I've made some big changes...

I have a problem with MY screen time...
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Listen, I'll be the first to tell you I'm on my phone more than I should be, EVEN though it's my job. But I say over and over, my priority to be present with my family or whomever I'm with!
I miss the days of being bored, of THINKING of not CONSUMING 90% of the day.
I want to think again, I want to be less distracted and stressed. But our lives are SO FREAKING integrated with our phones that it's SO HARD to manage this and takes A LOT of forward thinking!
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Also, a few ways to know your screen time might be a problem for you in your life.
This is not a guilt trip, this is me sharing my experience recognizing that my phone can be a problem and to see if you think it's a problem in your life!
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00:00 Screen Time is A Problem For Me...
00:26 Hey Shayla Intro
00:40 Screens Are Making Moms STRESSED
01:06 Thought Prompt Flip Book!! heyshayla.com/shop
01:58 Why does Screen time for Mom's matter?
02:48 SLEEP and screen time is such a problem!
03:05 Your brain when you're doing NOTHING
03:49 Multivitamin for 2+ years old!
04:09 Tricks that Helped Me!
04:25 Apple Watch to reduce screen time
04:42 Kindle
05:05 Charge phone outside of bedroom at night
05:17 A hair tie to reduce screen time?!
05:40 Whiteboard for To Do List
06:00 30 day digital detox
06:19 Focus on what you CAN do
06:45 If you try it, it's HARD
07:26 How to know if your screen time is a problem
07:44 what do you WANT to do with your day?
08:44 Remember being bored?
09:05 Delete the app off my home screen
09:34 30 day detoxes are liberating
09:50 I'd love to have NO social media
10:09 Your phone CAN be helpful
10:38 What about your partners screen time?

[@deec3561]

I don’t know how to get freeeeee! 😭😭😭 I quit social media and now I’ve exchanged that addiction for KZbin

[@CJ2023Incognito]

Holy cow! In the SAME freaking boat!!!

[@imperfectly_megan]

A video that helped me about this exact thing is called "so you deleted social media. Now what?" (by Reece Daniels)

[@alyrafferty9328]

Same, for years now 😖

[@sarah-erickson]

Lol, same

[@ginapurcell1732]

Same! Ugh!

[@haleybean75]

Me: “I really need to get off my phone.” Also me: “Ooo a new Hey Shayla video!”

[@heyshayla]

😅

[@Coz_tol]

Screen time is HORRIFYING. I honestly think it lies as there is nooo way I can spend that many hours a day on my phone 🤯

[@coolcatchiara]

My daughter (about to turn two) LOVES watching videos/photos of herself on my phone. So every time she sees my phone she points at it and says ‘Bubba!!!’ to let me know she wants to watch videos of herself. This has made me super conscious of how ever-present my phone is, even when I’m not using it, and has been a great motivator to stop using my phone around her. Sometimes I still like to have it close by, but will hide it from us both by putting it underneath something, so it’s out of sight, out of mind.

[@hannahsmith7814]

Yes yes yes. Let’s free ourselves from the silly devices that hold us captive and start making real connections and having real thoughts! We 👏🏻 can 👏🏻 do 👏🏻 it!!!

[@kayoss2306]

I find it so hard to balance things I do actually want/need to do on my phone, like sending a quick message or ordering something I need, and then suddenly finding I've been on my phone scrolling for 20 minutes 😳

[@jesseriley282]

I got a flip phone when I became a mom and loved it. I recently went on a road trip and got my smart phone back out for traveling and haven't put it back away. Thanks for making this video.

[@keeliemahoney7794]

I just found out I can set timers for different apps, and once I hit that limit my phone locks the app for the rest of the day. So I added that to all of my mindless scrolling apps! It's been a nice way to keep myself in check with my goals of spending less time on my phone.

[@ashleylawrence3371]

I deleted all social media off my phone years ago and told myself if i want to use it i have to manually log in on my computer. Which i never feel like doing, so I just stopped social media and it’s the best thing I ever did 😂

[@xenos911]

Side note.. you looked really good in this video

[@rebekahquinley8093]

I’m finding that being a parent has made me think about my habits. I don’t want my daughter to be as screen addicted as I am so I am trying to change my habits.

