I Want To Break Up With Boyfriend After Discovering His 40+ "Body Count" r/Relationships

[@MasterBuilderDragon]

“My boyfriend has cheated on me before, slept with over 40 women, is addicted to coke, and does crazy generous things for his female best friend who he’s slept with at some point. Should I be concerned?”

[@CircusoftheMoon]

My favorite part was, “he said no one compares to me” after he cheated on her and blew through 20 women. lol

[@bettynolo23]

​@@CircusoftheMoonwell, to give him way more credit than he deserves, he has done the leg work......or rather on his back work necessary to make that claim😂

[@CircusoftheMoon]

@@bettynolo23 💀 “Babe I know you’re the one for me! I did a lot of research!”

[@MasterBuilderDragon]

@@CircusoftheMoon 😂

[@availanila]

No, don't break up with him. Marry him immediately. 😂😂

[@GBunnyG]

Story 1: OP is in a room with a rattlesnake, a grizzly bear, and a sloth. Her only concern is the sloth's sharp claws. She's decided she can live comfortably in the room.

[@ondank]

Perfect analogy.

[@pollypockets508]

That's an awesome relationship! Edit. I meant to say that's an awesome analogy. Lol

[@ajlegend321]

It's hilarious to see people justify their own bad decisions in life. Like WTF are you thinking?

[@johnbradbury8610]

Op is a dumbass, her BF found the right gal. This will not end well for OP.

[@Zurround]

There is a proverb: Fool me once, shame on you. Fool me twice shame on me. She will DESERVE every bad thing that happens to her as a result of this relationship. Her suffering is HER FAULT NOW.

[@xdsc96]

*sees title for story 2* I can already hear this phrase: "WHO THE BLOODY HELL HAS TIME TO CHEAT!?" 😂

[@ndawn90]

So, OP1 basically said that it's her fault he cheated the first time they dated and she just fully believes that her boyfriend went through 40+ bodies without enjoying the thrill of increasing his body count?!? Oh, and he totally would never cheat on her again, unless she "makes him", right? Yeah, this is going to end badly. Girlfriend has a terrible case of rose colored glasses and red flag ignoring abilities.

[@Swnsasy]

Exactly.. She sounds like she loves the drama and up and down because it's, "passion" type crazy...

[@mattpedia1933]

43 seconds into the first story and I can already tell OP I nta

[@gostavoadolfos2023]

from her post you can see he has money, that's probably a big factor in her decision.

[@cathymurphy7922]

Yea..she’ll be on in two years that her drug induced partner is having threesomes at the local motel and wonders what todo!

[@Nathan_Bookwurm]

​@@gostavoadolfos2023That'll be gone some day when the coke addiction gets out of hand. By then she has 3 kids with him.

[@marybrown6756]

It never fails to amaze me how cheaters cry and beg and promise couples therapy ONCE they’re caught. 😱

[@CyeOutsider]

Often it's just a way to manipulate their partner further - to stop them leaving the relationship.

[@johnbradbury8610]

He even tried to bring the Sky wizard into it. He sounds like a Republican politician.

[@lifewithlee6298]

Op didn’t go for it so the Chester has the balls to call her a bitch.what an ass

[@Russman67]

Story 1: I never would have thought that hearing his body count was going to be the least of the issues, but here we are. He has an infidelity problem, mixed with Coke. Even if his body count was three including OP, those two issues would still outweigh everything. This relationship doesn't feel like it's going to last. OP put blinders on and let go of the wheel. Now we're just waiting for the crash.

[@hilaryc3203]

She talks about his actions whilst single being a testament to his character. Well i would say that her wanting a relationship with him is a testament to HER character. Yikes. She is such a naive fool. It almost sounds like he is love bombing her.

[@jillimi]

Wait, OP is still with him? I think I’m not finishing the story. 🙈

[@lorianabanana6066]

Honestly body count isn't a big deal for me. I have friends who go through partners like I do socks. Personally I only do long term relationships and I've NEVER had a ONS. But I don't judge those who do. But CHEATING is a no go for me. I do have friends who have cheated and while I didn't end the friendship I did tell them that they were d0uche bags for doing so. And when they got caught I told them they deserved it. And I couldn't date anyone who really cheated on a partner. It's one thing to have gotten drunk at a highschool party and made out with someone even tho they had a boyfriend/girlfriend that week. We all do stupid things, especially when we are young. But to be an adult in a LTR and make a concious choice to cheat and lie about it to the person you supposively love...nah. And if they did it to someone else they'll do it to you.

