I Threw an Epic Party in the World’s Loneliest City

[@SeekDiscomfort]

A stranger is just a friend that you haven't met yet

[@iamarizonaball2642]

Please do a video in Arizona

[@AlexStormDrake]

This channel has been slowly turning me from and introvert to an extrovert, but wow you make it look easy

[@SeekDiscomfort]

@@AlexStormDrake Definitely not easy... you just got to start somewhere, right? :)

[@racerex340]

You need to recreate this across Scandinavia. In my experience, the culture in Norway, Sweden, Denmark and even parts of Finland make meeting new friends after leaving university extremely challenging. As a foreigner traveling there, I discovered in all four countries that people were almost terrified of the idea of a stranger speaking to them on the bus or train, or while walking alone on the street, which is crazy given how warm and caring the people tend to be. Great idea!

[@iamarizonaball2642]

@@SeekDiscomfort hello, Arizonan here, and a fan of the dodo bird, like, a full supporter of their revival from extinction. I was wondering, if I could, visit Mauritius, and enjoy time with the Mauritian government, possibly. As for things to do, mainly it could be dodo bird related, as they are really on my mind. Besides this idea, being an Arizonan, for a less homesick experience, visiting Australia could work, due to the fact that well, Arizona and Australia aren’t too different.

[@JackpotsPH]

I love old school yes theory videos.

[@tylerstwertnik6693]

yeah the skydiving and friendship building was sorely missed

[@WeylandLabs]

@@tylerstwertnik6693 Well sir if your ever in Northern Nevada / California look me up, I'll skydive with you ! I've done it before but nobody wants to go that I know now. 😂

[@Sweet111323]

Old school and boring.

[@karolinamackiewicz514]

My thought exactly!

[@tylerstwertnik6693]

@@Sweet111323 cry about it. This is where the audience came from, videos like this. Wouldn't exist without shit like this

[@theagresticreader]

When the German lady approached the stranger. It gave the same energy as a mother asking little children to become friends with her kids.

[@yasminbam8852]

😂😂😂😂

[@al-nur999]

Lmao right 😂😂😂

[@lucbloom]

lol. Nothing worse than “excuse me, THEY are looking for people to go to their party” Like they’re too afraid to ask

[@Chadmi333]

​@@lucbloom what's the problem with that???? that lady that she ask came to the party. stop barking

[@lillilang1187]

Well it worked so I think I did quite good after all ☺️ it‘s not about the way of asking someone but to just do it :)

[@cpmow831]

Staffan is such a warm and positive dude that he could ask you to donate both your kidneys for fun and you would say yes

[@Sebbir]

and then he would jump up and down in excitement and give you a warm hug. Pretty worth it if you ask me.

[@cpmow831]

@@Sebbir yup! Exactly. Then you would be on the table and be like, “Wait a minute!” Tommy: “NOPE…too late.” EDIT: 131 likes in 5 hours! Holy cow…

[@jimmybenson3378]

@Repent and believe in Jesus Christ press F to give respects

[@MrGilleez]

I feel like he would grow a third one just so he could give that one away also, such a warm soul

[@Ashley_Mo]

@@jimmybenson3378Respectfully, what is your ultimate goal when commenting this everywhere?

[@imatallmidget7881]

So blessed to have been at the event, met so many great new people, and even got a discount on a bed out of it😆 thank you Staffan and Tommy for this amazing event, we’ll make sure to keep these events happening in stockholm🙌🏽

[@formgeben]

Did you make new friends with some of them?

[@imatallmidget7881]

@@formgeben of course! All these prople were amazing and I am sure I will hang out with them again!

[@Jonsmo3]

I also live in Sweden, wished they would have found me and invite me too 😄

[@girishsuri5655]

Can we plan the same event in the Gothenburg?

[@wexfordbuccos_7161]

I needed this today. I’ve been in a very dark place lately. Thank you. A little light in the dark

[@ZebbeSebbe]

Keep fighting my friend, the light is sometime hard to find in the dark.

[@proph_t]

Head up buddy. If you see a shadow you know there is light behind an object. Just get around it! I don’t know you, but I believe in you! ❤

[@lukedav]

Hang in there, it gets better I promise

[@m3r3dith]

Sending you a virtual big old hug! 🫂♥️

[@ADowneyBear9]

"Happiness can be found, even in the darkest of times, if one only remembers to turn on the light." - Albus Dumbledore

[@YurikRoss]

Its funny how in a video about making a party for Swedish people it took a German and an Ukrainian girls to say yes lol

[@eliaspettersson9459]

what??

