I Was Raped While Pregnant(Part 1) | Unpacked with Relebogile Mabotja - Episode 43 | Season 3

[@RakodiPoopedi]

I swear Relebogile was meant to be a psychologist. The way she handles these interviews is remarkable🧡

[@karabomasufi304]

Fully agree

[@thabithamphela6090]

I totally agree

[@brilliantncube7800]

She is good

[@thembingoloyi158]

Right?! I thought I was the only one who noticed her diligence during the interviews. She is really amazing

[@Mimik70-w3t]

No need to swear bro. She is very professional👌👌Not anyone can sit on that chair and listen to such horrific stories, and still be composed and able to ask the guest questions mainting professionalism that composes them and enables them to keep talking despite the pain. This in itself is still a journey towards their healing as they find comfort in the environment and the interviewer and enables them to keep pouring out everything. Thank you Lebo for Handling such emotional interviews with so much intellect and wisdom, being careful not to hurt their wounded soul but still get them to pour out ❤ This is what you were born to do🤗

[@PMAB8]

Call me old fashioned but I believe that respecting women is one of the most important things to uphold in life.

[@nenesibanda4171]

Such can never go out of fashion

[@SapphireJann]

The same respect you give, is the same you get back. Everyone should be respectful to everyone.

[@praisemudare7459]

For me that's the true definition of a Man.

[@epicsauce1444]

Patrick PLEASE if you're blessed to still have your mother PLEASE relay to her a 60 year young woman commented that she raised her Don the right way! You sir are a VERY rare breed of men. I taught my son the very same values as he was growing up. Stay safe everyone and PLEASE remember to treat those around you with kindness, consideration and most of all compassion because we never know what's going on in the next person's life ❤

[@shebacynn1320]

There’s nothing old fashioned about that.

[@phumlamagasela632]

I was 8 months pregnant when I accepted a lift from 2 men, I'm only realizing now that same thing could have happened to me, but those guys were gentlemen, they treated me very well, may good men continue do good because we really need men like you in our society.I'm really sorry sis I hope you find healing ❤️

[@jabulileskosana848]

Sometimes I feel guilty for having a girl child😭😭😭 I’m overprotective, paranoid and can’t trust anyone with my child. May God heal us and protect us and our children 💔💔💔 love and light to every survivor of sexual abuse/attack/harassment

[@nomvulairene4177]

Dis world is so cruel, a boy child become a victim of drugs, alcohol n crime, all sorts of a abuse 😭😭m speechless wen I were to talk about a girl child.

[@Yassmiinn.]

Girl! I have a son and feel SO guilty for having him because wow the world we live in yoh.

[@jaiyaalexandra144]

You have no reason to feel guilty, you brought a beautiful humanbeing into this world and that is a blessing. Yesterday, my friend told me that a little boy was raped by a Malome who drives his transport to crèche.The little boy was also burnt using a cigarette during the act, probably to submit.I think it's just the world that we live in.

[@jabulileskosana848]

Yoh its crazy😪 we need to pray for our land🙇‍♀️

[@lesleymadzorere1641]

Me too I have 3 and they do not do sleep overs and we never accept male relatives to come and stay in our home..paranoid much but it is what it is.. wr don't let any other parents do school run for us the way other people do..we do our own school run because of such stories..its exhausting really worrying about your child's safety

[@matshidisomoloi9657]

The caption is such a trigger for me. I went through the same thing at 4 months pregnant but my perpetrator was not a stranger. It was a man I had known for long. Wishing you love and light.

[@Loralou4455]

So sorry for your pain 🙏🏽💔

[@gamerboy7015]

I'm sorry for what you went through dear, wishing you love and light as well

[@xolelwasakatadlamini8468]

I'm sooo sorry, may God comfort you daily ❤️

[@mogaumampa1195]

Shout out to the host for holding it together doing such heartbreaking interviews

[@khef3846]

Two things: 1: I’ve watched many of these episodes and my faith in the police is almost nonexistent. 2. I was once grabbed by a man whilst I was pregnant in Joburg CBD and I managed to flee. I was so traumatized. My heart goes out to you girl and I’m praying for a full recovery and restoration for you. Thank you for telling your story

[@nhlamulovalentine6744]

The very same thing is crossing my mind.. That SAPS what are they doing, they have failed us bad

[@nosimomlungwana8780]

This episode triggered me a lot as a victim of sexual abuse .Black woman are not protected enough.