[@robertx8020]

I hate to say this but I can't feel sorry for this OP if she comes crying 'here' to say "my bf cheated on me and I never saw it coming"

[@Nathan_Bookwurm]

Why would you want kids with someone who does coke and cheats? 🤦

[@taylorslade961]

Story 2: I'll never understand people that knowingly carry on relationships with married people. That's gross and makes them just as bad as the cheater. The mistress is just as shitty a person as OP's soon to be ex.

[@MasterBuilderDragon]

There’s no chance of that relationship lasting because: 1. If he/she cheated with you he/she will cheat on you 2. He’s not going to be nearly as well off after OP takes him to the cleaners 3. Guarantee any time they fight he’ll use the “if it weren’t for you I’d still have my wife” line

[@dodgyyoutuber9560]

I agree. I consider it the same thing as cheating.

[@williamfleming2918]

For story 2: It is impossible to live a double life like that unless you view people as things. There is no way to have an actual relationship with either partner. The only relationship you would have is with yourself.

[@MaddyBlackbart]

Absolutely my grandfather had 2 families he was a classic narcissist. Many people were happy/relieved the day he died. This kinda crap is why you can not trust people who are narcissists or psychopaths.

[@notconvincedgranny6573]

Story 1: OP needs counseling on her own, not couples counseling.

[@CrimsonAngelWinges]

Hopefully the concealer is able to knock some sense into OP.

[@Cheri8795]

I guarantee that guy associates doing coke and sex so as long as he does coke around other people he is going to make bad decisions. I'd be worried about how safe he is during those times.

[@user-blob]

Definitely!

[@Kris-wo4pj]

never trust a drug addict esp an active drug addict idk why no one gets this.

[@tully6648]

Story 1: "First time we dated, we were living together and I was a paranoid, insecure and controlling girlfriend. It pushed him away and ruined the relationship. When I went through is phone once, I found he was on multiple dating sites but had never physically met up with anyone." Did he tell you that's why he was on those sites? Because while there is a chance he hadn't met up with anyone (yet), he was looking. Even if you're unhappy in a relationship with someone, you shouldn't be looking. Telling the person you're cheating on/plan on cheating on that they're "only there because you pushed me there" is an old cheater tactic. Besides that, this whole relationship just sounds... well, bad. I feel like OP is seeking validation in the wrong place. "He could have 40+ girls, but he only wanted ME!" doesn't really sound like a win here. Story 2: OP's ex-husband and the AP are wild. Like, imagine you're telling the wife how he LOVES YOU BETTER, and then he storms in and says YOU THOUGHT. And the balls on this guy, acting like he's a big guy for saying he's trying to save his marriage. At the end of the day, I hope he has neither home to go back to, and I hope AP has the days she deserves.

[@terramarini6880]

Yeah, Once we're together I will not be his #1, I will be be his only 1... Or free to find someone with the same attitude.

[@iononcantomascrivo]

Mark's stories and gym time. People often wonder why I'm laughing while I'm on the treadmill.

[@chaseashley6775]

I love listening to Mark while I’m at the gym

[@CouncilEstateRach]

My family are looking att me like I'm a loon when I'm singing the old theme tune yum yum yum I can smell the bacon!!!

[@idontgiveah00t]

Oh my god, this is the motivation I neeeeeed lol

[@iononcantomascrivo]

@@idontgiveah00t Nothing like getting my three miles in in 15 minutes while listening to his melodious British accent.

[@xdsc96]

​@@iononcantomascrivo start the workout with "hey hey waffle gang!" 😂 Workout so you can have waffles today😂

[@bluecrocodilus6594]

I knew a guy EXACTLY like OP1's boyfriend and he is a terrible excuse for a human being. He has her wrapped around his finger. Poor girl is being emotional abused and manipulated. Hope she can snap out of it and get away. Relationships like that are very a difficult thing to get out of it. Stalking and harassment may happen once she does leave.

[@theconfusedvampire]

Story 2's update almost made me pee my pants laughing. He really believes he's getting OP back and now he'll be alone after burning the bridge with the mistress. 😂

[@bobfg3130]

He loved the wife.

[@rubystone9074]

Yeah. Op in story one will be back with a thread starting with something like "I gave my SO another chance after he broke my heart, married him after months of counciling, but after X years, I finally realized how much I FU." r/relationship advice lol

[@taetannim3581]

But now I have 4 kids under 7 and we're being evicted at the end of the week!