[@liga_kn]

This was a NEEDED reminder! Thank you! I have a 10 Month old.. and the phone is my best friend during nursing, nap time (like now 😅) I’m literally addicted to KZbin 🙈 i want to change that too, thanks for the tips! That one with the hair tie is good one, just need another case. Im starting to crochet and knitting. Maybe thats something instead of being on phone for 24/7

[@heyshayla]

You don’t need the case just the hair tie! It doesn’t prevent you from using but is annoying enough to make you question it if you pay attention !

[@Brianna7104]

I’ve deleted my social media apps (and KZbin!) off my phone, but I keep them on my iPad, which I don’t have with me all the time and have to more actively think about if I want to check something. That has helped me a lot! But yes I totally relate with everything you’re saying. And it was a wake up call to me when my 1 year old daughter randomly started bringing me my phone from the other room saying “here mama!”

[@CJ2023Incognito]

7:37 This is so true!!! I’ve felt the guilt hit when my child has done that. I’m so addicted. Happy to hear other talk about the struggle too!

[@brenna533]

wow my 3yo cleaned my living room while i watched this and now i feel like crap LOL. thank you though , really needed.

[@Thisorganizedmother]

Yes, I think hobbies are a huge help. So you have something else to do instead of being on your phone. I have been listening to audiobooks (okay still on my phone but I’m not staring at it!) and doing puzzles. It’s so chill and I don’t find myself overstimulated at the end of the day. And you can get audio books through the library!

[@cnlepine82]

Relate to all of this! My 15mo makes this “UUUNNNHHH!” noise at me when I’ve spaced on my phone. Her way of getting me to come back to reality. I also feel you so deeply on the inability to be “bored”. I used to read so much to fill that time. I’d bring paperbacks in my bag when I was on transit, or waiting somewhere, or… you name it. Thanks for making this and again for bringing us such great content!

[@taylormakenziereed8115]

I've decided to do a social media (Instagram and FB) free year in 2024! I'm using the rest of December to prep for it. Your newsletter is one I made sure to sign up for!

[@jourdancatts2367]

Oh man, I've been thinking about this for 8 months. Everytime I try and stop I get so full of panick and think"but what will I do when I'm bored?". You made a great point on what it was like in the 90's, because I was bored so much but often had the most fun and most creative time 😜

[@amandatyler]

LOVE this, I didn't think to have my kid turn into my accountability buddy for screen time but it is such a good idea, definitely going to start doing that! I also have been reaching for my Kindle instead of my phone lately - when my toddler is playing independently or engrossed in an activity or wrestling with Dad or whatever it is, I've been trying to read instead of scrolling and it's been so nice!

[@katieshayV]

thanks for the real practical ideas! writing things down throughout the day and deciding what you really want to do during an intentional time is golden

[@lucidlindsey]

Like always you’re reading my mind and talking about topics I myself am contemplating every day. Deleting apps and setting the screen time counter right on my home screen has really helped!

[@AlauraJones]

That’s a good idea!

[@BLucky11]

Love this, great ideas and perspective! I've been really working on this too. My husband and I actually tried flip phones for a while. GPS and camera were the hardest to be without. I quit social media years ago, but still find myself scrolling KZbin. Phones are so addicting!

[@melissac8232]

Yea this is a serious problem for me too but I’m hoping to also minimize it! Thanks for discussing it! ❤

[@imperfectly_megan]

It is definitely a problem for me too. And like you say too I am always like "what do I do now?" A thing that has helped me before that I am trying again is to tell myself: "I am OK with being bored." (Just telling myself that seems to help) My two year old has definitely brought me my phone from the other room and yes that is eye opening. I have at least quit from the overstimulating forms of the internet (quit social media except for KZbin). And thanks to your help I got my toddler off of the overstimulating forms of her screen time (She doesn't watch KZbin anymore, only TV shows). ps: I am excited for your flip book! I already pre-ordered it :)

[@heyshayla]

Yay!!! I can’t wait for it to get it!!!

[@nikkiwaltenburg4135]

Yes! All of this! I love it! ❤ I need help! I told my Son to tell me to get off the phone too.

[@dawnforlife]

I did not use my phone anywhere close to my baby for the ENTIRE first month of her life and it almost killed me. haha! But maybe postpartum was REALLY hard. I'd do it all over again though. More because of emf exposure but also respectful parenting which calls parents to be fully present for meals/diaper changes/sleep. Also, I try to sleep whenever possible because she was a high needs baby and I didn't get enough. TIPS: I try not to use my phone when my 3 year old is with me and when I do, I tell her "Give me a moment, this is important, I'm writing to grandma to tell her about ABC." or "I'd like to look this recipe up to make for dinner.". So it holds me accountable because I can't say "I'm just mindlessly scrolling." 😆

[@BLucky11]

That's a really good idea, thank you!