[@nthabisengjazzbhebe]

I haven’t even watched but I’m already soooo angry that she had to go through that. 😭😪✋🏾✋🏾

[@chocolateglows6957]

Bro 😤I'm boiling.

[@amarahpitsisiramza7105]

Me tooo!😪😭

[@mbalenhlezulu8075]

It's so hard being a woman in this cruel would 😢. This was very difficult to watch, my heart is heavy and twisted😢😭 I hope I'll be able to get some sleep. Thank you Kholofelo, I applaud u for the strength and courage. Thank you sis Lebo for doing such a great job,I know it's not easy sometimes and we thank God for Kholofelo's life and the baby💖

[@jaiyaalexandra144]

I'm shocked because I know her, the things that people go through are so horrific. No one deserves this. I met her in my teens in the units when Kiki was still young. 💔💔😿😿

[@sizakelediya4080]

That why someone said it is very important to kind and considerate generally in life because we carrying so much as human beings

[@keepitfrankwithfentse]

I can feel her pain through the screen its palpable. I wish her all the best on her healing journey.

[@sizakelediya4080]

I'm literally feeling her pain 😭😭😭😭😭 , this man deserves to be behind bars because it's not the first time doing this he has done it and he still doing. It's break my heart 💔 that we have to live in fear when we suppose to free. I always ask myself if you want her or him why don't pursue her if she or he likes you whatever you want it will happened without making someone else feel so much pain. This episode needed to be done but I'm so heartbreak 💔 for her and so many other women or men no one deserve so much pain. Sending big hugs and prayers for you to heal sis, I'm so sorry.

[@divineceleste.m]

This was so difficult to watch. But I'm grateful for your life Kholofelo. Your strength is admirable! Thank you for sharing your story - Aus Relebogile you are so amazing. My goodness ❤️

[@cyliamotsoenengzengele]

I avoided these two episodes for so long but here I am with just tears rolling down my face.

[@josephineratlhaga9075]

Sis Relebogile your skills ma`am unmatched ♥️

[@nanazimkhize2149]

@ Lerato, I still say this show was wired into sis Relebogile's DNA. Her empathy is amazing!

[@PhemyWilliams]

Men who commit such heinous crimes should be CASTRATED!!!

[@zandilisana6885]

Being a woman in SA is probably the hardest thing😭😭 and Police need some sort of training to deal with such cases!

[@sbonzama7013]

Have you heard about India? Stop exaggerating.

[@masiyamothwanga]

​@@sbonzama7013there's no exaggerating when it comes to abuse. India might have the highest statistics recorded on sexual assault but doesn't mean other countries aren't a competition.

[@blackwoman_015]

This episode hit home 😢I had a similar experience at 9 an old man gave me a lift was young and I thought men are meant to protect us. He then made sexual statements and came on top of me I blacked out I only remember that old man saying “ I hope you learnt a lesson you should never trust anyone now and run do not look back”😢💔only started sharing my story at the age of 22.All my life I thought it was my fault.

[@petuniamakama328]

This is the most painful 💔 thing one can ever go through. Sending you 🫂

[@charm387]

😭

[@blackwoman_015]

Thanks sisters ❤️❤️❤️

[@kangwamfula7521]

From 9 years to 22 years of silence. I feel so sorry for you. My daughter is turning 2 next week and I can’t imagine her going through something like that and keeping it to herself. I hope it didn’t ruin your childhood. Wishing you well .

[@zenandemphithi5335]

😢

[@zintlefanana7941]

how she snaps in and out of moments showing that she relives the story,and shuttered stay strong

[@PMAB8]

A real man never hurts a woman. Be very careful when you make a woman cry because God counts her tears. The woman came out of a man’s rib, not from his feet to be walked on, and not from his head to be superior, but from his side to be equal. Under the arm to be protected, and next to the heart to be loved.