[@QueenOfTheZombieApocalypse]

Story 2 - Im with you Mark, I barely have the emotional bandwidth and time for my partner and our pets 😂. Let alone multiple families

[@nataliereeves3594]

Story 2: he was able to run the buissness and have 2 families because he probably pushed all the work onto others who didn't get paid for it but were worried they would loose their jobs if they didn't do what they were told.

[@indiashante1560]

Story one: I would have dropped him as soon as I found out he enjoys nose candy. OP standards are so low that she makes an ant look like a giant. SMH

[@PuReGhOsTT]

That 2nd family story was INSANE😂 she took EVERYTHING

[@AndyyWithAY]

Story 2 had me in bits. The content of the story is not funny, but the way she knows his back, the Neantherthal way he holds cutlery, the grubby hands. I'm that same way. I do not understand how people have time for multiple families!! It's just wild

[@tully6648]

My partner says he can tell me in a crowd because of "how (your) head bobbles when you walk." I can pick him out for a number of things, but usually because he'll be the tallest person in the bunch. It kind of warms my heart, thinking about the number of things we'd could tell each other by. But then this story... WHOOF. Oh, and he and I are of the same opinion regarding time, especially for cheating/a side family. We're in total agreement: "Forget that... I could be playing video games!"

[@amandasunshine2]

I do not understand why she didn't leave him before, the way she describes him.. :/

[@pollypockets508]

I don't know why anyone would want that kind of drama. Two families.

[@18Hongo]

My girlfriend has occasionally expressed insecurity about our relationship, apparently based on the idea that she thinks I could attract someone "better". I have assured her time and again that there IS no-one better, that I have no desire to cheat, and even if I DID, I certainly have neither the time nor the energy (the last one is more of a joke to cheer her up). But seriously: who the hell can keep two families going and not collapse from exhaustion? And OP said they were shagging four to six times a week; the man's bollocks must be belt-fed or something.

[@ISIIN15]

Men and women have s right to want a partner with fewer sexual encounters as long as you're not hypocritical about it

[@oliviaspring9690]

Also as long as they don’t shame others who they aren’t dating.

[@Maybe-An-Alien]

Exactly💯

[@MrJpaynebb]

A higher body count is an issue that can be dealt with far easier than infidelity and a coke habit. Definitely 💯 agree that being a hypocrite when it comes to body counts aka usually men is total BS.

[@ineedhoez]

Exactly. Nothing wrong with wanting a sexually chaste partner. Just be one yourself.

[@sadtitties222]

​​​@@oliviaspring9690 Exactly this! 👏 I find it so disturbing how people in general feel they have the right to a stranger's sexual history, especially when you aren't even dating or having sexual relations with them. It's not your life, so mind your own damn business! I couldn't care less about someone's stinkin' "high body count". 🙄 That doesn't determine your worth as a bloody human being! We literally have way bigger and more important issues going on in the world today (climate change, war, homelessness, rights being taken away from marginalized groups/minorities, viruses, needing affordable housing, insanely high food and gas prices, people unable to find jobs, minimum wage, etc.), but nahhh we all worried about what Jim Bob or Mary Lou are doing in the bedroom between the sheets with other consenting adults, ffs. 😑

[@kyuuchat]

Cheaters will 100% spend the time to sit there for hours and tell you how much they love you, OP... 💀My ex did the same thing and it turned out that his new roommate was his girlfriend...

[@ineedhoez]

Behavior is a language. Don't listen to their mouths, just watch how they move.

[@leafyishereisdumbnameakath4259]

so sorry

[@ebayrose]

Story 1- Because people focused on debating body count issue and validating that body count shouldn't matter along with mods apparently deleting the ones calling the high body count a red flag OP was able to ignore everything after her boyfriend gave her some lip service 'validation'. She also never addressed the bestie he hooked up with, forced her to allow to crash at their place and took her out for overnight birthday celebration without OP. And she concludes her update with he can't contact his past hookups as he met them at a bar.🤦‍♀️

[@AndyyWithAY]

Hold up, hold all the way up?? He called her an unforgiving b*tch for being upset he has a whole ass other life. A very popular singer has been in the news a lot for being a homewrecker. She has a string of relationships involving "taken" men. If you know you know. It's not the flex you think it is. And if she marries him, she'll create an opening 🤣🤣 I'd love to see it NGL. OP makes more, why is she gonna submit to him?? The mistress is delusional and I hope in a few years OP updates that they are married and he has a new mistress, and current mistress is losing her 💩

[@mbyerly9680]

How can anyone listen to this family breaking wh*re's love songs without throwing up is beyond me.

