asked. I was living in the countryside and the nearest shop was 15 minutes drive away. I was told before moving in, that we were going to get me a car - it never happened. Knowing what I know now, control was definitely an issue.

[@margarettownsley9500]

@ thank you for your reply yes control comes to mind otherwise we’d all be doing our food shop etc but we must never forget our worth and better days are ahead ‘ I find myself eating more than I should be I need to make changes so I’m trying to clip my own feathers at the moment and drinking from the well of wellness

[@SoulCareOver50]

@@margarettownsley9500 I know what you mean about eating more. I think I need to do cut back bit too. I'm enjoying the freedom being able to eat what I want too much I think 😂

[@margarettownsley9500]

@ haha 😁yes we can do as we please eat whatever we want it’s great I honestly wouldn’t change it for anything

[@vannesagannon4555]

❤❤❤

[@SoulCareOver50]

Thank you ♥

[@synapsegurl7]

Hi I’m a new subscriber.

[@visionvixxen]

I don’t need any job chairs. I just wish I could learn about my neurodivergent and how to master in Gainesville. I don’t have in order to go back to things I could’ve done like graduate and professional school. Do you know what I mean at the very least I would just go back to my old joband 1 million places would accept me in a heartbeat or I could just start it myself but I just don’t want to cause it. It wasn’t enough to live on and I’m not a side hustle person. I don’t know how to explain that to people but they’re just things you learn that

[@oriel4261]

14:50 Job Center takes 55% wages ? Why ? If you are part time and still eligible for UC ?

[@fhgfj-v7d]

Rephrasing Virginia Woolfe a woman in order to avoid abuse has to have her own living space

[@TracyMeechan]

"The job centre takes 55% of your wages ?" - Hun please have a look at our contract - no job centre or agency in the UK would be tking this amount from you legitimately - consider approaching your employer direct

[@SoulCareOver50]

The job centre is the government organisation that oversees the distribution of benefits. They reduce the benefits I get, in relation to how much my job pays me or others on benefits.

[@chrysalis4126]

Under Universal Credit they take 55p off your benefit for every pound you earn. I was on Universal Credit a few years ago and it was 63p then!!

[@muma6559]

Job centre takes 55% of your wages... what the hell are you talking about? why? Can you get a nutritionist job?

[@muma6559]

Does the UK have work superannuation? you get at 60yrs ?

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[@SoulCareOver50]

Thank you for sharing 😊