[@Sency-dl7kg]

ok....💯

[@antoinettekoech8911]

This comment ❤

[@imanihaidara2994]

@Patrick M Mabena Thank You for the statement “God counts the tears of Women”. That is a beautiful statement from the Bible rarely stated, even by Ministers. I was just reading it the other day. 😊🙏🏾☦️

[@Bantu_woman]

I did not come from any man’s rib but a woman’s womb. But thanks for the wonderful words

[@gailmokwatlo]

I appreciate Relebogile’s ability to be empathetic and hold space for people in such interviews without being overwhelmed by her own emotions. Healing is a long and continuous journey but I don’t think Kholofelo was ready. Sending her so much love and light

[@nazoaluvi2129]

Relebogile definitely gives me SA Oprah vibes, such grace, and poise most importantly the empathy for me

[@TJ-my9nh]

The things that my gender do to women are just disgusting. And it is mostly insecure and entitled men who mostly do this. I am very sorry my sister and all other women.

[@sbonzama7013]

Why are apologizing for something you didn't do. That sounds simpy!

[@_theerealnono_7694]

@@sbonzama7013 He apparently has compassion and empathy, something that many lack.

[@janayserrano]

@@sbonzama7013 ‘simpy’? For having sympathy for women? I bet you wouldn’t have called him that if his sympathy was towards men. You’re literally part of the problem smh

[@gloryradiance8681]

I was crying with her. I thought maybe she was not ready for the interview , but Relebogile you are the best. If it were I could have cried more interviewing her.

[@nomathembanxumalo5488]

I dont know if one is ever ready to rehash a rape ordeal. I sometimes cry over 20 years later. It changes you

[@msm5887]

Nobody NOBODY NOBODY deserves to go through this. Father God 😭😭😭😭😭😭. I just want to give her a very very very tight hug and just rock her. Her pain is all over her voice, eyes. Lord Lord Lord, please keep this beautiful young lady wrapped in your arms 🤍🤍🤍 I honestly have no words

[@neomamuremi6868]

Are these people aware of the pain they are inflicting through

[@Lusiba_Sambo]

I really wouldn't regard someone who does such horrible things to another person, a person.....really I pray that our sisters should begin to take self-defence training, have a gun in your purse, have a pepper spray.......we living in a world now full of all sorts venomous snakes with two legs....... I'm really sorry my dear sister this had to happen to you 😠 no one deserves such treatment.

[@_theerealnono_7694]

They are wicked, the devil's children. I don't think they care.

[@ayayaflame]

Men don’t care believe me. Hope women realize that sooner

[@enduranceholdon4932]

Aii Another Story Which Further Reinforces My Believe: Men Do Not Love Us, They Will Never Ever. How Dare He Does That😱

[@lynnmothibeli325]

They don't hate us. It's the cultures and traditions we were raised under as kids.

[@sandramazia4543]

True

[@andilengubane5178]

They do

[@hellenmapula5749]

I'm shocked by how a man can do that to a pregnant woman. And my advise is to women, if you don't know jhb cbd, don't come and if you do don't come alone at least. Don't talk to any strangers, not even another woman. This ppl will see u a mile away that you are new. From your movements, your eyes then you will be the target.

[@mpumelelontombela589]

Healing and prayers to her. It's such a traumatic experience to go through. May we have more people like Rose that can be trusted, that our kids can speak to in our absence, she's a 💎

[@nomxhosapekani7966]

We give thanks to woman like Rose, she was really there for her😭😪✋🏾✋🏾

[@nolusizodlalisa5573]

The strength required to tell this story is something I can't even comprehend 😯😯😯💔💔

[@lindilemoifo3529]

I don't understand how someone can be this evil. How can you cause this much pain to another person 💔

[@DaniellaOfficial]

this was so hard to watch ,I'm sending her a big hug and light.

[@ntokozozwane8665]

I’m so shattered💔. I can’t even say I’m shocked because this is South Africa. I hope you find healing ❤️

[@cathyganeke493]

So painful to watch, we are not safe at all in mzansi. Some man can be so cruel....😭😭😭😭

[@tshilidzimamuthubi148]

This is sickening 😢😢😢. What kind of world do we live in🥺. Triggering 😔. I admire your strength Kholofelo. Love and light❤️

[@Natasha-yv6os]

I'm 10 minutes into the video and I'm already crying she's so traumatized and hurt

[@nomondemtsweni3792]

I’m sooo sorry this happened to you 😩😩😩

[@sibongilenxumalo855]