[@truthseeker9249]

@@mbyerly9680 Who is it? Somebody tell me!!!

[@bangeryun94]

​@@mbyerly9680YES! A former fiancee of one of the men she was shagging says she came home from a business trip, her fiance had been acting hateful, and she opened the door to find the heifer sitting naked on HER couch. Now the former fiancee is no longer living and he says the deceased fiancee was the love of his life and he did everything to make her happy but she left him over a misunderstanding. Now that's she gone he's romanticised their relationship.

[@kitkakitteh]

Story 1: he has so many red flags that “a high body count” is the least of his issues. Her problem is that all the flags look a like thru her rose colored glasses😂

[@3adgamd3r]

Story 1 pre update: as a man who has a body count of over 80 by the time I was 25, 27 now, I can tell you for nothin that men like us are deeply damaged people, and frankly it’s not OP’s problem to fix Even if he wasn’t a cheater, being uncomfortable with the body count is absolutely within reason

[@neutrality8747]

Anyone with a high bodycount is damaged, not just men.

[@3adgamd3r]

@@neutrality8747 that may be true, but I can’t speak for women as I’m not a woman 🤷‍♂️ I can however give my personal perspective as a man

[@neutrality8747]

@@3adgamd3r I've dated men and women with varying bodycounts, I was always treated best by those with a lower count. I might be talking out of my rear end here, but I believe that oxytocin loses effectiveness once you've had enough sex. You can choose who to spend that oxytocin with.

[@3adgamd3r]

@@neutrality8747 I’m not saying you’re wrong, I’m saying I was a damaged person when I started doing it, and I’m a damaged person now lol

[@TheIronwil]

Body Count: NTA if OP breaks it off, but I’m a little confused. OP stated she had a regular lover over the time they were apart, and that she probably got laid more in total. If she thinks infidelity is a serious concern, then move on. But if all that’s happening here is some jealousy, she’s lost the plot.

[@Kris-wo4pj]

i think the issue is he refuses to control himself and will just get high and hump anythign that moves. i wouldnt want to be with something like that either. but she seems to have twisted it into a jealousy thing and not that gross, pathetic unsafe health, emotional and finance way it actually is.

[@PrincessQ-fj9ly]

That second story actually reminds me of a similar story that I read with Reddit Brew. I will never understand why people have these double lives. Seriously, how on earth does these people have the time and energy to run a double life? I'd be impressed if I wasn't so disgusted. SMH 😒

[@tully6648]

Right? Like, dang... I didn't even want one kid, and most parents get run ragged by the few they have with one person. But then there's OP's husband... Nah! I could never.

[@carolroberts4614]

Back in the seventies my ex husband was like this!( except for the coke) I hope op sees the light, or she is in for a dreadful time.

[@marsalwin5101]

I barely have enough time to manage just my own life some days. Its honestly so fucked how someone would go through all that effort

[@milkandhoney84]

The women are doing the heavy lifting of the child and house care. He just shows up half the time at each location.

[@PrincessQ-fj9ly]

@@carolroberts4614 Were you referring to the first story? Because I didn't hear anything about Coke in the second story.

[@SherriLyle80s]

S1: The relationship is like a burning plane. It will crash and burn, and she will be in Reddit again asking why.

[@colleens1107]

Story two: NOW THIS IS HOW YOU DEAL WITH INFIDELITY. I also really fucking love that when she confronted the other woman, who totally knew she was the other woman and confirmed EVERYTHING, her little bubble of superiority was popped by STBX telling her that she was just the mistress and nothing more. To that lady I’d like to say: honey what he does with you, he’ll do TO you.

[@astronautviolet153]

she looked past the drug problem and the cheating he's a red flags. If you make up and break up over years just end the relationship.

[@Zurround]

I have a friend who is in a relationship where she keeps breaking up with and then later on getting back together with the same man. They even marry each other than divorce THAN REMARRY AGAIN. Its PATHETIC.

