Story 2: Boyfriend desperately needs some therapy. He’s going to self-destruct any relationship he’ll ever have unless he learns to accept his scars.
@experiencedotaku1715 ай бұрын
Um idk but I think the story did end with he accepting therapy
@user-fe8gx3ie5v5 ай бұрын
He's already self-destructesld by being LGBT. He needs therapy for that, too, along with OP.
@smalcal63655 ай бұрын
@@experiencedotaku171uh yah, begrudgingly.
@clarissagafoor52224 ай бұрын
Read till the end of the 2nd story - he will be getting therapy.
@andreavanhoof60474 ай бұрын
Story 2: You can do better than him! He needs to make it up to you! Please try to work on yourself! Tell him if he does not accept his scars; no one will!
@TheShadowSentinel5 ай бұрын
Story 1: just invite your dad to the wedding and have your stepdad walking you down the aisle.
@aquaria135 ай бұрын
Or walk yourself down the aisle... since one man sucks and the other didn't have anything to do with your upbringing.... just saying.
@c.cortez15084 ай бұрын
I think dad is only trying to get back in her good graces because she married richer than the sister and he is still as selfish and image conscious as ever.
@zardox785 ай бұрын
"I went _TO_ NC..."? Well, as a resident of North Carolina, we welcome you.
@SecretVoices255 ай бұрын
😅😅
@sierrastanley31095 ай бұрын
As a resident of North Carolina, I wish to also offer a hand
@tamarasmith90605 ай бұрын
As a resident of GA, that was my 1st thought too.😂
@mydogswilkickurass3 ай бұрын
Brah i think that everytime I see "NC"
@stratogale065 ай бұрын
Story 3: LEAVE! NOW! Trauma is never an excuse! His reactions don't even make sense??? Who starts choking someone during a fucking conversation!? And he ends it by saying he wants no boundaries on himself but wants a leash on you??? No this is him likely having a deep seeded hatred for women and either he fixes it or you run
@that-one-guy47475 ай бұрын
That woman is a doormat for the doormat 💀💀
@marysmith-ps7uj4 ай бұрын
In story 3, get the hell out! Dude is a raging nutcase! Leave before he seriously hurts you!😮😮😮
@clarissagafoor52224 ай бұрын
OP did leave! Didn't anyone finish the story!?
@denisesproat14494 ай бұрын
Story 3 Do you want this to still be happening a year, 3 years, 5 years from now? It won't get better. No man is worth the abuse you're going through. You deserve better! RUN!!!!
@secretly-a-kobold4 ай бұрын
HE TRIED TO KILL HER
@kathyhallock25285 ай бұрын
Last story.. Run run fast run far and get the hell out of this relationship before he kills you. I would not be surprised if he's the one that's actually doing the cheating.
@NakaidaBeauzec2 ай бұрын
Op has a saviour complex
@jamestown83985 ай бұрын
I'm angry that OP is giving her sperm-donor another chance. The favoritism was enough of a reason to disown him, but then he sided with his stepdaughter when she had an affair with OP's boyfriend, tried to break up OP's new relationship, and then tried to cry to OP when his own wife cheated on him (with no sense of how hypocritical this was). He also kept OP's mother from her. I'm sick of these spineless OPs who forgive the unforgivable and show no sense of self-preservation. Why should I care about you if you don't care about yourself?!
@nataliereeves35945 ай бұрын
You can c where step sis learned her behaviour. I bet this is not the first time step mom cheated but the first time, she was caught. This guy put an image above everything, and now he's alone.
@clarissagafoor52224 ай бұрын
She did do all you suggested. Were you not aware?
@andreavanhoof60474 ай бұрын
The father does not deserve another chance!
@thesixthkid76895 ай бұрын
Story 1: Boohoo for Tim. Story 2: Bf needs to be confident OP won't betray him. Story 3: Good thing she ditched him, otherwise OP would be dead, sooner or later.
@natedablack78575 ай бұрын
I'm SMH at OP #1. Because apparently, she doesn't understand the concept/meaning of "No Contact". She just REPEATEDLY keeps inviting the toxicity (i.e., father and step-sister) back into her life, over and over and over again.
@Doodledo6005 ай бұрын
1st story karma is a b*tch
@Maninawig5 ай бұрын
And she has a wicked sense of humour.