I love your show for the fact that it's a platform for victims and/or perpetrators to tell their stories and reveal what people go through. In this, (I personally) am able to walk a few minutes in someone else's shoes and am always in tears and are always touched where I find myself in deep prayer sessions (and sometimes fasting) for people that go through horrific situations and came out alive - they keep on keeping on and commend them so much for that. Relebogile, I would like you to please find a perpetrator of violence (especially a RAPIST - or two) who can just tell us what goes on in their heads and minds for them to do these atrocious things to other people. Like... how do they wake up with the sole intention of hurting another human being? I would really love to hear what one/two of them have to say... just a suggestion and something I've wanted to understand.

[@leboledwaba5571]

These people cause deep emotional,physical, etc wounds and traumas for life.

[@bafedilegracemalefane2695]

I'm actually proud of her for standing up and speaking about her story. You brave Kholo.❤️

[@ireneowino3026]

A very sad story..... Good job Lebo! Love from Kenya.

[@TM-ys1kc]

This episode was really difficult to watch. Had me tearing up like a broken faucet. 😭💔

[@lynnmothibeli325]

This is horrible. This is absolutely horrible.

[@Thoughtsbyme-ts4jz]

So heartbreaking

[@jerrychetty2524]

Whoa she has been through so much trauma but such an articulate speaker,. Lesson ladies and girls - never ever trust any man, and I am a man saying this. I am totally disgusted by the behavior of my gender of people

[@pumzakondlo7224]

this was so so hard to watch, Rose is such an angel, bless her Beautiful heart, strength to you my sister Kholo, you are so strong and so brave and so beautiful and you will rise from this pain with power, sending you hugs

[@nothilengema2427]

This has been the hardest episode of unpacked to watch I can't even imagine what she went through

[@brendakhensani4327]

Just the thought of getting a lift in 2001 when a guy offered me a lift and I was 8 months pregnant, watching this painful show of what happened to you it scares me really. Cause a thing like this could have happened to me too. May God continue to heal your heart and give you strength 🙏. My sister was gang raped and thrown in the river ,unfortunately for her she contracted HIV, watching shows like this brings me tears 😢😭 😭😭😭

[@kenya88831]

So sorry this happened to you. 😢 I have also experienced sexual assault and I want to spread awareness and start conversations surrounding it. God Bless you!

[@vanessaedwards9065]

2015 and it feels like yesterday!! She is still in so much pain.Me I can never take lifts from strangers NEVERRRRR.

[@khanyisiledube7163]

Me too.. I'm afraid

[@palesamasilo2135]

I'm literally in tears. Sorry nana I can feel your pain. We live in a sick and disgusting world.

[@annwanjiku5923]

Love your interviews so much , you're so humble and kind

[@fezile7353]

I always get emotional whenever I'm watching rape stories because my mom was also raped in Joburg in 2019. She was a domestic worker, so she came back from work late, what she told me is that there were no taxis (minibus) going to Soweto at that time. So the taxi finally came and stopped next to her, as it was dark she got into the taxi and noticed while she was already inside that it's a company taxi... without windows just plain. So there were two guys inside, the other one was sleeping while the other one was driving. Mom started working in Joburg in 1999 so she saw that the guy is taking the other route not going to Soweto so she asked him where she was taking him that guy said I've done a favour for you so you'll have to help me too. He parked the car under the bridge and raped her, whilst busy raping her the other guy that was sleeping woke up and tried to rescue her from the driver. They left her under the bridge, there were cars moving on top of the bridge she tried to go up and ask help. It was not even easy for her to open the case because it was people that she didn't even know maybe they were passing by Joburg going to another province. To make it short she fell pregnant, as a woman of God, a preacher, she didn't abort the baby but attempt to commit suicide because of judgement from church members. In Dec 2019, she died in labour trying to save a child from unknown father. 😭 I'll never forget this because that forced me to get into her shoes and play a role of being a mother to my younger sister, I have to make sure that she has everything, I have to use my NSFAS money to fulfill all her needs. I'm scared of the dark, of the world and men. I'm also so protective towards her. I'm in varsity doing my final year but I don't attend late group discussions I'm scared of everything 😭

[@beyond_9-5_dreams]

I am so sorry 😢

[@mantabenobathana7210]

😭😭😭😭😭😭

[@IsabellaS967]

Oh my god 😰😰

[@dumi141kunenekunene2]

Im out of words, i am so sorry this happen...Eish askies. May the Lord strengthen u n comfort you.

