I was an accidental child, so my parents beat and never loved me. I ran away, now 8 years later...

I was an accidental child, so my parents beat and never loved me. I ran away, now 8 years later, they want to reconnect. Plus one update.
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[@mannydcbianco]

It's essentially always the same in these reddit stories when evil family members suddenly want to reconnect with their victims after years or even decades of no contact: they're either after money/inheritance or they need a compatible organ donor. It's never about genuinely wanting to reconnect and making amends.

[@agure4061]

Narcissist's are incapable of feeling regret and empathy for the ones they hurt. If they start out evil, they end evil because they clinically are.

[@Arkryal]

​@@agure4061 Reddit throws around the term "Narcissist" a little too readily, there's no indication at all in the post that they would diagnosed as such. They sound like just common a-holes. The abusers don't see what they're doing as abuse. They find ways to rationalize their actions. The truth is they likely don't even remember half the bad things they did to OP, because in their minds their actions were trivial. Who is going to have a more vivid memory, the parent who "disciplined" their child for the 800th time, or the child who received 800 ass-kickings? OP says she's not in the U.S., but I'd be interested to know where she is. In many places, it's a cultural imperative that the kids support their parents, so they may feel justified in reaching out for money because that would be a deeply engrained cultural expectation. In many of those cases, their brains wouldn't connect the dots between their treatment of OP and her refusal to help them. I say, "Let them die alone in squalor". The time for reconciliation was long before long before they fell on hard times, and now their motivation is in question. They could be genuinely contrite but it doesn't matter now, they missed their chance. They didn't reach out until they were in need, so that will obviously color OP's response.

[@agure4061]

@@Arkryal Between 0.5% and 5% of people in the U.S. may have clinical narcassism. That means 5/1000 or up to 5/100 people you meet are clinical narcissist's that cannot feel love or empathy. I think its much more common then you think.

[@rolandorban6248]

​@@agure4061numbers worldwide are more around 0.5%-1% so it's not that common either honestly like it's 4 times more common to find someone depressed and around the same % as meeting an autistic person. Now idk if this is a cultural or psychological problem with the parents but it's most likely cultural from the given context maybe India?

[@agure4061]

@@rolandorban6248 I was refering to the statistical amount of narcissist's in america alone. But in the world that's still literally 5/1000-1/100 and we already know that narcissists raise narcissists because it can be created by childhood trauma. That's 80 million people in the world alone.

[@lukadrion6266]

at leats Big bro showed up alone and had a civilized conversiation with Op instead of guilt tripping her and bringging the parents along.

[@cindybubbles]

What I don’t get is why, when parents give birth to an unwanted child, they won’t give the kid up for adoption.

[@agure4061]

Because it makes the Narcissists look bad.

[@Angels.Courrupt.2]

i think it's sinxe the process of doing that is a lot and makes them look bad, so it's just easier to pretend the child doesn't exist at all?

[@Maninawig]

Like the two prior answers mentionned, a lot of it has to do with saving face. Not only with the law, but with friends and in-laws. Giving one kid up for adoption because you simply don't care is still comsidered neglectful and being a bad parent.

[@tonto9013]

In America it seems simple, but in other countries it is sometimes extremely complicated, at least in some cases. There are places that don't even know that children can be send to adopted, and there are places that are so poor that most of the people can't (In my country, the adoption system almost doesn't work, if it does work it's always overloaded, we don't have enough knowledge about adoption and people have to throw newborn babies in dangerous places to cut them out. It's sad but yes, there are many babies in my country who died in rivers, lakes, plastic bags, buried alive or simply thrown into the forest to die)

[@Rorschachqp]

That's a public act and OP's family, rightfully, would get humiliated by all of their local society and the news would spread like wildfire via gossip.

[@mal7040]

Every child deserves a parent, but not every parent deserves a child

[@loveistheway3149]

I don't blame her one bit. In my opinion, the parents are playing mind games, so they think if they get her back into their cruel cycle of lies deceit etc they could and most likely would do the same thing to her again. She doesn't need them ever, she is too good for them. I admire her for not falling for their bs and standing her ground to not give in to them, manipulators. She finally told them everything and put them in their place via voice-mail rather than face to face where then her parents could've sugar coated everything and made it not seem as bad as it was and they were to their only daughter. Kudos to the brother for finally seeing the parents true colors and wanting to stay in touch with his only little sister. And the boyfriend for being her friend companion and supporter.