[@AryonaSamoto]

Story 1: I hope OP doesn't get hurt more and get further trauma towards her trust issues but from the information we're given about the boyfriend, I don't see it going any other way. I wish strength and healing for OP because it's not just trust issues but her own perceived value she needs to work on. Story 2: I don't understand cheaters. What did he think would happen if OP found out? If you want someone else or want lots of people then leave and find someone who's okay with that dynamic. Intentionally being with someone who's monogamous and then cheating on them is just cruel and callous. I truely don't understand why there are so many people who are okay doing that to the people they supposedly love. I'm glad OP is being so strong and determined. I wish her happiness and blessings in the future❤

[@carolroberts4614]

They never do think they'll be found out! Or they think they're so irresistible, that they can blag their way out of trouble!

[@9999plato]

It souinds like OP already knows what her BF is like. Why is she asking us? She already knows. He sounds like me in my early 20s without that high body count. I knew I was bad news and was going to come to a bad end and quit everything and moved cross country. Her BF is telling her take it or leave it, IDGAF. LEAVE IT!

[@timothylewis6421]

I love the story where they decided to share the husband. Now he has dad responsibilities for two entire families with seven children and hates it lmao

[@terramarini6880]

And the kids are almost launched and he's sweating bullets. 😂Now, the chickens come home to roost, Karma is a delightful B.

[@ddavis8988]

Story 1: OP didn't come looking for a solution, she wanted attention. She was staying with him no matter what.

[@enjolireyes643]

Story 1- you have trust issues over his infidelity but are willing to try to work out the relationship but hate his body count?! Nah you got the title and reasoning for breaking up backwards sis!

[@DemonGodRizer]

Yeah it's info like that, that is giving me that rare gut feeling of either the story being fabricated or the op being so brain washed or obsessively dependent on that guy that she refuses to listen to logic.

[@ElleD308]

Well, body count is important 🤷🏻‍♀️

[@joaolima7131]

​​@@ElleD308no it isn't, why someone past is business from someone from the present? This is just being insecure and judgmental. If she wants a virgin guy or with less body count she should search in a church, same for men who want the same.

[@Kris-wo4pj]

@@joaolima7131 dude the real issue is the cheating and drug use issue. which goes hand in hand it looks like. long as hes doped up hes going to screw anything that moves cuz he has no self control. which is a turn off. also his dick is probably about to fall off. idc what he says he wasnt using condoms while high cuz most people forget about them when sober. he got something and also probably got a couple bastards out there somewhere. if OP was smart she'd run but i dont think she is.

[@ElleD308]

@@joaolima7131yes it does matter. Because your past is a guideline of your morals, values, actions, and character. Your past, especially a past pushed by sexual impulses, is a window to how your actions can influence your future. And even if they swear they found Jesus and are born again virgins, so their past should be forgotten or it doesn't matter, it's bs. Their sexual desire/impulse whatever is there and it's not something you can just switch. That plus logically, a person who jumps from bed to bed is more likely to have STDs, and commitment issues, to jump to another as aoon as things get tough, get bored easily, can't connect emotionally with sex in a deeper way, and more likely to cheat, ask for open relationships, be infertile due to STDs or birth control gone wrong, plus traditional people that want a family and a healthy marriage usually have low court and except their partner to also have a low count, etc. Etc. So yeah, if you wanna sleep around, by all means fuck everything that moves. But don't cry in a sad TikTok video about how you're sick of hook-up culture or how your partner left you after finding out you have the body count of a courtesan and now there's nothing you can do.

[@Swnsasy]

PEOPLE! When you're getting divorced, MEET WITH EVERY DAMN LAWYER FOR 5 COUNTIES! The reason? The soon to be ex cannot see them... So he's/she's gotta drive 300 miles to find a divorce lawyer😂😂😂😂

[@tully6648]

I remember someone in a Reddit story did that, and I think about it every time OP or someone goes to search for a divorce lawyer. I know time is tight, but I feel like it'd be SO worth it to waste theirs as they try to contact lawyer after lawyer after lawyer.

[@Swnsasy]

@@tully6648 ROFLOL absolutely it's glorious.. Also, because the lawyer has to travel further, the soon to be ex is footing that massive travel bill too! 🤣

[@mbyerly9680]

If you live in a metropolitan area, go after the best ones.

[@geraldmahoney4856]

People. You can break up with your partner for any reason or none at all. If you’re married it will be a little more complicated but you still have the option.

[@Uneclipsed]

Gurrrl 😂 you broke up because his of infidelity before and he’s careless with his body. WHY do you want to marry him?!