[@YurikRoss]

@@eliaspettersson9459 They were there to make a party for Swedish people and the first 2 that said yes were Ukrainian and German. I thought it was funny.

[@driesjansen3273]

@@YurikRoss yup thought the same haha

[@mtmcommunity]

​@@YurikRossa lot of them come from Ukraine and Germany because of the war that's going on over there today. Not so much Germany but definitely Ukraine. I even have people from Ukraine showing up here in Arizona, it's crazy

[@kiimaro]

@@mtmcommunity You really didn't understand what he meant by the comment did you?

[@Tjenaralex]

I live in Stockholm and got sooo excited when you posted about needing a salsa instructor and some spontaneous people! I really wanted to go, but I had to look after my boyfriend who had just gone through surgery on both feet and were unable to walk 😅 It truly is hard to meet new friends here in Sweden. The older you get, the harder it is and it really sucks. I've lived in Stockholm since january 2017 and I've only met one person that I can hang out with. If anyone here wants a friend who loves beer, tattoos, concerts, gaming and running, feel free to hit me up 👋

[@EricaGamet]

I am hopefully coming back to visit Stockholm next year to visit my niece and her baby. I have been once and I love it there! If you're looking for virtual friends who would come hang out when visiting, feel free to reach out. I've been learning Swedish and need an excuse to get better at it!

Fellow Stockholmer here and I couldn't get many friends either -- been here since 2016 and I've only really gotten to know people via work. But then someone from work invited me to a bar where i met a community of amazing people! Even invited a few people from yes fam to join us on our Saturday quizzes :D I'd be happy to hang out some time!

[@victoriazwergmaus9813]

Sadly i don t live in Stockholm, i life in Switzerland! But i swear i feel the same, the older you get the harder. Specialy when you have been 14 years in a relationship and then broke up! Puffff and real life hits you hard, as most people around you are not single, still youre friends but what shall they do with you, as i am single now?! 🤷🏽‍♀️ So if you wane chatt, i still listen 👋🏽👋🏽

[@jeremychoong5792]

Hope your bf will recover soon.

[@aashishsheoran2031]

​@@victoriazwergmaus9813Life is not easy, but we should be happy in every situation. I can understand what you are going through?Because I have also gone through this situation. If you want to talk about anything, I'm..............

[@aprilflanagan4354]

‘What’s the worst that could happen?’ ‘We spend time together and this video doesn’t see the light of day’ I love that your that positive that even if it flops atleast you got to hangout and enjoy your time. It didn’t flop btw haha surprised that many people showed

[@brianhurst767]

This is so epic, I find that people are so busy to realize how isolated we've become, of course the global pandemic still has lasting effects, but it's almost like we've created a culture of no, your mission helps link people who want to say yes!

[@Kayslays2489]

I feel the same way, I'm from New York City!

[@a.schmidt3096]

You have no idea how much this resonates with me- making friends that you actually connect with, and not friends of convenience, is so hard as an adult. Thanks for helping people overcome that such a welcome idea ❤️

[@victoriazwergmaus9813]

@a.schmidt3096 I 100% agree as an adult too 😉

[@koko-pe7es]

Just moved to a new city, feeling kind of lonely and you guys reminded me to not be afraid of making new connections ! :-)

[@PianoWrecker]

Which city ? This will be me soon in about a month. Looking forward to what lies ahead !

[@joostfloot5279]

@@PianoWrecker I can recommend to join a club, maybe sports, music or reading. It's a great way to quickly get to know some people!

[@PianoWrecker]

@@joostfloot5279 thanks I will definitely try that.

[@CemreA]

I love how awkward and fun this is 😂🥹🥹🥹

[@nunyabizness9216]

This is the SD content that your subs want! This type of spontaneous gathering is what made your channel so popular! Please continue!

[@valentinspitzer6340]

word!!!

[@ReturnOf2008]

You should do one of these stranger events with people over a certain age. Like strangers over 60 would be cool

[@camikandila_]

I love stefan's little jumps of joy after people say yes! love these videos guys!!!!