[@Black-And-WhiteWorldview8488]

As for the parents they were displaying blatant familial favoritism overall, I presume?

[@justcallmeshorty240]

I find that the parents wanted money from the daughter to be a bit fishy... then again, I am from the US, so I could be misreading something there. In countries that have more traditional upbringings, it's not uncommon (or so I hear) for this scenario to occur.

[@cameronmiyao2673]

That or someone asked after the kid and they had no answer and so they try to reconnect to play happy family.

[@sirblack1619]

This type of stuff happens in the US as well. It has nothing to do with traditional values.

[@nancyriggs8170]

OMG!! I'm so sorry.. Idk what country you're from, and believe there are awful horrible parents in the US also; but if you reach out to the right agency's there is help.. It's not easy though, because without proof it's hard to prove, and some family's live in communities that teach their children that any outside police, CPS, attorneys are all bad and evil.. I'm just glad you got out alive!!

[@Mr.Infinity669]

This story looks more entertaining than my

[@nestor1208]

Yeah, work at 12, get a better job at 16 to rent an apartment, and then buy one barely finishing highschool working as a waiter. I wish best of luck to this 13-15 years old aspiring writer, it's an OK start. But there are things to improve

[@MusicMakesMeSoar91]

Other countries do allow younger minors (compared to the US) to hold part-time work. They are heavily restricted in regards to how many hours per day they are permitted to work, though.

[@pretzelicious4200]

How fake... people who have good education and work a full time job don't have savings to buy an apartment but this OP did? idk mate. If it's true, good for you mate

[@Rorschachqp]

Keep in mind, this isn't the US. In other countries, they don't have insane taxes like property tax for example.

[@Francisco-mn7gt]

Hard to beleive. They wanted to "re-connect" only because of the money but... Why didn't they asf to the others? The other son didn't know about their financial problems, why didn't they ask him first?

[@Rorschachqp]

It's likely because their daughter who ran away was cut off from everyone else, even OP's brothers, so if they did a humiliating act like asking for money, it wouldn't get around.

[@asura5806]

They could of got an abortion or given her up for adoption. To carry a baby to full term knowing you don't want it just so you can take you anger out it is ridicules so instead of giving her up to someone who does you treat her like shit like its her fault for being born. I truly wish people would expose others for shit like this these parents are evil asf and deserve for everyone to know who they are and what they did.

[@noelmorris1787]

It is a little fake alright

[@bforman1300]

Someone needs a kidney.

[@tamamela]

Its such a pet peeve of mine when redditors do the whole, "English isn't my first language so bla bla bla," thing just to not make any real English mistakes, like, if youre gonna make a fake story, atleast put in a bit of effort into making it look real. What's funny is I KNOW the reason they always say that is bc the ppl writing the fake stories are like 14 and scared people will catch onto the fakeness due to their writing skills LMAOOO.

[@armaggedon390]

Hey man, don't be so harsh. I used to always put that in front of my comments until eventually someone replied with "Your english is fine".

[@elylioney6390]

​@@armaggedon390ok, then I'll have to say that more

[@Ysa5657]