[@James-sq4sc]

He has a lot of gall calling her a “ heartless b*tch” when he’s been cheating on her for years. His mistress is going to learn the hard way she isn’t special

[@marybrown6756]

I don’t think the OP in story 1 has to worry about her boyfriend wanting some strange-he’s had everybody. There is no strange any more.

[@dorianleakey]

Story one is wild, she kept making it about the 40+ and responded to the comments as if it was still about the 40+ women ignoring everyone telling them it wasn't.

[@NotAFanOfHandles]

Story 1: He should feel judged, not for his being a ho (though, yes, he a ho) but because of his previous infidelity and coke problems. As for the "body count" - as long as you aren't being a hypocrite, it is okay if you aren't comfortable with a person having an extensive sexual history. OP, pull your head out of yer bum and dump this bum, as they say, he's for the streets. There's no excuse for what he did (yes, it's cheating.) Story 2: She's 41, he's 52, they've been married 21 years, nearly 22 years. That means she got married when she was like 19 and he was 30. She invested in his company to the point she's a partner and raised their children. May she take him (and the homewrecker) for everything he's got.

[@madambutterfly1997]

Why are you going into a relationship with unmanaged trauma from previous relationships? And if you have been managing your trauma, why are you still pursuing a relationship when it still has that much hold over you?

[@ineedhoez]

Agreed. You need therapy, not a relationship!

[@He11Hog]

Story 1: This guy 100% sees OP as a safety blanket. She says herself he’s getting “higher caliber” women. He doesn’t respect her enough to remain faithful either. He’s only still with her cause she helps him fight off loneliness because no other self respecting women will give him the time of day. Guy has gotten his cake and eaten it to. OP deserves better than this. An it’s really sad that she’s done all the mental gymnastics to think this will end well. What a sad story.

[@Weirdandwonderfull19]

I'm currently sat quivering in the bedroom because a MASSIVE spider is in the adjoining bathroom... And gone MISSING. I hate arachnophobia 😭

[@user-blob]

😂😂😂this was me last night! It’s Shelob season and I’m a nervous wreck!! Still haven’t found the spider, and I can’t sleep. My sympathies friend 😢

[@Weirdandwonderfull19]

@@user-blob Oh no, sorry to hear you have an 8 legged intruder too. I still haven't found the spider either. My sympathies to you too, and all fellow arachnophobics 😱😱.

[@somethingelse4204]

Story 1: OP is trying to renovate her cheating coke addicted mate, but humans aren't fixer uppers.

[@AndyyWithAY]

My mom texted me earlier and asked if I'd eaten any of the cake she made. I asked if I'd ever gone 24 hours without cake consumption? The answer is no. It was a mini pound cake with yellow cream cheese icing, and it was delicious.

[@broken_queer_but_fighting8589]

Yum

[@lindalehr1551]

Hmmmmmm....Adds pound cake to this week's grocery list....

[@Mia-dt3gl]

I don’t foresee a happy ending for Story 1’s OP.

[@staysilent4392]

No. There is NO way that's going to work out. Maybe with other people, it would. But in this situation the OP is gonna be crushed.

[@brandyb2931]

Oooohhhh, that last story. I would've walked out of that house and told that smug homewrecker to start packing because that house is going up for sale.

[@alaaesong164]

Here's the issue when it comes to one partner cheating (or both). If you CHOOSE to STAY, you forgive them, you don't hold it over their head. If you're gonna hold it over their head just dump them. (Yes I'm aware he's still more than likely cheating) but she has so little self-respect that I have little sympathy atm. Regarding body count. I mean personally I don't give a shit and his body count is literally the least of her issues right now. I get it, people ignore red flags when they're in love. But at this point the entire fucking ship is red and she's still not jumping overboard. Lmao

[@DakshaiRanger]

She's straight up dodging and glossing over all the most valid concerns in the comments

[@lilfairykiki122]

Story 1: how can some people be so stupid? OPs like this are annoying as hell. She deserves what she gets. She’ll be back crying on Reddit when he knocks up his girl bestie.

[@sigisig3941]

yeah she is so fixatet on the body count. The coke and the bestie, she does not even care? she did not even talket about the bestie and the drugs in the update. The "I am a little bit conservative" ARE YOU GIRL????