[@iinfinitz]

old school yes theory back in action...love it.

[@pikatura_23]

that's really what i need in my life right now.friends who make me do spontaneous things and make leave my comfort zone.i wish i could have a friends like that in real life.

[@vemovasnena]

This came at the perfect time. Im going to a friends making event in Vancouver, BC on monday. This calmed my social anxiety a bit and hopefully I’ll be able to talk to some people there 😅

[@ThyCoolio]

I moved to a new city almost a year ago and have been very isolated for months but recently because of a yes Theory community group, I’ve made some of the best friends I’ve ever had here and feel alive again

[@dtd166]

i wish this would happen to me too. but there are no active yes fam groups in southern germany i think.. :(

[@jajet]

It's wonderful to see the return of the old concept of the videos! I had a seek discomfort thing myself lately. I was quite afraid to do this, but I really want to improve my English. So a few weeks ago, I started taking English classes and I met already so many new people who share the same goal of learning and improving their English.

[@bengtal]

LOL, my parents are from Sweden, and Staffan saying "yoin" instead of pronouncing the J "Join" is suuuuuuuper typical 😂 Also swapping Vs and Ws for some reason, like saying Willage instead of Village. Staffan is a gem, and so are you all. Stay together forever plz 🙏💙💖

[@lisakruger86]

I am swedish and so many swedish people say Darth Wader, so yes. You are right 😀

[@bengtal]

@@lisakruger86 hahahaha, yes I can totally imagine that 😂💗🌍

[@toadster5519]

i am very introverted and this gives me the encouragement to do it but i’m not even 18 and live in a small place i. retrospect that is also quite dangerous, sadly. but thank you for making this video as it encouraged at least one person who watched it to do what you guys did! Much love ❤️❤️❤️

[@EsmaTabak55]

This is wonderful. It needs to happen more often. People need to get out and talk, enjoy life and make new friends.

[@jpzellar]

Cutie pie!? I feel so seen! Seriously thank you for getting out from behind the editing software and keeping Yes something that keeps motivating me. Please don’t stop. And also thanks to my new favorite Swede for bringing ALL the positive vibes ALL the time.

[@kimbillieparbery8589]

sitting here alone in my apartment in new zealand crying over this oml this is so pure

[@michaela_gilly]

Which city? Im Auckland ❤

[@kimbillieparbery8589]

@@michaela_gilly chch sadly!

[@Thyranel]

As a swede and when Staffan just sade yes when they asked him 4 years ago. Have got me more intune to be more outgoing and want to say yes to more things.

[@Zabonkabonk]

I will absolutely be hosting a friends making friends event in Seaside, OR this summer!!! Bonfire, surfing, adventure, and Sparking new connections!! It's always a gift to receive inspiration from the Yes Team!

[@sophia6583]

How did it go?

[@lillilang1187]

Thank you so much for this amazing opportunity and for this great kick start for my time in Sweden 😍 had the best time! keep it going :)

[@xbree_]

Lilli! Ty for saying yes! I hope you enjoy your time in Sweden and take care!

[@coolstealth11]

That's awesome you got the opportunity! One day I hope to do/have the same thing!

[@BenRobson123]

Inspirational as always. I was worried a little at first thinking nobody was going to show up, but you guys always manage to turn it around! The world needs more of this, now more than ever! Don't underestimate the power of talking and meeting with strangers 😄

[@lucbloom]

They purposely played it down and showed a lot of failure. 😂 I was also worried. Lol mission accomplished!

[@Yoshhhhh]

This genuinely put the biggest smile on my face, what an awesome concept. Bringing people together in a way that ends with new connections and an all around sense of happiness is one of the best things in the world. There are so many people out there who might have so many similar interests to you that you don't even know exist, and so many people out there who have had vastly different interests and experiences to you who can share some of the best stories and different perspectives on so many things. Something about people just going out there and connecting with others is so undeniably heartwarming to see.

[@shiannelopez]

I don’t know why but this video had me tearing up. So heartwarming, I loved it 😊

[@genepatterson4375]

I just luv Staffan, he is always smiling and so full of life, so innocent and real with an amazing personality. Great addition to your team.