[@video123film]

Embarrassingly, I’m putting this off until baby arrives. I’ll probably start winding down my phone usage as i get further along, but it’s not my number one priority right this second.

[@kenziemayrae3568]

So...contact napping.... lol that's my bored phone time...eek

[@emank8137]

Thank you for this! Reeeaally needed this!

[@shaharnahman]

Love this one ❤

[@sugarlaura22]

I love this video!! Thank you! 👏🏼👏🏼

[@MommaBeeb]

I have such a hard time with this!! I have a hard time just sitting without something to do, but my 12-month-old is going to just be curious or get into anything I decide to do. I tried reading a physical book and she took my sticky note I was using as a bookmark. 😕 I love the idea of an Apple Watch, but not sure we can afford it anytime soon (though, maybe a used one could work.)

[@dawnforlife]

Just so you know..I love to read and eventually, you'll be able to do more of that again. My girl is 3 and from around 9 months till about 2 plus. She will take things from me or I can steal some reading in the playground while I let her explore a bit. This season passes very quickly and inviting her to do whatever I am doing will helps a lot. Even though it may slow everything down..it will be worth while when you look back. You are doing great! :)

[@MommaBeeb]

@@dawnforlife Thank you for the encouragement! I’m hoping for 1-2 more babies, so it might be a VERY long time, but I know I’ll get there eventually.

[@Betty_Spaghetti84]

Just gotta say.. you're so pretty.

[@maddiebeeles9363]

I’m only like a minute into this video and I need this so much right now. Especially while nursing I am on my phone way too much. I’m going to try to replace my phone with my kindle during those times. My problem is I always have a KZbin video on/in my AirPods

[@bridgetbowers4979]

Wish I could get your thought prompt book here in Australia 😩 it’s such an amazing idea. I can’t find anything like it here

[@heyshayla]

I’m working on making it digital so you can print whatever you are!!

[@aimeebuikema8214]

Do you know anymore info about emf and bluelight? It's hard to find information on it. Make you could make a video or interview someone on your podcast? Thank you for the video, you've given me some fantastic ideas.on how to cut my screen time!

[@sarahchristine546]

Watching this while I’m pumping. 😂 Guilty

[@heyshayla]

😂😂😂

[@AdrianeErin]

I love this, I get this but I do have to say, if I wasn't scrolling on Instagram I wouldn't have realized there was alternative ways to do things ie cloth diapers/ EC, and I wouldn't have found you. Just saying 😉

[@megs_ae1617]

HAHAH when you said ‘Apple Watch’ i was like ‘oh, youre crunchy and not concerned about the emfs, maybe i should stop caring about emfs and start wearing my watch again’… nevermind i guess😂

[@jenniferheller1453]

I do too really bad

[@gracewalton5479]

Ok, what smart watch are you using? I need something with basic calling, texting, and some useful apps like maps, but no browser, otherwise I'll be tempted to just go on socials.

[@heyshayla]

Just Apple Watch

[@riataylor]

Deleted Instagram off my phone for the month of December :)

[@heyshayla]

👏👏👏

[@AlauraJones]

My husband and I have a rule to not let the baby see us on our phone. It changes everything. It’s challenging, but it changes everything. They are truly sponges. If my baby is in a room for 5 minutes and everyone has their phone next to them on couches or tables she will somehow learn who’s phone is who’s immediately just while she’s playing and socializing and as soon as they walk away from their phone she will pick it up and bring it to them. She does this with 100% accuracy even if I couldn’t tell them apart or who they belong to. I don’t even grab my own phone with 100% accuracy at a family gathering! So yeah, they see it, they hone in on it, and they definitely see us treating our phones like they’re an external vital organ. And watching videos about the difference in babies reactions/facial expressions when their parents are on their phone vs. not is just… they left me sobbing. If I’m going to be distracted in her presence she can see me reading or cleaning because I don’t mind her emulating that. 😂 And if I waste a whole nap time on some dumb scrolling fest like a fool, well…… at least she didn’t get ignored while she was awake and we’ll try again next time!

[@Sabrina-dq5yj]

I needed this push 🫠 been thinking the same thing. Don’t want my child to be addicted to technology

[@imperfectly_megan]

Me too! I don't want my girls to be addicted to tech but it's so hard especially because my husband's family is so addicted too.