[@cmsxcb]

That's what I thought too. Some people are beyond help unfortunately. "I don't trust him but I'm not going to do anything about it... I'll just have to trust him" Sheesh, what a dumb-ass! Personally, I'd trust him to keep doing exactly what he's doing, with whoever he wants, for as long as he wants because he's always got 'desperate and bewildered' to fall back on... until that ever lurking STI catches up with them both... and, even then, he'll convince her it was her fault for sitting on the wrong toilet seat. I despair of humanity; I really do. We should just give in now and give the cockroaches a chance.

[@Mathilde1469]

Story 1: I mean… OP shouldn’t worry about being better than other women he’s had. To be fair, looks like ‘ol dude will take what he can get. The body count is beside the point. It’s his pattern of coke use and sleeping with whatever’s handy.

[@gelibeanzcantrell7192]

i saw myself in that first story 😢 OP is going to regret staying in this relationship. my last relationship was almost just like that. we were together longer and do have two kids together, but he cheated a lot while accusing me of cheating even though i never did. i honestly don't know his body count and i honestly don't want to know, but i know he has at least two other children from someone else. he gaslit me into thinking that the cheating was my fault. we were on and off for years until i finally cut it off for good and shortly afterwards, he went to prison. having coke was part of the reason. OP's boyfriend is not going to change and she'll be kicking herself sooner rather than later.

[@leafyishereisdumbnameakath4259]

sorry

[@aba1design]

I remember seeing a study that showed the higher a person's body count the more they are likely to struggle to pair bond.

[@laica01]

I don't even have enough time to spend equally between my dog and cat, how can someone have two families!

[@Andrea.S.Alvey12]

If body count isn't important to the guy in story one, why does he have such an accurate assessment of body count? I can't imagine having more partners than I have fingers . . .

[@charitynordstrom5734]

Never take back a cheater

[@FamouslyRejected]

Story 1 OP came in for advice and disregarded EVERYTHING and made excuses as if it’s her fault smh. And the cheating is the LEAST bit of her problems. 🥴🥴

[@jessiejeanne9717]

As a woman in a 14 year relationship... the 1st successful one... because *I WAS THE FUCK UP OF MY DESTINY, FIGURED STUFF OUT, & GREW AS A PERSON!!!* This girl is being gaslit into thinking his friendship with a walking fleshlight is acceptable...i wonder if her BFF was Chad Thundercock, who was the best fornication she's ever had, but sleeps on the couch now, if Mr Booger Sugar would be down? Girl... go to therapy, but look for an UNBIASED therapist so you're not indoctrinated into things you'll regret later in life. It's happened to me, but i recognized & quit seeing her.

[@TheBlueDsc]

Being more concerned about him sleeping with 40+ women while single than the fact that he's a cheater really highlights how wonky people's views on sex can be.

[@heatherdickau5335]

The first story - The ick factor with OP's boyfriend is off the charts. She needs to run or get weekly std tests.

[@thatjeff7550]

Last Story: Remembering an old Dudley Moore movie, Mickey & Maude. LOL

[@charmcat123]

LOL...my husband always said he didn't have the patience, money or time to cheat nor did he want the trouble of it. We are always together...his only mistress is video games hahaha😂

[@glass9137]

S2: gotta love when the side piece hand gifts you all the gifts received from marital funds 😂 im sure theres more but she so graciously listed the big ticket items first ❤ bless her

[@unintrestednerd]

Foolish mistress believed the cheaters lies and probably believed that the wife was "the gold digger" while in fact she owns half of her house now when the divorce sets in.

[@joshuanavarro8925]

Got the notification for this spicy video the exact second I finished watching your last video from today. Thanks, Mark! 👋🥰👍👍👍

[@Cl0ckcl0ck]

He played out his 'docile housewife on the side' fantasy. With one that's so dumb that she believed his lies even when she knew that he was lying to his wife. Now he's probably going to jail for embezzlement and fraud. :')

[@SnowWolfAlpha]

Story 2: The mistress has no room to gloat, especially not if the house she's living in is in OP's husbands name. Time to take half of that too.

[@akl2k7]

Yeah, if you willingly get with someone married, you're a loser. She's a pathetic homewrecker. It also means she can't get anyone better than a cheater.

[@Icalasari]

At first I thought it was a body count as in, "Oh dear lord a serial killer!?" I've... I've had a long day

[@Zurround]

Story 1 I actually hate the OP. She has shown that she has no self respect. Why the hell should I respect a person who does not even respect themselves? She and that jerk she was cheated on with deserve each other.

[@stellamccoy5259]

How long before OP in S1 goes to Reddit asking what she shouldn't after catching her SO cheating?