Tldr: English sucks. Culture. Why I still think this story is not real Some people are self conscious about their secondary language skills. I know when I’m tired and don’t feel like editing my crap It looks like it’s impossible to understand what I’m trying to say. I know it’s most likely not correct but it feels like that . Not to mention English is 3 languages wearing a tench coat and it beats up other languages looking in their pockets for loose grammar. Nothing makes sense. At least in my language the rules don’t change for every few words. But op does write like a fanfic writer, so I would give you that. They do write like a 14 year old and most likely is I follow the story spirit they come from Asia, most likely not the middle east as their grammar mistakes are not something I find familiar as someone from this area of the world. Maybe east or South Asia, if it’s not one big lie and they come from the USA and just 14 and edgy. The story itself is pretty believable in my culture at least. You get paid in my country around 15 usd a day for paper delivery, you can start doing that at age 14, 12 with parental consent and if she did that as a side job (like babysitter) she could do it even younger. You just can’t open a bank account younger than 14. Getting a slightly higher paying job at 15 is also believable, at 15 she could have her own bank account and could work for 5 dollars an hour as minimum wage, if she didn’t need to pay for roof or food and worked getting 35 dollars a day, 6 days a week 210 usd, with 7 work days it would be 245 usd a week around 960 a month, which is not a lot, but it’s enough to by used phone and computer and save up in a year a little less then 12 k. Which is more than enough to skip town and rent a small shitty apartment for a few months in a not so great part of town. And no most small time landlords in my area don’t really care who you are as long as you pay on time and don’t create damage. You just answer to an advertisement . If you pre pay for a year they don’t even ask for a co signers, it depends on place but it could be around 300-700 a month for a 1 bedroom apartment she could absolutely put a prepay for a year. And you can and many do finish high school later in life. As it’s adulation. Not age. So everything is possible. The action in the story not so much. How in the actual F the NC parents discover that op is doing well in life to beg for money? Yes op reaction is likely but the thing with the brother is also odd. How did he get her phone number? That what tells me it’s most likely fake. But most likely op doesn’t come from the USA . I don’t think people in the USA are aware of how stuff like that goes in other parts of the world . I do believe they are an edgy teen but the not English native one might be the only real thing they said about themselves.

[@Rorschachqp]

You realize a person could be in Asia and many other non-US countries, and speak English. For example, any former Commonwealth countries all have English as a major language. Many Europeans speak English and many other Euro languages. In China, all top students going to top universities learn English. Many Japanese people like to study English. Many people in Aftrica also speak English. And many, many other countries... Besides with today's internet you can find a lot of AI help and auto-translators.

[@tamamela]

@@Rorschachqp literally nothing you just said has anything to do with my comment. i never once implied that people who aren't from the US don't ever speak English

[@65kasara]

This story is fake AF.

[@kevinbadger8030]

Explain how.

[@65kasara]

@@kevinbadger8030 a 12 year old, getting a job for instance, the parents not taking away her money, getting a more legit job at 14, escaping home at 16 and stopping to go to school, disappearing from the state altogether at the age of 17, like child services stopped existing during her life. The eldest son suddenly disowning his parents... just because, the parents nkt being asked about the child's whereabouts after her escape... I can go on.

[@kevinbadger8030]

@@65kasara Also, a 12 year old can legally get a job delivering newspapers...you're also not considering location as labour laws vary based on location. The parents never took away the money because OP never told them she had a job.....she's not the first kid to leave home at 16 and won't be the last either. The eldest son disowned them because he was made aware just how bad they were (he was away. you clearly didn't pay attention), and of course, to top it all off, the parents never loved her, so why would they care if she left? You're clearly very pampered and ignorant.

[@65kasara]

@@kevinbadger8030 bruh... I'm too lazy to debate the authenticity of this story. But again this story has too many loopholes.

[@kevinbadger8030]

@@65kasara Too lazy? Or too ignorant? Either way, you were wrong to begin with.

[@konoeyoshito6105]

yeah sure she had to wash her own clothes and cook her food at 8 ,cuz everyone can trust a kid alone in the kitchen , 12 her first job as delivery driver cmon now dude... ofc she also happens to be richer than their 2 sons who worked for many years

[@kevinbadger8030]

1. I know people who have had to cook at 8 (I'm related to one of them) 2. You can get a job as a newspaper delivery person (not a delivery driver. get it right) at 12....you can get it at 6 if you wanted 3. I've been washing my own clothes since I was around that age. You're clearly very pampered and ignorant.

[@sumimasen_wtf]

You can deliver newspaper on a bicycle in Asia. It's not unusual here.

[@guilhermebonzanini2475]

My mother was taught cooking at 8, while she had to take care for her siblings. Pretty common on a third world country.

[@16Sarunn16]

I used to cook small meals on the microwave (mostly scrambled eggs and pasta) around that age because mum was too hangover to even try to cook something on the weekends

[@guilhermebonzanini2475]

Add: My first job was at 11, at a small market, packing groceries.