[@daphinetatenda5978]

May God be your strength 🙏

[@nosip9950]

Relebogile is amazing!! Totally amazing. She was born for this . Very triggering story 💔

[@portiamalatsi7641]

These men are suppose to protect us but they continuously fail us, How can one even think of doing such to a pregnant woman. Listening to all these ladies featured on unpacked sharing their traumatic experiences with men, how do we go on to trust them, how on earth are we suppose to do that??

[@heathermbambeni529]

On a positive note ,I love her voice ❤

[@damariszuckschwert9489]

Never been so scary to watch a talk show like today. The headline give me chills.

[@nolomfikwe8802]

I'm sending you all the healing energy ❤❤You are so brave my queen❤❤❤❤❤❤

[@Cyamonicaa]

The pain is so palpable. I understand the hurt ❤️

[@thandekavalentia3142]

Everything is gonna be ok dear I'll keep you in my prayers. I was also raped when was 6 years 1998 but I only spoke about it 2020 because I was struggling to move on and flash backs were always there. My uncle thought I forgot because I was young . I'm brave and still going strong. I LOVE YOU 💞

[@gamerboy7015]

I'm really sorry you about your experience dear, I hope you find healing.

[@thandekavalentia3142]

Nothing was done right from the word go. I kept quiet until I was 10 years then I told my gogo then she promised to kick me out of the house I did keep quite, I was afraid because my mom was far and she was very strict. Last year I informed the whole family but I was the one who was wrong, they said am messing up the family. I think I'm okay because healing start with you and just because I came clean.

[@nontomakhaye8912]

@@thandekavalentia3142 light and love to you, families always protect the perpetrator which is so wrong

[@zamakhumalo9003]

This was so hard to watch💔 I cannot begin to imagine the trauma of living it

[@ayandamatangari5435]

Yooh😭💔...I'm so emotionally drained, may God continue to strengthen you, hope you have forgiven yourself from that horror, it is not your fault and trust me, God has a good purpose ngawe, continue to love your yourself and your kids, they need you more❤️🙏🏾

[@relebohilekhumalo9474]

If there is one thing I love about these episodes is how I feel that women are receiving their healing and not allowing our stories to define us any longer . We decide what we do with our trauma. Here is to all the women who do not choose to be a victim . (It’s a journey, I know .) 🥂

[@khetimthembu8465]

I'm going to University next year & wow I'm really scared, I'm terrified. It's sad knowing my dad won't be there to protect me. Like nooo mahnn sometimes i wish i could study visa Unisa but then i remember that I'll have to go out & be independent sometime

[@amilakenosi]

Same and that time I’m moving away from home 😭

[@nthabi_royaltymasango4915]

Be vigilant, pray, God will protect you, listen to your gut feeling, Always, it's never wrong!!

[@khanyamazkhali6949]

Really thought I wouldn't be able to watch until the end. Thank you for your courage Sisi. 🙏🏼

[@mphohappiness1736]

What a wild time to have a girl child.

[@rachelthobane3138]

It's so sad!

[@doctormazibuko5746]

Sorry 😞..may God hear your prayers

[@fezekasipondo8545]

Hyooo!! I'm sorry hle Ntombi❤️. We must just trust no one😠. I know a child who was raped by a psychologist😢,her mom used to drop her for sessions, that's someone who is supposed to give healing right, but phi ke sana. Trust no one, and b over protective to your daughter. Sibulela i life yakho🙏, others don get to tell the story.

[@Yassmiinn.]

Yoh I have a son and don't even trust anyone around him.

[@ramphalilelebohang5433]

Will women ever feel safe in this sick, debilitating society which men make us live in on a daily basis? 😥😥💔💔Sending you so much love and light. I pray that you heal from this and THANK YOU for sharing your story🤗

[@rearabetswemositsa5509]

I’ve only been watching for 8 minutes and I’m already heart broken💔idk if I’ll be able to watch the rest of the episode. What a horrific experience 💔

[@proudlysa774]

I'm in years watching this.We should pray for SA.