[@lookdog4096]

On the first story it’s crazy how she ignored all the advice, the cheating, and the drug use. Holy

[@CorinneStephens]

The sub-story in story 2's comments took me out. Shared custody of the husband is actually insane

[@NakaidaBeauzec]

Noticed she didn't touch on the girlfriend and the drug use

[@gostavoadolfos2023]

The boyfriend from S1 doesn't realize he was paying for sex! paid birthday trips and Broadway tickets!

[@LordBison98]

Story 2: I barely have time for myself and these people have double lives?? What in the damn

[@thebeebz9511]

That "arrangement" the accountant explained in that last story was hilarious

[@Alfy1980]

Story 1: OP is seriously delulu!!! He is a serial cheater...."But he says he looooves me." Yikes.

[@moonyollie6977]

S2: Tear the Bs apaaaaart! S2, accountant comment: LMAO the wife and mistress taking the guy to account and getting on pretty well, while the scumbag husband/boyfriend isn't happy and has to actually be a partner and father to ALL his kids. You know what, respect ladies.

[@sweetr1832]

Story two, they got together two decades years ago when op was 19 and he was 30. That tells about his character.

[@OZARKMOON1960]

#1 - I wish OP luck, but more than likely she will be back posting about a nasty breakup in two years if not far sooner. Leopards do not change their spots, but if they lay in the shadows they can blend in for a bit.

[@Tammohawk1]

1. First stop, the doctor's office for this to continue. That would be a must. 2. I'd go scorched Earth on this guy. Take him to the cleaners and get everything that I can get out of him. That homewrecker would lose everything too. And then I'd be the one gloating. What is that saying? He who laughs last laughs longest? Yeah...

[@beckyshackleton1515]

Yay! Quick on it! Love the vids 😊

[@dandotvid]

Why even try to restart a relationship that failed due to infidelity and broken trust? It's NEVER going to work.

[@thejinx6834]

So a woman is actually now understanding why men don't want a bodycount of 193+??? The world is coming to an end

[@leafyishereisdumbnameakath4259]

ive never met a single woman with a body count even at 40 or near it. For men, I have met maybe one or two. This isn't as common as you think.

[@xegin1572]

Story 1: everything has been said about the tons of red flags that need to be adressed more than the bodycount. That being said, if the only issue was the body count, it'd be a NTA for me. In my opinion, if an issue simply isn't fixable (like a body count), cannot be easily fixed (either because it'd take time and effort to fix, or because it's a complex situation with no easy solution), or your partner simply isn't willing to solve it, and said issue is making you uncomfortable enough to consider breaking up over it, it's never a bad reason no matter how irrational or petty it may seem. Story 2: How does he find so much time ? Well, if he's got a decent team, the buisness won't come crashing down just from him coming in late, leaving early or plain not showing up for the day, especially if plan things out and give them a heads up, and even more if he hired/nominated a manager to take over his task when he's not there.

[@fhuber7507]

1... serial cheater is incurable.

[@EnDB]

She likes getting cheated on and having a partner who does drugs. Her mind is so warped, she can't be helped.

[@korazroom]

Listen we’re all able to recognize our family members by their hands, back or the sound of their steps. This story is wild

[@chryssesandchaos]

Story 1: OP is unfortunately, head over heels with her bf, she is a hopeless case, I do hope the bf will get his act together, before they start a family and have kids, but I'm not holding my breath.

[@CircusoftheMoon]

S1: “I have a history of abuse in past relationships.” Yeah, that’s pretty obvious.

[@Abuakasilkyjohnson]

Story 1: gets comical and more comical

[@Qwerty95ish]

Story 1. How are people this clueless? We all make dumb mistakes, but this is crazy. Story 2. People are insane. Like majorly insane.

[@mweathers79]

S1: anyone else wondering if OPs boyfriend refers to himself as an Alpha? Lol.

[@dodgyyoutuber9560]

Man I wish I had enough money, time and energy to have two families. Not the second family, just the resources

[@Crosby69]

Dude is ran trough. He will never be able to pair bond.

[@wendyh2708]

Story 1: Run OP. This guy is a walking red flag. He's a cheater and that isn't going to change. Get some self esteem and realize YOU deserve so much better.

[@trashotaku]

OP’s ex husband has the gall to call HER a heartless b when he’s the one who cheated 🙄🙄🙄

[@bricksloth6920]

I feel called out by the comment about holding cutlery like a neanderthal tho