@AbrosexualBlender-tu3gz4 ай бұрын
I should have known better 🎶🎶🎶 If I had a wish✨✨ I would’ve never effed around 👹👹👹
@Foxxie0kun5 ай бұрын
Story 2 is heartbreaking yet hopeful. The fact that the fire that he lost his mother in also permanently scarred himself and his father, and that so many of his peers were either bullies or incapable of exercising tact and restraint regarding the scars, obviously left some lasting trauma that he's been unable to fully resolve. The fact that his ex-girlfriend freaked out about them probably only exacerbated the trauma and his external response to his own body. I'm glad OP and his boyfriend are getting therapy and counseling for boyfriend's scars. Someone who truly loves you will love all of you, every single inch, ounce, and all. The ultimate sign of vulnerability and trust is to bare your whole self to your partner, so I can understand the boyfriend's aversion to being seen given his experience with peers and past relationships, but I hope some day they can overcome boyfriend's trauma and they can ultimately live their whole and best lives together.
@nancyoneill-buck60335 ай бұрын
Last story. If you think you can change an abuser and heal them you can't. You need to get out and out fast. Never go our with someone because of shared weaknesses. This is a huge mistakes. You should look for someones strengths.
@Andbit3655 ай бұрын
I never understand woman who’s husband been cheating on them, not once but twice and then physical abuse them and they still stay. I know it’s hard , but I is it really the fucking hard to leave before it get too late
@benrussell-gough12013 ай бұрын
There is usually a long chain of traumas and abuse that hs programmed the abuse-sufferer to believe either (a) that enduring abuse is how 'normal' women show love or (b) that they somehow deserve it. Both these factors seem to be in play with OP3. Indeed, XH is definitely a narcissist and has been manipulating OP like a maestro, isolating her and wearing down at her so she is dependent, emotionatlly and physically, on him. Sucks that he was abused as a teen and tween and is a refugee but that isn't an excuse for his choices. I have no doubt that, with the free car, he's patting himself on the back that he 'won'. He'll realise that he's wrong in time.
@CRSB002 ай бұрын
"I can change him 🥺" ugh 😒
@macylouwho11875 ай бұрын
I’m exactly that petty, like the first story. I had a friend start dating the guy I was in love with after we broke up even though she knew I loved him and the reasons why we broke up. She began treating me like crap afterwards. I thought “ok b-tch, two can play this game 😂”. She had been hooking up with this attractive playboy type guy who wouldn’t commit to anyone because he liked living like that, and my friend thought what all young women think: that she could CHANGE him, lol yeah right 😂. They never really change. He had precisely “zero” feelings for her but I knew that he was the one who she really loved. She tried long and hard to change his mind. I called him up and asked for his help. I explained the situation and told him that I’d give him a gift if he took me out on his boat to the island where everyone gathered on weekends-including her and her parents. “Pretend that we’re together.” He wasn’t a fan of my ex and he was intrigued, plus it would look like he bagged another chick (bonus) 😂. I dolled completely up and put on a sexy red bikini and out we headed that weekend to the island. We sort of hung around looking a little too into each other to get people talking, and eventually she saw us. He was sitting on a cooler in the sand and I was standing up in front of him. He grabbed my waist and pulled me in and sort of nuzzled my stomach and I put my hand in his hair and ran fingers through. She turned fifty shades of red and burst into tears and stormed away back to her parents. He and I laughed and high fived and headed back to his boat and left. I heard that she spent the day inconsolably boo hooing and ranting at her mother about me. My ex was nowhere to be found, but later he kept trying to get notes to me or verbal messages to me other ways and he did this right in front of her which caused massive fights between them. He tried to hand my mother a letter for me one day and my ex friend grabbed it and tore it up. And in the end she lost him how I would have if I had stayed-walked in on him screwing one of her other friends in his bed. As for her ex crush, I bought him some good bottles of booze as a thank you for helping me even the score with my old friend. I was just beginning to date my husband at that time so of course nothing ever happened between us. I had no intention of hooking up with someone with whom I had no chance of having a real relationship with. I am not the sort who tolerates being treated poorly or used. Hence the breakup with a guy who would obviously have cheated on me. The minute that I saw him being flirty with someone when we were at a party I ducked out and came back on the arm of my now husband. Because again-“two can play THAT game”, and one can play the game “better”-ME 😂.