[@jeanmariereed1646]

This was beautiful! And you had a ton of great people attend! What an epic success! Such an interesting statistic about Stockholm. Hopefully the seed you planted with this idea will continue to flourish in Stockholm by new friends made in this group. Loneliness is a very serious and painful situation. This content was very fun, uplifting, and moving. Everyone who attended this event seemed super happy to be there.

[@salto1994]

I love these yes theory style videos. I hope there will be more in the future

[@Dutchbelg3]

Cool initiative! It is always so much fun to connect with other people. We just all have created walls to prevent getting hurt and/or disappointed...

[@Ellada0427]

No idea how I came upon this video but this was so nice to see.. complete strangers having a great time together and making new friends. Oh and I also live in Stockholm 😅

[@alyswonder]

it's a sign to meet new people. Nice meeting you Ellada. 🎉❤

[@Ellada0427]

@@alyswonder hahah nice to meet you too! 😀

[@Mariia270]

I moved to another country 7 months ago and I feel lonely quite often even thought I live with my partner and with our friends. I would love if someone approached me like that. Such a cool initiative! Thank you for bringing people together

[@pfariapt]

That’s what life is about, enjoy the ride with an open mind 🙏🏽 love that!

[@studioshkafa]

You are amazing, guys! I have tears in my eyes from joy seeing how you make people happy!

[@georgegeorgescu3900]

It's all about connecting people, that's what is all about, creating bridges regardless differences. Good job you guys. Greetings from Montréal, QC, Canada, where all of this started, remember?

[@thecrazy8888]

Amazing! Suggestion: when you guys do things like that, hand out a card with QR code to a KZbin video promoting the event and bring a girl for goodness’s sake, two guys hanging around the door would make anyone nervous.

[@neverlandtribe235]

This!

[@3arthIsGhetto]

Yea I can def see why women especially would be hesitant. Showing they have an established channel would probably ease a lot of minds.

[@Amat-qe8hr]

@@3arthIsGhetto thats the point, they want people to say yes without knowing they have a big channel like any of us

[@tgwilber]

you're suppose to be nervous! seek discomfort!

[@abellink]

@@tgwilber but we’re talking nervous about your safety, that’s different than social anxiety

[@hellosonoma8696]

It's so exciting to see people connecting based on where they live!! I've been doing something similar in Sonoma for the past 2 years (just in a way smaller city where "everyone already knows each other" is a common myth). We're due for another Hello Sonoma! party in mid-July...

[@jonas.zehnder]

Another inspiring video. Love those kind of videos where we literally get to see how saying yes can change the whole situation. Just amazing. Great job on organizing this amazing event.

[@crossitoff51]

Early days of Yes Theory vibe. Love it guys!

[@BakesSunlight7]

An actual yes theory video. Very well done guys. Great work, good effort, great entertainment.

[@_J_P]

Was a bit worried at first! Swedes don't like to say no and when they say "maybe" it usually means no 😄

[@jonnan24]

As a swede with social anxiety I wish more people did this. I just finished up my first year on university in a new town and this university is known to be really kinda closed for newcomers. I don't drink and party so it's been really hard to fins a community. The first term I really struggled just getting out of bed, sometimes skipping lectures and coming home crying 'cause I felt so astranged and lonely. It's better now but I still feel the loneliness. I've only made three friends here and it's been rough. Well at least one of them and I agreed we need to find community next year. I've been following this channel for years and sometimes I feel unworthy to call my self a yesfam member 'cause I don't challange myself as much. But just the thought of going to an event can be crypaling Just that of deciding to go outside can be a huge step of discomfort. Just take a step at a time, be kind to yourself and keep on moving forward. Yupp. just needed to say that. Thanks! ❤❤ Also if you're organising anything in south Sweden, let me know ;)

[@GrowingUpWithoutBorders]

You guys are so courageous.

[@saramarkowicz]

OMG your party was EPIC ! EVERY human being wants connection. We just absolutely need it ! I love what you guys are doing !