[@namisazulu1372]

Prayer doesn't work! 🙄

[@wpp1586]

This give me so much goosebumps, I am so sorry sisi. Who should be protecting us if we are let down by men that suppose to be protecting us.hai suka.

[@tabieduma6867]

this is heartbreaking 💔💔

[@jay02021]

5 minutes in and I’m scared to continue watching 💔

[@hildaforsythe]

I have never cried this much watching any show

[@glenismothoa4881]

Relelbogile's composure guys.... hai Rele you where born for this.

[@emisto9sakina398]

Very scary and heartbreaking

[@relebogilemabotja215]

Truly 😢

[@aprilporsche8462]

But still She stands! Unmoved strong and set out for what goods God has in store for her. Imagine some of us would've already given up if we were the ones in the same position....Much love 🥺🌺❤️|🇳🇦

[@boledielizabethmaake8369]

This is too painful to watch, I was very hesitant to watch as am scared, Relebogile you are the best as you make guest feel at home , you are and angel send by God to us, Kholofelo praying for peace over you life.

[@everythingmore3401]

😭😭😭I wish I can hug her and hold her tight😭😭😭.... may God heal her😭😭😭

[@sandramazia4543]

Let’s press the like button bontase🙈

[@ncumisajuliwe6874]

I am trully sorry sis that you went through this, May you find healing❤️

[@kgaugelomakhura8946]

It's so sad that our mothers and sisters are not safe in their own country 😢.

[@josephinaramushu9260]

Khomo m very sorry for what happened to you,that's breaks my heart i ddnt know you are inpain even we didn't know and it's not so easy,but to talk it's gonna make u heal,u will be in our prayer always

[@collinnyombo3737]

Very painful interview, very sad, heart breaking 💔, I don't know what to say this is too much, I'm so sorry Dade 😭😭😭😭, but I refuse to be like that Man.

[@sharolmudau2414]

Be strong my sister😍😍

[@daphneytsele3182]

Some people are heartless out there. How can someone do such a horrible thing to a full pregnant woman? I wish he suffers for the rest of his life.

[@lut9768]

Only if the people knew the damage they cause the victim emotionally, physically and mentally 😢

[@leratomotau9435]

Absolutely heartbreaking

[@adaezeifeanyi3836]

Moral of the story, never go with a stranger no matter how innocent they look. Always listen to red flags. Thank God she wasn’t killed

[@ayandamatangari5435]

But Adaeze when bad thing is about to happen to you, there's nothing you can do to run away from it. Painful as it is, I'm sure God knew why she had to go through that horror, like now, this story will raise awareness and motivate many victims of untold horror stories that it's possible to get up from it and live again.

[@adaezeifeanyi3836]

@@ayandamatangari5435 sure you have your point, but we all still need to learn the lessons in the story so we are careful and not make same mistakes that is the point of having interviews like this .

[@ayandamatangari5435]

@@adaezeifeanyi3836 Correct, hence the interview to raise awareness.

[@debramazai8948]

They are my neighbors, 😭😭😭. It is well Kholu.

[@masixoleappolis4992]

How old is the 1st daughter?

[@LindaLeeLitha]

💔💔💔💔

[@zodwamahlangu6426]

Oh no💔💔💔

[@bongaikhathide5516]

💔

[@debramazai8948]

@@masixoleappolis4992 11yrs

[@lotarisncube1799]

Am sorry that you went on such hard time ...God help our kids

[@Lalie-M]

This interview made me cry 😭😭

[@lesleymadzorere1641]

Are we ever safe?

[@nobuhlemasombuka3167]

Only when we are dead 💔

[@owamizuma7565]

not at all

[@gamerboy7015]

No we're not

[@rachelthobane3138]

My heart broke into pieces😭😭😭😭

[@cecilemuntu5401]

When I was 8 months pregnant of my Son, a dude asked for my number while walking to the shop...he said I was beautiful that why he's asking for it. I WAS SHOCKED 😲😳😐🙄😒

[@thembisaodendaal]

Praying for your total healing

[@moe_ramz]

This beautiful lady was too trusting. You step into a strangers car 😳🥲. I’m sorry this happened to you🤗

[@MarciaTsire]

She will carry the ministry forward of her parents I see a powerful woman