@EmiStar0704 ай бұрын
I love that amount of pettiness. Dating someone just because you know it would hurt someone else is crossing so many lines but "hey this happened, I know you feel the same, wanna mess with her for like a day?" Is absolutely perfect
@samoea195 ай бұрын
Last story: ...he beat you, and you saw blood everywhere....but you aren't running? I'm sry some people have ZERO self-preservation instinct.
@BraveryWing265 ай бұрын
Some people are just like horror movie characters.
@clarissagafoor52224 ай бұрын
3rd story OP left. Finish before adding your own spin!
@samoea194 ай бұрын
@clarissagafoor5222 op left eventually. I was asking why she didn't start running IMMEDIATELY. Read the comment before "adding your own spin".
@jdavis76135 ай бұрын
Story 3: Would you tell another person to stay in a relationship with someone who choked you? If a woman said " I fear for my life " , would you advise her to stay because "he's getting better "? LEAVE. Never take him back. Save yourself, your LIFE.
@MathildaFlow5 ай бұрын
Story 3: Don’t have empathy for that horrible man! Leave! It’s super weird how she’s patting herself on the back an hyping herself up for being such an awesome person who can see the good in people who are just bad.
@zoarsnowpaw35492 ай бұрын
Abuse victims justify the abuse any way they can it's super common. And I mean she did say at the end her parents also physically abused her so she obviously thinks it's normal to be beaten and harmed by loved ones
@BraveryWing265 ай бұрын
POOR 2ND OP'S BOYFRIEND. I thought he was going to a huge jerk but it turned out he was just scared and traumatized.
@janapeterson59674 ай бұрын
Last story is delusional that she can help others by accepting violence. She has accepted abuse as normal when it’s not.
@saintdragonmingerph5 ай бұрын
Story 3: girl, having a hard life doesn't give him the right to treat you that way
@MathildaFlow5 ай бұрын
It’s funny how they think they can keep demanding stuff from op when she’s not weak and pathetic enough to care.
@ms.rumandcoke53445 ай бұрын
I'm glad she got out of that horrible relationship 3rd story
@Sattrax4 ай бұрын
Story 2. Dump his ass as a bf but stay as a friend if you can. Try again later if you have to.
@mashonem5 ай бұрын
I like that this channel has a lot of stories that I haven’t heard before/in a while Good ish frfr 👍🏿
@SecretVoices255 ай бұрын
Glad you are enjoying ❤️❤️❤️
@low-keydrama12605 ай бұрын
Story 2: While my heart breaks for the bf because what he went through was horrible and he's clearly hurting, but he needs to see therapy so he can properly come to tuns with and accept his scars.
@aleksandarvil57185 ай бұрын
Story 1: OP = NTA Andy = MVP SIGMA CHAD 💯😎🚬🎉😂
@MagmaMuffin75 ай бұрын
3rd story: Op sounds like theyve gotten completely used to husband's abuse and is making excuses for him. sorry but i dont care how much trauma you have, giving your partner a concussion because they accepted a compliment from a coworker is absolutely insane. Doesnt like rules being set for him, but is also trying to completely control OP's life? He has HISTORY of him cheating on her. Thatd be an instant divorce for me, no matter what.
@andreavanhoof60474 ай бұрын
third story: OP needs to divorce her husband because he is toxic, abusive, crazy!
@quintuspotatimus28115 ай бұрын
holy shit that 3rd story is absolutely insane
@nooneofimportance21105 ай бұрын
I love the first story. Absolutely hilarious.
@LunaP15 ай бұрын
OP's dad got with a 403 who's daughter is just like her (karma) but expected the daughter he hurt and lied to to feel sympathy for him. 😆
@yurimorgan74605 ай бұрын
last story husband is a professional victim
@Juicycouturebubblegumwhore5 ай бұрын
2nd story: break up. You don’t deserve to be verbally abused because he’s insecure over something has no control over. He’s traumatized and using it to abuse you, leave the jackass. Life is too short to be treated like shit.
@donathomas5 ай бұрын
Well would you be saying the same if it was the girl who did this instead of the boyfriend.......all humans have the same emotions and bf is working to improve himself so lady chilll
@Juicycouturebubblegumwhore5 ай бұрын
@@donathomas yes, both need are in the wrong and both need to break up. The fact you assumed I wouldn’t apply the same logic to the women is insane and speaks more to how awful of a person you are.