[@LeezPgh]

So so good y’all!!! Love the sweet lady at the end saying thanks to you. 💛💛💛

[@katealsip330]

You guys are truly an inspiration. Love you

[@shynique1898]

Watching you go up to these people and talking to them to ask them to join you triggered my anxiety and my heartrate went up just from watching you and I felt that,making friends or even going up to a stranger is extremely difficult and the moment everyone was together enjoying the moment,I cried so much 😭😢I love everything that you guys do for this world ❤you are truly inspiring ⭐️

[@SaraTheGemini]

The 'Hi cutie pie note' from the editor made me smile. 😂🥰

[@victoriazwergmaus9813]

@SaraTheGemini Me too

[@kendallblalock1052]

Old school videos are such a throw back and just brings more strangers together and out their comfort. Oroville ca area would be amazing! I'd love to participate

[@user-cz9nl2rd4u]

I was feeling nervous before going out to meet some new people today, but after watching the first 10 minutes of this, I was in a much more positive state and was able to meet people from this positive state :)

[@annemacleod1421]

Love that the band said YES. They saw an opportunity! We viewers know saying YES will have a profound consequence. We watch this video and WISH people to say Yes and never a no! It just needs a spark - Staffan and Thomas…and then you have a fire! It’s like a cool school summer camp! 🔥🔥👬👭👫🔥🔥🐑🐑🇳🇿🇳🇿NZ

[@jeffffro7674]

This is all of a sudden, ONE OF THE BEST VIDEOS I'VE SEEN RECENTLY!!! I absolutely love this idea and that pesky Corvid or whatever it's called, has just about ruined the entire planet it seems half the time! You guys can count on hearing from me in the near future for contact info and scheduling of my very own 'Friends Making Friends' party!! I just moved recently and my life is a bit upside down currently so nothing will happen immediately but I will definitely get it squeezed in before the end of this year. When I am finally in the position to have this party I'm going to set it up the same way you two did for this one, I'm gonna start asking the guests if they would be interested in attending something like this no more than 3 days before the event is due to happen. I'm thinking the spontaneity of it all is the most important part to making the idea work the best way possible. Once again.... incredible video and incredible party my friends! Remember your openness to possibly coming to make some MORE friends when I contact you with the itinerary, this party will be in KCMO(Kansas City Missouri) not very far at all from where Kelce and Mahomes have recently been commanding the world's attention, and getting it!!! This town is extremely fun because it's filled with a whole heckuva lot of extremely fun people!!! Since that pesky pandemic hit all that changed. I'm calling BS!!! on that though, all I can do is speak for KC when I say that NOTHING HAS TO CHANGE! We can easily go back to where we were before.....on the path to building a greater place to live and work and create and inspire change!!! When we work together for a common goal there is no boundaries to where things will go!!!! Hope all are well and actively moving towards the brighter future you deserve!

[@kaylenmcclure8604]

You guys should come to Seattle, WA sometime! Love how you live your life! I'm always open to making new friends!

[@daniellalevin5509]

I had such a good time thank you!! ❤

[@jon-andri-zogg]

Hi! I'm from Stockholm , sad that I didn't meet u on tunnelbanan ... maybe next time. Thanks for another inspirational video. Kram ( a hug in Swedish)😊

[@kayle1270]

I love this type of content, Road to 1 million subscriber, lets gooo!!!

[@annamahoney8223]

I have gone door-to-door for the past 4 years during the summers and this video has me cracked up! I would love to work with y’all one day, thanks for being such an inspiration in my life. I am praying for y’all! 🥰

[@itsJules8]

What an amazing idea and video. This needs to be done in every city...

[@ethanconway3523]

glad to see this video saw the light of day

[@roskis6493]

Hahah, as a fellow Swede, I totally understand Staffan's nervousness in this video. Swedes are pretty outgoing when going abroad, but when we're in our home country, we return to social apathy. It's quite a strange phenomenon, and I think we collectively need to work on our mentality in this country, in one way or another 😅.

[@Birdanerd]

Thank you yes theory crerw, i have such a depressing existence at the moment and this video actually filled my heart with warmth again and i cant tell you how much i needed that right now

[@tripgreat]

I'm halfway through this one, and I'm starting to think that Swedes are quite happy enjoying their own company. Perhaps the loneliness was exaggerated? You guys are great!

[@AmberGiuliano]

I loved this video so much! Was smiling and clapping with every beautiful moment. Thanks again to you all for doing these amazing videos. Please do another like this in another city/country! Much love, Amber.

[@tokiepoke]

i miss this so much

[@SD-bf6hk]

This is so inspiring!!!! Great job!!!! Editors note was too cute btw!

