I've been tying my shoe laces too tightly ALL MY LIFE || Living with C-PTSD & Mental Health issues

[@laurahicks9558]

Wow! It sounds like our childhoods are similar and I absolutely cannot stand loose shoe laces. When I am out walking I stop to tighten them several times. When I am working out, I often cut off my circulation from how tight they are. I appreciate this video. It's something I never thought about.

[@simblethings]

You know I never thought a video this random would get well received 😂 it seemed such a silly thing to talk about! You need elasticated laces for your workout footwear 😆 thank you for watching and commenting, I appreciate you 💜

[@josyposy1626]

OMG! Same! But I think mine was because a certain parent of mine was always overforceful when dressing me as a child...😔 4:48 this is such an important point. I'm really glad you made it. I stayed married for over 20 yrs due to that feeling of safety. I felt like he was my rock. But I now realise it's not good to hide behind a rock your whole life! He wasn't good for my anxiety. He used to do the things that made me anxious, rather than help encourage me to face my fears and do them myself and thus become strong, and build my confidence. He also wasn't capable giving me emotional support. I now realise he's got aspergers. Which obviously made my depression & anxiety worse, having no emotional support. Vicious cycle. You stay with ppl who make you feel safe in one respect, but can make you worse in others. I have this theory that ppl with C-PTSD trauma can be drawn to autistic ppl, cos they aren't mentally capable of reading, understanding or fulfilling our emotional needs, and that is sadly what we are used to from childhood, so it feels strangely comforting cos it's familiar. Even tho it's f*kd! Sorry all. I'd be interested to know if anyone else feels the same or has had similar experience. Or if anyone knows what is the ideal partner for someone with C-PTSD?! I know we're all different, but in general I wondered if I'd be better off looking for a man who has also suffered in childhood so would understand. Or would we both be too much for each other? So would I be better off with someone from a happy stable background... but then, would they really get it and understand my issues? I'm really curious to know. Thanks for this space to ask these questions Sim. 😊

[@simblethings]

Thanks for commenting, and you have some interesting points and questions 🤔 💜

[@josyposy1626]

@@simblethings thanks, it's funny what a random video on shoelaces can throw up isn't it! Life's bigger questions! 😆

[@simblethings]

@@josyposy1626 yup you pull those threads and who knows what will unravel

[@josyposy1626]

@@simblethings Do you think you could do a future video on it to see what ppl think? Btw I thought it was a good idea to film a batch of videos to give yourself a buffer. Especially nice to get us outside while it isn't raining 😀

[@simblethings]

@@josyposy1626 so a video on relationships with people who do or don't have similar MH conditions to you?

[@irenedavo3768]

Where is this?

[@simblethings]

SE coast of England