@LegendStormcrow5 ай бұрын
It was a panic reaction. People do stupid crap when terrified, and frankly, the scars run far deeper than skin deep. I'm sure you have flaws that cause people harm too. Should they abandon you?
@andreavanhoof60474 ай бұрын
Story 2: Leave the jerk and do not come back! Go no contact with him; maybe he will learn what he has lost if you do the no contact permanently!
@EmiStar0704 ай бұрын
There's a point where you can recognize that the other person is doing this because they're hurt, but it doesn't have to be your job to be their support if doing that hurts you too.
@mamanucht73335 ай бұрын
Op should tell her mom or step dad to walk her down the aisle
@henrydickerson97765 ай бұрын
Story 1: I've seen stories crazier than this play out IRL.
@ayyyeens10013 ай бұрын
3rd story made me cry at the end, happy for the update and OI know the feeling.. def gives me hope xoxo
@seyi62954 ай бұрын
Story 3: women are not rehab machines for broken men. The fact that she’s taking pride in staying with this violen guy is tragic
@LODintheshadows3 ай бұрын
The only reason dad in first story is making the slightest effort is because op is literally his last chance. He basically cut op off until he lost his wife and step daughter. So no, he doesn't deserve to walk her down the isle. someone that puts you in last place doesn't deserve that.
@philomenaquinn11585 ай бұрын
Story two Your boyfriend should not be ashamed of his scars they are a sign of survival not anything to be ashamed i think he needs therapy he should love you enough
@Permenantlyexhaustedghost1155 ай бұрын
Story 3: Idgaf if he had trauma it’s not an excuse for his crazy abusive violent behavior. He’s clearly mentally unstable and possibly(more than likely) harbors hatred towards women. it’s not Ops job to “fix” him and manage his negative emotions like “mommy”. Op needs to leave him asap and never look back.
@atathesteelcrownedqueen80704 ай бұрын
Story three: having a messed up childhood does not excuse attempted murder. And I doubt that has to do with how messed up his life was. It’s more likely it’s cultural; It’s common for developing countries to expect the woman to wait on her husband hand and foot and only speak when she’s spoken to. If you don’t get to make rules for him, he does not get to make rules for you. For physically attacking you, that should’ve been the last straw. RUN!
@LA-ly1nt5 ай бұрын
Story 1: Of course your dad can connect with you. Both of you now have something in common. Being cheated on. Glad you threw up the advise he gave you to his own face. Sometimes having hurt feelings is the only way for some people to realize how horrible they are as a human.
@silky04393 ай бұрын
3rd story. I’m so glad you got some good advice. The more I read a d heard, the more terrified I got for you. DV seldom ends up good unless the victim is willing to and ABLE to reach out for help. THAT is one of the most frightening things. The man will move so far away from family and friends. Will possibly not allow her to work for a while until he has conditioned her to believe that no one can love her like he can, no one ever will. That her family and friends have abandoned her. Once she starts believing,he’ll put a phone back in the house and possibly let her find a job. Meanwhile, the beatings have been constant along with the apologies.
@jacearmor52745 ай бұрын
Karma always comes around.
@lauraodonoghue13485 ай бұрын
second story is so sad, and the constant violence is a huge indication that the story and trauma from his mum is not as bad as he tells you to manipulate you
@clarissagafoor52224 ай бұрын
Goodness gracious me people need to read/listen to the end of these stories before putting in their own 10cents worth!
@Melissa-tr8el5 ай бұрын
Run for your dear life.
@Audiogeek-kf2ez4 ай бұрын
Story 1, this young nan needs intensive therapy. OP, you may need to put up with being single
@AdyHh-up9ez2 ай бұрын
Girl I love the read dress and Jay part. Lmao
@Artemis101full4 ай бұрын
That 3rd story: no. You leave his ass. He tried killing you. If he doesn’t want to change, if he doesn’t want rules yets puts rules on you, if he beats you, distance you from family and friends…. Leeeeave him. No human can change another human who doesn’t want change
@eldenlion58503 ай бұрын
Tim didn't lose anything. He threw it away
@banespeace90792 ай бұрын
If you stay after someone beats you like that whatever happens next is on you. Abuse escalates and there's only one outcome after that bro
@ARcinder5 ай бұрын
Story 1: It is sad, but for women who have been pretty their entire lives they never get to mature. Usually having their first sexual encounter pretty young and from that age, they never get to grow in their maturity. This is why drop-dead beautiful women have tamprams like a 12-year-old. Society instills in them that all they are is their body. That's why you hear stories of these gals trying to steal the bf/husband of women around them. If they succeed they feel like their life has value, and when they fail they do not even exist. Story 2: The scars being ugly or otherwise isnt the issue. It is the trauma of it. Those scars are a symbol of his loss and his greatest pain. Seeing it makes it a reality, so to him you are tainted by his pain. He is not angry at you, he is angry at himself.