[@SteAndRach]

Love this guys!!! Staffan and Tommy you guys have great chemistry and both have such welcoming energy with strangers 😁 what an incredible way to seek discomfort and bring people together 💛🙌

[@ryanvincent6169]

Absolutely love that Stephan has stayed a part of the Yes theory Fam. I remember the video where we met him for the first time!!

[@janeybakarbessy2330]

I think this is such a good project/event cause it's so true that so many people feel alone and everybody needs some comfort and meet new people. And I think it has to be also with different ages. Cause loneliness ageless.I would definitely come and I am 52 years young.

[@manshenriksson]

Wow! I live in Stockholm and it is crazy to recognise the location of almost every shot and seeing Staffan and Thomas in places i go to very often.

[@caitlynlindsey9302]

This gives the same vibe of what I did when I moved to fresno,ca I would just invite over cool people that I saw at a coffeehouse or at work over for new pizza place every week night and it was so helpful during my husband’s deployment 😊

[@ummalraseena5148]

This was sooo sooo wholesome love from Bahrain 🇧🇭 ❤

[@leamarleychnnl]

Yezzaaaa 🎉🎉 what a champion you guys!! Awesome event! And you guys never stop inspire me!! Well done 👏🏻

[@brt5273]

Fun! Living in Missouri, myself. I'm not much of a "joiner" and this would be outside my comfort zone but I would attend something random like this.

[@CobHes]

Brought me back to the old school videos during covid. I loved it!

[@elen7265]

More like this please! A lot of fun and interesting to watch! Thank you.

[@mbrenneman0411]

this is awesome, but even more incredible that you guys managed to plan and execute this in just 2 days

[@eternity68]

More like this ❤! Always fun to see strangers getting together

[@chill_skys_today8535]

I’m so glad to see this side of yes theory aka seek discomfort. I’ve missed it so much because this is the content I find truly inspiring. I used to watch yes theory at it beginnings and waited impatiently with each post but it changed so I slowly drifted away. This is always so heartwarming and inspiring

[@mcia05m]

Love this, love the smiles on everyone's faces.

[@palmsky1119]

Yep, it sucks to feel lonely while being around by people. Hard to make that first step. I think it would be 50/50 to answer yes to their question but i wouldn't regret it if i said yes.

[@gianmarcoingrassia6688]

This was such a great idea! Hope to be able to take part in something like this some day! It would be interesting to try this in a really international city like The Hague for people to interact with other cultures!

[@sarahbudreau2347]

Another feel good we love it, I would love to see more spontaneous parties like this

[@jenniferkenney6095]

I love this video!!! I’ve been putting myself out there n meeting new people!! Ending this week with this video made me smile big!!! ❤️❤️ it can bring so much anxiety putting yourself out there but once you make a great connection it’s worth it!! 👌🏻❤️

[@TheXunseen]

I would love to see more videos like theses. They are amazing

[@yourfrienddea]

An idea that seems so simple yet ends up being so inspiring, even for me who's simply watching it perhaps weeks later, from a screen. Thank you for you videos that spreads so much positivity and reminds us that this world isn't as bad as how we sometimes make it seem. Keep doing what you do.

[@miguelgutierrez8335]

You guys should come try that technique in my small town of Silver City, New Mexico. There's quite the spirit, here but it's quite hard making friends especially coming from a bigger town! (at least from me)

[@Americanmapping44]

I was not expecting you to say sweden! lol glad it worked out and that many people showed up and everyone looked to have enjoyed themselves

[@johnshoemakerpbc]

First friend they get isn’t even Swedish. Haha. Love it.

[@bert2526]

You guys are lovely.

[@Theo-zh4qb]

I kind of love that Stefan has gone back and shows how rare it was for the Yes Theory to happen upon (him) such an open/curious individual those 4-5 years ago

[@realitearecap]

Well done Tommy & Stefan :)

[@kliklaminaat]

I recognized a friend in this episode that I met abroad. Miguel funny to see you here!!! :D

[@CoreyMcCue]

THIS is what we all fell in love with. More of this content, PLEASE

[@gabogabundo]

you should definitely come to montevideo, uruguay. you'd be surprised about the amount of crazy and beautiful things you're going to find here. i offer myself as a guide if you ever come lol. i love you guys and i've been following you since the beginning of your adventures, you make my days better every time :). seek discomfort baby.