@vincentcleaver19255 ай бұрын
The ex GF needs 3rd degree karma stat
@aleksandarvil57185 ай бұрын
6:50 *Flex Tape Can't Fix That !!!* 😝😂😂😂🤣🤣🤣
@toriladybird5114 ай бұрын
OP1 Yesss atta gal you did get the best revenge. Cold 🥶
@redh92493 ай бұрын
S3- Her husband is gonna kill her if she doesn't run away yesterday. His trauma doesn't excuse his behavior. He's an abuser now and his trauma means nothing since he knows better.
@katiegeorgeripia3 ай бұрын
Story 2: Are you f***ing kidding me??? Please leave and get him some help 🙏🙏🙏 and don't go bk until he has that help. Please you are so much better I hope you leave him and find a better person who appreciates you
@user-tz7gg8xs5y3 ай бұрын
S2..Good luck with uour bf because hes screwed for life and will never get better...hes mentally weak and the scars and bullying only made it worse..leave him
@2XocraM2 ай бұрын
Story 3: "I was put in lockdownn facilities from 13 to 18 because my parents listened to therapists and thought I was mentally ill" said a clearly mentally ill person, I mean OPs ex is clearly worse, by a lot, but they both are severely disturbed. That being said, good for OP for addressing this.
@Blurgamer175 ай бұрын
People like S3's OP remind me that there are _real_ people who'd fit in a horror movie where the characters go *Toward* the murder basement. 😮💨
@mysticalseapotato83033 ай бұрын
Story 2: The boyfriend is an asshole. He needs therapy, sure, but that gives him zero excuse to act like that
@Tuco_Salamanca35 ай бұрын
Sorry, but OP’s boyfriend in story 2 is ridiculous. She should leave. Not because of the scars, but because of how rude and ridiculous he’s being
@user-np5ke3wr2w5 ай бұрын
New subscriber here thank you for these great stories!
@SecretVoices255 ай бұрын
Thanks for subbing! And glad you enjoy the video, I will make sure to provide great stories this❤️❤️❤️🙏🙏🙏
@Avanyas3 ай бұрын
Story 3: Run! Dont just walk away from you. Just run and leave and never come back. You cant change him.
@far2noble3862 ай бұрын
Story 1: if they really cared she would of filed a workplace misconduct report
@cloudyboy17565 ай бұрын
4:30 let’s be very clear your moms has had over a decade+ to fight for custody and never once did despite having an undeniably stable environment to offer , is nothing less than abandonment.
@southernflight50785 ай бұрын
To be fair, there are also instances where the scummy mother/father runs off with the kid, knowing that the other parent wouldn't have the funds for court to get the poor kid back. Wouldn't be surprised with how scummy this family is if everyone on Sperm Donor's side of the family helped him out with something like this. So mom probably started working her butt off so she'd have something for herself since she was robbed of her only joy. Edit: I just reached the part with how pops used momma's past against her. My assumption was correct. Heck has a special place for him.
@Foxxie0kun5 ай бұрын
It's difficult and expensive to reopen a custody case, and when someone's past is so easily weaponized against them in the case of former convicts and substance abusers, often it's an impossible task to get a fair shake in family court, even decades after the fact. You could be a decade or more sober, but that won't matter to some judges and lawyers, and all it takes is your ex using it against you once for it to be used in every case against you from then on in perpetuity.
@gamerkat14924 ай бұрын
On Story 3 I was physically beat by a few of my mama's boyfriends it got so bad at 17 I tried to unalive my myself 2x it obviously didn't work & when I told my mama she about lost it
@annmctaggart88545 ай бұрын
Story 3: EVERY abuser has a sob story to draw you in. My ex was just like him I left him and happy
@RashidAli-fb3se3 ай бұрын
story 1: op lost copper but found gold or lost gold but found diamond or sapphire.
@andreavanhoof60474 ай бұрын
Story 3: Police sounds useless in this story! The reason they gave about how your mother is allowed to beat you is pathetic!
@slayermoon6664 ай бұрын
Wow… another prime example of if they’re gonna do it with you then they’re gonna do it to you… Also talk about choking on your words… go op! Double down and go no contact with them.
@ElAbismo5 ай бұрын
Story 3 reminded me of the chorus from the song "Again and Again" by Taproot: Just need some time for myself Again Need to bring back the old days when (Scream:) I! Was in control of my life Again and again
@andreavanhoof60474 ай бұрын
Story 3: Their is a difference between complex and just mean and abusive! Your husband is mean! Get out now!
@VetaRoberts-sj7sw2 ай бұрын
Why are you with this guy, hurting you isn't okay
@candaceowens4555 ай бұрын
Leave before he ends you
@Calories_To_Calibers3 ай бұрын
3rd. A violent migrant? What a shock
@just_apotato2 ай бұрын
Him being a migrant doesn’t have anything to do with being abusive.
@joanns70075 ай бұрын
Story 2 get out now !!!! There is no reason for him to beat you!!!!
@JimBeamFiend535 ай бұрын
Story 1: Poor OP. Both her bio parents were pathetic. Dad straight up replaced her and her mom DID abandon her.
@Foxxie0kun5 ай бұрын
How do you figure her mom abandoned her? Losing a custody case and any/all visitation rights because her ex-husband used her past substance abuse against her isn't exactly an easy hurdle to jump. Dad had control over whether any contact was allowed at all, and as the sole parent, was able to control the narrative around the separation and custody. You could be a decade sober and your ex could use your substance use to get sole custody zero visitation of all of the kids you've had together, and reopening a custody battle is expensive to boot. There's also no real way to invalidate one's "past substance abuse" in a court setting. Ex can always bring that up every time they get in front of a judge, and if the family court judge isn't the type to listen to context or care about how long it's been, then that's game over for your bid to reopen the possibility of visitation, much less shared custody.
@JimBeamFiend535 ай бұрын
@Foxxie0kun Her mother should have stopped that narrative in its tracks. She should have made it clear to OP that she wasn't giving up because she didnt want to fight, but because she couldnt win. OP was around 7, she could have understood that! Also, all those years and not a single card? Not a single letter? Who cares if the dad gets pissy about it? At least her daughter would know she still cares! Worst case, she gets a restraining order against her! She let her mother/ daughter relationship die entirely to easily! Also why didnt she try to find her the moment she turned 18?
@jordanwardle115 ай бұрын
@@JimBeamFiend53ever heard of throwing out mail? When men get vindictive, they beat women in custody cases. As for not reaching out at 18? She would have no idea what he told her, so letting op come to her is the far better way
@staceyearle28172 ай бұрын
Last story ..you two should NEVER have been together you both are traumatize and need therapy asap
@philomenaquinn11585 ай бұрын
Story one What did they want the ex boss boyfriend for your step sister i would tell them you don't care after two years of NC you don't have to listen to them he fell in love with easy sex not your step sister i would not have worried about the perfect family o would have loved to see your step sister wedding she would have died of jealousy So keep your new boyfriend forget your father and his family i would not have anything to do with them,i don't think you should break up i hope Andy a good guy
@user-ws1bs4ns7h5 ай бұрын
"Dad won the custody" Sorry. Fake.
@skyelinkhyrule57155 ай бұрын
And how do you know that, hm?🤨
@avaphynx5 ай бұрын
Men who fight for custody typically do win.
@nonstop68235 ай бұрын
Don't use God name in vain
@Nerdbookworm5 ай бұрын
God damn Jesus Christ
@momohouse44komodocriss5 ай бұрын
Godverdomme
@momohouse44komodocriss5 ай бұрын
All hail the Necronomicon 😈👿
@bethmcleod40105 ай бұрын
Story 2... let him leave! It doesn't matter what trauma he has. That gives him ZERO right to abuse you. GET OUT NOW!
@jonku5 ай бұрын
Story 3:Hope OP got therapy to find out why she stayed with that psycho for so long because OP sounds broken and should not get involved with someone til they fix what needs fixing🫨